Great content, Cal. Thanks for this. BTW, I'm amused (and appreciate the effort) at how, despite your anti-social media posture, you're adapting to RUclips culture. The blank contour on your thumbnail proves it all. 🙌
Oooo I've been listening to old podcasts (catching up) for the last year and this is the first newer one I've popped into and the audio has improved so much! The volume used to be super quiet and it's much better now - thank you!
Hi Cal, thank you for your contributions. Can you talk briefly about how your time management has worked for you? Do you feel like you have enough time in your days? Perhaps you feel like you have extra or free time? Or, maybe even fully optimized, there is never enough time, and always sacrifices? Thank you.
36:29 Empathy to Valeria for the dilemma. Chiming in here with my POV on assessing and navigating the situation. For context, I do not share the same situation nor have I experienced it; the following is just based on my thoughts and comes after hearing Cal read the abbreviated message and his subsequent reply. I subscribe to the notion of Attachment (as in "Attachment Theory") and hence I do sense that being with one's children especially, but not limited to, their early stages of life is paramount. I would place this as priority. The general sense seems to be that the period up to 5 years of age is crucial, though I take the perspective that Attachment is cradle to grave. I refer to Esther Perel sharing with Brene Brown her anecdote of experiencing her adult sons in her lap cosying with her when they visited her; of the joy and warmth she felt in that moment. I agree with Cal in that this does not need to translate in being present 24/7 physically. Rather the emphasis here is the bond and provision of a consistent sense of emotional safety and belonging. That our children know in them that if they call, we will respond. We will be curious for them. That their experiences and emotions are seen. That our care for them is unconditional. The crucial thing is the emotional presence and availability as opposed to mere physical presence and availability. The point being that we can be physically present but not emotionally available. If this is something one struggles with, there is no shame in seeking professional help (e.g. psychotherapy with a professional whose practice is grounded in Attachment Theory) as not everyone of us has had the fortune of life circumstances that have modelled these relational and parenting skills to us. From setting parenting as the priority, our career track is then navigated with this in mind. Without more details about the corporate law position, there are some theoreticals I have make. IMO if it is possible to navigate towards and negotiate a different work arrangement with the firm so as to reduce time spent at work, and thus possibly spend more time with our children, that may be a viable option. While Cal may be correct about the prospects of being a corporate lawyer, there may still be an opportunity to accrue "career capital", to be "so good they cannot ignore you", to be a linchpin (see Seth Godin) in service of implementing a work schedule more favourable and desirable. On pursuing Psychology. studies in Psychology, it's an endeavour perhaps worth pursuing if it is something that fulfils you, something that enlivens you. Being an emotionally available parent also looks like being available to ourselves and our emotional needs. We can nourish and feed these emotional needs by engaging with things that grow us. I don't think that our children will resent us if they see and feel we are buoyant with fulfilment in lieu of some degree of lesser time together, again the emphasis here being that a culture and dynamic of relational safety has to be in place and that our children feel that if they need us, we will respond and come to them. Another way to consider whether to move towards studies in Psychology is to deduce what is the crux of why we feel compelled towards it. IMO often it is not the thing itself only that we find compelling. Perhaps we enjoy tennis because yes we enjoy the sport, but also we enjoy the joy of playing with someone, that we enjoy connecting with others. Perhaps if we deduce what is it that we want, we can find other equally compelling or at least stop gap ways to feed that which we want. So if we can't play tennis because we got injured, perhaps we can join a book club and find connection there too. Maybe it's not quite the same, but at least it's something, something we can do to continue to engage with our emotional needs while we recover. Hope the above is helpful to Valeria or anyone who chooses to engage with this. Happy New Year to all. Wishing everyone and theirs good health in the new year!
wow! you're helping Prof. Cal correct his mistakes. wow wow wow! How long did it take you to reach transcendence? you are definitely living in that Maslow's penthouse. Mortals like us can only admire you from our basement.
@@medman195 We very much admire and respect Cal or we wouldn't be here watching his videos. I am pretty sure Cal is not humiliated by a few random strangers having a little fun at his expense. It is admirable that you would stick up for him, but honestly, the remarks are all in fun and no harm done.
Your podcasts are so long. How do we listen to these efficiently. I like podcasts they are 20-40 min long, get to the point, and don’t mix a broad range of topics.
It's essentially a Q&A podcast so naturally it would have a range of topics. I do appreciate them putting timestamps on the questions/topics so I just skip to parts I'm really interested in. You don't have to listen to the entire episode. Maybe you can try that.
The whole intro is hysterical. Nerds for the win. 🙌🏻
Great content, Cal. Thanks for this.
BTW, I'm amused (and appreciate the effort) at how, despite your anti-social media posture, you're adapting to RUclips culture. The blank contour on your thumbnail proves it all. 🙌
This is gold. Each one of these sections.
Oooo I've been listening to old podcasts (catching up) for the last year and this is the first newer one I've popped into and the audio has improved so much! The volume used to be super quiet and it's much better now - thank you!
We love you so much, you're my role model.
Hi Cal, thank you for your contributions. Can you talk briefly about how your time management has worked for you? Do you feel like you have enough time in your days? Perhaps you feel like you have extra or free time? Or, maybe even fully optimized, there is never enough time, and always sacrifices? Thank you.
Thr best podcast out there ❤ thank you Cal
Honestly you are so great!
Invaluable advice. Go Team! 😃👍👏
👍🏾✌🏾
Happy New Year...🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉
36:29 Empathy to Valeria for the dilemma. Chiming in here with my POV on assessing and navigating the situation. For context, I do not share the same situation nor have I experienced it; the following is just based on my thoughts and comes after hearing Cal read the abbreviated message and his subsequent reply.
I subscribe to the notion of Attachment (as in "Attachment Theory") and hence I do sense that being with one's children especially, but not limited to, their early stages of life is paramount. I would place this as priority. The general sense seems to be that the period up to 5 years of age is crucial, though I take the perspective that Attachment is cradle to grave. I refer to Esther Perel sharing with Brene Brown her anecdote of experiencing her adult sons in her lap cosying with her when they visited her; of the joy and warmth she felt in that moment.
I agree with Cal in that this does not need to translate in being present 24/7 physically. Rather the emphasis here is the bond and provision of a consistent sense of emotional safety and belonging. That our children know in them that if they call, we will respond. We will be curious for them. That their experiences and emotions are seen. That our care for them is unconditional. The crucial thing is the emotional presence and availability as opposed to mere physical presence and availability. The point being that we can be physically present but not emotionally available. If this is something one struggles with, there is no shame in seeking professional help (e.g. psychotherapy with a professional whose practice is grounded in Attachment Theory) as not everyone of us has had the fortune of life circumstances that have modelled these relational and parenting skills to us.
From setting parenting as the priority, our career track is then navigated with this in mind. Without more details about the corporate law position, there are some theoreticals I have make. IMO if it is possible to navigate towards and negotiate a different work arrangement with the firm so as to reduce time spent at work, and thus possibly spend more time with our children, that may be a viable option. While Cal may be correct about the prospects of being a corporate lawyer, there may still be an opportunity to accrue "career capital", to be "so good they cannot ignore you", to be a linchpin (see Seth Godin) in service of implementing a work schedule more favourable and desirable.
On pursuing Psychology. studies in Psychology, it's an endeavour perhaps worth pursuing if it is something that fulfils you, something that enlivens you. Being an emotionally available parent also looks like being available to ourselves and our emotional needs. We can nourish and feed these emotional needs by engaging with things that grow us. I don't think that our children will resent us if they see and feel we are buoyant with fulfilment in lieu of some degree of lesser time together, again the emphasis here being that a culture and dynamic of relational safety has to be in place and that our children feel that if they need us, we will respond and come to them.
Another way to consider whether to move towards studies in Psychology is to deduce what is the crux of why we feel compelled towards it. IMO often it is not the thing itself only that we find compelling. Perhaps we enjoy tennis because yes we enjoy the sport, but also we enjoy the joy of playing with someone, that we enjoy connecting with others. Perhaps if we deduce what is it that we want, we can find other equally compelling or at least stop gap ways to feed that which we want. So if we can't play tennis because we got injured, perhaps we can join a book club and find connection there too. Maybe it's not quite the same, but at least it's something, something we can do to continue to engage with our emotional needs while we recover.
Hope the above is helpful to Valeria or anyone who chooses to engage with this. Happy New Year to all. Wishing everyone and theirs good health in the new year!
Could you give an example of a key stone habit for constitution
23:53 peak goofy cal 😂
13:01
I can relate 😸
Misspellings = engagement = secret algo hack
Regarding the set of skills, is it a good idea to ask ChatGPT about specific field in a specific location with specific skills I need
0% motivation
100% discipline
Jessie dressed up as the Hogfather (Terry Pratchett's book, in the Discworld series where Death has to take up Santa's job).
skkkeeelllleeetttooonnn
Is celebration a new bucket? I thought there was only four buckets;
Craft
Constitution
Community
Contemplation
that´s the way he adresses leisure free time
Does that include the discipline to spell "building" properly?
😁
Dang, he corrected it.
wow! you're helping Prof. Cal correct his mistakes. wow wow wow! How long did it take you to reach transcendence? you are definitely living in that Maslow's penthouse. Mortals like us can only admire you from our basement.
@@medman195 We very much admire and respect Cal or we wouldn't be here watching his videos. I am pretty sure Cal is not humiliated by a few random strangers having a little fun at his expense. It is admirable that you would stick up for him, but honestly, the remarks are all in fun and no harm done.
Wow you changed your shirt
The thumbnail has a typo - it says “buidling” rather than building.
its s misnomer often used for building, be on tech and lockchain twitter , you will know :P
Your podcasts are so long. How do we listen to these efficiently. I like podcasts they are 20-40 min long, get to the point, and don’t mix a broad range of topics.
It's essentially a Q&A podcast so naturally it would have a range of topics. I do appreciate them putting timestamps on the questions/topics so I just skip to parts I'm really interested in. You don't have to listen to the entire episode. Maybe you can try that.
13:08 lazy engineer//do you have ADHD? Waiting to the last minute to finish something might be a tell
Don't be so harsh, please.
@@weston.weston It was a serious question.
I didn't get the skeleton joke
It's another level of Eng. Listen to it again and "study very carefully" - Cal
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Skeleton 💀
skeleton
"Dad Joke Minimalism" by Cal Newport
"A World Without Dad Jokes" by Cal Newport
"Dad Jokes: So Good They Can't Ignore You" by Cal Newport
Jesse moved :-D ... Jokes at a different level .. plus Lazy engineer is ashamed and now crying :D
Good old buidling