your explanation is far more accurate than any psychologist i have ever visited , i did not know that confessing and asking for reassurances is like a ritual , thank you coach
Advice for all fighters: Don't pay thousands to doctors for counseling who have no idea what there are talking about I've heard doctors telling people there's some black magic on them. Right RUclips Video is best option for counseling add medicine only if necessary ( Where you need doctors Prescription ). Thankyou Ali 🙏
Thank you for this. I've had trouble trying to distinguish an intrusive thought from a compulsion, but it seems that even reacting to it in any way and giving it power via feeling fearful is a compulsion in itself.
You should check out reddit.com/r/ocd and maybe ask a question if you’re feeling up to it. It’s helped me a bit seeing other people in the same situation or just asking questions.
This helped me so much... it made me realize that I do, in fact, suffer from Pure-O. I had been diagnosed with OCD for a while now, but i never really suffered from compulsions the way they are expected. They mainly manifested my thinking certain things to neutralize the thought. Sometimes a facial twitch at something really disgusting to let myself see that I reacted with disgust to that thought, but nothing really other than that. But that sitting there.... idk the way you described it, i resonated with it very deeply. Thank you for trying to help OCD sufferers, and it means a lot that you have studied this so well and wish to share the help you have found :)
The best way to deter SATAN is to show it the HOLY CROSS .... The best way to deter ANXIETY & OCD is to show it _the pictures of ALI GREYMOND_ and tell it that you are practising her principles & advice religiously and puff after sometime your anxiety & OCD are gone !.....
Thank you so much for this video. I don't feel that we ever really completely overcome OCD. I do feel we can learn ways to cope and deal with OCD in a functional way. I've had some form for almost 30 years and I definitely deal with it better now than I did as a kid! There is a light, we just have to seek it.
Personally, I’ve found that on purpose exposures don’t work for me, since my exposures are “you should check this to make sure it’s nothing”. If I would check, I would be doing a compulsion, so purposely checking only ends up making things worse. So I simply disregard the exposure, and eventually the content of the exposure gets weaker and weaker. The less anxiety that is being infused into a trigger, the weaker it gets. Ali, if you see this, please give me a sign that I’m on the right track 🙏
Bec I kinda do this aswell as doing the purposeful exposure a little for specific themes! It’s harder to do for the ‘what if so and so happens to me ‘ thiugg
@@mmalik203 I’m at the point where if I do the recovery work I’ll fully recover. If I keep going in circles I am only delaying recovery for instant reassurance in the moment that only prolongs the OCD.
@@RsDeepHalo that’s great, I agree do the work and you recover! Im kinda in my 2nd ish month so going back and forth with high and low anxiety, but keep pushing through
Not really possible if you have it about morals and if your a bad person and have mental images that cause u to think those things because if you expose yourself to horrid mental images and become numb to them then u become less of a sensitive person and become numb to most things. I tried it and took me years to stop being an abrupt person for which I am now haunted by more bad memories of upsetting people by me being abrupt. In my instance I remember every single time someones even had something wrong to say about me. I cant forget these memories and my OCD replays them over and over in my head hundreds of times a day and I have to analyse them to make sure I dont so same thing wrong again or make a worse mistake and feel even more guilty. When you remember everything situational wise and with my situation ERP wont work as I'm sure it wont for quite a few pure o sufferers. But many thanks for the video as it is worth it to other people that it may help and was an interesting video to listen to
@@johnbetjeman yea I been looking into ACT therapy but in the UK there arent that many people that practice it and as I'm sure u know reading a book to urself isn't the same as going over it n being told it by someone else. ERP for scrupulosity (religious and morals) just doesn't work
I have pure o Ali and I have struggled a lot by analyzing my thoughts and I can't figure out where these coming from like images.... Some people's saying or some bad past ..nd my years are destroyed ..... Bcoz I can't understand it but now I understand I started my meds very late after 5 years of ocd..... And got into depression...... Things got worse. Now ........ Well ur advice sounds great helping for me ..... ❤❤
My version of erp is to react with confidence, i make a comment in my head that i know isnt true then react with the truth and that what and how i truely feel.
@@ocdhelp im now doing your version of ERP by not reacting to urges and honestly its worked a treat. I do think “remember do ali gremonds erp and dont give in to the urge” Works well! Honestly any pure o i had feels like its a done thing. It gets to a point where even your brain gets bored of the constant pureo too much is too much.
Thank you, but the point is in some kind of pure o thoughts I swear to god, that I don't react or analyze the thought. But it is analyzed what if thoughts automatically and become very real, although you know that it's not real and you don't react to what if thoughts, but subconsciously because you are not feeling ok make your mind to do the mental compulsion. for example, I have HIV phobia and whenever I touch sharp objects, like a knife my mind keeps telling me what if you get HIV and i don't react to it but automatically my mind continues what if it is true, again I don't react but I get much anxiety again. and I know 100 percent, it is not true but it continues to bring lots of scenarios and ruminations to make it believable. And finally, you find yourself depressed and having anxiety without reacting or seeking reassurance. Please answer me.
relationship with girl ended (not same girl I messaged u about before) I started with cause Christian values so I felt she was trying to break up by pulling away sexual things and then I kinda threw a fit over reacted then we got in huge fight and she brought up that she's scared of me because I hold resentment towards her from first breakup (which I did) and she was scared that I'd cut off her head or harm her family..sigh I also told her about my pure O ocd and that I'm afraid to meet people I care about like her fam cause I have weird violent thoughts and so maybe that's why she thought that but I've never been violet towards her or family not even close I'm not like that at all. I do get v verbally violent with people though like when driver almost killed her I said a bunch of evil things I'd do to him if he killed her cause if his reckless and etc so as man gotta be more careful w words but now we both blocked ea other except I didn't block her on iMessage we tried to do a 30 day break but kept fighting and we both said we love each other a lot and was wondering for ur advice if I should permanently block her or potentially let this go a third round since ur in a successful marriage and also since you talk about mental issues which I need to work on, sorry kinda a lot I really love this girl tho so I feel I may need to let her go but can't find the courage to do it i recently sent her sincere message and letting it rest now hey so I've come to an understanding that what I've said/did was not fair to you. You've been very understanding for me so I feel I have been way too harsh on you and I see all your points you have made im sorry -her name- I love you and I want to be with you I just fear a lot and self sabotage everything I’m sorry
@@PathToMettabring the thoughts up on purpose, even if it's only for five mins a day. As Skeme says, let them sit there and be. Allow everything in; no thoughts are dangerous and anxiety is uncomfortable, but not unbearable. There is nothing we need to do to counteract it - our solutions are actually the problem!
I got exposed to new age videos that talk about manifestation of thoughts into reality and I get scared i’ll end up making the nightmare come true if I acknowledge it or keep thinking about it. That’s ocd isn’t it?
hello , I have a question. After the birth of my daughter I have intrusive thoughts. I don't quite understand what to do. Do I have to do exposure on the thoughts and then resist or is only resist and continuing with real life enough? is exposure thinking about or on purpes ? thank you very much
Dedicated exposure (even if only for a short amount of time each day) really helped me. Look at her and let all thoughts into your brain and experience the anxiety. There's nothing you need to do to stop them or reassure yourself as your thoughts and anxiety are completely harmless :) do nothing at all and they will go away by themselves. Imagine OCD as a bully looking for a reaction. If you do nothing, eventually they'll get bored and go away.
I advice everyone to lower your brain/gut inflammation first before erp. Clean your diet and habits permanently. It will keep your anxiety tamed in the long wrong; that's a good thing because ocd is anxiety. When a thought shows up your brain automatically makes the wrong assumptions and that is what causes you to do rituals. Admit your assumptions are wrong and that nothing bad will happen. Be fully confident in yourself, only reason why you have those thoughts is because you strongly dislike them and they cause you immense pain. Don't worry, you're not a bad person. It's just trauma. Stick to reality. 🍀
Just say say "cool" and do some positive affirmations...don't analyze or Question...just be like "nice try ocd" "I'm done with ur shit" and just sit with the anxiety...and go on with ur life...do the tasks u need to... "where ur attention goes...energy flows" ...so whether it's a thought ...urge or emotion that usually gives u anxiety...just be like "okay" or be like "thank u for sharing..." and keep going with ur day
@@isasofia4633 both of those would be compulsions in different ways. The best thing to do is nothing at all, because that's the opposite of what your brain wants you to do. I know it's hard, but it gets easier the more you do it. Resist the urge to solve it and experience the discomfort :)
I just came from your other video about intrusive thoughts, where the solution is to agree with them as aggressively as possible. Does this apply to pure o fears? E.g if I get the thought, “what if I hurt this kid?”, do I agree with it or remain silent and just continue doing whatever I was doing?
nope. All you do, is just be like nah! Don’t make it like really important. Just be like “nah”. Don’t say it unless you want to but try to say “nah” with your body. The video is wrong
Just disregard it. Anytime it comes in be like okay cool, not interested in that. Trust yourself, and just don’t interact with the thought. So don’t answer the what if; don’t say no and don’t say yeah, you know you wouldn’t so who cares leave it unsolved
I m gonna suicide pls tell me what type of ocd it is and how to get over it .My one is i will do something ex- Breathe in certain ways or saying or reapting certain word and I will check how people reacting and how I am doing my work if they don,t respond well I will change words. i have habit of repeteating word in my head example if I decide to do what ali said in video to track time then I will track time and see how people are reacting and how I m doing my work if not good I will change the repeating word to erp what are my compulsion bla bla so point is I add faith to this and repeat this words,i think if i repeat it my perfomance will good or best .if i play game this word will improve my performance and this word will not ,and .also if i decided to not repeat any word i will repeat in my head "not repeat" and check how people are responding or doing my work. I they don,t respond well I well switch back to different words. One more example ; if i repeat or say'don,t think what people think about you' i will check the family member or freind are talking to me nice or not and if not i will change the word
Firstly, DO NOT commit suicide. Please. It is never the answer, and just know that many people struggle in this way, you are not alone. Not everyone's ocd fits into a specific 'category' but any type of constant unwanted thought can become ocd. However, this may be what is called 'Magical Thinking' ocd and is when people think that the thoughts they think can alter reality or an event. Try taking a word that you don't think will improve your performance and repeat that a few times instead and see if anything bad will happen (it won't). I'm not sure the best way to go about all of this since I have a different type of ocd, but now you know the name hopefully you can do some more research and maybe find some better strategies. Ocd is hard, but you're not alone. I hope you can read this and it will help a bit. It always gets better, I promise, but if it gets really bad try getting professional support, because this is not always something you can combat on your own. I hope this has helped and I hope this gets better soon :)
all 11k of these views are like 1000 of us rewatching this over and over lol
your explanation is far more accurate than any psychologist i have ever visited , i did not know that confessing and asking for reassurances is like a ritual , thank you coach
Thank you :)
Ali is the gold standard for treating OCD
YES! “If it’s not getting better you are still feeding it.”
Advice for all fighters:
Don't pay thousands to doctors for counseling who have no idea what there are talking about I've heard doctors telling people there's some black magic on them. Right RUclips Video is best option for counseling add medicine only if necessary ( Where you need doctors Prescription ). Thankyou Ali 🙏
For real. They are making free videos saying the same thing they would tell you in person, but would charge you hundreds of dollars a session for it.
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Rajat ji plz btye kaise thik kre ye prblm
Rajat ji plz help
How
Thank you for this. I've had trouble trying to distinguish an intrusive thought from a compulsion, but it seems that even reacting to it in any way and giving it power via feeling fearful is a compulsion in itself.
You should check out reddit.com/r/ocd and maybe ask a question if you’re feeling up to it. It’s helped me a bit seeing other people in the same situation or just asking questions.
Also, I know I responded within a minute of you commenting that but I just saw your comment at the same exact time so what a coincidence lol
This helped me so much... it made me realize that I do, in fact, suffer from Pure-O. I had been diagnosed with OCD for a while now, but i never really suffered from compulsions the way they are expected. They mainly manifested my thinking certain things to neutralize the thought. Sometimes a facial twitch at something really disgusting to let myself see that I reacted with disgust to that thought, but nothing really other than that. But that sitting there.... idk the way you described it, i resonated with it very deeply. Thank you for trying to help OCD sufferers, and it means a lot that you have studied this so well and wish to share the help you have found :)
The best way to deter SATAN is to show it the HOLY CROSS .... The best way to deter ANXIETY & OCD is to show it _the pictures of ALI GREYMOND_ and tell it that you are practising her principles & advice religiously and puff after sometime your anxiety & OCD are gone !.....
Love your comment ❤️
I don't know who I'd do without you god bless! X
Wow, someone who whreally understands it
Thank goodness for you.
Thank you so much for this video. I don't feel that we ever really completely overcome OCD. I do feel we can learn ways to cope and deal with OCD in a functional way. I've had some form for almost 30 years and I definitely deal with it better now than I did as a kid! There is a light, we just have to seek it.
You can recover fully
But it can also depend how long you have had it, and at the same time not it's how much you're willing to confront it
@@cinesterg6444 how ?
This channel is extremely helpful. Thank you.
God bless you so much.
Omg u so have a video for this THANK GOD
THANKYOU MAM YOUR WAY OF TEACHING OF HOW TO CONTROL OCD IS HELPING ME A LOT THANKYOU MAM APPRECIATE IT
Thank you so much! I'm happy to help! I just want to share with the world that yes you can recover! Feel free to share this video!
Thank you Ali ... These tools are amazing to practice🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Personally, I’ve found that on purpose exposures don’t work for me, since my exposures are “you should check this to make sure it’s nothing”. If I would check, I would be doing a compulsion, so purposely checking only ends up making things worse. So I simply disregard the exposure, and eventually the content of the exposure gets weaker and weaker. The less anxiety that is being infused into a trigger, the weaker it gets.
Ali, if you see this, please give me a sign that I’m on the right track 🙏
How are you doing now?
Bec I kinda do this aswell as doing the purposeful exposure a little for specific themes! It’s harder to do for the ‘what if so and so happens to me ‘ thiugg
@@mmalik203 I’m at the point where if I do the recovery work I’ll fully recover. If I keep going in circles I am only delaying recovery for instant reassurance in the moment that only prolongs the OCD.
@@RsDeepHalo that’s great, I agree do the work and you recover! Im kinda in my 2nd ish month so going back and forth with high and low anxiety, but keep pushing through
Not really possible if you have it about morals and if your a bad person and have mental images that cause u to think those things because if you expose yourself to horrid mental images and become numb to them then u become less of a sensitive person and become numb to most things. I tried it and took me years to stop being an abrupt person for which I am now haunted by more bad memories of upsetting people by me being abrupt. In my instance I remember every single time someones even had something wrong to say about me. I cant forget these memories and my OCD replays them over and over in my head hundreds of times a day and I have to analyse them to make sure I dont so same thing wrong again or make a worse mistake and feel even more guilty. When you remember everything situational wise and with my situation ERP wont work as I'm sure it wont for quite a few pure o sufferers. But many thanks for the video as it is worth it to other people that it may help and was an interesting video to listen to
@@johnbetjeman yea I been looking into ACT therapy but in the UK there arent that many people that practice it and as I'm sure u know reading a book to urself isn't the same as going over it n being told it by someone else. ERP for scrupulosity (religious and morals) just doesn't work
johnbetjeman check dr Phillipson’s articles they will be of much help
I have pure o Ali and I have struggled a lot by analyzing my thoughts and I can't figure out where these coming from like images.... Some people's saying or some bad past ..nd my years are destroyed ..... Bcoz I can't understand it but now I understand I started my meds very late after 5 years of ocd..... And got into depression...... Things got worse. Now ........ Well ur advice sounds great helping for me ..... ❤❤
Ksise kiya plz btye or plz video ka hindi bhi
Thank you Ali 👍🏻🙏🏻
Thats inspiring.....m happy....love u ali so much for helping me
R yu suffering from ocd
@@sakthi3850 yup
Shiba plz help me
My version of erp is to react with confidence, i make a comment in my head that i know isnt true then react with the truth and that what and how i truely feel.
That’s good! Power over it like a tank!
@@ocdhelp im now doing your version of ERP by not reacting to urges and honestly its worked a treat. I do think “remember do ali gremonds erp and dont give in to the urge”
Works well! Honestly any pure o i had feels like its a done thing.
It gets to a point where even your brain gets bored of the constant pureo too much is too much.
Isn't that responding to the thought with reassurance (a compulsion)? Isn't it better to let the original thought be, and move on?
@@MrQuentini For most thoughts yes but this way i showed my mind that i have nothing to fear
@@MrQuentini now i have no need to do this method as i have recovered but different methods for different people i suppose.
Thank you. Helpful
Leave it unsolved... Good advice :D
You are the best
Well today I can’t function and Im so tired that I wish for a rest in any way I can get it, Thinking about using again to get away from this.
What’s dat mean not to react? If we are having anxiety then we already reacting with fear right?
It is like do not do the rituals, mental reaasurance, thinking positive,prayer during the trigger thoughts.
Thank you, but the point is in some kind of pure o thoughts I swear to god, that I don't react or analyze the thought. But it is analyzed what if thoughts automatically and become very real, although you know that it's not real and you don't react to what if thoughts, but subconsciously because you are not feeling ok make your mind to do the mental compulsion. for example, I have HIV phobia and whenever I touch sharp objects, like a knife my mind keeps telling me what if you get HIV and i don't react to it but automatically my mind continues what if it is true, again I don't react but I get much anxiety again. and I know 100 percent, it is not true but it continues to bring lots of scenarios and ruminations to make it believable. And finally, you find yourself depressed and having anxiety without reacting or seeking reassurance. Please answer me.
relationship with girl ended (not same girl I messaged u about before) I started with cause Christian values so I felt she was trying to break up by pulling away sexual things and then I kinda threw a fit over reacted then we got in huge fight and she brought up that she's scared of me because I hold resentment towards her from first breakup (which I did) and she was scared that I'd cut off her head or harm her family..sigh I also told her about my pure O ocd and that I'm afraid to meet people I care about like her fam cause I have weird violent thoughts and so maybe that's why she thought that but I've never been violet towards her or family not even close I'm not like that at all. I do get v verbally violent with people though like when driver almost killed her I said a bunch of evil things I'd do to him if he killed her cause if his reckless and etc so as man gotta be more careful w words but now we both blocked ea other except I didn't block her on iMessage we tried to do a 30 day break but kept fighting and we both said we love each other a lot and was wondering for ur advice if I should permanently block her or potentially let this go a third round since ur in a successful marriage and also since you talk about mental issues which I need to work on, sorry kinda a lot I really love this girl tho so I feel I may need to let her go but can't find the courage to do it
i recently sent her sincere message and letting it rest now hey so I've come to an understanding that what I've said/did was not fair to you. You've been very understanding for me so I feel I have been way too harsh on you and I see all your points you have made im sorry -her name- I love you and I want to be with you I just fear a lot and self sabotage everything I’m sorry
can retroactive jealousy be considered as a form of Pure O? I'm really struggling with it right now and I need help
Yes
So do we avoid or let the full picture come and sit there because then I feel like I'm giving energy to it
I’m confused about this too. Do I bring up the thoughts/images on purpose to do ERP or wait until it comes in then do ERP?
@@PathToMettabring the thoughts up on purpose, even if it's only for five mins a day. As Skeme says, let them sit there and be. Allow everything in; no thoughts are dangerous and anxiety is uncomfortable, but not unbearable. There is nothing we need to do to counteract it - our solutions are actually the problem!
I got exposed to new age videos that talk about manifestation of thoughts into reality and I get scared i’ll end up making the nightmare come true if I acknowledge it or keep thinking about it. That’s ocd isn’t it?
All new age videos are scary..lol
Should I bring in the thought deliberately to do ERP or do it when it comes to my mind?
hello ,
I have a question. After the birth of my daughter I have intrusive thoughts. I don't quite understand what to do. Do I have to do exposure on the thoughts and then resist or is only resist and continuing with real life enough? is exposure thinking about or on purpes ?
thank you very much
Dedicated exposure (even if only for a short amount of time each day) really helped me. Look at her and let all thoughts into your brain and experience the anxiety. There's nothing you need to do to stop them or reassure yourself as your thoughts and anxiety are completely harmless :) do nothing at all and they will go away by themselves. Imagine OCD as a bully looking for a reaction. If you do nothing, eventually they'll get bored and go away.
@@MrQuentini i understand now that doing nothing is the best solution, Thankyou for reminding me ♡
I advice everyone to lower your brain/gut inflammation first before erp. Clean your diet and habits permanently. It will keep your anxiety tamed in the long wrong; that's a good thing because ocd is anxiety. When a thought shows up your brain automatically makes the wrong assumptions and that is what causes you to do rituals. Admit your assumptions are wrong and that nothing bad will happen. Be fully confident in yourself, only reason why you have those thoughts is because you strongly dislike them and they cause you immense pain. Don't worry, you're not a bad person. It's just trauma. Stick to reality. 🍀
But saying I’m not gonna react to this is a compulsion right? Because it can ease you.
Ik it’s so confusing idk if it’s more compulsive to push the thoughts away or to just tell myself it’s fine
Just say say "cool" and do some positive affirmations...don't analyze or Question...just be like "nice try ocd" "I'm done with ur shit" and just sit with the anxiety...and go on with ur life...do the tasks u need to... "where ur attention goes...energy flows" ...so whether it's a thought ...urge or emotion that usually gives u anxiety...just be like "okay" or be like "thank u for sharing..." and keep going with ur day
@@sianthompson8638 100%, good advice
@@isasofia4633 both of those would be compulsions in different ways. The best thing to do is nothing at all, because that's the opposite of what your brain wants you to do. I know it's hard, but it gets easier the more you do it. Resist the urge to solve it and experience the discomfort :)
So would fear be a compulsion?
I just came from your other video about intrusive thoughts, where the solution is to agree with them as aggressively as possible. Does this apply to pure o fears? E.g if I get the thought, “what if I hurt this kid?”, do I agree with it or remain silent and just continue doing whatever I was doing?
nope. All you do, is just be like nah! Don’t make it like really important. Just be like “nah”. Don’t say it unless you want to but try to say “nah” with your body. The video is wrong
Just disregard it. Anytime it comes in be like okay cool, not interested in that. Trust yourself, and just don’t interact with the thought. So don’t answer the what if; don’t say no and don’t say yeah, you know you wouldn’t so who cares leave it unsolved
Agree with it? No. Accept that it is there and don't seek re-assurance about it.
So hard to do it the anxiety is so hard that i get brain fog after that
I m gonna suicide pls tell me what type of ocd it is and how to get over it .My one is i will do something ex- Breathe in certain ways or saying or reapting certain word and I will check how people reacting and how I am doing my work if they don,t respond well I will change words. i have habit of repeteating word in my head example if I decide to do what ali said in video to track time then I will track time and see how people are reacting and how I m doing my work if not good I will change the repeating word to erp what are my compulsion bla bla so point is I add faith to this and repeat this words,i think if i repeat it my perfomance will good or best .if i play game this word will improve my performance and this word will not ,and .also if i decided to not repeat any word i will repeat in my head "not repeat" and check how people are responding or doing my work. I they don,t respond well I well switch back to different words. One more example ; if i repeat or say'don,t think what people think about you' i will check the family member or freind are talking to me nice or not and if not i will change the word
Firstly, DO NOT commit suicide. Please. It is never the answer, and just know that many people struggle in this way, you are not alone. Not everyone's ocd fits into a specific 'category' but any type of constant unwanted thought can become ocd. However, this may be what is called 'Magical Thinking' ocd and is when people think that the thoughts they think can alter reality or an event. Try taking a word that you don't think will improve your performance and repeat that a few times instead and see if anything bad will happen (it won't). I'm not sure the best way to go about all of this since I have a different type of ocd, but now you know the name hopefully you can do some more research and maybe find some better strategies. Ocd is hard, but you're not alone. I hope you can read this and it will help a bit. It always gets better, I promise, but if it gets really bad try getting professional support, because this is not always something you can combat on your own. I hope this has helped and I hope this gets better soon :)
plz send me.sequence..? from where i should started? i m.severe ocd patient
Please sign up through youhaveocd.com
@@ocdhelp i cant afford yout fee..dear plz just tell me about yout videos sequence or any e book?
Don't you think CBT Therapy would be just as good for Pure O
I think ERP is a form of CBT
Unfortunately no...erp is currently the ONLY gold standard treatment that works.
But doind cbt as well can only help I suppose...