Step 1: Position yourself tactically. Step 2: Present yourself as alluring. Step 3: Be confident with a high presence. Step 4: Consciously prioritize fitness and health in your life. Step 5: Walk into the room and be relational. Step 6: Be adventurous and fun. Step 7: Be direct in your communication. Step 8: Be supportive and optimistic. Step 9: Be resourceful. Step 10: Be loving.
Im a single mom because i have been through so much betrayal in my life with men.its hard for me to trust someone.but i pray that one day i will be able to find someone but listening to your advice brings light to me.
Tell them single Moms got it too. When you're true intentional honest and full of peace and life. You become like a light or honey. I don't get approached irl, but I do get admirable glances in person. But the way it's going my single season might be drawing to an end. I just feel it's on the horizon.
Present yourself to the men in places that they are willing to present you in places where they are proud to present you. You have to position yourself to be found!
LOL...I've been to all those places in South Africa, Capetown Table mountain, Robin Island, Soweto, Joburg, Sun City. Well I was born in Durban, and I just went to Hawaii for my birthday in November. LOL
The best and only way to get rid of fear is to do it and then you become comfortable. It really is actually easy. Just go somewhere you like (a restaurant or lounge and sit at the bar and order) and then engage in small talk. Then, you feel comfortable because everyone who came alone is looking for conversation too. However, you have to see for yourself vs. just think about it. After that, the world of going places alone is easy.
Coming from a sister who goes 100% of places by myself including dinner out, movies, networking events, football/baseball/basketball games, jazz concerts, clubs, dance schools, etc., it's important to learn how to enjoy your own company, treat yourself, and be comfortable in your own skin, especially by yourself. Go to your favorite restaurant, sit at the bar, put your phone in your purse, watch TV, people watch, and have a pleasant look on your face, and people will flock to you. I have met sooooooo many men by being friendly, giving great conversation, and being alone. Do it sis! A good, mature guy wants a woman who can be alone and be in her own skin, no matter what. When you learn to do this, your life gets exponentially better, and it's just a matter of time before you meet a great guy. For example, I went to a Black MBA networking event, and I was strategic with the people I spoke with. At the end of the night, I connected with some very successful brothers on LinkedIn and followed up with them professionally. I also got a mini date after the event because one of the attendees walked me to the train station, asked for my number, and called me the next day. That would have not happened if I was with another person. Honestly, you shouldn't be looking for a relationship if you can't love being by yourself. ❤❤❤
The biggest trend I see is Black men preferring, dating, and marrying non-Black women (in fact 90% of my Black male cousins don't date Black women). I see Black men very often at networking events with their non-Black wives or partners. This trend along with the hate online towards Black women saddens me because it sends a message to us and the world that they see us as lower value. Every single week, I go to professional events, networking meetings, sports bars, basketball games, restaurants, etc. by myself with no luck. Men describe me as fun and bubbly and come up to me but nothing happens. I work out 4 to 5 times a week, and I dress classy, cute and conservative, and wear a curly fro, but I don't get any play. Can any other sisters relate?
The actual statistic is 85% of Black men are married to Black women. So, your cousins are in the 15% minority. blackdemographics.com/households/marriage-in-black-america/amp/
I hear you. Don't focus solely on black men. Every good man regardless of race and ethnicity or culture should be your focus. When you are at such events and see black men treating their non-black wives lovingly, don't let that bring your vibe down. focus on you and you only.
@@DRTARTT1 I understand. I can only work with what I see on a daily basis where I live. That statistic doesn't take into account people who are dating or in domestic partnerships. I will keep this in mind and stay positive.
Someone slid into my DM a month ago and was very proactive with text, inspirational messages and basic into Q&A following his lead. I asked to take convo from text to voice & video chat about a week ago. Crickets from the what I thought was a high value man (Alpha Male).
In addition, exchanged recent pictures. My bad I thought the gentleman was high valued, God-fearing man that was widowed? Friends in the world say ghosting, catfishing, breadcrumbing and benching situation. I say silence is Golden and thank God for protecting me emotionally, mentally, physically, financially & spiritually.
Sorry that happened to you. We all suffer in dating at some point but keep going because those who weed through the bad apples get the good one because they don’t quit. I still believe.
Ok I’ll try. I’m a divorced mother of two(2008). My kids are 24 and 18 . It’s now time for me . I want to be married but it’s hard to do the leg work.😢
Giving your gift to the world.. ..... Serve you gift to the world 🌎 like Ruth she gave and worked in the fields .... Her husband saw her giving.. . I believe this is going to happen for me. Get in the right environment where men that your interested in
This was on fire Doc, thank you for your wisdom. May our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ continue to bless you and your family this year. Nuff love and blessings 🇯🇲
Steve never woulda gotten Marjorie unless he was a millionaire. She never woulda looked at him. He know she is way more beautiful than his level of attractiveness so as a typical superficial male, he listens to her.
Did you see his interview where he opened up about Marjorie dating him when he was broke and helping him to build his current empire? Marjorie helped him not benefited from him.
@@DRTARTT1There was an interview by I think one of his counterparts on his radio show where she said Steve was lying. She said Marjorie came along after Steve was back on top after apparently leaving him or breaking up with him prior to realizing I guess his potential.
17:16 Those women are Bad examples….. We can’t and shouldn’t look to these celebrities as role models or examples for healthy relationships and definitely not marriage.
@@DRTARTT1Smh….Mrs. Obama and Mrs. Harvey are two totally different caliber of women but what caliber of woman a woman chooses to be is totally up to her.
I don’t recommend online dating. That’s just me. I believe in the old fashioned way…..Trust me it STILL works. I think men should do the work of pursuing. Women should work to be “prepared” to be pursued. Wife is not just a title or a role it’s a ministry. It’s a duty that requires service. There’s no room for selfishness. Period! As a woman what can you do to add to a man’s life not subtract from it? Can you be his Tylenol and not his headache? Can you bring more that’s what’s between your legs? Can you bring what’s between your ears? Women are the gatekeepers of sex but…..Men are the gatekeepers of marriage. Are you capable of being a long term thing or just a play thing? Real talk….. Married 16 years now but I came to these conclusions from experience and observations.
Joyce, I encourage you to do you my friend. We just have to make sure we are getting results. Men are online in droves because they tend to be less social and want the power and logical power to choose right from the phone.
@@DRTARTT1Thank you. I most certainly will. My only hope is that in order for more black women to be taken seriously and considered candidates for marriage is that they’ll be more mindful of who they take dating and marriage advice from. Not everyone is equipped. While no one of course is perfect; there are some who are more qualified than others. Off the top as for men in this space….. Tony Gaskins and RC Blakes are two that immediately come to mind. A young lady recently had her throat slashed by a man she met online. I think many maybe not all but many men online see and smell desperation from 10 miles away. Online often equates easy sex and/or swindling unwise and foolish women out of their money and their panties and in some cases their lives but…. I digress Newly Unsubscribed. Blessings to you🙂
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Step 1: Position yourself tactically.
Step 2: Present yourself as alluring.
Step 3: Be confident with a high presence.
Step 4: Consciously prioritize fitness and health in your life.
Step 5: Walk into the room and be relational.
Step 6: Be adventurous and fun.
Step 7: Be direct in your communication.
Step 8: Be supportive and optimistic.
Step 9: Be resourceful.
Step 10: Be loving.
Thank you for this, Queen.
Good stuff...Please look up, smile and be seen!
Thank you. Be blessed!
Yes. Always should smell good, be clean and healthy
Im a single mom because i have been through so much betrayal in my life with men.its hard for me to trust someone.but i pray that one day i will be able to find someone but listening to your advice brings light to me.
Yes I started playing golf! I am confident!
Tell them single Moms got it too. When you're true intentional honest and full of peace and life. You become like a light or honey. I don't get approached irl, but I do get admirable glances in person. But the way it's going my single season might be drawing to an end. I just feel it's on the horizon.
Dr. Tarrtt did "marathon" today! he did the warm -up, pre-workout and finished the race!!!
A little hard work never hurt anyone lol. Glad to serve.
Present yourself to the men in places that they are willing to present you in places where they are proud to present you. You have to position yourself to be found!
I am 28 now !! I will be taking your advice. I want to be more confident and make eye contact w/ men !! It will take a lot of practice! 😀
You give such great practical advice . Thank you so much for all you do !
You are so welcome
I’m a divorced mom of 3 also, I’ll be definitely using this advice and positioning myself. Thank you
That makes me smile.
Thank you for your advice.
LOL...I've been to all those places in South Africa, Capetown Table mountain, Robin Island, Soweto, Joburg, Sun City. Well I was born in Durban, and I just went to Hawaii for my birthday in November. LOL
Powerful information shared, Sir! 👌🏽 Looking forward to what I will learn when the “ring formula” course starts! 💯🙏🏽🙏🏽
You are going to both learn and do a lot! The ladies are surprised how dating works and being more in control of their dating lives.
You are right about travel!
I would love to go places by myself, but I fear looking awkward and uncomfortable which is a turnoff too.
The best and only way to get rid of fear is to do it and then you become comfortable. It really is actually easy. Just go somewhere you like (a restaurant or lounge and sit at the bar and order) and then engage in small talk. Then, you feel comfortable because everyone who came alone is looking for conversation too. However, you have to see for yourself vs. just think about it. After that, the world of going places alone is easy.
Coming from a sister who goes 100% of places by myself including dinner out, movies, networking events, football/baseball/basketball games, jazz concerts, clubs, dance schools, etc., it's important to learn how to enjoy your own company, treat yourself, and be comfortable in your own skin, especially by yourself.
Go to your favorite restaurant, sit at the bar, put your phone in your purse, watch TV, people watch, and have a pleasant look on your face, and people will flock to you.
I have met sooooooo many men by being friendly, giving great conversation, and being alone.
Do it sis! A good, mature guy wants a woman who can be alone and be in her own skin, no matter what.
When you learn to do this, your life gets exponentially better, and it's just a matter of time before you meet a great guy.
For example, I went to a Black MBA networking event, and I was strategic with the people I spoke with. At the end of the night, I connected with some very successful brothers on LinkedIn and followed up with them professionally. I also got a mini date after the event because one of the attendees walked me to the train station, asked for my number, and called me the next day. That would have not happened if I was with another person.
Honestly, you shouldn't be looking for a relationship if you can't love being by yourself. ❤❤❤
Wow dr. You are an amazing man of God 🙏🏽 God bless you and your wife ❤️🙏🏽
Thanks for the tips!
Healthy habits, and intentional also show up as one's true self
The biggest trend I see is Black men preferring, dating, and marrying non-Black women (in fact 90% of my Black male cousins don't date Black women).
I see Black men very often at networking events with their non-Black wives or partners.
This trend along with the hate online towards Black women saddens me because it sends a message to us and the world that they see us as lower value.
Every single week, I go to professional events, networking meetings, sports bars, basketball games, restaurants, etc. by myself with no luck.
Men describe me as fun and bubbly and come up to me but nothing happens.
I work out 4 to 5 times a week, and I dress classy, cute and conservative, and wear a curly fro, but I don't get any play.
Can any other sisters relate?
The actual statistic is 85% of Black men are married to Black women. So, your cousins are in the 15% minority. blackdemographics.com/households/marriage-in-black-america/amp/
I hear you. Don't focus solely on black men. Every good man regardless of race and ethnicity or culture should be your focus. When you are at such events and see black men treating their non-black wives lovingly, don't let that bring your vibe down. focus on you and you only.
@@DRTARTT1 I understand. I can only work with what I see on a daily basis where I live. That statistic doesn't take into account people who are dating or in domestic partnerships.
I will keep this in mind and stay positive.
@@TheSunshinefee Thanks dear.
Someone slid into my DM a month ago and was very proactive with text, inspirational messages and basic into Q&A following his lead. I asked to take convo from text to voice & video chat about a week ago. Crickets from the what I thought was a high value man (Alpha Male).
In addition, exchanged recent pictures. My bad I thought the gentleman was high valued, God-fearing man that was widowed? Friends in the world say ghosting, catfishing, breadcrumbing and benching situation. I say silence is Golden and thank God for protecting me emotionally, mentally, physically, financially & spiritually.
Sorry that happened to you. We all suffer in dating at some point but keep going because those who weed through the bad apples get the good one because they don’t quit. I still believe.
Yes! Love it. ❤
Amen! A man that is health conscious and fit! 😂
Tactically placing yourself in Public speaking clubs like Toastmasters.
Now we are talking. You must be around the men who wish to attract to have any chance at dating. That also goes both ways.
This is good!
Ok I’ll try. I’m a divorced mother of two(2008). My kids are 24 and 18 . It’s now time for me . I want to be married but it’s hard to do the leg work.😢
👀.......He betta eat those skittles in silence😂😂😂
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This is so good and insightful!!! I want a successful man 😍 thats really living for God!!!!!
He who finds a wife, finds a good things and gains favor in the Lord. So, it looks like you will both be blessed. 🙏🏾
Giving your gift to the world..
..... Serve you gift to the world 🌎 like Ruth she gave and worked in the fields .... Her husband saw her giving..
. I believe this is going to happen for me. Get in the right environment where men that your interested in
This was on fire Doc, thank you for your wisdom. May our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ continue to bless you and your family this year. Nuff love and blessings 🇯🇲
The best line that sounded good was the Blackeye Peas and Collard Greens for a man. A New Years Dinner.😂
When you are in the dating stage, how can you tell if a man likes directness?
Steve never woulda gotten Marjorie unless he was a millionaire. She never woulda looked at him. He know she is way more beautiful than his level of attractiveness so as a typical superficial male, he listens to her.
These celeb examples are terrible. 🥴
Did you see his interview where he opened up about Marjorie dating him when he was broke and helping him to build his current empire? Marjorie helped him not benefited from him.
@@DRTARTT1There was an interview by I think one of his counterparts on his radio show where she said Steve was lying. She said Marjorie came along after Steve was back on top after apparently leaving him or breaking up with him prior to realizing I guess his potential.
Well, it worked out for them in the end either way. I wish that for every couple.
Exactly! Steve is not your typical man of “high values” (moral consciousness) not to be confused with high value aka money and status.
Absolutely
Haha! You’re so cute!!
Oh wow, my predicament in real time!
Starts @4.30minutes😊
Ok…ok. I’ll start faster. Everyone likes a good setup, right? 😀
😂😂😂
Wait let me back this up. Am I treating him to a spa day? 🤔 I kinda like this. I need to budget a little better
If he is your man only and he needs to do the same!
I got it❤❤❤❤
Me 🙋🏽♀️
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17:16
Those women are
Bad examples…..
We can’t and shouldn’t look to these celebrities as role models or examples for healthy relationships and definitely not marriage.
Maybe but their mindset is key. Marjorie has leveled Steve up so much, as did Mrs. Obama in different ways and they are both still married.
@@DRTARTT1Smh….Mrs. Obama and Mrs. Harvey are two totally different caliber of women but what caliber of woman a woman chooses to be is totally up to her.
What do you like to do?
Amen🙏
Wows extra 😂😅🤭
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I like it lol
Open
I don’t recommend online dating. That’s just me. I believe in the old fashioned way…..Trust me it STILL works.
I think men should do the work of pursuing.
Women should work to be “prepared” to be pursued.
Wife is not just a title or a role it’s a ministry. It’s a duty that requires service.
There’s no room for selfishness. Period!
As a woman what can you do to add to a man’s life not subtract from it?
Can you be his Tylenol and not his headache?
Can you bring more that’s what’s between your legs? Can you bring what’s between your ears?
Women are the gatekeepers of sex but…..Men are the gatekeepers of marriage.
Are you capable of being a long term thing or just a play thing?
Real talk…..
Married 16 years now but I came to these conclusions from experience and observations.
Joyce, I encourage you to do you my friend. We just have to make sure we are getting results. Men are online in droves because they tend to be less social and want the power and logical power to choose right from the phone.
@@DRTARTT1Thank you. I most certainly will. My only hope is that in order for more black women to be taken seriously and considered candidates for marriage is that they’ll be more mindful of who they take dating and marriage advice from.
Not everyone is equipped. While no one of course is perfect; there are some who are more qualified than others. Off the top as for men in this space…..
Tony Gaskins and RC Blakes are two that immediately come to mind.
A young lady recently had her throat slashed by a man she met online. I think many maybe not all but many men online see and smell desperation from 10 miles away. Online often equates easy sex and/or swindling unwise and foolish women out of their money and their panties and in some cases their lives but…. I digress
Newly Unsubscribed.
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Thanks for the love!
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Dr. Tartt is fine asf! Lol my goodness.
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Yes great smelling