[Vegan Parenting] My boring birth story (medicated hospital birth)
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- My totally uneventful birth story that resulted in a totally healthy baby (Apgar score of 9).
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TL;DW Given how shitty pregnancy (and really the first couple months post-partum) was for me, giving birth was by far the easiest part. Finally seeing baby was pretty incredible, and seeing how big he/she was after THREE different doctors estimated 1-1.5 pounds lighter was hilarious. :)
UV prefers to keep her private life private :) Including the sex of her baby
Unnatural Vegan I'd be interested in hearing your post-partum issues. Did you experience any hair fall?
I just want to send some love to Unnatural Baby!
Hope everyone is healthy and happy!
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Unnatural Vegan so you're assuming that your child will be trans? You said he/she.
@zach smith, that is a pretty lame assumption lol. You couldn't fathom that she might want to heavily protect her child's identity online? People are fucked, they see someone's child online and go out of their way to take that child. It is fucked up, but it happens.
Pregnancy and birth terrifies the living hell out of me, but I'm glad you had such a positive experience! :)
Tofugoddess don't be terrified !! I was scared too but it's really not bad ! I was overdue by 9 days.. ended up in C section.. the second tha baby came out- all the pain went away. It's so worth it. I think the media make birth way scarier than it needs to be
Megan Houle why didn't they induce labor earlier?
bruinsfirst....my midwife always told me "the apple falls from the tree when it's ready". I was 2 weeks ovwedue, went into labor naturally and had a healthy 8 lb. bady. Doctors base your due date on an average 40 week pregnancy but any time 2 weeks before that at 38 weeks to two weeks after that at 42 weeks is considered within the "due time" and normal.
Don't let it. Honestly.. although labor sucks (majorly) especially a natural unmedicated birth lol! But once you get thru it.. it's easy sailing!!! I literally almost gave birth in our bathtub as amazing ER staff sent me home. I had an 8lb 1 oz baby at barely 38 weeks. If I can do it.. anyone can! 😬✌️️🌵but in positive light I was able to hold my baby and I was able to hold my one year old like nothing happened. It was a totally different labor experience than I had with my other baby. But it is what it is😂.
I really like this story, i know you don't like talking about personal stuff but a story like this kind of makes you more relatable. it's mostly just numbers and facts, so its fun seeing you tell a story so full of excitement.
Ryn sullivan I definitely agree
My Russian immigrant mother birthed 8 children with no medication and my oldest sister sat in on my youngest sister's birth and said she did not let out a peep. The nurses even told her you know you can make noise...still nothing lol I don't think I'll ever be that badass
Yes! Like a Russian!!
My mum didn't make any noise giving birth to me or my brother either. She, and I quote, "didn't see the point" xD
I remember those days when I would check my baby's breathing every 5 seconds and freak out about every little noise they made. It was a horrible, vulnerable feeling to be so worried about someone. My kids are teenagers now, and although I don't check their breathing every 5 seconds, the worrying has NEVER decreased -- not at ALL. In fact, the older they get, the more I worry.
Semi Veg -- That sounds unhealthy.
Antonio I think that's a natural thing that perhaps only a mother would understand.
Semi Veg
that doesn't sound comforting
Yes, it is unhealthy to worry so much, but it comes with the territory of being a mother. I can honestly say I didn't know what love was before I had kids. I wasn't prepared for feeling this way. It's quite overwhelming. And now that they are getting older and closer to leaving the nest...well, I don't know what I'm going to do.
Semi Veg? SEMI Veg!?
Are you fucking kidding me, do you think you can be a good mother while not being ENTIRELY VEGAN!?
Sorry...I don't know where that came from. Bad Joke.
You seem like an amazing mother although I think it might be very stressful to worry as much. I hope you take it well when they finally move out :/
Wish you all the best.
I just want to take a moment to thank you for this entire channel and every video you post. I am a female college student who has always had a passion for the environment and a concern for animal cruelty. I currently live at home with my family, who all follow an omnivorous diet, and I work in agricultural research part-time while finishing my undergraduate degree in microbiology.
I was completely vegetarian in my household for almost a year as a teen, but at that time, my mom was the one trying to figure out meals for me and worrying about picking up extra items to make sure I was always fed. It put a lot of unnecessary strain on her, but she was always very supportive. Ultimately, I made the decision to begin eating meat and other animal products for a variety of reasons, but always felt somewhat guilty about doing so. Fast forwarding to the present, I am a poor college girl who has suffered from eating disorders (I relate very much to your story of bulimia) and was previously attracted to the Freelee and raw foodist cult on RUclips for many of the reasons you previously described. "I love fruit; I love carbs. I want to look like that!" I have grown past this mentality and am now very grateful that there was a sensible youtuber to help guide me in the right direction. I have done additional research and made the plunge to follow a plant-based diet like you. I am poor, so any clothes or cosmetic products I already have; I will use until I can no longer use them. Some will demonize me for my decision to call myself vegan and wear leather boots I have had for five years. Others will criticize me for my lack of respect for intersectionality as a new vegan.
This is very long; I doubt you will read it, but if you do, I've showed my videos to my mom (omnivore for her entire life, but also has a great respect for empirical data and logic-based discussion of issues as a pharmacist). She has always had a very soft spot for animals, but dislikes most vegans/vegetarians she knows for their holier-than-thou attitude. She has also had concerns about this lifestyle being inadequate for human health and those who like to live a frugal lifestyle. She does not respect anti-vaxxers or people who are eager to shun any modern medicine/agriculture for no other reason than the fallacious idea that, "If it's not natural; it's not good for you." Your approach to educating everyone, whether they are vegan or not, is always respectful, fact-based, and never condescending. She will be looking into buying less animal products for the rest of my family and supports my decision to become vegan. I hope you see this. I hope you never let the people in this community who do not share your viewpoints to silence you; we need more people like you in the world.
Kylie Rutschke 👍👍👍
Happy International women's day. Thank you
there's nothing to celebrate lol, only Swayze is dumb enough to take that shit XD
My mother said that she felt like she'd turned into a lioness after I was born. Didn't like anybody picking me up but my dad, it felt wrong to have me out of her sight for one second and wouldn't sleep either. Didn't trust anybody getting close to me. I guess we're brought closer to our animal side and natural instincts in moments like those 😄
you are such an awesome person =D Thanks for sharing! "boring" birth stories are actually really nice to hear once in a while xD calms my nerves.
it's off topic but, would you consider doing a video debunking some of the most beloved pseudoscience-nutrition books?
Somalia Kanister Love the idea!
I love that idea!!
Somalia Kanister y'all really think she's smarter than doctors??? She's already arrogant as hell don't give her more ammo 🙄😩
it's not necessarily a question of 'who's smarter?' when looking at studies (though it helps) but more like 'who is more objective?'. And because the has a degree, I assume she knows how to work scientific
Not necessarily smarter, but more objective and very particular about her sources. And without an agenda.
Lovely story, glad you had such a positive experience. I'm a student midwife in the UK so it's very interesting to hear. Would you consider talking about your experience of the postnatal period as well? It might help some mums who've gone through a similarly tough time, as it's not something we hear about very often. I understand if you'd rather keep it private though, it's all very personal. Anyway, congrats and thank you for sharing! x
has no interest in kids but watches anyway bc loyallll
Thanks for sharing your birth story. even though you say its a boring one, its good to hear the uneventful ones :)
safetydanger I just needed to say that you look A LOT like me. And i'm not actually a cow lol
Thank you for sharing your birth story!! So many women love to share the horror stories of childbirth or, make you feel guilty because you didn't go the "natural birth" route. I have two children and have one of each story. I had a awful delivery with my first daughter when we were stationed in the UK. The prenatal and postnatal care was so so so wonderful, after I had her my midwife came to my house for 20 days (10 extra days because of the severity of my complications) making sure I was doing well and baby was thriving, making sure she was latching on well. I really wish they did this in the US. The delivery was absolutely in top 5 worse things in my life. I had 4 or 5 failed epidurals and ended up with a spinal...long story short ended up having suction and forceps used and awful tear, which I later had to have repaired after the birth of my second child. I wont continue with the rest of the story unless asked.....
My second child I had here in the US. My second daughters birth was such a amazing experience I am so glad I got to have. I got plenty of sleep before I had to deliver her. I wish I had had this my first birth. So when asked I never tell my horror story because as women we need to lift each other up and respect the decisions others make regarding their body and how they choose to bring life into this world. Often times when the "natural" childbirth people go on a kick of making themselves better because they did it naturally....well Im here to say I still pushed my baby out and it was sure as hell natural.
Another pet peeve of mine after you have a baby are the Nipple Nazis that say breast feeding doesn't hurt, if it does youre doing it wrong....thats total bullshit because there is some pain that goes away. They are the ones that make so many women feel like failures when they use formula instead of breastmilk....again we need to lift each other up
ok....getting off of my soap box now.
Again, thank you so much for the positive birth story. No it is not boring
I know she won't ever tell the gender of the child, but I can't stop being curious.
Queen Of Gluten does it matter if the kid has a penis or a vagina? kinda weird to wanna know that :')
Mahkaite
yeah because gender is only about genitals? it's not weird to be curious about a newborn's gender. the first question most people ask if it's a boy or a girl.
Mahkaite it's not weird
Mahkaite You're trying reallllly hard to make it weird by giving the question sexual under tones. That's pretty fucked.
Ben C totally agree with you, Ben.
what you are describing is a strong maternal drive (heightened awareness to keep your baby near you, safe, etc.)...nothing you could have done about that...it's actually great. The term 'momma grizzly' is real..loved the story, seeing i've worked in OB/Gyn for over 9 yrs.
Honestly pushing was the best part of my non-medicated labor. Pushing felt like a relief for me. I didn't feel like the ring of fire that people talk about and I had to push for a while my baby got stuck cuz he had a big head
Thank you for being so normal. The people in your comments = not at all normal. More importantly, I'm glad your baby is here and that you had a good birth experience. Your birth story and some of the other internet birth stories about epidurals make me all the more confident they are the way to go.
I had labor without any form of pain relief, and honestly pushing is the best part. It hurts, but you feel like you're actively doing something about the pain. It's a huge relief.
I had my third baby at home unassisted because I just couldn't deal with the doctors and nurses! I'm glad you had a healthy baby! Thanks for sharing your story!
I'm really enjoying your parenting videos. Im 23 and I'm in my 2nd trimester w/ my first baby. My mom passed away of cancer 2018 & I always expected I'd have my mom for advice in my first pregnancy.. Its really difficult because I dont have barely any family or friends & my current OB is complete shit. Watching your videos on parenting has been so helpful with making informed choices with the baby ! I haven't really been sure about a lot of things & these videos are very nice. It's really great to watch a video of yours on any topic because you put research and thought into everything before you say it & you're extremely good at researching. I'm not very educated. I dropped out of high school on my 16th birthday due to mental illness & I really havent gotten much education on things - especially growing up poor & with mental issues. I have learned so much just watching all your videos on so many topics. It's also nice watching another person who believes in animal rights that doesnt believe in pseudoscience. I've met a lot of vegans that believe in science in real life... but RUclips theres not a lot of that lol.
I'm a nurse who worked L & D for a while (I'm in ICU now) and it's so much fun to hear the other side of things 😊
I've had a baby with an epidural, and two without - and it was much easy pushing without the epidural because you do it almost automatically :)
What about the pain though?
SECOND! Love your videos and point of view. Been vegan for a year now. Also First like!
well I'm sure you find that painful penicillin was well worth it to keep your baby safe (: women are crazy insane strong warriors to be able to bear children. makes me proud of all my fellow women
I bet being pregnant is when people are the most in-your-face about being a vegan.
Thank you for sharing your experience :) I'm so glad that giving birth went well for you. It absolutely terrifies me though, I don't think it's for me. D:
By the way, I've been vegan for almost 10 years and the last few have been especially difficult (due to a variety of personal reasons) and I want to thank you for your videos. I may not always agree with everything you say but I appreciate you sharing your opinions and research. Your videos have challenged me in many ways and have played a huge role in helping me stay vegan/ sane in a majority non-vegan world. Thank you so much for what you do.
Committing to a drug free labor is made much easier when the thought of the epidural legitimately terrifies you so much more then the thought of pain (I have an intense needle-phobia-thing).
I like your honesty and how you do not feel ashamed about having an epidural. My two vaginal births were not medicated (one even was induced) but I am glad that there are options for those who want it. Birth is no walk in the park!
I find it really weird that there's no midwifes to deliver baby's in America (in the hospital). In the U.K. there is ALWAYS a midwife present during the baby's delivery, hospital or not.
Lorin there are many hospitals in the US that have certified nurse midwives who deliver babies especially if uncomplicated. I work with midwives and most are great!
Lorin, it really depends on the state and hospital. Some states here aren't very midwife friendly. My hospital has midwives and is very midwife friendly! I love it! I do really love how the U.K. supports midwifery and it's so common there.
Boring birth stories are the best. All 3 of my birth stories are pretty boring. The most interesting one was my 3rd my water broke and labour never started so 12 hours later I asked to be induced. 3 hours after induction started she was born. My other two were just born after 6 hours of labour. All un medicated. Boring is good!!
Thanks for not sharing a nightmare story. Everyone always wants to tell you their TERRIBLE birth stories when you're pregnant and I hate it. lol
tearing is not always related to baby size. it has to do with how elastic you are down there and how you work with the contractions. if you slow down the push a bit, it can help to not tear.
The Captain thanks you, woman. This video was extremely educational.
I was the same way after I had my son in the hospital, and then he got cold when I was asleep and they just took him to the NICU to put him under the lights without letting me know. So I woke up and he was not in the room anymore and I was livid, and basically vowed off sleeping the rest of the time I was there. Hahaha, being a new mom makes you a little insane.
Being also a mom I laughed so hard when you by accident said "the worst part of the horror" :D I think we can admit giving birth is horror at some point LOL
You're so lucky to have such an easy birth!
My first was in hospital, 26 hour labor, pain from the start, half way through got an epidural, failour to progress, fetal distress, emergency section.
Second was planned home birth, 8 hour labor, birthing pool & gas, pushing over 2 hours, excruciating pain, transferred to hospital for epidural, assisted birth, healthy baby 9lbs 10oz!!! But I hemorrhaged over a liter of blood, thought I was going to die, had retained placenta, got rushed to surgery to remove the placenta under anesthetic then had blood transfusions. I survived thanks to the fast action of the doctors, if I hadn't transferred to hospital I might not have made it! That turned me right off home birth! LOL!!
When the push comes, the pain goes away. I only pushed twice and it's just a HUGE impulse or feeling that overcomes you. My body pushed. I'm not at all athletic or anything. I had no muscular pain afterwards.
Yep. The pushing is from the uterus and the vagina. While pushing may feel like weight lifting, these muscles aren't lifting/tearing up as our muscles do when we weight lift at the gym.
how nice to hear that from you,thought you kept the story only for patreons! i had two natural childbirths without pain killers,it was tough but i could manage. Vegan pregnancies
all the best for lo
I really liked watching you tell the story with so much gusto! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much for sharing your boring story! I'm 2 months pregnant and I just can 't handle all the horror stories about ripped vaginas and babies that were saved from death anymore. Thank you so much for showing that labour can also be something pretty :-)
Is it normal to have so many things attached to you?
I had nothing... during my 3 births. just nothing. no iv, no monitor, no bloodpressure monitor, just nothing. (except two midwives and a doctor who stood ready to catch :p )
Is that all because of the induction of labour? or because of the epidural?
Blueberrymint Some of it sounds like it was because she had issues with her blood pressure during pregnancy and labor. So if you've had a pregnancy with no complications, I'm sure you wouldn't have quite as many attachments.
kateliness2 thanks. i didn't knew she had had complications during pregnancy. (mine was also not complication free, but of another category, indeed no need for attachments :) )
Blueberrymint :)
When I was giving birth both times, I initially said to the nurses that I did not want epidural, and as you can imagine both times when my labour progressed to the transitional stage, I started begging them to give it to me. Both time they refused. Bitches. OMG, the pain was horrendous, it was so bad that with my second son I actually suffered a big ass panic attack and legitimately thought I was dying. My husband had to slap me on the face to try to get me out of it. He said my eyes were bulging and kept shouting that I didn't want to die and that I want it my mum. LOL
My second baby, the epidural didn't work on my right side at all...it was crazy, and the anaesthetist asked to watch the birth, I pushed twice and she was out, literally less than 10 minutes...everyone was crying, I was overjoyed to have my healthy little love, and was really confused as to why, everyone was crying...the anesthesiologist said thank you over and over, which til this day baffles me. I was told she never gets to see "natural" birth but I wonder if it was something else...It was painful, and can't imagine feeling it on both sides...
I'm glad unnatural baby is healthy, and I'm happy you had a good experience!
I hope someday you'll share a little bit of baby with us someday.
I love this story! I had the epidural for one of my 4 deliveries and I did not like it because I could not feel my legs at all but everyone is different. I like the part where you say that the nurses were happy because it was easy. When I had my last baby this December the hospital had vegan options I just told them I didn't eat meat and the cafeteria called me before every meal.
You are absolutely glowing! So glad you had a great pregnancy!
I refused to drug my baby both times so refused all medication. 48 hours of labor with the first and 30 minutes with the 2nd, 18 months later. Thanks for sharing your experience. For me, it was after healing that was so grooling. 1st one ripped me up good but the healing seemed to never end after both my kids were born. I adopted the third one.
Wow. The natural birth community had suckered me in because all that medicine and scary epidural diagrams freaked me out and sounded traumatic. But the way you described it made it sound not bad at all. I may actually go to the hospital if I ever get pregnant.
alluneedislessthan3 Listen to her if you want but she just tells people what they want to hear.
I've generally learned during my rotations that people saying 'I have a very high pain tolerance', really don't. Maybe it also works the other way around.
sounds like a DREAM birth. my GOSH.
Aw man I want a natural birth but the pain terrifies me 😅
anna Theamazing honestly once you're going it's doesn't matter you just want that baby out. And once it's over you feel so overwhelmed and proud of yourself it's so worth it.
In my experience, natural unmediated child birth is excruciating and the pain is so unbelievably intense it's unfathomable. But as soon as the baby and placenta are out, all done. The pain after is minimal in comparison.
anna Theamazing NO YOU DONT
Excruciating does not even begin to cover it. The pain makes you wish you would just die. You beg them to rip the Baby out It's so painful it feels like Satan himself it's ripping you apart with his fingernails vagina first
LA GANGS WILL KILL YOU ah.. that sounds.. scary. so do you plan to have any more or did the pain make you decide to be one and done?
I had two epidural births at a hospital and one all natural birth at a birth center. I loved my natural birth. It was my third child and honestly I wish I would have done all natural with all three. The pain gets intense during labor and pushing is hard but the intense pain goes away during the pushing so you have energy to push. And after the baby is out you feel great! I felt so empowered that my body could accomplish so much. I was on a beautiful high. My baby stayed with me right on my chest and we did skin to skin all night long. You don't have to be Superwoman to give birth naturally. You'll be amazed at what you can do and push through!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It was great to hear about your experience and also entertaining.
didnt you ask for fruit and vegetables from the hospital ?? or maybe rice or smth ? like really boring food but still vegan yk
Thanks for sharing your experience with us! I'm glad it went well! This makes giving birth a little less scary. Please take care & be well! Congratulations!
Last time I had an epidural I remember it felt like ice stabbing into me and very quickly flooded through my spine and radiated pain relief, though I wasn’t in labor.
i love soylent! have you tried any of their new drinks or flavors? i still just have the original powder...do you think it's okay even though it's 'expired'? i had a membership and barely was drinking them but now i want them...oops
Sarah Ro I tried the cacao, yuck! it has a horrible aftertaste. I still love the original though! Yum!
When you have a baby with an epidural you don't really push. Maybe a few while it's crowning but it basically comes out on it's own.
My experience was very similar except even the second baby took 19 hours to come out. And the epidural went sideways when I fell asleep 😴 so it ended up only being half of my body affected which made for the strangest and most painful sensation with all of the pitocin. It evened out after I switched my position...kind of. But then I needed fentenyl. I hear that no pitocin makes it far less painful until pushing and much slower. But I wouldn't know. Ive never had it any other way. I was more assertive the second time around. I refused to be on my back. That helped a lot! Thanks for your story
I love swayzes face in the thumbnail
Wondering if you drank Soylent during pregnancy?
Ur amazing intelligent and I literally love ur videos....plz never stop uploading lol
You said it yourself how women do it - without pitocin and without an epidural anesthetic - If you don't have the pitocin you don't have the pain - at least, most of the time - some women will have pain even without pitocin - and if you don't have pain, you don't need the epidural. Still, as you said, the pushing IS hard, you have to use a lot of muscle strength, it is LABORIOUS, and tiring, but it is frequently not painful. If you aren't anesthesized, you can often manage to avoid tearing, or needing an episiotomy, but that said, though it may seem surprising, minor tears are not always painful. The peritoneal skin is stretched thin and supposedly that makes it less sensitive to pain. The idea is that without an epidural anesthetic you can feel if the skin is stretched too far, and often you can hold back from pushing and allow it to stretch slowly, and sometimes that can prevent tearing. I don't know how well that works. You or a helper can also See, if the peritoneal skin is stretched too far. That said, some unmedicated births can be very painful. Tearing or an episiotomy cannot always be avoided. Among other things, difficulty and pain may have to do with the relative size of the baby's head and the vagina. And tears can vary between being slight on one hand, and on the other hand, for another birth, extending so far that a fistula to the rectum is created. That is another reason we want to have physicians AVAILABLE, oh hand and ready to assist, if NECESSARY, but the fact that they often intervene too early, or unnecessarily, is also a consideration. I know one woman who gave birth at home, alone, on a mat on the floor, in a hands and knees position, who told me it wasn't at all painful; it was VERY PLEASANT. Yes, even in that situation, I tend to think it would be nice to have someone on hand who is ready to give you an epidural just in case you need it, but personally, I tend to think most hospital births today - doctors are too quick to give pitocin - not to mention too quick to do a surgical delivery. Pitocin does make their job shorter, and easier. How much that influences their decision, I cannot say. But the factor is there. Another woman I know was in labor for 24 hours. No pitocin, no pain, but long, tiring, hours of labor. As I was there for the whole time with this woman, I got a better understanding of what was involved. Another woman I knew, who was also in labor for 24 hours - my mom - she was in a lot of pain. I was there with this woman, too, but for some reason I am having difficulty remembering the details. In 1948, she got morphine for the pain. At least that is what she remembered, and what she told me, 30 years later. I don't know if she also got an epidural. So - morphine isn't as effective as an epidural, and is riskier for the baby (me). Apparently, between the long labor, the morphine, and who knows what else, my mom was not able to continue to push strongly enough, and I was helped out with obstetrical forceps. My mom was traumatized by the experience.
My mum had a hospital birth with me and hated it. When it came to my younger siblings, she had home births and loved it. As I hate hospitals, I find it very hard to cope with people coming and going and stuff bleeping, I decided I would like a home birth. A relaxed environment does wonders for helping things go smoothly.
The problem with epidural is that... not everyone knows how to push with it and it very often means episiotomy, ventuse cup or forceps. :( I hate being in pain but then I really wouldn't want to have ventuse..
Wow, that was interesting. I've never known anyone to get an epidural. That's great that it was so easy for you. :)
This video comes at the right time for me as I am 39 weeks and 4 days! At my 39 week appointment my OB told me the baby was engaged but my cervix is still closed :-( I am trying to be positive and know that if I do have to be induced/ use pitocyn I can still have an easy/comfortable birth.
I have really been enjoying your pregnancy/parenting videos all throughout my own pregnancy (I'm a vegan too)! Thank you so much and can't wait for your breastfeeding video.
You say that the postpartum period was hard for you, did you experience any ppd or just regular baby blues?
Love the perspective as a nurse 😂❤
I would actually like a video on your parenting style. I know you do a lot of research about different things so I'm guessing you would've researched parenting styles as well. I've seen a comment you made on another video about how much you like Tracy Hogg, so from that it doesn't really sound like you are into attachment parenting, would be interesting to hear your thoughts on that. I mean if you read sites like Evolutionary Parenting she cites lots of research against people like Tracy Hogg and imposing strict schedules on newborns and small babies, among other things.
about the pushing without painrelieve... it actually feels very good. that is often said to be the easy part about birthing without pain relieve. In my case it took almost all the pain away and felt liberating. The big contractions without pushing that is the worst.
After the delivery of my first child I also spend two nights in the hospital and didn't sleep at all, I just couldn't relax plus I had not slept the night I had given birth so three nights in total. I really didn't feel like myself. I was also so worried about my child. I had never felt like that before. After having had my second child everything was so much better, much more relaxed I actually got some sleep in the hospital and I didn't worry that much. Still I felt a little emotionally distressed a few days after having given birth, I felt like crying and overwhelmed. And I was really really tired because I had to nurse him all night and didn't get enough sleep. Both of my births were natural because it was too late for the epidural. Because I wasn't in pain or at least not in much pain till 10 cm but after that it was insane, I thought I was going to die. Especially the second time I suddenly remembered my first birth and how this had been like and I really panicked because I thought "there is no way I can go through this again" but in the end I did and survived it :) now I'm expecting my third and thinking about having an epidural early even if I'm not yet in pain because otherwise it probably will be too late again. On the other hand I'm a bit afraid of the risks of the epidural or that labour will stop because of it.. Well I still have some time to think through what I'm going to do
I don't want kids, but if I ever did, I would take the epidural lol.
I work in L&D and post partum unit so this was really interesting to hear. How did you like the fundal massages? lol I always feel so bad doing it because the mums are already sore and tired. No pregnancy is boring by the way. I'm glad everything went well and congratulations on your baby!
I was at home until ten minutes before my daughter was born, and didn't receive any medication, and to be honest, I didn't feel anything while I was pushing her out. No stretching, no tearing, nothing. I didn't even have any residual pain. But I had back labour, so my contractions were brutal towards the end. But when you're feeling the contractions, you can't even feel the stretching or tearing (which I did btw).
Did you ever feel rushed into the actual birthing phase? I've heard horror stories about doctors overdoing it on the drugs that induce labor in order to get you in and out quickly. But it was presented to me in a very conspiracy theory type of way, and you are so well researched I feel like you would have an answer for this.
alluneedislessthan3 my labor was rushed, the hospital in my town is infamous for inducing labor, I wish I known that before I gave birth. I had every drug imaginable given to me to induce labor from strips, IV medication, even two balloons put in me. Even then it took 3 days to dilate me and my epidural was put in wrong so it didn't work and caused nerve damage in my back. And to top it all off 3 days after giving birth I developed a uterus infection that had me in the hospital for 2 weeks. It was the most traumatic experience of my life, I blame it on me being young ,I was 20, I didn't know any better and I wish I could've spoken up and defended myself, or at least sued. I ended up doing nothing but I heard other mothers who had similar stories to mine and I know they ended up suing. Don't be afraid to do research and ask questions ask other mothers who have given birth at the hospital, next time I'm doing a home birth with a midwife.
Amaris M 😳 Jesus Christ. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm glad I know now though I'll make sure to fight back if I'm put in that situation. That's pretty much my worst nightmare.
I had the epidural but it failed? I felt everything! I pushed for almost 40 minutes. 7 years later, I agree, I will never have another child again. lol, I was so paranoid about my baby too.
Epidurals usually mask the pain but not the sensations. The brain however is a funny thing. Our brains that know birth is painful may interpret the sensations as painful regardless while other Brains will think "Oh, we aren't supposed to feel anything with an epi" so the patient doesn't feel anything. Brains are powerful little critters.
I know this is late to the game. I noticed my son slept for about 4-5 hours around 1-2 am after nursing so I had the nurses take him until he woke up which was about 4.5 hours around 5:30/6 am so I can get a block of sleep. I did have a c section so I was tired and in pain too. Always ask nurses what you can do, and for a Lactation consultation even if it’s just for tips.
Man, I'm in the fewest interventions/drug-free camp but I'm still super curious about how epidurals feel! lol. I had a rough postpartum, I delivered in a freestanding birth center but both kiddo and I had to be transferred to hospital for minor things. I didn't sleep even though kiddo was in NICU not in the room with me. Once she was brought in with me I slept like a rock with her on my chest! And nothing wrong with not wanting baby away from you, I actually bit the heads off of a few NICU nurses who tried to shoo me out while I nursed and snuggled my baby.
I was the exact opposite. They said to me, "Oh you're going to keep the baby in your room, right? " I was like, "NO WAY! I get the next 18 years, you can have the 1st two nights."
Thank u for sharing ur birth story and best to you and your family of three!
Anecdote: with my first baby I had epidural and labor was 37 hours mostly pain free. My second baby was huge 9lbs7os and precipitous. I was in labor for a couple hours before going to hospital, had baby 40 minutes after arriving. (think monty python skit: "can you get that?") No time for epidural. The one thing I found interesting is while I was pushing the pain went away. I wasn't expecting that.
I was looking forward to hearing your story I totally didn't want them to take the baby to the nursery either but one of the nights a nurse came in and in my is sleepy state and she's like, okay I'm going to take your baby for a little while. and I said "OK"
very similar story to mine
I think it's funny that you said you would have quit if you hadn't had the drugs for the birth. I wonder what would happen? I missed the window for Epidural both times I had a baby and was forced to go without. It wasn't a bravery thing, once the anesthesiologist was in a csection, yeah there was only one on duty??? And the other time I was too far along. That one was tough, but I lived through it. It is pretty profoundly painful and scary though, but the reward at the end is well worth it. I liked your story as I like all of your stories. It would be fun to see the wee nipper=)
I have a serious multi-system disease that has brought w/ it a LOT of long hospital stays, including some in ICU, many surgeries, times I couldn't move my own body at all, etc. I've joked that my younger, very body unconfident self could have used the constant "yay, you're small" comments I've often heard!!
""I don't know where my brain went during this time..." :D Yeah...(12:48)
33 hours of non medicated labor for me.... I am very stubborn and my daughter was a premee. In my mind, there was so much medication going into me for her that I didn't want any more just for pain. So I white knuckled it. My daughter is 17 now and I don't have any more kids so... yeah. The most painful experience ever.
How Much does it cost to give birth in à hospital in the US? lol
Its free in Canada...
Tania T. It depends if you have a c-section, an epidural or whatever. Vaginal births, on average, cost $2,600 without complications, and C-sections cost $4,500. Healthcare is also free in the U.K. as well! :)
NOTHINGS FREE....Canadians and those in UK pay for these things with incredibly high taxes
Tania T. mine cost a little less than 10,000 but it was covered completely by insurance
I dont considér my taxes to be overwhelming or super High... jus sayin. nevertheless, the medical system has mega flaws here as well. especially in Quebec.
It didn’t cost me anything in the US but we have the best health insurance in America
My labour. Pains started at 7:30 that night. But slept right through till the morning. Had breakfast and then a bath. Waters broke in the bath. Mad dash in the car to the hospital. Got it and was 9 cm. was given gas and air and nearly threw up so I pushed it away. Got pushed onto my side which resulted in me kicking my midwife. Pushed and baby was born really quickly. Had to be cut as he was progressing to fast and I was going to tear. In total it was 2hrs and 15 minuets.
I know what you mean about not feeling yourself but not wanting the baby to go to the nursery. I was on my own the only night I stayed it, and couldn't sleep, was having trouble breastfeeding and they offered to take him so I could sleep and I just wouldn't have him away from me. Even when his dad walked out of the ward I forced myself up and followed.
So glad you had such a positive experience giving birth but yikes everytime I learn something new about birth I feel stronger in my conviction that I never want to go through that. Yikes.
Great birth story. After I had a 10lb baby, I looked like I had been in a car wreck, I couldnt stand by myself plus I was there 2weeks bkuz my blood pressure was a problem and I busted my stiches.. And I wouldnt change a thing 😊😊
Did the epidural injection hurt?
I agree, the IV and antibiotics is very painful. I had an unmediated, natural hospital birth but had to have the IV due to GBS. That was really one of the worst parts of the whole thing, and the pain lasted even after they took the IV out.
My hospital, you order your food off a menu. They also have a vegetarian/vegan section
thank you for sharing !! awesome positive birth story!!
Although the story of child birth has been told a million times a million ways, it's still worth hearing it from someone with a rational and educated perspective on things.
I can't believe you had 2 days lol where I live they kick out the next morning after a smooth natural birth!
Why doesn't your forehead have any wrinkles?
Jeswen Titomn Because she doesn't have skin. She wraps herself in an elastic material with no imperfections, like one of those latex gloves.
Doesn't have sun damage. Doesn't scrunch up forehead. Solved.
Im 32 and I hardly have any wrinkles. I contribute this to my beautiful resting bitch face. For real, it works!
Genetics
I was going to say! She's really young!
Kaylia1991 no, can't be genetic in any way.
I live in Poland, most women do not get epidural unfortunately even though we are entitled to it, this makes me terrified for my delivery in October
I think anyone can give birth without an epidural (as long as there are no complications). As far as I know here in the Netherlands no one uses it, it's just not really a thing. And giving birth at home is also perfectly normal so it's always a little weird to me when people make videos talking about home birthing as if it's something very special.
That thumbnail is a work of art :D
Oh wow, in Germany they turn the epidural off for the labor so you feel the contractions and know when to push at the end!
By the way, I literally did not sleep from Sunday to Friday ninths hospital due to my roommate snoring and visitors during the day