as a goth dude with a few ex girlfriends who is goth, i feel like the "you wont like goths because of this and that" always point towards the perks, never the stuff like hair dye stains or having to spend ages unbuckling boots and removing accessories. also to any guy wanting to date a goth, if you think baggy pants or listening to a band for their sake is gonna do the trick, you are a shallow person with less depth than a puddle.
Imagine if they knew that "goth girlfriend" is just a girlfriend that listens to goth music 🤯.... but fr, it's wild how ppl ftshize the gothic girls ☠️
Yup you hit the nail on the Head in 2011 when i started to shift towards the Goth side of the world. I wanted a Goth Girlfriend for that exact reason. I knew I would find some one who was going to like similar music to me.
I live in the south so catch me in beige cargo shorts and a muscle tank top😭on god I wanna dress up but in this weather?? Bro my thighs get glued to seats. Uh uh.
Or they just don't know the general "labels" of what certain alt styles & subcultures are. LOL I'm trad goth/grunge and people.. both genders, have mistaken me for "egirl" when I look nothing like that and I don't fw any social media platforms nor do I make money like that. 😭🤣🤦🏻♀️ People are just dumb.
it goes both ways in some cases tbh! Im a deathcore vocalist and alot of times super Vanilla girls/country girls will wanna date/talk to me for like a few days cause of trends and then get reallllll upset when they see that im not even close to that in irl. Like im not a legit "metal head", I just sing that genre. My go to bands is straight up feel good party house music and indie stuff lol xD
@@Lobodenoche2400 grunge stems from the late 80s and 90s its based of off grunge music from then such as nirvana, soundgarden, pearl jam, alice in chains etc. id say its a sub culture of punk in a way cuz it a lot of the grunge icons like kurt cobain have punk roots ( and as someone who also falls in the grunge category i also have punk roots)
A a female goth; Those memes about us are very weird indeed, and it especially scares me when those dudes start talking about choking goth women without their consent (yes, some of them actually make crazy posts like that, and yes, they've definitely got a couple of screws loose). At times, it makes me curse the fact that I don't exacty have an A-cup; I usually dress quite modestly (at the time of posting this, I legit only own one short that the tiniest bit low cut), but I've honestly found myself covering up even more than usual since I knew those memes existed. I know I should be able to wear whatever the heck I want, but sometimes I see something tight or low-cut when I'm shopping for clothes online and think 'It's cute and very much my aesthetic, but I'm definitely going to get harassed in this'. I mean, one of those 'big t*ddy goth gf' morons legit catcalled me irl before, so clearly they carry those stupid attitudes of theirs over to real life as well. Also, from that perspective... It's not just high school boys with those stupid attitudes towards goth women; I'm 30 years old (I still kind of look like I'm in my mid- to late 20's, though), and that guy who made me walk a little faster at the time legit was around my age.
It's almost always emo, e-girl, punk, or some sort of alt fashion instead of goth (also goth is literally a music-based subculture, not a fashion trend which they don't seem to understand) Also because goth is a music-based subculture you just need to ask for their playlist or a list of bands they listen to. Heck, I've even heard stories of goths exchanging cassettes and stuff to get to know each other. It's so simple
yeah but even here e-girl is the only one who isn't a music genre like we don't mind people dressing without listening to the music even if its sad cause you could share but its mostly people who wants something out of the blue and know nothing about it, its just normalizing women as objects plus the link goth=big teddies like wow ok
Honestly I hate the assumption that we are all mentally ill and/or neurodivergent. Not because it’s shameful or because I don’t have my own mental health history, but because it’s shitty to assume this if someone has not specifically shared their diagnosis. Plus, people seem to target us because they assume we will be mentally unstable and therefore willing to excuse their own toxic bullshit. Also, whether people want to admit it or not, it’s actually healthy to keep your diagnosis to yourself and close people if you aren’t trying to educate people with your platform, because society still reduces people to their diagnosis. It sucks but it happens, and honestly, it just feels so good to not share every private detail with other people. When mainstream society assumes we are all mentally ill, they often assume they are entitled to knowing about our mental illness even if we have never given them any legit reason to think we have one. I’ve had strangers ask me if I have ‘something wrong with me’ or if I was ‘molested as a kid’ without even asking my name, and that is beyond fucking rude. Also, you can find just as many people with mental illness diagnoses and symptoms in any scene. We just create a better environment for people with diagnoses, to a degree. At least, we did until recently, before this whole ‘alt/goth = ND/mentally ill, lol. It’s so cute’ trend online. We don’t push people to share what they don’t want. We don’t tell them meds are poison or that therapy is a waste of money when they say they want help. We at least used to not define them by their diagnosis if they chose to share it with us, and we respected their right to share or not by not telling everyone ‘oh, they have this diagnosis so that’s why they are like that.’ But the biggest concern is that, like I said and one video addressed, people want us to be unstable for their own toxic relationship fantasies, and that is bad!
i was recently walking outside full goth with makeup and bats nest hair and a dude like 14 years old just picked up a huge pile of snow and when i walked past him he just kind of politely asked me 'You want a snowball?' and threw it genty at me. I'm still unsure if that was an attempt of bullying or what
since he was being polite and didn't *throw* the thing at you, i think that was his own albeit awkward way of expressing his interest, as kids will do. he just saw something different, maybe even liked it, and wanted to do or say something about it haha
This reminds me of how throwing an apple to someone used to be a marriage proposal, or awkward neurodivergent pebbling. So I think he was just enamored with you. 😂
Only just now realising I'm technically goth. I don't dress or do my makeup in a "gothly" way, though I have been wanting to experiment with my makeup more. However, I do enjoy goth music, even though I'm fairly new to the genre. Most of my clothes are black too, largely unintentional lol
I'm a kawaii girl who happenes to like goth music ( not the style ) i was either doubted to be goth or asked (or better to say begged ) to dress goth by creep men. What can i say except i empathise with y'all 💗
Saying this as goth myself, the best way to get a goth gf is probably treating them like a actual person and not a prestige object (like being with a goth to brag about it) , trying to learn about their hobbies and interests. I’m pretty sure most goth prefer to be with other goths, Incase u are not goth and want to be with someone who is goth give them the freedom to talk about their favourite bands. Just be yourself with them you don’t have to be interested in exactly the same things your partner is interested in. Treat them the way you would treat others too. Love y’all
loved the video girly! im sick and tired of those tiktoks, since then my comments on tiktok have been mostly these 13 year boys who love “goths” but hate when we wear a full face!
Some of what you said is why I tell my friends they're wrong when they insist on calling me goth. Sure, I love the clothing and I really love vampires & vampire folklore, and enjoy horror movies, but I don't listen to the music - my favorite artists are people like Barry Manilow and Sammy Davis Jr - I *can't* do the makeup as I'm terrible at makeup plus I haven't found any eye makeup I can wear that doesn't make my eyes itch, burn, and water. (Best I can do is put foundation on/around my eyes and I can use the Manic Panic face paint around them, but if I get the setting powder in my eyes, forget it.) I've never been to a goth club. (Granted, I've never been to any club.) Granted, I always wanted to dress goth, specifically Victorian goth, but mom wouldn't let me as a kid so I'm only embracing my goth tendencies as a middle-aged woman, but the most I'd call myself is "Goth Light" or maybe "Diet Goth."
Liking Evanescence is totally fine. I was the alternative punk/goth kid that liked KoRn. But then when I got bored of popular bands it turned out I loved industrial and all the underground cybergoth music, so I just grew up into being goth more and more over time.
This whole trend is both interesting and horrifying and Ive realised that a lot of the time they dont actually want a goth gf they just want the aesthetic of someone who they deem attractive (so not too extreme fashion) and like the idea that they could make them into a more "normal looking' person 🙃
Ok, who the heck is Lil Peep? O_o But seriously, I'm really glad I've got a supportive bf who isn't dating me *because* I'm goth but for me being me while also supporting me in my gothness as well as when I look more casual. If someone specifically wants a 'goth gf' without having any interest in our music and culture, it's kind of a red flag, I think. Plus, why would I want to be with someone who was going to tell me to tone it down like they were someone's oppresive parent or sth? Or to spice it up because I don't look 'goth enough' 24/7? Or someone who would get annoyed with me for blasting some Corpus Delicti while I'm getting ready in the bathroom? It's like you say; which one do you want?
I love this series a guy does called “How to Keep Your Goth Witch Girlfriend Happy” I have no idea why I love it but I do not sure if anyone here would like it
I’ve said it before but with this trend but I feel like I have to continue to explain myself. I am a goth metalhead myself, and I want a girlfriend that I can enjoy metal and goth music with. I fallen in love with the music and culture which is why I want to love someone who also loves the music and culture. The trend of guys thirsting over alt girls makes me angry because it drowns out the genuine individuals.
I remember in 9th grade when I discovered my style and music taste. I wear bold eyeliner but a normal base (besides a very bronze nose contour and blushed cheeks bc I like the look). I wear eclectic mixes of streetwear, vintage items, edgy pieces, and I like to do casual-chic looks on days that I wanna be comfortable. I tend to wear darker colors and cool colors (red being the exception) because that's just the pallette that I pull off best and I wear a lot of silver, bulky jewelry (i layer a lot of my jewelry too), lots of chains, combat boots, platforms, or converse, and my hair is naturally very dark, thick, and I keep it long with curtain bangs. I'm also naturally pale, I have a hard time finding foundations that aren't too dark bc I'm so pale lol. I got called EMO. THAT IS NOWHERE NEAR EMO. I don't listen to emo music either (besides MCR)!!! I listen to soft rock, alternative rock, pop-punk, pop-rock, a few mainstream pop songs, and metal. They saw eyeliner, dark colors, and chains and ran with it. That's not emo, it's more like alternative & grunge. It's not emo and it's not goth and my classmates were honestly embarrassing themselves by calling me that when that's not what emo or goth is.
I say alternative because it consists of emo, goth, grunge, hip-hop, and punk and I kinda combine pieces that are associated with each of those sub-cultures. I listen to music that's associated with many subcultures. I'm indecisive so I switch it up or combine things but I'm not full on emo and I'm not even CLOSE to goth.
This is how an advanced alien mind might experience reality: When I say alien, I mean REALLY alien. Ways of cognizing reality which the human mind cannot imagine. An advanced alien mind would represent things to itself in very unusually, multi-dimensional, highly abstract and visionary ways. What the above represents is not just a different mode of perception, it's a different mode of cognition - a cognition so powerful it thinks in a multi-dimensional visual abstractions. Human thinking is mostly linear, sequential, and verbal, with very vague visuals. But if your cognition was seriously advanced it would start to look like the video above. It's a quantum leap in consciousness.
9:13 I didn't knew that Molchat Doma's music is considered as gothic by some goths. Interesting, cause I'm listening to a Post Punk and Metal a lot, and I've never heard opinion like that before.
The goth (and other subcultures) are about the music first and foremost. While my aesthetic leans to trad goth, I don't listen to much goth music but rather heavy metal. And while I'm older (I could be your mom), I'd still call my style of dress alt. I gave up on makeup and jewelry some years ago because I work from home not showing my face and don't get out much, lol. But I'm tattooed, wear a lot of band T's and jeans, and Docs or Vans. My office is a whole different story. I've had beautiful photos I've taken at cemetaries (of mausoleums or headstones) blown up as my wall art, plenty of goth type stuff, bones, witchy, and occult books, etc. Idk what to call myself other than an alt dressing metal head I guess, lol.
The music is exactly why I don't identify as goth. Yeah i wear a lot of black and enjoy spookier things but i don't much identify with the music. I'm just a spooky nerd
I’ve never gotten the trend like I appreciate goth makeup and clothes think it’s gorgeous just not for me but once again I’m a raging lesbian not a cishet man so idk what’s going on in there brain like I love fellow alt girls period I hate people who gatekeep subcultures like it’s a SUBCULTURE not an aesthetic or trend etc For example I’m a gyaru and it’s like TikTok “gals” who think it’s just an aesthetic. nah don’t worry about dancing parapara, listening to Eurobeat, speaking gyaru slang, etc it’s just the makeup/hair/clothes 💀💀
I can't understand the bark reaction... Thankfully I've never experienced it, but really, why do they do it? What is even the root-thought behind it? At least many other stupid behaviours have a logic soaked in stereotypes behind them.
Simple they just don’t know the cultures, uneducated. Most of them do not care about goth girls but actual degenerates would hardcore fetishize goth girls. I knew a dude who was a complete ass of a human. He made humiliating jokes about his friends group and a goth girl, they were very sexual towards her. But when a joke was made towards him, he’d get angry, same joke he used for others by the way.
I love goth music, and have always been in macabre things, but don't dress gothic. It sucks because I'm not alt looking enough to fit in with the alt kids, but too alt to fit in with the normies.
I’m goth, have been for maybe three years. So still a baby bat. my bf has never once fetishized me, and could never understand why men do that. I’ve been barked at, called emo, etc. and it’s annoying. also been asked where my ‘big t1tt1es’ are bc ‘all goth girls have them’ ……
I'll be honest, I was recently wooed by someone who reintroduced me to Deftones, lmfao. I don't go on Tiktok or whatever, and I don't think of them as goth, but they do make some damn good music. They ended up my #1 this year on Spotify, lol.
as a goth i dated a guy that made jokes abt him finally getting a goth gf with big tits and all that stuff and he was a lil peep fan and unfortunatly i rly liked him so i pretended to love lil peep, i fucking hate lil peep lmfao
I wanna know how many goths, like goth goth are autistic/and or neurodivergent, like the 'real weirdos" seem to be Neurodivergent (and yes Im like a pull string toy with this by now as I ask this alot)
If I were to woo or obtain a goth girlfriend, I would take dates in Cemeteries and local parks near Food Carts... go to Horror Movies and Farms with Horror Cornfield rides. I'd write cheesy emo/gothic poetry (Which I got my English Degree with) and also I happen to actually BE a Male Goth. These normies who happen to Glamorize Peep and or Ghostmane and Deftones are highly embarrassing. I see this on IG and TikTok in reels and stories and I can identify with the girlies on this, like stop embarrassing yourselves boys you just seem obsessively taken yet condescending to all Alt types.
I may be a Cliche but I can easily identify myself/and others as that... a Cliche or Stereotype of a Real Goth, I may like certain bands and metal bands too... but Goth and Punk stuff was my first love. Then the opposite Gender that can appreciate it too... then who ever I wind up dating, you're in!! You're a Goth Alt Type like myself! Never settle for suicide squad lil peep imitations.
coming from a non goth, i think goth people are pretty. do i specifically only want to date them? no. would i want to date them? yes. i’m not weird about it though. also i don’t mean e girls i mean actual goths
So is okay to be blonde and want be goth?? I love the music and romantic goth style so I am just asking if I must to have like black hair or some specificks things!
I mean, as a guy that is appreciating the esthetic. But also is a basic bitch so leaning more towards egirl esthetic. It's just a look. It's hot and all. But it's still a person, so I'm gonna treat them like a person and base if I like them on being a person. I mean I literally love it when ones appearance and personality don't match at all so I would even prefer it if they weren't stereotypical goth
I dress not very Gothic I dress like a cholo in a lot black but I've always been into the macob and accult and death so always gravitated to the dark Gothic stuff like I'll collect deer bones for indigenous crafts and I like mixing Gothic themes into indigenous art pr chicano art
They mention lil peep often? Is he really that liked... thought he was more emo. I am goth always loved the music, the literature, art. I dont dress all in black as i get bored or high temperature anyway back when i was in high school i was beat up and bullied for it now its all online like its cool. Its a fetish now.
I feel like i dont even know what goth is at this point. Because ill look at a "gothic" cathedral or ill look at someone who dresses "goth" or listens to "goth" music, and im just perplexed bc there are so many people saying that isnt goth and x is actually goth. I used to identify as goth, because i wear eyeliner, rarely black lipstick, i listen to dark music, and wear lots of black and like creepy things, but now im like, shit, im just a person? Im just a person i think i DONT WANT THE CHEDDAR THATS ALL IM SAYING
if a girl has black hair, bangs, and a little bit of eyeliner they are now a goth mommy in boys logic.
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as a goth dude with a few ex girlfriends who is goth, i feel like the "you wont like goths because of this and that" always point towards the perks, never the stuff like hair dye stains or having to spend ages unbuckling boots and removing accessories. also to any guy wanting to date a goth, if you think baggy pants or listening to a band for their sake is gonna do the trick, you are a shallow person with less depth than a puddle.
The whole, "I want a Goth girlfriend" thing just shows how shallow people have become. I thinks its all a bit sad.
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I'd like a gf who is nice to me and we can do fun things together and we're emotionally compatible.
Them being goth would be a nice bonus😊
I want a a goth girlfriend 🗿
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Imagine if they knew that "goth girlfriend" is just a girlfriend that listens to goth music 🤯.... but fr, it's wild how ppl ftshize the gothic girls ☠️
Cuz there usually cool af and very pretty and chill to be with lol
Yup you hit the nail on the Head in 2011 when i started to shift towards the Goth side of the world. I wanted a Goth Girlfriend for that exact reason. I knew I would find some one who was going to like similar music to me.
We need more representation of goths who don't dress goth because they get really hot and hate wearing jewelry.
Me lol it's me 😂😭
That'd be me, I think I have undiagnosed temperature shit lol
As a fellow a Y’allternative the heat is what truly gets ya.
I live in the south so catch me in beige cargo shorts and a muscle tank top😭on god I wanna dress up but in this weather?? Bro my thighs get glued to seats. Uh uh.
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I'm an egirl and the amount of times I have been called a goth is insane. Boys will say they want goth gf's, but in actuality, they want an egirl 😭
Or they just don't know the general "labels" of what certain alt styles & subcultures are. LOL I'm trad goth/grunge and people.. both genders, have mistaken me for "egirl" when I look nothing like that and I don't fw any social media platforms nor do I make money like that. 😭🤣🤦🏻♀️ People are just dumb.
@@Batty_0666what is Grunge ?
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it goes both ways in some cases tbh! Im a deathcore vocalist and alot of times super Vanilla girls/country girls will wanna date/talk to me for like a few days cause of trends and then get reallllll upset when they see that im not even close to that in irl. Like im not a legit "metal head", I just sing that genre. My go to bands is straight up feel good party house music and indie stuff lol xD
@@Lobodenoche2400 grunge stems from the late 80s and 90s its based of off grunge music from then such as nirvana, soundgarden, pearl jam, alice in chains etc. id say its a sub culture of punk in a way cuz it a lot of the grunge icons like kurt cobain have punk roots
( and as someone who also falls in the grunge category i also have punk roots)
I hate this trend with a passion. its just says that "goth women should be only seen as a sexual figure". which is bullshit, and just wrong.
A a female goth; Those memes about us are very weird indeed, and it especially scares me when those dudes start talking about choking goth women without their consent (yes, some of them actually make crazy posts like that, and yes, they've definitely got a couple of screws loose). At times, it makes me curse the fact that I don't exacty have an A-cup; I usually dress quite modestly (at the time of posting this, I legit only own one short that the tiniest bit low cut), but I've honestly found myself covering up even more than usual since I knew those memes existed. I know I should be able to wear whatever the heck I want, but sometimes I see something tight or low-cut when I'm shopping for clothes online and think 'It's cute and very much my aesthetic, but I'm definitely going to get harassed in this'. I mean, one of those 'big t*ddy goth gf' morons legit catcalled me irl before, so clearly they carry those stupid attitudes of theirs over to real life as well. Also, from that perspective... It's not just high school boys with those stupid attitudes towards goth women; I'm 30 years old (I still kind of look like I'm in my mid- to late 20's, though), and that guy who made me walk a little faster at the time legit was around my age.
It's almost always emo, e-girl, punk, or some sort of alt fashion instead of goth (also goth is literally a music-based subculture, not a fashion trend which they don't seem to understand)
Also because goth is a music-based subculture you just need to ask for their playlist or a list of bands they listen to. Heck, I've even heard stories of goths exchanging cassettes and stuff to get to know each other. It's so simple
yeah but even here e-girl is the only one who isn't a music genre like we don't mind people dressing without listening to the music even if its sad cause you could share but its mostly people who wants something out of the blue and know nothing about it, its just normalizing women as objects plus the link goth=big teddies like wow ok
I feel like the big tiddy goth gf was finally dying off, then Tiktok brought it back. 🙄
GOTH girlfriend? bro i cant even get A girlfriend. 🙃
Never had an interest in tiktok.
Honestly I hate the assumption that we are all mentally ill and/or neurodivergent. Not because it’s shameful or because I don’t have my own mental health history, but because it’s shitty to assume this if someone has not specifically shared their diagnosis. Plus, people seem to target us because they assume we will be mentally unstable and therefore willing to excuse their own toxic bullshit. Also, whether people want to admit it or not, it’s actually healthy to keep your diagnosis to yourself and close people if you aren’t trying to educate people with your platform, because society still reduces people to their diagnosis. It sucks but it happens, and honestly, it just feels so good to not share every private detail with other people. When mainstream society assumes we are all mentally ill, they often assume they are entitled to knowing about our mental illness even if we have never given them any legit reason to think we have one. I’ve had strangers ask me if I have ‘something wrong with me’ or if I was ‘molested as a kid’ without even asking my name, and that is beyond fucking rude. Also, you can find just as many people with mental illness diagnoses and symptoms in any scene. We just create a better environment for people with diagnoses, to a degree. At least, we did until recently, before this whole ‘alt/goth = ND/mentally ill, lol. It’s so cute’ trend online. We don’t push people to share what they don’t want. We don’t tell them meds are poison or that therapy is a waste of money when they say they want help. We at least used to not define them by their diagnosis if they chose to share it with us, and we respected their right to share or not by not telling everyone ‘oh, they have this diagnosis so that’s why they are like that.’ But the biggest concern is that, like I said and one video addressed, people want us to be unstable for their own toxic relationship fantasies, and that is bad!
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i was recently walking outside full goth with makeup and bats nest hair and a dude like 14 years old just picked up a huge pile of snow and when i walked past him he just kind of politely asked me 'You want a snowball?' and threw it genty at me. I'm still unsure if that was an attempt of bullying or what
since he was being polite and didn't *throw* the thing at you, i think that was his own albeit awkward way of expressing his interest, as kids will do. he just saw something different, maybe even liked it, and wanted to do or say something about it haha
This reminds me of how throwing an apple to someone used to be a marriage proposal, or awkward neurodivergent pebbling. So I think he was just enamored with you. 😂
I FEEL SO BAD FOR U CUZ THEY ALWAYS BE SAYING THAT THATS NOT GOTH WHEN THEY SEE U
Only just now realising I'm technically goth. I don't dress or do my makeup in a "gothly" way, though I have been wanting to experiment with my makeup more. However, I do enjoy goth music, even though I'm fairly new to the genre. Most of my clothes are black too, largely unintentional lol
I'm goth bc my music taste, I wanna dress trad but I'm broke, I had a "I want a goth gf" bf and he dumped me bc I wasnt "goth enough" 💀
I'm a kawaii girl who happenes to like goth music ( not the style ) i was either doubted to be goth or asked (or better to say begged ) to dress goth by creep men. What can i say except i empathise with y'all 💗
I'm also a kawaii style girl and had an ex who always begged me to wear goth just because I wore it like twice.
Saying this as goth myself, the best way to get a goth gf is probably treating them like a actual person and not a prestige object (like being with a goth to brag about it) , trying to learn about their hobbies and interests. I’m pretty sure most goth prefer to be with other goths, Incase u are not goth and want to be with someone who is goth give them the freedom to talk about their favourite bands.
Just be yourself with them you don’t have to be interested in exactly the same things your partner is interested in. Treat them the way you would treat others too.
Love y’all
Everybody wants someone who’s crazy and obsesses over them until they date someone who’s crazy and obsessed over them
loved the video girly! im sick and tired of those tiktoks, since then my comments on tiktok have been mostly these 13 year boys who love “goths” but hate when we wear a full face!
"i don't feel like putting socks on, cuz if i puck socks on i gotta wash em" is probably the realest thing i have heard all year
Some of what you said is why I tell my friends they're wrong when they insist on calling me goth. Sure, I love the clothing and I really love vampires & vampire folklore, and enjoy horror movies, but I don't listen to the music - my favorite artists are people like Barry Manilow and Sammy Davis Jr - I *can't* do the makeup as I'm terrible at makeup plus I haven't found any eye makeup I can wear that doesn't make my eyes itch, burn, and water. (Best I can do is put foundation on/around my eyes and I can use the Manic Panic face paint around them, but if I get the setting powder in my eyes, forget it.) I've never been to a goth club. (Granted, I've never been to any club.)
Granted, I always wanted to dress goth, specifically Victorian goth, but mom wouldn't let me as a kid so I'm only embracing my goth tendencies as a middle-aged woman, but the most I'd call myself is "Goth Light" or maybe "Diet Goth."
Me as a goth watching this wearing Christmas elf socks lmfao
Reminds me of those "Goth Girls" so called that only listens to Deftones HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Liking Evanescence is totally fine. I was the alternative punk/goth kid that liked KoRn. But then when I got bored of popular bands it turned out I loved industrial and all the underground cybergoth music, so I just grew up into being goth more and more over time.
I don't know, I personally appreciate deftones 😅🤷♂️
It’s a good band it’s just not a goth band and it’s being labeled as one I listen to them a lot
HEY THATS ME IN THE VIDEO XD !!! 🖤🖤🖤
This whole trend is both interesting and horrifying and Ive realised that a lot of the time they dont actually want a goth gf they just want the aesthetic of someone who they deem attractive (so not too extreme fashion) and like the idea that they could make them into a more "normal looking' person 🙃
you're absolutely right.
Bro imma probably be binge watching your channel for today since I just found it but that jack skeleton doll is so cool I want them
Ok, who the heck is Lil Peep? O_o
But seriously, I'm really glad I've got a supportive bf who isn't dating me *because* I'm goth but for me being me while also supporting me in my gothness as well as when I look more casual. If someone specifically wants a 'goth gf' without having any interest in our music and culture, it's kind of a red flag, I think. Plus, why would I want to be with someone who was going to tell me to tone it down like they were someone's oppresive parent or sth? Or to spice it up because I don't look 'goth enough' 24/7? Or someone who would get annoyed with me for blasting some Corpus Delicti while I'm getting ready in the bathroom? It's like you say; which one do you want?
13: 30 the fact that i know someone who would definitely fall for that unironically
"I hate dirt" Alyssa Rayn - dec 6 2023 thats all i got from this video
"I am serious, and don't call me Shirley"
I want a Goth GF so we can Topple the Roman Empire together is that too much to ask for?
no it had elagburalus
I love the goths sacking Rome memes, they're great
I love this series a guy does called “How to Keep Your Goth Witch Girlfriend Happy” I have no idea why I love it but I do not sure if anyone here would like it
11:04 for me nr 1 was Mgla and nr 5 was Lana Del Rey, so......yeah, had some explaining to do.
I’ve said it before but with this trend but I feel like I have to continue to explain myself. I am a goth metalhead myself, and I want a girlfriend that I can enjoy metal and goth music with. I fallen in love with the music and culture which is why I want to love someone who also loves the music and culture. The trend of guys thirsting over alt girls makes me angry because it drowns out the genuine individuals.
How to get a goth girlfriend in 2 steps:
1. Actually talk to a goth woman.
2. Don't be gross about goths.
And actually get into the subculture so you won't act all horrified n 💩 when they show you something they're interested in
Exactly. They're not unimaginable horrors, they're just people who follow a movement and like the music
I remember in 9th grade when I discovered my style and music taste. I wear bold eyeliner but a normal base (besides a very bronze nose contour and blushed cheeks bc I like the look). I wear eclectic mixes of streetwear, vintage items, edgy pieces, and I like to do casual-chic looks on days that I wanna be comfortable. I tend to wear darker colors and cool colors (red being the exception) because that's just the pallette that I pull off best and I wear a lot of silver, bulky jewelry (i layer a lot of my jewelry too), lots of chains, combat boots, platforms, or converse, and my hair is naturally very dark, thick, and I keep it long with curtain bangs. I'm also naturally pale, I have a hard time finding foundations that aren't too dark bc I'm so pale lol. I got called EMO. THAT IS NOWHERE NEAR EMO. I don't listen to emo music either (besides MCR)!!! I listen to soft rock, alternative rock, pop-punk, pop-rock, a few mainstream pop songs, and metal. They saw eyeliner, dark colors, and chains and ran with it. That's not emo, it's more like alternative & grunge. It's not emo and it's not goth and my classmates were honestly embarrassing themselves by calling me that when that's not what emo or goth is.
I say alternative because it consists of emo, goth, grunge, hip-hop, and punk and I kinda combine pieces that are associated with each of those sub-cultures. I listen to music that's associated with many subcultures. I'm indecisive so I switch it up or combine things but I'm not full on emo and I'm not even CLOSE to goth.
So glad I found your channel
WOO looking forward to next Wednesday
LMAO that guy with the bb belt wasnt tryna get a 'goth gf' bro was tryna get a haunted mound gf 😭
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When I say alien, I mean REALLY alien. Ways of cognizing reality which the human mind cannot imagine.
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9:13 I didn't knew that Molchat Doma's music is considered as gothic by some goths.
Interesting, cause I'm listening to a Post Punk and Metal a lot, and I've never heard opinion like that before.
deftones is good as fuck tho
Guys want a goth girlfriend but have no idea or interest about the music
They talk abt wanting a goth gf but start barking at me cause I wore a black hoodie 💀
Just saying. I’d take the Squishmallow and leave 😂
The goth (and other subcultures) are about the music first and foremost. While my aesthetic leans to trad goth, I don't listen to much goth music but rather heavy metal. And while I'm older (I could be your mom), I'd still call my style of dress alt. I gave up on makeup and jewelry some years ago because I work from home not showing my face and don't get out much, lol. But I'm tattooed, wear a lot of band T's and jeans, and Docs or Vans. My office is a whole different story. I've had beautiful photos I've taken at cemetaries (of mausoleums or headstones) blown up as my wall art, plenty of goth type stuff, bones, witchy, and occult books, etc. Idk what to call myself other than an alt dressing metal head I guess, lol.
“I collect skulls” okay do you want me to paint them?
Lol the one with the socks... Shes so not wrong 💀😭
Take the squishmallow and run. RUN!
"I want a goth girlfriend, aka." I want an egril to be my therapist
The music is exactly why I don't identify as goth. Yeah i wear a lot of black and enjoy spookier things but i don't much identify with the music. I'm just a spooky nerd
that dog is a skinwaker what the hell its massive 😭😭😭
when u said u liked deftones and slipknot i subscribed to you so fast-
13:31 we did it guys , we found the final boss of the tiktok male manipulator !
I’ve never gotten the trend like I appreciate goth makeup and clothes think it’s gorgeous just not for me but once again I’m a raging lesbian not a cishet man so idk what’s going on in there brain like I love fellow alt girls period
I hate people who gatekeep subcultures like it’s a SUBCULTURE not an aesthetic or trend etc
For example I’m a gyaru and it’s like TikTok “gals” who think it’s just an aesthetic. nah don’t worry about dancing parapara, listening to Eurobeat, speaking gyaru slang, etc it’s just the makeup/hair/clothes 💀💀
Your top 5 artists gave me whiplash 😂
I can't understand the bark reaction... Thankfully I've never experienced it, but really, why do they do it? What is even the root-thought behind it? At least many other stupid behaviours have a logic soaked in stereotypes behind them.
i am a high schooler who is more on the grunge side of alt and the amount of times boys come up to me calling me "goth" is insane lmao
Simple they just don’t know the cultures, uneducated. Most of them do not care about goth girls but actual degenerates would hardcore fetishize goth girls. I knew a dude who was a complete ass of a human. He made humiliating jokes about his friends group and a goth girl, they were very sexual towards her. But when a joke was made towards him, he’d get angry, same joke he used for others by the way.
when i was younger goth girls listened to type o negative and drank wine, wore leather pants and vomit all over you at a NIN show
Lol goth family guy 😂 3:09
That clip cmtfu 🤣🤣
Alien vampires my top.
13:20 my goth friend dated a guy exactly like this and then he cheated on her
I love goth music, and have always been in macabre things, but don't dress gothic. It sucks because I'm not alt looking enough to fit in with the alt kids, but too alt to fit in with the normies.
Just want you to know as a goth in my 30s, we really don't care about the way you dress. If you are down to listen to goth music, that's what matters.
@@Aster_Risk Thank you you're so sweet!
As a goth im taking the squish and running 🏃♀️ ✨️
I’m goth, have been for maybe three years. So still a baby bat. my bf has never once fetishized me, and could never understand why men do that.
I’ve been barked at, called emo, etc. and it’s annoying. also been asked where my ‘big t1tt1es’ are bc ‘all goth girls have them’ ……
I'll be honest, I was recently wooed by someone who reintroduced me to Deftones, lmfao. I don't go on Tiktok or whatever, and I don't think of them as goth, but they do make some damn good music. They ended up my #1 this year on Spotify, lol.
as a goth and a punk i still listen to peep lmfao
peep will always be good and its sad people hate on him
as a goth i dated a guy that made jokes abt him finally getting a goth gf with big tits and all that stuff and he was a lil peep fan and unfortunatly i rly liked him so i pretended to love lil peep, i fucking hate lil peep lmfao
I wanna know how many goths, like goth goth are autistic/and or neurodivergent, like the 'real weirdos" seem to be Neurodivergent (and yes Im like a pull string toy with this by now as I ask this alot)
I love darkthrone
always thought this too god its so cringe
id want a goth girlfriend… or boyfriend… or, yknow, just a goth friend…
I only wear black socks lol
If I were to woo or obtain a goth girlfriend, I would take dates in Cemeteries and local parks near Food Carts... go to Horror Movies and Farms with Horror Cornfield rides. I'd write cheesy emo/gothic poetry (Which I got my English Degree with) and also I happen to actually BE a Male Goth. These normies who happen to Glamorize Peep and or Ghostmane and Deftones are highly embarrassing. I see this on IG and TikTok in reels and stories and I can identify with the girlies on this, like stop embarrassing yourselves boys you just seem obsessively taken yet condescending to all Alt types.
I may be a Cliche but I can easily identify myself/and others as that... a Cliche or Stereotype of a Real Goth, I may like certain bands and metal bands too... but Goth and Punk stuff was my first love. Then the opposite Gender that can appreciate it too... then who ever I wind up dating, you're in!! You're a Goth Alt Type like myself! Never settle for suicide squad lil peep imitations.
the lady gaga was so true 😂 conan gray and lana del ray were apon my top artists so uh…. I look like a poser too 😂
With her Mario bro shirt or snap back hat lover listening to Rap.
You know you can just be honest that you're a metalhead who listens to some goth music.
5:26; dude I can’t stand that I swear
coming from a non goth, i think goth people are pretty. do i specifically only want to date them? no. would i want to date them? yes. i’m not weird about it though. also i don’t mean e girls i mean actual goths
So is okay to be blonde and want be goth?? I love the music and romantic goth style so I am just asking if I must to have like black hair or some specificks things!
Of course it is. Goth is about the music. But if you mean the style then there are several looks you can do with blonde hair.
blonde haired romantic goth would look beautiful. go for it!
what makeup do you use for your eyebrows? i think they look amazing!
8:31 Then how cheap are your platforms? If you can dance all night in your platforms then you can drive in them just fine.
girl my middle name is rayne holy crap
Whys liking deftones make someone a poser? Confused by that. They use goth elements as they are inspired by the cure and depeche mode.
Goth girl to Goth girl, what was your top Darkthrone song?
I mean, as a guy that is appreciating the esthetic. But also is a basic bitch so leaning more towards egirl esthetic. It's just a look. It's hot and all. But it's still a person, so I'm gonna treat them like a person and base if I like them on being a person. I mean I literally love it when ones appearance and personality don't match at all so I would even prefer it if they weren't stereotypical goth
Is Lil Peep goth? I thought he was rap. Also, 9:58 damn, that phone has been thru the wars
I’m 40. I’ve never heard Lil Peep and I don’t care to hear Lil Peep. Wasn’t he a rapper? Is being a rapper with shitty tattoos goth now?
He was a emo rapper. Like a cobain wannabe imo. im surprised he was brought up so much in these tiktoks
I dress not very Gothic I dress like a cholo in a lot black but I've always been into the macob and accult and death so always gravitated to the dark Gothic stuff like I'll collect deer bones for indigenous crafts and I like mixing Gothic themes into indigenous art pr chicano art
I can handle the strap on. I got Dreamybull training.
They mention lil peep often? Is he really that liked... thought he was more emo. I am goth always loved the music, the literature, art. I dont dress all in black as i get bored or high temperature anyway back when i was in high school i was beat up and bullied for it now its all online like its cool. Its a fetish now.
I feel like i dont even know what goth is at this point.
Because ill look at a "gothic" cathedral or ill look at someone who dresses "goth" or listens to "goth" music, and im just perplexed bc there are so many people saying that isnt goth and x is actually goth.
I used to identify as goth, because i wear eyeliner, rarely black lipstick, i listen to dark music, and wear lots of black and like creepy things, but now im like, shit, im just a person? Im just a person i think i DONT WANT THE CHEDDAR THATS ALL IM SAYING
goth is a music subculture, you can't just like any "dark" music and be goth, it has to be goth music.
@@k4nd1incyb3rsp4c3 i already watched the video 3 months ago. Thats what the video was about.
Look up gothic horror.
If I had a goth girlfriend with a shaved head I'd give them kisses on the scalp above the ear while we listen to The Kentucky Vampires in the car
That boy's 'how to get a goth gf" is a joke? Right?
Goth is a word