I’m so glad she posted this cause I love these videos so much. She’s literally the most pretty sweet funny and nice person ever and gives amazing advice.
Thank you for this type of video, that's what we need I LOVE YOU I don't have friends at school at all, I feel like no one ever likes me at school, there being so mean. I don't understand what I did wrong, I'm not a people pleaser, not rude or mean to anyone there. And if someone tries to talk to me I always support and cheer them up. I cry a lot, but no one threre knows it. Like I cry, I can't be happy constantly. Sometimes but recently I think a lot about it. I'm some kind of jealous of them being happy all the time. They do not struggle with these problems. They have chill parents and can do and wear whatever they want. I've been struggling with these problems for 3 years after quarantine. I would be very grateful if you would talk about this too
try connecting with people you know have the same issue at school, or try making friends outside of school by going to social functions and stuff like that. but if ur not a social person and want to stick to people at school, remember that there’s always another person who probably feels the same way you do❤
hi saharrrr. so im in 10th grade rn. i had a crush on this guy for 2 years and eventually stopped liking him too much because he made me feel really insecure. basically he was a really great friend of mine during online classes and then when we met in actual school during 8th grade i found him really attractive and developed a major crush since i loved his personality as well. but he sort of changed as we entered 9th grade and started bringing up all my insecurities in front of his friends and in group conversations just to get a laugh out of them. my self esteem was already low since my best girl friend is the most attractive person on planet earth. i already knew he would never like me back so i forced myself to get over him but i knew i would always have thing for him. my girl bestfriend knew about what haooened in heavy detail and how much i cried over it. so now fast forward six months into 10th grade she told me that she likes that guy and being the people pleaser that i am i acted happy and excited for her. she then procceded to cry because of how guilty she felt for liking him and how she didnt tell me this for 2 months. She then confessed to him and they started dating. They do all kinds of stuff in front of me and while the class is going on too. she doesny even talk to me and our other friends anymore like at all. theyre together during breaks classes and lunch, and on text all she wants to talk about is him. i would never try to break them up because thats not me i just want to stop feeling shitty about myself because that guy literally told me to my face that he wouldve dated me if iwas pretty and now he is dating well the prettier version of me because guess what my best friend is acting like me as well
OK IM SORRY BUT THAT GUY IS SUPER TOXIC LIKE DROP HIM PLEASE. nice guys will not point out your insecurities ever and i am so sorry for what happened to you that is just a really messed up situation. but seriously drop all those people that did you wrong and make some new friends because i promise high school is so much better without all that drama and there are good people that will help you to feel better about yourself. also i do not care whatever that guy says, im sure you are beautiful no matter what, do not let people dictate how you feel about yourself
I can say that the girl is just looking for attention and i don’t think you should be friends with her. Second of all, this guy is so toxic and a good guy will never make you feel like that and say horrible things to your face. I would stop talking to both of them and know that you are worth more and deserve better than him. I hope things work out for you and you find someone who makes you feel like a queen. Much love!!
you need to talk to ur best friend, I'm assuming that you told her that you liked him? even if you didnt you can still tell her that you dont feel comfortable around both of them. About the guy, you'll find someone much better since you're only around 15 and tbh everyone is in a whole different world of their own at that time of life, but yeah you'll find someone much better for you, so forget the guy and have a convo with your bestie about it
Girl that sounds rough. Honestly in 10th grade it's probably her first bf so at that age yeah I'm not surprised he's all she talks about. She doesn't sound like a great friend though. But you don't want a guy like that, who puts you down in front of other people and in private? Said u weren't pretty enough? Uh NO. She can have him. You deserve someone better.❤
as a christian, sahar, i so respect hearing your point of view about the best kinds of memories, and i just want to chime in to say that she's exactly right! i'm a senior in high school, and i've seen a little bit of both sides of the coin with memory making, and i can say without a doubt that the best memories are the ones made with the people who you really care about and who really care about you, MINUS the kinds of things that sahar mentioned. looking back, i have so many precious experiences that some people may call childish or stupid, but they have immense value to me. love you guys, love you sahar! 💗
I love these advice vids!! Ok so... I know you talk about strict parents a lot on your channel so I thought you would be able to give me pretty good advice. So I have Asian, religious parents who are very strict in both religion and protectiveness. I am 17 and basically for most of my life, I've been pretty good and followed the rules because I love my parents and would never want to disappoint them. This means good grades, following the religious rules and never lying about where I'm going or anything like that. I just want to emphasis here that I do believe in my religion and I think it is important but some rules are just hard for me to follow. One of the main ones is that I'm not allowed to listen to music and even though I didn't like that rule, I have followed it for most of my life because of them but i personally don't feel it is that important. Then around 2 years ago, I came across some Taylor swift clips and I was genuinely enchanted (no pun intended) and within a few weeks I was a full blown, obsessive Swiftie. I now have an extreme dilemma of listening to music behind my parents backs through annoying methods like incognito and private browsers. i have to buy merch that isn't too obvious. The worst thing is that I had no way of going to the Eras tour which i am DISTRAUGHT about. Also, music is my main thing but I also have a friend who has lots of parties but I always have to refuse because it is too risky. I went to one of her parties, masking it as a sleepover but I felt really overwhelmingly guilty the entire time and wasn't able to enjoy myself. I just feel so lost and trapped because no one else understands how I feel and I'm in the middle of the situation and unable to fully commit to a side of either full rebellion or full obedience, making me feel bad either way. I also want to note that I can't tell my parents this cuz they would be sooooooooooooo disappointed in me if they found out as they are really religious and think I am a really good girl. What should I do? I love you, your Swiftiness and your channel btw xx
My suggestion is baby steps. I don't have "strict" parents but for the longest time I felt the pressure of not disappointing my parents. It led to me being burnt out in elementary and thus my first "rebellious" act was slacking off during my 8th grade year since it was during the pandemic. I blamed my low grades and poor virtual attendance on the WiFi ofc. But after that first baby step, I felt free.
Where do you live? West or East? If you live in Asia, I grew up very similarly. In a Chinese Christian household I felt so restricted to the point where one day I blew up and got so rebellious. When my parents saw the effect their upbringing had on me, they sat me down and we had an open conversation. They had NO idea this was all happening to me. They said sorry they were hurting me and it restarted my walk with Jesus again. I left out a lot of details but what I wanted to just say is that some parents may be more open to talking about this than you may think. I definitely didn’t think my parents would, I grew up without them saying “I love you” and all the stereotypical Asian family stuff. Now we say it all the time. Hugs! ❤
from Carmen - I’ve know this boy since kindergarten and I’ve told him before in 5th grade but he didn’t like me back but we are still friends too this day (I’m in 7th) I thought he liked me during the beginning of the school year but then I found out he had a girlfriend but I’m 90% sure he’s single now. I can normally read body language so well but with him I can’t and I really like him but don’t want to ruin our friendship. And ik that I’m only in 7th grade but I feel like I truly love this boy. ps: ily and your videos sm my comfort channel fs
Sahar is absolutely the big sis I've never had. I love you so much Sahar!! I love these videos and I LOVE when you post these vids. I literally go to you for advice❤❤
Oh my god!!! I just love you.. you being yourself...your POVs about everything and just everything... I just really like you.... Thanks girl for all this!! ❤ You truly have transformed yourself from a woman to a lady.. Keep growing sis.. ❤
I LOVEE your Chimmy plushie. You kinda remind me of how kind and sweet he is. You're like the female version of jimin, more fierce, learned the hard way , kind , gives good advices and sooo sweet. Love you and thank you for all the goodness you've been spreading ❤❤
First off… LOVE YOU! Your advice is honestly solid 💜 ✨ Story Time ✨ (I’m in college) Ok so I dated this guy for like 7 months and one of my friends in particular seemed to act differently around him. (When she knew he was coming to hangs she’d dress a little more revealing and she suddenly became a lot more touchy with him at parties) I thought it was odd but brushed it off cause I trusted him. We ended things cause we realized we wanted different things from life and each other in general. (It was a amicable separation. Nothing serious, I just didn’t agree with his lifestyle and wanted more for myself than what he had to offer) Then 1 month later my friend matched with him on a dating app. It was weird at first cause she’d invite him to our friend group’s birthday and holiday parties cause that’s what I did after seeing him for 3 months (altho she basically brought him right away since she already “knew he’d get along with everyone”). So just wondering… what are your thoughts? Like technically I was the one that ended things (with her partial encouragement, but my other friends agreed). So do I really have a right to be upset? But honestly what upset me more was that she chose to go on a date with him on my bday instead of coming to the party my other friends had planned. HE even left a present with one of my bffs while she didn’t and instead texted me a pic of them on said date thanking me for understanding
OMGGGGGG!!!! thank you so much for that advice! Yeah idk if I’m ever gonna grow out of it but it’s getting less which is good. You have no idea how much it means for you to call me pretty!! I honestly think he would understand so I think I’ll talk to him about it soon. Thank you so much sahar ❤❤
*HELP* First order of business, your vibes are immaculate, you have such a great fashion sense, I started listening to Tay so much more because of you and you're amazing at what you do. You're like my virtual Big Sis. Now. Here's the thing. I. Can't. Study. I sit down, I open the book, I look at the words, I close the book. BECAUSE IT'S EXHAUSTING. The thing is I want to do so many things that require a decent amount of self discipline. Like get an A grade for one. All throughout my life I've been studying at the last day and that worked for me because, flex hehe, I'm smart with it, and have achieved grades that I'm satisfied with. However, that doesn't work now! I'm also an occasional writer and when I get an idea, I get this delicious spark and write everything I think about it to flesh that out. But looking back on it, I get distracted by something more inviting and the previous idea turns stale. I think my main question is how do you stop searching for this kind of novelty and start maintaining self discipline? Also, tips on not trying to chase validation? LOVE YOU
I have study tips!!!! Play study games, like kaboom or the Quizlet games. You can listen to a podcast on the topic while making the study sets. Also if phones are distracting then turn I all the way off and have someone keep it away for a while. Also don’t be afraid of taking breaks, try studying for ten minutes then taking a five minute break then twenty with a ten minute break then keep going.
Sahar! I just got hired on at Outback in Waco. It seems SO sketchy. It's not at all organized, they keep deliberately not training me right, the manager got my IDs and took them to the back. I was like okay. Then she did it again and I was like didn't you already get my IDs? Then the trainer who looks like this sketchy guy married to my cousin took pictures front and back of my DL and social and I'm afraid like he's sketchy and gonna sign up for a cash app or something worse. Like txt some doppelganger or girl who needs like citizenship papers or something. He can give them to a twin whose a criminal and fraud or frame me so idk. All the managers keep bringing their kids one who keeps running around the restaurant and I don't feel comfortable. So idk.
Hi Sahar 💕 I’m a junior in high school and ig I’m going thru a situation ship breakup (we both liked each other but I wasn’t allowed to date) I was super close with him and we we’re basically dating and he was the sweetest guy and we would always go out of our way to spend more time with each other. But then he started acting distance leading to him telling me he needed space bc he wanted to focus on himself and his relationship with God bc he felt he was putting me above that (we both go to a small Christian school) and said he was too busy for a relationship So I basically couldn’t argue with that so I gave him some space and respected that and eventually he came back saying that he missed me and we went back to normal. Until things got distant again but I thought it was all good bc he went through the effort to apologize and take me back so I figured he probably was just going thru something. So 1 week after he took me back he told me he only did it out of pity bc he felt bad that I was sad w/o having him there for me. But now he just is awkward and goes out of his way to avoid me (Story of Us vibes) and I’m just sad the way everything has ended and I’ve gone from investing so much time with someone who I thought genuinely liked me but rather just felt bad for leaving me. Advice on getting over him and tips for getting over the awkwardness of someone who used to go out of his way to spend time with me to going out of his way to avoid me?
Also, update I made friends with a new girl at my school who I was going to go to the dance with and I ended up being sick and not going, and she ended up slow dancing with him (not knowing that we dated) and so I told her abt it and told her they had my approval (bc I want both of them to be happy) now they are talking. But now whenever us 3 interact it’s kinda awkward
Hi love you so much and I am so grateful that I’m growing up with positive people as urself and I hope I will grow up to be a great person such as you ❤❤❤
Hi! First I wanna say that I love your vids and I watch them so much and your advices are really helpful and Im grateful that you make vids like that, and I wish I can get one for my situation too. So I have a group of friends - one is my friend since I was 5 years old, and then the other two of my friends joined us in 3rd grade of elementary school. Last year we became friends with one girl from our class and her guy bestfriend and after a while they joined our group. Everything was really good but then the girl had to move out and she cut us off a little bit but I understand her because her parents were getting divorced and she was in a hard situation. But when she moved out her and the guy started to fight a lot and Ive realized that hes really manipulative and he treated her like sh1t. I was so shocked because they were always so close and he was so rude to her and he was victimizing himself, even tho almost every fight was his fault. Now theyre okay but after so much has happend I started observing his behavior and I realized that he often uses us to get better grades and that he is just toxic. Ive already talked to two of my friends but one said that she doesnt mind being used, and the other agreed with me. I really dont want to be friends with him anymore but he is still in the friendgroup so that means I would have to leave it which I dont wanna do because my friends are the best people ive ever met and I dont want to ruin our friendship. Sorry for any mistakes ive made but im not that good at english and once again I love you smmmm
Shar, your seriously the sweetest soul ever i love the fact whenever we say i love you u say it back ur like a big sister to me thank you and im so happy that you're happy with mystery man i wish yall nothing but the best i love u so much 🫶 P.s i love ur jewlery sm especially ur snowflake necklace love u 🫶
I love these videos sm! Okay so here is my small story / issue: For a while i have trying to be the better version of myself and learn to love myself more. I have been trying all these skincare things etc. I notice that once i don't see much progress i tend to fall back to where i was when i started. (doing nothing all day and working until late in the night trying to finish up homework) i have been losing motivation to try. It's the same with my grades. Everytime i get a good grade I'm okay with it but it always feels like i could do better. And that's not only with school but with everything,“once my skin is clear I'll be happy“ “once i learn to be more social I'll be happy“ it never stops. Anyways Sahar i hope you see this and i rlly love your conent and you! You seem so fun and like such a great person, you're honestly a huge inspiration ❤❤
Baby steps, girl. You do not have to have a 10 step skincare routine and go on a run at 5am. If you got your HW done eventually, it's better than skipping it. Dw, you'll be fine. You're doing fine, social media puts the most unrealistic expectations upon us. That shit ain't real.
girl go for it!! i think defo have a rly nice summer with ur friends and don't worry abt him (have that mental and physical glow up) and then next year when u go to the same scl try to take off the pressure of liking him - treat it very casually and don't overthink talking to him etc... try to j make friends with him (maybe by talking to his friends) and j be yourself!
Hi Sahar! I love you so much and you are actually my main source of social advice!! My situation: I’m fourteen and in 9th grade in a new school. I think I may have accidentally pulled a guy that I really don’t like who has been repeatedly sexist (subtle things like telling me I talk too loud or stuff like that) and just overall a bad personality. The thing is, when I first met him I kinda thought he was cute and funny so I flirted a bit but quickly stopped when I saw his true colours. The problem is that now I don’t know how to make it clear to him I’m not interested. Thank you lysm!!!
I love your videos so much! Here’s my situation: So this girl and her friend manipulated me. They projected their insecurities on me, they gaslit me into thinking I was imagining things, and I questioned my own sanity. One of them actually took a photo of me crying and used it to make fun of me. They continually made me feel like a horrible person and like I ruin everything. This whole situation even caused one of my close friends to stop being friends with me. This all happened a couple months ago, and I reported this all to my school when it happened. And NOTHING was done. The one ex-friend probably still has the photo. My friends also withheld some information about the situation because they didn’t want to “fuel the flames”. For reference, I’m not an easily angered person, I’m SUCH a people pleaser, and at this time, our lunches were literally my friend grouping trash talking the two people. Everyone expects me to be over the situation by now, but I’m also forced to be a “counselor” of a kind, when they want to “vent” (a.k.a gossip). I don’t know, I’m just really angry that my friends are friends with people who were so cruel to me, and also expect me to listen to their concerns about them, while I’m dismissed if I try to do the same. And every time I see the pair, I want to vomit. How do I get rid of this hatred, I miss having the energy to be kind and helpful. I miss my old self.
Hi! I just started highschool and though I love it, i found that I have been doing a lot worse in all of my classes then I had in middleschool. I'm generally way more stressed and find it hard to sleep at night thinking of all the assignments that I have missing. I think I'm just generally lacking the motivation and energy that I had last year and I would really love it if you could give me some advice. Ps. I love your videos so much and you make me feel so much better about myself everyday 💗💗💗
You're channel is such a cozy space for me.i literally binge watch your videos when I'm feeling low or insecure just like today and i really glad you posted today 🩷🩷🌸🌸 loveee youu🩷
For the quote thing you can do "Don't poison the present by fearing the future." instead of "Don't poison the present by stressing out about the future." BTW LOVE UUUUU!
Hi sahar!! I just wanna say I love your content and i find you so relatable, like we’re both Aquariuses, obsessed with Taylor swift, we both got bullied in school, and we both turn into psychopaths when we have crushes. ANYWAYS, over a year ago, i met this guy, and all i can say is that i was enchanted to meet him. I was so wonderstruck by him when we first met. Naturally, I developed a HUGE crush on him, as in the kind of crush where you’re shaking, crying, and throwing up at the thought of them. The sad thing is that we didn’t meet in a romantic context at all. I was a college freshman and he was a senior when we met, and we had the kind of relationship that was very much platonic. Still, i couldn’t help having feelings for him, so I finally worked up the courage to ask him out on a date a month or so ago. Naturally, he rejected me and said that he was interested in someone else. (Thankfully he was super chill abt it and it didn’t ruin our friendship.) I’m not that devastated bc I got the answer i was expecting, but a part of me is still delulu and hoping that if he and his crush don’t work out, he’ll turn around and give me a chance (and i know from experience that he’s good at moving on from failed talking stages/crushes). I know I’m being delulu, and i think I’m getting better at moving on from him and not romanticizing him too much. All I need is a second party to tell me that I’m being delulu and that I’ll find someone else, so that I can go back and listen to what they’re saying in moments where I’m relapsing on my crush. Basically I just need you to be my voice of reason 🙏
Okay so I’m in this situation where like I’m spending to much time stressing about things and my grades are dropping and I’m just losing interest in a lot of things and it’s like I’m really stressed about everything and I’m a swimmer which takes up like all of my time and I just don’t know how to deal with the stress of high school and it’s my freshmen year. (Also I love you so much and your so pretty)
Hi Sahar first of all love u!! Ur such an icon and ur helping so many people!! ❤❤ So.. im in highschool, and friendships arent really going well for me. Everytime i make friends i put in so much effort, but they end up ghosting me, gossiping about me or just talking about themselves without even asking how i am , this has been going on for quite a while i dont know what to do. Even random people i dont know hate on me or like call me names in the hall way. Or hate me for not dressing like everyone else and just being myself in general. I also was bullied a lot in middle school and people still spread rumors about me now. I don't have anyone who i can trust. I've also been sitting alone at break time and its really lonely. I just hate the fact that everyone uses me or sees me as werid or dumb and that they believe the rumors. I do distance myself from toxic people and I've been focusing on myself, but I don't know what to do. Everytime i try making friends im always let down. Any advice? 😅
Okay here’s my situation. I grew up in a house where we’re not allowed to talk to boys, be friends with them, or date them because in my religion (I’m Palestinian), we’re not allowed to date so my mom is very protective and strict about having no guy friends or anything like that. So I’m a sophomore in high school and I have a crush on my guy best friend that’s lasted for over a year now and the thing is, I already know he doesn’t like me back but I can’t seem to stop liking him, no matter how hard I try with different methods, it never works. It also doesn’t help that our friendship is based around making dirty jokes with each other honestly. Back in May this year, my friend (who’s a year older, goes to another school) texted him for me since they’re close asking if he has a crush on me and I really thought that this would work and get me to stop liking him, this was one of the ways I tried, but it failed and I stopped liking him for like a week before I did again. Anyways, he said he doesn’t like me due to something with his family, like family issues or something. And my friend said she couldn’t send the screenshot of it because ofc, he’s only told her stuff like that, they’re closer. This of course made me delusional thinking he CAN’T like me for some reason and that just made me want to make him see that he can like me back, or something like that. And I just really wanted to know what he said exactly but I understand, I wouldn’t want people going around telling my business to others. Anyways, ever since then, I’ve been trying to stop this crush on him but nothing seems to work. It’s a difficult situation since we’re best friends too along with another friend (not the one who texted him), we’re a trio friend group. She knows I like him too and says she ships so hard and is very supportive. Do you have any other methods I could try? Do you think I should just confess and get the rejection in person already? Should I just embrace this crush if there’s no hope of getting out of it for now? Because I’ve gotten advice to confess to him when I know I’m willing to sacrifice our friendship for it and I’m thinking that’ll finally end this crush. Personally, I’m sure that this crush stems from the fact that I’ve never been close with a guy or have been friends with them the way that we are ever in my entire life so just being close with him makes me want to hug or kiss him and just have a massive crush on him in general since I’ve never gotten those things from a guy before. Any advice on this?? I don’t know what else to try
@@cheeseyrice thank you so much for your advice, you’re right, I should just do it. And that’s exactly it too, he’s in a “prohibited zone” kinda thing and being good friends, I’m able to do so much with him that I’d never be able to do with anyone else otherwise like hugging him or making dirty jokes with each other. He’s cool and stuff but I think it’s that freedom I get from being with him that makes me love him so much. The thing is though, I’m such good friends with our other friend in the group (we’re actually a great trio, not like the stereotypes) and although our friendship may not be ruined there, it would just be hard to be friends with her separately from my crush. I also know that it would be hard to avoid him while still being in school, I have two classes with him right now too so I’ve been planning on confessing after graduating. At least then I can avoid him and delete him easier after that and me and our other friend and still be friends. There’s just not much of an option right away right now but I’ll definitely have to after high school. I knew I’d want to confess after hs but before, it was in hopes that he’d like me back. Now, I just want to so I can get over him. It’d actually be worse if he liked me too, it’s a lose-lose situation. I’m not even allowed to date in the first place and he would definitely not be willing to convert religions for me. I’m also not willing to go that far for him to leave my religion, my family. We’d never have a chance and I’ve come to realize that as summer break came this year and just in general. Thank you again for giving me that advice, it helped encourage me to do it!! I’m glad you were able to get over your guy as well 😊
hi sahar! i never comment just because i never really know what to say.😅 however, i just wanted to say that i really appreciate these advice videos and I am also really happy that you seem to be in a good place right now! 💕 i love u and you look stunning as ALWAYS! you are also my favorite taylor swift supporting influencer!
Hi ty for making these vids, they've helped sm. So basically i have this cousin who i used to talk to alot like everyday and right after 2021 we started going to the same school and stuff and bc im a very quiet person i just followed her around a lot bc i didnt have any friends and its SOO hard for me to make friends. After a while she stopped talking as much to me bc she got friends and to this day she still just keps talking abt her crushes and only things that made her happy but she never seems to care abt what i say and right after i tell her smth that makes me anxious or sad she looks like she barely cares and just says a small comment and says "anyways" and goes back to her own story. A few months ago her lil sister told me that my cousin thought i was rlly annoying bc i followed her around too much at school and that i should just make friends and other stuff and i got a mental breakdown bc i try SO SO hard to make her like me. And its like i always try to make her feel good abt herself but she always makes me feel like im weird and not pretty at all. A month ago she had her quince and i had to wear a long dark blue dress and did my hair and everything and a lot of girls kept calling me pretty and that my dress is pretty but when i told her abt it but she didnt look happy for me and just looked at me with a straight face. Like ik its her own quince but it was such A BIG deal for me to b called pretty by pretty girls and stuff. And also she used to pick a lot of fights w me since we were little till like we were 12 until she said srry but she never seems to care abt how i feel and ive told my mom, brother and friends abt it and they just said shes jealous but its SOO HARD TO BELIEVE. And whenever someone says smth rude abt me RIGHT NEXT TO HER she never seems to defend me. Shes called me weird for being quiet in school and shes rated me a 4/10 (she said she didnt wanna rate me in the first place till i kept asking her) she used to call me pretty when we were kids but now shes like "compared to other girls at school..." Like wtf. The only compliment shes given me this year is "ur face isnt that bad its just the hair" right after i kept complimenting her and saying shes SOO pretty. A lot of ppl have called me pretty but i never seem to believe it bc of HER and idk what to do bc shes my cousin and shes done so much to me and always lowered my confidence somehow. Everytime i get out of her house i have extreme anxiety and think i did smth wrong bc her mom (my aunt) always defends my cousin and her sis and whenever my cousin and her sis do smth to me right in front of her she doesnt care and they get mad if im too quiet, too loud, too this, too that and i just cant seem to b perfect, and since i see them EVERYDAY bc my aunt picks me up from school i have anxiety everyday and am too conscious on what ppl think abt me. Idk what to do, srry if this is too long, but if u read this, tyy!
Part the reason i care what ppl think abt me and i have low self esteem is bc once she told me she had to talk to me and she said "______ and_____ dont like u and were talking shit abt u and..." And she was like "and ____ thinks ur weird bc when she was talking to ____ and u were behind them u laughed randomly and they just thought it was weird" tbh i dont blame them but i just heard them say smth funny so i laughed but i feel like evergone my age is so judgemental and i hate it sm. After that i got sm anxiety and rlly conscious abt all everything i do, and overthink when before i never rly cared and just had a normal life. My cousin made me think i was a weird person for some reason and once i looked at a friend (she was sitting at her lunch table) and accidentally zoomed out and she saw me like 3 secs and i noticed and looked away but then everytime i looked at them they looked back at me and told each other it was weird and even my cousin agreed on it and didnt try to defend me, shes only defended me once and it was bc i didnt know how to talk to her friends when they came over to her house and i was there and she just said i was just tired from school.
Once i accidentally spilled some food in my lunchbox and i didnt notice and it started smelling bad and my friends (the same girls from the lunch table) kept saying it smells bad and somehow they knew it was my locker and one said "SHE SMELLS LIKE WHAT SHE EATS, OOPS THAT WAS KINDA RACIST SORRY" and she just LAUGHED IT OFF AS A JOKE (im hispanic so it IS OFFENSIVE) and my cousin was RIGHT THERE IN THE CONVO and said absolutely nothing like wtf (this is prob gonna sound kinda corny but) family defends each other and cares for each other so idk y she nevet says anything. This happened last week and for the rest of the day i thought i smelled like foof and was rlly insecure. Also i sit next to the girl who said that offensive comment and wr always play games in the middke of class bc its boring and i have to put up with her, its like shes rlly nice but is sometimes rude out of nowhere. We were playing a game and we just had to write 20 questions on papers and then switch papers and answer eachothers questions but i was kinda slow bc i wanted to make ACTUALLY GOOD QUESTIONS and she just "whispered" to her friend STUPID BITCH and looked at me and they both just laughed, i judt acted like i didnt hear but when she looked at my questions she was like "some of ur questions r actually good" and bc of ALL OF WHAT HAPPENED (I left out a few details bc its rlly long) NOW I HAVE ANXIETY EVERYDAY AND STUFF. I WANNA LEAVE THAT SCHOOL SM. I DONT WANNA C MY COUSIN ANYMORE OR THEM WHO R SUPPOSEDLY MY FRIENDS.
Hi Sahar! I just want to say your videos have helped me gain so much confidence. I used to be so insecure to the point I thought I was the most hideous person on the planet but after watching your videos it really helped me realize how much confidence helps. Since I have started gaining confidence I feel like I’m a lot of a better person to be around than I was before and I feel so much prettier now. I’m still working on some things about myself but I have changed so much over the span of 1 year and I have you to thank for that. Anyway I was wondering if you could give me some advice. I’m 14 and at the end of last year and like half of this year there was this guy. I started liking him and me and him had kinda a flirty friendship going on. I could see it my friends could see it. It was very obvious. He later started being a big jerk to me and all my friends completely out of the blue. He would go out of his way to point out how hot this other girl was or how he lovedddd blondes and blondes only and always right in front of me. Idk what changed. I told all my friends and myself that I didn’t like him anymore. But thta wasn’t really true and I couldn’t stop thinking about him. In the past liking another guy has helped me get over the one before better so I started talking to other guys. There was one guy I really liked and he like me. It ended badly though as he pretty much love bombed me and then we stopped talking. It took a good month to fully get over this new guy but once I was over him I started thinking about guy number 1 again. There are more details but I’ve already written so much so I’m gonna wrap it up. Basically Idk how to get over him. Idek why I can’t bc he is a jerk and he’s not good looking if I’m gonna be so honest. All the girls (and a lot of guys) who know him hate him. I kinda do too but at the same time I still get jealous when he talks about other girls. Also recently this guy started hitting on me and he knew guy number 1 but then guy number 1 proceeded to tell this guy to F off and he told my brother. Idk what to do or if this means anything
Girl, I say leave him alone. He’s not worth your time or energy, don’t even waste your breath talking to him. He is immature, and most likely insecure (since he got jealous of other dudes talking to you when you’re allowed to talk to whoever you want to!!! He doesn’t have that kind of power over you!) Of course, he’s only a young teenager too, so obviously you can’t expect him to act like a man, but what you can expect him to know is how to treat young women with respect! I’m going to be totally blunt here and say that it sounds like he only gives you attention when he’s bored, and that is not okay!!! You deserve SO much better, and you are worth SO much more than that. You deserve a guy who makes it knownnn that he likes you! (Also, avoid that love bomber guy too. We don’t put up with that either!!!) Now, I know you’re asking “how do I get over this guy?” And honesty, I think the first step is no longer talking to him! Remove him from your social circle. The distance will allow you to breathe and think clearly about how you ACTUALLY feel. With that being said, I want you to ask yourself “Do I ACTUALLY like him? Or do I just like the IDEA of him and the IDEA of being with him?” “Do I crave the attention he gives me, even if it’s not necessarily good attention?” I know you said you kind of already hate him, and can you ACTUALLY really like him if you already sort of hate him? Don’t let me influence your answer to those questions, but I hope that if you ask yourself those questions, it might help you internally clear up how you REALLY feel about him, and thus help you get over him. Also girl, I just have to say, at the end of the day these boys aren’t worth the stress. Most of the time these high school and even college boys aint shiz. Most of the time they’re insecure and immature and not capable of treating your properly within a relationship (yes, this isn’t true for ALL boys, but you know what I’m saying). Of course it’s normal to want to date in high school and have fun with guys, especially so you can feel included when people talk about relationships, kissing, etc. But at the end of the day, I’m telling you, your time is MUCH better spent focusing on yourself, your academics, and spending time with the friends who love you, uplift you, and support you. I know I sound like such a mom or grandma for saying this, but PLEASE hear me out because I’m speaking from experience. I’m almost 18 and about to graduate high school, and I haven’t dated or romantically involved myself with guys the entire time I’ve been in high school and I’m being serious when I say I’ve been absolutely thriving. It cuts out so much stress and unnecessary worry. It gives you more time to focus on the things YOU want, and you’re not distracted by some boy who most likely isn’t the love of your life. I’m not trying to shiz on dating or love, I loveeee love and I think it’s a beautiful thing. It’s just better spent when both parties of the relationship are responsible and mature enough to properly give and receive it. It’s better to wait to be in a relationship when the right person comes along, and trust me, you’ll know when it’s the right person. Don’t date just to date, or to get experience because you feel obligated to and like it’s the norm.
Hi, Sahar!! First of all, I love you so much. You are such a gorgeous person overall. And also thank you so much for starting this "Sahar's advice" series. Absolutely love it. Warning: This is a longggg message!! So, basically, there was this person in my class. We met each other through a group project and became really close. We also used to do study sessions together. During that time, I totally liked him as a friend. But as time went by, I started to notice some signs. There was this one time, he, I, and my friends were chatting together and someone was telling a horror story. I cried because of that (Yes, I am a scary cat ✌️) and he came and hugged me. During study sessions, he used to stare at me. One time, he tucked my hair behind my ears and looked away so fast. He used to offer me to drop me home. He would hold my hands when crossing the road. And also he loved to tease me all the time. As time went by, I started to like him too. And I felt like we used to flirt all the time but we also argued on silly things like a couple. One day, we went to an event and at the last moment, he went out with his friends. I was searching for him all around campus and couldn't find him. I called and he told me he was out. I told him "You could have told me. I was worried." and he snapped and said, "Why do I have to tell you everything?" I was so shocked and he started saying "Do you like me as more than a friend?" I finally confessed and he said that he didn't like me as more than a friend and he wanted us to stay friends. Then I asked, "Then why did you act like you want us to be more than friends?" He was like "Oh I thought you were really weak and vulnerable that's why". But then, I was like "Okay, fine but I still like you. So let's be really good friends." Cause I genuinely really liked him. But his behavior never went away. Fast forward, he used to flirt with me and treat me really nicely but always pushed me away when we got vulnerable to each other. And I was so confused. But then when I said one small thing like "Don't you think this girl likes you? I don't like that." He snapped and again went like "We are just friends blah blah." I didn't know what to do really. Things only became bigger and messy. We used to argue all the time like this and things really got out of hand. During exam sessions, we again got into an argument about a girl and his behavior was totally intolerable. He literally scrunched his nose when someone called my name as if I were trash. And he went to my two friends and complained to them about me. About those two friends, we have been friends for 7 years and we always shared boy problems and they were my besties. Out of nowhere, they started to take his side and told me that I was being problematic and they were forcing me physically to tell them everything like what we argued about like every single detail of us. I literally couldn't take it anymore. I screamed "NO, I won't tell you" I chose not to tell them because for me, that was not okay for them to force me like this. Then I started crying and they were laughing at me. Like they whispered in each other's ears and laughed at me. He along with my friends. I tried to tell them that lemme talk to him, please. But they acted as if he was the victim there when he always pushed me away when we got close and he never opened up to me ever but always complained that no one understood him. I really tried to give him the environment to be vulnerable. That day, I went home and cried so much that I couldn't breathe. I have anxiety problems. Things got bad and I started to have anxiety attacks like I thought I would die if I couldn't be with me. So I decided that I would apologize to them first. I apologized to everybody but none of them really cared. He told me that he could never forgive me because I screamed at them and he could never be vulnerable around me. I begged him to forgive me. I did everything I could but none of them really listened. At last, I decided to cut them off and I still miss him and my friends so much. I really believe it's not worth it but I have done everything. I had to go to therapy due to my anxiety attacks. A few days ago, he messaged me and asked me if I was okay. I tried to reply in small words. He seemed really guilty tho. Nowadays he is not active anymore and we also don't see each other anymore cause classes ended. I don't know if I have done the right thing. Should I start talking to him again? I really miss him. What should I do? I know this is a long message. You said you wanted all the juice. Here is the juice🤭!! It's okay if you can't read it cause it's really long. Still, I love you and you are such a big sis to me!! 💝💝💝💝LOVE YOU A LOTTTT💝💝💝💝
Me and my ex just broke up about a month and a half ago. He broke up with me because he just couldn’t trust me and he wasn’t sure that he wanted to move forward with me. Recently my this boy who’s sort of friends with me is love bombing me and trying to get with me. I keep making up excuses for us not to be together. He’s really nice to me but he has a really bad dating history. He’s dated 2 of my bsf btw. My parents don’t like him, I still really like my ex and have a lot of feeling for him, and right now I just want to take time and really figure out who I am and to become a better me and learn to love myself and I keep telling him that but he doesn’t understand. What should I do? (We’re all 13 btw)
Hey Sahar! Your advice is really appreciated! You said you wanted details, so here's my issue: About six months ago my "friend", lets call her "M" randomly dumped me out of no where. She said I was too "dramatic", after she had just confessed some of her most personal things to me a day before. I think I handled what she said the day before very well, and I also told her that I had been having body image issues and that this other girl (L) and I were feeling like she left us out sometimes. So M does this (completely abandons me), and then L totally takes her side, despite ranting to me about M for so long. Now I sit alone at lunch, and because M and I are in the same school, I have not really gotten over her yet. Also, she was acting really weird with this guy I liked, almost like she had a crush on him, and I had asked her repeatedly if she liked him or not, and she said 100% no. I then decided that I could like him (girl code and everything). So, I told her and L about how I like(d?) him. Then, before summer started, I heard M talking with her new friends about how at the start of the year she really liked him. I still haven't moved on from this, and she is now best friends with this girl who is just the definition of perfect. I really thought M was going to be the friend I could have for life. But I still don't really know how to move on from her and L. (For reference this is early high school, and L is a really rude person, but I thought M was amazing). Any advice on how to move on after friend drama?? ❤ Thank you so much
Hi Sahar, There was this guy who used to flirt with me a lot but at that time I was super naive and wasn’t looking for anything. I did start liking him though, I don’t know if it was actually him or the attention but he also flirted with a lot of other girls. After the summer, however, he came back with a girlfriend and I didn’t know what to think. On top of that he texted me saying that he had a bit of a crush on me last year and asked: If he wasn’t dating that girl, would I hypothetically go out with him. That comment rubbed off on the wrong way and I told him not to ask questions like that while he’s dating someone. I’m not sure what to do. I love his girlfriend. She’s a year older but we’re kind of friends. She’s so pretty and she’s such a girl’s girl. My question is: what should I do? Should I remain friends with him? I really don’t want to ruin the friendship with him or his girlfriend. On the other hand, I’m scared that there’s a little part of me that really does still like him. I’m not good at talking to guys I’m interested in and this was one of the only attractive guys that did all the work for me. A lot of my friends tell me that I should show her these texts but if she doesn’t believe me it’ll just look like I’m trying to break up their relationship and both of them will end up hating me. As of right now me and that guy are just friends but it doesn’t feel right.
Two years ago, a girl from a different state moved to our school. We hit it off and became very close friends. A couple of months ago though, I asked her to not talk to me during church because…I go to church to listen, and she got really upset with me. The next day at school, she was really pissed with me and told her friends that I was bullying her. (Keep in mind, this was the type of friendship where we never fought or had conflict) anyway, as the weeks moved on, she started spreading lies about me. In our church group one night, she told me that the reason she didn’t want to be friends with me was because of my depression. I understand that if she didn’t want to be friends with me anymore, she didn’t have to be, but I personally think that her comments weren’t very necessary. We stopped talking to each other but all of her friends are my friends because I introduced them to her. We go to the same church and are in the same church small group. So my question is, how do I exist around her in an appropriate manner? What is the best way to monitor how she treats me, while still being in the same vicinities?
hiiii sahar!!! ❤I love you and your videos. I used to be so much more insecure before but you taught me to not be. You are beautiful inside and out and ugh its impossible not to love you. Ok so i have kind of a lot of stuff going on rn. The first one is not that big of a deal but its just fun to talk about. So theres this boy. Im delusional and i had a "crush" on him bc yk i need a crush to function and its fun to have someone you "like." He was always far away from me in class until we were switched seats. And he sits right in front of me in one class now. I was bummed out bc i was scared to lose my crush after figuring out his personality bc remember, im delusional. But i got to know him a bit and hes nice? Like lowkey heartfluttering around him and he talks to me super respectfully?? Shocked, i started to like him more. im not invested in him yet but js the thought of us being together is so cute (not that i want it to happen really). Should i make a move to get go know him more? Or stay at this place where we are kind of friends but not really? Ok next. Ive been with my friend (let's call her N) for a few years. Two years ago, we had two other friends. I was mainly besties with S and N was mainly besties with O. There was friction bc N told me that O was shit talking me and S about our height and signs, etc. Me being hella dumb and believing N when she said that she was only nodding and being silent while O was shittalking us, i decided to try to talk it out with O. I brought S and i tried to have a convo with O - O denied everything and acting annoyed that i would say stuff when i was really trying to mend our friendship together. We ended up making N,S and I be a trio the next year. S and N ended up going to the same class. I was alone but O was in that class. And turns out, O was hanging out with me??? We were fine with bumps that year, but N was ALWAYS talking to me about how S was so annoying. I grew close to N that last year so i believed her and would always be on her side. Stupid, ik NOW, but i knew S would shittalk me for no apparent reason?? Perhaps i did something, but no one communicates here until everything is fully broken. End of that year, we went to a duo with me and N. Current year: N, O, S, and i are all in the same class. O began talking to N again and vice versa. I would talk to both of them also. So we were like a trio. I was fine bc yes, im jealous, but im not trying to ruin something for them. But then N started to distnace herself from me and would talk to O way more. Sometimes i would look at them randomly, and they would be staring at me, 100% talking bad about me. I know they would talk bad about me. Dont ask how exactly, i just KNOW. O isnt great - super judgemental because she would slut shame and ask questions about one's decisions. "Why would {insert my friend's name} dye her hair?" *Rolls her eyes* Also she once came to school while i was talking to our friend. She looked at a classmate and complimented their jeans, looked at our friend and comlimented her fit, turned to me and look at me up and down. I laughed bc i knew EXACTLY what was going to happen. O chuckled while making eye contact with me and said something along the lines of "i cant say anything good about your outfit. Yk what you look like? Homeless. Omg yk adam sandler? How he dresses like that? Thats like you" mind you, i was wearing a hoodie and jeans, the same thing O was wearing but her outfit was all black. That was kind of off topic but yea. Oh and S would talk bad about face multiple times to me or behind my back. Ok so N and now besties with O, and N and S suddenly became friends again. They talk now and they are super comfortable with each other. But N would be the one to talk bad about S first and i would be there for N. N was the reason i lost 2 friends, one per year. But now she talks to both of them as if it was nothing and it was all my fault. S and O werent good people, but N would talk bad about them the most, yet she still got them back at the end. N has that charismatic personality, so shes friends with like everyone. I distance myself from her, but if i cut her off completely, she will shittalk her way into EVERYONE hating me. Im not trying to get bullied but idk what to do? Oh and IM NOT THE TOTAL VICTIM. IM AWARE. i did talk bad about S and O with N for a bit but stopped immediately middle of last year. Doesnt make me a saint, but i have completely stopped shittalking anyone for over a year. Thanks for the advice. LOVE YOU!
Okay so I'm 15 (will be 16 in a month) and I've liked this guy for around a year now. We're sort of friends with each other but we only hang out in the class that we have together (drama). I sort of had the feeling he liked me back as he was always asking me questions about myself and laughing with me. But I decided to try and forget him a few months ago as I was too scared to do anything about it. Then last month I was talking to a friend who asked me if I was dating him because of rumours about us last year. One of my best friends overheard this conversation and told me that it was fine if I liked him but she wanted to let me know that she liked him too. She also told me that she was sure that he liked me. Now I just don't know what to do. I want to tell him that I like him but I'm way too scared of being rejected and my friend being annoyed even though she said it was fine. How do I let him know I like him without saying it? Help! P. S. You're so gorgeous and I love you ❤
Sooo basically I’ve had this best friend since 6th grade (9th now) and she’s been a good friend for the most part except for 7th grade. She has this bf now and a like him (not like that) but he’s cool. The problem is she most definitely likes to be with him more than she likes to be with which ig im fine with but he’s all she ever talks about. She complains about him and overthinks about him or just talks abt him in general and whenever I try to talk about anything she’ll say “oh that sucks” and change it back to herself. She also comments on how I look every day pointing out if my outfit doesn’t look together or she’ll say that she can tell I’m wearing makeup and I shouldn’t wear so much even if I’m just wearing mascara. I love her so much and I don’t want to lose her but it’s hard rn to hang out with her when the only things abt me are negative. She’s also not been telling me stuff that she used to always tell me and idk how to get her to tell me stuff. Her excuse is that she thinks I’ll be mad but I keep telling her I won’t me. What should I do?
Hi sahar, wanted you to know you mean a lot to me and you are such a genuine person. For a few years now I’ve struggled with my relationship with my brother. There’s so much I could say negatively about him but I want to actually have a strong relationship with him. The problem is that he doesn’t respect me like he should especially in the way that he doesn’t take me seriously. He has grown to be very religious in a sort of negative way and now our bond has been broken. I’m all for God and religion can be good but he has just taken it too far. His expectations for what women should be like is not acceptable. I try to slide all these things under the rug but it’s hard to ignore when he constantly wants to point it out. Although he lectures me on how to be a “proper” woman he still treats me like a child. It’s exhausting to think about the fact that we used to be like best friends when we were younger, before he started divided women vs men. I know I can’t control how he views me or the world but I’m not sure what to do. Have any advice. Love you lots and very grateful for you and everything you do on your channel. Love-annalee 😘
doubt youll see this and ily but i was friends with this girl and she introduced us together and we just clicked, not in the romantic way tho, we found out that we had a much of classes together and we quickly became besties. Then he came out as gay and told me that he had a boyfriend, and his relationship was open so it was okay, but his girlfriend didn't feel comfy talking abt it. The next I saw her, she was complaining about how he had closed the relationship with her and how she disappointed that she had to stop talking to this one guy. The guy kept on texting me abt his relationship drama, talking about he got broken up with, how liked this one dude, etc. i kept on asking when he was gonna break up with her. He was constantly avoiding the question and one day I said i was going to tell her if he didnt break up with her. later that day in one of our other classes he confessed that he lied about being gay and all of his boyfriends and that he liked me. i dont like him like that and he kept asking me out and pestering me to say yes. when the class finally ended i blocked him on my phone and told his girlfriend asap. in one of our classes together he said that he would ignore his feelings and that he and his girlfriend had talked about it. i didnt believe him and ignored him for the rest of the class. this happened a couple of weeks ago and now hes acting like we're still kinda friends, im wondering if i should shut it down or try and be friends with him again?
Hi Sahar first of all I literally LOVE YOU! Fav RUclips channel ever! So basically my situation is I have liked this guy for about 6 months and then at the end of the school year on the last day he tells my friend that he likes me. So me and my friend are having this sleepover right, and basically she’s telling about the conversation they had. So fast forward to now we aren’t in the same class anymore but I decided I kinda liked him. He was just nice and kinda funny so he’s good👌. But I have recently been noticing in my class a lot of times I have been accidentally been flirting and what I mean by “flirting” is I am just very nice, smiling and laughing a lot. I really don’t try to do this but I have done it about 5 times today with multiple different boys. And I feel guilty about it. I can’t tell if I like another boy or not. I’m trying to keep everything under control and honestly it stresses me out. I don’t want to tell my friends cause I feel that’s too personal and I should keep to myself. I don’t want to start anything new with anybody new but it’s hard because I feel something when I am around these different boys. What I’m trying to say is I get new crushes everyday and I feel bad about it. How do I fix this and try not to give off the wrong vibe like I’m trying to tell them I like them or something. Please help how do I get everything under controlled. Is this normal to feel this way, and can you relate? Sending lots of love❤❤❤
hi sahar! its eve and im in this really difficult situation. i've been bullied for almost 4 years now and my whole friend group has been a mess. from the very beginning I was always the punching bag of the group and when I was younger I didn't really know or understand the sarcasm these "friends" were giving me. so we all eventually broke up and one of them who I have been friends with for almost 10 years now completely replaced me and cut me out of her life (it was so uncalled for) recently I became friends with 3 of them again. we were getting along again really well and we even went to the eras tour movie together and everything! but then out of nowhere 2 of them (YOU WANTED NAMES SO I call em kai and Lauren also f u guys if u see this) they always say things to make me insecure, start rumors about me, and one of them even slaps me whenever I do something on accident! they act too cool for me when they're around other people and blame me for all their shit. they always say that they are a girls girl and act all innocent and nice whenever I try to tell someone about what's happening and they are complete liars. Ive been so depressed (but you've helped me!!) and ive developed so much anxiety from this happening and im trying so hard to get out of this situation. sahar I really need your help what is the best way to dump them without them trying to act like the victim (if u get what I mean) EDITED A FEW WEEKS LATER: they started posting tiktoks about me and when I heard about Lauren getting floor tickets to the eras tour I was shocked and told her I didn't know she was much a swiftie (she didn't know many songs at the movie) SHE THEN got really mad and accused me or posting all over my instagram, tiktok etc without her seeing (she literally follows me on both so idk what she is talking about) now they're posting tiktoksa bout me and one of them said they wanna run me over with a bus 🫶 ilysm and ur the best!! i dont think I'd be the person I am without u!!
Hi Sahar! First off I love your videos! They are so amazing and have helped me with my anxiety. Me and my friend have been drifting apart and I don't know what to do. She is hanging out with people that she knows have wronged me and I feel like she just forgave them over the summer. I'm not mad at her for making new friends but I feel like her entire personality changed and the way that she just forgave people that have made me so sad is kinda off putting. Shes the way that she used to be when its just me and her but when theres other people around like at school she just is constantly putting me down. I don't want to loose another friend and I'm scared if I stop being friends with her than i'll loose my entire friend group. Any advice from you or anyone else would be very helpful.
Hi!! So I've been having some boy problems, (I know, yikes!), so... there's this one, he's my absolute DREAM guy. He's athletic, smart, motivated, and adorable. He's been giving me some signs for a while, and he broke up with his gf recently. A couple days ago, we called, (IT LASTED FOR A FULL THREE HOURS.), he was HIGH-KEY flirting the whole time. He called me feisty, we made some *ehem* interesting jokes, and he even kind of alluded that I was his type. I've liked him for a while... BUT, (VERY BIG BUT, GYATT LEVEL), we've been friends for a long time, 3:13 I really value our friendship and we're both in an organization that prohibits members dating, (which I totally understand bc there's been a lot of drama lately). BUT OMG, HE'S SO GOSH DARN CUTE... and I can keep a secret. Still don't know if I should go for it... how would I even approach that? Should I just ignore the signs??? UGH, BOYSSS.
OMG I FEEL YOU GIRL, one of my comments in here somewhere explains my situation. my guy isnt as into me as yours is so good for you!! tbh just talk to him and stay close and maybe just eventually go on a little date (official but unofficial you know what i mean?, like as friends but maybe a little more than that). but goodluck babe i wish you the best!
Helllooo, I wanna start this with saying how much your videos have helped me. But I’ve been struggling to figure out this situation myself so maybe you can help. So I became best friends with this girl and it was normal and fun at first. I loved talking with her, but soon after I became friends with her I introduced her to my other friends. After I introduced her to them we all started getting along, but soon after she started to become more aggressive. She would forcefully pull me away from them and I couldn’t hang out with any of my other friends. She would also slap me, and bite me to be “funny” to the point where I had ginormous bruises. She would also make me feel bad about myself by saying stuff like “your ass is so flat”, “why is your nose like that” and “your forehead is so big”. She also stole my stuff, including my food. Right now I’m just trying to separate myself from her, but it’s hard.
Hi Sahar! I love you and your videos they’re the highlight of my RUclips!! 💙💙💙 So I was just wondering how to create self discipline. I’ve been trying a lot to be the “it/clean girl” that’s all put together, and it’s not really working. I’ve graduated from school but I don’t have a job yet because my mom wanted me to stay at home to help her, which I am so fine with it’s actually super nice to have basically a gap year. But most days I feel really unproductive and like I’m not helping her that much. I can’t get up before 9 or 9:30 and I feel like I just scroll on my phone all day even tho I pretend like I don’t. I feel pretty bad about myself and guilty for not really doing anything so I started to try and write lists of what I need to do and workout but it’s still not enough and most days I’ll complete one task off the list. Please help me I honestly don’t know what to do and I need someone other than my sisters to help me out. ❤❤again love you so much queen!! :D
Hi Sahar, so I’m in like a trio and lately I’m been feeling left out and I’ve told them about it but nothing has changed. It also feels like they don’t want to be friends anymore because if I’m nice to someone they don’t like they just start talking about how I shouldn’t talk to them and they get all mad.
Hey so I got a question lol- i got this guy i like and i've known him for four years- he flirts with me a lot but my friend used to have a crush on him so I wasn't too sure about it- shes in a new relationship and ever since that he's been distant- I don't know what to do- I need help Sahar!!!!
Hi Sahar I love you so much! So I just wanted to tell that there's this guy who I used to despise for more than two years (I'm 14 btw), but all of the sudden, I think I have feelings for him, and the worst part is that I realised it when I saw him like someone else. I know he doesn't like me back, so how could I move on from him, and also in general stop liking guys who are not liking me back? Thank you so much!
Hi I'm Charlee. My first boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and now I feel emptiness where my heart should be. When he called he said, " I think we should break up. We barley see each other and talk and when we do it's awkward. I still want to be best friends with you just not boyfriend girlfriend close.' I said bye and then I hung up. I cried for 2 entire days asking myself what I did wrong. His friend said he had been thinking about breaking up with me for about a month and I had no idea. I should've guessed when he didn't get me anything for my birthday earlier this month. I just thought he was really busy. Before he asked me to be his girlfriend, we had been friends for about 2 and a half years. We've really been friends since we first met but since we first met I've always wanted to be more than friends. I've been so freaking in love with this boy since the day I first laid eyes on him but instead of the quote, "She fell first but he fell harder" It was more like, "She fell first and fell harder" He was A LOT of my firsts. Now I just don't know how I will act around him when school starts again. On top of that, another one of his friends makes fun of me and my friends and just a mean person to everyone in general. Especially me. He makes me dread my 3rd period, with is my longest period, plus he's in my lunch. Any advice or anything at all would help me. (p.s. i love you) ❤
Hi Sahar ,my name is Mary. I just want to say that I love you so much.I meat my best friend a year ago in 5th class.Then we went really that close because it was a three people friend group and she would usually leave me out.The other girl always said sorry for my now best friends behaviour.Now the other girl is not in our friend group .Nothing happened between us it's just that where not really friends anymore. Now that the other girl is not friends with us my best friend does not like me hanging out with other people and often says "you can't have any others friend but me" . She also makes me stay with her every lunchtime . I'm not to sure what to do because she is also very manipulative.But sometimes she's nice.Next year I'm going to secondary school but she might be moving which means I won't have anyone to stay with because on lunchtime she makes me stay with her with means I won't be hanging out with other people so it would be weird hangging out with them just in secondary school. I'm so sorry I don't really know how to word the hole thing but I hope you understand
I love these advice videos, and I was hoping you could maybe give me some advice in your next video. The situation: Last year I had a really manipulative friendship with someone who I thought was one of my closest friends. This year I've had a chance to get to know some new friends and reconnect with one of my friends I haven't talked to in a year and we've become best friends. Lately I've been feeling annoyed with random things she does and I don't like feeling that way towards her because I know she did nothing wrong. I think I might be a little self-destructive with my close friendships because of my past experiences with people I trusted and I don't want to get hurt and deal with that again, and I feel really guilty because my friend did nothing wrong. My question is why do I feel annoyed with her and how do I stop getting annoyed with the little irrelevant things?
Hi Sahar, im in hs and i feel like my bsf doesnt want me to be happy. This guy told me he liked me and i liked him too but i was scared to say because the last time i told someone i liked them it didnt end so well but i just knew this guy was different, we were friends before he told me and i always felt a connection between us(ik its cliche but i rlly thought we'd end up tgt) but we kinda got distant. He already told me he liked me when we were close but i thought he was joking (i kinda have low self esteem). This was the third time he told me and it was infront of my bsf and he had his bsf tell me and he looked nervous but i felt like he meant it but my bsf told him i didnt like him. I asked why she did it and she said how he will keep harrassing me if she didnt. She always makes comments ab how she wants a bf and when i tell her that its ok to be single she responds with '' ik you're ok with being single becuz you've never had a bf but i cant live like this'' even tjough she knows i feel insecure ab that. This isnt even the first time she has done something like this. In the 1st form (freshman yr in the american system) she told my then crush i had a crush on him for a DOLLAR then she told me she told him and acted like she didnt just hurt my feelings after i trusted her with a secret and told her not to tell him. She told me i looked like a 6/10 even though i told her not to rate me because ik im not the prettiest person and my self esteem didnt need to be any lower. I decided not to be friends with her anymore but eventually we became friends again. Should i end the friendship? Should i tell the guy how i feel? (Btw im 14 children start skl earlier in mu country)
Hiiiiii girl!!! Love your videos sooooooo much!!! This is my situation again since you didn’t put my dm in this video: I’m in middle school, all people in this are also in middle school, getting new friends isn’t an option cuz there’s literally no one nicer than my current ones in my year. There’s this guy, everyone in my class kinda ships us together and my friends say he likes me, me and him go way back, when we were 5 we met and were also great friends, I had the biggest crush on him and cuz I was so young i didn’t hide it at all well, the entire class knew at this point (partly cuz I was really obvious and partly cuz my best friend to this day told everyone, again, we were 5). I’ve never fully been able to say that I didn’t like him and when we were 9 there was this thing going on where I’d guess his crush, i went through every single girl in our year except myself and it was none of them, when I asked if it was me there was an entire thing, for some reason this really fake girl DID know who it was, but, cuz no one in my class except my friends (and possibly him 😉) liked me she wouldn’t tell ME but she WOULD tell my bestie (the one who told everyone when we were lil) my bestie (being the fake friend that she is) wouldn’t tell me at the time, but now she has, it was me. A year later (so when we were 10) I mentioned what had happened the year before (this was before bestie told me who he had liked) and he said: ‘Yeah, but I don’t like her anymore.’ At the time I didn’t think anything of it, but know I think back to it. Another occasion that makes me think he likes me is: last year we went on a road trip with my class, we went to a museum, where we’d have to dig in a sandpit for fossils and bones, I was in a team with him, my bestie and some boys from my class (all the boys except this one a fucking irritating and disgusting 🤮🤢) so one of the dumbass boys said: why was ____ (my name) even invited to your birthday party ______ (his name)? We both went all red in the face and he was just looking down at the sand and digging a bit, I was looking at him to see what he’d say, he quickly changed the subject to the most random thing ever: ‘so do you guys think this sand is real?’ It was so strange and makes me think he likes me. Now these stories were all from the past, what about now? Well, his friends always tease him about liking me, though never actually admit he does, they’re basically saying he doesn’t like me, but did in the past? Or maybe they see a spark but they know there’s not actually one? I don’t know what they’re going for there all I know is: they all deny everything immediately when you bring it up in a way implying it’s true what they tease him for. I honestly feel like he’s my soulmate and things were going kinda well, we’d look at each other and there would be a spark, I never thought he liked me cuz he would’ve acted on it when he knew for sure when we were young right? Wrong. He’s very very very shy when it comes to me, another thing that’s a bit suspicious. When I said it was going well I spoke in past tense, that’s cuz my friends kinda ruined it today, they were bored, so they decided to put a note in my bag saying: ‘for _____ (my name), do you wanna be my girlfriend? From ____ (his name). I, luckily, didn’t believe them for a second, cuz this guys handwriting is ugly af and even though they tried to make it look bad, it still looked way too nice to be his. When I texted my friend (different one this time) that I was mad at her, she replied with, and I quote: ‘bruh, sorry but you’re really overreacting, it was just a joke, I didn’t think you’d mind this much.’ I MEAN WHAT?!? You cannot be serious right now! That wasn’t even all, she’s making plans for me for tomorrow, with a different friend who doesn’t even want to be Involved, started with the joke then got suctioned in, can’t leave cuz of the pressure. Even this ISNT ALL! The girl from the text message, had been harassing this poor boy and his friends, forcing him to ask me out, I DID NOT ASK FOR THIS! After school, when he left to go home and me and my friends saw him, you know what this girl says to him? ‘____ (my name) wants to kiss you!’ NO I FCKING DONT YOU B-!!! Even though they didn’t actually say I liked him, I think it’s f-ing obvious now! I hate themmmm 😢😢😢 though if I dump them I have no one, besides they’re personalities are ok-ish besides this… what do I do??? And do you think he likes me??? I rly want to date him, but I’m NEVER asking myself, or should I? What would you do Sahar? I NEED your help soooo bad 😭😭😭!!! Also his friends fcking hate me soooo much, they bully me a bit, especially 1 of them, we had a rly romantic cute ruler fight when he was off sick (literally just a battle with a ruler 😂) once again luv you sooooooo much Sahar❤! Need your help!
Hey Sahar! I love your videos so so much! I (Angelica in grade 9) really needs some advice on this situation. Basically.. Ive been talking to this guy (Ryder grade 10) on and off for a while (6ish months). Irdk how he feels about me. And ik your saying, but i really think there could be something there. Idk if im getting my own hopes up, but he reached out first. We had this school wide even and it was a whole bunch of sport games. We were playing tag and he wouldnt stop tagging me and I got grumpy (in a joking way). He started laughing at my pouty face (again in a joking way) and told me he was sorry. We started talking after that, and then well, my friends told him I liked him (kind of with consent?). He acted like he didnt know who i was but was apparently supper rosy the whole time. Hes giving the fattest mixed signals ever! We haven't talked since they told him, but he keeps staring at me, when we're in the same room, walking down the hallway, etc. What should I do? (Ps we haven't talked since the end of last year {about 3ish months ago} but i still like him, alot). Again love your vids! And you wanted the tea so here it is!
I need some anonymous relationship advice So the place I study is really small, not a lot of people and basically there is a guy I dated for a while but I broke up with him because he was dry. Now the problem starts with my love language being touch. I'm very touchy with people im close to and a hug always makes me feel better when im down. My friends are great with this but I really can't do much with them because it's weird couple-y stuff that I really want to do. Now im just wondering if I should get back with him just for the physical aspect but not for deep emotional connection that I also really, really want. Im just so tired of being alone and I basically can't think of a better way to deal with me needing physical touch to be better mentally. Thanks for reading :)
Hi, I haven't dated for two going on three yrs now. Last person I dated was hired by someone to date me and then dated someone who looks a lot like me. I was told I'm online in a threesome. I've NEVER been in a threesome and I was told there are pics of me up somewhere. I went to the cops but they wouldn't help me. I'm celibate and some evil trolls are trying to make me seem like I'm doing sexual acts. I'm not but if I have an imposter then how do I find out where she is and what she's doing and even press charges if she's using my name while doing her dirt? What the heck do I do?
Omg I love this series Also I need advice so I got this friend who's going thru shit and I'm trying 2 be there for her but she's been rude and putting the blame on us for everything and like hitting us for shit but is so clingy to my bestie and it pisses me off cuz i cant get a moment alone w her and it's just so annoying but I don't want to leave her ATM also her mom is like a people person and is there for her daughter which I get but she will drag our ass back to her daughter for her and I'm flat out scared bro Anyway u slayed this episode dude ily sm u are a beam in the universe sahar😊
Ok so last year I met this boy (let’s call him Dyll) and we became close friends. For a while I had a crush on him ,but then I stopped because my close friend had dated him and another one of my friends liked him. Anyways we continued to be friends and I would tell him my drama and other stuff. After a few months I started getting tired of him bc he would always text me about killing himself and even though I would spend time comforting him , I couldn’t do anything to help. He would only text me trauma dump and it was exhausting. One day I bring this up to my friends over ft and they told me that he does that with them too. He would say how he wanted to kill himself and jump off a bridge . Anyways fast forward a few months he said he was gonna touch my friend inappropriately and rape her. Which was triggering me ,so me and my friend group decided to drop him. I told him I couldn’t be friends with him anymore and that I wouldn’t be friends with someone who treated my besties or anyone else like that. We stopped talking for a few months and then I got a letter from him saying how sorry he was and that he missed being friends with me. Some ppl were telling me he wanted to be friends with me one for my friends even said he liked me. I decided to message him a few weeks later and we became friends again. Here’s where things get crazy. Me and Dyll spend a few hours talking to each other catching up and he told me that he was praying to God that I would talk to him again. Which is wild and then the next day my friend (who is close with both of us )said that Dyll said he was in love with me. I don’t like him tho and i was starting to second guess our friendship. Anyways we get back to school on Monday and he doesn’t say anything to me the whoollllleeee day. I was upset so I texted him to ask why and he just said he was scared. The next day Dyll tried to pay my friend to force him to say something to me and even was telling them to get me to leave my regular break spot just so he could say hi. He usually plays soccer with his friends while I sit on the grass so he wanted me to walk on the track. Anyways I take a few laps on track with my friends and he didn’t say anything so I took it upon myself to say “hi Dyll 😊” and I SWEAR TO YOU HE RESPONDED WITH DRYEST HI 😑 it was so dead. Anyways that night I texted our mutual friend Nico abt it and he said that Dyll told him that our interaction was ✨exciting ✨ I was just so upset bc he was scared yet when I took the first step and he still showed no sign of effort. That same night Dyll texted me saying thank you for doing the talking today and I was just like your welcome. But he still didn’t talk to me for the rest of the week and I got really upset when my teacher even had to get involved. it was like: *I hand him his soccer ball* Teacher (who knows all the tea) : “say thank you” Dyll: Thank you Teacher : “Thank you who? Dyll: thank you bre Me: your welcome Anyways it was awkward and I didn’t want to talk to him no more. Bc it’s weird that he likes me so much he won’t even put in effort to talk to me like that doesn’t make sense. A few days later my friend Ant tells me that he was saving up to buy me a ring and ik he’s playing but it honestly not funny. Anyways the next week we were doing smtn in class where I got my friend Nico to give me 20 bucks for smtn really dumb. Anyways he does it and when his friends start telling him it was a scam he puts his hand out to gesture for the money back. I grab his hand and shake to show that we made a deal and when I let go to walk a way he pulls me back and I spin around to face him. Everyone in class sees this and starts cheering thinking we look cute and when I look over Dyll looks soooo mad . He doesn’t text me for a few days and I’m honestly relieved bc I didn’t want to talk. Anyways a few days later I was hanging out at Ants house and my other friend Em tells me that Dyll (a few months ago) asked her to “suck his d*ck”and when she said no he asked her to “beat his meat “. Em told me she was really uncomfortable and tried to play it off cool . She also showed me screenshots of when he said he just finished jerking off and had abt 30 more rounds left 🤢. He’s disgusting he also asked my friend Tilly and Ant for nudes. I don’t know what to do. He is disgusting but he’s also obsessed with me and I feel bad bc we just became friends again. You should’ve seen his reaction when I had texted him again for the first time in months he was so excited. I would hate to kill that ik he’s like depressed and has problems of his own . But he treats my friends bad and acts disgusting around them. Ant and Till are friends with him tho. I don’t know what to do. Should I cut him off? Talk to him about it? Sorry it was long thank you so much for reading. I loveeeeeee you and your content ❤😊
Hi Sahar! you are literally my favorite person ever and i feel like your a older sister to me❤ (P.S this is really long lol)❤ I’m a little bit younger, in 7th grade. i do competitive irish dance and have a group of 8 girls in my class. we are going to worlds this year and have been training for about 6 months. at the beginning of this year one of my best friends on the team quit the team and blocked us all on everything. i guess she was stressed and overwhelmed or their might have been some drama between the other girls and her but she just suddenly left. i was devastated but after a bit i had gotten over it. sense then, 2 other girls have left leaving us with the team that we have now. there’s this one girl on my team who is younger than me (10) who just causes SO MUCH DRAMA. she talks disrespectfully to my teacher, stole money from our fundraising, gives attitude, and so much more. she just really pisses me off. i’ve tried my best to put her in her place but i don’t want to cause too much of a sene bc then she will go tell her mom and I would get in trouble. to add onto it, another one of my best friends on the team has a friend who recently committed suicide. (she’s in 6th grade) but this girl (the 10 year old) still gives her attitude and is really mean to her (and not to be bragging, but we are much better then her😆) i feel like there is just so much going on right now and i feel like my team is falling apart so i’d really like your advice on this, ilysm and thank you for all that you do❤❤
Hey Sahar! Firstly I wanna say we have the same bday and I've found we have a scary amount in common lol. Secondly, I've had this "friend" since 5th grade who's been with me through all of our friend groups (yes "all" you know how middle school goes). We're now in our first year of highschool and she's moving next year, and I've been trying to distance myself from her because of how she's treated me over the years (she's repeatedly called me ugly in 7th grade and doesn't treat me with the same amount of respect that I treat her, along with something else that had to do with my race.) The rest of my friend group isn't the best either, but I've known her for the longest and she's been the worst to me. I know it's bad to not tell her what she did to make me want to leave the friendship, but it's not really my strong suit to confront people and it's been a bit since she's acted up. I also have a really bad attachment issue where I don't know how to leave toxic relationships as soon as I should. I need to strengthen friendships with my friends who are actually nice to me but I don't know how to get closer to them because of how shy and awkward I am. I also don't want to butt into their lives/friend groups. Any tips would be much appreciated, love you sooo much and I hope your lover era with mystery man is perfect💖
Hey sahar! ❤️ I really need help! Did I do the right thing by ending my situationship because I’m not over my summer crush? For context, I must sophomore in high school and my crush is at my cottage over the summer and we really hit it off but I realize that it’s not worth breaking friendship for something more but I’ve never really been over it so I try to get over it by talking to other people and I ended up accidentally stringing somebody along and I felt really bad so I ended up ending things but in the end I’m not sure I did the right thing or if it’s even right for me to be talking to anybody in the first place when I’m not over my summer crush. my friend tells me that the only way that I’m gonna get over it is by talking to somebody else but at this point I’m not sure. I need to know how you get over, crush that you know is never gonna work. Also love your videos I’ve been subbed for a long time 😊😊😊Thank you!
hi saharrr ilysm so around this time last year i started liking this guy a lot and like he’s my best guy friend and pretty much the only guy i talk to on a daily basis right? so in april i kinda told him i liked him for a while and whatever and he friendzoned me but he was rlly nice about it and nothing was awkward or anything we js stayed good friends but i was confused because ever since we met at around march last year he’d been giving me kind of some mixed signals. like this one time we went to a party together and i was sitting on the couch and he js layed his head on my lap for a WHILEEE like a HUGE while and was pretty chill abt it, and he even let me play with his hair??? but that’s js one of the examples whatever. so whatever even after he friendzoned me i still had some feelings for him. like i “got over him” (obviously didn’t) plenty of times but then i finally ACTUALLy got over him in august. stopped thinking abt him everyday, stopped thinking of him when i saw cute couple stuff on ig or in movies and whatever. we’re still rlly good friends and i’m rlly glad i got over him frl and my bsf is too because she was SICK of me talking abt that boy. but then this month his friends started telling me he loves me and i another one said he was waiting for us to get married. i thought they were just guys being guys because we’re best friends and that’s js how guys are when a guy is friends with a girl in high school, but then a bunch of other people started asking us if we’re dating?? like this girl in our art class asked if we were after we sat together and this other girl that’s in his homegroup that i don’t even TALK TO asked if we liked each other and i was like “no???” obv and now i’m just confused and kinda mad because what if he likes me now that i got over him and he’s told people already?? that he likes me?? and why right after i don’t like him anymore?? like he even helps me with my situationships because he knows how guys think abt that kind of stuff but what happens now? what if he doesn’t even like me and everyone is just asking that because we’re close friends like saharrrrrr literally help me 😭😭 (and would it be a good idea if i said yes if he asked me out bcs i’m not planning on asking him because I DONT LIKE HIM ANYMORE but if he asked me i wouldnt say noooo and i’ve been rlly single atm so would that be a good move? or am i gonna get played?? tysm if you read this sahar ily please help me w this and have an amazing day 😽😽😽
Hi Sahar, I love your personality so much! My situation: so I work with this guy who (when I started working there) gave me "I like you" vibes. Problem is that I was in a bad spot at the time and didn't pick up on those signals so now we just do our jobs in quiet and maybe say hi when we pass by (we work in seperate rooms/departments) Since we are both students we don't work full time and don't see eachother daily, but I realised that I actually like him a lot, he has a great personality but we are both shy. How to start a conversation and keep it going casually through the day? Do you think that he might get his feelings for me back if I stop being so cold/polite to him? I'm 19 but suck at talking to guys btw.
The amount of relatability that i feel watching your videos is actually insane. Watching you was the reason i started trying to improve my self confidence so thank you 🫶🫶
Hi Sahar! I'd like your advice on something. BTW I love you so much ❤and want to thank you for helping me get through one of the hardest times of my life when I was so depressed. So I'm in middle school and I have a really big friend group. I actually love my friends and they are so supportive to me but they do talk sh*t about a lot of people and it kind of makes me think they might be doing the same about me. Other than this though, they're my only friends at my school. The issue is that they all got together and decided that they don't like this girl in our friend group, but didn't tell her. They haven't told her that they don't like her or want to be friend with her and they constantly talk behind her back. I really like this girl and I think what they are doing is wrong but my best friend does it too and I feel like my friends won't like me anymore if I stand up to them. Should I tell my friends that they shouldn't be doing this but lose my best friend or should I cut off the girl who hasn't done anything wrong? Love you❤
hey i've had this happen so many times and it sucks sm... the hard truth is that i've learned that most girls that do that type of stuff most likely are doing it to others as well (maybe including you). they're not right for doing that to that girl for no reason, and my heart goes out to her... i think ask them about it and tell them that's not right. if they get mad at you for standing up for her, leave; everyone is in your life for seasons and it'll be hard for awhile but you learn to make new friends. hope it goes well, love ya 🫶🫶
Thank you Sahar 💕 you're so talkative and nice. I always knew I could trust you. I don't know, how to approach mystery man, without being foolish again. I'd maybe not want us to rush into anything, take it slow. I've never dated so idk how to be intimate lol
I’m so glad she posted this cause I love these videos so much. She’s literally the most pretty sweet funny and nice person ever and gives amazing advice.
You covering chimmy’s mouth on the thumbnail is so wholesome and cute😂
sahar is so sweet every single time they said i love you she said it back i love her so much ❤
Thank you for this type of video, that's what we need
I LOVE YOU
I don't have friends at school at all, I feel like no one ever likes me at school, there being so mean. I don't understand what I did wrong, I'm not a people pleaser, not rude or mean to anyone there. And if someone tries to talk to me I always support and cheer them up. I cry a lot, but no one threre knows it. Like I cry, I can't be happy constantly. Sometimes but recently I think a lot about it. I'm some kind of jealous of them being happy all the time. They do not struggle with these problems. They have chill parents and can do and wear whatever they want. I've been struggling with these problems for 3 years after quarantine. I would be very grateful if you would talk about this too
We should get it to the top, I think it's something that most of us struggle with
By the way I love that you're a swiftie too💞
this is so real i feel so alone in it tho bc none of my friends have similar problems
try connecting with people you know have the same issue at school, or try making friends outside of school by going to social functions and stuff like that. but if ur not a social person and want to stick to people at school, remember that there’s always another person who probably feels the same way you do❤
hi saharrrr. so im in 10th grade rn. i had a crush on this guy for 2 years and eventually stopped liking him too much because he made me feel really insecure. basically he was a really great friend of mine during online classes and then when we met in actual school during 8th grade i found him really attractive and developed a major crush since i loved his personality as well. but he sort of changed as we entered 9th grade and started bringing up all my insecurities in front of his friends and in group conversations just to get a laugh out of them. my self esteem was already low since my best girl friend is the most attractive person on planet earth. i already knew he would never like me back so i forced myself to get over him but i knew i would always have thing for him. my girl bestfriend knew about what haooened in heavy detail and how much i cried over it. so now fast forward six months into 10th grade she told me that she likes that guy and being the people pleaser that i am i acted happy and excited for her. she then procceded to cry because of how guilty she felt for liking him and how she didnt tell me this for 2 months. She then confessed to him and they started dating. They do all kinds of stuff in front of me and while the class is going on too. she doesny even talk to me and our other friends anymore like at all. theyre together during breaks classes and lunch, and on text all she wants to talk about is him. i would never try to break them up because thats not me i just want to stop feeling shitty about myself because that guy literally told me to my face that he wouldve dated me if iwas pretty and now he is dating well the prettier version of me because guess what my best friend is acting like me as well
OK IM SORRY BUT THAT GUY IS SUPER TOXIC LIKE DROP HIM PLEASE. nice guys will not point out your insecurities ever and i am so sorry for what happened to you that is just a really messed up situation. but seriously drop all those people that did you wrong and make some new friends because i promise high school is so much better without all that drama and there are good people that will help you to feel better about yourself. also i do not care whatever that guy says, im sure you are beautiful no matter what, do not let people dictate how you feel about yourself
I can say that the girl is just looking for attention and i don’t think you should be friends with her. Second of all, this guy is so toxic and a good guy will never make you feel like that and say horrible things to your face. I would stop talking to both of them and know that you are worth more and deserve better than him. I hope things work out for you and you find someone who makes you feel like a queen. Much love!!
you need to talk to ur best friend, I'm assuming that you told her that you liked him? even if you didnt you can still tell her that you dont feel comfortable around both of them. About the guy, you'll find someone much better since you're only around 15 and tbh everyone is in a whole different world of their own at that time of life, but yeah you'll find someone much better for you, so forget the guy and have a convo with your bestie about it
Girl that sounds rough. Honestly in 10th grade it's probably her first bf so at that age yeah I'm not surprised he's all she talks about. She doesn't sound like a great friend though. But you don't want a guy like that, who puts you down in front of other people and in private? Said u weren't pretty enough? Uh NO. She can have him. You deserve someone better.❤
as a christian, sahar, i so respect hearing your point of view about the best kinds of memories, and i just want to chime in to say that she's exactly right! i'm a senior in high school, and i've seen a little bit of both sides of the coin with memory making, and i can say without a doubt that the best memories are the ones made with the people who you really care about and who really care about you, MINUS the kinds of things that sahar mentioned. looking back, i have so many precious experiences that some people may call childish or stupid, but they have immense value to me. love you guys, love you sahar! 💗
Sahar is like my new fountain of wisdom, I’m so glad she posted another one haha
I love these advice vids!!
Ok so... I know you talk about strict parents a lot on your channel so I thought you would be able to give me pretty good advice. So I have Asian, religious parents who are very strict in both religion and protectiveness. I am 17 and basically for most of my life, I've been pretty good and followed the rules because I love my parents and would never want to disappoint them. This means good grades, following the religious rules and never lying about where I'm going or anything like that. I just want to emphasis here that I do believe in my religion and I think it is important but some rules are just hard for me to follow. One of the main ones is that I'm not allowed to listen to music and even though I didn't like that rule, I have followed it for most of my life because of them but i personally don't feel it is that important. Then around 2 years ago, I came across some Taylor swift clips and I was genuinely enchanted (no pun intended) and within a few weeks I was a full blown, obsessive Swiftie. I now have an extreme dilemma of listening to music behind my parents backs through annoying methods like incognito and private browsers. i have to buy merch that isn't too obvious. The worst thing is that I had no way of going to the Eras tour which i am DISTRAUGHT about. Also, music is my main thing but I also have a friend who has lots of parties but I always have to refuse because it is too risky. I went to one of her parties, masking it as a sleepover but I felt really overwhelmingly guilty the entire time and wasn't able to enjoy myself. I just feel so lost and trapped because no one else understands how I feel and I'm in the middle of the situation and unable to fully commit to a side of either full rebellion or full obedience, making me feel bad either way. I also want to note that I can't tell my parents this cuz they would be sooooooooooooo disappointed in me if they found out as they are really religious and think I am a really good girl. What should I do?
I love you, your Swiftiness and your channel btw xx
My suggestion is baby steps.
I don't have "strict" parents but for the longest time I felt the pressure of not disappointing my parents. It led to me being burnt out in elementary and thus my first "rebellious" act was slacking off during my 8th grade year since it was during the pandemic.
I blamed my low grades and poor virtual attendance on the WiFi ofc. But after that first baby step, I felt free.
we gotta get this pinned
Where do you live? West or East? If you live in Asia, I grew up very similarly. In a Chinese Christian household I felt so restricted to the point where one day I blew up and got so rebellious. When my parents saw the effect their upbringing had on me, they sat me down and we had an open conversation. They had NO idea this was all happening to me. They said sorry they were hurting me and it restarted my walk with Jesus again. I left out a lot of details but what I wanted to just say is that some parents may be more open to talking about this than you may think. I definitely didn’t think my parents would, I grew up without them saying “I love you” and all the stereotypical Asian family stuff. Now we say it all the time. Hugs! ❤
I'm loving these advice videos ❤️❤️❤️
Girl ur so PRETTY and u have the best personality I can’t!!!💗💗💗🫶🫶
LOVE UR ADVICEE
from Carmen - I’ve know this boy since kindergarten and I’ve told him before in 5th grade but he didn’t like me back but we are still friends too this day (I’m in 7th) I thought he liked me during the beginning of the school year but then I found out he had a girlfriend but I’m 90% sure he’s single now. I can normally read body language so well but with him I can’t and I really like him but don’t want to ruin our friendship. And ik that I’m only in 7th grade but I feel like I truly love this boy. ps: ily and your videos sm my comfort channel fs
Sahar is absolutely the big sis I've never had. I love you so much Sahar!! I love these videos and I LOVE when you post these vids. I literally go to you for advice❤❤
Oh my god!!! I just love you.. you being yourself...your POVs about everything and just everything... I just really like you.... Thanks girl for all this!! ❤ You truly have transformed yourself from a woman to a lady..
Keep growing sis.. ❤
I LOVEE your Chimmy plushie. You kinda remind me of how kind and sweet he is. You're like the female version of jimin, more fierce, learned the hard way , kind , gives good advices and sooo sweet. Love you and thank you for all the goodness you've been spreading ❤❤
thanks you so much!! I'm in my teens and your advice help me to understand my self! And I really like you girl talk ❤ keep posting and I love youuu
I had a very similar situation to the first one and I really appreciated her advice. Love you!!
First off… LOVE YOU! Your advice is honestly solid 💜
✨ Story Time ✨ (I’m in college) Ok so I dated this guy for like 7 months and one of my friends in particular seemed to act differently around him. (When she knew he was coming to hangs she’d dress a little more revealing and she suddenly became a lot more touchy with him at parties) I thought it was odd but brushed it off cause I trusted him. We ended things cause we realized we wanted different things from life and each other in general. (It was a amicable separation. Nothing serious, I just didn’t agree with his lifestyle and wanted more for myself than what he had to offer) Then 1 month later my friend matched with him on a dating app. It was weird at first cause she’d invite him to our friend group’s birthday and holiday parties cause that’s what I did after seeing him for 3 months (altho she basically brought him right away since she already “knew he’d get along with everyone”). So just wondering… what are your thoughts? Like technically I was the one that ended things (with her partial encouragement, but my other friends agreed). So do I really have a right to be upset? But honestly what upset me more was that she chose to go on a date with him on my bday instead of coming to the party my other friends had planned. HE even left a present with one of my bffs while she didn’t and instead texted me a pic of them on said date thanking me for understanding
Guys we gotta get this one pinned!
Thats not your frnd, that girl is a snake
Sahar giving edvice is so intratraining btw she's so prettyy 💞
I'm obsessed with these!
I loooooove these videos so much!
Tip: Popularity and social hierarchy something insecure people think and believe in
OMGGGGGG!!!! thank you so much for that advice! Yeah idk if I’m ever gonna grow out of it but it’s getting less which is good. You have no idea how much it means for you to call me pretty!!
I honestly think he would understand so I think I’ll talk to him about it soon. Thank you so much sahar ❤❤
You and my papa for life🤞🤞🧀❤
@@HelloKittye0 HEHEHE yes I will always be with him 🥰😘
@@Lyra1573 OFCCC and we will all live together🥰💕💕
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First order of business, your vibes are immaculate, you have such a great fashion sense, I started listening to Tay so much more because of you and you're amazing at what you do. You're like my virtual Big Sis.
Now. Here's the thing.
I. Can't. Study.
I sit down, I open the book, I look at the words, I close the book.
BECAUSE IT'S EXHAUSTING.
The thing is I want to do so many things that require a decent amount of self discipline. Like get an A grade for one. All throughout my life I've been studying at the last day and that worked for me because, flex hehe, I'm smart with it, and have achieved grades that I'm satisfied with. However, that doesn't work now!
I'm also an occasional writer and when I get an idea, I get this delicious spark and write everything I think about it to flesh that out. But looking back on it, I get distracted by something more inviting and the previous idea turns stale.
I think my main question is how do you stop searching for this kind of novelty and start maintaining self discipline?
Also, tips on not trying to chase validation?
LOVE YOU
I have study tips!!!! Play study games, like kaboom or the Quizlet games. You can listen to a podcast on the topic while making the study sets. Also if phones are distracting then turn I all the way off and have someone keep it away for a while. Also don’t be afraid of taking breaks, try studying for ten minutes then taking a five minute break then twenty with a ten minute break then keep going.
Sahar! I just got hired on at Outback in Waco. It seems SO sketchy. It's not at all organized, they keep deliberately not training me right, the manager got my IDs and took them to the back. I was like okay. Then she did it again and I was like didn't you already get my IDs? Then the trainer who looks like this sketchy guy married to my cousin took pictures front and back of my DL and social and I'm afraid like he's sketchy and gonna sign up for a cash app or something worse. Like txt some doppelganger or girl who needs like citizenship papers or something. He can give them to a twin whose a criminal and fraud or frame me so idk. All the managers keep bringing their kids one who keeps running around the restaurant and I don't feel comfortable. So idk.
Thank u so much sahar for posting this I really needed this today
I have gained so much confidence from your videos. These are my favorite type of content. I also love your content with Brianna 11:58
Idk what that thing at the end is
Omg Sahar i love you, you are so genuine, like everyone's best friend ❤
Hi Sahar 💕 I’m a junior in high school and ig I’m going thru a situation ship breakup (we both liked each other but I wasn’t allowed to date) I was super close with him and we we’re basically dating and he was the sweetest guy and we would always go out of our way to spend more time with each other. But then he started acting distance leading to him telling me he needed space bc he wanted to focus on himself and his relationship with God bc he felt he was putting me above that (we both go to a small Christian school) and said he was too busy for a relationship So I basically couldn’t argue with that so I gave him some space and respected that and eventually he came back saying that he missed me and we went back to normal. Until things got distant again but I thought it was all good bc he went through the effort to apologize and take me back so I figured he probably was just going thru something. So 1 week after he took me back he told me he only did it out of pity bc he felt bad that I was sad w/o having him there for me. But now he just is awkward and goes out of his way to avoid me (Story of Us vibes) and I’m just sad the way everything has ended and I’ve gone from investing so much time with someone who I thought genuinely liked me but rather just felt bad for leaving me. Advice on getting over him and tips for getting over the awkwardness of someone who used to go out of his way to spend time with me to going out of his way to avoid me?
@@areenakhan11b51not really I just don’t really know what to say
Also, update I made friends with a new girl at my school who I was going to go to the dance with and I ended up being sick and not going, and she ended up slow dancing with him (not knowing that we dated) and so I told her abt it and told her they had my approval (bc I want both of them to be happy) now they are talking. But now whenever us 3 interact it’s kinda awkward
@@areenakhan11b51no, I’ve been thinking abt saying something tho do you have any suggestions 🫶
@@areenakhan11b51 No, but I have been thinking abt saying something but I’m not sure what to say any ideas 🫶🫶
tbh it just seems like he’s not the one. i’m sorry :( but u will definitely find someone who’s actually worth your time and thoughts
Hi love you so much and I am so grateful that I’m growing up with positive people as urself and I hope I will grow up to be a great person such as you ❤❤❤
Hi! First I wanna say that I love your vids and I watch them so much and your advices are really helpful and Im grateful that you make vids like that, and I wish I can get one for my situation too. So I have a group of friends - one is my friend since I was 5 years old, and then the other two of my friends joined us in 3rd grade of elementary school. Last year we became friends with one girl from our class and her guy bestfriend and after a while they joined our group. Everything was really good but then the girl had to move out and she cut us off a little bit but I understand her because her parents were getting divorced and she was in a hard situation. But when she moved out her and the guy started to fight a lot and Ive realized that hes really manipulative and he treated her like sh1t. I was so shocked because they were always so close and he was so rude to her and he was victimizing himself, even tho almost every fight was his fault. Now theyre okay but after so much has happend I started observing his behavior and I realized that he often uses us to get better grades and that he is just toxic. Ive already talked to two of my friends but one said that she doesnt mind being used, and the other agreed with me. I really dont want to be friends with him anymore but he is still in the friendgroup so that means I would have to leave it which I dont wanna do because my friends are the best people ive ever met and I dont want to ruin our friendship. Sorry for any mistakes ive made but im not that good at english and once again I love you smmmm
Shar, your seriously the sweetest soul ever i love the fact whenever we say i love you u say it back ur like a big sister to me thank you and im so happy that you're happy with mystery man i wish yall nothing but the best i love u so much 🫶
P.s i love ur jewlery sm especially ur snowflake necklace love u 🫶
I love these videos sm! Okay so here is my small story / issue:
For a while i have trying to be the better version of myself and learn to love myself more. I have been trying all these skincare things etc. I notice that once i don't see much progress i tend to fall back to where i was when i started. (doing nothing all day and working until late in the night trying to finish up homework) i have been losing motivation to try. It's the same with my grades. Everytime i get a good grade I'm okay with it but it always feels like i could do better. And that's not only with school but with everything,“once my skin is clear I'll be happy“ “once i learn to be more social I'll be happy“ it never stops. Anyways Sahar i hope you see this and i rlly love your conent and you! You seem so fun and like such a great person, you're honestly a huge inspiration ❤❤
Baby steps, girl. You do not have to have a 10 step skincare routine and go on a run at 5am. If you got your HW done eventually, it's better than skipping it. Dw, you'll be fine. You're doing fine, social media puts the most unrealistic expectations upon us. That shit ain't real.
Sahar's energy is so amazing, she makes me so happy!! ☀she's like a big sis
girl go for it!! i think defo have a rly nice summer with ur friends and don't worry abt him (have that mental and physical glow up)
and then next year when u go to the same scl try to take off the pressure of liking him - treat it very casually and don't overthink talking to him etc... try to j make friends with him (maybe by talking to his friends) and j be yourself!
@@insanelykat aww thank you, this is great!
Hi Sahar! I love you so much and you are actually my main source of social advice!!
My situation: I’m fourteen and in 9th grade in a new school. I think I may have accidentally pulled a guy that I really don’t like who has been repeatedly sexist (subtle things like telling me I talk too loud or stuff like that) and just overall a bad personality. The thing is, when I first met him I kinda thought he was cute and funny so I flirted a bit but quickly stopped when I saw his true colours. The problem is that now I don’t know how to make it clear to him I’m not interested. Thank you lysm!!!
tbh i would say just be lowkey dry with him, thats what i do. like dont lead him on in any way, he'll eventually get over it
I love your videos so much!
Here’s my situation:
So this girl and her friend manipulated me. They projected their insecurities on me, they gaslit me into thinking I was imagining things, and I questioned my own sanity. One of them actually took a photo of me crying and used it to make fun of me. They continually made me feel like a horrible person and like I ruin everything. This whole situation even caused one of my close friends to stop being friends with me. This all happened a couple months ago, and I reported this all to my school when it happened. And NOTHING was done. The one ex-friend probably still has the photo. My friends also withheld some information about the situation because they didn’t want to “fuel the flames”. For reference, I’m not an easily angered person, I’m SUCH a people pleaser, and at this time, our lunches were literally my friend grouping trash talking the two people. Everyone expects me to be over the situation by now, but I’m also forced to be a “counselor” of a kind, when they want to “vent” (a.k.a gossip). I don’t know, I’m just really angry that my friends are friends with people who were so cruel to me, and also expect me to listen to their concerns about them, while I’m dismissed if I try to do the same. And every time I see the pair, I want to vomit. How do I get rid of this hatred, I miss having the energy to be kind and helpful. I miss my old self.
Hi! I just started highschool and though I love it, i found that I have been doing a lot worse in all of my classes then I had in middleschool. I'm generally way more stressed and find it hard to sleep at night thinking of all the assignments that I have missing. I think I'm just generally lacking the motivation and energy that I had last year and I would really love it if you could give me some advice.
Ps. I love your videos so much and you make me feel so much better about myself everyday 💗💗💗
You're channel is such a cozy space for me.i literally binge watch your videos when I'm feeling low or insecure just like today and i really glad you posted today 🩷🩷🌸🌸 loveee youu🩷
For the quote thing you can do "Don't poison the present by fearing the future." instead of "Don't poison the present by stressing out about the future." BTW LOVE UUUUU!
So relatable! The struggle for people, like me who have strict parents, to make decisions is insane
Hi sahar!! I just wanna say I love your content and i find you so relatable, like we’re both Aquariuses, obsessed with Taylor swift, we both got bullied in school, and we both turn into psychopaths when we have crushes. ANYWAYS, over a year ago, i met this guy, and all i can say is that i was enchanted to meet him. I was so wonderstruck by him when we first met. Naturally, I developed a HUGE crush on him, as in the kind of crush where you’re shaking, crying, and throwing up at the thought of them. The sad thing is that we didn’t meet in a romantic context at all. I was a college freshman and he was a senior when we met, and we had the kind of relationship that was very much platonic. Still, i couldn’t help having feelings for him, so I finally worked up the courage to ask him out on a date a month or so ago. Naturally, he rejected me and said that he was interested in someone else. (Thankfully he was super chill abt it and it didn’t ruin our friendship.) I’m not that devastated bc I got the answer i was expecting, but a part of me is still delulu and hoping that if he and his crush don’t work out, he’ll turn around and give me a chance (and i know from experience that he’s good at moving on from failed talking stages/crushes). I know I’m being delulu, and i think I’m getting better at moving on from him and not romanticizing him too much. All I need is a second party to tell me that I’m being delulu and that I’ll find someone else, so that I can go back and listen to what they’re saying in moments where I’m relapsing on my crush. Basically I just need you to be my voice of reason 🙏
Okay so I’m in this situation where like I’m spending to much time stressing about things and my grades are dropping and I’m just losing interest in a lot of things and it’s like I’m really stressed about everything and I’m a swimmer which takes up like all of my time and I just don’t know how to deal with the stress of high school and it’s my freshmen year. (Also I love you so much and your so pretty)
your nails look sooosososo good!❤
Hi Sahar first of all love u!! Ur such an icon and ur helping so many people!! ❤❤
So.. im in highschool, and friendships arent really going well for me. Everytime i make friends i put in so much effort, but they end up ghosting me, gossiping about me or just talking about themselves without even asking how i am , this has been going on for quite a while i dont know what to do. Even random people i dont know hate on me or like call me names in the hall way. Or hate me for not dressing like everyone else and just being myself in general. I also was bullied a lot in middle school and people still spread rumors about me now. I don't have anyone who i can trust. I've also been sitting alone at break time and its really lonely. I just hate the fact that everyone uses me or sees me as werid or dumb and that they believe the rumors. I do distance myself from toxic people and I've been focusing on myself, but I don't know what to do. Everytime i try making friends im always let down. Any advice? 😅
The ppl that r supposed to be in ur life will find their way in, the ppl who r not will find their way out. Don't stress it, girl.
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Okay here’s my situation.
I grew up in a house where we’re not allowed to talk to boys, be friends with them, or date them because in my religion (I’m Palestinian), we’re not allowed to date so my mom is very protective and strict about having no guy friends or anything like that. So I’m a sophomore in high school and I have a crush on my guy best friend that’s lasted for over a year now and the thing is, I already know he doesn’t like me back but I can’t seem to stop liking him, no matter how hard I try with different methods, it never works. It also doesn’t help that our friendship is based around making dirty jokes with each other honestly.
Back in May this year, my friend (who’s a year older, goes to another school) texted him for me since they’re close asking if he has a crush on me and I really thought that this would work and get me to stop liking him, this was one of the ways I tried, but it failed and I stopped liking him for like a week before I did again. Anyways, he said he doesn’t like me due to something with his family, like family issues or something. And my friend said she couldn’t send the screenshot of it because ofc, he’s only told her stuff like that, they’re closer. This of course made me delusional thinking he CAN’T like me for some reason and that just made me want to make him see that he can like me back, or something like that. And I just really wanted to know what he said exactly but I understand, I wouldn’t want people going around telling my business to others. Anyways, ever since then, I’ve been trying to stop this crush on him but nothing seems to work. It’s a difficult situation since we’re best friends too along with another friend (not the one who texted him), we’re a trio friend group. She knows I like him too and says she ships so hard and is very supportive.
Do you have any other methods I could try? Do you think I should just confess and get the rejection in person already? Should I just embrace this crush if there’s no hope of getting out of it for now? Because I’ve gotten advice to confess to him when I know I’m willing to sacrifice our friendship for it and I’m thinking that’ll finally end this crush. Personally, I’m sure that this crush stems from the fact that I’ve never been close with a guy or have been friends with them the way that we are ever in my entire life so just being close with him makes me want to hug or kiss him and just have a massive crush on him in general since I’ve never gotten those things from a guy before. Any advice on this?? I don’t know what else to try
@@cheeseyrice thank you so much for your advice, you’re right, I should just do it. And that’s exactly it too, he’s in a “prohibited zone” kinda thing and being good friends, I’m able to do so much with him that I’d never be able to do with anyone else otherwise like hugging him or making dirty jokes with each other. He’s cool and stuff but I think it’s that freedom I get from being with him that makes me love him so much. The thing is though, I’m such good friends with our other friend in the group (we’re actually a great trio, not like the stereotypes) and although our friendship may not be ruined there, it would just be hard to be friends with her separately from my crush. I also know that it would be hard to avoid him while still being in school, I have two classes with him right now too so I’ve been planning on confessing after graduating. At least then I can avoid him and delete him easier after that and me and our other friend and still be friends. There’s just not much of an option right away right now but I’ll definitely have to after high school. I knew I’d want to confess after hs but before, it was in hopes that he’d like me back. Now, I just want to so I can get over him.
It’d actually be worse if he liked me too, it’s a lose-lose situation. I’m not even allowed to date in the first place and he would definitely not be willing to convert religions for me. I’m also not willing to go that far for him to leave my religion, my family. We’d never have a chance and I’ve come to realize that as summer break came this year and just in general.
Thank you again for giving me that advice, it helped encourage me to do it!! I’m glad you were able to get over your guy as well 😊
hi sahar! i never comment just because i never really know what to say.😅 however, i just wanted to say that i really appreciate these advice videos and I am
also really happy that you seem to be in a good place right now! 💕 i love u and you look stunning as ALWAYS! you are also my favorite taylor swift supporting influencer!
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Hi ty for making these vids, they've helped sm. So basically i have this cousin who i used to talk to alot like everyday and right after 2021 we started going to the same school and stuff and bc im a very quiet person i just followed her around a lot bc i didnt have any friends and its SOO hard for me to make friends. After a while she stopped talking as much to me bc she got friends and to this day she still just keps talking abt her crushes and only things that made her happy but she never seems to care abt what i say and right after i tell her smth that makes me anxious or sad she looks like she barely cares and just says a small comment and says "anyways" and goes back to her own story. A few months ago her lil sister told me that my cousin thought i was rlly annoying bc i followed her around too much at school and that i should just make friends and other stuff and i got a mental breakdown bc i try SO SO hard to make her like me. And its like i always try to make her feel good abt herself but she always makes me feel like im weird and not pretty at all. A month ago she had her quince and i had to wear a long dark blue dress and did my hair and everything and a lot of girls kept calling me pretty and that my dress is pretty but when i told her abt it but she didnt look happy for me and just looked at me with a straight face. Like ik its her own quince but it was such A BIG deal for me to b called pretty by pretty girls and stuff. And also she used to pick a lot of fights w me since we were little till like we were 12 until she said srry but she never seems to care abt how i feel and ive told my mom, brother and friends abt it and they just said shes jealous but its SOO HARD TO BELIEVE. And whenever someone says smth rude abt me RIGHT NEXT TO HER she never seems to defend me. Shes called me weird for being quiet in school and shes rated me a 4/10 (she said she didnt wanna rate me in the first place till i kept asking her) she used to call me pretty when we were kids but now shes like "compared to other girls at school..." Like wtf. The only compliment shes given me this year is "ur face isnt that bad its just the hair" right after i kept complimenting her and saying shes SOO pretty. A lot of ppl have called me pretty but i never seem to believe it bc of HER and idk what to do bc shes my cousin and shes done so much to me and always lowered my confidence somehow. Everytime i get out of her house i have extreme anxiety and think i did smth wrong bc her mom (my aunt) always defends my cousin and her sis and whenever my cousin and her sis do smth to me right in front of her she doesnt care and they get mad if im too quiet, too loud, too this, too that and i just cant seem to b perfect, and since i see them EVERYDAY bc my aunt picks me up from school i have anxiety everyday and am too conscious on what ppl think abt me. Idk what to do, srry if this is too long, but if u read this, tyy!
Part the reason i care what ppl think abt me and i have low self esteem is bc once she told me she had to talk to me and she said "______ and_____ dont like u and were talking shit abt u and..." And she was like "and ____ thinks ur weird bc when she was talking to ____ and u were behind them u laughed randomly and they just thought it was weird" tbh i dont blame them but i just heard them say smth funny so i laughed but i feel like evergone my age is so judgemental and i hate it sm. After that i got sm anxiety and rlly conscious abt all everything i do, and overthink when before i never rly cared and just had a normal life. My cousin made me think i was a weird person for some reason and once i looked at a friend (she was sitting at her lunch table) and accidentally zoomed out and she saw me like 3 secs and i noticed and looked away but then everytime i looked at them they looked back at me and told each other it was weird and even my cousin agreed on it and didnt try to defend me, shes only defended me once and it was bc i didnt know how to talk to her friends when they came over to her house and i was there and she just said i was just tired from school.
Once i accidentally spilled some food in my lunchbox and i didnt notice and it started smelling bad and my friends (the same girls from the lunch table) kept saying it smells bad and somehow they knew it was my locker and one said "SHE SMELLS LIKE WHAT SHE EATS, OOPS THAT WAS KINDA RACIST SORRY" and she just LAUGHED IT OFF AS A JOKE (im hispanic so it IS OFFENSIVE) and my cousin was RIGHT THERE IN THE CONVO and said absolutely nothing like wtf (this is prob gonna sound kinda corny but) family defends each other and cares for each other so idk y she nevet says anything. This happened last week and for the rest of the day i thought i smelled like foof and was rlly insecure. Also i sit next to the girl who said that offensive comment and wr always play games in the middke of class bc its boring and i have to put up with her, its like shes rlly nice but is sometimes rude out of nowhere. We were playing a game and we just had to write 20 questions on papers and then switch papers and answer eachothers questions but i was kinda slow bc i wanted to make ACTUALLY GOOD QUESTIONS and she just "whispered" to her friend STUPID BITCH and looked at me and they both just laughed, i judt acted like i didnt hear but when she looked at my questions she was like "some of ur questions r actually good" and bc of ALL OF WHAT HAPPENED (I left out a few details bc its rlly long) NOW I HAVE ANXIETY EVERYDAY AND STUFF. I WANNA LEAVE THAT SCHOOL SM. I DONT WANNA C MY COUSIN ANYMORE OR THEM WHO R SUPPOSEDLY MY FRIENDS.
Hi Sahar! I just want to say your videos have helped me gain so much confidence. I used to be so insecure to the point I thought I was the most hideous person on the planet but after watching your videos it really helped me realize how much confidence helps. Since I have started gaining confidence I feel like I’m a lot of a better person to be around than I was before and I feel so much prettier now. I’m still working on some things about myself but I have changed so much over the span of 1 year and I have you to thank for that. Anyway I was wondering if you could give me some advice. I’m 14 and at the end of last year and like half of this year there was this guy. I started liking him and me and him had kinda a flirty friendship going on. I could see it my friends could see it. It was very obvious. He later started being a big jerk to me and all my friends completely out of the blue. He would go out of his way to point out how hot this other girl was or how he lovedddd blondes and blondes only and always right in front of me. Idk what changed. I told all my friends and myself that I didn’t like him anymore. But thta wasn’t really true and I couldn’t stop thinking about him. In the past liking another guy has helped me get over the one before better so I started talking to other guys. There was one guy I really liked and he like me. It ended badly though as he pretty much love bombed me and then we stopped talking. It took a good month to fully get over this new guy but once I was over him I started thinking about guy number 1 again. There are more details but I’ve already written so much so I’m gonna wrap it up. Basically Idk how to get over him. Idek why I can’t bc he is a jerk and he’s not good looking if I’m gonna be so honest. All the girls (and a lot of guys) who know him hate him. I kinda do too but at the same time I still get jealous when he talks about other girls. Also recently this guy started hitting on me and he knew guy number 1 but then guy number 1 proceeded to tell this guy to F off and he told my brother. Idk what to do or if this means anything
Girl, I say leave him alone. He’s not worth your time or energy, don’t even waste your breath talking to him. He is immature, and most likely insecure (since he got jealous of other dudes talking to you when you’re allowed to talk to whoever you want to!!! He doesn’t have that kind of power over you!) Of course, he’s only a young teenager too, so obviously you can’t expect him to act like a man, but what you can expect him to know is how to treat young women with respect! I’m going to be totally blunt here and say that it sounds like he only gives you attention when he’s bored, and that is not okay!!! You deserve SO much better, and you are worth SO much more than that. You deserve a guy who makes it knownnn that he likes you! (Also, avoid that love bomber guy too. We don’t put up with that either!!!)
Now, I know you’re asking “how do I get over this guy?” And honesty, I think the first step is no longer talking to him! Remove him from your social circle. The distance will allow you to breathe and think clearly about how you ACTUALLY feel. With that being said, I want you to ask yourself “Do I ACTUALLY like him? Or do I just like the IDEA of him and the IDEA of being with him?” “Do I crave the attention he gives me, even if it’s not necessarily good attention?” I know you said you kind of already hate him, and can you ACTUALLY really like him if you already sort of hate him? Don’t let me influence your answer to those questions, but I hope that if you ask yourself those questions, it might help you internally clear up how you REALLY feel about him, and thus help you get over him.
Also girl, I just have to say, at the end of the day these boys aren’t worth the stress. Most of the time these high school and even college boys aint shiz. Most of the time they’re insecure and immature and not capable of treating your properly within a relationship (yes, this isn’t true for ALL boys, but you know what I’m saying). Of course it’s normal to want to date in high school and have fun with guys, especially so you can feel included when people talk about relationships, kissing, etc. But at the end of the day, I’m telling you, your time is MUCH better spent focusing on yourself, your academics, and spending time with the friends who love you, uplift you, and support you. I know I sound like such a mom or grandma for saying this, but PLEASE hear me out because I’m speaking from experience. I’m almost 18 and about to graduate high school, and I haven’t dated or romantically involved myself with guys the entire time I’ve been in high school and I’m being serious when I say I’ve been absolutely thriving. It cuts out so much stress and unnecessary worry. It gives you more time to focus on the things YOU want, and you’re not distracted by some boy who most likely isn’t the love of your life. I’m not trying to shiz on dating or love, I loveeee love and I think it’s a beautiful thing. It’s just better spent when both parties of the relationship are responsible and mature enough to properly give and receive it. It’s better to wait to be in a relationship when the right person comes along, and trust me, you’ll know when it’s the right person. Don’t date just to date, or to get experience because you feel obligated to and like it’s the norm.
@@Ava0117thank you so much!!
Hi, Sahar!!
First of all, I love you so much. You are such a gorgeous person overall. And also thank you so much for starting this "Sahar's advice" series. Absolutely love it.
Warning: This is a longggg message!!
So, basically, there was this person in my class. We met each other through a group project and became really close. We also used to do study sessions together. During that time, I totally liked him as a friend. But as time went by, I started to notice some signs. There was this one time, he, I, and my friends were chatting together and someone was telling a horror story. I cried because of that (Yes, I am a scary cat ✌️) and he came and hugged me. During study sessions, he used to stare at me. One time, he tucked my hair behind my ears and looked away so fast. He used to offer me to drop me home. He would hold my hands when crossing the road. And also he loved to tease me all the time. As time went by, I started to like him too. And I felt like we used to flirt all the time but we also argued on silly things like a couple. One day, we went to an event and at the last moment, he went out with his friends. I was searching for him all around campus and couldn't find him. I called and he told me he was out. I told him "You could have told me. I was worried." and he snapped and said, "Why do I have to tell you everything?" I was so shocked and he started saying "Do you like me as more than a friend?" I finally confessed and he said that he didn't like me as more than a friend and he wanted us to stay friends. Then I asked, "Then why did you act like you want us to be more than friends?" He was like "Oh I thought you were really weak and vulnerable that's why". But then, I was like "Okay, fine but I still like you. So let's be really good friends." Cause I genuinely really liked him. But his behavior never went away. Fast forward, he used to flirt with me and treat me really nicely but always pushed me away when we got vulnerable to each other. And I was so confused. But then when I said one small thing like "Don't you think this girl likes you? I don't like that." He snapped and again went like "We are just friends blah blah." I didn't know what to do really. Things only became bigger and messy. We used to argue all the time like this and things really got out of hand. During exam sessions, we again got into an argument about a girl and his behavior was totally intolerable. He literally scrunched his nose when someone called my name as if I were trash. And he went to my two friends and complained to them about me. About those two friends, we have been friends for 7 years and we always shared boy problems and they were my besties. Out of nowhere, they started to take his side and told me that I was being problematic and they were forcing me physically to tell them everything like what we argued about like every single detail of us. I literally couldn't take it anymore. I screamed "NO, I won't tell you" I chose not to tell them because for me, that was not okay for them to force me like this. Then I started crying and they were laughing at me. Like they whispered in each other's ears and laughed at me. He along with my friends. I tried to tell them that lemme talk to him, please. But they acted as if he was the victim there when he always pushed me away when we got close and he never opened up to me ever but always complained that no one understood him. I really tried to give him the environment to be vulnerable. That day, I went home and cried so much that I couldn't breathe. I have anxiety problems. Things got bad and I started to have anxiety attacks like I thought I would die if I couldn't be with me. So I decided that I would apologize to them first. I apologized to everybody but none of them really cared. He told me that he could never forgive me because I screamed at them and he could never be vulnerable around me. I begged him to forgive me. I did everything I could but none of them really listened. At last, I decided to cut them off and I still miss him and my friends so much. I really believe it's not worth it but I have done everything. I had to go to therapy due to my anxiety attacks. A few days ago, he messaged me and asked me if I was okay. I tried to reply in small words. He seemed really guilty tho. Nowadays he is not active anymore and we also don't see each other anymore cause classes ended. I don't know if I have done the right thing. Should I start talking to him again? I really miss him. What should I do?
I know this is a long message. You said you wanted all the juice. Here is the juice🤭!! It's okay if you can't read it cause it's really long. Still, I love you and you are such a big sis to me!!
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Me and my ex just broke up about a month and a half ago. He broke up with me because he just couldn’t trust me and he wasn’t sure that he wanted to move forward with me. Recently my this boy who’s sort of friends with me is love bombing me and trying to get with me. I keep making up excuses for us not to be together. He’s really nice to me but he has a really bad dating history. He’s dated 2 of my bsf btw. My parents don’t like him, I still really like my ex and have a lot of feeling for him, and right now I just want to take time and really figure out who I am and to become a better me and learn to love myself and I keep telling him that but he doesn’t understand. What should I do? (We’re all 13 btw)
Hey Sahar! Your advice is really appreciated! You said you wanted details, so here's my issue:
About six months ago my "friend", lets call her "M" randomly dumped me out of no where. She said I was too "dramatic", after she had just confessed some of her most personal things to me a day before. I think I handled what she said the day before very well, and I also told her that I had been having body image issues and that this other girl (L) and I were feeling like she left us out sometimes. So M does this (completely abandons me), and then L totally takes her side, despite ranting to me about M for so long. Now I sit alone at lunch, and because M and I are in the same school, I have not really gotten over her yet. Also, she was acting really weird with this guy I liked, almost like she had a crush on him, and I had asked her repeatedly if she liked him or not, and she said 100% no. I then decided that I could like him (girl code and everything). So, I told her and L about how I like(d?) him. Then, before summer started, I heard M talking with her new friends about how at the start of the year she really liked him. I still haven't moved on from this, and she is now best friends with this girl who is just the definition of perfect. I really thought M was going to be the friend I could have for life. But I still don't really know how to move on from her and L. (For reference this is early high school, and L is a really rude person, but I thought M was amazing).
Any advice on how to move on after friend drama??
❤ Thank you so much
THE WAY I GASPED WHEN I SAW THE SQUISHMELLOW BEHIND HER. We have matching squishmellows 😰😰💞💞
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Hi Sahar,
There was this guy who used to flirt with me a lot but at that time I was super naive and wasn’t looking for anything. I did start liking him though, I don’t know if it was actually him or the attention but he also flirted with a lot of other girls. After the summer, however, he came back with a girlfriend and I didn’t know what to think. On top of that he texted me saying that he had a bit of a crush on me last year and asked: If he wasn’t dating that girl, would I hypothetically go out with him. That comment rubbed off on the wrong way and I told him not to ask questions like that while he’s dating someone. I’m not sure what to do. I love his girlfriend. She’s a year older but we’re kind of friends. She’s so pretty and she’s such a girl’s girl. My question is: what should I do? Should I remain friends with him? I really don’t want to ruin the friendship with him or his girlfriend. On the other hand, I’m scared that there’s a little part of me that really does still like him. I’m not good at talking to guys I’m interested in and this was one of the only attractive guys that did all the work for me. A lot of my friends tell me that I should show her these texts but if she doesn’t believe me it’ll just look like I’m trying to break up their relationship and both of them will end up hating me. As of right now me and that guy are just friends but it doesn’t feel right.
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Two years ago, a girl from a different state moved to our school. We hit it off and became very close friends. A couple of months ago though, I asked her to not talk to me during church because…I go to church to listen, and she got really upset with me. The next day at school, she was really pissed with me and told her friends that I was bullying her. (Keep in mind, this was the type of friendship where we never fought or had conflict) anyway, as the weeks moved on, she started spreading lies about me. In our church group one night, she told me that the reason she didn’t want to be friends with me was because of my depression. I understand that if she didn’t want to be friends with me anymore, she didn’t have to be, but I personally think that her comments weren’t very necessary. We stopped talking to each other but all of her friends are my friends because I introduced them to her. We go to the same church and are in the same church small group. So my question is, how do I exist around her in an appropriate manner? What is the best way to monitor how she treats me, while still being in the same vicinities?
hiiii sahar!!! ❤I love you and your videos. I used to be so much more insecure before but you taught me to not be. You are beautiful inside and out and ugh its impossible not to love you. Ok so i have kind of a lot of stuff going on rn. The first one is not that big of a deal but its just fun to talk about. So theres this boy. Im delusional and i had a "crush" on him bc yk i need a crush to function and its fun to have someone you "like." He was always far away from me in class until we were switched seats. And he sits right in front of me in one class now. I was bummed out bc i was scared to lose my crush after figuring out his personality bc remember, im delusional. But i got to know him a bit and hes nice? Like lowkey heartfluttering around him and he talks to me super respectfully?? Shocked, i started to like him more. im not invested in him yet but js the thought of us being together is so cute (not that i want it to happen really). Should i make a move to get go know him more? Or stay at this place where we are kind of friends but not really? Ok next. Ive been with my friend (let's call her N) for a few years. Two years ago, we had two other friends. I was mainly besties with S and N was mainly besties with O. There was friction bc N told me that O was shit talking me and S about our height and signs, etc. Me being hella dumb and believing N when she said that she was only nodding and being silent while O was shittalking us, i decided to try to talk it out with O. I brought S and i tried to have a convo with O - O denied everything and acting annoyed that i would say stuff when i was really trying to mend our friendship together. We ended up making N,S and I be a trio the next year. S and N ended up going to the same class. I was alone but O was in that class. And turns out, O was hanging out with me??? We were fine with bumps that year, but N was ALWAYS talking to me about how S was so annoying. I grew close to N that last year so i believed her and would always be on her side. Stupid, ik NOW, but i knew S would shittalk me for no apparent reason?? Perhaps i did something, but no one communicates here until everything is fully broken. End of that year, we went to a duo with me and N. Current year: N, O, S, and i are all in the same class. O began talking to N again and vice versa. I would talk to both of them also. So we were like a trio. I was fine bc yes, im jealous, but im not trying to ruin something for them. But then N started to distnace herself from me and would talk to O way more. Sometimes i would look at them randomly, and they would be staring at me, 100% talking bad about me. I know they would talk bad about me. Dont ask how exactly, i just KNOW. O isnt great - super judgemental because she would slut shame and ask questions about one's decisions. "Why would {insert my friend's name} dye her hair?" *Rolls her eyes* Also she once came to school while i was talking to our friend. She looked at a classmate and complimented their jeans, looked at our friend and comlimented her fit, turned to me and look at me up and down. I laughed bc i knew EXACTLY what was going to happen. O chuckled while making eye contact with me and said something along the lines of "i cant say anything good about your outfit. Yk what you look like? Homeless. Omg yk adam sandler? How he dresses like that? Thats like you" mind you, i was wearing a hoodie and jeans, the same thing O was wearing but her outfit was all black. That was kind of off topic but yea. Oh and S would talk bad about face multiple times to me or behind my back. Ok so N and now besties with O, and N and S suddenly became friends again. They talk now and they are super comfortable with each other. But N would be the one to talk bad about S first and i would be there for N. N was the reason i lost 2 friends, one per year. But now she talks to both of them as if it was nothing and it was all my fault. S and O werent good people, but N would talk bad about them the most, yet she still got them back at the end. N has that charismatic personality, so shes friends with like everyone. I distance myself from her, but if i cut her off completely, she will shittalk her way into EVERYONE hating me. Im not trying to get bullied but idk what to do? Oh and IM NOT THE TOTAL VICTIM. IM AWARE. i did talk bad about S and O with N for a bit but stopped immediately middle of last year. Doesnt make me a saint, but i have completely stopped shittalking anyone for over a year. Thanks for the advice. LOVE YOU!
Okay so I'm 15 (will be 16 in a month) and I've liked this guy for around a year now. We're sort of friends with each other but we only hang out in the class that we have together (drama). I sort of had the feeling he liked me back as he was always asking me questions about myself and laughing with me. But I decided to try and forget him a few months ago as I was too scared to do anything about it. Then last month I was talking to a friend who asked me if I was dating him because of rumours about us last year. One of my best friends overheard this conversation and told me that it was fine if I liked him but she wanted to let me know that she liked him too. She also told me that she was sure that he liked me. Now I just don't know what to do. I want to tell him that I like him but I'm way too scared of being rejected and my friend being annoyed even though she said it was fine. How do I let him know I like him without saying it? Help! P. S. You're so gorgeous and I love you ❤
Sooo basically I’ve had this best friend since 6th grade (9th now) and she’s been a good friend for the most part except for 7th grade. She has this bf now and a like him (not like that) but he’s cool. The problem is she most definitely likes to be with him more than she likes to be with which ig im fine with but he’s all she ever talks about. She complains about him and overthinks about him or just talks abt him in general and whenever I try to talk about anything she’ll say “oh that sucks” and change it back to herself. She also comments on how I look every day pointing out if my outfit doesn’t look together or she’ll say that she can tell I’m wearing makeup and I shouldn’t wear so much even if I’m just wearing mascara. I love her so much and I don’t want to lose her but it’s hard rn to hang out with her when the only things abt me are negative. She’s also not been telling me stuff that she used to always tell me and idk how to get her to tell me stuff. Her excuse is that she thinks I’ll be mad but I keep telling her I won’t me. What should I do?
Hi sahar, wanted you to know you mean a lot to me and you are such a genuine person. For a few years now I’ve struggled with my relationship with my brother. There’s so much I could say negatively about him but I want to actually have a strong relationship with him. The problem is that he doesn’t respect me like he should especially in the way that he doesn’t take me seriously. He has grown to be very religious in a sort of negative way and now our bond has been broken. I’m all for God and religion can be good but he has just taken it too far. His expectations for what women should be like is not acceptable. I try to slide all these things under the rug but it’s hard to ignore when he constantly wants to point it out. Although he lectures me on how to be a “proper” woman he still treats me like a child. It’s exhausting to think about the fact that we used to be like best friends when we were younger, before he started divided women vs men. I know I can’t control how he views me or the world but I’m not sure what to do. Have any advice. Love you lots and very grateful for you and everything you do on your channel. Love-annalee 😘
doubt youll see this and ily but i was friends with this girl and she introduced us together and we just clicked, not in the romantic way tho, we found out that we had a much of classes together and we quickly became besties. Then he came out as gay and told me that he had a boyfriend, and his relationship was open so it was okay, but his girlfriend didn't feel comfy talking abt it. The next I saw her, she was complaining about how he had closed the relationship with her and how she disappointed that she had to stop talking to this one guy. The guy kept on texting me abt his relationship drama, talking about he got broken up with, how liked this one dude, etc. i kept on asking when he was gonna break up with her. He was constantly avoiding the question and one day I said i was going to tell her if he didnt break up with her. later that day in one of our other classes he confessed that he lied about being gay and all of his boyfriends and that he liked me. i dont like him like that and he kept asking me out and pestering me to say yes. when the class finally ended i blocked him on my phone and told his girlfriend asap. in one of our classes together he said that he would ignore his feelings and that he and his girlfriend had talked about it. i didnt believe him and ignored him for the rest of the class. this happened a couple of weeks ago and now hes acting like we're still kinda friends, im wondering if i should shut it down or try and be friends with him again?
Hi Sahar first of all I literally LOVE YOU! Fav RUclips channel ever! So basically my situation is I have liked this guy for about 6 months and then at the end of the school year on the last day he tells my friend that he likes me. So me and my friend are having this sleepover right, and basically she’s telling about the conversation they had. So fast forward to now we aren’t in the same class anymore but I decided I kinda liked him. He was just nice and kinda funny so he’s good👌. But I have recently been noticing in my class a lot of times I have been accidentally been flirting and what I mean by “flirting” is I am just very nice, smiling and laughing a lot. I really don’t try to do this but I have done it about 5 times today with multiple different boys. And I feel guilty about it. I can’t tell if I like another boy or not. I’m trying to keep everything under control and honestly it stresses me out. I don’t want to tell my friends cause I feel that’s too personal and I should keep to myself. I don’t want to start anything new with anybody new but it’s hard because I feel something when I am around these different boys. What I’m trying to say is I get new crushes everyday and I feel bad about it. How do I fix this and try not to give off the wrong vibe like I’m trying to tell them I like them or something. Please help how do I get everything under controlled. Is this normal to feel this way, and can you relate? Sending lots of love❤❤❤
This is definitely normal!
Thanks for the reassurance!🫶
She’s the big sister I always wanted😭😭😭
hi sahar! its eve and im in this really difficult situation. i've been bullied for almost 4 years now and my whole friend group has been a mess. from the very beginning I was always the punching bag of the group and when I was younger I didn't really know or understand the sarcasm these "friends" were giving me. so we all eventually broke up and one of them who I have been friends with for almost 10 years now completely replaced me and cut me out of her life (it was so uncalled for) recently I became friends with 3 of them again. we were getting along again really well and we even went to the eras tour movie together and everything! but then out of nowhere 2 of them (YOU WANTED NAMES SO I call em kai and Lauren also f u guys if u see this) they always say things to make me insecure, start rumors about me, and one of them even slaps me whenever I do something on accident! they act too cool for me when they're around other people and blame me for all their shit. they always say that they are a girls girl and act all innocent and nice whenever I try to tell someone about what's happening and they are complete liars. Ive been so depressed (but you've helped me!!) and ive developed so much anxiety from this happening and im trying so hard to get out of this situation. sahar I really need your help what is the best way to dump them without them trying to act like the victim (if u get what I mean)
EDITED A FEW WEEKS LATER: they started posting tiktoks about me and when I heard about Lauren getting floor tickets to the eras tour I was shocked and told her I didn't know she was much a swiftie (she didn't know many songs at the movie) SHE THEN got really mad and accused me or posting all over my instagram, tiktok etc without her seeing (she literally follows me on both so idk what she is talking about) now they're posting tiktoksa bout me and one of them said they wanna run me over with a bus 🫶
ilysm and ur the best!! i dont think I'd be the person I am without u!!
Hi Sahar! First off I love your videos! They are so amazing and have helped me with my anxiety. Me and my friend have been drifting apart and I don't know what to do. She is hanging out with people that she knows have wronged me and I feel like she just forgave them over the summer. I'm not mad at her for making new friends but I feel like her entire personality changed and the way that she just forgave people that have made me so sad is kinda off putting. Shes the way that she used to be when its just me and her but when theres other people around like at school she just is constantly putting me down. I don't want to loose another friend and I'm scared if I stop being friends with her than i'll loose my entire friend group. Any advice from you or anyone else would be very helpful.
Hi!! So I've been having some boy problems, (I know, yikes!), so... there's this one, he's my absolute DREAM guy. He's athletic, smart, motivated, and adorable. He's been giving me some signs for a while, and he broke up with his gf recently. A couple days ago, we called, (IT LASTED FOR A FULL THREE HOURS.), he was HIGH-KEY flirting the whole time. He called me feisty, we made some *ehem* interesting jokes, and he even kind of alluded that I was his type. I've liked him for a while... BUT, (VERY BIG BUT, GYATT LEVEL), we've been friends for a long time, 3:13 I really value our friendship and we're both in an organization that prohibits members dating, (which I totally understand bc there's been a lot of drama lately). BUT OMG, HE'S SO GOSH DARN CUTE... and I can keep a secret. Still don't know if I should go for it... how would I even approach that? Should I just ignore the signs??? UGH, BOYSSS.
I didn't mean to put the time thingy, sorry. 😅
Just go for itttt 😭😭😭😭
OMG I FEEL YOU GIRL, one of my comments in here somewhere explains my situation. my guy isnt as into me as yours is so good for you!! tbh just talk to him and stay close and maybe just eventually go on a little date (official but unofficial you know what i mean?, like as friends but maybe a little more than that). but goodluck babe i wish you the best!
GUYS HE CONFESSED AN HOUR AGO. AHHHHH
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Helllooo, I wanna start this with saying how much your videos have helped me. But I’ve been struggling to figure out this situation myself so maybe you can help.
So I became best friends with this girl and it was normal and fun at first. I loved talking with her, but soon after I became friends with her I introduced her to my other friends. After I introduced her to them we all started getting along, but soon after she started to become more aggressive. She would forcefully pull me away from them and I couldn’t hang out with any of my other friends. She would also slap me, and bite me to be “funny” to the point where I had ginormous bruises. She would also make me feel bad about myself by saying stuff like “your ass is so flat”, “why is your nose like that” and “your forehead is so big”. She also stole my stuff, including my food. Right now I’m just trying to separate myself from her, but it’s hard.
Hi Sahar! I love you and your videos they’re the highlight of my RUclips!! 💙💙💙
So I was just wondering how to create self discipline. I’ve been trying a lot to be the “it/clean girl” that’s all put together, and it’s not really working. I’ve graduated from school but I don’t have a job yet because my mom wanted me to stay at home to help her, which I am so fine with it’s actually super nice to have basically a gap year. But most days I feel really unproductive and like I’m not helping her that much. I can’t get up before 9 or 9:30 and I feel like I just scroll on my phone all day even tho I pretend like I don’t. I feel pretty bad about myself and guilty for not really doing anything so I started to try and write lists of what I need to do and workout but it’s still not enough and most days I’ll complete one task off the list. Please help me I honestly don’t know what to do and I need someone other than my sisters to help me out. ❤❤again love you so much queen!! :D
hey sahar
hi sahar, loving these vids sm
Hi Sahar, so I’m in like a trio and lately I’m been feeling left out and I’ve told them about it but nothing has changed. It also feels like they don’t want to be friends anymore because if I’m nice to someone they don’t like they just start talking about how I shouldn’t talk to them and they get all mad.
Hey so I got a question lol- i got this guy i like and i've known him for four years- he flirts with me a lot but my friend used to have a crush on him so I wasn't too sure about it- shes in a new relationship and ever since that he's been distant- I don't know what to do- I need help Sahar!!!!
Hi Sahar I love you so much! So I just wanted to tell that there's this guy who I used to despise for more than two years (I'm 14 btw), but all of the sudden, I think I have feelings for him, and the worst part is that I realised it when I saw him like someone else. I know he doesn't like me back, so how could I move on from him, and also in general stop liking guys who are not liking me back? Thank you so much!
Hi I'm Charlee. My first boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and now I feel emptiness where my heart should be. When he called he said, " I think we should break up. We barley see each other and talk and when we do it's awkward. I still want to be best friends with you just not boyfriend girlfriend close.' I said bye and then I hung up. I cried for 2 entire days asking myself what I did wrong. His friend said he had been thinking about breaking up with me for about a month and I had no idea. I should've guessed when he didn't get me anything for my birthday earlier this month. I just thought he was really busy. Before he asked me to be his girlfriend, we had been friends for about 2 and a half years. We've really been friends since we first met but since we first met I've always wanted to be more than friends. I've been so freaking in love with this boy since the day I first laid eyes on him but instead of the quote, "She fell first but he fell harder" It was more like, "She fell first and fell harder" He was A LOT of my firsts. Now I just don't know how I will act around him when school starts again. On top of that, another one of his friends makes fun of me and my friends and just a mean person to everyone in general. Especially me. He makes me dread my 3rd period, with is my longest period, plus he's in my lunch. Any advice or anything at all would help me. (p.s. i love you) ❤
Hi Sahar ,my name is Mary. I just want to say that I love you so much.I meat my best friend a year ago in 5th class.Then we went really that close because it was a three people friend group and she would usually leave me out.The other girl always said sorry for my now best friends behaviour.Now the other girl is not in our friend group .Nothing happened between us it's just that where not really friends anymore. Now that the other girl is not friends with us my best friend does not like me hanging out with other people and often says "you can't have any others friend but me" . She also makes me stay with her every lunchtime . I'm not to sure what to do because she is also very manipulative.But sometimes she's nice.Next year I'm going to secondary school but she might be moving which means I won't have anyone to stay with because on lunchtime she makes me stay with her with means I won't be hanging out with other people so it would be weird hangging out with them just in secondary school.
I'm so sorry I don't really know how to word the hole thing but I hope you understand
I also forgot to add that sometimes she ignores me when where around people
I love these advice videos, and I was hoping you could maybe give me some advice in your next video.
The situation: Last year I had a really manipulative friendship with someone who I thought was one of my closest friends. This year I've had a chance to get to know some new friends and reconnect with one of my friends I haven't talked to in a year and we've become best friends. Lately I've been feeling annoyed with random things she does and I don't like feeling that way towards her because I know she did nothing wrong. I think I might be a little self-destructive with my close friendships because of my past experiences with people I trusted and I don't want to get hurt and deal with that again, and I feel really guilty because my friend did nothing wrong. My question is why do I feel annoyed with her and how do I stop getting annoyed with the little irrelevant things?
Hi Sahar, im in hs and i feel like my bsf doesnt want me to be happy. This guy told me he liked me and i liked him too but i was scared to say because the last time i told someone i liked them it didnt end so well but i just knew this guy was different, we were friends before he told me and i always felt a connection between us(ik its cliche but i rlly thought we'd end up tgt) but we kinda got distant. He already told me he liked me when we were close but i thought he was joking (i kinda have low self esteem). This was the third time he told me and it was infront of my bsf and he had his bsf tell me and he looked nervous but i felt like he meant it but my bsf told him i didnt like him. I asked why she did it and she said how he will keep harrassing me if she didnt. She always makes comments ab how she wants a bf and when i tell her that its ok to be single she responds with '' ik you're ok with being single becuz you've never had a bf but i cant live like this'' even tjough she knows i feel insecure ab that. This isnt even the first time she has done something like this. In the 1st form (freshman yr in the american system) she told my then crush i had a crush on him for a DOLLAR then she told me she told him and acted like she didnt just hurt my feelings after i trusted her with a secret and told her not to tell him. She told me i looked like a 6/10 even though i told her not to rate me because ik im not the prettiest person and my self esteem didnt need to be any lower. I decided not to be friends with her anymore but eventually we became friends again. Should i end the friendship? Should i tell the guy how i feel? (Btw im 14 children start skl earlier in mu country)
Hiiiiii girl!!! Love your videos sooooooo much!!!
This is my situation again since you didn’t put my dm in this video:
I’m in middle school, all people in this are also in middle school, getting new friends isn’t an option cuz there’s literally no one nicer than my current ones in my year.
There’s this guy, everyone in my class kinda ships us together and my friends say he likes me, me and him go way back, when we were 5 we met and were also great friends, I had the biggest crush on him and cuz I was so young i didn’t hide it at all well, the entire class knew at this point (partly cuz I was really obvious and partly cuz my best friend to this day told everyone, again, we were 5). I’ve never fully been able to say that I didn’t like him and when we were 9 there was this thing going on where I’d guess his crush, i went through every single girl in our year except myself and it was none of them, when I asked if it was me there was an entire thing, for some reason this really fake girl DID know who it was, but, cuz no one in my class except my friends (and possibly him 😉) liked me she wouldn’t tell ME but she WOULD tell my bestie (the one who told everyone when we were lil) my bestie (being the fake friend that she is) wouldn’t tell me at the time, but now she has, it was me. A year later (so when we were 10) I mentioned what had happened the year before (this was before bestie told me who he had liked) and he said: ‘Yeah, but I don’t like her anymore.’ At the time I didn’t think anything of it, but know I think back to it. Another occasion that makes me think he likes me is: last year we went on a road trip with my class, we went to a museum, where we’d have to dig in a sandpit for fossils and bones, I was in a team with him, my bestie and some boys from my class (all the boys except this one a fucking irritating and disgusting 🤮🤢) so one of the dumbass boys said: why was ____ (my name) even invited to your birthday party ______ (his name)? We both went all red in the face and he was just looking down at the sand and digging a bit, I was looking at him to see what he’d say, he quickly changed the subject to the most random thing ever: ‘so do you guys think this sand is real?’ It was so strange and makes me think he likes me. Now these stories were all from the past, what about now? Well, his friends always tease him about liking me, though never actually admit he does, they’re basically saying he doesn’t like me, but did in the past? Or maybe they see a spark but they know there’s not actually one? I don’t know what they’re going for there all I know is: they all deny everything immediately when you bring it up in a way implying it’s true what they tease him for. I honestly feel like he’s my soulmate and things were going kinda well, we’d look at each other and there would be a spark, I never thought he liked me cuz he would’ve acted on it when he knew for sure when we were young right? Wrong. He’s very very very shy when it comes to me, another thing that’s a bit suspicious. When I said it was going well I spoke in past tense, that’s cuz my friends kinda ruined it today, they were bored, so they decided to put a note in my bag saying: ‘for _____ (my name), do you wanna be my girlfriend? From ____ (his name). I, luckily, didn’t believe them for a second, cuz this guys handwriting is ugly af and even though they tried to make it look bad, it still looked way too nice to be his. When I texted my friend (different one this time) that I was mad at her, she replied with, and I quote: ‘bruh, sorry but you’re really overreacting, it was just a joke, I didn’t think you’d mind this much.’ I MEAN WHAT?!? You cannot be serious right now! That wasn’t even all, she’s making plans for me for tomorrow, with a different friend who doesn’t even want to be Involved, started with the joke then got suctioned in, can’t leave cuz of the pressure. Even this ISNT ALL! The girl from the text message, had been harassing this poor boy and his friends, forcing him to ask me out, I DID NOT ASK FOR THIS! After school, when he left to go home and me and my friends saw him, you know what this girl says to him? ‘____ (my name) wants to kiss you!’ NO I FCKING DONT YOU B-!!! Even though they didn’t actually say I liked him, I think it’s f-ing obvious now! I hate themmmm 😢😢😢 though if I dump them I have no one, besides they’re personalities are ok-ish besides this… what do I do??? And do you think he likes me??? I rly want to date him, but I’m NEVER asking myself, or should I? What would you do Sahar? I NEED your help soooo bad 😭😭😭!!! Also his friends fcking hate me soooo much, they bully me a bit, especially 1 of them, we had a rly romantic cute ruler fight when he was off sick (literally just a battle with a ruler 😂) once again luv you sooooooo much Sahar❤! Need your help!
Hey Sahar! I love your videos so so much! I (Angelica in grade 9) really needs some advice on this situation. Basically..
Ive been talking to this guy (Ryder grade 10) on and off for a while (6ish months). Irdk how he feels about me. And ik your saying, but i really think there could be something there. Idk if im getting my own hopes up, but he reached out first. We had this school wide even and it was a whole bunch of sport games. We were playing tag and he wouldnt stop tagging me and I got grumpy (in a joking way). He started laughing at my pouty face (again in a joking way) and told me he was sorry. We started talking after that, and then well, my friends told him I liked him (kind of with consent?). He acted like he didnt know who i was but was apparently supper rosy the whole time. Hes giving the fattest mixed signals ever! We haven't talked since they told him, but he keeps staring at me, when we're in the same room, walking down the hallway, etc.
What should I do? (Ps we haven't talked since the end of last year {about 3ish months ago} but i still like him, alot). Again love your vids! And you wanted the tea so here it is!
I need some anonymous relationship advice
So the place I study is really small, not a lot of people and basically there is a guy I dated for a while but I broke up with him because he was dry. Now the problem starts with my love language being touch. I'm very touchy with people im close to and a hug always makes me feel better when im down. My friends are great with this but I really can't do much with them because it's weird couple-y stuff that I really want to do. Now im just wondering if I should get back with him just for the physical aspect but not for deep emotional connection that I also really, really want. Im just so tired of being alone and I basically can't think of a better way to deal with me needing physical touch to be better mentally. Thanks for reading :)
🥳u go girl
Hi, I haven't dated for two going on three yrs now. Last person I dated was hired by someone to date me and then dated someone who looks a lot like me. I was told I'm online in a threesome. I've NEVER been in a threesome and I was told there are pics of me up somewhere. I went to the cops but they wouldn't help me. I'm celibate and some evil trolls are trying to make me seem like I'm doing sexual acts. I'm not but if I have an imposter then how do I find out where she is and what she's doing and even press charges if she's using my name while doing her dirt? What the heck do I do?
Omg I love this series
Also I need advice so I got this friend who's going thru shit and I'm trying 2 be there for her but she's been rude and putting the blame on us for everything and like hitting us for shit but is so clingy to my bestie and it pisses me off cuz i cant get a moment alone w her and it's just so annoying but I don't want to leave her ATM also her mom is like a people person and is there for her daughter which I get but she will drag our ass back to her daughter for her and I'm flat out scared bro
Anyway u slayed this episode dude ily sm u are a beam in the universe sahar😊
Ok so last year I met this boy (let’s call him Dyll) and we became close friends. For a while I had a crush on him ,but then I stopped because my close friend had dated him and another one of my friends liked him. Anyways we continued to be friends and I would tell him my drama and other stuff. After a few months I started getting tired of him bc he would always text me about killing himself and even though I would spend time comforting him , I couldn’t do anything to help. He would only text me trauma dump and it was exhausting. One day I bring this up to my friends over ft and they told me that he does that with them too. He would say how he wanted to kill himself and jump off a bridge . Anyways fast forward a few months he said he was gonna touch my friend inappropriately and rape her. Which was triggering me ,so me and my friend group decided to drop him. I told him I couldn’t be friends with him anymore and that I wouldn’t be friends with someone who treated my besties or anyone else like that. We stopped talking for a few months and then I got a letter from him saying how sorry he was and that he missed being friends with me. Some ppl were telling me he wanted to be friends with me one for my friends even said he liked me. I decided to message him a few weeks later and we became friends again. Here’s where things get crazy. Me and Dyll spend a few hours talking to each other catching up and he told me that he was praying to God that I would talk to him again. Which is wild and then the next day my friend (who is close with both of us )said that Dyll said he was in love with me. I don’t like him tho and i was starting to second guess our friendship. Anyways we get back to school on Monday and he doesn’t say anything to me the whoollllleeee day. I was upset so I texted him to ask why and he just said he was scared. The next day Dyll tried to pay my friend to force him to say something to me and even was telling them to get me to leave my regular break spot just so he could say hi. He usually plays soccer with his friends while I sit on the grass so he wanted me to walk on the track. Anyways I take a few laps on track with my friends and he didn’t say anything so I took it upon myself to say “hi Dyll 😊” and I SWEAR TO YOU HE RESPONDED WITH DRYEST HI 😑 it was so dead. Anyways that night I texted our mutual friend Nico abt it and he said that Dyll told him that our interaction was ✨exciting ✨ I was just so upset bc he was scared yet when I took the first step and he still showed no sign of effort. That same night Dyll texted me saying thank you for doing the talking today and I was just like your welcome. But he still didn’t talk to me for the rest of the week and I got really upset when my teacher even had to get involved. it was like:
*I hand him his soccer ball*
Teacher (who knows all the tea) : “say thank you”
Dyll: Thank you
Teacher : “Thank you who?
Dyll: thank you bre
Me: your welcome
Anyways it was awkward and I didn’t want to talk to him no more. Bc it’s weird that he likes me so much he won’t even put in effort to talk to me like that doesn’t make sense. A few days later my friend Ant tells me that he was saving up to buy me a ring and ik he’s playing but it honestly not funny. Anyways the next week we were doing smtn in class where I got my friend Nico to give me 20 bucks for smtn really dumb. Anyways he does it and when his friends start telling him it was a scam he puts his hand out to gesture for the money back. I grab his hand and shake to show that we made a deal and when I let go to walk a way he pulls me back and I spin around to face him. Everyone in class sees this and starts cheering thinking we look cute and when I look over Dyll looks soooo mad . He doesn’t text me for a few days and I’m honestly relieved bc I didn’t want to talk. Anyways a few days later I was hanging out at Ants house and my other friend Em tells me that Dyll (a few months ago) asked her to “suck his d*ck”and when she said no he asked her to “beat his meat “. Em told me she was really uncomfortable and tried to play it off cool . She also showed me screenshots of when he said he just finished jerking off and had abt 30 more rounds left 🤢. He’s disgusting he also asked my friend Tilly and Ant for nudes. I don’t know what to do. He is disgusting but he’s also obsessed with me and I feel bad bc we just became friends again. You should’ve seen his reaction when I had texted him again for the first time in months he was so excited. I would hate to kill that ik he’s like depressed and has problems of his own . But he treats my friends bad and acts disgusting around them. Ant and Till are friends with him tho. I don’t know what to do. Should I cut him off? Talk to him about it? Sorry it was long thank you so much for reading. I loveeeeeee you and your content ❤😊
Hi Sahar! you are literally my favorite person ever and i feel like your a older sister to me❤ (P.S this is really long lol)❤ I’m a little bit younger, in 7th grade. i do competitive irish dance and have a group of 8 girls in my class. we are going to worlds this year and have been training for about 6 months. at the beginning of this year one of my best friends on the team quit the team and blocked us all on everything. i guess she was stressed and overwhelmed or their might have been some drama between the other girls and her but she just suddenly left. i was devastated but after a bit i had gotten over it. sense then, 2 other girls have left leaving us with the team that we have now. there’s this one girl on my team who is younger than me (10) who just causes SO MUCH DRAMA. she talks disrespectfully to my teacher, stole money from our fundraising, gives attitude, and so much more. she just really pisses me off. i’ve tried my best to put her in her place but i don’t want to cause too much of a sene bc then she will go tell her mom and I would get in trouble. to add onto it, another one of my best friends on the team has a friend who recently committed suicide. (she’s in 6th grade) but this girl (the 10 year old) still gives her attitude and is really mean to her (and not to be bragging, but we are much better then her😆) i feel like there is just so much going on right now and i feel like my team is falling apart so i’d really like your advice on this, ilysm and thank you for all that you do❤❤
Hey Sahar! Firstly I wanna say we have the same bday and I've found we have a scary amount in common lol. Secondly, I've had this "friend" since 5th grade who's been with me through all of our friend groups (yes "all" you know how middle school goes). We're now in our first year of highschool and she's moving next year, and I've been trying to distance myself from her because of how she's treated me over the years (she's repeatedly called me ugly in 7th grade and doesn't treat me with the same amount of respect that I treat her, along with something else that had to do with my race.) The rest of my friend group isn't the best either, but I've known her for the longest and she's been the worst to me. I know it's bad to not tell her what she did to make me want to leave the friendship, but it's not really my strong suit to confront people and it's been a bit since she's acted up. I also have a really bad attachment issue where I don't know how to leave toxic relationships as soon as I should. I need to strengthen friendships with my friends who are actually nice to me but I don't know how to get closer to them because of how shy and awkward I am. I also don't want to butt into their lives/friend groups. Any tips would be much appreciated, love you sooo much and I hope your lover era with mystery man is perfect💖
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so obsessed that u have a chimmy plush 🫶🫶
Hey sahar! ❤️ I really need help! Did I do the right thing by ending my situationship because I’m not over my summer crush? For context, I must sophomore in high school and my crush is at my cottage over the summer and we really hit it off but I realize that it’s not worth breaking friendship for something more but I’ve never really been over it so I try to get over it by talking to other people and I ended up accidentally stringing somebody along and I felt really bad so I ended up ending things but in the end I’m not sure I did the right thing or if it’s even right for me to be talking to anybody in the first place when I’m not over my summer crush. my friend tells me that the only way that I’m gonna get over it is by talking to somebody else but at this point I’m not sure. I need to know how you get over, crush that you know is never gonna work. Also love your videos I’ve been subbed for a long time 😊😊😊Thank you!
hi saharrr ilysm
so around this time last year i started liking this guy a lot and like he’s my best guy friend and pretty much the only guy i talk to on a daily basis right? so in april i kinda told him i liked him for a while and whatever and he friendzoned me but he was rlly nice about it and nothing was awkward or anything we js stayed good friends but i was confused because ever since we met at around march last year he’d been giving me kind of some mixed signals. like this one time we went to a party together and i was sitting on the couch and he js layed his head on my lap for a WHILEEE like a HUGE while and was pretty chill abt it, and he even let me play with his hair??? but that’s js one of the examples whatever.
so whatever even after he friendzoned me i still had some feelings for him. like i “got over him” (obviously didn’t) plenty of times but then i finally ACTUALLy got over him in august. stopped thinking abt him everyday, stopped thinking of him when i saw cute couple stuff on ig or in movies and whatever. we’re still rlly good friends and i’m rlly glad i got over him frl and my bsf is too because she was SICK of me talking abt that boy. but then this month his friends started telling me he loves me and i another one said he was waiting for us to get married. i thought they were just guys being guys because we’re best friends and that’s js how guys are when a guy is friends with a girl in high school, but then a bunch of other people started asking us if we’re dating?? like this girl in our art class asked if we were after we sat together and this other girl that’s in his homegroup that i don’t even TALK TO asked if we liked each other and i was like “no???” obv and now i’m just confused and kinda mad because what if he likes me now that i got over him and he’s told people already?? that he likes me?? and why right after i don’t like him anymore?? like he even helps me with my situationships because he knows how guys think abt that kind of stuff but what happens now? what if he doesn’t even like me and everyone is just asking that because we’re close friends like saharrrrrr literally help me 😭😭 (and would it be a good idea if i said yes if he asked me out bcs i’m not planning on asking him because I DONT LIKE HIM ANYMORE but if he asked me i wouldnt say noooo and i’ve been rlly single atm so would that be a good move? or am i gonna get played??
tysm if you read this sahar ily please help me w this and have an amazing day 😽😽😽
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Hi Sahar, I love your personality so much! My situation: so I work with this guy who (when I started working there) gave me "I like you" vibes. Problem is that I was in a bad spot at the time and didn't pick up on those signals so now we just do our jobs in quiet and maybe say hi when we pass by (we work in seperate rooms/departments) Since we are both students we don't work full time and don't see eachother daily, but I realised that I actually like him a lot, he has a great personality but we are both shy. How to start a conversation and keep it going casually through the day? Do you think that he might get his feelings for me back if I stop being so cold/polite to him? I'm 19 but suck at talking to guys btw.
The amount of relatability that i feel watching your videos is actually insane. Watching you was the reason i started trying to improve my self confidence so thank you 🫶🫶
Hi Sahar! I'd like your advice on something. BTW I love you so much ❤and want to thank you for helping me get through one of the hardest times of my life when I was so depressed. So I'm in middle school and I have a really big friend group. I actually love my friends and they are so supportive to me but they do talk sh*t about a lot of people and it kind of makes me think they might be doing the same about me. Other than this though, they're my only friends at my school. The issue is that they all got together and decided that they don't like this girl in our friend group, but didn't tell her. They haven't told her that they don't like her or want to be friend with her and they constantly talk behind her back. I really like this girl and I think what they are doing is wrong but my best friend does it too and I feel like my friends won't like me anymore if I stand up to them. Should I tell my friends that they shouldn't be doing this but lose my best friend or should I cut off the girl who hasn't done anything wrong? Love you❤
hey i've had this happen so many times and it sucks sm... the hard truth is that i've learned that most girls that do that type of stuff most likely are doing it to others as well (maybe including you). they're not right for doing that to that girl for no reason, and my heart goes out to her... i think ask them about it and tell them that's not right. if they get mad at you for standing up for her, leave; everyone is in your life for seasons and it'll be hard for awhile but you learn to make new friends. hope it goes well, love ya 🫶🫶
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Thank you Sahar 💕 you're so talkative and nice. I always knew I could trust you. I don't know, how to approach mystery man, without being foolish again. I'd maybe not want us to rush into anything, take it slow. I've never dated so idk how to be intimate lol
omg yayyyyy