If you're willing to risk dipping your pen in the company's ink, I highly recommend dating someone who's in a different department. You get the luxury of not always being around your partner, but you also can naturally have more to socialize about given you're in the same workplace. It's what my Mom and her boyfriend did for 7 years and counting. I hope for the same at my work, but there's a lot more older people than people my age unfortunately.
A very wise man once said "Don't shit where you eat". He was right. When the 'Crap goes South' you still have to Work with them. I learned the hard way.
@@michaelcatalano6208 true but honestly I get use to get it I get exercise and learn newer things it's pretty fun for me man...makes me feel heroic helping out team mates assisting co workers and office leaders....but criticism that's a different story you'll have to deal with from pain in the ass co workers I get that part your referring to.But one lady my supervisor charelle ain't like that.She's tough she's smart, she's a sweetheart,she cares about me others too but more importantly,she looks out for me and she always haves my back so for me I'm good bro I love job really.
Dating for fun goes wrong at work. Dating for marriage can go right. For men just be mature. Learn to let go if it's not what your looking for be honest and do that hard part. Which is talk about it. Everything in life is a risk. If she's the one that doesn't get the hint. Well time to look for another job to save yourself embarrassment. Work is a tool for your dreams anyways. U can find work anywhere just keep in mind anything can happen. Have an abundance mind set fellas. Thats including at work.
Good advice thank you , I want marriage and not going to put myself in a situation where I’m just a friend or not in relationship for fun with a coworker
1. She extends her gills and evacuates her flugnoober sac. 2. Hangs around you longer than usual. 3. Asks about your personal life. 4. Shares her food with you. 5. Offers to help. 6. Accidentally touches you. 7. Asks for your help. 8. Deep questions. 9. When she sees you she smiles. 10. Glances at you. 11. Your colleagues know. 12. Changes her appearance to attract you. 13. Wants to socialise after work. 14. Remembers details. 15. Sees changes you made. 16. Copies your body language. 17. Bestows a nickname on you. 18. Compliments. 19. Remembers your birthday. 20. Contacts you out of work.
I learned the hard way to not dip your pen in the company ink. She broke it off and 3 weeks later when she found out I had a new much younger girlfriend, she filed a sexual harassment complaint with the HR. The only thing that saved my butt was that she back down on it later but I still had to go through 6 weeks of hell at work.
@@25-8 You are correct, nothing. I mentioned filing countercharges but the HR said that they didn’t want to discourage women from coming forward and I said that I would want to discourage it. But yes I collected some gray hairs on the way.
@@ezkempinkemp3467 unbelievable so nothing to her.. smh glad you got out of that situation and from then and forward the communication was the same or you cut it all off with her?
My coworker I think she has a crush on me, but we barley hangout together, she talks to me first at work once in awhile, but she asked me to be my roommate lol oddly out of the blue. Not like we are close, but she has a fiance, living with him and his parents, so I was confused af.
Can't believe this video came out on the same day I realized I'd grown a full blown crush on one of my coworkers after being at this job for over 3 months now.
7:47 this hit me like a freight train! I took two weeks off and my birthday was on my second last day off. On the first day back at the office, female coworker congratulated me and gave me a hug. And now comes the big thing: in the afternoon, she gave me a birthday card, where she wrote a cute note and she let the other 5 coworkers from our shared office also sign it. But the initiative came definitely from her. Two days after my birthday! In the last three years SHE invited me once for drinks after work (we mostly worked from home due to you-know-what and it was difficult to see each other at the office). Also other signs are definitely there: smiling a lot, asking me for help with small things. She‘s always there for me if I need help with a task too. She also praises me in front of other coworkers and gives me compliments for my good work. When I get a haircut (every blue moon) she notices it and compliments me. She‘s always respectful, open and interested in my private life. It always feels genuine.🥰
From my experience I tried dating a coworker before and when we broke up and it didn't work out things just became awkward when we had to work together so I will never date another co worker. Some people might can make it work but mixing business with a personal relationship with someone just isn't for me. As I said things just become awkward if things don't work out and also you may have to worry about other co workers who may not like you try to interfere in your relationship by spreading gossip.
That happens often, but I have a rule, I don't date anyone who I work with. The reason is eventually your business and arguments will be at work too. When it comes time to decide who stays, the boss will pick her. I'm working because I need to, I can find a woman somewhere else and keep my job. That's bad business to date co-workers.
I have two jobs so I'm safe, I only go to work because of the girl I'm in love with but I don't really need that job but I can understand the risk for those who needs it
@@drawingsbr4628 So I fell for this coworker 15 years my junior, married and with 2 small kids, 4 and 7. I'm in my early 50's, divorced for the 2nd time and single. No doubt I fell for this girl real hard, but the reason is her, I had no intention of doing it, didn't even find her particularly attractive in the beginning, but she's been showering me with attention, with compliments, she remembers every little detail, we've been texting every day for months now, she'll sometimes text me first thing in the morning as soon as she wakes up or late in the evening, she's looking at me all the time during meetings, like literally gazing at me so I catch her gaze, look away and look back and she's still looking, she's talking about us in the first person dual (in my language we have a grammatical form for 2 people), she's referring to "us" a lot, when I mentioned I might get a new job she asked me if I was going to take her with me, she's making me food every day (we have in-house kitchen in the office), she's sending pretty much every signal there is, she even lost weight for god's sake, and we really get along great, our values and life philosophy are very much aligned, I love her intelligence, her competence, her social skills, her sense of humor, we make each other laugh a lot and laugh out loud, and she's clearly impressed by my knowledge and skills, she's asking my help and advice all the time and I of course give it my all and then enjoy her lavish praise of my work and personality very much. It's the first time I fell for a woman for her personality at least as much as for her looks. So I'm really smitten and I might be wrong, but I'm pretty sure she feels the same, but we've never talked about our romantic feelings. never even hinted at them outside innocent flirting in a way that everything we say has plausible deniability so there's this strange relationship dynamic because she's married and with kids and there's probably nowhere our relationship can do. But I'm very much in love, I miss her when she's not around and she literally makes my day when she is, I love going to work knowing she'll be there. I thought for a while I might be limerent because I think about her a lot but I don't think so, just smitten, and as much as I know the whole thing is irrational, and I wouldn't want to be a home wrecker, I can't help how I feel, I've tried, and found that in some weird way I'm even enjoying our little game, it might make me feel less alone and it might help her mentally escape the drudgery of her family life, we bring color to each other's life and I seem to prefer the ups and downs of this strange relationship to feeling nothing at all. Still, our relationship can't go anywhere and it would appear I can't just stop feeling the way I feel so the smart thing to do would be to find a new job and be done with it.
It's always funny to me when people say you shouldn't date coworkers. As long as both parties are mature about the situation, it's not a big deal. If you find yourself involved in drama at work because of who you associate with, I'm inclined to believe it says more about you as a person than it does about the other people involved.
@@yourmommahouse Absolutely. You should know better than to deal with people who will react like that, and if you didn't know they would react like that then you didn't know them well enough to be dating them anyway. Your inability to recognize shitty people is your fault.
you can never predict what the other person is going to do or act like. In a fantasy world, your take on it works, but there is no guarantee that things will work out perfectly, nor if things go south that the "acting mature" is going to continue on the other side. Also, the thing you said about it saying more about you as a person if you find yourself involved in drama at work because of who you associate with being tied to this topic, or even by itself kind of says more about you not understanding how the real world works. I can vouch for this because I tried dating a co-worker one time in my entire life. Sweet girl, wasn't trouble at all on the job. Started dating her and we had problems outside of work that she could NOT leave at home. Before we started dating, she put on a real good mature act, but afterwards, anything that happened at home was brought to work and she was defiant (I was her boss). That was the first and the very last time I will EVER date where I work.
If a anyone at the job starts falling for you, irrespective of sex, turn around and go the other way. It is a loaded situation that can go bad and if it does, particularly if you are a man, it can turn into a sexual harassment situation where you lose your hard-won career. While I realize this can be exciting and so easy to fall head over heals, romance on the job is a bad idea and should be discouraged. It has conflict of interest written all over it and can only spell trouble.
You don’t “ dip your pen in the company ink” The last place u try to hook up is at work. In 2009 I made this mistake. Ended up going to jail and losing my job. Don’t make friends at work. Your there to make money and that’s it.
Noted my supervisor charelle likes I made her uncomfortable with random gestures but she liked me still, although I did apologize to her for being inappropriate I'm just keeping things professional so I can stay out of trouble and keep my job.I regret what I did but she was understanding I should have played along and not made things awkward almost luckily I had my councilor to cover me I made mistakes but learning lessons ,and doing thing the right way.
I watched this as I realised that I have a huge crush on someone at work. Never felt this way before - alot of this didn't relate to her, but I'd still like to think there's a chance - plus we've not worked with each other for long. Could just be her trying to be friendly, but man I hope not. On our first meet she mentioned she had a son, don't know if that means anything, anyway I hope all goes well and thanks for this video.
I think he was joking, but I once had a coworker tell me “I think I found your perfect match” I asked who and he said “female coworker’s name”. I didn’t tell anyone I was single, and I think he was messing with me, but it made me question if that could be true. She is very friendly, but I am not interested in dating her. Nothing against her, but I don’t feel any romantic type of connection.
I used to have one . She even starts conversation when everyone’s in lift . She knows what I eat for breakfast & enquired abt it . She asked me to join on an outing . She stays late after to walk me to bus stand . The thing I wasn’t attracted to her & didn’t know how to tell her . Then I quit my job & moved to a new workplace. I’m terrified of having relationships in a workplace setting . I don’t wanna poop where I eat 🫶🏽🤙🏻
I was thinking about this today, I think I have an admirer in work but I will never do anything about it in a work setting as she could easily claim harassment at any time and I could be moved to a different department.
Well ask her for a date , anything other than yes means no. If she says no or makes any excuses move on and never ask her ever again, leave the ball in her court let her do all the work.
There's this restaurant that I go to sometimes, and one of the girls who works the cash register and takes our order always smiles at me and acts really nice and friendly towards me whenever I go there. I'm getting mixed feelings. Like, does she like me, or is she just being friendly?
Go there with a female co-worker and male co-worker (to see if the behavior is the same with him). The female co-worker will probably have the right opinion on the waitress.
Pay attention at how she acts/behaves towards other patrons/customers. Be honest with yourself when you observe her. Next, pay close attention at how often she looks/glances towards your direction and if she is asking you personal questions. If she smiles when you arrive and takes your order and then after that, glances at your direction and smiles when she notices that you have caught her looking at you, well, congrats! It is a very positive sign she is attracted at you. Make a move. I'm in a similar situation with two girls that work in the same restaurant. I go there everyday and have created a connection with both, though I am not interested in dating either of them. Regardless, it is nice to know two girls are attracted to me so I talk to them to practice and get better when talking to girls. My advice is, ask them questions and be mysterious. For example, one of the girls asked me "what do you do?" and my response was "I fix kids" (I'm a school counselor). Her reaction was amusing and she asked more questions but I didn't answer as at that moment her coworker needed her help. So, I didn't elaborate and just paid for my drink, smiled and walked back to my table. Be mysterious, be fun, be very positive and never, ever become needy or clingy or desperate. James Bond would never become emotional over a rejection! So, just ask them out and if they reject you, be blissfully indifferent. Just smile and say, "Okay, well, if you change your mind, let me know. See you tomorrow!" I highly recommend you buy Coach Corey Wayne's book "How to be a 3% Man" and read it 10-15 times. Also, go look for his RUclips videos and watch as many of them as you can to supplement the book. Trust me, Coach Corey Wayne will change your life!!
Agreed that it could be her job and some people are just naturally friendly so do not automatically invest feelings or get hurt if she is the same way with everyone. You have a small window of opportunity if you want to approach and talk to her, don't overstay your welcome make small talk that gives you subtle hints/clues about her before you continue with your day. Don't make her feel awkward or uncomfortable because it is her job on the line and she doesn't want it to get awkward if things go south knowing you frequent there. If you have problems making small talk or approaching, I always tell people to imagine you are checking out while buying groceries. You have about 30 seconds to make them laugh or forget about the drudgery of work before it's onto the next. That and I always treat everyone equally it doesn't matter if a girl is a 5 or a 10 that stuff is just messing with your head and making you stumble. It works in two ways, you make someone's day, and it keeps them guessing.
In my experience it's too high risk if you need the job, a lot of bosses tend to be quick to dismiss employees for this sort of thing, if the relationship turns sour it's often really difficult to hide from your team.....obviously that's how your boss is most likely to find out.
Girls have never liked me at work, bars, clubs, the beach, supermarkets, flower shops, doctor's offices, post offices, parks, museums, sewage treatment plants, funeral homes, VD clinics, pet stores, coffee shops, libraries, art galleries, construction sites, horse racing events, cruises, airports, hotels, motels, hostels, brothels, butcher shops, art supply shops, restaurants, amusement parks and so and so forth. Time to load up the ol 357 Mag and call it a day on planet earth, boys and girls.
@@brownpunk1794 true why make things awkward if things are going awsome for you to fuck that up I wouldn't wanna take that chance it'll be a huge mistake I'd rather wait and see what happens first oneday if it happens so I don't get played like a fool again.
Lots of things. He’s probably thinking this girl could have a bf and not say anything. Maybe she has herpes. Maybe she’s just trying to play me and get attention. What if she starts talking about the bedroom stuff to my coworkers. What if things go bad between them and they’re still working together. What if we get together but she starts disrespecting me in the workplace and starts messing with other dudes. What if she’s really just a terrible human being. What if I’m reading the situation wrong? The list goes on and on. That’s what I’m thinking anyway. It’s a terrible thing that’s happened to me and it’s also hindering me from making any moves.
@@jacobcutrer fear fear fear. Live fearlessly. You are a man. Be at your best at all times. You have an issue find a solution. Your out of options? I don't believe you. However if u feel it's not for you then it's not for you. U never know. It could be a blessing in disguise.
Firstly, don't date someone from where you planning to go regularly (work, school, gym). Secondly, don't ask the fish how to catch fish. Ask a fisherman.
Never date a coworker even in the same department as you even temp workers are high risk toxic our department is a circus right now i was messing around with a temp worker and for some reason she gave some action to my coordinator everyone knows and everyone has a big mouth but for some reason my boss doesn't know what's going on im highly grateful that I still have a job pre and post covid Me and her We both agreed to keep it movin she can have my coworker she swear on her life she ain't talking to him i always see the chase wow but I'm crazy and overreact yea ok
I have never been more patient than I have been with this girl that works at my local pharmacy for three years. We have been flirting back-and-forth and just recently I was able to give her my phone number. Ask route to see the new Beetlejuice seagull and let me tell you we have hit it off and I took more time with this than I have with anybody else.
I'm 33 and I'm currently in a relationship with the assistant manager(she's 26)where I work. She's hot, I was attracted to her from the start. I was the only male worker who had the balls to make their move. The other guys at my workplace have their eye on her but I told them she's taken(by me of course). I must admit, at first I was a bit hesitant about being involved with someone I work with but we've been together for over 7 years besides, being in a relationship with the assistant manager has it's perks.
I think she's friends with a guy at work but I think she gets worried what I think when they're together. I think she chose him but he's kind of a simp whereas I'm a little older and we have a connection. It's a weirdly fascinating situation but I try to be chill about it because I don't want her to be uncomfortable coming to work. We'll have time to pursue each other when one of us leaves.
I have a crush on my work colleague, but I found out indirectly through another colleague that she has a boyfriend 😕. The strange thing is that my crush never mentions him when we talk and always acts as if she's single. Instead, when I go on vacation, for example, she asks me if I'm traveling alone. We don't work in the same part of the building, but whenever I walk past her workplace (which is pretty much every day), she waves at me and gives me a sweet smile 😊.
She’s probably just trying to get you to think she’s interested so she can use your attention and affection as an ego boost. She’ll let you compliment her, But if you ask her on a date, it will be either “I have a boyfriend” or she will be busy, or ask to reschedule last minute.
From experience: If she is married- She’s using you for attention because you are there everyday and you are just convenient. She’s unhappily married and using you for a rebound while she is still deciding on getting a divorce. Then once she is divorced she will dump you for another guy that she is “serious” about. She’s insecure and needs external validation.
I only get a couple of these from a chick I think is cute at work, never spoken to her really outside of working stuff. I catch her looking at me quite a bit and she catches me too, if I bump into her unexpectedly she'll be looking and smiling at me, she goes the long way to go around the office just to walk past me pretty closely (may have brushed past me idk), she's asked me some really dumb work related questions as well not sure maybe to get my attention and have a conversation? I have noticed her changing her hair & makeup quite a bit too. Recently she seems to be having lunch around the same time as me as well, I feel like I run into her more than I should coz some people I legit never even see for a couple of days at work unless I'm looking for them. I'm autistic so for me it's stupidly hard to talk to women I think are cute without feeling so socially awkward/ineptitude at talking and me also being scared af about sexual harassment in workplaces, I haven't told anyone at work that I am she probably just thinks I'm weird or just not interested lol. I asked my coworker coz I talk to her outside of work she's around the same age as my mum so she's like my work mum to keep an eye out for me lol.
A wise man once said: "don't get high on your own supply". Although this was for the narcotics industry, it still applies to relationships at work. Best to keep work life and love life separate.
DO NOT date a co-worker! If you want to date her, quit the job and work somewhere else, then the dating. If you do that at the same place, there will be a LOT of gossip and "favoritism" talk behind your back.
I like my boss at office and the way she looks at me smiles I got confused and start to think she likes me m, what can I do she is my boss, she has higher level job
My boss made very intense sexual eye contact with me. It was completely out of the blue, so I was taken off guard. I immediately looked away. I do find him extremely attractive, but we work together, and we're both married. I've never led him to believe I'm interested, but I do fantasize about him when alone. Nuff said.
Yeah, I never double dip on the sauce as everyone I work with is super lazy hence I make small conversation and move along. If they were hot I might make a joke or two😊
Once it’s over all the hell begins she will be watching you like a hawk and ready for you to slip up so she can chew you up and spit you out…. Soon as i started talking with someone else she got jealous and cussed me out she said somebody told her I had her in rotation I told her to get from around me and go back to her work spot and she went to hr and said I harassed her in an argument and I got fired
Stay away from trying to date women at work. If you've read the signals wrong you're going to be in front of HR looking at getting fired for harassment.
they had a lawyer at our unions sexual harassment meeting . she told me to only come into contact with women , where it involves business. don't talk to them , or joke with them , or flirt or have anything to do with them outside work . your job and reputation depends on it.
Its harassment and law suits if a guy does the same thing. Tell me there's not a double standard. Don't fall into the trap guys stick too your job and ignore her. The destruction of your life ain't worth her short term attention.
She did most if not all of these! Turned out she was playing me for a fool, went off with a guy she swore had no chance n sent me pics of them on dates together???
The modern day version of offering you food is asking you to taste her vape! 😂Any girl that offers you to put something in your mouth that she is then going to put her in mouth! 👍
This is all about discernment. I used to work at IKEA. One of those weird places, I know. It can indeed work out. I have seen plenty of people get married and have kids. Variables are definitely to be considered. But don't let any comment here be anything BUT opinion. Unless the scientific facts back them up. How many people have long careers anyway? Hell man most folks float from job to job. But hey, thats just me saying that. Think about it. Where do you spend most of your time? Be wise. But don't panic. Live and love yall. ❤
I have coworkers that check off all these boxes but none of them are interested in me romantically. Take note fellas: This woman has no idea what she's talking about.
I admitted to my coworker back in January that I have feelings for her but she told me that she wasn't interested in having a boyfriend at the time. It's now April and she's been giving me mixed signals lately by helping me out around the store, playfully poking me in my arm, and offering to wear my hat (which she looked really cute wearing). Are these possible signs that she may be starting to like me or am I accidentally reading too much into these actions and have the wrong idea and she's just being friendly?
oh she wants a bf she just dont want you , if she puts in the friend zone you gotta give her the cold shoulder Nd I promise she will be interested just by mention other girls
Tell her that you have a question for her and there are no wrong answers. Tell her the signs you have seen and ask if you are misinterpreting her actions. This takes the pressure off of her and makes her more likely to open up to you.
There's a woman at work who likes me and talks to me sometimes or messages me from time to time at work or at home, She and I have both watched similar tv shows or movies and she sometimes calls me "Lucifer" when we are at work.
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Pretty spot on.
My coworker got off work before me but stayed after work to see me on my break so I knew something was up.
Wow
So what happen?
😂
If you're willing to risk dipping your pen in the company's ink, I highly recommend dating someone who's in a different department. You get the luxury of not always being around your partner, but you also can naturally have more to socialize about given you're in the same workplace. It's what my Mom and her boyfriend did for 7 years and counting. I hope for the same at my work, but there's a lot more older people than people my age unfortunately.
My organization has a written policy what we literally register internal dating and intimate relationships.
A very wise man once said "Don't shit where you eat". He was right. When the 'Crap goes South' you still have to Work with them. I learned the hard way.
I think we all have lol
Same here I've noticed things you shouldn't do just to save yourself the embrassment of losing a job or being accused of sexual harassment.
@@manofsteelgoodmanll plus feeling like crap all day while working
@@michaelcatalano6208 true but honestly I get use to get it I get exercise and learn newer things it's pretty fun for me man...makes me feel heroic helping out team mates assisting co workers and office leaders....but criticism that's a different story you'll have to deal with from pain in the ass co workers I get that part your referring to.But one lady my supervisor charelle ain't like that.She's tough she's smart, she's a sweetheart,she cares about me others too but more importantly,she looks out for me and she always haves my back so for me I'm good bro I love job really.
You missed the real meaning of the saying, smmfh
Dating for fun goes wrong at work. Dating for marriage can go right. For men just be mature. Learn to let go if it's not what your looking for be honest and do that hard part. Which is talk about it. Everything in life is a risk. If she's the one that doesn't get the hint. Well time to look for another job to save yourself embarrassment. Work is a tool for your dreams anyways. U can find work anywhere just keep in mind anything can happen. Have an abundance mind set fellas. Thats including at work.
Good advice thank you , I want marriage and not going to put myself in a situation where I’m just a friend or not in relationship for fun with a coworker
1. She extends her gills and evacuates her flugnoober sac.
2. Hangs around you longer than usual.
3. Asks about your personal life.
4. Shares her food with you.
5. Offers to help.
6. Accidentally touches you.
7. Asks for your help.
8. Deep questions.
9. When she sees you she smiles.
10. Glances at you.
11. Your colleagues know.
12. Changes her appearance to attract you.
13. Wants to socialise after work.
14. Remembers details.
15. Sees changes you made.
16. Copies your body language.
17. Bestows a nickname on you.
18. Compliments.
19. Remembers your birthday.
20. Contacts you out of work.
😂😂😂😂evacuates her flugnoober sac😂😂😂😂
Lmfao
What's with the first one
21. Insinuates she wants to have sex with you.........
..and when it becomes an ex, you will get fired in the same company.
I learned the hard way to not dip your pen in the company ink. She broke it off and 3 weeks later when she found out I had a new much younger girlfriend, she filed a sexual harassment complaint with the HR. The only thing that saved my butt was that she back down on it later but I still had to go through 6 weeks of hell at work.
Bro that's crazy and scary at the same time I can't imagine how stressed you were.. and what happened to her? Nothing?
@@25-8 You are correct, nothing. I mentioned filing countercharges but the HR said that they didn’t want to discourage women from coming forward and I said that I would want to discourage it. But yes I collected some gray hairs on the way.
@@ezkempinkemp3467 unbelievable so nothing to her.. smh glad you got out of that situation and from then and forward the communication was the same or you cut it all off with her?
My coworker I think she has a crush on me, but we barley hangout together, she talks to me first at work once in awhile, but she asked me to be my roommate lol oddly out of the blue. Not like we are close, but she has a fiance, living with him and his parents, so I was confused af.
@@Pink-dc4qi no way 😳
Date a giver. Where ever you find a mate. Make sure their live language is acts of service and words of affermation. Men you NEED this.
Can't believe this video came out on the same day I realized I'd grown a full blown crush on one of my coworkers after being at this job for over 3 months now.
bro same 😂 talking to myself too much it seems my phone hearing it all
It started a month ago and I can’t control it.
I'm telling you, don't do it. The minute something goes wrong you will be pulled into the office and questioned then fired.
@@bensherman8976 lol I left that job over a year ago
Besides it was in the service industry
7:47 this hit me like a freight train! I took two weeks off and my birthday was on my second last day off. On the first day back at the office, female coworker congratulated me and gave me a hug. And now comes the big thing: in the afternoon, she gave me a birthday card, where she wrote a cute note and she let the other 5 coworkers from our shared office also sign it. But the initiative came definitely from her. Two days after my birthday! In the last three years SHE invited me once for drinks after work (we mostly worked from home due to you-know-what and it was difficult to see each other at the office). Also other signs are definitely there: smiling a lot, asking me for help with small things. She‘s always there for me if I need help with a task too. She also praises me in front of other coworkers and gives me compliments for my good work. When I get a haircut (every blue moon) she notices it and compliments me. She‘s always respectful, open and interested in my private life. It always feels genuine.🥰
From my experience I tried dating a coworker before and when we broke up and it didn't work out things just became awkward when we had to work together so I will never date another co worker. Some people might can make it work but mixing business with a personal relationship with someone just isn't for me. As I said things just become awkward if things don't work out and also you may have to worry about other co workers who may not like you try to interfere in your relationship by spreading gossip.
That happens often, but I have a rule, I don't date anyone who I work with. The reason is eventually your business and arguments will be at work too. When it comes time to decide who stays, the boss will pick her. I'm working because I need to, I can find a woman somewhere else and keep my job. That's bad business to date co-workers.
I have two jobs so I'm safe, I only go to work because of the girl I'm in love with but I don't really need that job but I can understand the risk for those who needs it
@@drawingsbr4628go for it yolo
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 I discovered she's a single mother 🤡
@@drawingsbr4628 So I fell for this coworker 15 years my junior, married and with 2 small kids, 4 and 7. I'm in my early 50's, divorced for the 2nd time and single. No doubt I fell for this girl real hard, but the reason is her, I had no intention of doing it, didn't even find her particularly attractive in the beginning, but she's been showering me with attention, with compliments, she remembers every little detail, we've been texting every day for months now, she'll sometimes text me first thing in the morning as soon as she wakes up or late in the evening, she's looking at me all the time during meetings, like literally gazing at me so I catch her gaze, look away and look back and she's still looking, she's talking about us in the first person dual (in my language we have a grammatical form for 2 people), she's referring to "us" a lot, when I mentioned I might get a new job she asked me if I was going to take her with me, she's making me food every day (we have in-house kitchen in the office), she's sending pretty much every signal there is, she even lost weight for god's sake, and we really get along great, our values and life philosophy are very much aligned, I love her intelligence, her competence, her social skills, her sense of humor, we make each other laugh a lot and laugh out loud, and she's clearly impressed by my knowledge and skills, she's asking my help and advice all the time and I of course give it my all and then enjoy her lavish praise of my work and personality very much. It's the first time I fell for a woman for her personality at least as much as for her looks. So I'm really smitten and I might be wrong, but I'm pretty sure she feels the same, but we've never talked about our romantic feelings. never even hinted at them outside innocent flirting in a way that everything we say has plausible deniability so there's this strange relationship dynamic because she's married and with kids and there's probably nowhere our relationship can do. But I'm very much in love, I miss her when she's not around and she literally makes my day when she is, I love going to work knowing she'll be there. I thought for a while I might be limerent because I think about her a lot but I don't think so, just smitten, and as much as I know the whole thing is irrational, and I wouldn't want to be a home wrecker, I can't help how I feel, I've tried, and found that in some weird way I'm even enjoying our little game, it might make me feel less alone and it might help her mentally escape the drudgery of her family life, we bring color to each other's life and I seem to prefer the ups and downs of this strange relationship to feeling nothing at all. Still, our relationship can't go anywhere and it would appear I can't just stop feeling the way I feel so the smart thing to do would be to find a new job and be done with it.
@@toobalkain thanks for your story
It's always funny to me when people say you shouldn't date coworkers. As long as both parties are mature about the situation, it's not a big deal. If you find yourself involved in drama at work because of who you associate with, I'm inclined to believe it says more about you as a person than it does about the other people involved.
Not true!!!!
@@yourmommahouse Your evidence?
@@MVEZombie that can go both ways!! What if you want to break it off and your partner start acting crazy, is that my fault???
@@yourmommahouse Absolutely. You should know better than to deal with people who will react like that, and if you didn't know they would react like that then you didn't know them well enough to be dating them anyway. Your inability to recognize shitty people is your fault.
you can never predict what the other person is going to do or act like. In a fantasy world, your take on it works, but there is no guarantee that things will work out perfectly, nor if things go south that the "acting mature" is going to continue on the other side. Also, the thing you said about it saying more about you as a person if you find yourself involved in drama at work because of who you associate with being tied to this topic, or even by itself kind of says more about you not understanding how the real world works. I can vouch for this because I tried dating a co-worker one time in my entire life. Sweet girl, wasn't trouble at all on the job. Started dating her and we had problems outside of work that she could NOT leave at home. Before we started dating, she put on a real good mature act, but afterwards, anything that happened at home was brought to work and she was defiant (I was her boss). That was the first and the very last time I will EVER date where I work.
Never get your honey, where you get your money🤗
If a anyone at the job starts falling for you, irrespective of sex, turn around and go the other way. It is a loaded situation that can go bad and if it does, particularly if you are a man, it can turn into a sexual harassment situation where you lose your hard-won career. While I realize this can be exciting and so easy to fall head over heals, romance on the job is a bad idea and should be discouraged. It has conflict of interest written all over it and can only spell trouble.
exactly...so many other avenues to meet ppl...this is just the 1 place you should avoid with extreme prejudice
Went through something similar this year but her problem was obsession and jealousy to the point it was unhealthy, year later it was all for nothing..
This a part time retail this ain’t my career gotta take risks lol
FACTS
Don't eat where you sh*t!
Never dip your pen in the company ink I always have heard
I heard "Don't fish from the company docks".
Or don’t shit where you eat
I’m not sure yet she always talks to me with others she’s quite but always talks and smiles at me all the time
ok im in the clear nothing to worry about
You don’t “ dip your pen in the company ink” The last place u try to hook up is at work. In 2009 I made this mistake. Ended up going to jail and losing my job. Don’t make friends at work. Your there to make money and that’s it.
going to jail wtf
I might be leaving my job soon thats why I feel this about her
If a girl at work likes you, run away! You don't need that kind of drama
Noted my supervisor charelle likes I made her uncomfortable with random gestures but she liked me still, although I did apologize to her for being inappropriate I'm just keeping things professional so I can stay out of trouble and keep my job.I regret what I did but she was understanding I should have played along and not made things awkward almost luckily I had my councilor to cover me I made mistakes but learning lessons ,and doing thing the right way.
Yes
The people at work are not friends. They are there to do a job, just like you.
Accurate. No one should have fun at work ever
You’re both projecting because no one at work likes you
I watched this as I realised that I have a huge crush on someone at work. Never felt this way before - alot of this didn't relate to her, but I'd still like to think there's a chance - plus we've not worked with each other for long. Could just be her trying to be friendly, but man I hope not. On our first meet she mentioned she had a son, don't know if that means anything, anyway I hope all goes well and thanks for this video.
I think he was joking, but I once had a coworker tell me “I think I found your perfect match” I asked who and he said “female coworker’s name”. I didn’t tell anyone I was single, and I think he was messing with me, but it made me question if that could be true. She is very friendly, but I am not interested in dating her. Nothing against her, but I don’t feel any romantic type of connection.
I used to have one . She even starts conversation when everyone’s in lift . She knows what I eat for breakfast & enquired abt it . She asked me to join on an outing . She stays late after to walk me to bus stand . The thing I wasn’t attracted to her & didn’t know how to tell her . Then I quit my job & moved to a new workplace. I’m terrified of having relationships in a workplace setting . I don’t wanna poop where I eat 🫶🏽🤙🏻
I know one that breadcrumbs me with body language then wards me off by displaying the ring hand I lost interest after the first few cycles
It's totally safe for a woman to date a man from work. But if you are the man don't do it unless you hate your job or you can't live without her.
Great if it works out with the co-worker but if it doesn’t it makes it hard to get over the person and it could kill your career!
What if your manager likes you
I was thinking about this today, I think I have an admirer in work but I will never do anything about it in a work setting as she could easily claim harassment at any time and I could be moved to a different department.
Instead of watching sign go and direct talk ....that's the best way ...
@@IloveyouNATURE If I wasn't in work I would, she is sexy but I just can't in work.
What about asking what you're doing for the weekend or if you have plans
There's this coworker that's been on my mind recently and I believe she likes me as well.
Well ask her for a date , anything other than yes means no. If she says no or makes any excuses move on and never ask her ever again, leave the ball in her court let her do all the work.
Keep it work related. Unless you don’t mind losing your job. I have been thru it allready. It’s not worth it
@@Scorned405 I understand.
The last office environment I worked in was shocking as to how many affairs were taking place. Everyone was boinking everyone, married or not.
There's this restaurant that I go to sometimes, and one of the girls who works the cash register and takes our order always smiles at me and acts really nice and friendly towards me whenever I go there. I'm getting mixed feelings. Like, does she like me, or is she just being friendly?
She wants your money lol ... im kidding man
Well, it's definitely her job to do so, but feel free to ask.
Go there with a female co-worker and male co-worker (to see if the behavior is the same with him).
The female co-worker will probably have the right opinion on the waitress.
Pay attention at how she acts/behaves towards other patrons/customers. Be honest with yourself when you observe her. Next, pay close attention at how often she looks/glances towards your direction and if she is asking you personal questions. If she smiles when you arrive and takes your order and then after that, glances at your direction and smiles when she notices that you have caught her looking at you, well, congrats! It is a very positive sign she is attracted at you. Make a move.
I'm in a similar situation with two girls that work in the same restaurant. I go there everyday and have created a connection with both, though I am not interested in dating either of them. Regardless, it is nice to know two girls are attracted to me so I talk to them to practice and get better when talking to girls.
My advice is, ask them questions and be mysterious. For example, one of the girls asked me "what do you do?" and my response was "I fix kids" (I'm a school counselor). Her reaction was amusing and she asked more questions but I didn't answer as at that moment her coworker needed her help. So, I didn't elaborate and just paid for my drink, smiled and walked back to my table.
Be mysterious, be fun, be very positive and never, ever become needy or clingy or desperate. James Bond would never become emotional over a rejection! So, just ask them out and if they reject you, be blissfully indifferent. Just smile and say, "Okay, well, if you change your mind, let me know. See you tomorrow!"
I highly recommend you buy Coach Corey Wayne's book "How to be a 3% Man" and read it 10-15 times. Also, go look for his RUclips videos and watch as many of them as you can to supplement the book. Trust me, Coach Corey Wayne will change your life!!
Agreed that it could be her job and some people are just naturally friendly so do not automatically invest feelings or get hurt if she is the same way with everyone. You have a small window of opportunity if you want to approach and talk to her, don't overstay your welcome make small talk that gives you subtle hints/clues about her before you continue with your day. Don't make her feel awkward or uncomfortable because it is her job on the line and she doesn't want it to get awkward if things go south knowing you frequent there.
If you have problems making small talk or approaching, I always tell people to imagine you are checking out while buying groceries. You have about 30 seconds to make them laugh or forget about the drudgery of work before it's onto the next. That and I always treat everyone equally it doesn't matter if a girl is a 5 or a 10 that stuff is just messing with your head and making you stumble. It works in two ways, you make someone's day, and it keeps them guessing.
In my experience it's too high risk if you need the job, a lot of bosses tend to be quick to dismiss employees for this sort of thing, if the relationship turns sour it's often really difficult to hide from your team.....obviously that's how your boss is most likely to find out.
@Tel3garmem-Joyanima thanks for the offer but I'll have to pass.
So she does like me 😅 I was asking for signs , I got every sign in the book n this video here just seals the deal 💚
You can get all the signs but she only likes you as a friend.
If you do not care about that job site ?
Yes you can do whatever you want
Girls have never liked me at work, bars, clubs, the beach, supermarkets, flower shops, doctor's offices, post offices, parks, museums, sewage treatment plants, funeral homes, VD clinics, pet stores, coffee shops, libraries, art galleries, construction sites, horse racing events, cruises, airports, hotels, motels, hostels, brothels, butcher shops, art supply shops, restaurants, amusement parks and so and so forth. Time to load up the ol 357 Mag and call it a day on planet earth, boys and girls.
😂😂 hilarious but don't unalive yourself bro just forget about it focus and the woman you least expect will notice you
Girls aren't everything there is to life. Backwards law is also there for a reason.
NEVER date a co-worker. You've been warned.
Why
@@breaks3085 if you really don't know , read the comments here for why
@@breaks3085 well...so many things can go wrong....plus if you are like most people you need a job to pay the bills..why risk it??
"NEVER get your meat where you make your bread"......... words of wisdom........
@@brownpunk1794 true why make things awkward if things are going awsome for you to fuck that up I wouldn't wanna take that chance it'll be a huge mistake I'd rather wait and see what happens first oneday if it happens so I don't get played like a fool again.
God damn it. Most of these are clear and present. If only I had the balls to bust a move.
What’s stopping you? Just curious:)
Lots of things. He’s probably thinking this girl could have a bf and not say anything. Maybe she has herpes. Maybe she’s just trying to play me and get attention. What if she starts talking about the bedroom stuff to my coworkers. What if things go bad between them and they’re still working together. What if we get together but she starts disrespecting me in the workplace and starts messing with other dudes. What if she’s really just a terrible human being. What if I’m reading the situation wrong?
The list goes on and on. That’s what I’m thinking anyway. It’s a terrible thing that’s happened to me and it’s also hindering me from making any moves.
@@jacobcutrer fear fear fear. Live fearlessly. You are a man. Be at your best at all times. You have an issue find a solution. Your out of options? I don't believe you. However if u feel it's not for you then it's not for you. U never know. It could be a blessing in disguise.
Dude you only live once make your choice
Goo for it brother do it don't wait
M.O.B, I never put a h03 before my bread, so here we go. Pac said it best.
Firstly, don't date someone from where you planning to go regularly (work, school, gym).
Secondly, don't ask the fish how to catch fish. Ask a fisherman.
So the club is the place to date??
@@gtripmusic2906 Not for long term. Girls only go to clubs for validation. They like the attention, but they reject basically everyone.
@@gtripmusic2906Yes
This video came at the right time as I found a new job and have been wondering about these things
Never date a coworker even in the same department as you even temp workers are high risk toxic our department is a circus right now i was messing around with a temp worker and for some reason she gave some action to my coordinator everyone knows and everyone has a big mouth but for some reason my boss doesn't know what's going on im highly grateful that I still have a job pre and post covid
Me and her We both agreed to keep it movin she can have my coworker she swear on her life she ain't talking to him i always see the chase wow but I'm crazy and overreact yea ok
I have never been more patient than I have been with this girl that works at my local pharmacy for three years. We have been flirting back-and-forth and just recently I was able to give her my phone number. Ask route to see the new Beetlejuice seagull and let me tell you we have hit it off and I took more time with this than I have with anybody else.
It only works for two people who were truly meant for each other. Other than that it's a huge distraction.
I'm 33 and I'm currently in a relationship with the assistant manager(she's 26)where I work. She's hot, I was attracted to her from the start. I was the only male worker who had the balls to make their move. The other guys at my workplace have their eye on her but I told them she's taken(by me of course).
I must admit, at first I was a bit hesitant about being involved with someone I work with but we've been together for over 7 years besides, being in a relationship with the assistant manager has it's perks.
1 Thessalonians 5:16
Rejoice evermore.
“ Don’t get your meat where u get your bread” Lol
Yup........💯
Every one of these is a yes to check mark so I'm in😂😂😂
Almost all the signs,except she doesnt connect on whats app after office time
My own personal rule is don't get your sex where you get your checks.
What if your manager likes you
@@Lincoln_the_official Same rule applies.
I think she's friends with a guy at work but I think she gets worried what I think when they're together. I think she chose him but he's kind of a simp whereas I'm a little older and we have a connection. It's a weirdly fascinating situation but I try to be chill about it because I don't want her to be uncomfortable coming to work. We'll have time to pursue each other when one of us leaves.
Young men watching this and reading the comments…….do NOT mess with women at work! This WILL blow up in your face.
I have a crush on my work colleague, but I found out indirectly through another colleague that she has a boyfriend 😕. The strange thing is that my crush never mentions him when we talk and always acts as if she's single. Instead, when I go on vacation, for example, she asks me if I'm traveling alone. We don't work in the same part of the building, but whenever I walk past her workplace (which is pretty much every day), she waves at me and gives me a sweet smile 😊.
She’s probably just trying to get you to think she’s interested so she can use your attention and affection as an ego boost. She’ll let you compliment her, But if you ask her on a date, it will be either “I have a boyfriend” or she will be busy, or ask to reschedule last minute.
From experience: If she is married- She’s using you for attention because you are there everyday and you are just convenient. She’s unhappily married and using you for a rebound while she is still deciding on getting a divorce. Then once she is divorced she will dump you for another guy that she is “serious” about. She’s insecure and needs external validation.
Going through the same thing. Took me a while to realize it’s all about attention.
My co-workers directly told me they liked me
When I signed my letter of offer at my new job I ain't see nothing about romantic relationships... is this a good sign?
She mimic my body language one time... Oh no,, i didn't know she liked me 😂
Yep as always women will continue to play a passive role and likely will for all eternity
15 years later and one son, one house, one good job gone, a ton of money and half my pension later says NEVER defecate where you eat gentlemen.
NICE! Good looking show! Cheers!
I only get a couple of these from a chick I think is cute at work, never spoken to her really outside of working stuff. I catch her looking at me quite a bit and she catches me too, if I bump into her unexpectedly she'll be looking and smiling at me, she goes the long way to go around the office just to walk past me pretty closely (may have brushed past me idk), she's asked me some really dumb work related questions as well not sure maybe to get my attention and have a conversation? I have noticed her changing her hair & makeup quite a bit too. Recently she seems to be having lunch around the same time as me as well, I feel like I run into her more than I should coz some people I legit never even see for a couple of days at work unless I'm looking for them. I'm autistic so for me it's stupidly hard to talk to women I think are cute without feeling so socially awkward/ineptitude at talking and me also being scared af about sexual harassment in workplaces, I haven't told anyone at work that I am she probably just thinks I'm weird or just not interested lol. I asked my coworker coz I talk to her outside of work she's around the same age as my mum so she's like my work mum to keep an eye out for me lol.
Can’t wait for lime AI
A wise man once said: "don't get high on your own supply".
Although this was for the narcotics industry, it still applies to relationships at work. Best to keep work life and love life separate.
I would tell her that
DO NOT date a co-worker! If you want to date her, quit the job and work somewhere else, then the dating. If you do that at the same place, there will be a LOT of gossip and "favoritism" talk behind your back.
😶🌫️Thank you 🎉
I like my boss at office and the way she looks at me smiles I got confused and start to think she likes me m, what can I do she is my boss, she has higher level job
HA HA!!! I WORK ALONE AS A LONG HAUL TRUCKER 🤘🤘🤘🤘
No love found, no love lost 🧘♂️
My beautiful sweet heart I'm walking in faith life is beautiful smile and don't panic
Fellas, DONT SHIT WHERE YOU EAT!
My boss made very intense sexual eye contact with me. It was completely out of the blue, so I was taken off guard. I immediately looked away. I do find him extremely attractive, but we work together, and we're both married. I've never led him to believe I'm interested, but I do fantasize about him when alone. Nuff said.
Yikes saying this as a married woman is crazy tag ur husband in this comment. 🤡 behavior
@@nicolaswilkins7804 He knows
You for the streets
@@685x Oh I'm the whore because my boss is a creeper? Gotcha... 🤣
@@nicolaswilkins7804 I'm the bad one but my boss is the creeper? Makes no sense, victim shaming.
what if the co-worker has a bf and she likes you and I like here too😭😭wtf i gata do
Here's nickles worth of free advice for men: NEVER dip your pen in the company ink!!!!
That’s right. You don’t get your meat where u get your bread
Shut up
Yeah, I never double dip on the sauce as everyone I work with is super lazy hence I make small conversation and move along. If they were hot I might make a joke or two😊
Metoo killed office romance
Once it’s over all the hell begins she will be watching you like a hawk and ready for you to slip up so she can chew you up and spit you out…. Soon as i started talking with someone else she got jealous and cussed me out she said somebody told her I had her in rotation I told her to get from around me and go back to her work spot and she went to hr and said I harassed her in an argument and I got fired
Hmmmm… all I’m getting from this is maybe, I’ll take it,
Stay away from trying to date women at work. If you've read the signals wrong you're going to be in front of HR looking at getting fired for harassment.
That is true
What if your manager likes you
@@Lincoln_the_officialThen bang her.
Onetime a female coworker told me,”In a bit I’ll be ready for more.” She knows what she was doing 😏
If a woman at work likes you...stay away, never let a woman possibly affect your money.
True dat.
they had a lawyer at our unions sexual harassment meeting . she told me to only come into contact with women , where it involves business. don't talk to them , or joke with them , or flirt or have anything to do with them outside work . your job and reputation depends on it.
Its harassment and law suits if a guy does the same thing.
Tell me there's not a double standard.
Don't fall into the trap guys stick too your job and ignore her.
The destruction of your life ain't worth her short term attention.
She did most if not all of these! Turned out she was playing me for a fool, went off with a guy she swore had no chance n sent me pics of them on dates together???
Jesus.
That harlot deserves the rope
Pity. U have been bro-Ed....
Casual sex with a co worker it’s fine, if both are mature enough.
You use the same intro music as Vortex Radar used on his older videos, Back to Planet X
The modern day version of offering you food is asking you to taste her vape! 😂Any girl that offers you to put something in your mouth that she is then going to put her in mouth! 👍
Never shit in the nest that feeds you!
This is all about discernment.
I used to work at IKEA.
One of those weird places, I know.
It can indeed work out.
I have seen plenty of people get married and have kids.
Variables are definitely to be considered.
But don't let any comment here be anything BUT opinion.
Unless the scientific facts back them up.
How many people have long careers anyway?
Hell man most folks float from job to job.
But hey, thats just me saying that.
Think about it. Where do you spend most of your time?
Be wise. But don't panic.
Live and love yall. ❤
No! Bad idea to date a coworker. Can cost you your job
Absolutely
If you are smart, the last thing you want to do is to get involved with a coworker
What's the age limit on this.
Just recently had a chick joke with me two days in a row at work. Saying I move too fast. Should I try to holla yall lol
What the hell is work? I'm nearly 50 and never had a job. Imagine having to do stuff!
I have coworkers that check off all these boxes but none of them are interested in me romantically. Take note fellas: This woman has no idea what she's talking about.
Literally the girl I never met in any workplace ever
I run into many. Not worth the trouble.
I have a coworker brings me food, snacks, hugs and wants to give me money. What do you think?
@Tel3garmem-Joyanima
This is a scam!!!
I think it’s time for you to go on a date
You don't get your honey we're you get your money $$$
Oh no. I fall in love with my bosses haha
I admitted to my coworker back in January that I have feelings for her but she told me that she wasn't interested in having a boyfriend at the time. It's now April and she's been giving me mixed signals lately by helping me out around the store, playfully poking me in my arm, and offering to wear my hat (which she looked really cute wearing). Are these possible signs that she may be starting to like me or am I accidentally reading too much into these actions and have the wrong idea and she's just being friendly?
oh she wants a bf she just dont want you , if she puts in the friend zone you gotta give her the cold shoulder Nd I promise she will be interested just by mention other girls
Tell her that you have a question for her and there are no wrong answers. Tell her the signs you have seen and ask if you are misinterpreting her actions. This takes the pressure off of her and makes her more likely to open up to you.
She does not want you but wants the attention
There's a woman at work who likes me and talks to me sometimes or messages me from time to time at work or at home, She and I have both watched similar tv shows or movies and she sometimes calls me "Lucifer" when we are at work.