My Mother had a baby in between my older sister and I who passed away at birth. He was born in 1961 in the 8th month of pregnancy and his lungs weren’t fully developed, he lived for only 5 hours. My Mother had a C-section and back in that time they kept her knocked out, she never even got to hold her only baby boy. My grandmother and Aunt planned his funeral and my Mother didn’t even get to attend. I now have the only two pictures of baby Kevin Dillon in his casket. My Mother passed away in 2004 and I’m certain she has been rocking her baby boy in Heaven ever since. I remember seeing the heartbreak in her eyes each time he was talked about through the years. Thank you for sharing your precious baby boy’s story. 💕🙏
My grandson was born at 16 weeks and 4 days. He was born in his sac, in tact. He was moving and very much alive. The trauma of watching everything unfold in front of me will never be forgotten. I watched my daughter lose her son, hemorrhaging and going through a very traumatic and intense birth. Nothing like she had imagined. He was so tiny yet perfect, it was truly crushing. The fact that nobody would listen and intervene where they could have in the days leading upto that happening was even worse. I pray for all of the families who have to mourn for their beautifully perfect babies. My heart goes out to all of you ❤❤
May I first say how sorry I am for your loss. I was impressed by the drawing of your family with Jesus holding your little baby boy. That was so sweet. You have a beautiful family!
At some point I would like to share my daughter passing and our journey with her twin sister 💕 who survived the birth and lived to be with us for 29 years and then killed by her boyfriend.... for her survive such a horrible birth to be taken away from us and our Family.. Love to All 💕💕
I remember coming across a RUclips video of a young lady unpacking her hospital bag after her baby was stillborn and thinking how horrible it was for her and I had a grandbaby coming the next week and couldn’t imagine that happening and then it did! You never think of those things happening to you, but it did! We lost our grandbaby at 38 weeks 8 months ago, I cried right along with you while you told your story! I wish nobody else had to ever go through this, sending love and prayers.
So sorry for your loss. I had a similar situation. My granddaughter was stillborn at 40 weeks. 5 years later she was pregnant with a baby boy. We tried not to let fear be the focus of the pregnancy. And there's no way it would happen twice right? But it did. I went to pick her up the morning her labor started and head to the hospital. Still being somewhat fearful I asked if he was moving and she said yes. Got her up to L&D and went to move the car. As I was approaching her room I heard her cries. He was gone in a matter of minutes. We never dreamed it would happen again. She now has a healthy 8 mo old baby girl however I believe it would have happened again. She was admitted for high blood pressure at 35 weeks (never had it at all up to this point). Once she was on the monitor they saw the baby's heart rate was dropping and they did an emergency C section. I truly believe had she not had the high BP it would have happened again. Life can be cruel and we can never take anything for granted because it can be snatched away in the blink of an eye.
I'm so sorry for everyone's losses losing someone is the hardest thing in the world but losing a baby is unthinkable I pray no one ever goes through that again.. I'm pregnant now and I pray every night that my first baby girl is healthy and ok because we are having some scares my last son who is 10 was born at 37 weeks I was admitted into the hospital at 36 weeks because of all kinds of problems but now I'm diabetic and epileptic so it's even more scary and my blood test came back negative for any genetic diseases but every ultra sound they telling me something new 1st it was there was fluid at the top of my baby spine and below her skull then they said that cleared then they said that my babys limb are not measuring right let's see what they say next my mom sent me this baby from heaven and I have faith that my baby will be ok I had my 1st son at 15 I was young but I'm still with the same man and that motivated me to finish school and be as good a Mom I could be for my son then at 21 I had a miscarriage then at 23 had my 2nd son who I had lots of problems while pregnant then at age 30 I had a miscarriage and now at age 32 I'm pregnant with my first girl I pray everything is ok and she is healthy because I wouldn't be able to handle another loss I lost my mom in October 19th,2022 due to cancer age was 50 and this is my first baby with out my mom but I believe she sent me this baby to build me back up and have someone to take care of because she's not here anymore and my boys are growing up so fast and don't depend on me as much anymore sorry for the novel but this just had me deep in thought and my feelings and deep in prayer..
Winter you are such a beautiful soul. Desiree, I am so sorry for your loss -- stillbirth makes no sense to me because of the depth of devastation everyone feels. It seems so extraordinarily cruel. My mother had a child who lived a few hours two years before I was born but I was never told anything about his birth until she mentioned it a few months before her death at 87. She was still grieving and it broke my heart. That was such a long time ago, she wasn't even allowed to see him -- and she regretted that until her dying days. I am so glad you and your family got to be with Turner to tell him you loved him before you had to say good-bye.
Im so very sorry for your loss. I too, share the same faith. I’m glad you weren’t charged an arm and a leg. Most funeral homes (shouldn’t charge, for funerals of infants. In my very limited knowledge. ) graveside service was the way to go. ❤️💔🩵
Your story made me certain that bereavement doulas are so needed. Your baby is so, so beautiful and your older children are so beautiful, and those moments with them all at their beloved brothers birth were so life changing for you all. The power of God's love in those moments came through your voice. We all cry with you, and pray for your family's health and healing ongoing.
You’re the perfect person to do this podcast! Your sincerity and compassion is just beautiful. The facial expressions you make simply show how you fully listen and aren’t trying to be the head of the convo. You let her tell her and her family’s story her beautiful baby’s story, without interrupting her a billion times like all these others do! You’re just such a compassionate loving person.
Blessings to you for doing these pod casts. You have lost a child and it is obvious you have total empathy for these people who have also lost a child and are sharing their stories with all of us. You all are so strong!! Prayers always!!
It’s so special when moms have maternal instincts to know what their babies are going to be. I knew my baby was going to be a boy the minute I knew I was pregnant. Prayers for this mommy and her family 😢
So sorry for the loss of your precious daughter Turner now with the angels sending you all my love and thoughts she will never be forgotten because you loved her so much goodnight and God bless you sweetheartxxx
I absolutely love his name 💙 I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss 🙏 I had an ectopic pregnancy when my son was about 3 years old but was very much wanted it just wasn’t meant to be unfortunately and I remember how hard it was to grieve that little soul who didn’t get to be an amazing little human so I can’t even imagine going all the way to the end and then losing him 😔 Sending lots of love and prayers to you and your family 💙🙏
Has anyone noticed the pic of Dad holding Baby Turner look on the wall .... His Lil Spirit was there with Dad and Mom.... ❤ Makes me think of Angel 😇 wings
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son. He was so beautiful. I pray for God to give you peace and comfort and for His blessings on all of your fsmily.
Thank you for the privilege of sharing the story of your beautiful Turner with us. Such a precious perfect baby boy. My heart goes out to you all. Sending love and hugs. Xo
I’m a RN who works in our hospital on the bereavement committee for our NICU, L&D and NB unit. I’m sorry for the precious loss of your son; Trevor Ashby. Our hospital provides free bereavement photos for the families from the time of loss, funeral and supportive care. We also have free beautiful homemade blankets, bereavement gowns and/or little boy and girl outfits with matching booties and hats. Every family has the opportunity to choose an outfit suitable to their liking. We have many groups of women who volunteer their time to make our desired bereavement patterns for our grieving families. We also provide free bereavement memory boxes to keep these precious items for each family to remember their loved ones. It’s so important to be able to touch, smell, hold and visually return to the most important memories for each loved ones. My husband and I have our preemie son’s foot prints, with his name, date of birth, Baby bunting photos, tape measure and other important items. We celebrate Caleb’s life every Christmas with his tiny foot print ornament on our family tree in addition to his birthday. His Siblings are all aware of their brother in Heaven. We couldn’t have made it through our difficult time of grief without proper counseling, the love of others, our church, our eldest daughter who was only one at the time and our the bereavement group. 🩵
Another beautiful story. Thank you for this chanel, I hope it helps all. Thinking about it yes how would you know what you could do. When a child or adult passes we normally wouldnt do things like bathing. I wosh all L& D nurses were trained in this. I love that some patents do those scent memories. I will never forget my babies scents and when I smell that it immediately takes me back. Its usually the smell of a steril room like an operating room. I think its so good the way you were with your kids and they saw how beautiful he was, instead of having something different in their head. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story, I am sure it helps so many. My baby days are gone now but it reminds me how precious not only life is, but the life we live can change on a moments notice and to always have gratitude even through those days that aren't so great for no particular reason. And the timing was perfect for me right now to have that reminder. I named my beautiful daughter Desiree have always loved that name. ❤ Peace be with you & your family always.❤ I
😢this is extremely heartbreaking I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful precious baby boy. I know he will always be smiling down and watching over his brother’s and sisters ! God bless you!
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Seeing your grief as well as Winter's hit me hard. Your story will help so many and the courage you show is a beautiful thing as you talk about precious Turner. God bless you and your family 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Surely technology has advanced to the point that we should be able to invent a machine that can see where the baby’s cord is and what shape it is in to prevent these things. I’m so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
This is Turners mom. An ultrasound can detect where the cord is and the blood flow through it. They can also trace a cord to see exactly where it is and if there are any knots. However, most ultrasound techs and doctors do not want to perform cord tracing as it does take time do for so. They also usually never tell a mother if the cord is wrapped around the neck or other body parts as most of the time baby is just fine, and they don’t want to scare the mom. Plus babies do love positions and it could be wrapped one day and the next day it isn’t. It’s the times where it is wrapped in a compromising way that it becomes detrimental and to allow the mom to know this information I feel is vital so she can really make sure to pay attention to movement. Plus, the standard care for most low risk pregnancies do not have an ultrasound passed the 20 week anatomy scan. The whole maternal care system would need to be revamped in order for this to become a common procedure done in the third trimester for every mom.
Your comment is so on point! I couldn't agree more. I find it mind boggling that we can send a telescope into space but we can't prevent this! What about routine MRIs?? How hard is that? If just doesn't make sense.
As a mother of 2 who had 2 C-sections ( one four days before due date and one planned 2 weeks before due date) I always felt so fortunate that I went home with my babies. I don’t understand why more babies aren’t born this way regardless of it not being “ natural “. I’m so grateful someone trained in emergency births decided to go in quickly. But I had to really push an obstinate dr the second time that I was determined to have a planned C-section 2 weeks early because I was so scared of having another emergency. I believe it was because I was almost “ hysterical” in my insistence even though the dr quite rudely said you’re “ not even going to try!?” No. Flat out NO. I wonder if it is cost ? I’m so sorry that even though you were 2 weeks early this wasn’t an option💔
This story has broken my heart the absolute most! Sometimes it really seems like God can be cruel, then you sit back and realize that Heaven is not a punishment. It’s a reward. Turner got his reward so much earlier than you wanted him to, but he is in heaven!
This story makes me sad and angry at the medical community she’s not a doctor she said the baby isn’t moving much anymore and they were just soft kicks she wasn’t even sure if it was really a kick she should’ve been sent to Labor and delivery immediately! the doctor should have done an ultrasound because Turner was in distress then and the doctor could have saved him shame on the medical community! That was not fair to put that on a mom to judge what’s going on. I wish they would sue so they could change treatment so that could never happen to another mom again! RIP sweet baby Turner 💔
What an absolutely gorgeous baby. What I noticed is how the mother was still able to have empathy for others during her labor, and not just for her family. She cared about the doula as well. There’s an angel in the room. I can see the light. You’ve made a gut-wrenching situation beautiful and sacred. He’s with you always.
I was always so scared to run or jump or move to much or even lift my arms over my head to reach for something in a cab7net because I’ve seen so so many stillborn stories and it’s absolutely terrifying to think it could happen to you….many don’t even think it could happen to them….many are so naive. God bless all the babies born still, and may all their parents find some sort of peace in knowing they’re in God’s hands! I truly believe everything happens for a reason
You are not wrong. When someone passes to the other side, the family that has passed before them comes to help them cross over. Guide them along the way to the light. They are not alone.
She has family pictures of her or her husband holding a baby plus a picture of Turner, so yes. There's also a sweet painting of the family with her holding a baby and Jesus standing with them holding Turner.
Hi, this is Turner’s mom, Desiree. Yes, we did have another baby, another son who was born 15 months after Turner’s birth. I talk about his pregnancy in the 2nd episode in the “life after loss”. We are also expecting another baby boy this September so Turner has 2 little brothers now.
@@desireecrocker8817 Aww God Bless you and your beautiful family and I hope that talkin about this on this video helped bring you some type of help , it seems like it is therapeutic 🙏👼🏼👶👶
@@desireecrocker8817wow congratulations on all 3 precious boys ❤ Turner is looking down from Heaven. I am so sorry he didn’t get to stay on earth with us ❤ he was BEAUTIFUL
can I ask why are the baby's lips so red? I am soooo SORRY I can not even imagine the pain and I felt for your kids the one little girl was really tore up you could see it. Bless your family.
Question, why was there lip stick on the baby? Not trying to be rude I am just curious. Bless you and your family for this my mom went through this also
When a child has pass the blood in the body starts to pool and loose the oxygen. The baby didn't have any lipstick on, it is just the natural process of death. Thank you for asking, we are all just trying to learn and support each other.
My Mother had a baby in between my older sister and I who passed away at birth. He was born in 1961 in the 8th month of pregnancy and his lungs weren’t fully developed, he lived for only 5 hours. My Mother had a C-section and back in that time they kept her knocked out, she never even got to hold her only baby boy. My grandmother and Aunt planned his funeral and my Mother didn’t even get to attend. I now have the only two pictures of baby Kevin Dillon in his casket. My Mother passed away in 2004 and I’m certain she has been rocking her baby boy in Heaven ever since. I remember seeing the heartbreak in her eyes each time he was talked about through the years. Thank you for sharing your precious baby boy’s story. 💕🙏
My grandson was born at 16 weeks and 4 days. He was born in his sac, in tact. He was moving and very much alive. The trauma of watching everything unfold in front of me will never be forgotten. I watched my daughter lose her son, hemorrhaging and going through a very traumatic and intense birth. Nothing like she had imagined. He was so tiny yet perfect, it was truly crushing. The fact that nobody would listen and intervene where they could have in the days leading upto that happening was even worse. I pray for all of the families who have to mourn for their beautifully perfect babies. My heart goes out to all of you ❤❤
May I first say how sorry I am for your loss. I was impressed by the drawing of your family with Jesus holding your little baby boy. That was so sweet. You have a beautiful family!
At some point I would like to share my daughter passing and our journey with her twin sister 💕 who survived the birth and lived to be with us for 29 years and then killed by her boyfriend.... for her survive such a horrible birth to be taken away from us and our Family.. Love to All 💕💕
I’m so sorry
I’m so sorry!
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry. Your pain must be so hard to bear.
Oh my gosh shame on that person oh my gosh I can’t even imagine the pain! I am so so very sorry! ♥️💔♥️
I'm so sorry. Sending loving prayers
I love the sketch of the family, with Jesus holding Turner. May God bless your family.
I remember coming across a RUclips video of a young lady unpacking her hospital bag after her baby was stillborn and thinking how horrible it was for her and I had a grandbaby coming the next week and couldn’t imagine that happening and then it did! You never think of those things happening to you, but it did! We lost our grandbaby at 38 weeks 8 months ago, I cried right along with you while you told your story! I wish nobody else had to ever go through this, sending love and prayers.
So very sorry 😞 😢
Your baby was beautiful.
I'm so sorry, Gramma I didn't expect you to say that happened. Take care of yourselves, God bless each of you 💌💔♥️🧸👣👶🏼🙏🏻
So sorry for your loss. I had a similar situation. My granddaughter was stillborn at 40 weeks. 5 years later she was pregnant with a baby boy. We tried not to let fear be the focus of the pregnancy. And there's no way it would happen twice right? But it did. I went to pick her up the morning her labor started and head to the hospital. Still being somewhat fearful I asked if he was moving and she said yes. Got her up to L&D and went to move the car. As I was approaching her room I heard her cries. He was gone in a matter of minutes. We never dreamed it would happen again. She now has a healthy 8 mo old baby girl however I believe it would have happened again. She was admitted for high blood pressure at 35 weeks (never had it at all up to this point). Once she was on the monitor they saw the baby's heart rate was dropping and they did an emergency C section. I truly believe had she not had the high BP it would have happened again. Life can be cruel and we can never take anything for granted because it can be snatched away in the blink of an eye.
I'm so sorry for everyone's losses losing someone is the hardest thing in the world but losing a baby is unthinkable I pray no one ever goes through that again.. I'm pregnant now and I pray every night that my first baby girl is healthy and ok because we are having some scares my last son who is 10 was born at 37 weeks I was admitted into the hospital at 36 weeks because of all kinds of problems but now I'm diabetic and epileptic so it's even more scary and my blood test came back negative for any genetic diseases but every ultra sound they telling me something new 1st it was there was fluid at the top of my baby spine and below her skull then they said that cleared then they said that my babys limb are not measuring right let's see what they say next my mom sent me this baby from heaven and I have faith that my baby will be ok I had my 1st son at 15 I was young but I'm still with the same man and that motivated me to finish school and be as good a Mom I could be for my son then at 21 I had a miscarriage then at 23 had my 2nd son who I had lots of problems while pregnant then at age 30 I had a miscarriage and now at age 32 I'm pregnant with my first girl I pray everything is ok and she is healthy because I wouldn't be able to handle another loss I lost my mom in October 19th,2022 due to cancer age was 50 and this is my first baby with out my mom but I believe she sent me this baby to build me back up and have someone to take care of because she's not here anymore and my boys are growing up so fast and don't depend on me as much anymore sorry for the novel but this just had me deep in thought and my feelings and deep in prayer..
Winter you are such a beautiful soul.
Desiree, I am so sorry for your loss -- stillbirth makes no sense to me because of the depth of devastation everyone feels. It seems so extraordinarily cruel. My mother had a child who lived a few hours two years before I was born but I was never told anything about his birth until she mentioned it a few months before her death at 87. She was still grieving and it broke my heart. That was such a long time ago, she wasn't even allowed to see him -- and she regretted that until her dying days. I am so glad you and your family got to be with Turner to tell him you loved him before you had to say good-bye.
Oh the photo of the lil girl looking at her momma :) just soul crushing!!!
Turner was beautiful. Your family is beautiful
definitely!! It is so heartbreaking 💙🧸👶🏼👣💔♥️
Im so very sorry for your loss. I too, share the same faith. I’m glad you weren’t charged an arm and a leg. Most funeral homes (shouldn’t charge, for funerals of infants. In my very limited knowledge. ) graveside service was the way to go. ❤️💔🩵
He was absolutely Perfect. What a great mom. Bless you.
Thank you for sharing Turner with us. Such a beautiful baby boy and a beautiful family. God bless you.
Your story made me certain that bereavement doulas are so needed. Your baby is so, so beautiful and your older children are so beautiful, and those moments with them all at their beloved brothers birth were so life changing for you all. The power of God's love in those moments came through your voice. We all cry with you, and pray for your family's health and healing ongoing.
You’re the perfect person to do this podcast! Your sincerity and compassion is just beautiful. The facial expressions you make simply show how you fully listen and aren’t trying to be the head of the convo. You let her tell her and her family’s story her beautiful baby’s story, without interrupting her a billion times like all these others do!
You’re just such a compassionate loving person.
Absolutely agree.
Agree totally
Turner is so cute, beautiful baby boy 🤍💙
He is a sweet little angel 😇
I am so sorry for your loss 😢
Blessings to you for doing these pod casts. You have lost a child and it is obvious you have total empathy for these people who have also lost a child and are sharing their stories with all of us. You all are so strong!! Prayers always!!
It’s so special when moms have maternal instincts to know what their babies are going to be. I knew my baby was going to be a boy the minute I knew I was pregnant. Prayers for this mommy and her family 😢
There’s an angel in the hospital room where dad is sitting holding the precious baby in between him and the mom. Wow!!!!
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. Thank you for sharing his story.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. 💔
I as mom feel so guilty to have had 4 kids. These wonderful woman deserve to be first time moms or moms that have kids nobody deserves to lose a baby
Turner picked such a beautiful mother, and father and siblings.
Thank you for sharing.
Sending so much love.
So sorry for the loss of your precious daughter Turner now with the angels sending you all my love and thoughts she will never be forgotten because you loved her so much goodnight and God bless you sweetheartxxx
I'm so sorry!! R.I.P. TURNER ASHBY
He was so beautiful
Your children are so beautiful! The pictures are so heart wrenching of them crying with you. Prayers to you all 🙏
I absolutely love his name 💙 I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss 🙏 I had an ectopic pregnancy when my son was about 3 years old but was very much wanted it just wasn’t meant to be unfortunately and I remember how hard it was to grieve that little soul who didn’t get to be an amazing little human so I can’t even imagine going all the way to the end and then losing him 😔 Sending lots of love and prayers to you and your family 💙🙏
Thank you so much for telling your story ♡♡♡ This is going to help so many Mama's♡ Your baby boy is beautiful ♡
Has anyone noticed the pic of Dad holding Baby Turner look on the wall .... His Lil Spirit was there with Dad and Mom.... ❤ Makes me think of Angel 😇 wings
It really is!!!
Thankyou Desiree for telling us all about how special your Son Turner Ashby is to your Family. 💙
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son. He was so beautiful. I pray for God to give you peace and comfort and for His blessings on all of your fsmily.
So sorry! He was beautiful!
I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby.
Thank you for the privilege of sharing the story of your beautiful Turner with us. Such a precious perfect baby boy. My heart goes out to you all. Sending love and hugs. Xo
I’m a RN who works in our hospital on the bereavement committee for our NICU, L&D and NB unit. I’m sorry for the precious loss of your son; Trevor Ashby.
Our hospital provides free bereavement photos for the families from the time of loss, funeral and supportive care. We also have free beautiful homemade blankets, bereavement gowns and/or little boy and girl outfits with matching booties and hats. Every family has the opportunity to choose an outfit suitable to their liking. We have many groups of women who volunteer their time to make our desired bereavement patterns for our grieving families. We also provide free bereavement memory boxes to keep these precious items for each family to remember their loved ones. It’s so important to be able to touch, smell, hold and visually return to the most important memories for each loved ones.
My husband and I have our preemie son’s foot prints, with his name, date of birth, Baby bunting photos, tape measure and other important items. We celebrate Caleb’s life every Christmas with his tiny foot print ornament on our family tree in addition to his birthday. His Siblings are all aware of their brother in Heaven. We couldn’t have made it through our difficult time of grief without proper counseling, the love of others, our church, our eldest daughter who was only one at the time and our the bereavement group. 🩵
Another beautiful story. Thank you for this chanel, I hope it helps all. Thinking about it yes how would you know what you could do. When a child or adult passes we normally wouldnt do things like bathing. I wosh all L& D nurses were trained in this. I love that some patents do those scent memories. I will never forget my babies scents and when I smell that it immediately takes me back. Its usually the smell of a steril room like an operating room. I think its so good the way you were with your kids and they saw how beautiful he was, instead of having something different in their head. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story, I am sure it helps so many. My baby days are gone now but it reminds me how precious not only life is, but the life we live can change on a moments notice and to always have gratitude even through those days that aren't so great for no particular reason.
And the timing was perfect for me right now to have that reminder. I named my beautiful daughter Desiree have always loved that name. ❤ Peace be with you & your family always.❤
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I am so incredibly sorry for the loss of your baby son. Sending love to you and your family 💜
Thank you for sharing your story about your angel 👼🏻. God Bless you, your family & your heavenly angel! ❤
Turner such a beautiful baby boy. Such a hard beyond words situation. Hugs and prayers.
I also just lost my 5th baby to stillbirth only 1 month ago 😢your little boy is beautiful.
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤
I’m so very sorry. Truly.
Turner is so handsome. God needed him back. He's doing God's work now. Bless your family. Love to you all.❤❤ 05-16-23
Some babies are just to good for this earth. This is how I feel.
😢this is extremely heartbreaking I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful precious baby boy. I know he will always be smiling down and watching over his brother’s and sisters ! God bless you!
I am in tears.
He's a beautiful boy Mama Desiree 💙 ❤
My son was passed away at birth. He was at 34week. I know how it feels.. so sad to be taken away..
I’m truly so very sorry.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Seeing your grief as well as Winter's hit me hard. Your story will help so many and the courage you show is a beautiful thing as you talk about precious Turner. God bless you and your family 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
God bless this family
41 years ago....everything very similar to my loss.......with us forever.....to experience birth and death in the same day...saddest of all....
Surely technology has advanced to the point that we should be able to invent a machine that can see where the baby’s cord is and what shape it is in to prevent these things.
I’m so sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
This is Turners mom. An ultrasound can detect where the cord is and the blood flow through it. They can also trace a cord to see exactly where it is and if there are any knots. However, most ultrasound techs and doctors do not want to perform cord tracing as it does take time do for so. They also usually never tell a mother if the cord is wrapped around the neck or other body parts as most of the time baby is just fine, and they don’t want to scare the mom. Plus babies do love positions and it could be wrapped one day and the next day it isn’t. It’s the times where it is wrapped in a compromising way that it becomes detrimental and to allow the mom to know this information I feel is vital so she can really make sure to pay attention to movement. Plus, the standard care for most low risk pregnancies do not have an ultrasound passed the 20 week anatomy scan. The whole maternal care system would need to be revamped in order for this to become a common procedure done in the third trimester for every mom.
Your comment is so on point! I couldn't agree more. I find it mind boggling that we can send a telescope into space but we can't prevent this! What about routine MRIs?? How hard is that? If just doesn't make sense.
As a mother of 2 who had 2 C-sections ( one four days before due date and one planned 2 weeks before due date) I always felt so fortunate that I went home with my babies. I don’t understand why more babies aren’t born this way regardless of it not being “ natural “. I’m so grateful someone trained in emergency births decided to go in quickly. But I had to really push an obstinate dr the second time that I was determined to have a planned C-section 2 weeks early because I was so scared of having another emergency. I believe it was because I was almost “ hysterical” in my insistence even though the dr quite rudely said you’re “ not even going to try!?” No. Flat out NO. I wonder if it is cost ? I’m so sorry that even though you were 2 weeks early this wasn’t an option💔
@@Serenitynow958 There are also actual risks with C sections eg more risk of infection etc.
She has a beautiful smile
So sorry for your loss............
Beauty from ashes❤
This story has broken my heart the absolute most!
Sometimes it really seems like God can be cruel, then you sit back and realize that Heaven is not a punishment. It’s a reward. Turner got his reward so much earlier than you wanted him to, but he is in heaven!
I delivered a beautiful baby boy like your baby 1 month and I lost him . He was a Trisomy 18 baby and I can understand your feelings
46:21 if you look between the parents you see the ray of light like a sign from God that Turner had come home 😢
This story makes me sad and angry at the medical community she’s not a doctor she said the baby isn’t moving much anymore and they were just soft kicks she wasn’t even sure if it was really a kick she should’ve been sent to Labor and delivery immediately! the doctor should have done an ultrasound because Turner was in distress then and the doctor could have saved him shame on the medical community! That was not fair to put that on a mom to judge what’s going on.
I wish they would sue so they could change treatment so that could never happen to another mom again!
RIP sweet baby Turner 💔
What an absolutely gorgeous baby. What I noticed is how the mother was still able to have empathy for others during her labor, and not just for her family. She cared about the doula as well. There’s an angel in the room. I can see the light. You’ve made a gut-wrenching situation beautiful and sacred. He’s with you always.
So sorry😭💔
I was always so scared to run or jump or move to much or even lift my arms over my head to reach for something in a cab7net because I’ve seen so so many stillborn stories and it’s absolutely terrifying to think it could happen to you….many don’t even think it could happen to them….many are so naive.
God bless all the babies born still, and may all their parents find some sort of peace in knowing they’re in God’s hands!
I truly believe everything happens for a reason
You are not wrong. When someone passes to the other side, the family that has passed before them comes to help them cross over. Guide them along the way to the light. They are not alone.
I lost a baby too. Just so painful!
I'm so sorry. 😢❤
It was probably Angel's and yes, your son. The lord would allow that to console you.
I am so sorry for your loss! What a beautiful baby!!! I was wondering if you had another baby after the loss of Turner?
she must have, as they have 5 in the picture
She has family pictures of her or her husband holding a baby plus a picture of Turner, so yes. There's also a sweet painting of the family with her holding a baby and Jesus standing with them holding Turner.
Hi, this is Turner’s mom, Desiree. Yes, we did have another baby, another son who was born 15 months after Turner’s birth. I talk about his pregnancy in the 2nd episode in the “life after loss”. We are also expecting another baby boy this September so Turner has 2 little brothers now.
@@desireecrocker8817 Aww God Bless you and your beautiful family and I hope that talkin about this on this video helped bring you some type of help , it seems like it is therapeutic 🙏👼🏼👶👶
@@desireecrocker8817wow congratulations on all 3 precious boys ❤ Turner is looking down from Heaven. I am so sorry he didn’t get to stay on earth with us ❤ he was BEAUTIFUL
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can I ask why are the baby's lips so red? I am soooo SORRY I can not even imagine the pain and I felt for your kids the one little girl was really tore up you could see it. Bless your family.
I believe it is from the loss of oxygen
1:06:27. There is a spirit in the room in this picture! I feel it was the baby.
Question, why was there lip stick on the baby?
Not trying to be rude I am just curious.
Bless you and your family for this my mom went through this also
When a child has pass the blood in the body starts to pool and loose the oxygen. The baby didn't have any lipstick on, it is just the natural process of death. Thank you for asking, we are all just trying to learn and support each other.
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