The first family, so glad that they got it together. The eldest granddaughter did a great job in expressing so that the youngest can understand. Be the light that you wanted to see. Blessings to them all.
The second grandmother seems like she's fighting with her daughter when she looks at her grandaughter, which is sad because she's still grieving her child because she probably feels she fell short when raising her so she harping on her grandbaby but she's not her mom the grandmother needs therapy and see her grandbaby for herself and not her mom dang that's got to be an overwhelming situation for both of them
Well yk it's not new , all u gotta do is communicate . I grew up the same way.. Yea yea both r in an unfortunate , typically unnecessary situation but it's for life and u need to have unconditional love in bond cuz life is not a game and it could b over but it's not everyone's in the flesh still has time here so they should milk it. Both parties need to have respect, appreciation, and resilience 💫💯
@ no she isn’t… she’s exhausted… who wants to raise two generations alone with no husband? I don’t; I imagine I’d be just as exhausted but I would have putbthry a$$ in the system before I have to argue with my daughter/grandchild while still raising her mother
The second one’s narcissism is beyond meee. The type to make you suicidal. She gon be crying wondering what she did or said to make her granddaughter put her in a home or to take her own life😭
The first grandmother does not belong on this “gaslighting grandmas” compilation. She was doing her best. She didn’t get loud or anything. It seems like the grandmother has been dealt a tough hand with raising 7 grand babies and it sounds like she has two disabled children as well.
@@jael44598 Exactly because she is acting like she was Mother of the Year for her own child. Talking crazy to the Dad that has BEEN THERE!!!! Smh it's giving that she is still using or not in recovery because she hasn't tried to mend the relationship that SHE as the mother ruined!!!!
The mother showing off for the cameras. She couldn’t take care of the daughter but judging her dad living situation n how she had to get the grandson. Well mom you went got married n didn’t have to be a fkn parent so your finances n all the things you wanted to do, were fkn accomplished. Dad was struggling and you didn’t give a damn bt you taking care of the grandson is the only accomplishment you could actually feel you’re doing right now. She needs to be a bit more appreciative of the father too though.
Right it doesn't but her exspecting her mom to raise her child is wrong too!! I don't want to hear anything about.I was 19 I was 20 with 2 babies and a horrible childhood raised by a dad who Absolutely had no idea what he was doing. He's still doesn't and my kids are grown.
Yes that mother needs a reality check. Her daughter told them that she wasn’t ready to be a parent so of course she’s not a good parent. Mother you DID NOT even raise her so how the hell she supposed to know how to be a mother when she never had one herself! She’s still a motherless little girl who needs a mother herself. Smdh and to judge the father for not having water on and roaches she outta sit her asx down at least he didn’t abandon her you B****! She owes him an apology and much more respect than that. That girl needs parenting classes and therapy. Her mom really acting like she suffering cuz she taking care of her grandson lol she’s upset cuz she has to be the mom fr this time again bcuz her daughter is unfortunately a horrible mother and she can’t use drugs as an excuse. Step up Grandma help your daughter and help your grandson you’re more than capable. And don’t disrespect her dad that’s y’all support group help each other! But push your daughter to grow up bcuz he’s still her child.
The first story… She’s goooooooorgeous, but that old school love is tough. I know she wants the best for her because she wasn’t obligated to take her in. They are generations apart and they don’t understand each other, I just hope this relationship can be salvaged, because I see the love.
I cannot stand the grandma in the second segment. Every time Karamo does a video with her in it I get irritated by that woman’s words, attitude and behavior towards that child. That first one however was just emotional and tugged at my heart. I hope they’re all doing well today
I hate that lady and I don’t even know her. It seems like she resents her late daughter’s behavior and having to raise her kids, and is taking it out on this young lady. My heart breaks for her. I hope she puts her grandmother in a home as soon as she can.
First one grandma is strict but she has a lot of love for her grandbabies.my grandma was just like her.she presses you because she want the best for you.but as strict as she is,she has as much in love for you guys.just know that.love her as long as you have her .I lost mine when i was 16 it was like losing my Mother, because my mom was sick,now I dont have any family left ,and I am alone,I wish she was still her and my mom .hold on
4th family: I feel like parents don’t advise their daughters well when they say don’t have an abortion. I understand taking responsibility for your actions however, why are you going to set your kid up to struggle? You mad now because you’re raising your grandchild & your kid is unstable. She TOLD you she wasn’t ready to be a parent. Kids don’t ask to be here & if you can’t take care of them, don’t have them. And I’m saying this as a child of a teen parent who was raised by a grandparent.
These grandmas are just awful. They expect respect without ever feeling the need to reciprocate that respect. Being older, much older does not mean that you don't respect the younger ones. They grew up in totalitarian homes and don't want to learn how to parent any differently. The harder you are, the more they are going to rebel - it's a vicious circle. That doesn't mean no discipline - far from it - but it has to be done through reasonable dialogue, love and respect.
Well let them rebel on the streets it's not the grandma's responsibility to raise these children. They are doing it out of love. I wouldn't have them smart mouthing and refusing to do chores in my home.
Doesn’t seem like the first grandma was a bad grandma , why is she in this line up, that lady is overwhelmed with raising her kids and her grandchildren sound like to me
Evil??? That's really harsh, she's just old school and doesn't know any other way to be, but she does love her granddaughter and is at least willing to try.
@@mizzmention8555 nah that lady is evil, and one of the issues is that bs is being excused because it’s “old school.” That needs to stop. A lot of my “old school” elders were abusive too and that’s how emotional and mental issues get passed down…because that treatment never changes. It’s sad too. I hope that young lady breaks that pattern.
@@mizzmention8555 my mama never called me or my child out of they name. Cause calling someone you love a bitch!! Is crazy and I’m sorry that’s disrespectful and evil!!
Grandparents shouldn't be raising grandchildren, it's very unfortunate when they are put in that position. It's hard for them to find balance, they are set in their ways, they are either too strict or too lenient.
In the 3rd segment, the mom is basically saying she doesn’t wanna be challenged because she’s “mom”. Ma’am no! You don’t get to escape taking responsibility for your addiction just because you don’t wanna “live in the past.” I’m not gonna act like it’s not hard to take accountability for heavy crimes especially against your children but fr fr that’s too bad. People like her never want to actually say what they did and apologize for it, they may say sorry but never actually say why or even acknowledge the wrong and that’s not cool because sometimes you have to explain to people that you understand their feelings and where you went wrong. Not doing so is just plain selfish.
I pray for everyone who's going through a hard time right now, who's crying behind closed doors, faking a smile everyday, or mentally not feeling like themselves .. better days are coming i promise, just pray it through 💕🇧🇸🇧🇸
The first grandchild was wild as hell. I started peeping it, but it was 100% confirmed when she said normal teenagers play with guns bc girl what!? Smh.
1st grandma was just a traditional strict parent. She did her best and what she thought was best. Good job grandma, you brought up sane grandkids admits the challenges of life ❤
When she said that she couldn’t spend time being a teenager because she have to take care of her mom, uncle, and other family members that didn’t care much for her. Have to instantly be an adult because they couldn’t be more adult of themselves I completely feel her pain. This makes me want to start my own campaign for teenager and young adults dealing with toxic relationships with their own relatives.
The apple don't fall far from the tree in each situation. The second to last mom irritated me, she never raised her daughter, abandoned her and scolding the daughter for doing the same. These generational curses are evident.
That last mother I feel her pain not to be able to morn your child then to have to take over and not be understood. I pray they get it together ❤️ and strengthen.
I just reconnected with my 81 year old grandmother for a long time we were estranged due to my father I was encouraged by my boyfriend to reconcile and reconnect with my grandmother and when I finally did I felt so good to finally talk to my grandmother like I said she's 81 and someday she's not going to be here anymore so I wanted to reconnect with her before it was too late she's the only grandmother I have left because I lost my other grandmother when I was 13 to lung cancer
How you mad about somebody else treating your granddaughter the right way as a grandmother role model but I’m glad her grandma atleast got the concept and I see her grandma love for her tho
Wait a minute now.. a g e d is hard work too and you can still go to college with a GED. It don't matter with her granddaughter does she just better get a GED or high school diploma cuz both of them will take you where u need to go
If had to tell my mother what the first grandchild said, I would have been deleted right there. Go out with your friends? Where , with who's money? You go out with your family at that age.
@@princessdon6542 It has to be at appropriate hours. Inform where they are going, with whom, what plans they have. If it's someone's house, will an adult be there?Communication is key, and respect curfew.
Right! You are not ENTITLED to hang out time. Tf? That’s a privilege in response to taking care of home & school obligations AND evidence that you make good decisions & can be trusted. Who tf telling they grandma “I’m not doin all dat” in response to being asked to do the dishes??! Ungrateful.
The last grandmother is hurting. The grandson is afraid, but he didn't seem so hurt. They are both still grieving, but it's been harder on grandmother. She fought the fight to make sure the kids were financially stable, but I still feel there should be something there for her. No exceptions.
I think this caption is wrong I didn’t see not one bad grandmother or bad grandchild I see a two people from two different generations that have a hard time understanding each other I was raised by grandma and we A LOT OF DOWNS but we also had a lot ups and me knowing my grandmother’s history it’s makes me understand her more and me being a parent now I understand her way more because no one taught me and it don’t come with no manual so I have to grow up and teach myself how to grow but I also have to teach this little person how to grow and from the grandparent side their starting over so their overwhelming I get it but I wish I knew what I knew now because I wouldn’t have done half the things I did. Rest peacefully grandma 🕊️
First kid just wanna go be fast and is hella entitled 🤷🏾♀️ Granny said hell nawl, I dropped the ball once with ya mama & that won’t be happening again on MY watch ✊🏾
@@QueenKongCOB but she shouldn't have to take care of her uncle and mother she deserves to be a child she basically had to grow up fast I would wanna go hang out with my friends to if I had to always take care if my mother and uncle im sure she appreciates her grandmother but i feel like that isbt her responsibility
48:29 She left her child she doesnt get to tell a 19 years old who knows she isnt ready to be a mom that she doesn't Yet to make her own decisions as far as keeping the baby or not. At least dad.Was there doing what he needed to do.i was 20 with 2 babies with unstable childhood so NO EXCUSE.BUT I SEE WHERE HER DAUGHTER FEELS LIKE HER " MOTHER" IS USING THIS BABY BOY AND UP ON HER HIGH HORSE!! 50:20 YOU DO OWE HER !! YOU DONT LEAVE YOUR KIDS!! 52:56 She's not ready because she didn't have a mother to teach her.How to be one. 1:10:50 I BELIVE HIM 💯 %
That mother that abandoned her daughter needs a reality check. Her daughter told them that she wasn’t ready to be a parent so of course she’s not a good parent. Mother you DID NOT even raise her so how the hell she supposed to know how to be a mother when she never had one herself! She’s still a motherless little girl who needs a mother herself. Smdh and to judge the father for not having water on and roaches she outta sit down at least he didn’t abandon her. She owes him an apology and much more respect than that. That girl needs parenting classes and therapy. Her mom really acting like she suffering cuz she taking care of her grandson lol she’s upset cuz she has to be the mom fr this time again bcuz her daughter is unfortunately a horrible mother and she can’t use drugs as an excuse to abandon them. Step up Grandma help your daughter and help your grandson you’re more than capable. And don’t disrespect her dad that’s y’all support group help each other! But push your daughter to grow up bcuz he’s still her child.
Second grandmother been dealing with a lot by her children not being able to take care of their children. The cousin said her mom use to have her call her grandmother instead of her mother being a mother to her herself. Clearly granny gets frustrated like hell too. It’s a lot for all of them.
4th family: I feel like parents don’t advise their daughters well when they say don’t have an abortion. I understand taking responsibility for your actions however, why are you going to set your kid up to struggle? You mad now because you’re raising your grandchild & your kid is unstable. She TOLD you she wasn’t ready to be a parent. Kids don’t ask to be here & if you can’t take care of them, don’t have them. And I’m saying this as a child of a teen parent who was raised by my grandma
4:10 Grandma is supposed to be the adult here!! She can help yes shes old enough to help out but, She also deserves to be a teenager while she can, They grow up sooo fast !! Grandma needs to get adult help ,NEVER TELL A CHILD YOU HATE THEM,THAT STICKS WITH THEM FOR LIFE EVEN IF SHE WAS JUST SPEAKING OUT OF ANGER AND FRUSTRATION!! 9:03 KIDS ARENT RESPONSIBLE FOR BEING ADULTS
A sorry granddaughter. She only cares for herself. I have a granddaughter just like her I have nothing to do with her. She is so disrespectful. I had my son to buy her a brand new SUV. If I never see her again I will be happy. She dresses naked tattoos everywhere, Pearson everywhere.
The second grandmother, no one is considering the fact that she had to raise SEVEN of her grandchildren and now she’s the caregiver of TWO of her own grown children. That is A LOT on one person. Grandparents should not have to be constantly responsible for their grown children’s irresponsibility.
I think that the first grandchild is being a bit whiny about doing chores around the house. I’m nearly 26 and I’ve been doing chores around the house since I was around 5/6 years old. From basic, easy stuff like putting things in the dishwasher, sweeping and as I was getting older, I was doing other chores like the washing up, making my bed, doing my laundry, I was doing a lot of chores around the house before I was 10. And taking care of your parents or parent, she would’ve been doing that when her and her mum get older and her grandmother isn’t around anymore. She definitely sounds spoilt by complaining about taking care of her mum and doing chores around the house. I can’t really comment on her taking care of her uncle but all I can say is that he is fanning and you’re supposed to take care of your family. She says that she wants to continue living life as a teenager, (or something along the lines), but she’ll still be doing that 😬 she needs to get a grip
You are 26 yet you don’t innerstand or have the common decency to sympathize that she’s being mentally and verbally abused by her own grandmother who supposed to show her love not hate . If you would have watched the full episode you would know that the granddaughter was doing her chores and making all As in school yet she had to come home to her grandmother calling her out of her name and downing her to make her feel like she’s nothing 😅 seems like you need to get a grip
Exactly my mom didn't play me and my siblings had to do chores everyday and we couldn't watch TV or fo outside on school days. And if we brought grades home below a B we got put on punishment til the grades came up. These new generation kids are too spoiled and outta control
Sounds to me like the first girl in the video and both of you didn’t get time to be unburdened children. Could there be long term consequences for not being able to go through that part of development? With all due respect, not being aware of consequences doesn’t mean they are not there. Speaking up about it with all tools she has as a teenager should not be dismissed, I believe. And at the same time if the parents sees no other way, it makes sense asking her to help out. Saying she complains for not taking on grown up responsibilities willingly is not the same though.
@@Leo-AAgreed 💯 I think it’s important to validate for them that the adult portion isn’t their responsibility but to just explain that this is just THEIR circumstances and that everyone’s lives are different and because of those circumstances, the parent/household needs them to be willing to do a little more for the good of everyone. These children also deserve to have some semblance of a care-free (free of adult responsibilities or too much pressure) childhood like you said. Kids who have to grow up too fast will surely be trying to find their childhood in their adult life. This situation is so unfortunate and I know this grandmother is probably so worn out. Poor thing. I hope people see how the effects of broken homes are forcing these children into positions they don’t deserve to be in. Also for the original comment.. Yall have to understand that everyone isn’t raised to do hard labor and working on farms from the age of 7. (Not saying you did per se.) Of course it sounds “whiny” to someone used to a certain way. For her, it probably does feel like a lot. Not to mention, she’s had a very rough start in life. Abandonment, lack of mental and emotional regulation (especially growing up with older ppl like her grandmother who never knew how to support their children emotionally.) It’s just so many factors to consider, and is exactly why there is no cookie cutter answer that will explain or solve every situation.
@@bananaman8479 girl bye you basically just listed a whole days worth of chores not once mentioning one thing you’d do for fun. No wonder you don’t know what she meant by living life as a teenager.
Why was the 2nd grandmother not called out??!! Just because people in her generation let abuse slide when raising children does not mean it is right and she can keep doing it. It's gross to make fun of the shooting comment.
The trust fund young man case The grand mother was getting a monthly stipend from ghe money. My son had money from his dad. My job was to make sure he keeos as much as possible.
These grandmas are old school. These young kids don't realize the level of respect that is required. They should stop talking back and follow the rules. Disrespect will not be tolerated at any level. It would probably alleviate their issues.❤❤❤
I dropped out of highschool due to bullying and I haven't gotten my GED but I'm good with that I'm doing what I got to do I'd rather struggle than get handouts I'm hustling and doing what I got to do yeah I'm hustling but I'm not selling drugs or nothing so don't anybody get the wrong idea I'm collecting water bottles and aluminum cans and the tops off of the aluminum cans My mother used to pay me for waking her up because she was so hard to get up in the morning and I'd rather work for myself than work for somebody and be somebody's bitch and the only piece of paper that should define me is my birth certificate
The first three grandma's are bad. Their kids died and they never grieved bc they had to then be a mom to the grandkids. It's unfair to call the "bad". Karamo, I'm disappointed in you to allow the network to label these Black women this way. We all know the stigma that comes with African Americans and mental health. These grandmothers need therapy, not a label.
The first family, so glad that they got it together. The eldest granddaughter did a great job in expressing so that the youngest can understand. Be the light that you wanted to see. Blessings to them all.
Agreed, but i wish they acknowledge the abuse though...oldest said she got whoopings, youngest has things being thrown at her...
@@groundzero2088 Woopins? Abuse or a spanking are two different things right ?
@@perfectlyimperfect9129 Not at all…beating you kids is wrong no matter what excuse you want to use.
That second grandmother is INSUFFERABLE. GOOD LORD.
She kinda make me laugh though 🤣🤣 “It ain’t went nowhere!” 17:35 🤣🤣
The second grandmother seems like she's fighting with her daughter when she looks at her grandaughter, which is sad because she's still grieving her child because she probably feels she fell short when raising her so she harping on her grandbaby but she's not her mom the grandmother needs therapy and see her grandbaby for herself and not her mom dang that's got to be an overwhelming situation for both of them
Nah just for the kid
Well yk it's not new , all u gotta do is communicate . I grew up the same way.. Yea yea both r in an unfortunate , typically unnecessary situation but it's for life and u need to have unconditional love in bond cuz life is not a game and it could b over but it's not everyone's in the flesh still has time here so they should milk it. Both parties need to have respect, appreciation, and resilience 💫💯
You can see on Karamo’s face that he genuinely loves people and loves the role he gets to play in people’s life.
Second granny narcissistic. Old school narcissism is the worst!
She walked out there like she was going to hurt someone.
All narcissist ALL HORRIBLE TO DEAL WITH
She’s annoying but not a narcissist…
@@blessingsguidance nahh, she definitely only thinks about herself.
@ no she isn’t… she’s exhausted… who wants to raise two generations alone with no husband? I don’t; I imagine I’d be just as exhausted but I would have putbthry a$$ in the system before I have to argue with my daughter/grandchild while still raising her mother
The second one’s narcissism is beyond meee. The type to make you suicidal. She gon be crying wondering what she did or said to make her granddaughter put her in a home or to take her own life😭
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Not even crying. Just trying to play victim
@@bellarose8630 exactly😭
The first grandmother does not belong on this “gaslighting grandmas” compilation. She was doing her best. She didn’t get loud or anything. It seems like the grandmother has been dealt a tough hand with raising 7 grand babies and it sounds like she has two disabled children as well.
@@NurseKayP I completely agree !
Was thinking the same thing
The 4th mom is so defensive when she was the one to abandoned her daughter. You taking care of her son doesn’t erase the fact that you left her
@@jael44598 Exactly because she is acting like she was Mother of the Year for her own child. Talking crazy to the Dad that has BEEN THERE!!!! Smh it's giving that she is still using or not in recovery because she hasn't tried to mend the relationship that SHE as the mother ruined!!!!
The mother showing off for the cameras. She couldn’t take care of the daughter but judging her dad living situation n how she had to get the grandson. Well mom you went got married n didn’t have to be a fkn parent so your finances n all the things you wanted to do, were fkn accomplished. Dad was struggling and you didn’t give a damn bt you taking care of the grandson is the only accomplishment you could actually feel you’re doing right now. She needs to be a bit more appreciative of the father too though.
Right it doesn't but her exspecting her mom to raise her child is wrong too!! I don't want to hear anything about.I was 19 I was 20 with 2 babies and a horrible childhood raised by a dad who Absolutely had no idea what he was doing. He's still doesn't and my kids are grown.
Ppl are calling the 2nd grandma a narcissist but the 2nd Mother seems cold AF
Yes that mother needs a reality check. Her daughter told them that she wasn’t ready to be a parent so of course she’s not a good parent. Mother you DID NOT even raise her so how the hell she supposed to know how to be a mother when she never had one herself! She’s still a motherless little girl who needs a mother herself. Smdh and to judge the father for not having water on and roaches she outta sit her asx down at least he didn’t abandon her you B****! She owes him an apology and much more respect than that. That girl needs parenting classes and therapy. Her mom really acting like she suffering cuz she taking care of her grandson lol she’s upset cuz she has to be the mom fr this time again bcuz her daughter is unfortunately a horrible mother and she can’t use drugs as an excuse. Step up Grandma help your daughter and help your grandson you’re more than capable. And don’t disrespect her dad that’s y’all support group help each other! But push your daughter to grow up bcuz he’s still her child.
The first story… She’s goooooooorgeous, but that old school love is tough. I know she wants the best for her because she wasn’t obligated to take her in. They are generations apart and they don’t understand each other, I just hope this relationship can be salvaged, because I see the love.
I cannot stand the grandma in the second segment. Every time Karamo does a video with her in it I get irritated by that woman’s words, attitude and behavior towards that child.
That first one however was just emotional and tugged at my heart. I hope they’re all doing well today
I hate that lady and I don’t even know her. It seems like she resents her late daughter’s behavior and having to raise her kids, and is taking it out on this young lady. My heart breaks for her.
I hope she puts her grandmother in a home as soon as she can.
@@SonnyBlowdro They Should have gone to live with their FATHER!!
@@twosweet4742 ok so you track them down and tell them that.
First one grandma is strict but she has a lot of love for her grandbabies.my grandma was just like her.she presses you because she want the best for you.but as strict as she is,she has as much in love for you guys.just know that.love her as long as you have her .I lost mine when i was 16 it was like losing my Mother, because my mom was sick,now I dont have any family left ,and I am alone,I wish she was still her and my mom .hold on
4th family: I feel like parents don’t advise their daughters well when they say don’t have an abortion. I understand taking responsibility for your actions however, why are you going to set your kid up to struggle? You mad now because you’re raising your grandchild & your kid is unstable. She TOLD you she wasn’t ready to be a parent. Kids don’t ask to be here & if you can’t take care of them, don’t have them. And I’m saying this as a child of a teen parent who was raised by a grandparent.
Cherish your grandparents while they’re here because I wish I had my grandparents
These grandmas are just awful. They expect respect without ever feeling the need to reciprocate that respect. Being older, much older does not mean that you don't respect the younger ones. They grew up in totalitarian homes and don't want to learn how to parent any differently. The harder you are, the more they are going to rebel - it's a vicious circle. That doesn't mean no discipline - far from it - but it has to be done through reasonable dialogue, love and respect.
Beggars cant be choosers. You are correct they should not discipline them. They should put them all in the foster care system. Ungrateful brats!
Well let them rebel on the streets it's not the grandma's responsibility to raise these children. They are doing it out of love. I wouldn't have them smart mouthing and refusing to do chores in my home.
The 4th grandma talking alot of mess to have done the same thing to her child.😮
That mother is dealing with herself inside herself, she’s mad at herself for abandoning her own child
This show has taught me how to listen understand ask the right questions and how to communicate with people thank you
The kids in the first video should be lucky to have a grandma like that.
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Doesn’t seem like the first grandma was a bad grandma , why is she in this line up, that lady is overwhelmed with raising her kids and her grandchildren sound like to me
The second grandmother is evil. She isn't loving and draining.
I wouldn't be surprised if the girl becomes estranged.
Evil??? That's really harsh, she's just old school and doesn't know any other way to be, but she does love her granddaughter and is at least willing to try.
@@mizzmention8555 nah that lady is evil, and one of the issues is that bs is being excused because it’s “old school.” That needs to stop. A lot of my “old school” elders were abusive too and that’s how emotional and mental issues get passed down…because that treatment never changes. It’s sad too. I hope that young lady breaks that pattern.
@@SonnyBlowdroI think it’ll change for Zaniah she’s a very smart young lady I hope she goes to college and is a wonderful mother one day 🩷
@@mizzmention8555 my mama never called me or my child out of they name. Cause calling someone you love a bitch!! Is crazy and I’m sorry that’s disrespectful and evil!!
Grandparents shouldn't be raising grandchildren, it's very unfortunate when they are put in that position. It's hard for them to find balance, they are set in their ways, they are either too strict or too lenient.
In the 3rd segment, the mom is basically saying she doesn’t wanna be challenged because she’s “mom”. Ma’am no! You don’t get to escape taking responsibility for your addiction just because you don’t wanna “live in the past.” I’m not gonna act like it’s not hard to take accountability for heavy crimes especially against your children but fr fr that’s too bad. People like her never want to actually say what they did and apologize for it, they may say sorry but never actually say why or even acknowledge the wrong and that’s not cool because sometimes you have to explain to people that you understand their feelings and where you went wrong. Not doing so is just plain selfish.
5:34 “ normal teenagers do that” as a 16-year-old I do not play with guns. Fytb
Exactly!!!! I was like “where?!”
I pray for everyone who's going through a hard time right now, who's crying behind closed doors, faking a smile everyday, or mentally not feeling like themselves .. better days are coming i promise, just pray it through 💕🇧🇸🇧🇸
Gma in red shirt needs more appreciation 😢❤
If my grandma said those things that she said I would never appreciate her I would never give her anything
I felt for all these grandbabies 😞 that first family gonna be alright 🙏
The first grandchild was wild as hell. I started peeping it, but it was 100% confirmed when she said normal teenagers play with guns bc girl what!? Smh.
That red suit is everything on Karamo
9:06 🤦🏽♀️ but it’s harder to get a GED than a diploma
1st grandma was just a traditional strict parent. She did her best and what she thought was best. Good job grandma, you brought up sane grandkids admits the challenges of life ❤
When she said that she couldn’t spend time being a teenager because she have to take care of her mom, uncle, and other family members that didn’t care much for her. Have to instantly be an adult because they couldn’t be more adult of themselves I completely feel her pain. This makes me want to start my own campaign for teenager and young adults dealing with toxic relationships with their own relatives.
The apple don't fall far from the tree in each situation. The second to last mom irritated me, she never raised her daughter, abandoned her and scolding the daughter for doing the same. These generational curses are evident.
Where are the Fathers in these situations?
😂😂 making more fatherless babies....
@@nottodaylilbaldhead you not wrong! Sadly
IN JAIL OR DEADBEAT, IN THE STREETS DONT GIVE A DAMN. WHAT ELSE IS NEW WITH ALL BLACK MEN? Shit Smoking Weed, selling drugs for Hobby
Wish we could ask them
That last mother I feel her pain not to be able to morn your child then to have to take over and not be understood. I pray they get it together ❤️ and strengthen.
I just reconnected with my 81 year old grandmother for a long time we were estranged due to my father I was encouraged by my boyfriend to reconcile and reconnect with my grandmother and when I finally did I felt so good to finally talk to my grandmother like I said she's 81 and someday she's not going to be here anymore so I wanted to reconnect with her before it was too late she's the only grandmother I have left because I lost my other grandmother when I was 13 to lung cancer
Black Women are going through Too Much!! Not nearly enough Black Men are Stepping UP to take care of their children and grandchildren!!!
How you mad about somebody else treating your granddaughter the right way as a grandmother role model but I’m glad her grandma atleast got the concept and I see her grandma love for her tho
Karamo got me crying on this first story!
The last grandma needs to grieve 😢she had me crying
Ummm excuse me ma’am, I have my GED and went on to get my Bachelor’s & Masters so your opinion on having a GED makes you lazy is not valid 🤦🏽♀️
Wait a minute now.. a g e d is hard work too and you can still go to college with a GED. It don't matter with her granddaughter does she just better get a GED or high school diploma cuz both of them will take you where u need to go
If had to tell my mother what the first grandchild said, I would have been deleted right there. Go out with your friends? Where , with who's money? You go out with your family at that age.
Right! Go where? Under who's roof? I feel so much sorry for the grandparents that are placed in the position to raise grandchildren.
@@noreenm5018 and that's ok to you?
that’s kinda weird just because she’s a teenager she can’t hang out with her friends?
@@princessdon6542 It has to be at appropriate hours. Inform where they are going, with whom, what plans they have. If it's someone's house, will an adult be there?Communication is key, and respect curfew.
Right! You are not ENTITLED to hang out time. Tf? That’s a privilege in response to taking care of home & school obligations AND evidence that you make good decisions & can be trusted.
Who tf telling they grandma “I’m not doin all dat” in response to being asked to do the dishes??! Ungrateful.
OK, the grandmother in the blue she’s horrible. She’s horrible. These kids lost a mother so bad that she lost her daughter, but they lost a mother.
The last grandmother is hurting. The grandson is afraid, but he didn't seem so hurt. They are both still grieving, but it's been harder on grandmother. She fought the fight to make sure the kids were financially stable, but I still feel there should be something there for her. No exceptions.
This is why it's important that STRONG BLACK MEN AKA BLACK FATHERS needs to be in the Households with strong Love and Structures
I think this caption is wrong I didn’t see not one bad grandmother or bad grandchild I see a two people from two different generations that have a hard time understanding each other I was raised by grandma and we A LOT OF DOWNS but we also had a lot ups and me knowing my grandmother’s history it’s makes me understand her more and me being a parent now I understand her way more because no one taught me and it don’t come with no manual so I have to grow up and teach myself how to grow but I also have to teach this little person how to grow and from the grandparent side their starting over so their overwhelming I get it but I wish I knew what I knew now because I wouldn’t have done half the things I did. Rest peacefully grandma 🕊️
That 2nd grandmother is horrible
Evil af
First kid just wanna go be fast and is hella entitled 🤷🏾♀️ Granny said hell nawl, I dropped the ball once with ya mama & that won’t be happening again on MY watch ✊🏾
@@QueenKongCOB but she shouldn't have to take care of her uncle and mother she deserves to be a child she basically had to grow up fast I would wanna go hang out with my friends to if I had to always take care if my mother and uncle im sure she appreciates her grandmother but i feel like that isbt her responsibility
The last grandmother showed us well and her grief is very present and she needs to grieve be cared for and have counseling.
2nd grandma is holding on to some bitterness and she sounds like Nell Carter
My grandmother was old school! Old school! She would’ve never called me a bech!
The young lady in the first story needs to be on her own. If her grandmother never stick up for things she would not be successful.
The 2nd grandma gonna push that poor girl far far away from her!
3rd mom: "I've never abandoned my daughter." Except to drugs!
i’m in tears
Good show
Second grandmother "old school is the best way" no the hell its not its why there's generations of abuse and mental and emotional instability
48:29 She left her child she doesnt get to tell a 19 years old who knows she isnt ready to be a mom that she doesn't Yet to make her own decisions as far as keeping the baby or not. At least dad.Was there doing what he needed to do.i was 20 with 2 babies with unstable childhood so NO EXCUSE.BUT I SEE WHERE HER DAUGHTER FEELS LIKE HER " MOTHER" IS USING THIS BABY BOY AND UP ON HER HIGH HORSE!! 50:20 YOU DO OWE HER !! YOU DONT LEAVE YOUR KIDS!! 52:56 She's not ready because she didn't have a mother to teach her.How to be one. 1:10:50 I BELIVE HIM 💯 %
Great job, Grandma!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ It's hard to raise someone's kids after you've raised you own.
That mother that abandoned her daughter needs a reality check. Her daughter told them that she wasn’t ready to be a parent so of course she’s not a good parent. Mother you DID NOT even raise her so how the hell she supposed to know how to be a mother when she never had one herself! She’s still a motherless little girl who needs a mother herself. Smdh and to judge the father for not having water on and roaches she outta sit down at least he didn’t abandon her. She owes him an apology and much more respect than that. That girl needs parenting classes and therapy. Her mom really acting like she suffering cuz she taking care of her grandson lol she’s upset cuz she has to be the mom fr this time again bcuz her daughter is unfortunately a horrible mother and she can’t use drugs as an excuse to abandon them. Step up Grandma help your daughter and help your grandson you’re more than capable. And don’t disrespect her dad that’s y’all support group help each other! But push your daughter to grow up bcuz he’s still her child.
Second grandmother been dealing with a lot by her children not being able to take care of their children. The cousin said her mom use to have her call her grandmother instead of her mother being a mother to her herself. Clearly granny gets frustrated like hell too. It’s a lot for all of them.
😂 the titleee
"Im not finta do all that", regarding washing dishes and cleaning. She wouldn't get a stich of clothes or spending money from me.
A wepon is not a toy
the first girl needs to get her life together shes spoiled rotten
Lord have mercy 😢key word Mental Health😢prayers for the family 🙏❤️
@@rubyhunter9769 It’s definitely Mental Illness being passed down from grandma to child to grandchild
Mental Health is missing in the Black Communities
And its the fact that she thinks its cute and ok......and her apology was a fucking joke
4th family: I feel like parents don’t advise their daughters well when they say don’t have an abortion. I understand taking responsibility for your actions however, why are you going to set your kid up to struggle? You mad now because you’re raising your grandchild & your kid is unstable. She TOLD you she wasn’t ready to be a parent. Kids don’t ask to be here & if you can’t take care of them, don’t have them. And I’m saying this as a child of a teen parent who was raised by my grandma
4:10 Grandma is supposed to be the adult here!! She can help yes shes old enough to help out but, She also deserves to be a teenager while she can, They grow up sooo fast !! Grandma needs to get adult help ,NEVER TELL A CHILD YOU HATE THEM,THAT STICKS WITH THEM FOR LIFE EVEN IF SHE WAS JUST SPEAKING OUT OF ANGER AND FRUSTRATION!! 9:03 KIDS ARENT RESPONSIBLE FOR BEING ADULTS
The first grandma is good. These kids are something else
A sorry granddaughter. She only cares for herself. I have a granddaughter just like her I have nothing to do with her. She is so disrespectful. I had my son to buy her a brand new SUV. If I never see her again I will be happy. She dresses naked tattoos everywhere, Pearson everywhere.
It’s sad the second gma is terrible to speak on her granddaughter about her dead parents is horrible
The second grandmother is a drill Sargent,bc she did not solve the issue with her daughter she's taking it out on her granddaughter so so sad ..
The first gma a good gma but dang all her kids left they kids on her
That first grandma sounds like Desi Banks
i’m a gramma to one 18 month old Grammas are the best she is old school there is love
The second grandmother, no one is considering the fact that she had to raise SEVEN of her grandchildren and now she’s the caregiver of TWO of her own grown children. That is A LOT on one person. Grandparents should not have to be constantly responsible for their grown children’s irresponsibility.
3rd mom you can’t call a prisoner a prisoner calls them
Old school parenting is obviously not the way.
I think that the first grandchild is being a bit whiny about doing chores around the house. I’m nearly 26 and I’ve been doing chores around the house since I was around 5/6 years old. From basic, easy stuff like putting things in the dishwasher, sweeping and as I was getting older, I was doing other chores like the washing up, making my bed, doing my laundry, I was doing a lot of chores around the house before I was 10. And taking care of your parents or parent, she would’ve been doing that when her and her mum get older and her grandmother isn’t around anymore. She definitely sounds spoilt by complaining about taking care of her mum and doing chores around the house. I can’t really comment on her taking care of her uncle but all I can say is that he is fanning and you’re supposed to take care of your family. She says that she wants to continue living life as a teenager, (or something along the lines), but she’ll still be doing that 😬 she needs to get a grip
You are 26 yet you don’t innerstand or have the common decency to sympathize that she’s being mentally and verbally abused by her own grandmother who supposed to show her love not hate . If you would have watched the full episode you would know that the granddaughter was doing her chores and making all As in school yet she had to come home to her grandmother calling her out of her name and downing her to make her feel like she’s nothing 😅 seems like you need to get a grip
Exactly my mom didn't play me and my siblings had to do chores everyday and we couldn't watch TV or fo outside on school days. And if we brought grades home below a B we got put on punishment til the grades came up. These new generation kids are too spoiled and outta control
Sounds to me like the first girl in the video and both of you didn’t get time to be unburdened children. Could there be long term consequences for not being able to go through that part of development? With all due respect, not being aware of consequences doesn’t mean they are not there. Speaking up about it with all tools she has as a teenager should not be dismissed, I believe. And at the same time if the parents sees no other way, it makes sense asking her to help out.
Saying she complains for not taking on grown up responsibilities willingly is not the same though.
@@Leo-AAgreed 💯 I think it’s important to validate for them that the adult portion isn’t their responsibility but to just explain that this is just THEIR circumstances and that everyone’s lives are different and because of those circumstances, the parent/household needs them to be willing to do a little more for the good of everyone. These children also deserve to have some semblance of a care-free (free of adult responsibilities or too much pressure) childhood like you said. Kids who have to grow up too fast will surely be trying to find their childhood in their adult life. This situation is so unfortunate and I know this grandmother is probably so worn out. Poor thing. I hope people see how the effects of broken homes are forcing these children into positions they don’t deserve to be in.
Also for the original comment.. Yall have to understand that everyone isn’t raised to do hard labor and working on farms from the age of 7. (Not saying you did per se.) Of course it sounds “whiny” to someone used to a certain way. For her, it probably does feel like a lot. Not to mention, she’s had a very rough start in life. Abandonment, lack of mental and emotional regulation (especially growing up with older ppl like her grandmother who never knew how to support their children emotionally.) It’s just so many factors to consider, and is exactly why there is no cookie cutter answer that will explain or solve every situation.
@@bananaman8479 girl bye you basically just listed a whole days worth of chores not once mentioning one thing you’d do for fun. No wonder you don’t know what she meant by living life as a teenager.
Lady number two was HORRIBLE at listening.... NOTHING went in her ear and in her mind. The interruptions aggravated me.
Why did they put the first gma in here frfr
Playing with guns at age 16 isnt normal behavior...
Throwing stuff can e dangerous
Why was the 2nd grandmother not called out??!! Just because people in her generation let abuse slide when raising children does not mean it is right and she can keep doing it. It's gross to make fun of the shooting comment.
The 2nd grandma mother is tired.
Yes when you have that you can't do anything and you want no nothing
Poor kid
The trust fund young man case The grand mother was getting a monthly stipend from ghe money. My son had money from his dad. My job was to make sure he keeos as much as possible.
shen just want to be a mom again and taking her daughter child
First grandma was not bad at all. The rest was hard to watch
58:45 💔
Anyone know what happened to the second grandma’s daughter?
She passed away in a car accident 😢
I can understand where the girls coming from but I understand granny old school FrFr so granny need to light up .
These grandmas are old school. These young kids don't realize the level of respect that is required. They should stop talking back and follow the rules. Disrespect will not be tolerated at any level. It would probably alleviate their issues.❤❤❤
Teenagers have to rebel it’s a part of development. Now when you have parents like this you rebel harder Hopefully they will all get it together
I dropped out of highschool due to bullying and I haven't gotten my GED but I'm good with that I'm doing what I got to do I'd rather struggle than get handouts I'm hustling and doing what I got to do yeah I'm hustling but I'm not selling drugs or nothing so don't anybody get the wrong idea I'm collecting water bottles and aluminum cans and the tops off of the aluminum cans
My mother used to pay me for waking her up because she was so hard to get up in the morning and I'd rather work for myself than work for somebody and be somebody's bitch and the only piece of paper that should define me is my birth certificate
The first three grandma's are bad. Their kids died and they never grieved bc they had to then be a mom to the grandkids. It's unfair to call the "bad". Karamo, I'm disappointed in you to allow the network to label these Black women this way. We all know the stigma that comes with African Americans and mental health. These grandmothers need therapy, not a label.
Grandma Not Mad Grandma Js Hurt 😂
These people need more time , mom 2 needs more time to vent! She needs months of therapy& should not raise any kids, maybe a cat…
It's called respect
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1st grandma DID NOT need to be in this