End Your Fear of Flying FOREVER | Mel Robbins
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
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The holidays are upon us which means a lot of you will be traveling at 30,000 feet to get to your loved ones. The fear of flying is one of the most common fears in the world, but it doesn’t have to be. I am someone who suffered from acute panic whenever I was on a plane.
Everything from driving to the airport to getting on the plane, the sounds the engine makes and the little signs we look for was scarier than the next.
Now, I practically live on planes (over 250 flights a year), and in this video I show you how I cured my fear of flying forever. In this video, you will learn five steps that I use to this day to make something that used to absolutely terrify me something that I do all of the time.
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The way i calm down is by watching the flight attendants, if they are calm , then there is no reason to actually worry
Sasha Boldisa What if you look at them and they're worried, that would freak you out.
HyPred ikr
well then shit, you're fucked
I was on a plane where the turbulence tipped the plane sideways and the flight attendants looked really scared. They were trainees so it probably wasn’t anything
Sasha Boldisa that helps me as well
I'm still not totally comfortable with planes, but I'm luckily over my fear of turbulence. Some tips I use:
1. Remind myself that turbulence is NOT dangerous. I say the following as a mantra to myself: "Turbulence doesn't bring planes down." It just doesn't. Throughout the history of commercial air travel, the number of crashes caused by turbulence, even INDIRECTLY, can be counted on one hand. The only real danger associated with turbulence is if there's severe turbulence (extremely rare) and you bump your head or something, which can be avoided by just always having your seatbelt buckled. Planes are built to withstand more turbulence than the plane will ever actually experience--there's an exact number on this somewhere. It's not dangerous, just uncomfortable.
2. Think about what the pilots are doing during turbulence. I used to have this image in my head of the pilots being stressed and freaked out during turbulence, trying to man the controls and remember what they learned in school. Actually, during episodes of turbulence, pilots are just chatting and joking with each other as usual, maybe complaining about a spilled soda, or asking air control if they can change flight paths or altitude to make things more comfortable for the passengers--this is why you might hear some funny sounds from the engines. They pilots aren't worried at all, and you shouldn't be either.
3. During turbulence, the plane may FEEL like it's dropping hundreds of feet, but even in severe turbulence the actual vertical displacement of the plane is only about 10 feet. Seriously. Look it up!
4. Expect turbulence when flying over mountain ranges or anything.
5. During turbulence, the plane is simply following the air. The plane isn't dropping out of the sky or losing its foothold. The streamline the plane is flying along just happens to be a little crooked, and the plane is simply flying in it. This is akin to car traveling on a bumpy road.
Emily K. Egnor
I’m flying tomorrow and this helped me feel a little better about it so thank you so much.
I was never scared of flying in general but just terrified of turbulence. This really helped thank you
Wow,that is so helpful.Thanks!!! 😁
Wow! This really helps. I’m terrified of turbulence . My flights are usually 5 hours from Toronto to L.A and back . Hope my mind doesn’t blank out this coming Thursday .
Although I understand the logic in the points listed, point 5 still freaks me out. Yes, turbulence at 35,000ft is akin to a car on a bumpy road, but that car isn't 35,000ft in the air. Someone with a fear of heights doesn't think in that way. 35,000ft is still up in the air, not on terra firma.
Don’t let fear rob you of living- you are not going anywhere until it’s your time to go- and when it is- it’s going to happen if your on a plane, the couch , or asleep! To understand this , is so freeing, and you will then begin to live! Trust this. We are all in Gods hands anyway. ❤
Amen!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Yeah but it might be the pilots time to go.
@@jamesburnette4120😅😂😂
This has helped me thank u
If it's my time, I'll prefer it not to happen in planecrash.
Anchor thought: I wanna travel and enjoy my life!
Anxiety: This is your last day on earth. You're going down
I relate to this too much 🤣
Meee
So my thinking 😔☺ 🙏
Planning to move to America with a friend, and the ride is so far away, I`m so afraid- but i live on an island and need to be free. The chance to live in a whole new world with one of my best friend is my anchor thought. I`m ok with flying for short hrs, but the longer the hrs the more anxiety i have, because theres more chance of something going wrong dx
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**thinks of anchor thought**
**slight turbulence**
"WELP I'LL NEVER SEE MY DOG AGAIN."
Aw this made me sad :(
LOL
Lol
^^^^^
Raymond sameeee lol I’m going on one tomorrow I’m so scared😭😭😭
I started to feel sick with fear just watching Mel walking towards the plane.
Me too
Same like I don't know why I hate walking through the tunnel to get to the plane it always gives me major anxiety.
Me too
Mee too mate ... we need to get strong together
Omg sameeee
Pro-tip from an anxious flyer: During turbulence, sit up very straight in your chair, so that your back is not touching the seat. This creates your own stabilisation and gives you more of a feeling of the plane moving around “you”.
Yes! Also, I lift my feet up from the airplane’s floor and it makes me feel the drops and movements less
I will try both of your tips next time.
Great tip!
@@carlavst6999 It works! Thank you.
Oo, good tip - thank you!
My anchor thought is planting my feet on the f$%#@!! Ground.
Fucking same
That's actually funny. Lol. Same
Mine too
Omg soo mee !😬
Me too!!!
I overcame many years ago by simply telling myself I was on a bus. It worked. Recently I read a book on how to get over phobia of flying and it suggested one way was “ tell yourself you are on a bus”. I now love flying and even get window seat to watch.
Tech Agent 99 this is what helped me on my last flight. Well, I thought car because I’m never on a bus but basically, same thing. It helped a lot because I was terrified of flying.
This is actually more helpful than this whole fuckin vedio
I always told myself that I was on a rollercoaster
Then yours wasn't a true phobia. You can't tell yourself you're on a bus then look out the window and see you're thousands of feet in the air. Doesn't work. As someone who actually has the fear doesn't matter what I tell myself. Once the plane takes off its all out the window
Flavio Agushi I agree.
I have had an intense fear of flying for over 30 years. I would even get anxious just going to the airport to drop someone off or pick someone up. I had not flown since 1993. I planned a trip to Europe that has been on my bucket list for over 40 years. This video REALLY helped me get on the plane! I just got back from a two week trip to Europe! One thing I kept in my head was the fact that I would not be worried about this flight if I was home watching tv or doing something else. The only reason I was scared of this flight was because I was ON it. So I imagined myself being somewhere else and having no concern of the flight. For some reason that really helped me.
That is a great point. I feel the same way. I have to fly in 1 week to europe. I wish there was a way to not do it but i can't. I told my family to go without me bc I know THEY would be ok on the plane. Its just when im on it....which is complete insanity.
This is a great point! I never worry about the planes I see in the sky. Only when I’m on it.
Love this point!
Such a good thought thank u!!
I worry about planes I'm not on too. I have to deliver daily to an airport freight terminal and every plane that goes in or out fills me with absolute terror.
For the people that are afraid to fly... Book the ticket and get on the plane, I had plenty of panic attacks while flying and I’m still alive ! Once your off the plane you will realize it wasn’t that bad after all.
Can someone invent a 5-15 hour tranquilizer that knocks me out for the entire duration of the flight and not wake me up even if shit goes bad??
The best I know is melatonin
Xanax😂 no seriously lololol. I'm going on my first flight in August and thats what my doctor is giving me.
@@RoyalRoses yo are u flying tonight aswell?
😂
Miss Hefner did it work?
Step one........stop watching air crash investigation....🙄😂
That's the exact and the only one cause for my fear of flying.....
So now Even a holding pattern makes me think that maybe our controls have failed or maybe ILS has failed and now we're gonna run out of fuel and crash😂😂😂😂😂
I have a flight tonight and I’m watching the flight channel fk
Edit: I made it
Edit 2: I made it back as well with heavy turbulence as I was approaching Auckland
That’s exactly what I do - I can’t help it! Plus, the main reason why I’m scared is “Why are there so many episodes?? If plane crashes are rare, then how does it have so many episodes & seasons?!” But Yee lmao
Lucie Kingham a lot of them aren’t that recent PLUS there’s so many flights a day across the whole world so in comparison that’s a small amount. the crashes while sad help aviation become safer with better training, maintenance and better planes in general. if flying was as dangerous as you think, no one would fly or become a pilot.
So damn true!!
My biggest trigger is doors being closed and getting ready for a take off, cause I know I can no longer leave the plane. But the explanation about being one step closer to your destination and saying "it's a good sign and you should be happy about that" really makes sense...duh. we always look at the negatives instead of focusing on the positives!! Thank U for the video!!
On a flight right now. Was anxious especially walking onto the plane. But once seated and focused on these tips, it’s helping! Plane is pushing back now so wanted to share to everyone there is hope!
How was the flight?
I am so grateful to people who can understand and be empathetic of our fears. I even cried reading comments about this shared scary feeling. I feel now in company with all of you people around the world. I'll have my first plane travel in 2 weeks. I promise I'll be back and comment "I've returned". So you can feel more comfortable.
i was so scared you never commented you're back until i realized it's a new comment
Dear Wachititos it was good to read your comment. Your 2 weeks have arrived. Where to and how long was your flight? With huge claustrophobia and anxiety I do face I am very interested in hearing your comments.
I will be flying from South Africa to the UK in a few months time, with my 3 dogs, and it's going to be tough. Huge adjustments to make and the flight is the biggest for me to deal with.
I wish you all the very best.
Elaine 🐶🌹
Hi all! it all went great! i actually enjoyed a lot the travel back home!!!!!!
@@catherineelainebaxter4609 Hi Catherine! with tears in my eyes I'm happy to say I'm helping a lot of folks around the world. I never knew that the fear of flying was so common! I am here, back home! safe and sound! I wasn't scared about turbulence. I think I was more scared about having an anxiety/panic attack than the actual fear to fly. I brought good quality chocolates with me. I started with small bites 3h b4 the flight. Then, a huge one 30min before boarding. I think I did good. I was a bit nervous on the first flight and once I sat, I thought it was small (space). Then felt my heart and thought about the festival that was waiting for me once I arrived to my destiny. I also remembered a lot from this video and helped me realize I was always getting one step closer to my destiny! The way back home was even better. I observed differences from the first and second flight. I kinda studied both :D I'm so happy and even excited to board again to another destiny!! My flight was about 1h50min. I even felt it sooooo short :D let me know. I even bought a beer during my first flight to congratulate myself for overcoming my fear!!!!! I don't recommend drinking before. But during the flight, yes, my nerves went absolutely down!!!
@catherineelainebaxter4609 oh btw, I went from Costa Rica to Colombia. It was a short flight (almost 2h). Even felt it as a short trip!!! I'm ready to take another flight that lasts longer! wanna buy me some tickets so I could visit UK? XD just kidding (or maybe not).
Just looking at this video and hearing the sounds of the plane has made my heart pound..... I don't think this will help me. And I'm flying tomorrow!!!! 😰
TikTokToxic how was the flight
Unicorns Are real Can you believe it was the best part of my trip? I actually loved it! I was nervous at first, but then I kept looking out the window and saw how beautiful it was! 😆
TikTokToxic
I can relate
I know you wrote this six months ago, but I know exactly how you feel. I actually have a flight tomorrow at 10:00 in the morning, and ever since I heard about planes I had a fear of flying. Right now it feels as if nothing can help me calm my nerves down, but I know I will get through it and live. I am so so scared but I know I won’t even get a little scratch from the plane.
Keanna Banana Pretend you’re on a bus and try keeping yourself busy, or try taking a nap. I hope you have a great time wherever you’re going. :)
Is anyone just afraid of take off and nothing else? I'm absolutely fine once I'm up, but I'm literally pooing like 5 times before getting on plane, sweating, crying shaking. It's awful😭😭 flying tomorrow and I'm thinking I can't get on that plane😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I'm absolutely terrified of take-offs, especially this weird feeling in your stomach, like you're about to fall. Also, the fear of heights doesn't help..
Mrs ridiculous, absolutely the same feeling! I don't trust it until we are flying flat! Fells like its just gonna drop at any minute! And an update! I almost didn't get on the plane, but I did it and was absolutely fine! 2/3 minutes of terror is so worth travelling! :) xx
mrs ridiculous I used to be terribly afraid of that feeling as well, but what helped me in the end was knowing why exactly a plane does those things. For example, when the plane takes off, it takes off with a high power of the engines, because the power is needed to create the lift! But once you’re at a specific altitude, the pilot throttles back the engines, because now the wings are able to do their job, which creates that initial feeling of “suddenly dropping back to the ground”.
@@soniafeldmann8207 wow, thanks! I didn't know that!
Lovely Loni so glad you made it! You’re right, the 2-3 minutes is a good trade off and worth it.❤️
I watched this last night before a flight and since I have severe flight anxiety I thought it would never work … until it did! It worked on my flight today, thank you Mel!
Father of 3 girls here. I've flown numerous times as a child due to my father being in the military. However it seems once I got older and became a father the fear of flying became prevalent. Idk if its because the older you get the more you get into your own head.
Anyways, were heading to California tomorrow to take the kids to disneyland. Although this is our 4th trip as a family (first 3 were to Seattle) I'm still worried and nervous.
Thanks for the tips. I think the main focus is strengthening your mind like a muscle and tricking your brain back. My anchor thought is showing my children I can be the mental strength for the family so we can continue to travel.
My mom always tells me to look at the flight attendants, if they’re smiling and walking about and don’t look worried, there’s nothing to worry about, it always helps me (: take a sleep tablet like nytol or something as well it helps
They would never look worried. They would pretend everything is fine 😣
They’re the biggest B.S.ers in the world
Except when you are on a flight where they looked worried. I used to do this until I experienced a flight with moderate turbulence for 4 hours straight and the flight attendants were required to be seated half of that time.
True
@@samanthalawrence6993 No. they are just people, they are not Navy seals. They will shoe fear when scared
I have a severe fear of flying even watching this makes my chest tight. Thank you so much for showing us literally how you walk the walk as you yourself overcame this fear. I will try them all THANK YOU
You absolutely can overcome
Can i ask you some stuff?
I remember the first time I flew, it was from Zagreb to Madrid in 2011 and when the plane started gaining speed, I was so scared because I had no idea why it's going so damn fast 😂 now, 8 years later, I love everything about flying, last year I flew around 40 times and every flight was great. Turbulence didn't scare me one bit because I knew it was completely normal. Just look outside, put on some music you like and observe the beauty God has created :) how many times you get to see cotton candy clouds and beautiful sunsets even when it's bad weather on the ground? Don't let fear block your life in any way. Fear of the unknown is pointless. Read a book or watch a movie you downloaded before the flight. I also like to write in my travel journal, describing how beautiful the sky is, what my plans are when I arrive to my destination, what I did before the flight. It helps me to keep my mind occupied and time flies by so fast I often feel sad that we're about to land 🙂
Big birds are super safe, trust me ❤
step 1: dont say the word hijack 45 times on an airplane
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Totally agree
Vocabulary is so important!
I was thinking the same thing!!!! Poor choice of words!
Hahahaha!
I can't tell you how much this is helping me right now.
I’m not really scared of flying the thing that scares me the most is the takeoff that feeling in my stomach just feels horrible being in the sky and landing is fine .. I have no idea how to control that feeling
Cherissa Tesfaye Same here. Im calm as soon as the plane is horizontal for some reason...
Niall Schiefler too
Cherissa Tesfaye SAME!!!
Same..
I actually love the feeling of taking off. It feels like your going really fast on a car and got no where to crash! But im afraid of going into a panick attack when i realize how high i am ( although thats never happened when i flew 4 planes for the first time last year!)
The lady in the back at 5:12 got scared and looked over when you mentioned hijack lol
lmao
Lol!
She says it at 1:53 and 4:03 as well. Like, Jeez, maybe not the best expression to use, especially when you appear to be talking to yourself to people who don't know you're recording a vlog lol.
Brilliant
Bad word choice in an airport.
For anyone reading this comment, I used to have quite a significant fear of flying, to the point where I had to use Diazapam to sedate me on one flight. I decided I was going to work through my irrational fear ( which is what it is ) and found this video, and it completely cured my fear. All I would say is to make sure you practice the techniques before you fly, I started 6ish months before I flew, as you need to get disciplined in using them. I also listened to plane noises when driving to get my senses used to the enviroment of a plan. At first even that made me panic, but I used the techniques Mel speaks about and then used them on an actual flight, and it completely worked! As Mel says, be on the alert for your mind hi jacking you, and go straight to your anchor thought. After some practice you will start to notice you automatically associate your flight with positive emotion. Thank you Mel!
I was so calm until I scrolled through the comment section
Right.. comments shud be disabled
same lol
Dear Mel,
Before I watched your video, I was not certain I could ever feel comfortable on an airplane. I am 20 and I have been terribly afraid of flying for the past 8 years. I have to travel a lot to see my family, and this fear has stopped me from doing very important things, such as going to France to visit my Grandmother's grave for the first time... A usual flight for me included vomiting and panic attacks, and a lot of crying. Last week was March break and my family decided to go to Florida. I was excited but very anxious at the thought of taking a plane there. I had been able to remain on the ground for the past year and a half, and so this was especially stressful. I decided to go once again online to see if I could find helpful tips to help me with my fear. I had done this before, but even knowing all the facts about flying and about how safe it really did not help calm my anxiety. But then... I found your video. Your video has changed my life already. Not only did I not panic or vomit on the two flights I took to and back from Florida, I actually managed to enjoy myself at some points during the flights. I have not felt this comfortable on a plane since I was 8 or 9. I was actually relaxing and even singing a little! I did get anxious, I did get scared, but 5,4,3,2,1...Anchor thought, really helped me get through all these moments and to not panic. I am forever grateful to have found your video. I am looking forward to learning more about your work. I am not yet cured of my fear completely, but you have changed things for me. I am seriously thinking of taking the plane to Paris to be able to say goodbye to my grandmother. Thank you for helping people like me! This really works!!!
Thank you thank you thank you!!!!
With lots of love,
Liz
omg reading this gives me so much hope. I was just like you, a total mess on a plane, feeling completely trapped and panic stricken. I'm so glad I came across this video and I'm looking forward to trying this stuff when I fly to see family in a month.
Élisabeth Dromer Aww this is so cute, I hope you say goodbye to your grandmother with no worries or concerns blocking your hopefully peaceful and safe flight :)
Paula Zemeckis Hey Paula! Thank you for your reply but actually this is not panic disorder :) it's a specific phobia with panic. They are different! And I think that what is considered cute is the message, not the disorder itself
Have a good day and take care! :)
About to get on two new flights! Gonna use these tips again and have a good flight :)
Élisabeth Dromer Have a great trip Elizabeth.
I hope that you got to see your grandmother.
I start freaking out weeks before a flight. The fact that I'm only hours away and feeling calm already... thanks Mel. You're a good psych
The moment I booked my flight I get that “about to cry” feeling in my chest and it hasn’t left in weeks. My anxiety is killing me. And I really feel like no one around me who I tell understands at all. They just don’t. Everything points to death in my head. Everything. Imagine having these thoughts for weeks at a time. I feel good about watching this and reading comments. I don’t think I’m alone in this anymore. Im trying these steps Tuesday!
How did your flight go Tony ? Cuz I have one tomorrow after 2 years, and my hands are already sweating while typing this text haha.
@@ellmedinashaipi1816 it went just fine! Just keep your mind on your destination and how happy you’ll be when you get there! Her comment “always expect turbulence” also helped…we experienced very little and I just kept positive and it felt almost natural. I was like “huh…this is okay”. I flew from Richmond to Minneapolis with one stop in Charlotte so total air time was maybe three hours each way. Im happy to have done it and I know you will be too!
OH and if you have AirPods with noise cancelling they are a GODSEND!
@@tonymongeon1834 Thank youu, I only have 2h and 30 m flight, but up there its like 10h hahaha. Yes I plan on downloading any netflix movie or smth so maybe i'll be fine.
things that scare me...
1) the beeps and bloops and stuff
2) how take off takes so long. I'm sitting as we going down the runway like "yo shouldn't we be going up by now?"
3) I can't understand the pilots announcements (even tho its always an ad for onboard alcoholic beverages😂)
4) the engine noise is too loud for my liking
5) the turbulence that opens a massive pit in my stomach
I've got a 7 hour flight to NYC in 2 days omg help lmao
FrSr How did your flight go?
@@deadplanet2397 welp, looks like he didn't make it
FrSr hello? Did you die?
bruh are you okay seriously dhsbdfbb
Don’t worry I’m afraid of planes too but I took a 10 hour flight to Italy last summer and it was fun!
I got sweaty palms from watching this video! Definitely won't be getting on a plane any time soon..
Fruitvlieg Daphne flying is wonderful, no fears after flying my first time at 33 years old
Daphne Stephanie I have to get on here in 2 days 😀😣
@Christina Reynolds It's fun
Knees weak, arms are heavy. There's vomit on her sweater already - mom's spaghetti.
Georgi Mihaylov Y E S
I'm an engineer, so learning about how planes work really helped a lot. Also, watching air crash investigation actually helped my fear of flying because with every accident, flying gets safer. One other thought about turbulence. You're flying at 500mph give or take. It's actually amazing to me that there are even long moments of smooth flight. At that speed I'd expect it to be bumpy the whole way.
Learning how planes actually work helped me get over it you understand that the plane doesn’t just fly over pure luck
This has really helped me. I haven't flown for over 16 years because of my fear of flying. I booked a holiday for my husband and myself but in the week before felt my anxiety and fear getting worse and worse and actually wondered if I would make it onto the plane. I watched this twice the day before the 3 hour flight and I have to say it really helped, I still had a lot of anxiety at the airport but felt a lot calmer than expected when I was actually on the plane and the same on the flight home. I am now thinking about where our next holiday will be 😊.
I have more of a fear of not having any control of the plane. I literally can't do anything to control the situation. I have such a fear that I will literally catch a 17 hour bus ride instead of a 5 hour flight. I'm going to be going to South Korea next year with my sister and I've looked up boats and all kinds of things but flying seems to be the only way. Idk how I'm going to overcome this other than becoming a drugged zombie...
boats are probably more dangerous just because how long you are out in the middle of no where. plus they would take forever. both are hard to deal with if there actually is a situation because you can’t just swim to shore in ocean water. i have the same fear with control but, the crew are very experienced and are trained to do whatever they can to keep the plane flying until landed safely if something does happen. also there are computers to keep the plane at safe levels at all time.
Lmfao is SO strange that im feeling exactly the SAME WAY like u do + I AM GOING TO KOREA ALSO LIKE ????
and yes , the control thing is horrible. like when you are on the land it's easier to control a situation , but during a flight? welp-
But did you know your changes of dying in a car or bus, are higher than dying on a plane?
How was the flight??may i know??
That's a huge part of the reason why I hate flying, too! No control. I know we have a higher chance of getting in a car accident, etc but the difference is you have more control on the road & you won't be falling thousands of feet from the sky, regardless of what happens. I'm a defensive driver so I respond more to what people do on the road than the rules of the road. Again, control.
I just returned from first flight after managing to avoid it after 15 years. I have been terrified and passed up on numerous opportunities and fun because of it. I talked to a sweet young lady who advised to only think of positive things this time. I o my thought good thoughts. This time I flew and it was soooo much better than I thought. Please don’t wait another moment to fly, do it now
My anchor thought: GETTING OF THIS DAM PLANE
Meeeeeeeee tooooo 🤣
I’m afraid of that fact that I’m in the plane and i won’t be able to get out until the flight is over..
claustrofobia
Same. It's not really fear of crashing, it's claustrophobia.
Same yrr🥺🥺😭😭
I thought she was saying anger thought. I was like...THIS IS NOT HELPING!!! Then I realized that she said ANCHOR and I thought about meeting my best friend. I feel better now 😂
Hahaha same
Me too, I thought how I can concentrate on what I am angry if I am just afraid 😂😂😂.
Everybody is like your not gonna crash then I'm like WHAT IF I'M THAT PERSON WHO GETS INTO A CRASH?
BRO THATS WHAT IM SAYING
Mel, I cannot tell you how much this video has helped me. I haven't flown in over 40 years and I do have anxiety. Last month, I flew to LA to visit my son. It was a 3½ hour flight. My anchor thought was, seeing my son (I kept a pic of him with me too) and hugging him at LAX and later, walking along a sandy beach together! Another helpful tool was listening to Gordon Lightfoot to and from California. His music kept me calm. Thank you , Mel, so much!!! ♥
Was "The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald" on the playlist, lol? I was on a plane when I was 13 in the 90s and the guy in front of me was watching "Air Force One" on his portable DVD player. I thought it was funny and tasteless at the same time.
@@bffoxjr Oh no! Not a good movie to watch on a plane! And no, that Lightfoot song wasn't one. Ha!
I see it as an honor to be in one if these. Amazing technology, just being alive to do this, the $ to buy a ticket, and being alive for another day.
No matter what is said, I will still have a phobia of flying, especially when there is turbulence. Nothing can change my mind
You are not allowing yourself to change your mind
this is why the anchor thought works, because its forcing/tricking yourself to change your mind without even realizing it
The mind is powerful. It makes you think these irrational thoughts, then it can make rational ones to improve your life. Nothing is free, it takes some work
This gives me anxiety, started crying just seeing the plane. I hate flying, I panic. I've declined trips to my dream destination just because I'm too afraid. The second the flying tickets are booked I start having anxiety because i know im going to fly soon.
Feel the same too
Try To Meditate And Deep Breathe, It Helps...
Fuck same thing im just gonna pills
I’ve been so terrified of flying that I feel sick just thinking about it. I once had a panic attack in the air when my baby was with me, and it prevented me from flying for ten years after that. I’m still so scared. I will keep watching this to remind me. Thank you for making this video!
I watched this video twice before a transatlantic flight to Great Britain in 2023, which involved a total of four flights on different days. I used to take anti-anxiety medicine for flying, but wanted to find another way deal with the anxiety over turbulence (my primary trigger). These techniques actually worked for me. I did have to actively look for all the good signs, and use the count-down when my anxiety started. It helped to prevent the anxiety from becoming overwhelming. My husband even commented how unusually calm I was on the flights! Today I will fly from Kentucky to Seattle and I expect more turbulence than the transatlantic flight last year. I re-watched to review. Just watching the video made my palms sweat, but right away I’m using my anchor thought. I am not cured, but now have tools to manage the anxiety. Thank you, Mel!!
I hate taking off and landing but once we’re up there I have headphones on and I don’t want to be bothered. I love looking out the window and seeing places I haven’t been. I love imagining the people down there. They don’t even know we’re up there and looking at them. It just makes me so anxious lifting and landing.
Mel, I can’t thank you enough! I’m 32 and flew all the time as a child, but was terrified when I did. When I was real young, my family and I had a turbulent flight which traumatized me severely. I only flew once after that incident and that was in 2002. I watched this video a little less then a year ago and something about it comforted me and made me say I’m ready to face my fear head on. Needless to say, TOMORROW I am getting on a plane thanks to you! Thank you soooo much!!!!
Yesterday I flew on two flights from Houston to NYC and it was the first time I have EVER didn’t experience fear and I owe that to this video. I am SO grateful for you posting this. It worked for me and I am just so amazed. Nothing has worked for me but your tips were easy and simple and it worked for me. I want to yell this from the mountaintops and let everyone know there is hope. Thank you so very much for this. I cant thank you enough!!
I always had flight anxiety. A year since the pandemic, it got 100000000x worse. I have postponed my trip from NY to LA at least 6 times cause i am too scared to get on the plane! What’s making it worse is the fact that my wife is really scared as well, and she’s never scared of anything in life. I have guilt of letting her down, my extreme fear of flying, and my constant active anxiety. and Watching that door close just made my anxiety jump from 50-150. My main fear is being 34000 feet in the air and not being able to just walk out and get some fresh air. I am just in the worst place in my life right now. I just want to say sorry to my wife. Sorry for letting you down
Ask your doctor to prescribe you Xanax
These are great tips... I too had a fear of flying and had to learn the hard way to take back control of my mind and thoughts! Two things that also helped me, and may assist with one of you, is to EDUCATE yourself about how airplanes work and better understand what the sounds are that you hear while flying. The second thing, which was a secret of mine, was I started keeping a log book of my flights. I would record what sight, sound or sensation I didn't like and then I would conclude that it was obviously normal and my flight made it! When I fly I carry this book with me to remind myself that I have felt, seen and heard all these things before :) My log book has been a game changer for me! Happy Trails!!
thank you this was VERY helpful! i have never flown in a plane before and am VERY nervous and scared.
These are good mind strengthening steps , for any kind of travel phobia (Car/bus/flying etc) ...well done Mel. 💪 😍 👍
0:24 *Anchor thought*
Feel excited
Visualize
maintain anchor thought
3:57 *RECOGNIZE TRIGGERS*
5:55 *Everything is a Good SIGN*
7:03 *Step yourself up for success*
8:01 *Use the 5 SECOND RULE*
9:03 *Take off TIPS*
11:36 *Always Expect Turbulence*
Always Celebrate your Success on completing your micro journey.
Cheers ;-)
Kanzee car phobia wtf
You don’t know how many times I come to your video to help me get over my fear of flying before a flight. The comfort and encouraging voice and your tips help me tremendously. Thank you doing this video. EACH and every tip helps!!
God bless you.
I was super scared of flying and somehow landed a job where I was flying all around the world about every 6 weeks (this was about 20 years ago). One of the best tips that helped me was choosing a seat where I could see the flight attendants. If they were calm, so was I. Like Mel, take off was especially panic stricken, however, a tip I use is to see if I could select the exact time the pilot would lift off, kind of like making it a game. I do this with my kids now and they love it. Really takes your mind to a happy place.
Karen Carey The flight attendants know the passengers look to them for reassurance so they keep there fake “everything’s ok” smile. My mum was a flight attendant and if they knew something serious was wrong they would still smile and act calm. Also my father and hubby are aircraft engineers so unfortunately I know anything can happen so I’ll always be scared of flying😄
I hate window seats. I get really anxious not beinf able to freely move around and see whars happening. I like the aisle seat because seeing the calm floght attendants help me.
One our flight to france from toronto, i got really really bad anxiety during turbulence. I was generally okay until the turbulence. I was crying and gripping my seat. Being able to easily flag a flight attendant and ask her if everything was normal helped. This sweet lady kneeled in the aisle and held me hand and talked me through the turbulence. She asked me about my trip and what i plan to do once i got there, she got me water and explained to me why the plane felt the way it did. I will never forget that. That was the best feeling in the world. She really helped me calm down.
@@Lilith218 you dont have to beleive it.
I want to give you the BIGGEST thanks . You helped me end my fear of flight of 4 years in 12 min watching your video . You have no idea what a positive impact you have made on me thank you again I just took my first flight yesterday and I couldn’t have been happier thanks again
Mel I've been watching videos about this subject to calm myself down but honestly this one made me feel that I can fly whenever I want, you are the best!!!!
That dreaded "SOUND" - I am so happy I am not the only one who hears that! And that turn too, makes me have immediate panic attacks. Thank for your perspective - I will definitely keep this video in mind for my next flight
I'm going on a plane in 4 days, just watching this made me sweaty and my heart was beating. I go to Florida every year but the fear never goes away. But my tip is to make a playlist of all calming, your favorite, and songs to the place your going ! It actually worked!! Like if your going to Jamaica for instance, put all bob Marley music to get you really happy!!
This really helped me. I had to do three connecting flights. And by the return flights I as a pro and we had an entirely turbulent flight and my anchor thought (which was seeing my puppy back home as well) helped me doze off
So true, the trip back home is always easier than leaving for me, the idea of seeing my wife and kids always gets me super excited to get the flight going, especially when I'm bringing back gifts for them.
Thanks Mel! I have a fear of turbulence because of a scary flight experience many years ago. I like the anchor thought. I’m going to try it on my next flight.
Also, the “one step closer” mantra is genius. I’ll use it for anytime I’m waiting on something. Love this!
Thank you so much my dear!!! Hi Omego!!!! You are gorgeous!!! Be blessed for everything ypu are... Love from Romania!
Wow thanks flying tommorow.
Luz PAdilla she wasn’t talking to u
Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Two days ago I had best flight of my life thanks to this video! I can't say that I am not afraid of flying any more, but my fear is sooooo under control. Thank you Mel for sharing such a great advices with all of us!!
This video, honestly, was soooo helpful. I had a fear of taking off the most. I used my anchor thought constantly to remind myself that everything was going to be okay!
Thank you
Mel I hope you see this I havent been on a plane in years . I was terrified. I watched your video and found it before my flight a few days and it worked. I cant more appreciated for this video.you have no idea!
I cannot thank you enough for making and posting this video.
Funny, you said ANCHOR thought, I'm flying for the very first time , by myself, to see my son graduate from Navy boot camp 🤗 that is my ANCHOR thought!💙
How did your flight go?
Yes, how did it go?
this is the best fear of flying video ever - works so well. Thank you Mel.
I know I'm a little late getting to the party, but I absolutely love this video and will be watching it many times. Just turned 70 and starting to think about getting that passport and making those trips. Thank you!
Extremely helpful video. I am someone who has had severe panic attacks when about to fly. I have had to let friends fly home from abroad whilst I took buses and cross Chanel ferries. This video helped me fly without medication for the first time in over a decade. Thank you Mel!
Thank you so much. I downloaded this video and play it on repeat the whole flight over and over to help get me through. If I didn't have this video from you I don't know how I would make it to go back and forth to see my kids. Thank you so so much again. 💛
Thank you so so so much!🥰
I'm trying 9 years now to get over my fear of falling just because of my ONE bad experience. Fortunately we had great pilots and so we made it safe to the airport.
From this day on I'm still shacking and crying because of my fear when there are some turbulence, but I'm on my way to deal with it, because I still wanna see so many wonderful places and all those feelings they make me very sick every time. I'm so happy that I found your video. It made me realise that I don't need to be afraid I need to be excited for what is waiting for me.
Greetings and hugs from Germany!💌🤗
I watched this before i got on the plane just this morning, and it helped so much. I’m not in the car, almost home still thinking about my anchor “seeing my dogs” thanks so much!💓
Thanks Mel for your inspiration,I flew 30 plus years ago and had a panic attack and have never flown since, I live in the U K and hopefully with your guidance one day I can fly again,because if you cannot fly you miss out on so much,travel wise,and it is so limiting not flying,hate it hate it,one day i will fly.
Buy a ticket and go. Don’t live your life in fear and look back and realize you missed out on amazing experiences.
I hate flying. I have dreamt that I will die in a plane crash. I still fly.
You can do this!
*Who else is watching this before a long flight? It's my first time riding a plane alone, I'm going to see my mom's side of the family which I haven't seen in 11 years when she died when I was five. I'm so scared but hopefully I'll get over my fear if I'm going to be visiting a few times a year* 😁✨😭💜
I had a bad flying experience and now I'm so scared that I don't want to travel anymore but now that you point out all the things that makes me scared of flying I can work on it and heal my fear! thanks for all the tricks!! 🙏
I actually watched this video at least 20 times the week before my flight and I watched it during take off I have a massive fear of flying this video helped so much 😊😊
Great Mel.
I believe this technique could be used to overcome fear in other areas of your life. Thanks Mel!
Definitely!
In therapy for claustrophobia, so this really helped. It is the only advice on social media regarding step by step tips for overcoming fear of flying. Thanks!
Heyyy Mel. OMG you are a life saver! I was a first time flyer this past Saturday. Flew from Orange County too Texas. And I watched ur video a 100 times. And everything you did and said realllly helped me. The anchor thought kept me calm. I just wanted too say thank you for posting this for people like me. God bless you take care be safe 💜🙏
You made me feel more nervous after watching this video! The truth you didn't convince me.
Hi Mel, I’ll try to keep this short. Ive always had a fear of flying. In addition, I do struggle with anxiety and occasional panic attacks. Last year my GF surprised me with a trip to Oahu since our bdays are just days apart. I was scared, filled with anxiety but I made it just fine. Little to no fear, I was surprised. That was my first trip to Hawaii and I was HOOKED. That said, I decided to make Hawaii our birthday destination every year as a tradition. Well, this year, it was supposed to be 12days in west Maui. I got on the plane, sat down and buckled in. As the plane was filling up all I could think about was the door closing and me being trapped, I started to panic, bad! I looked over at my GF began to tear up, burrowed my head in her shoulder and said I gotta go. Her and I abandoned our flight and I ruined our vacation and our birthdays. I learned that my trigger is being trapped, claustrophobic, I guess. The noise of people bordering, all the senseless noise and chatter and the thought of the door closing set me into a downward spiral. I panicked. Fight or flight kicked in and I chose flight, and not the flight to Maui, lol😢. I kept thinking I’m gonna be trapped, what if I have a panic attack, I don’t know these people, what if they make fun of me, what if no one can help me, I’m stuck and I’m in a panic 35,000ft up… I have nowhere to run to recover from this panic. I’m filled with so much guilt Mel, I’m supposed to be in Maui right now, but instead I’m home sitting in my back yard dwelling on this.
What can I do? I watched your video but it all seems easier said than done. How can I practice these techniques to better ready my body and mind for the next attempt? Do I try some sort of prescription drug or something OTC like melatonin? I hear taking melatonin supplements can ease anxiety and fears of flying. Melatonin triggers the release of GABA, GABA then calms the nervous system and rids one of anxiety thus suppressing a potential panic attack. Have you heard this theory? My GF suggested we book some practice trips, short flights from the Bay Area to LA, quick 45min flights. That way if I have to walk off again I’m only out $75 bucks for a plane ticket. I need to overcome this… please help me.
I’m the same way! My doctor gave me 0.5mg of Adivan. I take one 25 mins before I get on the plane. You got this!!
@@tesiemarie8942 what does Adivan make you feel like. Ima sound crazy but I have a thing/fear of medications, especially ones that make you feel high and/or different. I don’t want to feel like I’m out of my own head or body.
Im also in the bay area and have the exact same issue. I'm supposed to fly to LA later today but I don't know if I will be able to.
I hate feeling the same way. I wish I could wake up loving to fly. 😢
@@tesiemarie8942I'm glad you found something that helps. Only .50mg is all you need to stay calm?
I was in airplane, and it was awesome! No issues anymore! Because of this video!!! Thank you very much for this! I have discovered that sound was my trigger... And I have placed earphones in my ears, set the music and that was it! VOILA! I can fly!!! Thank you soooo muchhh for this video!!!
This works!! Just got back from a trip to Hawaii with my kids, and it worked! Fear really can run your life if you allow it to. Thanks Mel for your inspiring and super useful tools! My kids thank you too. ☺️
I like all of the tips you said to before and during the flight.
I’m 53 and have never flown. I suffer with anxiety and panic disorders.
I do function and in fact, I drive for a living.
I honestly don’t know if I can actually fly.
I feel when I have a panic attack, I’m going crazy or going to die.
I also convinced myself that my panic attacks are worse than anyone.
Maybe someday I will be brave enough to try flying.
I’m just not ready now.
How are you doing now Bob?
A drinking straw works great ! Inhale through the straw and exhale out your nose. The method keeps you focused on the breathing techniques rather than fear of flying and it also prevents hyperventilating
Thanks so much Mel! These tips will certainly help me on my flight from Cleveland to Fort Myers next week! While my fear of flying is not debilitating like other peoples, it's still bothersome. I'm always ok once I make it on the plane and get in the air but sometimes bumps or noises will make me a bit nervous, I certainly will remember the anchor thought thing! Also turbulence, think of it as no different as driving your car down a bumpy road, both are uncomfortable but harmless
I just wanted to thank you. I have not flown in years and watching this video really helped me. I took notes and used them on the plane. Somehow I am cured and now I feel like I can fly anywhere!
You are so great for sharing your insights!
Hi Mel, I don't have any problems with flying but I realise that there are thousands of people who do and your video is so well done and reassuring that I had to thank you for making it. I enjoy all your other videos too. Thanks again. Kindest regards, Ron.
Thanks, Ron!
I have a serious problem with flying. I havent got on a plane in 8 years. Before i had no problem flying (i loved it), but because i haven'f flown in so long, i just have this pathological fear that something bad is going to happen. I have avoided boarding a plane for years now. Missed so many opportunities. Worst thing is i live on a ISLAND. Small. Any real opportunity is OUT THERE,
Now my twin brother has moved to the mainland (Portugal) to study and work, and is pushing me to visit him. But i am so scared. Weird thing is i LOVE airports but hate the idea of flying....
ANY HELP? or Advice?
(BTW just the "buying a ticket" thing freaks me out)
Sonia exactly the same. Hope we both overcome this!
Paula Zemeckis but most of the times, the fears overpowered xanax
Sonia if I was u think about what you love about flying
Ryan indeed... I took 6mg of xanax and had a full blown panic attack inside the plane where I had to leave the plane. It has been six years and I need to fly, I have no idea how I am going to make it thru the flight. I have one month to get it together.
Priscila Gauch i only took 1mg of xanax before i board the plane.. 30 minutes before boarding, i took 0.5mg, and then 0.25mg 10 minutes before boarding, and another 0.25 when i'm walking to the plane.. please be careful for the dose.. 6mg is a lot of xanax.. but yes, i can relate to you.. good luck and i hope all goes well! You can do it!
You are so right, being a new flyer, on my way to see my kiddos, suddenly the Captain says...” we’re going to hit more turbulence then expected, so we are going to have the truck come and give us more fuel, because we need to fly at a higher altitude. Immediately, my mind was thinking, ok, this is probably a sign for me to get off this plane. But I did what you said.... I was thinking of seeing my kids I hadn’t seen in 6 months. I started crying and praying and breathing slowly. Thank you!
Sitting at the airport, came across this, and the anchor thought is a new concept to me. First thought just now was “I’m going to crash because I’m posting this” and 5,4,3,2,1 anchor thought. Love the slowing down in the air comment too! Bothers me so much! You are the best!
Thank you so much, we're doing long haul from the UK to Jamaica next year for our honeymoon I'm so excited to go to Jamaica but the flight terrifies me, I've only flown twice before and had to have meds for them, I'm so pleased I've found you're video i really think it's going to help me xxx
Thank you so much. I am in tears watching this because for so many years I have been trapped by this fear. I can relate to everything you said so it brings me hope to see you on the other side of anxiety. I fly this week and will be using these tips. Thank you for making this video
did it work
Watching the door close in this video made my anxiety kick into overdrive. I fly in 10 days to California on a 4 1/2 hour flight... I have had these tickets for 2 months now and my anxiety just keeps getting worse. I haven't flown since I was 7 back in 2000 so the fear is real. I will remember your steps and hopefully everything will be okay.
Thank you very much. Am flying in a month, so nervous, yes my anchor thought to see my family. I pray all go well. Aameen