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There's something very on-the-nose about not smiling to avoid getting wrinkles. It's like a metaphor for being so worried about growing old that you let life pass you by.
It’s incredibly sad
it's almost poetic in a way lmao
@@shineinstars like something from a fable
Smile wrinkles are so incredibly attractive to me. It shows me how much someone has enjoyed their life & laughed.
@@rockyayyy8978 agreed!!
I’ll never get over aging being seen as a negative, as though it’s not a privilege to live and grow old. Some people don’t get that chance.
THIS!!
Exactly!!
yeah as someone who dealt with alot of mental illness over the years I welcome every wrinkle. It means I am still continuing despite it all
@cruelaz yes !! some say the oldest knights are the most dangerous cause they've survived the most battles, on a lighter note i see aging especially in women as a sign of life lived and experience, probably more stories to tell than ill ever have time to learn from . . .
i cant wait to get white hair and beard i will look so wise
my mom is 45 and constantly talks about how she can’t wait for her long, curly hair to go gray/white so she can look like a witch and i think that’s cool as fuck
my mom(44) has very thin but long hair, she used to rip her white hairs out but now she gets exited with every new white hair because she wants to look like a banshee
Awww my mom is the same! Long red curls are going stark white like a swan. Look at our queen mothers
I think it’d be cool to get hair colour variety without dying it so I’m personally looking forward to it as well
i love this comment section
I've always wondered, why don't grandmas dye their grey hair? I don't mean dye it brown to pretend you don't have grey hair, mind you. But like. Get a rainbow, dye your hair blue, have fun with it?
Maybe the hair gets more brittle but it doesn't need any bleach since it's already light. A temp dye or even just the hair chalk would be so fun.
Aging is a privilege, absolutely. I have a chronic illness, and I wasn't supposed to live until 30. I hit 31 last year and I am very grateful. I WANT to get older. I want to grow wrinkled and grey with my partner. It is probably something that won't happen...which is sad. But I embrace aging. So much.
Congrats on making it beyond 30 dude! May you continue to live and get a full head of white hair
@@Contrarian-v7p really shouldn’t have said that, it’s really not fair to project onto chronically ill people with depression. that’s unhelpful for them AND you. i hope u get help, but it wasn’t fair to the person that originally commented.
You've a long wayyy to gooo❤❤❤
Thank you so much for this comment. This really put things into perspective for me. Congratulations on hitting 31 last year, I hope you’re able to see many more birthdays. ❤️ All the best to you.
I have chronic illness too so I relate. I’m shocked I’ve made it to 26. I’ve faced death so many times, particularly the past three years.
i feel so bad for the girl who spent hours unlearning human emotion and polices the way she sleeps. like girl you don’t look young because you never laugh you look young because….. you are young
Plus, stress ages you so bad
i don’t understand why kids/young people are trying to look even younger, like YOUR ALREADY YOUNG😭😭
@@jasper-ir8jowe want to prevent aging cause we're scared we're gonna lose our value, I thought about botox for the first time at 18 or 19
@@henriette2446maybe you should think deeply about why you think attractiveness = your value, and why you think you and others aren't 'valuable' because they're 'unattractive' (read: aging).
@@sillystingray524 I mean value as in not being able to find a job when you look old which is for a fact way harder and never said young=attractive. I don't agree with the rules of society regarding looks but I follow them cause I don't want to have an disadvantage
The "wow, you look so young for 34" thing probably also comes from every teenage character on TV being played by a 35 year old for so long. People who are 19 get called baby faces for looking 19. We simply have no concept of what age actually looks like
Ok this ! I’m 35 and people are always shocked, but yup it’s all the 30 yr olds playing 15 yr olds on tv 😅
yeah, im 23 and people at my uni tell me all the time how i look way younger than i actually am and how much energy i have, as if its a bad thing. like... im just 23, sorry? also its uni, i thought we left bullying in high school
I'm 22 and my younger sister is 18. We frequently get asked which one of us is older. It makes me feel weird, because "do I look like a baby, or does she look more mature?"
I’m basically the same age as the last two comments here. I’m 21 turning 22 and when I ask people what age I look they say roughly my sister’s age, 16-17. She wears make up and dresses nicely, so she gets seen as older. I don’t wear make up and wear plain clothes so I wonder if that contributes to it. I think people expect people to look like fashion runway models or dolled up celebrities. Just look at Mille Bobbie brown, she’s like 18 or something but her dressers dress her like she’s 25 and she ends up looking like that. Even when she was younger they were doing that. Really weird.
i know right! everytime i guess someone’s age, it’s always younger than they actually are and i don’t even do it on purpose. goes to show that age is represented in experience and shouldn’t make that big of an impact on what we think about our looks.
as someone who's struggled with suicidal thoughts before, i love that "aging is a privilege" mentality. like yeah, i've fought tooth and nail, clawed my way back from the edge to get to the age i am now. why should i be ashamed to display how i've succeeded?
Me too! I was just thinking the same
same! every new gray hair, every new wrinkle, is a gift to me, it's a sign i didn't give up
Exactly my thoughts as well.
Same!
Same! All the white hairs on my head could be due to stress, sure, but they also represent my journey, my life.
When I was 13, I thought I wouldn't live past 18. Now, I turned 18 just two months ago. I'm alive.
Y’all repeat after me: I am not here to only be attractive. Aging is a gift. There is no one better to be than myself.
@Trinity M this.
@Trinity M I mean there are people that die at 30 yrs old, so...
@trinitym5552 I think the point isn't "there are absolutely no downsides to aging," because of course there are. The point is that LOOKING old is not a bad thing, and there shouldn't be so much pressure on people (women in particular) to look like a teenager forever.
You said it !!! ❤
I am not here to only be attractive. Aging is a gift. There is no one better to be than myself.
Canadian Indigenous person here, our elders are incredibly valued to us, and I see aging as such a wonderful thing. I love my moms crow feet around her eyes, I love my dads forehead lines, and I have the beginnings of smile lines all around my face. I love them because it means I’m happy and still here
“I’m happy and still here.” Yes❤
YEAAHH the wrinkles are one of the best parts!!!!jajwshwjwbhd
That's beautiful! Elders are loved and respected in my culture too. That's what made me love my grey hairs, mainly because my dad loves them so much and often reminds me how they represent experience and wisdom😊 that and seeing all the elders on regional TV (when you reach 100 years you automatically become famous here lol) helped me crawl out of the very bad place I was in. Aging is truly a privilege, and should be celebrated.
i’m canadian indigenous too and that’s so real! even the spots that appear on their skin always give off such beautiful wisdom i don’t know how to explain it.
You’re not old until your cardiologist isn’t surprised to see you. I was like 27 when I first saw mine and the first words out of his mouth were “holy shit a young person”
I had the same when I visited an audiologist. When I set the appointment they asked if it was for my grandparent.
Yes lol. I was hospitalized for a few weeks recently and my youth was brought up SO MANY times. I was referred to as the angel.
What a legend of a doctor 😂
Saw my first cardiologist at 16! Went to a pediatrics one, but still, I think she was a little shocked because I looked healthy at first glance and I was so young
Omg, apparently it varies in different parts of the world or maybe I've always looked like I need all the doctors out there, but nobody ever said this to me, and I've been having heart checks since I was about 10 (and I've always looked young for my age). I'm 27 too
it’s sad how we can’t be humans anymore
Why you say anymore tho, like right now we more humans then we ever was in terms of acceptance of our body.
@@kul2130 did you even watch the video lol
@@kul2130 you obviously don't pay attention very well.
It always been like that
Wait for the transhumanism to come, when it comes we are fucked
a big part of the fear of aging is just the fact that it’s part of *American* society. a lot of other cultures and societies value their elderly and they’re not seen as useless and ugly, they’re genuinely respected and valued and seen as beautiful
THIS!
Yes I feel like people forget this/don’t know this
my psychology teacher was actually talking about something related. he said that in cultures where the elderly are revered, a decline in cognitive ability as you get older is significantly slower than in cultures like america, where aging is seen as something negative. so, seeing aging as something that is beautiful rather than ugly can have such a big impact!
Asian cultures tend to have a respect for their elderly as they have lived long lives and have many experiences that can give them lessons. We respect them for living their lives for that long and overall see them as wise people.(not always the case but thats ok) (also im speaking from experience as an asian person myself)
@@sapphicvampire8504 Even so, youth and youthful appearance is prized.
Heard an employee talking about the “anti-aging benefits” of some lotion in Sephora the other day. Turned my head and she was talking to a TWELVE year old girl. About how this lotion prevents wrinkles.
Oh geez 🤦🏾♀️
Next she'll be talking to a baby in a stroller "honey this lotion will make you as soft and firm as a sperm!"
@Sine Nomine reminds me of that "child disappears after using cream that makes you look ten years younger"
Agreed. Don't wear sunscreen for the purpose of looking pretty. Wear sunscreen for the purpose of staying healthy.
dude ☹️
This is a bit of a personal story, but I wanted to share. I've lived with my grandma for most of my life. She raised me. She has worked hard her whole life, pulling her family up from poverty to solidly middle class. She's so strong and is a huge role model for me.
A couple of years ago, we we're putting makeup on next to each other, something we often do to bond. She looked over her face, across the lines and spots, and sighed. "I wish I could afford to get this fixed." I was a little surprised. She was rarely so vulnerable, and was normally much more confident. I was quiet for a few moments. Honestly, I didn't know how to respond. After a while though, I said "Can you remind me how old your mother was when she passed?" She gave me a confused look. "She was 56. Why?" "Well," I said, "You just turned 79. Think about all the medical and quality-of-care advancements that have happened to allow you to get here. And that's not to mention your own effort. Aging should be a medal of honor. And I think you look beautiful, anyway." She actually started tearing up when I said this. She thanked me... and, mostly joking, said she'd still like to get work done 😅 She just turned 81 last month, and she's still beautiful. I hope I can be like her when I'm 81!
That’s so lovely! I’m happy you told her that ❤
Your grandma raised you so well🖤🖤🖤 you're both amazing people
That woman who trained her facial muscles to not work is actually scary. Her face looks unreal
Yeah she looks scary 😟
Also now I understand why the clips I've seen of the Kardashians are so weird. IT'S BECAUSE THEY'RE DOING THAT MOUTH THING 😭
She does have a bit of uncanny valley feel to her. Also, botox, and not expressing emotion is detrimental to your psychological health. But you know, whatever, to each their own.
Ngl, I was thinking it's no wonder she had no friends cause that is bizarre behaviour... I know it sounds mean but could you imagine having a friend that trained themselves to show no emotion?? That's insane
I basically had to train myself TO express emotions because basically anything more complicated than smiling or crying didn't come very naturally to me. I ain't unlearning that
She looks creepy to me lmao. Great skin but really uncanny valley look
That clip with the esthetician recommending treatments made me soooo mad. These people invent all these “”flaws”” so they can sell you the treatments. There’s nothing wrong with a square jaw or a dimple in your chin!! It’s cute!!! If we all looked the same life would be so boring!!
I hate that so much. I feel they are people who prey on people’s insecurity so they can make money. Like, they point out how to “fix” their face, when there is nothing wrong it. As if there were a standard on how a “correct” face looks like.
The fact that having a dimple in your chin is considered a flaw blows my mind. I remember being a child and having my nanny (sometimes) telling me "oh i would have liked it if you had got a dimple in your chin just like your father, it's so cute" - it really shows how nothing is really objective
Not to mention that when she showed the end result of her "fixing" Natalia's face, it actually looked so ugly that I audibly gasped
@@hannahmills9959not really ugly, just sloppily photoshopped and just _wrong_
I can agree with that. Life would definitely be boring if we all just looked like identical clones.
We really need to make being vintage a trend. Like how clothes gain value once they're no longer fresh or new. I'm not old, darling, I'm vintage💅
love this way of thinking
yah but also its okay to be old. vintage clothes are old. like, being old is not bad.
@@Ana-mx2fr totally agree! just giving a fun reply for when people use old as an insult :)
You can just do things it doesn’t have to be a trend
@@baileytaylor203 exactly
I'm going to start ageing woodenly, I'm going to start ageing bad style, watch me age like a log rotting by a creak.
Gonna look like a retired mafia boss
😎
That was kind of poetic and I pictured it vividly
You have a way with words
do you write poetry by any chance cuz i'd buy the book
When I was nine a friend my age died tragically. Every milestone I reach, including signs of aging, I think about her. Aging really is a privilege because the only way to stay eternally young is to die young. Let me wrinkle-- I'm aging for two!
"I'm aging for two" that's so sad yet so sweet, I'm wishing you the best in life 😭🥰
I feel you. One of the few kids who was nice to me in middle school killed himself, he was 11. He doesnt get to grow up and age.
"She's not dead. She's just not 52 anymore." That's the line that made me subscribe
I need the anti-aging community to stop worrying about looking human, and focus on stopping the real horrors of aging; my knees popping like firecrackers as I do simple things. I'm not even that old and I exercise why they gotta do that
They're like "but the wrinkles in my face!" girl you won't be thinking about that when you're having issues with your back, knees, hands, stomach, blood...
Funny thing about that- it stopped popping for me after like 23, have no idea how I think it's because I gained weight and got big leg muscles
They can be cracking because you exercise actually
If you exercise a lot and you also have some weight on you, your joints in your knees are rubbing off of each other and it can cause them to pop a lot when you straighten your legs. I recommend seeing a doctor about this to see if you're good to go or if you need to change your routine.
I had bad knees for a long time and physical therapy, staying away from inflammatory foods, and doing a metal detox (VERY important) helped SO much.
what scares me is people lumping sunscreen in with "anti-aging" and including not wearing sunscreen as part of "pro-aging." Please wear sunscreen. Skin cancer is not a joke.
Edit because people are missing the point: I am not saying that isn't a trend to wear sunscreen specifically to prevent aging. However, that doesn't change the fact that getting just one sunburn every two years triples your risk of developing skin cancer, and wearing sunscreen decreases your risk of developing skin cancer by half. In fact, the reason sun exposure makes your skin "age" faster is that your cells are actively taking permanent, irreversible damage. Wearing sunscreen is always safer than not wearing sunscreen. It's stupid to put your actual health at risk to spite a bunch of TikTokers that don't know you exist and are not impacted by your personal decision not to wear sunscreen. Don't be stupid.
I agree. Sunscreen is just good for everyone, whether or not you fear aging.
@@daniel-darling there’s so many sunscreens out there!!! some are very not sticky!!!
@@daniel-darling, skin cancer feels worse than sticky.
I mean technically sun screen DOES have anti-aging effects, but like... Preventing aging through good health shouldn't be seen as a bad thing.
Aging, while natural, is a sign that you're getting older, aka closer to death. Having good health with the intention of maintaining your body is not bad, Being old SUCKS. Nevermind the beauty aspect, joint pain and dry skin is painful.
People need to learn to tell the difference between doing something out of fear of aging, and doing something good for yourself with the side effect of preventing aging
@@jadecoolness101 i think that was op’s point that sun screen is just good for your health it’s not solely anti aging it’s also good health practice
I originally read the title as "it's okay to RAGE" and I was like yeah it is! This was really good too tho.
It's OK to RAGE about pressure to not AGE
Headbanging and shit 👩🎤
Hell yeah 🤘🤘lmao this is like the best misinterpretation
@@CaseyAvalon the most underrated comment. hell yea
@@Venisnotok🤘🤘🤘 hehe 🤭
I'm nearly about to be a 🎶27 year old lady🎶 and I just recently went to a wake for a 25 year old, so the "aging is a privilege" portion of the video is really hitting home today. Thank you for featuring that. ❣
Bruh 27 is so fucking young. I can't believe people would even begin to think that's old. Wtf is wrong with the world. It's like we're regressing to medieval times wtf...
I am 27 as well and I recently thought "I will look back when I'm older and be really sad that I thought I was getting old at 27." so I just stopped. I refuse to make myself sad with narratives that are objectively untrue bc our world has a freakish obsession with ageing
in doestovsky’s “the idiot”, 27 is referred to as young and 55 is referred to as the peak of life. how on earth have we regressed from the 19th century when lifespans have only gotten longer
I miss Jenna ❤️
@@puffball4484 eh 27 is kinda old ngl 😂😂
My friend is 23 and is already talking about Botox. I asked why and she said because she wants to. I asked as tactfully as I could if she wanted to solely because she just liked the idea or if it was rooted in fear of aging/being unattractive to men. She said it was the latter but that “that’s just how it is, if you want to be loved you have to stay sexy”. And I cannot express how deeply chilling that was to hear.
ironic since all of the most beautiful women in my life are miserable in relationships. turns out someone only loving you for your appearance isn’t actual love, it’s just lust. they all avoid dating since most men they encounter just want to use them for their bodies instead of actually loving them as a human being with a personality and interests. you can never really win huh
Fun fact! Botox’s full name is known as Botulinum Toxin. In its aerosolized form, even 1 tablespoon of Botox. If you put even 1 spoon of Botox in a city’s water supply, you can easily kill the entire city. Botox is the most fatal toxin ever to exist.
In the case of Madonna and so many others, society criticizes and devalues women for getting older, and then turns around and criticizes them for trying to prevent it through procedures, filters, makeup, clothing... everything. You can't do anything right. And "aging gracefully" praises those who still look "natural" and young despite their age, which still bases women's value on their appearance
You get it... Especially the "aging gracefully" part...
This issue can be expanded to most flaws as well. Such as stretch marks, cellulite, or being fat. For some reason, liberal feminists advertise these flaws/features as "s3xy" to get them accepted.
Women's bodies are always s3xualized constantly. Even our shoulders and feet are deemed as inappropriate!
I don't think we need to make even more female features into yet ANOTHER part of women's body for men to have a f3tish about...
@@jadecoolness101 Exactly!! We shouldn't have to find every part of a person sexy or beautiful in order for them to be treated with respect and value as a human being
It's basically a situation where you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. That just further proves how that type of thinking makes no sense whatsoever.
I'm a millennial and I started receiving "you look great for your age" comments at 25. Most of these were from gen z girls about 5 years my junior. I always knew it was intended as a compliment, but it felt like a kinder way of saying that I was seen as old and past my prime.
Almost every birthday in my 20s filled me with dread because I was getting closer and closer to 30. Now that I'm 29 (about to be 30), I can't believe how much time I wasted being anxious about aging instead of simply enjoying my youth.
Omg!!!! When I was 20 and 21 I didn’t care about my age and thought I was an adult. The MOMENT I turned 23 I felt like I was a decrepit old woman. I see people 3-5 years younger than me (literal 18 year olds) and think “wow they look so young and I’m already having a midlife crisis”. I hate thinking I’m going to “expire” any minute now and it’s making me feel miserable. I turned 23 6 months ago and I’m not getting any younger. This obsession with staying “young” is gross and unfair. 😢 if you have any tips on how to deal with that, I’d appreciate it
People seem to think now that 25 is elderly. The media acts as though your teens are the last happy and “attractive” years of your life, when in reality, your life hasn’t started yet. TV and makeup also make everybody think that teenagers are actually supposed to look like 30 year olds, so that doesn’t help.
I love being 35. Going to turn 36 in a few months. I find I’ve just stopped caring about what others think. I don’t have TikTok, I’m don’t really follow skincare gurus (I’ll check in every now and then if I’m looking for information regarding a specific ingredient), I routinely delete instagram/Pinterest from my phone when I feel like I’m starting to check them too often. We are what we consume. It’s freeing to be unaware of the standards I’m supposed to be meeting as a thirty-something single woman.
30 is amazing. I’m 33 and I feel that life didn’t really start until about 30. I have my own place, a job I like, I’m financially stable with a nice car and expensive hobbies, I’m in the best shape of my life, just started a new martial art and my mental health is so much better than it used to be. I really wouldn’t wanna be 20 or 25 again.
But then again, people told me I look 45 when I was in my early 20s so I never had anything to lose in terms of pretty privilege 🤣
@@depressinggen I recommend psychological help, therapy. this is not normal, women having this type of crisis at 23 years old!!! social networks are making your generation sick
30 is the shit. I love it so far. More money, healthier body, and you literally don’t give a fuck about anyone or anything that isn’t serving you in a positive way. The awareness is fabulous. Looking back now, hormones made my 20s the trenches. But I didn’t realize it until recently. Don’t be scared gals/guys/other humans!
as jenna from 13 going on 30 said, “30, flirty, and thriving!”
Yeeeees, 33 here and so much this. I’m so much more relaxed, financially stable, healthy, in shape and in a good place mentally. Few things would be worse than being 20 again 😅
Having money is amaze-balls
I want to be in my 30s+ so bad I hate being 20 lol. The hormones making my life hell is so on point 😭
I'm excited for my 40s especially. WOOP
This fear is so foreign to me as someone who sees aging as a sign of having made it. I was convinced I wouldn't make it past high school, and now I'm 23. I was in awe when I found my first grey hair a few months ago. Every time I notice myself looking older I am so happy that I am still here. I don't care if people do any of these things, even if I don't get it or have major critiques of the industry. We all deserve to make our own choices.
Me too, im 18 now and thought i wasn't gonna make it past fifteen. Now I look at every fading scar with hope that it will continue to do so while i try to claw my way to twenty and seeing the chance to see another year as a privilege.
listen, when I was a teen I had this thought of making the "27 club", like not being scared of it, but I wanted to be a part of it (honestly... wtf). The second I actually turned 28 I celebrated so hard. Now approaching 30 and it was really tough for a while to think that soon I won't be in my 20s anymore, but somehow I feel like celebrating again. 30 is such a nice number and it is - really just a number. I'm more experienced than at 25, which I love, but other than that not much has changed.
I think that's a "stress" gray hair. I got some around age 14, and one of my friends had a few at 18. Its pretty common when you're incredibly stressed or anxious to get gray hairs at any age
@@paolacarmichael611 Early greying runs on both sides of my family. My dad even started greying at 21 and I've been getting more and more of them since posting that comment. Now at 24 I have enough to be noticeable if I wear my hair slicked back. But I appreciate the share of knowledge! The human body is fascinating and I love how it works. =)
Your comment reminded me of a girl I was friends with in middle school who I found a grey hair on in the seventh grade (so she'd be 12 or 13 for non-Americans). Wild how young she was when she had that happen to her!
i remember being in a sephora at 16 and telling a sephora employee that i wanted anti-aging skincare products and she looked at me and said "honey, you're too young for that trust me. wait until you're in your mid 20s at the least." i remember being upset by it bc 1) i wanted to be seen as an adult so badly like a majority of teens do and 2) because i was so afraid of aging. thank god i listened to her because starting to use anti-aging products at such a young age and actually do the opposite and be super harmful. im 21 now and my skincare routine is half the size that it used to be and im only doing what my doctor has suggested for me for the HEALTH of my skin not for anti-aging. this video has sealed the deal for me on not giving a fuck about anti-aging and just focusing on the health of my skin.
remember kids beauty doesn't die with youth it matures along age, and aging is a gift.
Aging is in fact *NOT* a gift.
@@custom4095 it is most definitely a gift to be able to live a full and long life. Many people do not get that privilege
@@custom4095 are you okay? sounds like you're going thro a tough time. hang in there!! love~
@@nvmholo you’re reading way too into things, babes
@Trinity M I just struggle to see the alignment of anti-aging with self care.
I think what made me realize that aging isn’t all that bad was when I realized that I’m often told I look like my mom. And if I look like her in 40 years, I have no complaints
Same here. My mom is beautiful and I realized that the older I get, the more I resemble her.
This!! I've been told my whole life that I'm a carbon copy of my mother, but it wasn't until recently that I started taking it as a compliment. My mom looks STUNNING today, has ALWAYS looked beautiful, and will continue to be gorgeous for years to come! If she looks this good 30 years older than me now, I'll have no problems at that age either
same here. every time i look at photographs of my mother at my age, i am just so happy that i look like her. we could be twins. i'm excited to have such a beaming smile as her's when i'm in my 50s.
My mom looks fucking- 20. And she's 40! So even if i'm a boy i would still want 2 look like her. Probably not my dad though, ciggarettes does that 2 a person.
I just love having dinner while listening to your video essay. It’s as if we’re having a conversation together and I’m just like “you’re so right bestie.”
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A friend recently said to someone we’d met “you look so good for 26” when we’re 20 and… look youthful. I asked him if he thought at 25 you just immediately get deep lines and he just said he thought being 30 meant you were old. I. Was speechless. As someone who is 20 with the skin of a teenager (accutane I miss you), I am always so shocked to hear people say people look “good at 25” like- they’re SO YOUNG !!!!! you’re so young at 25 you’re like still a baby adult 😭
people's concept of age changes as they age, not everyone sadly but anyone who actually matured, so usually people that young think someone who's 30 is old and a 30 year old sees a 20 year old as a kid (like I do haha) but it's ridiculous seeing 20 years old or teenagers acting as if 25 years old is old or something when 25 is so young. I got a few comments like those ones, I don't know what's the problem with gen z about aging, they don't have any idea about how people in their 30s look like apparently.
I honestly think that some of it is so predatory. Like you can't be attracted to women? Just girls?
@@irene69x might be that the generations before gen z are actually responsible for that. Like especially the media, casting younger actors to play much older roles, especially women. Then again casting people in their mid twenties to play teens. People think they have to look 22 at 15 and then remain that way forever. It's really twisted and unnatural.
watching those clips of the pro-aging people talking about how proud they are in their age genuinely made me cry I didn’t realize how lacking I am in positive representation of older fem people until now
definitely check out golden girls if you’re wanting more older fem rep. it’s not perfect but was really progressive for its time and i can’t tell you how nice it’s been to see older women just exist and have fun and be funny and enjoy life!
@@astrohaute funny you should say that because just a couple months after I commented this one of my best friends showed me the golden girls and I fell in love with it :,) I think you’re 100% right it’s impressively ahead of its time and the older fem rep I never knew I needed
@@margoalex. yay I’m so happy you enjoyed it!!
I used to feel soooo bad about the smile lines next to my eyes but after suffering from depression for 10 years it's like you know what I LIKE that my face shows that I smile a lot now :) my body tells a story and if that story involves smiling then that's great!
Yes!! I love smile lines so much
yeah I used to be very insecure about my smile lines but after I got into a crisis of feeling like I was gonna die every day, I got to appreciate life a lot more and I learned to love my smile lines. Like you said, they're a mark of how much I smile, and that makes me feel good :)
I honestly dont know if we are growing as a society or going backwards
With war going on, climate change, social issues, super bacteria… etc, shit seems like we are living in a dystopian timeline
@@PossibleBat yep
Like every other part of history? Both. Its constant sharp ups and downs.
With screaming on the side
i feel like society always progresses 2-3 steps forward but 1 step back lol
It's the same as people that used lead in makeup and leeches as medicine. We'll get over it
Why do people act like 30 is near death's door. Like the average life expectancy is around 70-80. 30 is NOT old at all bruh, you got so much time after that
And even then, aging isn't bad or anything. It's natural and you're lucky if you can live that long to experience it
I love that “starting a pro aging routine out of spite” tiktok. I aspire to this
To balance out these negative stories, I asked an employee about an anti-aging sunscreen the other day and she was incredulous, absolutely baffled, she looked at me like I was insane. Apparently in their training they’re taught you shouldn’t use anti-aging products before 30. Made me look at my retinol a bit differently.
yes! anti aging stuff is not super good for you at a young age. And you don't need "anti age" sunscreen just a good one with high spf
I’m excited to age because that means I’m closer to becoming a milf
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Cant wait to unveil my MILF potential
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I can't wait to get gray hair to become a silver fox. My dad had grey hair at 25. I'm 25 and no single gray hair 😡😤😤
FELT lol i'm working on my muscle mommy bod now to be a muscle milf later lmao
One thing I’ve noticed is that people who try not to age end up looking older than they are and people who age without restricting themselves actually look more youthful
I’ve seen that too. Like in the moment they get it, mostly in their 20-30s, they look ok but as the years pass, the procedures they’ve gotten start to come through and it ages them weirdly.
@Ahri Rome true! it makes me wonder how much truth these “skincare routines” hold because how are you applying 18 products at once and not having them clash against each other in some way? I can definitely give them the benefit of the doubt and say it can work but sadly most of these influencers/celebrities rarely share what’s truly going on behind the scenes
@@ahrirome sheeeeeesh when will people stop demonizing chemicals
yes!! and i think it's because of the internal dialogue like if you are constantly stressing about aging, it will backfire. whereas people who don't worry about it as much feel more confident and happy in their skin and in turn it shows!
@@eeriseDx so true! my mom is 50 but doesn’t look a day over 30 and I think it has to do a lot with the fact that she’s a very positive minded person overall. I swear I haven’t even seen her get as much as a facial done lol. people don’t realise it but your mindset really does have an effect your physical self
I think it also has to do with having a weird perspective of age as a kid that you don’t truly understand it. As a kid I remember thinking 18 year olds were sooo grown up and thinking they really have lived. When I was finally 18, well…it was obviously not true. But at 18, I thought that 30 year olds were full grown adults that had life figured out. Well, I’m almost 30 and have realized that is also not true 😂 as you grow up and mature, you start seeing age differently and come to the realization that your life doesn’t end in your 20 despite what the media and people will have you believe, but I feel many people have to go through it to understand.
This is so true😔
I had a teacher in like 4th grade who tried to slow her aging by talking to her cells, and telling them to reduce aging in half. She absolutely looked her age, around 40, but she DIDNT LOOK BAD. It was the most insane shit back then, but now I think she’s the real OG
It fills me with rage when people say how good I look for 34. My sister is 37 and gets told the same thing. We get it from men and women equally, in person and online. It's just infuriating. I've started telling people that I look my age and just hold my position while they try to insist that I look younger. At some point I'll ask what 30 is supposed to look like and then they usually shut up.
But I do love retinol and sunscreen 😂
I keep my age a secret. It shuts people up.
To be fair sunscreen is important, because sunburns are painful and they may lead to skin cancer
That’s disgusting people treating 30s like some ancient person 😢
my mom is 50, looks really young for her age and still refers to herself as an “old hag”. it’s so sad and she doesn’t believe me when i say she’s just as beautiful as she was in my baby pictures.
same for my mom but she's just 44
Same for my mom. I hate the patriarchy so much.
my mom is similar, she's 48 this year. but instead of just saying she's "old" (which no youre fucking not, she's only like halfway through her life, great-granpa lived to almost a 100) she also keeps joking about how it's time to start digging her a grave... not in a su1cidal way, in like a doomer, hopeless "i'm so old" way. it makes me very sad, especially since my younger siblings (the youngest of which is 8 right now; there's some big age differences between us all) listen to that too (she's not the most careful with words, never has been). i wish i could reassure her that no, her life isnt over just because the number got bigger. she's still the same person she always was. her own mother is still doing well and she's over 70 for fucks sake, and one of the most content people i know
It’s insane how you turn 30 and everyone starts saying you look like you’re 22 or whatever and you’re like I haven’t done anything abnormal I think this is just being 30 which is still so young and looking like a young woman. Love this video the craze of not aging is not only strange but useless to me. It’s gonna happen
When I’m 30 and someone gives me that comment I’m gonna say “really? I think I look about 30” lol
yeah, the inceIs think that you're geriatric at 30, so...
i feel like im the only young person who likes the way wrinkles look. theyre like extra details that show your life on your face. i love skin details, it tells a story. freckles, moles, scars, wrinkles, discoloration, wow. its amazing what our bodies do for us. i think wrinkles are pretty and im prowd to have crows feet at 23, it means ive smiled a lot and shows my personality
Same! Why I love older movies and film vs digital. Everyone is so polished these days. I miss unique faces!!!
? You are very young you actually have to idea if you’ll be ok with aging, it feels far for you, but you’ll see. People want to see winkles in others faces but not on their own.
wait until you get your own. you’ll probably change your narrative.
They shouldn’t have to be pretty tho. Nor ugly. Why can’t the just be?
I feel this, I'm starting to get laugh lines and I love it. I struggle a lot with depression and bpd, so seeing them reminds me that I've got a lot of happy times under my belt.
I'm a 23 year old man and losing hair. I know there are treatments, but... if my hair goes, it goes. It's not gonna hurt me. I won't look the same forever and I wouldn't want to. I'm a transsexual, I love the act of metamorphosis! Aging is its own transformation. All things are ever-changing and impermanent, and I am no exception!
It has ALWAYS bothered me so much how skincare influencers often emphasize sunscreen for anti-aging rather than to protect against skin cancer. Of course not all but many times I’ve went searching on RUclips for a good sunscreen for the purpose of protecting my skin against skin cancer and have had anti-aging pushed down my throat.
It may give a "young face" but with skin cancer
the first time I ever thought about my own wrinkles was in 7th grade when my classmate said she can’t express her face like me because her mom told her she’d get wrinkles… since then. I’ve been so aware of my forehead 🧍🏼♀️
following up- I feel like women have an expiration date when we turn 25. Like that’s our peak. As if nothing matters once we get older. It’s so depressing
@@Peytont121 I’m 26 and I don’t feel any different 😅
@@Peytont121 peak for WHO. Not me 💀25 is way too young to “peak”
@@chidiogoikeh4550 I think she means the way society and media treats your desirability in all ways. Of course it’s not true, it’s just a notion pushed on us from many sides
Every time I got angry my aunt grandma mom would tell me don’t do that with my face or I would get wrinkles haha
i am 25, so i am a few years older than some of my classmates in college just out of high school. they’ve told me “you don’t look that old, you look like you’re 20” as if the 5 years between 20 and 25 is supposed to make me look old??????? i also work part-time with a lot of 18-20 year olds, and even they have said to me that i “look/act young”.
bro….. i’m like, 6 years older than you…… we are going to be in the same nursing home……. what are you talking about…….
LMAO! im 24 and often get told the same by kids 18-20. "like wow I didn't know you were THAT old". 😂😂😂
Thats because at 18 , 25 seems like a dinosaur. I remember thinking like that at that age. Funny thing is, to a 60 something , a 40 something is young and a mid 20-30 something is a literal child 🤣but you are correct!
Honey that’s half a decade older.. ur deff older but ur deff not old
@@Natalie-lw2cn found the 14 y/o
I do my hydrating skincare and wear sunscreen, but I remember reading somewhere a phrase along the lines of “my smile lines show that I was kind and happy,” and that has forever shifted my view of how the face ages.
ive literally always been told i look older than i am starting at age 13 and honestly? i dont care. if one day i’m 40 but looking 60 who cares, age is different on everyone and wrinkles aren’t a death sentence
i also have a face twitching issue and i bet it’s creating tons of little wrinkles but it feels good to do it so
I felt my most attractive between 28-31. I am turning 35 soon. I don't look much different, and I think the reason I feel less attractive is because I have internalized ideas about aging and how women are seen as less attractive after 30. I also have a failed marriage and that depresses me and it makes me feel I have reached the end of my desirability. It's annoying to feel I have to tell people that he left me, because I also feel society blames women for divorces and mocks them for aging after a divorce. It's all depressing.
I try to just be healthy and take care of my skin. It's the best you can do.
You don't have to feel less of anything just because of a failed marriage. It shouldn't bother people either, it's none of their business. Maybe you will find another person to love, maybe not, but that's not important. You can live a fulfilling life even without a partner. Take care of yourself yes, but also travel, have fun, make friends, get an amazing career! Society is changing and women are seen as much more as children bearer or wives.
@@sharknado623 shout it louder for the back 👏🗣️
I know this isn’t exactly “aging” related but I’ll never forget when I saw a few TikToks last year(?) that basically said “you’re not fat, your jaw is out of place” and these people were literally popping their jaws and making their “double chins” disappear. I tried that and almost dislocated my jaw in the process because I’m so super insecure about my chin fat. I love TikTok for a lot of reasons, but I think in terms of my physical appearance, it’s done nothing but hurt my self esteem even more. I’ve learned a lot from that platform, but now I’m so hyper aware of every single flaw that I apparently have. It’s so mentally draining.
yeah tik tok is poo
I have that insecurity as well, it’s one of the main reasons why I’ve barred myself from even downloading the app. I’m almost exclusively on RUclips and Instagram and I try to stay away from beauty/fitness content on both platforms (not that there’s a problem with that type of content inherently, it just makes me feel worse about myself). And since Instagram is so image/reels based I make sure to curate my feed to be really specific. I’m insecure and easily distracted as is, I don’t need any help from TikTok
yeah I fell for that one too
*turned out in my case I actually was fat though, cause I lost 10lbs and the double chin went with it lol*
Tik tok is not at fault there. It's algorithm that shows you what YOU teach it you want to see. I never see these things. Start blocking those accounts or hitting "not interested". Start seeking out different content. RUclips would show you the same stuff if you kept looking for it
There's nothing wrong with being fat tho...
By the ripe age of 7 I learned through commercials to never forget to apply skincare and moisturizer to your face, neck, and collar areas and truly I wish I could have just chilled.
im in my mid twenties and TA at some first year college classes, ive literally had students tell me "you dont even look that old yet" like sweetheart MY BRAIN IS BARELY DEVELOPED
It fully develops in mid twenties
The moment I truly realized people look at me differently because I'm a woman who is 30 is when I went to a picnic with some people and when I mentioned that I was 30, someone who was in their very early 20's said, OMG, drop your skin care routine! And I KNOW they meant that as a compliment, but oh god there's so much to unpack with just that immediate response to my age lmao LIKE???? Lmao
Honestly I really like the pro aging movement. Like what is not beautiful about the lines in my face? That's the memory of every time I've laughed genuinely, me having fun with expressions in my face. Sure I don't have any wrinkles now, but honestly older women with wrinkles can still be absolutely stunning. Why should I try to prevent being my true self? Aging is beautiful
I think it's insane that so many people act like aging isn't a natural process that happens to everyone.
I feel this... the amount of time that men tell me i'm "expiring" as a 32 year old woman. . . *blink blink*
*blink blink* that’s really weird.
@Sine Nomine yuppp block and delete, block and delete rinse and repeat lol
@Sine Nomine I've known too many men who've gone for women half their age, then proceed to get angry when they behave like "little girls". Like wow! I wonder why your fresh out of highschool girlfriend is acting like a child that's crazy!
Yo why are all men p*dophiles wtf??? (This is a generalization for dramatic purposes, what I mean to say is that hebephilia is greatly normalized for a great number of men, ty.)
Ew
When I was little, I watched the movie 13 to 30 and since then being 30 is my dream age. I've had this idea in my head so long no one can tell me I'm not gonna be thriving when I'm 30.
I get scared of ageing but mostly because it reminds me that people get older and life ends eventually and no skin care routine will fix that existential crisis 😂
You make a very good point. Appearance is the last thing we should be concerned about when it comes to aging. I mean, what about our overall health?
I think ageism stems from a fear of death for sure
That’s my biggest fear too, losing my parents, my husband, my friends… and myself.. if we make this far 😢
As a theater person, I love having wrinkles and fine lines on my face cause it makes it easier to see my expressions and emotions from the audience
youth does not equal health, that’s something i learned very young with chronic illness. i can’t wait to grow old because it means i can grow and heal enough to keep on my path in life
I recently started getting my hair dyed copper/red, a little darker than yours, and your mullet is inspiring me soooooo much I’m THIS close to just saying f it and doing it
do it
do it
doooooo iiiiiiit
it’s a shag, not a mullet
@@illuminaticonfirmed1389 okay well you seem to be the only person who was a problem with the terminology
reminds me of the last of us episode 3 where frank tells bill “i like you older. Older means we’re still here”
I think when you put into perspective how lucky we still are to be alive, and to have proof of your life experiences shown in your face and your body, it def helps with this fear of aging!
I think much of my worry about aging comes from media and hearing my mother worry about her appearance and the aging process. I always saw my mother as a beautiful woman, but watching her worry about her appearance every time she looked in a mirror made me more conscious of how I may think of myself at her age. Although as of now, I know my limits when it comes to worrying about my skin routine and remind myself to not obsess over it too much.
No no no it comes from other people, men, women everyone is going to comment on the small details of your aging process, men are going to dump you or reject you in you late 20’s because you are going to look too old for them, the pressure from the world never stop to intensify, until the whole society tells you that you are useless now that you are 40. You’re going to be chocked by how differently men of all ages treats you.
I hate how aging is seen as negative. I’m 15 and over the past couple of years 3 of my friends have tried to commit s*icide. Aging is a privilege!! Why is it a bad thing to have smile lines?? It means you’ve laughed and smiled a lot. That’s a good thing!!
To me, skincare is selfcare and less about anti-aging and more about mental health. I have depression and just generally low self-esteem, and having a skincare routine forces me to show myself love at least twice a day. It has helped me in some ways, and makes me appreciate myself a lot more than I used to.
The main thing that pisses me off is it’s mostly women who are ridiculed for aging, you look at all these anti aging serums and plastic surgery’s there all aimed towards women. I don’t see people make fun of men who go gray or are balding but as soon as a woman has a wrinkle it’s the end of the world
THIS.
"Men dont age better than women. Men are just allowed to age". -Carrie Fisher
I'll never be as scared of aging as I am of the things people do to avoid it.
Seriously! When I was 17 I remember my mom casually mentioning that I should so x,y,z to my face and skin so I don’t have “all those lines that make you look old” I’m 24 now, I’m pretty sure my mom thinks I look old lol thanks mom!
exactly like one of my favourite examples is sigourney weaver. her career started when she was almost 30 and has frequently talked about how she's gotten older she's gotten more and more roles. she's expressed her love of getting older and it's nice to see such a prevalent actress talk abt it especially because she didn't start acting + being successful in her early 20's
I think "anti-aging" is also a very new concept. We didn't have all of these creams, injections, medications, etc. If you watch a movie or show from the 70s or earlier, you'll see stars with wrinkles, sunspots, etc. Even though they were still not the majority, I feel like it was more accepted as "normal" because then was no alternative.
Also, I am 23 as well and am very much swept up in the "anti-aging" craze. I've always looked younger than my age, even as a child. Rn, people usually think I'm anywhere between 15 and 21, but I still stress myself out about "aging too fast" and "preventing" aging. When it overwhelms me, I look at my mom, an almost 50 year old woman who looks great and lives her life to the fullest. In fact, she's in Vegas right now, living it up.
Our lives don't end with our youth. Rather, our experiences show with our age. Embrace the wrinkles and grey hairs with grace as opposed to rejecting them in shame.
In June of 2022 i turned 30...and i went spiral. Spend my birthday with Covid too and on top of that i had my first existential crisis. I remember that i started too feel a little better with myself in mid July of that summer. And the Covid last in my body for like almost 1 month. It was probably one of the hardest summer so far...i remember that i cried so much during my first week with 30 because i was already "Old". Now looking back i was a total mess but i was able to get out of all that. And NOW right NOW with my life i LOVE being in my 30s. They are totally incredible. They are just..a stupid number and a stupid mentality. I'm still so young. & im so happy that im 30! Feels so so good. We need to be more gentle with this society. Especially us, woman
Oh man. I felt this. I also turned 30 last summer and had the same existential crisis. Teenagers and 20somethings think you turn into the cryptkeeper as soon as you hit 30 but like, you look the same? Lol
30 is actually the peak for female attractiveness according to a few studies
@Sine Nomine We literally have an old song in spanish where a guy tells a woman she shouldn't be ashamed of saying she's 40 and keep enjoying her life and not worry about being "too old"
Funny song until I see a video like this 😅
@@naolucillerandom5280 If you don’t mind me asking, what’s the song called? ^^
25-30 is when women find themselves most attractive. But men find women most attractive around 21-24. That's pretty well substantiated. And women find men most attractive from 30-35. It's just generalizations though. Doesn't always apply on the individual level.
i think the key to attractiveness is self-confidence. you can, pardon the expression, have the face of a troll and still pull people into your orbit because of sheer charisma. that age of 30+ is when most people become the most self-secure, i think, and therefore at their most attractive. idk just a thought, i'm literally still in high school so i wouldnt know about the psyche of 30 year olds
@@pinkpoundcake "Señora de las cuatro décadas" if I remember correctly
ive always admired my mom for embracing ageing... i remember when she turned 40, and everyone would tell her stuff like "40 is the new 25" she would just say that she felt lucky to still be alive. she also used to dye her hair when she was in her 30s, but at soon as it started turning grey, she stopped dyeing it and has been rocking the grey ever since. seeing this attitude towards ageing while growing up has had such a positive influence on me, and now im really not scared of getting older. i realised im turning 25 so soon, but im actually excited to get older. and ive had smile lines forming around my mouth and cheeks since i was maybe 21, but i just take that as a sign that im a person who smiles a lot, which is something im happy about... ageing is not a terrible thing. its natural and beautiful, no matter if its graceful or not...
Her: I trained my face muscles to stop working so I can stay wrinkle-free and beautiful
Also her: 👁👄👁
As someone about to turn 30 next month, people are always telling me I look like I'm 16, and I'm convinced it's because I smile all the time. Like I'm generally happy to be alive and existing, and I think that child-like wonder confuses people 🎉
I have one rule in my life and it’s that I’m never going to stop living in a way that makes me happy (sleeping on my side, using facial expressions, etc.) for the sake of anti-aging. my life is meant to be LIVED. I will die, and as I age my body is just showing all the life it’s been through before I go, and I love that.
im currently 13 years old and i have these eyebags under my eyes. i was insecure of it because of how “old” and “tired” i look. no one pointed it until one day my cousin mentioned about my eye bags. thank you so much for making this video 🙏
Eye bags really shouldn’t be happening at 13. Are you sleeping 8-12 hours? Drinking enough water/eating fibrous vegetables? Snacking on foods that hydrate you like melons and cucumbers help hydrate your body. When you see people putting face masks on with cucumber and green tea, it’s way more effective to consume them instead. Hopefully that helps. When I was 14 I was getting home, doing homework, having dinner while watching a couple shows on prime time tv, and then chatting or texting friends for a little bit. Then reading and listening to calming music and going to bed. So going to bed around 8 and waking up around 5 or 6. I’m 28 now and people think I’m 21. Sleep and hydration is so important.
@@sarareannaEyebags can also be caused by genetics. I sleep 8 hours and drink 2 liters of water everyday and still have eyebags. I’ve always had them. My dad has also always had them.
i don't know if you were old enough to remember this but few years back there was this trend where people would deliberately draw attention to their eyebags by using darker foundation to achieve the "tired model off duty" look so ... just you do you boo
@@_mystne_ I second this. Photos of me as a toddler prove I've always had eyebags, it really is just genetic for me. Makes me feel a lot better knowing my creases and shadows are just a product of my existence
@@sarareanna I’ve had eyebags my whole life, but it’s because I’m constantly exhausted no matter how much I sleep.
Every morning when I wake up and I see my crows feet I go: I am privileged. I am here. I am alive.
My mother barely got to see grey hair before cancer got to her. I have been fighting suicid@l idealisation since I was a preteen.
Every new wrinkle is proof I made it and had experiences. And I hope that every year shows it can get better.
Thats how I deal with the anti aging push
I was devastated when at 22 I had my first fine lines. At 25 I was like uhhh and so what? Ill look my age, at worst, and to be honest I always looked younger and still do so it might even help. And no, life doesnt stop, it actually keeps going and going, my mom just took her degree at 46! Doing her master now B)
Everytime i see the fanatism around youthfullness i am reminded of that book I had to read "la Dame en Bleue"(Lady in blue for the English version) by Noelle Chatelet, a book about a 50yo deciding to embrace and love aging, and not aging as a 50yo but aging like an old woman, it is quite strange nowadays to read about a woman cherishing and expecting every new wrinkle, caring for the strands of white appearing gradually and allowing herself to be happy in this way. It is also interesting to see that even as she herself strive to be an old woman, the world around her still see her as her age.
It was a pretty sweet book.
My mom is in her 50s and has gray hair, and I'm obsessed with it. It's like a white to dark gray gradient and it's mostly in her bangs and in streaks and it's so so pretty. She never believes me when I say I hope I inherit her greying. According to her, everyone in her family grays really early (like mid-20s) and she calls it the "family curse" but I can't wait. Unfortunately my hair type appears to be much closer to my not-graying dad's, so if i don't gray by the time i'm thirty then i'll prob just get it done gray myself lmao.
ive been witness to my mom's self-love journey and i can say that she is much more self-confident now that she doesn't dye her hair religiously and im super proud of her, and im working towards doing the same towards my own insecurities (i will say showing her the silver-hair trend from the 2010s helped lmao)
it's ok and even awesome to age!!! great video
Gah..I am 48 and was hoping for beautiful white hair like my grandmothers and I barely have a few strands of white..and they blend in. Your Moms hair sounds amazing.
ikk! my mom is 52 currently, and i remember vaguely when i was younger that she’d dye the barely-noticeable-at-all grey streaks all the time, but she stopped and her hair looks cool as hell. also black hair with grey/white streaks make medium brown eyes pop
My mom's gray hair looks really cool too, I hope I end up getting hair like her's when I'm her age
i started graying really young, maybe when i was around 16? and i've always thought that gray hair is so ethereal. to live long enough to be completely gray really is such a privilege. I'm 25, turning 26 this month, and the closer my birthday gets I get a huge feeling of impending doom, and constantly think about the concept of immortality (specifically because i have massive fomo LOL) but slowly i'm coming to terms with aging, because i get excited thinking about everything that i haven't experienced yet. it's a super slippery slope, and training your mind to think otherwise when women have been fed the youthful=beauty nonsense since the beginning of time sucks but it's nice to know that it's sort of a blanket feeling among so many people, there's so much comfort in knowing that for some reason. There's also the concept of aging out of certain things like media, music, style, like you can't listen to this because you're old and you can't wear this because you're old -- and the realization of doing anything you want because you dictate your own life is so important to remind ourselves of. aging and dying is something i'm still working on coming to terms with but living a full life is so magical in and of itself.
literally the only annxiety about aging i have is my mum getting so old that she`ll die
This haunted me as a kid. We’re taught to fear age from very early on, and now that I’m older I don’t understand why it’s so scary.
the “if im still here-on the platform, not like dead” clarity was very needed cause i was like “damn okay. got a point” since u were just talking about the possibility of “dying tomorrow” 😭😭
when I was literally twelve years old I started to wear a tiny bit of makeup. Just like concealer and mascara. And one of my grandmas friends noticed and told me to make sure I was strictly tapping the concealer in with only my ring finger so that I could prevent wrinkles. And WOW that affected me sm. it took me a loonggg time to get rid of that mentality. I was TWELVE trying to make sure I didn’t have loose wrinkley under eyes. ridiculous.
the “exciting, exotic, evil!” Poster in the back is my favorite thing ever omg
I recently introduced my husband to someone and this person was surprised that I was married because, supposedly, I looked very young. I'm turning 30 this year. This person told me that I looked very good for my age and I said “well, I'm still 29 years old”. Like, how am I supposed to look?
Not that I don't want to age- I do! I'm excited to... but I always feel like I'm running out of time and my life is going to go by fast (an irrational fear of mine), but this video, especially near the end, really helped put things in perspective. 50 IS young.
I am chronically ill and likely will die before I am 50. Aging is a blessing some of us don't get. Treasure it.
My mom has always been pro aging and I feel like it’s been so good for me to see an example so close to me not care about wrinkles or grey hairs
I started using retinol when i was 18, mainly because i didnt realise what it was, i mainly wanted "textre smoothing" products etc. It was a toner and i was like 'holy shit this feels great' so now im 19 and here using my 2 percent ordinary retinol and it feels great and dont have any regrets. Im not worried about anti ageing entirely but want my skin to be feeling GOOOODDD
i watched a youtube video in high school that said that the best age to start using anti aging stuff, specifically eye cream, was 16. 16!!! i’m 26 now and i have a pretty extensive skincare routine, but that eye cream statement lives in my head rent free and makes me so mad
I was absolutely enraged by how impossible it is to access any skin care that isn’t marketed for anti ageing. I have issues with picking at my skin and like… trying to squeeze black heads and scratching at any rough dry skin, so I was like “oh I’ll try and reduce them with moisturiser and exfoliant so I don’t actually injure myself” and I’m not kidding out of the entire aisle I think I found 2 moisturisers that didn’t say anti ageing.