I went through an eating disorder after having been raped. I went the complete opposite direction and lost 15 Kilo (around 33punds) and almost died, but for very similar reasons. Every time a man told me, he wasn't into that, or that I looked better before, I felt great and proud, because I wasn't sexualised anymore. I loved the fact that my boobs and butt disappeared and I looked more and more like a little boy. Of course, now I've grown into my "real" body (by which I mean: my healthy body that can carry me) and it makes me feel powerful. But I still notice a lot of men, who think that every woman that dresses well, does her hair beautifully, or shows some skin, is desperate for their attention (positive or negative). They are so stuck in their narcissistic world-view, that they can't imagine a woman that is absolutely self-fulfilled and that validates herself (or feels validated by her girlfriends). This really needs to change and everybody who still thinks, if you're sexy, you can't be a feminist, 'cause you must be busy people-pleasing, didn't get the memo!
What a great interview!! Dr. Gay's comments were funny and insightful - love hearing her speak as much (if not more!) as reading her books + Sarah did such a great job reacting and interacting with her (she's a wonderful interviewer!!)
That was a year ago. Given her experiences I doubt she can even raise a smile with attempted child rapist Brett Kavanaugh on the Supreme Court. Sad time to be an American, lost the respect of the world if that man has authority
Men actually think not being wanted by men is the worst thing that can happen to a woman, don't they? Aside from being fat of course lolololol. She *is* obese and also wonderful and also smarter than you and also more valuable to society. And you can't stand it hahaha
@Srithor every man is guilty in the sense that _most_ men don't stand up to their friends when they're acting inappropriately with women at work, for example. Men should stand up for human decency more often, is what she means. If the inappropriate way men generally behave with women, was a disease it would be a pandemic one. I don't like generalizations either, but I doubt that she meant that ALL men ARE BAD, RAPISTS. And to most people that's obvious. This lady definitely went through a traumatic experience that she will carry with her forever, and it must have affected her world view, but that doesn't mean she's wrong. That doesn't mean that her past and current circumstances don't warrant her reaction to them, reactions you saw in the video above. That many women complaining about the same thing, would make anyone realise that there is a problem. Unless, they're all liars. And maybe you're the one with the "inaccurate" world view. Maybe you should think about that. We all have biases, you do, I do, she does, but that doesn't mean we can't say or see truth in things. And when we look at the facts, we see that 1 in 5 women are likely to be raped once in their lifetime, compared to 1 in 71 men. Source: www.nsvrc.org/statistics 1 in 5 women. So, I wouldn't say that "women generally don't get raped". Its a problem. Men need to be more aware of the importance of their role in changing how they (and by "they" I am making an inaccurate generalisation, but I hope you get the gist of my meaning) see women. I'm not saying all men are rapists, I'm saying women are raped most by people they already know. That's the average Joe. That could be someone you know. The facts speak for themselves, and they say that there is a problem. And it's our job as people to stand up to men, or anyone, who hints or shows leniency towards committing things like sexual harassment (That "1 in 71" is worrying). I'm sure you agree with me, at least, on my last sentence.
Having lived with an addict, I, unfortunately, over what felt like a very long period of time, have come to understand the process of whats required in getting to "rock bottom". It's often worse than one might imagine. The moment DJT was elected I felt as if DJT was America's and the worlds"rock bottom". We needed things to get SO bad that there were no options. We must look to each other and lift each other up. Creating a world that is more inclusive, more caring and more loving is far more comfortable and a considerably easier place to be. For too long we have all avoided being kind to each other for fear of a questionable reaction. Speaking to strangers, reprimanding friends inevitably sends us all back to feeling like children afraid of what others will think or concerned we will not continue to remain "cool". Not feeling stupid or looking like an idiot is unfortunately for many a driving force in most of their decisions. No matter the reaction of another, kindness and caring for others should always prevail. Responsible reasonable adults know when they have done the right thing without requiring the motivation to do it. Rarely would we ever volunteer "mom was right all along", but without fail "The Golden Rule", "Do Unto Others, As You Would Have Them Do Unto You", or treat others how you would rather be treated ALWAYS contributes to making life considerably easier. Men and women create the world as we know it. Men need to be willing to offer more and take less. Women need men to participate in creating a world we can all be proud of, a world that feels a little less rock bottom and much more on top of the world.
Focusing on the perception of what others might be doing is much like making an assumption, its impossible to suggest whats right or wrong without knowing the facts. Concern for what we think we see and what is actually taking place is often one of mankind's greatest hurdles. Focusing on others results in losing focus of ourselves. The priority should be making sure we do what is expected of us, and worrying less about the actions of others. If others fail to do their share life has a funny way of making everyone aware of it. Unfortunately, there are the ones who continue over and over not to understand their own personal responsibility, while complaining about everything currently taking place in their lives. Too many feel blaming others helps, but learning that only makes problems bigger is another lesson life teaches. What we have, where we are, what takes place in our lives is entirely a direct result of our own doing. The process of growing up is meant to teach many lessons, but it is the choice to learn them or ignore them is our only way to move forward. We all have periods of taking more than we give and as our priorities in life change so should that reaction. "Keeping our eyes on our own paper" makes us accountable. The statement women take way more and give less only further fuels a fire for a debate that men have definitely "taken" for a great deal for thousands of years. It is a little hypocritical to suggest anything other then women having quite a ways to go before their "taking" could come anywhere near that of men. Being around women, personally and professionally I am very aware of what women do. To suggest women don't do a lot and haven't always done a lot only appears to come from a position of being very uninformed. Childbirth alone offers awareness of the considerable difference of a man's participation and that of a woman. A small human grows inside a woman for months, close to a year. Guys tend to experience problems functioning following a big meal. When that small human is "ready" the woman's body expels it in hopes it will grow and become a functioning contributing responsible adult. And yet a man's part required at most 5 minutes of an activity he quite enjoys. Don't get me wrong, I'm not against men. I am however very aware that the majority of the problems we are all forced to encounter and potentially resolve are the result of choices made by men. Choices that most often, unfortunately, have a lot more to do with ego over anything else. Throughout history, men have focused most on whats important to themselves, failing to think of others. While women often make choices with an intention of mutually affecting all. Thinking of my own mother, who raised a family, while working full time and still managed to come home every day and make a meal, help with homework, maybe some laundry. I know she wouldn't sit and focus on herself until at least 10PM. Compared to me, who after a long day thinks about doing all that while lying on the bed, debating if I should eat, at the same time contemplating my having to get up. Very honestly, men, we have a long ways to go before we are in any position to complain.
Yay love Roxane! I met Roxane at a book signing in Chicago and understand she's been spotlighted a few times, but thanks Sarah for giving her another platform. I hope we see more Roxane in the media! Love to hear more clear, level headed female voices in the world, woo!
Preach woman, preach. Fuck I wanna give her a hug for being so straight up open and awesome. And take a moment to appreciate the empathy in Sarah's eyes, as Roxane speaks.
This is really weird. I was watching youtube vids of the AWESOME game show Whats My Line, from the 50s, and one of the guests made something like a nose mitten. And I was like, "well thats interesting, but I guess it never caught on" and here we have one!
For some reason Sarah Silverman comes off more human on this show. I don't know I never took her seriously at all. She always comes off as some goody weirdo but after watching this I totally have a diffrent view of her in a good way 😊
Asking men to call each other out and police themselves is like asking your kids to babysit themselves and ground themselves. It’s just not psychologically possible.
Low expectations of men much? I think the point was that it's men who have to control themselves, not that women should suppress themselves. Why can't men step back and reflect on the way they think and talk about women? It's totally possible. It's not 'men v women,' it's really not. No one wants to be second class.
Mark N. Why is it not possible? Do they not have a moral compass? I’m pretty sure they have back bones. That is all that’s required. That and actually caring and wanting women treated properly!
United Nations Resolution: Rename the continents with non-native names to native names. Rename North America, South America and Australia to native names. "American, Latino and Hispanic" are Eurocentric colonialistic labels. Imagine: British officially named Native French, French named Native British, Chinese named Native Japanese, Palestinians named Native Israelis, Spanish named Native Africans, Koreans named Native Chinese, etc.
Just watched Dr. Gay on the Andy Cohen show, I Google her, and Bingo!! I realized that two of her books were in my..... ( Books I will read one day ) draw, needless to say I’m starting with... ‘Difficult Women’ and a glass of Wine or Two!! 😉 .... Love ❤️ Her..... yep!!
I had to watch this 2x. Who'd have thought a nose Mitten could be so disarming? Does genuine joy make the good doctor a bad feminist? If so, I am a bad feminist also. It made me giggle both times.
I went through an eating disorder after having been raped. I went the complete opposite direction and lost 15 Kilo (around 33punds) and almost died, but for very similar reasons. Every time a man told me, he wasn't into that, or that I looked better before, I felt great and proud, because I wasn't sexualised anymore. I loved the fact that my boobs and butt disappeared and I looked more and more like a little boy. Of course, now I've grown into my "real" body (by which I mean: my healthy body that can carry me) and it makes me feel powerful. But I still notice a lot of men, who think that every woman that dresses well, does her hair beautifully, or shows some skin, is desperate for their attention (positive or negative). They are so stuck in their narcissistic world-view, that they can't imagine a woman that is absolutely self-fulfilled and that validates herself (or feels validated by her girlfriends). This really needs to change and everybody who still thinks, if you're sexy, you can't be a feminist, 'cause you must be busy people-pleasing, didn't get the memo!
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Proud of you, Sarah, for what it's worth from an internet stranger/fan.
You know what gives me faith in homo sapiens? Her giggle/laugh at the end when looking at her nose mitten.
What a great interview!! Dr. Gay's comments were funny and insightful - love hearing her speak as much (if not more!) as reading her books + Sarah did such a great job reacting and interacting with her (she's a wonderful interviewer!!)
Dr. Gay’s giggles are beautiful.
That was a year ago. Given her experiences I doubt she can even raise a smile with attempted child rapist Brett Kavanaugh on the Supreme Court. Sad time to be an American, lost the respect of the world if that man has authority
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Life is long, and Donald Trump isn't 🍄
This woman is sooooooooo fuuuuuuuucking right!
Sues Anna This woman is sooooo fuuuuuuuucking huge !
Ed Denoy Asswipe. Go away.
That thing is sooooooooooooooooooo f-cking obease and bitter because zero Men want her.
Men actually think not being wanted by men is the worst thing that can happen to a woman, don't they? Aside from being fat of course lolololol. She *is* obese and also wonderful and also smarter than you and also more valuable to society. And you can't stand it hahaha
@Srithor
every man is guilty in the sense that _most_ men don't stand up to their friends when they're acting inappropriately with women at work, for example. Men should stand up for human decency more often, is what she means. If the inappropriate way men generally behave with women, was a disease it would be a pandemic one. I don't like generalizations either, but I doubt that she meant that ALL men ARE BAD, RAPISTS. And to most people that's obvious.
This lady definitely went through a traumatic experience that she will carry with her forever, and it must have affected her world view, but that doesn't mean she's wrong. That doesn't mean that her past and current circumstances don't warrant her reaction to them, reactions you saw in the video above. That many women complaining about the same thing, would make anyone realise that there is a problem. Unless, they're all liars.
And maybe you're the one with the "inaccurate" world view.
Maybe you should think about that.
We all have biases, you do, I do, she does, but that doesn't mean we can't say or see truth in things.
And when we look at the facts, we see that 1 in 5 women are likely to be raped once in their lifetime, compared to 1 in 71 men.
Source: www.nsvrc.org/statistics
1 in 5 women.
So, I wouldn't say that "women generally don't get raped". Its a problem. Men need to be more aware of the importance of their role in changing how they (and by "they" I am making an inaccurate generalisation, but I hope you get the gist of my meaning) see women. I'm not saying all men are rapists, I'm saying women are raped most by people they already know. That's the average Joe. That could be someone you know. The facts speak for themselves, and they say that there is a problem.
And it's our job as people to stand up to men, or anyone, who hints or shows leniency towards committing things like sexual harassment (That "1 in 71" is worrying). I'm sure you agree with me, at least, on my last sentence.
Whats all about with bleeping of curse word’s? It’s ridiculous! Some things Need to be adress in their genuine words!
Can we curse? Yes Dr. Gay. What an honest, true and intelligent author.
Having lived with an addict, I, unfortunately, over what felt like a very long period of time, have come to understand the process of whats required in getting to "rock bottom". It's often worse than one might imagine.
The moment DJT was elected I felt as if DJT was America's and the worlds"rock bottom". We needed things to get SO bad that there were no options. We must look to each other and lift each other up. Creating a world that is more inclusive, more caring and more loving is far more comfortable and a considerably easier place to be. For too long we have all avoided being kind to each other for fear of a questionable reaction. Speaking to strangers, reprimanding friends inevitably sends us all back to feeling like children afraid of what others will think or concerned we will not continue to remain "cool". Not feeling stupid or looking like an idiot is unfortunately for many a driving force in most of their decisions. No matter the reaction of another, kindness and caring for others should always prevail. Responsible reasonable adults know when they have done the right thing without requiring the motivation to do it.
Rarely would we ever volunteer "mom was right all along", but without fail "The Golden Rule", "Do Unto Others, As You Would Have Them Do Unto You", or treat others how you would rather be treated ALWAYS contributes to making life considerably easier. Men and women create the world as we know it. Men need to be willing to offer more and take less. Women need men to participate in creating a world we can all be proud of, a world that feels a little less rock bottom and much more on top of the world.
Focusing on the perception of what others might be doing is much like making an assumption, its impossible to suggest whats right or wrong without knowing the facts. Concern for what we think we see and what is actually taking place is often one of mankind's greatest hurdles.
Focusing on others results in losing focus of ourselves. The priority should be making sure we do what is expected of us, and worrying less about the actions of others. If others fail to do their share life has a funny way of making everyone aware of it. Unfortunately, there are the ones who continue over and over not to understand their own personal responsibility, while complaining about everything currently taking place in their lives.
Too many feel blaming others helps, but learning that only makes problems bigger is another lesson life teaches. What we have, where we are, what takes place in our lives is entirely a direct result of our own doing. The process of growing up is meant to teach many lessons, but it is the choice to learn them or ignore them is our only way to move forward.
We all have periods of taking more than we give and as our priorities in life change so should that reaction.
"Keeping our eyes on our own paper" makes us accountable.
The statement women take way more and give less only further fuels a fire for a debate that men have definitely "taken" for a great deal for thousands of years. It is a little hypocritical to suggest anything other then women having quite a ways to go before their "taking" could come anywhere near that of men. Being around women, personally and professionally I am very aware of what women do. To suggest women don't do a lot and haven't always done a lot only appears to come from a position of being very uninformed. Childbirth alone offers awareness of the considerable difference of a man's participation and that of a woman. A small human grows inside a woman for months, close to a year.
Guys tend to experience problems functioning following a big meal.
When that small human is "ready" the woman's body expels it in hopes it will grow and become a functioning contributing responsible adult. And yet a man's part required at most 5 minutes of an activity he quite enjoys.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not against men. I am however very aware that the majority of the problems we are all forced to encounter and potentially resolve are the result of choices made by men.
Choices that most often, unfortunately, have a lot more to do with ego over anything else. Throughout history, men have focused most on whats important to themselves, failing to think of others. While women often make choices with an intention of mutually affecting all.
Thinking of my own mother, who raised a family, while working full time and still managed to come home every day and make a meal, help with homework, maybe some laundry. I know she wouldn't sit and focus on herself until at least 10PM. Compared to me, who after a long day thinks about doing all that while lying on the bed, debating if I should eat, at the same time contemplating my having to get up.
Very honestly, men, we have a long ways to go before we are in any position to complain.
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Yay love Roxane! I met Roxane at a book signing in Chicago and understand she's been spotlighted a few times, but thanks Sarah for giving her another platform. I hope we see more Roxane in the media! Love to hear more clear, level headed female voices in the world, woo!
Preach woman, preach. Fuck I wanna give her a hug for being so straight up open and awesome. And take a moment to appreciate the empathy in Sarah's eyes, as Roxane speaks.
I think I'm going to get a Hulu subscription just to watch Sarah's show
We gotta make nose mittens a thing.
New Message yes!!!
They are!!!!
Sarah is so nice.
You ROCK Roxane!! 💝😘 MC
This is really weird. I was watching youtube vids of the AWESOME game show Whats My Line, from the 50s, and one of the guests made something like a nose mitten. And I was like, "well thats interesting, but I guess it never caught on" and here we have one!
Best guest yet! Love you Roxane!
Is it just me or is her body language really mysterious and intriguing to everybody else too?
I want a nose mitten too please.
YES! I live in Boston, it's always cold here!!
I fucking love Roxane Gay, she was born philosopher!
Gosh I feel for this lady. Regardless of whether she wants to lose weight or not, I hope she is happy. Id back whatever choice she wanted to pursue.
For some reason Sarah Silverman comes off more human on this show. I don't know I never took her seriously at all. She always comes off as some goody weirdo but after watching this I totally have a diffrent view of her in a good way 😊
They bleeped "vagina" but not "balls"?! Sexism! Somebody get me a hashtag! :P
Love Dr Gay and Sarah Silverman...this is amazing!!!!
Her take on the Housewives is amazing.
That’s how I discovered her! #BitchSesh
I love her
I want a nose mitten now too, maybe one thats grey like hers but with whiskers and a tiny mouse nose.🤗
What the fuck. Why is this video censored?
Both beautiful people. Love your show Sarah.
Thank you, black women, for saving the country, and perhaps the world. And I
Wow she looks so healthy for being a dr. 🤣
Dr. Roxane Gay, you are awesome. Thanks Sarah for having her on your show.
Who's here in 2020 where everyone (hopefully) is wearing full face mittens for Christmas?
Using a ft joke is not funny.
Asking men to call each other out and police themselves is like asking your kids to babysit themselves and ground themselves. It’s just not psychologically possible.
She was being rhetoric. And that's fine. She intitled to her opinion too.
Low expectations of men much? I think the point was that it's men who have to control themselves, not that women should suppress themselves. Why can't men step back and reflect on the way they think and talk about women? It's totally possible. It's not 'men v women,' it's really not. No one wants to be second class.
@@kitcoffey7194 I second your opinion. And so it is.
Mark N. Why is it not possible? Do they not have a moral compass? I’m pretty sure they have back bones. That is all that’s required. That and actually caring and wanting women treated properly!
How come we live in the safest culture in history then...Doh!!
United Nations Resolution: Rename the continents with non-native names to native names. Rename North America, South America and Australia to native names. "American, Latino and Hispanic" are Eurocentric colonialistic labels.
Imagine: British officially named Native French, French named Native British, Chinese named Native Japanese, Palestinians named Native Israelis, Spanish named Native Africans, Koreans named Native Chinese, etc.
she’s amazing I love her ❤️
They're both amazing women
I love how they could curse on Hulu but they had to sensor it on RUclips?
Just watched Dr. Gay on the Andy Cohen show, I Google her, and Bingo!! I realized that two of her books were in my..... ( Books I will read one day ) draw, needless to say I’m starting with... ‘Difficult Women’ and a glass of Wine or Two!! 😉 .... Love ❤️ Her..... yep!!
The nose mitten made it for me. Roxane's giggle is everything.
Sara ....Love the Christmas Tree😃👍👌😘
Omg! I’m reading ‘ Bad Feminist ‘ right now !
imo
Damn good vid...I'm loving ILY,A.
imo
Awesome young woman good job Sarah
Don't get any of this.
this was too fucking cute
i LOVE roxane
3.44 wow you are a leader please run
for election
@@summs1000 ~ Roxanne? She wouldn't have the stamina needed for a political life. I'm only being honest here too
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I love Dr. Roxane gay and all of her books! Thank you so much for having her on!!!!
Yeah!!! to Dr. Gay. Ick to not focusing on her accomplishments and wonderfulness. Why be another scuzzy male silverman?
omg she is huge O-o
Does anyone else suspect that the likes/dislikes and comments are being manipulated for this video?
Ticking time bomb
If Jabba the Hut was Gay
Trump 2020
Nope. You lost 😂
@@nick_aheh Bigly.
Her name is gay
She's awful and irritating
couldn't agree more
How!? 😮
I had to watch this 2x. Who'd have thought a nose Mitten could be so disarming? Does genuine joy make the good doctor a bad feminist? If so, I am a bad feminist also. It made me giggle both times.