I'm a professional house cleaner and organizer and I also declutter as well and I take my job seriously and yes it is a real job I'm so glad you reached out for help I help my clients with the work I do and it warms my heart so God Bless you and your family and I'm so proud of you
The comment she mentioned is just illogical on its own, in my opinion... it´s like saying "I can´t believe you hired a lawyer... just look up stuff on the internet and deal with it on your own" or "Just ask a friend to pull your tooth out, you don´t need a dentist"... that´s why there are so many different professions to choose from, because not everyone is an expert in everything and that´s extremely valuable, because by "trading" our gifts and services (in exchange for money), we save time and nerves.... that´s the way we actually help each other out, probabaly since the beginning of human life...
You said it yourself. She was not just chucking stuff out. She was EDUCATING you! Good teachers and mentors are worth their weight in GOLD! I’m proud of you 🏆
Maintenance tip: Once I got myself decluttered and organized, I setup a strategic maintenance routine to keep things tidy. 1) Every Sunday night I take a laundry basket around the house and collect anything that is out of place. I make a second route putting things away. Takes about 10 minutes. 2) On my main level, I have about 8 large drawers or banks of drawers, 12 cabinets, and 4 closets. Kids rooms are excluded. Each week I take 15 minutes and reorganize one of the cabinets, closets or banks of drawers. It doesn't take long since they are already organized. I cycle through all of them 2x a year and it keeps things as pristine as the day I finished my declutter. Good luck!!!
@@debbiemohekey1509 No, not really. It adds up fast. 2 bathrooms with a vanity = 4 banks of drawers & 2 cabinets. 1 small pantry closet, a linen closet, a small closet in a bathroom and a coat closet. 1 closet in my bedroom. Kitchen/laundry has 10 cabinets (including uppper & lower) total and 4 large drawers/banks of drawers.
This inspires me!!! To the rude commenter, there’s a saying “A doctor who treats himself has a fool for a patient”. Getting a professional to help with any thing you’re not good at saves time, money and mental health. Your house looks awesome.
$1350.00 for 5 Sessions is Absolutely Amazing, especially when she’s teaching the whole family how to keep the home DECLUTTERED!!!! The way this helps your Mental Health is so well worth the investment!!! I wish that I had researched this years ago!! Thank you for sharing this!!! You seem so LIBERATED and HAPPY right now!!!! New Subbie here!!!
@@MsVicki73 I don't know where she lives but it might be cheaper elsewhere. Where I live I would think someone would probably charge 15-20 hours. However, that person who decluttered also went to goodwill on behalf of the client. That's extra work as well. Plus any outside work she might do in preparing for her client.
Literally changed the trajectory of the girls futures with learning responsibility, making a home, dealing with materialism, looking for resources, etc.
My sister was my professional declutterer. I got rid of 80% of my closet and do not regret it at all. I didn’t realize how much stress it is to live in a cluttered house. Kudos to you for going through with this!
I love that you addressed the ignorant comments. For people who are CEOs and operate at another level, they hire these tasks out because they realize that it is more valuable to have less stress and people who specialize in organization than to keep a few dollars in their pockets. I am learning this lesson. I have not learned it fully, but I struggled to with calling someone to clean my house. I am so busy working 3 jobs, being a single dad, and caretaker for my grandpa who lives with me that I am seriously looking to get someone. I do struggle with the "who" to bring in. Kudos to you for setting the example for us. In 2023, I am going to do it. Lift me up saints!!
Yes! Thank You for supporting us and see the value on what we do! Every professional organizer do it because they love it and realized is not something everybody is able to do for themself! Everyone is born with a gift and a talent but nit everyone take the courage to make it into a profession! Again THANK YOU All for supporting us! 🙏🏾🪴🙌🏽
When I started decluttering, what was in my mind was how other people saw my house in its cluttered state and how they would see it in a decluttered state as an expression of me. But what I discovered was that the true joy in decluttering my space was how I felt in my house -- the joy and peace that an orderly and simplified environment would give me. Now I realize I can forget about how others see it. It's worth doing just for ME!
I'm an organizer trying to get my business off the ground. This was sooo affirming that there are people who need what I do. I just need to connect with them. Everything looks great!!!! Thanks for your transparency. You made a great decision to get the help you needed.
Yes! I hired an organizer to help me with my master suite and it was worth every penny. It took me a few weeks to make the decision because I kept telling myself it wasn't worth the money and I could do it alone. NOPE! LOL. I absolutely could not do it lol. It was so daunting and overwhelming to try to do it alone. She not only helped me to declutter but also provided me with tools to stay organized and kind of help me change my mindset. Organizers are needed!
I have always hired organizers since my teen years because I get too overwhelmed with simply putting up loads of laundry. And I don't regret a minute of it or how much I spent. It's all worth it. I have so much peace and I'm more productive in other areas of my life. But unlike the rest of my family I was not born with the gift or even the ability to organize. But I just look at it as this giving someone an opportunity to make money just like someone gave me an opportunity to make money in an area I have a passion for.
I'm 34. I legit teared up when you said if I can give my 30 year old self any advice, who you are and who you want to be is okay. You don't have to do all the things for all the people. Girl I needed that so much!
I’m in my 70’s and wish I had started the decluttering process years ago when my kids were small. I’ve been watching Minimal Mom and have been through my house several times. Each time you will get rid of more and more. The peace I feel each day is unbelievable. Who knew! Bless you for sharing your story and helping others. I’m a new follower!❤️
Hi Nancy, I love your response, I also follow The Minimal Mom and have purchased her 15 minutes a day of Decluttering workbook, I love here peers too Cas with Clutter Bug, Dana with Dana K. White, they are all amazing would love to have either of them come help me in my house, so that I could feel peaceful, comfortable and relaxing in my own home!
I’m so glad to hear you are feeling better after several rounds of decluttering. I’m in the midst of my first major pass through, I believe it will be easier after the heavy lifting. So it was nice to read your post. 😀
Its a really good business if you have the talent to do this. I too have a natural knack for organizations. I recently flew to my hometown to help a friend who was overwhelmed by years of clutter.
If you find soneone in SETEXAS please let me know. We moved from 6000 sq ft to 900sq ft this is after losing 2 storage units during Harvey and then the last during covid. So I have gone into procrastionation hoarding..well its mostly having 100 tubs of who knows what. Its just everything friends could grab and throw in tubs not knowing what we lost in storage and what we have. Add a 9yr old, who her and I both have ADHD it's a nightmare. I can organize, clean and declutter anyone elses houses or items but mine..Im paralyzed!!@@christamckee3997
I have a sign on my desk that says, “My brain has too many tabs open.” I also suffer decision fatigue. It’s not procrastination or hoarding,because I have bursts of energy where I can declutter and reorganize! So this video has been fascinating! God bless you!
If you haven’t been evaluated for ADHD I would highly recommend it. I relate HEAVILY to what you described + was diagnosed with Inattentive-Type ADHD at 21 years old. The research + literature on ADHD (+ most other diagnoses in the DSM-5) was mostly done on school aged boys with Hyperactive-Type. So in the past few years, many women have been able to pursue a diagnosis in adulthood.
Pro Organizer here! Thank you for this video! It’s fact that the brain releases endorphins when you grab an item from where it’s supposed to be. “Everything has a place” and easily accessible 🎉
I have always been an organizer but it wasn’t until I had to empty the home of my in-laws and parents after they passed away that I decided to pursue minimalism. It was such a huge job and besides the work involved it was emotionally distressing. I don’t want that task for my own children so I have minimized my home. I have been doing it for 5 years and I have made multiple passes through my house during those years. It is something you have to revisit over and over. But it is so worth it. I can clean my house so quickly! ❤
This is wonderful insight. I lost my husband in Dec. 2021 & I still haven't gone through his things (yup it's been a year) and I realize that I need HELP but it has to be with someone that has a Gift to do this as it is not as simple as just throwing things away . . I am not even sure how to seek help, like Jia said you need someone who "sees" you & makes you feel good and NOT judged!! I am going add this to my Goals & Prayer List for 2023. Thank you Jia foe being so open & transparent with your process!!! I have ideas for your Podcast
This is y it is so important to occasionally get rid, donate and monitor the things u purchase for your home. I confess, I luv knick knacks aka 🤣 dust collectors. I donated a box to a thrift store and they will see me again donating.
I'm so happy for you! Hoarding runs in my family. I saw it in my grandmother. I see it in my mother. I see the tendencies in myself - it's horrifying. I agree that "delayed decision making" is the root of my evil. This video has motivated me to do the hard work, which is making choices. Thank you.
Decision paralysis is a real thing! Most people go through this. It just happens to affect women in American culture more because women (and those assigned into female social roles) are tasked with cleaning things up AND working. You are far from alone and it is never too late to ask for help.
@@awarren06 totally feel your response, I’m the same way I use to never be like this, and don’t know what happened to me after I hit my mid 40’s! IDK if having a new baby at 43 years old changed something in me or what! Not by any means saying having a unexpected healthy baby boy at that age wasn’t a beautiful blessing. But it dit seem to have an impact on my ways and abilities to do things.
'delayed decision making' accurately describes ADHD and the organizational obstacles that pop up because of that, and talking about how that exponentially compounds on itself within your space was so relatable! Thank you for doing this!
I am generally fairly tidy, but hearing you say that you want to teach your kids to trust their gut... This is amazing. And I still struggle to discard things that I received as gifts or that I know somebody else in my family thinks is important. It is such an important lesson to learn that you should keep what has meaning for you, not for some relative (no matter how close).
Sentimental gifts are hard for me, too. Something that really helped me was a tip to take a photo of the item so you can retain the memory while letting the actual item bless someone who will actually use it. It really is the thought that counts! : - )
Decision fatigue is a real thing. I’m super type-A and organized but sometimes i find myself struggling with the things that people find joyous (like picking out a birthday cake for myself) its like people that make decisions for others day in and day out often burn out. And people confuse it for neglect, but its not neglect its simply burn out!!!!! Hats off to you for sharing this!!!!
You are so inspiring! My Beau asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I told him housekeeping services. He made a snide comment about me not needing any help because I had a son that I should make clean more. I felt some type of way and called him out about it. I know my strengths and weaknesses and know I don't have the bandwidth to tackle all those small tedious tasks. After we talked, he apologized and supports getting me some help around the house. This video and your previous video has motivated me so much and I look forward to completing my own decluttering projects at home as well as finding a place for EVERYTHING! GREAT JOB JIA! I look forward to Jia's Gems!!
I tell my husband to stop playing old tapes. God is doing a new thing and making new sounds in our marriage. The tapes from his childhood, the sounds he used to hear as a child, the tape of his prerecorded “auto-responses” in order to deflect rather than deal with the issue. I used to get offended, but now I see it as an opportunity to turn the tapes off and allow God to show us a better way. A new sound. New responses. The only way tackle old challenges and is to start.
I’m glad it worked out, but just offering a perspective that your husband’s comments about your son being accountable around the house might still be valid.
I did this and I had the exact experience. I never felt judged, I felt heard and in the end I felt accomplished and while the work was hard, it was amazing. I learned so much about me and my style. I am still making efforts along the way. It’s been 2 years now and I am still doing spot checks. There’s still some areas of the house that I need to work on. I have saved literally thousands of dollars because when you go through this you stop spending money because you don’t want to have to throw it out in the future. You also appreciate everything that you own and value what you have and consider what you bring into your life. Extremely valuable experience.
You should have a session 2x per year. Once in the fall and once in the spring. You’re SO motivated and (if you’re like me) this may fade. She’s amazing and I’m so proud of you!
What a small world, I actually used to know Jessica! Over a decade ago I used to go to church small groups at her house. I remember being in awe of how perfectly clean, organized, and stylish her house was so I am not surprised that she is such an awesome professional organizer!
I’m so glad you made this. I’m in my early 30s and I have come to realize when I need help to get someone skilled in that area. We (as in mothers, women and wife’s) have to realize that we don’t have too and shouldn’t have to do it all. There is NO shame in that.
And you know, at no point in history has there ever been so many possessions in each of our homes. Our great-grandmothers did not have to shuffle and trip over possessions and even the most skilled organizer can only organize so many objects in a home. Get the help and feel the peace
Jessica is doing the Lord's work! Not only was she helping you organize, but she was teaching you how to tackle clutter in the future because she included you in the process! I can see how happier you are, and your home should be a place of peace and relaxation. Definitely worth the money and your daughters' rooms are beautiful! When people say that you wasted your money on an organizer, some people will at a drop of a hat spend that much or more on a small Disney vacation! It's all about what makes you happy. Go to Disneyland? Then do it. Get your house clutter free makes you happy, then do it! Let's encourage one another. There's enough negativity in this world. ❤🙏
I agree very well said, however I have a husband that feels that spending the money going on a trip for the family, is better money spent than hiring someone to come in and help me declutter and organize my house, I feel disrespected of my feeling and needs for help in this area for my mental health. Not saying that I don’t love going on family vacations, but I’d also like to be able to go and not spend my time worrying about what I should be back home doing!
@@christamckee3997 I'm sorry your husband makes you feel that way. Talk to him about it. I hope he's open to hearing you out. My main love language is acts of service so I'd rather have someone help me organize my house than go on a Disney vacation. My husband knows that anything he can do to make my day-to-day life easier like washing dishes or clothes makes me feel more loved than a bouquet of flowers. It's helped us tremendously in our 27-year marriage when we know our love languages! 🥰
@@rayray91764 thank you for your response, funny I just ordered the book 5 love languages, for us to read got in the mail yesterday! I have to say though he works a very stressful job 5 days a week and he does help me on the weekends with no issues. My problem is he will not hold the kids accountable for helping with anything in the house, but still spoils them rotten, with material thinks and lavish vacations or going on vacations with their friends. I just feel like he doesn’t back me up in that regard, he’d rather do it himself then for them to have to do it.
I am a naturally neat and organized person so I don’t know why this video was recommended to me 😂 BUT I cried while watching it. You are changing your girls’ lives for sure. I say that as a child of very messy parents who ended up marrying a hoarder. We are divorced now, my mental health couldn’t take it. Like you said, like any addiction or struggle, you cannot tell them to just clean up. This is for sure a form or side effect of anxiety, depression, OCD, ADHD- and there is help. It may not seem like being messy or unorganized is a big deal, but it absolutely can be a HUGE deal. You and your family are beautiful, btw 😊
@ofthegirl, hello, I just wanted to say I love your response here, I have always myself been or was expected to be a neat and organized person growing up as a child my mother expected my sister and I to do all the cleaning and up keep of the home, so I carried that expectation into my adult life,but did not put it on my kids to do. However, now in my older years (49yrs old) I don’t know what has happened to me, I suffer tremendously with anxiety, depression, OCD and ADD, and have physical mobility issues that affects my ability to do the things I used to be able to do in My Home. My husband, grew up in an unorganized messy home because his mother was one that I think thought that spending time and doing things with her children was more important than worrying about the house being organized and clean, so my husband has that same thought process and thinks I hold myself prisoner to the maintenance and duties of what the house looks like and that has now carried over to my children, so I fight a losing battle with the entire family! I can’t get them to realize that it effects my mental health tremendously when the house is a disaster, and makes me feel so disrespected by them not considering my feelings about it. But what do you do, I’m only one person and yes I’m a stay at home mom but it’s still so overwhelming that I can’t find the courage and motivation to do anything about it! I wish I had the guts to say okay my dear family since you all don’t want to help me with what I need in the house to feel at peace, then I’m just going to hire someone to come in and do it for me. So for the long post, guess your response just struck my feelings and I needed to vent. Lol
@@christamckee3997 by all means, vent! I have struggled with anxiety and ADHD so growing up with messy parents was tough. I never felt like I had a good place to study and concentrate and nobody understand that my surroundings made it so hard. Then I married a hoarder. I was at home with 4 little kids and I went into such a depression fighting the clutter alllll the time! My ex was a great dad and a good guy, so it feels bad to say that I just couldn’t stay and support him through the hoarding. But my mental health was suffering so bad. I tried all kinds of medication but most of it made me feel numb and I started to resent that I was the one looking for help when I want the one hoarding! It’s just one of those things where people will only get help when THEY want it. I’m 49 too and all of my kids are adults now, 3 of them are so neat and clean and won’t even visit their dad :( But one shows the same tendencies as him and it worries me. I think outside help is a great idea.
@@spirituallysafe MOST people don't reveal all their quirks up front when dating, and even if they do, issues that later become insurmountable don't feel that way when you're falling in love. Sometimes we simply don't know how something will affect us until we're in it longterm. Also, she said "My ex was a great dad and a good guy."
@@ofthegirl As a naturally messy and disorganized person, I've only recently acquired enough organizing skills to understand how depleting and jangly it is to live in chaotic environments. I totally get how living in a true hoarder situation (*especially* while raising 4 young kids!) would be bad enough for your mental health that you truly needed to leave. Good for you for taking care of yourself and modeling good self-care and boundaries for your kids. Your ability to recognize your ex's strengths in spite of his issues is lovely.❤
I never write comments but this time I had to. Your video was exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve struggling with the same problem. It’s not that I’m lazy like some people might think. It’s just that I get overwhelmed. Thank you for making me feel I’m not the only one 😊
Recently, I decided to get professional help after becoming so anxious over the last couple years, but didn't know what to do, I was burnt out and overwhelmed and felt useless - no hope anywhere any more. So I got help: no, I didn't go to therapy, I hired LINDA. She came for four days and changed my life, which made my home change. too! Now I and my family understand how being considerate and organized has brought us back to enjoying our. home and each other. Linda was a blessing, not "just a cleaning person". Thank you for speaking up about giving respect and not underestimating the Declutter Professionals who can teach us new skills and bring us back to seeing the sunshine again.
This is one of the BEST videos that I’ve ever seen! I just turned 40 in October and you are 1000% right! The outlook on life hits very differently! You home is beautiful and you made the right decision! One of the signs of maturity is the ability to outsource and hire and ask for help! Keep growing and keep the videos coming!
Happy New Year! I usually don’t comment but I just wanted you to know that when you started talking about questioning your kids decisions I was hit by a lightning bolt! I do this all the time and I can tell you that I never realized I was teaching them to not trust their own decisions. What a life changing realization! Thank you! ❤
I paused the video on that spot to leave a comment but Im piggybacking off of yours- my son is SO good at just being like "nope, I wont use that" without any of the hangups that I've always had about things. I've learned a lot from him! It helps that I've given him a life where he's not worried about scarcity- if a sweatshirt's not comfortable and you don't want to wear it, he's never NEEDED to hang onto it in case like, the zipper on his good sweatshirt breaks. Breaking out of that "I NEED TO HANG ONTO EVERYTHING" mindset is so hard!
For a couple of years I have wanted to have someone clean my house but I havent done it because I need to clean and declutter first..maybe bulldoze first. I can do this! Thanks for sharing. It makes the rest of us feel less ashamed about our own messes and weaknesses.
I cleaned for a living for years and I loved going in and helping people organize and tackle one room at a time. Just hire someone who has that same heart and you will get there! Good luck.
I did that 2 days ago. If I can be honest you will never be ready. Just set a day pay the initial deep clean. It was worth every penny. It won’t be perfect the first time but each time after will be better. They will clean and help you. No matter how bad you think your home is they have seen worse.
Wow! I am so proud of you for hiring yourself an organizer. I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed your transparency with this topic. This is the first time I have watched your channel and felt like I was with you the whole way while you were describing your feelings and challenges. You have a gift of sharing in a way that I have not seen anywhere. Thank you so much! Wish I could be more like you.
We lived with the agony of a giant mess in our basement after moving in and then having a flood that messed up the minimal organization that we had done. Finally, we worked with an organizer and now we are finally comfortable in our home. We share your joy at being organized!
I am not a professional organizer, but I have helped friends organize their homes. I love it, and it is one of my strengths. I am proud of you and your family, Jia!
I love that your dad came over to help, that's so sweet!! When my husband and I got married my dad came over soooo many times to help put together furniture, putting together our garden shed, moving in boxes. I'll never forget that kind of love 💕
Thank you for this video! I'm a professional organizer and also a KonMari Consultant- you validated our profession and showed the true value. I'm so happy you were able to have a life-changing experience by clearing the clutter.
I FELT SO SEEN! Clutter is my worst enemy in my small home and with a teen and toddler. This encouraged me so much and allowed me to have permission to hire professionals when my mind and body can longer manage it all.
Three words you said in this video hit me like a ton of bricks, “delayed decision making”. I’ve wondered through my house and that is what it is cluttered with. This video was and is so inspiring. Thank you so much for YOU and your honesty ❤❤❤
Good for you! We as women need to help each other, not tear each other down. Thank you for sharing your struggles. We can learn from your content. Keep up the good work. Love and light to you and your family.
Thank you for sharing the term, “decision fatigue,” it helped me to give a name for what I call my current situation which I previously called “a series of unmade decisions.” As an educator, I make so many decisions from moment to moment at work, that it has been easier to put things off.
I'm just a stay at home mom to 5 girls and I loved hearing that term. It's why I get so annoyed when my husband asks me what we want for dinner. "IDK ASK THE KIDS!" 😄
I just found your channel last night and the thing I love most about your channel and house so far is that it's real life. Your house isn't instagram perfect that reminds me of a museum where kids can't make messes. Your house is real life. Your kids are allowed to be themselves and play and to make messes. Even though you got to the point where you needed help, you aren't afraid to admit it because at some point, we all need help. That's life. Your channel isn't fake life, you don't pretend it's all perfect and I love this because I believe even if we don't want to admit it, this is how ours lives are too. I'm so happy you were able to find help and relieve all that extra stress because I know how good it feels to declutter my house and get rid of everything extra. I'm not a minimalist, but it's so nice to just say bye bye to things we don't need and have that extra space.
I just ran across your channel…and guess what? I love you!!!! You have such a lovely home and glad you found it again. I just swept and mopped my kitchen and dining room yesterday and just doing that made me fill so good! I will pass a little saying on to you that my mom always said and you said it several time….”There is a place for everything and everything in its place !” Maybe you might want to make a plaque for every room with this saying to remind yourself of this everyday! If not every room than the ones you need to remind yourself every time something is put in that room!!! Look forward to next time….❤FromTX Good luck!
I’m so glad I found your channel! My mom is coming over to help me tomorrow cause I texted her and said I’m overwhelmed with all my stuff in my house. This was very inspirational!
You should be SO proud of yourself! This was a huge and difficult job, and you made thousands of decisions. You recognized how the clutter was affecting your mental health, and although you didn't say it, I know you know it was affecting your family. I think your take on doing what your strength is is spot on. I'm terrible at math and business but great at organization and creativity. Isn't that proof that there's a power in the universe greater than ourselves? What if everyone was good at growing food, but nobody knew how to cook? Loved your video!!!
I'm 47, and that is so true about turning 40. Now that I am getting closer to 50, I speak up for myself way more, something I have not always done prior to 40. The house looks great, so glad you reached out for help ❤
I am a 42 year mom of four kids and this speaks to me so much. I am on my decluttering journey now. And I just gained my grandparents clutter with their house. Thanks for this video.😊😊😊
I can’t even begin to tell you how much I relate to this video. Your before house is mine right now. I am a busy full time nurse, going through grad school, mom of two boys 9 and 7, and a husband who works overnight shift work. To tell you time is not on our side is an understatement and free time is rare and when we have off days we just want to spend them with the kids. BUT, so much stuff has piled up over the years and I feel exactly like how you described, paralyzed and overwhelmed by decisions. I feel like where do I start and I am in the same boat you were in with needing to separate the boys and give them their own space since they share a room now. I want to do what you did and hire someone because I honestly think having a neutral party come in and see a space and what it could be is much better but we just don’t have the money right now. But seeing your video gives me so much encouragement because it makes me feel like it can be done and if I just tackle it one room at a time I can do it and allowing myself the 4 hr increments like you guys did makes me feel like on my off days I can dedicate a solid 4 hours and the rest of the day is family time. Thank you so much for sharing this and being so transparent because it makes me feel like I am not alone in this struggle. Very inspiring video and look forward to seeing more of your future videos.
This showed up in my feed & I so needed this. Being "A" type, not being able to declutter and making delayed decisions is destroying my mental health. Thanks for your transparency & the wisdom you imparted at the end of your video. Cheers to making 2023 the year when things will happen!! It's never too late to make a change! God bless!!! 🙏🏽
I can't thank you. Something you said released me from Guilt. I. I own a thrift shop and I have a personal problem with clutter. But one of my volunteers is A wonderful organizer. However I would be exhausted everyday she helped me. And you gave me the answer I had Decision fatigue. I Felt like my head would explode if I had to make one more decision on what went where. I'm so relieved to find out that that's not unusual with certain people. Love your video And even at my advanced age of 76 you have helped me. Thank you and God-bless.
I love this. I have absolutely no issue going into someone else’s space and being quick and effective in helping clean and organize. Going into my own? I’m so paralyzed and exhausted moment one. This was wonderful to watch though. Your girls’ excitement seemed encouraging too. Their happiness in the space is as important and deserved as ours is. I often have to remind myself of that when I’m discouraged by my home- my entire family deserves this clean and stress free space just as much as I do. It helps some.
Energetically your house feels so much more calm & happy, I’m so glad you highlighted a huge issue, we are not our stuff, our house is our sanctuary! Enjoy it Jia ❤
I am so happy to hear this success story! It really hit home when you spoke about everyone having their strengths and weaknesses. And it’s OK to lean on someone who has the strength to your weakness. The two things I am terrible at is deep cleaning and decorating. I can do a quick tidy all day long but please don’t ask me to deep clean. I’ve been thinking about hiring a decorator not for anything fancy-schmancy but just to give my space peace. If that makes sense? I am also very excited to hear about Gia’s gems I love it when you “minister” I love listening to that so thank you for being an inspiring and positive presence on RUclips!
WOW! You opened my eyes to something I never realized about my cousin (who's like a sister to me). . . .she can do quick tidying but sucked at deep cleaning. I always thought she was just lazy and/or didn't have her priorities straight. Something about your comment "aha-ed" me. Today, I understand she isn't lazy or has misplaced priorities. Deep cleaning is not her strength, it's her weakness and that's perfectly ok! Thanks, AnneMarieRenee!!!💖💖💖
Hello, first time here on this channel! THANK YOU so much for sharing this. I think that hiring a professional to help here was a great move. It’s kind of like hiring a personal training to help kick start a health journey, no shame in that game either. Just wanted to say that your smile 😀 is just sunshine, and you radiate positively, as we need that and here for it! Thank you! 😊
Watching this gives me so much motivation!! You got rid of so much and did such a great job!!! Wooooh that dining room!! 👏🏻 I’m amazed for sure- also you ARE a strong woman for asking for help 🎉 👏🏻
It all looks great Jia! I think it was money well spent for your sanity. You should hire Jessica to help you with the rest of the house when you can afford it. Fun fact: I turned 40 in June, 1999 and had our third baby in November, 1999. That was 23 years ago!
Amaaazing. I did reset for my 3 girl friends closets - their wardrobe and they came back to me months later how it magically changed their lives. I did it for them while just visiting their home and allowing me to do closet hangout time with them, defining for them clarity and yes konmari was a movement for me… life changing, 6 years later I mastered it with input of other styles and also thinking and understanding why, reconnecting 6th sense, trust and clarity. Everyone should let me to hang out in their closet ❤ anxiety free chilling experience. I know I am so great at it. I just worked on recreating my personal space to another dimension in 2022, life changing really, konmari the way you are existing… tailored to your passion and inspiration and relaxation and creation… so you know to love yourself… ❤ 3.
Omg!!! I'm 33 and so much resonates with me as far as your experience with your thirties... "survival mode"... YES!! I feel that! I'm glad you feel that with a few more years you've learned so much about who you are, what you're really good at, and how to be a good wife and mother. All things I'm struggling with. Living with so much clutter and two kids myself. Everything everywhere. Paralyzed in the mess. I love this video because it gave me hope 😭😆 thanks for sharing your own chaos with the world!
Have her back for 5 more sessions, she's really helping you. Not only with the motivation but I see your confidence in making the hard choices. 😘🥰😍🤩 you can have her come twice a year
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! Organization is NOT easy. Many times when I watched your videos I genuinely felt so badly for you because I could see the struggle. I have a very hard time with clutter - I can't have a cluttered space. This being said, I not a professional organizer. I have often times moved things out of my line of sight never to be found again 😂 I am glad that you were strong enough to reach out for help. This was actually a form of self-care that you did for yourself. You did your best and in the end, you sought help when you were ready and that's what matters. 😊
I'm honestly surprised at the cost! I was anticipating significantly more! I do my best for things to have a home and purging regularly before big gift days. I so appreciate your honesty and realness that you don't see in a lot of similar videos.
I really loved this video. I think it takes incredible strength to recognise where you need help and ask for it. Not everyone has a group of friends that would want to invest time in helping someone declutter their house. Full kudos to you for engaging a professional. The completed task so far probably wouldn't have been as effective or could have created tensions between you and friends if they had helped you. I know when my sister has helped me with decluttering, I totally hate it. She is far more cut throat and ruthless than me, and I feel like I am being judged. I am a bit of a hoarder and one of my goals this year (2023) is to declutter more and have spaces in my home beautifully organised so that I can easily find things. Some areas are and some aren't, but I have a long way to go with systemising or making things easy to find. There is nothing worse than getting frustrated, let alone wasting time, not being able to find the thing 😀 Thank you for showing You with the good bits and the areas for growth. It is refreshing and your positivity and joy for what this decluttering did was a joy to watch. Loved this and look forward to hearing Gia's gems (it think that's what you said). I am new to your channel. Thank you again for what you shared. 🙏💕
At 65, you and your professional organizer taught me several things. I’ve been considering this for years. I’m very grateful that I found your channel. How completely true that you need to follow your path and passions and let those with other strengths help you be your best self. Your intelligence makes you worthy of making your own decisions. 🤗🎉🤗
You are a huge inspiration! The organizer is much more than just a person who takes things away like your friends would do. She walks you thru the process of letting go and grieving the time you spent with each item. So moving forward you have the skills to not only keep your home organized but being confident in making decisions faster and letting go. Friends cannot teach you that by simply taking your things away…
My friends don't have the energy time nor expertise to be this detailed to organize. They're all my age, tired etc. Wow this is amazing! I love this idea because paying for the hour is motivation to focus and push through it. I've been trying to go through toys little by little and my gosh. So overwhelming. I have 4 kids, 3 are girls so my youngest daughter has a massive toy collection that has just become overwhelming.
If you think well it took x many years for it to get like this, its going to take time for it to be shrunk again, I find that helps. We want it sorted because it grows without noticing and then one day we trip over this mountain and say "where did you come from" 🤣. And our lives get more complications and distractions and the last thing we need is to be hampered by STUFF. So just keep chipping away at it, I've had several goes at multiple areas of the house and I'm still not done. I'm definitely eager for that day where I'm on to the maintenance phase. But each clear out is a victory.
First-time viewer, new subscriber. God knew I needed to see this. After finally looking into hiring a professional organizer, I began to question whether that process would be even more painful than continuing to plod along (rather fruitlessly, if I’m being honest) on my own. Thank you so very much for your honesty and insight. And for pointing out that God has given us ALL gifts to share-and that there should be NO shame in letting others share their gifts with us.
I'm stumbling across this while halfway through my own sessions with a Konmari organizer, and it's encouraging! I mean, I'm a single 32 y/o with roommates, so I've got a very different apartment space, but I've known for a very long time that organizing is not my strong suit LOL. I definitely have a lot of things, but my real struggle is that I have sentimental feelings about nearly every belonging and I'm just trying to get my room to a place with quieter emotions!
This was an extremely relatable video!! The overwhelm is so stressful. When we moved for my husband's job, the relocation benefit included a professional organizer and it was SO AMAZING. I never would've been able to pack up and move the house without her first helping me unload so much stuff. (My husband had already moved out for the job so I was on my own for the actual packing and moving. 😭)
Sis! You deserve this reset. She was well worth the cost & peace of mind. I JUST said to a friend this is my year of “finish the things”. This video was so on time. Thanks for sharing & being a light for others. 💛
Gia, I feel you have set yourself free by hiring help. I can feel such good vibes from this video. It’s actually motivating to me. I do stuff like this ok on my own I just need a boost. I’m so happy for you and the spaces look fantastic.
I never watch 30 min + videos but you engaged me emotionally (and then spiritually) through the whole thing. Good for you for walking this journey! 2022 was definitely survival mode for me so I felt you.
I truly appreciate your transparency and vulnerability! This has helped me know that I am NOT alone in my struggle and that it is ok to need & ask for help. 💜
I am so proud of you & happy!! I’m a gutter by nature. 61 y/o retired ICU RN for 30 yrs. So “high & tight” is my mantra. Girl!!! Your video brought me so much joy!! You hiring a professional organizer was gold!! You have your strengths & she has hers and you are so smart to self actualize that! Happy 40!! I promise age is a blessing & each year I learn something new.
I’m only 20 and do a lot of cleaning/cooking/organizing already for my family. I love this video because it encourages me to try and find what my strengths are and bless someone who has it as their weakness. Also to not feel like I have to be perfect at all these things and get help when I need it. God bless you and your family 💜
Thank you so much for making this! It’s showing us that it’s okay to ask for help and to even pay for it. In a world where mental health is struggling, we have to show that it’s okay to ask for help. ❤
As a newly certified organizational specislist, THANK YOU, for giving us credit for our profession. I am so proud of you, your family, your spaces, and for showing the real and that it can become a reality! Just as someone would pay a fitness trainer, nutrition coach, a housecleaner...we all need a little help sometimes! God gifts us in many different ways to bless each other. 🎉
Your kids play-hiding in the closet 😭is SO CUTE! What a fun & informative video. As someone who does professional cleaning & organizational help, I find it SO important for everyone to take a step back from their judgment of others' spaces. Everyone has something they wish to change in their home system. Compassion goes so very far! ☺♥
You go, girl! Good on you for knowing your strengths and weaknesses and getting help when you need it. We all have something we're good and not good at. Instead of burning yourself out, you hired someone to come help you, and now you have a calmer, stress free home 🙏
Thank you for supporting Professional Organizers and what we do! You would be surprised by how many people take our work for granted. It's a form of therapy for many and really helps turn things in a positive way. Looking forward to listening to the podcast ...😉
Girl. It’s true. Just turned 40 in Oct. and I’m now on this journey and learning so much about decluttering etc. I’m just ready to get rid of the nonsense.
I can’t begin to tell you all of the gems I got from this video. But the one that spoke to me was it’s never too late to start the thing you’ve been putting off. Amen. I’m right there. Congratulations!!! There is nothing better than a decluttered living space. ❤
I was looking for audiobooks from the library to listen to while I crocheted a few years ago and came across Marie Kondo's book. I took a week to follow her method and it absolutely changed my family's lives. The feeling of having everything so organized and accessable, and knowing that everything in my home is useful instead of useless clutter, feels so freeing.
Yes, having a good friend who KNOWS what to do to help would be great. For the rest of us Hiring a professional is the best option. No one is good at everything and sometimes we have too many obligations, work, family, etc. I’m thankful I found your channel today and am now encouraged to start the journey myself. Thank you for being transparent and encouraging us to start somewhere.
As someone who is that friend, naturally tidy and likes to organise, I do think that sometimes having an external person is still the best. I have offered several friends help, but I think they feel bad and ashamed BECAUSE we are friends. I totally do not judge them and want to help them because I love them and it’s honestly not a chore to me (and they also help me with other things I am not good at) but I do understand that hiring a stranger can also have benefits.
Loves this mini series! If I could be a full time declutterer I would, I love it! If I were closer I would help you for free but it's awesome you had this help and so glad you enjoyed ❤️❤️
Oh my goodness! You sound like me! I can crunch numbers, make budgets, see trends, etc. so much so that I have my own bookkeeping company. Seeing a mess in my home absolutely paralyzes me. It’s like I don’t know what to do, where to start, nothing. I’ve been wanting to hire a housekeeper just to keep up with the things I can’t keep up with, but really I need a professional organizer. My dh hasn’t wanted to have someone come into our home to help. He keeps saying we can do it ourselves. I’m going to show him your two videos and hope for the best! From another 40yo to another, Thank you!!
Brilliant.. your house looks fantastic! Well done for getting help. I have been doing whole house declutters since Jan 2017, when my (now) ex moved out. I found the house overwhelming for years with kids, job, marriage etc.. The first year (2017) was separating our 17yrs of life together. I packed 90 boxes of his stuff. He still has to pick up 50. In 2018 I decluttered my stuff, my kids and my joint stuff and the kids stuff with them. In 2019 I did the attic, garden shed and the house a 2nd time. And organised memory stuff (except digital photos) I haven't done any declutter since 2019.... this year i will do another whole house declutter... I can't wait. I also need to donate and sell stuff. Keep going... you seem to have the "declutter bug" which is so great!
Congratulations! I was brought up to be independent, and I am eternally grateful. It was difficult for me to realize that I don't have to know how to do everything and that's its ok to ask for help. I'm glad you are at that point and can pass down this to your daughter's. And kudos to your husband for supporting your decision.
Asking for help is strength. We all have different skill sets as you say and some things are just weaknesses. Clearing your spaces are so freeing, and you're already reaping the benefits of the journey so far! Your beautiful family are also benefitting from your new found freedom too! It is definitely worth it!
I'm proud of you!! That was an investment into not only you, but your family as well. I had a friend tell me in 2022 that hiring someone to help you aids you in freeing up some of your time and saves some of your sanity!!! Thank you so much for sharing this with us!! Drop those Gems!!!❤❤❤❤
Obviously this profession is needed....Ppl need ppl and if giving assistance to someone to declutter their home helps bring them peace of mind.....then bring it on!
Your home looks really clean and organized 👌. My Grandma was a house cleaner and would clean ppls homes who couldn't do it. She did this in retirement. So my cleaning skills come from her. Looks really nice!!! Joan ❤❤❤
This popped up on my RUclips homepage and I watched it because I love organizing. Good for you! I love your personality and I applaud you for hiring someone to solve your problem. It takes strength and humility to accept and share openly what we are not good at that other people are. And by doing so, you've set very good example for your girls. Bravo!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Oh my gosh, don't be so harsh on yourself. Previous generations also weren't exposed to the mass production of stuff, and credit cards, that we are now. I think you did great! And it's so beneficial to see how individual people process obstacles, goals and gifts. Thank you for sharing.
That was money well spent! So happy for you Jia. Keeping your possessions minimal and curated really makes life easier in so many ways, less to manage.
I really appreciate the way you discussed strengths and weaknesses. I am at a place where I am recognizing that organization and tidying are weaknesses of mine and asking for help has been amazing. I am blessed with a friend who is an amazing organizer and one day with her help seriously changed my life. I am so glad your organizer was able to help you so much! Thanks for sharing :)
I'm a professional house cleaner and organizer and I also declutter as well and I take my job seriously and yes it is a real job I'm so glad you reached out for help I help my clients with the work I do and it warms my heart so God Bless you and your family and I'm so proud of you
The comment she mentioned is just illogical on its own, in my opinion... it´s like saying "I can´t believe you hired a lawyer... just look up stuff on the internet and deal with it on your own" or "Just ask a friend to pull your tooth out, you don´t need a dentist"... that´s why there are so many different professions to choose from, because not everyone is an expert in everything and that´s extremely valuable, because by "trading" our gifts and services (in exchange for money), we save time and nerves.... that´s the way we actually help each other out, probabaly since the beginning of human life...
Yes it is a real job!! I just decluttered a lot in my home. It really helps with my mental health.
What made you decide to become a professional organizer? It is literally something that I have contemplated doing
@@cuzinangel2355 I love everything to be clean and neat and organized it really is a huge part of mental health in my opinion
@@cuzinangel2355 I also love the before and after
You said it yourself. She was not just chucking stuff out. She was EDUCATING you! Good teachers and mentors are worth their weight in GOLD! I’m proud of you 🏆
Maintenance tip: Once I got myself decluttered and organized, I setup a strategic maintenance routine to keep things tidy. 1) Every Sunday night I take a laundry basket around the house and collect anything that is out of place. I make a second route putting things away. Takes about 10 minutes. 2) On my main level, I have about 8 large drawers or banks of drawers, 12 cabinets, and 4 closets. Kids rooms are excluded. Each week I take 15 minutes and reorganize one of the cabinets, closets or banks of drawers. It doesn't take long since they are already organized. I cycle through all of them 2x a year and it keeps things as pristine as the day I finished my declutter. Good luck!!!
Thank you for your suggestions….🙏
It seems like 90% of my "cleaning up" is moving stuff from one place to where it actually belongs.
You must have a family of ten with all of that.
@@debbiemohekey1509 No, not really. It adds up fast. 2 bathrooms with a vanity = 4 banks of drawers & 2 cabinets. 1 small pantry closet, a linen closet, a small closet in a bathroom and a coat closet. 1 closet in my bedroom. Kitchen/laundry has 10 cabinets (including uppper & lower) total and 4 large drawers/banks of drawers.
@@TourPace I wasn't thinking in-built cabinets so not a lot, no.
This inspires me!!! To the rude commenter, there’s a saying “A doctor who treats himself has a fool for a patient”. Getting a professional to help with any thing you’re not good at saves time, money and mental health. Your house looks awesome.
$1350.00 for 5 Sessions is Absolutely Amazing, especially when she’s teaching the whole family how to keep the home DECLUTTERED!!!! The way this helps your Mental Health is so well worth the investment!!! I wish that I had researched this years ago!! Thank you for sharing this!!! You seem so LIBERATED and HAPPY right now!!!!
New Subbie here!!!
Sadly not everyone can afford that amount
@@MsVicki73 I don't know where she lives but it might be cheaper elsewhere. Where I live I would think someone would probably charge 15-20 hours. However, that person who decluttered also went to goodwill on behalf of the client. That's extra work as well. Plus any outside work she might do in preparing for her client.
It's worthwhile. I guess we are so busy we know when to buy something nice but we never know when to give it away.
That’s $33.75 and hour if it was 5 eight hour work days. Not bad.
What a wonderful gift for you and your family ❤. Children get overwhelmed easily and having a nice space will do wonders for their studies and health.
You gave your children the gift of a lifetime. They will use these skills forever. Good job, mom!
Thank you for this video. I have the same mentality as you did. I need help but hoping I can do it little by little. Not ready to buy the big bucks
Same thoughts. 🤩
Literally changed the trajectory of the girls futures with learning responsibility, making a home, dealing with materialism, looking for resources, etc.
My sister was my professional declutterer. I got rid of 80% of my closet and do not regret it at all. I didn’t realize how much stress it is to live in a cluttered house. Kudos to you for going through with this!
Getting rid of clutter is like exiting a toxic relationship (friend or family)
I love that you addressed the ignorant comments. For people who are CEOs and operate at another level, they hire these tasks out because they realize that it is more valuable to have less stress and people who specialize in organization than to keep a few dollars in their pockets. I am learning this lesson. I have not learned it fully, but I struggled to with calling someone to clean my house. I am so busy working 3 jobs, being a single dad, and caretaker for my grandpa who lives with me that I am seriously looking to get someone. I do struggle with the "who" to bring in. Kudos to you for setting the example for us. In 2023, I am going to do it. Lift me up saints!!
Yes! Thank You for supporting us and see the value on what we do! Every professional organizer do it because they love it and realized is not something everybody is able to do for themself! Everyone is born with a gift and a talent but nit everyone take the courage to make it into a profession! Again THANK YOU All for supporting us! 🙏🏾🪴🙌🏽
When I started decluttering, what was in my mind was how other people saw my house in its cluttered state and how they would see it in a decluttered state as an expression of me. But what I discovered was that the true joy in decluttering my space was how I felt in my house -- the joy and peace that an orderly and simplified environment would give me. Now I realize I can forget about how others see it. It's worth doing just for ME!
Exactly 💯
You invested in your peace of mind and freedom from materialism. Great work!
I'm an organizer trying to get my business off the ground. This was sooo affirming that there are people who need what I do. I just need to connect with them.
Everything looks great!!!! Thanks for your transparency. You made a great decision to get the help you needed.
Love you ❤
Trust me, people need your services. Post in on all social media including FB market place
Where are you located?
Yes! I hired an organizer to help me with my master suite and it was worth every penny. It took me a few weeks to make the decision because I kept telling myself it wasn't worth the money and I could do it alone. NOPE! LOL. I absolutely could not do it lol. It was so daunting and overwhelming to try to do it alone. She not only helped me to declutter but also provided me with tools to stay organized and kind of help me change my mindset. Organizers are needed!
I have always hired organizers since my teen years because I get too overwhelmed with simply putting up loads of laundry. And I don't regret a minute of it or how much I spent. It's all worth it. I have so much peace and I'm more productive in other areas of my life. But unlike the rest of my family I was not born with the gift or even the ability to organize. But I just look at it as this giving someone an opportunity to make money just like someone gave me an opportunity to make money in an area I have a passion for.
I'm 34. I legit teared up when you said if I can give my 30 year old self any advice, who you are and who you want to be is okay. You don't have to do all the things for all the people. Girl I needed that so much!
I’m in my 70’s and wish I had started the decluttering process years ago when my kids were small. I’ve been watching Minimal Mom and have been through my house several times. Each time you will get rid of more and more. The peace I feel each day is unbelievable. Who knew! Bless you for sharing your story and helping others. I’m a new follower!❤️
Minimal mom is great! First time viewer here and loving it 🥰
Hi Nancy, I love your response, I also follow The Minimal Mom and have purchased her 15 minutes a day of Decluttering workbook, I love here peers too Cas with Clutter Bug, Dana with Dana K. White, they are all amazing would love to have either of them come help me in my house, so that I could feel peaceful, comfortable and relaxing in my own home!
I’m so glad to hear you are feeling better after several rounds of decluttering. I’m in the midst of my first major pass through, I believe it will be easier after the heavy lifting. So it was nice to read your post. 😀
Minimal Mom!!! Hurray!! Love her!!
I'm also a HUGE fan of the Minimal Mom and Clutterbug! Their combination of practical tools and positivity has helped me so much!
I'm older and I use to clean houses to make money. I'm retired and I'm thinking about starting up a business to do this. 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Its a really good business if you have the talent to do this. I too have a natural knack for organizations. I recently flew to my hometown to help a friend who was overwhelmed by years of clutter.
Yes, please do it, where are you cuz I need help in Fayetteville, NC
Would love to know how to find someone that does this in my area I live in Kingwood, Texas outside of Houston.
If you find soneone in SETEXAS please let me know. We moved from 6000 sq ft to 900sq ft this is after losing 2 storage units during Harvey and then the last during covid. So I have gone into procrastionation hoarding..well its mostly having 100 tubs of who knows what. Its just everything friends could grab and throw in tubs not knowing what we lost in storage and what we have. Add a 9yr old, who her and I both have ADHD it's a nightmare. I can organize, clean and declutter anyone elses houses or items but mine..Im paralyzed!!@@christamckee3997
I have a sign on my desk that says, “My brain has too many tabs open.” I also suffer decision fatigue. It’s not procrastination or hoarding,because I have bursts of energy where I can declutter and reorganize! So this video has been fascinating! God bless you!
If you haven’t been evaluated for ADHD I would highly recommend it. I relate HEAVILY to what you described + was diagnosed with Inattentive-Type ADHD at 21 years old. The research + literature on ADHD (+ most other diagnoses in the DSM-5) was mostly done on school aged boys with Hyperactive-Type. So in the past few years, many women have been able to pursue a diagnosis in adulthood.
Pro Organizer here! Thank you for this video! It’s fact that the brain releases endorphins when you grab an item from where it’s supposed to be. “Everything has a place” and easily accessible 🎉
I have always been an organizer but it wasn’t until I had to empty the home of my in-laws and parents after they passed away that I decided to pursue minimalism. It was such a huge job and besides the work involved it was emotionally distressing. I don’t want that task for my own children so I have minimized my home. I have been doing it for 5 years and I have made multiple passes through my house during those years. It is something you have to revisit over and over. But it is so worth it. I can clean my house so quickly! ❤
This is wonderful insight. I lost my husband in Dec. 2021 & I still haven't gone through his things (yup it's been a year) and I realize that I need HELP but it has to be with someone that has a Gift to do this as it is not as simple as just throwing things away . . I am not even sure how to seek help, like Jia said you need someone who "sees" you & makes you feel good and NOT judged!! I am going add this to my Goals & Prayer List for 2023. Thank you Jia foe being so open & transparent with your process!!! I have ideas for your Podcast
Great comment. My mom is a hoarder and I do not want to do that to my kids. I needed a video like this to get me started.
This is y it is so important to occasionally get rid, donate and monitor the things u purchase for your home. I confess, I luv knick knacks aka 🤣 dust collectors. I donated a box to a thrift store and they will see me again donating.
Same.
I am trying to clear my clutter to. It is so over whelming and sometimes I don't know where to start.
I'm so happy for you! Hoarding runs in my family. I saw it in my grandmother. I see it in my mother. I see the tendencies in myself - it's horrifying. I agree that "delayed decision making" is the root of my evil. This video has motivated me to do the hard work, which is making choices. Thank you.
Professional therapy would help you as well.
I agree with Linda. It's hard to overcome certain things by yourself
@@lindawhite4683 And ALL of us.
Paralyzed that's the exact word to describe how it feels with such a daunting task! I'm thrilled that you did this and then share it with all of us!
Decision paralysis is a real thing! Most people go through this. It just happens to affect women in American culture more because women (and those assigned into female social roles) are tasked with cleaning things up AND working. You are far from alone and it is never too late to ask for help.
I have terrible decision paralysis idk what happened to me but I never used to be like this, it’s actually pretty awful..!
@@awarren06 totally feel your response, I’m the same way I use to never be like this, and don’t know what happened to me after I hit my mid 40’s! IDK if having a new baby at 43 years old changed something in me or what! Not by any means saying having a unexpected healthy baby boy at that age wasn’t a beautiful blessing. But it dit seem to have an impact on my ways and abilities to do things.
'delayed decision making' accurately describes ADHD and the organizational obstacles that pop up because of that, and talking about how that exponentially compounds on itself within your space was so relatable! Thank you for doing this!
I am generally fairly tidy, but hearing you say that you want to teach your kids to trust their gut... This is amazing. And I still struggle to discard things that I received as gifts or that I know somebody else in my family thinks is important. It is such an important lesson to learn that you should keep what has meaning for you, not for some relative (no matter how close).
Sentimental gifts are hard for me, too. Something that really helped me was a tip to take a photo of the item so you can retain the memory while letting the actual item bless someone who will actually use it. It really is the thought that counts! : - )
Decision fatigue is a real thing. I’m super type-A and organized but sometimes i find myself struggling with the things that people find joyous (like picking out a birthday cake for myself) its like people that make decisions for others day in and day out often burn out. And people confuse it for neglect, but its not neglect its simply burn out!!!!! Hats off to you for sharing this!!!!
You are so inspiring! My Beau asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I told him housekeeping services. He made a snide comment about me not needing any help because I had a son that I should make clean more. I felt some type of way and called him out about it. I know my strengths and weaknesses and know I don't have the bandwidth to tackle all those small tedious tasks. After we talked, he apologized and supports getting me some help around the house. This video and your previous video has motivated me so much and I look forward to completing my own decluttering projects at home as well as finding a place for EVERYTHING!
GREAT JOB JIA! I look forward to Jia's Gems!!
I’m so glad you had the courage to say how you feel instead of sweeping it under the rug! Thanks for watching friend!
I tell my husband to stop playing old tapes. God is doing a new thing and making new sounds in our marriage. The tapes from his childhood, the sounds he used to hear as a child, the tape of his prerecorded “auto-responses” in order to deflect rather than deal with the issue. I used to get offended, but now I see it as an opportunity to turn the tapes off and allow God to show us a better way. A new sound. New responses. The only way tackle old challenges and is to start.
I’m glad it worked out, but just offering a perspective that your husband’s comments about your son being accountable around the house might still be valid.
I did this and I had the exact experience. I never felt judged, I felt heard and in the end I felt accomplished and while the work was hard, it was amazing. I learned so much about me and my style. I am still making efforts along the way. It’s been 2 years now and I am still doing spot checks. There’s still some areas of the house that I need to work on. I have saved literally thousands of dollars because when you go through this you stop spending money because you don’t want to have to throw it out in the future. You also appreciate everything that you own and value what you have and consider what you bring into your life. Extremely valuable experience.
You should have a session 2x per year. Once in the fall and once in the spring. You’re SO motivated and (if you’re like me) this may fade. She’s amazing and I’m so proud of you!
What a small world, I actually used to know Jessica! Over a decade ago I used to go to church small groups at her house. I remember being in awe of how perfectly clean, organized, and stylish her house was so I am not surprised that she is such an awesome professional organizer!
What country,where can we find her?
Where is she located?
I’m so glad you made this. I’m in my early 30s and I have come to realize when I need help to get someone skilled in that area. We (as in mothers, women and wife’s) have to realize that we don’t have too and shouldn’t have to do it all. There is NO shame in that.
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Well said
Yes♥️So true!
And you know, at no point in history has there ever been so many possessions in each of our homes. Our great-grandmothers did not have to shuffle and trip over possessions and even the most skilled organizer can only organize so many objects in a home. Get the help and feel the peace
I totally agree!
Jessica is doing the Lord's work! Not only was she helping you organize, but she was teaching you how to tackle clutter in the future because she included you in the process! I can see how happier you are, and your home should be a place of peace and relaxation. Definitely worth the money and your daughters' rooms are beautiful! When people say that you wasted your money on an organizer, some people will at a drop of a hat spend that much or more on a small Disney vacation! It's all about what makes you happy. Go to Disneyland? Then do it. Get your house clutter free makes you happy, then do it! Let's encourage one another. There's enough negativity in this world. ❤🙏
So well said!
🙏🏻 totally 💯👍
I agree very well said, however I have a husband that feels that spending the money going on a trip for the family, is better money spent than hiring someone to come in and help me declutter and organize my house, I feel disrespected of my feeling and needs for help in this area for my mental health. Not saying that I don’t love going on family vacations, but I’d also like to be able to go and not spend my time worrying about what I should be back home doing!
@@christamckee3997 I'm sorry your husband makes you feel that way. Talk to him about it. I hope he's open to hearing you out. My main love language is acts of service so I'd rather have someone help me organize my house than go on a Disney vacation. My husband knows that anything he can do to make my day-to-day life easier like washing dishes or clothes makes me feel more loved than a bouquet of flowers. It's helped us tremendously in our 27-year marriage when we know our love languages! 🥰
@@rayray91764 thank you for your response, funny I just ordered the book 5 love languages, for us to read got in the mail yesterday! I have to say though he works a very stressful job 5 days a week and he does help me on the weekends with no issues. My problem is he will not hold the kids accountable for helping with anything in the house, but still spoils them rotten, with material thinks and lavish vacations or going on vacations with their friends. I just feel like he doesn’t back me up in that regard, he’d rather do it himself then for them to have to do it.
I am a naturally neat and organized person so I don’t know why this video was recommended to me 😂 BUT I cried while watching it. You are changing your girls’ lives for sure. I say that as a child of very messy parents who ended up marrying a hoarder. We are divorced now, my mental health couldn’t take it. Like you said, like any addiction or struggle, you cannot tell them to just clean up. This is for sure a form or side effect of anxiety, depression, OCD, ADHD- and there is help. It may not seem
like being messy or unorganized is a big deal, but it absolutely can be a HUGE deal. You and your family are beautiful, btw 😊
@ofthegirl, hello, I just wanted to say I love your response here, I have always myself been or was expected to be a neat and organized person growing up as a child my mother expected my sister and I to do all the cleaning and up keep of the home, so I carried that expectation into my adult life,but did not put it on my kids to do. However, now in my older years (49yrs old) I don’t know what has happened to me, I suffer tremendously with anxiety, depression, OCD and ADD, and have physical mobility issues that affects my ability to do the things I used to be able to do in My Home. My husband, grew up in an unorganized messy home because his mother was one that I think thought that spending time and doing things with her children was more important than worrying about the house being organized and clean, so my husband has that same thought process and thinks I hold myself prisoner to the maintenance and duties of what the house looks like and that has now carried over to my children, so I fight a losing battle with the entire family! I can’t get them to realize that it effects my mental health tremendously when the house is a disaster, and makes me feel so disrespected by them not considering my feelings about it. But what do you do, I’m only one person and yes I’m a stay at home mom but it’s still so overwhelming that I can’t find the courage and motivation to do anything about it! I wish I had the guts to say okay my dear family since you all don’t want to help me with what I need in the house to feel at peace, then I’m just going to hire someone to come in and do it for me. So for the long post, guess your response just struck my feelings and I needed to vent. Lol
@@christamckee3997 by all means, vent! I have struggled with anxiety and ADHD so growing up with messy parents was tough. I never felt like I had a good place to study and concentrate and nobody understand that my surroundings made it so hard. Then I married a hoarder. I was at home with 4 little kids and I went into such a depression fighting the clutter alllll the time! My ex was a great dad and a good guy, so it feels bad to say that I just couldn’t stay and support him through the hoarding. But my mental health was suffering so bad. I tried all kinds of medication but most of it made me feel numb and I started to resent that I was the one looking for help when I want the one hoarding! It’s just one of those things where people will only get help when THEY want it. I’m 49 too and all of my kids are adults now, 3 of them are so neat and clean and won’t even visit their dad :( But one shows the same tendencies as him and it worries me. I think outside help is a great idea.
Why did you marry a hoarder? Genuine curiosity here.
@@spirituallysafe MOST people don't reveal all their quirks up front when dating, and even if they do, issues that later become insurmountable don't feel that way when you're falling in love. Sometimes we simply don't know how something will affect us until we're in it longterm. Also, she said "My ex was a great dad and a good guy."
@@ofthegirl As a naturally messy and disorganized person, I've only recently acquired enough organizing skills to understand how depleting and jangly it is to live in chaotic environments. I totally get how living in a true hoarder situation (*especially* while raising 4 young kids!) would be bad enough for your mental health that you truly needed to leave.
Good for you for taking care of yourself and modeling good self-care and boundaries for your kids. Your ability to recognize your ex's strengths in spite of his issues is lovely.❤
I never write comments but this time I had to. Your video was exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve struggling with the same problem. It’s not that I’m lazy like some people might think. It’s just that I get overwhelmed. Thank you for making me feel I’m not the only one 😊
Recently, I decided to get professional help after becoming so anxious over the last couple years, but didn't know what to do, I was burnt out and overwhelmed and felt useless - no hope anywhere any more. So I got help: no, I didn't go to therapy, I hired LINDA. She came for four days and changed my life, which made my home change. too! Now I and my family understand how being considerate and organized has brought us back to enjoying our. home and each other. Linda was a blessing, not "just a cleaning person". Thank you for speaking up about giving respect and not underestimating the Declutter Professionals who can teach us new skills and bring us back to seeing the sunshine again.
This is one of the BEST videos that I’ve ever seen! I just turned 40 in October and you are 1000% right! The outlook on life hits very differently! You home is beautiful and you made the right decision! One of the signs of maturity is the ability to outsource and hire and ask for help! Keep growing and keep the videos coming!
Amen & amen Sis! 👏🏾
Happy New Year! I usually don’t comment but I just wanted you to know that when you started talking about questioning your kids decisions I was hit by a lightning bolt! I do this all the time and I can tell you that I never realized I was teaching them to not trust their own decisions. What a life changing realization! Thank you! ❤
I paused the video on that spot to leave a comment but Im piggybacking off of yours- my son is SO good at just being like "nope, I wont use that" without any of the hangups that I've always had about things. I've learned a lot from him! It helps that I've given him a life where he's not worried about scarcity- if a sweatshirt's not comfortable and you don't want to wear it, he's never NEEDED to hang onto it in case like, the zipper on his good sweatshirt breaks. Breaking out of that "I NEED TO HANG ONTO EVERYTHING" mindset is so hard!
For a couple of years I have wanted to have someone clean my house but I havent done it because I need to clean and declutter first..maybe bulldoze first. I can do this! Thanks for sharing. It makes the rest of us feel less ashamed about our own messes and weaknesses.
I cleaned for a living for years and I loved going in and helping people organize and tackle one room at a time. Just hire someone who has that same heart and you will get there! Good luck.
I wish I had started there 30 years ago!
Organize/decluttered = less cleaning
I did that 2 days ago. If I can be honest you will never be ready. Just set a day pay the initial deep clean. It was worth every penny. It won’t be perfect the first time but each time after will be better. They will clean and help you. No matter how bad you think your home is they have seen worse.
Wow! I am so proud of you for hiring yourself an organizer. I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed your transparency with this topic. This is the first time I have watched your channel and felt like I was with you the whole way while you were describing your feelings and challenges. You have a gift of sharing in a way that I have not seen anywhere. Thank you so much! Wish I could be more like you.
We lived with the agony of a giant mess in our basement after moving in and then having a flood that messed up the minimal organization that we had done. Finally, we worked with an organizer and now we are finally comfortable in our home. We share your joy at being organized!
I am not a professional organizer, but I have helped friends organize their homes. I love it, and it is one of my strengths. I am proud of you and your family, Jia!
I love that your dad came over to help, that's so sweet!! When my husband and I got married my dad came over soooo many times to help put together furniture, putting together our garden shed, moving in boxes. I'll never forget that kind of love 💕
Thank you for this video! I'm a professional organizer and also a KonMari Consultant- you validated our profession and showed the true value. I'm so happy you were able to have a life-changing experience by clearing the clutter.
I FELT SO SEEN! Clutter is my worst enemy in my small home and with a teen and toddler. This encouraged me so much and allowed me to have permission to hire professionals when my mind and body can longer manage it all.
Three words you said in this video hit me like a ton of bricks, “delayed decision making”. I’ve wondered through my house and that is what it is cluttered with. This video was and is so inspiring. Thank you so much for YOU and your honesty ❤❤❤
Good for you! We as women need to help each other, not tear each other down. Thank you for sharing your struggles. We can learn from your content. Keep up the good work. Love and light to you and your family.
Thank you for sharing the term, “decision fatigue,” it helped me to give a name for what I call my current situation which I previously called “a series of unmade decisions.” As an educator, I make so many decisions from moment to moment at work, that it has been easier to put things off.
I'm just a stay at home mom to 5 girls and I loved hearing that term. It's why I get so annoyed when my husband asks me what we want for dinner. "IDK ASK THE KIDS!" 😄
I just found your channel last night and the thing I love most about your channel and house so far is that it's real life. Your house isn't instagram perfect that reminds me of a museum where kids can't make messes. Your house is real life. Your kids are allowed to be themselves and play and to make messes. Even though you got to the point where you needed help, you aren't afraid to admit it because at some point, we all need help. That's life. Your channel isn't fake life, you don't pretend it's all perfect and I love this because I believe even if we don't want to admit it, this is how ours lives are too. I'm so happy you were able to find help and relieve all that extra stress because I know how good it feels to declutter my house and get rid of everything extra. I'm not a minimalist, but it's so nice to just say bye bye to things we don't need and have that extra space.
I just ran across your channel…and guess what? I love you!!!! You have such a lovely home and glad you found it again. I just swept and mopped my kitchen and dining room yesterday and just doing that made me fill so good! I will pass a little saying on to you that my mom always said and you said it several time….”There is a place for everything and everything in its place !” Maybe you might want to make a plaque for every room with this saying to remind yourself of this everyday! If not every room than the ones you need to remind yourself every time something is put in that room!!! Look forward to next time….❤FromTX Good luck!
I’m so glad I found your channel! My mom is coming over to help me tomorrow cause I texted her and said I’m overwhelmed with all my stuff in my house. This was very inspirational!
You should be SO proud of yourself! This was a huge and difficult job, and you made thousands of decisions. You recognized how the clutter was affecting your mental health, and although you didn't say it, I know you know it was affecting your family. I think your take on doing what your strength is is spot on. I'm terrible at math and business but great at organization and creativity. Isn't that proof that there's a power in the universe greater than ourselves? What if everyone was good at growing food, but nobody knew how to cook? Loved your video!!!
I'm 47, and that is so true about turning 40. Now that I am getting closer to 50, I speak up for myself way more, something I have not always done prior to 40. The house looks great, so glad you reached out for help ❤
I am a 42 year mom of four kids and this speaks to me so much. I am on my decluttering journey now. And I just gained my grandparents clutter with their house. Thanks for this video.😊😊😊
I can’t even begin to tell you how much I relate to this video. Your before house is mine right now. I am a busy full time nurse, going through grad school, mom of two boys 9 and 7, and a husband who works overnight shift work. To tell you time is not on our side is an understatement and free time is rare and when we have off days we just want to spend them with the kids. BUT, so much stuff has piled up over the years and I feel exactly like how you described, paralyzed and overwhelmed by decisions. I feel like where do I start and I am in the same boat you were in with needing to separate the boys and give them their own space since they share a room now. I want to do what you did and hire someone because I honestly think having a neutral party come in and see a space and what it could be is much better but we just don’t have the money right now. But seeing your video gives me so much encouragement because it makes me feel like it can be done and if I just tackle it one room at a time I can do it and allowing myself the 4 hr increments like you guys did makes me feel like on my off days I can dedicate a solid 4 hours and the rest of the day is family time. Thank you so much for sharing this and being so transparent because it makes me feel like I am not alone in this struggle. Very inspiring video and look forward to seeing more of your future videos.
This showed up in my feed & I so needed this. Being "A" type, not being able to declutter and making delayed decisions is destroying my mental health. Thanks for your transparency & the wisdom you imparted at the end of your video. Cheers to making 2023 the year when things will happen!! It's never too late to make a change! God bless!!! 🙏🏽
I can't thank you. Something you said released me from Guilt. I. I own a thrift shop and I have a personal problem with clutter. But one of my volunteers is A wonderful organizer. However I would be exhausted everyday she helped me. And you gave me the answer I had Decision fatigue. I Felt like my head would explode if I had to make one more decision on what went where. I'm so relieved to find out that that's not unusual with certain people. Love your video And even at my advanced age of 76 you have helped me. Thank you and God-bless.
I love this. I have absolutely no issue going into someone else’s space and being quick and effective in helping clean and organize. Going into my own? I’m so paralyzed and exhausted moment one. This was wonderful to watch though. Your girls’ excitement seemed encouraging too. Their happiness in the space is as important and deserved as ours is. I often have to remind myself of that when I’m discouraged by my home- my entire family deserves this clean and stress free space just as much as I do. It helps some.
Energetically your house feels so much more calm & happy, I’m so glad you highlighted a huge issue, we are not our stuff, our house is our sanctuary! Enjoy it Jia ❤
Keep it up!
I am so happy to hear this success story! It really hit home when you spoke about everyone having their strengths and weaknesses. And it’s OK to lean on someone who has the strength to your weakness. The two things I am terrible at is deep cleaning and decorating. I can do a quick tidy all day long but please don’t ask me to deep clean. I’ve been thinking about hiring a decorator not for anything fancy-schmancy but just to give my space peace. If that makes sense? I am also very excited to hear about Gia’s gems I love it when you “minister” I love listening to that so thank you for being an inspiring and positive presence on RUclips!
Absolutely! You should go for it! You deserve it!
@@MarriageMotherhood I second that I love to listen to you minister! And testify about how we can minister!
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WOW! You opened my eyes to something I never realized about my cousin (who's like a sister to me). . . .she can do quick tidying but sucked at deep cleaning. I always thought she was just lazy and/or didn't have her priorities straight. Something about your comment "aha-ed" me. Today, I understand she isn't lazy or has misplaced priorities. Deep cleaning is not her strength, it's her weakness and that's perfectly ok! Thanks, AnneMarieRenee!!!💖💖💖
This video brought tears as you gave us permission to not do everything without help like the women who raised us. Thank you.
I love how you evaluate yourself so candidly and talk about how you see your strengths and weaknesses it’s so refreshing in this space
Hello, first time here on this channel! THANK YOU so much for sharing this. I think that hiring a professional to help here was a great move. It’s kind of like hiring a personal training to help kick start a health journey, no shame in that game either. Just wanted to say that your smile 😀 is just sunshine, and you radiate positively, as we need that and here for it! Thank you! 😊
Watching this gives me so much motivation!! You got rid of so much and did such a great job!!! Wooooh that dining room!! 👏🏻 I’m amazed for sure- also you ARE a strong woman for asking for help 🎉 👏🏻
Party people 💃😜
Thanks for watching!
It all looks great Jia! I think it was money well spent for your sanity. You should hire Jessica to help you with the rest of the house when you can afford it.
Fun fact: I turned 40 in June, 1999 and had our third baby in November, 1999. That was 23 years ago!
Amaaazing. I did reset for my 3 girl friends closets - their wardrobe and they came back to me months later how it magically changed their lives. I did it for them while just visiting their home and allowing me to do closet hangout time with them, defining for them clarity and yes konmari was a movement for me… life changing, 6 years later I mastered it with input of other styles and also thinking and understanding why, reconnecting 6th sense, trust and clarity. Everyone should let me to hang out in their closet ❤ anxiety free chilling experience. I know I am so great at it. I just worked on recreating my personal space to another dimension in 2022, life changing really, konmari the way you are existing… tailored to your passion and inspiration and relaxation and creation… so you know to love yourself… ❤
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@@nessm480 Florida
Omg!!! I'm 33 and so much resonates with me as far as your experience with your thirties... "survival mode"... YES!! I feel that! I'm glad you feel that with a few more years you've learned so much about who you are, what you're really good at, and how to be a good wife and mother. All things I'm struggling with. Living with so much clutter and two kids myself. Everything everywhere. Paralyzed in the mess. I love this video because it gave me hope 😭😆 thanks for sharing your own chaos with the world!
Have her back for 5 more sessions, she's really helping you. Not only with the motivation but I see your confidence in making the hard choices. 😘🥰😍🤩 you can have her come twice a year
Yes. The money she saves on not over shopping will easily cover it. Maybe just one more coaching session in a few months.
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! Organization is NOT easy. Many times when I watched your videos I genuinely felt so badly for you because I could see the struggle. I have a very hard time with clutter - I can't have a cluttered space. This being said, I not a professional organizer. I have often times moved things out of my line of sight never to be found again 😂 I am glad that you were strong enough to reach out for help. This was actually a form of self-care that you did for yourself. You did your best and in the end, you sought help when you were ready and that's what matters. 😊
I'm honestly surprised at the cost! I was anticipating significantly more! I do my best for things to have a home and purging regularly before big gift days. I so appreciate your honesty and realness that you don't see in a lot of similar videos.
I really loved this video. I think it takes incredible strength to recognise where you need help and ask for it. Not everyone has a group of friends that would want to invest time in helping someone declutter their house. Full kudos to you for engaging a professional. The completed task so far probably wouldn't have been as effective or could have created tensions between you and friends if they had helped you. I know when my sister has helped me with decluttering, I totally hate it. She is far more cut throat and ruthless than me, and I feel like I am being judged. I am a bit of a hoarder and one of my goals this year (2023) is to declutter more and have spaces in my home beautifully organised so that I can easily find things. Some areas are and some aren't, but I have a long way to go with systemising or making things easy to find. There is nothing worse than getting frustrated, let alone wasting time, not being able to find the thing 😀
Thank you for showing You with the good bits and the areas for growth. It is refreshing and your positivity and joy for what this decluttering did was a joy to watch.
Loved this and look forward to hearing Gia's gems (it think that's what you said). I am new to your channel. Thank you again for what you shared. 🙏💕
At 65, you and your professional organizer taught me several things. I’ve been considering this for years. I’m very grateful that I found your channel. How completely true that you need to follow your path and passions and let those with other strengths help you be your best self. Your intelligence makes you worthy of making your own decisions. 🤗🎉🤗
You are a huge inspiration! The organizer is much more than just a person who takes things away like your friends would do. She walks you thru the process of letting go and grieving the time you spent with each item. So moving forward you have the skills to not only keep your home organized but being confident in making decisions faster and letting go. Friends cannot teach you that by simply taking your things away…
My friends don't have the energy time nor expertise to be this detailed to organize. They're all my age, tired etc. Wow this is amazing! I love this idea because paying for the hour is motivation to focus and push through it. I've been trying to go through toys little by little and my gosh. So overwhelming. I have 4 kids, 3 are girls so my youngest daughter has a massive toy collection that has just become overwhelming.
Excellent point.
😬VERWHELMED....been there
If you think well it took x many years for it to get like this, its going to take time for it to be shrunk again, I find that helps. We want it sorted because it grows without noticing and then one day we trip over this mountain and say "where did you come from" 🤣. And our lives get more complications and distractions and the last thing we need is to be hampered by STUFF. So just keep chipping away at it, I've had several goes at multiple areas of the house and I'm still not done. I'm definitely eager for that day where I'm on to the maintenance phase. But each clear out is a victory.
First-time viewer, new subscriber. God knew I needed to see this. After finally looking into hiring a professional organizer, I began to question whether that process would be even more painful than continuing to plod along (rather fruitlessly, if I’m being honest) on my own. Thank you so very much for your honesty and insight. And for pointing out that God has given us ALL gifts to share-and that there should be NO shame in letting others share their gifts with us.
THIS! "...there should be NO shame in letting others share their gifts with us." Well said. : - )
As a Professional Organizer, I’m soooo happy to see and feel your experience! Sooo proud of you ❤️! Your organizer is simply amazing!
I'm stumbling across this while halfway through my own sessions with a Konmari organizer, and it's encouraging! I mean, I'm a single 32 y/o with roommates, so I've got a very different apartment space, but I've known for a very long time that organizing is not my strong suit LOL. I definitely have a lot of things, but my real struggle is that I have sentimental feelings about nearly every belonging and I'm just trying to get my room to a place with quieter emotions!
This was an extremely relatable video!! The overwhelm is so stressful. When we moved for my husband's job, the relocation benefit included a professional organizer and it was SO AMAZING. I never would've been able to pack up and move the house without her first helping me unload so much stuff. (My husband had already moved out for the job so I was on my own for the actual packing and moving. 😭)
Sis! You deserve this reset. She was well worth the cost & peace of mind. I JUST said to a friend this is my year of “finish the things”. This video was so on time. Thanks for sharing & being a light for others. 💛
Gia, I feel you have set yourself free by hiring help. I can feel such good vibes from this video. It’s actually motivating to me. I do stuff like this ok on my own I just need a boost. I’m so happy for you and the spaces look fantastic.
I never watch 30 min + videos but you engaged me emotionally (and then spiritually) through the whole thing. Good for you for walking this journey! 2022 was definitely survival mode for me so I felt you.
I truly appreciate your transparency and vulnerability! This has helped me know that I am NOT alone in my struggle and that it is ok to need & ask for help. 💜
I am so proud of you & happy!! I’m a gutter by nature. 61 y/o retired ICU RN for 30 yrs. So “high & tight” is my mantra. Girl!!! Your video brought me so much joy!! You hiring a professional organizer was gold!! You have your strengths & she has hers and you are so smart to self actualize that! Happy 40!! I promise age is a blessing & each year I learn something new.
I’m only 20 and do a lot of cleaning/cooking/organizing already for my family. I love this video because it encourages me to try and find what my strengths are and bless someone who has it as their weakness. Also to not feel like I have to be perfect at all these things and get help when I need it. God bless you and your family 💜
Thank you so much for making this! It’s showing us that it’s okay to ask for help and to even pay for it. In a world where mental health is struggling, we have to show that it’s okay to ask for help. ❤
As a newly certified organizational specislist, THANK YOU, for giving us credit for our profession. I am so proud of you, your family, your spaces, and for showing the real and that it can become a reality! Just as someone would pay a fitness trainer, nutrition coach, a housecleaner...we all need a little help sometimes! God gifts us in many different ways to bless each other. 🎉
Your kids play-hiding in the closet 😭is SO CUTE! What a fun & informative video. As someone who does professional cleaning & organizational help, I find it SO important for everyone to take a step back from their judgment of others' spaces. Everyone has something they wish to change in their home system. Compassion goes so very far! ☺♥
You go, girl! Good on you for knowing your strengths and weaknesses and getting help when you need it. We all have something we're good and not good at. Instead of burning yourself out, you hired someone to come help you, and now you have a calmer, stress free home 🙏
Thank you for supporting Professional Organizers and what we do! You would be surprised by how many people take our work for granted. It's a form of therapy for many and really helps turn things in a positive way. Looking forward to listening to the podcast ...😉
Girl. It’s true. Just turned 40 in Oct. and I’m now on this journey and learning so much about decluttering etc. I’m just ready to get rid of the nonsense.
I can’t begin to tell you all of the gems I got from this video. But the one that spoke to me was it’s never too late to start the thing you’ve been putting off. Amen. I’m right there. Congratulations!!! There is nothing better than a decluttered living space. ❤
I was looking for audiobooks from the library to listen to while I crocheted a few years ago and came across Marie Kondo's book. I took a week to follow her method and it absolutely changed my family's lives. The feeling of having everything so organized and accessable, and knowing that everything in my home is useful instead of useless clutter, feels so freeing.
Yes, having a good friend who KNOWS what to do to help would be great. For the rest of us Hiring a professional is the best option. No one is good at everything and sometimes we have too many obligations, work, family, etc. I’m thankful I found your channel today and am now encouraged to start the journey myself. Thank you for being transparent and encouraging us to start somewhere.
As someone who is that friend, naturally tidy and likes to organise, I do think that sometimes having an external person is still the best. I have offered several friends help, but I think they feel bad and ashamed BECAUSE we are friends. I totally do not judge them and want to help them because I love them and it’s honestly not a chore to me (and they also help me with other things I am not good at) but I do understand that hiring a stranger can also have benefits.
Loves this mini series! If I could be a full time declutterer I would, I love it! If I were closer I would help you for free but it's awesome you had this help and so glad you enjoyed ❤️❤️
I wish you lived closer friend! Thanks so much for watching!
Oh my goodness! You sound like me! I can crunch numbers, make budgets, see trends, etc. so much so that I have my own bookkeeping company. Seeing a mess in my home absolutely paralyzes me. It’s like I don’t know what to do, where to start, nothing. I’ve been wanting to hire a housekeeper just to keep up with the things I can’t keep up with, but really I need a professional organizer. My dh hasn’t wanted to have someone come into our home to help. He keeps saying we can do it ourselves. I’m going to show him your two videos and hope for the best! From another 40yo to another, Thank you!!
Brilliant.. your house looks fantastic! Well done for getting help.
I have been doing whole house declutters since Jan 2017, when my (now) ex moved out. I found the house overwhelming for years with kids, job, marriage etc..
The first year (2017) was separating our 17yrs of life together. I packed 90 boxes of his stuff. He still has to pick up 50. In 2018 I decluttered my stuff, my kids and my joint stuff and the kids stuff with them.
In 2019 I did the attic, garden shed and the house a 2nd time. And organised memory stuff (except digital photos)
I haven't done any declutter since 2019.... this year i will do another whole house declutter... I can't wait. I also need to donate and sell stuff.
Keep going... you seem to have the "declutter bug" which is so great!
Congratulations! I was brought up to be independent, and I am eternally grateful. It was difficult for me to realize that I don't have to know how to do everything and that's its ok to ask for help. I'm glad you are at that point and can pass down this to your daughter's. And kudos to your husband for supporting your decision.
Asking for help is strength. We all have different skill sets as you say and some things are just weaknesses. Clearing your spaces are so freeing, and you're already reaping the benefits of the journey so far! Your beautiful family are also benefitting from your new found freedom too! It is definitely worth it!
I'm proud of you!! That was an investment into not only you, but your family as well. I had a friend tell me in 2022 that hiring someone to help you aids you in freeing up some of your time and saves some of your sanity!!! Thank you so much for sharing this with us!! Drop those Gems!!!❤❤❤❤
Obviously this profession is needed....Ppl need ppl and if giving assistance to someone to declutter their home helps bring them peace of mind.....then bring it on!
Your home looks really clean and organized 👌. My Grandma was a house cleaner and would clean ppls homes who couldn't do it. She did this in retirement. So my cleaning skills come from her. Looks really nice!!! Joan ❤❤❤
This popped up on my RUclips homepage and I watched it because I love organizing. Good for you! I love your personality and I applaud you for hiring someone to solve your problem. It takes strength and humility to accept and share openly what we are not good at that other people are. And by doing so, you've set very good example for your girls. Bravo!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
"It is not to late to do whatever it is that you want to do."
I'm in my 30s but really needed to hear that today. Thank you.
Oh my gosh, don't be so harsh on yourself. Previous generations also weren't exposed to the mass production of stuff, and credit cards, that we are now. I think you did great! And it's so beneficial to see how individual people process obstacles, goals and gifts. Thank you for sharing.
That was money well spent! So happy for you Jia. Keeping your possessions minimal and curated really makes life easier in so many ways, less to manage.
You can be a strong woman AND ask for help. You did awesome! Can’t wait for the kitchen and master. ❤
I really appreciate the way you discussed strengths and weaknesses. I am at a place where I am recognizing that organization and tidying are weaknesses of mine and asking for help has been amazing. I am blessed with a friend who is an amazing organizer and one day with her help seriously changed my life. I am so glad your organizer was able to help you so much! Thanks for sharing :)
I’m in love with the changes! She was worth every penny!! Can’t wait to see your master bedroom reorganized.