I definitely think we should be mindful of what we say. I think we can be honest about their behavior and who you see them becoming. Sometimes that truth can be hurtful. But if you are saying that truth in love can temper the pain. When it comes to pet names it can be so difficult. My middle child is really short and I tend to call her little bit, which is something I was called as well as many members of my family who were shorter. Knowing she doesn’t like it I try not to use it and apologize when I slip.
Yes they should! Children have feelings and parents should be aware of those and not cross the line. communicate effectively with your kid and stop lashing out on them 💯
I've seen parents always respond to a child with annoyance. When the kid sees the parent always aggravated, your kid will adopt the same vibe. Ppl who's parents explained and were calm, the kids are calm.
Yes! My mom always seems annoyed when I try to talk to her. Then the big question in my head repeats itself “Y did u have me if u didn’t want to bothered?”
This reminds me of a Toni Morrison quote I heard years ago, "When your child walks into the room, does your face light up?" Parents, children can feel when you don't want them around, when you feel like they're burdening you, when you feel annoyed by them, etc. A parent can absolutely become their child's first bully. If you do not validate your child at home, they will look for validation in the streets from people who might not mean them no good.
Oh my gosh would you parents stop being so damn sensitive when it comes to parenting and start teaching your kids that hey as you get older and go out into the world people will bully you and when it happens you can either fight back and get your ass whooped or you can ignore it and watch it go away on its own.
I come from a West Indian family and Jeannie is spot on, they will discuss your looks and body as a child right in front of you. And the absolute worst is when they comment on your skin color and how dark you are. My sister is dark skinned and the comments about it affects her to this day, she's so insecure as an adult.
My mum is white, she is Dutch. She STILL gets out the measuring tape and measures the width of my waist and thighs....I am 38 years old with 4 girls I have told her not to ever put that tape near my daughters...
I am sorry this happens to you! This is a pure example that the ladies should stop dividing white people from other races. We are all human and face similar/same issues.
Jeannie was so spot on about doing those kitchen walks and being picked apart as you pour yourself a drink or fix a sandwich. I use to hate walking in a room full of houseguest because I knew I was going to be picked apart.
I think parents often don't realize the effects they can have on their kids, no matter how insignificant it may seem. Comments on their appearance, death stares when their eating or even just constantly saying unsolicited things can really impact a child. Nevermind treating them how you would tell them not to treat others. Some parents can't recognize their toxic traits and admit their possible mistakes in situations which will end up determining the fate of their relationship with their kids in the future. Some people need to do better honestly.
This is the reason I don’t like some of the ways peoples emotions get pushed aside when they try to talk abt how they were raised when they’re an adult !! We’ve seen it happen... even Jeannie on Hello Hunnay when it comes to the way her and mom communicate the only way she gets heard is when she literally has to yell out and act out her feelings in a way that is so scary that you know it’s not a side of her unless she’s really hurt ! I always hear my mom say I’m so cool and collected that it’s actually kind of scary because she doesn’t know the reaction that’ll come out of me if something were to happen where I get to that point of no return with my emotions ! I want to say this as a person that will be turning 20 this year... nip that BS in the bud ! If your parents are doing or saying things that isn’t good for you as a PERSON not as their child but as a person because the children are people too and parents need to treat them as such ! Be honest , be open because if you bottle up all your hurt , angst and resentment it’ll come out in ways that even you yourself won’t recognize ! And parents need to understand that they were once kids and that sometimes that old school thinking of “ we’ll the ways that were taught upon and tough love and ... “ you were able to handle it but we are in a new day and age where we gotta listen to our children ! Don’t brush them aside ! Don’t make them feel less than !
Always constantly getting yelled at and criticized by my mother growing up. It’s different now that I’m 20 she’s just starting to come out of that I guess the dynamic has changed. I can’t recall one time her ever saying how beautiful or how great I am. I genuinely think she doesn’t like me. She hates affection from me but now I just sort of force it upon her anyway lol. She winces when I tell her I love her and hug her. She did say to me that her mother was very mean to her so that could be it.
I’m experiencing this but in reverse. When I was little we had a great relationship but now that I’m in my 20s she gets annoyed when I come into her room or ask her to do something as simple as making me something to eat. I get criticized,degraded,put down,& yelled at by my mother so much that its like she hates me & idk y. She yells at me & always says I have an attitude weather I’m stressed out or tired or just genuinely unhappy when in reality I’m just staying silent for my mental health & then she’ll say that “Your just so evil” or “That no one will ever want u or be around u” or “That’s the reason u don’t have any friends” even though she knows that I walked away from toxic friends & I’ve been through hell & back about my health & I’ve been through depression twice & she continues to criticize,degraded,& put me down it’s just really hard especially because I still live with her. She had terrible & basically no relationship with her mom when she was young but I feel like she takes it out on me or if she takes her frustrations out on me when I haven’t done anything to her. She had 2 kids when she was a teenager but now that she’s in her 50s she acts like a immature kid when she doesn’t get her way or if I don’t look at her or say things just the way she wants it. I don’t understand y she treats me so bad...it’s like she doesn’t understand mental health or emotions.
I asked my mom one day why she was so mean to me. She looked at me and said “because you’re mean to me” I didn’t want to talk about it any further because it caught me off guard. Maybe one day I’ll ask her. She also told me that her mother was mean to her. According to my mom she was worse.
Honestly that sounds like an excuse. Every time a parent is horrible to their child and blame the child for it, it's just an excuse because even if they child was perfect they would still find something to be upset about.
@@agathachris9722 YES! my mother definitley caters to my brother and my father way more than me. She says its because she wants me to be independent, and I understand that. But by treating the two men in the house like kings and treating me more like a servant made me feel unloved and lesser than .
@@RyanJCreations sounds like ur typical black mother/mammy 🤣 yall complain about men 24/7 but treat them way better especially ur sons, female logic 🤣🤣
Wow girl I got the same thing Don't even bother asking again cause you'll get the Same ans They Never see or know or would own up to what they did wrong They'll put the blame on Everything else but themselves & especially on the children who they did it too
Bullying comes in all shapes. I for one used to bully my son until God delivered me. It was done to me so I did it to my son. I knew it was wrong so I kept praying about it. Now, I’m gentle, loving, patient, and most of all I have self-control. Those are some of the fruits of the Spirit. It was hard to change but I kept praying.
What Jeannie said is so true. My Cuban side if the family always use to point out if someone was either eating too much or too little or if someone gained weight or lost weight. It’s one of those things you just can’t explain but it’s just a cultural latin/caribbean thing and most of the time it’s s not even meant as something mean or hurtful..but yet it is..God knows I still have my fair share of insecurities from things certain family member told me growing up and I’m grown grown
You have to put into your kids 10 times more than you take out. Meaning, for every time you want to correct something “negative” about them, you need to give them 10 positive things. Parents are often so focused on correction that they never praise. Then they wonder why their kid has low self esteem. Or even worse, blame them for it. But the problem is that they never poured into their children-only took out.
i became a little overweight around 6th grade and my parents literally told me to stop eating bc i won’t find a husband and no one would love me if i was fat. And when i would tell them that i didn’t eat for 2 days they’ll say, “Good, maybe then you’ll lose weight”. Then later i had a eating disorder soo
God forbid, that so wrong. A number on a scale isn't what determines if somebody is worthy of being loved, you are worthy. Your literally 1 in 7 billion! Don't allow ignorant comments like that to take root in your mind
Straight of out high school I became a psych major at a community college. I thought majoring in a particular field would be informative but school does not teach you about life. In hindsight a lot of things I did and said was just from a lack of self awareness and love. Making peace with the younger self and deadening the self destructive thinking and conversations I was having on the internal was essential to my spiritual journey
For me it was my Auntie saying about how chubby I looked as a babe but I didn't let it get me down for long . I'm beautifully and wonderfully made in Christ Jesus , and I know I'm very pleasing to look at. Amen
A lot of my family members were my bullies. Being Hispanic specifically Dominican I feel like we’re jokesters but a lot of the times it’s at the expense of someone else. I was a picky eater as a kid and never had much of an appetite so it was always like eat more, your too skinny gotta put some meat on your bones, skip a meal and you’ll disappear (I could go on) and everyone else laughed but it wasn’t funny to me. That lead to me having anxiety and falling into a depression in my teenage years. Now at 21 I still have body image issues.
Yup! And the one thing I'm glad Jeannie pointed out is that this happens in a lot of non-white families. Black parents def need to hear this and get out of their ways so their kids grow up with less issues. For example, we get that spanking was a punishment, but at the end of the day it was jus a convenient option because they lacked the patience to find a better, effective one.
@@veronicaivanova never discredited any other race's experience. Don't discredit what I said by pulling an "all lives matter" move. My comment is focused on non-white families. Stop trying to find fault in it and leave it alone.
@@milesjohnson7423, I am not pulling anything, you thought it's appropriate to bring race into a non-racial issue. Maybe you should consider your prejudices.
@@veronicaivanova or maybe you should consider that because I am a member of a non-white race, that my experience and experiences of other young ppl in my race is relatable and very common and that we're glad it's being spoken about. No prejudice here, jus shedding light on my race specifically without discrediting other races like you THINK i'm doing
@@veronicaivanova You probably think you’re helping by being “we are the world” but race and culture has an impact on everything, including parenting; “parenting” methods and beliefs passed down through generations that are tied to a specific shared ancestry and history. Trying to gloss over that fact ignores nuance and does more harm than good.
Yep, which is why I struggle with weight problems. Someone very close to me told me that a man won't find me worthy to marry until I lose weight. So I started working out but I went so hard, I almost fell into a disorder. But here's the thing. Me learning about what God thinks of me and that He already finds me worthy is making a huge difference in my confidence. Yes, we are supposed to take care of ourselves and keep ourselves in good health and that's what I'm working towards but if that's all you heard through childhood and adulthood when you weren't even "overweight" it hurts and it stays with you. I was skinny being called fat. Now quarantine weight has been in effect and it's even worse now from people I love. I understand now that God finds me worthy as I am. He didn't disqualify me because I gained some pounds. I was already qualified to do His work way before I was in the womb. Ladies and gents, YOU ARE WORTHY!
I've felt this way for years. Absolute power corrupts absolutely. These so called "strong" parents are little more than bullies. Assuming they want to raise mentally healthy and well adjusted kids, I believe that parents need to be a lot less authoritarian and a little more loving.
When I was younger I would always think my mom is like a celebrity and I would tell her how beautiful she is and name all celebrities to compare her to, she would just laugh it off. And say oh if my eyes were that big or disagree. It would break my heart I would not see it and want her to agree that she is like them to me.
I totally agree with Loni what she said that parents should not be cussing at their children! As for Jeannie, she shouldn't be cussing at or around her mother on some of her hello hunnay videos that's so disrespectful! People in general shouldn't be cussing at all for that matter. That's abusive speech.
But you have to understand Jeannie does it because of what she knows... the only time I’ve seen her curse around her is like as an adult and they are having a conversation like friends and her mom doesn’t care or in the midst of an argument and even then I feel like that’s because of the toxic pattern she saw her mother go thru when it came to an unhealthy parent child dynamic as well as abuse
I am I guilty of this and I try to stop myself but it is so hard for me... I know it’s wrong and I really do try... but I don’t know how to have more patience and not get annoyed by my son, when he won’t do what I ask... I get so short with my patience with him... it’s not that easy... I could easily let him do whatever he wants and not let it affect me but I don’t spank him... but I do raise my voice to make sure he understands I mean business... it’s hard... I wish I could sit there all day with so much patience ask he calms down and does as I asked... it’s not easy... I always have to rush us to daycare and work and rush us back home because I’m starving and need to cook dinner... get him ready for bed and prep his things for the next day... my husband helps as much as he can... but again it’s not easy. I honestly don’t know how people do it without ruining their kids in one way or another...
Yes Loni about doing research to be a better parent I started before my baby was born cause 3years ago cause I wanted to be sure that I was not going to do some same mistakes....and yes to all you ladies! You all are such great exemples of People!!! Thank youuuu
My parents do this and it really does hurt if I try to talk to them about it they would say “we’re just trying to teach you” just like when I was younger I was very skinny my whole family made fun of me calling me a stick or a straw. They stopped once my mom found a note that I wrote on my phone about how I hated it and wanted to kill myself because of it. But now I started to gain weight they are doing it again…
I was twelve when someone noticed I had stretch marks on my hips... to this date my husband constantly reassures me that I look beautiful with them. Most days I'm good but it still flares up. My insecurities are endless.
Its normal for me and other people to look at my 5mo daughter and comment “she’s getting big” or “she’s losing her hair” or “she has a pimple” or “do you think she’ll get darker” and I think we as parents especially of daughters need to learn when to stop making comments out loud on their physical appearances. I know parents will always see their children as their growing and evolving babies so I think sometimes our parents and family forget when we are grown and when those comments can start to impact us.
I believe we are creating a very insecure society. Discipline is needed in any family. What may work in your family may not work in another. The names called by my parents or relatives did not have an negative impact because everybody was cursed out at some point if they did something wrong. In fact we laugh and talk about it today.
Yeah like you said not everyone is like your family. Some kids get depressed and suicidal because their parents are being bullies. That's what the conversation was about.
Loool you literally said what works for some may not work for others then proceeded to tell us how not accepting the way you guy's abused each other will produce an insecure society???! No thanks
Yeah, my parents came from a time where you just spank, beat & hit. There was no talking about it. If you even mentioned how wrong they were about their actions you would get hit for that too...🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
I totally agree. I hate when parents call them little shits and such. I had a friend (White) that would call her sons that. My parents didn't know it, but they caused my sister and I to take diet pills at a really young age my sister was 16 and I was 13.
Jeannie it’s not just “non white” background for everything. Us Albanians and Italians,Greeks, polish etc deal with the same thing from our parents about our appearance. There’s a difference between plain white American and cultured white Americans.
It happens in “plain white American” families too. People are people. What do they all have in common? These family members are individuals projecting their insecurities onto their children.
I can't wait to witness for myself my all brand new brilliant white teeth! I'll send down fire! Once the twelve hours has started and I see no announcements!
Personally I see absolutely nothing wrong with a parent bullying their child because it teaches them exactly how the world will treat them later on in life.
First, you wanna cancel any and nearly every bully, no questions. But now you want to understand their backstory? Which narrative are you pushing here?
Those two things aren’t mutually exclusive. I don’t know what’s meant by canceling but bullies should absolutely face consequences for their actions. As far as understanding them, if you want to prevent something from happening, it’s always helpful to understand the motive behind the action.
@@kemery22222 but why bother digging in for some understanding if you're all set cancelling them anyway. Understanding allows sympathy to creep in. None of you are sympathetic to any kind of tragic backstory. A bully is a bully, right? Point. Blank. Period.
@@dodgingdurangos924 Can you read? If you want to PREVENT occurrence and reoccurrence of behavior, you have to understand why it happens. Then, you can develop protective factors against it. That’s why. And yes, bullies deserve consequences for their actions and the people they have victimized. Point. Blank. Period.
@@dodgingdurangos924 u can’t cancel ur own parents brah 🤣🤣🤣 or ppl have more sympathy for their parents as they birthed u unlike some strange celebrity that ur low-key jealous of coz they’re rich and ur broke lol
@@makalaadams4Can you read. That's why you toughen them up so they will be strong both physically and mentally. This advice will have your kids scared and worried about what the World thinks. Humans like you are getting weaker and weaker.
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Should parents be more mindful of their approach when critiquing their kids?
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Newfie s are the same way
Absolutely!! Stop whooping kids. Have normal conversations with kids! Stop yelling!
I definitely think we should be mindful of what we say. I think we can be honest about their behavior and who you see them becoming. Sometimes that truth can be hurtful. But if you are saying that truth in love can temper the pain.
When it comes to pet names it can be so difficult. My middle child is really short and I tend to call her little bit, which is something I was called as well as many members of my family who were shorter. Knowing she doesn’t like it I try not to use it and apologize when I slip.
Yes they should! Children have feelings and parents should be aware of those and not cross the line. communicate effectively with your kid and stop lashing out on them 💯
I've seen parents always respond to a child with annoyance. When the kid sees the parent always aggravated, your kid will adopt the same vibe. Ppl who's parents explained and were calm, the kids are calm.
Yes!! You’re so right, and I try explaining this to a family member of mine who helped raise me. But they just don’t get it
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Yes! My mom always seems annoyed when I try to talk to her. Then the big question in my head repeats itself “Y did u have me if u didn’t want to bothered?”
@@JayeKisses maybe she wanted a baby but didn’t wanna be a parent 😣 at least that’s how mine makes it appear
@@JayeKisses and yet people still shame women like Jeannie who are honest about not wanting to have kids.
This reminds me of a Toni Morrison quote I heard years ago, "When your child walks into the room, does your face light up?" Parents, children can feel when you don't want them around, when you feel like they're burdening you, when you feel annoyed by them, etc. A parent can absolutely become their child's first bully. If you do not validate your child at home, they will look for validation in the streets from people who might not mean them no good.
That quote has always stuck with me
Exactly!
You are 100% correct
Oh my gosh would you parents stop being so damn sensitive when it comes to parenting and start teaching your kids that hey as you get older and go out into the world people will bully you and when it happens you can either fight back and get your ass whooped or you can ignore it and watch it go away on its own.
I come from a West Indian family and Jeannie is spot on, they will discuss your looks and body as a child right in front of you. And the absolute worst is when they comment on your skin color and how dark you are. My sister is dark skinned and the comments about it affects her to this day, she's so insecure as an adult.
it sucks when those colorist comments come from your own people smh
And yall complain that whites are bad smh
@@carl7348 whites are bad who do you think created racism
@@carl7348 white ppl normalized racism
@@carl7348 oh hi Carl, I see you have made your way through every comment, you seem to have a lot of time on your hands 🤦🏽♀️
I experienced that with both of my parents. I’m 27 now and I don’t see them anymore 👋🏾
This is a mood
My mum is white, she is Dutch. She STILL gets out the measuring tape and measures the width of my waist and thighs....I am 38 years old with 4 girls I have told her not to ever put that tape near my daughters...
I am sorry this happens to you! This is a pure example that the ladies should stop dividing white people from other races. We are all human and face similar/same issues.
Exactly, they always leave out white people like there aren't millions of that white people who go through the same things in their families
This is why I was so bothered cause this show brings up race in every fucking topic.
That is terrible. I’m so sorry
I'm not white, but was so uncomfortable by them saying these things don't happen to white people.
That Jeanie's top is everything. She is shining like a star.
Jeannie was so spot on about doing those kitchen walks and being picked apart as you pour yourself a drink or fix a sandwich.
I use to hate walking in a room full of houseguest because I knew I was going to be picked apart.
That's actually very rude to comment on what and how much someone is eating. Those parents are just teaching their kids bad manners.
It’s sooo hard sometimes but I wholeheartedly agree with the message
See, I'm glad someone said it because parents/siblings/uncles/aunts..can be bullies...😪😪😪
I think parents often don't realize the effects they can have on their kids, no matter how insignificant it may seem. Comments on their appearance, death stares when their eating or even just constantly saying unsolicited things can really impact a child. Nevermind treating them how you would tell them not to treat others.
Some parents can't recognize their toxic traits and admit their possible mistakes in situations which will end up determining the fate of their relationship with their kids in the future.
Some people need to do better honestly.
This is the reason I don’t like some of the ways peoples emotions get pushed aside when they try to talk abt how they were raised when they’re an adult !! We’ve seen it happen... even Jeannie on Hello Hunnay when it comes to the way her and mom communicate the only way she gets heard is when she literally has to yell out and act out her feelings in a way that is so scary that you know it’s not a side of her unless she’s really hurt ! I always hear my mom say I’m so cool and collected that it’s actually kind of scary because she doesn’t know the reaction that’ll come out of me if something were to happen where I get to that point of no return with my emotions ! I want to say this as a person that will be turning 20 this year... nip that BS in the bud ! If your parents are doing or saying things that isn’t good for you as a PERSON not as their child but as a person because the children are people too and parents need to treat them as such ! Be honest , be open because if you bottle up all your hurt , angst and resentment it’ll come out in ways that even you yourself won’t recognize ! And parents need to understand that they were once kids and that sometimes that old school thinking of “ we’ll the ways that were taught upon and tough love and ... “ you were able to handle it but we are in a new day and age where we gotta listen to our children ! Don’t brush them aside ! Don’t make them feel less than !
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I feel exactly like this but it’s hard to be heard when the parent refuses to listen to u
Exactlyy💯
Always constantly getting yelled at and criticized by my mother growing up. It’s different now that I’m 20 she’s just starting to come out of that I guess the dynamic has changed. I can’t recall one time her ever saying how beautiful or how great I am. I genuinely think she doesn’t like me. She hates affection from me but now I just sort of force it upon her anyway lol. She winces when I tell her I love her and hug her. She did say to me that her mother was very mean to her so that could be it.
I’m experiencing this but in reverse. When I was little we had a great relationship but now that I’m in my 20s she gets annoyed when I come into her room or ask her to do something as simple as making me something to eat. I get criticized,degraded,put down,& yelled at by my mother so much that its like she hates me & idk y. She yells at me & always says I have an attitude weather I’m stressed out or tired or just genuinely unhappy when in reality I’m just staying silent for my mental health & then she’ll say that “Your just so evil” or “That no one will ever want u or be around u” or “That’s the reason u don’t have any friends” even though she knows that I walked away from toxic friends & I’ve been through hell & back about my health & I’ve been through depression twice & she continues to criticize,degraded,& put me down it’s just really hard especially because I still live with her. She had terrible & basically no relationship with her mom when she was young but I feel like she takes it out on me or if she takes her frustrations out on me when I haven’t done anything to her. She had 2 kids when she was a teenager but now that she’s in her 50s she acts like a immature kid when she doesn’t get her way or if I don’t look at her or say things just the way she wants it. I don’t understand y she treats me so bad...it’s like she doesn’t understand mental health or emotions.
My grandmother is also a meanie who hates affection. I put my arms around her waist and squeeze her tight every day anyway😂
I asked my mom one day why she was so mean to me. She looked at me and said “because you’re mean to me” I didn’t want to talk about it any further because it caught me off guard. Maybe one day I’ll ask her. She also told me that her mother was mean to her. According to my mom she was worse.
Honestly that sounds like an excuse. Every time a parent is horrible to their child and blame the child for it, it's just an excuse because even if they child was perfect they would still find something to be upset about.
@@agathachris9722 YES! my mother definitley caters to my brother and my father way more than me. She says its because she wants me to be independent, and I understand that. But by treating the two men in the house like kings and treating me more like a servant made me feel unloved and lesser than .
@@RyanJCreations sounds like ur typical black mother/mammy 🤣 yall complain about men 24/7 but treat them way better especially ur sons, female logic 🤣🤣
If you think about it, that’s the answer of a kid. Probably her inner child is the one mothering you. A hurt little girl trying to be a mum.
Wow girl I got the same thing
Don't even bother asking again cause you'll get the Same ans
They Never see or know or would own up to what they did wrong
They'll put the blame on Everything else but themselves & especially on the children who they did it too
Bullying comes in all shapes. I for one used to bully my son until God delivered me. It was done to me so I did it to my son. I knew it was wrong so I kept praying about it. Now, I’m gentle, loving, patient, and most of all I have self-control. Those are some of the fruits of the Spirit. It was hard to change but I kept praying.
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There is no God, you made that change yourself
What Jeannie said is so true. My Cuban side if the family always use to point out if someone was either eating too much or too little or if someone gained weight or lost weight. It’s one of those things you just can’t explain but it’s just a cultural latin/caribbean thing and most of the time it’s s not even meant as something mean or hurtful..but yet it is..God knows I still have my fair share of insecurities from things certain family member told me growing up and I’m grown grown
You have to put into your kids 10 times more than you take out. Meaning, for every time you want to correct something “negative” about them, you need to give them 10 positive things. Parents are often so focused on correction that they never praise. Then they wonder why their kid has low self esteem. Or even worse, blame them for it. But the problem is that they never poured into their children-only took out.
Jeanie looks really good😍😍
i was about to say the same thing!!! She stays looking good.
Another proof that grateful adults are in fact former grateful children. Same thing with toxicity and respect
Did they cut off Jeannie, while she was talking?
i became a little overweight around 6th grade and my parents literally told me to stop eating bc i won’t find a husband and no one would love me if i was fat. And when i would tell them that i didn’t eat for 2 days they’ll say, “Good, maybe then you’ll lose weight”. Then later i had a eating disorder soo
God forbid, that so wrong. A number on a scale isn't what determines if somebody is worthy of being loved, you are worthy. Your literally 1 in 7 billion! Don't allow ignorant comments like that to take root in your mind
I bet ur not white.
Straight of out high school I became a psych major at a community college. I thought majoring in a particular field would be informative but school does not teach you about life. In hindsight a lot of things I did and said was just from a lack of self awareness and love. Making peace with the younger self and deadening the self destructive thinking and conversations I was having on the internal was essential to my spiritual journey
Great points from all the ladies.
For me it was my Auntie saying about how chubby I looked as a babe but I didn't let it get me down for long . I'm beautifully and wonderfully made in Christ Jesus , and I know I'm very pleasing to look at. Amen
everytime i used to go to my grandma's house, her and my aunt used to ask me and my sister how much we weighed
Jesus is not God. Jesus did not want to be worshipped.
*AMEN* 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
A lot of my family members were my bullies. Being Hispanic specifically Dominican I feel like we’re jokesters but a lot of the times it’s at the expense of someone else. I was a picky eater as a kid and never had much of an appetite so it was always like eat more, your too skinny gotta put some meat on your bones, skip a meal and you’ll disappear (I could go on) and everyone else laughed but it wasn’t funny to me. That lead to me having anxiety and falling into a depression in my teenage years. Now at 21 I still have body image issues.
Yup! And the one thing I'm glad Jeannie pointed out is that this happens in a lot of non-white families. Black parents def need to hear this and get out of their ways so their kids grow up with less issues. For example, we get that spanking was a punishment, but at the end of the day it was jus a convenient option because they lacked the patience to find a better, effective one.
This happens in all race families. No need to segregate and divide!
@@veronicaivanova never discredited any other race's experience. Don't discredit what I said by pulling an "all lives matter" move. My comment is focused on non-white families. Stop trying to find fault in it and leave it alone.
@@milesjohnson7423, I am not pulling anything, you thought it's appropriate to bring race into a non-racial issue. Maybe you should consider your prejudices.
@@veronicaivanova or maybe you should consider that because I am a member of a non-white race, that my experience and experiences of other young ppl in my race is relatable and very common and that we're glad it's being spoken about. No prejudice here, jus shedding light on my race specifically without discrediting other races like you THINK i'm doing
@@veronicaivanova
You probably think you’re helping by being “we are the world” but race and culture has an impact on everything, including parenting; “parenting” methods and beliefs passed down through generations that are tied to a specific shared ancestry and history. Trying to gloss over that fact ignores nuance and does more harm than good.
Adrienne, Brilliant point about bullying in the home.💜
Yep, which is why I struggle with weight problems. Someone very close to me told me that a man won't find me worthy to marry until I lose weight. So I started working out but I went so hard, I almost fell into a disorder. But here's the thing. Me learning about what God thinks of me and that He already finds me worthy is making a huge difference in my confidence. Yes, we are supposed to take care of ourselves and keep ourselves in good health and that's what I'm working towards but if that's all you heard through childhood and adulthood when you weren't even "overweight" it hurts and it stays with you. I was skinny being called fat. Now quarantine weight has been in effect and it's even worse now from people I love. I understand now that God finds me worthy as I am. He didn't disqualify me because I gained some pounds. I was already qualified to do His work way before I was in the womb. Ladies and gents, YOU ARE WORTHY!
Amen Sis
Damn, this hit me hard
Loni, ain't nobody in the 'hood or the projects going to any parenting classes. Get Real!
I've felt this way for years. Absolute power corrupts absolutely. These so called "strong" parents are little more than bullies. Assuming they want to raise mentally healthy and well adjusted kids, I believe that parents need to be a lot less authoritarian and a little more loving.
When I was younger I would always think my mom is like a celebrity and I would tell her how beautiful she is and name all celebrities to compare her to, she would just laugh it off. And say oh if my eyes were that big or disagree. It would break my heart I would not see it and want her to agree that she is like them to me.
Aaw, that's sweet!
My first bullying moments were definitely at school...luckily.
Absolutely
This was a huge eye opener for me, I really need to do better. 🤦🏽♀️
Ur a typical bIack baby momma
@@carl7348 Lmao nope, just an Aunty of twin girls, who loves and cares about their development.
I was definitely bullied by family members so that is why I am extra intentional about complimenting and appreciating my daughter.
I totally agree with Loni what she said that parents should not be cussing at their children! As for Jeannie, she shouldn't be cussing at or around her mother on some of her hello hunnay videos that's so disrespectful! People in general shouldn't be cussing at all for that matter. That's abusive speech.
But you have to understand Jeannie does it because of what she knows... the only time I’ve seen her curse around her is like as an adult and they are having a conversation like friends and her mom doesn’t care or in the midst of an argument and even then I feel like that’s because of the toxic pattern she saw her mother go thru when it came to an unhealthy parent child dynamic as well as abuse
Her mother let her get abused when she was a child by a man she allowed to live with her and Jeannie. Her mom needs to be in jaiI.
Her mom is way more abusive and says worse things to her
I am I guilty of this and I try to stop myself but it is so hard for me... I know it’s wrong and I really do try... but I don’t know how to have more patience and not get annoyed by my son, when he won’t do what I ask... I get so short with my patience with him... it’s not that easy... I could easily let him do whatever he wants and not let it affect me but I don’t spank him... but I do raise my voice to make sure he understands I mean business... it’s hard... I wish I could sit there all day with so much patience ask he calms down and does as I asked... it’s not easy... I always have to rush us to daycare and work and rush us back home because I’m starving and need to cook dinner... get him ready for bed and prep his things for the next day... my husband helps as much as he can... but again it’s not easy. I honestly don’t know how people do it without ruining their kids in one way or another...
I can attest to what Garcelle is saying as a fellow Haitian
Facts smh I can relate too fellow haitian girl 🇭🇹
And yall complain about whites when they treat their kids better at least
Yes Loni about doing research to be a better parent I started before my baby was born cause 3years ago cause I wanted to be sure that I was not going to do some same mistakes....and yes to all you ladies! You all are such great exemples of People!!! Thank youuuu
The older siblings
My parents do this and it really does hurt if I try to talk to them about it they would say “we’re just trying to teach you” just like when I was younger I was very skinny my whole family made fun of me calling me a stick or a straw. They stopped once my mom found a note that I wrote on my phone about how I hated it and wanted to kill myself because of it. But now I started to gain weight they are doing it again…
Yesssssss !! Haitian perspective 🇭🇹🇭🇹🇭🇹
I was twelve when someone noticed I had stretch marks on my hips... to this date my husband constantly reassures me that I look beautiful with them. Most days I'm good but it still flares up. My insecurities are endless.
It may be a very long time before I want kids of my own
Kids nowadays r so sensitive
More like a lot of u mothers were so abusive
My mom always compares me to my brother. I love him. But it's annoying 🙄
Such a powerful topic
My mom used to complain about my hair "not being done" when I would wear my natural texture
Its normal for me and other people to look at my 5mo daughter and comment “she’s getting big” or “she’s losing her hair” or “she has a pimple” or “do you think she’ll get darker” and I think we as parents especially of daughters need to learn when to stop making comments out loud on their physical appearances. I know parents will always see their children as their growing and evolving babies so I think sometimes our parents and family forget when we are grown and when those comments can start to impact us.
Love the flower boxes.
You have twelve earth hours to begin making a world wide public announcement for me continuously! Until I set my foot upon a busy intersection!
This is more than just only cool! Me! We! Us going around like a merry go round! Up and down like a coaster 🎢
I think also too that it's a big thing being raised in the south by generations before you who too were raised in the south.
Yep!!
So true!!!
I believe we are creating a very insecure society. Discipline is needed in any family. What may work in your family may not work in another. The names called by my parents or relatives did not have an negative impact because everybody was cursed out at some point if they did something wrong. In fact we laugh and talk about it today.
Yeah like you said not everyone is like your family. Some kids get depressed and suicidal because their parents are being bullies. That's what the conversation was about.
You need to learn to think outside of yourself.
Loool you literally said what works for some may not work for others then proceeded to tell us how not accepting the way you guy's abused each other will produce an insecure society???! No thanks
True.... words has power. But I do believe in a ass whooping DEPENDS ON SEVERITY OF what they did
I told Drake! Me and him and Jay alln three were the boldeest let alone the coldest!
Loni is beautiful♥️
Emphasis on the growing Haitian part 🤦🏾♀️
💯
And call me DRIZZLE! It fits!n
Why was Jeannie cut off I didn't like that.
Mom did it to my brother really bad
Yeah, my parents came from a time where you just spank, beat & hit. There was no talking about it. If you even mentioned how wrong they were about their actions you would get hit for that too...🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Pardon King! Namean?
How come Jeannie doesn’t speak on her new step mother role?
If her husband barely bothers to see his kids then how would she ?
I started to tell Lilly! Lilly Singh! I was only trying to see how deep you're love is! Wiz Kid! We're meant!
Chastise your children or reap the worldwind.
I totally agree. I hate when parents call them little shits and such. I had a friend (White) that would call her sons that. My parents didn't know it, but they caused my sister and I to take diet pills at a really young age my sister was 16 and I was 13.
Ur the same female who dated a guy right out of jail. Lmao. Females never take responsibility for their actions and always blame others.
Caribbean parents especially
Well I didn't tell them! But I just only now told both of the! The men!
That was me
Good point garcelle
Omg ...thats exactly these damn kids committing suicide cause everybody treating them with kiddie gloves.
Jeannie it’s not just “non white” background for everything. Us Albanians and Italians,Greeks, polish etc deal with the same thing from our parents about our appearance. There’s a difference between plain white American and cultured white Americans.
It happens in “plain white American” families too. People are people. What do they all have in common? These family members are individuals projecting their insecurities onto their children.
@@brielle5651 deff! I just don’t like how Jeannie thinks it’s only non white people who do these things
@@jotamj6752 yessss she seems to say it often lately.
@@jotamj6752 ur not white
@@jotamj6752 Albanians, Italians and Greeks aren’t white that’s why u behave like non whites. Whites = Swedish, English, Dutch, Norwegian, German etc
I wanted to rename Rico Nasty Doja Cat and Mahalia all three Roja! I'm an Otherworldly King besides just an Universal Soldier!
I can't wait to witness for myself my all brand new brilliant white teeth! I'll send down fire! Once the twelve hours has started and I see no announcements!
Personally I see absolutely nothing wrong with a parent bullying their child because it teaches them exactly how the world will treat them later on in life.
And this is why we shouldn't have kids period so they won't have to come into this world and deal with any that crap.
Hey I'm a big fan
This is absolutely in “white” cultures too.
Not as much. Whites are better parents.
It happens but when you compare than the difference it's more apparent in minorities families
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I'm the hottest guy in throughout all galaxies and universes! One could readily tell by the way I utter my Otherworldly verses!
First, you wanna cancel any and nearly every bully, no questions. But now you want to understand their backstory? Which narrative are you pushing here?
Those two things aren’t mutually exclusive. I don’t know what’s meant by canceling but bullies should absolutely face consequences for their actions. As far as understanding them, if you want to prevent something from happening, it’s always helpful to understand the motive behind the action.
@@kemery22222 but why bother digging in for some understanding if you're all set cancelling them anyway. Understanding allows sympathy to creep in. None of you are sympathetic to any kind of tragic backstory. A bully is a bully, right? Point. Blank. Period.
@@dodgingdurangos924
Can you read? If you want to PREVENT occurrence and reoccurrence of behavior, you have to understand why it happens. Then, you can develop protective factors against it. That’s why.
And yes, bullies deserve consequences for their actions and the people they have victimized. Point. Blank. Period.
@@dodgingdurangos924 u can’t cancel ur own parents brah 🤣🤣🤣 or ppl have more sympathy for their parents as they birthed u unlike some strange celebrity that ur low-key jealous of coz they’re rich and ur broke lol
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what is hasian?
it‘s Haitian. people from Haiti
We're just raising a generation of wussies
Sounds like White people are better parents as they don’t cuss at their kids or judge them as much
When it starts at home it toughens them up. Society is full of mean individuals.
This is my dads mentality, and it’s the reason why our relationship is nonexistent today. It’s hi and bye for the most part and I avoid him.
This is stupid
@@makalaadams4Can you read. That's why you toughen them up so they will be strong both physically and mentally. This advice will have your kids scared and worried about what the World thinks. Humans like you are getting weaker and weaker.
@@RyanJCreations That's because ya'll didn't have a relationship and there was no balance. Now you're weak mentally and soft.
@@makalaadams4 False. It's gonna make them mentally strong. If anything you being weak with them will make them have self esteem issues.
My mother has been our first bully. Me and my sister. Always projecting her insecurities