Well, this depends on the context. If it’s a situation like this where the partner’s boundaries aren’t being respected, then yes, otherwise, I’m putting my family first.
@@Starrypath-Zenithalif you marry said partner youd better change that mindset fast as its supposed to bein order of importance: 1) your own children 2) your partner 3) your pets 4) family 5) everyone/everything else if you cant be man/woman enough to accept that order: stay single 🙄🙄
@tommyflatley1813 So what you're saying is. If I have a couple 100 bucks saved up and my wife really wants new jewelry but my family needs the money for rent, I should give it my wife? Great advice.
This is toxic thinking why would a pick a guy I may have been dating 3 months known for 6 over friends that I have known for 20 years. I am not that desperate to get layed. Why would I pick a partner of a few years that may not last to a bond I have with my siblings for life. I am not that pathetic that I am scared to be alone. It's about siding with who is in the right I am not going to back up a partner just because they are my partner. If the rolls where reversed and the partner was going to the sisters house letting her kids snoop being intrusive taking and demanding things coming over uninvited should he side with his partner just because she is his partner?
@@PikethedawgDid YOU not hear the end? She needs to break up with him if he clearly cannot respect her boundaries or tell his sister to back off then they need to break up
@@Pe.achiiiincorrect, you said “she needs” to break up with him, from the end of the video is it stated she didn’t want to break up with him but did. Your previous comment was implying that she was still with him but she should break up with him.
Her update is good, she had her friend help her move out. She's staying in a hotel but she is free of Albert and his sister. Meanwhile, she was paying most of the house bills and the groceries since Albert's hours were cut.
I'd pay a month ahead and then tell Albert that he is on his own and that the relationship is over and he will have to figure his sh*t out. Then cut ties completely.
Yup time to leave since he doesn't care what u think.... U work hard to put a house n food on the tablecfir urself.... Not for others to cone n take cuz they need it..... No shit u need it too cuz u have them.....
@@Pikethedawg well a ‘ten year old’ can still have knowledge about these types of things, especially if they watch a lot of these types of videos, (speaking from personal experience) and it still it not acceptable to be demean others in what they say, type, or express. This is not meant to be mean but please don’t say things you wouldn’t want said to you.
He's always going to put his family first, and will never back you whatever happens. Do not apologise his sister is doing it purposely so that you will feed them saving her money. YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Imagine it isn’t his sister but his actual ex girlfriend who he has kids with . It makes sense why he doesn’t say anything & also op really needs to ditch him . He’s not worth saving , we all can see he is willing to be the doormat for his “sister” until she finds an actual man that will put up with her
Her and her kids are NOT your responsibility!!! She should be feeding and watching her own kids!! It's your home, kick them out!!! If he don't like it, he can go with them!! Seriously wake up to yourself!! It actually amazes me how you people post this crap knowing exactly what you need to do!!! Do you have no self respect....honestly!! If you put up with it it's 1000% your fault!!!
Your partner has been using you and now he wants his entire family to use you your right to get a divorce op. This man is trash. Let him support and cook for his family members
Are you sure you:re husband is not the father of his sister+in-laws kids??? He's too eager for them to take advantage of you. A Divorce with a PFA against the whole family might be the best course of action.
the entitlement is strong with that family. this is not a man you'd want to marry and you might as well nip it in the bud. if they act like this already, i foresee them starting to ask for money.
It's good you were only dating this guy. It's best to let go now before you make a mistake and marry him . Obviously, his sister has no boundaries, and she and her kids' behavior would get worse.
*take notes mans! Take notes!* This story is showing how you actually can ruin a good marriage.. And honestly OP should leave because her husband is proving to be spineless and completely disregard of her feeling.. While expecting her to feed someone else's kids everything they show up and want to eat when they have a home.. So the husband is basically allowing his sister kids to come around and leach off food that his kids could be eating..
This will continue ro happen as long as you stay. His family doesn't know boundaries and he expects you to be okay with this. He has no regard for you. Move on.
NTA, its clear your husband cares more about his sisters Kids then he does you. and dont mind persecuting you for their benefit... If you Remove yourself from the equation, i wonder if he would still condone how Sister and her Children behave.
Idk cuz one of my parents come from a culture where u give a guest the best part of a meal if they come over and my other parent’s culture is prob similar but idk as much abt it.
Silent treatment from a man who doesn’t pay much or work much yet goes bowling instead? Silently pack his stuff up and put it in the entryway of the apartment you pay for! He can go live w his mooch of a sister. In fact Albert and his sister are huge moochers. You can level up next time.
When a person negates their partner's boundaries and emotions surrounding by constantly siding with a family member or friend, this is an unfortunate red flag. Clearly, he has a poor understanding of familial boundaries. If any of either of our siblings did this, my husband AND I would be furious, and it would immediately be stopped!
Even if you don’t wanna end things, end it anyway! If he’s choosing to go on his sisters side when she letting her kids mess around in other peoples house, that’s just disrespectful! And he knows that!
OP Unfortunately, it's past time to cut your losses, end things with him and move on. Neither Albert nor his Boundary Stomping Sister are willing to respect you even in your own home. It's also past time her heathens learn boundaries, before they get a much harsher reality check from someone else. It's a tactic to see how much you are willing to put up with.
There's no reason for you to support his sister and her kids. If he wishes to he should find somewhere else to live where he is able to 'enjoy' her company, along with her kids, as much as he desires.
But they’re married right she said sister-in-law so that would mean that they’re married yeah that’s grounds for divorce. That’s some disrespectful foolishness and if I would’ve tied up all the financial responsibility that you had to pay for the sister-in-law and the children and had your soon to be ex-husband pay you back for that have a rough idea. Say hey this was my responsibility. Put it in a text. I want an additionalif it was $1000 $5000 have a long with been going on that’s including the toiletries whatever then yeah that’s you know that’s out of balance man who raise these people that they think it’s inappropriate to do something like that.
It isn’t only the sister taking advantage. Can someone explain how Albert’s sister is showing up at his gf’s house? I’ve never seen such audacity before marriage. Albert is also taking advantage. He is a lump of nothing and op needs to get her house keys back
It's never ok when you are being taken advantage of! And your boyfriend is letting it happen is not ok but then again so das he! So yes they have another dynamic in their family of freeloaders? I don't understand why she and him are behaving like this, you should try to figure this out because they might be used to taking whatever they want or they lack money to eat properly, but it doesn't sound like it, but I might be wrong! If he wants them to eat at your home he needs to pay more!!!
START IGNORING HIS TEXT. THE AUDACITY AND ENTITLEMENT OF HIS SISTER AND YOU NEED TO TELL HIM TO ADDRESS IT OR YOU'RE DONE. MAKE HIM START PAYING FOR THE GROCERIES, SEE WHAT HE DOES THEN
When a partner picks his family or friends over you, move on because you will struggle with that forever.
Well, this depends on the context. If it’s a situation like this where the partner’s boundaries aren’t being respected, then yes, otherwise, I’m putting my family first.
@@Starrypath-Zenithalif you marry said partner youd better change that mindset fast as its supposed to bein order of importance: 1) your own children 2) your partner 3) your pets 4) family 5) everyone/everything else if you cant be man/woman enough to accept that order: stay single 🙄🙄
@tommyflatley1813 So what you're saying is. If I have a couple 100 bucks saved up and my wife really wants new jewelry but my family needs the money for rent, I should give it my wife? Great advice.
@tommyflatley1813 I agree blood is thicker than water put those who you choose above those, you are forced to form bonds
This is toxic thinking why would a pick a guy I may have been dating 3 months known for 6 over friends that I have known for 20 years. I am not that desperate to get layed. Why would I pick a partner of a few years that may not last to a bond I have with my siblings for life. I am not that pathetic that I am scared to be alone.
It's about siding with who is in the right I am not going to back up a partner just because they are my partner. If the rolls where reversed and the partner was going to the sisters house letting her kids snoop being intrusive taking and demanding things coming over uninvited should he side with his partner just because she is his partner?
Break up with him . He doesn't deserve you
DID YOU NOT HEAR THE END!
@@PikethedawgDid YOU not hear the end? She needs to break up with him if he clearly cannot respect her boundaries or tell his sister to back off then they need to break up
@@Pe.achiiishe broke up with him at the end of
@@lavanan72 Did I not just say that?
@@Pe.achiiiincorrect, you said “she needs” to break up with him, from the end of the video is it stated she didn’t want to break up with him but did. Your previous comment was implying that she was still with him but she should break up with him.
Her update is good, she had her friend help her move out. She's staying in a hotel but she is free of Albert and his sister. Meanwhile, she was paying most of the house bills and the groceries since Albert's hours were cut.
I'd pay a month ahead and then tell Albert that he is on his own and that the relationship is over and he will have to figure his sh*t out. Then cut ties completely.
@@tiffanysalling4272I wouldn’t pay a month ahead. Sounds like he was using her and def doesn’t love her.
Yup time to leave since he doesn't care what u think.... U work hard to put a house n food on the tablecfir urself.... Not for others to cone n take cuz they need it..... No shit u need it too cuz u have them.....
End it and move on. He is not going to change, and it's going to get worse.
How would you know your prolly a 10 year old
Cant handle the truth? What is op supposed to do then?@@Pikethedawg
@@Pikethedawg well a ‘ten year old’ can still have knowledge about these types of things, especially if they watch a lot of these types of videos, (speaking from personal experience) and it still it not acceptable to be demean others in what they say, type, or express. This is not meant to be mean but please don’t say things you wouldn’t want said to you.
He's not worth it. End it!
He can move in with his sister n share all his stuff n y r u paying most of the bills not fair thats y hes not bothered
He's always going to put his family first, and will never back you whatever happens. Do not apologise his sister is doing it purposely so that you will feed them saving her money. YOU DESERVE BETTER.
It's time to put yourself first. Dump him NOW! Your house, your money, your life.
Imagine it isn’t his sister but his actual ex girlfriend who he has kids with .
It makes sense why he doesn’t say anything & also op really needs to ditch him . He’s not worth saving , we all can see he is willing to be the doormat for his “sister” until she finds an actual man that will put up with her
Hell no uninvited is sooo rude. Only time its ok is in an emergency situation
Why don't you want to end things??? Your an A to yourself for not breaking things off
Split. You aren't a priority for him in any way shape or form. Including respect or boundaries.
Her and her kids are NOT your responsibility!!! She should be feeding and watching her own kids!! It's your home, kick them out!!! If he don't like it, he can go with them!! Seriously wake up to yourself!! It actually amazes me how you people post this crap knowing exactly what you need to do!!! Do you have no self respect....honestly!! If you put up with it it's 1000% your fault!!!
I'VE POSTED THINGS LIKE YOU BEFORE. IDK IF IT'S FOR ATTENTION OR WHAT🤷♀️ESPECIALLY AM I THE AH ONES
ONLY YOU WILL CHANGE!!!! TO MORE OF PEACE ✌️✌️✌️✌️!!!!
Thank God that's boyfriend not husband yet
Your partner has been using you and now he wants his entire family to use you your right to get a divorce op. This man is trash. Let him support and cook for his family members
Are you sure you:re husband is not the father of his sister+in-laws kids??? He's too eager for them to take advantage of you.
A Divorce with a PFA against the whole family might be the best course of action.
U their sugar mommy or sumethin? 😂😂😂
Who's house are you living in? Its a huge mistake living with someone you aren't married to. Room mates work better with boundaries accepted.
Absolutely no! Leaving together before marriage is crucial. You need to know who exactly is your S.O. while you still can walk away easily.
Finally, somebody who breaks up with the freaking bomb that is not contributing to the household and wants you to feed his family
You deserve more.
the entitlement is strong with that family. this is not a man you'd want to marry and you might as well nip it in the bud. if they act like this already, i foresee them starting to ask for money.
Is OP sure that's his sister and not his wife or side chick
It's good you were only dating this guy. It's best to let go now before you make a mistake and marry him . Obviously, his sister has no boundaries, and she and her kids' behavior would get worse.
Leave them. They're taking you for a ride.
*take notes mans! Take notes!*
This story is showing how you actually can ruin a good marriage.. And honestly OP should leave because her husband is proving to be spineless and completely disregard of her feeling.. While expecting her to feed someone else's kids everything they show up and want to eat when they have a home.. So the husband is basically allowing his sister kids to come around and leach off food that his kids could be eating..
This will continue ro happen as long as you stay. His family doesn't know boundaries and he expects you to be okay with this. He has no regard for you. Move on.
Albert is your problem Hun.. get rid of him
You know what to do.
NTA, its clear your husband cares more about his sisters Kids then he does you. and dont mind persecuting you for their benefit... If you Remove yourself from the equation, i wonder if he would still condone how Sister and her Children behave.
END THINGS WTF???
stealing is stealing. period.
ALBERT ? What a name lmao
Nta. Sil is entitled 🤬
Albert can move in with his sister.
Yes!!! Congratulations
Idk cuz one of my parents come from a culture where u give a guest the best part of a meal if they come over and my other parent’s culture is prob similar but idk as much abt it.
Good on you for ending things with him that is completely wrong what he was doing
Red flag your their bank account
Silent treatment from a man who doesn’t pay much or work much yet goes bowling instead? Silently pack his stuff up and put it in the entryway of the apartment you pay for! He can go live w his mooch of a sister. In fact Albert and his sister are huge moochers. You can level up next time.
❤❤❤❤ thank you for sharing your story and you have eveyright to say no .i like the video of someone cooking
Break up with him immediately!! You deserve better
When a person negates their partner's boundaries and emotions surrounding by constantly siding with a family member or friend, this is an unfortunate red flag. Clearly, he has a poor understanding of familial boundaries. If any of either of our siblings did this, my husband AND I would be furious, and it would immediately be stopped!
GOOD FOR YOU!!🎉
Even if you don’t wanna end things, end it anyway! If he’s choosing to go on his sisters side when she letting her kids mess around in other peoples house, that’s just disrespectful! And he knows that!
Better is to leave.. you don't want but this is not healthy..
Mate doesn't respect or value you who considers less than his family. No boundaries. No
trust . End relationship and take care of self.
I didn't know you could fry a banana!
Break up. he doesn't respect you. What will be next? What if thing get serious? Do you want to deal and be 2nd for the rest of your life???
Man im so happy im single no bs
Leave him
OP Unfortunately, it's past time to cut your losses, end things with him and move on. Neither Albert nor his Boundary Stomping Sister are willing to respect you even in your own home. It's also past time her heathens learn boundaries, before they get a much harsher reality check from someone else. It's a tactic to see how much you are willing to put up with.
There's no reason for you to support his sister and her kids. If he wishes to he should find somewhere else to live where he is able to 'enjoy' her company, along with her kids, as much as he desires.
It depends... If she have no money, this is basic kindness, otherwise it is weird
He's a leech
Why did you stay with him for so long?
"I don't want to end things" yeah that's your problem
Run, girl, run. You are footing the bill and being taken advantage of
i came straight to the comments when i heard albert but got nothing 😔
But they’re married right she said sister-in-law so that would mean that they’re married yeah that’s grounds for divorce. That’s some disrespectful foolishness and if I would’ve tied up all the financial responsibility that you had to pay for the sister-in-law and the children and had your soon to be ex-husband pay you back for that have a rough idea. Say hey this was my responsibility. Put it in a text. I want an additionalif it was $1000 $5000 have a long with been going on that’s including the toiletries whatever then yeah that’s you know that’s out of balance man who raise these people that they think it’s inappropriate to do something like that.
NO SHE SAID DATING AND SHE NEVER SAYS SIL, SHE SAYS HIS SISTER AND HER 2 KIDS
Leave that man and never look back
Just break up with that loser?
Shouldve ended "it" a long time ago.
Leave him Please! You do not have to deal with that
Takers take.
NTA. Absolutely ridiculous entitlement
🤤 Food
divorce him asap
Kick him out if you own the house/apartment or leave with everything you payed for
How many red flags does it take ?
If he dosent respect u,u dont need him
Womp womp😂😂😂😂😂
Good job
Break up, that is a family boy, he will always pick hus family over you , even if they are right or wrong
Screw that, not your burden to bare, let him pay for them
he’s a red flag so you better
run fast for your mother run fast for your faaaather🚩🚩🚩
Break up with him... He never change
GIRL YOU DON'T NEED HIM
Take back your key, toss his things out, change the locks. He's done.
I hope she found better. Do anyone know who the guy is in the background?
Him and his family are the selfish ones.
Sounds more like 4 children but seriously leave and move on
It isn’t only the sister taking advantage. Can someone explain how Albert’s sister is showing up at his gf’s house? I’ve never seen such audacity before marriage. Albert is also taking advantage. He is a lump of nothing and op needs to get her house keys back
Looks like Albert is going to be single being ridiculous like that. Especially since she’s footing most of the bills
Break up with him you deserve better
So your dating a child?
It's never ok when you are being taken advantage of! And your boyfriend is letting it happen is not ok but then again so das he! So yes they have another dynamic in their family of freeloaders? I don't understand why she and him are behaving like this, you should try to figure this out because they might be used to taking whatever they want or they lack money to eat properly, but it doesn't sound like it, but I might be wrong! If he wants them to eat at your home he needs to pay more!!!
sooo he kicked you out?
I'll take Things that didn't happen for $500 Alex
why the hell would you want to date him?
Divorce him.
Tell him to move out of your place. Bye bye!
Tell him to leave.
Seems like they used her until she got sick of it.
Sounds like you have a baby of a spouse.
Yeah, time to find a new boyfriend
That's just a taste of a problem you'll have if you marry him
START IGNORING HIS TEXT. THE AUDACITY AND ENTITLEMENT OF HIS SISTER AND YOU NEED TO TELL HIM TO ADDRESS IT OR YOU'RE DONE. MAKE HIM START PAYING FOR THE GROCERIES, SEE WHAT HE DOES THEN
I dont get it , you come to my home an ur kids are hungry, more then welcome to eat and yes that means if it's every day .
Leave him and do not marry him
Omfg why can’t you see Alberts the problem
end things