I agree with jayla but in a general sense it’s hard to date anywhere. Theses men are a different breed. Men nowadays aren’t romantic, can’t plan dates let alone something different than usual, aren’t attentive to you or details. It’s so hard for me to date because I’m so picky. They want the women to chase them, they want a go with the flow type woman. All they wanna do is Netflix and chill, if it’s not something easy and chill then they don’t wanna put the work in.
Barbara Henry Girl, I'm 30 and these men are a MESS! Their age doesn't matter. At this point, I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I'm going to spend my life alone.
I been single for 9 years now, dating was horrible so I choose to be celibate for 3 years now, going good so far accomplished my dream and staying focused is the key to my happiness right now, no space for distractions
Dating in nyc can be hard because there are so many fboys here. but Jayla you have a really good mindset, you know what you want and drop any guy who isn't with it. All girls need to think like that
This conversation between you two was everything. This is the type of stuff I want to hear from my generation. Holding our standards and carrying every ounce of confidence we have with pride.
I live in NY and have my whole life. I feel its because everyone is trying to enjoy life, work their full time job and have a side hustle to pay their bills. You have to secure the bag first then date.
& that’s not just in nyc , I live in Chicago & that’s basically the Motto , I think it’s the new day & age . It’s hella irritatin but to each is own . I feel like everybody is money hungry & can miss out on something special because their chasin money .
JayKay Day I can only speak on Ny because that’s where I live. But I definitely agree , we live in a new age where you need multiple degrees and business to provide for yourself let alone start a family. That’s why studies show people are getting married later on and waiting to start families. Compared to this generations grandparents who had us at a much younger age
I admire the fact that you were really sick 🤒 I know I just got over a cold myself and for you to still push through the pain and go to you friend graduation shows how much of a lovely person you are I wish I had a BFF like that glad you are feeling better girly have a blessed and happy holiday 🎄
I honestly think it's tough in the whole world, I,m going on 3 years single and the UK is no joke and this is definitely the time for everyone to cross their legs as the vultures are out there but zero commitment.
Oh girl yes. Jayla still believes love can be found here. Been living here for 3+ years and um... sorry not sure this is the place to find love in your 20s but it is def a fun city for 20 somethings. I moved here at 24!
When I was watching the Flu Vlogs, my husband says to me "So you feel like your sister sick?" 😂😂😂 he doesn't understand why I watch Vlogs or what I get out of it!!!! He hates it, lol. I told him, but I know her 😂😂😂😂😂😂 lol
Thats my hubby too when he hears random voices talking he thinks Im on the phone and be like who is that? What is she talking about? Why you got her on speaker? 😂😂😂 He thinks vlogs are crazy 😂
My man hates it to. He says why you watching other ppl lives? I think it’s bc I grew up with a big family and when would vacation together every year and record ourselves every step of the way. Then we would come home and watch the video over and over. Best times of my life.
If yall wanna be schooled on dating watch SheRaSeven1 she has some good tips. One important thing is to date UP. Do not date potential especially if the man hasn't got the will to work hard. Whatever you have the man/men you are dating should mirror you, i.e Jayla can afford her own place she should not be dating a dude that lives with his mom or a gazillion house mates, do not invest your time and energy building a man up. He should have the drive to do that himself. A man is supposed to ENHANCE your life and not take away from it. If you don't look good, improve yourself, dress well, make sure your hair is done, and that your body is tight. Go to places where men are that have calibre. Where do the investment bankers, lawyers and doctors socialise. Go to art galleries. Shop at an upscale grocery store, join a gym in a nice area. Then the men that you attract will begin to change. Black women as a whole have been conditioned to accept less. KNOW YOUR WORTH!
I feel that lol that's why I avoid relationships all together (which probably isn't the right thing to do lol) but I'm under so much stress the last thing I need is added problems. The way I was raised is that a person should add to your life not take from it . Great talk jayla !!!!!
I’ve been living in NY for three years now and 8/10 dates I went on were horrible...really horrible.NY is so fun and there’s so much to do so I really don’t get why guys here can get creative with first dates ,I be having more fun on my own 🙄
Andrea well I became really good friend with one of them but like Jayla said all this NY guys want to do is Netflix and chill or they want a girl likeNola but don’t worry NY is the largest dating pool you will find the right one .
Okay you guys should start a segment!! I was into this entire conversation. I didn’t want it to end!! 💕 Also you’re intros are the cutest hands down!!! 🤗
You look so pretty while talking to your hairstylist. I found myself staring at that skin huntyyy . Don’t you just love these kinda conversations with your friends so refreshing 🤗
This was A GOOD ONE! I️ love a in depth conversation, especially seeing two totally different perspectives and personalities. You should definitely do more of these...
Yessss i felt everything yall was saying about dating Jayla! Its like people want you to make time but want to waste the time you do make and its like whats the point. I’ve had guys who were “good guys” tell me i’m too busy and have alot going for myself and they dont wanna mess that up. Etc etc similar to your friend and I just feel like its blessings in disguise lol
Living in NY and dating a quality guy is so so hard to encounter... personally speaking. Sometimes when I'm approached or when I think a guy is feeling me. My introverted ways kicks in and unless he can make me genuinely laugh and I throw in my sarcastic come back. They're no interest, I'm veru busy but I'm willing to make time for a special man in my life. It's all about EFFORT and me knowing you're intrigued by me.
I would kinda agree I’m from MD and I moved to Florida and down here relationship and courting is definitely more of a thing then up north. I met my boyfriend 6months after I moved to Florida. We only been together for a year and he gave me a promise ring.
Even though most of the vlog was with you having a deep conversation with your friend it was really enjoyable to watch and ya’ll was speaking nothing but the truth about these dudes 😒
Jayla! You can absolutely find love in NYC. It has a lot to do with the crowd you associate with and the places you frequent. My husband and I are both born and raised in BK and trust me we make it work. We both still grind hard and have our own things going on but we find time for eachother. Keep your standards up and state them at the door! You will find someone that is worth it.
Personally imma ny native. Dating can be hard. You have to constantly sift through A LOT of bs but there’s definitely good guys/girls here. Then again we’re in our 20s dating just sucks in general. Good luck tho love u❤️
That sit down at the end was sooo true! They want that "girlfriend/boyfriend" type of thing but not really want to commit to actually having a girlfriend/boyfriend. You should do more talks with friends like that, that was great
Yesss that sit down convo was everything and I agree 100%, dating in NY is hard. Its really not even the state of NY cause there’s really so much to do it’s just the guys themselves. They don’t want commitment, they want flings or for you to commit and they get to do whatever the hell the want and it really don’t work that way. On the other handed there’s a lot of weak minded females out here who allow it and guys are use to finding them, therefore when they meet a strong minded female who’s not gonna let that rock they not with it
Dating life is haaaaarrrd! But what I love about dating in a bigger city is that no one knows you from the get-go. Coming from, still a large city but a lot smaller than where I live now, you couldnt even as much as hint at someone that you liked them without your enemy from 1st grade, your grandma, your secret crush in 5th grade and people you dont even know, knowing. I hated it. So I never pursued a dating life there. Here people are so much more different, focused, and a lot here are from abroad, who moved here to try something new, their mindsets are so much more open I love that. Having lived abroad myself that is so important to me that they have that mentality.
I agree with you guys on your talk about dating and I enjoy walking around the city and sight seeing and finding new places and talking while doing all that
I agree with jayla but in a general sense it’s hard to date anywhere. Theses men are a different breed. Men nowadays aren’t romantic, can’t plan dates let alone something different than usual, aren’t attentive to you or details. It’s so hard for me to date because I’m so picky. They want the women to chase them, they want a go with the flow type woman. All they wanna do is Netflix and chill, if it’s not something easy and chill then they don’t wanna put the work in.
Some don't even believe in a word called Romance
Barbara Henry exactly they do exist! Don’t let em tell you they don’t! I’ve been told I wouldn’t find a man with those standards.
Barbara Henry Girl, I'm 30 and these men are a MESS! Their age doesn't matter. At this point, I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I'm going to spend my life alone.
Karla Burrill that’s not what I’m tryna do, just harder to find a nice guy.
D Alexandria I've been date raped more than twice. I don't even go on dates anymore because of it 😒
You should definitely do more of these sit down talk videos with friends I could’ve watched it for way longer it was interesting ❤️
these are my favorite
Tee Bella yes I agree
Tee Bella agreed!
Tee Bella I agree! I need a part two of this discussion. It was getting good.
Jayla you are swinging the hell out of this ponytail! lol
TyraNoBanks hella 😩😩😩 lol
TyraNoBanks it’s perfect shit I would to
Lol... I noticed that too 😂😂 it’s hella cute though.
I been single for 9 years now, dating was horrible so I choose to be celibate for 3 years now, going good so far accomplished my dream and staying focused is the key to my happiness right now, no space for distractions
Diamond Sky wow Makes me sad
Your vlogmas intro style is hands down the best! Love seeing something new every day ❤️
That ponytail and that blue on you is poppin!
Yes, that should be a series on your channel where you and some of your friends sit down and talk about different topics!
Dating in nyc can be hard because there are so many fboys here. but Jayla you have a really good mindset, you know what you want and drop any guy who isn't with it. All girls need to think like that
Jayla, that dating segment definitely sounded like a podcast waiting to happen. And you know I'd listen.
Jayla you was serving major looks in that blue jumpsuit! You looked so cute in that clip 😍
"They can't thnk about anything at all, they are dumb!" LMAO exactly how I feel!
This conversation between you two was everything. This is the type of stuff I want to hear from my generation. Holding our standards and carrying every ounce of confidence we have with pride.
I live in NY and have my whole life. I feel its because everyone is trying to enjoy life, work their full time job and have a side hustle to pay their bills. You have to secure the bag first then date.
Kori In The House Agreed
& that’s not just in nyc , I live in Chicago & that’s basically the Motto , I think it’s the new day & age . It’s hella irritatin but to each is own . I feel like everybody is money hungry & can miss out on something special because their chasin money .
JayKay Day I can only speak on Ny because that’s where I live. But I definitely agree , we live in a new age where you need multiple degrees and business to provide for yourself let alone start a family. That’s why studies show people are getting married later on and waiting to start families. Compared to this generations grandparents who had us at a much younger age
Jayla is such a pretty well rounded young lady. She’s inspirational!
I loved how you got creative with your vlog since you are sick and didn’t get a lot of footage. That ponytail was so cute tho 😍
I admire the fact that you were really sick 🤒 I know I just got over a cold myself and for you to still push through the pain and go to you friend graduation shows how much of a lovely person you are I wish I had a BFF like that glad you are feeling better girly have a blessed and happy holiday 🎄
Dating is just hard in the United States of America. Period. whether your gay, straight, black, white whatever.. lol help 😰
Bridget Owens Yep
I honestly think it's tough in the whole world, I,m going on 3 years single and the UK is no joke and this is definitely the time for everyone to cross their legs as the vultures are out there but zero commitment.
Term-B Phillip Well damn it I guess nobody’s safe then lol
@Bridget lol I just saw your reply I'm on the floor laughing, no sis the vultures are out there waiting to pounce lol.
Bridget Owens So sad..but true! Just when u think u found a potential bae he turns out to be shit! Smdh
Yass I’m loving this intros,so creative 💕 I’ve so many things to say about dating in NYC but I don’t want to spam the comment section
Give us the tea we wanna know
Oh girl yes. Jayla still believes love can be found here. Been living here for 3+ years and um... sorry not sure this is the place to find love in your 20s but it is def a fun city for 20 somethings. I moved here at 24!
When I was watching the Flu Vlogs, my husband says to me "So you feel like your sister sick?" 😂😂😂 he doesn't understand why I watch Vlogs or what I get out of it!!!! He hates it, lol. I told him, but I know her 😂😂😂😂😂😂 lol
Ashlyn Lee 😂😂
Thats my hubby too when he hears random voices talking he thinks Im on the phone and be like who is that? What is she talking about? Why you got her on speaker? 😂😂😂 He thinks vlogs are crazy 😂
😂😂😂😂 my bf hates it too! "oh your watching your "friendssss" live life again?" And all these slick comments.
My man hates it to. He says why you watching other ppl lives? I think it’s bc I grew up with a big family and when would vacation together every year and record ourselves every step of the way. Then we would come home and watch the video over and over. Best times of my life.
😂😂😂😂 lol I guess we are watching them live their lives.... But it's so interesting though!!
Man if I knew what I knew at 22 or 23 guys would not be on my RADAR,
Wha??
If yall wanna be schooled on dating watch SheRaSeven1 she has some good tips. One important thing is to date UP. Do not date potential especially if the man hasn't got the will to work hard. Whatever you have the man/men you are dating should mirror you, i.e Jayla can afford her own place she should not be dating a dude that lives with his mom or a gazillion house mates, do not invest your time and energy building a man up. He should have the drive to do that himself. A man is supposed to ENHANCE your life and not take away from it.
If you don't look good, improve yourself, dress well, make sure your hair is done, and that your body is tight. Go to places where men are that have calibre. Where do the investment bankers, lawyers and doctors socialise. Go to art galleries. Shop at an upscale grocery store, join a gym in a nice area. Then the men that you attract will begin to change.
Black women as a whole have been conditioned to accept less. KNOW YOUR WORTH!
I feel that lol that's why I avoid relationships all together (which probably isn't the right thing to do lol) but I'm under so much stress the last thing I need is added problems. The way I was raised is that a person should add to your life not take from it . Great talk jayla !!!!!
I’ve been living in NY for three years now and 8/10 dates I went on were horrible...really horrible.NY is so fun and there’s so much to do so I really don’t get why guys here can get creative with first dates ,I be having more fun on my own 🙄
adja bambi Sow did something good come out of one of the two good dates you went on?! Lol give a single girl hope
Andrea well I became really good friend with one of them but like Jayla said all this NY guys want to do is Netflix and chill or they want a girl likeNola but don’t worry NY is the largest dating pool you will find the right one .
adja bambi Sow ♥️😊🙌🏼
I'm in NY date me !
adja bambi Sow that's not all NYC guys want to do. That's has nothing to do with Location, this generalization is so stupid.
Okay you guys should start a segment!! I was into this entire conversation. I didn’t want it to end!! 💕 Also you’re intros are the cutest hands down!!! 🤗
Never seen you this sick and weak. Hugs and kisses to you get well soon and take care.
Jayla!! It's so crazy how much I enjoy your videos of you just having conversations with people. Lol 😇
This convo is everything chile Yasss guys aint never ready
i love when you have these life and relationship talks with your friends! You should do more of that on here
You look so pretty while talking to your hairstylist. I found myself staring at that skin huntyyy . Don’t you just love these kinda conversations with your friends so refreshing 🤗
The intros are slaaaaying me 😩 feel better sis !
Been in NYC for 3years now, I swear thottin is these guys full time job 😪
Same in ATL
This was A GOOD ONE! I️ love a in depth conversation, especially seeing two totally different perspectives and personalities. You should definitely do more of these...
I love the topic segment I wish you could do a hole video about that topic
Oh girl Im born and raised in NY single for 24 years and I'm 24 :) - Welcome to NY!
Xandrea Lancaster guuurl hi 5
Yessss i felt everything yall was saying about dating Jayla! Its like people want you to make time but want to waste the time you do make and its like whats the point. I’ve had guys who were “good guys” tell me i’m too busy and have alot going for myself and they dont wanna mess that up. Etc etc similar to your friend and I just feel like its blessings in disguise lol
I missed you yesterday. Glad you’re back. Feel better
Ponytail hella fierce!!!!
This convo is chill af and you slay that ponytail girl I see youuu
Jayla I wanted him to finish the movie story😩😅
Living in NY and dating a quality guy is so so hard to encounter... personally speaking. Sometimes when I'm approached or when I think a guy is feeling me. My introverted ways kicks in and unless he can make me genuinely laugh and I throw in my sarcastic come back. They're no interest, I'm veru busy but I'm willing to make time for a special man in my life. It's all about EFFORT and me knowing you're intrigued by me.
buutifuleyes same😂
Nice one really enjoy the relationship conversation you had with your friend .
I would kinda agree I’m from MD and I moved to Florida and down here relationship and courting is definitely more of a thing then up north. I met my boyfriend 6months after I moved to Florida. We only been together for a year and he gave me a promise ring.
Dang I wish the talk with your friend was longer I’m 21 absorbing all you guys’ info and advice like a babyyyy 🙏🏾
I'm so here for this convo with your friend. Y'all was so on point about these guys in nyc.
I like y'all conversation! Would love to see him more on the vlog
That pony looks FIRE on you omg 😍
Even though most of the vlog was with you having a deep conversation with your friend it was really enjoyable to watch and ya’ll was speaking nothing but the truth about these dudes 😒
Loving this pony tail & that blue jumpsuit!
Jayla girl I done sent this link to so many people telling them to wait til the end because y’all was dropping jewels
I like the convo but it felt like u were talking over him alot.
You intros are so different from other youtubers doing vlogmas, LOVE IT!
JAYLA THE WAY THAT SKIN IS SET UP😭❤️❤️❤️
This was a good convo, catch my self talking to the screen
Jayla!! I commend you so much for pushing these videos even though you were not feeling well. That''s why I love you fave.
This was an interesting convo, I loved this vlog.
Your vlogs make me so happy!! You are truly an inspiration and it is amazing to follow your journey as you conquer New York!!!
I live for this intro 😍😂 I swear it gets me excited for the video ❤️
Jayla works the sequins so well🙌🏼
Faaacts. I’m so grateful I moved here already in a serious relationship. These guys are a special breed lol.
Wow, I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation! I had to rewind a couple parts because it was THAT good.
I’m glad you are feeling better, the conversation was real
New York is so expensive but yet so beautiful especially around Christmas time
That ponytail and that subtle highlight is poppin' on you
Missy just had one of those heat to heart convos yesterday which I really enjoyed. It showed how real and vulnerable she can be
I love this conversation you guys having!
Jayla! You can absolutely find love in NYC. It has a lot to do with the crowd you associate with and the places you frequent. My husband and I are both born and raised in BK and trust me we make it work. We both still grind hard and have our own things going on but we find time for eachother. Keep your standards up and state them at the door! You will find someone that is worth it.
I really enjoyed the dating conversation. Me and my friend had a conversation like this. Everything you said I said the same thing.Right on point girl
this pony is giving me liiiifffeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
"I'm not available when you call but I make time." *snaps* Say that!
It’s hard to date in the DMV area too. It’s just hard outchea period nowadays!
The ponytail is giving me lifeeee
Loving the deep talk with your friends you should do this more often
These Vlogmas Intros are the BEST I've seen on RUclips this season !
Personally imma ny native. Dating can be hard. You have to constantly sift through A LOT of bs but there’s definitely good guys/girls here. Then again we’re in our 20s dating just sucks in general. Good luck tho love u❤️
I love walking around nyc as a date that’s so cool and fun
I think it's just a big city thing!! I live in Paris and the dating scene is a hot mess out here
That sit down at the end was sooo true! They want that "girlfriend/boyfriend" type of thing but not really want to commit to actually having a girlfriend/boyfriend. You should do more talks with friends like that, that was great
She be acting out around guys 😂
Yesss that sit down convo was everything and I agree 100%, dating in NY is hard. Its really not even the state of NY cause there’s really so much to do it’s just the guys themselves. They don’t want commitment, they want flings or for you to commit and they get to do whatever the hell the want and it really don’t work that way. On the other handed there’s a lot of weak minded females out here who allow it and guys are use to finding them, therefore when they meet a strong minded female who’s not gonna let that rock they not with it
I pray you feel better Jayla the flu is def going around I just got over mine !
Dating life is haaaaarrrd! But what I love about dating in a bigger city is that no one knows you from the get-go. Coming from, still a large city but a lot smaller than where I live now, you couldnt even as much as hint at someone that you liked them without your enemy from 1st grade, your grandma, your secret crush in 5th grade and people you dont even know, knowing. I hated it. So I never pursued a dating life there. Here people are so much more different, focused, and a lot here are from abroad, who moved here to try something new, their mindsets are so much more open I love that. Having lived abroad myself that is so important to me that they have that mentality.
I absolutely love how such a young woman knows what she wants and is not settling for anything less!
Really enjoyed that convo!
Slick back high long ponytail needs to be a move for me for my b-day
I agree with you guys on your talk about dating and I enjoy walking around the city and sight seeing and finding new places and talking while doing all that
Oh Jayla can you do a body skincare routine, your skin is flawless and interesting vlog this one😘😘😘🤗
Jayla you was looking good in the part when you was at home
Where is the ponytail hair tutorial 😩
That conversation was too real 💯
Loved the convo at the end, had to rewind it back. Also, love your intros!
Your vlogmas intros are theeee BEST!!!!!
Yessss, Jayla! I'm the same way girl. If you're not what I want, why would I waste time with you? It's dead like bye.
I’ve said this before I think BUT YOUR INTROS ARE THE BEST HANDS DOWN , verrrry creative !
Edit : THAT PONYTAILLLLLLLLLLL SISSSSSSSSS YESSSSSSSS ‼️👏🏾
In 2 More Days My Asian Fiancée's 24th Birthday Bash Is In The ATL, It's A Big Huge Party!
Born and raised in ny and I totally agree with this convo
Loved the dating discussion!
We need Driving Lessons with Jayla.
U should do another relationship chat video. That convo is my life right now!
I know how you feel I just recently caught a virus and everything hurts and plus I have a 3 year old and all I want to do is sleep
How you're feeling better soon Jayla.