Pattie was infertil, thats the reason Eric Clapton left her. He was also unfaithful. Good for George he met Olivia, had a son and she was a very good wife and mother.
@@fifermcgee5971 I've read that the reason was that Eric fell in love with her and once George caught them together in a party. Fluttering. Later, Pattie left George. Eric wasn't a good husband, he was alcoholic, etc. He wrote a song for her, Layla.
Eric Clapton spent years trying to win Pattie's heart only to be a terrible husband and then say he doesn't even know if he loved her. Pattie probably regrets having left George for this man.
But then George cheated on her too..so she must have taken two hits...that is not good for your self esteem. Apparently she has a husband who isn't a flashy famous guy. My question is : is it even possible for a man who gets women throwing themselves at them on a constant basis to not succumb to that?? These guys are major heavy hitters in the rock world. But then again Paul McCartney seems like a committed guy. Maybe he is the exception not the rule??? These people live extreme lives , maybe when they are older they settle down but a young guy with lots of money, famous and talented..hard to believe they are loyal to their woman.
Patti had 3 hit songs written specifically for her by both men. Something, Layla and Wonderful Tonight. They loved her. Eric said in another interview that everytime he sings Wonderful Tonight, he can not help but think of Patti
I used to work in 'Joes Cafe' in Chelsea. Eric Clapton was a regular customer (Post alcoholism) I worked behind the bar and Eric and me would chat on a regular basis. I was at Drama School at the time and he asked me all about that, and had a GENUINE interest. Top fella! I really enjoyed meeting him!💥
@@clovrmay3104 you say that but it's on record that he beat and raped Patti multiple times...i can't imagine that's going to be benificial to someone's life is it...
Brutally honest assessment of himself. It’s hard to love another person when you are addicted to something. Eric was so truthful about Patti, it was an obsession. He loved his booze & drugs.
It’s brutally honest of him to admit something like impotency during rehab. He’s incredibly lucky to have gotten through the hell he put his body through.
Awesome confession. I remember when I was 13 seeing "Hard Day's Night" and saying to myself, "Who is that gorgeous babe" hanging out with the Beatles?". It was Pattie Boyd.
Eric admits to his drug problem but when his girlfriend, Lory Del Santo got pregnant and he saw his son for the first time he decided to get help for his addiction so he entered himself into a treatment program. I applaud someone doing that because I know it isn't easy but he had a good reason he wanted to be a good father. He left most of the raising of Conor to Lory which he said she did a brilliant job but I have no doubt they both deeply loved their baby and miss him greatly.....thankfully Conor is with the Lord....after the accident Eric raised public awareness for child safety. I know anyone who has lost a child still grieves...my older sister's firstborn died at 2 months from SIDS and I can remember the world just stopping and it being difficult for me to understand and deal with and I've had other people in my family die tragically, you are in a state of shock and it's hard to even talk about it to anyone but through the years my faith in the Lord has seen me through. You should always show kindness to those who are going through difficult times and even if you don't know what anyone is going through its still good to be kind.
I must correct part of your comment. Laurie raised the child. Eric wanted nothing to do with him. He at some point, took responsibility and began forging a relationship with his son. Unfortunately, Conor died tragically soon after. Laurie and Eric did not mourn together.
Pattie kept her silence about the REAL story for 35 years. She stayed with George for three years, even after Eric professed his love. The last straw with George was his affair with Ringo's wife, Maureen coupled with his obsession with meditation and lack of interest for her that drove her, into Eric's arms.
according to Pattie's autobiography her relationship with Eric began in 1970, three years before anything happened between George and Maureen. In 1970 George was going through a lot (his mother dying, Beatles breaking up). And Pattie admits she allowed Eric to pursue her from early 1973 again months before anything happened between George and Maureen. There are also some significant inaccuracies in Pattie's book and she makes light or dismises some of her behaviour which is on record (Ron Wood tpld the press they wers having a affair in November 1973 and George had to issue a statement- again all.on record). She says George was unaffectionate and did not say he loved her when even in a letter from 1971 she reproduces in the e-versipn of her book he tells her he loves her twice. I am not judging Pattie but she bears her share of responbility for things like George
That affair that Pattie had with Ron Wood was more of a swap. George was also sleeping with Ron Wood's wife Krissy at that time as well, no head trips, they all remained friends til George passed away.
Well actually not I also read Eric's book they were close in the information. Patties was more giving of herself and Eric is a great blues singer but he also is a concieted man and very self centered man.
Eric it took me many years as a alcoholic spending my childhood and adult life watching my parents and uncles and living thru this and alcohol was my way of life. But I got caught drunk driving 2 times and had to go into consulting and met a lady who made me realize it was time for me to make a change in my life so I attended AA meetings hung around good sober people and never pick up again. It's been 30 plus years now and I m clean and sober still and yes I always admired you for your recovery with drug and alcohol and I m a big fan of yours I m grateful for your honesty and your music also take care and keep doing what you do best in your life .Keep on Ricking
He takes Pattie away from George supposedly his best friend and says she wasn't the love of his life that he doesn't know if he loved her he just wanted her. What a p...k
I feel bad for Pattie ❤ she had been treaten like a rag doll when she got married. George and Eric both wanted her, but didn't love her when they got married. You'd think with all the song like "I Need You" and "If I Needed Someone" that they'd actually want to love her and never leave her, but that lasted shorter than you'd think it would. I think Mr Clapton needs to learn if you want to keep a beautiful flower, you've go to take care of her.
"Treated like a rag doll" !!!! She fired her boyfriend to be with George and she said it herself in an interview... Did anyone force her to be with anyone??? She was just an opportunistic woman... highly ambitious. George even took the blame for her infertility...he said that it was him who couldn't have babies.....
Men want to feel needed, women need to feel wanted. If you look at those 2 song titles, it's about need not want even if any other of the lyrics say the word want, what they actually wanted is described in the sing title.
Wow....even though the relationship was long over by this time, it had to hurt Pattie to hear that he wasn’t sure he ever loved her. She was married to him for 10:years! Glad she remarried and seemingly has found happiness.
Yeah but she said she regretted leaving George for him in her book, so they probably weren't that compatible or hurt by either of their comments on each other.
Exactly.That must have stung.After all he put Patti through to turn around and say he wasn't sure he even ever loved her?She was a human being with feelings for Gods sake.😢
@@ElliottSatchell i'd define it as alcohol embedded into the fabric of your day, a sense of dread to have to go without it, and often prioritising it over other things that 'should' matter.
People talk about whether they are "in love" with someone or not, as if that can be defined. The truth is that to love someone, you wish the highest good for them. Eric was a meddler in a relationship that wasn't his. If he had thoughts about Patty, he should have kept them to himself until the marriage was over between Patty and George. Anything more is just adultery.
Actually per Pattie, she did not Biblically "know" Eric until after she left George, after a string of George infidelities, e.g., with Ringo's first wife.
JudgeJulieLit Patti said in an interview she and Eric told George Eric was in love with her. "Go to him then!" George said. It was after this George found comfort with Maureen.
I hate it when men have relationships with women, actually marry them, and then years later,say " well I don't know if I was ever really in love with her"!!!!.........how totally hurtful, insulting and disrespectful......you can at least lie about it !!!!!
It doesn't matter, love is not always entwined with sexuality and it's incredibly cruel to spend years with a person who loves you and then they turn around and say "oh well, I don't really know if I ever loved you"?.....how b.....selfish can a person be!!,
The thing is, i do believe at some point, Eric Clapton was in love with her. You couldn't write something like wonderful tonight for someone if you weren't at least a little bit in love with them
Look at my comment above... Actually the best he can do is acknowledge that wasn't love. He probably has realised it now. When you truly love, there's no place for abuse, but it's very common not to be able to tell love from some other forms of affection, attraction or infatuation. It's indeed really harsh for the other person to hear they didn't love you, but if they say they did, how you reconcile that loving involves also being mistreated? In the long run, it's better to know that person was incapable of loving so that you can understand things and hope for someone who can actually love, respect and put you first. To hear they loved me while they've completely fu**** me up is actually very insulting, at least to me.
It's a pity he didn't just walk away from George and Patti and left them alone, if I started to have feelings for my friends wife or girlfriend, I'd never betray my friends
Hmm, different days.. They were all having it on with each other's wives & girlfriend's back then. Didn't hear anyone question George having an affair with Ringo's wife Maureen?. 🤔
Wow, 1:15, that's ballsy - no pun intended - for someone of Clapton's stature and reputation to 'fess up to. Good on him for being man enough to be honest.
I think he really loved Patty Boyle. Because the songs that he made for her were beautiful. Wonderful tonight, Layla, and when he sings it. Look at his face, he remembers that he loved a beautiful woman and for him to say that he really didn't love her. He was in love with his drugs. Well, maybe so, but no one can make a beautiful song about a person. That beautiful is did not in love. I see narrow Clapton in 1974 in Chicago, chicago stadium. And he was great, and when he played that song, everybody jumped up was just given a standing ovation for Layla. And wonderful tonight
Nice to hear Eric at least fesses up he was an absolute jerk to both George and Pattie. What kind of friend hits on his friends wife and manipulates her? He seems like quite the narcissist.
+guitardds In Patti's book, I think called "Wonderful Tonight" she explains how she had to finally face her codependency and I think also alcoholism, as well..if I am not mistaken..she was a people pleaser always lookin outside for validation. So this naturally occurred in her life, she confesses.
He’s so insightful here. He’s acknowledging the co dependency and the obsessive nature of addiction. He didn’t love her and he knows that he was feeding a demon that can never be satisfied.
There is a live version of Eric singing Wonderful Tonight in which he is so choked with emotion that I find it impossible to believe that he never truly loved Patti. I think that when a man re-marries, he has to be very careful what he says about his first wife in case the second wife gets upset. Eric would be very foolish to admit that Patti was and probably still is the love of his life., it wouldn't go down very well with Mrs. Clapton number 2.
Good points but I’ve given up on stating what’s going on through a stranger’s mind and really, most celebrities are just that - strangers to a public that admires their talents. Hell, I can’t figure out what’s on the mind of a family member most of the time!
@@danc3693 Agreed. I also think Eric is very honest here. Also in Life in 12 Bars….he sees it now as an obsession. We can look back on life as we age and see things more clearly.
@@greenworm7915 yep...He said it himself...I've said it to myself...I'm fine. Sex and dru....and rock n Roll....Love will have to come later...if ever...and your damn lucky if it does....✌️ Eric Underwood class of 81 Downey High School California
Well , I've been sober for 34 years through AA. And it is very very common to look at the loss and wreckage you have as a result of you drug/ alcohol addiction. I know for me and lots of sober people there is a deep sadness when you realize how much it cost you and the damage it caused. And , how it could have been dealt with so differently in a respectful way. And also what might have been. When you are sober and work a program of recovery you " wake up" and it's scary because you have to face yourself and look at your behavior. Not to beat yourself up but to see how sick it is. And then you are given the choice to find a better way to live. I cheated on my college boyfriend ( 35 years ago) on a regular basis and 34 years later I have moments once in while where i see someone we knew etc. And i think of what a good person he is and was and i remember how hurt he was. And id go to another keg party , lie and cheat again. All the love we had went down the tubes. The laughter we shared , all the fun vacations all the joy gone. Eventually, you will stop loving the alcoholic / addiction because of the pain it brings. Never any winners in that game
@@MJ-wrty Thanks for sharing.. Through all the shit ...we have to rediscover what was good...not used to it! Everybody reaches the Crossroads...and the devil is always there telling you you can't make it out....you have to crawl at first...then failure will come and instead of going backwards hunker down wait for the Storm to pass and keep going forward...I enjoyed reading your post...thanks Eric Underwood class of 81 Downey High School California
This is a man who said about Patti Boyd “you’ve got me on my knees, I’m begging you darling please” AND YET, isn’t man enough to admit he was in love with her!………PLEASE! 🤪
@@MyDrugHell His words…the song was about HER! Written about HER! So he said back in the day, now he’s playing dumb like he wasn’t all that crazed over her…time affects the memory. Look it up…
I once heard patty Boyd say that he fathered a child with another woman while they were married. Isn’t that a pretty despicable act? He should feel shame.
+SuperAnimelover100 + You can add wife beater to that. Clapton was a huge lesson about separating the product from the entertainer for me because he's such a shitbag degenerate.
lesterclaypool1 Thanks . Clapton is just a no good dirty dog ! He's weird . A racist but dated black women , even in the 60's and now married to a oriental woman ,. I don't understand it one bit , He has to be mentally unbalanced !
Me too Eric, Sober 28 years. Now, I'm writing songs again and recording them on my Psr sx700 keyboard. Alcohol took everything away in my life. P.S. I am a Christian and pray always....
He can't just say that he loved Pattie? He chased her for years, wrote beautiful songs for her, she was George's wife and he "doesn't know?!" Plus what brought an end to it is that he got another woman pregnant when Pattie couldn't have a baby, and he wanted Pattie to raise the baby with him. Pattie declined and divorced him. I believe he got sober because he had a child- I have heard him say that on other interviews.
Probably he can't say that because he might have got some perspective and he's realised what he was feeling wasn't actual love. You don't abuse someone you love. He might have thought he loved her but he probably knows now he mistook something else for love. I really don't believe you can love purely (in the sense of respecting, caring for someone, putting them first) if you're drugged or drunk most of the time. I love Clapton's music and the songs he wrote could probably be written by someone with real feelings of love but real life has more to show than songs in this case, unfortunately.
@ Sandy Lee roberts I totally get what Eric is saying. As an addict your first love is whatever your drug is. Being obsessed and wanting someone is not love.
as a chemical addict, i understand what Mr. Clapton means... i loved so deeply,i felt, that it wasn t like "normal" people love a soulmate it was like craving for another drink,another joint,another hit...etc. but after you come down from it,the craving clutches you again...crazy,needy,clawing, desire that never really gets satisfied..is that love? it hurts 84percent of the time and the longing takes meetings,doctors,rehabs, sponsers..books ,therapy to learn to live without. One wise oldan Maine ,Bull Alley in South Bristal, called it LOVE SICK..,like dope sick
I met Patty Boyd before. She came up to me to say how much she had enjoyed my band, which she had seen the night before.This happened at a special museum screening of A Hard Days Night about two or three years ago. And she was the guest speaker after the film played. I happened to be on a date with a girl who was 25 years younger than me and it was our first date. I was kinda awkwardly standing there in front of the theater before the movie began with this pretty and very young girl (she was 23) and I was fucking nervous! Then out of nowhere, this older but still very pretty woman, who was dressed awesomely I might add, was walking towards me and smiling. It was Patty Boyd. I had never met her before but I recognized her from one of the posters for this event that we were at and then one of the guys who she was with announced her as Patty Boyd, which kinda seemed to embarrass her a bit and she rolled her eyes at the guy. He may have been doing this everytime she spoke to someone, who knows. Then she bestowed upon me a heap of enthusiastic compliments and said that she had seen my band the night before and had had so much fun listening to us and that she thought we were great. I was thinking that the sound guy must have done a stellar job because we are not all that great. Then she said "It was nice meeting you." and was gone just as quickly as she had come. I looked over to my young date, who had a huge smile on her face and said. "That lady was married to both a Beatle and to a guy who many consider to be the best guitar player there ever was. And apparently,. she thinks the old guy who you are hanging out with is good too." To this, she responded by smiling deeper and then kissing me. And you know, I didn't feel all that nervous anymore. When I hit the comment button a few minutes ago I had no intention of telling that little story. The memory just poured out. It was to say that I thought that was real shitty of Clapton to say that he didn't know if he ever even loved Patty. I think it is mean and when it is said into a camera during an interview for television it elevates Clapton to the status of a cold-hearted, cock sucking douche bag. But that's just my opinion.
I hear what you are saying. Under normal circumstances, I would consider the whole subject to be none of my business. But these are far from normal circumstances. As for myself, I believe that personal and private matters should remain personal and private. In a world that has become obsessed with social media, I can only assume that I am part of a dwindling minority. Be that as it may, for me there is very little gray area when it comes to this particular subject. My gut reaction to his statement was, and still is, Why the hell would he say something so hurtful to her in a television interview. I thought it was a mean-spirited thing to do. And I can't help feel anything other than anger and aggression toward anyone who is willfully mean and shitty to another person or animal. Likewise, I always feel sorry for someone who is on the receiving end of that crap. We all are who we are, and that's who I am.
I think Eric said that because Patti has published her memoir and she told how Eric used to come to bed stinking of booze all over his body and want to have sex with her and how revolting it was and she would try to get it over with quickly. She also told how on tour he would stay on one floor of a hotel having parties with groupies and he would put her on a different floor. She really put up with a lot of shit from both George and Eric.
I don't get why some people on here have to judgemental and slag Clapton off....why can't you just see the interview as just total honesty? So Pattie can write a book and be totally honest and that's okay, but when Eric answers an interview question with honesty it's wrong? Eric was being honest about his alcoholism and how it affects so many parts of your life, unless you've been there or have been with someone who has an addiction then you know very little about it, and more importantly in this case you know nothing about this video and interview. I take my hat of to Eric for his honestly, he wasn't being nasty to Pattie, he's just a man looking back now sober and being honest about how alcoholism and wealth can warp your brain and make you do things you wouldn't normally do. Watch the video again, listen to the question, listen to Eric's answer, take your judgemental head off and see it for what it is. None of us are perfect and when an addiction comes into it as well then the 'normal life' rules change.
Why is it being shitty to tell the truth? Boyd was, at best, a groupie, and at worst?, Well let,s just say i'm sure she came out of it all with a healthy bank balance.
even tho commenters resent his inability to say he loved Patti Boyd, I think he is just being honest--his ability to understand his feelings was clouded by alcohol.
I love his transparency here, even talking about how he couldn't be sexual without drugs. Respect to the man and his music, he is just as human as the rest of us.
In his autobiography, he says that Pattie is the most beautiful woman he's ever seen. But STILL cheats on her. He just wasn't that special, and a chauvinist to boot.
I honestly do not blame Sr. Clapton dealing his x wife , instead I chose her to blame upon.😱😒Why.....Like She did not know or imagine He being a well known singer and good looking, wise wouldnt dare to cheat? Come on people, come on 4 real.
@@4Barbe : Barbara: I do not mean to be rude or judge wrong because being individuals our education demand respect.......Now my question: Where or how may you place to achieve RESPECT dealing Claptons x wife on having their son back? Hey, Iam not judgying here, Iam not, I just asked a question.Its 2021 I saw and read HOLA magazine when his son died and REALLY I remain shocked.If you are a mother youare to also be best friend, understanding, BEST listener, etc.....Barbara(I happen to like your name) but friend R-E-A-L-L-Y How may one amputate a soul, feelings....
infatuation and love are two different things. He probably was infatuated with her and felt he loved her back then but now realises it was just that...infatuation
Alcoholism is a mental spiritual and physical illness. Obsession with people places, and things are part of it. Clapton had an on going obsession with Patti for years. The selfish part is when they get what they obsessed , they don't want it so bad after all.
He seems to be admitting that point in this interview. He regards her as an "obsession" more than a true love. Remarkable how much damage an "obsession" can do.
The problem I have found with some but not all women is sometimes, and again I’m saying (some) women only have their looks to offer. It’s very rare that you find an intellectually stimulating women who just happens to be knock out gorgeous too.
Not here to knock Clapton but there's a point where your honesty also becomes just plain disrespectful and truthfully, if he hadn't loved her then what in Heaven's name was he doing writing those songs professing his love to her..
Seriously, you don't know what he was doing? Making million dollar hits, the world is a sucker for silly love songs. Take a big DUH! , you deserve it. And another thing, artists often write and sing about an idealized love, that may or may not really be the reality of their life at that moment. Taking lyrics as autobiography is a dubious thing.
I think it was that love, or what ever it is when we first fall in love with someone. It's all we can think about , whether it's high school , college or whatever
@@gerrydooley951 WTF? Is the word lust really not in your lexicon? We on the comments section don't know these people - at all. AT.ALL. NADA. ZILCH. AND Until we are closer to the situation than one half of this relationship. I say lets defer to the man giving his answer. It might, MIGHT! turn out he was lying but it is hell of a lot more definitive than your unqualified guesses.
Imho, he wrote those songs drunk, drugged or both. Alcohol and drugs distort your thinking. He may have thought he loved Pattie. I think it wasn't ever love, just lust. People want what they can't have (or isn't theirs). Perhaps she shouldn't have married either of them.
A man can be obsessed with a woman, or be involved with a woman who has it all. Then, one day...he snaps and runs the other side...not knowing what he lost and what he gained...and it could be better...and could be worse, too. who knows what the secret is in falling in love. A great mystery for most of us.
I think you might be right, BUT, I think the 'mystery' is solvable, but usually not to anyone's satisfaction. People fall in love, 'when they are programmed' to fall in love by their body. Who they fall in love with, is always interesting. I believe in 'chemistry', but I think you have to combine that with their pysche, but maybe the pysche programs the the 'chemistry'. If you are looking for rationality, maybe not. But, people usually share a 'sense of life', if you don't it doesn't work. It has nothing to do with 'intellectuality' but the viewpoint maybe as simple as, do you think 'the glass is half full or half empty.' Or do you think that the universe is 'benevolent or malevolent.' Love is analysible, but in the end, most reach the wrong conclusion and take away the 'marvel' of it's seeming 'irrationality' Can you now figure out why 'computer dating' is ridiculous.
When I heard him say, “he never really loved her” that was the end for me. He is just a disgusting, self centered, man who destroys lives without looking back.
Well it's easy to judge but when you're an addict it's mostly the substance that drives you. If it's not coke it's booze and if it's not booze it's women etc. He obviously had his demons.
Christ, the guy is taking ownership of his old addictive personality. He's admitting he was a failure. What do you expect? He's simply saying he was in a fog during those years. I didn't take it as disrespect to Patti at all.
Impotency while sober is scary because usually it’s the opposite scenario. Staying clean and sober give’s our brain maximum potential for pleasure and sexual stimulation. The influence of drugs and alcohol numb’s that ultimate pleasure afforded to the human species.
This truth is brilliant!!!! Addiction certainly makes for some reasonable (temproarilly gratifying) actions fully unreasonable. Trying to add sober logic to the choices addicts make will always remain mysterious. He is so honest knowing he was addicted to the idea of her, the conquest, not being clear enough in mind to know what he was doing was not domestically ethical in most circles. In Rock and Roll, everyone misbehaves. Chasing girls is part of the sport in that industry love it or not. She woke up. Then he woke up. There were many casualties in body, heart and mind.
Patti was caught between George’s infidelity with Ringo’s wife, Maureen, and the obsession of Eric. She chose the lesser of two evils. Unfortunately, neither worked out for her. With God’s grace she chose to save her self and survived, she pulled through. She is such an inspiration to so many. Thank you Patti for sharing your story with us. Love and blessings.
well Eric states here in this interview that he was crazy about something he could not have..think about it Men often want the Lady they cannot have'when they get what they want,they find they never wanted it....Go figure?
Sun Gold, What A Tangle Web We Weave When We Practice To Decieve. Any Man That Looks For Another Woman That Does Not Belong To Him IS Breaking One Of Many Commandments. AUDULTRY!!! God Bless The Ladies That Have Dealt With This Type Of Man Or Men.💔
Patti never looked happy with him; I actually don't like the song Wonderful Tonight." Listen to the words, closely; he's dysfunctional, egotistical about being with her, and she's "babsitting" him. I am sorry to hear this is what she's left with, with them both. I do at lesst appreciate his need to be very honest in this interview. Patti said that she was "surprised" that Maureen could stab her in the back with George, I'm not. Maureen did everything she could to try to make herself over into Patti after Patti was with George, and Maureen was a very different looking dark brunette all her life prior to that. Watch out for those who "admire you" (too) much!
Alcoholics,Addicts who are in recovery (a lifelong commitment) often tell other addicts what their "bottom" was. All are somewhat different and personal. His story about breaking his fishing pole was pretty unique. Fishing was the one thing he believed that he could do as well while drunk as he could while sober. The broken rod was the "bottom" that told him he had to quit or die.
I'm profoundly shocked by Eric's revelation. I did not know alcohol was his "demon"! I'm profoundly shocked when the video just "stopped". How are other people going to "learn" of the dangers of "drugs" when the most important bit is "cut"!
just had an old friend dying of Cancer. waiting years to finish album. friend just shot up a gram of heroin, an 8 ball of cocaine, 100 mg of winstrol and primabolin and finished a tripple disc 37 song album in less than 5 hours. music sounds great! gotta do what you gotta do. can't wait to hear it when mastered. waited so long. it's elvis meets srv.
Let's be honest here, George was NEVER loyal to Patti. George also either had his hand in a prayer bag chanting or locked in his studio with a pile of cocaine, sometimes with Ringo's wife.
I remember Layla And Other Assorted Love Songs. How could Clapton say he wasn't sure if Patti was the love of his life? I think many associate love with obsession. He wrote many songs for Patti. I have a hard time after everything he went through, believing she wasn't the love of his life...
Well, I've been obsessed with a woman myself and I can tell you, it's all in the wanting of something you can't have that is very close but not that close as to be yours. In fact, she was another guy's fiancee and she was cheating on that guy with one of my best friends. Man, the poems I wrote inspired by her! But, I didn't really loved her, I just wanted her that bad to make me lose my mind in a platonic-romantic, desperate way.
He was rejected by his mother & then Patti. Living a life fuelled by drugs and booze. Affects ones state of mind! He probably did think he loved her back then but now yrs on he's out of that scene grown older and look back and reflect! Now can admit to himself that perhaps it wasn't love but just a drug fuelled huge obsession!
What he says about addiction is textbook? Working with people who begin recovery from substance addiction, they have said to me that making minute daily life decisions without their substance of choice is frightening. This is why many marriages don't make it, sadly, because they began in an addicted mindset and have been conducted in the same. I know we all want to romanticize and remember what we thought happened in Eric Clapton's life, but thankfully he is willing to share the truth so that others can understand their life in relation to their addiction and understand life with an addictive spouse/family member. Bravo Eric Clapton!
Clapton was abandoned by his mother and grew up with his grandparents thinking they were his parents. in his early teens he met his mother and wanted to stay with her but he was rejected again! So hes spent all his life trying to find a woman who would substitute for his mother . men and women who have that problem can't have successful adult relationships until they get over that issue His drug addiction and sometimes aggressive obnoxious behaviour are completely understandable in the circumstances as he would be suffering from powerful repressed anger
you can't blame Eric 100% for the failure of Patti and Georges marriage. However, it has to sting to hear him say she was just an obsession and never really even loved her. After all, she did throw everything away with George for him. Life lesson learned I'm sure.
I read EC's autobiography several years ago and in it he refers to George as an unhappy person. Tell us all about it Eric, ye of wangular softitude HAHAAAA
Eric had a drug and drinking problem. George had a cocaine problem in the 70’s. John had a heroin and drinking problem. Ringo had a long drinking problem. Paul had a problem with excessive pot smoking. They’re just human beings with weaknesses and problems like the rest of us. Huge talents, but humans with flaws.
Yep..."The Journeyman" has been taking a lot of heat lately (about other things.) Still as a Recovering Alcoholic (in my 31st. year) I know that it takes this brutal candid honesty about oneself to engage with The Demon.. It is is a devasting addiction (for some...but not for all.). Very well-said, Eric.
We all have many great loves of our lives...she the ONE unique one he happened to love during his hell journey with addiction....he must associate that time with her...therefore trying to get away from admitting.
You could do public relations recovery for him. He put himself in the same category as prince Charles when he said "whatever love is." when asked if he loved Diana.
Pattie often said and wrote in her book she regretted leaving George Harrison her husband and I highly agree
The reason she left George was, she caught him in bed with Ringo Starr's wife Maureen.
Pattie was infertil, thats the reason Eric Clapton left her. He was also unfaithful. Good for George he met Olivia, had a son and she was a very good wife and mother.
@@fifermcgee5971 I've read that the reason was that Eric fell in love with her and once George caught them together in a party. Fluttering. Later, Pattie left George. Eric wasn't a good husband, he was alcoholic, etc. He wrote a song for her, Layla.
That’s probably because he was more famous than Clapton!!!
We just have to remember that's how there life was for 60 and 70 people love was the answers ✌💜
Eric Clapton spent years trying to win Pattie's heart only to be a terrible husband and then say he doesn't even know if he loved her. Pattie probably regrets having left George for this man.
thankfully Pattie isn't as small minded as you and they do have affection for each other
Clapton is denigrating his own ability to love and respect another person while living a life of self-abuse.
Was just an obsession of an object he wanted not loved.
But then George cheated on her too..so she must have taken two hits...that is not good for your self esteem. Apparently she has a husband who isn't a flashy famous guy. My question is : is it even possible for a man who gets women throwing themselves at them on a constant basis to not succumb to that?? These guys are major heavy hitters in the rock world. But then again Paul McCartney seems like a committed guy. Maybe he is the exception not the rule??? These people live extreme lives , maybe when they are older they settle down but a young guy with lots of money, famous and talented..hard to believe they are loyal to their woman.
Patti had 3 hit songs written specifically for her by both men. Something, Layla and Wonderful Tonight. They loved her. Eric said in another interview that everytime he sings Wonderful Tonight, he can not help but think of Patti
I used to work in 'Joes Cafe' in Chelsea. Eric Clapton was a regular customer (Post alcoholism) I worked behind the bar and Eric and me would chat on a regular basis. I was at Drama School at the time and he asked me all about that, and had a GENUINE interest. Top fella! I really enjoyed meeting him!💥
He wrecked Patty’s life. Treated her like a prize to win then toss away.
Lol I'm sorry about your unrequited love honey. Grow up.
@@clovrmay3104 you say that but it's on record that he beat and raped Patti multiple times...i can't imagine that's going to be benificial to someone's life is it...
@@clovrmay3104 He's worth your wife now.
Not according to her! She partied just as much! Hell, we all did in those days!
“The cat out of the bag” no matter what you tell yourself, everyone around you can see it
Brutally honest assessment of himself. It’s hard to love another person when you are addicted to something. Eric was so truthful about Patti, it was an obsession. He loved his booze & drugs.
And he was and still is racist!
@@joejackson9986 🤣
@@joejackson9986 huh
@@lporquai9048 people.com/music/eric-clapton-racist-rant-resurfaces-after-lockdown-protest-song-van-morrison/
Everyone's a racist these days... The media has made sure of that.
It’s brutally honest of him to admit something like impotency during rehab. He’s incredibly lucky to have gotten through the hell he put his body through.
No shit, he nearly lost the ability to play the guitar last I heard, is he OK now?
@@stephen3654 yes his doodle still works with a blue pill
What about the hell he put other people through????
Lots of DEAD friends round ole Eric@@mountainmama2460
Awesome confession. I remember when I was 13 seeing "Hard Day's Night" and saying to myself, "Who is that gorgeous babe" hanging out with the Beatles?". It was Pattie Boyd.
After all these years of living to be 66 I have come to the conclusion that love is just a state of mind, not a terminal disease.
What a nice guy Eric Clapton was , with friends like that who needs enemies.
He was the worst. He grew up though.
Hey, he’s no Bill Cosby though.
Yeah you know what that bill Cosby guy well he was a big jerk. That's how Norm McDonald would say it.
Anthother Norm 'Who do you think was a better man? Martin Luther King ...........or. Stalin!!
I believe George Harrison stayed friends with him so he couldn’t have been all bad
DON'T steal your best mates wife .
Eric admits to his drug problem but when his girlfriend, Lory Del Santo got pregnant and he saw his son for the first time he decided to get help for his addiction so he entered himself into a treatment program. I applaud someone doing that because I know it isn't easy but he had a good reason he wanted to be a good father. He left most of the raising of Conor to Lory which he said she did a brilliant job but I have no doubt they both deeply loved their baby and miss him greatly.....thankfully Conor is with the Lord....after the accident Eric raised public awareness for child safety. I know anyone who has lost a child still grieves...my older sister's firstborn died at 2 months from SIDS and I can remember the world just stopping and it being difficult for me to understand and deal with and I've had other people in my family die tragically, you are in a state of shock and it's hard to even talk about it to anyone but through the years my faith in the Lord has seen me through. You should always show kindness to those who are going through difficult times and even if you don't know what anyone is going through its still good to be kind.
Good comment. Be kind...everyone we meet has problems.
Thank you for this comment
Amen to that!🙏🌸💜
I must correct part of your comment. Laurie raised the child. Eric wanted nothing to do with him. He at some point, took responsibility and began forging a relationship with his son. Unfortunately, Conor died tragically soon after. Laurie and Eric did not mourn together.
He had kids before that tho
Obsession and love is different, obsession is like a drug, love is much deeper.
Bravo !!! For his honesty how can you truly love somebody when you’re in a downward spiral of alcoholism 🙏🏼
“Fishing was one area I had some expertise” 🤣And being one of the top iconic, most talented guitarists in history🤣
Well it made sense in his mind.
Pattie kept her silence about the REAL story for 35 years. She stayed with George for three years, even after Eric professed his love. The last straw with George was his affair with Ringo's wife, Maureen coupled with his obsession with meditation and lack of interest for her that drove her, into Eric's arms.
+Helen Peterson Thanks for telling the story in short..the book Patti wrote tells it all, from her viewpoint.
according to Pattie's autobiography her relationship with Eric began in 1970, three years before anything happened between George and Maureen. In 1970 George was going through a lot (his mother dying, Beatles breaking up). And Pattie admits she allowed Eric to pursue her from early 1973 again months before anything happened between George and Maureen. There are also some significant inaccuracies in Pattie's book and she makes light or dismises some of her behaviour which is on record (Ron Wood tpld the press they wers having a affair in November 1973 and George had to issue a statement- again all.on record). She says George was unaffectionate and did not say he loved her when even in a letter from 1971 she reproduces in the e-versipn of her book he tells her he loves her twice. I am not judging Pattie but she bears her share of responbility for things like George
this is not to say I do not have enormous compassion for Pattie for all that Eric put her through. I do feel that she was treated very badly by him.
That affair that Pattie had with Ron Wood was more of a swap. George was also sleeping with Ron Wood's wife Krissy at that time as well, no head trips, they all remained friends til George passed away.
Well actually not I also read Eric's book they were close in the information. Patties was more giving of herself and Eric is a great blues singer but he also is a concieted man and very self centered man.
Eric it took me many years as a alcoholic spending my childhood and adult life watching my parents and uncles and living thru this and alcohol was my way of life. But I got caught drunk driving 2 times and had to go into consulting and met a lady who made me realize it was time for me to make a change in my life so I attended AA meetings hung around good sober people and never pick up again. It's been 30 plus years now and I m clean and sober still and yes I always admired you for your recovery with drug and alcohol and I m a big fan of yours I m grateful for your honesty and your music also take care and keep doing what you do best in your life .Keep on Ricking
He takes Pattie away from George supposedly his best friend and says she wasn't the love of his life that he doesn't know if he loved her he just wanted her. What a p...k
AGREED!!!
He comes thru as a real shitheel.
That is low down. I think he’s a jerk
You all are ridiculous. He was an alcoholic; that is alcoholic behavior. He got sober, and now he reflects honestly on his mistakes
Plank?
He doesn't need an interviewer. I think he should have had this conversation with a shrink.
He probably did.
Tirtha Bose
Well said !
I'm sure he's been maybe still in therapy
But that's his private life
All he owes the public is his music
Agreed. Nobody needs to know about his impotence-jeez
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I think Patti's book may be called "Wonderful Tonight" all questions/doubts are answered in there...a riveting story..really!
I've just finished reading his book.Well worth a read.Its a wonder he's still alive.
I feel bad for Pattie ❤ she had been treaten like a rag doll when she got married. George and Eric both wanted her, but didn't love her when they got married. You'd think with all the song like "I Need You" and "If I Needed Someone" that they'd actually want to love her and never leave her, but that lasted shorter than you'd think it would. I think Mr Clapton needs to learn if you want to keep a beautiful flower, you've go to take care of her.
Yes yes women are helpless. Gtfoh
She could have walked away and kept millions.
"Treated like a rag doll" !!!!
She fired her boyfriend to be with George and she said it herself in an interview... Did anyone force her to be with anyone??? She was just an opportunistic woman... highly ambitious. George even took the blame for her infertility...he said that it was him who couldn't have babies.....
I'm sure she was no angel either.
Men want to feel needed, women need to feel wanted. If you look at those 2 song titles, it's about need not want even if any other of the lyrics say the word want, what they actually wanted is described in the sing title.
Wow....even though the relationship was long over by this time, it had to hurt Pattie to hear that he wasn’t sure he ever loved her. She was married to him for 10:years! Glad she remarried and seemingly has found happiness.
Yeah but she said she regretted leaving George for him in her book, so they probably weren't that compatible or hurt by either of their comments on each other.
Exactly.That must have stung.After all he put Patti through to turn around and say he wasn't sure he even ever loved her?She was a human being with feelings for Gods sake.😢
i’m an alcoholic but it doesn’t remove my morals
Indeed. Crapton is a dufus. I never understood the hero worship. It is a mass delusion.
@@ElliottSatchell Please help Thursday Lane smell the fart of white men.
@@ElliottSatchell i'd define it as alcohol embedded into the fabric of your day, a sense of dread to have to go without it, and often prioritising it over other things that 'should' matter.
People talk about whether they are "in love" with someone or not, as if that can be defined. The truth is that to love someone, you wish the highest good for them. Eric was a meddler in a relationship that wasn't his. If he had thoughts about Patty, he should have kept them to himself until the marriage was over between Patty and George. Anything more is just adultery.
Actually per Pattie, she did not Biblically "know" Eric until after she left George, after a string of George infidelities, e.g., with Ringo's first wife.
er no- She admits she had a relationship with Eric from 1970 onwards in her book. I am not judging her just saying.
JudgeJulieLit Patti said in an interview she and Eric told George Eric was in love with her. "Go to him then!" George said. It was after this George found comfort with Maureen.
May have stopped drinking but never cured his narcissism
LifeSavor: You’re right. Well said.
Agreed, my thoughts as I watched this: “in recovery, but , it’s all still about him…”
...so True.
true, because personality disorders can never be cured
People saying that 'Clapton is god' would mess with your head.
Mr. Clapton was deeply infatuated with an image that Patti represented; not Patti herself.
A beautiful wife of a Beatle. If you can’t be a Beatle, have a wife. She was another addiction.
George Harrison was definitely Eric claptons friend..but I dont think clapton was ever Harrisons friend
It's impossible to be of much interpersonal use if one is a raging alcoholic
Eric was..otherwise their friendship would not have lasted right up to Georges death.
George was no fool.
@@karenboromeo5752 Everyone can be deceived. Eric was and is a selfish, ugly, nasty....
Careful what you say, George fell in love with Ringo's wife and had a relationship with her. Do Ya think George was ever Ringo's friend?
@daniel laurence maybe you should keep your anti-female comments to yourself.
I hate it when men have relationships with women, actually marry them, and then years later,say " well I don't know if I was ever really in love with her"!!!!.........how totally hurtful, insulting and disrespectful......you can at least lie about it !!!!!
Perhaps he is gay.
It doesn't matter, love is not always entwined with sexuality and it's incredibly cruel to spend years with a person who loves you and then they turn around and say "oh well, I don't really know if I ever loved you"?.....how b.....selfish can a person be!!,
The thing is, i do believe at some point, Eric Clapton was in love with her. You couldn't write something like wonderful tonight for someone if you weren't at least a little bit in love with them
Look at my comment above... Actually the best he can do is acknowledge that wasn't love. He probably has realised it now. When you truly love, there's no place for abuse, but it's very common not to be able to tell love from some other forms of affection, attraction or infatuation. It's indeed really harsh for the other person to hear they didn't love you, but if they say they did, how you reconcile that loving involves also being mistreated? In the long run, it's better to know that person was incapable of loving so that you can understand things and hope for someone who can actually love, respect and put you first. To hear they loved me while they've completely fu**** me up is actually very insulting, at least to me.
Pussycatfeathers I appreciate the honesty.
It's a pity he didn't just walk away from George and Patti and left them alone, if I started to have feelings for my friends wife or girlfriend, I'd never betray my friends
Well when you consider that he felt like he was in love w her and consider that george was constantly cheating on patti, it makes it a harder decision
@@jaredc422 true. Also she could’ve distanced herself but nah, she decided to leave George
Hmm, different days.. They were all having it on with each other's wives & girlfriend's back then. Didn't hear anyone question George having an affair with Ringo's wife Maureen?. 🤔
He was a spoiled brat
Same happens to me twice. So called good friends get away with my gf and wife. Next time I Will ask money.
Wow, 1:15, that's ballsy - no pun intended - for someone of Clapton's stature and reputation to 'fess up to. Good on him for being man enough to be honest.
You really need to read his auto biography. It's very self revealing and a good book.
Agreed….that was a hard thing to do….:)
Absolutely👌 What a guy.....❤️
Clapton's a flop...
Drinking? I doubt it was rum he was shooting up his arm etc.
It wasn’t just alcohol with Eric but kudos to him for getting help and staying sober.
I think he really loved Patty Boyle. Because the songs that he made for her were beautiful. Wonderful tonight, Layla, and when he sings it. Look at his face, he remembers that he loved a beautiful woman and for him to say that he really didn't love her. He was in love with his drugs. Well, maybe so, but no one can make a beautiful song about a person. That beautiful is did not in love. I see narrow Clapton in 1974 in Chicago, chicago stadium. And he was great, and when he played that song, everybody jumped up was just given a standing ovation for Layla. And wonderful tonight
Eric Clapton is a brave man to overcome all his demons. Love your music Eric. God Bless you and your family
He's a racist and an admitted rapist
Too bad a SACRIFICE was needed Tears in Heaven
Dude stinks so bad he didn't even write the song himself. Needed a co-writer. Can't make this stuff up.@@user-fu2mi1nd5l
Nice to hear Eric at least fesses up he was an absolute jerk to both George and Pattie. What kind of friend hits on his friends wife and manipulates her? He seems like quite the narcissist.
+guitardds ...She was a big girl, takes two...
***** true. I'm not excusing Harrison for his behavior. He was indeed a pos. But dude code, don't be hitting on your friends wife.
The 60/70s where full of these situations
+guitardds In Patti's book, I think called "Wonderful Tonight" she explains how she had to finally face her codependency and I think also alcoholism, as well..if I am not mistaken..she was a people pleaser always lookin outside for validation. So this naturally occurred in her life, she confesses.
When everyone is on coke. there is no rules!
Very honest interview about how substances disconnect the mind & heart, even from knowing love.
To an addict, the drugs are the love
He’s so insightful here. He’s acknowledging the co dependency and the obsessive nature of addiction. He didn’t love her and he knows that he was feeding a demon that can never be satisfied.
eric IS SELF CENTERED.
There is a live version of Eric singing Wonderful Tonight in which he is so choked with emotion that I find it impossible to believe that he never truly loved Patti. I think that when a man re-marries, he has to be very careful what he says about his first wife in case the second wife gets upset. Eric would be very foolish to admit that Patti was and probably still is the love of his life., it wouldn't go down very well with Mrs. Clapton number 2.
Good points but I’ve given up on stating what’s going on through a stranger’s mind and really, most celebrities are just that - strangers to a public that admires their talents. Hell, I can’t figure out what’s on the mind of a family member most of the time!
@@danc3693 Agreed. I also think Eric is very honest here. Also in Life in 12 Bars….he sees it now as an obsession. We can look back on life as we age and see things more clearly.
@@greenworm7915 yep...He said it himself...I've said it to myself...I'm fine. Sex and dru....and rock n Roll....Love will have to come later...if ever...and your damn lucky if it does....✌️ Eric Underwood class of 81 Downey High School California
Well , I've been sober for 34 years through AA. And it is very very common to look at the loss and wreckage you have as a result of you drug/ alcohol addiction. I know for me and lots of sober people there is a deep sadness when you realize how much it cost you and the damage it caused. And , how it could have been dealt with so differently in a respectful way. And also what might have been. When you are sober and work a program of recovery you " wake up" and it's scary because you have to face yourself and look at your behavior. Not to beat yourself up but to see how sick it is. And then you are given the choice to find a better way to live. I cheated on my college boyfriend ( 35 years ago) on a regular basis and 34 years later I have moments once in while where i see someone we knew etc. And i think of what a good person he is and was and i remember how hurt he was. And id go to another keg party , lie and cheat again. All the love we had went down the tubes. The laughter we shared , all the fun vacations all the joy gone. Eventually, you will stop loving the alcoholic / addiction because of the pain it brings. Never any winners in that game
@@MJ-wrty Thanks for sharing.. Through all the shit ...we have to rediscover what was good...not used to it!
Everybody reaches the Crossroads...and the devil is always there telling you you can't make it out....you have to crawl at first...then failure will come and instead of going backwards hunker down wait for the Storm to pass and keep going forward...I enjoyed reading your post...thanks
Eric Underwood class of 81 Downey High School California
He suffered from impotence and broke his fishing rod. Live and learn Crapton!
When someone's on drugs they don't know what love is so I get what he means..
This interviewer is respectable. A great listener and conversationalist.
This is a man who said about Patti Boyd “you’ve got me on my knees, I’m begging you darling please” AND YET, isn’t man enough to admit he was in love with her!………PLEASE! 🤪
The song also gives her a different name, so maybe not every lyric should be taken as literal.
@@MyDrugHell His words…the song was about HER! Written about HER!
So he said back in the day, now he’s playing dumb like he wasn’t all that crazed over her…time affects the memory. Look it up…
@@pamelageorge8275 I know he said it's about her, I'm just pointing out that it's a song, and not every line should be taken literally.
He said he wanted her very badly, and that he knows that's not love.
Despite all, we have to value the honesty of this man...
We don't "have to" do anything. You can go ahead, though.
except he still isn't honest about pattie
I once heard patty Boyd say that he fathered a child with another woman while they were married. Isn’t that a pretty despicable act? He should feel shame.
He fathered TWO children while he was married to Patti. One he kept secret for years.
I guess karma really is a bitch...
These guys don't feel shame. He was probably proud of it.
@@americanwoman445 karma meaning his son dying?
Shame he couldn't bring himself to say he ever loved her.
Yeah, he did, not just in this interview.
fglantern Idon't think he even loved his self . hes just a drugged out whore hoppin , racist has been !
+SuperAnimelover100 +
You can add wife beater to that.
Clapton was a huge lesson about separating the product from the entertainer for me because he's such a shitbag degenerate.
lesterclaypool1 Oh my God , which woman did he beat on ??????????? Yikes !
lesterclaypool1 Thanks . Clapton is just a no good dirty dog ! He's weird . A racist but dated black women , even in the 60's and now married to a oriental woman ,. I don't understand it one bit , He has to be mentally unbalanced !
Me too Eric, Sober 28 years. Now, I'm writing songs again and recording them on my Psr sx700 keyboard. Alcohol took everything away in my life. P.S. I am a Christian and pray always....
THPPPPPPPPPT. To you and your xianity. Glad you stopped drinking. Sorry you turned into a butthole.
He can't just say that he loved Pattie? He chased her for years, wrote beautiful songs for her, she was George's wife and he "doesn't know?!" Plus what brought an end to it is that he got another woman pregnant when Pattie couldn't have a baby, and he wanted Pattie to raise the baby with him. Pattie declined and divorced him. I believe he got sober because he had a child- I have heard him say that on other interviews.
Probably he can't say that because he might have got some perspective and he's realised what he was feeling wasn't actual love. You don't abuse someone you love. He might have thought he loved her but he probably knows now he mistook something else for love. I really don't believe you can love purely (in the sense of respecting, caring for someone, putting them first) if you're drugged or drunk most of the time. I love Clapton's music and the songs he wrote could probably be written by someone with real feelings of love but real life has more to show than songs in this case, unfortunately.
@@Misirlau perfect
@@Misirlau Exactly and at the first stage is always just a lust and time is verifying real feeling.
@ Sandy Lee roberts I totally get what Eric is saying. As an addict your first love is whatever your drug is. Being obsessed and wanting someone is not love.
Because he is a total prat.
brutally honest, brave and more self aware and insightful than i might have imagined, thanks for posting this, it may very well help others, too
naw still lying about Pattie
as a chemical addict, i understand what Mr. Clapton means... i loved so deeply,i felt, that it wasn t like "normal" people love a soulmate
it was like craving for another drink,another joint,another hit...etc.
but after you come down from it,the craving clutches you again...crazy,needy,clawing, desire that never really
gets satisfied..is that love? it hurts 84percent of the time and the longing
takes meetings,doctors,rehabs,
sponsers..books ,therapy
to learn to live without.
One wise oldan Maine
,Bull Alley in South Bristal,
called it LOVE SICK..,like
dope sick
Jackie K can relate. One of anything was never enough. 9 years sober Dec. 20, 2021
None of them got it right did they? What about George having an affair with Ringo's wife!!!!
I met Patty Boyd before. She came up to me to say how much she had enjoyed my band, which she had seen the night before.This happened at a special museum screening of A Hard Days Night about two or three years ago. And she was the guest speaker after the film played. I happened to be on a date with a girl who was 25 years younger than me and it was our first date. I was kinda awkwardly standing there in front of the theater before the movie began with this pretty and very young girl (she was 23) and I was fucking nervous! Then out of nowhere, this older but still very pretty woman, who was dressed awesomely I might add, was walking towards me and smiling. It was Patty Boyd. I had never met her before but I recognized her from one of the posters for this event that we were at and then one of the guys who she was with announced her as Patty Boyd, which kinda seemed to embarrass her a bit and she rolled her eyes at the guy. He may have been doing this everytime she spoke to someone, who knows. Then she bestowed upon me a heap of enthusiastic compliments and said that she had seen my band the night before and had had so much fun listening to us and that she thought we were great. I was thinking that the sound guy must have done a stellar job because we are not all that great. Then she said "It was nice meeting you." and was gone just as quickly as she had come. I looked over to my young date, who had a huge smile on her face and said. "That lady was married to both a Beatle and to a guy who many consider to be the best guitar player there ever was. And apparently,. she thinks the old guy who you are hanging out with is good too." To this, she responded by smiling deeper and then kissing me. And you know, I didn't feel all that nervous anymore.
When I hit the comment button a few minutes ago I had no intention of telling that little story. The memory just poured out. It was to say that I thought that was real shitty of Clapton to say that he didn't know if he ever even loved Patty. I think it is mean and when it is said into a camera during an interview for television it elevates Clapton to the status of a cold-hearted, cock sucking douche bag. But that's just my opinion.
I hear what you are saying. Under normal circumstances, I would consider the whole subject to be none of my business. But these are far from normal circumstances. As for myself, I believe that personal and private matters should remain personal and private. In a world that has become obsessed with social media, I can only assume that I am part of a dwindling minority. Be that as it may, for me there is very little gray area when it comes to this particular subject. My gut reaction to his statement was, and still is, Why the hell would he say something so hurtful to her in a television interview. I thought it was a mean-spirited thing to do. And I can't help feel anything other than anger and aggression toward anyone who is willfully mean and shitty to another person or animal. Likewise, I always feel sorry for someone who is on the receiving end of that crap. We all are who we are, and that's who I am.
I think Eric said that because Patti has published her memoir and she told how Eric used to come to bed stinking of booze all over his body and want to have sex with her and how revolting it was and she would try to get it over with quickly. She also told how on tour he would stay on one floor of a hotel having parties with groupies and he would put her on a different floor. She really put up with a lot of shit from both George and Eric.
I don't get why some people on here have to judgemental and slag Clapton off....why can't you just see the interview as just total honesty? So Pattie can write a book and be totally honest and that's okay, but when Eric answers an interview question with honesty it's wrong? Eric was being honest about his alcoholism and how it affects so many parts of your life, unless you've been there or have been with someone who has an addiction then you know very little about it, and more importantly in this case you know nothing about this video and interview. I take my hat of to Eric for his honestly, he wasn't being nasty to Pattie, he's just a man looking back now sober and being honest about how alcoholism and wealth can warp your brain and make you do things you wouldn't normally do. Watch the video again, listen to the question, listen to Eric's answer, take your judgemental head off and see it for what it is. None of us are perfect and when an addiction comes into it as well then the 'normal life' rules change.
Why is it being shitty to tell the truth? Boyd was, at best, a groupie, and at worst?, Well let,s just say i'm sure she came out of it all with a healthy bank balance.
Ok
even tho commenters resent his inability to say he loved Patti Boyd, I think he is just being honest--his ability to understand his feelings was clouded by alcohol.
Pattie Boyd's book was strenuous to read, especially the parts involving Eric Clapton. He was horrific. He admitted it himself.
He wasn't just drinking. He was strung out on heroin.
😮
I love his transparency here, even talking about how he couldn't be sexual without drugs. Respect to the man and his music, he is just as human as the rest of us.
An interviewer, once asked George Harrison how Eric Clapton became a friend. With a wry smile, George replied: “We shared the same wife.”
He was a huge womanizer, he chased her and when he got her he cheated on her constantly
In his autobiography, he says that Pattie is the most beautiful woman he's ever seen. But STILL cheats on her. He just wasn't that special, and a chauvinist to boot.
Pattie was waaaay too good for this $sshole
Clapton was a chad
I honestly do not blame Sr. Clapton dealing his x wife , instead I chose her to blame upon.😱😒Why.....Like She did not know or imagine He being a well known singer and good looking, wise wouldnt dare to cheat? Come on people, come on 4 real.
@@4Barbe : Barbara: I do not mean to be rude or judge wrong because being individuals our education demand respect.......Now my question: Where or how may you place to achieve RESPECT dealing Claptons x wife on having their son back? Hey, Iam not judgying here, Iam not, I just asked a question.Its 2021 I saw and read HOLA magazine when his son died and REALLY I remain shocked.If you are a mother youare to also be best friend, understanding, BEST listener, etc.....Barbara(I happen to like your name) but friend R-E-A-L-L-Y How may one amputate a soul, feelings....
infatuation and love are two different things. He probably was infatuated with her and felt he loved her back then but now realises it was just that...infatuation
Maybe he wanted to own/ posess her
Alcoholism is a mental spiritual and physical illness. Obsession with people places, and things are part of it. Clapton had an on going obsession with Patti for years. The selfish part is when they get what they obsessed , they don't want it so bad after all.
Addiction is an affliction not an illness or a disease.
Eric is painfully honest here!
He must be a Capricorn!!!
Sally Weinreich he's not...
Perhaps in what he said, but it's the parts he left out, lying by omission.
Sally Weinreich He’s an Aries.
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I respect him for telling his true feelings it's was the time in life when love was everywhere ✌💜
I'm going to be honest, I have a feeling Eric loved Pattie more for her appearance rather then herself
He seems to be admitting that point in this interview. He regards her as an "obsession" more than a true love. Remarkable how much damage an "obsession" can do.
Well, he's a man. So, yeah.
The problem I have found with some but not all women is sometimes, and again I’m saying (some) women only have their looks to offer. It’s very rare that you find an intellectually stimulating women who just happens to be knock out gorgeous too.
don't we all fall into that?
Including her rabbit teeth
Not here to knock Clapton but there's a point where your honesty also becomes just plain disrespectful and truthfully, if he hadn't loved her then what in Heaven's name was he doing writing those songs professing his love to her..
Especially the heart-wrenching lyrics of Layla..delivered with so much emotion.
Seriously, you don't know what he was doing? Making million dollar hits, the world is a sucker for silly love songs. Take a big DUH! , you deserve it. And another thing, artists often write and sing about an idealized love, that may or may not really be the reality of their life at that moment. Taking lyrics as autobiography is a dubious thing.
I think it was that love, or what ever it is when we first fall in love with someone. It's all we can think about , whether it's high school , college or whatever
@@gerrydooley951 WTF? Is the word lust really not in your lexicon? We on the comments section don't know these people - at all. AT.ALL. NADA. ZILCH. AND Until we are closer to the situation than one half of this relationship. I say lets defer to the man giving his answer. It might, MIGHT! turn out he was lying but it is hell of a lot more definitive than your unqualified guesses.
Imho, he wrote those songs drunk, drugged or both. Alcohol and drugs distort your thinking. He may have thought he loved Pattie. I think it wasn't ever love, just lust. People want what they can't have (or isn't theirs). Perhaps she shouldn't have married either of them.
Eric Clapton is honest. I love him for that. He doesn't make excuses.
except he isn't being honest about Pattie
A man can be obsessed with a woman, or be involved with a woman who has it all. Then, one day...he snaps and runs the other side...not knowing what he lost and what he gained...and it could be better...and could be worse, too. who knows what the secret is in falling in love. A great mystery for most of us.
I think you might be right, BUT, I think the 'mystery' is solvable, but usually
not to anyone's satisfaction.
People fall in love, 'when they are programmed' to fall in love by their body.
Who they fall in love with, is always interesting. I believe in 'chemistry', but
I think you have to combine that with their pysche, but maybe the pysche
programs the the 'chemistry'. If you are looking for rationality, maybe not.
But, people usually share a 'sense of life', if you don't it doesn't work.
It has nothing to do with 'intellectuality' but the viewpoint maybe as simple
as, do you think 'the glass is half full or half empty.' Or do you think that
the universe is 'benevolent or malevolent.' Love is analysible, but in
the end, most reach the wrong conclusion and take away the 'marvel'
of it's seeming 'irrationality'
Can you now figure out why 'computer dating' is ridiculous.
When I heard him say, “he never really loved her” that was the end for me. He is just a disgusting, self centered, man who destroys lives without looking back.
Well it's easy to judge but when you're an addict it's mostly the substance that drives you. If it's not coke it's booze and if it's not booze it's women etc. He obviously had his demons.
Christ, the guy is taking ownership of his old addictive personality. He's admitting he was a failure. What do you expect? He's simply saying he was in a fog during those years. I didn't take it as disrespect to Patti at all.
@@williamtaylor5193 It was degrading to Patti Boyd. He should have kept his story between him and his therapist.
When did he say that? Not in this clip.
he's mad about her book
'I'm fine', that's what we all say...until we know we're not.
Love the video tribute of Clapton, Dhani Harrison and McCartney playing "While My Guitar Gently Weeps." Ringo was there too. Good stuff.
Sometimes you obsess about something that you believe you’ve got to have, only to find out that it doesn’t change what’s inside of you.
Just STOP IT. Clapton was a "practicing drunk" in this period. He admits it. Go ahead, judge, Hope you all are truly "better than thou".
He was way over the top and couldn’t be excused for the things he did. He’s probably lucky to be alive. Glad he’s, apparently, doing well now.
Impotency while sober is scary because usually it’s the opposite scenario. Staying clean and sober give’s our brain maximum potential for pleasure and sexual stimulation. The influence of drugs and alcohol numb’s that ultimate pleasure afforded to the human species.
You have to give the man credit, he battled his demons and prevailed.
Wow!! He got very real and personal. God bless him.
I met Clapton years ago and he seemed like a real gentleman. He says he's clean now, knows, really?
you still dont know what love means to you money is your love
This truth is brilliant!!!! Addiction certainly makes for some reasonable (temproarilly gratifying) actions fully unreasonable. Trying to add sober logic to the choices addicts make will always remain mysterious. He is so honest knowing he was addicted to the idea of her, the conquest, not being clear enough in mind to know what he was doing was not domestically ethical in most circles. In Rock and Roll, everyone misbehaves. Chasing girls is part of the sport in that industry love it or not. She woke up. Then he woke up. There were many casualties in body, heart and mind.
Patti was caught between George’s infidelity with Ringo’s wife, Maureen, and the obsession of Eric. She chose the lesser of two evils. Unfortunately, neither worked out for her. With God’s grace she chose to save her self and survived, she pulled through. She is such an inspiration to so many. Thank you Patti for sharing your story with us. Love and blessings.
I read in "Stone Alone" the book by Bill Wyman of the Stones, that Clapton stole the 'Layla' riff from an addicted sessions musician in London.
well Eric states here in this interview that he was crazy about something he could not have..think about it Men often want the Lady they cannot have'when they get what they want,they find they never wanted it....Go figure?
It's the state of romantic despair that makes you feel that way. Once you get it, it pleases you a lot but quickly goes away.
Every accomplishment begins with a decision to try.
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Sun Gold, What A Tangle Web We Weave When We Practice To Decieve. Any Man That Looks For Another Woman That Does Not Belong To Him IS Breaking One Of Many Commandments. AUDULTRY!!! God Bless The Ladies That Have Dealt With This Type Of Man Or Men.💔
him and lennon gave the most candid interviews....
Dick Van Dyke has an interview here on youtube talking about his alcoholism. You want real candid, watch that.
Patti never looked happy with him; I actually don't like the song Wonderful Tonight." Listen to the words, closely; he's dysfunctional, egotistical about being with her, and she's "babsitting" him. I am sorry to hear this is what she's left with, with them both. I do at lesst appreciate his need to be very honest in this interview. Patti said that she was "surprised" that Maureen could stab her in the back with George, I'm not. Maureen did everything she could to try to make herself over into Patti after Patti was with George, and Maureen was a very different looking dark brunette all her life prior to that. Watch out for those who "admire you" (too) much!
Eidann63 Seems George did Ringo a favor by exposing his faithless wife. Ringo divorced Maureen, but stayed friends with George.
@@wms72 Everyone stayed friends with George.💖
@@wms72 He stayed friends with Maureen and was at her bedside when she died.
When he says he called someone (after the fishing debacle) - it was Pete Townshend
Alcoholics,Addicts who are in recovery (a lifelong commitment) often tell other addicts what their "bottom" was. All are somewhat different and personal. His story about breaking his fishing pole was pretty unique. Fishing was the one thing he believed that he could do as well while drunk as he could while sober. The broken rod was the "bottom" that told him he had to quit or die.
I'm profoundly shocked by Eric's revelation. I did not know alcohol was his "demon"! I'm profoundly shocked when the video just "stopped". How are other people going to "learn" of the dangers of "drugs" when the most important bit is "cut"!
Amazing guy, the raw honesty...that's what sobriety does! Thanks Eric!
Lol Yup. That's what AA sobriety does. Makes you feel free to be a racist right wing religious ass. Bravo!
just had an old friend dying of Cancer. waiting years to finish album. friend just shot up a gram of heroin, an 8 ball of cocaine, 100 mg of winstrol and primabolin and finished a tripple disc 37 song album in less than 5 hours. music sounds great! gotta do what you gotta do. can't wait to hear it when mastered. waited so long. it's elvis meets srv.
Let's be honest here, George was NEVER loyal to Patti. George also either had his hand in a prayer bag chanting or locked in his studio with a pile of cocaine, sometimes with Ringo's wife.
I remember Layla And Other Assorted Love Songs. How could Clapton say he wasn't sure if Patti was the love of his life? I think many associate love with obsession. He wrote many songs for Patti. I have a hard time after everything he went through, believing she wasn't the love of his life...
I was married for 20yrs and got divorced, honestly i can`t say she was the love of my life.
bmwnasher Ppl and perspectives change. The one fact of our journey.
+bmwnasher I was married for 15,he certainly wasn't the love of mine...
FeFe That`s 35yrs wasted, still things could be worse.
Well, I've been obsessed with a woman myself and I can tell you, it's all in the wanting of something you can't have that is very close but not that close as to be yours. In fact, she was another guy's fiancee and she was cheating on that guy with one of my best friends. Man, the poems I wrote inspired by her! But, I didn't really loved her, I just wanted her that bad to make me lose my mind in a platonic-romantic, desperate way.
Tell me George isin't a humble dude, even though Pattie left and goes to his friend he was still a best friend with Eric Clapton.
He was rejected by his mother & then Patti. Living a life fuelled by drugs and booze. Affects ones state of mind! He probably did think he loved her back then but now yrs on he's out of that scene grown older and look back and reflect! Now can admit to himself that perhaps it wasn't love but just a drug fuelled huge obsession!
rejected by Pattie? Naw he screwed that up by screwing everything and making babies all over.
What he says about addiction is textbook? Working with people who begin recovery from substance addiction, they have said to me that making minute daily life decisions without their substance of choice is frightening. This is why many marriages don't make it, sadly, because they began in an addicted mindset and have been conducted in the same. I know we all want to romanticize and remember what we thought happened in Eric Clapton's life, but thankfully he is willing to share the truth so that others can understand their life in relation to their addiction and understand life with an addictive spouse/family member. Bravo Eric Clapton!
Clapton was abandoned by his mother and grew up with his grandparents thinking they were his parents. in his early teens he met his mother and wanted to stay with her but he was rejected again! So
hes spent all his life trying to find a woman who would substitute for his mother .
men and women who have that problem can't have successful adult relationships until they get over that issue
His drug addiction and sometimes aggressive obnoxious behaviour are completely understandable in the circumstances as he would be suffering from powerful repressed anger
The Man s law! Never mess with a friend ex any thing. He broke the law.
dude, ya got that right!
you can't blame Eric 100% for the failure of Patti and Georges marriage. However, it has to sting to hear him say she was just an obsession and never really even loved her. After all, she did throw everything away with George for him. Life lesson learned I'm sure.
you obviously know nothing about Pattie and Georges relationship. She threw away garbage.
Stopping drinking was the best thing I ever done. Everyone should try it.
I read EC's autobiography several years ago and in it he refers to George as an unhappy person. Tell us all about it Eric, ye of wangular softitude HAHAAAA
Malcom Tent I don't like him anymore, he's really a arrogant jerk!
Please🤚🏻🙄he loved her; he just is too proud to admit it I feel🤷♀️
Eric had a drug and drinking problem. George had a cocaine problem in the 70’s. John had a heroin and drinking problem. Ringo had a long drinking problem. Paul had a problem with excessive pot smoking. They’re just human beings with weaknesses and problems like the rest of us. Huge talents, but humans with flaws.
Yep..."The Journeyman" has been taking a lot of heat lately (about other things.) Still as a Recovering Alcoholic (in my 31st. year) I know that it takes this brutal candid honesty about oneself to engage with The Demon.. It is is a devasting addiction (for some...but not for all.). Very well-said, Eric.
We all have many great loves of our lives...she the ONE unique one he happened to love during his hell journey with addiction....he must associate that time with her...therefore trying to get away from admitting.
You could do public relations recovery for him. He put himself in the same category as prince Charles when he said "whatever love is." when asked if he loved Diana.