I did two heavy, talky videos in a row, which is something I try not to do but this is just how I'm feelin' lately. Next video will be different. Much love to you all
This is such an amazing video with great point's that so many girl's need to here all the time! and your thoughts on the mainstream media is so true. Thats why youtube and social media is so important! Let the voices be heard :) x
Kassie, today I picked up an essay based scholarship. The scholarship asks me to write an essay about an influential person in my life. My family is responsible for my values and many factors in my life, but you are a very big influence in my life also. I would like to write the essay about your influence, not only in me, but in many. I would like your opinion and your blessing. Also, in a way i would like to explain more about this to take the creepiness about this. It is purely academic. Thank you in advance.
thank you for this. My bully was my own husband. The love of my life. Along with other girls in my life who bullied me because.. well they are girls and sadly most girls are just mean to other girls. I felt alone. I hit depression hard and with my own husband telling me to kill myself along with another girl telling me the same thing before him. I did try, But i guess I am just to chicken to go though with it thank goodness. You have to learn to hell with those people. I am awesome and unique and I am better off with the toxic people in my life. When i was a kid i didn't care what people thought. We need to remember ourselfs when we were kids too. How carefree we once where. Lets go back to that Play in the mud, swing high on swings and run like nobody is watching. Screw bullys And be freaking awesome. Love ya kas!
Reading about what your husband did made me see red, I am SO glad you are better now. You're not chicken, we're wired to do everything we can to avoid death, and I think that's why suicide is so incredibly sad, because they got to a point of preferring the unknown over life. I miss being a kid, but being an adult has been so much fun ever since I learned how to love myself, wouldn't trade it for anything =]. Much love to you!!
cristina dinescu with the biggest part of my heart I thank you for that sweet comment. Yes I am separated from him. he was court ordered actually. He has moved on and is with some one else. I feel so bad for her because he is A. still married to me and B. has no idea what she is in for. Thank you for taking your time to write that. I guess not all girls are bad either :)
Same story here, my bully was my ex husband whom I loved deeply. Sadly him, not so much. The deep depression that ensued almost killed me but when I reached my lowest point, I mustered the energy to kick him out of my life. It was truly out of despair because I loved him so much, but it saved my life and was totally worth the pain. Anyway, I agree with cristina dinescu , they never loved us, not even one bit I'm afraid. And may I add that you're a gorgeous girl lorah cripps ? Really, what's not to love about you ? These men's attitude baffle me, I will never understand them. Oh and Kas, wonderful video as always :) Much love to you all, lovelies, chins up ! (sorry for the grammatical and spelling errors, I'm french). xxx
Aeole Goodness, I'm so glad you guys got out of these terrible situations, I can't imagine going through that :(. I've personally had a few friends that were in very abusive relationships, and I felt like nothing I said ever convinced them to run until they convinced themselves to get out for whatever reason. Terry and I, like any couple, have had a few bumps in our relationship because I am very particular about how I think apologies should be made and how respect should be given (he is particular about things that I have learned to respect too). He said something really insightful the other day that went something like "a lot of men like everything to be in order and to have control of everything they can possibly control, and if lines aren't drawn, they'll extend that control to the best of their ability". It's not necessarily a bad thing because a man who feels that way will always have his life in order. But that's another reason why it's so important to not compromise on anything that crosses the line. I hope we can all have relationships full of love and mutual respect in the future =].
Girls on girls hate is a direct product of the patriarchy system we live in. That's because it places (for women) a HUGE value into beauty, which is something nobody can fully control. It's a genetic roulette and if you end on the low of the spectrum you WILL be treated differently and you WILL have less opportunities, self-esteem and so on. So, since it's a so important yet so undeserved "quality" (I'm sure you're a really nice, intelligent and kind person but you literally did nothing in your life to deserve your beautiful appearance just because you had it by chance) girls get jealous and angry when they meet someone who have what they (think) don't. I think that's why you got so much hate for girls. We are playing men's game and we are missing SO many great friendship on the road (no boy can replace my girl friends). And I'm saying this as an "unconventionally pretty" young woman.
I think you make excellent points. It is a direct product of the patriarchy system we live in. In many women, you'll find that there's some internalized misogyny.
You're so right about genetic roulette and a system that favours conventionally attractive people (which is something you don't earn if you're born "beautiful"). All men didn't create the system, powerful men did. Doesn't help to be a poor, short and unconventionally attractive male in our society either. I believe the system hurts both genders, but I can only speak for myself as a woman. Much love to you
Came here to say the exact same thing! So glad i'm not the only one. Girls are practically programmed to compete and be jealous of other girls. I believe we all need to understand what beauty we hold, including our losses, and realize that beauty is not a limited resource. You especially can't compete and win beauty by saying the girl who might be getting attention from guys does cocaine ;P
Wow, I wish more people thought the way you did. I can't agree more with EVERYTHING you just said. I recently retired from the adult film industry and I am constantly judged and not by the person I am but because of a job title I once had, it is sad because I am a pretty cool chick and have never been the type to judge others and I am all about love and loving others no matter who they are or what they have done etc. Everyone deserves a chance and it is so sad that majority of our population is so cold towards others before even getting a chance to know them. I made a whole video about that on my channel , well a few lol. Thanks for posting this xoxxo
I've never understood girl on girl hate. My entire life, I've always been drawn to being friends with girls over guys. If I'm at a party, I flock to the girls. If I saw you at a party and you said hi to me, I'd be like, "Holy crap, this extremely gorgeous chick is actually giving me the time of day and might want to be friends with me?? Hell yeah!!!" Lol. My whole world doesn't revolve around impressing guys, so I'd much rather make some girl friends for life, and maybe stumble on a guy to date if I'm lucky!
I loved this video, and gosh you're like the best talker on youtube. I love how you choose your words wisely and I could watch your videos all day long!
As a girl who suffered from depression and very low self esteem I find this video very very helpful. I found my self through a different method- I changed my lifestyle and went vegan, my parents got us a dog and I started everyday with one thought: "When I'm being myself and people judge me and tell me that it's wrong than they're not the right people for me. I'm ok. It's ok to be me." My depression started because I was part of a group of friends that always belittled me and when they found out they simply told me that it's not their fault and it's all mine. At first I blamed them now I know it's my fault for choosing the wrong friends and it's up to me as well and not just the people around me. For everyone who suffers from depression all I'd like to say is that now more then ever I believe it was a stepping stone to find out who I am. I won't say it gets better because it won't unless you get yourself together, all I'm going to say is- be strong, don't forget that being you is ok and people who say otherwise aren't worth your time or your tears. :)
Really love how you addressed this situation without complaining about the way you were treated or blaming others about their behavior. When it comes down to it, we really need to remember that the people we interact with are complex, multidimensional beings who we have the opportunity to treat with love.
this video was very refreshing. lately I feel like there are so many videos that are like, "10 MOMENTS ALL GIRLS UNDERSTAND" and they're all about boys, and periods, and other stereotypical an heteronormative things. it's nice to see and uplifting and motivational video on this topic.
Watching this video I couldn't help but be reminded of my high school self. I had extremely low self esteem, was depressed and had terrible social anxiety. Because of this, I didn't have many friends growing up. So as soon as I was welcomed into a group of girls when I was in grade 11, I did anything and everything to keep them my friend. Which lead to them bullying me to my face and behind my back because they were shameful of our friendship. They tried to show everyone that I was something to pity (I always imagine myself like Quasimodo when he goes to the Festival) instead of telling others that these girls and I had a genuine friendship. In the end, I cut off all contact with them my second year of college. I learned that it is better to be alone and happy then surrounded by people who constantly bring you down. And now, I speak my mind and don't settle for friendships that are toxic to be in. I may not have many friends, but I am extremely happy with the few friends I have.
I have a really really hot friend and other girls always have a problem with her no matter what - whilst guys are always friendly towards her. I don't know why we punish someone who looks more pleasing to the eyes than the rest of us. Maybe it's a girl thing? I don't know. But I do know that if I were at that party I'd definitely talk to you and get to know you and tell all the "mean girls" to piss off! (which is what you should've done tbh) =] Loved watching your video like always Kassie! Let's hope we can all love each other.
Awe, that makes me sad, I hope she doesn't let it get her down. Tons of people probably shrug off her struggles because she's pretty, but I bet it's very hurtful and disorienting that she's just trying to live her life and people are shitting on her left and right. I didn't tell the girls to piss off because I hate conflict, but maybe I should have said something. I hope they aren't mean to strangers in the future, no one deserves that. Much love to you!!
I just binge watched a bunch of your videos. Your talks are so real. It's good to hear things like this from other people because it helps to not feel so isolated with my own experiences. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences!
I went to a wedding tonight where I saw a friend I used to be very close with. I told my friend who brought me that I missed being friends with that girl and that I was considering talking to her about it. She said no, let me talk to her boyfriend first because I'm closer with him and see what he says about it. But I just watched your video and I've decided to take it into my own hands. I'm going to talk to her myself. I'm going to let her know that I care that she's doing alright and that its okay if she doesn't care about me. I enjoyed being her friend and it's stupid to pretend like all that time meant nothing. It always feels great to me to end arguments with old friends, even if they don't end up in a best friendship like they had been. Even if it's never the same, I think it's worth it to let the other person know that you care about them and that they made a positive impact on your life. So thanks for the inspiration :)
i can believe that those women would treat you that way because you are not only beautiful but an all around badass. i really love your stories because they pull focus back onto things that are truly important. loved this!
I paused the video mid-way to like it and write a comment. You are so eloquent and RIGHT. I love this. I love your words. I hope they reach so many young girls and young people. The world needs more people like you around, actively trying to change things and spreading messages of love and kindness and acceptance.
Im glad you said depression is common, and i can absolutely relate to the idea that we don't want to appear any different. I didn't tell anyone what I was going through for such a long time, despite my psychologist insisting I let someone in so we can deal with it together, because depression for me was a heavy feeling of shame that I am not the person I want to be or that I have not done as well as the people I compare myself to. I was so ashamed of my depression and wanted to cut myself off from everyone until I have "cured" it. Realizing now that that was part of the problem, and that I need my girls by my side. Don't be mean to other girls, we all need each other to get through life
Amen to everything you said. I hope in the future that depressed people won't feel like their feelings are a burden on others. Isolating yourself should never come to mind as an answer. Take care
It's a shame when ppl question why you are so happy....like wtf. I'm confused as to why it is questioned why we're happy. A girl in high school hated me cause I was happy....seriously -___-
Hahah omg I have so many stories of salty people. When I first moved to Vancouver, I heard rumours from an old friend that I was living in dire conditions and my boyfriend at the time had to sell his bike to make ends meet. When I heard that I was like "whaaaaa?". I'm so glad I don't get kicks out of trying to shit on peoples lives.
those girls clearly don't know how to party... sorry you had that awful experience kassie :( i just wanted to thank you for instilling reassurance in me, that i'm a human being who is allowed to be myself no matter what society throws at me. always love your vids!!
Nothing gets me more pumped than walking into a place and the guys and gals all smile and introduce themselves! I always try to make strangers comfortable if they're new into my circle of friends, and I love when other people do that too. Thank you for your kind words, take care love
Yes! As a female who wears hijab, My mantra is don't worry what's on my head but worry what is IN my head." Females need to learn how to empower each other without tearing each other down. It's a sad reality we live in, one I hope changes very soon!
Thank you. From the bottom of my heart thank you for this video. Self love is something I've struggled with after accepting my anxiety and depression. I'm lucky I have positive people in my life to love all of me. This made me so genuinely happy.
Every single thing you mention is soo true, you're such a smart woman, and example for us all! My favorite part was when you were talking about not taking crap from people, even if it means that they call you names. If you haven't seen it yet, I highly recommend the youtube video called Nicki Minaj - Bossing up. I had been really skeptical about her personality, but that speech she gives there is brilliant, I always watch it when I need some motivation. :)
Just watched that video, HAHAHAHA OMG. "I'm a human beiiiiiiiiiiing". I personally love Nicki Minaj, she's such a character and she's not afraid to stand for what she believes in regardless of how it looks. I'm not saying I agree with how she goes about it, but some of her songs have really touched me.
***** I'm glad you liked it :) I'm actually a big fan now, her songs on The Pinkprint are amazing, they really show her emotional side. But the main reason I love her is the kind of feminism she represents: she doesn't differentiate between male and female, she thinks women are equal to men, not better, not worse. That's the kind of feminism I like to see.
This video is honestly SO important! It makes me so sad when I see girls tear each other down and in general not saying very nice stuff about each other or judging people by appearance. The words 'don't judge a book by its cover' springs to mind. You'll be pretty surprised when you realise after getting to know a peron what they're actually like compared to what you thought they were like. The world would be a happier place if we could all focus on bettering ourselves rather than focusing on how other people should become better xxx
That quote you said about if you don't stand for something you'll fall for anything really hit home for me since it is a quote I have lived by for almost a decade. I have a family member who has no sense of self worth and it's hard to watch her continue to be in a manipulative relationship. Thanks for being so amazing!! You're videos are the best
Yes! Yes! This speaks to me on so many levels! I used to be judgmental and bitter towards women who were more confident and happy with themselves and I was wondering why I couldn't be content with things in my life. I wondered if bringing people down was the only way I could actually be happy. A few months ago, I learned how to love and accept myself and make efforts to lead a more positive life. To accept the things I can't change and to strive to uplift myself no matter what. It's changed me so much. And it's making a difference in the lives of the people around me, too. You can't love others without loving yourself first.
I recently discovered your channel, and by recently I really mean like 40 minutes ago lol. I just wanted to say that I've been hit with a lot of stress lately, and felt that because of this stress I was/am becoming someone that doesn't reflect the values that I think are important. Your videos, in a mere 40 mins, have made me laugh, tear up, and enlightened me. I can accomplish a lot of the things I want to, I can be the person I used to be if I just put my mind to it. Thank you for being you and spreading this refreshing, genuine aura you have. Keep doing what you do, it's greatly appreciated.
I am so glad I found you. I have been dealing with a lot of depression from my relationship and I've isolated myself.. Your pep talks make me feel so much better. Thank you for being you and for making videos. Please never stop.
Thanks for bringing this topic up! This always happens to me, and if it wasn't for the guys in junior high I would've given up on life. What frustrates me also, is that it leads me to judge girls back, but not only the ones who treats me badly, but girls and women in general. Guys has never treated me as bad as girls have, so it has ended up with me being more cautious about friendships with girls because I really don't want any drama. And now I'm probably judged because I act reserved :P
I remember when I was younger that I would always feel the need to change myself whenever I heard that someone did not like me. I used to be very shy and just afraid to speak up for myself around these people but over time I have learnt that you are never going to please anyone and the right people will come when you learn to respect yourself and others. Can't please everyone, but you can please yourself. Thank you for touching on these topics by the way, its nice to see people talk about subjects like this.
The more 'heavy, talky' videos you post are always my favourites. Sometimes I'll just remember a really good point you've made and I'll rewatch your videos when I don't feel like sleeping or doing much. Thanks!
This post hit me like a train. I recently went through a transition where I learned self-love after having practically hit rock bottom (I developed depression and anxiety to the point where I would not leave the house at all). Through learning self-love, I felt like my whole demeanor and vibe had changed. Before this, I was a very shy and insecure girl; I received much more positive feedback from girls than from guys. Now, girls tend to hate me more while guys are very friendly and nice to me, despite my attempts to actually make friends with girls. What you went through at that party, I feel like happens to me all the time. I don't know why girls are like this. I feel that with girls, it is more socially acceptable to hate your body and yourself than to love it. Finding self-confidence and being happy with yourself is not a bad thing. And judging and putting down other girls who are, is no way to help yourself find that either. This really needs to change. Females are much better than this.
Depression and anxiety have a very strange synergy with one another, at one point they made me feel like I couldn't do anything or talk to anyone. I don't wish that on anyone, and I'm so sorry it got to a similar point for you. Hearing that you've gotten through it makes me so incredibly happy. Don't worry about the Negative Nelly's, they hate you because they don't get why you're so okay with yourself. Hopefully they will figure it out one day as well. It's sad that a woman who openly loves herself is a rarity these days, and can even rub people the wrong way. But I have hope that it will change :).
***** I'm so sorry you went through that too. You seem to be doing so well for yourself, taking a negative situation and finding something positive in it. That is a gift in itself and I'm very happy for you. Oddly, I don't take what they say personally. I figured that it is more of a reflection of them than of me. And even their actions may be a reflection of the kind of society that we live in. I have hope that it will change too. Women are so amazing and have so much potential. It's time we started realizing this. :)
Great video! It's hard dealing with depression and at the same time trying to be true to yourself and not be other people's idea of you or who you should be just to get accepted. It gets lonely. The struggle is real, but more often than not the ones who accept you for who you really are, are the ones who will always be there for you. Thanks for doing this video. Not everybody puts themselves out there like that and i think its very inspiring!
I really love your whole channel, from the funny interviews and beauty routines to the real talk and beyond. It's so refreshing to see a real person speaking out about their life experiences in a way that is relatable. You rock, Cassie!!
You're so courageous Kassy! I would have probably left the party in tears or confronted the mean girls. I will remember the "Kassy hiding technique" if I ever find myself in a similar situation again :) As always, you give such valuable advice and the comments are gold! Love the community you're creating
It's just so bizarre to me that some women would try to purposefully ostracize another women. But this video is a gem and I will try to improve myself as well! I have a hard time being myself because I'm afraid of what others will think of me, which has led me to be quite passive in certain social situations as a coping reflex. I'll do my best to stand up for what I think is right. Thanks Kassie!
I used to have really bad social anxiety and I think a lot of it stemmed from being terrified that people were constantly judging me. In truth, people are pretty judgmental online but in person people generally have their own thing going on and don't care. I've gotten a lot better because I've gotten to know myself so well that I can sit and just exist rather than constantly think about every move I make. People appreciate authenticity, it has become a lot easier for me to make friends this way and have meaningful connections with people. Being proud of who you are and what you love will change your life for the better, and there will be assholes, but they will exist regardless of whether you're being yourself or not. Much love to you!!
THIS is why I think RUclips is the best media platform.. You got some real talk going here Kassie and that is something that I really appreciate about your channel. I love these videos, especially since I work with middle school girls, I think it is important to have as many women out there talk about these issues. Much love to you, and can't wait to see where you go.
Thank you. THANK YOU! That what you just said , is the exact same thing I'm standing for. Just do you, be yourself and do whatever makes you happy as long you hurt nobody with your actions. If somebody don't except what makes you happy, he/she doesn't belong into your live. That's how easy it is. NOBODY should stop you from being happy.
This was exactly what I needed to hear right now. I was able to get out of high school relatively unscathed in terms of bullying, but when I arrived in college it really got bad. I was a very negative person and was involved in a lot of drama, and when I made the decision to detoxify my life and try to surround myself with people that only raised each other up in a happy little love/support cocoon, the original people I hung out with lashed out at me, made up stories, and referred to me in very demeaning terms to try to pull be back down. It was really hard to deal with but when I graduated I really took it as an opportunity to break away from an extremely unhealthy living situation and start fresh. Sometimes there is backlash (okay, nearly always) when you try to remove yourself from a bad situation but it is so 100% worth it! Embrace compassion, and acceptance! Don't be afraid to make a change if you're feeling like things aren't working for you
It was the exact opposite for me, high school was a dramatic gong show and college was so laid back. I showed up to school in sweats most days and no one cared. Most of my restaurant jobs have been dramatic though, with fake stories about people I hooked up with and all sorts of fun elementary behaviour. Removing yourself from the drama is always worth it, and you're right, people will try to drag you back, but someday they all have to face the fact that some people are too mature for their games.
I completely agree- and hopefully they'll all see that they're just playing some big game some day. I went to an all girls school and people might think that meant more drama, but I think being able to go through puberty in peace without guys around made it a lot easier for us. There I was really sure of who I was, but in college when I discovered the heavy partying lifestyle I totally lost myself. I looked for self-worth in other people's eyes instead of within, and coming clean with myself about what I was doing made pulling myself out of that hole all the easier. Thanks so much for the reply
This was amazing , I needed to hear it. It's so hard to explain anxiety & depression to people who don't go through it and when people act funky it makes it 1Ox harder to pull yourself up or even wanna talk about it. Its just refreshing to see u as positive person who goes through it & to shed light on & share knowledge just gives you some hope & to feel less alone. It truly is appreciated.
I love your speech on being authentic. I'm trying to be more authentic cuz I've realized I'm not going to be liked by everyone anyway so might as well stand for my values and beliefs because I don't want to fall for anything, I'm a grown ass woman. I have my own thoughts that other people may not agree with but it shows who I am.. And it's awesome :) as a result I think other people will develop sense of respect for me because of my individuallity.
This channel is my favourite discovery lately. It's a great mix of content, that is well produced and I really like your 'real talk' videos like these.
This is my favorite video of yours. I think it is so important for women to love each other and lift each other up. I try to seek out women friends who have what I want, because I find that when I'm around them, I become a better version of myself. Sometimes jealousy creeps in, especially on days I'm feeling insecure, but I remind myself to not compare my insides to other people's outsides.
I am sharing this video with my sister-she is in her mid twenties and has recently experienced bullying. I was shocked that at her age, she has to deal with that. Thank you for the insightful words.
I´m totally with you. Being true to yourself is so, so, so important. I used to have very little self esteem but with time I got to "know myself better". I discovered the things that I wanted to stand for and the things that I didn´t want to stand for. I might still seem shy, because I am naturally introverted, but if I talk to people they see that I am very passionate. I thankfully came to a point where I do not mind what others do or what they think about me because I don´t need them to fullfill me and I hope more people wil get to that point as well. Thank you for this video!
I love how this reminds women of the things that most of know already but tend to forget. The part about losing yourself because you always want to make the other person happy really hit home for me. Ultimately how can you be a great person for anyone else if you can't be a great person for yourself FIRST! You're a fantastic role model. Love watching your chanel.
I love that you posted this right before i went to a party last night. I used to feel so anxious and shy around my boyfriend's friends because they all grew up together and are so tightly knit. Thank god tho they were all so welcoming,even the girls which i couldn't be more thankful of. Now if someone new comes into the group i also act very friendly to them,because i know what they are going thru lol
Only recently did I discover your videos and oh my god, I am obsessed! You're so cool and real but beautiful and cute at the same time. Every time you say you used to be judgmental and mean I struggle to believe it. I feel very inspired by you, have a great day :)
you truly are a role model not because you teach how to appear, but how to think: independently! it's beautiful to see women like you, everybody should be who they truly are and push other to do the same. Everything you say fills my heart with warm joy and bright hope for a better place to live in! I admire you so much! Much love to you from Italy
***** Kassie, I applaud you for being such a strong-willed person. I mean it takes a lot of guts for you to fight the urge to crawl into your shell after facing two discouraging situations that may make you feel that the world is ugly. I know that if I was in a situation where I feel rejected by a group of people I would totally back away. But it's also in my nature to just keep a really small circle of friends and exclude as many new people as possible. I live by the philosophy that I shouldn't associate with people who don't like me. It's a harsh reality but I know I'm not always going to be liked so why waste time on people who don't like us. Why bother trying to fit in a place where you're not accepted. It's just my way of excluding negativity in my life. Negativity can bog you down and make you feel really sad. More props to you for basically saying "I don't give up on the world." I wish you more happiness in your life. keep your chin up.
I love this video, especially the way you said it straight away without being harsh/cold :) because sometimes you just need other people's perspective to see the world around you, especially when feeling isolated & depressed. Thank you Kassie for making this video and reminding me of how important it is to just take some time before making judgements whether about yourself or others...
I'm so glad I found your videos. I'm glad you aren't scared to talk about heavy stuff, it makes it easier to look at and be comfortable with all of the heavy stuff people deal with everyday!
I usually don't comment but this needed to be said. I LOVE YOU...YOU ARE SO UNDERESTIMATED srsly u shouldve been so much more famous than michelle phan or bethany mota simply because your videos are so inspiring. i really hope u never stop making videos. its because of people like u that i still believe in humanity i love uu soooooo much 3 3 3 3 ur beautiful and those girls were just jealous of ur awsomeness. ps.: u and terry are relationship goals love from a fan in the UK
eversince i decided to leave my homecountry and widen my horizon people in my hometown started to say out loud what they really thought of me. its incredible how people rather complain behind your back than to honestly tell you their problem in the moment so you can either solve it in time or decide its irrelevant. as a very straight forward person it shocked me deeply to hear that they found me strange because my open way of being, which was often mistaken as flirting and my selfconfidence, which they saw as arrogance. But after all, nothing will ever hold me back, and eversince i moved away i got even more confident and new positive people are entering my life because they value exactly the things the others were talking badly about.
Man, I love your perspective on things. I love to have fun but deep conversation is something that drives me in relationships. You would be such a great friend to have and it's good to know there are people like you in this world! I hope I can influence women and inspire them with words like this someday. You are so well-spoken! 👏
Such a helpful video! I find it so hard to get out of my shell when I first introduce myself at a gathering where I don't know many people and they just shut me out completely. I become really quiet and awkward and I don't know what to do with myself. I try to talk to people but then it feels like I'm coming off too strong and they end up not being interested at all in what I'm saying. I'm constantly comparing myself to girls around me and I know I need to stop but it's like my mind unconsciously does it and makes me feel really low about myself. These videos really help a lot, I appreciate them! Thank you ❤️
Only over the past 3 - 4 years have I truly understood the power of the female companion. In the past I could count how many female friends I had on one hand. Now I find myself surrounded by brilliant women who's independence and ambition inspire me everyday. They, along with my Sisters, Mother, Grandmother and other female family members, have taught me to embrace, encourage, teach and support woman in every aspect of life. Women need to empower other women. It's important to celebrate each others achievements and see one another as fellow Comrades rather than threats, this is something I have learnt over time (and still learning). Only then can we truly fight against inequality, together. To all you awesome ladies - be kind, be generous, be open minded, be powerful.
I think this video touches me most because I am struggling with depression and was diagnosed this past December. I literally only talk to my twin brother and grandmother about everything and they are my best friends. I don't have any other good friends and when I try, like going to social events, no one is nice or inviting besides guys... And those guys don't even want friendship! I feel sad now that it's sunny outside and I have no female friends to hang out with. I appreciate that you open up this community for those types of conversations. I'm hoping that someone else can relate to this.
I've met a lot of my female friends at work and through other friends, just have to keep putting yourself out there, grabbing numbers, and trying to make plans! Lots of girls will flake out, but some won't, and it'll be awesome! =]
You are the most authentic, real, smart, and down to earth youtuber. I really enjoy your videos. You're such a breath of fresh air! We need more women like you
I used to hate a girl who likes to bully other girl. But then I realize, she bullies other girl because she feels disapproved. She desires to have a feeling like a winner, she wants to be better than anyone else. And, I've stopped hating person who bullies me, and feel sympathy toward them. We are great girls, we never need to put such hateful toward other girls just to feel happy. We are strong, bold and beautiful, and we have that full realization with or without them (bullier). Thank you, Kassie. You are an inspiration.
u r the most inspiring person i have ever heard in my life! u have made me realise that being liked means nothing if ur not happy, but if ur happy and not liked it doesn't matter what people see or think of u, because if ur happy nothing else should matter. {quote (not made by me) EVERYONE WANTS HAPPINESS, NO ONE WANTS PAIN, BUT U CANT HAVE A RAINBOW WITH-OUT A LITTLE RAIN. xxx
Hm. I admire that you found peace and contentment. :3 At first I was like, apprehensive of your genuineness. Then I realized that you made your peace with the fact that we always grow and change, but also that healthy growth and change takes work. Making that peace and making that effort is difficult, and you did it. You inspire me. Thank you.
Thank you so much for posting this! Your words really resonate with me and I am so appreciative of your wisdom! I have similar troubles with other females at work and I definitely hide in the bathroom more times than I'd like to admit. I will have to remind myself that when stand up for what I believe in I will get people who do not like me, and that is okay. Thank you!
I really appreciate these types of videos - we're all trying to live our lives meaningfully and hearing your thoughts is just a breath of fresh air. By getting into a routine every day, it can be hard to work on yourself and know your stance in the world. Knowing your values and living up to them is so important and I don't want to pass my days teetering and fumbling because I haven't figured out what I believe in and will tolerate. Thanks so much for this video and I look forward to more!
Urgh, i love all your videos, thank you so much for giving me a boost with every single one of them. Your videos just makes me feel so much better and happier and not as alone. I've always had problems with friends overall, girls wasn't even intrested in getting to know me and just hated me from the day they layed eyes upon me and guys was never intrested in being friend, everyone wanted something else from me. They did just put in the 'nice guy' coin and waited for sex to fall out. I'm in a better place now, I have my amazing friends and wonderful boyfriend but from time to time i slip back and loose grip about whats important and I find myself worrying and crying over what some random girl at school thinks about me. Or i just make up problems in my head by overthinking. Your videos always puts me back on track again and reminds me to focus on the better things in life. :) You're really my favourite youtuber, because no other youtuber ever had such a impact on my life and helped my through tough times and my depression like you have! Just wanted to let you know and i really hope you see this! Thank you so much!
Ugh! I love you! You seem like such a thoughtful, humble, kind, genuine, passionate person and I wish more people were like you! You're so inspiring, and I also find you SO relatable on so many levels. Keep up the wonderful work! You truly are a beautiful person. 😊
Your videos are way beyond beauty, fashion and health Cassie - you approach sticky subjects no other RUclipsr does and that's what I love about you and your channel. I come away from watching your videos feeling empowered, enlightened and inspired; so for that, I genuinely thank you. Btw, you look adorable in that hat - stylish and sassy :P
The part about weeding out the bad people really struck a chord with me, because I tend to not do that... I've learned that - while these people can be a handful - most often, they've just gone down a wrong path, and it's usually really easy to get them back on track, and create beautiful friendships from it. The method is simple: call them out on their bullshit. "You know, I'm really happy I don't have hair like yours, I'd feel like I couldn't do anything with it." I've gotten this comment (or similar comments) A LOT from women, who later will tell me that they have really low self-esteem. They push others down instead of pulling themselves up, and I just won't stand for it. I have definitely played into "the game", where you come with an equally passive-aggressive comment, but that has never helped, all it did was make myself a part of the problem. What always has helped, though, was simply saying "that is very hurtful, I really hope you don't talk to all your friends like this," because of course they don't really care about my hair, they care about their own hair, or thighs, or waist, or boobs, or clothes, or makeup, or whatever. I try to shift the focus from external to internal traits, commenting (or complimenting) their goodness, smartness, kindness, good sense of humor and such, and slowly but surely, I notice them doing the same, and it honestly feels awesome to see a person who was so caught up in hate and jealousy and negativity turn around and grow so much. So yeah, maybe a bit of a high-and-mighty/martyr attitude, but it's how I like to do it, and since I have the energy and patience for it, why not do it. :)
I had this one friend who was always trying to put me down, no matter what. Anytime something good happened to me, she would try to "level" me out by saying it wasn't all that great. I know that her behaviour was rooted in insecurity, and every time I tried to call her out, she would get defensive to the point that a rational conversation couldn't be had. The friendship actually ended when she said something that insulted my upbringing (I can handle personal attacks, but I'm not cool with that) and I very bluntly told her that she doesn't have to be so incredibly judgmental about things she knows nothing about. She couldn't handle it and we parted ways. It's so awesome that you have the energy and patience to keep at it, I try to, but some people have too much pride and make it way too difficult. Keep being awesome and spreadin' that light!
***** Oh, yay, you read my comment, thank you so much! :D I have DEFINITELY had to let go of some people, because it just became too much, it ended up making me a terrible person being around them, and all in all, it was just absolutely toxic for me. But I'm still hopeful that those people will one day come round. After all, most of us are youngings (youngins?), there's a whole life ahead of us to live and learn from, and tonnes of people who can help us along :) And you spread that light too, part of my light comes from yours after all! :D
I actually gravitate towards these sorts of videos, and I do have to say that don't feel like the topics are heavy - they're real, and they deal with the truth. I love that you're addressing things like depression and bullying in your videos, especially because I see so many people afraid to talk about this for fear of being a 'downer'. To me, speaking the truth is refreshing, interesting and engaging, and seldom 'heavy' in a negative sense. I wish more people would see it this way.
I always get so excited the sec. my phone tells me that cloudyapples has uploaded a video :) hank you so much for this kind of videos. They are very inspiring, authentic and make me think. When this topic comes up I always remember the simple but powerful quote "other women are not my competition. I stand with them not against them". Thank you for standing with us Kassie! I would be really interested in a video about communication. Its such a powerful tool that can heal and harm. I think its so important to communicate with each other regularly and nicely and I would really love to hear your opinion, experiences and tips about it. Love and light from Germany!
Love this! I know you once mentioned that you read philosophy when you were younger and your videos show that pattern of thinking and reaching conclusions. I appreciate your maturity and good thinking. You are an amazing young woman and I hope you speak on things you notice in every day life more often.
I love the fact that you put so much effort and love into your videos because it really shows. Aesthetically, I really enjoyed that in between your points you had the image that symbolizes what you were going to talk about. I love that you brought this topic up because we often forget about these important things in our lives. Much love to you Kassie
I found this video so helpful and true, I've shared it among my friends because I think women/girls don't hear talk like this often enough. Why tear others down because they're happy and different and expressing themselves? I see or experience it way too often. Let's accept and celebrate each other!
I was kinda down today and had some stuff going on, but after watching this video I feel like I recharged lol I love how authentic and straight from the heart you are. I can relate so much, and it's nice to see someone kinda articulate everything into words. Thanks kassie!
Oh my gosh if I was at a party and you walked into the room I would be sooo excited! Haha I don't know what those girls were thinking. Something I am really trying to work on is self-love and confidence. It seems like it comes easier to some people, but I am really working on it and have come a long way :) Thanks for another great video!
I don't know what they were thinking either but I hope they are nicer to other girls in the future! Self-love and confidence became easier to find for me when I started creating my own value system rather than believing what everyone was telling me to value. Be proud of who you are and the things you love! The sooner you do that, the sooner you'll feel better about yourself and will attract likeminded people =]
You are the most vibrant and interesting speaker I've ever heard, I'm so happy to have found your channel, I've loved listening to you for a couple of years and I just want to thank you for being such a powerful and honest woman and person.
It's so wonderful to see women uplift other women whether it be looks or success they achieved rather than being jealous or envy what the other person has that they don't. Especially going to an all girls high school at one point jheeze was it madness. It's funny how people tell false information about others. If i want to find out about someone i will directly meet them and create my own experience. They may have a bad experience with a particular person but that doesn't mean i will. We are ladies who can think for ourselves. That is a power we must not let others take :) P.S. the hat you're wearing looks so dope on you! i honestly love the talky videos. i'm always fascinated by what you say :)
You've been addressing a lot of really important things in your last two videos and it's stuff that needs be heard, so I'm very glad that you shared them both with us. Excellent points, I love the clean graphics you used as well, we'll done, Kassie. Thanks for sharing. You're an inspiration. :)
Wow, this video is so important to me right now. You talked so well about things I've always been struggling with and this helps me a lot to focus, stay positive and be true to myself. Or at least to try. I am dealing with a lot of anxiety, stress and panic attacks at this time; so this video basically comes at a perfect moment. Thank you Kassie for your positivity, you should know that it really helps me and makes me happy! I appreciate what you do and say so much! 😊❤
I love this ! I love that you are an intellectual women who is sharing from your past experiences. I was hesitant when I clicked on this video, but I am so glad that I did. I like that you are using your voice in a positive way and are not to afraid to get to deep or anything. Smartness and character are two of the biggest things that I believe all women should grab hold of and possess, and you do just that.
This was awesome! I think you did a great job of discussing the very real behaviors of women hating on other women without reinforcing that stereotype that all of us are inherently "catty". So often, I see women approach this issue as just another reason to hate women. Sigh. Seeing women supporting each other really speaks volumes and I just love it. Thanks for being an amazing lady and posting these videos. You inspire me and always make my day.
"It's not the actions, but the intentions behind those actions."
Well said Kassie!
serafina I read that just as she said it lol
you need to write a book one day! you're so articulate and your messages are so powerful
***** I second that!
I did two heavy, talky videos in a row, which is something I try not to do but this is just how I'm feelin' lately. Next video will be different. Much love to you all
I love your videos soooo much keep making them they make me smile 😘
I know..when you are happy people will say how can she be so all the time? And when sad ..oh please cheer up! Lol
I love these kinds of videos! They are seriously inspiring
I like any video you do, lol. Talky is great too! Haha:-) I am sure a lot of us need this!!!! LOL.
So true. I prefer this type of videos rather than the make up ones! So keep it up!! Thank you
This is such an amazing video with great point's that so many girl's need to here all the time! and your thoughts on the mainstream media is so true. Thats why youtube and social media is so important! Let the voices be heard :) x
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Aaahh Patricia!!! You and Kassie are two of my favourite youtubers and it's so great to see you watch her videos! :D
Kassie, today I picked up an essay based scholarship. The scholarship asks me to write an essay about an influential person in my life. My family is responsible for my values and many factors in my life, but you are a very big influence in my life also. I would like to write the essay about your influence, not only in me, but in many. I would like your opinion and your blessing. Also, in a way i would like to explain more about this to take the creepiness about this. It is purely academic. Thank you in advance.
thank you for this. My bully was my own husband. The love of my life. Along with other girls in my life who bullied me because.. well they are girls and sadly most girls are just mean to other girls. I felt alone. I hit depression hard and with my own husband telling me to kill myself along with another girl telling me the same thing before him. I did try, But i guess I am just to chicken to go though with it thank goodness. You have to learn to hell with those people. I am awesome and unique and I am better off with the toxic people in my life. When i was a kid i didn't care what people thought. We need to remember ourselfs when we were kids too. How carefree we once where. Lets go back to that Play in the mud, swing high on swings and run like nobody is watching. Screw bullys And be freaking awesome. Love ya kas!
Reading about what your husband did made me see red, I am SO glad you are better now. You're not chicken, we're wired to do everything we can to avoid death, and I think that's why suicide is so incredibly sad, because they got to a point of preferring the unknown over life. I miss being a kid, but being an adult has been so much fun ever since I learned how to love myself, wouldn't trade it for anything =]. Much love to you!!
***** Thank you
cristina dinescu with the biggest part of my heart I thank you for that sweet comment. Yes I am separated from him. he was court ordered actually. He has moved on and is with some one else. I feel so bad for her because he is A. still married to me and B. has no idea what she is in for. Thank you for taking your time to write that. I guess not all girls are bad either :)
Same story here, my bully was my ex husband whom I loved deeply. Sadly him, not so much. The deep depression that ensued almost killed me but when I reached my lowest point, I mustered the energy to kick him out of my life. It was truly out of despair because I loved him so much, but it saved my life and was totally worth the pain. Anyway, I agree with cristina dinescu , they never loved us, not even one bit I'm afraid. And may I add that you're a gorgeous girl lorah cripps ? Really, what's not to love about you ? These men's attitude baffle me, I will never understand them. Oh and Kas, wonderful video as always :) Much love to you all, lovelies, chins up ! (sorry for the grammatical and spelling errors, I'm french). xxx
Aeole Goodness, I'm so glad you guys got out of these terrible situations, I can't imagine going through that :(. I've personally had a few friends that were in very abusive relationships, and I felt like nothing I said ever convinced them to run until they convinced themselves to get out for whatever reason. Terry and I, like any couple, have had a few bumps in our relationship because I am very particular about how I think apologies should be made and how respect should be given (he is particular about things that I have learned to respect too). He said something really insightful the other day that went something like "a lot of men like everything to be in order and to have control of everything they can possibly control, and if lines aren't drawn, they'll extend that control to the best of their ability". It's not necessarily a bad thing because a man who feels that way will always have his life in order. But that's another reason why it's so important to not compromise on anything that crosses the line. I hope we can all have relationships full of love and mutual respect in the future =].
Girls on girls hate is a direct product of the patriarchy system we live in. That's because it places (for women) a HUGE value into beauty, which is something nobody can fully control. It's a genetic roulette and if you end on the low of the spectrum you WILL be treated differently and you WILL have less opportunities, self-esteem and so on. So, since it's a so important yet so undeserved "quality" (I'm sure you're a really nice, intelligent and kind person but you literally did nothing in your life to deserve your beautiful appearance just because you had it by chance) girls get jealous and angry when they meet someone who have what they (think) don't.
I think that's why you got so much hate for girls. We are playing men's game and we are missing SO many great friendship on the road (no boy can replace my girl friends). And I'm saying this as an "unconventionally pretty" young woman.
I think you make excellent points. It is a direct product of the patriarchy system we live in. In many women, you'll find that there's some internalized misogyny.
You're so right about genetic roulette and a system that favours conventionally attractive people (which is something you don't earn if you're born "beautiful"). All men didn't create the system, powerful men did. Doesn't help to be a poor, short and unconventionally attractive male in our society either. I believe the system hurts both genders, but I can only speak for myself as a woman. Much love to you
LilyCity92 Your comment deserves to be on the top. You're truly right.
Came here to say the exact same thing! So glad i'm not the only one. Girls are practically programmed to compete and be jealous of other girls. I believe we all need to understand what beauty we hold, including our losses, and realize that beauty is not a limited resource. You especially can't compete and win beauty by saying the girl who might be getting attention from guys does cocaine ;P
Wow, I wish more people thought the way you did. I can't agree more with EVERYTHING you just said. I recently retired from the adult film industry and I am constantly judged and not by the person I am but because of a job title I once had, it is sad because I am a pretty cool chick and have never been the type to judge others and I am all about love and loving others no matter who they are or what they have done etc. Everyone deserves a chance and it is so sad that majority of our population is so cold towards others before even getting a chance to know them. I made a whole video about that on my channel , well a few lol. Thanks for posting this xoxxo
I've never understood girl on girl hate. My entire life, I've always been drawn to being friends with girls over guys. If I'm at a party, I flock to the girls. If I saw you at a party and you said hi to me, I'd be like, "Holy crap, this extremely gorgeous chick is actually giving me the time of day and might want to be friends with me?? Hell yeah!!!" Lol. My whole world doesn't revolve around impressing guys, so I'd much rather make some girl friends for life, and maybe stumble on a guy to date if I'm lucky!
love this!!!!! Completely agree!
this is me too. I always go for the girls instead of talking to the guys
I loved this video, and gosh you're like the best talker on youtube. I love how you choose your words wisely and I could watch your videos all day long!
As a girl who suffered from depression and very low self esteem I find this video very very helpful.
I found my self through a different method- I changed my lifestyle and went vegan, my parents got us a dog and I started everyday with one thought: "When I'm being myself and people judge me and tell me that it's wrong than they're not the right people for me. I'm ok. It's ok to be me."
My depression started because I was part of a group of friends that always belittled me and when they found out they simply told me that it's not their fault and it's all mine.
At first I blamed them now I know it's my fault for choosing the wrong friends and it's up to me as well and not just the people around me.
For everyone who suffers from depression all I'd like to say is that now more then ever I believe it was a stepping stone to find out who I am. I won't say it gets better because it won't unless you get yourself together, all I'm going to say is- be strong, don't forget that being you is ok and people who say otherwise aren't worth your time or your tears. :)
Really love how you addressed this situation without complaining about the way you were treated or blaming others about their behavior. When it comes down to it, we really need to remember that the people we interact with are complex, multidimensional beings who we have the opportunity to treat with love.
The times I was negative were the times I needed love (and enlightenment) the most :P
This is so true! She did it very correctly!
this video was very refreshing. lately I feel like there are so many videos that are like, "10 MOMENTS ALL GIRLS UNDERSTAND" and they're all about boys, and periods, and other stereotypical an heteronormative things. it's nice to see and uplifting and motivational video on this topic.
YES AGREEED
Watching this video I couldn't help but be reminded of my high school self. I had extremely low self esteem, was depressed and had terrible social anxiety. Because of this, I didn't have many friends growing up. So as soon as I was welcomed into a group of girls when I was in grade 11, I did anything and everything to keep them my friend. Which lead to them bullying me to my face and behind my back because they were shameful of our friendship. They tried to show everyone that I was something to pity (I always imagine myself like Quasimodo when he goes to the Festival) instead of telling others that these girls and I had a genuine friendship. In the end, I cut off all contact with them my second year of college. I learned that it is better to be alone and happy then surrounded by people who constantly bring you down. And now, I speak my mind and don't settle for friendships that are toxic to be in. I may not have many friends, but I am extremely happy with the few friends I have.
I have a really really hot friend and other girls always have a problem with her no matter what - whilst guys are always friendly towards her. I don't know why we punish someone who looks more pleasing to the eyes than the rest of us. Maybe it's a girl thing? I don't know. But I do know that if I were at that party I'd definitely talk to you and get to know you and tell all the "mean girls" to piss off! (which is what you should've done tbh) =]
Loved watching your video like always Kassie! Let's hope we can all love each other.
Awe, that makes me sad, I hope she doesn't let it get her down. Tons of people probably shrug off her struggles because she's pretty, but I bet it's very hurtful and disorienting that she's just trying to live her life and people are shitting on her left and right.
I didn't tell the girls to piss off because I hate conflict, but maybe I should have said something. I hope they aren't mean to strangers in the future, no one deserves that. Much love to you!!
Maybe you guys are just hanging with the wrong type of crew. Two sides to a story.
I just binge watched a bunch of your videos. Your talks are so real. It's good to hear things like this from other people because it helps to not feel so isolated with my own experiences. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences!
SAME
Jessica Moore THAT IS SOOOOOOOOO TRUE!!!
I went to a wedding tonight where I saw a friend I used to be very close with. I told my friend who brought me that I missed being friends with that girl and that I was considering talking to her about it. She said no, let me talk to her boyfriend first because I'm closer with him and see what he says about it. But I just watched your video and I've decided to take it into my own hands. I'm going to talk to her myself. I'm going to let her know that I care that she's doing alright and that its okay if she doesn't care about me. I enjoyed being her friend and it's stupid to pretend like all that time meant nothing. It always feels great to me to end arguments with old friends, even if they don't end up in a best friendship like they had been. Even if it's never the same, I think it's worth it to let the other person know that you care about them and that they made a positive impact on your life. So thanks for the inspiration :)
Definitely take it into your own hands! Good on you, and I wish you the best!
i can believe that those women would treat you that way because you are not only beautiful but an all around badass. i really love your stories because they pull focus back onto things that are truly important. loved this!
I paused the video mid-way to like it and write a comment. You are so eloquent and RIGHT. I love this. I love your words. I hope they reach so many young girls and young people. The world needs more people like you around, actively trying to change things and spreading messages of love and kindness and acceptance.
Your intelligence, articulateness and poise never cease to amaze me. Total inspiration of a person.
Im glad you said depression is common, and i can absolutely relate to the idea that we don't want to appear any different. I didn't tell anyone what I was going through for such a long time, despite my psychologist insisting I let someone in so we can deal with it together, because depression for me was a heavy feeling of shame that I am not the person I want to be or that I have not done as well as the people I compare myself to. I was so ashamed of my depression and wanted to cut myself off from everyone until I have "cured" it. Realizing now that that was part of the problem, and that I need my girls by my side. Don't be mean to other girls, we all need each other to get through life
Amen to everything you said. I hope in the future that depressed people won't feel like their feelings are a burden on others. Isolating yourself should never come to mind as an answer. Take care
I like how you take really bad experiences and turn them into videos with positive messages. It's very mature.
It's a shame when ppl question why you are so happy....like wtf. I'm confused as to why it is questioned why we're happy. A girl in high school hated me cause I was happy....seriously -___-
Hahah omg I have so many stories of salty people. When I first moved to Vancouver, I heard rumours from an old friend that I was living in dire conditions and my boyfriend at the time had to sell his bike to make ends meet. When I heard that I was like "whaaaaa?". I'm so glad I don't get kicks out of trying to shit on peoples lives.
Ya, nobody liked me until 6th grade because I was always so cheerful and energetic.
Always an insightful and curious talk, thanks for sharing kassie :)
Love this message. You are so eloquent and deliberate, and I'm certain many other things, but the combination of the first two is lovely.
those girls clearly don't know how to party... sorry you had that awful experience kassie :(
i just wanted to thank you for instilling reassurance in me, that i'm a human being who is allowed to be myself no matter what society throws at me. always love your vids!!
Nothing gets me more pumped than walking into a place and the guys and gals all smile and introduce themselves! I always try to make strangers comfortable if they're new into my circle of friends, and I love when other people do that too. Thank you for your kind words, take care love
Yes! As a female who wears hijab, My mantra is don't worry what's on my head but worry what is IN my head." Females need to learn how to empower each other without tearing each other down. It's a sad reality we live in, one I hope changes very soon!
That's beautiful
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No problem. Keep your videos coming, they spark a very needed conversation. Your videos are a breath of fresh air!
Thank you. From the bottom of my heart thank you for this video. Self love is something I've struggled with after accepting my anxiety and depression. I'm lucky I have positive people in my life to love all of me. This made me so genuinely happy.
Just found this channel, you are amazing
Infinite Domain Much love to you
Every single thing you mention is soo true, you're such a smart woman, and example for us all! My favorite part was when you were talking about not taking crap from people, even if it means that they call you names. If you haven't seen it yet, I highly recommend the youtube video called Nicki Minaj - Bossing up. I had been really skeptical about her personality, but that speech she gives there is brilliant, I always watch it when I need some motivation. :)
Just watched that video, HAHAHAHA OMG. "I'm a human beiiiiiiiiiiing". I personally love Nicki Minaj, she's such a character and she's not afraid to stand for what she believes in regardless of how it looks. I'm not saying I agree with how she goes about it, but some of her songs have really touched me.
***** I'm glad you liked it :) I'm actually a big fan now, her songs on The Pinkprint are amazing, they really show her emotional side. But the main reason I love her is the kind of feminism she represents: she doesn't differentiate between male and female, she thinks women are equal to men, not better, not worse. That's the kind of feminism I like to see.
This video is honestly SO important! It makes me so sad when I see girls tear each other down and in general not saying very nice stuff about each other or judging people by appearance. The words 'don't judge a book by its cover' springs to mind. You'll be pretty surprised when you realise after getting to know a peron what they're actually like compared to what you thought they were like. The world would be a happier place if we could all focus on bettering ourselves rather than focusing on how other people should become better xxx
That quote you said about if you don't stand for something you'll fall for anything really hit home for me since it is a quote I have lived by for almost a decade. I have a family member who has no sense of self worth and it's hard to watch her continue to be in a manipulative relationship. Thanks for being so amazing!! You're videos are the best
Yes! Yes! This speaks to me on so many levels! I used to be judgmental and bitter towards women who were more confident and happy with themselves and I was wondering why I couldn't be content with things in my life. I wondered if bringing people down was the only way I could actually be happy.
A few months ago, I learned how to love and accept myself and make efforts to lead a more positive life. To accept the things I can't change and to strive to uplift myself no matter what. It's changed me so much. And it's making a difference in the lives of the people around me, too.
You can't love others without loving yourself first.
I recently discovered your channel, and by recently I really mean like 40 minutes ago lol. I just wanted to say that I've been hit with a lot of stress lately, and felt that because of this stress I was/am becoming someone that doesn't reflect the values that I think are important. Your videos, in a mere 40 mins, have made me laugh, tear up, and enlightened me. I can accomplish a lot of the things I want to, I can be the person I used to be if I just put my mind to it. Thank you for being you and spreading this refreshing, genuine aura you have. Keep doing what you do, it's greatly appreciated.
I am so glad I found you. I have been dealing with a lot of depression from my relationship and I've isolated myself.. Your pep talks make me feel so much better. Thank you for being you and for making videos. Please never stop.
*This video is gold. "You got to stand for something or your fall for anything" one of my favourite motto's*
Thanks for bringing this topic up!
This always happens to me, and if it wasn't for the guys in junior high I would've given up on life. What frustrates me also, is that it leads me to judge girls back, but not only the ones who treats me badly, but girls and women in general. Guys has never treated me as bad as girls have, so it has ended up with me being more cautious about friendships with girls because I really don't want any drama. And now I'm probably judged because I act reserved :P
YES. you are so amazing.
I remember when I was younger that I would always feel the need to change myself whenever I heard that someone did not like me. I used to be very shy and just afraid to speak up for myself around these people but over time I have learnt that you are never going to please anyone and the right people will come when you learn to respect yourself and others. Can't please everyone, but you can please yourself. Thank you for touching on these topics by the way, its nice to see people talk about subjects like this.
The more 'heavy, talky' videos you post are always my favourites. Sometimes I'll just remember a really good point you've made and I'll rewatch your videos when I don't feel like sleeping or doing much. Thanks!
This post hit me like a train. I recently went through a transition where I learned self-love after having practically hit rock bottom (I developed depression and anxiety to the point where I would not leave the house at all). Through learning self-love, I felt like my whole demeanor and vibe had changed. Before this, I was a very shy and insecure girl; I received much more positive feedback from girls than from guys. Now, girls tend to hate me more while guys are very friendly and nice to me, despite my attempts to actually make friends with girls. What you went through at that party, I feel like happens to me all the time. I don't know why girls are like this. I feel that with girls, it is more socially acceptable to hate your body and yourself than to love it. Finding self-confidence and being happy with yourself is not a bad thing. And judging and putting down other girls who are, is no way to help yourself find that either. This really needs to change. Females are much better than this.
Depression and anxiety have a very strange synergy with one another, at one point they made me feel like I couldn't do anything or talk to anyone. I don't wish that on anyone, and I'm so sorry it got to a similar point for you. Hearing that you've gotten through it makes me so incredibly happy. Don't worry about the Negative Nelly's, they hate you because they don't get why you're so okay with yourself. Hopefully they will figure it out one day as well. It's sad that a woman who openly loves herself is a rarity these days, and can even rub people the wrong way. But I have hope that it will change :).
***** I'm so sorry you went through that too. You seem to be doing so well for yourself, taking a negative situation and finding something positive in it. That is a gift in itself and I'm very happy for you. Oddly, I don't take what they say personally. I figured that it is more of a reflection of them than of me. And even their actions may be a reflection of the kind of society that we live in. I have hope that it will change too. Women are so amazing and have so much potential. It's time we started realizing this. :)
Great video! It's hard dealing with depression and at the same time trying to be true to yourself and not be other people's idea of you or who you should be just to get accepted. It gets lonely. The struggle is real, but more often than not the ones who accept you for who you really are, are the ones who will always be there for you. Thanks for doing this video. Not everybody puts themselves out there like that and i think its very inspiring!
I really love your whole channel, from the funny interviews and beauty routines to the real talk and beyond. It's so refreshing to see a real person speaking out about their life experiences in a way that is relatable. You rock, Cassie!!
You're so courageous Kassy! I would have probably left the party in tears or confronted the mean girls. I will remember the "Kassy hiding technique" if I ever find myself in a similar situation again :) As always, you give such valuable advice and the comments are gold! Love the community you're creating
It's just so bizarre to me that some women would try to purposefully ostracize another women. But this video is a gem and I will try to improve myself as well! I have a hard time being myself because I'm afraid of what others will think of me, which has led me to be quite passive in certain social situations as a coping reflex. I'll do my best to stand up for what I think is right. Thanks Kassie!
I used to have really bad social anxiety and I think a lot of it stemmed from being terrified that people were constantly judging me. In truth, people are pretty judgmental online but in person people generally have their own thing going on and don't care. I've gotten a lot better because I've gotten to know myself so well that I can sit and just exist rather than constantly think about every move I make. People appreciate authenticity, it has become a lot easier for me to make friends this way and have meaningful connections with people. Being proud of who you are and what you love will change your life for the better, and there will be assholes, but they will exist regardless of whether you're being yourself or not. Much love to you!!
THIS is why I think RUclips is the best media platform.. You got some real talk going here Kassie and that is something that I really appreciate about your channel.
I love these videos, especially since I work with middle school girls, I think it is important to have as many women out there talk about these issues. Much love to you, and can't wait to see where you go.
Thank you. THANK YOU! That what you just said , is the exact same thing I'm standing for. Just do you, be yourself and do whatever makes you happy as long you hurt nobody with your actions. If somebody don't except what makes you happy, he/she doesn't belong into your live. That's how easy it is. NOBODY should stop you from being happy.
This was exactly what I needed to hear right now. I was able to get out of high school relatively unscathed in terms of bullying, but when I arrived in college it really got bad. I was a very negative person and was involved in a lot of drama, and when I made the decision to detoxify my life and try to surround myself with people that only raised each other up in a happy little love/support cocoon, the original people I hung out with lashed out at me, made up stories, and referred to me in very demeaning terms to try to pull be back down. It was really hard to deal with but when I graduated I really took it as an opportunity to break away from an extremely unhealthy living situation and start fresh. Sometimes there is backlash (okay, nearly always) when you try to remove yourself from a bad situation but it is so 100% worth it! Embrace compassion, and acceptance! Don't be afraid to make a change if you're feeling like things aren't working for you
It was the exact opposite for me, high school was a dramatic gong show and college was so laid back. I showed up to school in sweats most days and no one cared. Most of my restaurant jobs have been dramatic though, with fake stories about people I hooked up with and all sorts of fun elementary behaviour. Removing yourself from the drama is always worth it, and you're right, people will try to drag you back, but someday they all have to face the fact that some people are too mature for their games.
I completely agree- and hopefully they'll all see that they're just playing some big game some day. I went to an all girls school and people might think that meant more drama, but I think being able to go through puberty in peace without guys around made it a lot easier for us. There I was really sure of who I was, but in college when I discovered the heavy partying lifestyle I totally lost myself. I looked for self-worth in other people's eyes instead of within, and coming clean with myself about what I was doing made pulling myself out of that hole all the easier. Thanks so much for the reply
This was amazing , I needed to hear it. It's so hard to explain anxiety & depression to people who don't go through it and when people act funky it makes it 1Ox harder to pull yourself up or even wanna talk about it. Its just refreshing to see u as positive person who goes through it & to shed light on & share knowledge just gives you some hope & to feel less alone. It truly is appreciated.
I love your speech on being authentic. I'm trying to be more authentic cuz I've realized I'm not going to be liked by everyone anyway so might as well stand for my values and beliefs because I don't want to fall for anything, I'm a grown ass woman. I have my own thoughts that other people may not agree with but it shows who I am.. And it's awesome :) as a result I think other people will develop sense of respect for me because of my individuallity.
This channel is my favourite discovery lately. It's a great mix of content, that is well produced and I really like your 'real talk' videos like these.
This is my favorite video of yours. I think it is so important for women to love each other and lift each other up. I try to seek out women friends who have what I want, because I find that when I'm around them, I become a better version of myself. Sometimes jealousy creeps in, especially on days I'm feeling insecure, but I remind myself to not compare my insides to other people's outsides.
Thank you for the great video.
It has helped me a lot.
Love you ❤️
I am sharing this video with my sister-she is in her mid twenties and has recently experienced bullying. I was shocked that at her age, she has to deal with that. Thank you for the insightful words.
I absolutely agree with all points! The less fake we are the better life, relationships and emotions become! Thank you for opening your heart ❤️️
I´m totally with you. Being true to yourself is so, so, so important. I used to have very little self esteem but with time I got to "know myself better". I discovered the things that I wanted to stand for and the things that I didn´t want to stand for. I might still seem shy, because I am naturally introverted, but if I talk to people they see that I am very passionate. I thankfully came to a point where I do not mind what others do or what they think about me because I don´t need them to fullfill me and I hope more people wil get to that point as well.
Thank you for this video!
I love how this reminds women of the things that most of know already but tend to forget. The part about losing yourself because you always want to make the other person happy really hit home for me. Ultimately how can you be a great person for anyone else if you can't be a great person for yourself FIRST! You're a fantastic role model. Love watching your chanel.
I love that you posted this right before i went to a party last night. I used to feel so anxious and shy around my boyfriend's friends because they all grew up together and are so tightly knit. Thank god tho they were all so welcoming,even the girls which i couldn't be more thankful of. Now if someone new comes into the group i also act very friendly to them,because i know what they are going thru lol
Only recently did I discover your videos and oh my god, I am obsessed!
You're so cool and real but beautiful and cute at the same time.
Every time you say you used to be judgmental and mean I struggle to believe it.
I feel very inspired by you, have a great day :)
you truly are a role model not because you teach how to appear, but how to think: independently! it's beautiful to see women like you, everybody should be who they truly are and push other to do the same. Everything you say fills my heart with warm joy and bright hope for a better place to live in! I admire you so much! Much love to you from Italy
***** Kassie, I applaud you for being such a strong-willed person. I mean it takes a lot of guts for you to fight the urge to crawl into your shell after facing two discouraging situations that may make you feel that the world is ugly. I know that if I was in a situation where I feel rejected by a group of people I would totally back away. But it's also in my nature to just keep a really small circle of friends and exclude as many new people as possible. I live by the philosophy that I shouldn't associate with people who don't like me. It's a harsh reality but I know I'm not always going to be liked so why waste time on people who don't like us. Why bother trying to fit in a place where you're not accepted. It's just my way of excluding negativity in my life. Negativity can bog you down and make you feel really sad. More props to you for basically saying "I don't give up on the world." I wish you more happiness in your life. keep your chin up.
I love this video, especially the way you said it straight away without being harsh/cold :) because sometimes you just need other people's perspective to see the world around you, especially when feeling isolated & depressed. Thank you Kassie for making this video and reminding me of how important it is to just take some time before making judgements whether about yourself or others...
I'm so glad I found your videos. I'm glad you aren't scared to talk about heavy stuff, it makes it easier to look at and be comfortable with all of the heavy stuff people deal with everyday!
I usually don't comment but this needed to be said. I LOVE YOU...YOU ARE SO UNDERESTIMATED srsly u shouldve been so much more famous than michelle phan or bethany mota simply because your videos are so inspiring. i really hope u never stop making videos. its because of people like u that i still believe in humanity i love uu soooooo much 3 3 3 3 ur beautiful and those girls were just jealous of ur awsomeness. ps.: u and terry are relationship goals love from a fan in the UK
eversince i decided to leave my homecountry and widen my horizon people in my hometown started to say out loud what they really thought of me. its incredible how people rather complain behind your back than to honestly tell you their problem in the moment so you can either solve it in time or decide its irrelevant. as a very straight forward person it shocked me deeply to hear that they found me strange because my open way of being, which was often mistaken as flirting and my selfconfidence, which they saw as arrogance. But after all, nothing will ever hold me back, and eversince i moved away i got even more confident and new positive people are entering my life because they value exactly the things the others were talking badly about.
Man, I love your perspective on things. I love to have fun but deep conversation is something that drives me in relationships. You would be such a great friend to have and it's good to know there are people like you in this world! I hope I can influence women and inspire them with words like this someday. You are so well-spoken! 👏
Such a helpful video! I find it so hard to get out of my shell when I first introduce myself at a gathering where I don't know many people and they just shut me out completely. I become really quiet and awkward and I don't know what to do with myself. I try to talk to people but then it feels like I'm coming off too strong and they end up not being interested at all in what I'm saying. I'm constantly comparing myself to girls around me and I know I need to stop but it's like my mind unconsciously does it and makes me feel really low about myself. These videos really help a lot, I appreciate them! Thank you ❤️
I am probably a good 5 years older than you, but I gotta say.. You have a lot of good insight and are so wise. It's refreshing!
Only over the past 3 - 4 years have I truly understood the power of the female companion.
In the past I could count how many female friends I had on one hand. Now I find myself surrounded by brilliant women who's independence and ambition inspire me everyday. They, along with my Sisters, Mother, Grandmother and other female family members, have taught me to embrace, encourage, teach and support woman in every aspect of life.
Women need to empower other women. It's important to celebrate each others achievements and see one another as fellow Comrades rather than threats, this is something I have learnt over time (and still learning). Only then can we truly fight against inequality, together.
To all you awesome ladies - be kind, be generous, be open minded, be powerful.
I think this video touches me most because I am struggling with depression and was diagnosed this past December. I literally only talk to my twin brother and grandmother about everything and they are my best friends. I don't have any other good friends and when I try, like going to social events, no one is nice or inviting besides guys... And those guys don't even want friendship! I feel sad now that it's sunny outside and I have no female friends to hang out with. I appreciate that you open up this community for those types of conversations. I'm hoping that someone else can relate to this.
I've met a lot of my female friends at work and through other friends, just have to keep putting yourself out there, grabbing numbers, and trying to make plans! Lots of girls will flake out, but some won't, and it'll be awesome! =]
Aww, thank you Kassie! I will defiantly keep trying :-)
You are the most authentic, real, smart, and down to earth youtuber. I really enjoy your videos. You're such a breath of fresh air! We need more women like you
I used to hate a girl who likes to bully other girl. But then I realize, she bullies other girl because she feels disapproved. She desires to have a feeling like a winner, she wants to be better than anyone else. And, I've stopped hating person who bullies me, and feel sympathy toward them. We are great girls, we never need to put such hateful toward other girls just to feel happy. We are strong, bold and beautiful, and we have that full realization with or without them (bullier).
Thank you, Kassie. You are an inspiration.
u r the most inspiring person i have ever heard in my life! u have made me realise that being liked means nothing if ur not happy, but if ur happy and not liked it doesn't matter what people see or think of u, because if ur happy nothing else should matter. {quote (not made by me) EVERYONE WANTS HAPPINESS, NO ONE WANTS PAIN, BUT U CANT HAVE A RAINBOW WITH-OUT A LITTLE RAIN. xxx
Hm. I admire that you found peace and contentment. :3
At first I was like, apprehensive of your genuineness. Then I realized
that you made your peace with the fact that we always grow and change, but also that healthy growth and change takes work.
Making that peace and making that effort is difficult, and you did it. You inspire me. Thank you.
Thank you so much for posting this! Your words really resonate with me and I am so appreciative of your wisdom! I have similar troubles with other females at work and I definitely hide in the bathroom more times than I'd like to admit. I will have to remind myself that when stand up for what I believe in I will get people who do not like me, and that is okay. Thank you!
I really appreciate these types of videos - we're all trying to live our lives meaningfully and hearing your thoughts is just a breath of fresh air. By getting into a routine every day, it can be hard to work on yourself and know your stance in the world. Knowing your values and living up to them is so important and I don't want to pass my days teetering and fumbling because I haven't figured out what I believe in and will tolerate. Thanks so much for this video and I look forward to more!
It's very freeing to stop trying to please everyone and instead just be yourself and accept all that comes with it.
Urgh, i love all your videos, thank you so much for giving me a boost with every single one of them. Your videos just makes me feel so much better and happier and not as alone. I've always had problems with friends overall, girls wasn't even intrested in getting to know me and just hated me from the day they layed eyes upon me and guys was never intrested in being friend, everyone wanted something else from me. They did just put in the 'nice guy' coin and waited for sex to fall out.
I'm in a better place now, I have my amazing friends and wonderful boyfriend but from time to time i slip back and loose grip about whats important and I find myself worrying and crying over what some random girl at school thinks about me. Or i just make up problems in my head by overthinking. Your videos always puts me back on track again and reminds me to focus on the better things in life. :)
You're really my favourite youtuber, because no other youtuber ever had such a impact on my life and helped my through tough times and my depression like you have!
Just wanted to let you know and i really hope you see this!
Thank you so much!
Love the positivity kasssssy. We need this mutual love and respect in society.
Ugh! I love you! You seem like such a thoughtful, humble, kind, genuine, passionate person and I wish more people were like you! You're so inspiring, and I also find you SO relatable on so many levels. Keep up the wonderful work! You truly are a beautiful person. 😊
Your videos are way beyond beauty, fashion and health Cassie - you approach sticky subjects no other RUclipsr does and that's what I love about you and your channel. I come away from watching your videos feeling empowered, enlightened and inspired; so for that, I genuinely thank you. Btw, you look adorable in that hat - stylish and sassy :P
The part about weeding out the bad people really struck a chord with me, because I tend to not do that... I've learned that - while these people can be a handful - most often, they've just gone down a wrong path, and it's usually really easy to get them back on track, and create beautiful friendships from it. The method is simple: call them out on their bullshit.
"You know, I'm really happy I don't have hair like yours, I'd feel like I couldn't do anything with it."
I've gotten this comment (or similar comments) A LOT from women, who later will tell me that they have really low self-esteem. They push others down instead of pulling themselves up, and I just won't stand for it. I have definitely played into "the game", where you come with an equally passive-aggressive comment, but that has never helped, all it did was make myself a part of the problem.
What always has helped, though, was simply saying "that is very hurtful, I really hope you don't talk to all your friends like this," because of course they don't really care about my hair, they care about their own hair, or thighs, or waist, or boobs, or clothes, or makeup, or whatever. I try to shift the focus from external to internal traits, commenting (or complimenting) their goodness, smartness, kindness, good sense of humor and such, and slowly but surely, I notice them doing the same, and it honestly feels awesome to see a person who was so caught up in hate and jealousy and negativity turn around and grow so much.
So yeah, maybe a bit of a high-and-mighty/martyr attitude, but it's how I like to do it, and since I have the energy and patience for it, why not do it. :)
I had this one friend who was always trying to put me down, no matter what. Anytime something good happened to me, she would try to "level" me out by saying it wasn't all that great. I know that her behaviour was rooted in insecurity, and every time I tried to call her out, she would get defensive to the point that a rational conversation couldn't be had. The friendship actually ended when she said something that insulted my upbringing (I can handle personal attacks, but I'm not cool with that) and I very bluntly told her that she doesn't have to be so incredibly judgmental about things she knows nothing about. She couldn't handle it and we parted ways. It's so awesome that you have the energy and patience to keep at it, I try to, but some people have too much pride and make it way too difficult. Keep being awesome and spreadin' that light!
***** Oh, yay, you read my comment, thank you so much! :D
I have DEFINITELY had to let go of some people, because it just became too much, it ended up making me a terrible person being around them, and all in all, it was just absolutely toxic for me. But I'm still hopeful that those people will one day come round. After all, most of us are youngings (youngins?), there's a whole life ahead of us to live and learn from, and tonnes of people who can help us along :)
And you spread that light too, part of my light comes from yours after all! :D
I actually gravitate towards these sorts of videos, and I do have to say that don't feel like the topics are heavy - they're real, and they deal with the truth. I love that you're addressing things like depression and bullying in your videos, especially because I see so many people afraid to talk about this for fear of being a 'downer'. To me, speaking the truth is refreshing, interesting and engaging, and seldom 'heavy' in a negative sense. I wish more people would see it this way.
I always get so excited the sec. my phone tells me that cloudyapples has uploaded a video :) hank you so much for this kind of videos. They are very inspiring, authentic and make me think. When this topic comes up I always remember the simple but powerful quote "other women are not my competition. I stand with them not against them". Thank you for standing with us Kassie! I would be really interested in a video about communication. Its such a powerful tool that can heal and harm. I think its so important to communicate with each other regularly and nicely and I would really love to hear your opinion, experiences and tips about it. Love and light from Germany!
Love this! I know you once mentioned that you read philosophy when you were younger and your videos show that pattern of thinking and reaching conclusions. I appreciate your maturity and good thinking. You are an amazing young woman and I hope you speak on things you notice in every day life more often.
I love the fact that you put so much effort and love into your videos because it really shows. Aesthetically, I really enjoyed that in between your points you had the image that symbolizes what you were going to talk about. I love that you brought this topic up because we often forget about these important things in our lives. Much love to you Kassie
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I found this video so helpful and true, I've shared it among my friends because I think women/girls don't hear talk like this often enough. Why tear others down because they're happy and different and expressing themselves? I see or experience it way too often. Let's accept and celebrate each other!
I was kinda down today and had some stuff going on, but after watching this video I feel like I recharged lol I love how authentic and straight from the heart you are. I can relate so much, and it's nice to see someone kinda articulate everything into words. Thanks kassie!
Oh my gosh if I was at a party and you walked into the room I would be sooo excited! Haha I don't know what those girls were thinking. Something I am really trying to work on is self-love and confidence. It seems like it comes easier to some people, but I am really working on it and have come a long way :) Thanks for another great video!
I don't know what they were thinking either but I hope they are nicer to other girls in the future! Self-love and confidence became easier to find for me when I started creating my own value system rather than believing what everyone was telling me to value. Be proud of who you are and the things you love! The sooner you do that, the sooner you'll feel better about yourself and will attract likeminded people =]
You are the most vibrant and interesting speaker I've ever heard, I'm so happy to have found your channel, I've loved listening to you for a couple of years and I just want to thank you for being such a powerful and honest woman and person.
It's so wonderful to see women uplift other women whether it be looks or success they achieved rather than being jealous or envy what the other person has that they don't. Especially going to an all girls high school at one point jheeze was it madness. It's funny how people tell false information about others. If i want to find out about someone i will directly meet them and create my own experience. They may have a bad experience with a particular person but that doesn't mean i will. We are ladies who can think for ourselves. That is a power we must not let others take :) P.S. the hat you're wearing looks so dope on you! i honestly love the talky videos. i'm always fascinated by what you say :)
You've been addressing a lot of really important things in your last two videos and it's stuff that needs be heard, so I'm very glad that you shared them both with us. Excellent points, I love the clean graphics you used as well, we'll done, Kassie. Thanks for sharing. You're an inspiration. :)
Love your honesty and courage to speak out. Sorry about your sister. Sending you love and peace.
Thank you for existing, Kassie. You teach me lots of things.
Congrats for almost reaching 200k! :^) 👏👏
Thank you!
Yay!! Party! 😊💜 xx
***** omg what! I thought you already had millions of subscibers
Wow, this video is so important to me right now. You talked so well about things I've always been struggling with and this helps me a lot to focus, stay positive and be true to myself. Or at least to try. I am dealing with a lot of anxiety, stress and panic attacks at this time; so this video basically comes at a perfect moment. Thank you Kassie for your positivity, you should know that it really helps me and makes me happy! I appreciate what you do and say so much! 😊❤
Awesomely said girl!!! Life is tough and there are a lot of subjects that need to be talked about openly! Thank you so much for addressing it! 👏👏💕
I love this ! I love that you are an intellectual women who is sharing from your past experiences. I was hesitant when I clicked on this video, but I am so glad that I did. I like that you are using your voice in a positive way and are not to afraid to get to deep or anything. Smartness and character are two of the biggest things that I believe all women should grab hold of and possess, and you do just that.
I'm glad you made a video on this subject. I have horrible anxiety and it can definitely contribute to such things.
This was awesome! I think you did a great job of discussing the very real behaviors of women hating on other women without reinforcing that stereotype that all of us are inherently "catty". So often, I see women approach this issue as just another reason to hate women. Sigh. Seeing women supporting each other really speaks volumes and I just love it. Thanks for being an amazing lady and posting these videos. You inspire me and always make my day.