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*Blue* aesthetics i copied this from google: The phrase "the birds and the bees" is a metaphor for explaining the mechanics of reproduction to younger children, relying on imagery of bees pollinating and eggs hatching to substitute for a more technical explanation of sexual intercourse.
It's sad that our sexual education is in a place where we need videos likes this. But I am very glad there are people like Ellbat out there who will take up the slack.
Grape Games I agree. Parents teaching their kids about their bodies shouldn't be so tabboo and "weird", they should educate their kids on this. Although some kids have sheltering parents and don't want their precious little child to "Lose all their innocence." (Sorry for any grammar/spelling mistakes)
Adding to the consent section... i just want to say when in a relationship you still need to consent to everything you do. If you have had sex a million times with this person they can still at ANYTIME say no and it must be listened to!
Not Funny I can’t speak for anywhere else but in the UK it is mandatory that schools teach students that are aged 11+ sex ed (mine did one large class a year)
I always thought my dad would flip when I told him I was dating a woman in college. However when I did tell him, his reaction was "we can't help who we love... I mean I have a mate at work who only watches tentacle porn". Way to be cool dad
the only “sex education” class I had was in 8th grade for two weeks talking about stds. that was it. thank god for the internet cause I wouldn’t have known ANYTHING
Athena S I think we had that too and I can’t even remember ANY of it. I know pretty much nothing. But thanks to this video I’m not stumbling in the dark quite as much as before.
didn't even realise it was 45 minutes until i was like 5 minutes in and honestly i ain't even mad. god bless you for this vid. (also tbh.... just make a podcast hahah)
consent should be enthusiastic and ongoing. If it's not a "hell yes", it's a no. If it used to be a "hell yes" and it changed to "I'm not sure", it's a no. if there's no answer, it's a no.
Go for a pee after intercourse. I had a few UTI's within a year and finally the doctor asked me if I use the toilet after sex. I was confused and just said, when I need to, yeah. The doctor was shocked and told me to always use the toilet after sex to avoid UTI's. I'm 27 and nobody told me this. The sex education in the UK is shocking to say the least. Thank you for this informative video.
Aurora Sky omg yes this is so important the first few times I had sex I didn’t and had UTIs and was so confused until I found out you need to pee after sex it needs to be taught as it’s vital information
I lost my virginity to my now fiancé, who happened to put on a random playlist to kinda relax me a bit because it was my first time but not his. I lost my virginity to Hotline Bling by Drake 🙃
Omg my sex education was just my health teacher jumping straight to STDs and assuming we already knew about it. One poor girl was like “how do you know if you’ve had sex???” She genuinely did not know what sex was
One of my sex ed teachers was usually just talking about how gay sex is "unnatural". I'm glad that we weren't at the age where we take everything as the truth, because it would be sooo harmful in my opinion.
@@weronikadebinska3741 uhhhh gay sex is unnatural so he wasn't wrong, a vagina was literally made for a penis and to take sperm and give it to the eggs to reproduce, a guy on guy is anal and theres no function to it in fact your butt has 1 function lmao yes people do anal but thats just for fun and is "unnatural" because that's not your penis's function. By harmful i'm not sure what you mean because if somones gay and them being told it's unnatural to have sex with the same gender changes there perspective on things there either not gay or should be having gay sex, so yes he was right it'sm unnatural and in nature/science Wrong.
Regarding the whole "phase" question. I have been in a relationship with a woman and have had sexual experiences with several females. I am now a married woman, I'm fully committed to my husband and I love him with every part of my being. I plan to be with him for the rest of my life. Now, that being said.. many people believe that being with a woman was just a phase since I am now happily married to a man and have had children, etc. However, I would say that is incorrect. I very much would consider myself to be bi sexual. I am still very attracted to woman, my soul mate just happened to be a man.
My mothers husband found out I was dating a girl and sent her threatening messages, he then tried to say that me and her wanted to have a threesom with him.
Same here!! Through high school I believed that I was a lesbian, as I wasn't romantically interested in guys. As it turns out, I just prefer women over men. When I got into a relationship with my boyfriend, I had a lot of people call me a liar and attention seeking, all because I was with a guy. Just because I am with a guy does not mean that I lied about my sexuality. It just means that I found, like you said, my true love, who just so happens to be a guy.
I also have dated women in the past, but I now identify as straight. But my feelings at the time were genuine. My advice to anyone wondering "if it's a phase" would be to just say maybe it is, maybe it isn't. Just live your life as it is now, and do what you want with who you want, of course only if it's consensual. If you wind up with a different preference when you're older, you still won't regret doing anything in the past that you enjoyed.
@@HejMette I get what you're saying but the question was how do you know if it's a phase or not. I think it only makes sense to call it a phase if you no longer find yourself attracted to the same sex. It's not healthy to think that was a phase in your life just because you feel like you should. That would mean literally rejecting part of yourself. For me, I think it's helpful to ask yourself 2 questions. 1. Am I still attracted to the same sex? 2. If my relationship with my opposite sex partner were to end for any reason... Would I be open to being with either gender? Or would I prefer another opposite sex partner? If you lean in favor of the same sex in both questions... I would be confident to say it's not a phase. Just who you are. I'm most definitely bisexual.
Literally DON’T double bag it though. Using two condoms on top of one another causes friction in a way condoms are not designed to withstand and makes it likelier that they’ll break.
“don’t come out unless you feel safe” is something media generally neglects to discuss, it is hard but sometimes you just need to wait until you can get out
ÇR4CKH34D_ ÇU7TUR3 I am currently in exactly the same situation, I have a girlfriend and we’re completely comfortable with friends knowing (I never even “came out” I just started dating a girl and there were never any questions asked) and even being together publicly in school but we are in no position for either of us to cone out to our families at the moment.
@@sarahjones6555 oh...well lucky you for having supportive friends, the students at our school are extremely homophobic and our friends would disown us if they knew lol
on the issue of consent: someone giving consent to one form of sexual activity (e.g. kissing) does not mean that consent is granted for another form of sexual activity (e.g. sex). in other words, kissing someone doesn't mean they consent to you having sex with them. please understand this.
I'm that friend who educates the other friends about sex and not the jokes, like i'll be completely serious about it whether gay lesbian or straight sex. The teachers have NOTHING on me dhbvjdjv
My friends LITERALLY thought that sex was supposed to be painful for girls because according to them they “thought the noises were screams of pain.” 🤦🏾♀️ Catholic girls school sex Ed for you.
i legit had to give like a few of my friends the talk and all these younger kids come to me for advice on relationships and sexual advice, keep in mind that I am also a 17 year old virgin who learnt all this stuff from the fact there was an atrocious sex ed class in school so i took it upon myself to read heaps on various issues and topics to the point now where i'm even giving friends who've had sexual encounters advice. What has my life become.
i didn’t search for it, but i sure as hell am glad it came up. this needs to be taught in every school. especially in america. sex ed here is just STIs. that’s it. and that’s common knowledge.
Could be your hormones too, maybe check with your gp. Depends if you gone through puberty normally etc will effect hormones. Could also be time thing or not meeting right guy
I grew up in a family that made sex a taboo and a huge no no and until maybe 5 or 6 years ago I saw it as something dirty and wrong… I don’t think there is anything wrong with my hormones or that I’m asexual. I think I’m just a late bloomer because of nurture.
freesimorgh Same fam I was in the hospital a lot at a teenager and my boyfriend was really religious so I just never really got around to it. Now it’s just not really a priority especially since trust is a big thing for me and I’m not about that tinder life style
@freesimorgh as long as your happy with yourself right now that's all that matters. There is no right time to have sex or to want sex. Everybody is different, some people want to have sex all the time, some people are happy to have sex every now and again. And some people can have relationships where they don't have sex at all. It is all about personal choice. There's no such thing as normal
"We don't need to talk about the details behind intercourse, why? Because we're *abstinent* " literal quote from my health class back in freshman year :))) Edit: Just felt like sharing, we also learned what STD's were but not how to prevent them outside of "Don't have sex" they said, "There are things you can use to be safer but the only way to be truly safe from these diseases is to practice abstinence." like dude, this is a public school. I don't need this bullshit, you showed us literal footage of a baby being born without warning us but talking about sex/condoms is too far?
Same, I'm kind of shocked about the comments here and how bad their sex ed was. In Germany we has Sex ed every few years for months! I'm glad that we actually learned something even though I wish it was even more detailed, especially about Sex between only men or only women. And asexuality! There is so much more to know for us young people. I really didn't like that we didn't talk about gender identities or sexualities so I made a power point presentation and presented in front of my class 👌👌
Good for you in my country even saying the word sex is a taboo... obviously had no kind of sex Ed not even about STDs but had a lot of religious meetings and preaching sessions instead...guess who's an atheist now?
@@lilmeowmoew8542 oh, I'm in Indonesia. There's no sex ed, but every Friday there's two religious meetings, each for Muslims and Christians that lasts for two hours and no one likes it. I literally had to go to the internet to learn about it (there's a lot more, and I'm in a public school). And since that topic is taboo in Indonesia, I had to do it secretively. But many students turned to p*rn. The only place that has sex ed is a small province in Java, from what I've heard. We were only taught about puberty and how pregnancy works, not how pregnancy happens, and that's it. Puberty and how pregnancy works. It's really screwed up.
Consent should be Sober ( not under any influence) Willing( you shouldn’t be unsure. People don’t need to plead you) Reversible( you can change your mind) Specific (consent for kissing is different than consent from sex) Verbal( not a head shake it’s a yes it’s permission and or it’s a no)
ϯհε ʍαɾƘနʍαη if you’re mutually rubbing each other and kissing and taking off clothes it’s pretty safe to say you both want sex. Are deaf people stupid or something?
Okay I just want this out there, saying no ISNT consent, saying yes IS consent. NOT SAYING ANYTHING ISNT CONSENT! Wearing “revealing “ clothes isn’t consent. Some of you out there really need to understand this.
The best way I’ve heard consent talked about: if the person doesn’t want tea, or physically can’t drink tea, DONT GIVE THEM THE TEA!! THEY DONT WANT IT! DONT DO IT!!!
@@notfunny1410 you'd be surprised how many people don't realise that 'talking someone into it' doesn't equal consent, or that consent for one thing does not equal consent for anything. I've spoken to people who didn't realize that they had been assualted (for example, women who had been 'stealthed' by their partner removing a condom during sex and not telling her), and people that didn't realize they had sexually assaulted someone (for example, someone who had initiated a sex act with someone while the other person was asleep). We think of rape and sexual assault as being the creepy stranger in the alley, but it's actually far more likely to be someone you know, and even trusted, and it doesn't have to be a 'violent' act in the traditional sense (although obviously it can be very traumatic and violating even without physical force).
ChickenOfAwesome sorry hun but someone begging you to have sex and you giving in ISNT RAPE. Rape is forceful and/or threatening. You couldve said no and left.
I loved this video very much! ❤️ I am a mom of a 14 year old girl and I am sending her the link to your video! This was so informative and you were so "professional" talking about it. You weren't making jokes out of it, or trying to be funny with it. I greatly appreciate this video! 👏Well done!👏We need more people like you in the world!!
@@Gamper1 i don't think so. It's horrible when you have parents who consider any form of sex a taboo. It may be embarrassing, but I would greatly appreciate it if my mother has sent me this. Some children don't watch content like this at all and wouldn't ever search about it on the Internet, so that may be the only way to find out.
Crystal Tatum the fact that you’re educating your daughter is mind blowing to me. I believe that no matter what your believes are, you should educate your children on sexuality and sexual identity. Because at the end of the day, self awareness and safety is more important than your kids sexual identity.
Hi, just for clarification, asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction, rather than a lack of a sex drive. Someone who is asexual can begin a sexual relationship, and may have a high sex drive, they just experience a little to no sexual attraction. Asexuality is also an umbrella term, so for example a demisexual may experience sexual attraction towards someone with whom they have already established an friendship and connection, and gray-aexuals experience sexual attraction rarely, perhaps once or twice. These terms can apply for many different experiences under asexuality. Asexuals may be sexually repulsed, meaning they have no interest in sex, or as I said may have a high sex drive and enjoy sex itself. Someone who identifies as aromatic experiences no romantic attraction. Again, this is different for everyone, so some asexuals may have a point at which sexual acts become uncomfortable, e.g. holding hands and cuddling is fine but certain places of contact are not. Sorry for the long comment but because asexuality tends to be something less people are aware of, the definitions of it can be a bit murky and I just wanted to clarify. Hopefully it all makes sense.
@@Suren2122 a demisexual is someone who only experiences sexual attraction towards someone once they have an emotional connection with them, whether that be through a romantic relationship or in friendship.
I think it's important that while we normalize people being comfortable with sex and confident with sexuality, it's also important that we accept people who aren't comfortable with sex, and don't put them down as prudes or losers or whatever. sexual trauma, anxiety, or even just personal preference can make people very uncomfortable with the idea of it, and I think that should be accepted and sympathized with. with that being said, basic education is super important even if it somewhat uncomfortable for some people
You're right. A lot of teachers just avoid the subject, because they either feel uncomfortable or don't know how to communicate with teenagers and instead of finding ways to do so, most of them decide to overlook it. Also, there are a lot of children\teenagers who feel uncomfortable with the idea of sex, but that shouldn't be an obstacle to having access to basic sex education. Also, regarding the traumas and other worries about sex many people deal with, you're right.
Totally agree. You must always be sure that you want to have sex, because even if you have a regular partner, if you don't feel like having sex YOU JUST SHOULDN'T. Sexual trauma can just as well come from YOU not accepting to YOURSELF THAT YOU JUST DON'T FEEL LIKE IT. It happened to me once with my boyfriend, and he was so confused. You shouldn't agree to sex because "that's the norm", you should only agree to sex when you feel like it.
I am really proud of myself. I really love your videos, but I knew that I couldn't make it through a 45 minute video about sex, because it's incredibly triggering for me, however! I still wanted to watch it and I have successfully made it to 24 minutes until I started dissociating. I will now stop watching this video and ground myself. The reason why I'm really proud of myself is that, years ago, I probably couldn't even have made it to two minutes without bursting into tears or something and/or having flashbacks. I want to take the opportunity to remind people that you can orgasm when you're being raped and it doesn't mean that it's your fault or that you secretly enjoyed it. The body is made to react in that kind of way, whether you want it or not. (I don't know if you mentioned that later in the video, so I'm still saying it.) Also, it really does get better. It takes years and years and years, but it does get better. Lots of love to all of you.
I’m glad you were able to do this. I’m also happy there’s some awareness that you can orgasm while being raped because my mother said that a man couldn’t orgasm while he was being raped.
i was scared to watch this video because i was r*ped at 14 yrs old, and i didn’t tell anyone until 2 years later, when the person was out of my life for almost a year. i didn’t know anything about sex (as he was my first partner) and i was young . i have another significant other and i was scared to do anything sexual with him because of my experience as a child. he didn’t even know what happened to me until later on in our relationship. thankfully we took things slow and made sure everything felt right. this is a really important video (especially the part about consent) and it’s really good that you’re educating people about sex and everything else in the video. sorry for the long comment thank you ❤️
if you've gone to the doc and they said there's nothing wrong, but it still hurts, don't be afraid to get a 2nd, 3rd, 10th opinion. Best case scenario, there is nothing to worry about but if there is a problem it needs to be found. My friend ended having surgery for endo and she went to 5 doctors that said nothing was wrong. Look after yourself lovelies xx
I was sitting on my floor, coloring in an adult coloring book, listening to this video. My sister came into my room, glared at me and told me I was disgusting to be watching videos like this. It’s extremely rare that I watch videos about sex, I don’t even masturbate due to a bunch of stuff that happens when I was a child. In the end I may not even try to have sex till I’m married. But I have NEVER and will NEVER tell someone there disgusting or that it’s wrong.
Maybe have headphones in lol? This video isn't bad or disgusting or anything but look, if you're gonna watch videos about sex you should be wearing headphones. A lot of people think this video might be inappropriate (even tho it's literally just educational). I know that if I was hearing this from another room when I didn't have context for the whole video I would most likely also call it gross.
@@catemu3440 because people might hear something and not have the context for it and misunderstand. It's not socially accepted to just talk openly about sex so it's perceived to be disgusting.
Baby Lupa because there's probably people who don't understand the educational value of this video, and just get offended with the language. So basically respect for others opinions.
Christ the bit about the personal growth at 7 minutes hit hard like it's 100% accurate... I had a 4 year relationship from age 13-17 then a 1.5 year relationship age 17-19 and now I'm here like... not even knowing what it is I want from my own life. The only thing I know is being with someone, I don't know how to function alone and what it is I want to do with my life because I've always moulded my life around someone else rather than living for myself and focusing on my own personal development
I mean yeah, but make sure they're the right size, not being weird but I got like average ones and the little fellas was being crushed, I thought that was normal and my first time... not ideal, at least she enjoyed it XD
Discharge tells you where you are in your cycle. When it's more see through and watery that means your fertile. It's easier for the little spirmys to swim through. And you'll notice after you ovulate before your period it will become more white and thicker. It also changes when your pregnant! Arnt our bodies awesome! Giving us loads of little clues as to what's going on 🙃
Thank you for this because I always noticed the change but never knew why and I thought it was reason for concern and more people need to know about it.
@Madalyn Wix it's completely normal. Puberty is a long process that starts well before you actually start you period and your body has a while to work up to it. Your hormones fluctuate a lot in the months and even years leading up to menarche (first period).
I swear I’m bisexual but I question it. It’s mainly because I’m scared of what people think and that there are people who arnt accepting. I’m still mostly sure I’m bisexual. Thx this helped me. I’m also 13 almost 14 so I’m could be a phase because I keep getting told that.
literally thank u so much, i figured out i was bi two years ago and my family isn't thrilled at the idea.. they keep saying i'll grow out of it. that bothers me so much but now it's starting to really get to me. i am concerned about it being a phase but i mean,,,, girls are too dang hot (im a girl btw)
And honestly, if you are feeling like your sexuality is different from what it was, say, a year ago, that’s completely fine!! Sexuality is fluid. I’ve changed my sexuality 5 times, just cause as I grow older things change. It doesn’t make your previous sexualities any less valid.
Me being 23 and still disgusted by the idea of having someone touch my skin or see me naked... a lot of people whom I have had "mature" conversations about this would look at me like ????? "But you're 23" always felt weird as f for that. Maybe one day I wont feel grossed out by that lol
Moshi have you ever heard of asexuality? you could just have low sex drive but if you feel “disgusted” and just very uninterested i think theres a chance you could be asexual which is TOTALLY normal and okay. its a part of the lgbtqqia community and i think you should read about it because it seems like it could help you figure out who you are❤️
I by NO means want to tell you what you are because sexually is incredibly personal but theres such a thing as asexuality where you don’t experience sexual attraction.
In relation to the “is the first time always awkward/bad” question: Sexplanations mentioned in a video that having a conversation about sex with your partner before your first time made it more likely that it would be a positive experience.
For those don’t know There is a thing called Aromantic and Asexual - part of the LGBT+ community Aromantic - having no desire for romantic relationships (don’t feel different or bad for being this way because it’s who you are) don’t let people pressure you Asexual - lack of sexual attraction to others or lack of sexual desire. There is a spectrum to asexuality but people don’t feel bad or stupid if you identify as these. It’s completely normal if this is you I hope that this can educate anyone who reads this and learn what it means. Educate yourself more if you want to I hope this helps☺️
I notice a lot of people around my age are like scared to ask for consent. But i must say asking for consent is one of the sexiest thing. Youknow having basic human decency.
@@notfunny1410 Consent is often assumed. If this assumption is incorrect, it is assault. But, calling every sexual interaction where consent was not explicitly stated rape or assault is incorrect as the assumption can be correct even though you should always make it explicitly clear.
see i’m in 7th grade and my sex ed was actually not very informational so i’m glad that there’s people like you out here who explains it so much better than flipping teachers
I'm in 7th grade to and my sex Ed class got cancelled because of quarantine so this is my sex Ed class and this is way more informative then the class will ever be!
random detail... actually warmed my heart when you said "people with vaginas" instead of just women when talking specifically about people who have that anatomy
Heads up to anyone who wants to use a dental dam and it’s not commercially available; you can use a new condom and cut it down the center. It helps if they’re flavored but it’s not necessary, if it’s unflavored just lick the “inside” part or the cut condom. You can also use a latex/ non latex glove and apply the same technique (it tastes better). *Do not use plastic wrap as it is porous and will not protect you from STI’s.* Hope this helps.
41:15 thrush is a yeast (fungal) infection. BV, bacterial vaginosis is a bacterial infection which is sexually transmitted. BV can have similar symptoms to thrush
Well, if you are that desperate, it isn't good. You have to really think about what you want in a partner and for yourself. It's okay to be single! Focus on yourself. What do you love?
Connor Bell I assure you you will have better luck finding and forming a relationship once you become comfortable and content with your self and secure in your single life.
this is honestly why i'm subscribed, bc there are little people in this platform who are honest about topics like this, and there are even more people who are afraid to talk about this especially in places where the word sex itself is taboo (plus i haven't even finished the video and i already know this is going to give me more education than any sex ed class lmao jk)
My school doesn’t have a sex Ed class I know quite a lot of other middle schoolers who I know are having sex. I am not sure if they really understand how easy it is to get pregnant. I only know because my mom was a teen mom and really informs me on protection. Not just abstinence, protection even though she would rather me just not have sex.
@@grxy0-k5e shut the fuck up lmao who are you to comment on someone else's body or identity? Stick to improving yourself chief because clearly you need to work on you
trial & error :) try different contraceptions until you find one that’s right for you. if you can’t find one condoms are always an option unless it isn’t because you allergic to latex
if you can’t find a alternative like iud or something and you “have a oopsie” for lack of a better phrase there’s so many options out for you plan b (if in time), abortion, adoption
Just wanna say I didn’t have sex until I was 22 and we had just got engaged. That was 4 years ago and am now married to him (it will be a year in June). I’m so glad I waited and I feel so secure now. We’ve been together for 7 years now so I am glad we built a foundation without sex first ☺️
i'm asexual and my one experience was traumatizing, i wasn't ready then, i'm not ready now, i was pressured, and well maybe in the moment i tought it was consentual, but i regret right after, i regret everyday not being a virgin
same. i tried for a few years, forced myself to do it (always with the same person) and every single time it ended the same way. i lied to him, and to myself, because i didn't know what was wrong with me. after 5 years i'm still confused but i'm starting to get it and accept it. it's a slow process though...
bruh why did we have a sex ed class ? just play this and it'll make everything better... conveyed well, and it isn't awkward/we aren't laughing and messing around because it's not our 60 year old teacher... great vid
In the topic of consent. When I was 8 years old I was at a childminders house and I was good friends with their son. This was on a day when it was childminding so there were a lot of kids around. I was the oldest kid there as someone being taken care of. Because I was good friends with their son he’d let me in his treehouse with him but nobody else, he was my age. This day he went to watch tv so I stayed in the treehouse on my iPad. His older brother who was 13 at the time I think (again I was 8) came in. I was lying in my school dress on my iPad on the floor and I felt him lau next to me. Next thing I knew his hand were down my pants. I didn’t know what to do so I lay there and did nothing just letting it happen. I didn’t say no or cause a fight. After it happened they called me for dinner and I sat there with a smile on my face the whole tome because I couldn’t comprehend what had just happened. I was too young to know it was wrong or what it meant. Another day it was a weekend and I was having a sleepover at their house. I was on the pull out bed in my friends room. He shared a bunk bed with his brother. He went to have a shower and his brother walked in. He asked me if I wanted to play on his phone and I ofc said yes as an eight year old. He gave me his phone once is climbed up the ladder to his bed with him. He put the duvet over us and touched me again. I forgot about until I was 12. I am now 14 and it haunts me every night. I cry and I have severe depression and anxiety. I am at a therapist and on medication but have never told anybody about the guy. He was only a kid to so was it wrong? Was it sexual assault? I do t know. I blame myself. The worst part is I see him to this day. HE SOMETIMES BABYSITS MY SISTERS. Only when I’m home though. I make sure they are both with me the whole time he’s at the house. ) they are younger then me. I se him every new year. Every single celebration. My new year and birthday dinners are haunted by him. Idk what to do. Sorry this is long.
That_1_cat ! TELL.SOMEONE👏 you don’t want to risk your sisters or just talk to him if he is truly sorry then he will understand if you tell him you don’t want him near your family!
I had the same thing happen to me, when i was 3 or 4. It was my cousin who did it to me, multiple times. We are ok now, he just wanted to do it and didn't know any better. He now realises how bad that was. I would say tell someone you trust about it.
i advise you to please tell someone. you said you were in therapy right? idk if you told your therapist but it's illegal for them to tell anybody else, including parents/guardians abt things like that. i rly think a great place to start in healing from this is telling your therapist. i'm so sorry you had to go through this and i hope you can move on from it
It is assault. If he was also that young it is also possible that he wasn't aware of how much he was harming you, but regardless it is wrong. You are not at fault here, he took advantage of you and your innocence. Talk about it, keeping it in won't let you move forward, just always remember YOU were a victim, YOU ARE NOT GUILTY OF ANYTHING.
One of my mates asked me when we where about 15, the difference between a guy that’s been circumcised and un-circumcised, so here I am explaining what foreskin is to a guy that had no idea what the hell I was talking about, and seemed genuinely surprised and shocked as I explained it to him. If this doesn’t show the flaws in the sex education system then I don’t know what will.
Regarding female orgasms my experience is that I had to google "how do I know if I've had an orgasm" to figure out I've had them. More recently, I don't think I can have multiple orgasms any more than my male partners can, because after I orgasm there's a comedown period where I just don't want any more stimulation, it feels unpleasant at that point. (And I know the time it takes me to rest to be up for more is enough for some guys to be up for more too.) Thank you for a lovely video!
what frustrates me so much is that when I get that "desire to pee" (13:46) I panic thinking I'm literally going to pee! This psychologically causes me to stop doing anything enjoyable and I hate it! I just can't get past it!
Go in the shower of tub, where if you actually pee yourself you can just clean it up. It happened to me to and I just need to pass that moment to let myself enojoy. You probably won't pee, but if liquid does come out, it is also normal and you should not be ashamed of it.
I’m a senior in high school and never had a sex Ed talk. We had a talk in 5th grade about puberty and that’s it. It’s kinda sad that one of the most common things is just not talked about.
Honestly you helped a lot! I haven’t seen anyone so far talking this openly about things. We can see that there’s a lot of work in this video, personal experience, resource etc and I just want you to know that we appreciate. Would like to see a part 2 if you agree. ❤️❤️❤️ thank you
I am 18 years old and I would have LOVED to have this video to watch when I was younger, I didnt have a boyfriend till 8 months ago and I am so happy that I waited and didnt settle for anyone less than what I thought I deserved because spending that time focusing on myself gave me the opportunity to grow so much more before introducing something as serious as a relationship into my life. I could not recommend it more to young people to wait for a reasonable amount of time until you start getting involved with other people that way it is truly worth it! ❤
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DARLINGS !! Sorry if this is a lil cheeky but I’d really appreciate it if you could share the video ! It’s demonetised bc of the topic and that’ll negatively impact how well it does in the algorithm. Thank you in advance !!! ALSO: Head over to @ElenaBatman on insta or leave a comment down below if you wanna ask any other questions that weren't in the vid n me or another friendly viewer will do our best to answer! instagram.com/elenabatman 💕
Ellbat do a video on burping
*Blue* aesthetics i copied this from google: The phrase "the birds and the bees" is a metaphor for explaining the mechanics of reproduction to younger children, relying on imagery of bees pollinating and eggs hatching to substitute for a more technical explanation of sexual intercourse.
Bruh yucky
Yassssssssss girllllllll
This was rlly helpful! Thx! School did not cover half of this.
It's sad that our sexual education is in a place where we need videos likes this. But I am very glad there are people like Ellbat out there who will take up the slack.
love u
fr ! school is so useless with stuff like this. 💀
I feel like parents should have there responsibility not schools
In my country we don't even have sex ed, so it is good that there are videos like this. Thanks, Ellbat!
Grape Games I agree. Parents teaching their kids about their bodies shouldn't be so tabboo and "weird", they should educate their kids on this. Although some kids have sheltering parents and don't want their precious little child to "Lose all their innocence."
(Sorry for any grammar/spelling mistakes)
Doctors: Are sexually active?
Singles know no sex partner: With quarantaine how? hjgkhfgk
This has actually taught me more in 45 minutes than a couple of months of lessons at school
Adding to the consent section... i just want to say when in a relationship you still need to consent to everything you do. If you have had sex a million times with this person they can still at ANYTIME say no and it must be listened to!
Thank you for this video!! I'm a 16 year old girl and I know multiple people who could use this. 😌
if this gets taken down i will scream. this shouldn't be taboo or evil.
Ella Tilbury agreement
Sex is for some reason evil in our modern society. Even though most teenagers dress like strippers
I might screen record the whole thing just cuz of that
@@CedarTallman the ones in high school?
GenralDmoney I'm in hs and they don't dress like strippers
This video should be shown in every sex ed class ever... it legit explains every doubt a person could have
Bless u thank you love
Maya Micallef ??? Is it the schools responsibility to teach consent, lgbt issues etc? My sex ed fell under biology.
Not Funny I can’t speak for anywhere else but in the UK it is mandatory that schools teach students that are aged 11+ sex ed (mine did one large class a year)
Agreed😂
I always thought my dad would flip when I told him I was dating a woman in college. However when I did tell him, his reaction was "we can't help who we love... I mean I have a mate at work who only watches tentacle porn". Way to be cool dad
Ahahaha love your dad
@Scisah M. woahhh mindblown man
Wow risky at.work
the only “sex education” class I had was in 8th grade for two weeks talking about stds. that was it. thank god for the internet cause I wouldn’t have known ANYTHING
This is the same thing for me and it kinda sucks that we are not more educated on things that will eventually happen in almost everyone's life.
I just learned about it couple months ago. It was very uncomfortable and weird being bi.
for us we had a 45 minute presentation on stds in 7th and 9th grade. it was the same slideshow presentation both times fml
Mine just talked about periods and ovaries 😭
Athena S I think we had that too and I can’t even remember ANY of it. I know pretty much nothing. But thanks to this video I’m not stumbling in the dark quite as much as before.
Listen to your head.
*No, no not that head*
I CACKLED AHAHA
That was a good one ngl
Hahhahahahhahw
It took me like 30 seconds to get this joke wtf
o H-
didn't even realise it was 45 minutes until i was like 5 minutes in and honestly i ain't even mad. god bless you for this vid. (also tbh.... just make a podcast hahah)
Same
I was like half an hour in and didn't even realise😭
i didn’t notice until i read this lol😂😂
IT'S 45 MINUTES!?!?!?!??
i didnt realise till i read this comment
consent should be enthusiastic and ongoing. If it's not a "hell yes", it's a no. If it used to be a "hell yes" and it changed to "I'm not sure", it's a no. if there's no answer, it's a no.
YES YES YES !!!
What if it’s “yes”?
@@poopfart65 they should be enthusiastic.....
Zentachi XD how does yes mean no?
@@crispycharcoal9640 it really shouldn't be a "yes or no" situation it should be a we're just doing it!...jesus I'm really not good with English😣😂
Go for a pee after intercourse. I had a few UTI's within a year and finally the doctor asked me if I use the toilet after sex. I was confused and just said, when I need to, yeah. The doctor was shocked and told me to always use the toilet after sex to avoid UTI's. I'm 27 and nobody told me this. The sex education in the UK is shocking to say the least. Thank you for this informative video.
Aurora Sky omg yes this is so important the first few times I had sex I didn’t and had UTIs and was so confused until I found out you need to pee after sex it needs to be taught as it’s vital information
I learned this the hard way too
but what if you don't have to? Drink a lot of water before?
everyone is saying that their sex ed is really bad but in my country we dont even have sex ed sooo here i am watching this video
Liv idk it’s never happened to me where I don’t need to pee afterwards I always do 😂
I lost my virginity to my now fiancé, who happened to put on a random playlist to kinda relax me a bit because it was my first time but not his.
I lost my virginity to Hotline Bling by Drake 🙃
Llamazfordayz the dream
tbh, wouldn't mind lmaoo
Oh dear😳that's hilarious😂
I had sex to bodies by drowning pool and then gave my first blowjob to people=shit by slipknot. I mean it was fun
That's amazing🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't think I ever really had a sex-ed class. I just got a class about paedophilia, consent, and straight protection. Damn, I'm lesbian
Thats so nuts to me honestly, sex ed needs to step up
Well at least u had one, in my country they just tell u if have sex u are sinning 🤦♀️ , and then they expect teenagers to know about protection
sis sex-ed is like prohibited in my country, you're kinda still lucky
Lol me too
I thought you were American, I’m sorry I’ll leave
Omg my sex education was just my health teacher jumping straight to STDs and assuming we already knew about it. One poor girl was like “how do you know if you’ve had sex???” She genuinely did not know what sex was
Thats sad...
Same. It's literally the only thing we talked about and then we moved on after one or two days.
One of my sex ed teachers was usually just talking about how gay sex is "unnatural". I'm glad that we weren't at the age where we take everything as the truth, because it would be sooo harmful in my opinion.
Caroline Roberts sounds like set 8
@@weronikadebinska3741 uhhhh gay sex is unnatural so he wasn't wrong, a vagina was literally made for a penis and to take sperm and give it to the eggs to reproduce, a guy on guy is anal and theres no function to it in fact your butt has 1 function lmao yes people do anal but thats just for fun and is "unnatural" because that's not your penis's function. By harmful i'm not sure what you mean because if somones gay and them being told it's unnatural to have sex with the same gender changes there perspective on things there either not gay or should be having gay sex, so yes he was right it'sm unnatural and in nature/science Wrong.
even though I'm also British, I'm in awe of your accent hahaha
Rhianna x same I’m a northerner so my accent is kinda ugly haha
@@penw4040 ahh I love Northern accents
Rhianna x aw thanks b
New Castle? LOL
@@jsmasters77 yeahhh, I love most accents
Regarding the whole "phase" question.
I have been in a relationship with a woman and have had sexual experiences with several females.
I am now a married woman, I'm fully committed to my husband and I love him with every part of my being. I plan to be with him for the rest of my life.
Now, that being said.. many people believe that being with a woman was just a phase since I am now happily married to a man and have had children, etc. However, I would say that is incorrect. I very much would consider myself to be bi sexual. I am still very attracted to woman, my soul mate just happened to be a man.
Rikki Hurt I love the way you put this oh my gosh. It just makes it clear and simple to understand! I’m glad you found your forever person! 😁
My mothers husband found out I was dating a girl and sent her threatening messages, he then tried to say that me and her wanted to have a threesom with him.
Same here!! Through high school I believed that I was a lesbian, as I wasn't romantically interested in guys. As it turns out, I just prefer women over men. When I got into a relationship with my boyfriend, I had a lot of people call me a liar and attention seeking, all because I was with a guy. Just because I am with a guy does not mean that I lied about my sexuality. It just means that I found, like you said, my true love, who just so happens to be a guy.
I also have dated women in the past, but I now identify as straight. But my feelings at the time were genuine. My advice to anyone wondering "if it's a phase" would be to just say maybe it is, maybe it isn't. Just live your life as it is now, and do what you want with who you want, of course only if it's consensual. If you wind up with a different preference when you're older, you still won't regret doing anything in the past that you enjoyed.
@@HejMette I get what you're saying but the question was how do you know if it's a phase or not. I think it only makes sense to call it a phase if you no longer find yourself attracted to the same sex. It's not healthy to think that was a phase in your life just because you feel like you should. That would mean literally rejecting part of yourself.
For me, I think it's helpful to ask yourself 2 questions.
1. Am I still attracted to the same sex?
2. If my relationship with my opposite sex partner were to end for any reason... Would I be open to being with either gender? Or would I prefer another opposite sex partner?
If you lean in favor of the same sex in both questions... I would be confident to say it's not a phase. Just who you are.
I'm most definitely bisexual.
Literally DON’T double bag it though. Using two condoms on top of one another causes friction in a way condoms are not designed to withstand and makes it likelier that they’ll break.
I didn't know, thanks for the information!
But you SHOULD use both a condom and birth control (assuming PIV), two forms of birth control is the best thing to do
I came to the comments purely to double check that someone had pointed this out. Thank you
“don’t come out unless you feel safe” is something media generally neglects to discuss, it is hard but sometimes you just need to wait until you can get out
Honestly, a couple years of waiting may be painful, but the alternative could be so so much worse x
My girlfriend and I want to come out to our parents but we're both scared so we just decided to wait til we're moving out :/
ÇR4CKH34D_ ÇU7TUR3 I am currently in exactly the same situation, I have a girlfriend and we’re completely comfortable with friends knowing (I never even “came out” I just started dating a girl and there were never any questions asked) and even being together publicly in school but we are in no position for either of us to cone out to our families at the moment.
@@sarahjones6555 oh...well lucky you for having supportive friends, the students at our school are extremely homophobic and our friends would disown us if they knew lol
ÇR4CKH34D_ ÇU7TUR3 I don’t think they’re your friends then
on the issue of consent: someone giving consent to one form of sexual activity (e.g. kissing) does not mean that consent is granted for another form of sexual activity (e.g. sex). in other words, kissing someone doesn't mean they consent to you having sex with them. please understand this.
Shameeka Voyiya No shit
TK UA You'd hope that that'd be a "no shit" topic but unsurprisingly, it's not! Thanks society.
THIS, EXACTLY !
Also giving consent once does not mean that you don’t need some sort of consent later one
Also consent can be taken back at any time
I'm that friend who educates the other friends about sex and not the jokes, like i'll be completely serious about it whether gay lesbian or straight sex. The teachers have NOTHING on me dhbvjdjv
becausekpop OMG same
Saaaaame
My friends LITERALLY thought that sex was supposed to be painful for girls because according to them they “thought the noises were screams of pain.” 🤦🏾♀️ Catholic girls school sex Ed for you.
i legit had to give like a few of my friends the talk and all these younger kids come to me for advice on relationships and sexual advice, keep in mind that I am also a 17 year old virgin who learnt all this stuff from the fact there was an atrocious sex ed class in school so i took it upon myself to read heaps on various issues and topics to the point now where i'm even giving friends who've had sexual encounters advice. What has my life become.
literally me
Fun fact:
You did not search for this video.
No in fact I haven’t watch anything relating to this video and it came up on my recommendation today. Weird recommendation but it’s helpful
Zoe Tran that’s the exact same for me
i didn’t search for it, but i sure as hell am glad it came up. this needs to be taught in every school. especially in america. sex ed here is just STIs. that’s it. and that’s common knowledge.
reddit good.
Misbah A yes
My “sex Ed” was like two weeks in 7th grade, all we did was learn about pregnancies and we were told not to ask “inappropriate questions”...
We learn about marriage.... and then they expect us to be prepared
Woah, Your sex ed really sucks...
^^^
This sounds exactly like my health class. Like, wtf do you expect us to ask? Something NOT about the topic?
Luna Realtra {•The Secret Sound•} and that was the reason I had friends ask me questions about sex that I was able to answer because I educated myself
“It’s kind of bad...but it’s still a great achievement.”
*When I graduated with way too much debt*
I'm 25 and still a virgin! Never been interested in it... Maybe I haven't met the right guy or maybe I'm just not interested in it...
Could be your hormones too, maybe check with your gp. Depends if you gone through puberty normally etc will effect hormones. Could also be time thing or not meeting right guy
And that’s completely okay! You may never feel like it, or someday you may feel super interested, and all are valid!
I grew up in a family that made sex a taboo and a huge no no and until maybe 5 or 6 years ago I saw it as something dirty and wrong… I don’t think there is anything wrong with my hormones or that I’m asexual. I think I’m just a late bloomer because of nurture.
freesimorgh Same fam I was in the hospital a lot at a teenager and my boyfriend was really religious so I just never really got around to it. Now it’s just not really a priority especially since trust is a big thing for me and I’m not about that tinder life style
@freesimorgh as long as your happy with yourself right now that's all that matters. There is no right time to have sex or to want sex. Everybody is different, some people want to have sex all the time, some people are happy to have sex every now and again. And some people can have relationships where they don't have sex at all. It is all about personal choice. There's no such thing as normal
The dislikes are from RUclips staff
I acc laughed ahahaha
@@Ellbat I love youu♡♡ and I'm glad I made u laugh ^^
Maybe from homophobic people too
And the super Christians that think everyingthing sex is taboo
magical pizzacorn jhhhjjh
J muy ja blo y
"We don't need to talk about the details behind intercourse, why? Because we're *abstinent* " literal quote from my health class back in freshman year :)))
Edit: Just felt like sharing, we also learned what STD's were but not how to prevent them outside of "Don't have sex" they said, "There are things you can use to be safer but the only way to be truly safe from these diseases is to practice abstinence." like dude, this is a public school. I don't need this bullshit, you showed us literal footage of a baby being born without warning us but talking about sex/condoms is too far?
PlanetMe that’s a funny joke 😂
@@aquamxrinee I'm laughing because it hurts
w h a t
:’(
Same lmao
But what about when we are married still good to know for when the time comes 🤣
Our german sex ed was, at the time, uncomfortably thorough. But im glad looking back we actually learned stuff.
Same, I'm kind of shocked about the comments here and how bad their sex ed was. In Germany we has Sex ed every few years for months! I'm glad that we actually learned something even though I wish it was even more detailed, especially about Sex between only men or only women. And asexuality! There is so much more to know for us young people. I really didn't like that we didn't talk about gender identities or sexualities so I made a power point presentation and presented in front of my class 👌👌
Good for you in my country even saying the word sex is a taboo... obviously had no kind of sex Ed not even about STDs but had a lot of religious meetings and preaching sessions instead...guess who's an atheist now?
@@lilmeowmoew8542 same. Are you from Asia tho?
@@cheshirecat7819 yup. Middle East...
@@lilmeowmoew8542 oh, I'm in Indonesia. There's no sex ed, but every Friday there's two religious meetings, each for Muslims and Christians that lasts for two hours and no one likes it. I literally had to go to the internet to learn about it (there's a lot more, and I'm in a public school). And since that topic is taboo in Indonesia, I had to do it secretively. But many students turned to p*rn. The only place that has sex ed is a small province in Java, from what I've heard.
We were only taught about puberty and how pregnancy works, not how pregnancy happens, and that's it. Puberty and how pregnancy works. It's really screwed up.
Lmao being straight was a phase
Mood
This aint it chief😳
What does that mean lol
@Mitch’s Cheekbones Bit sus no lie
Ga flippers Official means he’s gay
Consent should be
Sober ( not under any influence)
Willing( you shouldn’t be unsure. People don’t need to plead you)
Reversible( you can change your mind)
Specific (consent for kissing is different than consent from sex)
Verbal( not a head shake it’s a yes it’s permission and or it’s a no)
Alivia Arts yes my favorite acronym CSWPRSV (but yes that is all right)
I was thinking SWRVS (swerves?)
Yeah verbal. Tell that to deaf people
ϯհε ʍαɾƘနʍαη if you’re mutually rubbing each other and kissing and taking off clothes it’s pretty safe to say you both want sex. Are deaf people stupid or something?
Honestly though especially if you are in a relationship you don’t normally verbalise your consent
One of the most honest RUclipsrs here
Okay I just want this out there, saying no ISNT consent, saying yes IS consent. NOT SAYING ANYTHING ISNT CONSENT! Wearing “revealing “ clothes isn’t consent. Some of you out there really need to understand this.
Well said 👏🏻😲
I feel like this is common sense
@@xlayerscience9966 yet some ppl still don't get it
Yes thank you!!!
The best way I’ve heard consent talked about: if the person doesn’t want tea, or physically can’t drink tea, DONT GIVE THEM THE TEA!! THEY DONT WANT IT! DONT DO IT!!!
Future Meek it's common sense. A rapist knows what consent is but they don't care. Has nothing to do with sex ed
Oml I watched that video in school I could not stop laughing😂
We had to watch that in school
@@notfunny1410 you'd be surprised how many people don't realise that 'talking someone into it' doesn't equal consent, or that consent for one thing does not equal consent for anything. I've spoken to people who didn't realize that they had been assualted (for example, women who had been 'stealthed' by their partner removing a condom during sex and not telling her), and people that didn't realize they had sexually assaulted someone (for example, someone who had initiated a sex act with someone while the other person was asleep). We think of rape and sexual assault as being the creepy stranger in the alley, but it's actually far more likely to be someone you know, and even trusted, and it doesn't have to be a 'violent' act in the traditional sense (although obviously it can be very traumatic and violating even without physical force).
ChickenOfAwesome sorry hun but someone begging you to have sex and you giving in ISNT RAPE. Rape is forceful and/or threatening. You couldve said no and left.
I loved this video very much! ❤️ I am a mom of a 14 year old girl and I am sending her the link to your video! This was so informative and you were so "professional" talking about it. You weren't making jokes out of it, or trying to be funny with it. I greatly appreciate this video! 👏Well done!👏We need more people like you in the world!!
I thought the same thing my kids are to young for this video but I genuinely believe this should be used for schools.
omg i would hate it if my mum sent me this
@@Gamper1 i don't think so. It's horrible when you have parents who consider any form of sex a taboo. It may be embarrassing, but I would greatly appreciate it if my mother has sent me this. Some children don't watch content like this at all and wouldn't ever search about it on the Internet, so that may be the only way to find out.
Crystal Tatum the fact that you’re educating your daughter is mind blowing to me. I believe that no matter what your believes are, you should educate your children on sexuality and sexual identity. Because at the end of the day, self awareness and safety is more important than your kids sexual identity.
Here we have a great mom
Ellbat: I had over 1,000 questions
Me: Awh my question probably won't be answered 😔
Ellbat: Answers my question
Me: 😇😇😇💙
Jess Cox I got you hehe
Coming from a girl with the last name Cox
TK UA She Can’t Change That! I Don’t Think This Is Something Worth Commenting! X
Mia O’Brien she can change it but i get your message lol
Mia O’Brien it’s a joke lmao
Hi, just for clarification, asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction, rather than a lack of a sex drive. Someone who is asexual can begin a sexual relationship, and may have a high sex drive, they just experience a little to no sexual attraction. Asexuality is also an umbrella term, so for example a demisexual may experience sexual attraction towards someone with whom they have already established an friendship and connection, and gray-aexuals experience sexual attraction rarely, perhaps once or twice. These terms can apply for many different experiences under asexuality. Asexuals may be sexually repulsed, meaning they have no interest in sex, or as I said may have a high sex drive and enjoy sex itself. Someone who identifies as aromatic experiences no romantic attraction. Again, this is different for everyone, so some asexuals may have a point at which sexual acts become uncomfortable, e.g. holding hands and cuddling is fine but certain places of contact are not. Sorry for the long comment but because asexuality tends to be something less people are aware of, the definitions of it can be a bit murky and I just wanted to clarify. Hopefully it all makes sense.
Thank you for this !!!
Thank you for commenting this. As someone who is ace but curious about sex I was just about to make a similar comment.
if you don't mind me asking. What is a demisexual?
@@Suren2122 a demisexual is someone who only experiences sexual attraction towards someone once they have an emotional connection with them, whether that be through a romantic relationship or in friendship.
@@zoemaciver8446 thanks 💜
I think it's important that while we normalize people being comfortable with sex and confident with sexuality, it's also important that we accept people who aren't comfortable with sex, and don't put them down as prudes or losers or whatever.
sexual trauma, anxiety, or even just personal preference can make people very uncomfortable with the idea of it, and I think that should be accepted and sympathized with.
with that being said, basic education is super important even if it somewhat uncomfortable for some people
You're right. A lot of teachers just avoid the subject, because they either feel uncomfortable or don't know how to communicate with teenagers and instead of finding ways to do so, most of them decide to overlook it. Also, there are a lot of children\teenagers who feel uncomfortable with the idea of sex, but that shouldn't be an obstacle to having access to basic sex education. Also, regarding the traumas and other worries about sex many people deal with, you're right.
Totally agree. You must always be sure that you want to have sex, because even if you have a regular partner, if you don't feel like having sex YOU JUST SHOULDN'T. Sexual trauma can just as well come from YOU not accepting to YOURSELF THAT YOU JUST DON'T FEEL LIKE IT. It happened to me once with my boyfriend, and he was so confused. You shouldn't agree to sex because "that's the norm", you should only agree to sex when you feel like it.
her: **explains absolutely everything**
my teacher: alright, check if the condom is not broken and go on
I am really proud of myself.
I really love your videos, but I knew that I couldn't make it through a 45 minute video about sex, because it's incredibly triggering for me, however! I still wanted to watch it and I have successfully made it to 24 minutes until I started dissociating.
I will now stop watching this video and ground myself.
The reason why I'm really proud of myself is that, years ago, I probably couldn't even have made it to two minutes without bursting into tears or something and/or having flashbacks.
I want to take the opportunity to remind people that you can orgasm when you're being raped and it doesn't mean that it's your fault or that you secretly enjoyed it.
The body is made to react in that kind of way, whether you want it or not.
(I don't know if you mentioned that later in the video, so I'm still saying it.)
Also, it really does get better.
It takes years and years and years, but it does get better.
Lots of love to all of you.
So pleased you’re continuing to move forward. Lots of loveXx
Cirrus Floccus im so proud of you ❤️
I’m so proud of you bb 💖💖
I’m glad you were able to do this. I’m also happy there’s some awareness that you can orgasm while being raped because my mother said that a man couldn’t orgasm while he was being raped.
I'm so proud of you, lots of love to you and everyone else with you! ❤️
I’m so here for the video
(As a virgin waiting for marriage)
im so glad !!
Dawn me too!!
Same
Same :')
“Oh you’re asexual?”
“Yeah”
“Ok, perform mitosis right now then I’ll believe you.”
Is this satire?
She wasn't referring to asexual reproduction but rather the adjective asexual meaning a person without sexual feelings 🤦♀️
Broooo 🤣🤣🤣
@@sheilaNrichard but is it intended to be funny or to hurt asexual people
Hehehe biology joke 😂
i was scared to watch this video because i was r*ped at 14 yrs old, and i didn’t tell anyone until 2 years later, when the person was out of my life for almost a year. i didn’t know anything about sex (as he was my first partner) and i was young . i have another significant other and i was scared to do anything sexual with him because of my experience as a child. he didn’t even know what happened to me until later on in our relationship. thankfully we took things slow and made sure everything felt right. this is a really important video (especially the part about consent) and it’s really good that you’re educating people about sex and everything else in the video. sorry for the long comment thank you ❤️
Okay but like
If Harry styles was a girl 👀
This would be it
Best compliment ever
I thought she looked like Harry!!!!
I thought I just have a big crush on him and everyone looks like him but I’m not the only one
Ellbat: _Buy some condoms for godsake!_
Me: 🏳️🌈 _ummm, do I blow them up as fun and festive decorative balloons?_
Hahaha
Relatable
same
Why was this me😂
if you've gone to the doc and they said there's nothing wrong, but it still hurts, don't be afraid to get a 2nd, 3rd, 10th opinion. Best case scenario, there is nothing to worry about but if there is a problem it needs to be found. My friend ended having surgery for endo and she went to 5 doctors that said nothing was wrong. Look after yourself lovelies xx
YES THIS EXACTLY !!!!!
Am I the only one who didn’t have a sex ed class at all? Like literally *nothing*
I was sitting on my floor, coloring in an adult coloring book, listening to this video. My sister came into my room, glared at me and told me I was disgusting to be watching videos like this. It’s extremely rare that I watch videos about sex, I don’t even masturbate due to a bunch of stuff that happens when I was a child. In the end I may not even try to have sex till I’m married. But I have NEVER and will NEVER tell someone there disgusting or that it’s wrong.
It's also good that you are educated, even if you're not sexually active or are not planning on becoming active. You do you
Maybe have headphones in lol? This video isn't bad or disgusting or anything but look, if you're gonna watch videos about sex you should be wearing headphones. A lot of people think this video might be inappropriate (even tho it's literally just educational). I know that if I was hearing this from another room when I didn't have context for the whole video I would most likely also call it gross.
maja hellborg12 if it’s not disgusting then why do they have to hide it with headphones?
@@catemu3440 because people might hear something and not have the context for it and misunderstand. It's not socially accepted to just talk openly about sex so it's perceived to be disgusting.
Baby Lupa because there's probably people who don't understand the educational value of this video, and just get offended with the language. So basically respect for others opinions.
Christ the bit about the personal growth at 7 minutes hit hard like it's 100% accurate... I had a 4 year relationship from age 13-17 then a 1.5 year relationship age 17-19 and now I'm here like... not even knowing what it is I want from my own life. The only thing I know is being with someone, I don't know how to function alone and what it is I want to do with my life because I've always moulded my life around someone else rather than living for myself and focusing on my own personal development
This is your time boo!!
@@sharonbateman3958 thanks, I've got this ;);) I've learned so much more about myself in the past few months than I had done in those 5 years
Agata Kowalska you go angel !!! 🖤🖤
@@Ellbat oh my god my heart 😭 hopefully we'll all get to the stage where we can love and take care of ourselves regardless of our relationships
okay DAME but I'm starting to find out what I actually want from life without including other people into it
WEAR CONDOMS.
YES
Don’t be silly, wrap up your willy!
I mean yeah, but make sure they're the right size, not being weird but I got like average ones and the little fellas was being crushed, I thought that was normal and my first time... not ideal, at least she enjoyed it XD
#RubberupforDan2020
Discharge tells you where you are in your cycle. When it's more see through and watery that means your fertile. It's easier for the little spirmys to swim through. And you'll notice after you ovulate before your period it will become more white and thicker. It also changes when your pregnant! Arnt our bodies awesome! Giving us loads of little clues as to what's going on 🙃
Thank you for this because I always noticed the change but never knew why and I thought it was reason for concern and more people need to know about it.
@Madalyn Wix it's completely normal. Puberty is a long process that starts well before you actually start you period and your body has a while to work up to it. Your hormones fluctuate a lot in the months and even years leading up to menarche (first period).
"Your a little baby, you take a few steps and you fall on your ass"
Me:tf thats horrible
"Everyone claps"
Me: *laughs*
you’re *
Good tip for baby gays: if you’re concerned about it being a phase (and that bothers you) it’s probably not a phase
thanks... I legitimately needed that... internalized homophobia isn't fun when trying to figure out who you are...
I swear I’m bisexual but I question it. It’s mainly because I’m scared of what people think and that there are people who arnt accepting. I’m still mostly sure I’m bisexual. Thx this helped me. I’m also 13 almost 14 so I’m could be a phase because I keep getting told that.
Nugget Life!! I figured out I was Bi yesterday. Confessed/came out to my friends immediately.🤣
literally thank u so much, i figured out i was bi two years ago and my family isn't thrilled at the idea.. they keep saying i'll grow out of it. that bothers me so much but now it's starting to really get to me. i am concerned about it being a phase but i mean,,,, girls are too dang hot (im a girl btw)
And honestly, if you are feeling like your sexuality is different from what it was, say, a year ago, that’s completely fine!! Sexuality is fluid. I’ve changed my sexuality 5 times, just cause as I grow older things change. It doesn’t make your previous sexualities any less valid.
Me being 23 and still disgusted by the idea of having someone touch my skin or see me naked... a lot of people whom I have had "mature" conversations about this would look at me like ????? "But you're 23" always felt weird as f for that. Maybe one day I wont feel grossed out by that lol
Moshi have you ever heard of asexuality? you could just have low sex drive but if you feel “disgusted” and just very uninterested i think theres a chance you could be asexual which is TOTALLY normal and okay. its a part of the lgbtqqia community and i think you should read about it because it seems like it could help you figure out who you are❤️
I by NO means want to tell you what you are because sexually is incredibly personal but theres such a thing as asexuality where you don’t experience sexual attraction.
Or maybe you've not found the right person
Same girl, same
素敵Moshi there is nothing wrong with how you feel
In relation to the “is the first time always awkward/bad” question: Sexplanations mentioned in a video that having a conversation about sex with your partner before your first time made it more likely that it would be a positive experience.
AGREEEEED !!!
This is the female version of Otis from Sex Education.
So fitting lol
Lol
For those don’t know
There is a thing called Aromantic and Asexual - part of the LGBT+ community
Aromantic - having no desire for romantic relationships (don’t feel different or bad for being this way because it’s who you are) don’t let people pressure you
Asexual - lack of sexual attraction to others or lack of sexual desire. There is a spectrum to asexuality but people don’t feel bad or stupid if you identify as these.
It’s completely normal if this is you
I hope that this can educate anyone who reads this and learn what it means. Educate yourself more if you want to
I hope this helps☺️
I notice a lot of people around my age are like scared to ask for consent. But i must say asking for consent is one of the sexiest thing. Youknow having basic human decency.
Stephanie Lynn so they just rape others? I'm confused.
@@notfunny1410 Consent is often assumed. If this assumption is incorrect, it is assault. But, calling every sexual interaction where consent was not explicitly stated rape or assault is incorrect as the assumption can be correct even though you should always make it explicitly clear.
the beginning reminds me of dr milburn from sex education omg
*bUy CoNdoMs GoD dAmMiT*
My girlfriend sitting next to me:
So am I just like supposed to put it on my fingers or my tongue or what?
Consent is not the absence of no. It’s an enthusiastic yes.
Fun fact, if you wear more than one “bag” they will create friction and rip...
see i’m in 7th grade and my sex ed was actually not very informational so i’m glad that there’s people like you out here who explains it so much better than flipping teachers
I'm in 7th grade to and my sex Ed class got cancelled because of quarantine so this is my sex Ed class and this is way more informative then the class will ever be!
@@anjab4459 oof mine was a workshop with a bunch of different people all with different opinions and it was really confusing, I'm in 8th grade tho
Anja Bieda y’all had it in 7th grade? My state doesn’t have it at all and I’m a freshmen now😬
Random Banana ooh shit- i feel bad mann
They should use this for actual education classes very well done
Youre so sweet thank you so much !
random detail... actually warmed my heart when you said "people with vaginas" instead of just women when talking specifically about people who have that anatomy
"I don't know why I keep calling it a Nobbin".... I don't either... but that's what it will forever be known as!!! #nobbinpower
Heads up to anyone who wants to use a dental dam and it’s not commercially available; you can use a new condom and cut it down the center. It helps if they’re flavored but it’s not necessary, if it’s unflavored just lick the “inside” part or the cut condom. You can also use a latex/ non latex glove and apply the same technique (it tastes better).
*Do not use plastic wrap as it is porous and will not protect you from STI’s.*
Hope this helps.
El, you're doing it again...
you're being extremely helpful (thank you)
41:15 thrush is a yeast (fungal) infection. BV, bacterial vaginosis is a bacterial infection which is sexually transmitted. BV can have similar symptoms to thrush
I think I got it a little confused!! I was reading about both as research and must’ve jumbled them - thank you for clarifying !!
@@Ellbat no bother girl, great content ❤️
You mean bacterial vaginosis is NOT a STD, right? (It's just an imbalance of the bacteria already in ur vagina)
@@just_a_potato3921 yes.
my teacher just skipped this whole topic because the plants were more important...
same
Here’s me watches this 4 months after getting my girlfriend pregnant 🤦🏻♂️😂
oh shoot, how is it going?
🤣 how old are you?
I Dyed Jimin's Hair With Haters Blood why does that matter 😂but 21
@@amplify3304 🤣 at least you are not a teen anymore
thank u lelo we stan
WE DO !!!
Mate I've never been in a relationship and all I've wanted is a relationship this isn't a question I just like sharing my depression 👌
Saaaaaaaame
Well, if you are that desperate, it isn't good. You have to really think about what you want in a partner and for yourself. It's okay to be single! Focus on yourself. What do you love?
Connor Bell I assure you you will have better luck finding and forming a relationship once you become comfortable and content with your self and secure in your single life.
this is honestly why i'm subscribed, bc there are little people in this platform who are honest about topics like this, and there are even more people who are afraid to talk about this especially in places where the word sex itself is taboo (plus i haven't even finished the video and i already know this is going to give me more education than any sex ed class lmao jk)
I learned when I was like 9 because I was friends with the “older kids” around 14 lmao 💀💀💀
same 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
My school doesn’t have a sex Ed class I know quite a lot of other middle schoolers who I know are having sex. I am not sure if they really understand how easy it is to get pregnant. I only know because my mom was a teen mom and really informs me on protection. Not just abstinence, protection even though she would rather me just not have sex.
no one:
ell: conDOM
My new catchphrase
I love that she says “every person with a clitoris.” Makes me so happy. I go by they/them and I’m very insecure about my body :))))
Ok
@AyTee actually you’re not correct, you’re just a transphobic piece of shit :) let people live their lives
@@grxy0-k5e shut the fuck up lmao who are you to comment on someone else's body or identity? Stick to improving yourself chief because clearly you need to work on you
AyTee I wish I could report a comment for ignorance smh
Unlucky Pineapple you are valid! Don’t let anyone tell you anything different!
easily the best video on this topic. never have i encountered this level of raw detail. very very much appreciated
I cannot take the pill, makes me pick up so much weight, it’s just a nightmare for me
Valid
trial & error :) try different contraceptions until you find one that’s right for you. if you can’t find one condoms are always an option unless it isn’t because you allergic to latex
Same. I cannot use hormone based birth controls at all. Copper IUD for the win.
lananh there’s condoms without latex
if you can’t find a alternative like iud or something and you “have a oopsie” for lack of a better phrase there’s so many options out for you plan b (if in time), abortion, adoption
Is it weird that you remind of Emilia Clarke? Personality wise
I love that this is educating!!! I'm 20 so I know this stuff but for those who need it, amazing. This is one reason why I love you and your channel.
I think open relationships are common, but open relationships that work out long term are not as common.
I have no idea how this ended up in my recommended 😑
RUclips tryna tell you something
Zelock gamer me too but I’m glad I saw this vid👌
Just wanna say I didn’t have sex until I was 22 and we had just got engaged. That was 4 years ago and am now married to him (it will be a year in June). I’m so glad I waited and I feel so secure now. We’ve been together for 7 years now so I am glad we built a foundation without sex first ☺️
i'm asexual and my one experience was traumatizing, i wasn't ready then, i'm not ready now, i was pressured, and well maybe in the moment i tought it was consentual, but i regret right after, i regret everyday not being a virgin
same. i tried for a few years, forced myself to do it (always with the same person) and every single time it ended the same way. i lied to him, and to myself, because i didn't know what was wrong with me. after 5 years i'm still confused but i'm starting to get it and accept it. it's a slow process though...
bruh why did we have a sex ed class ? just play this and it'll make everything better... conveyed well, and it isn't awkward/we aren't laughing and messing around because it's not our 60 year old teacher...
great vid
Don't know why this is in my recommended but aight.
thank you for being the best teacher on this subject that i failed in years ago
Theres still hope for you yet
In the topic of consent. When I was 8 years old I was at a childminders house and I was good friends with their son. This was on a day when it was childminding so there were a lot of kids around. I was the oldest kid there as someone being taken care of. Because I was good friends with their son he’d let me in his treehouse with him but nobody else, he was my age. This day he went to watch tv so I stayed in the treehouse on my iPad. His older brother who was 13 at the time I think (again I was 8) came in. I was lying in my school dress on my iPad on the floor and I felt him lau next to me. Next thing I knew his hand were down my pants. I didn’t know what to do so I lay there and did nothing just letting it happen. I didn’t say no or cause a fight. After it happened they called me for dinner and I sat there with a smile on my face the whole tome because I couldn’t comprehend what had just happened. I was too young to know it was wrong or what it meant. Another day it was a weekend and I was having a sleepover at their house. I was on the pull out bed in my friends room. He shared a bunk bed with his brother. He went to have a shower and his brother walked in. He asked me if I wanted to play on his phone and I ofc said yes as an eight year old. He gave me his phone once is climbed up the ladder to his bed with him. He put the duvet over us and touched me again. I forgot about until I was 12. I am now 14 and it haunts me every night. I cry and I have severe depression and anxiety.
I am at a therapist and on medication but have never told anybody about the guy. He was only a kid to so was it wrong? Was it sexual assault? I do t know. I blame myself. The worst part is I see him to this day. HE SOMETIMES BABYSITS MY SISTERS. Only when I’m home though. I make sure they are both with me the whole time he’s at the house. ) they are younger then me. I se him every new year. Every single celebration. My new year and birthday dinners are haunted by him. Idk what to do.
Sorry this is long.
That_1_cat ! TELL.SOMEONE👏 you don’t want to risk your sisters or just talk to him if he is truly sorry then he will understand if you tell him you don’t want him near your family!
I had the same thing happen to me, when i was 3 or 4. It was my cousin who did it to me, multiple times. We are ok now, he just wanted to do it and didn't know any better. He now realises how bad that was. I would say tell someone you trust about it.
i advise you to please tell someone. you said you were in therapy right? idk if you told your therapist but it's illegal for them to tell anybody else, including parents/guardians abt things like that. i rly think a great place to start in healing from this is telling your therapist. i'm so sorry you had to go through this and i hope you can move on from it
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please talk to someone about it!
It is assault. If he was also that young it is also possible that he wasn't aware of how much he was harming you, but regardless it is wrong. You are not at fault here, he took advantage of you and your innocence. Talk about it, keeping it in won't let you move forward, just always remember YOU were a victim, YOU ARE NOT GUILTY OF ANYTHING.
"If you're old enough to have it, you're old enough to bag it"
I straight up died of laughter at that
Sex education is a great show just saying
I have to stan
@@Ellbat people need new shows to watch when we're all quarentined
*Arguably the best show Netflix original*
One of my mates asked me when we where about 15, the difference between a guy that’s been circumcised and un-circumcised, so here I am explaining what foreskin is to a guy that had no idea what the hell I was talking about, and seemed genuinely surprised and shocked as I explained it to him. If this doesn’t show the flaws in the sex education system then I don’t know what will.
Regarding female orgasms my experience is that I had to google "how do I know if I've had an orgasm" to figure out I've had them. More recently, I don't think I can have multiple orgasms any more than my male partners can, because after I orgasm there's a comedown period where I just don't want any more stimulation, it feels unpleasant at that point. (And I know the time it takes me to rest to be up for more is enough for some guys to be up for more too.)
Thank you for a lovely video!
lol same
same here lmao
what frustrates me so much is that when I get that "desire to pee" (13:46) I panic thinking I'm literally going to pee! This psychologically causes me to stop doing anything enjoyable and I hate it! I just can't get past it!
Go in the shower of tub, where if you actually pee yourself you can just clean it up. It happened to me to and I just need to pass that moment to let myself enojoy. You probably won't pee, but if liquid does come out, it is also normal and you should not be ashamed of it.
I’m a senior in high school and never had a sex Ed talk. We had a talk in 5th grade about puberty and that’s it. It’s kinda sad that one of the most common things is just not talked about.
Mathias Køhler what do you even mean?
Some places don’t have Sex Ed at all like my area we only get the puberty talk in 5th grade
@@keepinganeyeoutforboyfrien9602 but do you have a doctor? Internet? Libraries?
Thank you for the education that we failed to get from school ❤
Honestly you helped a lot! I haven’t seen anyone so far talking this openly about things. We can see that there’s a lot of work in this video, personal experience, resource etc and I just want you to know that we appreciate. Would like to see a part 2 if you agree. ❤️❤️❤️ thank you
Thank you so much, I really appreciate this - youre an angel!
I am 18 years old and I would have LOVED to have this video to watch when I was younger, I didnt have a boyfriend till 8 months ago and I am so happy that I waited and didnt settle for anyone less than what I thought I deserved because spending that time focusing on myself gave me the opportunity to grow so much more before introducing something as serious as a relationship into my life. I could not recommend it more to young people to wait for a reasonable amount of time until you start getting involved with other people that way it is truly worth it! ❤