I had to learn to transmute energy, and it changed my life. When I realized and started distinguishing what was and was not my energy, it became a lot easier to deal with others and staying at peace❗️🙏🏽🦋✨️
I believe I posted this once before your videos just keep getting better and better. The human way you present yourself and the directness of the messaging is masterful. Thank you for sharing your gift with us Dr. Fox
For me it is painful because I care for others and when I was in deep physical pain and needed simple care like what happened to your hands in braces, most of ppl ignored from the fear of being involved . Society has grown into people distancing from anything that can risk any involvement . That ignoring by people was painful for me. I was not overwhelmed by my own emotion but by lack of slight empathy from others . I hope you can reflect on this .
@shahilagh I totally understend what you're speaking about. It happened to me too. It is like people only see their own problems and stuff are worth talking about or attending to. And it feels againg very invalidating for someone with bpd. To me personally it happend numerous times, and latter on it created resentment and also beneth it all rage, cause I dont dont how to clearly speak my needs and problems. After such event, I feel pain, and then I just shut down and feel like a ghost not worth anything. I repress my need and desire and later on I lash out leaving everyone speechless. What is your strategy for dealing with situations like that? Sorry for my english
When i get overwhelmed it feels like theres a spot light on me and i cant eacape .. its not until i can get away that i can finally breathe 💜 its embarrassing, i really tried to hide my overwhelm, most average ppl who dont know me probably think im being a "karen" but im really just trying to escape to find a place to hide so i can calm down..the more people seem to notice me when im in that mode the worse it gets
Do not woooorry! :) There are multiple reasons why people may get overwhelmed and it's ok. You are fine juuust the way you are :) When you care about others, others feel it and appreciate it. You are very precious for others and continue to be.
Thank you, Dr. Fox. Most of my life, I never realized that I was an empath. I just felt extremely "different" than others, but Not necessarily in a "good" way! I think empaths can easily not only neglect ourselves, but actually purposely deprive ourselves, even abuse ourselves, when we're overwhelmed & unbalanced. This is especially so when we've been subjected to abuse, specifically from childhood, as well as narcissist abuse as an adult. I also think that HSP/Empaths are VERY sensitive & affected extra negatively by EMF's.
I have emotional reaction to art. It seems something deep inside of me connects to the beauty of the creation. That beauty makes me weep. Profound emotion. Genuine tears. You’re the only one who has ever touched on the subject of art
In fairness, it’s usually the narcissist that takes issue with the highly sensitive person’s ‘’lack of empathy’’. But yeah self care is so important, awareness of one’s own limits and knowing where your empathy is worth placing.
Oh my gosh, you just described me to a T! I'm diagnosed BPD, PTSD & GAD but sometimes feel like I have zero emotion, which confused me because I always thought having BPD meant too much emotion. The older I get, the more numb I'm becoming, and am gradually feeling less and less emotion. Sad I know, but this is my reality..
I have symptoms of bipolar & bpd & I recently discovered your videos. I am really grateful for your content, as it is extremely validating & allows me to create a path to become my better self.
Your structure and summary of the conditions have such clarity. Good mental health explanation and a good video structure. Thank you for your efforts Dr. Fox.
Just out of the hospital for three weeks stay. I don’t know if it’s called empathy, but I could dissect each nurse exactly who they were, what their gifts were, And identifier they were going through life difficulties, or if they had just a general neurotic condition. I was aware I was building a fantasy for each one of them as I’m keenly aware of my condition. What surprise me is because I was doing this for each nurse which I felt was giving them a gift so they could understand themselves, Nurse became jealously possessive of me None of them wanted to date me, but each one of them did not like hearing me speaking positive things of any other nurse, Which, of course I did on purpose. As I said, I’m not sure if that’s empathy but within minutes, I can assess a person for who they truly are. The reason I know the assessments are highly accurate is because the people tell me so somewhat in disbelief. I used to use this gift to tear people down and take advantage of them. Now the gift is used for positive beneficial things, but clearly not perfected. Creating a competitive environment was not accidental. I knew that would happen, but don’t know how to turn that off. I’m not even sure what empathy is because I have none Even now the medical condition Running through my body is life-threatening and has me wondering what is anything all about. Gratitude to the universe is all I have. If there is some sort of afterlife It belongs to the inner child that’s locked away. There is no redemption for me this lizard brain inked collection of scripts that run whether I want them or not
I'm highly sensitive and I relate to this concept so much. I do have empathy but I also have moments where I wasn't sure why in certain cases I just couldn't feel empathetic but it makes sense when you described it as protection.
Thank you so much. This is revolutionary for me and has helped so much click into place and has taught me a lot that will help me. Thank you for what you do!
I have been my own worst critic about being an hsp. I judge my being an hsp to be shameful. Truly it is not shameful. I am learning to be kinder to myself by communicating more clearly to others what I can tolerate so they will understand when I need time away from the fray of life. It has been so freeing to communicate to others rather than just passively ducking out of situations. To see you speak about self acceptance and self care today is so affirming. Thank you, Dr. Fox!!
I fell in love with a hsp, initially she seemed capable of handling our contact but she became very overwhelmed with my complex trauma ‘dumping’…i understand better now why she can’t be in contact with me…thanks for this explanation…it still breaks my heart what i did though 😢
Glad I came across this I am a hsp and an empath so I struggle with both and my husband is hsp but he is not an empath like me I didn’t realiZe u can be highly sensitive but not an empath
Just purchased your journal. The crappie childhood fairy also says that feeling our feelings when sensitive and emotionally irregulated isn't always good.
Yep, there's a difference between experiencing emotion and being "emotional". In society even experiencing emotion seems to label you as emotional and non-rational -- especially by those that suppress and deny their emotions.
I am hsp, have been all my life but didn't know it was actually a thing until pretty recently. Went through life constantly being told I'm too sensitive, I need to toughen up get thicker skin etc etc. Bullied since a young age (my mother was the start of the bullying and it just kept happening and it seemed like the more it happened the more it was likely to attract more). I honestly hate myself for being this way and am not a functional person in the least.
It's important to remember that being highly sensitive is not a flaw, but a unique trait that comes with its own strengths. You are not alone in your experiences, and there are ways to navigate through them.
I've been accused of this......when I was younger, I thought about joining the priesthood, but I was reared in a ghetto by toxic parents that felt empathy was weakness.....not to mention being hit by puberty like a bullet train
People don't feel what I feel.They tell me I'm too intense. I've gone no contact with 99% of the people I know.I'm burnt out and done with people. I'm protecting my sanity above anything and anyone else.
i was just walking on the treadmill and had a similar thought today, strange that you uploaded this i was thinking about how sad it is that I’ve had to cut friends out of my life because their pain was pulling me down through my empathy and my inability to regulate and deal with my own intense emotions; the emotions I felt through empathising with their pain… it’s almost as if I felt their pain more than they felt it themselves… and then couldn’t deal with it myself… and I think one of the reasons I self isolate is because when I have to say ‘no’ to people I can feel the feelings of rejection on their end… i also wonder if there is a link between this and ‘splitting’… cause I’ll split negatively towards a friend who is literally going through hell in their life… and I don’t understand how I can go from being empathetic to almost psychopathic and hating on this person that is already in tremendous pain… i wonder if splitting itself is like an emotional defence mechanism… i have no idea 😂
I feel I can relate to what you wrote. I want to "be there" for my friends, but sometimes it feels like they are draining me and nobody is "there" for me. When I feel that way, I tend to isolate. It's a full-time job to keep my spirits up and to talk myself down out of taking things personally (like being ignored, for example) or like being asked for favors which I perceive as inconsiderate when I tend to not ask for favors because I don't want to impose. Most people just don't think/feel as "deeply" or intensely as we do and often it's not their fault but we can't handle it well.
I'm diagnosed with borderline (bpd can also refer to bipolar I think, oop) and I'm only just really learning about HSP starting to feel like a lot of dx can overlap more and more, our minds are so complex x_x
From what I understand, the difference is that with BPD there are mood shifts. With BPD, it's like the personality is split into multiple facets. When in one state, it's like you forget how other states feel like. I can say that I can go from being anxious about meeting a person I like in a good way, to actually interacting with her and feeling grateful and joy, sensing her happiness, then to not wanting her to come close to me, as I picture myself destroying her life, contemplating suicide, to then wanting her to save me from myself, to then wanting to lose myself into her, feeling safe and all this, and more, in one hour or so. I don't even know what the triggers these mood shifts most of times... BPD is a personality structure. You can also have NPD and be a highly sensitive person.
@@bogdanlazar3278so do you think this is part of BPD... Let me see how do I explain?... So everyday I wake up I tend to feel so reliant upon the world outside to tell me who I am and how I should feel, I always wake up the same person but everyday I feel im in a new perspective based upon the environment around me .I'm beginning to come to terms with this as I find it so hard to wake up each day holding the same perspective/outlook that I had the day before, .so if yesterday I was feeling courageous and confident, well I can't find that confidence today as I probably watched too many depressing Tok tok videos that made me sad and sort of locks in my view of the world for the day... I think I have a bit of BPD even though my therapist said she wouldn't diagnose me as such ..the problem is that I have a very fluid sense of identity.. i can take on other people's opinions and views so easy . It's cool to be able to have so many different viewpoints inside of oneself but when it comes to being able to depend upon myself for things like confidence I can't always do it .. but if I watch someone like Amber heard, I can tap into her energy and feel confident for the rest of the day 😂... Does this make sense on terms of BPD? I can go through feelings very quickly too. I just think it's kinda normal to be able to feel a lot of things. I try explaining this to my dog 😂 he just thinks I'm crazy ... Like just because I was crying g a second ago doesn't mean I'm really sad, buddy ... I can feel emotions on my surface but underneath it all I'm always the same ... And that's why I think I can cry and then be happy because underneath everything I'm generally happy
Could you maybe tell us about Bpd and parenting how to regulate emotions to not screw up a child...where i live the psychiatrists and clinical psychologist which i went to dissmised Bpd as nothing as if its some new age caprice and i literaly cant believe that happened,but i rly want to be better for my child sake i just want her to be normal not like me😢
You just said that highly sensitive people had nothing to do with him empathetic people so if you are highly empathic and you are highly sensitive you know what the hell is the difference if you feel everything you know explain yourself a little bit better
your analogies are so hilarious. why do magic mushrooms help with my anxiety. i find before it takes effect just before i get worse anxiety and then almost a peace? or being able to breath again like my anxiety is there just not to point of tightness in chest?
I had to learn to transmute energy, and it changed my life. When I realized and started distinguishing what was and was not my energy, it became a lot easier to deal with others and staying at peace❗️🙏🏽🦋✨️
That's amazing to hear! Learning to distinguish energy can really transform how we interact with the world. Keep spreading that positivity!
I believe I posted this once before your videos just keep getting better and better. The human way you present yourself and the directness of the messaging is masterful. Thank you for sharing your gift with us Dr. Fox
Wow, thank you!☺️
For me it is painful because I care for others and when I was in deep physical pain and needed simple care like what happened to your hands in braces, most of ppl ignored from the fear of being involved . Society has grown into people distancing from anything that can risk any involvement . That ignoring by people was painful for me. I was not overwhelmed by my own emotion but by lack of slight empathy from others . I hope you can reflect on this .
@shahilagh I totally understend what you're speaking about. It happened to me too. It is like people only see their own problems and stuff are worth talking about or attending to. And it feels againg very invalidating for someone with bpd. To me personally it happend numerous times, and latter on it created resentment and also beneth it all rage, cause I dont dont how to clearly speak my needs and problems. After such event, I feel pain, and then I just shut down and feel like a ghost not worth anything. I repress my need and desire and later on I lash out leaving everyone speechless. What is your strategy for dealing with situations like that? Sorry for my english
When i get overwhelmed it feels like theres a spot light on me and i cant eacape .. its not until i can get away that i can finally breathe 💜 its embarrassing, i really tried to hide my overwhelm, most average ppl who dont know me probably think im being a "karen" but im really just trying to escape to find a place to hide so i can calm down..the more people seem to notice me when im in that mode the worse it gets
Do not woooorry! :) There are multiple reasons why people may get overwhelmed and it's ok. You are fine juuust the way you are :) When you care about others, others feel it and appreciate it. You are very precious for others and continue to be.
Thank you, Dr. Fox. Most of my life, I never realized that I was an empath. I just felt extremely "different" than others, but Not necessarily in a "good" way! I think empaths can easily not only neglect ourselves, but actually purposely deprive ourselves, even abuse ourselves, when we're overwhelmed & unbalanced. This is especially so when we've been subjected to abuse, specifically from childhood, as well as narcissist abuse as an adult.
I also think that HSP/Empaths are VERY sensitive & affected extra negatively by EMF's.
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
I have emotional reaction to art. It seems something deep inside of me connects to the beauty of the creation. That beauty makes me weep. Profound emotion. Genuine tears. You’re the only one who has ever touched on the subject of art
It's amazing how art can evoke such deep emotions within us. I'm glad my video resonated with you and sparked this reflection!
Exactly! Self-care ≠ selfishness
It is not narcissistic to put yourself first, take space from people, engage in self-care etc
Glad you found the video helpful.
In fairness, it’s usually the narcissist that takes issue with the highly sensitive person’s ‘’lack of empathy’’. But yeah self care is so important, awareness of one’s own limits and knowing where your empathy is worth placing.
Oh my gosh, you just described me to a T! I'm diagnosed BPD, PTSD & GAD but sometimes feel like I have zero emotion, which confused me because I always thought having BPD meant too much emotion. The older I get, the more numb I'm becoming, and am gradually feeling less and less emotion. Sad I know, but this is my reality..
Excellent approach to the subject! Thanks so much for sharing, Doctor!
I’m glad you found it helpful! Your feedback really motivates me to keep creating great content.
I have symptoms of bipolar & bpd & I recently discovered your videos. I am really grateful for your content, as it is extremely validating & allows me to create a path to become my better self.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad my videos could be helpful to you.
You hit the nail on the head. Extremely validating explanation. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Wonderfully explained!!
Glad it was helpful!
thank you for this. Got this very wrong a little while back... trying to get back in track
It's never too late to get back on track!
Yay, I realte to HSP while having BPD, ADHD and OCD. Lol. P.s. DR FOX, i ordered your new book, the journal BPD! 😀 thank you. Kindly !!!
Thank you for the support.
Your structure and summary of the conditions have such clarity. Good mental health explanation and a good video structure. Thank you for your efforts Dr. Fox.
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
Thank you kindly for a well structured presentation! ❤
Just out of the hospital for three weeks stay. I don’t know if it’s called empathy, but I could dissect each nurse exactly who they were, what their gifts were, And identifier they were going through life difficulties, or if they had just a general neurotic condition.
I was aware I was building a fantasy for each one of them as I’m keenly aware of my condition.
What surprise me is because I was doing this for each nurse which I felt was giving them a gift so they could understand themselves, Nurse became jealously possessive of me
None of them wanted to date me, but each one of them did not like hearing me speaking positive things of any other nurse, Which, of course I did on purpose.
As I said, I’m not sure if that’s empathy but within minutes, I can assess a person for who they truly are. The reason I know the assessments are highly accurate is because the people tell me so somewhat in disbelief.
I used to use this gift to tear people down and take advantage of them. Now the gift is used for positive beneficial things, but clearly not perfected. Creating a competitive environment was not accidental. I knew that would happen, but don’t know how to turn that off.
I’m not even sure what empathy is because I have none
Even now the medical condition Running through my body is life-threatening and has me wondering what is anything all about.
Gratitude to the universe is all I have. If there is some sort of afterlife It belongs to the inner child that’s locked away. There is no redemption for me this lizard brain inked collection of scripts that run whether I want them or not
I'm highly sensitive and I relate to this concept so much. I do have empathy but I also have moments where I wasn't sure why in certain cases I just couldn't feel empathetic but it makes sense when you described it as protection.
Glad the video was helpful.
Thank you so much. This is revolutionary for me and has helped so much click into place and has taught me a lot that will help me. Thank you for what you do!
You're so welcome!
Yeah u fool..lol
I have been my own worst critic about being an hsp. I judge my being an hsp to be shameful. Truly it is not shameful. I am learning to be kinder to myself by communicating more clearly to others what I can tolerate so they will understand when I need time away from the fray of life. It has been so freeing to communicate to others rather than just passively ducking out of situations. To see you speak about self acceptance and self care today is so affirming. Thank you, Dr. Fox!!
It's wonderful to hear that you are learning to be kinder to yourself and communicate your needs. Self-acceptance and self-care are so important!
I fell in love with a hsp, initially she seemed capable of handling our contact but she became very overwhelmed with my complex trauma ‘dumping’…i understand better now why she can’t be in contact with me…thanks for this explanation…it still breaks my heart what i did though 😢
I can SO relate to this from BOTH sides of the equation 🥲
Thank you...i REALLY needed this.
You are so welcome
Glad I came across this I am a hsp and an empath so I struggle with both and my husband is hsp but he is not an empath like me I didn’t realiZe u can be highly sensitive but not an empath
Just purchased your journal. The crappie childhood fairy also says that feeling our feelings when sensitive and emotionally irregulated isn't always good.
I'm grateful for your support and excited for you to start journaling with our product.
Yep, there's a difference between experiencing emotion and being "emotional". In society even experiencing emotion seems to label you as emotional and non-rational -- especially by those that suppress and deny their emotions.
I am hsp, have been all my life but didn't know it was actually a thing until pretty recently. Went through life constantly being told I'm too sensitive, I need to toughen up get thicker skin etc etc. Bullied since a young age (my mother was the start of the bullying and it just kept happening and it seemed like the more it happened the more it was likely to attract more). I honestly hate myself for being this way and am not a functional person in the least.
It's important to remember that being highly sensitive is not a flaw, but a unique trait that comes with its own strengths. You are not alone in your experiences, and there are ways to navigate through them.
I've been accused of this......when I was younger, I thought about joining the priesthood, but I was reared in a ghetto by toxic parents that felt empathy was weakness.....not to mention being hit by puberty like a bullet train
It's tough when circumstances push us in different directions than we originally planned.
@@DrDanielFox my wonderful. loving wife is convinced I'm a miracle because those circumstances didn't push me into prison or off a cliff🙂
People don't feel what I feel.They tell me I'm too intense. I've gone no contact with 99% of the people I know.I'm burnt out and done with people. I'm protecting my sanity above anything and anyone else.
i was just walking on the treadmill and had a similar thought today, strange that you uploaded this
i was thinking about how sad it is that I’ve had to cut friends out of my life because their pain was pulling me down through my empathy and my inability to regulate and deal with my own intense emotions; the emotions I felt through empathising with their pain… it’s almost as if I felt their pain more than they felt it themselves… and then couldn’t deal with it myself… and I think one of the reasons I self isolate is because when I have to say ‘no’ to people I can feel the feelings of rejection on their end…
i also wonder if there is a link between this and ‘splitting’…
cause I’ll split negatively towards a friend who is literally going through hell in their life… and I don’t understand how I can go from being empathetic to almost psychopathic and hating on this person that is already in tremendous pain… i wonder if splitting itself is like an emotional defence mechanism…
i have no idea 😂
I feel I can relate to what you wrote. I want to "be there" for my friends, but sometimes it feels like they are draining me and nobody is "there" for me. When I feel that way, I tend to isolate. It's a full-time job to keep my spirits up and to talk myself down out of taking things personally (like being ignored, for example) or like being asked for favors which I perceive as inconsiderate when I tend to not ask for favors because I don't want to impose. Most people just don't think/feel as "deeply" or intensely as we do and often it's not their fault but we can't handle it well.
What is the difference between being highly emotional and BPD.? 🤔 Also CPTSD
I'm diagnosed with borderline (bpd can also refer to bipolar I think, oop) and I'm only just really learning about HSP
starting to feel like a lot of dx can overlap more and more, our minds are so complex x_x
I think because HSP is also present in other diagnosis, but definitely a big aspect of BPD.
From what I understand, the difference is that with BPD there are mood shifts. With BPD, it's like the personality is split into multiple facets. When in one state, it's like you forget how other states feel like.
I can say that I can go from being anxious about meeting a person I like in a good way, to actually interacting with her and feeling grateful and joy, sensing her happiness, then to not wanting her to come close to me, as I picture myself destroying her life, contemplating suicide, to then wanting her to save me from myself, to then wanting to lose myself into her, feeling safe and all this, and more, in one hour or so. I don't even know what the triggers these mood shifts most of times...
BPD is a personality structure. You can also have NPD and be a highly sensitive person.
@@bogdanlazar3278so do you think this is part of BPD... Let me see how do I explain?... So everyday I wake up I tend to feel so reliant upon the world outside to tell me who I am and how I should feel, I always wake up the same person but everyday I feel im in a new perspective based upon the environment around me .I'm beginning to come to terms with this as I find it so hard to wake up each day holding the same perspective/outlook that I had the day before, .so if yesterday I was feeling courageous and confident, well I can't find that confidence today as I probably watched too many depressing Tok tok videos that made me sad and sort of locks in my view of the world for the day...
I think I have a bit of BPD even though my therapist said she wouldn't diagnose me as such ..the problem is that I have a very fluid sense of identity.. i can take on other people's opinions and views so easy . It's cool to be able to have so many different viewpoints inside of oneself but when it comes to being able to depend upon myself for things like confidence I can't always do it .. but if I watch someone like Amber heard, I can tap into her energy and feel confident for the rest of the day 😂... Does this make sense on terms of BPD? I can go through feelings very quickly too. I just think it's kinda normal to be able to feel a lot of things. I try explaining this to my dog 😂 he just thinks I'm crazy ... Like just because I was crying g a second ago doesn't mean I'm really sad, buddy ... I can feel emotions on my surface but underneath it all I'm always the same ... And that's why I think I can cry and then be happy because underneath everything I'm generally happy
❤ wOW!!! I agree and reaonate with all you said! 100 percent ! @@bogdanlazar3278
Thanks
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Helpful ! 💚
I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.
But what self care looks like for us?
Could you maybe tell us about Bpd and parenting how to regulate emotions to not screw up a child...where i live the psychiatrists and clinical psychologist which i went to dissmised Bpd as nothing as if its some new age caprice and i literaly cant believe that happened,but i rly want to be better for my child sake i just want her to be normal not like me😢
I understand your concerns, and I'm here to help guide you through managing emotions as a parent with BPD.
Ugh I cry everyday because I’m highly sensitive
I understand how tough it can be to feel overwhelmed. It's important to take care of yourself and reach out for support when needed.
@@DrDanielFox thanks Dr , I’ll try
Would individuals with borderline personality also feel some of these physical sensation?
Yes, to varying degrees.
You just said that highly sensitive people had nothing to do with him empathetic people so if you are highly empathic and you are highly sensitive you know what the hell is the difference if you feel everything you know explain yourself a little bit better
It can be very confusing to make this distinction. Do you best to monitor and explore how you feel in different situations.
your analogies are so hilarious. why do magic mushrooms help with my anxiety. i find before it takes effect just before i get worse anxiety and then almost a peace? or being able to breath again like my anxiety is there just not to point of tightness in chest?