ASMR but halfway through it turns into a therapy session

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  • Опубликовано: 11 янв 2025

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  • @j0di3wi5h3
    @j0di3wi5h3 8 месяцев назад +48

    I totally relate to the whole not being good at keeping in touch with people. I'm an introvert and I just kinda stay in my own little bubble. And also, like you, I have social anxiety and most of the time I avoid doing a lot of social things. So yeah, the struggle is real. You're not alone 🩷

  • @Roderick_Legato
    @Roderick_Legato 8 месяцев назад +11

    32:25 "It's safer if I don't" Been there, done that. Alise, you are not alone in this; many people have the same issues. It's good that you shared this.

  • @holly____99999
    @holly____99999 8 месяцев назад +27

    I appreciate your ability to be vulnerable with your audience, that's a really hard thing to do. I also struggle with ADHD (currently writing a research paper a day after it was due during the last week of the semester...) and it 100% affects my ability to respond to people on time as well. I don't have any amazing advice, just know you're not alone. Hope all is well and that your housing situation gets settled 🫶🙏

  • @directorjake
    @directorjake 8 месяцев назад +17

    Your rambles are my favorites! Thanks for another video, Alise! Have a wonderful day/night :)

  • @gabriellagulyas3778
    @gabriellagulyas3778 8 месяцев назад +3

    you just described my life honestly with the communication prbolems this is me too all the time and it's soo frustrating
    i feel so heard and validated and you are not alone in this

  • @coocoostryker
    @coocoostryker 8 месяцев назад +14

    Alise, your a real one, if you were to make a two hour audio; Damn straight, I can watch that whole thing. You just have that special charm to ya. Also, welcome back.

  • @arashi9469
    @arashi9469 8 месяцев назад +5

    I work as a fashion photographer and I agree that most models can't smile, that's why I usually bring my comic relief friend as an assistant and she has the specific purpose of creating funny situations to make the models laugh

  • @Wesker113A
    @Wesker113A 8 месяцев назад +2

    Talking to us like you are really shows you care and want to show yourself in a positive manner and willing to share experiences. ❤

  • @soba_fm
    @soba_fm Месяц назад +1

    the texting thing is literally me!!!!! i dont have a perfect solution or anything but one thing that’s helped me is writing down a list on my phone of all the people i want to text and then starting with what feels like the least “heaviest” or draining text and working my way through the list from there, it gives me a sense of momentum that lets me power through it and it becomes a lot easier when i knock them out in a row like that -hope this helps anyone who sees this good luck everyone 🫶

  • @highlivin1917
    @highlivin1917 8 месяцев назад +2

    19:27 I definitely know that feeling. Same exact thing happened to me when I rode the gravitron lol. Darkness starts creeping into your vision from the edges and slowly closes in on the center but I was able to shake it off by sitting down and taking deep breaths. I told one of my buddies who trains in MMA about it later on and he said I was pretty much about to pass out but somehow fought it off.

  • @bens57
    @bens57 8 месяцев назад +13

    First half: oh nice an asmr video! Second half: oh nice an existential crisis because I relate to basically everything you said and now I'm questioning my whole life at 1am 🙃

  • @LPISZ
    @LPISZ 8 месяцев назад +5

    ramble all you want, we love it

  • @eta0carinae
    @eta0carinae 8 месяцев назад +5

    don't feel bad Alise, I was also diagnosed with ADHD and there's been very good friends that I've been ignoring for months... I never mean to, it's just hard for me to keep touch as well. thankfully they're always understanding when I snap out of it, but I still feel gulty for it

  • @shadowslightly6759
    @shadowslightly6759 8 месяцев назад +2

    Superb timing! You always upload at the best time for East Coast and Midwest subscribers ❤❤

  • @martinconwheeler
    @martinconwheeler 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you. VERY much. much of what you said mirrors struggles I am having; your openness, your willingness to be vulnerable, is inspiring. i wish i had words of wisdom or anything helpful to say, but i do not, but i hope you can draw some small comfort in knowing that you impacted my life in a powerful positive way when it was very much needed.

  • @atticusmazerac6529
    @atticusmazerac6529 2 месяца назад

    I like how your hair is so wavy, looks so good on you

  • @Jimbo5900
    @Jimbo5900 8 месяцев назад

    Great vid as always. Just wanted to pop in with my own experience dealing with a similar form of procrastinating social stuff. What worked for me was putting aside time every week to make sure I replied to people. I made sure to be comfy, in a calm place physically and mentally (put on nice music, get a fav snack, etc.) and then just start going through it all and replying. Making it relaxing, comfy and a little fun stopped me from dreading the whole thing.

  • @Jstn2105
    @Jstn2105 8 месяцев назад +1

    It’s very hard to not overthink everything. Got the same problem but sometime you can’t help yourself and still do it even if you don’t want to. I think the best way to handle it is to work with it. I tried to just do things without thinking very much about it. Even it was the wrong way it helped me. But I thinks everybody has to try it on there own way. So you’re not alone with your adhd. Love your videos. Thanks you so much for your content.❤

  • @ZackyZombify
    @ZackyZombify 8 месяцев назад

    22:45-23:00 facials expressions are everything

  • @Matthew-bu7fg
    @Matthew-bu7fg 8 месяцев назад

    cannot beat a soft spoken video from Alise!

  • @spoonf8106
    @spoonf8106 8 месяцев назад

    Just got home from a ten hour shift so it's really nice to see a new Alise upload.

  • @AdamFishkin
    @AdamFishkin 8 месяцев назад

    One beauty mark will suffice. You said you liked the first one, so it makes sense to keep the first one.
    As a director (who might be hired soon to direct a commercial), I will say that getting into character is 50% the actor's preparation and 50% the environment on set. The atmosphere should be relaxed enough to let the flow happen. I appreciate that you don't fake smiles or push yourself into anything unnatural.
    German beer & sausage for the win!!
    The blackout you described is more of a brownout ... hazy; tunnel visiony; your ears are still taking in stimuli to balance you but your brain just goes "mehhhhh". Depending on the level of dehydration, sitting buckled on a roller coaster may have been the safest place for you at that moment.
    I know what you mean regarding ASMR stigma: the smaller the town is, the more judgmental people tend to get. So it really is easier just to keep your private affairs private.

  • @Above_Parr
    @Above_Parr 8 месяцев назад

    I’ve been eating a bowl of Ramen for the last 30 minutes watching this video and it inspired me to tackle my problems and on about with friends and iMessage my friend who I’ve been putting off messaging because of our shared ridiculous feelings about communication and friends so thank you alise. You have done well.💟

  • @HeeCawRoo
    @HeeCawRoo 8 месяцев назад +5

    RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) is pretty common with ADHD and it can cause a lot of anxiety regarding social situations and relationships. youre definitely not alone there.
    youre right that its important to work on it and not use a diagnosis as an excuse, but it doesnt hurt to know why things are happening -- it helps more than it hurts, usually.

    • @HeeCawRoo
      @HeeCawRoo 8 месяцев назад +4

      ill get like worked up about texting people back or starting conversations and its usually out of a fear that things will go wrong. objectively, theres almost never any chance that it will, but it still takes effort to break out of it sometimes.

    • @HeeCawRoo
      @HeeCawRoo 8 месяцев назад +1

      if it helps, try and remember that there usually arent right or wrong ways to do things like that and as soon as you send the first message it usually gets easier -- whatever the message is. so writing something quickly and getting it over with without stressing over wording or anything like that can get things started

  • @neongnome81
    @neongnome81 8 месяцев назад +1

    so happy to see another video from you!! hope you're doing super well ❤

  • @TIM6266
    @TIM6266 8 месяцев назад

    Loved the Over sharing hahaha. I can related to it in some levels. Hats off to all your accomplishments.

  • @chatssurmars
    @chatssurmars 8 месяцев назад +1

    Proud of you for uploading and being vulnerable (not that you need to though!). We can and do relate! This video helped me today 😊

  • @SPTO
    @SPTO 8 месяцев назад

    It's good to see you back Alise! I will listen to this when I turn in tonight but I was a little worried with you being gone so long.

  • @SineScroller
    @SineScroller 8 месяцев назад +1

    Love some Alise rambles ! ( also, your hair looks really luscious today! - must be the juice! :D )

  • @tranquilitybase.
    @tranquilitybase. 8 месяцев назад +1

    Your rambles are always relaxing no matter what you say. You're just a natural at asmr. It doesn't need to be every hour, but you need to text your dear ones. The only advice i can give you is that you shouldn't think about the "what ifs". Text and be honest to them why you haven't texted back. I strongly believe your dear ones and friends will understand if you open up to them and will help you go through it. They will be like "kintsugi" to you. ☀️🌛

  • @essenceofroz
    @essenceofroz 8 месяцев назад +35

    who loves alise and is watching this to be calm or sleepy? 💗 i am!

    • @baddbarry
      @baddbarry 8 месяцев назад +1

      Calming since I just got home from work not too long ago. 😎🤙🏼🇺🇸🎏

    • @tabathabyrd2653
      @tabathabyrd2653 8 месяцев назад +1

      Me

  • @markwolfe947
    @markwolfe947 8 месяцев назад

    I hear you on the not connecting with people family or friend unless they are in your immediate surroundings. Also the introvert urge to shut down, I love comic cons but if I am drained from just being there. The whole time on my last nerve via social anxiety. I am undiagnosed and fear getting labeled but I push through even if I end up worn out, and let others know I am trying.

  • @funnymanricktwo
    @funnymanricktwo 8 месяцев назад +8

    I was just coming to watch an older Alise video when this new one popped up. Bonus.

  • @metatrix4251
    @metatrix4251 7 месяцев назад

    The beauty mark under your eye is indeed super cute. You should 100% adopt it.
    The one on your neck is also cute. Never erase it ;)

  • @dustinhills8663
    @dustinhills8663 Месяц назад +1

    ADHD is not an "excuse" for bad behavior, any more than a broken leg is an excuse for not running a marathon. Mental health is personal health, and should be treated as such. No one is going to think less of you if you didn't go to a party because you were sick. If you start your late reply texts with something like "Sorry for the delay, been goin' thru some stuff. What's up?" people who are your friends will completely understand.

  • @empireofthelight2651
    @empireofthelight2651 7 месяцев назад

    I'm here and everyone is here for you Alise. You are awesome 👍✌️❤️🌞🙏💖

  • @ada19878
    @ada19878 6 месяцев назад

    I really like your tone of voice and how you express yourself and sometimes make good jokes.
    Just said.

  • @wyatt9145
    @wyatt9145 8 месяцев назад

    Totally unrelated but that color blue really suits you!!! It brings out your eyes. Hope you’re having a wonderful day!! 🩷🙆

  • @felizvolantez
    @felizvolantez 8 месяцев назад +2

    ADHD is no excuse. That's the right attitude 👌👍 İ have the same problems, sometimes I won't even talk or text to my parents, siblings, close friends.

  • @brayamsworld77
    @brayamsworld77 8 месяцев назад

    Ive missed your voice and bubbly personality so much😭😭

  • @joshpirie9035
    @joshpirie9035 8 месяцев назад +1

    Just be sure to forgive yourself! I know people like that, and I still consider them friends. I know they're super busy and I don't judge them when they don't reply. They're still good people with good hearts and it makes me happy to be around them when I can be. Until then I just try to be nice locally, in my little town & in my work. Sounds like you have a good heart too. It'll be okay - we're all doing the best we can. :)

  • @ripxdoc
    @ripxdoc 8 месяцев назад

    clutch alise post!! I need sleep so bad and this is gonna help

  • @rebeccaappleby5986
    @rebeccaappleby5986 8 месяцев назад

    She is so cute! Straight as an arrow 40year old woman here 🙋‍♀️ but she’s mesmerising to look at and listen to. What a sweetie!

  • @sumbahdy6410
    @sumbahdy6410 8 месяцев назад

    perfect concept, perfect execution

  • @synsyin4725
    @synsyin4725 8 месяцев назад

    11:38 i think a good word you could say is “aloof”
    I also don’t like fake smiles, it feels weird being in-genuine

  • @hellofriendo2
    @hellofriendo2 8 месяцев назад

    freckle by your eye looks groovy !
    Anybody that has done all that you have is doing just fine and is above average

  • @ASMRIntent
    @ASMRIntent 8 месяцев назад +2

    I think the beauty marks look good on you, I'm biased though cause I have a natural one on the side of my upper lip like Cindy Crawford, lol.

  • @SaucyWolfTaco
    @SaucyWolfTaco 8 месяцев назад

    Dang Alise another wonderful asmr video 🤩 Akso you look cute with your hair like that

  • @MmeAdmin
    @MmeAdmin 8 месяцев назад

    *psst* I'm not a dietitian but we eat vegetables because they have diary fiber (among the other micro and macro benefits). Juicing veggies does keep some of the nutrition but you want the fiber which is often separated from what you are drinking in a juice.
    Best to just chew your veggies.
    Bon appétit!

  • @directorjake
    @directorjake 8 месяцев назад +10

    I am not a therapist but just based on how you talked about these things and based on my own experiences, it sounds like you might have some form of social anxiety. If I were you, I'd definitely look into seeing if you can get evaluated for stuff like that and go from there.

  • @manuelroman6911
    @manuelroman6911 8 месяцев назад +1

    Yes, I struggle with the same problem of perpetually delaying replies to friends & other people (even work related). I actually have many unanswered messages and other matters I should've taken care of ages ago still sitting there right now. It gets tough at times. You're not alone on this!
    To me it's kind of a sign of the times. Latest developments in communication made it so that you are available to stay connected at all times and places. That alone comes with a responsibility: why wouldn't you reply if you can? So guilt quicky starts hunting you as things begin to pile up, and you have nowhere to run - again, you're available at literally all times, why wouldn't you answer then?
    Personally this has even pushed some comments I wanted to leave on your videos (like the q&a where you kindly addressed my questions, which I'm incredibly thankful for). It's got a big grip on my daily routine as well. :( small steps.
    Hope you're doing good Alise! I'll be sending my good wishes to you. Take care and take it easy on yourself, pretty please!

  • @ianhackettjunior198
    @ianhackettjunior198 8 месяцев назад

    Hard relate to the problem of not responding to people in a reasonable timeframe. You think, I'll respond later, then later comes, and you think it's too late to respond now
    I suck at it myself, yet to get a solution, but I always find the people are just happy to hear from you, and I try to get motivated off of that!
    Freckles adorable btw

  • @straubs625
    @straubs625 7 месяцев назад

    thanks for reminding me/encouraging me to reach out to my best friend who lives in another country and we havent talked in way too long. Also the fake freckles are cute but you can only pick one

  • @lilliansanger8567
    @lilliansanger8567 8 месяцев назад

    perfect timing 😴😴

  • @paigetaylor5823
    @paigetaylor5823 8 месяцев назад

    I'm sorry this is completely off topic but in the beginning I saw the florida gators logo on your sweater and I had like a fangirl/when world's colid moment like ahhh my favorite football team ever and my favorite asmrist in one. ahh that was just so crazy to me!!!!!!! lowkey freaking out atm!!!!!

  • @LoopyAsmr77
    @LoopyAsmr77 7 месяцев назад

    Now I can sleep good

  • @ViktorErikFade
    @ViktorErikFade 7 месяцев назад

    I was just listening at first but when you asked to look at your face i went back to my phone
    And oh my word its subtle on the video but wow the beauty mark by your eye really compliments your natural contour of your face and beings attention to your cheek bones
    (Artist here if your wondering )

  • @mondobe
    @mondobe 8 месяцев назад +3

    No views in 52 seconds, looks like we’re all mentally stable and don’t need any therapy

  • @j0di3wi5h3
    @j0di3wi5h3 8 месяцев назад

    I love both beauty marks on you ☺️

  • @hei_bren
    @hei_bren 8 месяцев назад

    Hope you can be forgiving to yourself, Alise. Sounds like you have a ton of friends and family and responsibilities. Sometimes it's just a lot of time to take care of everything if you also want to put a lot of thought into each interaction. I think people will be understanding if you have to spend more time on some people and less on others, because they also have to strike the same balance. Maybe that's not your exact problem or you want to set a different goal, but hope that helps. Not a ton of people say, "consider that it might be ok to plan to do less in the future," so I will represent, lol.

  • @pluviorei3542
    @pluviorei3542 7 месяцев назад

    5:57 alise pls dont look at me like that im scared😨😨

    • @pianoman5259
      @pianoman5259 7 месяцев назад +1

      Jumpscared me 😭😭

  • @Falloutbones88VODs
    @Falloutbones88VODs 8 месяцев назад

    5:55 😅😍

  • @ckblackwoodmusic
    @ckblackwoodmusic 8 месяцев назад

    Thanks so much for all of it, be it role-playing or whatever! ❤

  • @mabel4310
    @mabel4310 8 месяцев назад +1

    Girl please consult your doctor about taking stimulants they’re a life saver for adhd and while it doesnt fix everything you’re talking about, it helps alot

  • @liswatchingg
    @liswatchingg 8 месяцев назад

    yk youre a long term watcher when u notice her her grew alot😭😭😭

  • @robbierichardson7553
    @robbierichardson7553 8 месяцев назад

    I like the beauty mark by your eye 😊

  • @UpperCumberlandGamers
    @UpperCumberlandGamers 8 месяцев назад

    0:49 Don't think I didn't notice that Florida Gators Logo

  • @gabbyfannin
    @gabbyfannin 8 месяцев назад +4

    Just a gentle reminder for everyone ❤❤
    Remember to:
    1. Charge your phone
    2. Brush your teeth
    3. Take a shower(if you do at night, lol)
    4. Drink water
    5. Eat something
    AFFIRMATIONS
    you are loved
    You are appreciated
    You are valued
    You deserve to be happy
    You are wonderful
    You should prioritize yourself
    You are doing amazing
    I'm proud of you
    You can do this
    ❤💞❤💞
    (Blank space if you need it)
    Everyone remember that you are loved and you deserve that love 💞💞

  • @Dreadder
    @Dreadder 18 дней назад

    not the fl gators shirt lol
    EDIT: I UNDERSTAND 😭 idk if you’ll see this since it’s an older video, but i will literally do anything to wait or stall on replying to ppl even when i don’t want to. recently i had to make a very important call for something i was applying for and i just didn’t do it and lost my opportunity 😭 so i get it. i promised i’d text a family member i recently saw for the first time in years and i never did and feel bad about it but now it’s just been too long and idk what to do.

  • @birdec765
    @birdec765 8 месяцев назад

    I'm fortunate in being pre internet and mobile. So I don't think people my age expect an immediate reply. You've had this internet thing as far as you can remember but it really still is a work in progress as far balance goes. It will be different for different people and we just need to understand that. I have friends that don't answer back for weeks but I know they're just that way and they know I'm the way I am. We just pickup where we left off😊

  • @Neonoirasu
    @Neonoirasu 8 месяцев назад

    I’m literally the exact same as you with the texting people xD
    Please let me know if you learn anything helpful too. I always feel so bad for not responding and i feel like people hate me for not responding so it just makes it worse

  • @manuelroman6911
    @manuelroman6911 8 месяцев назад

    Just on time, glad to see you back!
    Wanted to let you know that recently I had a dream that you agreed to film an "Alexander Hamilton - ASMR Edition" video with me and a bunch of other people. I was pretty stoked about it. So thanks for your cooperation 😎

  • @elineff2791
    @elineff2791 5 месяцев назад

    the first and FORTUNATELY LAST TIME I was on a rollercoaster the stupid operator started before I could get my harness on I was LITERALLY hanging on to my ass, I didn't pass but I see my life flash in front of me! Not long the park was AND demolished - it was years before covid, it was already getting older and didn't have as company as it did so it was from financial reason

  • @autumnlvc
    @autumnlvc 6 месяцев назад

    I know I'm late to this video, but I finally finished watching it tonight. I share your issue with texting people back, and with one person, a former teacher who was very important to me, months went by. The more time passed, the worse I felt about it and couldn't bring myself to do anything at that point.
    Well, I finally texted her last week, and she was very understanding. It's a significant weight off my chest, and I feel happy knowing I've reconnected. So it was hard, but in case you're reading this, I thought I'd offer encouragement that it's ok to reply after some time. They'll be glad to hear from you + it will alleviate a lot of stress

  • @gabriellesmith8427
    @gabriellesmith8427 8 месяцев назад

    Make it part of your schedule to text back. Set aside time just to answer back so at least you are answering once a day and then gradually increase. Good luck!

  • @bens57
    @bens57 8 месяцев назад

    Also if you can try to find a therapist, they wont fix everything but it certainly helped. Maybe they can get you on medicstion, maybe that will help? Works differently for everyone tho

  • @cynicalthoughts
    @cynicalthoughts 8 месяцев назад

    Yesss vid 😊

  • @cojac6SMG
    @cojac6SMG 8 месяцев назад

    Sweetheart a tattoo that small would fade into just a brown dot and turn into a freckle anyway lol

  • @oliverthomas-couch
    @oliverthomas-couch 8 месяцев назад

    I think the beauty marks look cute

  • @troyingram716
    @troyingram716 7 месяцев назад

    This is the same thing that happens to me

  • @osubuckeyefan16
    @osubuckeyefan16 8 месяцев назад

    Did you go to UF? Are you from Florida originally?

  • @kbug201
    @kbug201 8 месяцев назад

    Now I want juice

  • @miguelservetus9534
    @miguelservetus9534 8 месяцев назад

    Roller coaster can cause a significant blood shift. They can also cause strokes. Please be careful and discuss with your doctor as it can indicate a vascular anomalies in the brain.

  • @MmeAdmin
    @MmeAdmin 8 месяцев назад

    Do you have a therapist in the states that you have used? Ask them if you can do calls with them.

  • @lovypeas9108
    @lovypeas9108 8 месяцев назад

    You're Gorgeous. Keep it up ❤

  • @ZackyASMR
    @ZackyASMR 8 месяцев назад

    Hi Alise ❤❤

  • @dtoften
    @dtoften 6 месяцев назад

    You passing out is due to g-loc which is a type of greyout. Roller coaster g-force where you get narrow vision, then no vision but can hear and talk, and then to passing out.
    I suggest you use a permanent marker rather than tattoo because tattoo is too permanent.
    I have fear of social rejection and being judged. Yours seem more benign. I believe you have anxiety since you avoid returning phone calls or texts since it triggers anxiety.

  • @martian5023
    @martian5023 8 месяцев назад

  • @michaelsotomayor5001
    @michaelsotomayor5001 8 месяцев назад

    I love you 😍

  • @グラスワンダー-d2h
    @グラスワンダー-d2h 8 месяцев назад

    英語わかんないけど東京と横浜だけわかった!

  • @daisuketagaaata
    @daisuketagaaata 8 месяцев назад

    かわいい😍

  • @LPISZ
    @LPISZ 8 месяцев назад

    heeeeyyy :^)

  • @paranoidandroid6095
    @paranoidandroid6095 8 месяцев назад

    m
    5:45
    43:51

  • @jn6574
    @jn6574 8 месяцев назад

    helloo hii hii

  • @markhobson5769
    @markhobson5769 7 месяцев назад

    You're such a beautiful girl, Alise!

  • @Zack-f6p
    @Zack-f6p 8 месяцев назад +5

    Christ saves 🇻🇦✝️

  • @jekanyika
    @jekanyika 8 месяцев назад

    It sounds like you blacked out rather than passed out.

  • @RecipeForDeath
    @RecipeForDeath 7 месяцев назад

    I noticed you shaved your mustache

  • @lotograves
    @lotograves 8 месяцев назад

    new alise 👀 it’s been like 5 years lol
    edit: as someone who regularly forgets to interact with friends i hardcore understand. im sure they understand it's just how you are and don't take it personally (or atleast i hope not)
    also 50 min alise ramble? asmr heaven even if i did turn into a therapist half way through😅

  • @SimplisticYea
    @SimplisticYea 8 месяцев назад +1

    bruh I just looked you up wondering where you've been