Dating in Germany: Dating German Men | German Guy Explains FAQ

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  • Опубликовано: 26 дек 2024

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  • @Waleochronicles
    @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +54

    Hey there my friends, the list of stereotypes is very long but we just decided to talk about the major ones to keep the video short and sweet! 😊 Are there any other ones you have heard about? Tell me!

    • @sundryemail8823
      @sundryemail8823 3 года назад

      Lol... I'm over the girlfriend thing,it's a necessary phase but can be such a drag 😂😂

    • @ronabeatty3685
      @ronabeatty3685 2 года назад

      Italian, Greek, French, Danish, Canadian, Puerto Rican, Cuban, Middle Eastern, Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Vietnamese

    • @NaigagaFlorence-zd3cn
      @NaigagaFlorence-zd3cn 6 месяцев назад

      No

    • @NaigagaFlorence-zd3cn
      @NaigagaFlorence-zd3cn 6 месяцев назад

      No

  • @marytweet8170
    @marytweet8170 4 года назад +216

    Alex is very handsome.

  • @this_is_nyeleti
    @this_is_nyeleti 3 года назад +140

    I dated a German guy when I was in Shanghai some years ago. I still think of him and hope to meet another German guy like him. He paid for our dates, liked going shopping, was a gentleman he opened doors, held the umbrella, was so respectful, the list is endless!!!! I actually pray I end up marrying a German guy

    • @edithputhy4948
      @edithputhy4948 3 года назад +18

      German guys are usually more egalitarian when dating, splitting bill, less traditional gender roles etc.

    • @edithputhy4948
      @edithputhy4948 3 года назад +4

      @@Valentina-eh5zf nah as a German guy I'm pretty sure it would be off putting if a woman started expecting traditionally gendered courting practices, it's considered weird

    • @edithputhy4948
      @edithputhy4948 3 года назад +4

      @@Valentina-eh5zf I am a Southern German literally from the deepest province at the border to Switzerland and france. Dating culture like the US has it simply doesn't exist in Germany. Some may be more traditional than others but the courting process as practiced in America just isn't a German thing, except maybe for old people.

    • @keiraxxx74
      @keiraxxx74 3 года назад +7

      @@Valentina-eh5zf lol no im eastern european living in germany and 99 % demand split the bill
      I know many russian woman which want german man First and then they are super suprised that they must move ass to work and pay everything 50/50🤣

    • @keiraxxx74
      @keiraxxx74 3 года назад +7

      @@Valentina-eh5zf yes some german pay for First dates but after marry no mercy , all bills costs of living in 50/50
      Russian culture is like "kiss woman in ass buying flowers for princess " german culture is like "you dont work you dont eat doesnt matter which gender you have "

  • @graced.6711
    @graced.6711 3 года назад +420

    Ofc his Instagram is private. German men are SO hard to stalk. That is one stereotype people need to know about.

    • @bryanalejandro7323
      @bryanalejandro7323 3 года назад +46

      Just stalk Austrians 😗✌🏼 they’re the same font and they usually aren’t private 😝

    • @biancafelton6087
      @biancafelton6087 3 года назад +31

      All germans are hard to stalk lol. Ive noticed that too.

    • @graced.6711
      @graced.6711 3 года назад +24

      @@biancafelton6087 ikr! Having a crush on a German dude is HARD smh.

    • @farahdivanti
      @farahdivanti 3 года назад +12

      MANN how can this comment is so relatablee 😅

    • @ladysumangkut3911
      @ladysumangkut3911 3 года назад +4

      What is alex’s ig🤣🤣

  • @piriyaj1347
    @piriyaj1347 Год назад +26

    All of the German guys I know paid on the first date & were perfect gentlemen as well. I think it’s actually normal that when a man cares deeply for you, he just wants to do nice things for you. Sure German guys respect women as equal, but they are never exempted from the power of love. They can get protective, possessive, passionate (though in a much more reserved way compared to the Italians). They are happy to treasure their wife like any normal man.

  • @lynnsintention5722
    @lynnsintention5722 5 месяцев назад +21

    I have lived in Germany 17 years and this guy is not at all like most German men I have met! I wish they were like him but sadly they are more like what she described. But the fact that he was willing to be videoes aaalready shows he is not the typical German

  • @lbrosas
    @lbrosas 2 года назад +70

    UGH he is SO cute

  • @Melag07
    @Melag07 3 года назад +42

    I like it when people hold the door for me, mostly men I haven't even flirted with them. They just do it and it's kind.

  • @nadineclarke2130
    @nadineclarke2130 3 года назад +25

    Yes, Alex is handsome. But have you seen how amazing Wale's hair looks?!!😍

  • @hermanubis7046
    @hermanubis7046 2 года назад +37

    German men, at least those from my generation, were raised to be chivalrous, it used to be expected to be that way. I was taught to open doors for women, or to help them carry groceries and other heavy stuff, but it's true that some women feel offended by it, nowadays. So now I ask, "may I help you with your groceries", for instance. Especially elderly women will usually be happy to accept.

    • @anetak.9494
      @anetak.9494 2 года назад +3

      Younger women too. Where it gets problematic if a woman gets treated like a liability, aka forced chivalry without her wanting. So checking in if that's OK for her is great.

    • @nicolelillis2077
      @nicolelillis2077 Год назад +3

      Wow! That's so kind and decent of you Hermanubis. Don't ever change. I'm sure there are still some German ladies who appreciate your assistance and good manners. I wish men did that in Australia, but it only happens occasionally. I guess it has everything to do with equality. Men no longer feel they should be chivalrous, so they aren't! Anyway, cheers German Gentleman! 😁

  • @babyboasty6033
    @babyboasty6033 4 года назад +51

    This guy is so handsome

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +4

      I think an Alex fan club is in the making 😀😀😀

  • @arteynacreates9794
    @arteynacreates9794 3 года назад +65

    Most of the German men to be honest are so handsome. I have 2 new German guy friends and gaaawd.. they are so attractive

  • @emmawilding9484
    @emmawilding9484 3 года назад +19

    i think about the flirting thing its just that germans are a bit more held back and prefer to maintain boundaries where people from other countries are maybe a bit more comfortable with being more touchy with people. this can make germans come across as less flirty.
    but i also think sometimes german men are SO worried about being respectful and not making a girl uncomfortable that they don't realise you're flirting with them unless you overtly ask them out. i flirted with a guy all night, was basically sat in his lap, my friend even asked him what was going on between the two of us and he still thought i was "just being friendly"

    • @dominicdannies7482
      @dominicdannies7482 2 года назад +7

      As a german I would like to say that this is a very true statement.

    • @keepinitkawaii
      @keepinitkawaii 2 года назад +2

      🤣🤣🤣🤣"just being friendly" thats so funny. "She needed a place to sit so i offered my lap, nothing romantic or anything".

  • @vivianrobinson2849
    @vivianrobinson2849 2 года назад +15

    I like his smiles and he is intelligent….Thank you both for the information

  • @HappyLibra-xx3kv
    @HappyLibra-xx3kv Год назад +35

    I have successfully secured a German man - Highly recommend you do too XD!

  • @angelaprz1388
    @angelaprz1388 3 года назад +24

    I get the same look when I try to make a conversation with my German colleague at work and he gives me this look like “why is she talking to me?” So I started using simple sign language and he responds to me better 😅😂

  • @karstenvoigt7280
    @karstenvoigt7280 2 года назад +46

    Most german men would prefer to commit acts of chivalry. But unfortunately german women tend to perceive that as belittleing and disrespectful. So - as a result of those experiences - we learned to not do it anymore. What we'd need in this country are far more non-german women, who allow men to be gentlemen.

    • @anetak.9494
      @anetak.9494 2 года назад +12

      Not true. Women want you to be chivalrous, without being belittling. Unfortunately guys kept the belittling part and dropped the chivalry.

    • @bikotheanimator6169
      @bikotheanimator6169 2 года назад +3

      It's the same in the U.S.

    • @noelliebtsie
      @noelliebtsie 2 года назад +2

      @@anetak.9494 Ich kann das gut vorstellen. Das Kultur von "besser wisser" und dann das Patriarchat. Wohnst du in Berlin? Ich will nach Berlin nächstes Jahr und bin neugierig, wie das Leben da geht. Die single Männer in Kalifornien sind auch meistens Vollidioten.

    • @noelliebtsie
      @noelliebtsie 2 года назад

      Mein B.A. beschäftigt sich mit Bewegungen in Berlin vor und nach die Maueröffnung.

    • @katemaina4578
      @katemaina4578 Год назад +2

      I was looking for this comment. Whoever you are thank you @karstenvoigt7280 .

  • @moroccanbarbie2767
    @moroccanbarbie2767 4 года назад +5

    “open the window” loool, I’m in love with this.
    you are so well spoken and orange/red suits you very well :)

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +1

      I know right 😂😂 I wonder why I was thinking of windows instead of doors 😂

    • @princefazzahamdan1636
      @princefazzahamdan1636 3 года назад

      Greeting to you Dear ❤️...
      Am Prince Hamdan Fazza the Royal crown prince of Dubai....
      It's a great pleasure knowing you better...
      How are you doing?
      You can add me on hangout for a private conversation 👇
      ( princehamdanfaz3334@gmail.com )

    • @faittwilliams2094
      @faittwilliams2094 2 года назад

      WOW

  • @Jadegirl23
    @Jadegirl23 3 года назад +27

    “Which women?” 🤣🤣 When talking about splitting the bill. Haha

  • @lydiaagbetsoamedo3874
    @lydiaagbetsoamedo3874 2 года назад +17

    German guys are not shy but they are unique people that is their culture to respect other people they have to be careful about everything

  • @sandykl
    @sandykl 4 года назад +9

    The video was so fun to watch. You’re so vibrant 😆💛 also, I have met a French / German guy.... so gentlemen like. He would also always pay for my parking if we took my car. But I’ve meet others that weren’t this way. I guess it depends on their individual upbringing

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +3

      Glad you enjoyed the video. Yes I think it depends on each individual. This is a case where generalizations surely do not apply.

    • @princefazzahamdan1636
      @princefazzahamdan1636 3 года назад

      Greeting to you Dear ❤️...
      Am Prince Hamdan Fazza the Royal crown prince of Dubai....
      It's a great pleasure knowing you better...
      How are you doing?
      You can add me on hangout for a private conversation 👇
      ( princehamdanfaz3334@gmail.com )

  • @KolnFriedChicken
    @KolnFriedChicken 3 года назад +23

    Of course the personalty of a person is way more important here, than his nationality but in general I would say...
    Germans do less small talk than many other cultures and small talk is the basis for flirting. You can be interessted but you still need some artificial communication to lay the ground and if you're uneasy in these kind of conversation your flirting attemps are uneasy, too.
    It's often times seen as impolite to just talk to strangers let's say in a bar, therefore it's less likely for a man to do the first step here. However it's totally acceptable in a club or at a party. I would argue that the location and event is pretty important in Germany.

    • @bibibello2181
      @bibibello2181 3 года назад +1

      Very informative. I was wondering about German men after seeing a bi-racial cute couple of a black girl and German man. Prior to that I had the impression that Germans hardly step out of their race to date or marry.

    • @KolnFriedChicken
      @KolnFriedChicken 3 года назад +4

      @@bibibello2181 Guess that's more a lack of opportunity than racial bias. There're hardly black people in Germany and of those many of them are either erasmus/ exchange students, asylum seekers (mostly from Eritrea) or migrants (often from Namibia).
      So it's not very common to have black colleagues or friends, circles in which you mostly find your partners.
      E.g. I never met a single black woman in my age other than very briefly while partying and I live in Cologne...

    • @bibibello2181
      @bibibello2181 3 года назад

      @@KolnFriedChicken Oh wow! @you not really having met a black woman. I once met a guy online who lives in Germany after talking for about a year he invited me to come live in Germany. I wasn't sure so he told me there were many black people like me in Germany and I would be okay. I guess he lied to make me come out there. 🤣 I never went out there anyway. Lol. I never thought Germans were 'racially biased' anyway, I just wasn't sure of the man i was talking to.

    • @spaceowl9246
      @spaceowl9246 3 года назад +3

      @@bibibello2181 There aren't many people of color here in germany. I only ever talked to one black girl that was my age in my entire life but she was lesbian, so yeah lol.
      I wouldn't be against it, it's just as KolnFriedChicken said, there are almost no opportunities to date black women.

    • @bibibello2181
      @bibibello2181 3 года назад +1

      @@spaceowl9246 Oh wow! You've seen just one black woman all your life? You should come to Africa lol and I definitely plan on visiting Germany now. I am in for the social experiment✌✌My curiosity about the German culture just heightened and so far I like a few things I have learnt about Germans.

  • @plerpplerp5599
    @plerpplerp5599 9 месяцев назад +5

    The phrase "chivalry is dead" is often used to express a sentiment that people are not as polite or courteous as they used to be, particularly towards women.
    The demise of traditional chivalry has been associated with societal changes like feminism and evolving gender roles, leading to a reevaluation of the role of chivalry in contemporary relationships and interactions.

  • @Aldo_Regozzani
    @Aldo_Regozzani 3 года назад +24

    As a rule: If you invite someone explicitly, you take care of everything (bill).
    If you agree to meet, it's splitting bills.
    Hope this helps, Greetings und Munter bleiben! :)

  • @thehorseinwordandpicture
    @thehorseinwordandpicture 2 года назад +11

    When I move to Germany for my PhD I will want to live where German men are chivalrous.
    German men are very straightforward and they do make the first move toward women.

  • @kathleen8897
    @kathleen8897 4 года назад +28

    He is really handsome so he can't have any problems with flirting. And he doesn't look like shy at all.

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +3

      😄😄😄 Well he accepted my invitation to make this video without hesitating. therefore, he is definitely not shy

    • @silvanelsire5971
      @silvanelsire5971 4 года назад +6

      we are not shy, we just like to have the flirt go in an equal manner. We only go halfway, maybe that´s explaining it a bit

    • @ahgavlive4517
      @ahgavlive4517 3 года назад

      Yupp and german guys can appear shy in the beginning but if they get to know someone better they actually aren't!!

  • @me-4033
    @me-4033 9 месяцев назад +23

    I dated a german guy. He is not shy at all and he puts lot of effort and so gentle. Most time he paid the bills but sometimes i get him something in return, he opens the door, car, etc. but yeah,, they know what they want and very open for any ideas, very realistic and waay opeeen. Be ready for that 😂

  • @gigih.hammer306
    @gigih.hammer306 3 года назад +11

    If a guy invites me and we go to a restaurant, I would expect him to pay for the bill. Otherwise I would not except the invitation if I had any doubts about about that man. I dated a few German guys, but not one asked me to pay half of a bill. I like a man opening a car door for me, light my cigarettes, pays me compliments and don't go nuts if other man stare at me. If a man complimented me on my body, I never minded that either. I had a good looking body then and still do. I'm an average height of 165 and weigh 125 pounds. I forgot what that is in kilo. I married an American because the where easier to get along with and not so up tight. I loved the way I was treated by them. Another thing was, I never invited a guy in to my place to have sex. That is not the way my mother raised me in Germany. In clubs or bars I never approached a man, the approached me. I'm talking about Americans, not Germans. My first American husband turned out to be somebody I didn't know anymore after he brought me to the States. In Germany he treated me well. Here he became so obsessed with me, tried to tell me what I could wear, how to wear my hair. After a few years of that I couldn't stand it anymore. He became abuse too. So I divorced him. A few years later I met another American who had a bad reputation of being a slut puppy. I refused to go out with him. He chased me for 10 years. Then one day he came into the place I worked and I swear I don't know what happen. When he looked at me, and I hadn't seen him in about 6 month, Electricity crackled between us two, and it felt like I got hit by a lighting bolt. That is when I fell for him hard. He became my husband and he was so good to me and so romantic. At that point I knew we where meant for each other. I never regretted it. My beloved died from cancer several years ago. I became a widow and stayed one.

    • @biancafelton6087
      @biancafelton6087 3 года назад +4

      Aww... its sad that he has passed already but its a nice love story. Imagine being pursued for ten years

    • @louisecoffey9843
      @louisecoffey9843 3 года назад +1

      @@biancafelton6087 that’s what I was thinking…. 10 years??? Wow. He must have loved her a lot.

  • @topehassan
    @topehassan 4 года назад +6

    Alex, you should ask Wale out. Your chemistry is great on screen 😍😍😍

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +2

      Please no oooooo 😅😅😅😅

    • @israeliana
      @israeliana 4 года назад +2

      She's so gorgeous he better get up

  • @BellaNarain
    @BellaNarain 3 года назад +34

    Lol I laughed so hard when you said “Which women?”

  • @rizman6053
    @rizman6053 Год назад +24

    German are not shy. They are respectful and care about feeling of others

    • @JeBusInYoutbe
      @JeBusInYoutbe 4 месяца назад

      Germans in General lack empathy , they do no care lol

  • @GabdeVue
    @GabdeVue 3 года назад +8

    It drove me (German woman) nuts in Ireland and England how one person of the table got up to get everybody drinks (and paid for them). It made sense: Bar is crowded, don't go clogging it up with 5 people who separately buy drinks. Nobody was stingy or counting up if you actually also paid for a round. People noticed if somebody never pitched in though. But...I feel guilty and want everything to be just. It's not about spending on others but on getting spent on, when I am not sure that the round I'll buy will reach what the others paid.
    I will also flat out tell people, if i cannot afford a certain place. And it is perfectly fine in Germany to ASK about the paying arrangement beforehand: "I'd love to go. Are you planning to invite me or are we going to split the bill / i am going to invite you."
    I know other German women, who enjoy being pampered. I prefer to be seen as equal and want to be treated as such - including paying for my own stuff. I do really enjoy inviting people, if i can afford it (ice cream :D ) My husband earns a certain percentage more than me - i appreciate if he pays that percentage more in bigger expenses, but i will not haggle in a restaurant. I always offer to pay, when i can and he appreciates that. And i feel good that I could treat both of us. Since he earns more, he pays more often.
    When we dated, we usually split the bill (in clubs)or did a this time you / next time me (movie theatre)-way.

  • @erlynadress5161
    @erlynadress5161 3 года назад +16

    I think, they tend more introvert (zurückhaltend). Normally they find their girlfriend or boyfriend from other friends

  • @vh6289
    @vh6289 2 года назад +14

    I'm not German, though I live here in Germany for about eight years. I'd say, I'd like it if a man was chivalrous to me or I'd like if he paid for my coffee or something. But I feel like the reason for it is more that I just don't want it to be awkward for both of us, hence I'd prefer a "traditional way". That and that I'm broke :D
    Apart from that, I've met both kinds of Germans here in Berlin - those who open the door for you and those who don't. And again, it's kind of awkward because you never know which kind of man you'll meet next time, so sometimes you try to let them go first and sometimes they try to let you do it, and in the end you do some kind of a stupid dance around the door :D

  • @hillarybillary21
    @hillarybillary21 3 года назад +84

    Alex, I’m very fertile.

  • @openthewayformygreatabundance
    @openthewayformygreatabundance Год назад +39

    German has the best male jaws in th whole universe 😮❤

    • @JeBusInYoutbe
      @JeBusInYoutbe 4 месяца назад

      Sure , but they age horribly. What the point on that

  • @mayayolanda4821
    @mayayolanda4821 3 года назад +22

    WHEN SHE SAID “WHICH WOMEN LIKE TO PAID AND SPLIT THE BILL” HAHAHAHA I LOVE THIS GIRL

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  3 года назад +3

      Many months later ... I am still looking for these women 😂

    • @TaCC2
      @TaCC2 Год назад

      Youll find them in Germany.

  • @Kaisaya
    @Kaisaya Год назад +23

    Hahaha i love it when you keep on asking “which women???” Hahahhaa i can relate lol

    • @ATypiclaNPC
      @ATypiclaNPC Год назад

      What an answere do u expect? Do u want an answere like, " The women on the 7.6.20what ever..that sit right begind me when i was in the bar, who was with another guy there, and then this happend" or what? XD we all learn by watching from others. How to behave, how talk everything. So if that was what he learned probably some of the women in his living cyrcle were like that. 😅

  • @Astrofrank
    @Astrofrank 4 года назад +7

    I like your hair style in this video, works very well with your face - please keep it. And an on-topic comment: In general Germans seem to have a problem with flirting.

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +5

      Thanks for the compliment 🙂🙂🙂 ... As for Germans and flirting lets just say it doesn't come naturally to them ...😆

  • @barbilocsin1183
    @barbilocsin1183 3 года назад +32

    I recently had a first date with a German guy and as far as he said, he wanted to keep on seeing and get to know me. Plus, we are still texting everyday. The only thing that I would like to know is, he is not really asking questions about me (he’s asking but I’m always the one who initiate the question). Like how’s my childhood is like or something. I know it’s just the first date but I would really appreciate it if he asks more about me because I really like him

    • @congelesegirllivingincanad422
      @congelesegirllivingincanad422 2 года назад +5

      I have the same problem

    • @Iammercy100
      @Iammercy100 2 года назад +2

      Same here 😂

    • @jennifermutesi7880
      @jennifermutesi7880 2 года назад +2

      Same here. Maybe it's their Nature or not being interested in the Person.

    • @KimChi-iy7jd
      @KimChi-iy7jd 2 года назад +8

      Hm, if they are genuinely interested they ask about you in general.
      One reason can be that some may be "slow" to ease into getting to know you. That can happen, that it takes more than one or two "dates" to spike earnest interest.
      Nevertheless do not engage in anything physical if you want a relationship and the guy does not give the impression he wants to get to know you. That is my advice as an older woman, who really appreciates German men.
      Of course if you want a quick "hook up" I am sure no profound questions are needed. 😅🙃🙂

    • @Iammercy100
      @Iammercy100 2 года назад

      @@KimChi-iy7jd hello dear , I am dating a German guy from Austria . We met on tinder.i normally initiate conversation .he doesn't ask questions. He told me he was going to be in Nigeria in March but later told they have lockdown that will end in two weeks time.that was in mid March he told me . It's two months now with him..but I don't know any of his family member not friends am getting worried . he's always telling me that he is busy that we can only communicate around 8:30pm but sometimes when we get talking he like talking more on sex ..I know sex is important but at least him asking me questions and getting to know about me should be the one thing...if I don't send him a message he won't send . please I need your advice on this ma'am

  • @HelloHello-xm1ek
    @HelloHello-xm1ek Год назад +22

    I really think that depents on the women. I could be wrong but living as a foreign woman in germany i think german men behave differently towards women from other countries. They are more gentlemen and traditional to foreign women, because most likely we are used to this kinda things and german women are not. So i even think that they are a little bit more "german" to german women ;)

    • @meelys1554
      @meelys1554 Год назад

      How does it look like to live in German?

    • @HelloHello-xm1ek
      @HelloHello-xm1ek Год назад +11

      @@meelys1554 I really don't recommend Germany anymore. I just came back yesterday from a vacation to Germany and again I realized how bad it got here. Only shit people, almost everyone smokes, lots but looooots of Refugees. You don't see Germans anymore, lots of Arabic men where u don't feel safe as a women anymore. What happened to this country, it's sooo darn sad :(
      Good old Germany doesn't exist anymore!

    • @ATypiclaNPC
      @ATypiclaNPC Год назад

      ​@@HelloHello-xm1ekProbably depends where u live? Whwre do u come from?

    • @ATypiclaNPC
      @ATypiclaNPC Год назад

      ​@@HelloHello-xm1ekah and i don't wanna say, it didn't got worse, but i don't think everywhere. Someparts have it harder then other ATM.

    • @HelloHello-xm1ek
      @HelloHello-xm1ek Год назад +4

      @@ATypiclaNPC well if you live on the country side of course you don't see all the shit that's been going on. It's EVERYWHERE now (especially in the cities and smaller cities) in small villages 'Dörfer' starts also...just give it a few more couple yrs (3-5) then it will take over. Horrible and sad!

  • @colstonlchinese
    @colstonlchinese 8 месяцев назад +8

    He has a handsome smile, with great teeth.

  • @teeskyers
    @teeskyers Год назад +13

    As a woman who dated a German I offered to split the bill at dinner I always offer to split the bill because I don't like waiting for someone to pay for me like I'm needy, I just rather pay for what I ate, the guy I dated was surprised but was okay with it :) also he approached me for a date at a museum but then I said no and then I approached him for a date lol. I tend to date guys I approach more than guys who approach me, something about a guy approaching me can be a turn off unless I already like them.

    • @johnballard6725
      @johnballard6725 Год назад

      Guys love it when ladies make the first move.

    • @Melanated483
      @Melanated483 Год назад +1

      So, how is all that working for you?

    • @Melanated483
      @Melanated483 Год назад +8

      I make money 💵 like more than enough to support a household and I STILL WILL WANT a Guy to ALWAYS pay for me. Otherwise, what’s the point of living under a Male Patriarchy. Like what would be the benefit to me as a woman living under a patriarchy if he’s just okay with me splitting the bills…. THIS IS WHAT I JUST REALIZED LATER ON IN LIFE… The more you know and grow😉 😘

    • @warcrimeconnoisseur5238
      @warcrimeconnoisseur5238 Год назад +2

      @@Melanated483 How can you say that you live in a patriarchy but get so much money that you can support a household alone?

  • @TS-tv2ik
    @TS-tv2ik 3 года назад +13

    I am not those women, I am very much a lady! Looks like German men need to marry American women, we love that! That's right, preach, sister! Open the door for me, and I will edify him with thank yous, where are the gentlemen and ladies these days?!

  • @ArmandoBellagio
    @ArmandoBellagio 3 года назад +9

    It only really works in clubs/pubs in Germany if people are a bit drunk and open for it 😁 Yeah, German women are very much into equality and stuff, that's why they are into splitting bills. And yeah, many women here in Germany also don't like when you open doors etc for them. Too old-school, sexist, whatever. So that's why chivalry is dead here to some point, not just in Berlin.

  • @jdstep97
    @jdstep97 3 года назад +12

    So, I gather that when a German says "invite" the other person, that means HE is actually PAYING. That wasn't clear from this video, but I think I've heard it before. Funny thing is, where I'm from in the US, you can still invite someone somewhere but expect them to pay their own bill. :)

  • @moonaymc
    @moonaymc 2 года назад +31

    I think in this video you can see at least one reason why it can be hard to date Germans: They're often being rather analytical, and they don't show too much sensuality (out of fear or habit or whatsoever), which actually is key to flirting, I would say. So it's even hard to find out whether the person is making an attempt to flirt. This is just my hypothesis haha, I'm German myself and I find it hard to date Germans, also because of the above 😅 No offense ^^

    • @noelliebtsie
      @noelliebtsie 2 года назад

      Ich kann es total nachvollziehen, deutsche Frauen ausländischen Männer zu wollen. ^_^ Aber dennoch will ich einen Tag in Berlin wohnen. Ich studiere die Stadt.

  • @Rhabarber54321
    @Rhabarber54321 4 года назад +15

    Who is paying for dinner is not that much about German men being cheap; it is about respect - and insecurity.
    There is one thing many people like to forget:
    Dating can become a power game. This is a fact, and it is nothing you can stop by just saying it isn’t. There are men out there (and women, although less), who start marking their territory by doing things that seem to be harmless, even friendly, but which are used to put the other in a vulnerable position.
    But even if that isn’t the case, and in most times and with most people it isn’t, this consequences can ensue, even if it is not intended.
    In Germany, it needed centuries, many struggles and a lot of legislative action, before women became legally able to open a bank account or to enter a job without their husband’s or father’s formal consent. Men became legally independent with their adulthood; women did not before their husband died, as a widow. Paying for the meal was not a question of chivalry, but of sheer necessity and vulnerability. A woman in a crinoline just isn’t able to open a door by herself; her clothes always get in the way. Guess why they wore such useless junk? Right, to please men.
    And when women became legally independent - this was only about the legal act; it took many decades more to actually enter the brains of people. Until now - I’m talking from my experience as a lawyer here - there are men who think a woman has to ask for consent about decisions, they themselves would come to without any thought about the opinion of their wife or partner. Even men who would consider themselves not to be sexist in any way, sometimes encounter thoughts in their own brain that come from this horrible past. The human brain sometimes is like a swamp: things sink to the ground, but are not gone; from time to time, they come back with a overwhelming stench. This is why “chivalry” was looked upon with distrust by the women’s lib movement.
    And today? You might say that this is not a problem anymore, so chivalry is not an instrument of suppression, but just a harmless and friendly act. And this is true - to a certain extent. But as human history goes: there is a development, and there is a rollback, and so on, back and forth. You will never know for sure, where in all of this mess your society, and more important, the person in front of you is at the moment. He might be a sensitive, sensible person, who just makes an old-fashioned, friendly gesture, but it might also be a predator who thinks to buy privileges over you by paying for a coffee. And many men are afraid their friendly symbolic act of kindness might be misunderstood as a trespassing of borders.
    This is relatively new development, so that field isn’t easy to navigate. Yes, there are men who are just cheap, but the vast majority just tries to find some rules to follow.
    In my opinion, the rule to split the bill for the first dates is one that can be used: Both act as equals, at least until they know each enough other to avoid misunderstandings. Opening a door is something you can do for everybody, regardless of their gender. Helping a woman to get into her coat one should do because of how ridiculously complicated female clothing can be (even a formal suit is ten times as comfortable and practical as any frock or dress). And adjusting a woman’s seat you should never do, as long you don’t work in the service industry. It is not a nice way to start an evening by wrecking your companion’s feet…

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +2

      Thanks for taking the time to explain things in such great detail. I agree with you on some points you have made. Dating can indeed become a power game if one is unfortunate enough to fall into the hands of a predator or an emotionally imbalanced individual (this applies to both genders). I like your closing sentence of wrecking your companions feet 😂😂😂 I always appreciate a good sense of humour.

    • @sweettagada22
      @sweettagada22 3 года назад

      Well this is just your opinion, I personally have a very different analysis of it:)

  • @kiamysuamimodel8948
    @kiamysuamimodel8948 Год назад +28

    He is really cute

  • @sambrown5867
    @sambrown5867 3 года назад +6

    Cool and sociable conversation Wale; not too fake or rehearse! :*) xxx Alex is CUTE; full stop! Xx

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  3 года назад +1

      I suck at rehearsing stuff. I would be a total disaster if I had to do that. 😄

  • @angieisoverit8742
    @angieisoverit8742 3 года назад +33

    I’m a huge feminist, but if your only complaint is that men open doors and pay for things you probably don’t face any real problems in life 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @samkobby3567
      @samkobby3567 3 года назад

      Hey , are you in Germany ?

    • @angieisoverit8742
      @angieisoverit8742 3 года назад

      @@samkobby3567 not currently

    • @samkobby3567
      @samkobby3567 3 года назад

      @@angieisoverit8742 wanna know you, send me your email address , we keep in touch

  • @Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz
    @Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz 3 года назад +12

    Splitting bills is not going to happen for me

  • @FreeElf25
    @FreeElf25 2 месяца назад +8

    Alex looks like a model !

  • @reginakorth1809
    @reginakorth1809 3 года назад +30

    I don't believe he would make the first step. He s pretending to be different... He would not pay the bill either 😂

  • @LibraEmpress-z4o
    @LibraEmpress-z4o Год назад +22

    I am very very happy with my German, so Im keeping him for life, even after im dead XD.... Once you go German you never go back.

  • @PJ-cu4cl
    @PJ-cu4cl 2 года назад +15

    God bless me with a guy like that

  •  3 года назад +42

    I think the power dynamics of "paying on a date" are rather important. Essentially, the one paying is putting the other into "debt" - not of a financial, but metaphorical kind. And German culture is very conscious of obligations - the German word for "debt", or "Schulden", is derived from "Schuld", or "guilt".
    Basically, each person on a date paying for their own meal allows them to treat each others as equal, without any obligations to each other.

    • @PlumbonChanel
      @PlumbonChanel 3 года назад

      Hello

    • @Србомбоница86
      @Србомбоница86 3 года назад +8

      Omg that's beyond stupid

    •  3 года назад

      @@Србомбоница86 Why?

    • @sakuralein1
      @sakuralein1 3 года назад +1

      @ ok thank, I better don’t date German man

    •  3 года назад

      @@sakuralein1 A valid choice.

  • @user-tf2tt
    @user-tf2tt 3 года назад +72

    Feminism does not mean that women don’t like chivalry. It means that women want to have basic respect and not be killed by men.

    • @natgeox
      @natgeox Год назад +5

      It used to mean that, maybe it still does for others. Feminism has mutated into a man-bashing/hating/shaming, masculinity-killing, sky-screeching, vagina-hat-wearing, feminazi monstro. It's an embarrassment to women.
      There are divides in every category these days. "Us against them." It's getting boring.

    • @toomuchinformation
      @toomuchinformation 9 месяцев назад

      ​@@natgeoxWhy is it an embarrassment towards women? We don't say incels are an embarrassment towards men. Why do men get to keep their individuality and women do not?

    • @natgeox
      @natgeox 9 месяцев назад

      @@toomuchinformation incels *are* an embarrassment towards men... imo. Extremist behaviour=imbalance. I think women that hate men under the guise of being a feminist is many unpleasant things, including embarrassing. Just like misogyny; misogynistic behaviour is the opposite of attractive healthy masculinity, its cringe and awkward to see what manifests when a man feels threatened by a woman and vuce versa....imo. These are all my opinions remember:)

    • @bell9930
      @bell9930 5 месяцев назад

      💯

  • @nathaliacarbajal3496
    @nathaliacarbajal3496 3 года назад +10

    So, if you're new in Germany how do you meet people?! It seems hard to make friends there if you're new in the country

    • @airdrophunter9521
      @airdrophunter9521 3 года назад +1

      Tinder, Badoo 😎

    • @mayankdewli1010
      @mayankdewli1010 3 года назад +5

      You will have an easier time trying to be friends with other immigrants ( or expats if you're an anglo saxon )

  • @a_bogoduhova
    @a_bogoduhova 3 года назад +14

    Hahahahh... she's awesome! 😁I'm from Russia and it's normal here to show show good manners, open doors, pay for dinner and make the first step. I guess men are stressed mostly to meet a girl first and they like when a girl text him first more often but... girls in Russia would definitely like it when a man shows himself first.

    • @edithputhy4948
      @edithputhy4948 3 года назад +3

      well in Russia women also aren't treated equally

    • @keiraxxx74
      @keiraxxx74 3 года назад +4

      @@edithputhy4948 its not true in russia feminism have longer history than in western countries , when german woman was at Home with kids russian woman in comministic times have working in fabric and have right to do abortion

    • @keiraxxx74
      @keiraxxx74 3 года назад +4

      @@edithputhy4948 till today russian woman are treaten speacial and have more "princess" life than german woman
      In russia when woman dont want to work she dont have to its man duty to give money, in germany man dont want to work for woman so she dont have choice

    • @Србомбоница86
      @Србомбоница86 3 года назад +1

      @@edithputhy4948 Russian women were feminists when you westerners were still stuck in home serving your husband's

    • @Србомбоница86
      @Србомбоница86 3 года назад +2

      @@keiraxxx74 abortion is not good ,But I agree with rest of your comment

  • @annao.5240
    @annao.5240 3 года назад +25

    I have been taught to always split the bill when beeing on a first (and a few following) date. This way there's no expectation like : "I've paid for the date, now you should kiss me" or things like this. There's no power imbalance. It's actually pretty smart 😀

    • @Sarah-zt2qz
      @Sarah-zt2qz 3 года назад +14

      If there’s an expectation from a man after paying for a date then he’s probably the wrong man for you. 😬

    • @annao.5240
      @annao.5240 3 года назад +5

      @@Sarah-zt2qz but why should men pay for a date? It's the 21 century, women earn their money the same way men do. Why the very outdated expectations towards men? I genuinely don't understand it 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @Sarah-zt2qz
      @Sarah-zt2qz 3 года назад +8

      @@annao.5240 For a lot of reasons but one is even though it’s 2021 women still make way less money than men do while working the same job. So why should they be expected to pay?

    • @anushka6559
      @anushka6559 3 года назад +1

      @@Sarah-zt2qz Then I think we should reduce wage gap instead of letting the man pay the whole bill

    • @Sarah-zt2qz
      @Sarah-zt2qz 3 года назад +7

      @@anushka6559 given that we live in a patriarchal society (another reason why men pay the bill) that’s unlikely to happen. So until women get equal pay men will continue paying the bills. ☺️

  • @Itsjennygomes
    @Itsjennygomes 2 года назад +8

    Loved the video ❤

  • @carmareber77
    @carmareber77 3 года назад +16

    He is so handsome

  • @MetalBere
    @MetalBere 3 года назад +11

    You two would make a beautiful couple

  • @opheliadunn5769
    @opheliadunn5769 3 года назад +22

    He reminds me of Adam Groff from Sex Education. Very handsome young man and Waleo, you look so beautiful with that red lipstick.

  • @Lucas2811pet
    @Lucas2811pet 3 года назад +13

    “Then this could be a problem” 😂😂😂

  • @Jessica-li2ib
    @Jessica-li2ib 3 года назад +22

    He’s so cute tho

  • @josephinelagmay6012
    @josephinelagmay6012 6 месяцев назад +21

    Alex is handsome ❤

  • @fresitafawn
    @fresitafawn 3 года назад +13

    woah he’s gorgeous wtf

  • @umaaikarai997
    @umaaikarai997 2 года назад +11

    I'm trying to approach and flirt with a guy but it seems a very hard task for me because we are always surrounded by our friends😫 I really like him and idk what to do to get him

    • @jusemagine1919
      @jusemagine1919 2 года назад +1

      Tough fam😭

    • @jusemagine1919
      @jusemagine1919 2 года назад +1

      It's been 5 days, did you by any chance make ur move yet?

    • @teeskyers
      @teeskyers Год назад +2

      I usually just walk up to a guy and introduce myself and flirt, show I'm interested, ask him if he wants to do something with you, exchange numbers :)

  • @noelliebtsie
    @noelliebtsie 2 года назад +37

    Definitely recommend paying for yourself, ladies! So there are not any weird expectations. This is smarter to do. Stay independent. That said, why do men suddenly become passionate feminists only when it means not doing nice things for women. Ha ha ha. They ignore the rest of it.

    • @kannot1
      @kannot1 2 года назад +12

      That is exactly why women should let men pay! Who cares if they feel entitled, women owe them nothing. Chivalry is not dead... I do feel that Western women have made it harder for more

    • @noelliebtsie
      @noelliebtsie 2 года назад +5

      @@kannot1 Well, the problem is how men approach the whole thing. Like, paying for you then thinking they own a piece of you. OR make you feel as if they're hoping NOT to have to pay for you,. That's an uncomfortable vibe! Lol. So really, I think equality has to seep into our cultures better, then there's no underlying weird feelings.
      I still feel strongly that women need to redefine our relations, regain perspective on what we're looking for with men. Confront our male savior/leader image. We're trying to create equal partnership in society, equal decision-making, equal distribution etc. essentially revise world society to reflect feminine values prominently.
      I'm not even sure men will ever allow equality. So women have to be talking about how to deal with that. Amazonian warrior kind of consciousness, to rescue our world. After centuries of patriarchy, undoing our own deep-set conditioning is job number one.

    • @meganhopkins9788
      @meganhopkins9788 8 месяцев назад +4

      No

    • @joimonae4090
      @joimonae4090 5 месяцев назад +1

      I like traditional but you do what you want and I’ll do what I want 😅

    • @JeBusInYoutbe
      @JeBusInYoutbe 4 месяца назад +1

      If you want to be independant for all your life then stay alone . It applies for men and women

  • @topehassan
    @topehassan 4 года назад +7

    Dude said No I ain’t prepared for the cliches! 😅

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +1

      I know right? 😅 I expected him to come with a script.

    • @princefazzahamdan1636
      @princefazzahamdan1636 3 года назад

      Greeting to you Dear ❤️...
      Am Prince Hamdan Fazza the Royal crown prince of Dubai....
      It's a great pleasure knowing you better...
      How are you doing?
      You can add me on hangout for a private conversation 👇
      ( princehamdanfaz3334@gmail.com )

  • @xogoessweden
    @xogoessweden 3 года назад +7

    I love this video, Alex is also super sympathic, from which part of germany is he?

  • @anaaofiabarreto2943
    @anaaofiabarreto2943 Год назад +23

    I am Colombian and when I was there, every single man thought I was into him 😂.
    But k was just being friendly😅

  • @graceamelia1331
    @graceamelia1331 3 года назад +12

    Am looking forward for the man of my dream, who is loving, caring and focus.

  • @mevelinemafor
    @mevelinemafor Год назад +14

    It’s the which women for me😂😂😂 she clearly doesn’t share bills on date number one

  • @raven061495
    @raven061495 3 года назад +17

    i love German men they are always so cute

  • @mystickal6342
    @mystickal6342 3 года назад +27

    Alex is a German and already Shy with the questions you asked..😜.. You on other hand are so Beautiful inside and out..Modern Bold lady..i love your smile and Lovely aura that you have. thanks for this video.

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  3 года назад +5

      Wow all these compliments just for me ... now I cant stop "blushing" 😄 Thank you very much for leaving such a kind comment. 😊

  • @leticiarosas8547
    @leticiarosas8547 3 года назад +29

    Wow he is gorgeous!

    • @princefazzahamdan1636
      @princefazzahamdan1636 3 года назад

      Greeting to you Dear ❤️...
      Am Prince Hamdan Fazza the Royal crown prince of Dubai....
      It's a great pleasure knowing you better...
      How are you doing?
      You can add me on hangout for a private conversation 👇
      ( princehamdanfaz3334@gmail.com )

  • @mikejurgens1013
    @mikejurgens1013 Год назад +15

    as a german i have to say we are not shy but rather layed back and think about the situation. we think through our options to make the right decision

    • @JeBusInYoutbe
      @JeBusInYoutbe 4 месяца назад +1

      Keep thinking and you will end up alone and old

    • @mikejurgens1013
      @mikejurgens1013 4 месяца назад

      @@JeBusInYoutbe keep not thinking and you'll end up with a foot in you're ass because you thought being naive is better

    • @nonomabokela8858
      @nonomabokela8858 Месяц назад

      😂😂 in your thinking, kindly let ❤ takeover. Risk it all.​@@mikejurgens1013

  • @karolinaparmas
    @karolinaparmas 2 года назад +1

    Love you guys, thanks!

  • @maritawanazw
    @maritawanazw 4 месяца назад +6

    Ma'am you have beautiful natural hair! 😍From when this video was uploaded i hope you didn't cut it!❤

  • @GoodKarma1020
    @GoodKarma1020 8 месяцев назад +5

    He’s so handsome ❤

  • @topehassan
    @topehassan 4 года назад +1

    Wale speaking gems!!! Damn girl! She stepped on those toes and You can step on it anyway 🤣

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад

      I am sure some women police will come for me sha 😅😅😅

  • @upscaleavenue
    @upscaleavenue 6 дней назад +1

    My attraction is typically restricted to blond, blue eyed men, but jesus christ, he is a gorgeous man! Absolutely stunning 😍

  • @ngamjai2207
    @ngamjai2207 3 года назад +16

    My german boyfriend is respectful and gentleman

  • @moniquenavarro4131
    @moniquenavarro4131 Год назад

    ❤this is the best ever!!!! U guys rock, it was amazing 😍

  • @moraien3278
    @moraien3278 3 года назад +14

    About spliting the bill:
    German women often like to split the bill. They are independend and don't need/want to be treated like their helpless. They also don't expect the man to have more money than them.
    A woman who expect that the man has to pay is often seen as selfish and egocentric.

    • @anushka6559
      @anushka6559 3 года назад +3

      Thank you for this comment

    • @journee8724
      @journee8724 3 года назад +6

      Coz they're Feminists

    • @booboobunny5655
      @booboobunny5655 3 года назад +6

      Seriously?

    • @keiraxxx74
      @keiraxxx74 3 года назад +1

      @@journee8724 lol german man are also feminist so?

    • @journee8724
      @journee8724 3 года назад

      @@keiraxxx74 Oh Lord... you sound really ignorant

  • @thesunisout2858
    @thesunisout2858 Год назад +17

    German people are hard work to date.

  • @aryunakhalzarova6579
    @aryunakhalzarova6579 3 года назад +3

    Nice conversation 😊 keep up the good work 😊

  • @lesliearias8804
    @lesliearias8804 3 года назад +10

    🕵🏾‍♀️🕵🏾‍♀️🕵🏾‍♀️ Here a peruvia trying to understamd a german man 🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️ .... He looks very kind 🤗
    You girl looks too prettt too 🤩

  • @anitatumeka1466
    @anitatumeka1466 2 года назад +7

    Where to find these German guys in Cape Town South Africa?

    • @blessingncube2935
      @blessingncube2935 Год назад

      Online online hun im in SA i found mine on line he is visiting me next week all the way from German

  • @alexiakelley4245
    @alexiakelley4245 2 года назад +7

    I lean more traditional because that’s how our culture is out in rural East Texas. But I don’t think the woman should take advantage of the man either. What I mean by that is if she wants to go out to eat constantly, it can add up to a super expensive monthly expense or if she always picks expensive restaurants then that’s also a costly monthly expense. Since I am a little traditional I also like cooking homemade meals for my boyfriend. I just say do whatever dynamic makes you happy. If you want to split everything equally than do so. If y’all both want to be traditional, then do so.

  • @princessk2450
    @princessk2450 4 года назад +3

    I love this 😂😂😂 .so good. Also You are both beautiful !

  • @veroniqueb8719
    @veroniqueb8719 Год назад +19

    I think I want date with him😅

  • @eeeeeeee417
    @eeeeeeee417 Год назад +10

    Not flirt is good ,that’s why I like German man ,I like serious type ❤❤❤

    • @JeBusInYoutbe
      @JeBusInYoutbe 4 месяца назад

      Doormats ?😂

    • @serenitygilles7064
      @serenitygilles7064 3 месяца назад

      ugh I love attention so its a challenge for and the German men lol

  • @teezaraildaf5866
    @teezaraildaf5866 4 года назад +24

    Black hair red lipstick orange shirt umm 🤔🇩🇪 🤣
    Love the video good chemistry a lot of enlightening information ♡ love the look too girl u killing it
    Support and love from ur african sis

    • @Waleochronicles
      @Waleochronicles  4 года назад +7

      🤣🤣🤣 Omg this is so funny cos I didnt even notice the combo until you mentioned it. I must really love Germany then if I am representing it in my appearance 🤣🤣 Thanks for the kind words and support. 😊😊

    • @Astrofrank
      @Astrofrank 4 года назад +1

      Makes the German colours sexy. ;-)

  • @dswan5173
    @dswan5173 3 года назад +7

    He’s totally not my type but his dimples mesh well with mine.

  • @channelchanel123
    @channelchanel123 3 года назад +1

    Great video 👏👏
    Lovely conversation 💓

  • @val-schaeffer1117
    @val-schaeffer1117 2 года назад +21

    I have rarely ever seen interracial couples, that too living in multicultural Frankfurt for about 10 years.
    Except elderly German divorced men in "relationship" with much younger South East Asian women.