I’m adopted, and I do love how you’ve been open with them. However, therapy should be a requirement as well. Adoptees grow up. They realize they were relinquished. Birthdays are hard, family tree assignments are hard, and no matter how much you love them, they will grieve. When old enough, the book the Primal Wound is an excellent resource ❤️
We made our twin boys, a little book of pictures of them when they were born, pictures of their birth parents, and then told their story. We adopted them through foster care, but we got them when they were four weeks old. Honestly, when we first told them, they were very upset. They were about four years old. They threw the book across the room and started crying. But I still think it’s really important to tell them, even if it’s hard. That way, you can talk through their feelings as they come up as they continue growing. And also being OK with the fact that they’re going to be sad about certain things. We help hold their little hearts and cups of feelings, whatever those may be, and allow them to express those feelings. They are almost 6 now, and are often pretending like they grew in my belly. It does make my heart sad, because I know that there’s a part of them that is aching that they can’t really express. I’m hoping that as they get older, we can talk about these things more in depth. I also wonder how often these things should be talked about. I don’t want to consistently rip open the wound to remind them that they didn’t come from us. If that’s something that’s hurting their minds and hearts, I don’t wanna keep ripping it open and reminding them. So we don’t talk about it a lot, But as it comes up, I’m always open to it.
We raised our daughter knowing her adoption story. Adding things as she gets older and begins. I told it to her from birth just like any other bedtime story.
My son and I were left at his age of 6months.. at 9months my best friend at the time stepped in.. we were together for 5 years and he is “dad.” BUT my son doesn’t know he’s not his bio dad and is now 7. We recently broke up just to top it off.. I’m so scared to tell him 💔
🚨Have you heard about the #CoscoGirl? It’s adopted family like them giving loving parents like you a bad name! This girl is being abused and needs the public’s help!
Were hoping to start our adoption journey soon too I'm already a mother of 4 with one boy and three girls so were hoping to adopt a newborn boy and my husband wants to adopt because he wants to carry on his name since he's the last of his family and I want to adopt because since I was adopted myself and have gave up a baby for adoption I want to do for a baby what my parents did for me
I’m adopted, and I do love how you’ve been open with them. However, therapy should be a requirement as well. Adoptees grow up. They realize they were relinquished. Birthdays are hard, family tree assignments are hard, and no matter how much you love them, they will grieve. When old enough, the book the Primal Wound is an excellent resource ❤️
Love it....thanks for the encouragement! So relieved to hear your advice!! Thank you!
We made our twin boys, a little book of pictures of them when they were born, pictures of their birth parents, and then told their story. We adopted them through foster care, but we got them when they were four weeks old. Honestly, when we first told them, they were very upset. They were about four years old. They threw the book across the room and started crying. But I still think it’s really important to tell them, even if it’s hard. That way, you can talk through their feelings as they come up as they continue growing. And also being OK with the fact that they’re going to be sad about certain things. We help hold their little hearts and cups of feelings, whatever those may be, and allow them to express those feelings. They are almost 6 now, and are often pretending like they grew in my belly. It does make my heart sad, because I know that there’s a part of them that is aching that they can’t really express. I’m hoping that as they get older, we can talk about these things more in depth. I also wonder how often these things should be talked about. I don’t want to consistently rip open the wound to remind them that they didn’t come from us. If that’s something that’s hurting their minds and hearts, I don’t wanna keep ripping it open and reminding them. So we don’t talk about it a lot, But as it comes up, I’m always open to it.
Thank you this made me more comfortable
We raised our daughter knowing her adoption story. Adding things as she gets older and begins. I told it to her from birth just like any other bedtime story.
We just told our 6 year old. She was birthed by my sister but became my daughter. She was fine, the adults in our lives is another story 🤦🏽♀️
Thank you for your comment Jennifer! I'm so happy to hear about your convo with your daughter! Beautiful! Sorry about the adults. :( xoxo, T
My son and I were left at his age of 6months.. at 9months my best friend at the time stepped in.. we were together for 5 years and he is “dad.” BUT my son doesn’t know he’s not his bio dad and is now 7. We recently broke up just to top it off.. I’m so scared to tell him 💔
I’m terrified. The honest truth. I’m scared.
Thank you so much for sharing. thank you thank you
🚨Have you heard about the #CoscoGirl? It’s adopted family like them giving loving parents like you a bad name! This girl is being abused and needs the public’s help!
❤thank you
Thank you so much
So helpful thank you 💜
Were hoping to start our adoption journey soon too I'm already a mother of 4 with one boy and three girls so were hoping to adopt a newborn boy and my husband wants to adopt because he wants to carry on his name since he's the last of his family and I want to adopt because since I was adopted myself and have gave up a baby for adoption I want to do for a baby what my parents did for me
my friends are adopted
I cry if my kid did not no they were adopted😭😭😭😭 😭😭😭😭
Hey what your oldest kids age