The husband is an asshole for blaming her like that. She didn’t say yes she said no she didn’t give silent consent. She gave vocal disagreement and the mother just left them anyways.
She did not give silent consent, she told her no but the woman ignored her. Seriously, that husband is a piece of crap trying to put all the blame on her instead of the mother
Silent consent is not a thing make sure it is a strong and firm yes and they mean it when they say it if they sound unsure dont do it and if they say no definitely dont do what it is your asking consent for👏🏻👏🏻 🧐
Silent consent is a real thing but however there was absolutely no indication she gave consent like bringing them inside or not saying anything as she left them to her
OP’s husband blaming her is FOUL!! He sounds just as bad as the negligent mother. You DO NOT just shove 6 CHILDREN off on strangers. Why isn’t he holding the mother accountable rather than his innocent wife
She did decline clearly. That woman ran off knowing it was a clear no. While the husband did have a bad time in foster care, it's no guarantee these kids will experience the same. And who knows how bad their actual home life was? He's caught up in his trauma so much that he's not looking at the full picture. If it was an absolute emergency, and the mother would be back within a day, or they had a prior agreement that she could drop off the kids (in case off an emergency). Then the OP could be frowned upon. But right now it's clear that delusional mother decided she didn't want kids for a few days and she didn't want to hear no. Husband should be mad for that woman being such an irresponsible mother to so many kids
After watching the rest divorce the husband. IDC if he had a bad experience. You do not blame your wife for not wanting to deal with 6 children THAT WERE THROWN ONTO YOU
Husband is a big baby he should get therapy instead of taking his trauma out on his wife can’t believe he really said she gave silent consent and she should have dumped those he children on that poor old lady he wasn’t even there
No such thing as silent consent. No means no. You did the right thing. If she’s willing to just leave her kids with anyone imagine it’s not the first time and next time it could be with someone not as nice who could hurt those kids. This needed to be flagged by cps so these kids don’t get lost, stolen or seriously abused by someone including their mother.
How would it be on her head if they get treated badly in foster care, but not if she dropped them off at an elderly woman's house and something bad happened? NTA. Her husband should have watched the kids then.
Did she leave money to feed them or for your time? If you hadn’t called services she would have done it to you over and over. She was a bad mother and authorities needed to be involved. Was your husband ready to cook, clean and take care of them? If you took care of them and handed them back to her something could have happened to them any day and you would have blamed yourself for not getting authorities involved.
The husband is using his trauma to excuse the behavior of a careless mother. The wife at no point consented to looking after these kids, yet the mother just left them there. Wife absolutely did the right thing!
No is a complete sentence. Shes a bad mother for abandoning them with you knowing that you said no. She needed to plan better and make sure that she had someone to watch them for the entire time that was ready for 6 kids.
Tell your husband to go get therapy if he's bothered so much by the foster care system. The way he acts you would think those kids were his children. Your neighbor nor your husband had any right to bully you. Your husband can shut his pie whole as he wasn't there. You did the right thing calling CPS. Those kids were abandoned by their mother and not for the first time. Also your husband is not roped into babysitting like you so he has nothing to be complaining about.
Sounds like a dysfunctional mothers problem, not a you problem. Tell your husband he's overreacting he needs to deal with his own issues and to stop projecting them on other people. Just because he had a bad experience doesn't mean everyone will have the same experience.
U did the right thing. And while im sorry for what your husband experienced it is unreasonable of him to expect u to not call CPS inthat situation. Sorry to say not all parents shoulf be parents. No matter how bad CPS is at times. It can still be a better alternative. He needs to deal with his own issues and not put that shit on you. I would not apologize to him if I were you. You did nothing wrong and hes a little bit of an ass for making you the bad guy.
You did nothing wrong and probably saved those kids a lot of pain. They aren't going into the system, mom will get some help from the agency to be better and they'll struggle along.
You can never be responsible for the actions of others, or their past. You did the right thing, You are a person not a useful tool for others. The mother and your husband will get over it or they won't, you can't control what they do, only what you do.
Nope they are being neglected the other person is not a safe option and most likely the kids would not be taken away if this is the first time she would get a ticket and some parenting classes which it sounds like she needs they do not pull kids from a home so easily
Foster care can be bad but a neglectful mother constantly abandoning her children is just as bad, what happens when she abandons them with a kidnapper, human trafficker or pedophile? At least now if something happens theres a social worker coming by twice a month to check on the children.
The husband is a fool. You are a fool for abiding by those wishes. If he cares so much why doesn’t he take care of the kids himself. The net of what he said was “as long as you refuse, your conscience is clear.” When in reality a mother willing to abandon her kids will only escalate. The most compassionate thing for the kids is to get them the official attention they obviously need. Or maybe he doesn’t care if they live or die? Hypocrites.
Just divorce and move out. Guilt tripping you for taking care in the best way possible of an irresponsible mother situation because he needs therapy is a giant red flag.
I'm saying your husband experience but what this lady did was totally different and why would you take them to the third party like you say that third party needed to be CPS. And why the mother didn't take them to Jennifer in the first place? because she knew Jennifer was not going to watch them!
Nta, i would be so pissed at my neighbor and my husband, why do the assholes always try to shift the blame, this mom is going to have to learn the hard way to take care of your children...husband may have been in foster care and had bad experience but that doesn't mean they all are, you should have said well ill go get the kids and you can stay with them till mommy cones home...
My mom might have been there because she works for cps and if you don’t know the highest reason kids get picked up from homes is from parents doing drugs just for a little info
There have been cases where they have not only lost kids, but really bad things have happened to them as well. They don't vet the foster families as rigorously as they should which leads to a bad situation for the children
From a child who was in foster care, it really depends on the family situation and the system itself. My country has a decent system and I actually ontop of that preferred fostercare over my family, however as I said, thats just me
I'd say if your husband doesn't like it, he should be your ex husband... He can support his wife (shut up and deal with it) or he can pack his stuff and get out...
@@g_i_o_0335I mean the guy is butt hurt and angry at something that has nothing to do with him. Hes like those wife's who expect their husband to give up on their weekend to help some person he hates move or fix their entire house.
I understand what silent consent means, that wasn't the case here. Foster care can be an absolute nightmare or a blessing the challenge is you don't know which way it will go especially for 6 children. Odds aren't in favor that it will go well for all 6. I would go to child services and get them out. Child services will continue their investigation into the mother and their home. If the mother doesn't care for the children properly they will be taken away which would be on her.
She should leave them there. The kids aren't her responsibilty and CPS have been known to leave kids or send kids BACK to dangerous situations with families and the kids end up dead. Either way, its not on OP. Its on the mother.
Honey you did nothing wrong you did the right thing. Your husband is being a dick, I get he had bad experience in foster care but there’s also people that have had wonderful foster parents or foster family‘s just because he and some people he knows had bad experiences does it mean that every kid in foster care has a bad experience. You should tell your husband you understand that he had a bad experience but there are people children that have good experiences. And who knows those kids could be placed with the fall balls with the grandparents anyone in the family he doesn’t know if they’re going to be put into foster care and that woman needs to be charged and never allowed to have kids again or have those kids back because those kids are more likely to end up screwed up than actually being in the foster care
Nope. 4 neices/nephew of mine were sent to child service back when I was in college when the boys father was arrested for m wording the 2 girls All for survived the services and are adults now. Only 1 is a complete idiot now but she was born with a handicap, m worded as a child... so her not caring for the 2 boys she birthed has ground. Last heard she was issued by court to get tubs tied.
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The husband is an asshole for blaming her like that. She didn’t say yes she said no she didn’t give silent consent. She gave vocal disagreement and the mother just left them anyways.
She did not give silent consent, she told her no but the woman ignored her. Seriously, that husband is a piece of crap trying to put all the blame on her instead of the mother
Silent consent is not a thing make sure it is a strong and firm yes and they mean it when they say it if they sound unsure dont do it and if they say no definitely dont do what it is your asking consent for👏🏻👏🏻 🧐
Silent consent is a real thing but however there was absolutely no indication she gave consent like bringing them inside or not saying anything as she left them to her
Silent consent is a term used to protect rapists in too many courts unfortunately.
If foster care is so bad, then the kids will hate their mother more than OP for not getting them out of there
He should be mad at the mother not his wife
NTA, you did not give consent and the mother DID abandon her children.
It’s NOT the OP’s problem. The blame rests ENTIRELY on the mother.
OP’s husband blaming her is FOUL!! He sounds just as bad as the negligent mother. You DO NOT just shove 6 CHILDREN off on strangers. Why isn’t he holding the mother accountable rather than his innocent wife
I agree 100%! Also, she did decline at the door!
She did decline clearly. That woman ran off knowing it was a clear no. While the husband did have a bad time in foster care, it's no guarantee these kids will experience the same. And who knows how bad their actual home life was? He's caught up in his trauma so much that he's not looking at the full picture. If it was an absolute emergency, and the mother would be back within a day, or they had a prior agreement that she could drop off the kids (in case off an emergency). Then the OP could be frowned upon. But right now it's clear that delusional mother decided she didn't want kids for a few days and she didn't want to hear no.
Husband should be mad for that woman being such an irresponsible mother to so many kids
After watching the rest divorce the husband. IDC if he had a bad experience. You do not blame your wife for not wanting to deal with 6 children THAT WERE THROWN ONTO YOU
Then let hubby take off work to take care of those 6 kids… everyone’s always giving advice but nobody wants to step up..
Husband is a big baby he should get therapy instead of taking his trauma out on his wife can’t believe he really said she gave silent consent and she should have dumped those he children on that poor old lady he wasn’t even there
No such thing as silent consent. No means no. You did the right thing. If she’s willing to just leave her kids with anyone imagine it’s not the first time and next time it could be with someone not as nice who could hurt those kids. This needed to be flagged by cps so these kids don’t get lost, stolen or seriously abused by someone including their mother.
How would it be on her head if they get treated badly in foster care, but not if she dropped them off at an elderly woman's house and something bad happened? NTA. Her husband should have watched the kids then.
Did she leave money to feed them or for your time? If you hadn’t called services she would have done it to you over and over. She was a bad mother and authorities needed to be involved. Was your husband ready to cook, clean and take care of them? If you took care of them and handed them back to her something could have happened to them any day and you would have blamed yourself for not getting authorities involved.
The husband is using his trauma to excuse the behavior of a careless mother. The wife at no point consented to looking after these kids, yet the mother just left them there. Wife absolutely did the right thing!
Silent consent isn't a real thing
That's a bs term terrible people use to blame others
No is a complete sentence. Shes a bad mother for abandoning them with you knowing that you said no. She needed to plan better and make sure that she had someone to watch them for the entire time that was ready for 6 kids.
Is the hubby the dad of the 6 kids? He's caring to much, geez...
if the husband didnt want them in care he shoukd go take them amd care for them
Tell your husband to go get therapy if he's bothered so much by the foster care system. The way he acts you would think those kids were his children. Your neighbor nor your husband had any right to bully you. Your husband can shut his pie whole as he wasn't there. You did the right thing calling CPS. Those kids were abandoned by their mother and not for the first time. Also your husband is not roped into babysitting like you so he has nothing to be complaining about.
Sounds like a dysfunctional mothers problem, not a you problem. Tell your husband he's overreacting he needs to deal with his own issues and to stop projecting them on other people. Just because he had a bad experience doesn't mean everyone will have the same experience.
Not all foster homes are bad, I was happy in mine
U did the right thing. And while im sorry for what your husband experienced it is unreasonable of him to expect u to not call CPS inthat situation. Sorry to say not all parents shoulf be parents. No matter how bad CPS is at times. It can still be a better alternative. He needs to deal with his own issues and not put that shit on you. I would not apologize to him if I were you. You did nothing wrong and hes a little bit of an ass for making you the bad guy.
You did nothing wrong and probably saved those kids a lot of pain. They aren't going into the system, mom will get some help from the agency to be better and they'll struggle along.
That "mom" ain't getting better, she's for the streets.
I was in foster care. Yeah it can be bad but I could have also been an absolute godsend for these kids. We never know but at least they're safe now
Well didn’t sound like the mother planned who was going to take care of children .
“ silent consent” I understand the trauma but he’s wrong. How can you just drop SIX kids like that to people you don’t even know
You can never be responsible for the actions of others, or their past. You did the right thing, You are a person not a useful tool for others. The mother and your husband will get over it or they won't, you can't control what they do, only what you do.
Nope they are being neglected the other person is not a safe option and most likely the kids would not be taken away if this is the first time she would get a ticket and some parenting classes which it sounds like she needs they do not pull kids from a home so easily
Foster care is probably better than whatever their mother had been doing TBH
Says someone with ABSOLUTELY NO KNOWLEDGE WHATSOEVER about foster care
Foster care can be bad but a neglectful mother constantly abandoning her children is just as bad, what happens when she abandons them with a kidnapper, human trafficker or pedophile? At least now if something happens theres a social worker coming by twice a month to check on the children.
I would also have told the police that she threatened to murder me.
In for a penny, in for a pound.
The husband is a fool. You are a fool for abiding by those wishes. If he cares so much why doesn’t he take care of the kids himself.
The net of what he said was “as long as you refuse, your conscience is clear.” When in reality a mother willing to abandon her kids will only escalate. The most compassionate thing for the kids is to get them the official attention they obviously need. Or maybe he doesn’t care if they live or die? Hypocrites.
Bet the husbands upset cus he knows one of those kids is his
Are the kids the OP’s husband’s kids!!??
Thats what i wonder. Or maybe one or two of them?
Just divorce and move out. Guilt tripping you for taking care in the best way possible of an irresponsible mother situation because he needs therapy is a giant red flag.
I'm saying your husband experience but what this lady did was totally different and why would you take them to the third party like you say that third party needed to be CPS. And why the mother didn't take them to Jennifer in the first place? because she knew Jennifer was not going to watch them!
No mother and ops bf are ah
Nta, i would be so pissed at my neighbor and my husband, why do the assholes always try to shift the blame, this mom is going to have to learn the hard way to take care of your children...husband may have been in foster care and had bad experience but that doesn't mean they all are, you should have said well ill go get the kids and you can stay with them till mommy cones home...
Does anyone know if any updates were made?
My mom might have been there because she works for cps and if you don’t know the highest reason kids get picked up from homes is from parents doing drugs just for a little info
NTA, he may had a bad experiences in foster care, but it’s not all bad ,I’m assuming, I have never been in foster care
There have been cases where they have not only lost kids, but really bad things have happened to them as well. They don't vet the foster families as rigorously as they should which leads to a bad situation for the children
From a child who was in foster care, it really depends on the family situation and the system itself. My country has a decent system and I actually ontop of that preferred fostercare over my family, however as I said, thats just me
I'd say if your husband doesn't like it, he should be your ex husband... He can support his wife (shut up and deal with it) or he can pack his stuff and get out...
Man you’ve had ur balls cut off huh? Shut up and deal with it, seesh thats sad to hear
@@g_i_o_0335I mean the guy is butt hurt and angry at something that has nothing to do with him. Hes like those wife's who expect their husband to give up on their weekend to help some person he hates move or fix their entire house.
I understand what silent consent means, that wasn't the case here. Foster care can be an absolute nightmare or a blessing the challenge is you don't know which way it will go especially for 6 children. Odds aren't in favor that it will go well for all 6.
I would go to child services and get them out. Child services will continue their investigation into the mother and their home. If the mother doesn't care for the children properly they will be taken away which would be on her.
She should leave them there. The kids aren't her responsibilty and CPS have been known to leave kids or send kids BACK to dangerous situations with families and the kids end up dead. Either way, its not on OP. Its on the mother.
Honey you did nothing wrong you did the right thing. Your husband is being a dick, I get he had bad experience in foster care but there’s also people that have had wonderful foster parents or foster family‘s just because he and some people he knows had bad experiences does it mean that every kid in foster care has a bad experience. You should tell your husband you understand that he had a bad experience but there are people children that have good experiences. And who knows those kids could be placed with the fall balls with the grandparents anyone in the family he doesn’t know if they’re going to be put into foster care and that woman needs to be charged and never allowed to have kids again or have those kids back because those kids are more likely to end up screwed up than actually being in the foster care
Good job!
The system does suck but so does having irresponsible shit parents too
Husbands shit tbh
CPS = those kids lifes are now ruined
Nope. 4 neices/nephew of mine were sent to child service back when I was in college when the boys father was arrested for m wording the 2 girls
All for survived the services and are adults now. Only 1 is a complete idiot now but she was born with a handicap, m worded as a child... so her not caring for the 2 boys she birthed has ground. Last heard she was issued by court to get tubs tied.
BS
You have no clue
Not even close. CPS = those kids may actually have a chance to live.
Even if true it's their mothers fault not the neighbors. If their mother wasn't a POS then CPS wouldn't have been called.