WHY it feels CRINGY and EMBARRASSING to Create Content (and how YOU can get over it)

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @DisneyMagicFix
    @DisneyMagicFix Месяц назад +2

    So Comforting to hear someone else has the same feelings about starting at a older age. I feel like I won't be accepted as a creator at my age. I was so so nervous and i was so embarrassed filming in public but I just went for it. So happy I did it's going well. 3 videos LOL .Thank you, Great video your Awesome keep creating videos!. I subscribed

  • @studiotezart
    @studiotezart 2 месяца назад +8

    You are so right, a big reason for me to film myself is to get used to what I look like - been avoiding mirrors for a decade. It is not the same person in the mirror anymore, i have been ashamed for so long that I now are facing my fear head on lol.. Well that and, showing my art :D

  • @paulatk44
    @paulatk44 2 месяца назад +135

    A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

    • @JohnWicked-fx3cs
      @JohnWicked-fx3cs 2 месяца назад

      Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7-year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.

    • @paulatk44
      @paulatk44 2 месяца назад

      That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?

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      @JohnWicked-fx3cs 2 месяца назад

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    • @paulatk44
      @paulatk44 2 месяца назад

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  • @AguileraFamilyMinistriesInc
    @AguileraFamilyMinistriesInc 2 месяца назад +3

    One of the best advice I heard was. “nobody cares about your videos” you’re family and friends might see your videos if you send it to them but they are busy and don’t have time to be watching them all the time 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @Shoshana_Grace
    @Shoshana_Grace Месяц назад +1

    I am 52 and have a background in psychology, and I am absolutely mind blown that I never considered my generation as part of my fear in moving forward with my channel. OMG! It's so freeing and validating that it's not just about "getting over it," and that I am just "shy." It's totally, at least in part, the way and when I was raised. Of course, I can't use this as an excuse either (I am good at that), but I feel so much less crazy. Thank you! I am binging all your videos, and I am a huge fan of the spoon and alien!

  • @clay.companion
    @clay.companion Месяц назад +1

    Hey I only just started this year...actually 4 months ago ✨️. I'm a Polymer clay artist, I create cosy companions for people needing strength, comfort and joy, I am a mum of two and I am over 35. I'm enjoying my youtube journey for sure....but it's slow and yes, just that bit cringe 😅. I have been so reluctant to put my human self out there, most videos just show my art and voice. But maybe it's time ❤

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  Месяц назад

      It’s time, my friend, you can do this 🫶🏽

  • @schoolneverteach
    @schoolneverteach 2 месяца назад +22

    Small RUclipsrs, let's gather here👇!

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +3

      Here 🙌🏽

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +4

      Just subscribed 🙌🏽

    • @vibesbylevi
      @vibesbylevi 2 месяца назад +4

      Subscribed 👍

    • @schoolneverteach
      @schoolneverteach 2 месяца назад +2

      @@jennavarx thank u for the sub!

    • @schoolneverteach
      @schoolneverteach 2 месяца назад

      @@vibesbylevi thank u, I have subbed yours too

  • @lifewithlolatv
    @lifewithlolatv 2 месяца назад +1

    I totally agree. I'm a 40-year-old RUclipsr as well, and I feel very cringe-making a video; even my kids tell me I'm cringe, but you know what? I move, and I won't stop. My age won't stop or hold me back. Age is just a number, and I have value to offer on this platform and creating content makes me happy.

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      I’m afraid of my Gen Z co-workers judging me 😂 - the kids keep us in check that’s for sure. So glad you’re deciding to make content anyway!

  • @jorrissa
    @jorrissa 2 месяца назад +2

    Glad u came up on my For You today! New Sub🎉 i can relate! I jus started posting but hopefully one day, soon, I'll step in front the camera 😅🤦🏽‍♀️💪🏽

  • @oldguyinsights
    @oldguyinsights 2 месяца назад +6

    I'm a 65 year old that loves your content. I've been online in one form or another since 1994 and trust me, it never gets any easier. I remember the very first national television interview I did when I walked out of the studio wondering what the hell I just said because I was so nervous. Things got a lot better. I just subscribed to your channel to help support your journey. You are going to do great. You've got this. I believe in you. ~ Steve

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      Steve, thanks so much for your words of encouragement! Your journey is inspiring and i definitely know that feeling. Thanks for your support 🙌🏽

  • @dukesvibes3915
    @dukesvibes3915 2 месяца назад +6

    I had this feeling when I started 3yrs back. I immediately stopped after 8 months. Now, I am back to pick up from where I stopped. The best part right now is being consistent. Don’t let friends and family frustrate your dreams ❤

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      The TRUTH! And congrats getting back into it 🎉

    • @the_sologlass
      @the_sologlass 2 месяца назад

      I'm with you. I'm 61.

  • @AmitGraphicArts
    @AmitGraphicArts 2 месяца назад +1

    You hit the nail on the head! Most of what you mention is exactly what I experienced as a 40-year-old attempting to create content as well!

  • @AguileraFamilyMinistriesInc
    @AguileraFamilyMinistriesInc 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you for sharing I’m also starting a new channel and also feel that.

  • @DarrenKeenan
    @DarrenKeenan 2 месяца назад +3

    i am 55 and been creating videos since 2016 and still a small youtuber but loving every minute, I still feel i have not found my niche after all this time but i have made some great friends on the way which is worth more to me. loving the little alien and thank you...

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      👽 thanks for the kind words! Happy to meet you and not sure if you saw, but I mentioned in another video that my first RUclips appearance was in 2007! 😅

  • @Culturecrack
    @Culturecrack 2 месяца назад +5

    Hi millenial here 😶‍🌫️ You got this lol, you being photogenic helps a lot too 😂

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      😅 thank you for the comment and for watching!

  • @allenreid62
    @allenreid62 2 месяца назад +3

    I'm 62 and just launched my current channel about a month ago. I'm finding myself walking and talking in the wilderness because of this reason!

  • @DadLifeOfBrian
    @DadLifeOfBrian 2 месяца назад +8

    Just real, not cringey at all.

  • @DadLifeOfBrian
    @DadLifeOfBrian 2 месяца назад +3

    I just started speaking to the camera and I broke the ice by just doing a 160 first date question type video and it just accelerated me past any discomfort and awkwardness. Might as well jump into the deep end 😂. Thanks for a great video!

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for watching and your comment ❤ cheers to jumping into the deep end 🎉

  • @Meganc3090
    @Meganc3090 16 дней назад

    I'm watching this the day after I attempted filming my first video. I tried multiple times and felt like I failed. I woke up this morning with the intention of trying again, but didn't have it in me to press record. So thank you for pushing past the cringe feeling and sharing your experiences and thoughts. It was helpful 🙂❤️.

  • @FloydCotton-hx4jh
    @FloydCotton-hx4jh 2 месяца назад +2

    I don’t find you cringey. Quite the opposite. I think your reservations are one of your most appealing attributes. Courage without fear isn’t really courage. Watching someone be courageous in spite of their fear is true strength. Thank you for sharing!

  • @ohheyjanadraws
    @ohheyjanadraws Месяц назад

    I just want to say... I feel you. Even though I was born in the early 90s and kind of grown up with cellphones, it still feels weird being in front of the camera and posting it. Thanks for the motivation.
    Oh, and you are gorgeous! Love the salt and pepper. ❤

  • @BaldAndCurious
    @BaldAndCurious 2 месяца назад +3

    Thanks again for the previous video i watched from your channel. I just did a "test record" for a first purpose built video for my channel, but yeah it feel way much better after watching this video. The feel of cringe is still there, but i feel at least i can finish the next one, and finally post it. Again, cheers to you and your channel! 🎉

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      Thank you so much and I looooove that you did the test record! I do hope my videos get us all to take action (partially me holding myself accountable). And I appreciate your support

    • @BaldAndCurious
      @BaldAndCurious 2 месяца назад

      @@jennavarx who else is going to support us but each other 🙂 looking forward to your next video!

    • @kaye.b8888
      @kaye.b8888 2 месяца назад

      I just started youtube, doing a faceless content...i'm already so cringe about my posts i want to stop.😂

    • @BaldAndCurious
      @BaldAndCurious 2 месяца назад

      @@kaye.b8888 keep going, until you get used to it... and until you get better. 🙂

    • @kaye.b8888
      @kaye.b8888 2 месяца назад

      @@BaldAndCurious thank you 😊

  • @LatinNerdChronicles
    @LatinNerdChronicles 2 месяца назад

    You are hitting the exact feeling im going through. Early 40’s , latino … planning to move from NYC to CDMX next year with my wife for a huge change in quality of life. Wanting to develop a personal youtube channel, but with my insecurities, mental health and cultural blocks, it makes getting started difficult.

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +1

      What are your strengths? What do your friends or family come to you for (advice)? There’s so much content you could create with the journey you just described in this comment! I also used to live in NYC 🙌🏽 - I’m loving CDMX - wishing you the best with the move

  • @socksandsandalsASMR
    @socksandsandalsASMR 2 месяца назад +3

    GenX here. I feel it! Totally.

  • @paintedpreppers-airguns
    @paintedpreppers-airguns 2 месяца назад +1

    Great vid, I'm 43 been doing RUclips for 16 months now id say the first 7 or 8 months I felt cringy every time I recorded, only every now and then these days but oh man I've defo been there the struggle is real

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +1

      Ooof! Looking forward to my next 7-8 months of cringe 😂, glad to here it’s only now and again for you now! Thanks for the comment!

  • @PODBlueprint
    @PODBlueprint 2 месяца назад +3

    👌👌👌⭐️⭐️❤️❤️❤️It’s good to be real. Well I am 60 but it’s just a number and thank God I still feel the same way as before…. I have 40 years of adulthood haha. I need my own alien gear. It’s a great moment Jen though we may feel embarrassed when doing so but a good experience to look back when you’re already in the RUclips momentum.
    You did it yaaaay🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤⭐️⭐️⭐️🩵🩵👍

  • @WorldMoneyWins
    @WorldMoneyWins 2 месяца назад +1

    Great job! I'm Gen X, so it was important to me to leave something that my ancestors can see to let them know how I actually was.
    When starting out, it helps to make your videos 3-4 minutes long until you get monetized. That lets people get to know you in little doses. Also, if you clone your channel to Odysee, your videos can live on the blockchain forever. Keep up the great work!

    • @AmysSewingRoom
      @AmysSewingRoom 2 месяца назад

      I love your comment about leaving a legacy!!

    • @AmysSewingRoom
      @AmysSewingRoom 2 месяца назад

      Thanks for this video! I’m 54 (yikes) and just started a sewing refashioning channel. 73 subs so far and I’m having a blast!

  • @kevin-haggerty
    @kevin-haggerty 2 месяца назад

    Let’s goo !!! It’s hard to create sometimes but the more you do it the easier it becomes. And totally agree I grew up in the 80s

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +1

      💯💯💯 the more you do the easier it becomes

  • @thescaralchemist
    @thescaralchemist 2 месяца назад

    Omg I feel so seen. Im starting a personal brand that ive wanted to do for years but my prior conditioning shrunk me…ill spend big money buying all the gear too and I want it perfect before I post but In all truth I like raw edits and ppl who are super relatable, I just struggle to do that myself. This was such an aha moment im going to take a new action and just tell myself to push through and keep going. Thanm you for being brave

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      I can see that YOU are brave. You got this and I’m rooting for you 🫶🏽

  • @janine.alyssa
    @janine.alyssa 2 месяца назад

    I absolutely love your videos. You described exactly how I’ve been feeling and it was SO helpful to hear someone else say they understood why we feel this way. Thank you for being so real and encouraging! Ive wanted to start creating content since the dawn of RUclips, but it has always felt SO weird to do and it’s really nice knowing I’m not alone in that 😅 I feel one step closer to start my own journey because of your videos, thank you ❤

  • @valeriecarruthers7084
    @valeriecarruthers7084 Месяц назад

    It’s so freakin cute how you use a funny stuffy to hold your clip mic! 💗

  • @nikhein
    @nikhein Месяц назад

    I have somewhat mixed feelings about this. First of all, thank you for the video; honesty and authenticity are the best way to go! I really enjoyed watching it.
    But then I sort of feel embarrassed because I don't feel cringy at all. I'm from what is usually called Gen-X, turned 52 this year, and I already have three channels (yeah, I'm that crazy), two of which are monetized already.
    I must admit that I was really uncertain about my English at first, though. I guess that was my breakpoint of shame. But right now, I'm about to start another channel in English (the first one was faceless, but this one will be full-on) because I have so much to say. I'm so hungry to break through to the audience, so everything else becomes unessential.
    My wife said recently that I almost looking possessed at times. Maybe I am. But I see that as a good thing.
    So, I'm sending you all the positive energy I can via this comment. I'm sure we're all gonna make it!

  • @PhilipsRandomBS
    @PhilipsRandomBS 2 месяца назад

    44 year old here who can totally relate. Especially the part about buying gear, making plans, and then doing nothing. Somehow I've managed to overcome it and published my first video two days ago (funnily enough, it's also about buying gear). I'm leaving for a trip to New York today, but I'm not sure I'm ready to film in public… 😬 but I've seen your other videos where you've done it, so maybe I can pull it off too 😅

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +1

      The little DJI Osmo 3 and my iPhone make it easier- though I always feel a little embarrassed filming in public! Thanks for the support and wishing you the best with the RUclips journey!

  • @aStoryofShei
    @aStoryofShei 2 месяца назад

    Oh my goodness I needed this. I’m trying to work up the courage to stick a toe in these waters, and right now I don’t even have the guts to put up a non-AI photo of myself. This was very very relatable, and I really like you idea of putting your mic on something that your hands can fidget with or hold. Thanks and I’ll remember when I get started that it’s normal to feel cringe.

  • @explorer_highway
    @explorer_highway 2 месяца назад

    I’m 60 and thinking about starting to do videos, I mostly watch and comment. I gotta learn how to edit videos I guess. Good to watch your video and others who are starting out.

  • @vibesbylevi
    @vibesbylevi 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for that perspective. You are so right.
    I’m learning to lean into to the cringe. For me, it helps to remember the “Why” and recognize it’s a process of learning and if it wasn’t a challenge I would just get bored. But I do cringe at my own stuff. 😬

  • @TiinaPetersson
    @TiinaPetersson 2 месяца назад

    Glad to have found your channel and seeing I’m not alone with these feelings. I wish I had the self confidence the young generation has about sharing their knowledge and experiences.
    I even feel cringey showing my videos to my husband…and he is a big supporter.

  • @WhittWoofs
    @WhittWoofs 2 месяца назад

    This is a good subject to discuss --- thanks for being real and spreading some encouragement.

  • @TerryCreates7
    @TerryCreates7 2 месяца назад +1

    You’re doing great! I’m 42 and starting over on RUclips

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +1

      We’re in this together 🫱🏽‍🫲🏾 thanks for the kind words!

  • @90slimit1
    @90slimit1 2 месяца назад

    I've seen a couple (2) of your videos, maybe from related videos and again this video, I'm subbing because of the title and content. 😊

  • @nextlevelcraig
    @nextlevelcraig 2 месяца назад

    Love the messaging here! Also you are killing it! Everything looks and sounds so good! I would have never guess that you are new to this. Your channel will do well without a doubt!

  • @graeme_mcleish1
    @graeme_mcleish1 2 месяца назад

    Sounds so familiar. Thanks for creating this! I find it difficult to put myself out there.

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      It truly is . I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous each time I hit “post”.

  • @TLS-in-Japan
    @TLS-in-Japan 2 месяца назад

    Haha... I'm in the same boat, Jen. I'm 43. You're so right-my first cellphone was a small flip phone when I was 20 years old. Now, my nieces and nephews got their first cell phones at 6 and 7 years old...lol. But I'm just starting to create content. I started in August 2024. It's cringy and uncomfortable, but I'm enjoying it. Great content! I subscribed. Thank you!

  • @jesse_krause
    @jesse_krause 2 месяца назад

    Great video! 🎉
    Maybe embarrassment is a more accurate word than shame? At least for me. Shame is pretty heavy stuff for RUclips
    Keep making videos! You’ve got the production nailed. I’m 41 also and feel too self conscious to post anything!
    Maybe soon if I can think of something to talk about. 😂

  • @Leeroyz1
    @Leeroyz1 2 месяца назад

    Such an awesome video and so inspiring!!! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      Glad you enjoyed it and thanks for your support!

  • @Cathy16011
    @Cathy16011 Месяц назад

    I love your strategies. I have implemented some of the advice from your other video and it seems to help. Thank you!!

  • @juniadventures
    @juniadventures 2 месяца назад

    the pain is real... ive been doing I.T. since 97.. DOS n windows 3.1... we pioneered this shet and i feel like im entering the young generations space lol. ..

  • @alpinegeordie
    @alpinegeordie 2 месяца назад +1

    Grew up in the 60s in rural uk! Coal mining village¨. it was hard not even a calculator at school!

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      Incredible life experience ❤ thanks for watching and commenting!

  • @intentionaltom9447
    @intentionaltom9447 2 месяца назад

    Maybe we should just start a Cringy Content Creators Club for all of old folk filmmakers! Love the alien! It adds a touch of cringy humor! Great video and advice!

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +1

      Ooooo I LOVE THIS IDEA 💡🙌🏽

  • @WorldMoneyWins
    @WorldMoneyWins 2 месяца назад +1

    I don't watch my own videos, so that helps 🤪

  • @edwardmacnab354
    @edwardmacnab354 2 месяца назад +1

    I think a lot of youtubers find the experience awkward . Probably has something to do with you talking to thin air for one , and acting and speaking in a not normal fashion. My favorite youtuber "SpanishAfterHours' is in her twenties and says the exact same thing

  • @bestiedash
    @bestiedash 2 месяца назад

    Subscribed! Same boat and just started my channel as well in my 40’s eekk!! Keep going 😊

  • @noamay
    @noamay 2 месяца назад

    Wow this is Exactly how I feel about this, just keep postponing all of it😅🙌🌷

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      It’s my lived experience - this year I said “no more!”

  • @HariV2025
    @HariV2025 2 месяца назад

    You got this ❤

    • @HariV2025
      @HariV2025 2 месяца назад

      I have a new channel with a different account, I put the camera on and just talked a lot of rubbish for a few weeks and ended up with 40+ videos, I have now gone and deleted 30 of them. I am in my late 40s.

  • @RCodyWanner
    @RCodyWanner 2 месяца назад

    love this

  • @_jasminedy
    @_jasminedy 2 месяца назад

    Just subscribed hunn! Keep hustling! It’s not easy being a content creator. I know 😅

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      Thanks for subbing and i definitely know it!! Glad to be on this journey with you!

    • @tttravelandlife
      @tttravelandlife Месяц назад

      @@jennavarxI subbed 👍

  • @supervixenxiii
    @supervixenxiii 2 месяца назад

    I love these videos 💗

  • @rodrigobiagi
    @rodrigobiagi 2 месяца назад

    38 here and I feel it too, nice video

  • @LivingLifewithJudith
    @LivingLifewithJudith 2 месяца назад +1

    Gen X here... Oh, I feel cringe, weird, awkward... but I am trying to get over it.

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад +1

      😅 saaaaame - or maybe im more or less trying to get used to it, not sure I’ll ever really get over it

  • @heyxsabrina
    @heyxsabrina Месяц назад

    I'm almost 39 and I feel cringy but sometimes you have to be cringy to be successful :)

  • @wadecodez
    @wadecodez 2 месяца назад

    For those planning to retire early, the algorithm magically shows your message to the right people. That’s the way it has always been. Believe it or not you do not have to make headlines, you can just be you. It’s in the name.

  • @ThePynnFoolLife
    @ThePynnFoolLife Месяц назад

    I'm gen x and I feal like that crazy lady with no filter. But I'm a bit of a loner so no one saw it. Now I filming and I'm like should I say that. Then it's like oh well lets see what will happen.

  • @GoldenAgeCreator
    @GoldenAgeCreator 2 месяца назад

    Just subscribed

  • @Kittyheavenwith21cats
    @Kittyheavenwith21cats Месяц назад

    I was almost 30 when I got my first flip phone

  • @crispy9542
    @crispy9542 2 месяца назад +1

    im not supposed to be here im gen z

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      😂 welcome to auntie’s house

  • @lisahsmodestlifestyle
    @lisahsmodestlifestyle 2 месяца назад

    Hi New Subscriber here!
    I’m also a RUclipsr!
    My content is pretty random as well.
    Love your videos!!

  • @MelissaMadnessness
    @MelissaMadnessness Месяц назад

    Cell phone in high school?? More like beepers 😂

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  Месяц назад +1

      Yessssss the beepers!!!!

  • @thebalancedbuild
    @thebalancedbuild 2 месяца назад

    Small gen x RUclipsrs unite! 😂💪

  • @moizter
    @moizter 2 месяца назад

    the path to fame is paved with cringe😂

  • @FixItOnTheWay
    @FixItOnTheWay 2 месяца назад +1

    You have amazing charisma, screen presence, and likeability. Great storyteller too. Have you considered offering a course on charisma? Brand is hard to build if you're not likable. Even Gen Z RUclipsrs have to be likable in order to get views. Over sharing is not enough.

    • @jennavarx
      @jennavarx  2 месяца назад

      Ahhh! I made a video and I referenced your question but I couldn’t find this comment before I published. Thanks again for asking this- I did have a course in the past!

    • @FixItOnTheWay
      @FixItOnTheWay 2 месяца назад

      @@jennavarx That's great. Im glad my comment was helpful. Mindset is such an important topic for RUclips.