The things to which we might react are thousands. The techniques to not react are few. Be present. Do not auto respond to anything. If you have an urge, resist until the urge passes. And may I add to distract yourself from reacting, do box breathing: breathe in 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds, breathe out 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds…repeat until calmness resumes.
Agreed - it is simple. And 'essy' only after commitment and consistency. I would include the 'technique' of gratitude. Bring to mind -and heart where one experiences gratitude ... bathe in that stuff! 😉✌️🫶💪
@@journeyoflovelightin most situations when I auto-react, the person I'm talking with will not really notice when I stop talking and focus on breathing. By the time I'm ready to respond, they didn't notice anything. I always need to remind myself that we're always in our heads, and so everyone else must be just as focused on themselves.
I'm in that place right now where I had all these beautiful experiences as I opened up and I began to over share them with everyone around me which eventually made me want to be right and approved of, and that lack there of caused me to doubt the initial experience. Now it feels like being turned inside out where the focus is on being understood rather than enjoying the journey I was on. It's especially hard when change happens because it feels like I need to protect myself.
This has been the most transformative podcast! I’ve listened so many times and it’s landing differently when I listen again and again as I implement practices for change. Thank u so much! 🙏✨
I related really well to Michael Singers podcast. He especially helped keep me out of my head and not listen to my brain when it tells me to react in ineffective ways and keeps me contained in toxic, defeating thoughts.
I haven’t watched this video yet, but I just wanted to say that since watching your last video(which was, basically, about relaxation), my days have been much smoother. It was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!
I totally get it. I went to the park and felt overwhelming bad feelings... it was all within... I knew it was just the reactive muck within me stirring up...I didn't fight it...I just let it come and go. Sooo painful but wow! Your ego is forever trying to bring YOUR past to the present moment (not THE past but your past...your experiences etc.) He is soo right- we each have our own unique scars and mentalities and we always assume someone will read our mind and understand us when really we need to understand ourselves. Indeed, most people never understand themselves yet expect someone else to understand them 🤣 Go within!
I agreed with all that's been said until it mentioned there's never a need to change or manipulate the outside world, or "fight". Unfortunately this is where your spirituality is incomplete. There certainly is a need to set boundaries...setting rules and standards of practice, which will at times trigger other people's fight response. In the same way that we must be "capable" of self restraint, we must also be "capable" of self protection and self expression without getting caught up in the negative energy of it all. It's like a detached way of meeting the needs of the moment.
Maybe the boundaries you set are for you not the other. For example you want to set boundaries with your parents, you just visit them less and that's your boundary...no need to be in their presence and trying to say/show how much you can handle or not... accept them for who they are and let them go....My thoughts as i'm also working on figuring out what's best...
@@joannaedwards6325 Deficiency motivation doesn't work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are. Wayne Dyer
“Your aware of everything…what would come …causal body …what they would do…all things are available to you…don’t react…watch …don’t do anything…non doership you don’t have to do anything about anything… just sit there… let energy to unfold in their own way.”
I am helping myself by taking b12 and multi b vitamins, and eating well. Researching b12 deficiency helped. Also all of the calming techniques that I am trying to incorporate are helping immensely, and finally, hypno therapy really eliminated negative thoughts and my negative childhood memories.
My life would definetelly look different if I had had let go reactive energies, kept my mouth shut and just been silent. Silence is my best friend, my lover! I have small victories, however. Today at the lunch I did not say anything, even I felt the urge to say my part in the conversation. Suddenly, I thought: Whats the point to say it? Is it really important? And I was quiet.
For me...when tempted to push my ego's opinion....I tell myself.... "Life's too short.. don't bother. Who really cares...oh well. Then I have opted for PEACE instead of turmoil❤ ✌
Oh my God! This is so good and so deep...yes, I am and have been right where he's talking about. Feeling the disturbances and at first spurring out, blame and manipulate others trying to control my outer world in order to find peace within, to then just sit outwardly being quiet but internally feeling the turmoil deep disturbances in my scared heart to finally learning to step back and witnessing what just all IS. This is so deep and freeing...Michael Singer's teaching is so profound, I am grateful to have come across his teaching...really thought I was going out of my mind but now I feel like I can cross the river. Love Love Love this deep work...and know I know I can relax and know I am perfectly where I am. Namaste!😌💖💯💫👍
I have felt a struggle with overeating when I have cravings for sweets. I am stocking my kitchen with healthy veggies. Try cutting up your favorite vegetables to eat. I have found they fill me up and the cravings will subside.
Life is short. If you want to eat then eat. As a matter of fact I like to start with dessert first. Enjoy yourself and live it up. Enjoy every meal like it's your last. 💚
Just think. the word “gluttony” when you’re in the fridge or pantry late at night. That’s what I started doing and I didn’t wake up with crumbs in my bed this morning.😅❤
He is just the best ... I never get tired of listening. This is next-level, simply put, expertly delivered. I HIGHLY recommend the 8 video course. Changed me, I mean REALLY changed me.
"You permit energies ti unfold in their own way at their own pace in their own course. You let them go where they must go and not go where they don't go. And what will happen is eventually you will come to peace."
Most people are in autopilot they are not aware of whats really going on. Most people ive met are in reaction to their experiences. We do create our own suffering by wanting things outside of ourselves to be a certain way. We think that if the outside is the way we want the inner would be okay.
Thank you, confirmation of what I have been doing, and knowing to do, is the way. I appreciate you, and your sharing of your experiences, to help humanity🙏💖💖💖
@@theelement6255 That is your subjective perspective. It is not true, nor reality. IT is simply a delusion in your head which appears as reality to you.
30:28 🎉🎉🎉 I'm leaving this note. Because I will be back a few days or a few weeks later on , Because I'm gonna be working on myself. And I would love to share this note with you guys. And you can do the same.
Tousand years ago a person who has gone above his intellect was called a buddha . Michael singer is a buddha. And he's living right now. And it's a an opportunity for everybody to attain peace thank you for your teachings.
I love Michael singer’s books , and I agree with most of his content . however this video made me feel like if we don’t do anything about anything we potentially become a door mat. A codependent “victim “ As an adult I had to learn to speak up my mind and express myself , and that has helped my life to improve Perhaps this message has a part missing and is only one aspect of how to live our lives
I completely get what is being said here, and I, myself have watched myself go through those phases - not lashing out, working through it within myself, and not trying to assuage myself with a story. However, there are moments in time when someone does something or says something where, if it is not addressed, it is a huge disservice to decency and humanity. The response does not need to come from a place of anger or a blatant trigger response, but how does this pertain to real physical assault or violence perpetrated upon oneself? I would appreciate that being directly addressed.
I believe this is part of the subtle difference between action and reaction. I think to act is to consciously use your will power, and to react is to allow the world to influence how you use your will power. Putting it simply :)
You’re not suppressing anything because you’re in the present moment with self. When you’re present you accepting the feelings that’s surfaces WITHOUT being reactive. When you’re reactive due to circumstances, you’re allowing the circumstances to control YOU.
According to Dr. Lynch, people who are over-controlled have the following four core deficits: - Lack of Receptivity and Openness: You tend to be risk-averse and hyper-vigilant. You may avoid new and novel experiences and can be dismissive of other people's input and feedback. - Lack of Flexible Responding: You may have a compulsive need for structure and order. You plan and rehearse everything. Your life may be governed by rigid rules you impose on yourself. You may also censor yourself and other people's behavior with high moral standards. - Lack of Emotional Expression and Awareness: You inhibit spontaneous emotional expression. Maybe you have expressions that do not match how you feel inside (e.g. you smile when you are distressed). You also tend to diminish your distress and adopt a stoic facade. - Lack of Social Connectedness and Intimacy: You may appear distant and aloof and keep people at arm's length. You may also compare yourself with others often and feel envious and bitter. These biology-based traits are powerful because they are unconscious and affect us without us even realizing it. ******* Because this is an innate predisposition, you cannot will yourself, think yourself, or use more willpower to control or talk your way out of it. ******* (Psychology Today) The Struggles of Quiet BPD Posted July 23, 2021 Over-control may help explain Quiet Borderline Personality Disorder.
9:40 Grateful to you @Michael Singer. You have lived a life of growth and what you speak comes from your own learnings It is not from books you have read, Vedic text you have read, people you have heard. You did it all but what you are teaching today is more relevant because it comes from actual personal growth you have acquired. Grateful for living the path of light, growing your self first and teaching from your own experiences and growth.
So I didn’t react to my sister in laws (plural) being rude to me, being passive aggressive, rolling theirs eyes, acting like they didn’t hear me, just all the things. I didn’t react to that for 8 years!!! It never got any better…… what it did was I started turning inward and stopped talking, I stopped listen to my intuition, I acted as if everything was ok and then I had a day I told my entire family of in-laws I wanted out of the family. I couldnt ignore this kind of treatment anymore. All not reacting did was teach them im a door mat, though me I didn’t matter much, they and everyone else’s feelings mattered more, it taught me to silence me self. And mind you the entire time I was listening and reading self help books, meditation doing yoga….. but when your surround by people who don’t appreciate you I think it’s just to REACT and leave the situation….
I have a huge question! Hoping someone on here can answer this. When he gets to the end of his talk, he talks about dropping into the heart and feeling the fear and insecurity and pain that is there, rather than using the mind to try to be OK with things about life that evoke reactionary energy. But what do you do in the moment when these reactionary energies come up and you’re around someone else? For example, if my partner says or does something That pokes at the pain in my heart and therefore causes reactionary energies, even if I’m able to stop myself from reacting, I can’t exactly drop into my heart and feel my feelings right then in that moment. So then I just shut down, and I’m not as open, because what I’m meeting is alone time to drop into the heart and feel an ultimately release the pain that is there, rather than staying in my mind and trying to be OK with it thinking the right thing. Does this make sense? I guess my question is, how do I respond when a reactionary energy comes up and I’m around another person, like in the car with them or on a trip. Do I step outside and drop into my heart and cry? I just don’t know if I can do that realistically! 😂
Great pod. When he talks about the beginning stages it’s definitely true I see myself often reacting and then afterwards I notice. When it happens you really just lose awareness and something else takes over. Then when you don’t react verbally or physically. The mind will congratulate you. I don’t necessarily see how that is bad maybe I didn’t get what he was saying but having a positive inner dialogue has been one of the biggest and best changes in my life. Feeling gratitude every day for life has been the biggest blessing of my life. Is he saying the positive spin off is also not the originating place of the reactive energy so your caught in a loop of self delusion? Is he saying that if it gets to your heart eventually you’ll never have reactive energies?
Hello, thank you for sharing! I agree with you. Once we are healing our inner child , which resides in our hearts , then reactions will change as our love for our inner child grows , so we don’t react anymore but be in an observant of its reality. ❤️👶🏻🎉🎉🎉
@@leche1971 Getting past old wounds is also taught by Michael Mirdad. Keep listening to Michael Singer. Holding on to hurt is ALSO your EGO wanting to keep you upset rather than CHOOSING peace and personal growth. Happy life in The Present Moment IS POSSIBLE. ❤ ✌
ThankYOU ! At last , someone who writes the word as it’s supposed to be written : ‘Thankyou ‘ instead of as an imperative (thank you). So again, thankyou
Glad I found yah Michael singer where you been hiding 🎉 thanks for you tube by reading comments someone highlighted Michael singer 🎉🎉🎉I don’t find the comment now to find the messages ❤
Have you done Sadhanapada? Will you make a video on that? Also on importance of balancing Sadhana? I was told I’m highly receptive to Shambhavi and needed to take a break to just focus on balancing Sadhana for a while. That was around 18 months ago and now I am recently started with Shambhavi again. Thanks so much for your videos
What is the balance of non-reaction when we see injustices? What came to mind is that had people not reacted, women wouldn’t have the right the vote, we wouldn’t have marriage equality, people would still be enslaved.
I think it‘s about not reacting on the outside in that moment when the trigger is taking place. Just letting the energy flow and thoughts go. After that, from a centered place, you can say or do anything you want to.
Michael....you sir are an angel. Thank you my friend and mentor. Question, has anyone had experience with getting headaches. I have been watching samsarahs come up and flow through me and have no words for the strides I have made. After a day of staying conscious (as best I can) practically all day, after the samsarahs come up I get headaches that come and go but linger for quite some time. Sound familiar? Thank you and blessings.
Very much enjoying this! I’m curious-I’m wondering how many of you listeners are “highly sensitive people” and what you think about what he’s proposing 🤔 Asking because I’d like my sister (a HSP) to listen, but not sure she’d be willing to be open…?
Yes I’ll try not reacting this week to be released from Karmic patterns last week I had 2 episodes …one with rude employee at Whole Foods charging me too much and a product problem and then at Bristol Farms for another issue ….
THIS is one of the most enlightening videos I've ever heard in my 51 years!!! WOW!
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Me 2 ! I will be 51 in a month an totally feel what you say 😊
51 likes TOO :)
Well fifty TWO now :) I'm 53 and I approve this message
very powerful video indeed
The things to which we might react are thousands. The techniques to not react are few. Be present. Do not auto respond to anything. If you have an urge, resist until the urge passes. And may I add to distract yourself from reacting, do box breathing: breathe in 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds, breathe out 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds…repeat until calmness resumes.
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Agreed - it is simple. And 'essy' only after commitment and consistency.
I would include the 'technique' of gratitude. Bring to mind -and heart where one experiences gratitude ... bathe in that stuff! 😉✌️🫶💪
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How do you do this in front of people?
@@journeyoflovelightin most situations when I auto-react, the person I'm talking with will not really notice when I stop talking and focus on breathing. By the time I'm ready to respond, they didn't notice anything. I always need to remind myself that we're always in our heads, and so everyone else must be just as focused on themselves.
you helped me with my freedom, no amount of gratitude is enough,
thank you
I'm in that place right now where I had all these beautiful experiences as I opened up and I began to over share them with everyone around me which eventually made me want to be right and approved of, and that lack there of caused me to doubt the initial experience. Now it feels like being turned inside out where the focus is on being understood rather than enjoying the journey I was on. It's especially hard when change happens because it feels like I need to protect myself.
I feel this same way. Thanks for sharing
Thank you for sharing AND completely helping mr identify with what it actually was that I was feeling!!!
Perfectly written!!!
Yes. Thanks for the warning. It's The Ego wanting praise.
Im going to have to listen to this 1000 times maybe more
This talk - Mickey's nailed it!
And he's so calm, sincere, and correct!
This has been the most transformative podcast! I’ve listened so many times and it’s landing differently when I listen again and again as I implement practices for change. Thank u so much! 🙏✨
I agree, every time I listen, it comes across differently ❤ epic and think his best
Michale Singer you are an absolutely beautiful soul, your words make so much sense✨✨✨
MS is amazing! He’s helping us so much! I love him and so grateful and appreciative that he’s taken the time to help us grow. ❤❤❤❤
I related really well to Michael Singers podcast. He especially helped keep me out of my head and not listen to my brain when it tells me to react in ineffective ways and keeps me contained in toxic, defeating thoughts.
I haven’t watched this video yet, but I just wanted to say that since watching your last video(which was, basically, about relaxation), my days have been much smoother. It was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!
“Master yourself …go deeper” “it is the ability… to be comfortable with the uncomfortable “ learn to practice discipline…keep your mouth shut!”
Thank you Michael Singer. You're an amazing teacher.
I totally get it. I went to the park and felt overwhelming bad feelings... it was all within... I knew it was just the reactive muck within me stirring up...I didn't fight it...I just let it come and go. Sooo painful but wow! Your ego is forever trying to bring YOUR past to the present moment (not THE past but your past...your experiences etc.)
He is soo right- we each have our own unique scars and mentalities and we always assume someone will read our mind and understand us when really we need to understand ourselves. Indeed, most people never understand themselves yet expect someone else to understand them 🤣 Go within!
I agreed with all that's been said until it mentioned there's never a need to change or manipulate the outside world, or "fight".
Unfortunately this is where your spirituality is incomplete. There certainly is a need to set boundaries...setting rules and standards of practice, which will at times trigger other people's fight response.
In the same way that we must be "capable" of self restraint, we must also be "capable" of self protection and self expression without getting caught up in the negative energy of it all.
It's like a detached way of meeting the needs of the moment.
I agree
Maybe the boundaries you set are for you not the other. For example you want to set boundaries with your parents, you just visit them less and that's your boundary...no need to be in their presence and trying to say/show how much you can handle or not... accept them for who they are and let them go....My thoughts as i'm also working on figuring out what's best...
Thank you Michael Singer for coming into my life. I feel so connected to my seat consciousness🙏 thank you for guiding me to find my light✨️
Is it not cool that this work actually helps us understand life and behavior in new ways
@@russellflorence8173
😎 yup. Life changing😄
There is a positive type of reaction, which in fact is acting on your intuition.
It saved me from trouble more often than not
WE are wrong OFTEN but our intuition NEVER is
Thank you so much dear Michael
Sending love and light
❤🙏✨🍀
Thank you whatever algoritm popped this gem of a video in my face. NAMASTE 🙏
Absolutely brilliant, grateful for the knowledge you share.
I love this man❤He transformed my entire existence. Thank you!
He is one of the deepest teachers I’ve heard…I’ve heard 20 others that are also incredible but, wow!
Michael Singer is my guide,love the way he describes how we can liberate ourselves!amazing
I found it patronizing and stuck in binary thinking.
@@ranc1977then you didn’t “find it” at all
@@ranc1977
You might prefer
Wayne Dyer or
Michael Mirdad❤
@@joannaedwards6325 Deficiency motivation doesn't work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are.
Wayne Dyer
“Your aware of everything…what would come …causal body …what they would do…all things are available to you…don’t react…watch …don’t do anything…non doership you don’t have to do anything about anything… just sit there… let energy to unfold in their own way.”
If a car is about to hit you, don't just let it hit you, if you can react quickly enough, get out of the way.
@@allpointstoone4346You know he's talking about emotional reactions. Panic will definitely get you in the way during a car accident.
As always divine timing, this came right outta the blue because I sooo needed it!
This will be an ongoing teaching for me personally. Very grateful ✨✨
July 2024
Same here. I'm 78 and still growing. So grateful that it's never too late to learn 😊 ✌
I did the online course. It goes so in depth. I loved it.
Michael describes this process of what happens within the heart and how one reacts to it so perfectly 🎉
Let Go! Just Be! 😊❤
I am helping myself by taking b12 and multi b vitamins, and eating well. Researching b12 deficiency helped.
Also all of the calming techniques that I am trying to incorporate are helping immensely, and finally, hypno therapy really eliminated negative thoughts and my negative childhood memories.
I continue to learn every time I listen to Michael . This lecture is an absolute masterpiece in spirituality
Ofcourse this has came into my reality in absolute perfect timing...thank you 🤍
You have to want out more than you want to make it be comfortable for yourself🙏
I am so greatful that my spirit and soul can hear this paratactical wisdom ❤
My life would definetelly look different if I had had let go reactive energies, kept my mouth shut and just been silent. Silence is my best friend, my lover! I have small victories, however. Today at the lunch I did not say anything, even I felt the urge to say my part in the conversation. Suddenly, I thought: Whats the point to say it? Is it really important? And I was quiet.
For me...when tempted to push my ego's opinion....I tell myself....
"Life's too short..
don't bother. Who really cares...oh well.
Then I have opted for
PEACE instead of turmoil❤ ✌
We can only be aware of everything❤.
No need to change❤
This was amazing, now I’m going to go listen to everything on his podcast! Thank you 🙏🏾 💚
Thank you for listening.
@@SoundstrueManyVoices
Yes I thank you too. So grateful to have just now 'found' M.S.
Thank you 🙏🏻 for this profound and timely reminder.
Oh my God! This is so good and so deep...yes, I am and have been right where he's talking about. Feeling the disturbances and at first spurring out, blame and manipulate others trying to control my outer world in order to find peace within, to then just sit outwardly being quiet but internally feeling the turmoil deep disturbances in my scared heart to finally learning to step back and witnessing what just all IS. This is so deep and freeing...Michael Singer's teaching is so profound, I am grateful to have come across his teaching...really thought I was going out of my mind but now I feel like I can cross the river. Love Love Love this deep work...and know I know I can relax and know I am perfectly where I am. Namaste!😌💖💯💫👍
And so it is !!
Thank you so much!! I so needed this talk today! Thank you, thank you, thank you!! 🙏🏻❤️🙋🏻♀️
Excellent description of the road towards Spirituality and Knowing Thyself.
"To not eat when you want to eat..." That part talks to me. I feel like a struggle with overeating
You're not alone friend. We'll get through this
I'm here too, I feel its my last crutch x
I have felt a struggle with overeating when I have cravings for sweets. I am stocking my kitchen with healthy veggies. Try cutting up your favorite vegetables to eat. I have found they fill me up and the cravings will subside.
Life is short. If you want to eat then eat. As a matter of fact I like to start with dessert first. Enjoy yourself and live it up. Enjoy every meal like it's your last. 💚
Just think. the word “gluttony” when you’re in the fridge or pantry late at night. That’s what I started doing and I didn’t wake up with crumbs in my bed this morning.😅❤
I finally got it, now it's time to practice/embody it 🙏
Thanks for speaking relatively slow and clearly, this way more people are likely to understand every word even if English isn't their first language.
You're being facetious , right?
He is just the best ... I never get tired of listening. This is next-level, simply put, expertly delivered. I HIGHLY recommend the 8 video course. Changed me, I mean REALLY changed me.
You Got this
I looked and haven't found where to purchase his 8 video course from. Can you tell me where you found yours? Thank you very much 🙂🙂
Living from a place of surrender is the name. I did it several years ago and going through it again now… excellent!
Thank you! 🙏
@@Jehna618
You can get the course from Sounds True
Really excellent podcast my first experience with Micheal Singer
"You permit energies ti unfold in their own way at their own pace in their own course. You let them go where they must go and not go where they don't go. And what will happen is eventually you will come to peace."
Most people are in autopilot they are not aware of whats really going on. Most people ive met are in reaction to their experiences. We do create our own suffering by wanting things outside of ourselves to be a certain way. We think that if the outside is the way we want the inner would be okay.
i love how you guys add the chapters to the video. it really helps when we're trying to relisten to the videos!
Wow! This is Amazing and just what I need to change and become a Better person! Thanks!❤❤❤😊🥳🌈🌺👏👏🎉🎉🤙
Thank you, confirmation of what I have been doing, and knowing to do, is the way. I appreciate you, and your sharing of your experiences, to help humanity🙏💖💖💖
He is brainwashing us that fusing our emotions with our self worth will heal the trauma. It won't- It will make it worse.
@@ranc1977you don’t understand this stuff at all. Thanks for being well meaning but you should understand BEFORE you critique
@@theelement6255 That is your subjective perspective. It is not true, nor reality. IT is simply a delusion in your head which appears as reality to you.
All things point to presence
Thank you so much for this, algoritm send you in my reality right in time🙏
30:28 🎉🎉🎉 I'm leaving this note. Because I will be back a few days or a few weeks later on , Because I'm gonna be working on myself. And I would love to share this note with you guys. And you can do the same.
I knew I had to listen to this when I didn’t want to.
Tousand years ago a person who has gone above his intellect was called a buddha .
Michael singer is a buddha.
And he's living right now. And it's a an opportunity for everybody to attain peace thank you for your teachings.
So when do I actually engage and dance with life? When do I get out of “observing” mode?
“Growth is about me changing … my environment changing me”
So much growth ,Peace and freedom
My question, how do u have a conversation with someone who has a totally different opinion? Just not respond???
@@shirleyfrost9909
It's your ego that wants you to change another's opinion.
Just let them be themselves and don't react. 😊 be 😎❤.
The truth is delicious❤
I love Michael singer’s books , and I agree with most of his content . however this video made me feel like if we don’t do anything about anything we potentially become a door mat. A codependent “victim “
As an adult I had to learn to speak up my mind and express myself , and that has helped my life to improve
Perhaps this message has a part missing and is only one aspect of how to live our lives
I completely get what is being said here, and I, myself have watched myself go through those phases - not lashing out, working through it within myself, and not trying to assuage myself with a story. However, there are moments in time when someone does something or says something where, if it is not addressed, it is a huge disservice to decency and humanity. The response does not need to come from a place of anger or a blatant trigger response, but how does this pertain to real physical assault or violence perpetrated upon oneself? I would appreciate that being directly addressed.
I believe this is part of the subtle difference between action and reaction. I think to act is to consciously use your will power, and to react is to allow the world to influence how you use your will power. Putting it simply :)
On one hand, it's genius. On the other, I feel a bit like it invites to suppression. THat can't end well.
You’re not suppressing anything because you’re in the present moment with self. When you’re present you accepting the feelings that’s surfaces WITHOUT being reactive. When you’re reactive due to circumstances, you’re allowing the circumstances to control YOU.
Use your willpower to start an environment of transformation
According to Dr. Lynch, people who are over-controlled have the following four core deficits:
- Lack of Receptivity and Openness: You tend to be risk-averse and hyper-vigilant. You may avoid new and novel experiences and can be dismissive of other people's input and feedback.
- Lack of Flexible Responding: You may have a compulsive need for structure and order. You plan and rehearse everything. Your life may be governed by rigid rules you impose on yourself. You may also censor yourself and other people's behavior with high moral standards.
- Lack of Emotional Expression and Awareness: You inhibit spontaneous emotional expression. Maybe you have expressions that do not match how you feel inside (e.g. you smile when you are distressed). You also tend to diminish your distress and adopt a stoic facade.
- Lack of Social Connectedness and Intimacy: You may appear distant and aloof and keep people at arm's length. You may also compare yourself with others often and feel envious and bitter.
These biology-based traits are powerful because they are unconscious and affect us without us even realizing it.
*******
Because this is an innate predisposition, you cannot will yourself, think yourself, or use more willpower to control or talk your way out of it.
*******
(Psychology Today) The Struggles of Quiet BPD
Posted July 23, 2021 Over-control may help explain Quiet Borderline Personality Disorder.
Amazing❤
Thank you so much ❤️ Exactly what I needed to hear right now
Thank you.
This was absolutely beautiful.
Unbelievable …….. I’m out of words!!! Thank you 🙏🏼
I don't react, I distract myself with RUclips...
Was waiting for this one!
❤❤
Thank you!
9:40 Grateful to you @Michael Singer. You have lived a life of growth and what you speak comes from your own learnings
It is not from books you have read, Vedic text you have read, people you have heard.
You did it all but what you are teaching today is more relevant because it comes from actual personal growth you have acquired.
Grateful for living the path of light, growing your self first and teaching from your own experiences and growth.
Thank you ❤️🙏🏻 what a genius
this work is empty of meaning. thank you for sharing it
So I didn’t react to my sister in laws (plural) being rude to me, being passive aggressive, rolling theirs eyes, acting like they didn’t hear me, just all the things. I didn’t react to that for 8 years!!! It never got any better…… what it did was I started turning inward and stopped talking, I stopped listen to my intuition, I acted as if everything was ok and then I had a day I told my entire family of in-laws I wanted out of the family. I couldnt ignore this kind of treatment anymore. All not reacting did was teach them im a door mat, though me I didn’t matter much, they and everyone else’s feelings mattered more, it taught me to silence me self. And mind you the entire time I was listening and reading self help books, meditation doing yoga….. but when your surround by people who don’t appreciate you I think it’s just to REACT and leave the situation….
I want to come visit you at the temple of the universe! JGD 🌟🙏
I have a huge question! Hoping someone on here can answer this. When he gets to the end of his talk, he talks about dropping into the heart and feeling the fear and insecurity and pain that is there, rather than using the mind to try to be OK with things about life that evoke reactionary energy. But what do you do in the moment when these reactionary energies come up and you’re around someone else? For example, if my partner says or does something That pokes at the pain in my heart and therefore causes reactionary energies, even if I’m able to stop myself from reacting, I can’t exactly drop into my heart and feel my feelings right then in that moment. So then I just shut down, and I’m not as open, because what I’m meeting is alone time to drop into the heart and feel an ultimately release the pain that is there, rather than staying in my mind and trying to be OK with it thinking the right thing. Does this make sense? I guess my question is, how do I respond when a reactionary energy comes up and I’m around another person, like in the car with them or on a trip. Do I step outside and drop into my heart and cry? I just don’t know if I can do that realistically! 😂
Great pod. When he talks about the beginning stages it’s definitely true I see myself often reacting and then afterwards I notice. When it happens you really just lose awareness and something else takes over. Then when you don’t react verbally or physically. The mind will congratulate you. I don’t necessarily see how that is bad maybe I didn’t get what he was saying but having a positive inner dialogue has been one of the biggest and best changes in my life. Feeling gratitude every day for life has been the biggest blessing of my life. Is he saying the positive spin off is also not the originating place of the reactive energy so your caught in a loop of self delusion? Is he saying that if it gets to your heart eventually you’ll never have reactive energies?
Hello, thank you for sharing! I agree with you. Once we are healing our inner child , which resides in our hearts , then reactions will change as our love for our inner child grows , so we don’t react anymore but be in an observant of its reality. ❤️👶🏻🎉🎉🎉
@@IAMTatianaIAMhow does one "heal our innerchild"?
@@leche1971 , find the teacher/therapist who will resonate with you and guide you on the healing path to your inner child.
Best wishes to you.
@@leche1971
Getting past old wounds is also taught by
Michael Mirdad.
Keep listening to
Michael Singer.
Holding on to hurt is
ALSO your EGO wanting to keep you upset rather than
CHOOSING peace and personal growth.
Happy life in The
Present Moment IS POSSIBLE. ❤ ✌
My first teacher ever
Nice . Thankyou🙏
ThankYOU ! At last , someone who writes the word as it’s supposed to be written : ‘Thankyou ‘ instead of as an imperative (thank you). So again, thankyou
Beautiful video ❤
Glad I found yah Michael singer where you been hiding 🎉 thanks for you tube by reading comments someone highlighted Michael singer 🎉🎉🎉I don’t find the comment now to find the messages ❤
Why the need for the affectation?
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Thanks 🙏
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Thanks
Sounds true.
Have you done Sadhanapada? Will you make a video on that?
Also on importance of balancing Sadhana? I was told I’m highly receptive to Shambhavi and needed to take a break to just focus on balancing Sadhana for a while. That was around 18 months ago and now I am recently started with Shambhavi again. Thanks so much for your videos
What is the balance of non-reaction when we see injustices? What came to mind is that had people not reacted, women wouldn’t have the right the vote, we wouldn’t have marriage equality, people would still be enslaved.
I think it‘s about not reacting on the outside in that moment when the trigger is taking place. Just letting the energy flow and thoughts go. After that, from a centered place, you can say or do anything you want to.
@@sonschi55thank you
14:54 I am taking note of this.
Heard till 20.16
Michael....you sir are an angel. Thank you my friend and mentor. Question, has anyone had experience with getting headaches. I have been watching samsarahs come up and flow through me and have no words for the strides I have made. After a day of staying conscious (as best I can) practically all day, after the samsarahs come up I get headaches that come and go but linger for quite some time. Sound familiar? Thank you and blessings.
Wow 😮
Wow, Your will, not mine😅😊
Very much enjoying this! I’m curious-I’m wondering how many of you listeners are “highly sensitive people” and what you think about what he’s proposing 🤔 Asking because I’d like my sister (a HSP) to listen, but not sure she’d be willing to be open…?
I’m a HSP
Some overly sensitive people deep down kind of like the feeling of being victimized.
It is ALWAYS YOUR CHOICE.....
pain or peace ✌ ❤.
How do we
Teach this to
Teenagers?
Are there resources?
Get his books.
Get books from other spiritual teachers....
Wayne Dyer
Michael Mirdad
Yogananda
Joel Osteen. ❤ ✌ 🕊
It means that there is free will?
Who is the one who decides?
Yes I’ll try not reacting this week to be released from Karmic patterns
last week I had 2 episodes …one with rude employee at Whole Foods charging me too much and a product problem and then at Bristol Farms for another issue ….