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  • Condescend or Patronize - Condescend Meaning - Patronise Examples - Condescend vs Patronise
    What is the difference in meaning of condescending and patronizing?
    When someone is condescending this means they are assuming a tone of superiority
    When someone is patronizing it means they are speaking to someone as if they were stupid or unimportant.
    This video will explain to you, the meanings of the words condescending and patronise. If somebody condescends to you, they are trying to be superior. Haughty. They think that they are better than you and they are looking down on you. If someone is patronizes. They are treating you like a child, like they were your parents. So if somebody is patronising or condescending, it's not very nice. In both contexts they are treating you as inferior. They think that they are better than you. The video has examples of condescend in a sentence, and there are also sentences using patronise. By watching this video you will understand the difference in meaning between condescend and patronise. You will understand how to use condescend and how to use patronize. Then you will always be able to use them correctly.
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  • @RK831
    @RK831 4 года назад +64

    I have Asperger's Syndrome and quite often when people patronize me, I honestly thought they are being kind to me! For me, the verb patronize was the hardest verb to understand. In my younger days, my pocket dictionary defined patronize as this: to treat in a condescending way. What does it mean to condescend? Pocket dictionary: "Condescend: be gracious about doing a thing beneath one's dignity, or to deal with others haughtily." What does it mean, "beneath one's dignity?" What does haughty mean? Pocket dictionary: "Haughty: scornfully proud." What does scorn mean? Pocket dictionary: "Scorn: disdain, contempt." What do those mean? Pocket dictionary: "Disdain: scorn." (Circular definition--I don't get it!) Pocket dictionary: "Contempt: scorn, disgrace." (Again, circular definition.) Throughout most of my life I had trouble to fully understand what is meant when somebody says, "Don't patronize me!" I first heard this expression when I was 16, and up until now (51 years old), I didn't fully understand what is meant by that. I think I have a better understanding of it now, and hopefully after 35 years I hope I finally got it.

    • @TheOneTheyCallDean
      @TheOneTheyCallDean Год назад +14

      Same my friend.
      I feel that for many of us, patronizing/being fake, or being condescending to another human being is unquestionable/unconscionable. It's so far removed from our innate nature to be true to another human being, that those terms and definitions don't even make sense, and it's actually abhorrent to even consider that there's even the possibility of thinking or acting in such ridiculous manner that doesn't suit the integrity and value/purpose of the truth and honor of life.
      Some people genuinely care and want to relate to one another, and you will always have those who misinterpret those intentions and can hardly seem to believe that there are such kind people who want the best for one another and who want to be held accountable to those standards because that's what their lives have called to them, to be.
      Beautiful people do exist in the world, and I'm sure you even seen some of them on RUclips, gifting, and being kind to one another. There will always be goodness in the world, and one day, it will be the standard in which our society is engaged in cultivating, because kindness and support is beautiful and I believe it's what we're all called to do in our own times and in our own journeys. Blessings beautiful brother. 😊🌎✨

    • @dsomogyi1
      @dsomogyi1 11 месяцев назад

      😂

    • @pogofuzz
      @pogofuzz 10 месяцев назад +1

      Sometimes I find a list of synonyms more helpful than the dictionary because of this loop. Why does English have so many words?!? Does someone use them all? 😂
      I find all these terms confusing. I am trying to identify what my body sensed during an appt with a doctor because my brain can’t seem to identify the facial expression.
      It made me think of an app idea that has example gifs of every emotion. It could really be an assist for neurodivergent people learning how to be discerning of the subtleties of facial cues. I don’t know anything about making apps. I have a list of app ideas I won’t ever make. I wonder why I keep a list? Ahhh 😱

    • @AntiSleep365
      @AntiSleep365 3 месяца назад

      @@TheOneTheyCallDean Wishful thinking, and yea a thin line between (goodness and impressions) what percentage do good just bc someone’s watching.. You can definitely tell by tone and their “over-doing”

  • @giliolarossini6937
    @giliolarossini6937 4 года назад +8

    It is an annoying and sometimes offensive attitude. A person's dignity should never be offended but we all know that there are people who have such a nature . Many thanks

  • @ised-5239
    @ised-5239 2 года назад +9

    And for the patronize, it is nothing to do with lowering your status but the person being patronized should feel that his/her status being lowered.

  • @namejantechao3207
    @namejantechao3207 Год назад +5

    I could finally understand the subtle difference between these two words. I was searching for hours haha. Thank you so much, sir.

  • @RainVine
    @RainVine 3 года назад +5

    I love that old looking door and room, pretty rustic

  • @cheranilango1478
    @cheranilango1478 2 года назад +10

    This is perhaps the best comparison that I've come across. Simplified with examples, solid and informative. You sound like a veteran professional educator. God bless you, Sir.🙏

  • @abdelmalekboutaj6611
    @abdelmalekboutaj6611 3 месяца назад

    I am still in need of more clarification to grasp the meaning of these complicated words. Thank you my dear teacher.

  • @theoddgayout
    @theoddgayout 4 года назад +30

    Omg this guy is adorable! I wanna give him a big ol hug! 🥰🤗 Also thank you for this! 😁

  • @MasambaKalaba-xo4oi
    @MasambaKalaba-xo4oi 8 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks a lot about teaching us this great and amazing verb which is patronize i heard about it but i couldn't fathom

  • @ahmedsiddique8020
    @ahmedsiddique8020 2 года назад +1

    Mind blowing you are! I been trying to figure out the difference and this is the best example I found.

  • @Triumphant712
    @Triumphant712 3 года назад +1

    This was good and informative. This is probably the clearest example of what these terms mean. Thank you!

  • @DarpanTikiya
    @DarpanTikiya 2 года назад +1

    Wonderful. Exactly what I was looking for. Thanks so much for this

  • @parefkidmtanch
    @parefkidmtanch 2 года назад +2

    This was so well-explained! Thank you so much!

  • @ViacheslavKr
    @ViacheslavKr 4 года назад +2

    Hi, Alex! You have your niche in English teaching. Simple and helpful. So many other teachers of English but I often return to your lessons.

  • @madeinmadein1824
    @madeinmadein1824 4 года назад +1

    Thanks for this video i really requested this video last month so thanks again for being responsive with us

  • @husseneluis9163
    @husseneluis9163 2 года назад +1

    I love the way his voice sounds and how he talks

  • @madeleinev20
    @madeleinev20 4 года назад

    Thank you very much for your helpful videos! ❤️🌷

  • @indirajois4246
    @indirajois4246 2 года назад +1

    This is wonderful explanation. Thoroughly enjoyed it.

  • @kukyochrymowicz4577
    @kukyochrymowicz4577 Год назад +1

    I love the way you explained everything
    Thanks i keep leaning a lot from you

  • @thayanhtienganhvacaccon969
    @thayanhtienganhvacaccon969 2 года назад

    Thanks a million
    the video is really informative and I love your presentation as well

  • @hableevy
    @hableevy 21 день назад

    Thank you. I was wanting more insight into "patronize" and this helped very much. I will be visiting your channel a lot because I would like develop a finer granularity in the words I use. If I may say, I think of a "reprimand" as coming from a person with more authority. As you say, it can be official, as a letter from an employer. But a teacher or a parent can reprimand a child, but a child can never to said to reprimand an adult, however much they feel they have the authority as a human to do so. So yes, the teacher or parent has the "official" license to reprimand, but I think of it as coming from authority.

  • @reypolice5231
    @reypolice5231 7 месяцев назад

    Very helpful to see these examples. It helps to explain, anti social or narcissistic behavior sometimes.

  • @daumantsbrunins
    @daumantsbrunins Год назад +1

    English is third language i speak but i think i got the sense of meaning.
    Thank you❤

  • @nicehiuman
    @nicehiuman Год назад +3

    I was searching for definitions, usage and comparisons of these two words on the internet for like an hour. No clear answer found.
    And then I came across your video and this 6-minute video solved all of the questions I 've had in my mind. Brilliant. Thanks very much!!! 😀

  • @syedfahadsohail4018
    @syedfahadsohail4018 3 года назад +1

    That's really helpful..thank you!

  • @SakuraHougetsu28
    @SakuraHougetsu28 7 месяцев назад +1

    Talk about good teachers, your explanations are so clear, it's amazing how you are able to explain very complex vocabulary by using such a easy vocab and i always get your videos :, keep it up.

  • @kringekitty
    @kringekitty Год назад

    Thanks, explination was easy to understand. Also nice glasses ❤

  • @WalterGeorge2000
    @WalterGeorge2000 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks for this great explanation teacher ❤

  • @UjjwalKumar-sp2ch
    @UjjwalKumar-sp2ch 8 месяцев назад

    Thanks a lot for this comparison.
    As a teacher, you patronize our knowledge.

  • @kholaaagain
    @kholaaagain 2 года назад +1

    This is very helpful information. I was thinking of a term for how someone made me feel about a career move I am making. They definitely did patronize me, now that I understand the term.

  • @kemet1094
    @kemet1094 2 года назад +1

    The colonization exemple was quite hilarious and relatable 😆

  • @peoplestationhifi7617
    @peoplestationhifi7617 4 месяца назад

    I love this you answered my question thanks

  • @justgettingbysolo8966
    @justgettingbysolo8966 2 года назад +1

    you got the best explanation for these two words you got my thumb up.

    • @iswearenglish
      @iswearenglish  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for your thumbs up and for your kind words

  • @indiangirl8383
    @indiangirl8383 3 года назад

    Thanks so much, sir !

  • @surajdhakad5897
    @surajdhakad5897 Год назад +2

    Hello sir
    You are phenomenal in the way you explain complex vocabulary in very simple language
    I really appreciate your job❤
    Thank you 🙂

  • @willparry
    @willparry 2 года назад

    Not something I'd normally watch, but what a lovely little video, good for you!

    • @iswearenglish
      @iswearenglish  2 года назад +1

      I am glad you liked it. Thanks for watching

  • @rafinplayz323
    @rafinplayz323 Год назад +1

    I really like your genial manner of teaching us. Keep teaching

  • @linwoodkent1246
    @linwoodkent1246 Год назад

    I've had a hard time understanding these two words for a long time. I always understood patronizing a store as a patron, but that's all. When I heard someone say to someone else "don't patronize me", I just couldn't equate that with shopping in a store so I finally quit trying to understand the term . No one ever said to me "don't patronize me", and thank God or I wouldn't have known what I did.
    I did later in life understand "condescend" in bible class when the teacher said Jesus "condescended" when He layed down His Glory in Heaven, and came to Earth as a mere man, albeit, He was still God, but we could only see His Glory in His teachings, and actions. Thanks to your vivid examples I do now understand "patronize." So Jesus taught me "condescend, and you taught me "patronize.
    Thank you Teacher, I think you must have been a University Professor or Teacher for a long time, and now you are retired, and do youtube for the love of teaching. We love you for being here for us!!!

  • @JessAbstract
    @JessAbstract Год назад +2

    Currently having flashbacks at all those times I’ve been patronized

  • @MrKritharth
    @MrKritharth 3 года назад

    Waoo..too good...I love ur explanation..

  • @sshh778
    @sshh778 3 года назад +1

    Best on the internet!

  • @elminabasolo3264
    @elminabasolo3264 Год назад

    Thank you!

  • @engadge
    @engadge 2 года назад

    I really loved that door behind you

  • @Youssef-zf2fe
    @Youssef-zf2fe Месяц назад

    thank you very much

  • @sooryanarayanan4273
    @sooryanarayanan4273 2 года назад

    Superb, thanks from India

  • @vasantkadre1315
    @vasantkadre1315 3 года назад

    Sir your the greatest 🙆🏻‍♂️

  • @Mew4U
    @Mew4U Год назад

    This is very helpful, thank you.

  • @GutsAndGlory734
    @GutsAndGlory734 3 года назад +4

    Synonyms for condescending: antagonize, obliterate, instigate, dominant, figurative and controlling, imposing, instating, assertive?

    • @user-gq8ht4nw7i
      @user-gq8ht4nw7i 3 года назад

      Obliterate doesn’t make sense as a synonym

  • @thebooksays8402
    @thebooksays8402 2 года назад

    Good job 👏

  • @ShubhamKumar-ld9zf
    @ShubhamKumar-ld9zf 3 года назад +22

    Condescend: to do something below your dignity and to let everyone know it is below your dignity
    (doing it physically)
    Patronize: seemingly be very nice but showing again that you are much more superior
    (verbally)

  • @osamahabbas3443
    @osamahabbas3443 4 года назад +1

    thanks

  • @maureenbennett809
    @maureenbennett809 5 месяцев назад

    Great!😁

  • @surfingtheinternet8907
    @surfingtheinternet8907 8 месяцев назад

    Thanks

  • @juliegoodall3860
    @juliegoodall3860 2 года назад

    I like ur videos good teacher

  • @geoffreythomas2938
    @geoffreythomas2938 Год назад +1

    Condescending sounds like bullying. tactics. Understanding it can be examples of the early warning signs of bullying to come.

  • @englishwithbatayneh5908
    @englishwithbatayneh5908 4 года назад +2

    . Sir We are in debt to u . That was impressive. Can you make a video about the word puny

  • @DJ-gl8rw
    @DJ-gl8rw 4 года назад +8

    Brevity rules. Brevity works. Brevity is super-cool.Thank you, Sir.
    I also like the word "pontificate".
    Sometimes I use it jokingly or teasingly, and sometimes straight up.
    e.g. Bill Gates is a brilliant man, but he has no need to pontificate, lecture, or tell long-winded stories.
    Could you please tell us more about this word and how to make good use of it?

    • @Cats2Fat
      @Cats2Fat 4 года назад +1

      D J pontificate is very formal and often used in a sarcastic way. It used to refer to the way the Pope speaks.

  • @obaid7196
    @obaid7196 2 года назад

    Thank you Sir

  • @bluestar.8938
    @bluestar.8938 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you, teacher Alex : )

  • @shrutivishwakarma6600
    @shrutivishwakarma6600 3 года назад +1

    I love this. It was very helpful. You're very cute sir. Hugss

  • @fbc123me5
    @fbc123me5 Год назад +1

    I have a few questions:
    Are Condescending and Patronizing broad terms referring to any such rude, disrespectful or offensive conduct where someone behaves superior to another ?
    When a person is condescending, are they always aware they are condescending ? Or, is a condescending person behaving in that way due to feeling uncomfortable dealing with someone they believe is inferior ?
    At 3:12, the man in this video gave an example of patronizing behavior. He said "This is a very lovely car. You do have cars in your country don't you ?" Would the person who would say something like that, be so naive to think there are no cars in impoverished countries ? Or, would the person be deliberately insulting the owner of the car
    ?
    Would bullying be an example of condescending or patronizing behavior ? The bully behaves in such a way to feel superior to the victim.

  • @metalman4393
    @metalman4393 2 года назад +1

    I was writing a scene from my story where a father is praising his son to the latters fiancé, saying how proud he is of the man his son has become. The son says, "Oh come now father, she hungers for me already, you needn't butter me up further." He says it in a way that sounds like he's being modest, yet at the same playfully-arrogant towards his fiancé, who perceives it as 'Come on dad, enough of the corny sales pitch, she's bought me already. It's not like she's going to change her mind now.' Can that be considered patronizing? seems like it to me, but I'd like it if others can give their opinion. Thank you for the video sir!

    • @iswearenglish
      @iswearenglish  2 года назад

      Yes, I think the son's position could be considered as patronizing both to his father and to his fiancee

  • @kailashsharma107
    @kailashsharma107 4 года назад

    How to use condescend in negative sentences and what does it mean when used with 'not'

  • @kimseger5794
    @kimseger5794 3 года назад

    you stoped at formality ill have to look it up thank u

  • @Compuscience-Python-Prog-Exps
    @Compuscience-Python-Prog-Exps 5 месяцев назад

    I was thought to be inferior to others. No matter how you look at these words.

  • @brd8764
    @brd8764 3 года назад +1

    It is about levels of behaviour. It is behaviour. It is about kind of behaviour.
    Behaviour is trait. Behaviour varies. Behaviour is seen.
    Behaviour says. Behaviour talks. Behaviour shows.

  • @MoneyIdeas603
    @MoneyIdeas603 4 года назад

    Hi ,am meble What's the difference between patronize and deign

  • @AMan-nx3gk
    @AMan-nx3gk 2 года назад

    I love your bedroom/bathroom lol

  • @angelita1900
    @angelita1900 3 года назад

    THANK YOU! Now I don’t have to watch anymore videos on theses two words🥰

  • @TheWilsonwslee
    @TheWilsonwslee 10 месяцев назад

    Cannot find that word you mentioned “dein “ thanks.

  • @mbongeninzimande2111
    @mbongeninzimande2111 Год назад

    He is an owner of a mansion, and he condescended to sleep in my two room house because it was raining at 80% the whole night. He kept patronizing me, saying I have a beautiful furniture.

  • @Spokenenglish12
    @Spokenenglish12 4 года назад

    Great lesson!

  • @edesir
    @edesir Год назад

    I feel the song "Feed The World" lyrics to be very condescending.

  • @BrandonKratz-ey5qd
    @BrandonKratz-ey5qd 4 месяца назад

    You make me want to look up samuel johnson quotes

  • @gregallenphoto
    @gregallenphoto 2 года назад

    Excellent. Clear and conscise. This ol' American can learn. Thank you kindly for the lesson.

  • @alumi9818
    @alumi9818 4 года назад

    First Doctor often was patronising towards his companions. It can especially be seen in case of Dodo and Chestenut, who unlike Doctor condescends to the travelling in space and time, which he considers utterly pointless.

  • @brd8764
    @brd8764 2 года назад

    Maximum learning.

  • @mariecmcleodsterk3402
    @mariecmcleodsterk3402 Год назад

    What does have to do with the human ego?

  • @johnrainsman6650
    @johnrainsman6650 9 месяцев назад +1

    Ugh, I hate being patronized. The chef at my job was kind of hard on me one day, and then the next day, said, "How are you?" See, previously, she'd taken me to my boss's office--with the both of them--and told me that I've been touching my coworkers too much ( *_casually,_* on arms or shoulders). I was always very outgoing and tactile at work. She told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment. That I shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school or tell my stories, because they may be inappropriate or upsetting (can't remember her exact words) to others. Now yeah, I pretty much didn't have a filter, but I don't think I said anything *_horrible._* I only meant to have fun with my crew. I really didn't get specific information from the chef about subjects and references. She likes that I'm outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits. And again, that I shouldn't touch anyone without consent. And then the next day, she asked how I was. Like, WTF? What did she think? That I was doing well after she practically shamed me? If I didn't know any better, I'd say she was patronizing me--or just plain nuts. I should've said, "Uh....I'm sorry, I'm genuinely curious to ask, why would you ask me how I am after yesterday?" I'd kiII to know her point of view.
    Also, for the record, I own my mistakes at work, so I don't want anyone twisting it around into I'm making the chef the only bad guy. I didn't _mean_ any harm or discomfort. If I had known anyone would feel either, (though technically no one showed signs), I would _not_ have touched them. I am not a creep. But the chef made me feel like one. See, she shouldn’t have been so firm and in my face. A gentle, respectful talk for a couple minutes was all I needed. She shouldn’t have restricted me to handshakes only. Casual taps or pats or whatever are actually ok, as long as you don’t overdo them and it’s to friendly people who clearly enjoy you. I always thought it was perfectly innocent and natural, and I still do, in certain ways. Happens a lot at the bar parties I go to-total strangers. Besides, two middle-aged workers from the dining department have done it to me; I don’t condemn it. Also, the chef did not have to ask my boss if there was anything she wanted to add. How did she think that would make me feel? Not disrespected and like a criminal? HeII, my boss shouldn’t have been in the room at all; I deserved some dignity and comfort. I felt horrible. But of course, whenever I expressed this side on other videos, people would continue faulting me or saying the chef was right. To them, it was this side over the other. I felt like no one understood me or the gray areas I still think exist.

  • @RichardGardee-eq9qi
    @RichardGardee-eq9qi 5 месяцев назад

    I can appreciate, your CONDISEND, ing gesture 😮😊 please don't patronizeE....😮😊

  • @nuclearrambo3167
    @nuclearrambo3167 Год назад

    did you used F in meme meaning of it ? sir

  • @Spokenenglish12
    @Spokenenglish12 4 года назад +1

    Can you explain the word 'burden sharing' ? I heard this word in the news

    • @DJ-gl8rw
      @DJ-gl8rw 4 года назад +1

      Susanta Poddar
      Yes, and also:
      ▪share burden of proof
      ▪impose a burden of proof on somebody.
      ▪hold burden of proof
      ▪bear the burden of proof
      ▪discharge a burden of proof

    • @Spokenenglish12
      @Spokenenglish12 4 года назад

      I also heard hold-on security. I did not understand what that meant in context with Ukraine isuue. I was listening to American English. Thank you for providing so many idioms

    • @DJ-gl8rw
      @DJ-gl8rw 4 года назад

      Susanta Poddar
      They are law terms, I guess. I'd like to know how to interpret them properly as the legal terms, and if we can use them "outside the court" as well.
      "Hold-on security" is interesting too.
      As is "get/have a hold on sb",
      "The murderer had a hold on his victim".(❗),
      and "get a hold on sth" = "have charge of sth"?
      Best

  • @RichardGardee-eq9qi
    @RichardGardee-eq9qi 5 месяцев назад

    Respect for ELDER.... 2024 KIND ness😮😊❤

  • @excaliber8713
    @excaliber8713 9 месяцев назад

    Patronizing is when they talk to you like you’re not intelligent , like a child . Condescending is when they talk to you like they are better than

  • @enriquesalas6314
    @enriquesalas6314 Месяц назад

    Sir, what would you say is the opposite word of PATRONIZING?

  • @dianacassinelli3600
    @dianacassinelli3600 3 года назад

    I wish he was ,my English teacher

  • @sureyoudhaveta
    @sureyoudhaveta 4 года назад

    Is Saul Berenson still alive?!!

  • @raadalhashimi1904
    @raadalhashimi1904 29 дней назад

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @reidselby2569
    @reidselby2569 2 года назад

    I still don't understand.

  • @calixtohortua5370
    @calixtohortua5370 4 года назад

    thank you, are you british?

  • @countbeauty5222
    @countbeauty5222 4 года назад

    Nobody had condescended to look for the spelling of 'deign' up and to left a comment before me. Yeah, it is with g, deign to do, now everybody can read my comment and compare it with your spelling.

  • @Compuscience-Python-Prog-Exps
    @Compuscience-Python-Prog-Exps 5 месяцев назад

    I sure know what these words mean. I've had to live them without choice.
    To be honest, I hate these words, once used against me.

  • @paulgibbons2320
    @paulgibbons2320 14 дней назад

    Cuts both ways.

  • @michiecortez1894
    @michiecortez1894 2 года назад

    ppl are this with me when they decided to talk to me smh

    • @iswearenglish
      @iswearenglish  2 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/RH3sZ4B9ZP4/видео.html at 7 mins 25 secs

  • @aminulhaque3199
    @aminulhaque3199 6 месяцев назад

    Please make me calm by solving this confusional word'' conviction vs convicted " i don’t know whether my comment you will see or not😊but I've put a comment to you

  • @muhammadaboulnaga4220
    @muhammadaboulnaga4220 2 года назад

    Could condescending be considered as a hypocritic course of action.
    i mean this is not the real image of the person. it's another way of setteling for less at the expense of your dignity.

    • @iswearenglish
      @iswearenglish  2 года назад +1

      Could condescending be considered as a hypocriticAL course of action. ... yes it could
      i mean this is not the real image of the person. it's another way of setteling for less at the expense of your dignity.
      No Mistakes

  • @poincareconjecture5651
    @poincareconjecture5651 Год назад

    Lol...car comment:)

  • @stevethea5250
    @stevethea5250 Год назад

    so patronize is tones of pitying

  • @AndreaVitiani
    @AndreaVitiani 2 года назад +1

    This man is so cute and intelligent for his level. Keep doing things this way and one day you will reach my level
    Is this patronizing?

  • @Shazali-ke4sd
    @Shazali-ke4sd 6 месяцев назад

    The fall of an angel for these sins...