I think she keeps mentioning money because he never says thank you or shows any gratitude for what she is doing. Instead he gets offensive and agrugmental.
I think that the reason she is bringing up spending the money at dinner is because she is trying to communicate that here I am spending this money for us to have a wonderful dinner and you are on your phone and not engaging with me
EXACTLY!! But the guy is too much of an idiot to see that! He's just a strange, weird guy, and it's probably why his 4 marriages didn't work! And he thinks she's the problem....
Lily is saying she doesn't care about the money. Spending money is her love language, so she mentions she provides money to let Josh know she loves him despite his lack of funds.
Lily should have stopped the car and put Josh and his brother out. There is no reason for him to be disrespectful in front of his brother like that. The entitlement of the Americans on 90DF has been off the charts this season.
You are so correct, these people who are traveling to another country to live needs to have their finance in order before getting a plane ticket. They should enough money for at least 6 months to year.
@@ESLEDUCATE he is purposely playing lily...if she didn't have a house and good job he would have just stayed in his parents basement living off them instead..
They said at the beginning that he sold the house and has a lot of money from that sale, however he doesn’t want to spend it as it is for his future. She hoped he would contribute to her flat renovation.
And the fact that he doesn't see her/them as his future, or something worth spending his money on, but he can take what she has freely, proves why she needs to get out now
What I don't understand is Josh knew he couldn't work. So why not come up with a back up. Like some online selling? Teach English? He sold his house he has $$ there are missing pieces to this story. Lack of intimacy is a problem.
From what I have heard giving gifts and money is a cultural way of showing love for her and she's struggling to express that it's not buying him or holding it over his head, she's trying to show she loves him and when he rejects her she's upset because he's 'taking love' from her but not giving it back. It's not about him paying, it's about affection, respect and all that. He doesn't have the brain cells to try learn stuff like this or actually understand her; he takes it one way and throws a tantrum. He could learn some of her goddamn language too, read about her culture, learn about where he's LIVING now. He's such an idiot.
@@wandasantillo1220she can put him to work in her business and as a minimum he needs to be taking care of the cleaning and maintenance of the house as a minimum what else does he flicking do all day long...
I honestly feel bad for her because before him she had peace, she was successful. She did not need him, but now he's bringing his issues to her doorstep. Exactly how you see him, how he wants to be catered to and everybody walk on ice for him and his feelings.That's how majority of american men are in this country right now, and that's why they're going overseas. They are hoping to get a traditional wife who will not ask them of anything. And just be grateful for the fact that they have a man. Meanwhile, american women are sick and tired of putting up with this crop.
These 2 are not good. Josh needs to get his shit together! Communication is key to a succesful relationship. If you dont have it the relationship crumbles😢
@@NatalieRabuzinNot sure he can work remotely now, without getting in trouble since he’s already there without working papers. However, he could have applied for a job prior to going there so he could get papers. He also could have saved money instead of going there empty handed.
@@peonyflowers23 agreed good points...I have not watched from the beginning not sure what is background is but I believe he has been married before and was living on his parents basement before freeloading on lily...
As far as Josh and his reacting to Lily. Here’s my view. Josh told Her that he had to quit his job so he can come over to live with her, and he has to abide by the rules of China as a non citizen, he isn’t allowed to work and bring in money at this time. He has had enough of her bringing up how much money she’s spent and spending for him! Yes, I would be too, after many many times he has explained to her he appreciates her for that. And that he has no money at this time, but he did come across the world to live with her which shows how much he loves her! She is either very dense or only thinks about herself. Could be narcissist or not, I’m not sure. If she wants intimacy, I thought they were intimate, so I’m lost there too. In the end, I think they are going to break up because words lost in translation! In his last scene he was basically frustrated to the point of now finally lashing out at her for continuing bringing up something so many times he has no idea why! He’s done explaining,she pushed him too far. This issue is an ongoing problem with these couples. They never should get a partner in any country if they can’t speak or understand the others language. And, these people don’t investigate the customs and way of life in each other’s country. Plain and simple. Also, as far as I can see I don’t see any of them staying together! All done, lol! 😊❤
he is not ashamed, he wants to be looked after but by someone who says nothing or demands anything from him ! he acts like a teenager who has to do the dishes when she asks for love. he loves her not, so tired of seeing him belittle her feelings turning it around to him being a victim when she ask for love , if she felt he lovede her she might ease up with the money talk , but why pay for him if he can´t show her love ?
@@nomeinthecottage4767 he could have gotten a remote US remote job...instead he uses all the confusion to live off her and do nothing all day...she should sent him back to his parents basement...he can live off them again instead of using her...
She knew he had no money and couldn’t work there so why is she keep harping on it and also he should have some money he sold his home he didn’t have any savings come on. They’re both just not right for each other.
josh is so damn condesending! its so hard to watch how ungrateful he is to lily and shes so sweet to him and his brother! Lily is getting nothing from this marriage with Josh
Josh wasn’t that creepy or weird in the beginning just thought he was a bit misunderstood. Now at this point of the season he seems straight up creepy and weird. Just the way he treats her is weird. Something is off about him
I remember when he first started Telling us he said Lily wanted to support him. Then Josh sells all his shit, takes it to China and rests on Lily’s words she will pay for everything.
I always thought there was something off about Josh! I don’t even think he has any intention of working at all! 4 marriages failed- WHY? If I were Lilly I’d be asking him what happened with his marriages. Yes, he said he worked in the States- but for how long? How many jobs has he had? Was he ever in a stable job for years? Something off!! With Lilly talking about money constantly- I thought she explained that it was an expression of love in her culture🤷♀️ Lilly needs to dump this passive aggressive bully.
What I don't understand is why tf doesn't he have a single cent to his name at like 50 yrs old? Hasn't he spent his life working? and also sold his house before going to China? Where'd that money go? Or is he keeping it away as a safety net if the sugar mama plan falls thru lol. He's weird as hell
I don’t understand as a man he’s willing to go somewhere and live money free remains broke. He knows he can’t work over there, but went anyways of living off of her… He is worthless and a burden BOTH WAS AWARE.
He’s not 50. He’s in his early forties. I have. Master’s degree and don’t have any saving. I live paycheck to paycheck at age 48, like many people. He does not have a college degree.
I’m sorry lilyi knew the situation what would happen when he moved there she should have just moved to him if anything. So I feel for her part she is wrong for always throwing around how much money she spends she chooses to take care of him financially. But Josh also needs to heal and stop feeling so upset and find other ways to help. And she could of explained with out the cost of money that she was upset because they were at a nice dinner and felt he wasn’t present
Lily invited his brother into this by complaining about him in front of his brother! She always brings up money and what she does for him… constantly. I think he definitely suffers from OCD amongst other things…. So yea he’s eccentric…. But she started it
I still think she just doesn't feel loved by him. She's saying I prove my love to you by spending all this money on you. My picture Him sitting around all day.Playing video games and then asking her when dinner's ready? I don't picture him doing any spontaneous. Things husbands do to their wives. Picking your up carrying her to the bedroom. Fixing her bath water. Nibble on her neck in the morning. It was rude for him to be texting when he was out with her anyway
A good wonderful relationship stands on communication. If the communication is not there what is the precious of the relationship. Usually in a relationship where they live together, bills are split or each pay 1/2 of the bills.
Lily should have picked up the 🚩about him, as he been married multiple times, but she might not care, as she just wanted to be married, cause women in China are considered to be “Left Over Women” if they aren’t married by age of 30.🤔
Some people like to show off (express gratitude on spending on themselves and their partner). He is Too insecure too appreciate her love. Money means differently to different people. Josh should js, express emotion and gratitude, lots of love, lily wants affection!
She constantly throws how much money she spends, knowing full well he can’t work in her country. No one told her to spend a fortune on her house and tells how much every little thing costs…that’s a huge turn off! Josh needs to go home and try to get his life together because those two are like oil and water. I don’t think him to be a bully, now her, that’s a different story.
It’s fine to ‘live off someone else’s money’. As long as you’re contributing more than your half of the non-money effort. You’d better be doing the dishes, laundry, yard work, spirit lifting, and cooking if you’re able. Otherwise you’re a leech and a burden, not ‘special’. (Edit: nothing to do with gender; all about who is where - you’re at home? You do the ‘home work’. And we’re leaving kids out of this one.) It doesn’t’ matter who does what, as long as both parties are doing their best to keep *the other* content.
This guy is a freaking weirdo! And the guy has been married like 50 times! So what's the common denominator here?!! It's him! He's the problem. I don't think he's probably a good significant other. He's just strange. I feel bad for lily, she seems like she just wants a nice relationship.... I mean, he hasn't even slept with her yet! What's that about?! And he always just blames her for the problems. And the money thing she mentions isn't a dig at him. But somehow he sees it that way because he can't work. She tells him about the money to show him how she cares and what she spent. And yeah, maybe she shouldn't all the time... but it's not to rub it in. She says Josh tells her that she doesn't live him. Well, that's one of the reasons she talks about the money. In her head, it's to say, if I didn't love you, I wouldn't spend this much money.... but besides all that, he's the main problem in their relationship.....
We Chinese like to talk about money, expenses.. how much this how much that, where to spend what 😂 . He gets his ego bruised and not even doing his husband duty, thats on him. Although his spouse visa prohibits him to work, he can still apply permit to work... if he wants to work 😂
Unpopular opinion but Lilly just wanted a white westerner and Josh just wanted an Asian woman. They each got what they wanted but found out it’s not what they thought. They have nothing in common.
She is so rude. Leave it for another day, not in front of his brother. She is at fault for marrying someone who told her he can't work and has got no money. Nobody forced her to marry this guy.
I think she keeps mentioning money because he never says thank you or shows any gratitude for what she is doing. Instead he gets offensive and agrugmental.
Shes feminist
@@admar6934send his arsssee back to the US and back to his parents basement...
I think that the reason she is bringing up spending the money at dinner is because she is trying to communicate that here I am spending this money for us to have a wonderful dinner and you are on your phone and not engaging with me
Getting up and leaving without communicating isn’t the solution.
They are both children who confused attention with love.
@@whatifschrodingersboxwasacofin she was trying to communicate but he cuts her off. She’s so frustrated and not wanting to cry in front of people
EXACTLY!! But the guy is too much of an idiot to see that! He's just a strange, weird guy, and it's probably why his 4 marriages didn't work! And he thinks she's the problem....
Lily is saying she doesn't care about the money. Spending money is her love language, so she mentions she provides money to let Josh know she loves him despite his lack of funds.
Sadly he is using her big time...
Lily should’ve married the brother. They seem more compatible
Lily needs to get rid of Josh, get a roommate to help her financial situation and get a dog to snuggle up with. Josh is useless.
@@amadapedro9147 he’s so pathetic
Dogs can only do so much she wants intimacy dogs can't do that
@@admar6934 josh doesn't seem to be able to do it either
Lily should have stopped the car and put Josh and his brother out. There is no reason for him to be disrespectful in front of his brother like that. The entitlement of the Americans on 90DF has been off the charts this season.
@@tawnygirl2000 💯 a know what I’d of said to him, there’d be some bleeping
Unfortunately she is realizing he wants to be and live like a child not a husband...
You are so correct, these people who are traveling to another country to live needs to have their finance in order before getting a plane ticket. They should enough money for at least 6 months to year.
I just hate his withholding intimacy
Why couldn't he have gotten an online job before he left america
@@ESLEDUCATE he is a freeloader that's why...
That's such a sick, passive-aggressive thing to do to anyone.
@@ESLEDUCATE he is purposely playing lily...if she didn't have a house and good job he would have just stayed in his parents basement living off them instead..
They said at the beginning that he sold the house and has a lot of money from that sale, however he doesn’t want to spend it as it is for his future. She hoped he would contribute to her flat renovation.
And the fact that he doesn't see her/them as his future, or something worth spending his money on, but he can take what she has freely, proves why she needs to get out now
Lily is also upset that they are not having sex. Josh made excuses when she brought it up.
He can not rise to the occasion for Lily, He is broke, and she keeps reminding him how much she spends on him and for them.
What I don't understand is Josh knew he couldn't work. So why not come up with a back up. Like some online selling? Teach English? He sold his house he has $$ there are missing pieces to this story. Lack of intimacy is a problem.
He wants to live off her intentionally
The brother is alot more mature then the manchild...
She is totally stressed around Josh, wouldn't we all be?❤❤❤
The brother is clearly the smarter and more mature of the two brothers...
He had a job and a house, that he sold, he should have plenty money saved up.
Josh needs to go back to the states and i hope she is protecting herself financially from him know and when they split...josh is full of s!!T...
From what I have heard giving gifts and money is a cultural way of showing love for her and she's struggling to express that it's not buying him or holding it over his head, she's trying to show she loves him and when he rejects her she's upset because he's 'taking love' from her but not giving it back. It's not about him paying, it's about affection, respect and all that. He doesn't have the brain cells to try learn stuff like this or actually understand her; he takes it one way and throws a tantrum. He could learn some of her goddamn language too, read about her culture, learn about where he's LIVING now. He's such an idiot.
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Very articulate...don't see it lasting as he only wants to live off of her after hiding from his life in the US...
I feel bad for Lily, she has got to feel humiliated.
She is looking for Mr. Moneybags while knowing he can't work for at least 5 years in her country.
@@wandasantillo1220she can put him to work in her business and as a minimum he needs to be taking care of the cleaning and maintenance of the house as a minimum what else does he flicking do all day long...
I honestly feel bad for her because before him she had peace, she was successful. She did not need him, but now he's bringing his issues to her doorstep. Exactly how you see him, how he wants to be catered to and everybody walk on ice for him and his feelings.That's how majority of american men are in this country right now, and that's why they're going overseas. They are hoping to get a traditional wife who will not ask them of anything. And just be grateful for the fact that they have a man. Meanwhile, american women are sick and tired of putting up with this crop.
Well said and very true...sadly
Crap...absolutely...😮...she need to kick him back over...
he sold his house,live with parents...he should have money,,,,,,,,duh
Exactly. I think Josh is withholding the money just like he's withholding the loving. Lily knows he's withholding, and it frustrates her.
He can't even pay for dinner😮
Or won't...
These 2 are not good. Josh needs to get his shit together!
Communication is key to a succesful relationship. If you dont have it the relationship crumbles😢
At that age...HE AINT GETTING IT TOGETHER...THAT'S WHY HE IS THERE FREE LOADING INSTEAD OF WORKING REMOTELY...WHAT DOES HE DO ALL DAY EXACTLY...
@@NatalieRabuzinNot sure he can work remotely now, without getting in trouble since he’s already there without working papers. However, he could have applied for a job prior to going there so he could get papers. He also could have saved money instead of going there empty handed.
@@peonyflowers23 agreed good points...I have not watched from the beginning not sure what is background is but I believe he has been married before and was living on his parents basement before freeloading on lily...
As far as Josh and his reacting to Lily. Here’s my view. Josh told Her that he had to quit his job so he can come over to live with her, and he has to abide by the rules of China as a non citizen, he isn’t allowed to work and bring in money at this time. He has had enough of her bringing up how much money she’s spent and spending for him! Yes, I would be too, after many many times he has explained to her he appreciates her for that. And that he has no money at this time, but he did come across the world to live with her which shows how much he loves her! She is either very dense or only thinks about herself. Could be narcissist or not, I’m not sure. If she wants intimacy, I thought they were intimate, so I’m lost there too. In the end, I think they are going to break up because words lost in translation! In his last scene he was basically frustrated to the point of now finally lashing out at her for continuing bringing up something so many times he has no idea why! He’s done explaining,she pushed him too far. This issue is an ongoing problem with these couples. They never should get a partner in any country if they can’t speak or understand the others language. And, these people don’t investigate the customs and way of life in each other’s country. Plain and simple. Also, as far as I can see I don’t see any of them staying together! All done, lol! 😊❤
They both are at fault. She should've known better ,he knew better and yet here they are. 1 big dumb brain 🤯
he is not ashamed, he wants to be looked after but by someone who says nothing or demands anything from him !
he acts like a teenager who has to do the dishes when she asks for love. he loves her not, so tired of seeing him belittle her feelings turning it around to him being a victim when she ask for love , if she felt he lovede her she might ease up with the money talk , but why pay for him if he can´t show her love ?
Exactly
Josh should at this point be financially stable. Why no savings ect.
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@@massiahgromman child who really wants to live off lily...no wonder it's not working...a therapist but not a family member...
I think he has to make them last for five years ???
No savings pensions or pay outs...
LILY...SENT HIM BACK TO HIS PARENTS BASEMENT...
What does josh do all day...while she works...is he helping to provide for her and to pay there bills...
He takes a nap 😂
@@YuhuuDMan-d8d he does noth8ng else all day apparently...besides living off poor lily...
He can’t work
@@nomeinthecottage4767 he could have gotten a remote US remote job...instead he uses all the confusion to live off her and do nothing all day...she should sent him back to his parents basement...he can live off them again instead of using her...
@@nomeinthecottage4767 loser
Poor lily...this is not going to end well...
500 for dinner? He’s clearly taking advantage and mad that she has somewhat of a backbone
Why on earth did she marry Josh in the first place? These two are not a good match!
She knew he had no money and couldn’t work there so why is she keep harping on it and also he should have some money he sold his home he didn’t have any savings come on. They’re both just not right for each other.
💯 I couldn't agree with you more
Let me guess...JOSH ALWAYS blames someone else for his finances😅😅😅......sorry lily i hope u got a pre nup...
Josh needs therapy asap
josh is so damn condesending! its so hard to watch how ungrateful he is to lily and shes so sweet to him and his brother! Lily is getting nothing from this marriage with Josh
Cant TLC find us 2 people who are truly in love. Wouldnt that be refreshing.
She's humiliating/bullying him actually. But at the same time he shouldnt have gone there with nothing to offer.
Using a counselor is one thing...but i doubt josh will ever change...
Maybe Josh had loans on the house which he had pay when he sold the house. I mean, why was he living at his parents?
What with his parents at 40 plus...guess they did not want his bony arssee on the street...
The brother gerrard is clearly the far more mature of the two brothers...
He’s hiding something. Maybe his money. He needs to go back.
Josh healing from what exactly...FREELOADING OFF OF LILY...
Right!!! He’s full of it.
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No wonder he married her so quickly...
Yeah… they aren’t gonna last.
He has no shame. I feel bad for her. He doesn't deserve a good woman.
Josh wasn’t that creepy or weird in the beginning just thought he was a bit misunderstood. Now at this point of the season he seems straight up creepy and weird. Just the way he treats her is weird. Something is off about him
He got TLC’d.
A just can’t stand Josh
Josh is a freeloader 😂
Josh made a lot of promises...abd then does not FOLLOW TROUGH...ofcourse she will start to clue in to his real character...
I remember when he first started Telling us he said Lily wanted to support him. Then Josh sells all his shit, takes it to China and rests on Lily’s words she will pay for everything.
Feeling sorry for poor people never works out...as she is finding out...Marrying him...utter disaster...
He needs to learn Chinese so they can communicate more effectively. Its like he isn't putting any effort.
Lilly needs a better guy. There is zero chemistry between these two
Josh needs to go back to America with is brother!!!!
Josh is a jerk and should be kissing Lily's feet. Dump Josh and go for his brother if hes single.
I always thought there was something off about Josh! I don’t even think he has any intention of working at all! 4 marriages failed- WHY? If I were Lilly I’d be asking him what happened with his marriages. Yes, he said he worked in the States- but for how long? How many jobs has he had? Was he ever in a stable job for years? Something off!! With Lilly talking about money constantly- I thought she explained that it was an expression of love in her culture🤷♀️ Lilly needs to dump this passive aggressive bully.
What I don't understand is why tf doesn't he have a single cent to his name at like 50 yrs old? Hasn't he spent his life working? and also sold his house before going to China? Where'd that money go? Or is he keeping it away as a safety net if the sugar mama plan falls thru lol. He's weird as hell
I don’t understand as a man he’s willing to go somewhere and live money free remains broke.
He knows he can’t work over there, but went anyways of living off of her…
He is worthless and a burden BOTH WAS AWARE.
He’s not 50. He’s in his early forties. I have. Master’s degree and don’t have any saving. I live paycheck to paycheck at age 48, like many people. He does not have a college degree.
I’m sorry lilyi knew the situation what would happen when he moved there she should have just moved to him if anything. So I feel for her part she is wrong for always throwing around how much money she spends she chooses to take care of him financially. But Josh also needs to heal and stop feeling so upset and find other ways to help. And she could of explained with out the cost of money that she was upset because they were at a nice dinner and felt he wasn’t present
I bet this guy has no place to return to. Broke. Its so expensive here to rent anything.....so this may be his only option
Lily invited his brother into this by complaining about him in front of his brother! She always brings up money and what she does for him… constantly. I think he definitely suffers from OCD amongst other things…. So yea he’s eccentric…. But she started it
I still think she just doesn't feel loved by him. She's saying I prove my love to you by spending all this money on you. My picture Him sitting around all day.Playing video games and then asking her when dinner's ready? I don't picture him doing any spontaneous.
Things husbands do to their wives. Picking your up carrying her to the bedroom. Fixing her bath water. Nibble on her neck in the morning. It was rude for him to be texting when he was out with her anyway
A good wonderful relationship stands on communication. If the communication is not there what is the precious of the relationship. Usually in a relationship where they live together, bills are split or each pay 1/2 of the bills.
I so agree. Josh is damaged and distant
If he says it bothers him when she speaks about the money she's spending then she should stop
I am sorry, if I am paying for a nice meal...and you are on your phone!!! I am pissed as well
Lily should have picked up the 🚩about him, as he been married multiple times, but she might not care, as she just wanted to be married, cause women in China are considered to be “Left Over Women” if they aren’t married by age of 30.🤔
Maybe he should try to give it up
Some people like to show off (express gratitude on spending on themselves and their partner). He is Too insecure too appreciate her love. Money means differently to different people. Josh should js, express emotion and gratitude, lots of love, lily wants affection!
Am I the only one who thinks that Josh is secretly gay??
DING DING DING!!!
Yes I agree 100%😮
Josh acts like a child, he just wanted someone to take care of him. Lilly wanted someone to take care of her. They are not compatible! 🤢🤮🤑🤡
She constantly throws how much money she spends, knowing full well he can’t work in her country. No one told her to spend a fortune on her house and tells how much every little thing costs…that’s a huge turn off! Josh needs to go home and try to get his life together because those two are like oil and water. I don’t think him to be a bully, now her, that’s a different story.
Before moving to China She thought Josh got money was expecting him to contribute financially
Why doesn't he have any money?
It’s fine to ‘live off someone else’s money’.
As long as you’re contributing more than your half of the non-money effort.
You’d better be doing the dishes, laundry, yard work, spirit lifting, and cooking if you’re able.
Otherwise you’re a leech and a burden, not ‘special’.
(Edit: nothing to do with gender; all about who is where - you’re at home? You do the ‘home work’. And we’re leaving kids out of this one.)
It doesn’t’ matter who does what, as long as both parties are doing their best to keep *the other* content.
Stop talking and play the damn video
He talks to much
This guy is a freaking weirdo! And the guy has been married like 50 times! So what's the common denominator here?!! It's him! He's the problem. I don't think he's probably a good significant other. He's just strange. I feel bad for lily, she seems like she just wants a nice relationship.... I mean, he hasn't even slept with her yet! What's that about?! And he always just blames her for the problems. And the money thing she mentions isn't a dig at him. But somehow he sees it that way because he can't work. She tells him about the money to show him how she cares and what she spent. And yeah, maybe she shouldn't all the time... but it's not to rub it in. She says Josh tells her that she doesn't live him. Well, that's one of the reasons she talks about the money. In her head, it's to say, if I didn't love you, I wouldn't spend this much money.... but besides all that, he's the main problem in their relationship.....
We Chinese like to talk about money, expenses.. how much this how much that, where to spend what 😂 . He gets his ego bruised and not even doing his husband duty, thats on him. Although his spouse visa prohibits him to work, he can still apply permit to work... if he wants to work 😂
ok is it me or does Josh look very much like Kevin Spacey?
Unpopular opinion but Lilly just wanted a white westerner and Josh just wanted an Asian woman. They each got what they wanted but found out it’s not what they thought. They have nothing in common.
Why he doesn't have money?
He just doesn’t wanna spend any 😂
These two have too many cultural differences. Also two people living in a five story house is crazy. A smaller cheaper place would be less stressful.
She is so rude. Leave it for another day, not in front of his brother. She is at fault for marrying someone who told her he can't work and has got no money. Nobody forced her to marry this guy.
She wanted a Caucasian sausage bigger than Chinese wee wee 😂
Josh dose Nothing
Lily Works
Josh has no income and Unemployment
Lily has Income and Employment
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