Been thru this with a husband of 20 yrs who was almost 60 years yrs old. He fell for a married woman who dumped him ultimately. I dumped him too. I’m a strong believer in move on…….they never respect you again when you forgive them. Nia, you are gorgeous, and have so much going for you, move on. You deserve way more than this.
It has nothing to do with being gorgeous, every person need to be respected and valued. I'm not the most attractive lady, but I couldn't leave with my ex with the fear of being cheated again...
People who down play cheating do not understand the emotional trauma someone can suffer from being humiliated and disrespected. I can only imagine what it feels like to go through this publicly. How stupid of him to defecate where he eats.
At this point, there should be legal consequences of cheating or people will never chill on it. People cheat because they know nothing will happen even if they are caught, then when the hurt person reacts it's a problem, but that pain and emotional trauma hits hard.
The most hurtful part is how he had her to uproot their son and her life to move to Boston knowing a scandal was about to come out. That kind of betrayal is devastating. To have one of the persons he was messing with to make the travel plans and to have met her before is insulting.What a POS.
Exactly Ime knew tha💩was about 2 come and said Nothin to Nia hopefully she changed her mind in regards to moving completely to Boston. Ime doesn't Realize nor care about what Nia gave up to move to Boston!!!
@@jasminemonroe5784 cheaters do not care about the emotional trauma someone can suffer fron being disrespect and humiliated in such way, they are narcissists and care only about themselves.
Cheaters don’t care because all they are concerned about is themselves. They’ll bring ‘em to your house, screw them in the bed you both share, bring ‘em to your job, take ‘em to your favorite restaurant, your fav vacation spot. They are only thinking of their pleasure, what they want. They ain’t thinking about you or your feelings.
@@i.p.freely5974 Ummm…. When I say I can see why, it’s simply my stating that after this complete and total humiliation by his lack of trustworthiness and self control, I can understand why she would be hesitant to marry him.
I agree. Whether it's to be expected because he's a black ball player, coach, blah, blah, or not, it's still painful because whether we know Nia in real life or have followed her career since the 90s and feel as if we do know her and/or have love for our fellow sistuh, it's hard to hear about this happening to her. Think if it was our sister, mother, aunt, best friend, and imagine the pain it would cause us? I feel sorry for her. I pray she gets through this and I pray she handles this on HER terms and not worry about what the peanut gallery in the world of social media says she SHOULD do. Only she knows what's best for her and her family. Be blessed, Nia.
I agree 💯 % with LisaRaye. It's so disappointing and REDICULOUS that men in there 40's, 50's and 60's are STILL cheating thinking they wont get caught. It ALWAYS comes out eventually, especially if you're in the public eye. And for her to be blindsided by this, was disrespectful. II'm sure she's strong and God will get her through this difficult season. 🙏🏽
The Engagement…for that long, means he doesn’t want to be legally married because he’s having relationships under the auspices of “I’m not married”. Therefore, this should not be a surprise to anyone. The problem is that it involves a married staffer.
I do not know specifics of her circumstance but as a female/human being I can sympathize and by no means wish her nor anyone else to have to go through what's suppose to be a private matter between her and husband. The fact the she is in the public eye and have stories everyday told about her does not mean her life should be open for discussion. What price does a person have to pay for their dignity and privacy!?
@@brownsugako7772 Do you know Nia personally?. Have she told you all of her wrongs and rights?....Maybe it's her karma..who knows and I don't care. Let them 2 grown people figure their own lives out, and you do you...and I'll do me. ✌️
I am very sorry this happened to Nia but I my self would go the legal route of marriage so when something like this happen (ultimate betrayal) I have the option to get satisfaction through the courts. Nia seem to be a strong woman she will get through this with much prayer 🙏 his actions have destroyed the trust in their relationship and she also have to get over the hurt 😔 destroying your family is not worth it.. no affair is worth it!!
@@patriciajones4918 Amen. I'm married so I get it. Courts will make you somewhat whole. Can't say the hurt goes away. Continued prayers for their family.🙏🏽👍🏽
It's so many layers to this story, no need to point the finger he did wrong and his punishment is a result of his actions, regardless of his age the real one he cheated on was his self respect
Damn,I am so sorry this happened to Nia Long or ANY man or woman,being cheated on is TERRIBLE and embarrassing, hopefully she'll move on,take her time to heal and find the RIGHT man for her, that's my wish,plea and hope to all the honest & GOOD men & women looking for love,may the Lord send you your king/queen,be safe and blessed my sisters and TRUE brothers🙏
Ooooo that's right, Karma is gonna get you! It's so true. Any man who puts his family and career /job under threat because he doesn't have self control is not worth it. What example is he setting for his children as well? 😲 Wow
Why are we shocked? This happens to women everywhere regardless of what you look like or your status. However, Nia has to process this disrespect in the public eye. The emotional and mental trauma is difficult to get offer. Like Vivica said, his Karma and being exposed is a gift🎁.
What he did was despicable! This was his first season on the team and he went right into it breaking their rules!!! He deserves all the bad karma. Kept Nia in the dark, had her uproot her young child to move from sunny LA to cold ass Boston. Nia's name is on EVERY SINGLE headline and they're keeping the adulterous woman's identity hidden. This is a whole mess!!! I truly hate this for Nia. Ime should have been fired. I hope the Celtics win it all this year without him.
SYLEENA YOU HAVE NEVER LOOKED MORE BEAUTIFUL…YOUR HAIR IS FIRE…YOUR FACIAL PRESENTATION SPEAKS VOLUMES AS A BLACK WOMAN TRYING THEIR DAMNESS TO LOOK LIKE REPUNZEL, SNOW WHITE, A WOMAN OF INDIAN HERITAGE OR ANYTHING OTHER THAN LOOKING AUTHENTIC
Selena normally be on point but no excuses. Just because he in the NBA doesn't make it acceptable. If they want to sleep around don't get married or be in a committed relationship.
I believe there was sexual harassment, which led to the investigation. And that’s fair. There’s a reason why companies have policies against bosses dating employees. And of course, you can’t go around soliciting people and expect not to lose your job.
No disrespect but like what Kobe did. He didn’t get fired or suspended. He was married too. Tiger Wood was married too but those two would never have been fired or suspended. Not the sport’s Cash Cows!!!
@@applepie1923 yeah they the players not the manager Hun manager, coaches are held to a way different standards because all of what he did can post lead to a lawsuit. He knew what he signed. Shit even Applebee's and waffle house have those policy's upper management doesn't fraternize with lower level employees 🤷🏽♀️
@@applepie1923 Kobe, nor Tiger Woods had an affair on their jobs, with a staffer, for the company they work, for. Wellll, Tiger's was with their Nanny at his home! Lol! But not on the company which goes against the company policy on many jobs, most within the same department. Yet, two can have relationships in other departments on many jobs, but not within the Department.
You ladies made some vital points. Marriage should be sacred and not so dismissive because of our choices. 🙏🏾 When it’s over please decide to walk way before things get difficult. Quote “ A woman can do good or bad all by herself, no need for the extra drama & cheating”. “I been betrayed by a black man before too and I wish this on no one.”
I always love these ladies’ take but Syleena is a very perceptive woman. A spiritual reckoning is no joke, karma does not play. Self sabotage IS a thing. I also hope the woman gets exposed.
This is not our business, people get cheated on all the time. We are not shocked. Nia is strong woman just take care of you and and your children.God Bless you and your children. We love u Nia you are an Amazing person.
I tell all my friends when your 5,000 miles apart from your significant other it never works because your not seeing each other. FaceTime only goes so far.....this isn't a surprise!!!!!!!
I don't believe in long distance relationships..You barely know, what they're doing when you're in the same city and state..What the heck you think they're going to do when you're not..WTF! 🤔
This is not the first time Nia has been in this situation with her Fiance'. Theory people who are shocked is us ad it really isn't our business to comment. Prayers 🙏 for all involved. Nia is the one who has to say, "enough is enough" and focus on moving forward with her children. (or not)
Men very rarely stop cheating, age is not a factor. If it works, it will be used. The biggest question for me is, why didn't he think about the consequences of getting caught? Nothing is that good that you would want to take the chance of losing all you've worked for. Or was it?
@@vernellguillory2959 why are there rumors that they have had an open relationship for years? We don't know the TRUE nature of their relationship. You can't judge other people's relationships based on yours and vice-versa. Let's think like a adults.
Ladies I love your conversations. The Nia Long, situation is not new most of us women have had a cheater and a liar at one time or another. When our Black men get high positions they have to realize they are not exempt to the judgement of the other race no matter what your status is or how much money you have made for the outsiders of the team. One day our men in general will get this. The choices will be personal however life along with experiences teach women to love themselves more than anyone else. Therefore, no matter what comes or goes you will be okay because all of the expectations for your life is not in the hands of another person.
Syleena you broke it down…..it’s straight Karma…he got the job and got the big heads …when Will our leaders realize that we can’t play their game cause the odds tipped i their favor…be strong Miss Nia yo man messed up his bank…who gives a damn if he screwing someone …his money got messed up
I think, Nia was aware of his cheating. Perhaps, not this latest mess..but I'm sure this is not the 1st time he cheated. I think, they will be fine. Nia, not leaving. I will be surprised if she does..
Nia did break up with him in the early 2000s.... She never publicly went on a smear campaign once the break up happened.... They got back together and was in a good place..... I really hope Arnelle Simpson reach out to Nia.... That was her best friend for years.... She has a lot of homegirls that keep a very low profile........ She use to have a whole crew with her back in the day, when stuffed popped off in the 90s...... I agree with Lisa Raye completely.... I believe he didn't care about getting caught with another woman...... I think he was being extremely carefree once everything started getting out of control...... Nia is just really focused on protecting her youngest son from any pain...... Her oldest son is staying out the way but supporting his mother.....
My heart goes out to Nia and her sons🌺 Praying for God’s blessings upon them at this difficult time ! I absootooly LOVE these ladies Ms. Jordan🌺, Ms. Fox🌺, Ms Raye-McCoy🌺 & Ms. Johnson🌺 you ladies are your SISTERS KEEPER 💕, much love to you all❤️
Ime is a gorgeous man. What does his hairline have to do with anything... Women who wear other women hair, cakedup makeup, fake body parts, plastic surgery, injections, and etc. SHOULD NEVER speak on anyone's physicality.
Ime didn't invent cheating. Shaq had a sidepiece in every city across the country in his heyday. Infidelity happens every hour of every day. We all love Nia but all this feigned outraged is overkill.
WOW! Really! Dude is Gone! One was the VP of operations wife!(white) Fat, balding but still thinking he the man! Career and Black representation for us Gone!
I wholeheartedly agree with Syleena about karma, & it's catching up to Ime Udoka! You betrayed Nia Long, your kids, & compromised your job FOR AN AFFAIR!! Bruh, that's IGNORANT AF, & you compromised something sacred for something temporary... Unbelievable!
Kudos to all of you QUEENS for being so supportive and honest about this situation. Y'all kept it classy and that's why I love this ensemble. Unfortunately, I am no longer surprised when an NBA person is caught cheating. Claudia did you have to mention his hairline or lack thereof! LOL!
I'm not shock. He got caught. She is not his first. For the organization suspended him for year, it's really ugly. Waiting for all the facts to come out.
He Is A Fool, He Thinking With His Little Head Done Cost Him 3 Million Dollar Salary. Ms Nia Hold Your Head Up, Stay Blessed My Beautiful Sister. 😘💪🏾✌🏾🙏🏾
What the hell is there to process? She's weak if she stays with this man. Everybody was saying she's a strong, beautiful black woman. Beautiful & stupid is nit a good combination. She needs to cut him loose and move on. Surround herself with loving, supportive family & friends. He didn't learn anything from the Cosby trial.😣😣
@@inezlewis8573 Absolutely. This happens to everyday people. I hate that it happened. It’s sad to hear for anyone, but I don’t feel bad for anyone, but the children. That’s all.
@@DreamingEdmond You know. The children probably already know. Children are smarter than we give them credit for. When my cousins husband left her. The children told her. Mama we're glad he's gone. They saw & heard about the things he was doing. But, they never said until he left.
@@inezlewis8573 Of course! Congrats to your cousin for walking away from that person! Nia’s kids are not babies. They have to know. I still feel bad for them. It’s sad that this is their family.
Nia Long is a beautiful wonderful actress she a star and I don't know her personally but she a black woman God got her and she going to be strong again God Bless You Nia my sister❤
Vanessa Williams was Miss Universe and got cheated on so no one is "safe". It always surprises me to see how the mistresses are never as good looking nor charismatic as the cheaters' wives. I guess that's neither here nor there, it's about other things.
Most times a man don’t cheat cause of looks or what the other woman may have going on. He does it cause he can and feel like he want something new. So for everyone talking about being surprised about Vanessa Williams or Halle Berry, not about the looks all the time
Men don't marry women, because they are pretty, beauty is not a formula for making any relationship to work or even getting a quality man. So why would you think everyone is not safe?
I love all of you ladies perspectives concerning this matter, I am team Nia, this will let her know if she will continue with this man and do some reflections , it's so much deception, rumors and secrets will be revealed, selah
Don't be quick to be team Nia. she probably had her own side piece. They oughta have had agreement but the side piece ( like nearly all of them do ) got in her feelings and tried to be first lady in the room. when you are a side piece know your place. I was a side piece for 7 years and i never tried to be main guy.
All of the women made great points but I wholeheartedly agree with what Selina said the most, I believe that Ime Udoke is experiencing reaping/karma. Perhaps this experience will bring humility his way.
Yep, one of the women who Ime allegedly cheated with was the team’s travel agent. So she booked him into hotels every away game and she had access to all Nia’s personal information as well, unless her accommodations were paid for by him. Either way I would feel like they were laughing behind my back and thinking they got away with something.
@The Queens, hold on to your stockings Ladies!😳 Im a Bostonian. There's a whole LOT more to this story that has yet to come out!🤯 I'll check in to see what your responses are next week. 🤦♀️ 👀
He had a great career, fire woman, a kid then lit 🔥 a match and blew it all up….why🤔 a therapist would say self sabotage coz he didn’t think he was worthy of it all OR narcissism 🤷♀️
From the sound of things as new info continues to emerge ain’t no working it out or fixing it. One women can be considered a lapse in judgment & possibly the moment. More than one & possible pregnancies requiring & necessitating a female check up is a wrap. Ain’t nothing to work on just something to work toward now. I love you Nia wishing you & your boys peace & blessings
It’s definitely a character flaw if he just cheated to cheat. I’d understand better, if he had the conversations with his spouse about what he needed to be fulfilled in his relationship and the spouse ignored the requests, but that’s not what it sounds like, especially when the spouse is moving towards you. Also, I have to agree with these ladies. If you are going to do your dirt, be smart about it. Don’t do it where you lay your head or where you make your money. That’s an immediate set up.
I just hate that the world feels entitled to folks personal business. It is so foul that he was put on blast and suspended, but Becky is being protected. I don’t buy he was stalking her, it maybe a tactic to save herself, marriage and reputation. Everyone is jumping on him but she is getting a pass, it takes 2 to tango and she is just as slimy as him because she was smiling in her face, making her travel plans, helping her house hunt and pretending to be her friend, knowing she screwing her man. I hate this happened to her, but I’m sure she knew her man had cheater tendencies, this is probably not the first offense, just the first public one. To be engaged that long is a red flag. My daddy said A man knows early if you are the one,it doesn’t take years and don’t let them string you along and pacify you with the promise of marriage. This isn’t a shock to her or anybody, just sorry she had to be humiliated for the world to see,will probably have a Lela Rochon ending.
If every women kick out when her man cheat no men will cheat at all. Women need to know they are worth. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏prayers to her .🙏🙏❤️cheater will be cheater period.
Cheating on someone is a character issue, not indicative of flaws within the person being cheated on. That's is all.
Facts! 💯
You talking like they didn't have an understanding. Nia is the one that didn't want to be married.
Even if she didn't want to be married, that doesn't give him the right to cheat because they're still in an exclusive relationship.
@@mantamocha5739 Exactly. 🤷
If he didn’t like the terms of the relationship (not getting married) then leave! Don’t cheat!
Been thru this with a husband of 20 yrs who was almost 60 years yrs old. He fell for a married woman who dumped him ultimately. I dumped him too. I’m a strong believer in move on…….they never respect you again when you forgive them. Nia, you are gorgeous, and have so much going for you, move on. You deserve way more than this.
Good for you.
It has nothing to do with being gorgeous, every person need to be respected and valued. I'm not the most attractive lady, but I couldn't leave with my ex with the fear of being cheated again...
“They never respect you when you forgive them.” I had to learn that the hard way. Blessings to you.
👏🏿👏🏿 sorry for you but kudos to you for having that strength..you’re right no matter the age they will cheat
You were smart to move on. For some reason I feel like Nia has been down this road before
I love the way the ladies are 10 toes down for Nia.
People who down play cheating do not understand the emotional trauma someone can suffer from being humiliated and disrespected. I can only imagine what it feels like to go through this publicly. How stupid of him to defecate where he eats.
They do they just don’t care. More cheaters are self absorbed narcissists.
Get rid of that pig 🐖
At this point, there should be legal consequences of cheating or people will never chill on it. People cheat because they know nothing will happen even if they are caught, then when the hurt person reacts it's a problem, but that pain and emotional trauma hits hard.
I think the embarrassment of everything being out in the public is worse part for Nia
@@LA-ux8iv what? That WAS a crime, back in the day.
“Dude, you do not even have the same hairline to cheat. The audacity!” Lol. Claudia is rough.
He deserves that comment
SAVAGE🤣
The audacity of any chick on this panel talking about someone’s hair.
You do not even have the same hairline to cheat? Lol
@@Kevindeal1987 Yeah! They should just focus on his complete and total failure and lack of self control and his self destruction.
Syleenas hair is EVERYTHING. Yyyeeesss, Girl. She looks AMAZING 🤗❤️❤️
Yes The...MOP!!! IS GONE!!!🤗🤗🤗🙏🏿🤗
🤗👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👍🏿👍🏿
She is one beautiful woman!!
The most hurtful part is how he had her to uproot their son and her life to move to Boston knowing a scandal was about to come out. That kind of betrayal is devastating. To have one of the persons he was messing with to make the travel plans and to have met her before is insulting.What a POS.
Totally, Agree with all of it. WTF dude!!
Exactly Ime knew tha💩was about 2 come and said Nothin to Nia hopefully she changed her mind in regards to moving completely to Boston. Ime doesn't Realize nor care about what Nia gave up to move to Boston!!!
@@jasminemonroe5784 cheaters do not care about the emotional trauma someone can suffer fron being disrespect and humiliated in such way, they are narcissists and care only about themselves.
Dirty AF.
Cheaters don’t care because all they are concerned about is themselves. They’ll bring ‘em to your house, screw them in the bed you both share, bring ‘em to your job, take ‘em to your favorite restaurant, your fav vacation spot. They are only thinking of their pleasure, what they want. They ain’t thinking about you or your feelings.
Nia is still scandal-free! Her partner on the other hand....after a certain age, it time to grow up!
Nia didn't want to get married!
FACTS
@@i.p.freely5974 I can see why.
@@priscillayoung2987 can you see him?
@@i.p.freely5974 Ummm…. When I say I can see why, it’s simply my stating that after this complete and total humiliation by his lack of trustworthiness and self control, I can understand why she would be hesitant to marry him.
Affairs never shock me! I agree with Sylenna. You're right, there's so many levels to this. Luv Sylenna's hair and makeup 💄😍
Absolutely gorgeous 😍 the total look is very grown and sensual
Sylenna can rock any style.
@@Jannbright24 Tea. I love her
I truly believe he been doing this for years.
He has
Claudia: You don’t even have the hairline to cheat!😂
You don't even have the same hairline to cheat? Lol
That made me chuckle 😂
Or the waist line either!
Dat Prt 💯 l lmaoooo
Our black men ain't gon learn. That's the disappointing part of all this. Until a real man learn to RESPECT HIMSELF it will continue
How does he represent all black men? There's plenty of BM who are completely loyal to their spouse.
Listen he validate the one code took a bite from the forbidden fruit bad mistake.
I agree. Whether it's to be expected because he's a black ball player, coach, blah, blah, or not, it's still painful because whether we know Nia in real life or have followed her career since the 90s and feel as if we do know her and/or have love for our fellow sistuh, it's hard to hear about this happening to her. Think if it was our sister, mother, aunt, best friend, and imagine the pain it would cause us? I feel sorry for her. I pray she gets through this and I pray she handles this on HER terms and not worry about what the peanut gallery in the world of social media says she SHOULD do. Only she knows what's best for her and her family. Be blessed, Nia.
I agree 💯 % with LisaRaye. It's so disappointing and REDICULOUS that men in there 40's, 50's and 60's are STILL cheating thinking they wont get caught. It ALWAYS comes out eventually, especially if you're in the public eye. And for her to be blindsided by this, was disrespectful. II'm sure she's strong and God will get her through this difficult season. 🙏🏽
Mrs Johnson is looking amazing
The sad part is regardless if a man is 20 or 90, they will forever let that third leg mess them up EVERY TIME!!! Big dummies!!!!
Fact!
Syleena’s hair & makeup is everything 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
You like it because it looks just like yours. Like attracts like.
Claudia!! "You don't even have the same hair line TO cheat on me with!!"😬🤭😫🤣 classic
Nia is going to handle this graciously in public BUT trust me he is getting the business at home.
No cheating is a surprise anymore.
Which is sad, cheating has become the norm
@@cat56789 the worse part about it is all the feelings that carry afterward but not by the cheater
The Engagement…for that long, means he doesn’t want to be legally married because he’s having relationships under the auspices of “I’m not married”. Therefore, this should not be a surprise to anyone. The problem is that it involves a married staffer.
Great point Syleena! Makes a lot of sense.
Definitely feel bad for her I hope she’s doing alright
I do not know specifics of her circumstance but as a female/human being I can sympathize and by no means wish her nor anyone else to have to go through what's suppose to be a private matter between her and husband. The fact the she is in the public eye and have stories everyday told about her does not mean her life should be open for discussion. What price does a person have to pay for their dignity and privacy!?
What I noticed is Nia name and photo being all in the media but the other woman is absent.
Because Nia is the most well-known person
Because Nia is famous. Duh
Love Syleena hair and makeup 💄 ❤️👑
Tasha, i'll get you dame do , don't u worry mama. You finna look boooooomb !
Syleena was on point, that was karma at it's finest!
Hers or His karma?
@@wally6914 Nia didn’t loose a job or money, so who’s “she”?
@@brownsugako7772 Do you know Nia personally?. Have she told you all of her wrongs and rights?....Maybe it's her karma..who knows and I don't care. Let them 2 grown people figure their own lives out, and you do you...and I'll do me. ✌️
Big karma. If the team loses he's going to feel like sh!t. If they win he's going to feel like sh!t. I love it😁
👏🏾👍🏾 Some men cheat, some get caught & others don't. Sisterhood activate in whatever Nia chooses to do. Great commentary ladies👍🏾
I am very sorry this happened to Nia but I my self would go the legal route of marriage so when something like this happen (ultimate betrayal) I have the option to get satisfaction through the courts. Nia seem to be a strong woman she will get through this with much prayer 🙏 his actions have destroyed the trust in their relationship and she also have to get over the hurt 😔 destroying your family is not worth it.. no affair is worth it!!
@@patriciajones4918 Amen. I'm married so I get it. Courts will make you somewhat whole. Can't say the hurt goes away. Continued prayers for their family.🙏🏽👍🏽
It's so many layers to this story, no need to point the finger he did wrong and his punishment is a result of his actions, regardless of his age the real one he cheated on was his self respect
That "self respect" comment was spot on.
Hello thank you ladies for keeping it 💯💯💯💯💯💯
Damn,I am so sorry this happened to Nia Long or ANY man or woman,being cheated on is TERRIBLE and embarrassing, hopefully she'll move on,take her time to heal and find the RIGHT man for her, that's my wish,plea and hope to all the honest & GOOD men & women looking for love,may the Lord send you your king/queen,be safe and blessed my sisters and TRUE brothers🙏
Syleena, pure beauty
Ooooo that's right, Karma is gonna get you! It's so true. Any man who puts his family and career /job under threat because he doesn't have self control is not worth it. What example is he setting for his children as well? 😲 Wow
Why are we shocked? This happens to women everywhere regardless of what you look like or your status. However, Nia has to process this disrespect in the public eye. The emotional and mental trauma is difficult to get offer. Like Vivica said, his Karma and being exposed is a gift🎁.
Nia is STILL scandal free; this is his scandal-not hers🙄
What he did was despicable! This was his first season on the team and he went right into it breaking their rules!!! He deserves all the bad karma. Kept Nia in the dark, had her uproot her young child to move from sunny LA to cold ass Boston. Nia's name is on EVERY SINGLE headline and they're keeping the adulterous woman's identity hidden. This is a whole mess!!! I truly hate this for Nia. Ime should have been fired. I hope the Celtics win it all this year without him.
@LW, The woman he cheated with name is Kathleen Nimmo Lynch!
I love your hair cut @ Syleena 😍
SYLEENA YOU HAVE NEVER LOOKED MORE BEAUTIFUL…YOUR HAIR IS FIRE…YOUR FACIAL PRESENTATION SPEAKS VOLUMES AS A BLACK WOMAN TRYING THEIR DAMNESS TO LOOK LIKE REPUNZEL, SNOW WHITE, A WOMAN OF INDIAN HERITAGE OR ANYTHING OTHER THAN LOOKING AUTHENTIC
Selena normally be on point but no excuses. Just because he in the NBA doesn't make it acceptable. If they want to sleep around don't get married or be in a committed relationship.
Exactly all the other rhetoric is not needed cheating is wrong point blank period!!!
She wasn't making excuses..Syleena was just saying it's not shocking or surprising that he cheated.
I don’t think she was trying to say it was ok. I think she was saying that it wasn’t surprising.
The full story has not been released. The suspension and possible loss of job..
Possible? He will be fired the day after the year is up. TRUST
I believe there was sexual harassment, which led to the investigation. And that’s fair. There’s a reason why companies have policies against bosses dating employees. And of course, you can’t go around soliciting people and expect not to lose your job.
No disrespect but like what Kobe did. He didn’t get fired or suspended. He was married too. Tiger Wood was married too but those two would never have been fired or suspended. Not the sport’s Cash Cows!!!
@@applepie1923 yeah they the players not the manager Hun manager, coaches are held to a way different standards because all of what he did can post lead to a lawsuit. He knew what he signed. Shit even Applebee's and waffle house have those policy's upper management doesn't fraternize with lower level employees 🤷🏽♀️
@@applepie1923 Kobe, nor Tiger Woods had an affair on their jobs, with a staffer, for the company they work, for. Wellll, Tiger's was with their Nanny at his home! Lol! But not on the company which goes against the company policy on many jobs, most within the same department. Yet, two can have relationships in other departments on many jobs, but not within the Department.
You ladies made some vital points. Marriage should be sacred and not so dismissive because of our choices. 🙏🏾 When it’s over please decide to walk way before things get difficult. Quote “ A woman can do good or bad all by herself, no need for the extra drama & cheating”.
“I been betrayed by a black man before too and I wish this on no one.”
I always love these ladies’ take but Syleena is a very perceptive woman. A spiritual reckoning is no joke, karma does not play. Self sabotage IS a thing. I also hope the woman gets exposed.
I agree. She does not deserve to be protected. Her reputation needs to be destroyed too. Period.
@Online Shopper, the woman's name is Kathleen Nimmo-Lynch!
Not that he doesn't even have the same hairline 🤣🤣 C-Mudaaaa
LOL I AM DONE WITH YOU AFTER THIS MESSAGE!!☝🏽😂
@@VocallyYours3 lmoo
This is not our business, people get cheated on all the time. We are not shocked. Nia is strong woman just take care of you and and your children.God Bless you and your children. We love u Nia you are an Amazing person.
I tell all my friends when your 5,000 miles apart from your significant other it never works because your not seeing each other. FaceTime only goes so far.....this isn't a surprise!!!!!!!
I don't believe in long distance relationships..You barely know, what they're doing when you're in the same city and state..What the heck you think they're going to do when you're not..WTF! 🤔
So, true. Know that from personal experience. The distance equates to " Out of sight, out of mind."
They struggle to be faithful when you’re in the same house so you know damn well they’re fkin up when you’re on the other side of the country.
This is not the first time Nia has been in this situation with her Fiance'. Theory people who are shocked is us ad it really isn't our business to comment. Prayers 🙏 for all involved. Nia is the one who has to say, "enough is enough" and focus on moving forward with her children. (or not)
I love this show!!!!!
Men very rarely stop cheating, age is not a factor. If it works, it will be used. The biggest question for me is, why didn't he think about the consequences of getting caught? Nothing is that good that you would want to take the chance of losing all you've worked for. Or was it?
Obviously it was worth it to him. 🤷
@@marciawade9101 You think!
@@rosemarywatson1231 Typical shit, just a new face. 🤷
@Balie Yads thank you for the prayer, although I don’t understand why you sent it.
I love Selena's hair! She looks beautiful with her natural hair.
Let them people resolve their issues in private 🤷🏾♀️
He's not a private figure, by choice. This isn't Mr. & Mrs. John Doe from Anytown, USA.
@@TomikaKelly imo it doesn't matter..between man, woman and GOD
@@rgreallife but u here... In their business 🤦 and what does God have to do with 2 unmarried ppl shacking up?🤦
They are two public figures and unfortunately this is what goes with fame.... "No privacy included"
@@Multifacted_Brotha Ok..EVERYONE I said IN MY OPINION
Come through Sylenna with the hair🔥🔥🔥 this is theeee look for you 🙌🏾
Men cheating never shocks me. A faithful NBA player would shock me. Ime just f’ed up his relationship up with Nia though.
Well said Syleena! Prayers for Nia Long and her sons! Ime Udoka shameless!!! There is more to this terrible story!!!
What kind of understanding did they have in the relationship. Nia is the one that didn't want to get married.
@@i.p.freely5974 don't mean he can string her along bozo
@@weaveandwelfaretookblackme string who along bozo
@@i.p.freely5974 wow He could have been man enough to just walk away and I use the term (man) loosely
@@vernellguillory2959 why are there rumors that they have had an open relationship for years? We don't know the TRUE nature of their relationship. You can't judge other people's relationships based on yours and vice-versa. Let's think like a adults.
Vivica is a class act!
Definitely
Why did ViacomCBS block yall premiere video😒 ? What did yall say or show?
From what I hear her husband is either VP basketball operations but he’s also the one that blew them out of the water and exposed the affair
He’s done in Boston, mark my words.
Ladies I love your conversations. The Nia Long, situation is not new most of us women have had a cheater and a liar at one time or another. When our Black men get high positions they have to realize they are not exempt to the judgement of the other race no matter what your status is or how much money you have made for the outsiders of the team. One day our men in general will get this. The choices will be personal however life along with experiences teach women to love themselves more than anyone else. Therefore, no matter what comes or goes you will be okay because all of the expectations for your life is not in the hands of another person.
Syleena you broke it down…..it’s straight Karma…he got the job and got the big heads …when Will our leaders realize that we can’t play their game cause the odds tipped i their favor…be strong Miss Nia yo man messed up his bank…who gives a damn if he screwing someone …his money got messed up
Leader?
Yasss yes ma'am the leaders of great dust
I love Nia. She's beautiful. His cheating have nothing to do with her. He made a bad choice. Hopefully they can get through this
I think, Nia was aware of his cheating. Perhaps, not this latest mess..but I'm sure this is not the 1st time he cheated. I think, they will be fine. Nia, not leaving. I will be surprised if she does..
Sadly, it won't be the last we hear of situations like this.
Sylenna hair looks great!
No one is exempt from being cheated on! It doesn’t make it right!! But a sad situation ! I don’t wish infidelity on anyone..God bless Nia ❤
Nia did break up with him in the early 2000s.... She never publicly went on a smear campaign once the break up happened.... They got back together and was in a good place..... I really hope Arnelle Simpson reach out to Nia.... That was her best friend for years.... She has a lot of homegirls that keep a very low profile........ She use to have a whole crew with her back in the day, when stuffed popped off in the 90s...... I agree with Lisa Raye completely.... I believe he didn't care about getting caught with another woman...... I think he was being extremely carefree once everything started getting out of control...... Nia is just really focused on protecting her youngest son from any pain...... Her oldest son is staying out the way but supporting his mother.....
My heart goes out to Nia and her sons🌺 Praying for God’s blessings upon them at this difficult time !
I absootooly LOVE these ladies
Ms. Jordan🌺, Ms. Fox🌺, Ms Raye-McCoy🌺 & Ms. Johnson🌺 you ladies are your SISTERS KEEPER 💕, much love to you all❤️
Claudia, the hairline comment was on point!
😂yes!
Ime is a gorgeous man. What does his hairline have to do with anything... Women who wear other women hair, cakedup makeup, fake body parts, plastic surgery, injections, and etc. SHOULD NEVER speak on anyone's physicality.
Ime didn't invent cheating. Shaq had a sidepiece in every city across the country in his heyday. Infidelity happens every hour of every day. We all love Nia but all this feigned outraged is overkill.
Yeah hopefully you love getting cheated on
I concur.
True
In my opinion, unfortunately one's has nothing to do with the person who is the cheater... it's about their character, etc.! 🙄🤨🧐🤔
Does anyone know why the re-run hasn't aired yet? I missed last night😔
I am sorry this happened to beautiful Nia. I pray she will heal from the betrayal and remain strong as she heals.
Amen
He cheated with multiple women. The team found out, told him to stop, and HE DIDN'T!!!
Yessssss and someone got one the ladies on video. Question why the women are NOT being outed?
Sounds like this dude has an addiction that requires pro help.
Exactly! He kept pursing her. At a certain point, this wasn't a mistake it was a choice.
WOW! Really! Dude is Gone! One was the VP of operations wife!(white) Fat, balding but still thinking he the man! Career and Black representation for us Gone!
I wholeheartedly agree with Syleena about karma, & it's catching up to Ime Udoka! You betrayed Nia Long, your kids, & compromised your job FOR AN AFFAIR!! Bruh, that's IGNORANT AF, & you compromised something sacred for something temporary... Unbelievable!
Shocked???? Who? Trust and believe NOBODY was shocked🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Has anybody thought that Nia Long is in a open relationship. Who else you know has been engaged for 10 years lol
Maybe someone who wants to protect her assets . Look at the countless women that had to take care of there broke men after leaving
Ok Ms. Syleena, you spoke. fresh word today on the coach situation!!!
@SYLEENA JOHNSON I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR HAIRSTYLES! PERIODT‼️
Where’s the full episode?
Kudos to all of you QUEENS for being so supportive and honest about this situation. Y'all kept it classy and that's why I love this ensemble. Unfortunately, I am no longer surprised when an NBA person is caught cheating. Claudia did you have to mention his hairline or lack thereof! LOL!
I'm not shock. He got caught. She is not his first. For the organization suspended him for year, it's really ugly. Waiting for all the facts to come out.
He Is A Fool, He Thinking With His Little Head Done Cost Him 3 Million Dollar Salary. Ms Nia Hold Your Head Up, Stay Blessed My Beautiful Sister. 😘💪🏾✌🏾🙏🏾
Well Said
Thanks so much
Claudia Jordan, dude you don't even have the same head-line to cheap! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Now that's funny!♥️✌🏿💪🏿🌹
What the hell is there to process? She's weak if she stays with this man. Everybody was saying she's a strong, beautiful black woman. Beautiful & stupid is nit a good combination. She needs to cut him loose and move on. Surround herself with loving, supportive family & friends. He didn't learn anything from the Cosby trial.😣😣
This can’t be the first time he has done this. It’s just the first time it has been publicized. Their relationship has always been rocky.
@@DreamingEdmond You're right. If they weren't in the industry. We'd have never heard of it. So who cares?????
@@inezlewis8573 Absolutely. This happens to everyday people. I hate that it happened. It’s sad to hear for anyone, but I don’t feel bad for anyone, but the children. That’s all.
@@DreamingEdmond You know. The children probably already know. Children are smarter than we give them credit for. When my cousins husband left her. The children told her. Mama we're glad he's gone. They saw & heard about the things he was doing. But, they never said until he left.
@@inezlewis8573 Of course! Congrats to your cousin for walking away from that person! Nia’s kids are not babies. They have to know. I still feel bad for them. It’s sad that this is their family.
I'm glad all the Ladies are showing love & support for Nia, she didn't deserve to be drug into this man's trifling transgressions!!!
Nia Long is a beautiful wonderful actress she a star and I don't know her personally but she a black woman God got her and she going to be strong again God Bless You Nia my sister❤
Vanessa Williams was Miss Universe and got cheated on so no one is "safe". It always surprises me to see how the mistresses are never as good looking nor charismatic as the cheaters' wives. I guess that's neither here nor there, it's about other things.
Most times a man don’t cheat cause of looks or what the other woman may have going on. He does it cause he can and feel like he want something new. So for everyone talking about being surprised about Vanessa Williams or Halle Berry, not about the looks all the time
@@pb9695 usually they just lack self esteem and need outside validation
Men don't marry women, because they are pretty, beauty is not a formula for making any relationship to work or even getting a quality man. So why would you think everyone is not safe?
I am not shocked, I agree with Selena.
I love all of you ladies perspectives concerning this matter, I am team Nia, this will let her know if she will continue with this man and do some reflections , it's so much deception, rumors and secrets will be revealed, selah
Don't be quick to be team Nia. she probably had her own side piece. They oughta have had agreement but the side piece ( like nearly all of them do ) got in her feelings and tried to be first lady in the room. when you are a side piece know your place. I was a side piece for 7 years and i never tried to be main guy.
All of the women made great points but I wholeheartedly agree with what Selina said the most, I believe that Ime Udoke is experiencing reaping/karma. Perhaps this experience will bring humility his way.
They saying he had the lady help.nia move😳😳😳
Yep, one of the women who Ime allegedly cheated with was the team’s travel agent. So she booked him into hotels every away game and she had access to all Nia’s personal information as well, unless her accommodations were paid for by him. Either way I would feel like they were laughing behind my back and thinking they got away with something.
@The Queens, hold on to your stockings Ladies!😳 Im a Bostonian. There's a whole LOT more to this story that has yet to come out!🤯 I'll check in to see what your responses are next week. 🤦♀️ 👀
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Long time fiancé was a huge red flag
Exactly! Been cheating for Years!!!
He had a great career, fire woman, a kid then lit 🔥 a match and blew it all up….why🤔 a therapist would say self sabotage coz he didn’t think he was worthy of it all OR narcissism 🤷♀️
From the sound of things as new info continues to emerge ain’t no working it out or fixing it. One women can be considered a lapse in judgment & possibly the moment. More than one & possible pregnancies requiring & necessitating a female check up is a wrap. Ain’t nothing to work on just something to work toward now. I love you Nia wishing you & your boys peace & blessings
Casey Jones - black NBA head coach of Boston during the Larry Bird (Celtics) vs. Magic Johnson (Lakers) era.
It’s definitely a character flaw if he just cheated to cheat. I’d understand better, if he had the conversations with his spouse about what he needed to be fulfilled in his relationship and the spouse ignored the requests, but that’s not what it sounds like, especially when the spouse is moving towards you.
Also, I have to agree with these ladies. If you are going to do your dirt, be smart about it. Don’t do it where you lay your head or where you make your money. That’s an immediate set up.
I just hate that the world feels entitled to folks personal business. It is so foul that he was put on blast and suspended, but Becky is being protected. I don’t buy he was stalking her, it maybe a tactic to save herself, marriage and reputation. Everyone is jumping on him but she is getting a pass, it takes 2 to tango and she is just as slimy as him because she was smiling in her face, making her travel plans, helping her house hunt and pretending to be her friend, knowing she screwing her man. I hate this happened to her, but I’m sure she knew her man had cheater tendencies, this is probably not the first offense, just the first public one. To be engaged that long is a red flag. My daddy said A man knows early if you are the one,it doesn’t take years and don’t let them string you along and pacify you with the promise of marriage. This isn’t a shock to her or anybody, just sorry she had to be humiliated for the world to see,will probably have a Lela Rochon ending.
If every women kick out when her man cheat no men will cheat at all. Women need to know they are worth. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏prayers to her .🙏🙏❤️cheater will be cheater period.
From what I understand they have been engaged for 10 years, this in itself is a problem to me.
Claudia is Hilarious!
Right! 😂
Well said LisaRaye!♥️✌🏿💪🏿🌹