Mourning the Life That Could Have Been - Matthew Kelly - Life is Messy

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    Mourning the life that could have been - Matthew Kelly - Life is Messy
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  • @delainatoothman3116
    @delainatoothman3116 2 года назад +27

    Watched this yesterday and decided to do just as advised: mourn the life I lost when my husband left me for a younger woman. I realized I had never done that. However, the more I tried to mourn the lost life the more grateful I became for the life I have instead. I realized that all these years I have felt bad about him leaving me I had built the kind of life I always wanted and, more importantly, felt God wanted me to have. Thank you Matthew for this, I may not have mourned but I found I did not need to, I found a whole new depth of gratitude and greater joy in the life I do have. I look forward to going forward stronger and more grateful for what I have and, yes I am human, thinking he got the bad end of the deal not me.

    • @mariediphillipo3388
      @mariediphillipo3388 2 года назад +1

      Powerful

    • @reg8297
      @reg8297 2 года назад +1

      Wish I knew how to make a better life after 50 years of effects of abuse unhealthy relationship after my mother abusing me lost everything

    • @conniedetevis2119
      @conniedetevis2119 2 года назад +2

      @@reg8297
      Reg I just now prayed a rosary for you and your healing. God bless you 🙏🏻

    • @cristinamariadegesu5134
      @cristinamariadegesu5134 2 года назад +8

      God bless you sister!! I admire your strength. My husband also left us this year and is currently up to four women but won’t file for divorce. I’m slowly learning how grateful I am for finding my true identity in Christ rather than in him, I’m finally done trying to be perfect and just being real, being me and I love who I am - daughter of a King, striving for sainthood, perfectly imperfect the way He made me. Thank you for inspiring me with your comment. May God bless you richly and our Blessed Mother cover you with her mantle of sweetness and protection. 🙏🏼🌹♥️

    • @anneaires3984
      @anneaires3984 2 года назад +1

      @@cristinamariadegesu5134 "Daughter of a King" How powerfully beautiful that statement is Christina....I'm so inspired by your words and will apply them to my life as we speak, many thanks, God Bless Us All who struggle and rise from the ashes as a stronger, wiser "Daughter of a King"..Peace be with you!🙏👑❤️

  • @RitaCasperson
    @RitaCasperson 3 месяца назад

    Praise be to God hallelujah thank you I've taken on so much suffering in so much and many ways I needed this

  • @mditt7
    @mditt7 2 года назад +1

    I've made so many major mistakes and suffered so much loss in recent years that I have given up and my overall health is deteriorating. I cry out to God but I am on a slippery slope towards bitterness that I cannot seems to quell. Lord have mercy

  • @tonygville2969
    @tonygville2969 2 года назад +10

    Dear Lord Jesus Christ I surrender to You, please take Everything 🙏 Viva Cristo Rey 🙏

    • @melissaj.corbin7675
      @melissaj.corbin7675 2 года назад +1

      Praying we go forward towards a healthy and happy and purposeful life. It sounds like you have suffered a loss recently also.🙏

  • @adrianafoxxe9482
    @adrianafoxxe9482 Год назад

    Thank you so much, sir. This really helps me a lot. To anyone who would read my comment, please pray for me. I think I am depressed and I want to just pull myself up from this slump. I hope all of you are doing well.

  • @MissPopuri
    @MissPopuri 2 года назад +16

    Don’t ignore the pain or the problem thinking it will go away. Maybe it will, but it is just as likely to come back screaming at you in a moment of weakness and despair.

  • @barbarabain1477
    @barbarabain1477 2 года назад +12

    Very true, my companion a war hero died besides me in 2010. Now his cat 🐈 is now going .. if I can calm him NOW to get him to the vet. Ending of the entire grief. Thanks be to God. Saint Francis of Assisi is my Catholic cat’s and my favorite song 🎶 - Lord make me an instrument of your peace 🤍🕊

  • @bobpaff4187
    @bobpaff4187 Год назад +1

    I lost my son in 2019. The worst pain any parent can experience. While I mourn my son’s loss, I cannot bring him back. But what I can do is honor his memory and make my life as great as possible. History is filled with great people who lost children and went on to do amazing things. Abraham Lincoln, Franklin Roosevelt, Shakespeare, Paul Newman, just to name a few. Thank you for your video!

    • @MatthewKellyAuthor
      @MatthewKellyAuthor  Год назад +2

      Powerful insight, and not easily come by. Know of my prayers for you, Bob.

    • @Harry64278
      @Harry64278 6 месяцев назад +1

      My condolences, that sounds really difficult and almost impossible to cope with

  • @naomiwelch6715
    @naomiwelch6715 2 года назад +4

    Even after five years of discovering my deceased mother, I slightly struggle as I miss her dearly and the shock of her death has mostly worn away. Thank you for this beautiful reflection.

  • @Ellen-hy4zj
    @Ellen-hy4zj 2 года назад +2

    This message really resonated with me. After reading life is messy, I realized I too am living an unexpected life. At first, I was shocked. Then I realized I have been blessed by it! It is probably not what I would have planned, but I have found great comfort in mourning what I wanted and embracing what I have been given. Thanks again!

    • @MatthewKellyAuthor
      @MatthewKellyAuthor  2 года назад

      Thank you for sharing Ellen. I am delighted the message resonated with you!

  • @siritachi1137
    @siritachi1137 2 года назад +5

    Oh my gosh, thank you so much for this.

    • @MatthewKellyAuthor
      @MatthewKellyAuthor  2 года назад

      You are very welcome. Please help me share it with others

  • @jstefencavage
    @jstefencavage 2 года назад +1

    Sometimes the littlest thing brings back memories from when I was in my addiction. And how my life could have been. However I give it to God! Most of the time - yand yes it is messy!!!

  • @douglasbremar2189
    @douglasbremar2189 2 года назад

    Great news.

  • @teena4rl211
    @teena4rl211 2 года назад +3

    Beautifully put.

  • @judithreed2436
    @judithreed2436 2 года назад +1

    Praying for physical, mental and emotional health daily. Prayer to Padre Pio has helped me to gain strength cause I know Gods loves me and wants me as His Daughter with all my messes❤️

  • @bucsam1660
    @bucsam1660 Год назад

    I figure it this way, I made choices according to my will, and suffered the consequences. Now I try my best to live according to Gods will.

  • @judithrae428
    @judithrae428 2 года назад +5

    I've been grieving for a long long time. I've had more losses than anyone should have to have in one lifetime. It seems as I come to terms with one loss, and then another just takes its place. it's very depressing

    • @reg8297
      @reg8297 2 года назад

      I feel the same I'm 49 had a mother abuse me met at man age 17 further abuse left him HD brainwashed my kids to hate me go against me I'm triggered day and night from all that I. Have lost over what my mother caused

    • @judithrae428
      @judithrae428 2 года назад +2

      @@reg8297 I just read the other day that for those things we don't understand, and are hurt by, all we can do is lay them down before the mysteries of how God works, and accept there are things we will never understand. That has helped me. baby steps.

    • @wendymikus4520
      @wendymikus4520 2 года назад +4

      @@reg8297 I will keep you in my prayers! I am 45 and also experienced trauma and abuse in my childhood. It has been a long and slow process to try to find peace, healing, well-being, it's quite a journey. Only doable with God's mercy, guidance, and His infinite grace.

    • @mariediphillipo3388
      @mariediphillipo3388 2 года назад +1

      Amen

  • @stephaniewingo1842
    @stephaniewingo1842 2 года назад +1

    I appreciate this Matthew Kelly, because I’m experiencing this right now. . . While I would be working at my Shop-store, no longer with my work partner, I would find myself getting angry so often because I felt like I could do this work alone. So I would call Robert up on phone and make him help me that way, he didn’t feel good so that didn’t last. Now I work alone and besides getting angry I’m experiencing anxiety, I just break down and cry because I know Robert is not even going to be here some day to where I can call him! 😢 So now I’m realizing I am going to have to go back to school, to learn Welding, Accounting, and I love kids so much I want to just throw this Shop away and start Painting, Writing and donate my time to kids!! “Sooner or later God is going to close these doors and have new ones opened for me!” I’m praying 🙏🏼 it’s going to be enjoyable, fun and easier on me than my past has ever been! 💕 📚 🙌🏻

  • @melaniewelsh8062
    @melaniewelsh8062 2 года назад +5

    Thank you Matthew - this is so true

  • @reg8297
    @reg8297 2 года назад +1

    My life was destroyed by my mother's abuse of me since I was a child I die inside everyday from the reality effects of what her abuse of me caused to happen in my life I lost everything of value Including the life that could have been I keep asking why did she destroy me so bad im in so much shock terror and depression is unbearable

  • @jennielah2670
    @jennielah2670 2 года назад

    finding and keeping my inner peace. I've experience that inner peace when I've been around children, watching them at play or conversing with them, praying the rosary gives me that beautiful feeling of peace in my heart in the midst of the mess. life is Messy is a great book, thank you Matthew Kelly

    • @MatthewKellyAuthor
      @MatthewKellyAuthor  2 года назад

      Great insights, thanks for sharing Jennie. I'm delighted the book resonated with you!

  • @kp5390
    @kp5390 2 года назад +1

    Trauma.. lodges in the body. Work thru the trauma in a calm and healthy way. Emotions are real but not always truthful. It is Messy.
    Suppressing my emotions put me in 2 hospitals. God was with me thru it all.

  • @davesmietanski512
    @davesmietanski512 2 года назад +3

    Very true. Thanks Matthew.

  • @kathleenwharton2139
    @kathleenwharton2139 Год назад

    Jesus Keeps me Safe and Free and He Gives me Love and Peace 😇. The greatest sin is unbelief. I have learned this late!

  • @josieguillen8318
    @josieguillen8318 2 года назад +2

    Thank you..great message.

  • @jimondrus7987
    @jimondrus7987 2 года назад +6

    The wisdom of dealing with wounds is much appreciated Matthew - Thank you for the simplicity of the matter and the focus of personal accountability to take action.

    • @mariediphillipo3388
      @mariediphillipo3388 2 года назад +1

      I am finding out that anti depressants are not the answer but to be strong and focus on Gods mercy I am rediscovering Divine Mercy it might take time but one step at a time

    • @alainnarobles4781
      @alainnarobles4781 Год назад

      I have always dealt with both physical and mental issues.

  • @lorettagallagher9577
    @lorettagallagher9577 2 года назад +8

    You always speak about just what I need to hear.

  • @reg8297
    @reg8297 2 года назад +3

    I feel terror day and night and when I hear others having the opposite happy life I'm further traumatised I'm not living the happy life they are living how do u move on from that I call it evil I can't forget it its with me day and night and I live in unimaginable fear by what my mother did to me I was all my life trying to figure out why am I in an abuser relationship and I. Found out years later when my life collapsed to the ground

  • @debbiherold4932
    @debbiherold4932 2 года назад +2

    Expressed so well.

  • @jerseygangel
    @jerseygangel 2 года назад +1

    Deal with past emotional pain, or it will become infected. How wise. I feel I have dealt with the emotional pain I experienced in a dysfunctional family and abusive father. I do have a beautiful life currently, of course not without problems. But sometimes I do feel that the trauma I experienced still affects my choices and behavior currently. How do you know for sure you have dealt with it?

  • @lorettagallagher9577
    @lorettagallagher9577 2 года назад +2

    The exquisite possibilities that lay before me..... ty

  • @csease1
    @csease1 2 года назад +1

    Good one! Spot on. Thank you.

  • @tracylegete6996
    @tracylegete6996 2 года назад

    Thank u for the book God bless you

  • @EucharistMiracles
    @EucharistMiracles 2 года назад +2

    I've been in denial and anger for years.

    • @MatthewKellyAuthor
      @MatthewKellyAuthor  2 года назад +1

      I’m sorry to hear that but confident you can work your way through it now that you have identified it.

    • @EucharistMiracles
      @EucharistMiracles 2 года назад

      @@MatthewKellyAuthoryes. All of your videos have helped me tremendously. Thank you again Mathew Kelly, for helping me become a better version of Myself.

  • @RitaCasperson
    @RitaCasperson 3 месяца назад

    Jill sangle was a recruiter for Simpson college I don't know or have resources or tech savvy enough nor computer to get a hold of her

  • @rosemarieniebauer3044
    @rosemarieniebauer3044 2 года назад +1

    Thank you

  • @meschoooter6027
    @meschoooter6027 2 года назад

    prayer

  • @theresabaker7092
    @theresabaker7092 2 года назад

    Always on time👍

  • @franciscorivera327
    @franciscorivera327 2 года назад

    Reading this book was awesome

  • @cindyhallahan777
    @cindyhallahan777 2 года назад

    Needed to hear this

  • @matthewgreenrod365
    @matthewgreenrod365 2 года назад

    This can happen when we sin as well. The same process would help.