I'm pretty sure she spent it, and then he was demanding that she either follow through with getting him back into the guy's life, or give the money back. Which is why she was trying so hard, because the money was already gone.
Take a shot every time OP says: "But life has a way of throwing curveballs when you least expected" "I threw myself into my work/study/hobby/project/plans" "... been my rock" "Life has been a rollercoaster" "The tension was palpable" "We met at a neutral location" "... cautiously optimistic." "... mix/whirlwind of emotions" "I don't know what the future holds" P.S.: I didn't watch the whole thing.
Tbh, at this point, there is no harm in taking the inheritance money since. The dad's dead and he willingly gave op the money with no strings attached.
The will: Take the money as a sort of "compensation" for the years of neglect and pain... Give some to your mother since she was hurt by his actions even more than you. Use the rest in a way that seems best to you. Taking compensation does NOT convey forgiveness. It is acknowledging that you were harmed and deserve recommence.
Honestly, if she'd been screwing OP's sperm donor for money, that would have been way, way less of a betrayal than OP finding the SOB sitting on his couch.
Your father has passed away. And he left. You something There's no more communication. What is there to think about? Just take what he gave you. He apologized sincerely and he passed away. Quit being prideful and just accept it. There's nothing wrong with that. He can't talk with you anymore.
Because even when a partner does something horrible, love doesn't just get switched off like a light bulb. And sometimes even a toxic relationship is better than loneliness.
If she left you because you said you don't want anything to do with a man who abandoned you, she isn't a true life partner and plus she seems like a golddigger to be honest
"The worst has happened, the war is over, no victor in sight.......time to heal" I would take the money, do good with it, build something new. The spoils of war aren't always so clean cut but do with it what you believe will reflect healing and not forgiveness, not yet at least.
She was selling YOU that's what the money was for. If she stays with you she can get more and more money from your sperm donor. YOUR her new cash cow now.
he might connect with his dad. but that woman who goes behind the back of the person who loves her to meet with older men and be nice to them for money and stabbing her fiance in the back? never EVER forgive her. op and father can bond over getting their life and heart broken by selfish c..ts
He got with someone else one month later … he broke up with his fiancé because of his dad but yet after all that he might stay with the money? Shallow ..
There was no reason for discussion. You and your S.O. HAD discussed it and you didn't want your Dad's money and she's NOT related to him so she has no right to his money. She went behind your back because she thought that she was smarter than you were when it came to money. Your Dad is trying to buy and manipulate his way back into your life and he knows that he can manipulate HER. She's not making the "hard" choices. She's making the EASY choice of NOT standing by you through thick and thin. She showed that she doesn't have faith that the two of you can manage to survive financial hardships by sticking together and working through those hardships without manipulative handouts. She let her worry and greed for feeling financially safe trump your feelings of safety and comfort. You were willing to try to trust her again. Then she broke your trust a SECOND TIME by letting him into your space. She thought that she knew what was good for yo better than you did. She may have been doing it from a good place but it wasn't her business. A good partner will be on YOUR SIDE every time. She even persuaded your Mom to make you doubt your decision to break up. Apt. too big n quiet? Get a dog. A lot of girls like dogs and maybe you'll meet someone worthy of you on a walk.
Why act so sanctimonious about inheritance? That's his right. And just the biggest eyeroll about "i was more interested in the letter". Pretending money doesn't matter doesn't make you a better person.
Maybe you should take the money and use it to make a better future for yourself. Your father probably looked at you as a grown man and realized all he missed not being there. Memories shared liked that he had with his father doing things together.
Not the same. Money = Control. If my sperm donor had left me anything, I would have considered it back child support. And if OP gives it to charity, then def not a hypocrite.
He dodged a bullet with the first girl. She didn't respect him enough and just wanted the money. No mention of where the cash he gave her went.
I'm pretty sure she spent it, and then he was demanding that she either follow through with getting him back into the guy's life, or give the money back. Which is why she was trying so hard, because the money was already gone.
Man, I hoped you apologized to your mom for forcing her to contacting your bio dad😢
Take a shot every time OP says:
"But life has a way of throwing curveballs when you least expected"
"I threw myself into my work/study/hobby/project/plans"
"... been my rock"
"Life has been a rollercoaster"
"The tension was palpable"
"We met at a neutral location"
"... cautiously optimistic."
"... mix/whirlwind of emotions"
"I don't know what the future holds"
P.S.: I didn't watch the whole thing.
You are so on point with the key phrases used. "palpable" gets me every time.
😅🤣😂😅🤣😂😅🤣😂
It's simply not your gf's call. She has no right.
Okay… OP and fiancé are in a café discussing love and money then his mom calls dropping wisdom about money and love and OP doesn't find that fishy?
"Wait a second .... Mom, am I in an AI-generated story??"
The ex-fiancée is going to reappear as soon as she hears about the inheritance to demand some.
The guy that writes these stories really loves the phrase "life threw a curveball". He uses it in every single one of his made-up stories.
Tbh, at this point, there is no harm in taking the inheritance money since. The dad's dead and he willingly gave op the money with no strings attached.
If OP doesn't want it, give it to a charity that helps single moms.
@@MarkStockman-b4j yeah thats a good alternative if op doenst want the money
Sounds like he dodged a bullet with that woman. She showed her true colors. She shouldn't stick her nose in where it doesn't belong.
The will: Take the money as a sort of "compensation" for the years of neglect and pain... Give some to your mother since she was hurt by his actions even more than you. Use the rest in a way that seems best to you. Taking compensation does NOT convey forgiveness. It is acknowledging that you were harmed and deserve recommence.
Think of it as 18 years of child support arrears, with interest. Share it with Mom, unless he included her in the will too.
She was only trying to help her self not OP.
Honestly, if she'd been screwing OP's sperm donor for money, that would have been way, way less of a betrayal than OP finding the SOB sitting on his couch.
Your father has passed away. And he left.
You something There's no more communication. What is there to think about? Just take what he gave you. He apologized sincerely and he passed away. Quit being prideful and just accept it. There's nothing wrong with that. He can't talk with you anymore.
IF SHE CAN NOT PUT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH FIRST.THEN YOU DO NOT NEED HER
I've listened to many of these now. Why do they always meet after a fight at "a little cafe". 🤔
Why can’t people just go off and say exactly what they feel in that moment instead of going through all the BS before they decide to call it quits.
Because even when a partner does something horrible, love doesn't just get switched off like a light bulb. And sometimes even a toxic relationship is better than loneliness.
I'd would have asked where did the money go? If she'd paid bills fine if not red flags
The new girlfriend should be concerned about how much debt he owes. He didn't tell her about that.
If she left you because you said you don't want anything to do with a man who abandoned you, she isn't a true life partner and plus she seems like a golddigger to be honest
"The worst has happened, the war is over, no victor in sight.......time to heal" I would take the money, do good with it, build something new. The spoils of war aren't always so clean cut but do with it what you believe will reflect healing and not forgiveness, not yet at least.
Girlfriend sounds like a golddigger... time to let her go! You will be better off without her!
She betrayed you 💔
She was selling YOU that's what the money was for. If she stays with you she can get more and more money from your sperm donor. YOUR her new cash cow now.
he might connect with his dad. but that woman who goes behind the back of the person who loves her to meet with older men and be nice to them for money and stabbing her fiance in the back? never EVER forgive her. op and father can bond over getting their life and heart broken by selfish c..ts
Straight up w*****g to get money for their bills would have been a trivial betrayal compared to what she did to OP.
I hop that no good father left Op's mother the child support he never paid.
She didn't love him at all!!
Neither did he … I mean one month later?
He got with someone else one month later … he broke up with his fiancé because of his dad but yet after all that he might stay with the money? Shallow ..
OP's sperm donor 100% bought OP's fiance', and ended up destroying her and OP's life.
There was no reason for discussion. You and your S.O. HAD discussed it and you didn't want your Dad's money and she's NOT related to him so she has no right to his money. She went behind your back because she thought that she was smarter than you were when it came to money.
Your Dad is trying to buy and manipulate his way back into your life and he knows that he can manipulate HER.
She's not making the "hard" choices. She's making the EASY choice of NOT standing by you through thick and thin. She showed that she doesn't have faith that the two of you can manage to survive financial hardships by sticking together and working through those hardships without manipulative handouts. She let her worry and greed for feeling financially safe trump your feelings of safety and comfort.
You were willing to try to trust her again.
Then she broke your trust a SECOND TIME by letting him into your space. She thought that she knew what was good for yo better than you did. She may have been doing it from a good place but it wasn't her business. A good partner will be on YOUR SIDE every time. She even persuaded your Mom to make you doubt your decision to break up.
Apt. too big n quiet? Get a dog. A lot of girls like dogs and maybe you'll meet someone worthy of you on a walk.
Why act so sanctimonious about inheritance? That's his right. And just the biggest eyeroll about "i was more interested in the letter". Pretending money doesn't matter doesn't make you a better person.
Money isnt the issue, she is a liar a d a user
Give the money to charity and let go of the pass
Maybe you should take the money and use it to make a better future for yourself. Your father probably looked at you as a grown man and realized all he missed not being there. Memories shared liked that he had with his father doing things together.
Well I would’ve met with your dad and listened. I would take the money to build your future. Look at it as back child support.
There's going to be an update from this story about how my wife is manipulative and money obsessed watch
After a month........ Boy that was fast
"He called up his new girlfriend"... "She gave him this look"... Please keep your story straight. Or get a better AI.
Give money to charity
Nah, but you shoulda kept your GF in the loop and talked it over with her. The dad thing, he had his chance twice.
Gold digger!
Its all bullshit
Wow, you won't take his money when he's alive but will except his money in death. Hypocrite!
Not the same. Money = Control. If my sperm donor had left me anything, I would have considered it back child support. And if OP gives it to charity, then def not a hypocrite.
If you take the money, pay your debts or give it to charity.