If I have a kid and they date someone of the same sex I want them to walk into the house with them and say "mom this is my boyfriend/girlfriend" I feel there's no need for them to "come out" because there's nothing to come out
@Kassi and a few others on this thread. Just coming out to immediate family isn't enough. Without coming out to the rest of the world there can't be a gay rights movement militating for changes in society of how gay people are treated in every way imagnable. Coming out is the most significant action a gay person can take to ensure that society evolves in its attitudes toward them. Otherwise they'll remain criminilized as well as face other condoned forms of harsh treatment which is thoroughly undeserved,..
Shannon, you were one of the first people I followed on tumblr when I first signed up a few years ago. You helped me to come out and I felt the need to personally thank you. I truly admire you and I couldn't be more happy for you and Cammie. You two are great human beings. Thank you for being amazing and keep up with the great work on your youtube channel and Ripple Effect.
I watched your newer coming out video and it brought me here. I absolutely love how far you've come. I also watched your "a letter to you" and I actually cried. I'm so SO glad you posted that because it's exactly what I needed to hear. I love you Shannon, keep being awesome!
Thank you for these videos! I guess some of them are really helpful. I found you're channel and needed to watch you're vids because I'm actually struggeling with myself about who I am and who I love and all these things... that's why I really appreciate the fact that you upload these vids. I guess it cost yourself a lot of courage to share you're story with the whole world and now you have so many fans that must be really crazy. So you deserve all my respect ;) lot of love and greetings from germany (:
this video makes me so happy. i recently discovered your channel and i've watched just about every video of yours and your relationship is just so.. i don't even know how to describe it, it seems perfect. obviously it's probably not all good times, but seeing you two so happy together gives me hope that i will find a guy who loves me as much as you love each other. this was weird but i just felt like writing this to you, and i hope you read it. thank you for bringing joy to my darker days!
sexuality is interesting and then again why is it even a thing? we love who we love. my sexuality is pretty fluid. i find myself more intrigued with girls, then again i can like both boys and girls equally. probably because i never really had a girlfriend; i've always dated/hooked up with boys
Wow I was out n proud in Texas in the late 80s. Used to go to great bars in Dallas & Ft. Worth all the time. Never had an issue. Maybe we were just lucky who knows lol
I don't know if im gay, lesbian,or what ever people call it but I fancy this girl at my school but I don't know we bought take boxing and I like her a lot its almost valentines day
I saw this thing on tumblr this biology teacher asked a girl "whats the best thing you like about boys" and shes just like "theyre girlfriends" I just thought I should share that cause I shat my pants when I saw it. It's not mine just sayin
I had to translate "I love boys" into French and I just translated it to: "J'aime les filles" which means "I love girls". That's how I came out in school.
I've followed you for quite sometime and I witnessed your struggles in homework and how busy you've been with school and I just wanted to congratulate you for finally graduating. Also, thank you for being such a positive influence and being so brave with sharing something so personal and emotional yet so beautiful.
I've doubted my sexuality for a long time now. I find both genders appealing but I don't know about the whole sex thing. The idea just kind of weirds me out, don't watch porn or anything. I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend so I don't have anything to compare to. This whole doubting just consumes my life and my mind.
Hi purplezebra95100 have you ever considered talking to a psychologist about it so they can help you work your head around it all and come to a conclusion ? !!
Thanks purplezebra95100 . sorry the psychologist didn't work out and she handled it wrong and didn't help you--sounds like she just fobbed you off sadly. I hope she didn't make you more confused. When I told my psychologist I am a lesbian he asked me certain questions to make sure and asked how I felt about it etc etc. There are also psychologists who are also sex therapists who should be able to hemp more than the psychologist did !!! Go with your gut instinct and follow your heart !!!
I feel the exact same way. I've always doubted but don't really know as I've never been in a relationship with anyone before. I'm constantly questioning myself every second of my life. I totally relate to what you're saying.
Why do gay people have to come out? why can't people understand that is normal? and people should stop stressing too much about it! I am straight my self, but I am pro-gay, and I am waiting on the day that gay people dont have to come out! be yourself, and fuck what anyone would say!
in an ideal world, nobody would have to come out. the thing is, our society is heteronormative that unless stated otherwise, it is assumed that people are straight. I wish I didn't have to come out without people assuming I'm straight, but unfortunately that's not the case.
Maybe straight people should come out, not leave it for us gays to have to do it cause it sucks when people especially family don't understand or accept who you are
+Natalie Because of the stress and disappointment that comes with people always assuming that you are straight. Tak shannon for example;. If she didn't come out to people, they would be asking her why don't you have a boyfriend yet? All your friends have boyfriends! Don't you wanna experience dating and love? Do you want me to set up up? because I sure as hell can Gay people seem to need to get away from THAT
you're literally my favorite person on the internet. every time i feel weird/ashamed/scared of being bisexual i come here and your videos make me feel better about myself, so thank you.
My dad is not a pastor but he is really religious and I'm scared as hell to tell my parents about me and I have been keeping this secret for at least 6 years and I don't think that I have the guts to tell them.
Maimmie Mah my dad is a pastor too.I told my parents and my best friends last year, they all said I needed help from God.. now, one year later, I still feel the same and I don't know how to deal with it..
Maimmie Mah my dad is a pastor too.. i feel ya, but i came out to my parents at the beginning of this year and they havent treated me badly at all.. they know i cant control it and they are trying to understand it within their religion and its hard.. but i really didnt want to have to never see my family again.. and im not saying tell your parents now, but you have to give it a shot at some point.. i never in a million years thought my parents would have the reaction that they had, but they did and it was amazing
I'm bi curious, and the only people I have told are my really close friends, they are so supportive but there's one thing wrong, my family, my family is super religious, I mean I'm a Christian( yes, you can be gay, bi, Etc. and be religious) but I'm not very religious, anyways my stepdad hates gays( even tho his daughter is a lesbian) and if he knew I'm so scared of his reaction, I feel like my mom would be more accepting but I'm still scared, I literally have no one to talk to but my friends, I have had these fellings for a couple of years, I don't know if I'm bi or not but I'm just confused Rn, it's a 50/50 chance, I favor boys but I think girls are attractive Also, I'm scared and don't know what to do, my family would make a whole bug deal and wouldn't understand, I'm even considering talking to my stepsister who is a lesbian
Oh man I really needed this. I'm actually crying watching this. I hope one day I get to the point where I'm comfortable being who I am and not worried about what people will think of me.
"Being me is way better than some knock-off version of them..." couldn't be more true & the sooner we all find our way to sitting peacefully in our own beautifully unique skins (no one inflicts greater wounds on us than ourselves), the sooner we can get down to really living...;)
I am also a lesbian who is in a sorority. It is actually really hard for me at times in the coming out process. I am not out to my family at this point and I came out to a few girls in my sorority thinking that they would keep my "secret" at this point I'm pretty sure it spread like wildfire behind my back and I know some people really don't like that there is another lesbian in our sorority (there's another girl who has been out forever) but more than anything it's been more of a "we know you're gay but we don't want to talk about it" thing. It makes it really hard for me to be my true self. I want to talk about my girlfriend and bring her to events all the time but I am so concerned with offending other people. It's just one of my things. I always want to please everyone and I need to learn that being myself is more important than potentially offending someone else
hi Shannon! You and Cammie are perfect for each other. I'm happy for the both you. you're so lucky coz you're surrounded by very supportive people. especially You're Mom, i like her. i'm gay, or a bisexual but i like girls more than i like boys.maybe 75% gay, 25% bisexual..all i know is i'm not straight. i'm only out to the person who i fell in love with, my best friend. Coming out is not an option for my situation. i have 3 siblings and i think they're all gay too. this is really a pain to my ass. i'm in a fuckin difficult situation. I love my parents, i always want them to be happy. But it seems like we're a big disappointment to them. it is always in my thoughts that 'i can marry any guy and pretend to be happy and raise kids' i'll do it just for them. I have no one to tell all about these, the only person who know the real me, doesn't exist anymore. after i told her what i really feel, everything has changed. Being left alone in this situation really SUCKS!(and i'm crying right now) BUT I'M OKAY' I'LL BE OKAY! Seeing You and Cammie and other happy lesbian/gay couples make me feel better.THANK YOU for that! Maybe all do better in my next life..LOL PS. Pls do more videos with Cammie.. :)
I am so happy that people like us are being accepted. Well I am a lesbian too and i am starting doing videos but my life is so different than yours... My family is homophobic as fuck and they are totally against me being gay. YOU ARE SO FUCKING LUCKY TO BE ACCEPTED. And im so happy for you... Just hope everything gets better for me like it is for you and if not well ill continue being happy because thats the message we want to spread all over the world xxxxxxxxx
I would really love it if you made a video about how you knew you were gay and at which point you started realizing it in your life and all these stuff,i guess it would be really helpful.Love you so much Shannon! Xx
Kudos to you both for coming out and sharing it with others who feel they can't. It is truly a burden to bear, I should know. I'm 44 this year and I didn't come out until I was 39! My generation and the ones preceding mine were stuck on the idea that it was a choice for me! UGH! It took close to 2 years before anyone was accepting of my sexuality, but life couldn't be sweeter since now I can be myself and the fact that my family and friends have accepted me for who I truly am. Keep posting girls, and live life like there's no tomorrow! You deserve the best that life has to offer! YOU ROCK! :)
Your coming out story was so inspiring but when came out was so different my dad doesn't accept me to this day so we l no reltionship but. Mum and others in family do. Friends do too i had negitive reactions now i am like i don't care at place where i am happy with who i am
Idk if I'm just an emotional wreck right now. But I freakin cried watching this. I think that because.. This story is SO much like mine. I broke. Because I still haven't been able to grip on how to tell people.... I dont know. But damn dude thanks. It kinda opened my eyes fr
You're an absolute legend and its so clear, even just through all of your short videos, that you have a beautiful soul with pure intentions. youve brought me great comfort, but evidently greater comfort to people who are not as lucky as i've been with my coming out experience. Ive been out now for two years but i still come back to this video to remind me that it HAS taken strength even though my situation is far more blessed than most. all my love from australia. i hope you read this and know that what you're doing is changing so many lives, and it IS having an enormous ripple effect, not just on viewers. for every comfortable, strong person in the world there's one more hand to pull someone else up. i've been able to do that now because you've lead by stellar example. Some goes to the beautiful Cammie.
simply put... you are a beautiful person who brought tears to my eyes! wishing you the best of luck with what the future and life has in store for you.
You're dad's initial reaction (the phase thing) is the same reaction i got from my brother and a lesbian friend when I told them I was bisexual... Edit : well rather, my lesbian friend said "Are you a real bisexual (as in 50/50) ? I used to think I was bisexual too. Are you attracted in the same way to boys and girls ?" And it frustrated me so much because I was nervous to tell her in the first place...
So I'm pansexual. I think my mom already suspects I'm a lesbian, as she's asked many times before, but I always deny it... because I'm not... I think my parents, my sister, and my friends will all be really supportive & honestly not really think its a big deal, however not many people know what pansexual is. I'm terrified to sit down and tell people I'm pansexual, not because of how they'll act, but because I know the follow up will be "What's that?" On top of that... I've never been in a relationship. So I'm thinking that some people may even throw the "it's a phase" thing in my face, but I'm positive it's not. I also know of people who don't think being pansexual is real. I've known I'm pansexual since I was 17, but I haven't told anyone... I'm 19 now.
It makes me so incredibly happy seeing people becoming more honest with not only other people but themselves too. it's amazing to see how much a like we truly are regardless, of how different we are. This was beautiful. Truly beautiful.
I'm a junior in high school. I have known that I am gay for about 2 years now and have only managed to tell two people who I really care about. It's really hard coming out and I'm so glad I found this video and so thankful to you for sharing this because it gave me hope. What you said at the end put me in tears and I want to thank you because everything you said hit me and I feel more content with the fact that this is who I am... Thank you
I always think that, some people push you away because they want to see if you'll insist to stay. But on the second thought... Sometimes, people push you away because they really want you away. Oh well, my point here is, it's okay to stick with someone you love. Especially when you know that he/she is kind of Philophobic (A person who's afraid of falling in love). It's okay to prove yourself and how genuine your love is. But once you had enough and stayed long enough... Let him/her go. You deserve to be happy. Yes, he/she may be scared to fall in love but hey, it's hard on your part too - to force yourself in him/her because you want that person to see that you're not like his/her past. Once again, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. It may not be with that person but surely, with the "right person" :) ❤❤❤❤❤
Hi, Shannon! Thank you for sharing your story. I got very emotional seeing this video because I can relate with some of the facts you have been through. It came to a situation that all of my family knows, but no one is willing to talk about it. It's like i don't have a girlfriend or a sex life. Not easy, but i never stopped my life beacause of that. Maybe they will never accept me, but like you said, people can surprise you. Thank you again for the video. I hope i can help someone like you helped me. I feel better! Lots of good vibes for you and Cammie. xo
I know this is an old video and you probably won't see this comment but thank you for making this and thank you for helping in ways you won't believe you're just very incredible! love you so much!❤
It's so weird for me to see this video, because 3 weeks ago I finally told someone I'm gay. I saw your videos 4 years ago, when I was 12, and at the time I was so confused about who I am. But I've seen you, and countless other people, grow and change and learn to accept themselves, and it's taught me how to do the same. Now I'm 16, and I'm okay with my sexuality. I'm okay with it, and I've never been able to say that before. So, thank you for sharing your life online, and giving hope and strength to so many people around the world.
Thank you for doing this stuff ! you're great and watching this makes me look forward to the future more, because I am going to college in september and i'm really scared, especially because I'm still not ok with me being gay and things like that... So listening to your story gives me hope, thank you !
I've watched so many coming out video, and most of them are people coming out at like 19 years old and up. I'm 16 and I'm a lesbian or at least i think i am, I know for sure that i am interested in girl i just don't know if i am interested in guys. I've came out to couple of my friends already, for me it's not a big deal because I feel like girls dating girls or guy dating guys is the same as a guy dating a girl as long as they each love each other, some of my friends make it a big deal and ask lots of question. I want to come out to my parents and hopefully the rest of my family, I just don't know how to bring it up. But the idea of writing a letter sounds like something that would work for me.
For me personally? I just started watching your channel and just subscribed like.. TODAY. I am a closeted Pansexual.. And you definitely gave me the courage to come out to a couple of people today.. Thank you!
I'm bisexual and I was going through struggles for 5 years at some points there were people who bullied me just because of who I am and I have always kept that sad part of my life in my heart but after watching this video you've made me realize that a lot more people have accepted me for who I am and are still my best friends so now I'm letting go of all the small but bad experiences, thank you so much for helping me realize that it's about time I live my life and be completely happy and out with who I am I love you so much and I'm so happy that you and Cam found eachother because you guys are so happy together:: Wish You The Best 🙌💞❤️😘😃😋
you're helping me more than you think you do. I'm still on the process of coming out and I found your video through tumblr, and everything has been clear. I hope I can found courage soon. thank you. I love you shannon.
You give me so much hope for the future. I'm out but struggling with accepting where my life is going and who I'm going to be and who I'll be sharing my life with. You and Cammie show me that love is worth waiting for and that someday I will find someone who will love me the way I deserve to be loved. Thank you.
I want to say that it takes courage to do what you have done. I hope that you have a very successful life. I don't think that you should ever be embarrassed about being who you are. I am a cancer survivor and i am 19 almost 20 years old. I have gone through bullying and many other things. I am the first in my family to go through college. I have a lot of pressure that I put on myself. I think that you are amazing and that you will have a good life
I just realized that this wasn't so long ago.. Which is kinda crazy because I have seen a lot of coming out-videos lately and they were all done by people who have been out and proud for a while and are just talking about stuff that happend years ago... it made me feel real good to see that there are people (approximately my age) who had to struggle and only just now come out fully -- I have no idea why that is so comforting... but it really is.. thank you a lot for sharing!
I'm a girl here and i have a quick question. but what if its my parents that won't accept me? i mean we had a chat about this topic before, and my mother clearly stated that she would not be happy if me or my sister were to be bi, or gay, or anything like that. and after that, she followed it up with saying that if we really were gay or bi or anything else, she wouldn't accept it, like she would not support us at all and all that.... and also, I'm not very sure of my label, i just know that I'm not straight and that honestly, really scares me. because what if my parents found out? what is going to happen to me then?
+imadragonrawr Hey there. Sorry if my english is not so good. I am a girl, 17 years old. At age 12 I started to feel something for my teachers and for my girlfriends and then dreams came. It felt so good. I started to watch series with gay characters and I was like woah... At age 14 I knew I was bisexual. I am not a label kind of girl tho. My family is religious. Me, I believe in science. So I have not come out to my family yet. Religion and sexuality problems are like big stuff for old people. Sometimes at dinner time the topic comes out and my stepmother does not say much about it. My sister is like: yeah whatever, I love Justin Bieber! But my dad is like: yeah I do not know... I hope you two do not go that way and stuff like that. So I am scared too. The thing is, no one should have to come out to anybody! We are all human beings. We are black, white, yellow, purple, green. We love no one, girls, boys, both, everyone. We have different religions. We believe in different things. Who are we to say that WHITE AND STRAIGHT people are the ones? There is no such thing as straight people are the ones that created life so why are we even afraid to be whoever we want to be? STRAIGHT PEOPLE DO NOT COME OUT SO WHY SHOULD WE?? A man and a woman just happen to give birth to another human being and it should not be like a man must be with a woman and vise versa because of that. The time has changed. I understand what you are going trough. And let me tell you, they say what they say because they do not know they have a daughter that needs their support right now. Say what you need to say. Your parents will eventually accept you just the way you are because you are their child. That tiny human being that they created, that they hold on their arms when you first came to this world to be a normal human being, and that is just who you are and there is no shame in that. Sorry if I took too long to say what I wanted to say. I just do not have no one to tell me that and I wanted to tell that to someone. Take care. Be strong. BE YOU! :)
+Cinara Estevão oh my god... thank you man... this is really inspiring. thank you for replying. i thought no one would see this, hence me writing my feelings out here. but you did and it shed some light on my situation. so thank you. really, thank you very much. :)
Yes, This video has been out for a while, so I'm a little late to the party. I often feel have I really come out. I've told quite a few people at work, but it doesn't seem to have spread. On my facebook page, I had a beloved extroverted female friend share two of my sexuality revealing posts to her 400 plus friends of whom the vast majority worked at my company. Up to this time, I hadn't thought about this possibility with my posts. Enough, people already knew, buy they really knew now. lol! But, yet people still don't know. Or I see no reaction today, because people just don't really care about it anymore. In any case, for the individual coming out will always be a personal event.
This is a really encourage four people , how is to no be scare on the world . will need that little push , it made me cry , :,) . congratulation to be part off this pride , to be happy what you are . and don't care , I give you a big imager to you I am as well .
I feel like coming out stories are also about how you know your gay. At least that's how I tell my coming out story. Could you and Cammie do another video about the process you each went thru to realize you're gay? Thanks!
I don´t know why, but this video kind of makes me sad. I had my coming out about nine month ago and I get the mood you are in... even though I never thought it would be a big deal and everyone of my family and friends took it good... No one should feel bad about love... But its sad, that there are still people out there who don´t understand that love between two women or between two men is equal to the love between man and woman... But thank you very, very much for videos like this. It will help a lot to change peoples minds. Love and merry christmas from germany.
That last bit about people surprising you made me tear up in joy. I learned these past few months how it is actually true, and it don't apply just to coming out. Paranoia can be a bitch, making you hold back for so long on things you feel you need to say because you're scared of how the other person will react. For better or worse, we don't control other people's emotions or thoughts. And trust me, it's oh so great when get to find out that your crippling fear was totally unjustified.
Oh girl I gotta say I cried a little bit with this video. You are amazing. I've been following you since a lot of time, and I owe you a lot. I used to be a self harmer, and I did a lot of things on my wrists and on my body just because I couldn't admit I was gay. And since I'm watching your videos, I feel a lot better. Your words make me feel like I'm not alone, and like it's okay to be me. I haven't come out to my father yet, and my mother will never know because she died, but I'm sure I'll tell all my family soon. Thanks for all the motivation, the inspiration, and the hope you gave me. You are the most amazing youtuber ever. Thank you! Btw, I'm really really proud of you!!!! Xoxox
Read through most comments and I love how positive and supportive ppl are. Wonderful. Your video is honest and you calmly talk eloquently which is great. Preaching in any way I think is difficult to stomach but great vid and as many have noted-you seem beautiful inside and out.
I have a long coming out story as well so i can see how it would stress you out. I still haven't come out to my whole family. (I don't have a big family.)
I know how you feel about the whole south thing! People arent as used to it && they're not as open. I'm proud that you came out, even if it took 4 years. It takes courage. I came out this year, and it was the hardest year of my life.
Shannon, I stumbled across this video when it first came out and at the time, I didn't understand why it was so powerful for me. I have spent the last two years searching for answers in secret and struggling with my identity. Last week I finally started writing down my feelings and then slowly expressing them to my friends. I am still questioning my sexual orientation, but thanks to you and your videos, I have finally started to except myself. Thank you endlessly. You have truly changed lives.
I doubt you will read this but thank you I have been struggling with this and watching this and your updated video inspired me to come out thank you ❤️❤️
Idk how do u do,but it's the first time that I don't hate this type of videos. I swear u're the only "gay" I can see with good eyes. U look so cute and friendly 😊
Hi idk if youll see this or not but i just want you to know that your story has completely changed my life. you have really helped me a lot in the whole coming out process and with your guidance, i just told my best friend(who was absolutely amazing about it) i am terrified to tell my parents and my sister but i think i may use your letter idea. your letter was perfect and i think it could work. anyway i just wanted to let you know that you are an amazing person and you have truly made a difference in my life. thank you so much for all that you do. btw my name is shannon too!
Thank you so much for sharing your coming out story. I have been worried about the fact that there are so many people in my life that I need to tell, but you have shown me that it doesn't matter how long it takes, because you can get there in the end. I've also learnt that, as you say, people will be a lot more open-minded than you think they will be, if they truly are your friends. So thank you so much for the calming video :)
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If I have a kid and they date someone of the same sex I want them to walk into the house with them and say "mom this is my boyfriend/girlfriend" I feel there's no need for them to "come out" because there's nothing to come out
Omg Same
YES YEA YES
Exactly !!!
Love this❤️
@Kassi and a few others on this thread. Just coming out to immediate family isn't enough. Without coming out to the rest of the world there can't be a gay rights movement militating for changes in society of how gay people are treated in every way imagnable. Coming out is the most significant action a gay person can take to ensure that society evolves in its attitudes toward them. Otherwise they'll remain criminilized as well as face other condoned forms of harsh treatment which is thoroughly undeserved,..
Shannon, you were one of the first people I followed on tumblr when I first signed up a few years ago. You helped me to come out and I felt the need to personally thank you. I truly admire you and I couldn't be more happy for you and Cammie. You two are great human beings. Thank you for being amazing and keep up with the great work on your youtube channel and Ripple Effect.
I watched your newer coming out video and it brought me here. I absolutely love how far you've come. I also watched your "a letter to you" and I actually cried. I'm so SO glad you posted that because it's exactly what I needed to hear. I love you Shannon, keep being awesome!
Thank you for these videos! I guess some of them are really helpful. I found you're channel and needed to watch you're vids because I'm actually struggeling with myself about who I am and who I love and all these things... that's why I really appreciate the fact that you upload these vids. I guess it cost yourself a lot of courage to share you're story with the whole world and now you have so many fans that must be really crazy. So you deserve all my respect ;) lot of love and greetings from germany (:
this video makes me so happy. i recently discovered your channel and i've watched just about every video of yours and your relationship is just so.. i don't even know how to describe it, it seems perfect. obviously it's probably not all good times, but seeing you two so happy together gives me hope that i will find a guy who loves me as much as you love each other. this was weird but i just felt like writing this to you, and i hope you read it. thank you for bringing joy to my darker days!
the way you articulate, and seem so down to earth and lovely
sexuality is interesting and then again why is it even a thing? we love who we love. my sexuality is pretty fluid. i find myself more intrigued with girls, then again i can like both boys and girls equally. probably because i never really had a girlfriend; i've always dated/hooked up with boys
Wow I was out n proud in Texas in the late 80s. Used to go to great bars in Dallas & Ft. Worth all the time. Never had an issue. Maybe we were just lucky who knows lol
How can you be so beautiful, well-spoken, cute and thoughtful? I would actually fall in love with you if I knew you personally.
thanks!!
Love All You're Vids😘😍❤️Shannon❤️❤️Cammie
Big high five!!!!!!!!! That's awesome!!!!!!
I don't know if im gay, lesbian,or what ever people call it but I fancy this girl at my school but I don't know we bought take boxing and I like her a lot its almost valentines day
You're so beautiful my little Shannon!
I spot a wild Debbie in the comments.
Best mom ever tho
She is so beautiful, inside and out❤️
She is so lucky to have you I wish my mom will have the same reaction as yours :(💕💕
Debbie Beveridge iii
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I saw this thing on tumblr
this biology teacher asked a girl "whats the best thing you like about boys" and shes just like
"theyre girlfriends" I just thought I should share that cause I shat my pants when I saw it. It's not mine just sayin
+Mi'kmaqGoalie29 One question though. Why would a biology teacher ask that because that teacher is absolute SHIT to ask that
yea it is, dunno if it was true or not.
I had to translate "I love boys" into French and I just translated it to: "J'aime les filles" which means "I love girls". That's how I came out in school.
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it probably was not true lol r/thathappened - but that's a rad response if anyone ever asks that
Who's here from her newest Coming Out video?
me
me
katy marie horton me
I've followed you for quite sometime and I witnessed your struggles in homework and how busy you've been with school and I just wanted to congratulate you for finally graduating. Also, thank you for being such a positive influence and being so brave with sharing something so personal and emotional yet so beautiful.
thank you so much!
***** You guys are so beautiful both on the outside and even more in your hearts.
I'm a bisexual woman and I love it I'm with a man but it doesn't make me more or less bisexual
I've doubted my sexuality for a long time now. I find both genders appealing but I don't know about the whole sex thing. The idea just kind of weirds me out, don't watch porn or anything. I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend so I don't have anything to compare to. This whole doubting just consumes my life and my mind.
Hi purplezebra95100 have you ever considered talking to a psychologist about it so they can help you work your head around it all and come to a conclusion ? !!
I have. She told me it's a normal thought to have. That it's normal to experiment. I'm the only one that can answer that question though.
Thanks purplezebra95100 . sorry the psychologist didn't work out and she handled it wrong and didn't help you--sounds like she just fobbed you off sadly. I hope she didn't make you more confused. When I told my psychologist I am a lesbian he asked me certain questions to make sure and asked how I felt about it etc etc. There are also psychologists who are also sex therapists who should be able to hemp more than the psychologist did !!! Go with your gut instinct and follow your heart !!!
I feel the exact same way. I've always doubted but don't really know as I've never been in a relationship with anyone before. I'm constantly questioning myself every second of my life. I totally relate to what you're saying.
I've thought about the fact that I might be asexual.
It's okay, my story is 6 years long... and still going.
SunnyAegyoify3 hey you again! hahah mine has been (vaguely) 3 years .... but we'll get there :)
meliynts hey hahaha Yeah all the best! :)
You should try easy coming out its a french website to help you it really helped me and my family to "understand"
hey. I watched ur video quite often. so I do know u. I mean just ur name. whatever. I just wanna say thx for the videos that u made.
+SunnyAegyoify3 omfg sone I hope your story goes well! All the best wishes to you
Why do gay people have to come out? why can't people understand that is normal?
and people should stop stressing too much about it!
I am straight my self, but I am pro-gay, and I am waiting on the day that gay people dont have to come out!
be yourself, and fuck what anyone would say!
in an ideal world, nobody would have to come out. the thing is, our society is heteronormative that unless stated otherwise, it is assumed that people are straight. I wish I didn't have to come out without people assuming I'm straight, but unfortunately that's not the case.
Lets hope the future would be otherwise
yeah I really hope so :)
Maybe straight people should come out, not leave it for us gays to have to do it cause it sucks when people especially family don't understand or accept who you are
+Natalie Because of the stress and disappointment that comes with people always assuming that you are straight. Tak shannon for example;. If she didn't come out to people, they would be asking her why don't you have a boyfriend yet? All your friends have boyfriends! Don't you wanna experience dating and love? Do you want me to set up up? because I sure as hell can
Gay people seem to need to get away from THAT
you're literally my favorite person on the internet. every time i feel weird/ashamed/scared of being bisexual i come here and your videos make me feel better about myself, so thank you.
^^same
Same
my dads a pastor.......so I'm pretty sure unless I want to get banished from my home, imma save it for years to come.
My dad is not a pastor but he is really religious and I'm scared as hell to tell my parents about me and I have been keeping this secret for at least 6 years and I don't think that I have the guts to tell them.
If he is a good pastor he will know that loving your family is more important.
Maimmie Mah my dad is a pastor too.I told my parents and my best friends last year, they all said I needed help from God.. now, one year later, I still feel the same and I don't know how to deal with it..
Maimmie Mah my dad is a pastor too.. i feel ya, but i came out to my parents at the beginning of this year and they havent treated me badly at all.. they know i cant control it and they are trying to understand it within their religion and its hard.. but i really didnt want to have to never see my family again.. and im not saying tell your parents now, but you have to give it a shot at some point.. i never in a million years thought my parents would have the reaction that they had, but they did and it was amazing
Maimmie Mah have you came out to him ?
*looks off into empty space* "i think... i think my dad fell in love with my girlfriend..."
I'm bi curious, and the only people I have told are my really close friends, they are so supportive but there's one thing wrong, my family, my family is super religious, I mean I'm a Christian( yes, you can be gay, bi, Etc. and be religious) but I'm not very religious, anyways my stepdad hates gays( even tho his daughter is a lesbian) and if he knew I'm so scared of his reaction, I feel like my mom would be more accepting but I'm still scared, I literally have no one to talk to but my friends, I have had these fellings for a couple of years, I don't know if I'm bi or not but I'm just confused Rn, it's a 50/50 chance, I favor boys but I think girls are attractive Also, I'm scared and don't know what to do, my family would make a whole bug deal and wouldn't understand, I'm even considering talking to my stepsister who is a lesbian
I thought I was the only one in this situation. So glad to read this
I get you so much
ME TOO
Oh man I really needed this. I'm actually crying watching this. I hope one day I get to the point where I'm comfortable being who I am and not worried about what people will think of me.
:)
I've watched so many coming out videos.. but this one is the first one that made me cry.. THANK YOU SHANNON.. I definetely feel stronger now..
You look a lot like Missy Peregrym my god
Omg I was thinking the same thing and wanted to see if someone said it first lol
she's a better version of Missy!!!
heey can you share with us (tumblr or wherever) your father's letter? it would be very helpfull and usefull for meee!!!!!
you can find it and more info on me coming out at now-this-is-living.tumblr.com/comingout
+nowthisisliving thx
"Being me is way better than some knock-off version of them..." couldn't be more true & the sooner we all find our way to sitting peacefully in our own beautifully unique skins (no one inflicts greater wounds on us than ourselves), the sooner we can get down to really living...;)
I am also a lesbian who is in a sorority. It is actually really hard for me at times in the coming out process. I am not out to my family at this point and I came out to a few girls in my sorority thinking that they would keep my "secret" at this point I'm pretty sure it spread like wildfire behind my back and I know some people really don't like that there is another lesbian in our sorority (there's another girl who has been out forever) but more than anything it's been more of a "we know you're gay but we don't want to talk about it" thing. It makes it really hard for me to be my true self. I want to talk about my girlfriend and bring her to events all the time but I am so concerned with offending other people. It's just one of my things. I always want to please everyone and I need to learn that being myself is more important than potentially offending someone else
hi Shannon! You and Cammie are perfect for each other. I'm happy for the both you. you're so lucky coz you're surrounded by very supportive people. especially You're Mom, i like her. i'm gay, or a bisexual but i like girls more than i like boys.maybe 75% gay, 25% bisexual..all i know is i'm not straight. i'm only out to the person who i fell in love with, my best friend. Coming out is not an option for my situation. i have 3 siblings and i think they're all gay too. this is really a pain to my ass. i'm in a fuckin difficult situation. I love my parents, i always want them to be happy. But it seems like we're a big disappointment to them. it is always in my thoughts that 'i can marry any guy and pretend to be happy and raise kids' i'll do it just for them. I have no one to tell all about these, the only person who know the real me, doesn't exist anymore. after i told her what i really feel, everything has changed. Being left alone in this situation really SUCKS!(and i'm crying right now) BUT I'M OKAY' I'LL BE OKAY! Seeing You and Cammie and other happy lesbian/gay couples make me feel better.THANK YOU for that! Maybe all do better in my next life..LOL
PS.
Pls do more videos with Cammie.. :)
Hey Amy.
I am so happy that people like us are being accepted. Well I am a lesbian too and i am starting doing videos but my life is so different than yours... My family is homophobic as fuck and they are totally against me being gay. YOU ARE SO FUCKING LUCKY TO BE ACCEPTED. And im so happy for you... Just hope everything gets better for me like it is for you and if not well ill continue being happy because thats the message we want to spread all over the world xxxxxxxxx
I like you :)) ^^^^
thanks!!
You go glen coco
i came here from the new video
I would really love it if you made a video about how you knew you were gay and at which point you started realizing it in your life and all these stuff,i guess it would be really helpful.Love you so much Shannon! Xx
Kudos to you both for coming out and sharing it with others who feel they can't. It is truly a burden to bear, I should know. I'm 44 this year and I didn't come out until I was 39! My generation and the ones preceding mine were stuck on the idea that it was a choice for me! UGH! It took close to 2 years before anyone was accepting of my sexuality, but life couldn't be sweeter since now I can be myself and the fact that my family and friends have accepted me for who I truly am. Keep posting girls, and live life like there's no tomorrow! You deserve the best that life has to offer! YOU ROCK! :)
Your coming out story was so inspiring but when came out was so different my dad doesn't accept me to this day so we l
no reltionship but. Mum and others in family do. Friends do too i had negitive reactions
now i am like i don't care at place where i am happy with who i am
Idk if I'm just an emotional wreck right now. But I freakin cried watching this. I think that because.. This story is SO much like mine. I broke. Because I still haven't been able to grip on how to tell people.... I dont know. But damn dude thanks. It kinda opened my eyes fr
You're an absolute legend and its so clear, even just through all of your short videos, that you have a beautiful soul with pure intentions. youve brought me great comfort, but evidently greater comfort to people who are not as lucky as i've been with my coming out experience. Ive been out now for two years but i still come back to this video to remind me that it HAS taken strength even though my situation is far more blessed than most. all my love from australia. i hope you read this and know that what you're doing is changing so many lives, and it IS having an enormous ripple effect, not just on viewers. for every comfortable, strong person in the world there's one more hand to pull someone else up. i've been able to do that now because you've lead by stellar example. Some goes to the beautiful Cammie.
+vivvn diirt That was a sweet comment. She does this because she's been there and understands how this feels for others.
simply put... you are a beautiful person who brought tears to my eyes! wishing you the best of luck with what the future and life has in store for you.
I can relate to this, I'm a member of sorority too. it's really hard and idk when I'm gonna tell them 😫😱
You're dad's initial reaction (the phase thing) is the same reaction i got from my brother and a lesbian friend when I told them I was bisexual...
Edit : well rather, my lesbian friend said "Are you a real bisexual (as in 50/50) ? I used to think I was bisexual too. Are you attracted in the same way to boys and girls ?"
And it frustrated me so much because I was nervous to tell her in the first place...
Who is watching this in 2017 ?
I like listening to you, I'm happy that you have time for youtube :)
So I'm pansexual.
I think my mom already suspects I'm a lesbian, as she's asked many times before, but I always deny it... because I'm not...
I think my parents, my sister, and my friends will all be really supportive & honestly not really think its a big deal, however not many people know what pansexual is. I'm terrified to sit down and tell people I'm pansexual, not because of how they'll act, but because I know the follow up will be "What's that?"
On top of that... I've never been in a relationship. So I'm thinking that some people may even throw the "it's a phase" thing in my face, but I'm positive it's not. I also know of people who don't think being pansexual is real.
I've known I'm pansexual since I was 17, but I haven't told anyone... I'm 19 now.
It makes me so incredibly happy seeing people becoming more honest with not only other people but themselves too. it's amazing to see how much a like we truly are regardless, of how different we are. This was beautiful. Truly beautiful.
I'm a junior in high school. I have known that I am gay for about 2 years now and have only managed to tell two people who I really care about. It's really hard coming out and I'm so glad I found this video and so thankful to you for sharing this because it gave me hope. What you said at the end put me in tears and I want to thank you because everything you said hit me and I feel more content with the fact that this is who I am... Thank you
I always think that, some people push you away because they want to see if you'll insist to stay. But on the second thought... Sometimes, people push you away because they really want you away. Oh well, my point here is, it's okay to stick with someone you love. Especially when you know that he/she is kind of Philophobic (A person who's afraid of falling in love). It's okay to prove yourself and how genuine your love is. But once you had enough and stayed long enough... Let him/her go. You deserve to be happy. Yes, he/she may be scared to fall in love but hey, it's hard on your part too - to force yourself in him/her because you want that person to see that you're not like his/her past. Once again, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. It may not be with that person but surely, with the "right person" :)
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Where did you get the Nirvana shirt??? :)
Yeah i wanna know it 2
Brandy Melville.
Who watching this in 2019....🙋♀️🙋♀️✌
i finally came out to my foster family it didnt go as well as i wanted to go but i did it so thanks your the reason why i came out
Hi, Shannon! Thank you for sharing your story. I got very emotional seeing this video because I can relate with some of the facts you have been through. It came to a situation that all of my family knows, but no one is willing to talk about it. It's like i don't have a girlfriend or a sex life. Not easy, but i never stopped my life beacause of that. Maybe they will never accept me, but like you said, people can surprise you. Thank you again for the video. I hope i can help someone like you helped me. I feel better! Lots of good vibes for you and Cammie. xo
I know this is an old video and you probably won't see this comment but thank you for making this and thank you for helping in ways you won't believe you're just very incredible! love you so much!❤
It's so weird for me to see this video, because 3 weeks ago I finally told someone I'm gay. I saw your videos 4 years ago, when I was 12, and at the time I was so confused about who I am. But I've seen you, and countless other people, grow and change and learn to accept themselves, and it's taught me how to do the same. Now I'm 16, and I'm okay with my sexuality. I'm okay with it, and I've never been able to say that before. So, thank you for sharing your life online, and giving hope and strength to so many people around the world.
Great message, glad brave young people like you are around to help the struggling youth and even older people like myself who still struggle. :)
Thank you for doing this stuff ! you're great and watching this makes me look forward to the future more, because I am going to college in september and i'm really scared, especially because I'm still not ok with me being gay and things like that... So listening to your story gives me hope, thank you !
I've watched so many coming out video, and most of them are people coming out at like 19 years old and up. I'm 16 and I'm a lesbian or at least i think i am, I know for sure that i am interested in girl i just don't know if i am interested in guys. I've came out to couple of my friends already, for me it's not a big deal because I feel like girls dating girls or guy dating guys is the same as a guy dating a girl as long as they each love each other, some of my friends make it a big deal and ask lots of question. I want to come out to my parents and hopefully the rest of my family, I just don't know how to bring it up. But the idea of writing a letter sounds like something that would work for me.
For me personally? I just started watching your channel and just subscribed like.. TODAY. I am a closeted Pansexual.. And you definitely gave me the courage to come out to a couple of people today.. Thank you!
I'm bisexual and I was going through struggles for 5 years at some points there were people who bullied me just because of who I am and I have always kept that sad part of my life in my heart but after watching this video you've made me realize that a lot more people have accepted me for who I am and are still my best friends so now I'm letting go of all the small but bad experiences, thank you so much for helping me realize that it's about time I live my life and be completely happy and out with who I am I love you so much and I'm so happy that you and Cam found eachother because you guys are so happy together:: Wish You The Best 🙌💞❤️😘😃😋
Thank you for being so. cool. and so. chill. The LGBT community is stronger because of you. Thank you for your relentless honesty.
Thankyou!! You did help one person, you helped me! Thank you, xxxxx
you look a little like missy peregrym
you're helping me more than you think you do. I'm still on the process of coming out and I found your video through tumblr, and everything has been clear. I hope I can found courage soon. thank you. I love you shannon.
Tbh, I cried at the end. I hope that one day I'll be able to be comfortable with coming out
I know so many people who first came out to someone named Sarah. Why do we all have a supportive Sarah? All gays deserve a Sarah
You give me so much hope for the future. I'm out but struggling with accepting where my life is going and who I'm going to be and who I'll be sharing my life with. You and Cammie show me that love is worth waiting for and that someday I will find someone who will love me the way I deserve to be loved. Thank you.
I want to say that it takes courage to do what you have done. I hope that you have a very successful life. I don't think that you should ever be embarrassed about being who you are. I am a cancer survivor and i am 19 almost 20 years old. I have gone through bullying and many other things. I am the first in my family to go through college. I have a lot of pressure that I put on myself. I think that you are amazing and that you will have a good life
"we fuckin did it" ily
I just realized that this wasn't so long ago.. Which is kinda crazy because I have seen a lot of coming out-videos lately and they were all done by people who have been out and proud for a while and are just talking about stuff that happend years ago...
it made me feel real good to see that there are people (approximately my age) who had to struggle and only just now come out fully -- I have no idea why that is so comforting... but it really is.. thank you a lot for sharing!
What is this amazing background music???
+nowthisisliving
Muchas gracias por todo!
Y gracias por ese hermoso consejo!
Bendiciones!
You kind of look like Missy Peregrym
Not going to lie seeing this and reading your letter made me cry. You're very lucky to have such supporting people.
this makes me so happy
I'm a girl here and i have a quick question. but what if its my parents that won't accept me? i mean we had a chat about this topic before, and my mother clearly stated that she would not be happy if me or my sister were to be bi, or gay, or anything like that. and after that, she followed it up with saying that if we really were gay or bi or anything else, she wouldn't accept it, like she would not support us at all and all that.... and also, I'm not very sure of my label, i just know that I'm not straight and that honestly, really scares me. because what if my parents found out? what is going to happen to me then?
+imadragonrawr Hey there. Sorry if my english is not so good. I am a girl, 17 years old. At age 12 I started to feel something for my teachers and for my girlfriends and then dreams came. It felt so good. I started to watch series with gay characters and I was like woah... At age 14 I knew I was bisexual. I am not a label kind of girl tho. My family is religious. Me, I believe in science. So I have not come out to my family yet. Religion and sexuality problems are like big stuff for old people. Sometimes at dinner time the topic comes out and my stepmother does not say much about it. My sister is like: yeah whatever, I love Justin Bieber! But my dad is like: yeah I do not know... I hope you two do not go that way and stuff like that. So I am scared too. The thing is, no one should have to come out to anybody! We are all human beings. We are black, white, yellow, purple, green. We love no one, girls, boys, both, everyone. We have different religions. We believe in different things. Who are we to say that WHITE AND STRAIGHT people are the ones? There is no such thing as straight people are the ones that created life so why are we even afraid to be whoever we want to be? STRAIGHT PEOPLE DO NOT COME OUT SO WHY SHOULD WE?? A man and a woman just happen to give birth to another human being and it should not be like a man must be with a woman and vise versa because of that. The time has changed. I understand what you are going trough. And let me tell you, they say what they say because they do not know they have a daughter that needs their support right now. Say what you need to say. Your parents will eventually accept you just the way you are because you are their child. That tiny human being that they created, that they hold on their arms when you first came to this world to be a normal human being, and that is just who you are and there is no shame in that. Sorry if I took too long to say what I wanted to say. I just do not have no one to tell me that and I wanted to tell that to someone. Take care. Be strong. BE YOU! :)
+Cinara Estevão oh my god... thank you man... this is really inspiring. thank you for replying. i thought no one would see this, hence me writing my feelings out here. but you did and it shed some light on my situation. so thank you. really, thank you very much. :)
+imadragonrawr Happy to know that I helped you! You're the first person that I say something like that :)
thank god you did :)
Thank you!!! Your history help me to accept myself!!!
Sorry, my english isn't good, i'm Brazilian
Yes, This video has been out for a while, so I'm a little late to the party. I often feel have I really come out. I've told quite a few people at work, but it doesn't seem to have spread. On my facebook page, I had a beloved extroverted female friend share two of my sexuality revealing posts to her 400 plus friends of whom the vast majority worked at my company. Up to this time, I hadn't thought about this possibility with my posts. Enough, people already knew, buy they really knew now. lol! But, yet people still don't know. Or I see no reaction today, because people just don't really care about it anymore. In any case, for the individual coming out will always be a personal event.
I wish such pretty lesbians existed in my country.
This is a really encourage four people , how is to no be scare on the world . will need that little push , it made me cry , :,) . congratulation to be part off this pride , to be happy what you are . and don't care , I give you a big imager to you I am as well .
I feel like coming out stories are also about how you know your gay. At least that's how I tell my coming out story. Could you and Cammie do another video about the process you each went thru to realize you're gay? Thanks!
I don´t know why, but this video kind of makes me sad. I had my coming out about nine month ago and I get the mood you are in... even though I never thought it would be a big deal and everyone of my family and friends took it good... No one should feel bad about love... But its sad, that there are still people out there who don´t understand that love between two women or between two men is equal to the love between man and woman... But thank you very, very much for videos like this. It will help a lot to change peoples minds. Love and merry christmas from germany.
there s a weird back sound but whatever thank you for your video and keep going !
Kisses from Paris, France :+)
That last bit about people surprising you made me tear up in joy. I learned these past few months how it is actually true, and it don't apply just to coming out. Paranoia can be a bitch, making you hold back for so long on things you feel you need to say because you're scared of how the other person will react. For better or worse, we don't control other people's emotions or thoughts. And trust me, it's oh so great when get to find out that your crippling fear was totally unjustified.
Beautiful girl with such an important message. May your spirit shine and always be nourished
Christian Texan Korean-American lesbian here :D
Watching this bc of sc😂
Oh girl I gotta say I cried a little bit with this video. You are amazing. I've been following you since a lot of time, and I owe you a lot. I used to be a self harmer, and I did a lot of things on my wrists and on my body just because I couldn't admit I was gay. And since I'm watching your videos, I feel a lot better. Your words make me feel like I'm not alone, and like it's okay to be me. I haven't come out to my father yet, and my mother will never know because she died, but I'm sure I'll tell all my family soon. Thanks for all the motivation, the inspiration, and the hope you gave me. You are the most amazing youtuber ever. Thank you!
Btw, I'm really really proud of you!!!! Xoxox
Read through most comments and I love how positive and supportive ppl are. Wonderful. Your video is honest and you calmly talk eloquently which is great. Preaching in any way I think is difficult to stomach but great vid and as many have noted-you seem beautiful inside and out.
I have a long coming out story as well so i can see how it would stress you out. I still haven't come out to my whole family. (I don't have a big family.)
"We fucking did it". I love you, Shan! Thank YOU
I know how you feel about the whole south thing! People arent as used to it && they're not as open. I'm proud that you came out, even if it took 4 years. It takes courage. I came out this year, and it was the hardest year of my life.
I love your video, thank you so much for sharing! You're awesome, smart and gorgeous. This channel has helped me so much!!
Shannon,
I stumbled across this video when it first came out and at the time, I didn't understand why it was so powerful for me. I have spent the last two years searching for answers in secret and struggling with my identity. Last week I finally started writing down my feelings and then slowly expressing them to my friends. I am still questioning my sexual orientation, but thanks to you and your videos, I have finally started to except myself. Thank you endlessly. You have truly changed lives.
I doubt you will read this but thank you I have been struggling with this and watching this and your updated video inspired me to come out thank you ❤️❤️
Idk how do u do,but it's the first time that I don't hate this type of videos. I swear u're the only "gay" I can see with good eyes. U look so cute and friendly 😊
amazing video really helpful and inspiring for me still being in the closet. And just wanted to point out you posted this video on my birthday :) lol.
Hi idk if youll see this or not but i just want you to know that your story has completely changed my life. you have really helped me a lot in the whole coming out process and with your guidance, i just told my best friend(who was absolutely amazing about it) i am terrified to tell my parents and my sister but i think i may use your letter idea. your letter was perfect and i think it could work. anyway i just wanted to let you know that you are an amazing person and you have truly made a difference in my life. thank you so much for all that you do. btw my name is shannon too!
Inspiring video! Can you do a video on coming to terms with your sexuality and that part of your "coming out" journey?
I am here from the future 2020...here you resemble with Kristen Stewart...🥰
Thank you so much for sharing your coming out story. I have been worried about the fact that there are so many people in my life that I need to tell, but you have shown me that it doesn't matter how long it takes, because you can get there in the end. I've also learnt that, as you say, people will be a lot more open-minded than you think they will be, if they truly are your friends. So thank you so much for the calming video :)