the old you can’t live here (staying consistent in the new year, change & leveling up)

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  • Опубликовано: 24 янв 2025

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  • @sophomorphia
    @sophomorphia 20 дней назад +176

    “You feel stuck because a better version of you wants to exist but can’t in the environment that you are living in right now.” Yep, that about sums it up. My life has been regressing so much recently and I wish I knew how to fit it.

    • @rickyruiz2447
      @rickyruiz2447 20 дней назад +5

      Well she covered it well, baby steps and little improvements and eventually you get some clarity on the way forward, sometimes those moments of clarity and the action of moving forward happen so fast and naturally that they don't hit you with the euphoria you expect when exceeding your own expectations. You are more than what you feel yourself to be right now, don't let circumstances define you.

    • @sophomorphia
      @sophomorphia 20 дней назад +3

      Extremely well. Succinctly, that’s what made it sting so much. I don’t think I’m her target audience. I kind of just stumbled onto the channel the best part of a year ago and keep watching because she is interesting and her videos are unlike what I am in the habit of watching. I try to emulate the parts that I am able to, also a part of me is living vicariously like “Oh, this is what healthy people look like!” love that for them. Being vague as I don’t want to overshare or be overly dramatic which are things I am historically prone at doing. Suffice to say, I am profoundly mentally ill and exist on the fringe of society. Thriving is the ultimate goal but it’s lofty, I struggle with merely existing.

    • @danieneit6830
      @danieneit6830 20 дней назад +4

      ​@sophomorphia you might not think so, but I think you're exactly her target audience. These messages are reaching you (and stinging) for a reason. Sometimes those few things far outside our comfort zones are the most influential. Nothing wrong or strange in that. In the end, it's hard to come to many of these conclusions without a history of mental illness and trauma. You aren't being dramatic for having a past and present condition that affects you. Be kind to yourself, friend. You remind me of some of my most beloved people. I've seen them, seen myself, struggle through the swirling depths of profound mental illness. And I've seen them survive long enough to start living. I'm sure your lofty dreams of thriving are beautiful. I think you deserve to be the person you see in them. In yourself. I hope you think you deserve it too. And if not, then I hope you realize how deserving you are of it in the future.

    • @sophomorphia
      @sophomorphia 18 дней назад +1

      @@danieneit6830 thank you for the kind words, they mean a lot. I do, most days at least. It’s all a work in progress. Hope you and your friends continue living and growing :)

    • @kathleenkaleookalanismith8724
      @kathleenkaleookalanismith8724 16 дней назад

      I think I feel stuck because I’ve reached a mental and emotional plateau. I’m thinking that of if I open myself up wider to living life, then I will not be stuck anymore. I wish you inspiration and clarity!! ❤

  • @danieneit6830
    @danieneit6830 20 дней назад +35

    "I think that trying our best and failing consistently is better than not trying at all." Never better said. As an artist I've found myself fully embracing failure as a necessary part of learning and growing and becoming who I've always known I must be. Without failure, I'd never learn what it is that I AM good at and what it is I CAN do for myself and what I should ask for help with (Don't forget you can ask for help. It is okay. Everyone needs help. It is okay.) I find myself actively seeking out failure, experimenting and allowing myself to play freely and fail and appreciate myself for it, rather than punishing myself for "not being good enough" to do things perfectly everytime, all the time, and on the first attempt. As always, fantastic video. Thank you very much for sharing!

    • @inayah0
      @inayah0  20 дней назад +4

      This is so encouraging to hear- thank YOU!

  • @imzebb
    @imzebb 20 дней назад +36

    as a creative, I tend to go all in from the beginning and work blazingly fast. I thought I mastered the craft and depression was unrelated to my work. then years later I figured out taking smaller steps makes life a lot easier. haven't gone back yet, and I can still work fast when I want to.

  • @Rikarki
    @Rikarki 20 дней назад +29

    I want to try more. For myself. Because I know I deserve it. I will try more. I'm trying more.

  • @jtrmsch4385
    @jtrmsch4385 20 дней назад +17

    What timing! I just moved to the UK to study abroad and will be on my own for the first time ever. Having to navigate this new change was a bit daunting but hearing all of this is very reassuring and exciting

  • @cuffedjeans7320
    @cuffedjeans7320 18 дней назад +8

    i'm stuck living with my parents while i study undergrad, life feels so busy that i don't know when i'll be able to pick up a job. i'm desperate to change and grow and break out of this shell, but i can't afford my own space yet and it's exhausting. i'm trying to focus on the mental aspect of it all, but i can't shake the feeling that it would be worlds easier if i had a space to truly call mine, to spread out and be me. it's a "hurry up and wait" scenario, and it sucks.
    that aside, this video (and all of your videos) have been a help during a difficult and confusing time in my life. thank you, and happy new year :)

    • @inayah0
      @inayah0  18 дней назад +7

      I completely understand the exhaustion and confusion, i wanna make a video about this exact topic soon

    • @redmimii__x
      @redmimii__x 18 дней назад

      feels. same situ

  • @waterlilymochi
    @waterlilymochi 20 дней назад +13

    This is not only my favorite channel for seeking inspiration and advice, but also my comfort channel 💜 Love you inayah, and thank you so much for your videos. Happy New Year! 💌 And I'm wishing you all the best! ✨

  • @KamisatoElias
    @KamisatoElias 18 дней назад +25

    Best thing for me to be consistent with positive change is reframing discomfort into a symptom of improvement. It’s a sign saying “yes you’re getting better”. Like conditioning yourself to want the discomfort because you know it leads to something better.

  • @Sleepewalker
    @Sleepewalker 16 дней назад +2

    Omg! What a divine timing! Since November I was feeling really low and depressed, and I realized that I needed to change things before the negative feelings grow... It's weird to have the feeling that you're are changing and don't know where to start or how to manage the things that you don't like anymore and how to make other know that you're not that person that allow them in the past.

  • @floralfaun
    @floralfaun 19 дней назад +1

    The space you're in is SO whimsical!!! 💕✨ I would adore to see a room or home tour 🧚🏻‍♀️🌷 Also I swear you get prettier in every new video!!!

  • @theshowofdozzy1243
    @theshowofdozzy1243 18 дней назад +3

    what divine timing; everything you said, answered anything I needed right now.
    I respect your words and wisdom.
    thank you x

  • @xarixiaoo4503
    @xarixiaoo4503 19 дней назад +1

    Inayah, I absolutely love your videos and I'm so grateful to have discovered your channel! You explain your thoughts and reflections in such a clear and relatable way that it makes me feel truly understood. Your advice is always practical and gives actionable steps that I can actually follow. Thank you for all that you do-please keep coming up with your amazing ideas!

  • @BrieGarda
    @BrieGarda 19 дней назад

    Thank you for the beautiful & touching new year sentiment. It's all words that I truly resonated with and left me feeling hopeful about the new year & change as opposed to getting worked up about how I'm going to make all these giant goals come into fruition as quickly as possible. I deeply appreciate it, thank you

  • @c.8192
    @c.8192 13 дней назад +2

    I love your videos so much. They are such a safe space. 🤍

  • @phoebetanrrrr
    @phoebetanrrrr 13 дней назад

    you’re so pretty🥰 and powerful

  • @Weirdesttheatherkid
    @Weirdesttheatherkid 20 дней назад +4

    This arrived just in the right time♡

  • @Thatgirl_xoxox
    @Thatgirl_xoxox 20 дней назад +2

    This is exactly what I needed!

  • @Nikki-ub5li
    @Nikki-ub5li 19 дней назад

    Please don't stop making these contentssss,i really loveeee ur vids🥺❤️,its so comforting,ily

  • @Bydumplings
    @Bydumplings 13 дней назад

    Thank you for making this video, i downloaded it by the way. So, i could listen to it everyday ❤

  • @gioelesforza2505
    @gioelesforza2505 18 дней назад +2

    This video might save my mental health, let's see, I am 3 minutes in

  • @seduless
    @seduless 20 дней назад +6

    these days we’re used to living a fast paced life and when we start a new project (whether that’s creative or related to something else) we want to see the perfect results in a short amount of time. it’s not realistic. we tend to forget life is not about the results but about the journey, the amount of time to reach a certain result should be a source of excitement for us. the end result truly wouldn’t be as sweet if we could achieve it with the snap of a finger. same goes for the changes we’re trying to do to ourselves. hopefully we all can remember this year that consistency is more valuable to us than seeing the immediate changes or results.

  • @jilliangleason4
    @jilliangleason4 18 дней назад

    Thank you darlin ☺️ (btw your home is decorated BEAUTIFULLY!)

  • @selma444
    @selma444 20 дней назад +8

    Please make a video for us on how to be positive. Negative thoughts have killed me.

    • @KiraUtley
      @KiraUtley 20 дней назад +2

      Learn the power of now and how negativity cannot exist in the now, only the past and future projections. Recommend you read or listen to the book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

    • @sofmathew
      @sofmathew 20 дней назад +2

      I’d love to see this topic in a video as well!
      I’ve been recently also feeling this way and something I felt was really helpful was focusing on daily gratitude. Writing it down - and it can be something as small as seeing a pretty tree on a walk - was helpful to physically see positivity in my life. It also helped with gradually starting to naturally approach things in a positive way.

    • @sophomorphia
      @sophomorphia 20 дней назад

      My understanding is that chasing happiness is often folly and can only be obtained as a byproduct of living a meaningful and fulfilling life. Basic needs, family, friends, food/water, sleep etc, a job that you don’t hate, a hobby (in my opinion 2 or 3, something physical, something intellectual, and something creative). A good life is holistic.

    • @LesChicosDolci
      @LesChicosDolci 20 дней назад +1

      You can unload the negative thougts into journals, you can store them there.

    • @KamisatoElias
      @KamisatoElias 18 дней назад +1

      By realising negativity actually serves no purpose. We can choose to discard negative thoughts and twist it into something positive. Yes this is hard but it’s why some of the happiest people may be living in far worse condition than yourself. Reframe your perspective, have gratitude

  • @AndreaAlanis-uq5kv
    @AndreaAlanis-uq5kv 20 дней назад

    Everything you say is so calming and inspiring

  • @senazii
    @senazii 18 дней назад +2

    In my head , we're friends

  • @milkparty4373
    @milkparty4373 20 дней назад +1

    inayah you are always on point

  • @DylanWanoa
    @DylanWanoa 20 дней назад

    I enjoy your depth.
    All the best,
    Dyl

  • @victoria.eeveelution
    @victoria.eeveelution 20 дней назад +1

    Thank you for this great video! Again, it's so inspiring ✨️

  • @anaoicar
    @anaoicar 20 дней назад +1

    Very well thought video. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  • @StephenBelcher-k6p
    @StephenBelcher-k6p 19 дней назад

    “ New Rose/The Damned.” INAYAh ❤❤

  • @Hera3.14
    @Hera3.14 20 дней назад +1

    You are as insightful as you are beautiful❤️

  • @hactxanmlibabayeva9391
    @hactxanmlibabayeva9391 16 дней назад

    Your thougts are so fantastic 💞

  • @amelie-s3f
    @amelie-s3f 20 дней назад +1

    inspiring. thank you🤍

  • @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo
    @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo 20 дней назад +1

    Nobody can keep the true number with me.C4 is me never control.

  • @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo
    @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo 20 дней назад +1

    Yes inayah you so perrty im look ❤🎉😊is easy done by tip number in seletion.

  • @StephenBelcher-k6p
    @StephenBelcher-k6p 19 дней назад

    :” ABBA AMEN INAyAH.”One ❤

  • @renellee
    @renellee 20 дней назад

    Please create a podcastttt😣💓

    • @inayah0
      @inayah0  20 дней назад +2

      Stream Flowering Philosophies wherever you listen to your podcasts x

  • @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo
    @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo 20 дней назад +2

    Happy new year Darling ❤dont thing bad im just help only in share horse racing.dear

  • @GasStationSushiiii
    @GasStationSushiiii 20 дней назад

    Also you look like and give off disney princess energy

  • @camilagonzalezcardona15
    @camilagonzalezcardona15 12 дней назад

    i love you

  • @SavitojSidhu
    @SavitojSidhu 15 дней назад

    you are beautiful 💗🎀🩷💅🏻💓. ..which camera do you use

  • @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo
    @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo 20 дней назад +1

    This im asking you nobody love Lost in betting money$$$❤ thing before share ok.

  • @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo
    @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo 20 дней назад +1

    May im following you .want group are you join in horse racing let me know.❤🎉😊

  • @GasStationSushiiii
    @GasStationSushiiii 20 дней назад +3

    Ahh change sucks but wow does being the same sound scary

  • @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo
    @SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo 20 дней назад +2

    if me look your perrty face make me cool felling❤🎉😊Who is Admin Modaretor must done the true to helping who need to know.😊

  • @Almazroueiii3
    @Almazroueiii3 20 дней назад

    Seconndd❤

  • @EneaRroji
    @EneaRroji 20 дней назад

    Rare Wife material

  • @FrrryRrras
    @FrrryRrras 20 дней назад +3

    Remeber Palestine in ur prayers❤🤲🤲