3 Words for Our Teenage Selves
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- If you had an opportunity to tell your teenage self three words, what would they be? Plus, at what age should teenagers contribute to the household? We weigh in on the benefits of teachable moments but also make a case for kids being allowed to just be kids.
If you had an opportunity to tell your teenage self three words, what would they be?
I would tell myself to "change for nobody"
You are beautiful 🥰🥰🥰
I would tell my 15 year old self
You are enough !!!!
I would say, “Don’t date him.” ☝🏽
Nothing lasts forever...
I would tell myself “you’re good enough” If they don’t like you, who cares?
"Put yourself first!" Do what YOU want, make your own path, love yourself, experience all you can, don't give up on your goals for a man, don't let negative family hold you back, don't go to college just because that's what people tell you that you should do. Whatever it is, prioritize your mental health and physical health and stay true to what you want.
This is such a good one!
Most teens are selfish and do put themselves first. So, "think about others" is better advise.
IKR! YOU COME FIRST!
@@TheRealDaytime yes 🙌🏼
“Just say no” really needed to hear that in my life rn
Yes, Melinda, I agree with you 💯
garcelle said to adrienne "hopefully you talking about that today will help someone" and adrienne said "I hope so". I'm the one she helped. I was helped by it.
Aww, I love this!
Aww...Bless you 💞 And take some self defense classes! Seriously
Amen
She honestly doesn’t even know the impact she’s had on me
Loni is aging backwards! She’s so stunning!
Ikr she’s beautiful 🤩
@@Anonymous56657 that’s really rude, she’s gorgeous and doesn’t need to change for anyone.
Soo true 😍
@@Anonymous56657 That's not an opinion that's simple rudeness
@@Anonymous56657 She always puts pictures up without filters and looks amazing and her weight is her business not ours
I would tell my 15 year old self "Cherish those moments" because I lost my mom 5 years ago and I would tell my younger self those moments are never truly appreciated until they become just memories
I totally agree, I lost my mom recently too
First thing that I thought of was, "It gets better".
Same.
&&” you’ll be ok.”
@@korlinmurry2399 Foreal, I didn't enjoy high school at all I was the quiet girl and always felt outta place. And I had like 1 friend. It's like high school is 4 years vs. the rest of your life.
@@Anonymous56657 True, but I was just saying for myself
I would've told myself 'Love yourself more' cause I found it hard to love me. And allowed some people and things in my life that didn't deserve to be there. That includes family and friends.
Adriene is deep and just comes out with that wisdom that hits home 🙌
Wow, I resonate with A’s so strongly. “Just say no” . Say no when saying yes to them is really saying no to yourself. What do YOU really want? What serves you? What if you put yourself first instead of everybody else? Because that’s causing you hurt. Choose yourself! ❤️🙌🏻
My stubborn nature really helped and saved me through my teen years. I can't say anyone ever successfully convinced me to do anything I didn't really wanna do.
Adrienne is glowing....she has such grace.
Garcelle really been an extra light to the show. I wish she was brought on earlier.
Yep instead of Amanda!
@@genasingh1845 Hell yeahh!! I’ve been wanting to say that but I forgot her name that’s how much I didn’t like her 😭😭 she was so rude and Garcelle is so sweet
@@betzabethrosas3981 😊🤭🤭😏👍👍
Ugh! Lord, I would tell my 15yr "You Will Survive" or" Trust Your Instinct" cause mine was ugly and strive.
Adrienne, PLEASE wear your hair like this more often!
"Stay in school!" I graduated high school early and took a break. Life got in the way and I didn't return until my mid 20's. I wish I had never done that! Could have graduated from college and - maybe - not struggled as much.
I don't think CHILDREN should pay for utilities, rent, phones etc. even if they have a job in high school. Those are necessities that should be provided by the parents until they are at least 18. If they want extras then yes have them pay but paying for bills should not fall on a child's shoulders
Agree!!!
Exactly.
I would say only for the phone and car yes but It be going half and half for it. Rent and utilities absolutely not.
Yes absolutely, I agree.. I have a 9 yr old daughter and I couldn’t imagine asking her for money to pay for anything! Crazy & also I’ll be paying for her college & expenses... Parents need to do better
Just be yourself!
Love this
Yessss thats a good one I was looking for something like this😊👍
3 words Trust God's Plan.
Amen!
Yo I'm 23 and I need these words more than ever... God open my eyes!
Amen
@@Anonymous56657 then find some different words for yourself or get to know God
@@Anonymous56657 well for 1 the Bible... 2 church. And with modern day technology there are many videos and documentaries that talk to u about Christ and break down the diction in the Bible and offer interpretation. Then it comes down to listening for him, but in a more spiritual way. If u are looking for someone to walk up to u and sit and have a full conversation with u, that’s where faith comes in. Even tho we cant sit and have a cup of coffee with God u can still have faith in his word
“Life gets better” is not enough for me. I would be like, “Girl, how!? WHEN!?”
Right 😂
The way I FELT this comment 😫😭 lol
I'm just seeing this and my three words to my 15 year old self is "Know your Worth" I was too nice to everybody and everybody used to take advantage of me and make me do things I'm not comfortable with and get mad or fight me when I say no, or I feel I'm not good enough for anybody because I'm not the most attractive man and actually been assaulted and contemplated suicide. Now I love myself and appreciate myself more. Just learn to know your worth
I would tell myself. You're not ugly, don't accept everything, put yourself first and honestly, be selfish.
Time heals heartbreak
Sometimes when your young and you fall in love and you breakup you feel like.life is over....but you heal and i wish i would of.known that when i was a teen
Well I’m turning 20 in August and I’m just looking back at all that time through my teens where there were scenarios , people and obstacles that were in my way to purposely get in my way for an eventual downfall... but the thing I would say to him is “ You Are Strong “ cuz there are people who go through hell and hot water and don’t know how to recover... but I’ve always remained to look at the situations I’ve been through as stepping stones to help develop into the amazing human being that I am proud to be... a “ weak “ person would’ve just given and felt hopeless and wondered what’s the next move... but I’ve always chosen to look for the positive and realize God didn’t bring me far just to leave me! So I’m grateful for all the wack things thrown st me just for me to overcome the ish
I would love to send this too my grand daughter.
I would tell my 13 self when I visited my grandma for what would be the last time as she passed away in 2014 to honestly tell my grandma how much I love and appreciate her and to my 17 self I would say don’t worry if a guy doesn’t like say how you feel and if it doesn’t work out “rejection is God’s protection”
Mine would be "parents aren't everything" I wasted a lot of energy trying to get my parents become responsible and loving but they never did. I was stock for a decade searching for validation and care I never received.I should've sesrch for a caring adult outside of that cold family.
Life is bigger than family.
My grand daughter is going through that at 15. I pray 🙏🏾 that it's not too late
I would say, “Just stay single.” Relationships aren’t everything. I was the girl who was boy crazy knew what she wanted but would rush into things. “Love yourself more” is another. That goes along with work on yourself stay focus and do you.
First thing I thought of "JUST SAY NO" I'm with you Adrienne, I feel you 💕
I would tell myself "you're a survivor". I survived and made it through the darkest moments and it'll all be worth it
Adrienne got me emotional. Thanks for sharing, girl!
"Appreciate Yourself Unconditionally"
Same as Adrienne for me ! Finally at 37 I can say no without feeling bad
Wants but not Needs. It’s a parent’s job to take care of their children. The children didn’t ask to be in this world, the parents did. If you can’t afford to take of things, maybe don’t have children? It’s sad to say but the world we currently live in is built that way until we change it.
I agree!
Thank u
Well not all parents asked or want for childern to be in this world it just happens at times but yeah I agree its still there responsibility to take care of them and provide for them etc
I cant get over how much I like Garcelle
I would say “protect you energy” to my 15 year old self
Garcelle is such a great fit in the show. She is really honest. ☺️❤️
I love Garcelle’s headband w her shirt!! 🧡🧡
Adrienne is right
I did alot of hoop jumping for parents and being obedient and people pleasing
"it gets better", "proud of you", or "start that channel" (which I did)
This helps.... because I am 13 right now. So I should be thinking about this. The three main words I tell myself are: smart, honest, and kind. I don't only tell myself these things, but my family does too. I mostly tell myself these things because there are so many kids who would give me a hard time at school and I would usually want to be rude back to them, but I would take the high ground because it doesn't matter what the kids at school think. I shouldn't change myself just because these kids who don't even care about me are telling me to change myself. When they go low, I go high. I always try my best to be smart, honest, and kind.
Guuuurl you are not 13. You can't be cause how do you have life figured out this early??? Keep staying focused on yourself love. Don't let those mean kids at school distract you from enjoying your life.
@@omphilemoerane2569 Aaawww......thank you. ☺️ I just have parents that love me and teach me well, so I think that's how I kind of have life figured out this early. I still have a lot to learn, though.
You are sooo wise beyond your years. If you are this enlightened already, you’re already several steps ahead of your peers. 💕
@@mt3388 Aaawww, thank you so much. ☺️
My friend stopped going to school in high school because her parents were struggling. But she still manage to graduate. It’s all about what kind of situation
I am honestly glad I grew up with parents who did not have money for luxuries. It taught me what is important in life (the intangible) and how to work to afford what I want.
It’s so much stuff I would say to my 15 year old self I would say put yourself first , dont give up, take your time, you are enough, !!!!
I relate to Adrienne so much. I am STILL learning how to say no. Been working on it gradually for about 3 years now. But I'm getting better at practicing it more and more now.
I would say to teenage self "follow your path" don't let your parents decide your path or "stay far away " from controlling father and foolish mother
YO! I can't wait till Adrienne's make some babies ⁉️
I absolutely think that teens and young adults should contribute to their own phone bill, contribute to the food or the other smaller bills, just to learn responsibility. But I don't like how Adrienne's brother-in-law handled the restaurant situation. Obviously, they're little children and it puts them in a position to be embarrassed since they don't have money. It's not like they're teenagers or adults with an ability to have a job or contribute financially. They are completely dependent on the parents. And I would personally feel, as a child, like I am a burden on my parents if they're saying that, even jokingly, at dinner around other people.
Right! I’d be so scared. Ready to run away even. Probably would have burst into tears right then & there. Kids no matter what the age is,depend on the parents to take care of them & pay for them. Parents & adults need to remember that the kids didn’t ask to be here so parents shouldn’t make them feel like a burden.
Why would they be embarrassed? It was a family dinner, and their dad was obviously teasing them. Adrienne's family is super close.
I agree...I would have been terrified & embarrassed. I would have started crying. I realize he was kidding & trying to make a point, but I feel like there are other ways to have a teachable moment.
Don't stress yourself
That's a good one but thats always easier said then done😊
Mine would defo me “listen to yourself” I spent a lot of crucial years just following what others were telling me to do with my life even though I wasn’t happy now I’m older and it’s way harder to try and do the things I wanted to do before! And the people pressuring me when I was in my teens are no where to be found. Should’ve just listened to myself
I'm currently a teenager(17) and all these words and comments are truly enriching. Thank you The Real and everyone else for opening up and sharing your wisdom.
Yes, “ Just say not to the things that doesn’t make your heart happy and have you uncomfortable “. I love it !!!!! Glory to God
"Don't look back."
“Last is okay”
“Last is enough”
“Life isn’t competition”
"DONT DO IT!" Like adrienne, it didn't give me character.
“Life gets better” “keep on praying “ or “you will be happy”
Adrienne looks beautiful that hair 😍😍😍😍😍
I went to a high school where upper class kids were praised over lower class kids. I was considered “special needs” but somehow I was cheerleader and in jrotc and people just didn’t like the fact I was popular. People would start rumors, get mad, mug me. (I WISH I DIDNT GAF BACK THEN) I was like Adrienne too I ALWAYS said yes!
Love yourself first!
I am my teenage self so right now I tell myself “Walk with God.” ❤️
Yeah same 😊🙏🙏👍👍
I whould tell them listen to their parents instead of friends
Because at this age, kids only give priority to their friends who will later lie to them, or give up on them.
When they finally heart broken, that when they remember they had a family...
Be yourself, invest on their education instead of looking for boys or girls or friends...
Love God more than anything.
I love love love hearing A talk about her future babies. She will be the BEST mommy 💖 bless you all
"You are worthy!"
I would tell myself to speak up about the abuse to my mom so we could get out earlier, you’re beautiful and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise because God sees perfection in you, and you’re so much happier down the future and everything you’ve been through and are going through is going to be worth it I PROMISE!
"Girl get ready" 🙄 from 18-22 it's gonna be a wild ride
@Hansolo You gonna learn hell yeah, and I held on for dear life 😬
I FELT this sooo much!!! My 15yr old self i wish I could’ve learned to say no like Adrienne-I didn’t have a loving or caring family so I found a family.
Once I had my kids I did everything for them so they never knew what not being loved feels like. Unfortunately I have had several heart attack issues and was forced onto disability and my kids now want me to move in with them so they can help care for me but mentally I just can’t seem to get the demons in my mind to allow that. I’m THEIR Mom, it’s MY JOB to care for them. (They’re 22&21-but im only 42!!)
Mine is “it gets better”
Adrienne listen... they WILL be entitled lol. It's a fact of us giving them the life we didn't have. Now you can make up for it in other ways by giving them chores/responsibilities and teaching them the value of money but have no doubt they're gonna be entitled.
This is a sad fact me and my bestie discuss often🤷🏽♀️😂
I would tell my teenage self love yourself you're precious don't be afraid to dream big cherish the 'relationship' you have with your parents they're doing the best they can.
“Don’t be afraid”
Yes!!!💪🌟
3 Words Go!: Don't Do It!. but in all seriousness: "You are Beautiful!"
OMG this is so weird, I had the same answer as Adrienne even before she said a word. Must be a scorpio thing, it takes everything in me to say no and that's one of my biggest regrets too
"Everything is possible" I regret listening to people as if their words would determine my life and future. Anyone can work themselves out of situations
My three words: Focus on Jesus.
Nice🙏🏾
I felt that "Just Say No."
I was one of those kids who liked to clean. There was something so fun about pushing the vacuum back and fourth and washing dishes. Our house stayed clean. My sister would throw on that destiny’s child Cd and we would GO to town!! #2001 #2002 #2003
Same thing I’ll say to my adult self “you’ve got it in you”.
3:37 - 3:41 yup🤚🏾Thanks Adrienne!
Love yourself, find another way to survive, stay home, stay away from creeps, help my family more, maybe they would not have neglected me.
I would say, “focus for yourself”
Confidence is everything!
I identify with what Adriene says. I still struggle with saying no and everytime I say yes I feel furious with myself and when I say no I feel guilty
Follow God’s Word- as a teen it’s so easy to do what everyone else is, but those who live according to the will of God will be prosperous in all they do! I’d rather start sooner than later!
Yeah working on that now that Im in m late teens😊😊🙏🙏
"Invest in me!"
Miss Beauvais is amazing in this show. They do need to make it a priority to get back on set. Plenty of talk shows have done it!!!
@@bsbgirl85 it takes away from the show so much.... even no audience I don’t care but like I want the set the lights and the fashion lol
@@bsbgirl85 they can do it like the talk... lovely set and fashion!!!! This is like us watching a zoom meeting tbh
I don't think they're ever going back. Jeannie has moved to Atlanta and Adrienne back to New York. Those rumours about them losing their studio are starting to seem real.
I will have my kids think that they're paying their own phone bill just so that they understand how to manage money. I'll for sure invest that money for them.so that when they get older they have that but I think it really important to prepare kids for the real world. Cuz it's hard out here and I don't want life to slap my kid in the face the way it did me and so many others
I needed to hear this segment so much. I was in a debate with myself. Thank you🥰
I don’t understand making your teenager pay rent
Same
Greedy parents. Even if you're struggling make a plan that doesn't involve your kids paying rent. They have such little time to be kids and they have those kinds of responsibilities waiting for them for the rest of their lives.
I am with Adrienne, The Power of No. 🙋🏻♀️
Mine would be " You are enough!"
'Believe in yourself'
"Don't be afraid" 💃
I like the little insight jokes ☺️ 1:02 1:03 between Garcelle and Loni Lmaoo 😊😊😁😁
I would tell my teenage self people do care.
Thank you Adrienne ❤️🌹
Save your money 💚
Lol When Garcelle is trying to talk at min 8:50 and Ardienne talks over her and doesn’t give a dam she’s talking 😂😂😂😂
Yeah they all do even loni too I'm like Ok y'all calm down, hold on and wait y'all turns😊 so I can undertand one another😁😁 lmaoo speaking from a teenage perspective I've always kind of hated that lol
Adrienne, just involve your kids in volunteer and charity work. Teach them about current issues and their place in the world. The materialistic life that you lead will essentially model what they expect from themselves. You will have to model to your future kids what being modest is. Not confuse them at a restaurant of your choice. Take a child psych course to start. Read.
I love Jax ! Sounds like my kind of kid..... great negotiation skills.
I think it’s okay for teens to help every now and then in some way with expenses... I know sometimes I help my mom pay stuff like the water bill or the light bill... like stuff we actually need to move freely in our home without worry... but I also am a giver so I’ve also been one with the time of covid And things like streaming services have gone up in popularity during this time i’ve also been able to give that love and entertainment back to my mom by paying for those cuz Ik she loved to just escape and catch up on tv sometimes lol
OMGEE before Adrienne said hers I had already thought of mine and it was the same thing! Just say no... I said it sometimes but I think I should've kept it up and focused on me like 100% instead 80% of the time.