ENFJs constant desire to help others is widely mistaken as trusting quickly, but on the contrary we just want to help fix the problems facing humanity, we believe that earth would be a better place if people could respect peoples' cultures, beliefs, religions, ideologies without at the expense of others. However our biggest fear comes as we might lose interest in humanity completely. The lack of enough cohesion depth in humans way of life might fail to run deep in our thoughts and hearts.
Oh my God, you literally described my whole philosophy on life. It feels so good to see your thoughts being written, because most of the time, 90% of people don’t understand our philosophy, and it gets kind of lonely.
Yes! From the young ages ENFJ faced them and grew up with lessons. Those heartbreaking brutal experiences make them to live with very selective surroundings. It is also true ENFJ's core characteristics often struggle to improve but with every other human being ENFJ is not flawless, it is the ultimate satisfaction of ENFJ. Our selfless virtue doesn't impact permanent damage to our mental health for the losse by trusting people but it hurts vigorously. What ever happen worse case of scenario, ENFJ always sees positivity. This is the ENFJ's key clue of the positivity for survival.
NFJs & STPs need to fix things. It’s their job to do so. They just need to make sure that they’re fixing the right things. As in maybe don’t try to fix the person but the environment around them. Or tell the person the truth and let them fix themselves, sometimes by giving them time alone to decide what’s best for them and rethink decisions, believes, or what they consider to be true etc. I have been told to stop trying to fix things before. And because I care about how other people feel and don’t want to disappoint them I stopped and end up watching them fall apart. You need to fix things. Changing someone’s mind can be painful sometimes. It ok. It’s all worth it.
ENTJ here. My closest friends bounce ideas off of me on purpose. I suggest solutions, then leave them alone, not interested in controlling anyone. Whatever decisions they make for themselves, I support.
As a ENFJ-T, i def dont trust quickly. My past experiences ive gone through with pain have actually guarded my heart to ppl who i sense toxic behaviors from. We truly want to see the best in people, but we know when to avoid certain ppl after learning from our mistakes. Because we dont like conflict we ignore those types for our protection. Also, a example of mine. There was someone in a group of online rper friends, who lead the group im in. (Star wars rp/writing) She was toxic and i sensed it right away. I grew up with toxic parents. So, i hated and saw her manipulative and passive aggressive tendencys when i first joined the site 4 years prior. I told a friend of mine who hated her to stay calm. She would burn her own bridges and destroy herself. 9 months later, she went against the mods and owners rules of the roleplay site, and got herself in serious trouble. She left the site. I got voted leader of the group immediately when i nominated myself cause i felt i could do good for the group. Then, months later, she tried to join again. Things were calmer in the faction and happier when she left for everyone. I talked to her closest friend on the site, she said she didnt feel comfortable with her in the faction again. I asked her why. Turned out, she was trying to stalk her irl, was cheating on her fiance with another man, and had been abusive to animals. I told her those are dangerous traits and that it should be brought up to the owner to protect the people of the site and ban her. She also pinned every faction against each other and people. And was spreading nasty rumors about me that werent true because she was jealous of me. (Her friend told me it was obvious she was threatened by me. But when she lead the group, i was always nice to her, so she had no reason to ban me. Lol) Welp, thats what happened. She got banned. I told her old friend it would not only protect her, but others in the long run. Things have been great since then. And activity in the faction has picked up also. ❤
Me too, exactly. I would advise young ENFJs to be very, very careful with whom they become intimate (friendships or otherwise). We are vulnerable to being used, and very vulnerable to criticism and conflict. Better to heed wisdom than to have to earn it.
Enfj here. From this 10 problems my is only to much sacriface for others and i dont like when somebody critics me but at the same Time I takie advantages from this situations I can evolve. But most od the Times I think critique is not about my problems but other people because I dont give a damm about their egos. I am happy and a bit confuse because I fell sometimes more like entj maybe because of eenagram 8w7
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ENFJs constant desire to help others is widely mistaken as trusting quickly, but on the contrary we just want to help fix the problems facing humanity, we believe that earth would be a better place if people could respect peoples' cultures, beliefs, religions, ideologies without at the expense of others. However our biggest fear comes as we might lose interest in humanity completely. The lack of enough cohesion depth in humans way of life might fail to run deep in our thoughts and hearts.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
Oh my God, you literally described my whole philosophy on life. It feels so good to see your thoughts being written, because most of the time, 90% of people don’t understand our philosophy, and it gets kind of lonely.
Same
On Point! 💛
Totally agreed
the want to fix everything, overly sacrificing and making decisions is the most relatable in my life, thank u for making this video :)
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I dont think enfjs trust quickly.
As a matter of fact enfjs can sense manipulation at a very early stage
Thank you for your opinion. Do you consider yourself as ENFJ?
Yeah i am
@@ngigepaul1569 What would you consider as your biggest weakness?
I trust quickly but also see things that make me regret that trust quickly. Give almost everyone a chance right away.
@@maximumvalues Thanks for sharing!
Yes! From the young ages ENFJ faced them and grew up with lessons. Those heartbreaking brutal experiences make them to live with very selective surroundings. It is also true ENFJ's core characteristics often struggle to improve but with every other human being ENFJ is not flawless, it is the ultimate satisfaction of ENFJ. Our selfless virtue doesn't impact permanent damage to our mental health for the losse by trusting people but it hurts vigorously. What ever happen worse case of scenario, ENFJ always sees positivity. This is the ENFJ's key clue of the positivity for survival.
Thanks for sharing!
Definitely don’t trust too easily. Condescending, overly critical, entitled, and judgmental are most likely to be weaknesses in ENFJ.
That could be a good trait!
Mind you, if an ENFJ is acting that way, you are morally failing from their perspective.
That doesn't sound like an ENFJ at all. More like an ENTJ.
Isn't being condescending, overly critical, and judgemental INTJ ENTJ weaknesses?
@lazyscholar7932 well said!
Number 8 hit home. I burned myself out at a job I loved and chose to resign due to exhaustion.
NFJs & STPs need to fix things. It’s their job to do so. They just need to make sure that they’re fixing the right things. As in maybe don’t try to fix the person but the environment around them. Or tell the person the truth and let them fix themselves, sometimes by giving them time alone to decide what’s best for them and rethink decisions, believes, or what they consider to be true etc. I have been told to stop trying to fix things before. And because I care about how other people feel and don’t want to disappoint them I stopped and end up watching them fall apart. You need to fix things. Changing someone’s mind can be painful sometimes. It ok. It’s all worth it.
Thanks for sharing!
ENTJ here. My closest friends bounce ideas off of me on purpose. I suggest solutions, then leave them alone, not interested in controlling anyone. Whatever decisions they make for themselves, I support.
@@karenk2409 thank you for taking care of people around you.
@@xnooraxxsnx4537 I think it's our job!
As a ENFJ-T, i def dont trust quickly. My past experiences ive gone through with pain have actually guarded my heart to ppl who i sense toxic behaviors from. We truly want to see the best in people, but we know when to avoid certain ppl after learning from our mistakes. Because we dont like conflict we ignore those types for our protection. Also, a example of mine. There was someone in a group of online rper friends, who lead the group im in. (Star wars rp/writing) She was toxic and i sensed it right away. I grew up with toxic parents. So, i hated and saw her manipulative and passive aggressive tendencys when i first joined the site 4 years prior. I told a friend of mine who hated her to stay calm. She would burn her own bridges and destroy herself. 9 months later, she went against the mods and owners rules of the roleplay site, and got herself in serious trouble. She left the site. I got voted leader of the group immediately when i nominated myself cause i felt i could do good for the group. Then, months later, she tried to join again. Things were calmer in the faction and happier when she left for everyone. I talked to her closest friend on the site, she said she didnt feel comfortable with her in the faction again. I asked her why. Turned out, she was trying to stalk her irl, was cheating on her fiance with another man, and had been abusive to animals. I told her those are dangerous traits and that it should be brought up to the owner to protect the people of the site and ban her. She also pinned every faction against each other and people. And was spreading nasty rumors about me that werent true because she was jealous of me. (Her friend told me it was obvious she was threatened by me. But when she lead the group, i was always nice to her, so she had no reason to ban me. Lol) Welp, thats what happened. She got banned. I told her old friend it would not only protect her, but others in the long run. Things have been great since then. And activity in the faction has picked up also. ❤
Hey a young ENFJ-T here thanks for the advice if you have any more advice tell me I think I will need some more
Me too, exactly. I would advise young ENFJs to be very, very careful with whom they become intimate (friendships or otherwise). We are vulnerable to being used, and very vulnerable to criticism and conflict. Better to heed wisdom than to have to earn it.
All of them are so relatable to me :)) to the point it drives me crazy if things don't go my way.
Great to hear!
Yes we sometimes can be too trusting 😣
Yes indeed.
I would say we make too many "allowances".
@@NatzTalk Oh that’s a better word, totally
thank you! totally relatable 😄
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Thank you for this cool video 🔥🤩
Glad you liked it!
This is too accurate
Enfj here. From this 10 problems my is only to much sacriface for others and i dont like when somebody critics me but at the same Time I takie advantages from this situations I can evolve. But most od the Times I think critique is not about my problems but other people because I dont give a damm about their egos. I am happy and a bit confuse because I fell sometimes more like entj maybe because of eenagram 8w7
3,5,6,9 is most correct with me as ENFJ, the rest is a maybe or i develop out of it
Guilty as charged, all of the above.
I feel attacked...lol
;)