As shitty as it is, sometimes we need to feel sadness to appreciate the good things in our lives that we sometimes overlook or take for granted. I've been through many situations where I think .. I'm never going to get through this, but you know what .. we do! We are a lot stronger than we think. Your message is so true, it is okay to feel sad, but just don't wallow in it for too long. Whether it's going to the beach, watching your favourite movie, chatting to a friend, whatever it takes .. do something to make yourself feel better. It's a process, and after sadness comes happiness! There are many help lines as well, so no-one should ever feel alone xx
Could you please do another one on dealing with friends through self harm. Please this has really been bringing me down for a lot of months now xx ily both
caroline lockwood that is so lovely. my grandfather had alzheimers and i know how difficult it is. i only wish i had the opportunity to go and visit him x
My nan has the exact same illness and can't remeber any of her children, she can remeber three people in my family and I am one of them, this makes my life seem more purposeful I know it sounds weird but it is the truth xxxx
The RUclips community is amazing. If anyone is ever going through something, it is there for you. It's crazy how many people are affected by so many things. Some of it is curable, sometimes it's not. But there are always people who want to help. And no, I'm not just talking about bullshit therapists who'll just prescribe you some drugs after 'listening' for an hour and then never contact you again, I'm talking about real people who have been through or are going through the same thing as you. We can share remedies and recipes and laugher. I sure do love the RUclips community!
I totally agree. I see you around a lot and your comments are always the best! Finally checked out your channel - your videos are really good. I subbed :)
I don't cry in front of people or let other people know I am sad including friends and family because I know they can't do anything about it and I feel like I am just just going to make them sad or down, but as soon as I am alone I completely break down... maybe I should I just let the sad happen when it happens and not try to control it as much.
this is exactly the same with me, i feel like if i break down in font of my family then they will get sad that im sad and i know theres nothing they can do to help me
Yeah try it and your family and friends can help you they might not get the reason why you're sad solved but they can help you get over it very well they're your family and friends they help you
It's always good to let the people you trust know how you feel. Like your best friend so you don't feel alone and feel that your feelings are wrong. People care about you and how you're feeling!! They want to be there for you. Don't fret to reach out.
I can so relate to this, I do it because i come across as such a confident person but I'm really not because if I was I would be making RUclips videos but I too scared of what people might think of me so I stuck with making slide shows of my favorite youtubers with less than 200 view per video like that just goes to show how not confident I am
I do this all the time. My dad passed away last year and I find things so hard and I don't want to cry in front of others, I'm not even sure why, but then when I get home say, I just cry I'm here with you and no one is ever along on something like this
I completely agree with everything you two said. A few months ago I went through a really harsh breakup and I literally cried every day, I couldn't eat, and I spend days in bed. I didn't want to tell anybody because I thought it'd just hurt more, eventually I told my mum ( since I don't have any friends ) and she completely understood and every time I was done crying she took me out to walks instead of letting me stay in bed all day. THEN, she took me on a trip to San Diego to sort of just get away from everything and it was the nicest thing ever. I think the crying all stopped during that trip and I really thought I'd never get over this break up. Now it feels like nothing, I mean it still hurts if I think about it but I don't feel like crying over it. I finally feel like myself again, although it took months!
depression is a real thing, its not something you can debate about whether or not it exists. its a medical condition that's been proven. its a chemical imbalance and actually affects certain parts of the brain. please don't say you "dont believe in it" because that could hurt a lot of people
Don't get me wrong, I've been diagnosed with Psychotic Depression for over 4 years, by different specialist as well. I just don't believe that there is anything wrong with me, just my opinion. It's okay for everybody else to have their own opinion as well.
Aww bless you. You just have to remember that everyone goes through heartbreak at one point in life. You wont be the first and you defiantly wont be the last. I have been through heartbreak also and it is one of the worst pains so I can totally understand. It's so nice your mum was there for you and its good you eventually told someone as it prob would of made you feel worse for not saying anything. Just remember there is plenty more fish in the see!! :-) xxxx
i can't remember the last time i cried because i was sad. i cry when i get very, very angry. after i've gone through the red mist phase of destructing everything in my path. then i'll have a cry and calm down.
tbh i don't think it's just hormones.. everyone has hormones. i can't speak for the rest of you guys but mine is defo a bigger problem than just hormones. i've been referred to anger management before. i really think crying is good for people that get angry though..it's just the only way to get relief. smashing things up doesn't give you that same relief as letting your guard down and crying it out.
If you are feeling sad today hold your hand over your heart. You feel that beating? That's called a purpose. YOU are here for a reason. Sending lots of love to every person feeling sad today.. We will all get through it! Xx
my mum died a couple weeks ago before my 14th birthday from a fire accident, and i just wanted to say how amazing you both are and how you're helping me through this time
You've got not only Zoe and Louise but all off their supporters behind you. Life is hard and bad things happen to wonderful people. I cant imagine losing someone so close, and I hope and pray you stay strong. If you ever need a thing this community is the best support group in the world. My heart goes out to you Daisy.
I feel like, if you would never feel sad you can't appreciate the good moments. If you never have a bad day or bad moment you can't enjoy all the good moments as much.
I don't know if I will keep this comment or delete it but this Monday I am going to my local doctor about feeling sad and I am terrified, I have dealt with all sorts in my life the main thing being self harm, being anxious and addiction and I have finally found the courage to ask for help thanks to this video and other ones, the main thing I am scared of is actually being diagnosed with something because that means it is a real thing... But yeah I don't know if I will keep this comment up but I just want to thank you for giving me the courage to ask for help
Honestly don't worry. It probably seems big and scary right now but if you do get diagnosed then the wonderful thing is you'll be on the road to getting help and hopefully you will no longer feel this way, at least so often. Don't be scared or worried, and also don't forget that you are valid and what you feel is valid. Just try to take it as it comes ( I know how hard that is for an anxious person). I'm extremely proud of you for speaking up and taking charge or your health and wellbeing. Good luck beautiful xx
Don't worry :) you have made a really good decision to go and see a doctor, if you get diagnosed it will help you understand more and it will help you. I was diagnosed with something when I went to the doctors and it only benefited me. I believe in you and you are extremely brave for taking action about your wellbeing. It will only get better :)xx
This week my boyfriend had a stroke - with 25 years. Yes, I'm sad. And angry. Angry that he has to go through a hard time again, although he went trough a really tough time 2 years ago. But: I'm also grateful, that he is alive and still with me. I think it is healthy to be sad and so important. Don't be afraid of being sad. Let it all out. You all have a right to feel sad.
I watch Louise and Tyler talking about shitting their pants, or Tyler and Mamrie doing Edward 40 Hands and they make me laugh so much and it's wonderful!
this week I was really sad because I did very poorly on my maths test and I was very worried my mum would find out and be disappointed but she completely understood and wasn't annoyed and im am very grateful to have an amazing mum like that : )
youtube4life Just try to look at everything as either a success or a lesson,at least now you know what you need to work on and what will help you in the future :) xx
youtube4life Just remember that in the long run of your life (and even in just a few weeks or months from now) that one test or homework won't matter at all. If you know you've done your best and you keep working hard, everything will work out. It's okay to feel disappointed, but make sure you use it in a positive way to try and do better next time! You too, Jean! :)
My dad passed away 4 years ago, and I still get very sad sometimes because I miss him very much. But I then think, I don't think I should be sad anymore because so much time has passed and it seems as though everyone else has moved on from it. This really helped me to find that it is okay for me to still be sad about it.
kittenaround I know how you feel, My very close brother passed away 4 years ago when I was 6. All the children in my class laugh about it and i get really upset :(
You should do a chummy chatter about being happy with your face like you said Zoe 'Your skin doesn't define you' that would help millions of people, I can just tell
I really appreciate you guys addressing subjects that other RUclipsrs don't, especially because you both have such a large following and seem genuine with everything you talk about. I suffered with depression and anxiety from the ages 14-18. When I was starting high school, my dad had a motor bike incident and shattered his elbow. Because he enjoyed physical activity and sports and his elbow limited him, he suffered with depression and almost committed suicide. The thought of someone so close to me almost committing suicide, especially when I had never lost anyone or been exposed to that, played on my mind and I was sad all the time. By the age of 14, I was being bullied everyday. I knew I wasn't just sad - I was depressed. I was cutting because I felt like I deserved to feel even more pain and I avoided my family and school. I reached out to my mum one day and asked if she could take me to the doctor because I thought I had depression but she told me she didn't want to hear it because she was still dealing with it with my dad. Eventually, they divorced and my depression never seemed to be an issue. They knew I was sad, they knew I had changed and they knew I was scared and angry and anxious about EVERYTHING. It wasn't until I was 17 that I accidentally exposed three large cuts on my wrist to my mother. She took this as me being stupid and took me to a doctor and a therapist. Even though I was taken to a therapist and put on medication for "being stupid and harming myself", speaking to somebody that didn't know me and didn't have the right to judge me lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. I am now 19 and off my medication. I am a happier person and am no longer in as much pain as I was. I still get sad and anxious, but that's natural. Thank you Zoe and Louise. You are excellent role models.
I got depression and I feel like most people don't get how I feel sometime like my friends and family always tell me to cheer up if I'm having a down day and then when I am happy people always say that I lie about having depression. cos i have depression doest mean I can't be happy and if you think that about people who got depression just know that we are happy sometime
My Mum passed away 18 years ago (Im only 19)... and even though I don't remember her, or remember anything from when she was around... I still get sad, and all my friends are just so super supportive about it, and I couldn't thank them enough for just being there!
It's my birthday today and I've been feeling ill and tired and just generally not quite right all day. My flatmate took me to breakfast this morning which was so sweet of her. My boyfriend then came to see me with hugs and gifts and understood when I said I don't feel up to going to dinner tonight that I cried for a good hour at how understanding and supportive he was being. They made home made soup for me and we've been watching back to back films all day and I feel a bit better now. Love you Zoe and Louise so much. Keep doing what you're doing, you are an inspiration to so, so many people. Much love. Xxx
what makes me happy is YOU Zoe! your smile, your laugh, you bubblines, your kindness, your big heart, and your love for people. you are so happy most of the times and very cheerful and just watching you makes me feel so happy, you never fail to make me laugh or smile. you inspire me to live happily through everything in life and give me hope that their are still genuinely amazing people such as yourself in this world.so thank you.. I LOVE YOU ZOE SUGG Abbie PLZ GIVE IT THUMBS UP SO ZOE CAN SEE IT
This helped me so much. A friend of mine passed away on Sunday due to a drunk driver. This week has been tough and this helped me realize it's okay to be sad. Thank you Zoe.
Zoe&Louise! something that has made me sad recently, not just this week but for the past few is bullying, I've been bullied and it's hard but I'm not going to go on about it because something that has cheered me up might sound silly but I'm so happy you (Zoe) have carried on vlogging through October as watching your videos help me forget about everything! so thank you so much xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I recently found out something and it shattered my heart. I just felt so down even before I found out the truth because I couldn't stop thinking about that person. No matter how much music I listened to, it didn't help. So i need a good cry, hugs and pizza after this video. I always come to this video when I'm sad because it reminds me that it is okay to feel down and upset about things
im someone that holds in my emotions, im in university and i live in a flat with all of my best friends and as much as i love them, we have so much fun sometimes its difficult to be sad and to really let those emotions flow because someone is always cheering you up. Needless to say, during this video i just let rip, im crying right now reading this just letting go of everything. thankyou. thanks so much i really needed that cry!
Maybe you could try going for a walk when you feel you want to let it all out? Put your headphones in and go into your own world. I no that helps me :) Xxxxx
i completely understand, you hold in your emotions but then they build up and boil over untill you cant cope any longer. what i do then is do whatever makes you feel slightly better, i know that sounds stupid and obvious but things like dont force yourself to do work or to do any chores, simply curl up in a duvet and watch telly or anything you want, cuddle your dog or eat ice cream untill that feeling subsides a little. i hope you are ok x
I think it's so important for friends to remain in joys and in sorrows. I bet that some of your friends may be feeling the same way, like they can't let their emotions out! Maybe try talk to one of your room mates and she what she think?
It's currently 3:45am in Australia and I'm up because my anxiety is not treating me well today. My 2 psychologists are unable to give me "help" because my anxiety symptoms are to severe so I'm living every day depressed/sad. This video has just put a smile on my face I love you too so much!! 💗 thank you xx
Know that you are called to do something great. You have such a big power to make the world a better place. Remember that! Make goals! What gets you passionate? Chase after it wholeheartedly! I'm rooting for you!!
I want to thank you for this video :) Its good to hear those things, cause like you said.. no one tells you if this is a depression or only sadness in teenager time.. And I think.. looking back, it was a depression, and I felt like no one understands me and everybody just laugh at me about it, or didn't took that serious cause I was that 'young' . So I got out of it cause I had many good people by my side who helped me and I think if somebody hasn't this good people even this video would help and make them feel secure like it makes ME feel. I think its even a proper phase of girls.. i think boys doesn't have those times often, so its important to tell those girls, that they aren't crazy or anything and that it even would be good to have a doctor and that this doesn't mean you need to go to asylum or that you're totally crazy... Its okay to be sad, it will be a time where you will learn and take lessons and it will be hard but afterwards you feel better and you realize it was good to have had this time :)
I totally agree with you, people downplay teen depression a lot to the 'hormonal changes' and don't listen when a lot of kids are in need of support and help and love. We're constantly told when upset and depressed to 'snap out of it' but its important that every feeling is validated. We are always told to go to the Dr if we get a cold, or hurt out leg, its the same with our minds :) we should go talk to a Dr if our minds don't feel right! It sounds like you are made much stronger for your experience Kerstin and I'm sure that your story will help loads more people too! x
Definitely, its important to voice our thoughts and opinions, and I think its so important when it comes to Mental health because it just doesn't get talked about in the same way. :) I hope your future is bright and filled with love x
Rachel Black Oh gosh no :D theres nothing about me you want to be like :) If you love yourself, you are much happier! You can decide who you want to be...
My dad passed away a year and a half ago, I've had some trouble with myself and now I feel it coming back again. I don't really know who to tell, because I feel like nobody will understand me. I've always tried to help myself but now I feel like I might be losing it again... And don't want to :( I've a best friend, but she won't be able to help me. And I know, only with her ears she could help me because I would be telling someone how I feel but I just don't think that's enough. How do I stop feeling so sad? Like, all the time? This video is great, you girls are amazing, thank you for everything you do,
Hello Nali, and the key is to not stop yourself from being sad but it's to be able to cope and it feels like you still have no figured out exactly how to deal with this sadness. My dad died over 5 years ago and I just wanted to say that this emotion is normal and it needs to be felt. It's only healthy for you
Today is the 3rd year anniversary of my grampas death. I was super close to him and can't stop crying thinking that i will never get to hug him again. But feeling sad and remembering him reminds me of all the memories and it makes me feel honored to have had him in my life!
My grandad died 2 weeks ago and I just feel so sad because he always used to tell me stories and stuff and now he can't. But I know that in time it will get better
shauna linay I stoped eating for a few months when it happened i lost soo much weight, i just want to let you know that even normal activities like eating might feel impossible, it will only make it worse so try to look after your self, and yea i suppose time helps come to term with the loss and talking about it really does, the pain of losing him will never go away though! Youre stronger than you think and life has to go on
I've been sad for three years.. think it's time for the "talk to someone" thing.. Even tho someone smiles and laughs, doesn't mean they aren't sad inside.. That is one thing that annoys me! Just because I am able to laugh at stuff I find funny, I'm "overreacting" at the whole sad thing.. No, I'm not... I've just learned how to smile and laugh in a way that makes people think I'm okay and that I'm not sad..
hey, I know what you meant, I also do tht sometimes.. just saying that you are okay when you´re definitely not.. but if you want to talk with someone anytime I could be that person if you want :) just saying!
aw, I know what you mean. Go and seek some help, you'll feel much much better when you do! You deserve to be happy again! People will be more supportful than you think! xxx
Leah Oliver i wasn't offending her at all. i was just saying as for me, it is not just quite difficult, it is really difficult. i did not point any fingers or try to correct her, please dont generalize things
I wanted to cry when I saw this I felt sad because so many people are sad and happy because you took time out of your day to tell people they're not alone that someone actually cares . Thank you
I cant really explain it you have to say it.. she just says about how it has changed her life and she is like 'sometimes I have to pinch myself to see if I'm awake' and yeah clips of her videos and stuff and it's an advert for youtube.. I saw it on E4..
this video made me cry especially when Louise started talking about her mum, just made me realise that lifes too short & you never know whats going to happen, tell your family & friends how much they mean to you bc everything can change in a split second
Last year I had a period of "prolonged sadness" (not sure whether to actually call it depression) that lasted several months. My grades dropped-not dramatically but I really had very little desire to care about my grades-and I drifted from my friends a lot. I had no one really to talk to so I never told anyone about it. I'm still recovering from that and I still haven't told anyone about how I was feeling but I want to tell someone, even though a part of me says that it wasn't even a big deal and I should just leave at that. I've been trying so hard to do better this year and to stop feeling sad and to get closer to my friends again and to do things that make me happy but it's hard sometimes. Thank you for making this video, you two never fail to cheer me up (:
It's great that you were 'depressed' and you realised it eventually (better late than never) which is great because it means that you know what you need to talk about and it may be hard sometimes but that's when you know that you your grieving or what was making you feel down is starting to release but you have a little bit more to go.
Lately I have been feeling the same way, I don't know why or what it is but it has been starting to take over my life. The same sort of things are happening, grades have dropped and although I still feel close to my friends I feel like they are completely oblivious to how I am feeling. Does it just start going away or does it become worse? Thanks for leaving this comment, I'm starting to think that someone understands :)
Soph B To you it's obvious you're feeling sad and you think it's obvious for your friends as well but believe me, it's not! You probably think that they just don't care but I think they just don't even realize how sad you are. I speak from experience because I only have 1 friend that knows how I feel because I told them. All my other good friends and my family don't have a clue of how I feel. I even look/looked happy, confident and social when inside I was non of these things. So you have to tell your friends or at least one of your friends that you trust the most.
EllyBorrie Thank you so much for this reply, I'm thinking about telling someone now. The main problem I have is that I feel as though they will always try to protect me or stop behaving as they usually do around me! Do you think that will happen or am I just talking myself out of it???
Aww I hope things do get better for you..I feel the same way about my dad he passed away recently and his birthday is 4 days before Christmas :/ Good luck with everything though.
Since everybody is writing something I feel like I really just want to comment how I feel, so basically, I have a lot of insecurities, especially with my body, since everybody keeps telling my that my skin is ugly, or also that my legs are to thick and stuff like that. Also, I don't really miss the relationship with my ex boyfriend, but I miss being friends with him, I miss talking to him the way we were talking and laughing. Now we can't talk without his awkward (I'm sorry, but we can't fall in love again face) I miss just talking to him, talking to his friends, without one of these awkward moments. I miss being the way I was because I changed a lot over the past few months, I feel like I've become less of a good friend, I feel like I'm back in 2012, the year I used to cry a lot. Funny thing, that was actually the year I've started my youtube channel and I never found something that ever made me happier. Everytime I feel like I want to escape from this world I make a new video, everytime I film video I feel better. I'm still insecure, I feel like I have a huge bag full with mistakes I made I carry with me all the time, I ask myself "what if..." way to often. But I also feel like if I would tell anybody my bag would become less heavy...that's probably the reason I comment here... I now this text is confusing, but I just wanted to say that all. I wanted to talk about everything I feel in a video, too, but I am too shy...maybe I will someday. Thank you for reading if you read that...wow Thank you for that video Zoe and Louise, I love you, your videos always light up my day:)
Everybody has insecurities, so I have no idea why you're saying it as if it's strange:) people who put other people down are metaphorically trying to drag themselves up, if that makes sense. They like to feel above everything, even if that means shoving everyone down beneath them (through putting them down) I have felt a similar way concerning your relationship. Sucks doesn't it? Sometimes feelings fade, sometimes they leave completely, but you'll always have the memories with you of what happened, and at the time you were happy (which is *great*) so you shouldn't regret it, but at the same time if you're living in the past it's almost impossible to concentrate on the present - or more importantly the future! Everybody goes through changes, and it makes you no less of a good friend if you're experiencing them because *you cannot help it*. At the end of the day, above everything else, what matters the most is *you*. If you're happy. And if you're not, ask yourself why, and then it's alright to alter your life slightly if it means you're getting away from the things that made you sad. Sorry this reply took so long but I hope it helps you feel better, remember to smile:)
Kaz Montante Thank you so much for your long reply it really means a lot to me that you took your time to read my text and write this one...♡ and yes it makes me feel a lot better just thank you so much! I honestly don't know what to write, I feel like thank you isn't enough, but I don't know what to say else. So one last time thank you for your answer and everything you said, I am really trying to be more positive now and I'll try to forget ...this is the present, every day and everything I do decides how my future will be...and I want to make the best out of it :) thank you so much! And thank you also for subscribing btw that's so nice of you :)
Thank you for reading my text and answering and I wish you all the best too, since you have gone through the same :) Thank you again for subscribing this also means a lot :) and I hope you have a wonderful day
you Should Always Accept And Be Happy With YOURSELF. You don't look ugly bc God made you beautiful !! That guy who left you, is going to regret it. Bc he lost a really amazing girl & we may not be perfect, but we have to embrace our flaws. God bless C:
This helped me so much. I am 10 and have anxiety. Also, My bff hangs out with a popular girl. I hang out with her, but I don't feel as if she takes me as a friend. She has loads of friends and that's why I feel like sometimes I'm invisible. My other friends don't talk / accept me as a friend. I feel left out and I have panic attacks at least once every day. But watching your and Alfie's videos they make me happier. I love you so much and I hope you know that. I'm literally crying because of how you make me happy everyday. It's you that makes me smile. It's you that encourages me to go outside. It's you that makes me live my life. It's you that stops me from suicide. It's you that helps my everything.(Btw I'm on my friends account) My names Grace Thompson and and my survivor of life is Zoella ( Zoe Sugg)
This week has been a mighty rough one for me and watching this has really helped. I want to thank the both of you for always allowing me to feel like I have somewhere to be myself and completely open with my thoughts and feelings. And for making me smile when it sometimes feels like nothing or no one can. xx
It's exactly like the quote "To have happy days, you need bad/sad days" or something hehe - you can't be happy all the time but once you're sad, trust me, you'll be happy in no time
I'm sad I'm leaving primary school and not just that I'm leaving the people who I have grown up with and who made me the girl I am today. But watching BOTH your videos has made me HAPPY!!! I had a big long cry in class today and I feel much better. Thank you Zoe + Louise. Xxxxx +Zoe +Louise
zoe , do you know what ? You are one of the most real people in my life , and I know you are not the person your anxiety makes you feel , keep being you zoe
I recently lost someone that I loved very, very much. It was a real shock because it was someone I thought of as invincible, and as someone who would always be there. This video really made me feel more secure in the sadness I've been experiencing, and less strange for all of the crying and singing I've been doing! I truly appreciate everything that was said. Thank you!
I feel like I've been stuck in a black hole of sadness for years now and seeing the comments here is kind of making me feel less alone.. Which should be good, right?
no matter what, know that you're never alone in anything. Everyone has earned a bad grade, had a bad breakup, experienced some sort of thing that makes you feel bad.
I love the title of this video. It is something I say to people often! 'It is okay to be sad' Go for it, sometimes you just need a good cry and that is okay!
This video is so useful :) 13 years back I lost my brother and I was really upset about it and i still am and everybody told me i am a fool to keep it still in my head. I do the same thing as Louise on September 17 i like to remain sad and i am so happy right now because i found out that i am not alone and that some feels the same a me and understands what my actions mean thank you :)
theres a difference between being sad....and hating yourself. Theres a difference between expressing your emotions...and making carvings into your skin.
This is, in my opinion, the main difference between depression and sadness: sadness is an EMOTION, it's triggered by a specific event or series of events (Louise is sad on the anniversary of her mother's death, for obvious reasons). Also, like all emotions, it's transitory and can go away with time and/or when its main cause it's sorted. On the other hand, depression is not an emotion: it's a clinical illness, a chemical imbalance in your brain that prevent you from experience reality in a "normal" way. So since it's a proper disease it can't go away unless treated with medicines and it's pointless and cruel to tell someone who suffers from it to "cheer up" or "think positive" because they just can't do it themselves, much like a stabbed person can't heal his wound by blowing air on it. So if you're sad, a positive attitude can really affect your mood and make you feel a lot better, but when you're depressed it won't go away unless you go and see a doctor first.
I felt sad for a very long time and got in a fight with my friends about it because I just wasn't happy anymore. Around that time i began to start watchting youtube, and I think that watching your videos have made me happier. My sadness disappeared thanks to you. So I wanted to thank you for that, cause you kind of made me the person I am today, and that is a happy person so thank you and I love you xx
It will be 6 weeks this coming Monday since i gave birth to my baby girl who was born silent. I was 40 weeks and 2 days pregnant with my first child and so excited to become a parent. My world was flipped upside down 6 weeks ago when my perfectly normal and healthy pregnancy turned into a nightmare and my baby's heartbeat could not be found. i find myself crying randomly or feeling so down and sometimes feel guilty for being sad. I feel like my sadness is a burden for my loved ones as they get so worried or seem so concerned when i feel sad. They have been super supportive but i still feel like i should stop being sad as time goes on. I do have days where i feel like i can be okay but then the sadness returns like a wave that drowns me. your video helped me to feel okay with being sad.... i guess i will have to deal with the sadness as it comes and allow myself to feel my loss and let it out. hopefully with time i will start to feel happy again.
I'm so sorry. :( Keep in mind though, your child is worth every single tear and every second of sadness. Sadness is really just a possible side effect of caring about something/someone. Own the sadness and do whatever you need because you and your baby are so worth it.
Fatima Alvi Remember, all your emotions will be magnified for quite awhile because of all the hormones your body is still dealing with and trying to rebalance. You should talk to your doctor about what is happening and get their advice and recommendations of where, what and who you could seek help for it. Maybe they will have some answers for you that they can help you with.
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Definitely look up some grief-specific things on google to read, particularly about the loss of a baby. There are some great forums that have other women dealing with the same thing posting, it may help to read about other's experiences similar to your's. This is something closer to what Louise feels about her mum, and not really a regular sadness like most people in the comments section are talking about. Grief is a really unique thing, and it won't ever leave you in your life, though it WILL get better as time goes on. X
LadyTrayce I know! Didn't mean it to come across differently at all. A child not physically there is still very much worth the hurt. Someone close to me gave birth to a stillborn and many people around her felt like it was wrong to be sad for so long because "her baby was never there". Ridiculous of course because the hurt is just as real. I guess that's what I was trying to validate with my comment. It's what really helped me personally when my best friend died. To remind myself of how worthy she was, and still is, of all of the pain I was feeling. It made me feel almost honoured to be hurting that much and made it more managable.
I was feeling really sad, so I did what Louise did and went to visit a friend at her uni. Had the best 3 days ever and I'm not sad anymore. Love you both xxxx
these videos are so helpful and I love watching them thank you I was happy when I found a old photo album thumbs up if you find these videos helpful ( to show zoe and louise how helpful these videos are .) please make more
I have recently started a new school and it's killing me. I feel hollow inside and I have no friends but to be honest I prefer being alone, it gives me time to think. I've started thinking that it's turning into depression. I have gone to the links below and I'm so glad you uploaded this video.
I actually feel the same as you do! I'm a quiet person who doesn't really have the same kind of confidence that other people have to go out and talk and make new friends, it just gives me huge anxiety. But I've realized that being alone isn't really the same as being lonely, because solitude can be a really nice thing :) I recently saw the video How To Be Alone by Andrea Dorfman and it completely changed my idea on the whole concept of being alone. Society pressures a lot of us to project ourselves out there and make a bunch of friends, but really, none of that is completely necessary. I started feeling depressed too about not having a bunch of friends, but that stemmed from the fact that I expected myself to have many friends just because a lot of other people did. Just get rid of that desire and expectation and you'll feel a lot happier with yourself, because putting yourself out there and forcing yourself to try and make friends just isn't natural for many of us. I've made a few close friends over the past year since moving to a new school, and just know that there are a lot of people just like you who feel the same way and will respect you, and you'll make friends with them in no time :)
I going through a really bad breakup right now and I have to see him everyday at school and it hurts so much!! thank you Zoe and Louise for this chummy chatter it really did help
I'm going through a break up too:/ I highly recommend bubble baths and vlogmas.It's hard and no one understands and that sucks but moving on just takes time. That's especially rough that you see him everyday. I hope you can heal and move on soon and with as minimal pain as possible. Keep your chin up, you've got a random stranger on the internet rooting for you :D
oh my.. that's just made my day:)!!! I hope you get over them soon too.. they are really not worth the heartbreak really but as Zoe and Louise said you have to be sad sometimes!! but also remember to be happy!! I'm rooting for you too!!!! do you have Twitter? I want to follow the stranger I'm rooting for haha
I'm so glad! That's what people do, they support each other when things get crappy. Thanks for the encouragement! We can totally do this. (With lots of tea and chocolate of course.) Fo sho you can have my twitter-@rebecca_jane44
Are you guys planning on doing a special video for Mental Health Awareness day which is on 10th October? Could be really helpful to a lot of sufferers like myself :) xx
My dad has been calling me really nasty names, and taking the mick about things I'm really sensitive about, and it's getting me really upset, but he doesn't care 😔 but I'm going to go and read Harry Potter and hopefully cheer up x
He might not know he's hurting you... Maybe he just doesn't know how to talk to you otherwise? Maybe it's just how boys in school are really mean to you if they like you... Anyway, I hope you can clear the situation and you feel better soon! Harry Potter would help me too :)
My dad used to be the same exact way :/ it was literally hell and was starting to make me depressed so I moved in with my mom. don't worry you can hang in there, it really does make you stronger I promise, I've been there.
Have a honest loving conversation with him and explain to him how it makes you feel when he calls you mean things or treats you like that. The worst that could happen is that the cycle continues right? But try to take a risk and take the chance that it may get better. In my opinion the worst thing you can do is to shut him out completely. I don't know your situation or if he's physically abusive but if he's trying to joke around, that may be his way of being uncomfortable showing affection. He might think he's being super funny, and he might not know it's hurtful until you talk to him.
Leniraeng Have you seen the movie "He's Just Not That Into You?" If not, I recommend it. When boys are mean, it's not because they like you. It's because they're jerks.
I had a mini existential crisis this week where I felt that there just wasn't anything I was really good at and I just felt really average at everything. And I always question whether or not I'm a good person and when I finally feel like I'm being myself I wonder whether 'myself' is good enough or not. Lol. This is probably just me...idk!?
I think the very fact that you want to be good means you're on the right track. You are not average! You are wonderful and greatly loved. But everyone gets days when they feel like crap and you just have to remember that every human life has value, yours included! There is no one and nothing that can remove that value from your life, that is your legal right as a human being. Chin up, love!
please could you do one on mental illness'/eating disorders and like, coping with them and how other people can deal with people with depression, anxiety, etc? love youuu
caitlin ford I never said they did? Do you not understand what I wrote? What I meant was that they are not doctors, they can't advice about mental health or eating disorders in general as they are not trained and can only talk from experience. Is that clearer?
They only really have experience (zoe) about anxiety I think, so obviously they won't be able to talk about it in terms of experience, they will only be able to get information from websites etc which other people can access anyway xx
Throughout my freshman year of high school, I've been so sad. And for multiple reasons. I've always been the mature one, somebody who doesn't get involved in drama, or somebody who doesn't ignore her friends for stupid reasons. I had to grow up quickly. I had to become older than I really am. And this year, everybody I knew changed, all in an instant. My friends changed. So much. And I wasn't ready for it. i began to feel used more so than I did before, because all anybody wanted from me was homework answers and advice. But now, at the end of the year, I'm realizing it was the shock of high school that made everybody around me change, and that the storm has passed. Now, two weeks before summer vacation starts, I'm the happiest I have ever been in my whole life. I'm so close with all my friends again. There's a guy that makes me feel special and I really like him. My dad is happy again. Every storm runs out of rain guys, just wait for it to pass
Thank you for this video - I am a Samaritans volunteer and it's really great to see you putting the message out about our service. I think people would be surprised to hear how many emails and calls we get every day from people who just feel sad. There is also a text number, which has even faster response times than the email service, which may be more accessible to people on here. Don't ever feel like you are a burden on someone for feeling sad - there is always someone to help you. You are never alone.
i have next to no friends and my mum is always disappointed in me (even though i try and do things to impress her and try my best at everything but obviously its not enough) and my mum and dad don't have a good relationship even though i live with them. the october and i haven't seen any of my friends since june. i have been sad for a very long time. I've also struggled with body image since i was 11 (I'm 18 now) and i think i have depression. so life is slightly crap right now. this week I've cried so much. i needed this video. thank you
OhKtDid thank you! i went to the school counsellor 3 times but i completed my last year of school so couldn't see her anymore. i think talking to a doctor is scary and i wouldn't know what to say :/
Macaroons I've tried talking to my mum, for years now. she doesn't listen and nothing changes. honestly, I've tried everything with my mum. nothing works. I've even tried to change myself for her to listen to me or to make like easier but nothing unfortunately works. i get so down when I'm at home but i have nowhere to go to. I'm so lonely and i feel like things aren't going to change anytime soon :(
Reading this makes me feel so sad, because even if it's not as bad for me as it seems that you have it, my life is going in a downhill spiral and I don't know how to stop it. Don't know why I'm writing this bc I can't really help you, but I do sincerely hope that things tturn up for you soon! Haha, wish I could just take you out for a coffee or something, but anyway, try to talk to someone :) xx
Something that made of happy; knowing that your going to continue vlogging because your vlogs makes me so happy weather they're 4 minutes long or 20 minutes long Something that made me sad; no one remembering my birthday and I no it a something stupid but it made me feel unwanted or unloved in a way
not even your family rememberd your birthday? If I knew you then I would remember:) Happy Late Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 You deserve all the birthday wishes in the whole world xxxxxxxxxxxx
I've just moved from home and the other evening I joined my new neighbors, students like me, hanging around. Most of the time I felt really uncomfortable and knew that I didn't really fit in. This made me very sad and I thought that I'm doing something wrong, or that my character is basically odd. But right now I am trying to make myself believe that it is not my fault if I am different from others. As long as I am myself and generally nice to people, there is nothing wrong with me. And if I'm not gonna be close friends with my neighbors, that's fine, too. Does anyone agree?
Being different is a great thing and it's okay that these people are not going to be your best friends, you moved away, you will have so many great opportunities to find new friends and go out and have fun in life. I wish you a greeeat life! :)
i feel the same way. it's okay. i have a group of friends and they're all considered "the populars". meanwhile, i'm just the outsider. i feel left out, but i just have to remember that deep down they care about me. there's nothing wrong with you at all. there's nothing wrong with anyone for that matter. just remember that everyone is different from one another, and everyone is going to think everyone else is weird, and that's okay. just remember that you're you, and that's normal. (:
something that's made me really sad lately is all the stress i've been having from school. i have 8 classes, including an online class, and it's all so difficult to keep up with. i've failed so many tests and quizzes and various different classes, only bc i never have time to study while also trying to get enough sleep at night. it's only the first month of my sophomore year in high school and i just feel like giving up, which i obviously can't do. i'm still trying to figure how to balance all of my work. BUT on the other have, things that have made me happy are my wonderful friends and of course youtube :)
i know how you're feeling. it's extremely difficult to keep up your grades, and also adding on actually having a life outside of school is difficult to add on to it. what i normally do, is for the days i have homework, i work on it for two hours. and then the next hour i watch youtube videos to help me get out of the stress, and i switch off on and on. classes are hard, but they always will be. no matter what. just keep your head up. don't give up. you may feel like school may not matter, and it might not, but you don't know that, and you don't want to take the risk. you can do this. i can believe in you. xx
I've graduated from high school and honestly from what I have learned over the past four years, it's okay to fail as long as you learn from your mistakes. I successfully graduated and now in college. Which I thought I would have never done considering how many test and quizzes I failed. Don't give up, your high school years will get better! You can do it!
Korean students stay more than 8 hours at school. :D and we go to academies. We back hom at 11 or 12. Do homework til 2. Go to bed at 2:30 and wake up at 6
I am also a sophomore who is taking a lot of classes, is on the volleyball team, and is apart of the school play. I know it's hard to juggle all of this, plus friends, but you just have to calm down and say that everything is okay
Louise and Zoe you're just so genuine and have to be the cutest friends ever❤️❤️ I'm a RUclipsr from Ireland and I send my love to you from across the waters!💕
I love how we all come together. It just goes to show. We are not alone. It's things like this that really proves that Zoe and Louise are truly lovely people. It makes me feel better every-time watching Zoe and Louise. I have a "pick-me-up" playlist for everytime I need a cry, and then to listen to words of wisdom and then end with some great songs!
"The thing about pain is it demands to be felt." -Augustus Waters, TFIOS
Don't make me cry again
Haha sorry! My roommate just bought the DVD last month and we were both wrecks!
You should of seen me and my best friend in the cinema.... we were hugging eachother and crying our eyes out and laughing really loud... :D
GET OUT.
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As shitty as it is, sometimes we need to feel sadness to appreciate the good things in our lives that we sometimes overlook or take for granted. I've been through many situations where I think .. I'm never going to get through this, but you know what .. we do! We are a lot stronger than we think. Your message is so true, it is okay to feel sad, but just don't wallow in it for too long. Whether it's going to the beach, watching your favourite movie, chatting to a friend, whatever it takes .. do something to make yourself feel better. It's a process, and after sadness comes happiness! There are many help lines as well, so no-one should ever feel alone xx
Thank you :) x
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I love your videos Karma
perfectly said x love your cooking chanel it is brill.
Alice F thank you so much x
Yayayay I'm glad you uploaded this! I hope this video makes people feel nice :) xxx
Did you see my comment, I suggested that you both do a video about feeling confident with your face :) Sprinkleofglitter
This has really made my day!
i love it!!! love youse lots and lots x
Could you please do another one on dealing with friends through self harm. Please this has really been bringing me down for a lot of months now xx ily both
glad you made it:)
My grandmother remembered me when I went to visit her on Monday. She has altzeimers
Good for you and your grandma!
Thank you
Congrats 💖
caroline lockwood that is so lovely. my grandfather had alzheimers and i know how difficult it is. i only wish i had the opportunity to go and visit him x
My nan has the exact same illness and can't remeber any of her children, she can remeber three people in my family and I am one of them, this makes my life seem more purposeful I know it sounds weird but it is the truth xxxx
The RUclips community is amazing. If anyone is ever going through something, it is there for you. It's crazy how many people are affected by so many things. Some of it is curable, sometimes it's not. But there are always people who want to help. And no, I'm not just talking about bullshit therapists who'll just prescribe you some drugs after 'listening' for an hour and then never contact you again, I'm talking about real people who have been through or are going through the same thing as you. We can share remedies and recipes and laugher. I sure do love the RUclips community!
well said
go to Rooster Teeth. Jesus Christ the community sucks there.
I totally agree. I see you around a lot and your comments are always the best! Finally checked out your channel - your videos are really good. I subbed :)
RUclips gives so many people incredibly wonderful opportunities! Giving "ordinary" people a chance at Fame! :)
I don't cry in front of people or let other people know I am sad including friends and family because I know they can't do anything about it and I feel like I am just just going to make them sad or down, but as soon as I am alone I completely break down... maybe I should I just let the sad happen when it happens and not try to control it as much.
this is exactly the same with me, i feel like if i break down in font of my family then they will get sad that im sad and i know theres nothing they can do to help me
Yeah try it and your family and friends can help you they might not get the reason why you're sad solved but they can help you get over it very well they're your family and friends they help you
It's always good to let the people you trust know how you feel. Like your best friend so you don't feel alone and feel that your feelings are wrong. People care about you and how you're feeling!! They want to be there for you. Don't fret to reach out.
I can so relate to this, I do it because i come across as such a confident person but I'm really not because if I was I would be making RUclips videos but I too scared of what people might think of me so I stuck with making slide shows of my favorite youtubers with less than 200 view per video like that just goes to show how not confident I am
I do this all the time. My dad passed away last year and I find things so hard and I don't want to cry in front of others, I'm not even sure why, but then when I get home say, I just cry I'm here with you and no one is ever along on something like this
I completely agree with everything you two said.
A few months ago I went through a really harsh breakup and I literally cried every day, I couldn't eat, and I spend days in bed. I didn't want to tell anybody because I thought it'd just hurt more, eventually I told my mum ( since I don't have any friends ) and she completely understood and every time I was done crying she took me out to walks instead of letting me stay in bed all day. THEN, she took me on a trip to San Diego to sort of just get away from everything and it was the nicest thing ever. I think the crying all stopped during that trip and I really thought I'd never get over this break up. Now it feels like nothing, I mean it still hurts if I think about it but I don't feel like crying over it. I finally feel like myself again, although it took months!
depression is a real thing, its not something you can debate about whether or not it exists. its a medical condition that's been proven. its a chemical imbalance and actually affects certain parts of the brain. please don't say you "dont believe in it" because that could hurt a lot of people
Depression isn't about "being sad". It's more than that. Breakups happen to everyone. Depression is a proven thing due to a chemical inbalance.
Don't get me wrong, I've been diagnosed with Psychotic Depression for over 4 years, by different specialist as well. I just don't believe that there is anything wrong with me, just my opinion. It's okay for everybody else to have their own opinion as well.
Aww bless you. You just have to remember that everyone goes through heartbreak at one point in life. You wont be the first and you defiantly wont be the last. I have been through heartbreak also and it is one of the worst pains so I can totally understand. It's so nice your mum was there for you and its good you eventually told someone as it prob would of made you feel worse for not saying anything. Just remember there is plenty more fish in the see!! :-) xxxx
Hi, I don't know you or anything, but I hope that boy was even more distraught because he lost YOU. btw, depression is real, and very very serious!
bring back chummy chatter!!
Yeah it really helps !!!!
+natalieloves13
yeah !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah it does help
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yassssss
i can't remember the last time i cried because i was sad. i cry when i get very, very angry. after i've gone through the red mist phase of destructing everything in my path. then i'll have a cry and calm down.
Wow... U justice described my pattern of anger....
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Im exactly the same as that xxx
Marcella Murray i get angry so quickly too, i think i could be hormones and stuff like that too tbh xxx
tbh i don't think it's just hormones.. everyone has hormones. i can't speak for the rest of you guys but mine is defo a bigger problem than just hormones. i've been referred to anger management before. i really think crying is good for people that get angry though..it's just the only way to get relief. smashing things up doesn't give you that same relief as letting your guard down and crying it out.
If you are feeling sad today hold your hand over your heart. You feel that beating? That's called a purpose. YOU are here for a reason. Sending lots of love to every person feeling sad today.. We will all get through it! Xx
who else thinks louise looks absolutely amazing in this?
Me - i love her hair ! x
I think they both look stunning xx
She always looks amazing (: even Zoe 😍
She looks gorgeous😍😍
She always does 👌
Does anyone else just suddenly feel sad sometimes for no reason
yeh
Drama Llama yeh idk why just do
Drama Llama s100%
Drama Llama yeah quite a lot
all the time
my mum died a couple weeks ago before my 14th birthday from a fire accident, and i just wanted to say how amazing you both are and how you're helping me through this time
Stay Strong x
You've got not only Zoe and Louise but all off their supporters behind you. Life is hard and bad things happen to wonderful people. I cant imagine losing someone so close, and I hope and pray you stay strong. If you ever need a thing this community is the best support group in the world. My heart goes out to you Daisy.
Even though I don't know you, I'm so proud of you for being able to go through this. You are truly inspiring
cballetlife365 that is so sweet, all of you; thankyou but its people like you supporting strangers who are the real inspirations
I feel like, if you would never feel sad you can't appreciate the good moments. If you never have a bad day or bad moment you can't enjoy all the good moments as much.
That's so true
That's so true
+Sarah Goemans. U are really wiseeeeee and amazing, dont forget that!
+Daniela Rojas Thank you!
U are so right
I don't know if I will keep this comment or delete it but this Monday I am going to my local doctor about feeling sad and I am terrified, I have dealt with all sorts in my life the main thing being self harm, being anxious and addiction and I have finally found the courage to ask for help thanks to this video and other ones, the main thing I am scared of is actually being diagnosed with something because that means it is a real thing... But yeah I don't know if I will keep this comment up but I just want to thank you for giving me the courage to ask for help
Honestly don't worry. It probably seems big and scary right now but if you do get diagnosed then the wonderful thing is you'll be on the road to getting help and hopefully you will no longer feel this way, at least so often. Don't be scared or worried, and also don't forget that you are valid and what you feel is valid. Just try to take it as it comes ( I know how hard that is for an anxious person). I'm extremely proud of you for speaking up and taking charge or your health and wellbeing. Good luck beautiful xx
Jay La thank you so much for those kind words, they mean a lot
Hey it's gonna be alright don't be scared or sad trust me everything will be alright be positive ^_^
Don't worry :) you have made a really good decision to go and see a doctor, if you get diagnosed it will help you understand more and it will help you. I was diagnosed with something when I went to the doctors and it only benefited me. I believe in you and you are extremely brave for taking action about your wellbeing. It will only get better :)xx
Thank you all for the kind words :) it means a lot
My dad died last year and zoe has made me happy ever since
This week has been a happy one for me as my amazing grandfather turned 99 years old!!!
That's amazing! Good for him!!
Ahh that's cool! Congrats!
oh wow that's amazing, congratulations!!!!
Awh congrats
This week my boyfriend had a stroke - with 25 years. Yes, I'm sad. And angry. Angry that he has to go through a hard time again, although he went trough a really tough time 2 years ago.
But: I'm also grateful, that he is alive and still with me.
I think it is healthy to be sad and so important. Don't be afraid of being sad. Let it all out. You all have a right to feel sad.
thinking of you both and hoping for a speedy and strong recovery for him xx
God bless you both. I'm praying for you x
Well done for being strong. I hope he makes a full recovery and I'm glad he is still in this world with you 😊
Whenever I'm sad, I watch my favorite RUclipsrs
Love you guys!:)
Charlie Allen innit!
Hi five! It always calms me down when I'm either pissed or feeling down :D
LOVE YA VIDS JEN
I watch Louise and Tyler talking about shitting their pants, or Tyler and Mamrie doing Edward 40 Hands and they make me laugh so much and it's wonderful!
much needed. I've just been feeling kind of down lately and I don't really know why I've been feelin like that.
this week I was really sad because I did very poorly on my maths test and I was very worried my mum would find out and be disappointed but she completely understood and wasn't annoyed and im am very grateful to have an amazing mum like that : )
That the same as me! I done really bad in my chemistry! Any tips on how to move on and stay calm , I'm really struggling :(
youtube4life Just try to look at everything as either a success or a lesson,at least now you know what you need to work on and what will help you in the future :) xx
youtube4life Just remember that in the long run of your life (and even in just a few weeks or months from now) that one test or homework won't matter at all. If you know you've done your best and you keep working hard, everything will work out. It's okay to feel disappointed, but make sure you use it in a positive way to try and do better next time! You too, Jean! :)
My dad passed away 4 years ago, and I still get very sad sometimes because I miss him very much. But I then think, I don't think I should be sad anymore because so much time has passed and it seems as though everyone else has moved on from it. This really helped me to find that it is okay for me to still be sad about it.
My dad died 6 years ago and i still get sad but It will get better I promise x
Olivia Magorrian thank you:))
My dad past away last week. It's nice to know people have been through the same thing as me 😘
If you need to talk about anything im here :)
kittenaround I know how you feel, My very close brother passed away 4 years ago when I was 6. All the children in my class laugh about it and i get really upset :(
You should do a chummy chatter about being happy with your face like you said Zoe 'Your skin doesn't define you' that would help millions of people, I can just tell
YES! OMG that would help soo many people! Please do that Zoe and Louise, it's a great idea! X
That would be great 👍💖
Please do more Chummy Chatters! I love you two so much!
chummy chatter needs to return
yes
I really appreciate you guys addressing subjects that other RUclipsrs don't, especially because you both have such a large following and seem genuine with everything you talk about.
I suffered with depression and anxiety from the ages 14-18. When I was starting high school, my dad had a motor bike incident and shattered his elbow. Because he enjoyed physical activity and sports and his elbow limited him, he suffered with depression and almost committed suicide. The thought of someone so close to me almost committing suicide, especially when I had never lost anyone or been exposed to that, played on my mind and I was sad all the time. By the age of 14, I was being bullied everyday. I knew I wasn't just sad - I was depressed. I was cutting because I felt like I deserved to feel even more pain and I avoided my family and school. I reached out to my mum one day and asked if she could take me to the doctor because I thought I had depression but she told me she didn't want to hear it because she was still dealing with it with my dad. Eventually, they divorced and my depression never seemed to be an issue. They knew I was sad, they knew I had changed and they knew I was scared and angry and anxious about EVERYTHING. It wasn't until I was 17 that I accidentally exposed three large cuts on my wrist to my mother. She took this as me being stupid and took me to a doctor and a therapist. Even though I was taken to a therapist and put on medication for "being stupid and harming myself", speaking to somebody that didn't know me and didn't have the right to judge me lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. I am now 19 and off my medication. I am a happier person and am no longer in as much pain as I was. I still get sad and anxious, but that's natural.
Thank you Zoe and Louise. You are excellent role models.
I got depression and I feel like most people don't get how I feel sometime like my friends and family always tell me to cheer up if I'm having a down day and then when I am happy people always say that I lie about having depression. cos i have depression doest mean I can't be happy and if you think that about people who got depression just know that we are happy sometime
i get how you feel just ignore them xxxx
I do try and do that but it gets hard at time lilly jo xxx
it dose i no how you feel im hear for u tho some times you get the feeling that everyone's agenced u xxxxx Niamhy Cakes
Aww thanks you and I'm always hear aswell xxx lilly jo
Can I get a amen! Omg I can relate we all have our happy days but that doesn't mean the sad ones don't count
My Mum passed away 18 years ago (Im only 19)... and even though I don't remember her, or remember anything from when she was around... I still get sad, and all my friends are just so super supportive about it, and I couldn't thank them enough for just being there!
I'm so glad your continuing this! Can't wait to meet you at your live show in Northampton Louise! Love you both
When I'm sad I watch this video and it makes it better.
It's my birthday today and I've been feeling ill and tired and just generally not quite right all day. My flatmate took me to breakfast this morning which was so sweet of her. My boyfriend then came to see me with hugs and gifts and understood when I said I don't feel up to going to dinner tonight that I cried for a good hour at how understanding and supportive he was being. They made home made soup for me and we've been watching back to back films all day and I feel a bit better now. Love you Zoe and Louise so much. Keep doing what you're doing, you are an inspiration to so, so many people. Much love. Xxx
Happy birthday! Get well soon, ily ♥️
Happy birthday
Happy birthday!
what makes me happy is YOU Zoe! your smile, your laugh, you bubblines, your kindness, your big heart, and your love for people. you are so happy most of the times and very cheerful and just watching you makes me feel so happy, you never fail to make me laugh or smile. you inspire me to live happily through everything in life and give me hope that their are still genuinely amazing people such as yourself in this world.so thank you..
I LOVE YOU ZOE SUGG
Abbie
PLZ GIVE IT THUMBS UP SO ZOE CAN SEE IT
I'm so glad you guys have carried this on! It helps me and I'm sure lots of others!!:3
Hey tom
Hey tom xxxx keep this goin!!!!
This helped me so much. A friend of mine passed away on Sunday due to a drunk driver. This week has been tough and this helped me realize it's okay to be sad. Thank you Zoe.
You and your friend are both in my prayers.
Thank you.
Zoe&Louise!
something that has made me sad recently, not just this week but for the past few is bullying, I've been bullied and it's hard but I'm not going to go on about it because something that has cheered me up might sound silly but I'm so happy you (Zoe) have carried on vlogging through October as watching your videos help me forget about everything! so thank you so much xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Please talk to someone about it, dear :/
Don't pay attention to them honey, don't care what people think, because people don't think xo
I recently found out something and it shattered my heart. I just felt so down even before I found out the truth because I couldn't stop thinking about that person. No matter how much music I listened to, it didn't help. So i need a good cry, hugs and pizza after this video. I always come to this video when I'm sad because it reminds me that it is okay to feel down and upset about things
I'm going through a lot right now and I just come back to this, it's not helping as much now though and I have no idea why
im someone that holds in my emotions, im in university and i live in a flat with all of my best friends and as much as i love them, we have so much fun sometimes its difficult to be sad and to really let those emotions flow because someone is always cheering you up. Needless to say, during this video i just let rip, im crying right now reading this just letting go of everything. thankyou. thanks so much i really needed that cry!
Maybe you could try going for a walk when you feel you want to let it all out? Put your headphones in and go into your own world. I no that helps me :) Xxxxx
i completely understand, you hold in your emotions but then they build up and boil over untill you cant cope any longer. what i do then is do whatever makes you feel slightly better, i know that sounds stupid and obvious but things like dont force yourself to do work or to do any chores, simply curl up in a duvet and watch telly or anything you want, cuddle your dog or eat ice cream untill that feeling subsides a little. i hope you are ok x
I think it's so important for friends to remain in joys and in sorrows. I bet that some of your friends may be feeling the same way, like they can't let their emotions out! Maybe try talk to one of your room mates and she what she think?
thankyou all so much for these comments they really made me feel alot better! you're all so lovely! x
It's currently 3:45am in Australia and I'm up because my anxiety is not treating me well today. My 2 psychologists are unable to give me "help" because my anxiety symptoms are to severe so I'm living every day depressed/sad. This video has just put a smile on my face I love you too so much!! 💗 thank you xx
You can do anything. Stay strong and never give up. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
Know that you are called to do something great. You have such a big power to make the world a better place. Remember that! Make goals! What gets you passionate? Chase after it wholeheartedly! I'm rooting for you!!
Stay strong beautiful person ♡
You guys just made my day thank you so much 💗
I want to thank you for this video :) Its good to hear those things, cause like you said.. no one tells you if this is a depression or only sadness in teenager time..
And I think.. looking back, it was a depression, and I felt like no one understands me and everybody just laugh at me about it, or didn't took that serious cause I was that 'young' . So I got out of it cause I had many good people by my side who helped me and I think if somebody hasn't this good people even this video would help and make them feel secure like it makes ME feel. I think its even a proper phase of girls.. i think boys doesn't have those times often, so its important to tell those girls, that they aren't crazy or anything and that it even would be good to have a doctor and that this doesn't mean you need to go to asylum or that you're totally crazy...
Its okay to be sad, it will be a time where you will learn and take lessons and it will be hard but afterwards you feel better and you realize it was good to have had this time :)
I totally agree with you, people downplay teen depression a lot to the 'hormonal changes' and don't listen when a lot of kids are in need of support and help and love. We're constantly told when upset and depressed to 'snap out of it' but its important that every feeling is validated. We are always told to go to the Dr if we get a cold, or hurt out leg, its the same with our minds :) we should go talk to a Dr if our minds don't feel right! It sounds like you are made much stronger for your experience Kerstin and I'm sure that your story will help loads more people too! x
***** Thank you for your lovely comment! I am so happy, that the internet gives opportunities to talk about things like that and that it will help!
Definitely, its important to voice our thoughts and opinions, and I think its so important when it comes to Mental health because it just doesn't get talked about in the same way. :) I hope your future is bright and filled with love x
You're an amazing person to have somewhat conquered depression. I wish I could be like you 💞
Rachel Black Oh gosh no :D theres nothing about me you want to be like :)
If you love yourself, you are much happier! You can decide who you want to be...
My dad passed away a year and a half ago, I've had some trouble with myself and now I feel it coming back again. I don't really know who to tell, because I feel like nobody will understand me. I've always tried to help myself but now I feel like I might be losing it again... And don't want to :( I've a best friend, but she won't be able to help me. And I know, only with her ears she could help me because I would be telling someone how I feel but I just don't think that's enough. How do I stop feeling so sad? Like, all the time?
This video is great, you girls are amazing, thank you for everything you do,
Hello Nali, and the key is to not stop yourself from being sad but it's to be able to cope and it feels like you still have no figured out exactly how to deal with this sadness. My dad died over 5 years ago and I just wanted to say that this emotion is normal and it needs to be felt. It's only healthy for you
Today is the 3rd year anniversary of my grampas death. I was super close to him and can't stop crying thinking that i will never get to hug him again. But feeling sad and remembering him reminds me of all the memories and it makes me feel honored to have had him in my life!
Rip💖
Stay strong
HeyCharlotteHere Thank you! I'm trying :)
My grandad died 2 weeks ago and I just feel so sad because he always used to tell me stories and stuff and now he can't. But I know that in time it will get better
shauna linay I stoped eating for a few months when it happened i lost soo much weight, i just want to let you know that even normal activities like eating might feel impossible, it will only make it worse so try to look after your self, and yea i suppose time helps come to term with the loss and talking about it really does, the pain of losing him will never go away though! Youre stronger than you think and life has to go on
I've been sad for three years.. think it's time for the "talk to someone" thing.. Even tho someone smiles and laughs, doesn't mean they aren't sad inside.. That is one thing that annoys me! Just because I am able to laugh at stuff I find funny, I'm "overreacting" at the whole sad thing.. No, I'm not... I've just learned how to smile and laugh in a way that makes people think I'm okay and that I'm not sad..
hey, I know what you meant, I also do tht sometimes.. just saying that you are okay when you´re definitely not.. but if you want to talk with someone anytime I could be that person if you want :) just saying!
Go talk to someone because u deserve to be happy and people will listen
aw, I know what you mean. Go and seek some help, you'll feel much much better when you do! You deserve to be happy again! People will be more supportful than you think! xxx
Please discuss confidence. As I find this quite difficult 💖
Yes!👼It's good to know I'm not the only one🌟✨
Yeah I agree, once I was meant to do this talent show but I got on was sick and ran of stage crying this would really help!! 😊👍👍
'really' difficult*
+ICUPinfrontofme what are you doing with your life? And actually no need to correct her grammar as there was nothing wrong with it.
Leah Oliver i wasn't offending her at all. i was just saying as for me, it is not just quite difficult, it is really difficult. i did not point any fingers or try to correct her, please dont generalize things
I wanted to cry when I saw this I felt sad because so many people are sad and happy because you took time out of your day to tell people they're not alone that someone actually cares . Thank you
who wants to use #BringBackChummyChatter to get it trending so lou and Zoe bring them back!!
Yes! 😊
Yes
Best idea👏👏👏👏👏
+LR cooking ...My birthday on the 20th December.... :( 2:30
hell yeah✊✊✊
You two are so beautiful on the inside and out!
Zoe just saw your advert for youtube!! You touch everyone of our lives. You effect millions of people's lives! Proud of you..
what advert?
I cant really explain it you have to say it.. she just says about how it has changed her life and she is like 'sometimes I have to pinch myself to see if I'm awake' and yeah clips of her videos and stuff and it's an advert for youtube.. I saw it on E4..
*see
Lizzie Campbell omg same
this video made me cry especially when Louise started talking about her mum, just made me realise that lifes too short & you never know whats going to happen, tell your family & friends how much they mean to you bc everything can change in a split second
i'm just really happy that i got through the past week without any panic attacks. that's a pretty big achievement for me so yeah :)
Last year I had a period of "prolonged sadness" (not sure whether to actually call it depression) that lasted several months. My grades dropped-not dramatically but I really had very little desire to care about my grades-and I drifted from my friends a lot. I had no one really to talk to so I never told anyone about it. I'm still recovering from that and I still haven't told anyone about how I was feeling but I want to tell someone, even though a part of me says that it wasn't even a big deal and I should just leave at that. I've been trying so hard to do better this year and to stop feeling sad and to get closer to my friends again and to do things that make me happy but it's hard sometimes. Thank you for making this video, you two never fail to cheer me up (:
It's great that you were 'depressed' and you realised it eventually (better late than never) which is great because it means that you know what you need to talk about and it may be hard sometimes but that's when you know that you your grieving or what was making you feel down is starting to release but you have a little bit more to go.
Lately I have been feeling the same way, I don't know why or what it is but it has been starting to take over my life. The same sort of things are happening, grades have dropped and although I still feel close to my friends I feel like they are completely oblivious to how I am feeling. Does it just start going away or does it become worse? Thanks for leaving this comment, I'm starting to think that someone understands :)
Soph B To you it's obvious you're feeling sad and you think it's obvious for your friends as well but believe me, it's not! You probably think that they just don't care but I think they just don't even realize how sad you are. I speak from experience because I only have 1 friend that knows how I feel because I told them. All my other good friends and my family don't have a clue of how I feel. I even look/looked happy, confident and social when inside I was non of these things. So you have to tell your friends or at least one of your friends that you trust the most.
EllyBorrie Thank you so much for this reply, I'm thinking about telling someone now. The main problem I have is that I feel as though they will always try to protect me or stop behaving as they usually do around me! Do you think that will happen or am I just talking myself out of it???
I'm dreading Christmas this year as it is the first Christmas without my grandad, thanks for helping me come to terms with it :( xx
Stay strong just think of him in a positive way xx
I'm so sorry for your granddad
My first christmas without grandad too. I know what your going through. Stay strong x
Aww I hope things do get better for you..I feel the same way about my dad he passed away recently and his birthday is 4 days before Christmas :/ Good luck with everything though.
It is the same for me too, we will all be strong together, I will if you will ;) x
I'm rewatching this as a help for my current sadness, the second it started I felt a bit better. Thanks again.
I have this one place near where I live that I go EVERY TIME I feel sad, it's the best place and helps me soooo much
I just sit there and think and stare and somehow it's just makes me feel so much better
That's what I do as well
Since everybody is writing something I feel like I really just want to comment how I feel, so basically, I have a lot of insecurities, especially with my body, since everybody keeps telling my that my skin is ugly, or also that my legs are to thick and stuff like that. Also, I don't really miss the relationship with my ex boyfriend, but I miss being friends with him, I miss talking to him the way we were talking and laughing. Now we can't talk without his awkward (I'm sorry, but we can't fall in love again face) I miss just talking to him, talking to his friends, without one of these awkward moments. I miss being the way I was because I changed a lot over the past few months, I feel like I've become less of a good friend, I feel like I'm back in 2012, the year I used to cry a lot. Funny thing, that was actually the year I've started my youtube channel and I never found something that ever made me happier. Everytime I feel like I want to escape from this world I make a new video, everytime I film video I feel better. I'm still insecure, I feel like I have a huge bag full with mistakes I made I carry with me all the time, I ask myself "what if..." way to often. But I also feel like if I would tell anybody my bag would become less heavy...that's probably the reason I comment here... I now this text is confusing, but I just wanted to say that all. I wanted to talk about everything I feel in a video, too, but I am too shy...maybe I will someday. Thank you for reading if you read that...wow
Thank you for that video Zoe and Louise, I love you, your videos always light up my day:)
Everybody has insecurities, so I have no idea why you're saying it as if it's strange:) people who put other people down are metaphorically trying to drag themselves up, if that makes sense. They like to feel above everything, even if that means shoving everyone down beneath them (through putting them down)
I have felt a similar way concerning your relationship. Sucks doesn't it? Sometimes feelings fade, sometimes they leave completely, but you'll always have the memories with you of what happened, and at the time you were happy (which is *great*) so you shouldn't regret it, but at the same time if you're living in the past it's almost impossible to concentrate on the present - or more importantly the future!
Everybody goes through changes, and it makes you no less of a good friend if you're experiencing them because *you cannot help it*. At the end of the day, above everything else, what matters the most is *you*. If you're happy. And if you're not, ask yourself why, and then it's alright to alter your life slightly if it means you're getting away from the things that made you sad.
Sorry this reply took so long but I hope it helps you feel better, remember to smile:)
Ps. Good luck with your channel, subscribed!
Kaz Montante Thank you so much for your long reply it really means a lot to me that you took your time to read my text and write this one...♡ and yes it makes me feel a lot better just thank you so much! I honestly don't know what to write, I feel like thank you isn't enough, but I don't know what to say else. So one last time thank you for your answer and everything you said, I am really trying to be more positive now and I'll try to forget ...this is the present, every day and everything I do decides how my future will be...and I want to make the best out of it :) thank you so much!
And thank you also for subscribing btw that's so nice of you :)
Thank you for reading my text and answering and I wish you all the best too, since you have gone through the same :) Thank you again for subscribing this also means a lot :) and I hope you have a wonderful day
you Should Always Accept And Be Happy With YOURSELF. You don't look ugly bc God made you beautiful !! That guy who left you, is going to regret it. Bc he lost a really amazing girl & we may not be perfect, but we have to embrace our flaws. God bless C:
This helped me so much. I am 10 and have anxiety. Also, My bff hangs out with a popular girl. I hang out with her, but I don't feel as if she takes me as a friend. She has loads of friends and that's why I feel like sometimes I'm invisible. My other friends don't talk / accept me as a friend. I feel left out and I have panic attacks at least once every day. But watching your and Alfie's videos they make me happier. I love you so much and I hope you know that. I'm literally crying because of how you make me happy everyday. It's you that makes me smile. It's you that encourages me to go outside. It's you that makes me live my life. It's you that stops me from suicide. It's you that helps my everything.(Btw I'm on my friends account) My names Grace Thompson and and my survivor of life is Zoella ( Zoe Sugg)
This week has been a mighty rough one for me and watching this has really helped. I want to thank the both of you for always allowing me to feel like I have somewhere to be myself and completely open with my thoughts and feelings. And for making me smile when it sometimes feels like nothing or no one can. xx
You have to feel sad to feel happiness!
Then you won't know whats happy or sad! :D
Thats so true
It's exactly like the quote "To have happy days, you need bad/sad days" or something hehe - you can't be happy all the time but once you're sad, trust me, you'll be happy in no time
I agree! :D Perfect! Thank You!!Olivia Shi
And this, my friends, was how inside out was made...
Oh my god I was thinking the exact same thing whilst watching it!!! X
You could not have uploaded this on a better day. Thank you!
I'm sad I'm leaving primary school and not just that I'm leaving the people who I have grown up with and who made me the girl I am today. But watching BOTH your videos has made me HAPPY!!! I had a big long cry in class today and I feel much better. Thank you Zoe + Louise. Xxxxx +Zoe +Louise
I definetly believe that wallowing and crying is an important part of recovering/feeling better. Bottling is never any good.
Pain demands to be felt.
THE FAULT IN OUR STARS ... TEH FAULTTT IN OUR STARTSTSTSTAS
zoe , do you know what ? You are one of the most real people in my life , and I know you are not the person your anxiety makes you feel , keep being you zoe
I recently lost someone that I loved very, very much. It was a real shock because it was someone I thought of as invincible, and as someone who would always be there. This video really made me feel more secure in the sadness I've been experiencing, and less strange for all of the crying and singing I've been doing! I truly appreciate everything that was said. Thank you!
How many of you replayed the start? I know I did
I did
I did
I did
i completely did
I feel like I've been stuck in a black hole of sadness for years now and seeing the comments here is kind of making me feel less alone.. Which should be good, right?
It is good! Team Internet can really be your therapist during the crappiest times :)
Yes or at least your getaway from reality
your not alone Elena :)
no matter what, know that you're never alone in anything. Everyone has earned a bad grade, had a bad breakup, experienced some sort of thing that makes you feel bad.
i feel you
Thank you so much to both of you for making this video :)
I love the title of this video. It is something I say to people often! 'It is okay to be sad' Go for it, sometimes you just need a good cry and that is okay!
This video is so useful :) 13 years back I lost my brother and I was really upset about it and i still am and everybody told me i am a fool to keep it still in my head. I do the same thing as Louise on September 17 i like to remain sad and i am so happy right now because i found out that i am not alone and that some feels the same a me and understands what my actions mean thank you :)
someone*
theres a difference between being sad....and hating yourself. Theres a difference between expressing your emotions...and making carvings into your skin.
This is, in my opinion, the main difference between depression and sadness: sadness is an EMOTION, it's triggered by a specific event or series of events (Louise is sad on the anniversary of her mother's death, for obvious reasons). Also, like all emotions, it's transitory and can go away with time and/or when its main cause it's sorted. On the other hand, depression is not an emotion: it's a clinical illness, a chemical imbalance in your brain that prevent you from experience reality in a "normal" way. So since it's a proper disease it can't go away unless treated with medicines and it's pointless and cruel to tell someone who suffers from it to "cheer up" or "think positive" because they just can't do it themselves, much like a stabbed person can't heal his wound by blowing air on it. So if you're sad, a positive attitude can really affect your mood and make you feel a lot better, but when you're depressed it won't go away unless you go and see a doctor first.
I felt sad for a very long time and got in a fight with my friends about it because I just wasn't happy anymore. Around that time i began to start watchting youtube, and I think that watching your videos have made me happier. My sadness disappeared thanks to you. So I wanted to thank you for that, cause you kind of made me the person I am today, and that is a happy person so thank you and I love you xx
It will be 6 weeks this coming Monday since i gave birth to my baby girl who was born silent. I was 40 weeks and 2 days pregnant with my first child and so excited to become a parent. My world was flipped upside down 6 weeks ago when my perfectly normal and healthy pregnancy turned into a nightmare and my baby's heartbeat could not be found. i find myself crying randomly or feeling so down and sometimes feel guilty for being sad. I feel like my sadness is a burden for my loved ones as they get so worried or seem so concerned when i feel sad. They have been super supportive but i still feel like i should stop being sad as time goes on. I do have days where i feel like i can be okay but then the sadness returns like a wave that drowns me. your video helped me to feel okay with being sad.... i guess i will have to deal with the sadness as it comes and allow myself to feel my loss and let it out. hopefully with time i will start to feel happy again.
I'm so sorry. :( Keep in mind though, your child is worth every single tear and every second of sadness. Sadness is really just a possible side effect of caring about something/someone. Own the sadness and do whatever you need because you and your baby are so worth it.
dietcokewithcherry Umm...she isn't talking about normal post-partum depression...her baby was stillborn. :(
Fatima Alvi Remember, all your emotions will be magnified for quite awhile because of all the hormones your body is still dealing with and trying to rebalance. You should talk to your doctor about what is happening and get their advice and recommendations of where, what and who you could seek help for it. Maybe they will have some answers for you that they can help you with.
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Definitely look up some grief-specific things on google to read, particularly about the loss of a baby. There are some great forums that have other women dealing with the same thing posting, it may help to read about other's experiences similar to your's. This is something closer to what Louise feels about her mum, and not really a regular sadness like most people in the comments section are talking about. Grief is a really unique thing, and it won't ever leave you in your life, though it WILL get better as time goes on. X
LadyTrayce I know! Didn't mean it to come across differently at all. A child not physically there is still very much worth the hurt. Someone close to me gave birth to a stillborn and many people around her felt like it was wrong to be sad for so long because "her baby was never there". Ridiculous of course because the hurt is just as real. I guess that's what I was trying to validate with my comment.
It's what really helped me personally when my best friend died. To remind myself of how worthy she was, and still is, of all of the pain I was feeling. It made me feel almost honoured to be hurting that much and made it more managable.
I'm so so glad you guys are doing videos again. I can't wait to see all the videos you guys come up with Yayy! :)
Chummy chatter is the best
I think that to
There should be a chummy chatter channel !
I was feeling really sad, so I did what Louise did and went to visit a friend at her uni. Had the best 3 days ever and I'm not sad anymore. Love you both xxxx
"i miss the comfort of being sad" - kurt cobain
louise's lighting always makes zoes eyes look so blue
these videos are so helpful and I love watching them thank you I was happy when I found a old photo album thumbs up if you find these videos helpful ( to show zoe and louise how helpful these videos are .) please make more
I have recently started a new school and it's killing me. I feel hollow inside and I have no friends but to be honest I prefer being alone, it gives me time to think. I've started thinking that it's turning into depression. I have gone to the links below and I'm so glad you uploaded this video.
I actually feel the same as you do! I'm a quiet person who doesn't really have the same kind of confidence that other people have to go out and talk and make new friends, it just gives me huge anxiety. But I've realized that being alone isn't really the same as being lonely, because solitude can be a really nice thing :) I recently saw the video How To Be Alone by Andrea Dorfman and it completely changed my idea on the whole concept of being alone. Society pressures a lot of us to project ourselves out there and make a bunch of friends, but really, none of that is completely necessary. I started feeling depressed too about not having a bunch of friends, but that stemmed from the fact that I expected myself to have many friends just because a lot of other people did. Just get rid of that desire and expectation and you'll feel a lot happier with yourself, because putting yourself out there and forcing yourself to try and make friends just isn't natural for many of us. I've made a few close friends over the past year since moving to a new school, and just know that there are a lot of people just like you who feel the same way and will respect you, and you'll make friends with them in no time :)
I going through a really bad breakup right now and I have to see him everyday at school and it hurts so much!! thank you Zoe and Louise for this chummy chatter it really did help
I'm going through a break up too:/ I highly recommend bubble baths and vlogmas.It's hard and no one understands and that sucks but moving on just takes time. That's especially rough that you see him everyday. I hope you can heal and move on soon and with as minimal pain as possible. Keep your chin up, you've got a random stranger on the internet rooting for you :D
oh my.. that's just made my day:)!!!
I hope you get over them soon too.. they are really not worth the heartbreak really but as Zoe and Louise said you have to be sad sometimes!! but also remember to be happy!!
I'm rooting for you too!!!! do you have Twitter? I want to follow the stranger I'm rooting for haha
I'm so glad! That's what people do, they support each other when things get crappy. Thanks for the encouragement! We can totally do this. (With lots of tea and chocolate of course.) Fo sho you can have my twitter-@rebecca_jane44
I just realised we are also name buddies as well as break up buddies hahah:)!! definitely going to follow you
Bwhahah break up buddies. That made my day. Yiss I'll follow back.
Are you guys planning on doing a special video for Mental Health Awareness day which is on 10th October? Could be really helpful to a lot of sufferers like myself :) xx
That would be great if they did that! I thought the mental health awareness day was in may though?
my birthday !!!!!
Umm i'm not sure, but there is definitely a day in UK on the 10'th for mental health :) x
please subscribe to my blog and start posting ! :)
You two are so sweet and lovely. Thank you for all you are & all you do! ✨💛✨
I saw one of my best friends being strong today when she was talking about her cousin who recently passed. it made me happy to see how strong she was.
My dad has been calling me really nasty names, and taking the mick about things I'm really sensitive about, and it's getting me really upset, but he doesn't care 😔 but I'm going to go and read Harry Potter and hopefully cheer up x
Aww you should talk to him it might help. Hope you feel better
He might not know he's hurting you... Maybe he just doesn't know how to talk to you otherwise? Maybe it's just how boys in school are really mean to you if they like you...
Anyway, I hope you can clear the situation and you feel better soon! Harry Potter would help me too :)
My dad used to be the same exact way :/ it was literally hell and was starting to make me depressed so I moved in with my mom. don't worry you can hang in there, it really does make you stronger I promise, I've been there.
Have a honest loving conversation with him and explain to him how it makes you feel when he calls you mean things or treats you like that. The worst that could happen is that the cycle continues right? But try to take a risk and take the chance that it may get better. In my opinion the worst thing you can do is to shut him out completely. I don't know your situation or if he's physically abusive but if he's trying to joke around, that may be his way of being uncomfortable showing affection. He might think he's being super funny, and he might not know it's hurtful until you talk to him.
Leniraeng Have you seen the movie "He's Just Not That Into You?" If not, I recommend it. When boys are mean, it's not because they like you. It's because they're jerks.
I had a mini existential crisis this week where I felt that there just wasn't anything I was really good at and I just felt really average at everything. And I always question whether or not I'm a good person and when I finally feel like I'm being myself I wonder whether 'myself' is good enough or not. Lol. This is probably just me...idk!?
I think the very fact that you want to be good means you're on the right track. You are not average! You are wonderful and greatly loved. But everyone gets days when they feel like crap and you just have to remember that every human life has value, yours included! There is no one and nothing that can remove that value from your life, that is your legal right as a human being. Chin up, love!
Omfg. I am exactly the same ahah
I honestly did not know this many people felt the same way as I do! It's nice to know I'm not alone! Thank you guys! :)
please could you do one on mental illness'/eating disorders and like, coping with them and how other people can deal with people with depression, anxiety, etc? love youuu
For anxiety, if you haven't already, check Zoe's main channel she has a few anxiety videos up x
Please remember they are not doctors. They can only talk from experience.
HelloImElsa They don't claim to be doctors
caitlin ford I never said they did? Do you not understand what I wrote? What I meant was that they are not doctors, they can't advice about mental health or eating disorders in general as they are not trained and can only talk from experience. Is that clearer?
They only really have experience (zoe) about anxiety I think, so obviously they won't be able to talk about it in terms of experience, they will only be able to get information from websites etc which other people can access anyway xx
Throughout my freshman year of high school, I've been so sad. And for multiple reasons. I've always been the mature one, somebody who doesn't get involved in drama, or somebody who doesn't ignore her friends for stupid reasons. I had to grow up quickly. I had to become older than I really am. And this year, everybody I knew changed, all in an instant. My friends changed. So much. And I wasn't ready for it. i began to feel used more so than I did before, because all anybody wanted from me was homework answers and advice. But now, at the end of the year, I'm realizing it was the shock of high school that made everybody around me change, and that the storm has passed. Now, two weeks before summer vacation starts, I'm the happiest I have ever been in my whole life. I'm so close with all my friends again. There's a guy that makes me feel special and I really like him. My dad is happy again. Every storm runs out of rain guys, just wait for it to pass
I got the role of Tinkerbell in a school play!
That made me feel SO HAPPY!!!
Thx for the advice..,,
congratulations!
Yeah, you look like a 4 year old
Even though I'm watching in 2015. this helped me alot
+Melanie Rousseau sameeee
2017 ✌
I wish I had a good chummy to have a chatter with. Forever alone.
Same 😭 no one in my school understands me
+caitlin Pittman i find it so hard to make friends lmao I'm just so awks
Me too x
Same😭
+caitlin Pittman Same
Thank you for this video - I am a Samaritans volunteer and it's really great to see you putting the message out about our service. I think people would be surprised to hear how many emails and calls we get every day from people who just feel sad. There is also a text number, which has even faster response times than the email service, which may be more accessible to people on here. Don't ever feel like you are a burden on someone for feeling sad - there is always someone to help you. You are never alone.
i have next to no friends and my mum is always disappointed in me (even though i try and do things to impress her and try my best at everything but obviously its not enough) and my mum and dad don't have a good relationship even though i live with them. the october and i haven't seen any of my friends since june. i have been sad for a very long time. I've also struggled with body image since i was 11 (I'm 18 now) and i think i have depression. so life is slightly crap right now. this week I've cried so much. i needed this video. thank you
It's okay
OhKtDid thank you! i went to the school counsellor 3 times but i completed my last year of school so couldn't see her anymore. i think talking to a doctor is scary and i wouldn't know what to say :/
Macaroons I've tried talking to my mum, for years now. she doesn't listen and nothing changes. honestly, I've tried everything with my mum. nothing works. I've even tried to change myself for her to listen to me or to make like easier but nothing unfortunately works. i get so down when I'm at home but i have nowhere to go to. I'm so lonely and i feel like things aren't going to change anytime soon :(
OhKtDid you're so lovely. thank you so much! :) You too x
Reading this makes me feel so sad, because even if it's not as bad for me as it seems that you have it, my life is going in a downhill spiral and I don't know how to stop it.
Don't know why I'm writing this bc I can't really help you, but I do sincerely hope that things tturn up for you soon!
Haha, wish I could just take you out for a coffee or something, but anyway, try to talk to someone :) xx
Something that made of happy; knowing that your going to continue vlogging because your vlogs makes me so happy weather they're 4 minutes long or 20 minutes long
Something that made me sad; no one remembering my birthday and I no it a something stupid but it made me feel unwanted or unloved in a way
It's not stupid, its normal in this situation, but don't let it make you completely sad. It all will get better. Believe and it will ;)
not even your family rememberd your birthday? If I knew you then I would remember:) Happy Late Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 You deserve all the birthday wishes in the whole world xxxxxxxxxxxx
Happy birthday!!
Happy birthday hope you're okay x
Happy Late birthday! :*
I've just moved from home and the other evening I joined my new neighbors, students like me, hanging around. Most of the time I felt really uncomfortable and knew that I didn't really fit in. This made me very sad and I thought that I'm doing something wrong, or that my character is basically odd. But right now I am trying to make myself believe that it is not my fault if I am different from others. As long as I am myself and generally nice to people, there is nothing wrong with me. And if I'm not gonna be close friends with my neighbors, that's fine, too. Does anyone agree?
I feel you, same here..
Being different is a great thing and it's okay that these people are not going to be your best friends, you moved away, you will have so many great opportunities to find new friends and go out and have fun in life. I wish you a greeeat life! :)
i feel the same way. it's okay. i have a group of friends and they're all considered "the populars". meanwhile, i'm just the outsider. i feel left out, but i just have to remember that deep down they care about me. there's nothing wrong with you at all. there's nothing wrong with anyone for that matter. just remember that everyone is different from one another, and everyone is going to think everyone else is weird, and that's okay. just remember that you're you, and that's normal. (:
I've been having a hard time recently and I watched this and just cried and now I feel better thanks you two
something that's made me really sad lately is all the stress i've been having from school. i have 8 classes, including an online class, and it's all so difficult to keep up with. i've failed so many tests and quizzes and various different classes, only bc i never have time to study while also trying to get enough sleep at night. it's only the first month of my sophomore year in high school and i just feel like giving up, which i obviously can't do. i'm still trying to figure how to balance all of my work. BUT on the other have, things that have made me happy are my wonderful friends and of course youtube :)
i know how you're feeling. it's extremely difficult to keep up your grades, and also adding on actually having a life outside of school is difficult to add on to it. what i normally do, is for the days i have homework, i work on it for two hours. and then the next hour i watch youtube videos to help me get out of the stress, and i switch off on and on. classes are hard, but they always will be. no matter what. just keep your head up. don't give up. you may feel like school may not matter, and it might not, but you don't know that, and you don't want to take the risk. you can do this. i can believe in you. xx
Jennifer Chavez so inspirational! :) thank u
I've graduated from high school and honestly from what I have learned over the past four years, it's okay to fail as long as you learn from your mistakes. I successfully graduated and now in college. Which I thought I would have never done considering how many test and quizzes I failed. Don't give up, your high school years will get better! You can do it!
Korean students stay more than 8 hours at school. :D and we go to academies. We back hom at 11 or 12. Do homework til 2. Go to bed at 2:30 and wake up at 6
I am also a sophomore who is taking a lot of classes, is on the volleyball team, and is apart of the school play. I know it's hard to juggle all of this, plus friends, but you just have to calm down and say that everything is okay
Its 2016 and I would love chummy chatter back x
literally same they were all so helpful!
You guys have that relationship that we all want to have with our bestfriends when we are older
Louise and Zoe you're just so genuine and have to be the cutest friends ever❤️❤️ I'm a RUclipsr from Ireland and I send my love to you from across the waters!💕
I love how we all come together. It just goes to show. We are not alone. It's things like this that really proves that Zoe and Louise are truly lovely people.
It makes me feel better every-time watching Zoe and Louise.
I have a "pick-me-up" playlist for everytime I need a cry, and then to listen to words of wisdom and then end with some great songs!