S1: I wouldn never make THAT daughter another outfit again. Disrespectful entitled brat is wat she is, but she will pay later wit her own daughter if this is how she raises her
My mom's friend made me a blanket. She lived on base with her husband in Japan. She made sure the blanket was done and sent to the USA, so I can have it when I came back from the hospital. I am in my 30s and I still have that blanket. NTA
I've made blankets, one was for a friend who was reluctantly retiring to look after her grandchild- so I made a baby blanket gave her a new job card. Up until the last time I saw her, grandchild was a teenager, the blanket was still mentioned- it was wrapped up safe for the next generation. Same as I still had the ones made for my son. One I gave to my neice as my Grandma who made it had passed. Don't think she appreciated it.
I had my daughter in Scotland. The elderly Neighbor of my best friend then crocheted me a little sweater with a hat and little mittens lol ❤ not only did my baby wear them (not home from the hospital. That was something my mom sent) but she wore it! And my granddaughter wore that little crotcheted set THEN her baby dolls wore them! Her 2nd daughter (my 2nd granddaughter) also uses them for her Doll’s ❤ I still smile every time I see that sweater 😊❤ I doubt that sweet lady is alive so I hope She’s smiling in Heaven! All us girls still love her gift! 35 years later ❤
I don't know who made the blanked my mother's first born son, my late older (I call him little brother as I only know him from pictures) brother had for his baptism. But, I still have it, my. Mother gave it to me as she knows I will treasure it.
Story 1: NTA, your daughter asked you to make the cloth for that particular event, and you spent months making it for her to just throw it away (metaphorically).
The reason it's NTA for me is that this was a piece requested by the daughter. I'm knitting my 2nd a dinosaur leggings and cardi right now, baby is due in 2 weeks so don't need a knitted outfit till 3-6months. If it's knitted in size newborn it's only going to fit for a minute! The going home outfit is kinda a big deal, I spent £35 on a my firsts outfit (way more than I spent on any subsequent items of clothing till he was a toddler!)
@@julierichardson800 So right. The newborn sizing is an important point in the dialogue. It isn't gonna fit for long. Oh, and I must add, the son is a pot stirrer. He just HAD to go to the other siblings and share the private conversation he had with their mother. He's a pot stirrer.
take the gift back back or better yet gift the gift to a poor mother and dad who needed it more for their child. and tell your son and daughter in law to never ask for a gift again since they have her stupid in law to waste money on name brand bs. if she ever ask again for a homemade gift for an event, I would laugh in both of your faces.
The wife waking up the husband in the middle of the night to go drive somewhere is bull crap. He’s working and she isn’t - it’s inconsiderate to not let him have some rest. She can vent another time.
No, because the man needs to be a Saint he not allowed to have a feel yet be able to express his feelings, but not to no one because that toxic mustiney, but it isn't because that wrong. if you listen long enough, that what it sounds like.
Totally agree. Suffering isn't comparable. She's potentially putting his job at risk and potential life if he drives or works tired. Sounded like he wanted to vent too.
I think he is TH. He asked his wife that she should not complain to hin anymore and that she should not talk to him when he go's to sleep (he was rightto ask that). She takes a step back and honors his wishes and now he complains that she is distended because of his wish. Because right now complaining is the only think she can do (if the pregnancy is bad)
take the gift back and give it to some parent who was taking a child home and tell you son to ship it where the sun does not shine. tell him also he can go to some bs label store from now on and do not ask for anything from you.
Story 2: While the husband may be TA in some regards, is there a reason why the wife can't have these conversations/drives after dinner/before bed? Why do they need to occur in the middle of the night? She may be growing a kid, but if I had to go to work for months on end with limited sleep I'd probably be crabby AF too...
I have compassion for the op, just because everyone piled on him as if he doesn't matter at all. His wife needs to have these conversations during the day. Just because she's pregnant like billions of other women have been at one point doesn't give her the right to deprive her husband of sleep, he's probably going to lose sleep along with after the birth. What's with all the women these days that want the world to grovel at their feet and treat them like princesses because they are pregnant. Redditors very rarely take the fathers side but he's working hard and trying to pay bills but oh never mind him, he's just a sperm donor.SMH!
Being pregnant isn’t an excuse for manners and common courtesy to be thrown out the window. OP has been supportive and it sounds like he wasn’t shown appreciation.
i'm so glad reddit came through for the baby clothes story, because i was so sure they would have absolutely blasted her! if that happened to me, i would be upset too, because it's not even acknowledging the hard work and dedication. i would feel extremely guilty if i were the daughter. you could argue the gucci clothes could have been worn at any time, whereas the handmade clothes were specifically for this occasion/tradition 🤷♀
I felt the same way.. PLUS she held her tongue and vented after being pushed for a reason she seemed down. Its not like she was out and about telling everyone.
@@gena_unknown Yup! He son is a pot stirrer. Just had to go tell all his siblings (who of course probably spread it even further). That son was probably the family tattle tale when they were all growing up.
Story 2: Looool. Imagine waking someone up for a drive WHEN YOU KNOW HE HAS WORK THE NEXT DAY. Smh. Y'all let pregnant women get away with murder. Awesome fulfilling experience for who?!!!!
What also kills me is after they have the child you bring it up the crazy stuff they pretend they don't remember doing it and say something like said it was probably the hormones it makes you forget stuff
Or the whole "You can complain to everyone else but not to your wife" line in one of the comments? Come on. It almost sounds like the guy the other day with the stay at home wife who wanted him to wake up several times during the night for feedings when he worked a dangerous job while the mother-in-law was there doing nothing.
@@akl2k7 No it’s just Reddit’s case of, Women can’t vent and complain to their husbands but when a man vents and complain he’s The insensitive one in the wrong.
Story 2: Why is he not allowed to be annoyed when his pregnant wife is being annoying. Pregnancy is not an excuse. The wife is not in a relationship with herself. As long as he doesn’t insult his wife, he should be able to her she’s doing to much.
Because the replies we see here are cherry picked to be most likely to provoke someone like you or me to post a comment on the video. Go to the ACTUAL thread and you'll find plenty of folks pointing out that what Wifey is doing is asinine.
Plus that dumb comment saying "You can complain to everyone else but not to your wife"? Um, what? Why can't he tell his wife if something is wrong? That doesn't make any sense.
Even he OP had set ..my wife pisses in my face in my sleep and tried to kill me some ppl would still say "well, she is pregnant , don't complain" Some ppl are crazy Btw those same ppl will berate OP for 'not comunicating' The hypocracy!
He should be alarmed. She doesn't have positive feelings right now. So she is doing as he asked and not sharing how she feels anymore. What he did was let her know he isn't a safe place for whatever she's feeling and it is okay if he can't be if she is really going through it and he admits her pregnancy has been difficult, then it is expected she isn't a ball of sunshine. The fact that she is clammed up now completely should send off an alarm to him. She is not okay.
The cradle story... OP is NTA something similar happened to me. We had an specific emroided baby swaddle our mother used on us when we were infants. (a month each, so pristine conditions) It was meant for each of us two to be used later for our kids. My sister who is 4 years older, than me used is as first and last. After my niece grew out of it she GIFTED it to a stranger to which she sold small baby clothes. "I packed it into the package and sent it of" were the words which made my heart sink.
Story 1: NTA. She asked op to make that for her baby, which was something special. and was really tacky about it. For Gucci baby clothes? Yeah. Gaudy AF
Nah, she didn’t put the outfit on because she wanted to put on the brand name one. If I were that grandma I would never ever make anything for anyone again.
S2 NTA and I'd love to know if the commentors telling OP to "suck it up" cause "she's having your baby ffs" would feel if the wife or rather his widdow was the one writing the update cause OP wrapped his car around a tree and died at the wheel as "I can't sleep a night, because she wants to have these talks or go on a drive because she's stressed" Wife needs therapy (if its this bad) or someone other than OP to vent to cause I'm sorry but dude is working longer hours whilst trying to take care of her and if you're: - Waking up in the morning to complaining - Coming home from work to complaining - Being woken up in the middle of the night to "talk or take a drive" to hear more complaining. That sounds like a nightmare and OP is saying "this is going to break me" but who cares about men mental health right. OP is NOT a therapist and I can see him (like I would) reaching a point where he says "I'm done". He divorces her and is there for his child but HELL NO to her complaining.
Baby clothes bait-and-switch: OP's daughter ASKED her mom to HAND MAKE a SPECIFIC outfit for a SPECIFIC day and event. OP spent MONTHS making the outfit and daughter just changed her mind at the last minute. Major dick move.
1. What commentator would actually believe that the grandmother's feelings don't count after all those months of work? Everyone has the right to their feelings. And criticising her for them is 100% inhumane.
1st story: those who say OP is the AH are people who never made a piece of clothing themselves. They don’t understand how much work it is to make one. OP‘s daughter asked for the outfit and was blinded by brand names afterwards.
Agree I knitted a hat once and it took weeks and it was about the simplest thing you can knit , I can’t imagine long and hard it is to make clothing like Op made
Yeah. My wife made a blanket for DiL's baby shower and she worked on that thing right through the early hours of the morning to make sure it was completed in time. Let me tell you, it was and is greatly appreciate.
Agreed. The daughter should have communicated to the mom what the situation was. If you are even halfway familiar with how long it takes to make something like that then you would understand how much a slap in the face this was.
@@KCohere33 The son she shared her disappointment with is a pot stirrer. There was no reason for him to share it with anyone else. He is a pot stirrer. He was probably the family tattletale when he was a kid.
The Knitted Baby Outfit- OP, tell your daughter you never meant for your own hurt feelings to trouble her. You now understand that your daughter only asked for the outfit from a sense of obligation: 'mom will be unhappy if I don't ask for those knitted clothes.' She has the right to her choices. You want the outfit back, and you'll give it to a different baby, since your daughter prefers other types of clothing. I didn't say that, Mom! I don't care what you thought. I want the clothing back, because that event has passed and the clothing has no meaning, for you. I just might sell this outfit, and spend the money on something nice for myself.
Ask for the clothes back IF the daughter hasn’t sold them already. I’m sure in a place where this is such a big even, handmade clothes would be something some people are willing to pay good money for.
It was after the baby for me... years after! She decided to be a stay at home Mom. I was already working 10 hour days, Monday through Saturday but that wasn't enough income. I took on side jobs, wasn't consistent enough. Work had plenty to do (construction) so I ended up with 6 days a week 14 hours a day. It was electric work and I often worked the last few hours by Coleman lantern but the money made up for her not working and I was taking care of the kids Sundays. That also turned into "I'm not doing enough" and other than "we already did it this month" I hated hearing "your kids are hungry and they need a bath" the minute I walked in the door... the most. I'd get dinner started while the bath was filling, get both clean, toweled dry and back to finish dinner. Eat and usually by 10pm I could have a shower and then try to sleep until 4am when it starts over again.
Why did you let it go for so long? I get everyone has tough times but if you were working 80+ hour weeks when you didn't want to it's gone too far. Did you end up making changes?
@@Sandyyyyyyyyyy I didn't want to lose my family and courts dont ever help the father. I even stayed after she got wasted and confessed to an affair (she thought I was him and just kept talking, was easy to figure out). Questioned her once she was sober and she left to her gfs house who then called me and said I was the asshole for not waking her and stopping her drunken actions, then cussed me for not allowing her to have her fantasy man. WTH? As I feared once she packed up and left I rarely got visitation. Judge ordered her and she told him NO! When he's coming we leave! Judge still would not set actual days, just the bullshit "reasonable visitation" so when I parked on the street she had the police remove me for just parking
Story 2 all the YTA are shocking. Making someone sleep deprived bcus you’re bored n want to talk at the moment is crazy. The wife needs to hold these conversations earlier in the night not when her husband is trying to sleep so he can function at work tmrw.
I mean, these are breeder kink incels living in their parents’s basements, never knowing the intimate touch of another person. Can you blame them for not know what pregnancy and living with a pregnant person is REALLY like?
@Symphonia30 I can see that. "AITA for telling my pregnant wife she has to leave after she beat me up?" "YTA! You should be more considerate! She's pregnant! I hope she divorces you and takes all your money with child support! Biggest AH ever!" Disturbingly probably not far off.
The wife won't speak to him at all unless she can complain and wake him up in the middle of the night for rides when he needs to work the next day. She can dump all of her stress and complaints on him, but he has to bottle his up?? Yeah, OP is suuuuuuch a "monster." Reddit, climb out of the basement and touch grass... Bunch of hypocrites.
@@justinenicole3926 If all she has are negative feelings then she's still the AH. She's using pregnancy as a way to drain OP's emotional and physical energy, and there's no indication that the behavior will end.
@@justinenicole3926But she still isn't communicating. People can still talk about their day, what they saw, what they ate. She just wants to complain, not even look for reasonable solutions to her pain. Doesn't matter what kind of job someone has, working more hours and coming home to a manifesto of complaints isn't something anyone wants
On story ... 2? : Let's not pretend that both parents can be extremely stressed out during a pregnancy. Saying that dad doesn't get to vent/ask for a break from constant complaints from wifey because she's pregnant it ridiculous. She still has agency and control over her words and actions and how they affect her spouse. He's working constantly to get ready for the baby to make sure they are set. It's not enjoyable to them be met daily with unending complaints the moment he walks in the door. Being pregnant does not give you a free pass to be dismissive. Op didn't say she could never to complain, but just that she try to adjust her attitude some as not to add even more stress onto her partner, who clearly nearing the end of his rope of sanity. Each should be able and allowed to share their frustrations with each other without them getting the silent treatment.
NONONONONONO... the last comment about Wife's Whining with a difficult pregnancy. Aboslutely NOT! She does not get to dump her garbage on him, PERIOD. Your partner is NOT A DUMPING GROUND, HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR THEIR OWN PERSONHOOD. OP, develop a NEW PLAN with your wife. You come home, and listen to her for one hour, without saying a word. THEN SHE MUST LISTEN TO YOU FOR ONE HOUR, WITHOUT SAYING A WORD. Maybe if the two of you are SHARING YOUR STRUGGLES TOGETHER, YOU CAN LEARN BETTER COMMUNICATION SKILLS. You each are going to have a struggle that the other could never imagine, but neither of you will know what the problems are IF YOU NEVER SPEAK TOGETHER. I understand your wife's sense of isolation and not getting to leave her home. I have a blood disorder that compromises my immune system. I've been in isolation for years. Both of you need to talk to her ObGyn about her struggles, and find other ways to help her cope.
My primary thought is that if she wants to vent, maybe she should do it at someone she didn't just wake up. Like... I get it. She IS having a rough time. But 3 am to the person making sure she and bundle of joy in the making have a roof over their heads and food is a DAMN good way to get snapped at.
What is wrong with the second story comments? NTA. That awful mentality that only the mother matters in a pregnancy is awful and creates distance in the couple; haven't you heard about carer fatigue?. He is working overtime to cover costs, and just wishes to able to rest sometimes when he comes back home.
Do you honestly not know how these channels work? They pick a story that'll attract attention. Then they'll pick some of the most buckwild, ass backwards comments from the story to inflame sensibilities so that we won't be able to resist making comments of our own, driving up engagement and feeding the beast that is the RUclips algorithm. No one is immune. My personal bugbear is folks on RUclips acting as though Reddit is a hivemind that behaves in a consistent manner as though it's all one person, instead of a massive group of people with wildly different opinions.
The Wooden Baby Cradle- Hang on! The Neighbor made the cradle FOR OP! Mom just kept using it. OP, if you want the cradle you should take it with you now. Since it's in storage, your parents aren't using it. With your demands, the sister will now destroy it, before it gets back to you. Tell your sister, she can either surrender the bedroom suite, buy you a new one, then she can use the cradle until you want it.
I knew that OP in story 1 would be judged YTA as soon as it was revealed his wife was pregnant. Regardless of circumstances, pregnant women in Reddit are never TA.
Our son's first cradle was used by him, his sister, my friend's two kids and my brother-in-law's kid when he was little. It is now in the shed where I have to give it some tender loving care to get it ready for the next generation. I think OP needs to make sure that the sister and her mother are on board with it being used for ALL babies in the family where possible.
Story 1: when you ask someone to make clothes at your own expense and a lot of time for a specific moment just for it not to be used. You didn't spoil anything when you said absolutely nothing at the time. If she doesn't want to have her child wear it then why ask for it. It's very entitled and disrespectful to expect someone to make an outfit for a specific event and then just do nothing with it
What was she supposed to say? “This night is about sister let’s keep it about her.” Even if she tried that they sound like they would just brush her off and continue their disrespect. And OP is only two years younger and they are acting like she’s an old maid?
That's the stupid part about the sister even if she did everything first the family wouldn't care she's just another kid the mom had in the eyes of the family. She's making herself miserable trying to get attention she wouldn't have ever gotten.
@@hothead2463 Well, if the family is so bigoted that their mother has disowned OP, Sissy's likely already been elevated to Golden Child despite having her engagement party ruined. Depending on how awful she wants to be towards OP, she can spin this for ALL the sympathy and attention. Especially if she starts popping out babies right away.
Story 1: Daughter wouldn’t be TA if she’d just TOLD her mum “hey I’m gonna put the baby in this other outfit hope that’s ok.” Was mean to just spring it on her.
7:00 sometimes people don’t realize they actually don’t want kids until it’s too late. Not excusing him she’s got the brunt of the work and clearly will continue to even after she gives birth. But not sure either of these people thought about the reality of child rearing and pregnancy. Think long and hard about whether you TRULY want children before it’s too late. Before you’re pregnant and hate it, hate your pregnant wife because pregnancy sucks and just wait until that child is actually here. You think it’s bad now? You’ll be the same parents complaining that no one wants to provide you child care as though it’s a chore.
So glad I always knew I didn’t want kids. Never had to be pregnant. Never had to raise a child. Never had to babysit. I’m 44 and don’t have to, never had to and never will have to deal with this.
Story2: nta. The Misandric side of Reddit rears its head again. There is a thing called caretaker burnout. The girl won't let the dude sleep. That's all he's asking. It's just sleep. There's no need to go on a drive every night, or have a deep discussion every night. Yes, she's growing a whole person inside of her. That doesn't mean she has the right to make everybody Bend to her will. I love how in all these stories The Man instantly goes to shit status as soon as the woman is pregnant.
And if she wants to go for a drive so badly why not drive herself? If anyone comments how it may not be safe or easy for her since she’s pregnant, remember she’s expecting a sleep deprived man to be fully functional to drive her.
Grandma, you are NOT the idiot! Please do not listen to the idiot comments saying otherwise ❤ your daughter picked her rich in law’s outfit because they’re rich! She then used you for free help! I’m sorry!
@@DigitalfairyI agree. It sounds like she’s doing this for attention and parental approval. And why didn’t she try to divert their conversations? Was she worried she would be a bad daughter for speaking out against her elders?
At this point the sister just sounds like an accident child. Op can't be blamed for getting the attention she doesn't want. The sister is going to die knowing she will never get the families attention.
But...but....BAYBEEES! How dare he want to not be exhausted by being forced to suffer sleep deprivation because wifey wants... *check notes*... to go for a drive! Yup. Reddit + pregnancy = his fault no matter what.
For incel Redditors living in their parents’ basement, screaming about their breeding kinks on 4Chan yet having never known the touch of a woman (or man, I don’t judge people on their sexuality lol)
@@Chuckf66I actually tried to google this story to see if op replied to any comments. I couldn't find it but I saw 2 other posts where the op was NTA and preggo was. I don't know reddit judgment on this story but I'd say he is TA. And here's why, op says the pregnancy is complicated and his wife isn't working. He then goes on to say he's a positive person and hates when people harsh his vibes. How much you want to bet his wife is on bedrest? And that her "complaining" is talking about whatever issues she's got going on with those complications. Based on his sunny personality I wouldn't call him the most reliable narrator. I also understood he wasn't sleeping, not because his wife was waking him up in the middle of the night, but that she wasn't letting him sleep when he wanted to. It sounds nitpicky but I'm married to someone who can consistently sleep 14 hours a night if he wanted to. He's definitely complained before when I unknowingly didn't let him go to sleep at 7pm because he planned a long sleep. If this is what op's wife is doing then yeah, no sympathy from me. Still, at the end of the day op told his wife to stop complaining. If she didn't feel as though she was complaining then it makes sense that she'd stop trying to connect with him. After all, her connecting=complaining to op. So him complaining about it all does make him TA
Story 1: Also, babys doesn't grow like super fast? I mean, they don't stay small much time. When they realize maybe the clothes don't even fit her anymore. I know nothing about babys, if I'm wrong I only need one comment to correct me😂
@Jennsy K and there are people who work while dying of cancer. Not every pregnancy is the same, not everyone can handle pain and constant sickness the same
Sister engagement story: You are not the idiot in the sense that you didn't make the party about you, your relatives did, your grandma was specially out of line for what she said. But the coming out didn't make anything better either, and you just give your sister an actual reason to be angry at you, even tough she was already angry and you were in a no-win situation.
I sounds more like OP was drunk and at her limits. I’ve seen drunk people do the stupidest crap. Stuff cheese puffs up the noses of sleeping people. Run full speed at a port-i-potty that’s been used all day while someone is inside. Argue with my mom about whether or not they’re “sober enough” to drive when they can’t even walk in a straight line. Ask “who’s the hot chick bouncing on the trampoline” while watching my sister’s friend (a middle schooler at the time) after having been drinking since morning (this was my stepdad doing this at around noon, he on,y got drunker as they dad went on until he did the port-i-potty thing).
@@alexismyers6053being drunk doesn’t really excuse it. It’s just as trashy and attention seeking as proposing at someone else’s event. She was angry her sister was blaming her for their awful relatives actions and she was feeling vengeful.
My mom knits beautiful clothes, blankets, sweaters ect! I have even put things away that my son wore as an infant for his future children! The labor & love that goes into a homemade article of clothing is worth more than any designer over priced store bought article! It's been many many years since my mom made something for her grandson however her friends are always asking her to make something for their grandchild or great grandchild & the mom's are always excited for the homemade gifts!!
my mother loved to knit and sew. and she was always doing that. I learn later when she died that some of the ladies who worked with her got baby sweaters and blankets which they needed do badly because she gave these gifts to them and they always remember that.
You're lucky. My mom never finished my baby blankets. In over 10 years she got 1 completed. Granted I don't have kids yet, but she's dead now. I'll have to ask someone else to do them, since I purchased all the yarn.
Story 1- this is the problem with people today. Priorities are completely screwed up. Would rather wear a name brand which means absolutely NOTHING in life while her mother who should mean so much to her gets trampled on. To the first commenter, you’re part of the problem. Daughter was cruel and would rather have strangers look at the child and be impressed than care for her mothers feelings. Daughter is a pos
Story 2 - And THIS is why we have such entitled mothers out there!!! I am so sick and tired of the children of Reddit. Do you know how many women have been pregnant through the ages? How many women have had to go through inexplainable hardships while pregnant? Through wars and famine and everything else but oh no! We have a man who is being woken up in the middle of the night to drive his pregnant wife somewhere and he better do this because she's the queen who's carrying the Sacred Holy Child and God forbid he needs sleep for his job (the one he's using to help support them). Please! Stop treating pregnant women like they're fragile human beings. Obviously the people commenting YTA on this are the children of Reddit who have never even been pregnant or lived with a pregnant woman or watched the birth of a baby. Of course, the other people commenting YTA are women who feel the need to keep pushing the whole 'pregnant women are the most delicate creature out there and must be treated with the utmost care!' Yuck. As someone who has been pregnant 6 times, get over it. If anyone treated me like this, I would have been offended and angry for treating me like some princess. We are not feeble or weak or frail porcelain dolls when a human is gestating within us. In fact, we're far more fierce and a person not to be toyed with. We're actually in more of a position to not be a people pleaser. We are more likely to handle things we had been procrastinating about (don't even get me started on nesting). Stop patronizing pregnant women Reddit FFS!!!
absolutely 100% correct and bet my ass if he is killed on his way/home from work due to tiredness this woman would still blame him for making her a single mother...not the fact she woke him up at some godly time to drive her around...dear god somebody make it make sense. He is trying and by the sounds of this she sounds like one of those I am the only pregnant woman on earth types,where once the baby is born the father can't hold or touch the baby cause she did all the work.and then she will force him to work longer hours cause she won't work again..cause she's a MOTHER now types.
The cradle was made for the first kid. It was always referred to as OP's. The sister is known for stealing items. I don't blame OP for feeling the way they do.
Last story NTA. 18yr is still a kid he is just starting to think about his future. That money is for one of the most important things that kids can get and that's an education. That's one of the important things that he needs to help shape his future
Story 1: NTA. That first comment is from a literal robot. OP was hurt that she was asked to make this outfit specifically for taking baby home, put MONTHS of effort into creating the outfit, and then the more expensive, brand name outfit bought by in laws was used. That's so hurtful.
Crib story: the crib was made for OP which her parents used for her siblings. It’s even referred to as OPs crib. It’s not for her sister to call dibs just because she got knocked up first. OP should liberate the crib asap.
Look i see that and understand, but as the youngest child of a youngest child of a youngest child nothing is ever made for the youngest. Most of the time the youngest just gets hand me downs or just use the older siblings stuff and never get anything special of their own. It's not fair just because your sibling are born first they get everything and you have no claim on anything.Even if you get something it's never as good or big as the older siblings. Also it was made for the mother to use in expectation of op, but the mother used it for all the children so it belongs to the mother and the mother gets to say who uses it.Just like you said she can't just call dibs just because she used the cradle first.I understand she's nervous the sister might not give it back and that sucks, but like wise what if she never has kids? Really as long as the mother owns it she doesn't have a say where it goes.
@@Primroseholic That was just your family being cheap. I'm the youngest and I had my own stuff and a lot of it was exclusive to me even though I had an older brother.
@@hothead2463 It's more like my family being poor, but my family doesn't do that if all the kids use something as a child we all have a claim. It's really common for people to celebrate and be excited at the oldest birth , but as more kids are had people are less and less interested. Another thing you have a brother are you a girl? If so you wouldn't necessarily have to use hand me downs based on that alone. I have an older sister and brother i didn't get my brothers clothes, but i did get my sisters and even mothers clothes. My sister had all new baby clothes cause everyone was super excited. By the time i came along not so much. Now if your a boy that's great that your family had the money to spend on all new stuff for you but poor families don't have the luxury thus claim to shared children things should be based on who owns the item.
@@Primroseholicbut the sister isn’t the youngest and has already taken things meant for others. OP was reasonable but sister is being greedy. OP has every right to make her stand.
Story 1 - NTA As a crafter, I'm outraged for OP. The daughter ASKED OP to make something for a specific event, something that's become somewhat a tradition in her family. Her own child minimized her effort and is now minimizing her feelings. If I were OP, I'd refuse to make anything else for her, since she's shown her exactly what she thinks of OP's efforts. Story 2 - NTA Unpopular opinion here. Yes, OP's wife is having a hard pregnancy, but OP is doing a lot of extra work to help prepare for the baby. She's been very inconsiderate of his needs. And eff that circle thing. They're supposed to be partners, FFS! Being pregnant doesn't mean that mom gets to be 100% selfish (a momzilla?), or that the father isn't allowed to have feelings or hard times, either. Story 4 - NTA, and given sister's history, she should keep the crib at her place, not their parents'. I went through a similar situation with a cradle that was mine. SIL got pregnant first, and he talked to our parents about "borrowing" it. They checked with me, and I said OK as long as it was made clear that they returned it to me. My cradle is FSM knows where now, because SIL gave it away as soon as they were done with it. Story 5 - NTA Ah, the arrogance of youth, who think they know everything and their parents nothing, despite never living on their own! There's nothing that says that the son can't marry his BF while going to college. But he'll learn as soon as BF ships out after basic and he's home alone with nothing to do.
I got 5 handmade blankets here and I really love them. Now here the kicker the high price blankets fell apart in 4 years these handmade ones after 13 years still look great and going strong.
Story one: the daughter is an idiot and if her in-laws are rich and hear about this they probably would and definitely should at least make a mental note that she's a sell out and a gold digger. Tough way to learn that for everyone involved really. My nephew came home in a crocheted batman outfit. It was absolutely adorable.
Your not the AH for being hurt that you invested TONS of hours knitting an outfit YOU WERE ASKED to make by your daughter. HOWEVER don’t feel bad because now that she is a mother herself she will eventually learn the hard way what a pain kids can be and how her feelings will get hurt- to sum it up - KARAMA WILL GET HER FOR YOU.
I might catch heat for this but, is op not allowed to have feelings? Is he not allowed to be stressed? He said henis doing extra work to save for the baby, snd he can't get sleep cause she wants to vent all night long.
Why fo people Always minimize the stress and fatigue men, who are working their balls off to support his wife financially while pregnant. Men not allowed to ve stress, tired, irritated because they aren't building a kid in them?
When I was pregnant with both our boys...I spent more time worrying over my husband getting enough sleep and down time than I did worrying over myself.....He had a long drive to and from work.....that ALONE was a good cause for him to get a good nights' sleep
Last story: You can't stop your kids from making silly decisions - life will teach them that and they will learn. But the money - until the parents hand it over to them or it was promised to them without conditions, it belongs to the parents to do with as they please. A lot of kids are calling it college money as if to say it is theirs to do as they please. It is not the kids' money - the parents can make that decision, or even rescind it if they wish.
With those college funds, I always think they should be for college or later in life like after they normally would have finished college. Maybe not the whole amount but something
Op and wife need to have therapy or some mediator to talk to each other. Share your fears and plans and find your way to get to a better place together so you can both get thru this big change before it gets harder.
All these people hounding on the stressed soon to be dad. Dude has every right to be annoyed. Oh she's building a baby, so what. That's not an excuse to be a miserable B. If you can't be happy at least a little bit, then abort it because you will be a terrible parent. Dudes working extra hours on no sleep and for those saying it takes energy to make a baby don't take into consideration everyone has a breaking point. If I had to deal with a significant other complaining constantly about what should be a happy time, I'd be annoyed too. Just because you get knocked up doesn't give you special privileges. If you can't handle the issues you will face alone, then maybe having a kid was the wrong choice. Guys suffer just as much if not more stress during the pregnancy because not only do we now a days not know if the kid is really ours, and if we suggest a test, we are called monsters. We have to do all the work of supporting a completely unreasonable person most of the time, and we have to provide while also not being allowed to show we get tired too. I bet you all those smart ass comments were done by moms who probably were able to relax the majority of the time because their guys were too whipped to say anything. Dude is allowed to be stressed and annoyed. Not his fault his wife doesn't understand how to control her emotions and not be miserable all the time. It's not unreasonable to want to communicate but not deal with just constant complaining. Deletus the fetus if it's that much of an annoyance.
Re: college fund. Frankly, given that OP seems to have more than one kid, I would argue that the college fund was for the parents to use anywhere anyone needs help with college, to balance in any way they could manage at any time. If Kid1 isn’t going to go to college, then it’s a moot point.
1st story: NTA! I was in that exact same situation, but I still but the clothes my family made on my newborn instead of the brand clothes. The daughter is just an entitled brat. The clothes that OP made are so much more valuable than the gucci or whatever clothes.
Story two: depending on if they live in a free, modern society or not abortion may not have been available. And since no birthcontrol is 100% it could be a acident they unfortunally cant get out of due to invasive and discrimstory laws. Further more, abdolutely not the asshole. She is a grown person, shr can get her own livense and drive herself get a hold of her self! Time to act like a adult missy.
Story 1. It’s about being a gold digger. NTI. Story 2 I’m sure she won’t feel upset if her husband does in a car accident because he fell asleep because she wanted to talk.
I lovingly crocheted my only grandchild a baby blanket. Several years later they got a dog and I was taking the dog to vet procedure for them. DIL handed me the baby blanket for the dog to use. When I had objected to the dog using the blanket, she said she got to choose what she kept or how she used! Soooo no more lovingly made gifts! I took blanket home as keepsake for my grandchild. I was insulted and can’t imagine how bad this woman felt after spending months making an asked for coming home outfit!
1st story: NTA! That daughter in law was a jerk. SHE was the one caught up on cloths because she decided that a hand made item (made with love) did NOT compare to Gucci.
Always find it interesting how grandparents forget what being a new parent is like. I will lay dollars to donuts that the baby spat up on it as soon as it was put on, and the parents had to change it to go outside. Both my daughters did this.
1st story nta pam asked op to make her daughter baby clothes knowing it was also a tradition yet when it came down to it instead of dressing her daughter in the baby clothes made by her maternal grandmother she instead wears the exspensive gucci branded baby clothes bought by her paternal grandparent, pam was so selfish and incosiderate, op spent 7 month making clothes for her grandaughter 7 MONTH of her free time out of love for said grandchild but all that effort for nothing since pam clearly cared about materalistic than made with love, and that she can wear another time doesn't work since babies grow really fast so by the time pam actually bothered to put them on they might be too small by then, it's also clear that pam's only complaining cause the other realatives are calling her out for her bs and she doesn't like, she also shouldn't be surprised that if she has anymore kids op might refused to make them any clothes since pam's made it clear they aren't good enough.
Story 1 mom ntah. You voiced your feelings respectfully without involving the person who hurt your feelings and disrespected your work because it's not a hill to die on. Not her fault that her kids can't hold things to themselves and not play telephone with each other.
Story 2. NTA. How you stated it could have been waaaaay better. But you can't be helpful if you can't rest because you are being there for her all night after working all day. All these commentors talking about how she should leave you are just haters expecting men to be perfect all the time while women can do no wrong.
S2. NTA. So what she's pregnant. Being pregnant DOES NOT give a free pass for anything. If all she does is complain, it's a problem. OP is allowed to be stressed out, he's prepping for his baby too. How would his wife feel if all he did was complain? They are in this together and should probably seek couples therapy to learn better communication.
Suggesting people get divorced over a stressful time (like pregnancy) is so frigging dumb. I don't know who owns the cradle, but I disagree with the "You aren't using it, and your sister needs it right now" argument. There are lots of things people don't use, but it's still theirs and nobody else is allowed to touch it. Cooper is an idiot. Your college is entirely free through two different methods, and you dropped it. You don't want to go to school, alright fine what's your plan? "Follow my boyfriend around" Kid is not mature enough to be making decisions like this if he'll throw his future away that easily. If his boyfriend breaks up with him he'll be broke, without an education, miles and miles away from family.
S2 - That is a lot of stupid packed into a few comments. So if he loses his job , or cause harms to his mental health then what? She's pregnant yes, and guess what he is the only one in household working at the moment. She's stressed? So is he. So can he wake her up in the middle of the night to cover a shift for him?
Those Gucci baby clothes are cute, but I wouldn't trust where they're made and nothing beats pretty handmade items. The daughter robbed her baby of a hand-crafted one-of-a-kind piece because she's tacky. Poor OP, her heart was trampled on.
The mother tried to hold her tongue because she knew it wasn't the time to explain why she wasn't happy. Then someone started being pushy and wouldn't let it go till she broke and said what was bothering her, then they spread it around like an AH. Then everyone was mad at her for something that was dragged out of her in confidence. Not the AH at all. You are entitled to your feelings for 6 months of hard work going down the drain. They chose something the inlaws picked in 5 minutes over something you spent 6 months on. You are the only one that isn't the AH here. Everyone else sucks. They all owe you an apology.
Story 1: You can tell a lot about the daughter and her values by this story- manipulative, materialistic b*tch that uses people. In this case her mother. She most likely asked mom/OP to make the clothes because she knew her mom would expect it since she did it for her sibling knowing full well she wasn't going to use the clothes- cause in her world "who wears handmade clothes" rather than recognizing the quality of the unique pieces. But she really wanted her mom's help after the birth so that is why she asked. Sounds like she used her manipulation to snag a guy from a rich family and she just manipulated her mom. This daughter will be crawling back home to mom in about 7 to 10 years when she is really seen by her husband and friends for who she is- see first line.
Story 2: I'd say NTA, because OP is working hard to prepare for the baby, and the wife isn't letting him sleep because she wants to talk or go on drives. Seems selfish to me.
11:35 - YTA. You don't even have kids. The cradle belongs to everyone, not just you. If you're that worried, you can have your mom go get it back when the time comes. Your sister needs it now. Get over it.
S1: I wouldn never make THAT daughter another outfit again. Disrespectful entitled brat is wat she is, but she will pay later wit her own daughter if this is how she raises her
My mom's friend made me a blanket. She lived on base with her husband in Japan. She made sure the blanket was done and sent to the USA, so I can have it when I came back from the hospital. I am in my 30s and I still have that blanket. NTA
That's awesome.
I've made blankets, one was for a friend who was reluctantly retiring to look after her grandchild- so I made a baby blanket gave her a new job card. Up until the last time I saw her, grandchild was a teenager, the blanket was still mentioned- it was wrapped up safe for the next generation. Same as I still had the ones made for my son. One I gave to my neice as my Grandma who made it had passed. Don't think she appreciated it.
I had my daughter in Scotland. The elderly Neighbor of my best friend then crocheted me a little sweater with a hat and little mittens lol ❤ not only did my baby wear them (not home from the hospital. That was something my mom sent) but she wore it! And my granddaughter wore that little crotcheted set THEN her baby dolls wore them! Her 2nd daughter (my 2nd granddaughter) also uses them for her Doll’s ❤
I still smile every time I see that sweater 😊❤ I doubt that sweet lady is alive so I hope She’s smiling in Heaven! All us girls still love her gift! 35 years later ❤
I don't know who made the blanked my mother's first born son, my late older (I call him little brother as I only know him from pictures) brother had for his baptism.
But, I still have it, my. Mother gave it to me as she knows I will treasure it.
Story 1: NTA, your daughter asked you to make the cloth for that particular event, and you spent months making it for her to just throw it away (metaphorically).
Agreed....it takes a long time to make, for it just to be 'discarded'
The reason it's NTA for me is that this was a piece requested by the daughter. I'm knitting my 2nd a dinosaur leggings and cardi right now, baby is due in 2 weeks so don't need a knitted outfit till 3-6months. If it's knitted in size newborn it's only going to fit for a minute! The going home outfit is kinda a big deal, I spent £35 on a my firsts outfit (way more than I spent on any subsequent items of clothing till he was a toddler!)
@@julierichardson800 So right. The newborn sizing is an important point in the dialogue. It isn't gonna fit for long. Oh, and I must add, the son is a pot stirrer. He just HAD to go to the other siblings and share the private conversation he had with their mother. He's a pot stirrer.
take the gift back back or better yet gift the gift to a poor mother and dad who needed it more for their child. and tell your son and daughter in law to never ask for a gift again since they have her stupid in law to waste money on name brand bs. if she ever ask again for a homemade gift for an event, I would laugh in both of your faces.
And the baby could wear the Gucci outfit any time, this outfit not so much.
The wife waking up the husband in the middle of the night to go drive somewhere is bull crap. He’s working and she isn’t - it’s inconsiderate to not let him have some rest. She can vent another time.
No, because the man needs to be a Saint he not allowed to have a feel yet be able to express his feelings, but not to no one because that toxic mustiney, but it isn't because that wrong. if you listen long enough, that what it sounds like.
Totally agree. Suffering isn't comparable. She's potentially putting his job at risk and potential life if he drives or works tired. Sounded like he wanted to vent too.
Where does it say she’s waking him up in the middle of the night? She might be wanting to talk at 8 pm
@@chantelguinn7517 4:47 "I can't sleep at night, because she wants to have these talks or go on a drive"
I think he is TH. He asked his wife that she should not complain to hin anymore and that she should not talk to him when he go's to sleep (he was rightto ask that). She takes a step back and honors his wishes and now he complains that she is distended because of his wish. Because right now complaining is the only think she can do (if the pregnancy is bad)
She made her work for months for nothing. Prime AH move.
take the gift back and give it to some parent who was taking a child home and tell you son to ship it where the sun does not shine. tell him also he can go to some bs label store from now on and do not ask for anything from you.
Story 2: While the husband may be TA in some regards, is there a reason why the wife can't have these conversations/drives after dinner/before bed? Why do they need to occur in the middle of the night? She may be growing a kid, but if I had to go to work for months on end with limited sleep I'd probably be crabby AF too...
I have compassion for the op, just because everyone piled on him as if he doesn't matter at all. His wife needs to have these conversations during the day. Just because she's pregnant like billions of other women have been at one point doesn't give her the right to deprive her husband of sleep, he's probably going to lose sleep along with after the birth. What's with all the women these days that want the world to grovel at their feet and treat them like princesses because they are pregnant. Redditors very rarely take the fathers side but he's working hard and trying to pay bills but oh never mind him, he's just a sperm donor.SMH!
Being pregnant isn’t an excuse for manners and common courtesy to be thrown out the window. OP has been supportive and it sounds like he wasn’t shown appreciation.
They’re basically saying OP’s feelings don’t matter because a pregnant wife just another example of how much Reddit is sexist against men
His comments/replies were bad. He was super controlling and misogynistic.
@@carlzbarkley160 Whatever you say feminist
i'm so glad reddit came through for the baby clothes story, because i was so sure they would have absolutely blasted her! if that happened to me, i would be upset too, because it's not even acknowledging the hard work and dedication. i would feel extremely guilty if i were the daughter. you could argue the gucci clothes could have been worn at any time, whereas the handmade clothes were specifically for this occasion/tradition 🤷♀
Plus her daughter could’ve given OP the heads up. I honestly think the in-laws knew about the handmade outfit and wanted to one up her.
If the daughter thinks Gucci one-ups something handmade and made with love she has a problem.
I felt the same way.. PLUS she held her tongue and vented after being pushed for a reason she seemed down. Its not like she was out and about telling everyone.
well except for the first comment
OP NA ofc
@@gena_unknown Yup! He son is a pot stirrer. Just had to go tell all his siblings (who of course probably spread it even further). That son was probably the family tattle tale when they were all growing up.
Story 2: Looool. Imagine waking someone up for a drive WHEN YOU KNOW HE HAS WORK THE NEXT DAY. Smh. Y'all let pregnant women get away with murder. Awesome fulfilling experience for who?!!!!
What also kills me is after they have the child you bring it up the crazy stuff they pretend they don't remember doing it and say something like said it was probably the hormones it makes you forget stuff
Awesome advice guys, saying that the husbands thoughts and feelings means nothing. What do you expect from Reddit who favors toxic women?
Or the whole "You can complain to everyone else but not to your wife" line in one of the comments? Come on.
It almost sounds like the guy the other day with the stay at home wife who wanted him to wake up several times during the night for feedings when he worked a dangerous job while the mother-in-law was there doing nothing.
@@akl2k7 No it’s just Reddit’s case of, Women can’t vent and complain to their husbands but when a man vents and complain he’s The insensitive one in the wrong.
Me wonders if she can’t drive ? I have a hard time with clingy who can’t do things alone to get out
Story 2: Why is he not allowed to be annoyed when his pregnant wife is being annoying. Pregnancy is not an excuse. The wife is not in a relationship with herself. As long as he doesn’t insult his wife, he should be able to her she’s doing to much.
Because the replies we see here are cherry picked to be most likely to provoke someone like you or me to post a comment on the video. Go to the ACTUAL thread and you'll find plenty of folks pointing out that what Wifey is doing is asinine.
@@thedorkone1516 You mean this game is rigged????? I'm shocked.
Plus that dumb comment saying "You can complain to everyone else but not to your wife"? Um, what? Why can't he tell his wife if something is wrong? That doesn't make any sense.
Even he OP had set ..my wife pisses in my face in my sleep and tried to kill me some ppl would still say "well, she is pregnant , don't complain"
Some ppl are crazy
Btw those same ppl will berate OP for 'not comunicating'
The hypocracy!
He should be alarmed. She doesn't have positive feelings right now. So she is doing as he asked and not sharing how she feels anymore. What he did was let her know he isn't a safe place for whatever she's feeling and it is okay if he can't be if she is really going through it and he admits her pregnancy has been difficult, then it is expected she isn't a ball of sunshine. The fact that she is clammed up now completely should send off an alarm to him. She is not okay.
The cradle story... OP is NTA something similar happened to me. We had an specific emroided baby swaddle our mother used on us when we were infants. (a month each, so pristine conditions) It was meant for each of us two to be used later for our kids. My sister who is 4 years older, than me used is as first and last. After my niece grew out of it she GIFTED it to a stranger to which she sold small baby clothes. "I packed it into the package and sent it of" were the words which made my heart sink.
Story 1: NTA. She asked op to make that for her baby, which was something special. and was really tacky about it. For Gucci baby clothes? Yeah. Gaudy AF
Nah, she didn’t put the outfit on because she wanted to put on the brand name one. If I were that grandma I would never ever make anything for anyone again.
Or just not anything for that daughter
Why punish the rest of the family for the crappy behavior of ONE child?
Never for another of her kids…
I would of taken the gift back and give it away to another family who would love it and tell both of them to never ask for a gift again.
S2 NTA and I'd love to know if the commentors telling OP to "suck it up" cause "she's having your baby ffs" would feel if the wife or rather his widdow was the one writing the update cause OP wrapped his car around a tree and died at the wheel as "I can't sleep a night, because she wants to have these talks or go on a drive because she's stressed"
Wife needs therapy (if its this bad) or someone other than OP to vent to cause I'm sorry but dude is working longer hours whilst trying to take care of her and if you're:
- Waking up in the morning to complaining
- Coming home from work to complaining
- Being woken up in the middle of the night to "talk or take a drive" to hear more complaining.
That sounds like a nightmare and OP is saying "this is going to break me" but who cares about men mental health right. OP is NOT a therapist and I can see him (like I would) reaching a point where he says "I'm done". He divorces her and is there for his child but HELL NO to her complaining.
Baby clothes bait-and-switch:
OP's daughter ASKED her mom to HAND MAKE a SPECIFIC outfit for a SPECIFIC day and event. OP spent MONTHS making the outfit and daughter just changed her mind at the last minute. Major dick move.
she should cut both of them off even if it is her son. and laugh in their faces if they ask for another homemade gift.
1. What commentator would actually believe that the grandmother's feelings don't count after all those months of work? Everyone has the right to their feelings. And criticising her for them is 100% inhumane.
Seriously! If you are pregnant air just had a child Reddit thinks that literally no other person should have feelings and just suck it up
1st story: those who say OP is the AH are people who never made a piece of clothing themselves. They don’t understand how much work it is to make one. OP‘s daughter asked for the outfit and was blinded by brand names afterwards.
Agree I knitted a hat once and it took weeks and it was about the simplest thing you can knit , I can’t imagine long and hard it is to make clothing like Op made
Yeah. My wife made a blanket for DiL's baby shower and she worked on that thing right through the early hours of the morning to make sure it was completed in time. Let me tell you, it was and is greatly appreciate.
Story 1: NTA op didn’t intend for the siblings to spread op’s word to the daughter .
Agreed. The daughter should have communicated to the mom what the situation was. If you are even halfway familiar with how long it takes to make something like that then you would understand how much a slap in the face this was.
Yeah, she didn’t do anything wrong just from venting. The daughter is an a-hole,I’m sorry.
Op daughter got mad that the truth came out that tells me she knew she was in the wrong
@@KCohere33 The son she shared her disappointment with is a pot stirrer. There was no reason for him to share it with anyone else. He is a pot stirrer. He was probably the family tattletale when he was a kid.
The Knitted Baby Outfit- OP, tell your daughter you never meant for your own hurt feelings to trouble her. You now understand that your daughter only asked for the outfit from a sense of obligation: 'mom will be unhappy if I don't ask for those knitted clothes.' She has the right to her choices. You want the outfit back, and you'll give it to a different baby, since your daughter prefers other types of clothing.
I didn't say that, Mom!
I don't care what you thought. I want the clothing back, because that event has passed and the clothing has no meaning, for you. I just might sell this outfit, and spend the money on something nice for myself.
Ask for the clothes back IF the daughter hasn’t sold them already. I’m sure in a place where this is such a big even, handmade clothes would be something some people are willing to pay good money for.
Nope, nope, nope on cradle...I loaned mine to a niece ... never got it back!!!
It was after the baby for me... years after! She decided to be a stay at home Mom. I was already working 10 hour days, Monday through Saturday but that wasn't enough income. I took on side jobs, wasn't consistent enough. Work had plenty to do (construction) so I ended up with 6 days a week 14 hours a day. It was electric work and I often worked the last few hours by Coleman lantern but the money made up for her not working and I was taking care of the kids Sundays. That also turned into "I'm not doing enough" and other than "we already did it this month" I hated hearing "your kids are hungry and they need a bath" the minute I walked in the door... the most. I'd get dinner started while the bath was filling, get both clean, toweled dry and back to finish dinner. Eat and usually by 10pm I could have a shower and then try to sleep until 4am when it starts over again.
That sounds like it was awful selfish towards you to say the least.
Why did you let it go for so long? I get everyone has tough times but if you were working 80+ hour weeks when you didn't want to it's gone too far. Did you end up making changes?
@@Sandyyyyyyyyyy I didn't want to lose my family and courts dont ever help the father. I even stayed after she got wasted and confessed to an affair (she thought I was him and just kept talking, was easy to figure out). Questioned her once she was sober and she left to her gfs house who then called me and said I was the asshole for not waking her and stopping her drunken actions, then cussed me for not allowing her to have her fantasy man. WTH? As I feared once she packed up and left I rarely got visitation. Judge ordered her and she told him NO! When he's coming we leave! Judge still would not set actual days, just the bullshit "reasonable visitation" so when I parked on the street she had the police remove me for just parking
Story 2 all the YTA are shocking. Making someone sleep deprived bcus you’re bored n want to talk at the moment is crazy. The wife needs to hold these conversations earlier in the night not when her husband is trying to sleep so he can function at work tmrw.
Oh but ain't nothing but a worthless misogynistic man so he doesn't count. He was put on this Earth to cater to women. 🙄
This makes me think that they will give domestic abuse and murder a pass just for the sake of pregnancy
That's cause they were all picked by the folks running this channel to be inflammatory.
I mean, these are breeder kink incels living in their parents’s basements, never knowing the intimate touch of another person. Can you blame them for not know what pregnancy and living with a pregnant person is REALLY like?
@Symphonia30 I can see that.
"AITA for telling my pregnant wife she has to leave after she beat me up?"
"YTA! You should be more considerate! She's pregnant! I hope she divorces you and takes all your money with child support! Biggest AH ever!"
Disturbingly probably not far off.
The wife won't speak to him at all unless she can complain and wake him up in the middle of the night for rides when he needs to work the next day. She can dump all of her stress and complaints on him, but he has to bottle his up?? Yeah, OP is suuuuuuch a "monster." Reddit, climb out of the basement and touch grass... Bunch of hypocrites.
Her feelings right now are negative and he doesn't want to hear them so she is doing what he asked and keepinh them to herself.
@@justinenicole3926 If all she has are negative feelings then she's still the AH. She's using pregnancy as a way to drain OP's emotional and physical energy, and there's no indication that the behavior will end.
@@justinenicole3926But she still isn't communicating. People can still talk about their day, what they saw, what they ate. She just wants to complain, not even look for reasonable solutions to her pain. Doesn't matter what kind of job someone has, working more hours and coming home to a manifesto of complaints isn't something anyone wants
On story ... 2? : Let's not pretend that both parents can be extremely stressed out during a pregnancy. Saying that dad doesn't get to vent/ask for a break from constant complaints from wifey because she's pregnant it ridiculous. She still has agency and control over her words and actions and how they affect her spouse. He's working constantly to get ready for the baby to make sure they are set. It's not enjoyable to them be met daily with unending complaints the moment he walks in the door. Being pregnant does not give you a free pass to be dismissive. Op didn't say she could never to complain, but just that she try to adjust her attitude some as not to add even more stress onto her partner, who clearly nearing the end of his rope of sanity. Each should be able and allowed to share their frustrations with each other without them getting the silent treatment.
NONONONONONO... the last comment about Wife's Whining with a difficult pregnancy. Aboslutely NOT! She does not get to dump her garbage on him, PERIOD. Your partner is NOT A DUMPING GROUND, HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR THEIR OWN PERSONHOOD.
OP, develop a NEW PLAN with your wife. You come home, and listen to her for one hour, without saying a word. THEN SHE MUST LISTEN TO YOU FOR ONE HOUR, WITHOUT SAYING A WORD. Maybe if the two of you are SHARING YOUR STRUGGLES TOGETHER, YOU CAN LEARN BETTER COMMUNICATION SKILLS. You each are going to have a struggle that the other could never imagine, but neither of you will know what the problems are IF YOU NEVER SPEAK TOGETHER.
I understand your wife's sense of isolation and not getting to leave her home. I have a blood disorder that compromises my immune system. I've been in isolation for years. Both of you need to talk to her ObGyn about her struggles, and find other ways to help her cope.
My primary thought is that if she wants to vent, maybe she should do it at someone she didn't just wake up.
Like... I get it. She IS having a rough time. But 3 am to the person making sure she and bundle of joy in the making have a roof over their heads and food is a DAMN good way to get snapped at.
What is wrong with the second story comments? NTA. That awful mentality that only the mother matters in a pregnancy is awful and creates distance in the couple; haven't you heard about carer fatigue?. He is working overtime to cover costs, and just wishes to able to rest sometimes when he comes back home.
Do you honestly not know how these channels work?
They pick a story that'll attract attention. Then they'll pick some of the most buckwild, ass backwards comments from the story to inflame sensibilities so that we won't be able to resist making comments of our own, driving up engagement and feeding the beast that is the RUclips algorithm. No one is immune. My personal bugbear is folks on RUclips acting as though Reddit is a hivemind that behaves in a consistent manner as though it's all one person, instead of a massive group of people with wildly different opinions.
The Wooden Baby Cradle- Hang on! The Neighbor made the cradle FOR OP! Mom just kept using it. OP, if you want the cradle you should take it with you now. Since it's in storage, your parents aren't using it. With your demands, the sister will now destroy it, before it gets back to you. Tell your sister, she can either surrender the bedroom suite, buy you a new one, then she can use the cradle until you want it.
I knew that OP in story 1 would be judged YTA as soon as it was revealed his wife was pregnant. Regardless of circumstances, pregnant women in Reddit are never TA.
You mean s2?
Our son's first cradle was used by him, his sister, my friend's two kids and my brother-in-law's kid when he was little. It is now in the shed where I have to give it some tender loving care to get it ready for the next generation. I think OP needs to make sure that the sister and her mother are on board with it being used for ALL babies in the family where possible.
Story 1: when you ask someone to make clothes at your own expense and a lot of time for a specific moment just for it not to be used.
You didn't spoil anything when you said absolutely nothing at the time. If she doesn't want to have her child wear it then why ask for it. It's very entitled and disrespectful to expect someone to make an outfit for a specific event and then just do nothing with it
NTA 2: she’s waking him up to talk or go for drive. The man is going to snap
Gucci clothes one: She probably wanted the perfect Instagram pic with the Gucci clothes. OP is not the idiot.
Which is weird since anyone can buy Gucci albeit on loans but not everyone can have hand made clothes to post
Story 4: Op was never going to win that battle. There was simply no winning against sister or family that night. 😕
What was she supposed to say? “This night is about sister let’s keep it about her.” Even if she tried that they sound like they would just brush her off and continue their disrespect. And OP is only two years younger and they are acting like she’s an old maid?
That's the stupid part about the sister even if she did everything first the family wouldn't care she's just another kid the mom had in the eyes of the family. She's making herself miserable trying to get attention she wouldn't have ever gotten.
@@hothead2463 Well, if the family is so bigoted that their mother has disowned OP, Sissy's likely already been elevated to Golden Child despite having her engagement party ruined. Depending on how awful she wants to be towards OP, she can spin this for ALL the sympathy and attention. Especially if she starts popping out babies right away.
Story 1: Daughter wouldn’t be TA if she’d just TOLD her mum “hey I’m gonna put the baby in this other outfit hope that’s ok.” Was mean to just spring it on her.
7:00 sometimes people don’t realize they actually don’t want kids until it’s too late.
Not excusing him she’s got the brunt of the work and clearly will continue to even after she gives birth. But not sure either of these people thought about the reality of child rearing and pregnancy.
Think long and hard about whether you TRULY want children before it’s too late. Before you’re pregnant and hate it, hate your pregnant wife because pregnancy sucks and just wait until that child is actually here. You think it’s bad now?
You’ll be the same parents complaining that no one wants to provide you child care as though it’s a chore.
So glad I always knew I didn’t want kids. Never had to be pregnant. Never had to raise a child. Never had to babysit.
I’m 44 and don’t have to, never had to and never will have to deal with this.
Story 3: dont criticise someone unless you're willing to take it back. Personally I wouldn't have gone anywhere near such toxic family members.
OP1: NTA. She specifically asked for something for a specific reason and pushed it aside. Daughter sucks.
Story2: nta. The Misandric side of Reddit rears its head again. There is a thing called caretaker burnout. The girl won't let the dude sleep. That's all he's asking. It's just sleep. There's no need to go on a drive every night, or have a deep discussion every night. Yes, she's growing a whole person inside of her. That doesn't mean she has the right to make everybody Bend to her will. I love how in all these stories The Man instantly goes to shit status as soon as the woman is pregnant.
Sure, let pregnant women get away with abuse and murder because pregnant, my God Reddit’s view on gender equality is disgusting
And if she wants to go for a drive so badly why not drive herself? If anyone comments how it may not be safe or easy for her since she’s pregnant, remember she’s expecting a sleep deprived man to be fully functional to drive her.
Grandma, you are NOT the idiot! Please do not listen to the idiot comments saying otherwise ❤ your daughter picked her rich in law’s outfit because they’re rich! She then used you for free help!
I’m sorry!
Nta. She asked and then she decided your work wasn't good enough. Nice to know labels are worth more that hardwork and love.
I don't agree with the sister coming out story. The family kept pushing and pushing, and messed up both sisters in the process.
Yeah and the sister has major jealous-insecurity problems, doesn't seem like she'd level headed enough to even get married.
@@Digitalfairy Precisely
@@DigitalfairyI agree. It sounds like she’s doing this for attention and parental approval. And why didn’t she try to divert their conversations? Was she worried she would be a bad daughter for speaking out against her elders?
At this point the sister just sounds like an accident child. Op can't be blamed for getting the attention she doesn't want. The sister is going to die knowing she will never get the families attention.
Yeah poor sister, and she shouldn't blame op she should blame their parents. It's their fault not op.
Story 3: This pregnancy is an awesome, fulfilling experience FOR WHO?!?! Reddit is delusional.
But...but....BAYBEEES! How dare he want to not be exhausted by being forced to suffer sleep deprivation because wifey wants... *check notes*... to go for a drive! Yup. Reddit + pregnancy = his fault no matter what.
For incel Redditors living in their parents’ basement, screaming about their breeding kinks on 4Chan yet having never known the touch of a woman (or man, I don’t judge people on their sexuality lol)
@@Chuckf66I actually tried to google this story to see if op replied to any comments. I couldn't find it but I saw 2 other posts where the op was NTA and preggo was.
I don't know reddit judgment on this story but I'd say he is TA. And here's why, op says the pregnancy is complicated and his wife isn't working. He then goes on to say he's a positive person and hates when people harsh his vibes. How much you want to bet his wife is on bedrest? And that her "complaining" is talking about whatever issues she's got going on with those complications. Based on his sunny personality I wouldn't call him the most reliable narrator.
I also understood he wasn't sleeping, not because his wife was waking him up in the middle of the night, but that she wasn't letting him sleep when he wanted to. It sounds nitpicky but I'm married to someone who can consistently sleep 14 hours a night if he wanted to. He's definitely complained before when I unknowingly didn't let him go to sleep at 7pm because he planned a long sleep. If this is what op's wife is doing then yeah, no sympathy from me.
Still, at the end of the day op told his wife to stop complaining. If she didn't feel as though she was complaining then it makes sense that she'd stop trying to connect with him. After all, her connecting=complaining to op. So him complaining about it all does make him TA
Reddit: Women can do no wrong and men have to break their backs to accommodate women
Story 1: Also, babys doesn't grow like super fast? I mean, they don't stay small much time. When they realize maybe the clothes don't even fit her anymore.
I know nothing about babys, if I'm wrong I only need one comment to correct me😂
Story 2: NTA in my opinion and the wife was complaining over nothing .
Women these days think they should be treated like royalty for carrying a baby. I worked up until the day I gave birth. SMH!
The wife honestly needs therapy if they think, The world should revolve around pregnant women.
@Jennsy K and there are people who work while dying of cancer. Not every pregnancy is the same, not everyone can handle pain and constant sickness the same
Sister engagement story: You are not the idiot in the sense that you didn't make the party about you, your relatives did, your grandma was specially out of line for what she said.
But the coming out didn't make anything better either, and you just give your sister an actual reason to be angry at you, even tough she was already angry and you were in a no-win situation.
I sounds more like OP was drunk and at her limits. I’ve seen drunk people do the stupidest crap. Stuff cheese puffs up the noses of sleeping people. Run full speed at a port-i-potty that’s been used all day while someone is inside. Argue with my mom about whether or not they’re “sober enough” to drive when they can’t even walk in a straight line. Ask “who’s the hot chick bouncing on the trampoline” while watching my sister’s friend (a middle schooler at the time) after having been drinking since morning (this was my stepdad doing this at around noon, he on,y got drunker as they dad went on until he did the port-i-potty thing).
@@alexismyers6053being drunk doesn’t really excuse it. It’s just as trashy and attention seeking as proposing at someone else’s event. She was angry her sister was blaming her for their awful relatives actions and she was feeling vengeful.
My mom knits beautiful clothes, blankets, sweaters ect! I have even put things away that my son wore as an infant for his future children! The labor & love that goes into a homemade article of clothing is worth more than any designer over priced store bought article! It's been many many years since my mom made something for her grandson however her friends are always asking her to make something for their grandchild or great grandchild & the mom's are always excited for the homemade gifts!!
my mother loved to knit and sew. and she was always doing that. I learn later when she died that some of the ladies who worked with her got baby sweaters and blankets which they needed do badly because she gave these gifts to them and they always remember that.
You're lucky. My mom never finished my baby blankets. In over 10 years she got 1 completed. Granted I don't have kids yet, but she's dead now. I'll have to ask someone else to do them, since I purchased all the yarn.
BF in the marines: If you want to stay with someone, them being signed up to the military will not facilitate this. Deployments are a thing!
Story 1- this is the problem with people today. Priorities are completely screwed up. Would rather wear a name brand which means absolutely NOTHING in life while her mother who should mean so much to her gets trampled on. To the first commenter, you’re part of the problem. Daughter was cruel and would rather have strangers look at the child and be impressed than care for her mothers feelings. Daughter is a pos
Story 2 - And THIS is why we have such entitled mothers out there!!! I am so sick and tired of the children of Reddit. Do you know how many women have been pregnant through the ages? How many women have had to go through inexplainable hardships while pregnant? Through wars and famine and everything else but oh no! We have a man who is being woken up in the middle of the night to drive his pregnant wife somewhere and he better do this because she's the queen who's carrying the Sacred Holy Child and God forbid he needs sleep for his job (the one he's using to help support them). Please! Stop treating pregnant women like they're fragile human beings. Obviously the people commenting YTA on this are the children of Reddit who have never even been pregnant or lived with a pregnant woman or watched the birth of a baby. Of course, the other people commenting YTA are women who feel the need to keep pushing the whole 'pregnant women are the most delicate creature out there and must be treated with the utmost care!' Yuck. As someone who has been pregnant 6 times, get over it. If anyone treated me like this, I would have been offended and angry for treating me like some princess. We are not feeble or weak or frail porcelain dolls when a human is gestating within us. In fact, we're far more fierce and a person not to be toyed with. We're actually in more of a position to not be a people pleaser. We are more likely to handle things we had been procrastinating about (don't even get me started on nesting). Stop patronizing pregnant women Reddit FFS!!!
absolutely 100% correct and bet my ass if he is killed on his way/home from work due to tiredness this woman would still blame him for making her a single mother...not the fact she woke him up at some godly time to drive her around...dear god somebody make it make sense.
He is trying and by the sounds of this she sounds like one of those I am the only pregnant woman on earth types,where once the baby is born the father can't hold or touch the baby cause she did all the work.and then she will force him to work longer hours cause she won't work again..cause she's a MOTHER now types.
The cradle was made for the first kid. It was always referred to as OP's. The sister is known for stealing items. I don't blame OP for feeling the way they do.
Last story) I'll never understand throwing away opportunities for a relationship. But maybe I've just haven't experience true love yet.
Ah, to be 18 again and so sure that I will be with The Love Of My Life, The First Person Who Touched My Junk forever.
Last story NTA. 18yr is still a kid he is just starting to think about his future. That money is for one of the most important things that kids can get and that's an education. That's one of the important things that he needs to help shape his future
Story 1: NTA. That first comment is from a literal robot. OP was hurt that she was asked to make this outfit specifically for taking baby home, put MONTHS of effort into creating the outfit, and then the more expensive, brand name outfit bought by in laws was used. That's so hurtful.
Cradle story)
I would have took it with me when I moved out.
However has OP moved out? We know her sister moved back in but she didn’t tell us her living situation
And put it where?
Crib story: the crib was made for OP which her parents used for her siblings. It’s even referred to as OPs crib. It’s not for her sister to call dibs just because she got knocked up first. OP should liberate the crib asap.
Look i see that and understand, but as the youngest child of a youngest child of a youngest child nothing is ever made for the youngest. Most of the time the youngest just gets hand me downs or just use the older siblings stuff and never get anything special of their own. It's not fair just because your sibling are born first they get everything and you have no claim on anything.Even if you get something it's never as good or big as the older siblings. Also it was made for the mother to use in expectation of op, but the mother used it for all the children so it belongs to the mother and the mother gets to say who uses it.Just like you said she can't just call dibs just because she used the cradle first.I understand she's nervous the sister might not give it back and that sucks, but like wise what if she never has kids? Really as long as the mother owns it she doesn't have a say where it goes.
@@Primroseholic That was just your family being cheap. I'm the youngest and I had my own stuff and a lot of it was exclusive to me even though I had an older brother.
@@hothead2463 It's more like my family being poor, but my family doesn't do that if all the kids use something as a child we all have a claim. It's really common for people to celebrate and be excited at the oldest birth , but as more kids are had people are less and less interested. Another thing you have a brother are you a girl? If so you wouldn't necessarily have to use hand me downs based on that alone. I have an older sister and brother i didn't get my brothers clothes, but i did get my sisters and even mothers clothes. My sister had all new baby clothes cause everyone was super excited. By the time i came along not so much. Now if your a boy that's great that your family had the money to spend on all new stuff for you but poor families don't have the luxury thus claim to shared children things should be based on who owns the item.
@@Primroseholicbut the sister isn’t the youngest and has already taken things meant for others. OP was reasonable but sister is being greedy. OP has every right to make her stand.
@@Primroseholic Mine was poor. I got stuff but didn't have my own room. I shared it with my brother. I only had a bedroom one in my childhood.
Story one, NTA. And I wouldn't be making any more cloths for any future children of hers.
Funny how the inlaws whose clothes the baby wore home aren't going to help daughter in law for 3 weeks and helping during labour.
Story 1 - NTA As a crafter, I'm outraged for OP. The daughter ASKED OP to make something for a specific event, something that's become somewhat a tradition in her family. Her own child minimized her effort and is now minimizing her feelings. If I were OP, I'd refuse to make anything else for her, since she's shown her exactly what she thinks of OP's efforts.
Story 2 - NTA Unpopular opinion here. Yes, OP's wife is having a hard pregnancy, but OP is doing a lot of extra work to help prepare for the baby. She's been very inconsiderate of his needs. And eff that circle thing. They're supposed to be partners, FFS! Being pregnant doesn't mean that mom gets to be 100% selfish (a momzilla?), or that the father isn't allowed to have feelings or hard times, either.
Story 4 - NTA, and given sister's history, she should keep the crib at her place, not their parents'. I went through a similar situation with a cradle that was mine. SIL got pregnant first, and he talked to our parents about "borrowing" it. They checked with me, and I said OK as long as it was made clear that they returned it to me. My cradle is FSM knows where now, because SIL gave it away as soon as they were done with it.
Story 5 - NTA Ah, the arrogance of youth, who think they know everything and their parents nothing, despite never living on their own! There's nothing that says that the son can't marry his BF while going to college. But he'll learn as soon as BF ships out after basic and he's home alone with nothing to do.
I got 5 handmade blankets here and I really love them. Now here the kicker the high price blankets fell apart in 4 years these handmade ones after 13 years still look great and going strong.
'Hey wifey, you're too sad, try shutting the F up'. Wife shuts the F up. 'Why isn't my wife talking to me?'
Story one: the daughter is an idiot and if her in-laws are rich and hear about this they probably would and definitely should at least make a mental note that she's a sell out and a gold digger. Tough way to learn that for everyone involved really. My nephew came home in a crocheted batman outfit. It was absolutely adorable.
Wow I'm super early! Thanks for all the awesome videos:)
Question: "When are YOU going to get a boyfriend?"
Answer: "Today is not about me".
End of conversation. How hard was that? 🤨
Even if op did say that. The family probably wouldn't care and will still ask the same questions
Your not the AH for being hurt that you invested TONS of hours knitting an outfit YOU WERE ASKED to make by your daughter. HOWEVER don’t feel bad because now that she is a mother herself she will eventually learn the hard way what a pain kids can be and how her feelings will get hurt- to sum it up - KARAMA WILL GET HER FOR YOU.
I might catch heat for this but, is op not allowed to have feelings? Is he not allowed to be stressed? He said henis doing extra work to save for the baby, snd he can't get sleep cause she wants to vent all night long.
Why fo people Always minimize the stress and fatigue men, who are working their balls off to support his wife financially while pregnant. Men not allowed to ve stress, tired, irritated because they aren't building a kid in them?
When I was pregnant with both our boys...I spent more time worrying over my husband getting enough sleep and down time than I did worrying over myself.....He had a long drive to and from work.....that ALONE was a good cause for him to get a good nights' sleep
Last story: You can't stop your kids from making silly decisions - life will teach them that and they will learn. But the money - until the parents hand it over to them or it was promised to them without conditions, it belongs to the parents to do with as they please. A lot of kids are calling it college money as if to say it is theirs to do as they please. It is not the kids' money - the parents can make that decision, or even rescind it if they wish.
With those college funds, I always think they should be for college or later in life like after they normally would have finished college. Maybe not the whole amount but something
Op and wife need to have therapy or some mediator to talk to each other. Share your fears and plans and find your way to get to a better place together so you can both get thru this big change before it gets harder.
All these people hounding on the stressed soon to be dad. Dude has every right to be annoyed. Oh she's building a baby, so what. That's not an excuse to be a miserable B. If you can't be happy at least a little bit, then abort it because you will be a terrible parent. Dudes working extra hours on no sleep and for those saying it takes energy to make a baby don't take into consideration everyone has a breaking point. If I had to deal with a significant other complaining constantly about what should be a happy time, I'd be annoyed too. Just because you get knocked up doesn't give you special privileges. If you can't handle the issues you will face alone, then maybe having a kid was the wrong choice. Guys suffer just as much if not more stress during the pregnancy because not only do we now a days not know if the kid is really ours, and if we suggest a test, we are called monsters. We have to do all the work of supporting a completely unreasonable person most of the time, and we have to provide while also not being allowed to show we get tired too. I bet you all those smart ass comments were done by moms who probably were able to relax the majority of the time because their guys were too whipped to say anything.
Dude is allowed to be stressed and annoyed. Not his fault his wife doesn't understand how to control her emotions and not be miserable all the time. It's not unreasonable to want to communicate but not deal with just constant complaining. Deletus the fetus if it's that much of an annoyance.
Re: college fund. Frankly, given that OP seems to have more than one kid, I would argue that the college fund was for the parents to use anywhere anyone needs help with college, to balance in any way they could manage at any time. If Kid1 isn’t going to go to college, then it’s a moot point.
1st story: NTA!
I was in that exact same situation, but I still but the clothes my family made on my newborn instead of the brand clothes. The daughter is just an entitled brat. The clothes that OP made are so much more valuable than the gucci or whatever clothes.
Story two: depending on if they live in a free, modern society or not abortion may not have been available. And since no birthcontrol is 100% it could be a acident they unfortunally cant get out of due to invasive and discrimstory laws.
Further more, abdolutely not the asshole. She is a grown person, shr can get her own livense and drive herself get a hold of her self! Time to act like a adult missy.
Story 1. It’s about being a gold digger. NTI. Story 2 I’m sure she won’t feel upset if her husband does in a car accident because he fell asleep because she wanted to talk.
I lovingly crocheted my only grandchild a baby blanket. Several years later they got a dog and I was taking the dog to vet procedure for them. DIL handed me the baby blanket for the dog to use. When I had objected to the dog using the blanket, she said she got to choose what she kept or how she used! Soooo no more lovingly made gifts! I took blanket home as keepsake for my grandchild. I was insulted and can’t imagine how bad this woman felt after spending months making an asked for coming home outfit!
1st story: NTA! That daughter in law was a jerk. SHE was the one caught up on cloths because she decided that a hand made item (made with love) did NOT compare to Gucci.
your kid used you for free labor! she is a gold digger! Cut her off! NTA NTA NTA
Always find it interesting how grandparents forget what being a new parent is like.
I will lay dollars to donuts that the baby spat up on it as soon as it was put on, and the parents had to change it to go outside.
Both my daughters did this.
Last story) throwing your future away on a relationship at 18 with a guy going into the Marines. Recipe for disaster.
Nta. No one wants to always listen to someone whine and complain.
Your cradle was made for you, OP. Take it home to your house OP. Keep it for YOUR children. It was made for YOU.
1st story nta pam asked op to make her daughter baby clothes knowing it was also a tradition yet when it came down to it instead of dressing her daughter in the baby clothes made by her maternal grandmother she instead wears the exspensive gucci branded baby clothes bought by her paternal grandparent, pam was so selfish and incosiderate, op spent 7 month making clothes for her grandaughter 7 MONTH of her free time out of love for said grandchild but all that effort for nothing since pam clearly cared about materalistic than made with love, and that she can wear another time doesn't work since babies grow really fast so by the time pam actually bothered to put them on they might be too small by then, it's also clear that pam's only complaining cause the other realatives are calling her out for her bs and she doesn't like, she also shouldn't be surprised that if she has anymore kids op might refused to make them any clothes since pam's made it clear they aren't good enough.
Story 1 mom ntah. You voiced your feelings respectfully without involving the person who hurt your feelings and disrespected your work because it's not a hill to die on. Not her fault that her kids can't hold things to themselves and not play telephone with each other.
Story 2. NTA. How you stated it could have been waaaaay better. But you can't be helpful if you can't rest because you are being there for her all night after working all day. All these commentors talking about how she should leave you are just haters expecting men to be perfect all the time while women can do no wrong.
I hate these engagement parties, it reminds me of these 30+ yr olds and their birthday week.
S2. NTA. So what she's pregnant. Being pregnant DOES NOT give a free pass for anything. If all she does is complain, it's a problem. OP is allowed to be stressed out, he's prepping for his baby too. How would his wife feel if all he did was complain? They are in this together and should probably seek couples therapy to learn better communication.
Suggesting people get divorced over a stressful time (like pregnancy) is so frigging dumb.
I don't know who owns the cradle, but I disagree with the "You aren't using it, and your sister needs it right now" argument.
There are lots of things people don't use, but it's still theirs and nobody else is allowed to touch it.
Cooper is an idiot. Your college is entirely free through two different methods, and you dropped it.
You don't want to go to school, alright fine what's your plan? "Follow my boyfriend around"
Kid is not mature enough to be making decisions like this if he'll throw his future away that easily.
If his boyfriend breaks up with him he'll be broke, without an education, miles and miles away from family.
S2 - That is a lot of stupid packed into a few comments.
So if he loses his job , or cause harms to his mental health then what? She's pregnant yes, and guess what he is the only one in household working at the moment. She's stressed? So is he. So can he wake her up in the middle of the night to cover a shift for him?
Those Gucci baby clothes are cute, but I wouldn't trust where they're made and nothing beats pretty handmade items. The daughter robbed her baby of a hand-crafted one-of-a-kind piece because she's tacky. Poor OP, her heart was trampled on.
Story 3: Why is OP upset that her bigotted, idiot relatives aren't talking to her? Nothing of value has been lost.
The cradle belongs to OPs parents, not her. End of story
The mother tried to hold her tongue because she knew it wasn't the time to explain why she wasn't happy. Then someone started being pushy and wouldn't let it go till she broke and said what was bothering her, then they spread it around like an AH. Then everyone was mad at her for something that was dragged out of her in confidence. Not the AH at all. You are entitled to your feelings for 6 months of hard work going down the drain. They chose something the inlaws picked in 5 minutes over something you spent 6 months on. You are the only one that isn't the AH here. Everyone else sucks. They all owe you an apology.
Coming out: Alcohol is a good servant but a bad master.
Op. NTA. Sister is going to ruin it and never get it back. Or tell Mom that she will never hold your babies if she allows your sister to have it.
Story 1: You can tell a lot about the daughter and her values by this story- manipulative, materialistic b*tch that uses people. In this case her mother. She most likely asked mom/OP to make the clothes because she knew her mom would expect it since she did it for her sibling knowing full well she wasn't going to use the clothes- cause in her world "who wears handmade clothes" rather than recognizing the quality of the unique pieces. But she really wanted her mom's help after the birth so that is why she asked. Sounds like she used her manipulation to snag a guy from a rich family and she just manipulated her mom. This daughter will be crawling back home to mom in about 7 to 10 years when she is really seen by her husband and friends for who she is- see first line.
Of course that's what she is. She's probably baby trapped the guy to get his and his families money.
Story 1
I would have taken my outfit back and said nothing to anyone !
The tradition would end !
Story 2: I'd say NTA, because OP is working hard to prepare for the baby, and the wife isn't letting him sleep because she wants to talk or go on drives. Seems selfish to me.
Hello XO! Happy Father's Day to all the dads in the chat!!
Not the Asshole, the Daughter asked her to do this, takes time and money to do this.
11:35 - YTA. You don't even have kids. The cradle belongs to everyone, not just you. If you're that worried, you can have your mom go get it back when the time comes. Your sister needs it now. Get over it.