This is such an important message. The unspeakable stigma needs to end so that people don't need to be ashamed, hide their addictions and cope with them fully on their own instead of looking for help, connecting with other people to talk about it openly.
Especially your own loved ones... the hardest thing by far in my recovery was sharing the secret I’d kept for 3 years with my father and step mother... was a Saturday night so they were both intoxicated when I told them.... (they both work full time and whenever they’re not working they are drunk... together they kill 1 gallon of whiskey per week)... to my relief they showed only sympathy, love and support... we cried together over the phone and for the first time... I felt truly loved ... my dad promised to take me to treatment that Monday.... but the next day... when they were sober (cranky and hung over)... I called them first thing to discuss the plan... But this time... I was met with only anger... their disappointment in me was made clear and their disbelief gave way to insults, criticisms, and resentment. I never stole from them (or anyone else), never manipulated them for $.... I had lied extensively... but only to preserve their approval of me... the pain that came with this phone call... whew.... it was all that I feared it would be... devastated my spirit I immediately drove straight to the dope dealer & got twice the size bag I usually would... recklessly did the whole two days worth in one sitting... and it would be another 2-3 years before I would get clean.... Please - if anyone has read this - thank you for your time- but please understand that addicts need love more than you can imagine.... giving up a drug that serves as comfort/sense of security ... Will leave a massive void in someone... the only thing that can fill this kind of void - is compassion, tender action, and kindness - RESPECT AN ADDICT WHO ADMITS THEIR BEHAVIOR IS WRONG & WHO IS READY TO GET HELP- YOU MAY ONLY GET ONCE CHANCE AND THE WAY YOU REACT MAY BE THE ONLY THING THAT SAVES THEIR LIFE
I just spend an hour telling my story because this comment made me cry. My phone glitched and it all erased. It would have taken 45 minutes to read it all so maybe it’s for the best. I dream of someone caring the way I care but I don’t feel like there is many people like me out there anymore.
I know the feeling all to well, childhood trauma unable to manage extreme emotions. Turned to drugs to cope, but I have to much to lose to speak up about it
My addiction problem makes me look so bad and totally affects my life and jobs. It sucks! I know my traumas did this to me. They always say, ‘don’t blame other things’ but something mental is definitely going on. I can feel it. That’s why it pisses me off when I see people abusing kids. It’s so easy to destroy a kids life.
i’m a child of an addict... i saw my dad do crack. at the age of 6 i already knew that my dad wouldn’t be in my life for long...my dad was in a horrible car accident that triggered that something... by the age of 8 i saw my dad get attested... my dad wasn’t resisting, but the way they treated him in front of me makes me terrified of cops... it’s the most traumatic thing i’ve experienced... after that my dad came back he seems normal, he was in life for 7 years he was sober... but last year on october 20th he got very end and emotional... i was going home on the 21st and i got a call from my mom telling me that my dad was on the run, it was so painful... it’s the hardest thing watching someone change... and i don’t think people understand how bad it effects the kids... the cops didn’t even ask if i was ok... i miss him every day
It is horrible how 12 step groups add to the shame and stigmatization of addicts through their one size fits all approach. Im speaking from experience and when I left 12 steps, I found freedom, confidence, and moderation
My mom treated me with aggression since i was a baby, the world never felt safe enough and everyone just tells me i need to move on and stop drinking, stop self harming, stop killing myself, but... Nothing helps. It only gets worse since i have bipolar and tons of other mental illness, i wish therapy could help but its not doing it
This is what I'm going through now I relapsed this year and I'm clean again 2months but on subi and scared I'll relapse again in my trauma is a big part of it
This explains why this started after my accident my frontal lobe is damaged. To this day there is severe nerve damage n it's numb due to the head trauma. I mean I went to school for this stuff but I thought it was very hereditary genetic huge role in Cycles
Once we realize we have an addiction it is our responsibility to find the root cause (traumatic pathways) and go about changing. At that point it is our choice. My choice.
I'm autistic, I have cerebral palsy, I have brain damage, I have many other disabilities 12 of them in fact. My disabilities were very visible from birth, in school, college and onward to today. I drank beer and cheap wine with my big fatboy brother from another mother in my basement. My brother was 6 feet 6 inches tall in 10th grade so he could buy us booze when we were underage. We'd drink till we were drunk as fish on the weekends and during the Summer only! I never once got addicted to alcohol. I had an operation on both feet called a bi-lateral triple arthrodesis which bloody hurt like heck. I was on pain medicine for 3 years as it took 5 surgeries to repair my feet enough for me to walk. I had lots of pain meds during that time including Morphine, Darvon N-100 and more. I felt myself liking the Darvon N-100 too much so I threw it down the sewer. I started needed that medicine so much I went back to the sewer to try to fish it out. At that time I figured I might be addicted. Scared me to DEATH REALIZING MY MIGHT BECOME AN ADDICT so I just went back home laid in my bed and sweated like a pig, had chills, couldn't sleep but also could not get up and do anything except go to the bathroom. Eventually the fevers broke, the chills subsided, I stopped feeling like I was stomped by big foot. I swore I'd never take another pain pill again because they are not worth it. If you don't want to activate the downward life consuming spiral called addiction then don't start using addictive substances in the first place.
The problem is ppl with no problem besides say pain, are prescribed these substances to let their body heal from the pain. There’s a reward center from taking pain meds and ppl get addicted to the reward and less pain.
It is easy to say just don’t do it, but the reality is that people have been using drugs recreationally and illicitly since before opioids were being made. The truth is that people are going to do drugs, and if education and support for people that become addicted was accessible, there would be a huge downswing in the percentage of people suffering, homeless or dead. If our government cared about us, the “war on drugs” would’ve never happened. Unfortunately, everything is for profit. And they make way more $$ peddling drugs to people just for them to usually end up homeless, incarcerated or dead. They win, we lose, and then they peddle the narrative that addiction is all will power which we just saw it isn’t. Life would be so much easier if no one had access to these drugs and could never do them in the first place. That will never be our reality, and understanding addiction & having access to resources like housing, jobs, counseling, etc. Is what truly would help more people be able to recover
People think addiction is a choice. They think it is a sin. They think it is a moral failing. They think addicts are criminals who should be locked in cages.
The stigma is that people with addictions are untouchables, in a way. Families cut themselves off from their loved ones because they don't know how to cope with the behavior of the addicted family member. Because the stigma is so very prevalent in this society, people go to great lengths to keep their addictions secret. But once the problem becomes severe there is no longer any hiding.
Mushrooms are great in some specific situations but it is dangerous to paint them like a wonder drug. They gave me and many other psychotic episodes. You need to have a deep respect and be informed when chosing to use it.
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This is such an important message. The unspeakable stigma needs to end so that people don't need to be ashamed, hide their addictions and cope with them fully on their own instead of looking for help, connecting with other people to talk about it openly.
Especially your own loved ones... the hardest thing by far in my recovery was sharing the secret I’d kept for 3 years with my father and step mother... was a Saturday night so they were both intoxicated when I told them.... (they both work full time and whenever they’re not working they are drunk... together they kill 1 gallon of whiskey per week)... to my relief they showed only sympathy, love and support... we cried together over the phone and for the first time... I felt truly loved ... my dad promised to take me to treatment that Monday.... but the next day... when they were sober (cranky and hung over)... I called them first thing to discuss the plan... But this time... I was met with only anger... their disappointment in me was made clear and their disbelief gave way to insults, criticisms, and resentment. I never stole from them (or anyone else), never manipulated them for $.... I had lied extensively... but only to preserve their approval of me... the pain that came with this phone call... whew.... it was all that I feared it would be... devastated my spirit
I immediately drove straight to the dope dealer & got twice the size bag I usually would... recklessly did the whole two days worth in one sitting... and it would be another 2-3 years before I would get clean....
Please - if anyone has read this - thank you for your time- but please understand that addicts need love more than you can imagine.... giving up a drug that serves as comfort/sense of security ... Will leave a massive void in someone... the only thing that can fill this kind of void - is compassion, tender action, and kindness - RESPECT AN ADDICT WHO ADMITS THEIR BEHAVIOR IS WRONG & WHO IS READY TO GET HELP- YOU MAY ONLY GET ONCE CHANCE AND THE WAY YOU REACT MAY BE THE ONLY THING THAT SAVES THEIR LIFE
I just spend an hour telling my story because this comment made me cry. My phone glitched and it all erased. It would have taken 45 minutes to read it all so maybe it’s for the best. I dream of someone caring the way I care but I don’t feel like there is many people like me out there anymore.
I know the feeling all to well, childhood trauma unable to manage extreme emotions. Turned to drugs to cope, but I have to much to lose to speak up about it
My addiction problem makes me look so bad and totally affects my life and jobs. It sucks! I know my traumas did this to me. They always say, ‘don’t blame other things’ but something mental is definitely going on. I can feel it.
That’s why it pisses me off when I see people abusing kids. It’s so easy to destroy a kids life.
I can relate aswell. People don’t understand how emotionally deep we can get
i’m a child of an addict... i saw my dad do crack. at the age of 6 i already knew that my dad wouldn’t be in my life for long...my dad was in a horrible car accident that triggered that something... by the age of 8 i saw my dad get attested... my dad wasn’t resisting, but the way they treated him in front of me makes me terrified of cops... it’s the most traumatic thing i’ve experienced... after that my dad came back he seems normal, he was in life for 7 years he was sober... but last year on october 20th he got very end and emotional... i was going home on the 21st and i got a call from my mom telling me that my dad was on the run, it was so painful... it’s the hardest thing watching someone change... and i don’t think people understand how bad it effects the kids... the cops didn’t even ask if i was ok... i miss him every day
It is horrible how 12 step groups add to the shame and stigmatization of addicts through their one size fits all approach. Im speaking from experience and when I left 12 steps, I found freedom, confidence, and moderation
I really hope that you have smothered your issues with this. You deserve happy.
@@PianoBangBang agree and well done on the healing
My mom treated me with aggression since i was a baby, the world never felt safe enough and everyone just tells me i need to move on and stop drinking, stop self harming, stop killing myself, but... Nothing helps. It only gets worse since i have bipolar and tons of other mental illness, i wish therapy could help but its not doing it
I needed to watch this
Great information! Great video!
This is what I'm going through now I relapsed this year and I'm clean again 2months but on subi and scared I'll relapse again in my trauma is a big part of it
Wow very educational
This explains why this started after my accident my frontal lobe is damaged. To this day there is severe nerve damage n it's numb due to the head trauma. I mean I went to school for this stuff but I thought it was very hereditary genetic huge role in Cycles
Once we realize we have an addiction it is our responsibility to find the root cause (traumatic pathways) and go about changing. At that point it is our choice.
My choice.
I'm autistic, I have cerebral palsy, I have brain damage, I have many other disabilities 12 of them in fact. My disabilities were very visible from birth, in school, college and onward to today. I drank beer and cheap wine with my big fatboy brother from another mother in my basement. My brother was 6 feet 6 inches tall in 10th grade so he could buy us booze when we were underage. We'd drink till we were drunk as fish on the weekends and during the Summer only! I never once got addicted to alcohol. I had an operation on both feet called a bi-lateral triple arthrodesis which bloody hurt like heck. I was on pain medicine for 3 years as it took 5 surgeries to repair my feet enough for me to walk. I had lots of pain meds during that time including Morphine, Darvon N-100 and more. I felt myself liking the Darvon N-100 too much so I threw it down the sewer. I started needed that medicine so much I went back to the sewer to try to fish it out. At that time I figured I might be addicted. Scared me to DEATH REALIZING MY MIGHT BECOME AN ADDICT so I just went back home laid in my bed and sweated like a pig, had chills, couldn't sleep but also could not get up and do anything except go to the bathroom.
Eventually the fevers broke, the chills subsided, I stopped feeling like I was stomped by big foot. I swore I'd never take another pain pill again because they are not worth it. If you don't want to activate the downward life consuming spiral called addiction then don't start using addictive substances in the first place.
The problem is ppl with no problem besides say pain, are prescribed these substances to let their body heal from the pain. There’s a reward center from taking pain meds and ppl get addicted to the reward and less pain.
It is easy to say just don’t do it, but the reality is that people have been using drugs recreationally and illicitly since before opioids were being made. The truth is that people are going to do drugs, and if education and support for people that become addicted was accessible, there would be a huge downswing in the percentage of people suffering, homeless or dead. If our government cared about us, the “war on drugs” would’ve never happened. Unfortunately, everything is for profit. And they make way more $$ peddling drugs to people just for them to usually end up homeless, incarcerated or dead. They win, we lose, and then they peddle the narrative that addiction is all will power which we just saw it isn’t. Life would be so much easier if no one had access to these drugs and could never do them in the first place. That will never be our reality, and understanding addiction & having access to resources like housing, jobs, counseling, etc. Is what truly would help more people be able to recover
This was me in the 90's. To a tee. I had a choice. Quit drinking or end up dead.
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Hye..I'm doing research about stigma towards addiction survivor..Can I know the thought about stigma?
People think addiction is a choice. They think it is a sin. They think it is a moral failing. They think addicts are criminals who should be locked in cages.
Thanks a lot for giving me your thought..👍👍👍
Stigma = loneliness.
The stigma is that people with addictions are untouchables, in a way. Families cut themselves off from their loved ones because they don't know how to cope with the behavior of the addicted family member.
Because the stigma is so very prevalent in this society, people go to great lengths to keep their addictions secret. But once the problem becomes severe there is no longer any hiding.
@@kamivelasquez3119 Thanks a lot for your respond
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Opinion: Mushrooms are much better and far more beneficial than alcohol. By fact, far less dangerous.
Mushrooms are great in some specific situations but it is dangerous to paint them like a wonder drug. They gave me and many other psychotic episodes. You need to have a deep respect and be informed when chosing to use it.