i’m usually a silent viewer, but I just had to say this. i have always loved abby’s voice. matt, never stop reminding her how gifted she truly is. abby continue to use your voice for good and never stop being you girl. much love. proud of you both ❤️
Also the bladder is a muscle, and during pregnancy your body produces a hormone caused relaxin. This allows your body to stretch and grow to make room for baby, but it also causes your loss of bladder control. That’s probably why you were fine between pregnancies and started again even early in this pregnancy. ❤
Kudos to Abby for talking about the pee. Look, I’m 44 and have urge incontinence. I don’t find it embarrassing to talk about because I get my bladder botoxed and it’s a LIFE SAVER! If your viewers haven’t heard of it and have bladder issues….ask your urologist about it. I now have the bladder an 18 year old. It’s amazing. Lol
No way?!?! I get Botox for my migraines and it’s a life saver! But 5 years ago I lost my twin girls extremely late in my pregnancy. I live in the middle of nowhere in Canada and there was no time to get them to a hospital with a NICU. A month later I found out I had cervical, uterine, ovarian AND bladder cancer. The next month I was having a radical hysterectomy. Now I’ll never be a mom. I don’t know if it was birthing the girls, or the hysterectomy. But boy oh boy it has become an issue!!! I’ll be talking to my dr. THANK YOU for being so vulnerable on the chance you could help someone. Thanks a million ❤
i was thinking the same but i think her parents are a little bit camera shy , which is fine , i think they said it once when they were talking about their first gender reveal
Hearing them talk to each other openly ...feels like so precious .... Makes my heart content !!!! 🎉...abby if you are ever opening a cafe (coffee shop) I will fly and would settle there only for precious abby's coffee!! Bless you guys forever ❤❤ !
Don’t be turned off by Abby’s Pelvic floor therapist story. I desperately needed to go to one. My dr said try that for as long as possible because the surgery I would of needed would of been awful. I really didn’t think therapy would work but it worked! And sooner than I ever would of thought. Maybe took 6 months altogether and I’ve had no issues since. What Abby described is right they do need to examine you probably at every apt but there are other things like exercises to do at home. I had a whole list of things to track in between apts. Best thing I ever did after baby #4. I think it’s hard to decide when you are done having kids. You guys are extremely young to make like a final decision. It’s wise to take one baby at a time and see how things go.
If an internal exam isn't appropriate or comfortable for you, your pelvic floor PT can get a general sense of your muscle function by palpating (aka manually examining) the muscles externally. ❤
Yes! The therapist is basically just checking you and giving you exercises to do at home, and then tracking your progress. And it it totally fine to change to another therapist if you don't feel comfortable with one. And the exercises do help a lot! Also during pregnancy, it really helps to strenghten your muscles to support the growing baby and not pee yourself 😅❤️
I would love a podcast with Matt and his brothers, or Abby with her brother. That would be cool to see your sibling’s opinions on your career, relationship.
My two oldest boys are 21 months apart and honestly the first year was miserable on so many levels but now they are 3&5 and they are the best of friends, so different but so good to each other. After the first year, their relationship just got better and better. I tell you this not to scare you but to excite you for how amazing it is to see your little boys play together and be best friends
The pee thing only gets worse the more kids and the older you get. Doing the advised exercises is extremely helpful and so is the abdominal separation correction.
I love that Matt hypes up Abby so much on her physical looks but more so how caring he is of her and validating her feelings. My partner always compliments me on looks too but isn’t as vocal with his appreciation of me as a person or validates my feelings. I’m always just being “dramatic”. Your marriage is wonderful and I hope I find my own Matt one day. For now I’ll live through you two and your love❤
Hearing you say you’d love to be a barista while I’m a barista! So sweet! I love being a barista, making people’s morning coffee is such a small but easy way to make someone’s day 🫶🏻 love you guys and your content! 💗
I did pelvic floor therapy 8 months postpartum (wish I did it sooner) BUT she said when I graduated to call her when I’m pregnant and to come back and she will want to see me throughout my pregnancy (: just to let you know you could look into it. She also told me to do a kegel before sneezing, coughing, laughing and it may help you not pee!
Not even 10 minutes into the episode and I’ve already laughed, melted, nodded with agreement and completely zoned out focusing on you amazing people hahaha, I adore you guys!❤️❤️❤️
I loved when you said iffy on the name. Years ago I bought a Barbie for my daughter. After getting her home, I noticed the little clear stone that was supposed to be a ring was missing and she had a hole in her finger. I told my daughter Amie, it was iffy as to whether we kept her or not. I will just say that Iffy was a very loved and played with barbie. I guess Amie thought I was saying her name was Iffy and it stuck. Brought a smile to my face remembering that period of our life, especially since Amie graduates college in 2 weeks.
Mom of 4 here and the best pelvic floor exercise to do (pregnant or not) is while you are peeing try to stop and start, then stop and start again. This really helped me. My kids are older now and I do cross my legs when I sneeze (just in case) other than that I have no bladder leak issues. Good luck and congratulations!! So happy for y'all.
I did the same 24 years ago when I was pregnant with my son and my daughter and after giving birth 2 times in 13 months I didn't even need a single stitch 😊...it worked amazing ❤❤
I love how you all get on the most random tangents and then come back to what you were wanting to talk about. I am sure with taking care of an infant this pregnancy has just been a blur. My friend had pelvic floor therapy after having her twins. It helped her a lot! I love that Abby is not shy about sharing these things. Also I hope you all have a "sprinkle" and get like diapers and other necessities you will need for baby 2.
I had extensive pelvic floor physical therapy, and it CHANGED MY LIFE. I'm sorry you had such a terrible experience, that was definitely unusual, you should find someone that you feel comfortable with. You can also opt out of the manual treatments until you feel comfortable to do them, I do think they help so much (although it is a weird interaction for sure lol). Women at any stage of life can benefit from pelvic floor exercises, not just keegles! Learning all that my pelvic floor does for my body and how much we carry stress in that area has helped improve my health so much. Anyways sorry for the long comment you'll probably never read, but wanted to encourage you to try pelvic floor pt again!
I have two boys myself but they are 10 years apart, they are 27 and 17, the love between them from day one when my second one was born has been incredible
You guys are TOO CUTE. I love how Matt compliments her so much. He literally sees her as the most beautiful girl in the world. And vice versa for Abby. I love the way you guys are with one another. I understand marriage is hard sometimes and you have your days when you want to rip their head off lol, but you can just tell you two are TRULY best friends. ❤️
I had to jump on here and say that I’m a mom of a 10 month old and I work part-time as a barista - it’s the best thing ever! My baby gets to go to daycare a couple mornings a week to play with other kids, and I get to have some time with adults, making coffee and serving people. But it’s very part-time so I am still very much involved in my child’s life and home with her often. So I think if you want to be a barista part-time, go for it!
You should have a SPRINKLE, that's what it's called for the second baby. It's just nice to have a little something special just for this little one to be celebrated as well. And gifts can be more specific like baby products and diapers. :)
I’ve never been a huge podcast girl, but I look forward to every Unplanned episode! You guys just know how to keep it so real, keep up the great work!! Congrats on baby boy🩵
I worked at Starbucks for almost 10 years and LOVED it because of that human connection. Don't get me wrong, there were negatives as all things have. But I LOVED it and miss it all of the time. Some of our customers became family. Abby would love it!
You two are the sweetest. Abby definitely recommend pelvic floor therapy postpartum (not at someone’s house!). I had a great pelvic floor therapist postpartum (I think they recommended to me to start going at like 8 weeks pp) and it made a huge difference. I’m 9 mo pp now and I’m probably 90% of pre pregnancy.
Every child is a blessing and should be celebrated even if it’s just to celebrate the babe once he’s here! I’m on baby number 5 and my bff is planning a baby sprinkle :) enjoy being spoiled!!:)
I love how they are so raw and just share what they feel what is right to say!❤ you guys are seriously the best RUclipsrs that I have come across and every time I see a new video or podcast it just makes my day ten times better. May God keep giving your family many joyful and beautiful blessings together ❤❤
Abby, you would be amazing as a barista!! I’m only 17, but I love my coffee shop job. I get to be part of people’s daily pick-me-up and have fun doing it. I highly recommend!!
Honestly the dishwasher loading segment was so relatable 😂 “how was the leaving the sheet pan in there for you” “it was freeing” lol me critiquing how my husband checks the mail incorrectly 😅
@@meganliberato9006 lmfao well I check it when I’m at the box and filter out the junk mail and throw it away downstairs, only bringing up the mail that should be opened. He brings up all of it and leaves it on the counter waiting for it to be gone through until the end of time…. I may or may not have ocd ok I don’t want to talk about it 😅😂💀
For anyone who needs to hear this- it’s okay to not be okay. Remember to take things one day at a time. Every small step forward is a victory and a step towards a brighter future. You are worthy of love, happiness, and all the good things that life has to offer. Don’t let your struggles, or other people, convince you otherwise. Believe in yourself and the power of your resilience. You are not alone.
It's so nice to hear about such positive ultrasound experiences. I went for my first-ever ultrasound a few weeks ago and the tech was so passive-aggressive toward my husband and said that his being in the room even was making her anxious and that she couldn't do her job well. I wasn't told I needed to drink 32 ounces of water before the appointment and honestly have never heard anyone talk about that part of the ultrasound. Then she left halfway through the appointment, was so negative about the baby moving so much, and wasn't even sure about what gender it is. My belly was so uncomfortable and the baby was obviously not having it, I'm still really ticked that we had such a terrible experience and our midwives didn't tell us about another person who would have been better until we told her what happened. You live you learn I guess! Never going to that establishment again.
Abby you should definitely find a good pelvic floor specialist that your comfortable with because your issues, whilst common, is not normal and definitely fixable. Even while pregnant. You shouldn't wait until postpartum. You should also understand more about what your doing at the gym and how it is impacting your pelvic floor because there are a lot of exercises that can make it worse, while others make it better. Talk to someone who understands it all better. You can definitely be peeing yourself less! Thanks for being so open and honest about it all though ❤❤❤ it's so common.
Abby, you should definitely see another pelvic floor therapist, cause it can help you a lot during your pregnancy and after fpr your recovery, especially given that you had the two so close together.
There’s a HUGE benefit to pelvic floor therapy while pregnant as well! I went with my third pregnancy and am going to be going postpartum as well. I’m not sure what experience you had, but you had a vastly different experience than I did 😂 they only felt around during the initial appointment…never at any of the subsequent ones! I went to a physical therapy office and saw one of the PTs that specializes in women’s health.
This was me too I had a normal physical therapist appointment and we just worked on pelvic floor along with core muscles but they never stuck anything in me for mine but we worked on kegals and what not and that really helped me and still doing stuff during pregnancy
Abby I am a lot like you with my career ambitions. I took a break from the corporate world 3 times in 10 years, have worked at an ice cream shop and grocery store. Just wanted to do simple physical tasks, and be around people. I will say, rude customers and unsustainable schedules made both of those experiences wonderful, but ultimately for me, short term.
For what it’s worth, open a coffee shop Abby. You can do it differently. You can treat your workers with respect and create opportunities in your local community. Plus you can totally work there when it works for your family and take breaks when you want to as well! Trust me, many baristas who are grinding it out, would love to be in your position.
I love watching the two of you communicate with kindness, reflection, and understanding of one another. Abby, I hope you see this, from a mom roughly 8 months ahead of you: 1) you wanting a low-risk, social, simply gratifying job is totally normal. I'm a SAHM to my 2. The first year with an exclusively breastfed baby is the hardest (I still nurse my first as well). Utilize the time you can to take you-time around those feeds. I can't wait to take my Masters degree back to waiting tables at lunchtime just to have some outside-adult-interaction. 2) if you're able to keep nursing Griffin pre/post baby #2, your engorgement shouldn't be a big thing. Your body will go from being responsible for a toddler-sized tummy to adding a cherry-sized on top of it, and Griffin's stronger latch will help prevent mastitis or clogged ducts. The first 3-5 days might be a bit of engorgement, but I promise you've dealt with much worse.
People need to f****** stop talking about Abby's voice because that's not right she has such an adorable voice she could be a Disney princess with that voice❤
I love watching you two, you are both so respectful to each other. I can't wait till the next podcast. I wish this was around when I was a young adult, life wouldn't have been so lonely. My husband died when my babies were 4 and second baby was 6 weeks o.d. life was hard and lonely now my kids are 33 and 28 and we are very close. You two are a aging my middle grandaughter watches you guys. Have a great week 😊
I just love your sweet family. My husband and I have 3 kids. Two boys and a girl. I can't even believe they are 19, 18, and 16 years old now. Just a couple things I would like to reassure you about. Going from one to two kids is intense but once you get the hang of it, adding a third was easy. You just find a groove over time and it works. I think by the third, you are just so used to chaos it doesn't stress you out as much anymore. Our kids are almost all adults, but they still need us. Even better...though they are independent, they actually still want us. Every stage is precious in it's own way. Also...yeah us ladies pee sometimes haha. It does get better after your body is done recovering from pregnancy and childbirth though.
When they talked about having 3 older brothers and a little sister made my heart ❤️ lit up because thats what I have and my brothers can get annoying but it is so worth it for the good times ❤❤❤
I was very proud of my nurses and doctors throughout my whole pregnancy. Since the very first appointment, we told them we didn't want to know the gender of the baby. On the day I gave birth, the doctor quietly told my husband it was a girl. It made the day extra special the day because secretly, I thought the whole pregnancy i thought I was a boy lol. Now, almost 2 years later and ( no more babies for us) I love our girl.
You definitely can and you go to pelvic floor therapy when pregnant! It will help make the rest of your pregnancy easier, the birth of baby #2 much healthier and prevent any complications (even Diastisis Recti and peeing yourself). Sounds like you didn’t have a good provider and just need a referral for one you like and trust! Please give it another chance sooner rather than later!
Hey! Create a mommy and me play place. Serve coffee and light snacks, then have a play area for the kids. It's gives mom a time to socialize and the kids too! Sometimes all you need is some mom friends a good latte!
I had placenta previa where the placenta was blocking my cervix and had to have a c section. Huge risks there and I’m glad you’re not having to deal with that. You’re such a beautiful pregnant mama. Best wishes to you on your lovely journey 🤍
Luv luv how real you guys are like talking out real life issues as they come as they are. You are the best couple on social media in my opinion o glad I stumbled upon your content. Lifetime subscriber!!
What you're saying about giving those in need food instead of money is exactly what I've been taught in school (I'm on track to be a social worker) and I'm so glad you guys know that!
Y’all should do a poll on RUclips to see the average age of people watching! I am 14 and you podcasts give me a great time of day when I go fishing!🎉 Wow that is a lot of likes
43 here. Your momma should be proud! It warms my heart to know you’re fishing and listening to positive role models instead of going the opposite direction. 👏🏼
The best thing is how REAL you guys keep things. It keeps you so relatable-and truly helps others not feel so alone and isolated in what they may be experiencing in their lives. I hope you’ll able to keep your genuineness as you move forward with life.
We have 5 under 5. (5, twins at 4, 3 and a 1 year old) it's the best having them close together, hard but totally amazing. I wouldn't change anything. My husband is such a great help.
Having them that close and both boys is perfect! Mine are close in age, and I'd have it no ther way! The farthest apart, my kids are 20 months. I had 3 kids, Bam! BAM! Bam! Then, when we decided to take a break, I went on birth control 3 months after giving birth, and 5 months later, I found out I was pregnant! Yes! Pregnant! With twins! Yea! With twins!! Needless to say, I cried my eyes out! My husband, for the 1st time, could not make it to this prenatal appt. Other 3 kids he was there, but this one he just couldn't get out of work. I thought how am I gonna do this? 3 toddler and 2 newborns? All the diapers, all the bottles, the breastfeeding, the burp towels, the laundry! I was so overwhelmed and I didn't even mention half of the stuff! Lol in conclusion it was the best time of my life!😊😂😂
The Vaseline on the hands made me laugh so hard 😂 you can just see it shining all over the tops of his hands! Abby’s right just stick to it on the lips lol! But thank you for the laugh I really needed it ❤
Congrats on your growing family!! My first baby I also had an anterior placenta and had a lot of back pain. I always heard it was because the placenta acts as a cushion, so when it’s not in between baby and your back it can put more pressure on your back. When I went into labor it was a lot of back labor as well. Praying you have a healthy rest of your pregnancy, labor and baby!
I think that your cousin's kids are your first cousins once removed, and your cousin's kids are your kids' second cousins.:) I love listening to your podcast!
My boys are 14 months apart, Their 18 & 17 now. They grew up so fast, I wish they were still little 😢 Congratulations! You’re truly blessed 🙏🏻 BABY BOYS ARE THE BEST 💙
1st cousins share the same grandparents, 2nd cousins share great-grandparents, and so on. Abby is correct, it goes by generation. Your parent's 1st cousin is your 1st cousin once removed, your grandparent's 1st cousin is your 1st cousin twice removed, and so on.
And... my day is better! I love your guys's podcast, its so heartwarming, love-filled, open and honest. Hearing your aspirations are so amazing. Love you all so much!❤
Love this podcast and being able to watch you guys just hang out and talk! Just came here to say that prenatal pelvic floor therapy can be so useful for certain individuals! It's definitely a personal choice but you can also do sessions without internal exams and they help with pubic sypmhysis pain, back pain, sticking to your exercise plan, pain with sex, etc. Your pelvic floor muscle tone is so important for pushing during birth and preventative exercises can be really beneficial! No knock on Abby at all but I hope if you're thinking it might help you you don't need to wait until postpartum! Even just watching RUclips PT videos on pelvic floor can be useful ❤
I just wanted to say thank you for being consistent with your videos. I truly look forward to my Wednesdays mornings, sippin on coffee and listening to you guys while my toddler wakes up for the day!!! ❤
Abby I can so, so relate! My career goals changed throughout the years but I always knew 100% I wanted to be a Mom. I for sure knew after baby #1 we wanted more but now that we have baby #2 I'm questioning having #3. It feels kind of overwhelming but also the thought of being done and no more of those special firsts breaks my heart! Those emotions are hard to reckon with! ❤
❤️❤️ Abby please film a long dedicated video showing us your beauty routine all your hair care skincare and makeup products ❤️❤️ I’ve been asking for months 😢😢
I can see Abby opening her own coffee shop that has different events to bring the community together. Like bingo or farkle or something in the middle of the week for 65+ to bring together some of the elderly in the community. Or a meet and greet for moms and kids in the area to come together. Or even mentoring events for young adults in the area. Coffee bringing joy and community to the area ❤
Abby, I feel you on the peeing your pants thing. I'm almost 20 weeks with my 3rd. Every cough, sneeze, sudden movement, laughter, or vomiting. Man, it's just out of nowhere, no warning.
I love your podcast! I turned 30 this year and just had my 4th baby. I can relate to y’all because my first two kids are boys, 16 months apart! Those first few years as a stay-at-home mom with a husband that worked away from home was rough emotionally, but I am so happy they are so close! They fight a LOT, but are at the same time each others’ best friends! It’s a bond they don’t have with anyone else! They are now 8 and 6 and they do EVERYTHING together!
So excited for baby #2! I did pelvic floor therapy after my baby because I had a 4 inch ab separation. It all helped me so so much postpartum and I don’t even pee on myself anymore. I also had an emergency c section and even the scar tissue was pulling at my bladder and they helped get my bladder back in place. It was wild haha. But yes! Postpartum at hospital was a great experience for me!! Congrats again on another precious boy!!!❤
So many similarities with my pregnancy!! I am due August 27, also my second and also a boy. Also an anterior placenta. Comforting to hear that you don't feel as many kicks as before, because I was so worried about that. The kicks on the bladder are definitely funny and unexpected.
Mom of 2 boy's 😊 they 15 months apart. They can be the best of friends, and the WORST to one another (at times) some very special times ahead for u both ❤
Ok, I've been watching you guys for a long time and have not once thought that Abby's voice was bad. I think her voice is very soothing and calm.
same
i’m usually a silent viewer, but I just had to say this. i have always loved abby’s voice. matt, never stop reminding her how gifted she truly is. abby continue to use your voice for good and never stop being you girl. much love. proud of you both ❤️
Also the bladder is a muscle, and during pregnancy your body produces a hormone caused relaxin. This allows your body to stretch and grow to make room for baby, but it also causes your loss of bladder control. That’s probably why you were fine between pregnancies and started again even early in this pregnancy. ❤
Kudos to Abby for talking about the pee. Look, I’m 44 and have urge incontinence. I don’t find it embarrassing to talk about because I get my bladder botoxed and it’s a LIFE SAVER! If your viewers haven’t heard of it and have bladder issues….ask your urologist about it. I now have the bladder an 18 year old. It’s amazing. Lol
No way?!?! I get Botox for my migraines and it’s a life saver! But 5 years ago I lost my twin girls extremely late in my pregnancy. I live in the middle of nowhere in Canada and there was no time to get them to a hospital with a NICU. A month later I found out I had cervical, uterine, ovarian AND bladder cancer. The next month I was having a radical hysterectomy. Now I’ll never be a mom. I don’t know if it was birthing the girls, or the hysterectomy. But boy oh boy it has become an issue!!! I’ll be talking to my dr. THANK YOU for being so vulnerable on the chance you could help someone. Thanks a million ❤
Can u guys do an episode with abby's parents?
PLEASEEE
i was thinking the same but i think her parents are a little bit camera shy , which is fine , i think they said it once when they were talking about their first gender reveal
They did
@Ben Matt's parents are in multiple videos
Yes!!!
Hearing them talk to each other openly ...feels like so precious .... Makes my heart content !!!! 🎉...abby if you are ever opening a cafe (coffee shop) I will fly and would settle there only for precious abby's coffee!! Bless you guys forever ❤❤ !
17:27 LMFAOOO I needed that laugh....hearing Abbys explanation & then hearing Matt say "this has to be something I can do" was TOO hilarious
😂😂😂 hilarious
Don’t be turned off by Abby’s Pelvic floor therapist story. I desperately needed to go to one. My dr said try that for as long as possible because the surgery I would of needed would of been awful. I really didn’t think therapy would work but it worked! And sooner than I ever would of thought. Maybe took 6 months altogether and I’ve had no issues since. What Abby described is right they do need to examine you probably at every apt but there are other things like exercises to do at home. I had a whole list of things to track in between apts. Best thing I ever did after baby #4.
I think it’s hard to decide when you are done having kids. You guys are extremely young to make like a final decision. It’s wise to take one baby at a time and see how things go.
If an internal exam isn't appropriate or comfortable for you, your pelvic floor PT can get a general sense of your muscle function by palpating (aka manually examining) the muscles externally. ❤
Yes! The therapist is basically just checking you and giving you exercises to do at home, and then tracking your progress. And it it totally fine to change to another therapist if you don't feel comfortable with one. And the exercises do help a lot! Also during pregnancy, it really helps to strenghten your muscles to support the growing baby and not pee yourself 😅❤️
Matt being Abby’s hype man is the most adorable thing in the world
I would love a podcast with Matt and his brothers, or Abby with her brother. That would be cool to see your sibling’s opinions on your career, relationship.
They did one with Matts and his brother and sister-in-law
My two oldest boys are 21 months apart and honestly the first year was miserable on so many levels but now they are 3&5 and they are the best of friends, so different but so good to each other. After the first year, their relationship just got better and better. I tell you this not to scare you but to excite you for how amazing it is to see your little boys play together and be best friends
The pee thing only gets worse the more kids and the older you get. Doing the advised exercises is extremely helpful and so is the abdominal separation correction.
I love that Matt hypes up Abby so much on her physical looks but more so how caring he is of her and validating her feelings. My partner always compliments me on looks too but isn’t as vocal with his appreciation of me as a person or validates my feelings. I’m always just being “dramatic”. Your marriage is wonderful and I hope I find my own Matt one day. For now I’ll live through you two and your love❤
Hearing you say you’d love to be a barista while I’m a barista! So sweet! I love being a barista, making people’s morning coffee is such a small but easy way to make someone’s day 🫶🏻 love you guys and your content! 💗
Abby is definitely going to have to have an outlet. It makes us better moms, wifes, friends....humans
I did pelvic floor therapy 8 months postpartum (wish I did it sooner) BUT she said when I graduated to call her when I’m pregnant and to come back and she will want to see me throughout my pregnancy (: just to let you know you could look into it. She also told me to do a kegel before sneezing, coughing, laughing and it may help you not pee!
Not even 10 minutes into the episode and I’ve already laughed, melted, nodded with agreement and completely zoned out focusing on you amazing people hahaha, I adore you guys!❤️❤️❤️
I loved when you said iffy on the name. Years ago I bought a Barbie for my daughter. After getting her home, I noticed the little clear stone that was supposed to be a ring was missing and she had a hole in her finger. I told my daughter Amie, it was iffy as to whether we kept her or not. I will just say that Iffy was a very loved and played with barbie. I guess Amie thought I was saying her name was Iffy and it stuck. Brought a smile to my face remembering that period of our life, especially since Amie graduates college in 2 weeks.
Matt and Abby before 7 am?! What a positive way to start the day 💕
Yessss
It always comes out at 12 am
6:46
Mom of 4 here and the best pelvic floor exercise to do (pregnant or not) is while you are peeing try to stop and start, then stop and start again. This really helped me. My kids are older now and I do cross my legs when I sneeze (just in case) other than that I have no bladder leak issues.
Good luck and congratulations!! So happy for y'all.
That is not good for your bladder though. Mimic that sensation without actually peeing and you’re good to go
I did the same 24 years ago when I was pregnant with my son and my daughter and after giving birth 2 times in 13 months I didn't even need a single stitch 😊...it worked amazing ❤❤
I love how you all get on the most random tangents and then come back to what you were wanting to talk about. I am sure with taking care of an infant this pregnancy has just been a blur. My friend had pelvic floor therapy after having her twins. It helped her a lot! I love that Abby is not shy about sharing these things. Also I hope you all have a "sprinkle" and get like diapers and other necessities you will need for baby 2.
I had extensive pelvic floor physical therapy, and it CHANGED MY LIFE. I'm sorry you had such a terrible experience, that was definitely unusual, you should find someone that you feel comfortable with. You can also opt out of the manual treatments until you feel comfortable to do them, I do think they help so much (although it is a weird interaction for sure lol). Women at any stage of life can benefit from pelvic floor exercises, not just keegles! Learning all that my pelvic floor does for my body and how much we carry stress in that area has helped improve my health so much. Anyways sorry for the long comment you'll probably never read, but wanted to encourage you to try pelvic floor pt again!
I feel like we all need to sign a petition so that Abby goes back to pelvic therapy 😂😂😂 I just want her to feel better!😊
i LOVE how directly you communicate with each other about ur needs. Its so refreshing ❤️
I have two boys myself but they are 10 years apart, they are 27 and 17, the love between them from day one when my second one was born has been incredible
I can literally see Matt’s hands glistening from the Vaseline 😂
You guys are TOO CUTE. I love how Matt compliments her so much. He literally sees her as the most beautiful girl in the world. And vice versa for Abby. I love the way you guys are with one another. I understand marriage is hard sometimes and you have your days when you want to rip their head off lol, but you can just tell you two are TRULY best friends. ❤️
I’m so happy your able to be a stay at home mom with a nanny, it makes you be able to breath and be the best parents. Your kiddo is so loved
I have 4 boys and a girl, two older,two younger brothers, I swear my youngest was a girl…surprise lol. I thought for sure it was a girl…..not lol
I had to jump on here and say that I’m a mom of a 10 month old and I work part-time as a barista - it’s the best thing ever! My baby gets to go to daycare a couple mornings a week to play with other kids, and I get to have some time with adults, making coffee and serving people. But it’s very part-time so I am still very much involved in my child’s life and home with her often. So I think if you want to be a barista part-time, go for it!
You should have a SPRINKLE, that's what it's called for the second baby. It's just nice to have a little something special just for this little one to be celebrated as well. And gifts can be more specific like baby products and diapers. :)
That’s cute I’ve never heard of that
My babies are 23 and 21 … your children will never stop needing you ❤
I’ve never been a huge podcast girl, but I look forward to every Unplanned episode! You guys just know how to keep it so real, keep up the great work!! Congrats on baby boy🩵
Same! Highlight of my week!
"I can read you like a book Matt Howard, do you think I was gonna fall for that?" Abby is such a freakin QUEEN
Y'all are SO freaking cute. I love how much Matt compliments Abby. It's so sweet lol
I worked at Starbucks for almost 10 years and LOVED it because of that human connection. Don't get me wrong, there were negatives as all things have. But I LOVED it and miss it all of the time. Some of our customers became family. Abby would love it!
You two are the sweetest.
Abby definitely recommend pelvic floor therapy postpartum (not at someone’s house!). I had a great pelvic floor therapist postpartum (I think they recommended to me to start going at like 8 weeks pp) and it made a huge difference. I’m 9 mo pp now and I’m probably 90% of pre pregnancy.
Every child is a blessing and should be celebrated even if it’s just to celebrate the babe once he’s here! I’m on baby number 5 and my bff is planning a baby sprinkle :) enjoy being spoiled!!:)
I love how they are so raw and just share what they feel what is right to say!❤ you guys are seriously the best RUclipsrs that I have come across and every time I see a new video or podcast it just makes my day ten times better. May God keep giving your family many joyful and beautiful blessings together ❤❤
Love this! The reality is that talking with your partner leads to a million rabbit holes and I love it for you two! :)
Please have Josh (Matt’s Bro) on the podcast! Love his personality :)))
You are sicker with little girls than with little boys
@@hill9833 it’s Matt’s brother 🙂
I thought Josh the dad challenge podcast 😂
@@nadiagrushevski6581 well that would be awkward 😂
Yes. JOSH would be so great!
Abby, you would be amazing as a barista!! I’m only 17, but I love my coffee shop job. I get to be part of people’s daily pick-me-up and have fun doing it. I highly recommend!!
Honestly the dishwasher loading segment was so relatable 😂 “how was the leaving the sheet pan in there for you” “it was freeing” lol me critiquing how my husband checks the mail incorrectly 😅
Wait, I NEED to know: how do you check the mail incorrectly?! I’m so intrigued
@@meganliberato9006 lmfao well I check it when I’m at the box and filter out the junk mail and throw it away downstairs, only bringing up the mail that should be opened. He brings up all of it and leaves it on the counter waiting for it to be gone through until the end of time…. I may or may not have ocd ok I don’t want to talk about it 😅😂💀
Thank you for dividing the video into sections much appreciated 🙌🙌🙌
For anyone who needs to hear this- it’s okay to not be okay. Remember to take things one day at a time. Every small step forward is a victory and a step towards a brighter future. You are worthy of love, happiness, and all the good things that life has to offer. Don’t let your struggles, or other people, convince you otherwise. Believe in yourself and the power of your resilience. You are not alone.
It's so nice to hear about such positive ultrasound experiences. I went for my first-ever ultrasound a few weeks ago and the tech was so passive-aggressive toward my husband and said that his being in the room even was making her anxious and that she couldn't do her job well. I wasn't told I needed to drink 32 ounces of water before the appointment and honestly have never heard anyone talk about that part of the ultrasound. Then she left halfway through the appointment, was so negative about the baby moving so much, and wasn't even sure about what gender it is. My belly was so uncomfortable and the baby was obviously not having it, I'm still really ticked that we had such a terrible experience and our midwives didn't tell us about another person who would have been better until we told her what happened. You live you learn I guess! Never going to that establishment again.
Abby you should definitely find a good pelvic floor specialist that your comfortable with because your issues, whilst common, is not normal and definitely fixable. Even while pregnant. You shouldn't wait until postpartum. You should also understand more about what your doing at the gym and how it is impacting your pelvic floor because there are a lot of exercises that can make it worse, while others make it better. Talk to someone who understands it all better. You can definitely be peeing yourself less!
Thanks for being so open and honest about it all though ❤❤❤ it's so common.
Abby, you should definitely see another pelvic floor therapist, cause it can help you a lot during your pregnancy and after fpr your recovery, especially given that you had the two so close together.
You guys are so easy to listen to! It’s like having a real time conversation with friends 😊
There’s a HUGE benefit to pelvic floor therapy while pregnant as well! I went with my third pregnancy and am going to be going postpartum as well. I’m not sure what experience you had, but you had a vastly different experience than I did 😂 they only felt around during the initial appointment…never at any of the subsequent ones! I went to a physical therapy office and saw one of the PTs that specializes in women’s health.
This was me too I had a normal physical therapist appointment and we just worked on pelvic floor along with core muscles but they never stuck anything in me for mine but we worked on kegals and what not and that really helped me and still doing stuff during pregnancy
Y'all are so adorable! Congratulations to your family on your new baby boy coming soon!
Abby I am a lot like you with my career ambitions. I took a break from the corporate world 3 times in 10 years, have worked at an ice cream shop and grocery store. Just wanted to do simple physical tasks, and be around people. I will say, rude customers and unsustainable schedules made both of those experiences wonderful, but ultimately for me, short term.
For what it’s worth, open a coffee shop Abby. You can do it differently. You can treat your workers with respect and create opportunities in your local community. Plus you can totally work there when it works for your family and take breaks when you want to as well! Trust me, many baristas who are grinding it out, would love to be in your position.
Matt on pelvic floor therapy - “I feel like that’s something I can do!” 😂😂😂 I’m dead!
I love watching the two of you communicate with kindness, reflection, and understanding of one another.
Abby, I hope you see this, from a mom roughly 8 months ahead of you:
1) you wanting a low-risk, social, simply gratifying job is totally normal. I'm a SAHM to my 2. The first year with an exclusively breastfed baby is the hardest (I still nurse my first as well). Utilize the time you can to take you-time around those feeds. I can't wait to take my Masters degree back to waiting tables at lunchtime just to have some outside-adult-interaction.
2) if you're able to keep nursing Griffin pre/post baby #2, your engorgement shouldn't be a big thing. Your body will go from being responsible for a toddler-sized tummy to adding a cherry-sized on top of it, and Griffin's stronger latch will help prevent mastitis or clogged ducts. The first 3-5 days might be a bit of engorgement, but I promise you've dealt with much worse.
People need to f****** stop talking about Abby's voice because that's not right she has such an adorable voice she could be a Disney princess with that voice❤
I love watching you two, you are both so respectful to each other. I can't wait till the next podcast. I wish this was around when I was a young adult, life wouldn't have been so lonely. My husband died when my babies were 4 and second baby was 6 weeks o.d. life was hard and lonely now my kids are 33 and 28 and we are very close. You two are a aging my middle grandaughter watches you guys. Have a great week 😊
I just love your sweet family. My husband and I have 3 kids. Two boys and a girl. I can't even believe they are 19, 18, and 16 years old now. Just a couple things I would like to reassure you about. Going from one to two kids is intense but once you get the hang of it, adding a third was easy. You just find a groove over time and it works. I think by the third, you are just so used to chaos it doesn't stress you out as much anymore. Our kids are almost all adults, but they still need us. Even better...though they are independent, they actually still want us. Every stage is precious in it's own way. Also...yeah us ladies pee sometimes haha. It does get better after your body is done recovering from pregnancy and childbirth though.
When they talked about having 3 older brothers and a little sister made my heart ❤️ lit up because thats what I have and my brothers can get annoying but it is so worth it for the good times ❤❤❤
I was very proud of my nurses and doctors throughout my whole pregnancy. Since the very first appointment, we told them we didn't want to know the gender of the baby. On the day I gave birth, the doctor quietly told my husband it was a girl. It made the day extra special the day because secretly, I thought the whole pregnancy i thought I was a boy lol. Now, almost 2 years later and ( no more babies for us) I love our girl.
You definitely can and you go to pelvic floor therapy when pregnant! It will help make the rest of your pregnancy easier, the birth of baby #2 much healthier and prevent any complications (even Diastisis Recti and peeing yourself). Sounds like you didn’t have a good provider and just need a referral for one you like and trust! Please give it another chance sooner rather than later!
Can and should***
Hey! Create a mommy and me play place. Serve coffee and light snacks, then have a play area for the kids. It's gives mom a time to socialize and the kids too! Sometimes all you need is some mom friends a good latte!
I had placenta previa where the placenta was blocking my cervix and had to have a c section. Huge risks there and I’m glad you’re not having to deal with that. You’re such a beautiful pregnant mama. Best wishes to you on your lovely journey 🤍
Luv luv how real you guys are like talking out real life issues as they come as they are. You are the best couple on social media in my opinion o glad I stumbled upon your content. Lifetime subscriber!!
What you're saying about giving those in need food instead of money is exactly what I've been taught in school (I'm on track to be a social worker) and I'm so glad you guys know that!
Y’all should do a poll on RUclips to see the average age of people watching! I am 14 and you podcasts give me a great time of day when I go fishing!🎉
Wow that is a lot of likes
omg i am 14 to btw my name is lexi not bill
43 here. Your momma should be proud! It warms my heart to know you’re fishing and listening to positive role models instead of going the opposite direction. 👏🏼
That's super cool.
I’m 28
@@larayrayment28 she is
The best thing is how REAL you guys keep things. It keeps you so relatable-and truly helps others not feel so alone and isolated in what they may be experiencing in their lives. I hope you’ll able to keep your genuineness as you move forward with life.
I love Wednesdays to see you guys!!! Congrats on baby boy #2
We have 5 under 5. (5, twins at 4, 3 and a 1 year old) it's the best having them close together, hard but totally amazing. I wouldn't change anything. My husband is such a great help.
Having them that close and both boys is perfect! Mine are close in age, and I'd have it no ther way! The farthest apart, my kids are 20 months. I had 3 kids, Bam! BAM! Bam! Then, when we decided to take a break, I went on birth control 3 months after giving birth, and 5 months later, I found out I was pregnant! Yes! Pregnant! With twins! Yea! With twins!! Needless to say, I cried my eyes out! My husband, for the 1st time, could not make it to this prenatal appt. Other 3 kids he was there, but this one he just couldn't get out of work. I thought how am I gonna do this? 3 toddler and 2 newborns? All the diapers, all the bottles, the breastfeeding, the burp towels, the laundry! I was so overwhelmed and I didn't even mention half of the stuff! Lol in conclusion it was the best time of my life!😊😂😂
Wow! I can't even imagine!! That's amazing though, you are so blessed! I bet your husband was just as shocked as you were!😂🥰❤
Holy moly!!😂
You're amazing! ❤🎉
The Vaseline on the hands made me laugh so hard 😂 you can just see it shining all over the tops of his hands! Abby’s right just stick to it on the lips lol! But thank you for the laugh I really needed it ❤
Congrats on your growing family!! My first baby I also had an anterior placenta and had a lot of back pain. I always heard it was because the placenta acts as a cushion, so when it’s not in between baby and your back it can put more pressure on your back. When I went into labor it was a lot of back labor as well. Praying you have a healthy rest of your pregnancy, labor and baby!
Being a mom is an extremely important job. Good for you!
I think that your cousin's kids are your first cousins once removed, and your cousin's kids are your kids' second cousins.:) I love listening to your podcast!
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A concept: Matt opens a coffee shop and Abby is hired as am employee. As a fellow Arizonian, DO IT SO I CAN SPEND MY MONEY. Hahaha.
Siblings will fight and love each other to death. With you two as parents they will be so blessed. Love you all.
Aww ...why does Abby look so cute with her hair like that and the way she is sitting ❤
My boys are 14 months apart, Their 18 & 17 now. They grew up so fast, I wish they were still little 😢
Congratulations! You’re truly blessed 🙏🏻 BABY BOYS ARE THE BEST 💙
One week ahead of you and I relate to the peeing your pants conversation so much. Like deep in my bladder. I'm having my 2nd boy too 💙💙 cheers to us
Currently pregnant with my first & it’s a boy! Abby makes me so excited to be a boy mama💙
“I think Hazel left out a word or 2….” I am dyiiiing! You two are so fun and refreshing. Love seeing you both thrive and just have fun!
absolutely adore this podcast, sending love to your gorgeous little fam from Australia 💕
Same here
I’ve gone to pelvic floor therapy. My boyfriend was also willing to help with the home exercises. Helped a ton!!
i love how you guys are able to openly communicate on what eachother wants fro the other for support! it’s so inspiring!!
1st cousins share the same grandparents, 2nd cousins share great-grandparents, and so on. Abby is correct, it goes by generation. Your parent's 1st cousin is your 1st cousin once removed, your grandparent's 1st cousin is your 1st cousin twice removed, and so on.
And... my day is better! I love your guys's podcast, its so heartwarming, love-filled, open and honest. Hearing your aspirations are so amazing. Love you all so much!❤
Love this podcast and being able to watch you guys just hang out and talk! Just came here to say that prenatal pelvic floor therapy can be so useful for certain individuals! It's definitely a personal choice but you can also do sessions without internal exams and they help with pubic sypmhysis pain, back pain, sticking to your exercise plan, pain with sex, etc. Your pelvic floor muscle tone is so important for pushing during birth and preventative exercises can be really beneficial! No knock on Abby at all but I hope if you're thinking it might help you you don't need to wait until postpartum! Even just watching RUclips PT videos on pelvic floor can be useful ❤
Love the unplanned podcast you guys are awesome! Griffin is adorable and so excited for baby 2!! ❤
Matt I truly love the way you talk to Abby! And tell her the things you love about her🥹
As a biology student, I always appreciate Matt’s determination to point out where something’s isn’t backed up by science 😂🤓
We need more people that believe in real science like there is only 2 genders 😂
@@kikimarriott8707 Well, I was mainly talking about the witch tales. The sex/gender question is wayyyy more complicated
I just wanted to say thank you for being consistent with your videos. I truly look forward to my Wednesdays mornings, sippin on coffee and listening to you guys while my toddler wakes up for the day!!! ❤
Abby I can so, so relate! My career goals changed throughout the years but I always knew 100% I wanted to be a Mom. I for sure knew after baby #1 we wanted more but now that we have baby #2 I'm questioning having #3. It feels kind of overwhelming but also the thought of being done and no more of those special firsts breaks my heart! Those emotions are hard to reckon with! ❤
❤️❤️ Abby please film a long dedicated video showing us your beauty routine all your hair care skincare and makeup products ❤️❤️ I’ve been asking for months 😢😢
She’s always doing get ready with me on tiktok
I can see Abby opening her own coffee shop that has different events to bring the community together. Like bingo or farkle or something in the middle of the week for 65+ to bring together some of the elderly in the community. Or a meet and greet for moms and kids in the area to come together. Or even mentoring events for young adults in the area. Coffee bringing joy and community to the area ❤
Usually the second child acts completely different than the first. Congrats you both are awesome.
Abby, I feel you on the peeing your pants thing. I'm almost 20 weeks with my 3rd. Every cough, sneeze, sudden movement, laughter, or vomiting. Man, it's just out of nowhere, no warning.
I love your podcast! I turned 30 this year and just had my 4th baby. I can relate to y’all because my first two kids are boys, 16 months apart! Those first few years as a stay-at-home mom with a husband that worked away from home was rough emotionally, but I am so happy they are so close! They fight a LOT, but are at the same time each others’ best friends! It’s a bond they don’t have with anyone else! They are now 8 and 6 and they do EVERYTHING together!
Abby cries if she can't go to the gym. I cry if I have to go to the gym😅
So excited for baby #2! I did pelvic floor therapy after my baby because I had a 4 inch ab separation. It all helped me so so much postpartum and I don’t even pee on myself anymore. I also had an emergency c section and even the scar tissue was pulling at my bladder and they helped get my bladder back in place. It was wild haha. But yes! Postpartum at hospital was a great experience for me!!
Congrats again on another precious boy!!!❤
Love Abby’s hairstyle !❤
So many similarities with my pregnancy!! I am due August 27, also my second and also a boy. Also an anterior placenta. Comforting to hear that you don't feel as many kicks as before, because I was so worried about that. The kicks on the bladder are definitely funny and unexpected.
Mom of 2 boy's 😊 they 15 months apart. They can be the best of friends, and the WORST to one another (at times) some very special times ahead for u both ❤
You should do Pilates exercises it helps a lot with pelvic floor its safe to do during pregnancy.
I’m 24 going to be 25 in October and my fourth child is due in early November. My oldest just turned 3 and y’all’s podcast makes my day!