It’s so refreshing to see and hear two smart, sensitive, strong, highly opinionated and beautiful women in modern media talk about real and daily issues women of all ages face, thank you.
Women are constantly told about "daily issues women of all ages face", which only makes us feel even worse. Everyone faces challenges men and women. Accept it and move it.
@@fs457 I would like to aspire to be beautiful. The world cares about the beauty of a woman and will always care. Better accept it rather than fight it. Also men and women are different, they will be different and they should be different. They are both equally important, but they are different. So the fact that they're women and beautiful is absolutely relevant.
Ashley is such a fantastic interviewer and Whitney is such an informative and genuine guest. Would love for you to join up again. Truly a magic combo ✨
There is a quote/saying that goes something like this: the minute you settle for less than you deserve, you will be given half of what you settled for.
I never knew that Co-dependency had more meanings than hanging around someone alot or depending on someone for everything. I am so glad I clicked on this because this describes me to a T. And I never knew that it could actually be defined like this. And then her giving advice on how to handle it, it has really opened up my mind to how I'm acting and how it benefits me more than others. Because I am typically a big people person. Gosh this makes me feel better!
Dude! Scheduling a therapist next week. She described me damn near to a tee. I mean I have broken out of it a bit over the past decade (really shot into it after my mom died and I started to care less about people's feelings) but still. Whoa.
It really fucked with my head. I know myself for being independent and doing everything for myself, but also ALWAYS offerring help or solutions for others. I never care if people like me or not but im always happy to leave a good first impression. So am I just being a good friend or am I actually just co-dependent? Shit. I need to realise things about myself now.
@@Sunny99926 One of the way I took to better know myself, was to honestly question my motivations for my actions. It sounds simple but I discovered layers of bullshit I was telling myself. Ideas I was sold on as a kid mostly, but also behaviors I picked up from others thinking it was doing ''the right thing''. Very important to take yourself with love on that journey, even if it's not always a given. I had to talk to myself, I order to accept things the way they are as a reality, be in the moment, not judgemental. You have to do all this in writing so you always know where you are in the process, and I discover that the chances I lie to myself are very low if I make the effort to write it down. I wish you courage on your path. :)
@@likearollingstone007 that's very kind! Thank you for the advice! Lately I've realized that I'm not responsible for other people's lives and I shouldn't carry their problems and break my back. Im glad for this journey, and hope I will always better myself. Again thank you 💞
The codependency in the title is what got me to watch but, wow, I loved this whole interview! Whitney is so intelligent! I learned a lot and it was nice to see her in a different setting/perspective. This is going to sound dramatic but she dropped some life-changing gems in here (at least life-changing for me). Video favorited so I can revisit it later :)
You have to get the book "Codependency No More" (By Melodie (sorry forgot last name)- it is a life changing book- really discusses why we have these tendencies and how to create boundaries.
My mom went to a codependency course and it saved our relationship. I was in college at the time and just thought my mom was a helicopter and annoying but still loving. Whenever I came home , I noticed the changes she made. We could talk openly using the vocabulary of codependency. The free course was hosted by a local church but wasn't religious. It's great to hear more people talking about codependency AND free resources.
You have to get the book "Codependency No More" (By Melodie (sorry forgot last name)- it is a life changing book- really discusses these tendencies and how to create boundaries.
@@tekgid433 this comment actually proves you have not listened to the podcast. Or you just have sh*t critical thinking skills. Maybe both. Anyway 👋👋👋 troll.
Alex Payzer congratulations good for you. You’ll make a great mother I know it! Especially if you are learning now mental attitudes to have around your children! Go you!
This has got to be the most empowering interview to date. Very informative and the conversation between the two are genuine! Great job Ashley and the entire team! 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽 It will be awesomeeeee if we can get to see ladies like Adriana Lima, Jessica Alba, Tara Lynn, Nicole Mejia and Ali Wong to be interviewed next! Suggestion given for your consideration! 😊❤
I'll go even further, since this asshole pancakce wasn'T there at all during the whole semester 2011, why ot also not be there during the first repetition....... such that would'Ve missed ocmpletel and probably sat next to someone else and I would've missed out on this shit story alltgether..... then things would'Ve turned out completely different, because truth is I played the whole semester, I played in the concert and that asshole person merely showed up at the after party ognoring me............. and I politely after sitting by the people I newly net at the end to check out whats up and that person just went away........ so probably we would've never met, or just once at distance and this in reality never established ocntact at all, and then I would'Ve not tlaked to that shit person, and then would'Ve had different ideas and probably oriented differently and orobably went into medicine or brain research or some shit and met a NORMAL girl who would've been good for me and good to me without being insane in her head...... and the dynamic would'Ve been normal like with enjoying to simpl walk around and walking along the river, you see I turn around in my thinking and ideas....... .and that is absolutely okay....... becaue that'S the kind of stuffI liked to do instead of going insane on massive trips and hotel s and consulting and business meetings and buisiness onctacts and relationships and business ties and shit............ you already see what they actually did to me THEY FucKING TREATED ME LIKE A BuSINESS CARD LIKE A BUSINESS CONTACT........ and that'S how I felt also
OMG that resonated with me alot "planning is freedom" people always say that I'm not easy going or like spontaneous (in some situations where it is beneficial I am) but planning sets you free from that thought and puts you at ease i feel
Half way through and I am loving this interview. Ashley does a great job and keeps it nicely paced yet relaxed. Whitney is so candid and insightful. Yes, definitely enjoying this.
This came at exactly the right time! Recently going through a break up where it was a mature ending but I feared the codependency, and I didn’t speak up for what I wanted. This episode showed me that I am able to accept rejection as a step in the right direction for better things to come! I love this podcast and look forward to more ❤️
You have to get the book "Codependency No More" (By Melodie (sorry forgot last name)- it is a life changing book- really discusses why we have these tendencies and how to create boundaries.
One of the best conversations ever with a couple of my fav ladies! Ashley is gorgeous as usual, but that baby belly takes it up about 50 notches to knockout. Two intelligent women talking about real life things...bliss.
This is the first Pretty Big Deal show that I have watch and honestly it was very insightful. I feel like everyone who are in their teens/ young adult life should watch this because it is great. Thank you and keep up the good work Whitney Cummings and Ashley Graham!
Positive reinforcements: you guys covered a lotta ground in 45 minutes and I actually learned a thing or two about the inner weavings of what some women go through. We do need more female bosses; it seems as though us men tend to fuck things up, more often than not.
Say what you mean, mean what you say without being mean. Boundaries aren't easy. AlAnon Is amazing! Saved my life. For free! 🙏🏻 God grant me the serenity. I didn't cause it. I can't control it. I can't change it. I can't cure it. Thank you for sharing your courage strength hope and experience with us!! People recover when Recovered people recover together .... step 1! 💯💪🏻
ModerateWisco Momma You ill resonate with this alternate version of the serenity prayer then... “God rgant me the serenity to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change, the courage to change the ONE I can, and the wisdom to know it’s ME!”
This was a great girl talk. It kind of made my morning 😊 but really I appreciate so much Whitney offering this info about codependency and how she handles her urges. Right on👍
Good for you! I agree, I’d rather be single and embrace the positives of it than settle for a lousy relationship! My mom has been married four times and always put men first in her life. She 60 and never been that happy.
Mkinfknsndwyches! Same here... my mother struggles with singleness and settles for unhealthy relationships. Relationships are beautiful when they are healthy.
This was so much fun to watch. Whitney's special actually really helped me with my own self-confidence about my body image and this just made me realize how codependent I am. Holy shit.
“The thing right now that you want so bad that you didn’t get- you’re gonna look back and think: thank god I didn’t get it” That was insanely refreshing
More people need to get on this, its amazing… two honest and beautiful minds talking about life? Mind blowing! Thank you sooo much for putting it out on the internet
I came to laugh because I love Whitney, but I didn't expect to be enlightened with my own healing needs 😢I'm saving this interview to rewatch as necessary ❤️
Loved, loved LOVED this episode so much! The way Whitney's mind works and how she has worked and is continuing to work on herself to improve even more is beyond inspirational. Thank you for sharing this!
You have to get the book "Codependency No More" (By Melodie (sorry forgot last name)- it is a life changing book- really discusses why we have these tendencies and how to create boundaries.
Codependency is rooted in your childhood. It is often from the relationship that you had/have with a narcissistic parent. As a child, you probably were not validated (being told that who you are is ok). You probably were not allowed to express your emotions. Being a codependent person is dangerous because we keep people around us who are toxic in the hope that "we can fix them."
Just found you through searching for Whitney videos and this was such an open and honest interview. It was so candid and seems so genuine. I watched a couple others and now I’m subbed. Thank you for creating a real space.
I've always been such a huge fan of whitney Cummings... ever since she was on Chelsea lately as a writer and a guest star ... loved 2 broke girls and undatedable and I LOVED THE SHOW WHITNEY I own it on dvd I loved it so much. I feel like ot was before it's time. If it came out now ... it would be the new friends ! Love this show ... I learn so much from it ... the positivity in supporting women inspires me !!
I knew I had some issues I needed to work out with my therapist but having Whitney describe a majority of those and label it as co dependency really opened my mind into understand the root to the problem and has led me to solutions on how to improve on my mental insecurities. My favourite guest so far!
I am 38 years old and SO did not connect my dating guys where I settled to my worries about getting older and not having kids. WOWZA. That was a big moment for me, thanks ladies! (Also did not realize until I've heard Whitney speak about it that I am co-dependent and that has been so great for me to realize.)
Oh my goodness, Whitney is so wise! I loved this conversation from beginning to end I have learnt so much! I'm so glad I came back to watch this because I initially skipped it because I'm not really familiar with Whitney. I've always seen her specials on Netflix & they're in my list to watch at some point but I definitely need to find her podcast, her IG (even though she doesn't use it much) & definitely need to watch her specials. Such a great interview!!
This video made me realize.. I somehow have managed to teach all these important lessons to myself. I have overcome the codependency in my relationship and we are in a very good place.. still needs some tweaking but doesn't everybody. Lol. This video was confirmation for me. Thank you Ashley and Whitney.. 😇🥰
Oh my god, I think I found another female role model. I already thought Whitney was hilarious, but I didn't know how intelligent and accomplished and down to earth she was! So cool-thank you for having her on, Ashley! (love you too!)
Lovely to watch the openness and the self awareness Witney demonstrates.....All the work done to put herself first truly made her embrace her true self. Thank you! Did not know how big of a deal she was :)
Excellent points Whitney. Codependency is rooted in enabling the bad behaviours of others. We are the "helpers," the advice givers, the "my love will change him/make him better," we are the people who stop for wounded animals and we have people in our lives because we pity them. Once you recognize these behaviours in yourself, you can begin to heal and work on bettering yourself. If you cannot love who you are, there is no way you can have a healthy and successful relationship with anyone else. Shout out to CoDA!!!!!
I love the content covered in this interview. Very insightful and motivational! I can definitely relate to many hardships both Whitney and Ashley have gone through, but recognizing the biochemical science behind our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors is liberating. Thank you for being so open and honest.
Thank you so much for sharing this conversation with us. I keep talking with other people about this, how women wait for perfection and showing what they've already accomplished, while men can get ahead on potential. We need to dare take those steps forward too, an I will be taking my steps that I've been holding back on for months now, that I knew I needed and wanted to do but I haven't done yet because of this inherent fear. Thank you so much.
a lot of ethnic women have that fear, because of cultural pressures in their 20's it usually starts around 23, I've notice that in myself as well that I am lowering my standards etc. because god forbid I'm not married and have two babies before 30 while simultaneously graduating from university and having a great career. And I just because of this conversation made a promise to myself that I am going to freeze my eggs at 28.
I saw a few comments about putting the person you are interviewing in the thumbnail and I just wanted to say thanks for doing that! It grabs your attention before you even decide to watch it.
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It’s so refreshing to see and hear two smart, sensitive, strong, highly opinionated and beautiful women in modern media talk about real and daily issues women of all ages face, thank you.
Women are constantly told about "daily issues women of all ages face", which only makes us feel even worse. Everyone faces challenges men and women. Accept it and move it.
1 beautiful woman not so much the other one
@@fs457 I would like to aspire to be beautiful. The world cares about the beauty of a woman and will always care. Better accept it rather than fight it.
Also men and women are different, they will be different and they should be different. They are both equally important, but they are different.
So the fact that they're women and beautiful is absolutely relevant.
RIGHT ?!
please use more buzzwords in once sentence. This reads like a bot wrote it.
Ashley is such a fantastic interviewer and Whitney is such an informative and genuine guest. Would love for you to join up again. Truly a magic combo ✨
thank you
There is a quote/saying that goes something like this: the minute you settle for less than you deserve, you will be given half of what you settled for.
Whoah🤯
This is deep and powerful. Got me thinking. ❤️
that is actually so trueee #shook
love this
Whitney is the reason me and my mum are sorting our co-dependency out - big love
awww thank you
came here from ashley’s story and im not disappointed
Me too 🌸
YAYYY
I never knew that Co-dependency had more meanings than hanging around someone alot or depending on someone for everything. I am so glad I clicked on this because this describes me to a T. And I never knew that it could actually be defined like this. And then her giving advice on how to handle it, it has really opened up my mind to how I'm acting and how it benefits me more than others. Because I am typically a big people person. Gosh this makes me feel better!
With you on that! Loved this and came across it right when I needed it xx
Dude! Scheduling a therapist next week. She described me damn near to a tee. I mean I have broken out of it a bit over the past decade (really shot into it after my mom died and I started to care less about people's feelings) but still. Whoa.
It really fucked with my head.
I know myself for being independent and doing everything for myself, but also ALWAYS offerring help or solutions for others.
I never care if people like me or not but im always happy to leave a good first impression.
So am I just being a good friend or am I actually just co-dependent? Shit. I need to realise things about myself now.
@@Sunny99926 One of the way I took to better know myself, was to honestly question my motivations for my actions. It sounds simple but I discovered layers of bullshit I was telling myself. Ideas I was sold on as a kid mostly, but also behaviors I picked up from others thinking it was doing ''the right thing''. Very important to take yourself with love on that journey, even if it's not always a given. I had to talk to myself, I order to accept things the way they are as a reality, be in the moment, not judgemental. You have to do all this in writing so you always know where you are in the process, and I discover that the chances I lie to myself are very low if I make the effort to write it down. I wish you courage on your path. :)
@@likearollingstone007 that's very kind! Thank you for the advice! Lately I've realized that I'm not responsible for other people's lives and I shouldn't carry their problems and break my back.
Im glad for this journey, and hope I will always better myself. Again thank you 💞
The codependency in the title is what got me to watch but, wow, I loved this whole interview! Whitney is so intelligent! I learned a lot and it was nice to see her in a different setting/perspective.
This is going to sound dramatic but she dropped some life-changing gems in here (at least life-changing for me). Video favorited so I can revisit it later :)
I so agree with your comment.
This is probably the best explanation of codependency that I've heard anywhere. Thanks Whitney!
You have to get the book "Codependency No More" (By Melodie (sorry forgot last name)- it is a life changing book- really discusses why we have these tendencies and how to create boundaries.
oh yay phew
i love her comedy. she talks so honestly
oh my god what a guest she is! Wow this taught me lessons that should've been taught at school!! This is something every woman have to see!!
My mom went to a codependency course and it saved our relationship. I was in college at the time and just thought my mom was a helicopter and annoying but still loving. Whenever I came home , I noticed the changes she made. We could talk openly using the vocabulary of codependency. The free course was hosted by a local church but wasn't religious. It's great to hear more people talking about codependency AND free resources.
You have to get the book "Codependency No More" (By Melodie (sorry forgot last name)- it is a life changing book- really discusses these tendencies and how to create boundaries.
@@amybreski2611 Melody Beattie Her other book "The Language of Letting Go" is also worth to check out
Ashley’s laugh is pure magic.
This whole convo is brilliant. Love these two.
For the first time I finally realized that I am indeed co-dependent. Whitney literally spoke to me when she was talking about the subject.
lol don't get brainwashed by this annoying cat lady alcoholic feminist. We were put on this earth to be with someone and that isn't a bad thing.
@@tekgid433 this comment actually proves you have not listened to the podcast. Or you just have sh*t critical thinking skills. Maybe both. Anyway 👋👋👋 troll.
I have gone to co dependent meetings it was a very safe space ❤️ best
phew oh yay
Honestly hearing about the imprint that can put on the baby is so eye opening especially since I’m about 5 months pregnant. I love this interview
Oooooh gosh how’s your baby doing??✨
@@abbyk7341 he is doing great and healthy and growing which is all I could ask for
Alex Payzer congratulations good for you. You’ll make a great mother I know it! Especially if you are learning now mental attitudes to have around your children! Go you!
@@Vanbin0 thank you so much love
yay so glad
I am absolutely in love with this conversation.
yayyy
This has got to be the most empowering interview to date. Very informative and the conversation between the two are genuine! Great job Ashley and the entire team! 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
It will be awesomeeeee if we can get to see ladies like Adriana Lima, Jessica Alba, Tara Lynn, Nicole Mejia and Ali Wong to be interviewed next! Suggestion given for your consideration! 😊❤
Nurhan Shah honestly, great suggestions 😍
I am so glad!
Whitney drop that skin care routine
RIGHT?!
She has said on many interviews (that I binged 😂) she's eating healthy fatty foods more now and sleeping more
I'll go even further, since this asshole pancakce wasn'T there at all during the whole semester 2011, why ot also not be there during the first repetition....... such that would'Ve missed ocmpletel and probably sat next to someone else and I would've missed out on this shit story alltgether..... then things would'Ve turned out completely different, because truth is I played the whole semester, I played in the concert and that asshole person merely showed up at the after party ognoring me............. and I politely after sitting by the people I newly net at the end to check out whats up and that person just went away........
so probably we would've never met, or just once at distance and this in reality never established ocntact at all, and then I would'Ve not tlaked to that shit person, and then would'Ve had different ideas and probably oriented differently and orobably went into medicine or brain research or some shit and met a NORMAL girl who would've been good for me and good to me without being insane in her head...... and the dynamic would'Ve been normal like with enjoying to simpl walk around and walking along the river, you see I turn around in my thinking and ideas....... .and that is absolutely okay....... becaue that'S the kind of stuffI liked to do instead of going insane on massive trips and hotel s and consulting and business meetings and buisiness onctacts and relationships and business ties and shit............ you already see what they actually did to me
THEY FucKING TREATED ME LIKE A BuSINESS CARD LIKE A BUSINESS CONTACT........ and that'S how I felt also
Her skin is so beautiful!
She uses tonnes of oils, grapeseed oil and tomato seed oil every night
The part in the interview where Whitney states "Co-dependants are addicted to people who are a mess" Wow!
right
OMG that resonated with me alot "planning is freedom"
people always say that I'm not easy going or like spontaneous (in some situations where it is beneficial I am) but planning sets you free from that thought and puts you at ease i feel
codependency starts at 22:20
alex padron thank you!!
You're highly appreciated❤
Skip to the point - THANK YOU!
Thank you 😘 😘
Thank you 😍
Half way through and I am loving this interview. Ashley does a great job and keeps it nicely paced yet relaxed. Whitney is so candid and insightful. Yes, definitely enjoying this.
Thanks for this podcast. Women empowering other women without filters! Amazing. I hope you'll chat with Jameela Jamil!
This came at exactly the right time! Recently going through a break up where it was a mature ending but I feared the codependency, and I didn’t speak up for what I wanted. This episode showed me that I am able to accept rejection as a step in the right direction for better things to come! I love this podcast and look forward to more ❤️
You have to get the book "Codependency No More" (By Melodie (sorry forgot last name)- it is a life changing book- really discusses why we have these tendencies and how to create boundaries.
One of the best conversations ever with a couple of my fav ladies! Ashley is gorgeous as usual, but that baby belly takes it up about 50 notches to knockout. Two intelligent women talking about real life things...bliss.
*Me:* I should really get out of bed
*Ashley Graham:* Uploads another video
*Me:* Nvm. It can wait. 😂😂😂
Eleanor Josefina Model & RUclipsr lolllll currently
This is a fantastic interview. Whitney speaks what is on my mind, always. I love hearing her talk about these important topics!
oh yay this made my day
This is the first Pretty Big Deal show that I have watch and honestly it was very insightful. I feel like everyone who are in their teens/ young adult life should watch this because it is great. Thank you and keep up the good work Whitney Cummings and Ashley Graham!
Positive reinforcements: you guys covered a lotta ground in 45 minutes and I actually learned a thing or two about the inner weavings of what some women go through.
We do need more female bosses; it seems as though us men tend to fuck things up, more often than not.
Exactly the kind of conversation that I want to hear more on the internet. Thank you for this, Whitney.💚 Also, more power to you, Ashley! 🙌🏼
what an intelligent and thoroughly enjoyable interview and chat!.
I realized how much I can relate to stuff Whitney talks about. Thanks for opening my eyes on some problems I didn't realize I had. She is amazing
best interview ever !!!!
Say what you mean, mean what you say without being mean. Boundaries aren't easy. AlAnon Is amazing! Saved my life. For free! 🙏🏻 God grant me the serenity. I didn't cause it. I can't control it. I can't change it. I can't cure it. Thank you for sharing your courage strength hope and experience with us!! People recover when Recovered people recover together .... step 1! 💯💪🏻
ModerateWisco Momma You ill resonate with this alternate version of the serenity prayer then...
“God rgant me the serenity to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change, the courage to change the ONE I can, and the wisdom to know it’s ME!”
Thank you Whitney!! That definition of co-dependency triggerd a lightbulb moment for me and Just changed my life!🙏🏿🙏🏿💯💞🙌🏿
I sooooo needed to hear the freezing eggs and lowering standards shit today. Thanks ladies xx
what i needed to hear, when i needed to hear it. thank you!
This was a great girl talk. It kind of made my morning 😊 but really I appreciate so much Whitney offering this info about codependency and how she handles her urges. Right on👍
Whitney is the bomb!!! I like her honesty around recovery. It’s inspiring
Newly found Whitney Cummings and now Ashley Graham thanks for existing ladies!!
Those 2 ponytails are goals AF!!!!!
I’m amazed and admire how hard Whitney worked to change her traumas. Inspiring.
Ashley is like Ariana Grande and Rachel McAdams had a baby. So pretty.
When I turned 30 my standards went up up up!!!
I love that. People often struggle with aging but I find it empowering. You know so much more and experience feels so bold to embrace!
Good for you! I agree, I’d rather be single and embrace the positives of it than settle for a lousy relationship! My mom has been married four times and always put men first in her life. She 60 and never been that happy.
Mkinfknsndwyches! Same here... my mother struggles with singleness and settles for unhealthy relationships. Relationships are beautiful when they are healthy.
This was so much fun to watch. Whitney's special actually really helped me with my own self-confidence about my body image and this just made me realize how codependent I am. Holy shit.
awwwww
@@whitneycummings i have to ask you what you ended up doing with the sex robot, is she still in your house? ever install a guacamole function?
“The thing right now that you want so bad that you didn’t get- you’re gonna look back and think: thank god I didn’t get it”
That was insanely refreshing
Priyanka Gupta If I remember correctly, it was one of the last things she said.
More people need to get on this, its amazing… two honest and beautiful minds talking about life? Mind blowing! Thank you sooo much for putting it out on the internet
i hate depending on people but i love it when people depend on me
I love both of these women so much! They shine their light by being their authentic selves and I find that so heartwarming and amazing!
This is literally my favorite thing I never knew I needed.
"I can hardly carry a purse" LOL
I came to laugh because I love Whitney, but I didn't expect to be enlightened with my own healing needs 😢I'm saving this interview to rewatch as necessary ❤️
Thoroughly enjoyed this interview! Have been a fan of Whitney since she acted in her own show. I learnt alot as well, will be buying her book!
Loved, loved LOVED this episode so much! The way Whitney's mind works and how she has worked and is continuing to work on herself to improve even more is beyond inspirational. Thank you for sharing this!
I have the exact same issues as Whitney does and I only realized it now (codependency, eating disorders etc...)!
God bless her heart!!
what a terrific interview mad respect for both you intelligent authentic fun beautiful women
ashley has such a soulful laugh, i love it
omg, this talk completely blew my mind open in the best way possible, WOW! I love this podcast. This is your best episode yet!
This was hard to watch and realize I am 100% co-dependent 😭
Me too!! I always feel obligation to do stuff for others an never myself! I had no idea that I am co-dependent as well!! Ughh
I know!! I guess I’m glad we found out and can work on it!! Just one more thing on my list lol
Give 12step CoDa meetings a try, you are not alone and can overcome it
You have to get the book "Codependency No More" (By Melodie (sorry forgot last name)- it is a life changing book- really discusses why we have these tendencies and how to create boundaries.
Codependency is rooted in your childhood. It is often from the relationship that you had/have with a narcissistic parent. As a child, you probably were not validated (being told that who you are is ok). You probably were not allowed to express your emotions. Being a codependent person is dangerous because we keep people around us who are toxic in the hope that "we can fix them."
Ashley is so cool, just attentive and supportive and asks relevant questions-- and of course i love Whitney
Just found you through searching for Whitney videos and this was such an open and honest interview. It was so candid and seems so genuine. I watched a couple others and now I’m subbed. Thank you for creating a real space.
THE BEST INTERVIEW EVER!! # love Whitney so much
I am so grateful this episode exists.
Dude, how is Ashley Graham literally the most relatable human, and so beautiful and so poised? I don't understand. I'm in awe.
Thank you for living your truth and being so open about your experiences. Every human can benefit from this ✨
I've been in Al-Anon for 8 1/2 years, and CoDA for almost two. Totally life changing !! 👍
I've always been such a huge fan of whitney Cummings... ever since she was on Chelsea lately as a writer and a guest star ... loved 2 broke girls and undatedable and I LOVED THE SHOW WHITNEY I own it on dvd I loved it so much. I feel like ot was before it's time. If it came out now ... it would be the new friends ! Love this show ... I learn so much from it ... the positivity in supporting women inspires me !!
I knew I had some issues I needed to work out with my therapist but having Whitney describe a majority of those and label it as co dependency really opened my mind into understand the root to the problem and has led me to solutions on how to improve on my mental insecurities. My favourite guest so far!
My mind is *blown* from listening to this interview. I sooo needed this!
yay
Great interview - smart, relatable, witty and inspiring. Thank you.
I am 38 years old and SO did not connect my dating guys where I settled to my worries about getting older and not having kids. WOWZA. That was a big moment for me, thanks ladies! (Also did not realize until I've heard Whitney speak about it that I am co-dependent and that has been so great for me to realize.)
I love Whitney, she's an open book, hilarious and so great.
Oh my goodness, Whitney is so wise! I loved this conversation from beginning to end I have learnt so much! I'm so glad I came back to watch this because I initially skipped it because I'm not really familiar with Whitney. I've always seen her specials on Netflix & they're in my list to watch at some point but I definitely need to find her podcast, her IG (even though she doesn't use it much) & definitely need to watch her specials. Such a great interview!!
I can and will watch ANYTHING with these two women on it !
These interviews keep getting better and better 💜
Probably my favourite Pretty Big Deal. I've watched this one about six times.
Ashley and her team listening to the feedback! Finally putting the guests photo as the thumbnail so we know who they are! 💕
I love when 2 people I love are in the same room! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
These two ladies are hillarious. I loved every minute of the show
This video made me realize.. I somehow have managed to teach all these important lessons to myself. I have overcome the codependency in my relationship and we are in a very good place.. still needs some tweaking but doesn't everybody. Lol. This video was confirmation for me. Thank you Ashley and Whitney.. 😇🥰
I don't know how this popped in my suggestiona. But I am so greatful for this . Whitney you saved me . Thank you so much ❤️
Oh my god, I think I found another female role model. I already thought Whitney was hilarious, but I didn't know how intelligent and accomplished and down to earth she was! So cool-thank you for having her on, Ashley! (love you too!)
Lovely to watch the openness and the self awareness Witney demonstrates.....All the work done to put herself first truly made her embrace her true self. Thank you! Did not know how big of a deal she was :)
Fantastic interview. I've got so many points I want to really look into from this.
I wish I could press more thumbs up. This interview is so empowering! Love how natural they are.
I learned so much for this episode. Thank you ladies! 💛
The first time seeing Whitney Cummings ... Valuable and very relevant podcast 💕💕
I think you are amazing Whitney! Thank you so much for your honesty and your vulnerability. I can so relate to so much of what you said.
Great listen ladies.
Two of my fav ladies! Love this!
Amazing insightful conversation, thanks very much!
Loved this!! The insights on codependency were awesome! Thank YOU! (And I mean all of you who work on this ❤️)
Excellent points Whitney. Codependency is rooted in enabling the bad behaviours of others. We are the "helpers," the advice givers, the "my love will change him/make him better," we are the people who stop for wounded animals and we have people in our lives because we pity them.
Once you recognize these behaviours in yourself, you can begin to heal and work on bettering yourself. If you cannot love who you are, there is no way you can have a healthy and successful relationship with anyone else.
Shout out to CoDA!!!!!
thank you so much im trying
Wow, thank you Whitney! You've enlightened me on the real meaning of co-dependency, it's development and how to honor ones self. Thank you!!!
Ashley thank you so much for being so inspiring
I love the content covered in this interview. Very insightful and motivational! I can definitely relate to many hardships both Whitney and Ashley have gone through, but recognizing the biochemical science behind our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors is liberating. Thank you for being so open and honest.
Thank you so much for sharing this conversation with us. I keep talking with other people about this, how women wait for perfection and showing what they've already accomplished, while men can get ahead on potential. We need to dare take those steps forward too, an I will be taking my steps that I've been holding back on for months now, that I knew I needed and wanted to do but I haven't done yet because of this inherent fear.
Thank you so much.
🤬🤬🤬 Damnit Codependency! Hit the nail on the head. 🙋🏾♀️ This is me, now I have the words.
a lot of ethnic women have that fear, because of cultural pressures in their 20's it usually starts around 23, I've notice that in myself as well that I am lowering my standards etc. because god forbid I'm not married and have two babies before 30 while simultaneously graduating from university and having a great career.
And I just because of this conversation made a promise to myself that I am going to freeze my eggs at 28.
I saw a few comments about putting the person you are interviewing in the thumbnail and I just wanted to say thanks for doing that! It grabs your attention before you even decide to watch it.
Whitney might have changed my life forever with these explanations. Thank you Ashley and Whitney