My entire family participated in characterizing me as an “imposter”, “defective”, “worthless”, etc... even though my father was the narcissist that propagated this idea (though he is not the only narcissist in the family). I’m guessing that other scapegoated people would also relate to that. Thank you Dr. Reid - your videos are extremely helpful.
They did all that because you are in fact the opposite. Scapegoats are everything the parent can’t become and because of their pure souls and empathy they use them to take in all the pain and baggage of the family to feel better about themselves
Yes, for me it was my mother, in cahoots with my older sister. Later, it was my step mom and half-sister. It's extremely confusing when you become aware that these people are jealous and somehow feel threatened by you, even though you don't do anything but support them, as they treat you like you are defective and the black sheep. I'm so sorry for anyone who had to go through this. It can be crippling.
I didn’t truly understand this until the narcissist in my life came into my job when I was operating a grapple crane. My entire life he would drag me to work with him and just belittle and berate me. He’d tell me to do something and before I’d ever start he’d snatch whatever I was doing away from me and scream at me telling me I was doing it wrong. When I started getting a handle on my panic attacks I found myself to be pretty good at heavy equipment operating and he came into the scrap yard I was working at while I was loading a 10 ton piece of steel onto a truck, which was a difficult maneuver for me at the time. When I got it in I yelled out to him, hey man, check that $h@t out. He just ignored me and drove off. I realized he was just a fragile kid stuck in his trauma. It made it easier to forgive him for everything he put me through. He couldn’t help it.
This is so true and I once confronted my narc parents after working on my healing daily and I told them that I feel better around others because they (my parents) make me feel terrible, lost, crazy and depressed and others are able to see my true happy soul and self so I am free and appreciated around them. My parents replied and said “Those people don’t really know you like we do so it does not count”. They do this to play with your mind and to isolate you from strangers and friends who can become even better and closer than family because they really do see the true you which is amazing not the scapegoat your family has created to break you down and make you think “they don’t really know me” . It’s a mind game so don’t allow it to happen.
You know, this is just very common reply from abusers all over the world. Nobody knows you better than I do - we do. Or they might even say You know me the best as nobody else before. You just simply know me. It s bullshit unfortunatelly.
@@radmilakvasnickova5324 Yes, that along with the "You're too sensitive" line they like to use. The idea is that they are not wrong for being cruel, we are wrong for minding it
It’s so damaging and the abuse was so brutal when I was a child. I was a foster child, drugged and abused by this type of mother. She beat it into my head that I was mentally ill even getting put on psych meds. I was always in a fog never was able to make sense of anything all I had was my negative behavior to fight back against her and the whole family ganging up on me. She loves to provoke me and she got a lot of money for my “mental illness”
I am sorry you had to live like that! You deserve a loving mother & family! I am the blacksheep of my family. It’s extremely painful to live amongst narcissists. I had to leave them all behind. I am building a ranch in the south for women like us.
My exact situation I am trying to get out of I have over 600 videos of evidence maybe 700 by now.i will put the links to the prt1 and prt2 channel. Plus I also have another channel about the pills side effects and how they cause brain damage.
I've been feeling suicidal I have had depression ever since I was 8 and now I am ready to give up completely cause of the same constant gaslighting,being framed for stuff,lied on,having to lie on myself and even put on acts for people like my parents and getting locked up to fit other peoples agendas.i will put the second video evidence channel in a comment under this one. (Do not report this i will not get helped and my family will just make up a lie on me and I'll get locked up in a mental hospital Which is worse than prison.) I have been going through abuse my whole life and now i'm nearly 18.Now my parents can get away with it even more easily. cause my mom has false diagnoses all over me 11 That i know of but I am sure there's more.Which I didn't actually start getting diagnoses put on me till I moved in with my mom for the first time when I was 10 which I moved back and forth so when I was 12 that's when she started getting serious diagnoses put on me.my family takes advantage of those diagnoses so now when someone makes a DSS report or the police get involved my parents can just bring up the diagnoses and the social worker or police won't even talk to me or look at my video evidence going back to when I was 8 over 600 Videos.My parents just say I am "hallucinating,delusional,manipulative,lying" the list goes on with excuses they can make.here are the people that are calling me crazy (THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE ME LABELED AS INSANE,VIOLENT AND MORE.)⬇⬇⬇⬇⬇ (MY MOM she is first cause she is the one who got all the diagnoses put on me mostly by her self but with the help of Steven when he eventually came along) ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxHdpwnsxPLoIc0ySGqo1t2 (MY DAD🌟) ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxRDG9ajRU5Np94Xhco5HXW (MY MOM'S BOYFRIEND) ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxvOn_PGnjpgkW0cL5REW56 (MY SISTER although she is not the cause of the diagnoses and had no say so in it she does try to make it seem like I am the crazy one well plane out lying and that things aren't as bad as i think they are.#gaslighting) ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHzG5KucsJdpwQPsJX4DckQl (HERE IS THE CHANNEl OF DAILY VIDEO EVIDENCE) going back to when I was 8 Of different types of abuse I go through. ruclips.net/channel/UCjkV9F3jkP3r-qVIHB3gwww. ⬆⬆has to be typed into google.here's a playlist VIDEOS IN CORRECT ORDER⬇⬇⬇⬇ ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHzaFRmkDx4pj9Fk0Kq5IVqr There are a lot of playlist that put the different things that are happening in different categories so if you want you should look at all the different playlist.some of the categories are specific people do abusive stuff that they do. here's one of the playlist from the channel.it has the videos in it that I think are the top craziest. ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHwyMQxKOXNcGygBaEo7coSZ So here is the channel focussed on what mental hospitals are like and how deadly antipsychotics are it's my story of side effects I had and how I ALMOST DIED from the pills over an abuse cover up. with proof of the stuff i say in the description and video.it also give people advice on the description it really depends on what they know and believe. ruclips.net/channel/UCS9hlrcVz9SUw_anmcAXbIQ Tell me who is really crazy me or them? I already know I don't actually have the diagnoses everyone knows. ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHyP-MtrqCI4RwnCQvOt_9FN ⬆⬆⬆⬆There's people admitting it or agreeing look at the first video. people that have been around me and my parents have even told my parents this.Like girls my dad was around were questioning why I have diagnoses put on me that I obviously don't have and why I am taking pills that make my digestive system stop working, has me shaking with fevers,and makes me basically go into comas and lay in bed for 2 weeks straight
(Files of 52.prt 2 channel) ruclips.net/channel/UCP0L28FIUUr45xTit8WKy8g (Videos in correct order 2) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da8_Qby94rimYscuL3c4ETkX (My mom's abuse 2) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da9tN6gRiUv2ENfX_9MNOmhZ (Steve's 2) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da8lHtFO11rbYZGOi-M6Kv3F (My sisters enabling 1) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da_XSwQlMw1AUAVg0PDixVd3 (My dad's insanity 1) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da_mXX-WvaYrc0z9Kbqv4Ljz (Situation with getting a job so I can save up) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da9s_1gFEfK9dtl5LG2KtZy8 (This is why I have to watch my surroundings the playlist is dedicated To my "family" telling life threatening lies on me) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da9jHyjFYnM5mEF1c1x-8QNg (The dog situation.Steve's extreme animal abuse.the dog still has it better than me though) 1.ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHwn6Y3z87EWmNfCcYrKDswI 2. ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da-zvxKtIRTSDqHsrXEWURvG (My family says I am disrespectful never clean up 1) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da8QsK95nMCmNkJ1tY84kV-w (My family says I disrespectful and never clean up 2) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da9okWytM9pihLSpXcZIuJfu (The ongoing lie my mom made up in 2016 that I don't shower) ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da86z7XOV4uTsdkH2_aFye8F
Here's a shorted version of the prt 1 channel link of video evidence.(THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE ME LABELED AS INSANE,VIOLENT AND MORE.)⬇⬇⬇⬇⬇ (MY MOM she is first cause she is the one who got all the diagnoses put on me mostly by her self but with the help of Steven when he eventually came along) ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxHdpwnsxPLoIc0ySGqo1t2 (MY DAD🌟) ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxRDG9ajRU5Np94Xhco5HXW (MY MOM'S BOYFRIEND) ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxvOn_PGnjpgkW0cL5REW56 (MY SISTER although she is not the cause of the diagnoses and had no say so in it she does try to make it seem like I am the crazy one well plane out lying and that things aren't as bad as i think they are.#gaslighting) ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHzG5KucsJdpwQPsJX4DckQl (HERE IS THE CHANNEl OF DAILY VIDEO EVIDENCE) going back to when I was 8 Of different types of abuse I go through. ruclips.net/channel/UCjkV9F3jkP3r-qVIHB3gwww. ⬆⬆has to be typed into google.here's a playlist VIDEOS IN CORRECT ORDER⬇⬇⬇⬇ ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHzaFRmkDx4pj9Fk0Kq5IVqr There are a lot of playlist that put the different things that are happening in different categories so if you want you should look at all the different playlist.some of the categories are specific people do abusive stuff that they do. here's one of the playlist from the channel.it has the videos in it that I think are the top craziest. ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHwyMQxKOXNcGygBaEo7coSZ So here is the channel focussed on what mental hospitals are like and how deadly antipsychotics are it's my story of side effects I had and how I ALMOST DIED from the pills over an abuse cover up. with proof of the stuff i say in the description and video.it also give people advice on the description it really depends on what they know and believe. ruclips.net/channel/UCS9hlrcVz9SUw_anmcAXbIQ Tell me who is really crazy me or them? I already know I don't actually have the diagnoses everyone knows. ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHyP-MtrqCI4RwnCQvOt_9FN ⬆⬆⬆⬆There's people admitting it or agreeing look at the first video. people that have been around me and my parents have even told my parents this.Like girls my dad was around were questioning why I have diagnoses put on me that I obviously don't have and why I am taking pills that make my digestive system stop working, has me shaking with fevers,and makes me basically go into comas and lay in bed for 2 weeks straight
They will see you as defective and then work tirelessly to sabotage any attempts you make at "bettering yourself" so they can then confirm their initial belief that you're defective. All this is normally done during the formative years of the child's life and continued for as long as that child remains in contact with the abusers.
Whenever anyone says something good about me, it makes me feel uncomfortable. It's like I want to ask ' But why?'. I want to make an argument to the contrary. It's obviously very difficult to hide it and the other person sees it which makes the whole situation look awkward. After a while, in a way I don't realize, I can act very callous or say something bad to prove the person I am not so good after all.
Don’t do that to you mind and body. You are amazing and indeed good. You need to write down what you love about yourself and what others love daily. Don’t skip a day. Meditate with heart chakra guidance here online with your hand on your heart. Watch Teal swan- Self worth and be easy on yourself. Daily.
I can relate to this. All my life, people have told me how talented I am, but because I never heard that at home, I have never believed it, until recently. I am grateful to everyone who has helped me to see who I am.
I actually wonder why they are saying it and what they want from me! It makes me feel bad to think those things when they are actually just being nice!
❤ this video. Reminds me of who i am when i felt like this around narcissists. I feel as if nobody appreciates my presence.. i always think everyone hates me and extremely nervous around people because of imposter syndrome. I find alot of narcissists impose and make me feel imposter syndrome... horrible feeling. I feel so destable because of this. Fragmented thoughts or not being able to think at all or act on my decisions and not being able to focus and being ridiculed by flying monkeys wherever i go. Scary and nerve wracking, knees were shaking. Parents/narcissists would try to redirect my thoughts back to whatever destabilizes and upsets me and try to control my thoughts and intrude into my life so much thay had me in chronic fatigue.
You are hands down the best therapist for narc abuse recovery. I can tell by your vibe that you speak from the heart. Ironic how the biggest “therapist” in this space is Dr Ramani - my alarm bells go off when I hear her talk because she gives of all the vibes of a covert narcissistic abuser.
I know what you mean. Sometimes YT therapists become smitten with their YT fame. It then colors their product. Jay Reid brings real depth & compassion to his videos. He’s not an “imposter,” no pun intended. He’s also someone who took the subject seriously and is a scholar in his field. Once I found Dr. Reid I didn’t need to look anywhere else. It’s onvious bu the comments that everyone realizes they’ve hit the jackpot. If I could’ve heard this stuff as a teenager I know I wouldn’t be the basket case I am now.
Thank you, Jay. Every video you do leads me to contemplation and formulation of long responses in my mind but I don't type it out. Sufficient to say - you nail this every time and I'm frankly astonished by the degree of my reactions. You know what you're talking about 100%, and I know what you're talking about 100% too. Thank you.
Interruption breathe. That might be a valuable phrase to keep in the mental toolbox. Interrupt the connection between the thoughts about what happened in the past and how we are thinking about ourselves now.
Jay Reid. Once again, thank you, and I'm headed over to read more about it right now. Imposter syndrome inflicted in childhood is so harmful. I'm just now beginning true recovery at 47. Thank you for all of your insight.
I was told i was an imposter, and was treated like one, and i felt like one, and accepted blame for existing and upsetting them. One of the narcs would yell that i was being false every time i smiled when people spoke to me. She wasn't well liked, so i got the blame. I was always a smiler, right from a baby. I smiled at everyone.
I just cannot tell you how liberating this information is!!!! I have been trying to decondition for the past 3 years! Jay you are accelerating my deconditioning and deprogramming🙏🏾🙏🏾 You are a God send❤
When we are criticising someone else harshly as abused adult wounded children we are projecting our worthlessness on that other individual as we want him to feel the pain we can't describe or recognize in ourselves that was caused by a narcissistic parent.
I'm A woman even though my picture is Mick Jagger. I want to thank you so much for making me feel like I'm not the piece of shit My family made me feel like for 40 years
Wow. That's so deeply evil and hurtful. Sorry you were treated like that. Shocking how arrogant and mean they are. My father always criticised my friends but when I left them behind while finding my adult identity, he yelled at me ' you don't have friends you left them all!! He made me feel like the bad person for leaving my friends instead of listening to the reason of his child to make that choice. I think I was surrounded by dominant, controlling people in my family and also in my youth friendgroup. It's still hard to feel free from guilt and doubts that it wasn't me and I am not perfect but a good person. While typing this tears in my eyes and my heart hurts so maybe just maybe I am right in going my way. The struggle goes on after going no contact. When I told my mother I needed space I wrote to her 'I feel manipulation'. She replied 'there is no manipulation, it's your family it belongs to you'. My father always said 'you can't change character' I would feel a stab although he said it in general. I felt that definitive ultimate truth in his attitude. The limiting effect that you can't get out of the box they created for you. Framing you. Projection. His opinions were the absolute truth, that's how he made his statements. I had to walk away from all that bc I constantly felt seen like another person than how I see myself. My father said 'you are stubborn'. He meant it in a negative way. I am not stubborn... I would rather be agreeable. I'm still defending myself right here.
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 I see what you say. Good thing is that all this abusive childhood is a history now. Time to remove the toxic mindset. We are not bad, we were forced to believe that we were bad. Never forget about that!
What an awful, awful thing to hear from your mother. 😔 My mom used to call us "(ugly name for animal puppies) of a whore" loosely translated and "brats of Satan". She got the second one right. Go figure these abusers who take pleasure in destroying their own offspring.
Excellent video, I have had a hard time believing good things people say about me. I have thought similar thoughts, that they don’t know the real me, they just are seeing me how they want to see me or misinterpreting what they are seeing. I still have a hard time, because the person closest to me told me I was oblivious to my failings, and actually a lot worse than I realize. The credibility of that person has since been discredited in general, but that doesn’t mean they weren’t correct about me! but I’m trying to look at myself as objectively as possible now, and be the kind of person that evaluates myself and others based upon reality, as opposed to preconceived or preprogrammed notions. It can be daunting at times, but it feels great to be back in reality!
Thanks Jay. Your take on this subject is really illuminating and well worth hearing. It's remarkable how the structure of these abusive relationships so predictably and repeatedly leads to recognisable outcomes. Yet the knowledge remains so hidden, and so difficult to discuss openly. What a shame that it's impossible to suggest the covert abuser is a "narcissist" without others so frequently shying away from the discussion---even if (as often happens) you don't end up opening yourself up to accusations of being abusive to the person you call out. Victims exist in an environment that generally dismisses or turns away from the deeply painful damage suffered, while clearing the way for these compulsive liars and emotional vampires to go about their parasitic predations without the negative and restraining consequences they so deeply deserved. I am in my 50s, and only in the last 5 or so years has the true nature of my upbringing and toxic family become horribly clear to me. It is truly awful to finally understand what was 'wrong", why I felt so unsure of everything, of myself. I still feel, at an emotional level, absurdly ashamed to characterise myself in anything but a belittling manner, when cognitively I can truthfully say that i have a huge amount to offer: empathy, passion, intelligence, all wasted for decades in the shadow of a family i was devoted to. What regret I have to think that these ungrateful a**holes, orbiting around the vacuous, moronic "parent". One morning she came and sat on the end of my bed when I was 9 or 10 years old: she was weeping. So I comforted her in her supposed sadness caused by yet another night of screaming and yelling between her, my utterly negligent, unapproachable, enabling codependent father and my mid- and late teenage siblings who may have come home later than expected or some other such typical adolescent behaviour that should have been dealt with in an adult fashion by my parents. But no, the dysfunction was deep and never once was I talked to about it apart from this small memory that morning: shge said "you'll never be like them". Until my sister's even greater toxicity drove me to a late in life realisation, I always felt like an unlikeable loser who was a letdown to the family, that was always so "selfish" if I didn't do 100% of everything they ever asked of me 100% of the time, yet who was labelled selfish if I ever suggested that I needed something from them at all. My mother always "knew" who I was and I had no reason to not believe she did not have some special knowledge of "who" I was. She told me when I was 9 or 10 years old the following: "You know, you WOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE to do wonderful things in your life, but you don't have the confidence---just like me." I cannot remember anything positive, kind or helpful coming from this professional shopper. Utterly useless "parent', totally horrible person, whose 96 years gave nothing, and left the world a lesser place for having lived in it. The anger is passing, the wounds are healing, but the scars will be disfiguring forever. Please keep putting the knowledge of the damage these types of people are responsible for out there, so maybe one day the pathology of narcissism will be given less of a free reign than it currently does. Thet destroy the lives of those closest to them.
Even though I was less exposed to the abuse of a narcissist husband, I began to see what I was bringing to the table as a person with tenuous boundaries and a sense of self dependent on externals. I took care of others needs first. I discovered I surrounded myself with narcissist friends as well. My husband would tell me to my face " you should be better than you are" and I agreed. My grown children tell me they are better off without me. When i had issues to talk about, my friends compliments felt like invalidation. They really only wanted to talk about themselves.
This is a very important explanation about my entire life... oh, God, what a bad mother we have, my siblings and I... Fortunately there are angels like you in this world...❤
How the heck do you know all of this? I have always wondered why I had 2 types of lifestyles. One was mine the other was what I was thought of! I never ever ever got it!
True. As an adult of narc parents and having been married to an abusive narc who made me out to feel small and selfish, I still have difficulties accepting compliments. I end up responding in an odd way that diffuses the compliment. I also have difficulties taking on leadership roles. In the back of my mind I'm wondering if it's narcissistic for me to receive any such attention. I am learning to identify the truth from the abuse, but the feelings often come back to screw with my head!
It’s starting to make sense. I’m living under the assumption that my parents are right and everyone else is manipulating me or lying. However in reality, my parents werent making observations about my behavior. And other people have more evidence of my behavior to comment on.
The thing that I struggle with is that I have actually become what they thought I was, because I believed them for so long an so deeply. Now my life and who I am actually does mirror what they thought..
My identity is still intact. The scapegoat identity is a kelidescope view of yourself. It's severely distorted. We have been told we're are these negative things and we seen ourselves through this lens. But it's untrue. We have not lost anything good about ourselves. And we have real accomplishment. We didn't change. They way we seen ourselves changed
Are you yourself a survivor? I just found your videos and have been binge watching. You are so spot on about the feelings and what we, I, as a survivor experiences and experienced.
Thank you. Very useful. These manifestations and those in other videos, I have often wondered about. Thank you also for the suggestion of breathing as an interruption. Your videos are so valuable; it seems to me you are at the forefront of research, experiential and clinical knowledge, therapeutic practice and healing of this condition. All the best. ❤🎉🎉
After listening to this video and reading the blog post, I concluded I made the opposite choice: to sacrifice the safety of a home where I was deemed "retarded" and instead keep feeling good about myself and my very real 120 IQ (yet guilty for underachieving financially and for emotionally "abandoning" the family). I have developed, should I say, an inverted impostor syndrome: when praised, I second-guess for hidden motives.
This dynamic is magnified when the family is a religious family. There are continual messages expressed and endorsed by the religious community of being sinful. Sinful at your core.
I wonder if this is why I have a tendency to test someone who seems to like me, by revealing my flaws or controversial views and seeing whether they still accept me as I truly am, nothing held back or covered up.
This is why Jesus said not to judge...either others but also ourselves. We can acknowledge our pure strength in just enduring/ surviving this & many other forms of inadequate support in our lives. i constantly look for ways to put in a nutshell for explaining the utter aloness of being my parent's parent, from a young age. Inadequate support is one way to put it into words.
Almost everyone around me had me only for the role of a bad person in any or even every way, so I have not been given the option in my whole life to be taken as somethg else; does couple of people that view me as good where mostly away from everyone else around me & they lasted short. If I start to get other options is in exchange for thgs that go beyond & I shouldn't give up, since I didn't create my situations, neither had the ability to avoid them.
& besides the curiosity ti give the opportunity for YOU to show them who they r. When they r being good to u, like they r to many, they came with good conception of u. They don't cane with a bad conception already. Is that they force in their heads that u r good without the experience of ur good deeds, but they do not came with their heads with no GOOD OPTIONS FOR U. Meaning they don't came to u without good options to place u in opinions.
I’m curious Dr. Reid, is imposter syndrome caused by narcissistic abuse or are there other equally significant causes? There seems to be such an abundance of it, especially amongst women.
I bet this would ring a few carillons Jay, they force you to live like a savage while abusively ingratiating themselves on the approval of all others they abuse (these are also survivors, they also get gutted). Obviously not meditating on the long term implications of this (ofc = their extremely vile criminally insane need for 'supply') & their extremely disturbing psychopathic evasion, when you become a n extremely high performing savage & they find out they collapse & never regain their parasitic position on their former hosts ever again (unless the hosts are also ill and many are (commodities in huge chunks of the economy).
I see that most of you’re speaking is directed at some sort of reading material,,, very little eye contact,,,it makes me doubt you’re knowledge,,,,and credibility
Obviously you’re either an actress who is only ever delivering highly rehearsed lines where you can look at the viewer at all times, or you have never had to make a 15 minute video where what you said, actually mattered, and you wanted to make sure you covered it all, without spending days making a single video. Your comment makes MOST, doubt YOUR credibility, I suspect.
He is probably reading something he wrote. It would be hard to stay on topic and remenber everything without notes . Most people who give speeches or lectures use notes Honestly, what a nasty comment! And foolish! If it's good advice, it's good advice!
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My entire family participated in characterizing me as an “imposter”, “defective”, “worthless”, etc... even though my father was the narcissist that propagated this idea (though he is not the only narcissist in the family). I’m guessing that other scapegoated people would also relate to that. Thank you Dr. Reid - your videos are extremely helpful.
They did all that because you are in fact the opposite. Scapegoats are everything the parent can’t become and because of their pure souls and empathy they use them to take in all the pain and baggage of the family to feel better about themselves
I can certainly relate, visit an old black sheep you get time, I've learned a few things the hard way.
@@ameeraali3291 Absolutely - projection.
Yes, for me it was my mother, in cahoots with my older sister. Later, it was my step mom and half-sister. It's extremely confusing when you become aware that these people are jealous and somehow feel threatened by you, even though you don't do anything but support them, as they treat you like you are defective and the black sheep. I'm so sorry for anyone who had to go through this. It can be crippling.
I didn’t truly understand this until the narcissist in my life came into my job when I was operating a grapple crane.
My entire life he would drag me to work with him and just belittle and berate me. He’d tell me to do something and before I’d ever start he’d snatch whatever I was doing away from me and scream at me telling me I was doing it wrong.
When I started getting a handle on my panic attacks I found myself to be pretty good at heavy equipment operating and he came into the scrap yard I was working at while I was loading a 10 ton piece of steel onto a truck, which was a difficult maneuver for me at the time.
When I got it in I yelled out to him, hey man, check that $h@t out. He just ignored me and drove off. I realized he was just a fragile kid stuck in his trauma. It made it easier to forgive him for everything he put me through. He couldn’t help it.
I realized I don’t like compliments because I felt like an impostor. Thank you for your explanation.
Me too
Me too. I think the person who compliments me thinks I am Not Nice and Rude because of my response to their compliment.
When complimented, I become suspicious bcs I'm terrified that I'm going to be manipulated
Same here
5:54 "The narcissist wasn't being informed by how I am, but rather who they needed to think of me as ." Powerful. 🔔
This!
It just described my narc dad.
This is so true and I once confronted my narc parents after working on my healing daily and I told them that I feel better around others because they (my parents) make me feel terrible, lost, crazy and depressed and others are able to see my true happy soul and self so I am free and appreciated around them.
My parents replied and said “Those people don’t really know you like we do so it does not count”. They do this to play with your mind and to isolate you from strangers and friends who can become even better and closer than family because they really do see the true you which is amazing not the scapegoat your family has created to break you down and make you think “they don’t really know me” .
It’s a mind game so don’t allow it to happen.
“make me feel “.
Only you know the truth.
You know, this is just very common reply from abusers all over the world. Nobody knows you better than I do - we do. Or they might even say You know me the best as nobody else before. You just simply know me. It s bullshit unfortunatelly.
OMG, they actually said that! I am so sorry.
@@radmilakvasnickova5324 Yes, that along with the "You're too sensitive" line they like to use. The idea is that they are not wrong for being cruel, we are wrong for minding it
It’s so damaging and the abuse was so brutal when I was a child. I was a foster child, drugged and abused by this type of mother. She beat it into my head that I was mentally ill even getting put on psych meds. I was always in a fog never was able to make sense of anything all I had was my negative behavior to fight back against her and the whole family ganging up on me. She loves to provoke me and she got a lot of money for my “mental illness”
I am sorry you had to live like that! You deserve a loving mother & family! I am the blacksheep of my family. It’s extremely painful to live amongst narcissists. I had to leave them all behind. I am building a ranch in the south for women like us.
My exact situation I am trying to get out of I have over 600 videos of evidence maybe 700 by now.i will put the links to the prt1 and prt2 channel.
Plus I also have another channel about the pills side effects and how they cause brain damage.
I've been feeling suicidal I have had depression ever since I was 8 and now I am ready to give up completely cause of
the same constant gaslighting,being framed for stuff,lied on,having to lie on myself and even put on acts for people like my parents and getting locked up to fit other peoples agendas.i will put the second video evidence channel in a comment under this one.
(Do not report this i will not get helped and my family will just make up a lie on me and I'll get locked up in a mental hospital
Which is worse than prison.)
I have been going through abuse my whole life and now i'm nearly 18.Now my parents can get away with it even more easily. cause my mom has false diagnoses all over me 11
That i know of but I am sure there's more.Which I didn't actually start getting diagnoses put on me till I moved in with my mom for the first time when I was 10 which I moved back and forth so when I was 12 that's when she started getting serious diagnoses put on me.my family takes advantage of those diagnoses so now when someone makes a DSS report or the police get involved my parents can just bring up the diagnoses and the social worker or police won't even talk to me or look at my video evidence going back to when I was 8 over 600
Videos.My parents just say I am "hallucinating,delusional,manipulative,lying" the list goes on with excuses they can make.here are the people that are calling me crazy
(THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE ME LABELED AS INSANE,VIOLENT AND MORE.)⬇⬇⬇⬇⬇
(MY MOM she is first cause she is the one who got all the diagnoses put on me mostly by her self but with the help of Steven when he eventually came along)
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxHdpwnsxPLoIc0ySGqo1t2
(MY DAD🌟)
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxRDG9ajRU5Np94Xhco5HXW
(MY MOM'S BOYFRIEND)
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxvOn_PGnjpgkW0cL5REW56
(MY SISTER although she is not the cause of the diagnoses and had no say so in it she does try to make it seem like I am the crazy one well plane out lying and that things aren't as bad as i think they are.#gaslighting)
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHzG5KucsJdpwQPsJX4DckQl
(HERE IS THE CHANNEl OF DAILY VIDEO
EVIDENCE) going back to when I was 8
Of different types of abuse I go through.
ruclips.net/channel/UCjkV9F3jkP3r-qVIHB3gwww.
⬆⬆has to be typed into google.here's a playlist VIDEOS IN CORRECT ORDER⬇⬇⬇⬇
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHzaFRmkDx4pj9Fk0Kq5IVqr
There are a lot of playlist that put the different things that are happening in different categories so if you want you should look at all the different playlist.some of the categories are specific people do abusive stuff that they do.
here's one of the playlist from the channel.it has the videos in it that I think are the top craziest.
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHwyMQxKOXNcGygBaEo7coSZ
So here is the channel focussed on what mental hospitals are like and how deadly antipsychotics are it's my story of side effects I had and how I ALMOST DIED from the pills over an abuse cover up.
with proof of the stuff i say in the description and video.it also give people advice on the description
it really depends on what they know and believe.
ruclips.net/channel/UCS9hlrcVz9SUw_anmcAXbIQ
Tell me who is really crazy me or them?
I already know I don't actually have the diagnoses everyone knows.
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHyP-MtrqCI4RwnCQvOt_9FN
⬆⬆⬆⬆There's people admitting it or agreeing look at the first video.
people that have been around me and my parents have even told my parents this.Like girls my dad was around were questioning why I have diagnoses put on me that I obviously don't have and why I am taking pills that make my digestive system stop working, has me shaking with fevers,and makes me basically go into comas and lay in bed for 2 weeks straight
(Files of 52.prt 2 channel)
ruclips.net/channel/UCP0L28FIUUr45xTit8WKy8g
(Videos in correct order 2)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da8_Qby94rimYscuL3c4ETkX
(My mom's abuse 2)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da9tN6gRiUv2ENfX_9MNOmhZ
(Steve's 2)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da8lHtFO11rbYZGOi-M6Kv3F
(My sisters enabling 1)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da_XSwQlMw1AUAVg0PDixVd3
(My dad's insanity 1)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da_mXX-WvaYrc0z9Kbqv4Ljz
(Situation with getting a job so I can save up)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da9s_1gFEfK9dtl5LG2KtZy8
(This is why I have to watch my surroundings the playlist is dedicated
To my "family" telling life threatening lies on me)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da9jHyjFYnM5mEF1c1x-8QNg
(The dog situation.Steve's extreme animal abuse.the dog still has it better than me though)
1.ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHwn6Y3z87EWmNfCcYrKDswI
2.
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da-zvxKtIRTSDqHsrXEWURvG
(My family says I am disrespectful never clean up 1)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da8QsK95nMCmNkJ1tY84kV-w
(My family says I disrespectful and never clean up 2)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da9okWytM9pihLSpXcZIuJfu
(The ongoing lie my mom made up in 2016 that I don't shower)
ruclips.net/p/PLWoUsQs03da86z7XOV4uTsdkH2_aFye8F
Here's a shorted version of the prt 1 channel link of video evidence.(THESE ARE THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE ME LABELED AS INSANE,VIOLENT AND MORE.)⬇⬇⬇⬇⬇
(MY MOM she is first cause she is the one who got all the diagnoses put on me mostly by her self but with the help of Steven when he eventually came along)
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxHdpwnsxPLoIc0ySGqo1t2
(MY DAD🌟)
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxRDG9ajRU5Np94Xhco5HXW
(MY MOM'S BOYFRIEND)
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHxvOn_PGnjpgkW0cL5REW56
(MY SISTER although she is not the cause of the diagnoses and had no say so in it she does try to make it seem like I am the crazy one well plane out lying and that things aren't as bad as i think they are.#gaslighting)
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHzG5KucsJdpwQPsJX4DckQl
(HERE IS THE CHANNEl OF DAILY VIDEO
EVIDENCE) going back to when I was 8
Of different types of abuse I go through.
ruclips.net/channel/UCjkV9F3jkP3r-qVIHB3gwww.
⬆⬆has to be typed into google.here's a playlist VIDEOS IN CORRECT ORDER⬇⬇⬇⬇
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHzaFRmkDx4pj9Fk0Kq5IVqr
There are a lot of playlist that put the different things that are happening in different categories so if you want you should look at all the different playlist.some of the categories are specific people do abusive stuff that they do.
here's one of the playlist from the channel.it has the videos in it that I think are the top craziest.
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHwyMQxKOXNcGygBaEo7coSZ
So here is the channel focussed on what mental hospitals are like and how deadly antipsychotics are it's my story of side effects I had and how I ALMOST DIED from the pills over an abuse cover up.
with proof of the stuff i say in the description and video.it also give people advice on the description
it really depends on what they know and believe.
ruclips.net/channel/UCS9hlrcVz9SUw_anmcAXbIQ
Tell me who is really crazy me or them?
I already know I don't actually have the diagnoses everyone knows.
ruclips.net/p/PLnIepZjMetHyP-MtrqCI4RwnCQvOt_9FN
⬆⬆⬆⬆There's people admitting it or agreeing look at the first video.
people that have been around me and my parents have even told my parents this.Like girls my dad was around were questioning why I have diagnoses put on me that I obviously don't have and why I am taking pills that make my digestive system stop working, has me shaking with fevers,and makes me basically go into comas and lay in bed for 2 weeks straight
This is so true. So many golden chances I was given that I didn't take because I didn't think I was worthy, my narcissist however did the opposite.
Same here
They will see you as defective and then work tirelessly to sabotage any attempts you make at "bettering yourself" so they can then confirm their initial belief that you're defective. All this is normally done during the formative years of the child's life and continued for as long as that child remains in contact with the abusers.
Whenever anyone says something good about me, it makes me feel uncomfortable. It's like I want to ask ' But why?'. I want to make an argument to the contrary. It's obviously very difficult to hide it and the other person sees it which makes the whole situation look awkward. After a while, in a way I don't realize, I can act very callous or say something bad to prove the person I am not so good after all.
Don’t do that to you mind and body. You are amazing and indeed good. You need to write down what you love about yourself and what others love daily. Don’t skip a day. Meditate with heart chakra guidance here online with your hand on your heart. Watch Teal swan- Self worth and be easy on yourself. Daily.
I can relate to this. All my life, people have told me how talented I am, but because I never heard that at home, I have never believed it, until recently. I am grateful to everyone who has helped me to see who I am.
I actually wonder why they are saying it and what they want from me! It makes me feel bad to think those things when they are actually just being nice!
Same
If anyone says hey Leah I appreciate your help I start getting suspicious of them haha
They way you can articulate my lived experiences is amazing ! 🙏 ❣️ ty ty
❤ this video. Reminds me of who i am when i felt like this around narcissists.
I feel as if nobody appreciates my presence.. i always think everyone hates me and extremely nervous around people because of imposter syndrome.
I find alot of narcissists impose and make me feel imposter syndrome... horrible feeling.
I feel so destable because of this. Fragmented thoughts or not being able to think at all or act on my decisions and not being able to focus and being ridiculed by flying monkeys wherever i go. Scary and nerve wracking, knees were shaking.
Parents/narcissists would try to redirect my thoughts back to whatever destabilizes and upsets me and try to control my thoughts and intrude into my life so much thay had me in chronic fatigue.
You are hands down the best therapist for narc abuse recovery. I can tell by your vibe that you speak from the heart.
Ironic how the biggest “therapist” in this space is Dr Ramani - my alarm bells go off when I hear her talk because she gives of all the vibes of a covert narcissistic abuser.
I know what you mean. Sometimes YT therapists become smitten with their YT fame. It then colors their product. Jay Reid brings real depth & compassion to his videos. He’s not an “imposter,” no pun intended. He’s also someone who took the subject seriously and is a scholar in his field. Once I found Dr. Reid I didn’t need to look anywhere else. It’s onvious bu the comments that everyone realizes they’ve hit the jackpot. If I could’ve heard this stuff as a teenager I know I wouldn’t be the basket case I am now.
Thank you, Jay. Every video you do leads me to contemplation and formulation of long responses in my mind but I don't type it out. Sufficient to say - you nail this every time and I'm frankly astonished by the degree of my reactions. You know what you're talking about 100%, and I know what you're talking about 100% too. Thank you.
I’m glad you typed some out.
I look forward to these videos every Sunday. They are so well done. Thank you Jay.
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Interruption breathe. That might be a valuable phrase to keep in the mental toolbox. Interrupt the connection between the thoughts about what happened in the past and how we are thinking about ourselves now.
Jay Reid. Once again, thank you, and I'm headed over to read more about it right now. Imposter syndrome inflicted in childhood is so harmful. I'm just now beginning true recovery at 47. Thank you for all of your insight.
6:05 it’s not about who I am, but it’s about how the narcissist needs to think of me as
I was told i was an imposter, and was treated like one, and i felt like one, and accepted blame for existing and upsetting them. One of the narcs would yell that i was being false every time i smiled when people spoke to me. She wasn't well liked, so i got the blame. I was always a smiler, right from a baby. I smiled at everyone.
I just cannot tell you how liberating this information is!!!! I have been trying to decondition for the past 3 years! Jay you are accelerating my deconditioning and deprogramming🙏🏾🙏🏾 You are a God send❤
9:20 it’s the myth of who the narcissist needs the victim to be, not a reflection of who the victim actually is
When we are criticising someone else harshly as abused adult wounded children we are projecting our worthlessness on that other individual as we want him to feel the pain we can't describe or recognize in ourselves that was caused by a narcissistic parent.
I'm A woman even though my picture is Mick Jagger. I want to thank you so much for making me feel like I'm not the piece of shit My family made me feel like for 40 years
My mental mother used to say _"They (your friends) don't know how fake you are, but I know because I'm your mother"_
Wow. That's so deeply evil and hurtful.
Sorry you were treated like that. Shocking how arrogant and mean they are.
My father always criticised my friends but when I left them behind while finding my adult identity, he yelled at me ' you don't have friends you left them all!!
He made me feel like the bad person for leaving my friends instead of listening to the reason of his child to make that choice.
I think I was surrounded by dominant, controlling people in my family and also in my youth friendgroup.
It's still hard to feel free from guilt and doubts that it wasn't me and I am not perfect but a good person.
While typing this tears in my eyes and my heart hurts so maybe just maybe I am right in going my way.
The struggle goes on after going no contact.
When I told my mother I needed space I wrote to her 'I feel manipulation'. She replied 'there is no manipulation, it's your family it belongs to you'.
My father always said 'you can't change character'
I would feel a stab although he said it in general.
I felt that definitive ultimate truth in his attitude.
The limiting effect that you can't get out of the box they created for you. Framing you.
Projection.
His opinions were the absolute truth, that's how he made his statements.
I had to walk away from all that bc I constantly felt seen like another person than how I see myself.
My father said 'you are stubborn'.
He meant it in a negative way.
I am not stubborn... I would rather be agreeable.
I'm still defending myself right here.
@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 I see what you say. Good thing is that all this abusive childhood is a history now. Time to remove the toxic mindset.
We are not bad, we were forced to believe that we were bad. Never forget about that!
What an awful, awful thing to hear from your mother. 😔 My mom used to call us "(ugly name for animal puppies) of a whore" loosely translated and "brats of Satan". She got the second one right. Go figure these abusers who take pleasure in destroying their own offspring.
I am so sorry you had to endured that.
Your message about "interruption" is extremely helpful. Thank you Dr. Reid💐
Love you Jay!!! Saving hella lives out here. God bless you to infinity
I appreciate that! Thank you!!
Excellent video, I have had a hard time believing good things people say about me. I have thought similar thoughts, that they don’t know the real me, they just are seeing me how they want to see me or misinterpreting what they are seeing.
I still have a hard time, because the person closest to me told me I was oblivious to my failings, and actually a lot worse than I realize. The credibility of that person has since been discredited in general, but that doesn’t mean they weren’t correct about me!
but I’m trying to look at myself as objectively as possible now, and be the kind of person that evaluates myself and others based upon reality, as opposed to preconceived or preprogrammed notions.
It can be daunting at times, but it feels great to be back in reality!
Thanks Jay. Your take on this subject is really illuminating and well worth hearing. It's remarkable how the structure of these abusive relationships so predictably and repeatedly leads to recognisable outcomes. Yet the knowledge remains so hidden, and so difficult to discuss openly. What a shame that it's impossible to suggest the covert abuser is a "narcissist" without others so frequently shying away from the discussion---even if (as often happens) you don't end up opening yourself up to accusations of being abusive to the person you call out. Victims exist in an environment that generally dismisses or turns away from the deeply painful damage suffered, while clearing the way for these compulsive liars and emotional vampires to go about their parasitic predations without the negative and restraining consequences they so deeply deserved. I am in my 50s, and only in the last 5 or so years has the true nature of my upbringing and toxic family become horribly clear to me. It is truly awful to finally understand what was 'wrong", why I felt so unsure of everything, of myself. I still feel, at an emotional level, absurdly ashamed to characterise myself in anything but a belittling manner, when cognitively I can truthfully say that i have a huge amount to offer: empathy, passion, intelligence, all wasted for decades in the shadow of a family i was devoted to. What regret I have to think that these ungrateful a**holes, orbiting around the vacuous, moronic "parent". One morning she came and sat on the end of my bed when I was 9 or 10 years old: she was weeping. So I comforted her in her supposed sadness caused by yet another night of screaming and yelling between her, my utterly negligent, unapproachable, enabling codependent father and my mid- and late teenage siblings who may have come home later than expected or some other such typical adolescent behaviour that should have been dealt with in an adult fashion by my parents. But no, the dysfunction was deep and never once was I talked to about it apart from this small memory that morning: shge said "you'll never be like them". Until my sister's even greater toxicity drove me to a late in life realisation, I always felt like an unlikeable loser who was a letdown to the family, that was always so "selfish" if I didn't do 100% of everything they ever asked of me 100% of the time, yet who was labelled selfish if I ever suggested that I needed something from them at all. My mother always "knew" who I was and I had no reason to not believe she did not have some special knowledge of "who" I was. She told me when I was 9 or 10 years old the following: "You know, you WOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE to do wonderful things in your life, but you don't have the confidence---just like me." I cannot remember anything positive, kind or helpful coming from this professional shopper. Utterly useless "parent', totally horrible person, whose 96 years gave nothing, and left the world a lesser place for having lived in it. The anger is passing, the wounds are healing, but the scars will be disfiguring forever. Please keep putting the knowledge of the damage these types of people are responsible for out there, so maybe one day the pathology of narcissism will be given less of a free reign than it currently does. Thet destroy the lives of those closest to them.
Even though I was less exposed to the abuse of a narcissist husband, I began to see what I was bringing to the table as a person with tenuous boundaries and a sense of self dependent on externals. I took care of others needs first. I discovered I surrounded myself with narcissist friends as well. My husband would tell me to my face " you should be better than you are" and I agreed. My grown children tell me they are better off without me.
When i had issues to talk about, my friends compliments felt like invalidation. They really only wanted to talk about themselves.
This is a very important explanation about my entire life... oh, God, what a bad mother we have, my siblings and I... Fortunately there are angels like you in this world...❤
Great stuff. Just found you. Thank you Jay. You get it because you survived it. It's not just coming from theory, but from your experience.
thank you so much doctor for this video .. I am watching this the 2nd time
How the heck do you know all of this? I have always wondered why I had 2 types of lifestyles. One was mine the other was what I was thought of! I never ever ever got it!
Your videos are very helpful dr. Reid. Thank you for sharing 🙏
True. As an adult of narc parents and having been married to an abusive narc who made me out to feel small and selfish, I still have difficulties accepting compliments. I end up responding in an odd way that diffuses the compliment. I also have difficulties taking on leadership roles. In the back of my mind I'm wondering if it's narcissistic for me to receive any such attention. I am learning to identify the truth from the abuse, but the feelings often come back to screw with my head!
It’s starting to make sense. I’m living under the assumption that my parents are right and everyone else is manipulating me or lying. However in reality, my parents werent making observations about my behavior. And other people have more evidence of my behavior to comment on.
The projections and projective identification of the narcissist. Thus the negativistist introject from the narcissist.
The thing that I struggle with is that I have actually become what they thought I was, because I believed them for so long an so deeply. Now my life and who I am actually does mirror what they thought..
Wow! You are really getting this right! ✨ Thank you so much for saying it- I needed to hear it.
Wow! This so good, thank you!
"it's the wider world that knows who the survivor really is"
My identity is still intact. The scapegoat identity is a kelidescope view of yourself. It's severely distorted. We have been told we're are these negative things and we seen ourselves through this lens. But it's untrue. We have not lost anything good about ourselves. And we have real accomplishment. We didn't change. They way we seen ourselves changed
Are you yourself a survivor? I just found your videos and have been binge watching. You are so spot on about the feelings and what we, I, as a survivor experiences and experienced.
Relational impairment is serious. Relationships or lack of, affect health.
Thank you! So very helpful! Can't express enough just how helpful this video is to me in the recovery process.
Thank you so much for sharing this information!❤ It is very helpful.
Thank you. Very useful. These manifestations and those in other videos, I have often wondered about. Thank you also for the suggestion of breathing as an interruption. Your videos are so valuable; it seems to me you are at the forefront of research, experiential and clinical knowledge, therapeutic practice and healing of this condition. All the best. ❤🎉🎉
Thank you so much for this video
This is so so helpful, thank you!
But you are so very important to others outside your mother:family. Just remember that!
After listening to this video and reading the blog post, I concluded I made the opposite choice: to sacrifice the safety of a home where I was deemed "retarded" and instead keep feeling good about myself and my very real 120 IQ (yet guilty for underachieving financially and for emotionally "abandoning" the family). I have developed, should I say, an inverted impostor syndrome: when praised, I second-guess for hidden motives.
I really love this video
Trauma stays forever..:-(
This is so helpful 💗 thank u for your videos
Thanks for the videos.
Thank you for brilliant food for thought.
This dynamic is magnified when the family is a religious family. There are continual messages expressed and endorsed by the religious community of being sinful. Sinful at your core.
Wow...I feel like a gray cloud just got off me. I think I should contact you.
Your so appreciated ❤
Thank you!
Great video! Thank you.
I wonder if this is why I have a tendency to test someone who seems to like me, by revealing my flaws or controversial views and seeing whether they still accept me as I truly am, nothing held back or covered up.
This is why Jesus said not to judge...either others but also ourselves. We can acknowledge our pure strength in just enduring/ surviving this & many other forms of inadequate support in our lives. i constantly look for ways to put in a nutshell for explaining the utter aloness of being my parent's parent, from a young age. Inadequate support is one way to put it into words.
Almost everyone around me had me only for the role of a bad person in any or even every way, so I have not been given the option in my whole life to be taken as somethg else; does couple of people that view me as good where mostly away from everyone else around me & they lasted short. If I start to get other options is in exchange for thgs that go beyond & I shouldn't give up, since I didn't create my situations, neither had the ability to avoid them.
Hopefull Thanks
& besides the curiosity ti give the opportunity for YOU to show them who they r. When they r being good to u, like they r to many, they came with good conception of u. They don't cane with a bad conception already. Is that they force in their heads that u r good without the experience of ur good deeds, but they do not came with their heads with no GOOD OPTIONS FOR U. Meaning they don't came to u without good options to place u in opinions.
Not to change the subject, but 'heavy air' is a term used when playing the French horn.
I know the real you! That was used a few times.
They try to talk to you as if they think they are God and they know everything!
The importance of being Ernest
I’m curious Dr. Reid, is imposter syndrome caused by narcissistic abuse or are there other equally significant causes?
There seems to be such an abundance of it, especially amongst women.
Being a scapegoat is like assumed guilty until proven innocent. Miserable and confusing as hell.
I bet this would ring a few carillons Jay, they force you to live like a savage while abusively ingratiating themselves on the approval of all others they abuse (these are also survivors, they also get gutted). Obviously not meditating on the long term implications of this (ofc = their extremely vile criminally insane need for 'supply') & their extremely disturbing psychopathic evasion, when you become a n extremely high performing savage & they find out they collapse & never regain their parasitic position on their former hosts ever again (unless the hosts are also ill and many are (commodities in huge chunks of the economy).
Recovery never happens. What does "recovery" really mean?
Realize that they are in fact defective first. Secondly you are being attacked by emotional inner hidden angers.
My mom has been so harmful in my life that it had been better not to be born at all.
Sorry clicked accidently on dislike 😔 Wanted to click on your channel
I see that most of you’re speaking is directed at some sort of reading material,,, very little eye contact,,,it makes me doubt you’re knowledge,,,,and credibility
What a silly comment.
Obviously you’re either an actress who is only ever delivering highly rehearsed lines where you can look at the viewer at all times, or you have never had to make a 15 minute video where what you said, actually mattered, and you wanted to make sure you covered it all, without spending days making a single video. Your comment makes MOST, doubt YOUR credibility, I suspect.
He is probably reading something he wrote. It would be hard to stay on topic and remenber everything without notes . Most people who give speeches or lectures use notes
Honestly, what a nasty comment! And foolish! If it's good advice, it's good advice!
And what is up with ,,, all,,, the, ,,, ,,, ,commas?
And it would be "your", not "you're." Really? And you are talking about someone else's education?