Therapist Reacts To: Wildflower Wildfire by Lana Del Rey
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i feel like when you listen to lana's music you really hear what she's saying. maybe that's because you're a therapist but i think it's also because you're a really thoughtful person. you also have a really comforting presence that reminds me of hugging my mum. i hope you're having a lovely day mere x
thats so sweet
perfectly said, i agree
Natalie James! That’s the nicest thing I’ve heard ever!! ❤❤
best comment ever!
Yes she is i totally agree about you
this song is kinda Lana breaking the fourth wall and just straight up talking to her listeners and giving them context on who she is, how she became that way , and why she does this. The album was released during a controversial time in her life. “you say there’s gaps to fill in so here” she’s just giving us context.
this song makes me VIOLENTLY SHAKE every time i hear it. i feel like she literally wrote it about my life. that one line "my father never stepped in when his wife would rage at me" explained everything to me. it happened to me too. my mother physically abused me from when i was 9 until i turned 17 or 18. she did everything from slapping/hitting me to dragging me by the hair across the floor of the apartment. i remember when i was 12 i was constantly repeating to myself "if she lays a hand on me ONE MORE TIME, i am grabbing a knife and threatening her." when i was 10 i lashed out at her saying i'll call the cops if she touches me again, and she laughed and said nobody will believe me. she usually did all of that when my father was at work, but sometimes she would rage at me in front of him. sometimes he would tell her to stop, sometimes she would and sometimes she wouldn't. but he never really asserted himself very strongly in those situations because he hated having conflict with her. her rage probably made him uncomfortable and he didn't want to deal with it. sometimes that's a little more painful to accept than the abuse itself because it's like, you had the physical strength and the power in that situation, so why didn't you stand up for your child? i also completely understand the "ended up awkward but sweet" line and i don't find it to contradict the imagery of turning into a wildfire. when you've been through such violence, you very intuitively know it's wrong to unleash such anger on another person. so you do your best to be gentle and delicate. but you've also only ever seen anger and rage as a coping mechanism. so it also becomes something you naturally "turn" into when you encounter struggle, even though you really don't want to resemble the person that abused you. i used to have explosions of rage - i was so afraid of being like my mother and hurting somebody else that i started taking it out on myself. when i'd get angry i'd claw into my skin with my finger nails until i bled or physically hurt myself in other more violent ways. it didn't help that she punished me for crying or showing any negative emotion too. with many years of therapy i've learned to overcome "turning into something that burns". it comforts me to know somebody else understands, though, especially an artist i admire so much. only people who have been through it know how much it means to finally be at a place where you know for sure you will NEVER be your mother because you broke that pattern.
My mom bashed me too … but dad was too kind to stand up to her
Let's not confuse kindness with weakness@@umchinagirard1800
I literally felt a huge lump in my throat as I read what you wrote. Wow, you're a survivor and I clearly respect that. I'm also glad that you've got a professional help and learned how to cope up with your past. Stay strong! 💜💜💜
@@luminia9218 Thank you for the sweet words!
@@heavenboulevard You're welcome! I hope that I could make your day better. Be happy and take care!
She actually drew from Sylvia Plath’s “The Bell Jar”, altering the phrase from the novel “I am, I am, I am” to “burns, burns, burns” and “I learn, I learn, I learn” suggesting that she has confronted her trauma and its effects on her mental state, making a conscious decision to not succumb to potential s*icidal ideations (again referencing but oppositional to Sylvia, who committed s*icide) and has decided she can and will go on through learning about herself. I actually think she is singing to the version of herself that is in pain from the trauma caused by her mother, telling her traumatized self “It’s you from whom I learn, learn, learn”. Such a powerful way to reference iconic and tragic literature with a positive outlook.
And you just made me love this song more 😢
I like how she says “I run like wildflower” and “I live on sheer willpower” like all she has ever done is survive; which is completely different from living. It ties in with what you mentioned about her parents. If you feel like you aren’t protected or can’t rely on people who are supposed to take care of you, you feel like you have to do everything yourself. Which I feel like is a big reason she has been so many people and so many places and why she’s worked so hard all her life. In one of her poems she recites from her poetry book “Violet Bent Backwards Over the Grass”, she says the line “the wildflower that doesn’t care where it grows” which I think holds the meaning that she’s been through so much she can survive in the harshest environments. And when you become so used to it (I wouldn’t know what hot fire was), you tend to just stick to what you’re used to. I feel like people who have been through a lot end up getting put through a lot more because their brain can’t really avoid it. It’s almost seen as a normal environment rather than harsh. It breaks my heart that love wasn’t properly modelled for her in her early days. I feel like it would’ve saved her from a lot of pain. I hope she knows how much love and happiness she deserves. ☹️❤️
So sad, reminds me of my parents too. I'll I've done is survive 😢
@@queen.of.disaster_ I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through that. You deserve so much love. I hope you find a new family who loves you unconditionally. ❤️❤️❤️
@@Vicky-gi7ci Thank you, but I'm in my 30's now and got away from my toxic family, especially my mother years ago. I never want children or marriage so unless you mean "family" like new people in my life. I've just moved again so don't know anyone. I'm just sad she turned into this horrible person and chose another narcissistic partner over her children yet again. You can't change everyone. Last text message she sent me was "My kindness is limited". I'll never forget that when she needs me ❤❤❤ Now I have this song stuck in my head again. It's a cold winter's night and I can't sleep. A Lana kind of night for sure 💐🔥☕
Beautifully written
When you're abused like that, you tend to react violently. You become what you fear the most against your will. It is like fire. If someone rages at you, you will become enraged... But a wildflower (Lana) won't become a wildfire and won't spread the rage. Why ? because she chooses to be sweet, kipping the only quality that is left from the abuse. That demands self-awareness and willpower. With that willpower, the fire won't spread around and there will be no wildfire (domino effect).
Next HAS to be ride and make sure you watched the music video as it has two outtakes of her own spoken word poetry before and after the song I’m sure you’ll love it :)
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Yes!!
Yeees! Ahí menciona lo que su madre le decía a Lana...
YESSSSS
Those monologues are everything! Relate so much to that whole song.
cherry blossom from blue banisters is one of my favorites. i lost my mom to suicide at 6 year old and so that song of her describing a mom and pushing someone on a swing and just those really simple things i haven’t grown up with me made me BAWL. same with sweet carolina from blue banisters because one of my ways to cope is to write letters to my mother and so when the opening line was “don’t have to write me a letter cause i’ll always be right here” made me cry so hard. one day i will have my family and i will be the mom i sadly never had. i was so young when i lost her and my mind is just starting to comprehend what happened as a teenager. thank you for your videos and im sorry for over sharing so much but when i have no one to say this to your channel is like a safe space.
Thank you for sharing this and yes, your mother is absolutely with you. Sometimes, I think certain art is brought to us to heal, especially when it makes us face the things we are without, and I feel like the song cherry blossom was for you. I will definitely react to it. Keep writing the letters and even speaking to your mom out loud. Ask for signs. She is there to guide you. As you get older, you may experience different pain, or a new kind of pain, so be gentle with yourself. What you went through and continue to go through is tragic and complicated so honor all the feelings that come with it. Please also know that when suicide occurs, it wasn’t for a lack of love for the people around them, it was a lack of love for themselves because mental health can distort things. I have this overwhelming feeling that she’s here while I type. Sending you 🤍
alternate title: mother reacts to mother.
This song is such a warm hug for mentally and previously physically abused children. The line with the mother hit SO HARD. My father never did anything besides agreeing or telling her to stop. Even the wife thing is true, since I just call her mother, and sometimes that feels too loving. So... now I try to be sweet and loving to everyone, and I can't really express myself in a right way (So I ended up awkward, but sweet). I always try to not be angry and *burn*, but I fail. I try my best however, and when someone angers me, I become really fragile. (Like a wildflower) Basically, I survive with willpower, and running from my emotions.
I am a people pleaser, and comfort myself in people that act lovingly to me, especially people that I spend lots of time with, that show me relationships don't have to be toxic.
Damn, Lana is REALLY a genius. (sorry for the vent)
Also maybe the wildfire metaphor can be explained by how mania or hypomania can affect one’s relationships due to the irritation, aggressiveness and overall intensity it brings (mania’s heat burning everyone around you), which is very common, and the fact that she’s on lithium and even mentions that it brought her poetry, but let her numb, kinda makes it clear for me. It even explains the “nourish you hazily” thing… the price of being a wildflower (euthymic) is feeling constantly numb. Also, the lithium we have on Earth originated from exploding stars, so perhaps that’s what she means with to be “running on stardust”. Personally I’ve always interpreted this song as a life story of someone struggling with BD. There’s also an instagram live she did where she mentioned that there’s one specific word she mentioned in this album that she never mentioned before that just “explains it all”. I’m pretty sure it’s “lithium”.
I was just listening to Wildflower Wildfire on the subway and thinking about how I'd love to see a video from you reacting to this song and boom
i love how i can listen to lana’s songs over and over again, and appreciate the poetry and beauty, but never really understand them until i hear your perspective. your videos have made me understand her music so much more🤍
Awww thank you 🤍
I can say exactly the same, it all started when I watched your video analysis of „A&W“
Girl sit thru the whole albums cause you just putting out gold content with this, shes shown many complex topics for everyone to see them with such ease and vulnerability thru herself and her experiences and inspirations, people really need deeper perspectives like yours.
Cant wait to see you reacting to Ultraviolence album and Norman F*cking Rockwell !!!
Like ORDINARY PEOPLE a voice of girls raised by violent mom
LOVE THIS SONG
I love the fact that this songs starts to get distorted sounds by the end like its actually burning
Love this so much ❤ thank you! I'm not a native English speaker but i think it also has something to do with all the Hollywood stars that she admires (Kurt, Marilyn, Amy) that "burned" because of the fame or their past. She's using her sadness to create poetry for us but she's not going to end like them, she's creating another path. Idk hope it makes sense. *Don't stop doing this videos, they are really important for many ❤
This also makes sense due to the 'burn out fade away' quote from Kurt.s suicide note, as well as the reference to 'Lithium' in the lyrics - I definitely see the Nirvana references as intentional.
Yay! Another song off blue banisters. Thank you Mere. I love your analysis. The range in Lana’s voice amazes me on this album. Her emotions really come through right from the first sentence of the song.
i'm so happy that i found this channel! i love to hear your thoughts about lana's music and it's funny that you say you don't know much about her but you're always on point!
this really is in my top 2 lana songs, she really outdid herself and her honesty is inspiring
This is better than perfect timing just got in from work with some food and this vid drops. Love this song can't wait 😊
This song always hit me so hard 😢
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I love your reaction videos. You are not afraid to dive deep into what the artist's saying and clearly, it really pays off with Lana! She's such a genius. If you want, I would suggest you to try listening to her albums in one-shot continuity, and following the order of the original track list. The order she choose for every song in all of her projects is, in my opinion, very carefully-thought and builds a superior meaning. For me, Lana is a real cinematic experience, where each "scene" she proposes (tracks) has even more impact when experienced as a part of the whole album!
can we skip BTD though..
@@nashwagemakerswhy would she do that… there’s so much to dive into with btd and it’s so good
Her running on stardust and star drip IVs is lithium. It’s one of the three elements created after the Big Bang, she’s pretty much stating she doesn’t know how cruel the world is because she’s on mood stabilizers. She’s literally god. No one writes like her. It’s INSANE 🤯
omg, could you explain more about this?
Lots of people think this but were not actually sure. It's not fact
of my favorite songs! I love how you can reflect and try to understand what Lana is saying with her words. Lana's lyrics are wonderful, she is never literal or basic when it comes to expressing herself. With her it's like reading a poem where you find the meaning or the interpretation yourself, her songs are very open to interpretation, therefore I feel that one connects more with her lyrics.
at the end of the song, the instruments start to ascend and it makes me feel as if her feelings and herself are spreading like a wildfire, but not that it burns and destroys but how it spreads like a meadow of wildflowers. She expands with beauty and poetry.
Everything that Lana transmits and makes you feel is magical.
By the way, I recommend you listen to HOW TO DISAPPEAR.
It's such a nostalgic and pure song. how we people escape from the reality we live in, trying to imagine a better context.
It's just that just copying this makes me so nostalgic, how a song can portray so much an experience that almost all human beings share.
please do cherry blossom next, i feel like it relates to this song because it's basically a lullaby saying she'll be the mother she never had, it makes me weep
Yes love this… her like ORDINARY PEOPLE tv series
I’m walking down the aisle at my wedding to this song!!! When I first heard it on Blue Bannisters, it just grabbed me-I’ve never heard another song that I related to so much, and I feel like it’s the perfect way to subtilely acknowledge and leave all that trauma behind before “starting a new life.” I’m not sure yet whether I’m going to walk to an instrumental version or just play the first verse and chorus, but I will figure it out.
And obviously, I love your videos, and every time you post an new Lana reaction I have to stop whatever I’m doing and watch! Thank you ❤️
This song is so poetic I love it sooo much 😭 and the part where she sings "I ended up awkward but sweet" makes me feel things yk..I love this video so much thank you Mere 💕
Just discovered your wonderful channel looking at Lana reactions and automatically subscribed. You are probably one of the best reactors I’ve seen, Mere! Love your insights as a Therapist on this.
As someone suffering from BPD, I’ve always been curious if Lana is telling us about a possible BPD diagnosis with her recent music the past two years combined with everything else we know about her life and career. Her mother sounds like the typical NPD parent who abused their child and that child grew up to display abandonment trauma, identity disturbance, impulse issues, black and white thinking and emotional instability, suicidal ideation. All of which Lana has expressly told us about herself in songs and interviews the past few years. I really feel for her if she has to suffer through this because of her childhood trauma. I can unfortunately relate to everything she wrote in this song which makes it very difficult to listen to despite it being my favourite of hers.
I’m so appreciating your ability of getting the information once you hear the song like this is so powerful and brilliant
Love your reactions. When Lana sings about hospital beds and medication, one thing that gets me is that Lithium is often prescribed as a 'gold treatment' for suicidal ideation/crisis. I think she's referring to that specifically. Your analysis are always so thoughtful! Can't wait for your next vids
The mothers gaslighting Britney Spears and Amy wine house
It's also prescribed for bipolar
My mom would rage at me, my father was driven away by her so he wasn’t there to protect me from her anger and abuse. I identify completely. I have a lot of mental health issues. She’s speaking to my soul .
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I just discovered your channel because I was searching reactions to "right were you left me" then I started watching more songs reactions you made, and Now I love your channel
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I've been waiting for you to react to this song. It's one of my favorite song!🥰
hey have you ever seen the ride music video ?? its 10 mins long and it has monologue-song-monologue and it provides much more insight to the song!!!!
it's so insane the lyrics to me, be vulnerable to talk about the broken relationship with her mother's, since she was a child her mom never know how to deal the mental issues and feels like only by now lana did her treatment right as an adult but they can't recover together those wounds. i resonate with her about having relatives that we have no idea when everything went bad and why they behavior towards us is this rage we don't know where it came from
Sometimes mother stubborn people
Was so excited for this one! It’s probably my favorite song from her 💞💞💞
Rewatching every single one of your Lana reactions just to say that you are amazing and I love you
Great reaction! The production on the last verse is supposed to sound like flames and ashes on a fireplace, it's a neat detail.
Ooo I love this!
i watch all of your analysis videos and they all move me in some way, but this analysis left me sobbing for at least an hour. the way you analysed the father never stepping in lyric was so precise and you described the feeling of true loneliness and the effects of abuse perfectly. i've always related to this lyric but i've been unable to fully compare it in parallel to my own experiences until i heard your point of view on it. thank you so much. your work on this channel genuinely helps so many people, and your insight is so valuable. thank you mere
What a powerful song. Though Lana seems to have a great relationship with her father now. I've often wondered where he was when all this abuse from her mother was taking place. Even as Lana blurs out the word "mother" in "Fingertips" (and refers to her has "your wife" here) on the streaming services to symbolize distance, static, crossed-wires, communication breakdowns, etc., in the very next breath she sings "Exotic places and people don't take the place of being your child". She's referring to herself here. On some level, it sounds like she still yearns to have a relationship with her mother. Lana's the one who's taken the initiative to begin the healing process-- reaching out across the chasm.
Yes… distance… her father was in Stockholm syndrome
you're such a thoughtful person. this song is just so sad and the way you describe it is really thoughtful. watching your videos makes me feel so comfortable and I just want to hug you, I just feel at ease whenever you're talking
watching your reaction videos gives me a whole new love for these songs. I loved them when they came out but i’ve kinda forgotten about them. i’m sucked in with the ocean boulevard album at the moment. but these videos are giving me a whole new view on them, and it’s like im listening for the first time again. I love these videos. please keep them coming. I get a whole new view point when listening and watching.
Wildflower wildfire(next to young and beautiful, hope is dangerous thing, and cinnamon girl) is my favorite song of her’s so glad you are reacting to it
I feel this soo much 😢 my parents didn’t treat me well from teenage years til she pasted and my dad still doesn’t understand his behaviour affects me but when I started dating I did have a wall up, I didn’t want to be too vulnerable because I know not everyone stays. I’m so happy she found happiness and a way to express her feelings through poetry and her song writing. I internalised which is not good for my self esteem it self worth.
My childhood was pretty good but yes the teenage years were awful in regards to how my mother treated me. And I was a “good” teen too (except for bad grades and not cleaning my room) I feel like it’s used against me that I had a good childhood…
My #2 Lana song after heroin. Her melody and the piano is everything. Thank you for doing this. Combing through all these Lana reactions.❤
it’s like you know what i need
The way you listen to every word is incredible , subbed
Keep these lana videos coming!! I feel like you really get her poetry!! You really must be a good therapist
Because of your interpretations, I have more appreciation for Lana's music.
You need Ride by Lana del Rey, please
Yay you did it! I love this song so much, it means a lot to me.
Thank you for reacting to this song ❤ I literally cried, your reactions always go so deep
Thank you so much for making these videos. I just got so excited seeing this video is out on my way home, thank you.
love your channel, love seeing a new perspective of lana’s lyrics
I was waiting for this !!! ❤❤ This music is pure poetry 🪴💗
thank you so much for covering this song - it means so much to me and i even have a tattoo of the title
I love this one so much! ❤ Thank you and keep doing, lots of love from Brazil 🇧🇷🥰
Just wanted to say that I appreciate your work, love your content and support you💝
I loved your thoughtful reactions, I love learning more about the depths in Lana’s music
I love your reactions 😭 especially when it’s Lana’s songs… makes me cry. Thank you for your work❤️
Love your videos I've been binge watching these past weeks 😂❤
omg you literally react to her best songs, lyrically wise! thanks for the videos, keep up the great work!!!
I LOVE ALL YOUR REACTIONS QUEEN
Loving your reactions ❤
Queen u should do full album reviews instead of single songs, we’d be super down for that!
Really?! Should I do just one long video?
@@mendwithmere absolutely YES!!! we'd love to see reactions to full albums, each one has topic questions, so you'll have all the contest for each song. Also, Lana always takes care so much of the order of the songs to make it a full story, that you can also read on the order of the song names.
@@mendwithmere omg yes please 😊💕
this was so interesting, i feel like you always understand exaclty what lana is saying. could you possibly do a video talking specifically about attachment styles?
I knew this song was next. Love your vids!! ❤
Always love your reactions ❤❤❤
Amo tus videos sobre Lana del Rey! La forma en que analizas sus letras es fenomenal
I strongly recommend when the world was at war before we just kept dancing or Woodstock in my mind both songs are from Lust for life!
Yes! Waited for this one! So looking forward to watching your reaction. 😃
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WILDFLOWER WILDFIRE IS SO GOOD, SO GLAD YOURE REACTING TO IT
I was looking forward to this video. Watching your reactions of Lana and especially this song, heals something in my heart. Your words are always right, it hurts but it lightens the heart. Thank you so much. I am so glad I discovered your channel.
I’m so glad you did too. I’m so glad there is healing for you 🤍
I had no choice but to binge on your Lana series!!! Sending love from The Philippines.
That’s why I think the word “mother” in the song fingertips is like muffled and distorted, because she can’t fully call her mom her “mother”
I BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ONE
I love your reactions! Thank you so much. And by the way you look so beautiful!❤ yeah you described everything so right, that’s why I relate to Lana as a poet and lyricist, I was too raised in abusive environment and never was validated and protected from abuse, that’s led to horrible things in my adult life with my relationships as well
Next need to be Text Book. I guess is the middle between this song and Blue Bannister
Love ur reactions💛 keep this up, have a nice day
I remember the first reaction video I have watched and you knew already what she's conveying. I'm a psychology graduate but sometimes when I listen to music it's hard for me to read between the lines. I'm really impressed how you interpret her lyrics and being on point (in my opinion).
Okay, I enjoy these sessions. Getting to learn so much!!
I’m so glad!!
not only it personal to Lana. I think people easily can relate too. I think i'm currently facing what other talking about quarter life crisis. I graduate from college, but still suffer to find a job. My fam feel a little worry about it, so it make me feel the pressure on my shoulder.
'Here's the deal' here, i find it relate to me. I promise my parents like a million tomorrow that I can someday make my life like I want to be and they would proud. What I can promise to them is that I wouldn't let my life burns too, no. Nothing would burns, even I wouldn't know how cruel the world was.
*crying to this song
The lithium thing that you have explained helped me to understand something about the medical treatment for someone close to me, so thank you for the psycoterapeutic analysis too. I try to support all your videos, you never dissapoint
I didn’t notice that lana said lithium unit I watched this. Because im on it too
Most family scapegoated females are identified patients in mental health services and society and family collaboration to destroy innocent 😇 child
Listening to this before bed❤
another great reaction!! violets for roses next please 🙏🙏 it’s very deep and connecting for most (if not all) women, and it has a ton of emotion
I can’t help but wonder how her mother feels about Lana’s success and fame and how she damaged her 😢
I loved your interpretation of this one! I always view it as the general, day-to-day struggles as a person navigating mental health issues while giving us some background information. For whatever reason, I interpreted her recognizing her similarities with her mom and needing to actively work not to be like that!
I appreciate you taking the time to analyze the lyrics and not just listen to the melody. 💚💚💚
It’s all about the lyrics for me :)
LISTEN RIDE BY LANA DEL REY PLEASE, ITS A PURE ART AND POESY
One of my favorite songs of lana ever
Oh how i'm loving to watch your reactions! If I may recommend you any song, it would be perfect you did a video about lana's "heroin", it is such a deep song 😊
Great video as usual! I would love to see your reaction to Lorde's Melodrama, specially Liability, Sober, Sober II and Writer in the Dark 💫
I love you Mere. Look forward to more of your posts . I instantly interpret the star dust lines in this song to drug use.
My second favorite song from Lana, it’s so dear to me❤
So so good
Thank u for doing Lana’s song ❤
I wanna have you as my therapist for real♥️🥺. Love ur videos!
Eu tava esperando por essa❤
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lana once said she hoped no one listened to blue bannisters. it is the ONLY album she never promoted!!! and it’s my fav hahah - it’s deeply personal to her
I'm loving so much your reactions!! Def Lana is the wildflower and her mom is the wildfire.
I'd love to see your reaction to her videos Ride and Tropico (full version both). I'm sure you'll understand it and get the deep meaning. Also her song Dealer, featuring Miles Kane. She's screams her feeling out, it's so heartbreaking
Lots of love!!