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Matthew's advice helped me navigate a tricky time in my relationship back when my now-husband and I were dating. My man and I have now been married for 12 years! His advice is gold, sisters. I also want to say how much I appreciate him for squeezing into that short little chair across from Marie in a place set up for petites. It looks a bit too small for him but he made the sacrifice for us.
I resonated so much with "how do I kill my desire to want someone" made me cry as it is where I am at 😢 I know my value and have so much to offer but struggle to find my person.
Interesting turn of perspective Mathew has had lately. Years ago I called his organization and questioned why he only talks to women and has no male audience. At the time his sales team dismissed my question. All I could think was why pay thousands of dollars to go to a lecture with 1000's of women educating themselves far beyond the emotional, spiritual capacity of 90% of the world's men. I wonder if him finding his true love has made him realize how insanely difficult it is for an educated, consciously aware, solvent woman to find an emotionally stable, safe and secure partner that wants to go All IN. The more that woman do the work the smaller the pool of eligible bachelors become. Society, apps, porn, plastic surgery, the paradox of choice have given men a complete out on developing emotional intelligence. The sad part we are simply wired differently, In opposite ways mentally and biologically - I had a 70 year old woman tell me once to love my best life at all times as finding the right person is either destiny or luck.
I'm absolutely in love with the fact that you used the reference of joy and sadness from the movie inside out. I have long felt that that movie is so incredibly deep… I think true joy needs some sadness and grief...
What he did at the end there - acknowledging the real struggle and shit some people go through, and the fact that even his advice might not work for people in very difficult circumstances - I found this extremely graceful! He's grown so much wiser than before! I can't wait to see what he will have to say about maintaining a marriage, now that his is in one, in 10 years time.
I am so grateful for someone to acknowledge people with physical illness or limitations, or in a state of terrible pain. A lot of people really need to hear this.
Thank you Marie and Matthew! I love both of your work. As I’m listening to the health struggle it made me wonder. Do you know about oxalates in food. It’s a new topic I’m learning from my kidney issue. And as I read more on it it talks a lot about how it can potentially give aches in pains and no doc can figure out why. It’s hard because oxalates are found in extremely healthy foods.
Did you ever read “Viktor Frankl”? How to find meaning and purpose in life. Is not always about finding happiness but understanding that we all find purpose in relationships, in love and in suffering as well. Amazing approaches from this amazing psychiatrist that created the Logotherapy. And in relationships we need to know better who we are, the personalities that influenced our behaviour and how to fit or adapt to someone else. I really like Matthew’s humbleness and smart attitude towards relationships! Thank you Marie for this episode! You Rock.
The number one reason I don't have the hard conversations is precisely because I'm not sure of how to deliver the information in a way that will be well received. It's one thing to understand the concept of what to do and not do in dating but another completely when given an example of HOW and WHAT this looks like in real life in the form of having an exact script to emulate. So thank you for that!!
01:27:01 - 01:40:47 The part about self-love was wonederful! Finally someone explained that concept in a way that's much more easy to understand and implement. I appreciate that perspective so much.
Love yourself as a verb, as an approach. That does change everything. I'm responsible for this human, the only person responsible for this human having this human experience. It's simply my purpose to love her.
Wow! I've never thought of it like this. I always tell myself to look after everyone else to make sure they're ok, but I'm trying to get my head around looking after myself and caring about myself... Thank you Tammy 😌
These closing statements were stunning and moved to tears. I am really impressed with how he grown over time. He now seems to be channelling the very real experience of many women today and speaking beautifully to it: the possibility of finding love is narrowing, and many of us must now grapple with this long-term. I really appreciated this and found it extremely healing. Very grateful.
I think it goes beyond what we can offer one another. I have recently ended a relationship where we both were up there in what we could offer one another in every sense of the word but our relationship failed because he wasn't as wedded to the truth as I was.
My heart is so touched with Matthew's sincerity and honesty and vulnerability on this video. The extent to which he acknowledges the human condition and how difficult it is for some to find the right one. I found Matthew's work about 10 years ago. I bought his program, and even went to his live event in LA. I still haven't found the right guy, and it has felt like how he says "is something wrong with me", but it was so refreshing to hear about his own personal story and to hear how those that are on the mountain top can also feel the struggles. I love the part about loving oneself, and the question answer at the end. Thank you Marie, for facilitating this interview and giving the people a voice.
Thank you so much for sharing so openly with us. And don't worry - we're here to reassure you there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, and we're so proud of how far you've come. Sending you tons of love and support. We're so glad you're here ❤❤
To me the key here is that Matthew is - overall - coaching us to come from a sincere and vulnerable place, rather than a strategic, manipulative "make him obsessed with you!" place. That part about tactics - it's really, really true. People are constantly screening themselves out of eligibility as your person to be in a happy relationship with, and your choice is whether you join them, or focus on that relationship with yourself and your life, and practice self compassion and tender loving care. There's a woman named Sarah Peyton who teaches this in depth, she has videos on here, and I am sure she's not the only one. I am learning this and am happier - and still alone - than I've been. I have hope now, but also I don't feel so alone/lonely.
Well that was fabulous. I don't think I have ever sat through more than 15 mins of anything on youtube yet I was completely hooked on every word for 2 hours. Thank you
Great job, both of you! Matt seems to have gone through enough life lessons to summarize beautiful strategies, with great understanding. Thank you Matt
Why this podcast is so underrated? I have learned so many things related to relationships from mathew. He is an indeed a perfect coach for people who feel too much, who love too much.
I've just recently found Matthew's work and have been binging on several interviews which is this double WIN as I've now found several others whom I will follow. Thank you Marie..you have a new subscriber 💚🙏
Matt is talking about woman acting 'crazy' and how would that evaporate if they are dating someone who is making them feel safe. It reminds me of Oh Wonder song 'Drive', it goes: 'I remember all the times you made me covered in crazy. Can't forget it, all the ways you played me...' This is so true. I was acting totally different in different relationships. It's very important to realize what is our responsibility and what is not. So we can stop blaming ourselves.
Our behaviours are not as justifiable as our emotions though. Our emotions are valid. Always. Doesn't mean because of that that a wild "crazy" reaction/behaviour is justified. We should aim for control of our responses to certain situations, while it's okay to try to understand the emotions behind it and how it caused it. And to be able to look inward and be able to end something that we can finally realise isn't giving us that needed sense of emotional "safety".
Matthew’s podcast with the fertility specialists actually helped me decide to freeze embryos with my partner as we were (still are) both undecided and weren’t at the right place to have children. Thanks Matt!
This was by far the most interesting tete-a-tete with Hussey! Marie you sure know how to handle his idiosyncracies, and let him come out in an unfamiliar yet safe environment! Loved every bit of this insightful banter! Hussey has sure grown with his age - a trait getting rare among most men, worldwide.
I am a fan of both of you for over a decade. This collabo is a dream. How this interview went so deep and touching so fast? Thank you Marie for bringing Matt in. You are both amazing human.
I loved this interview! Thank you, thank you! He’s so funny and so right! The “one job” explanation is gold, I’ll buy this book now. Also, I love how Marie always talks about Kuma! While doing Time Genius, I saw him in one of the videos, Marie was talking about her morning routine, and there he was. Being a dog mom too, I can understand with wanting to start your day with a dog’s unconditional love! I liked her a bit more when I saw that!
We're thrilled to hear it and we're even more happy you're one of our beloved Alum. And from one dog owner to another, starting your day with a dog is the best way to do it. Sending you and yours tons of love. 🐕
This went much deeper than expected! Thank you so much! Amazing framing that initiating hard conversations is taking leadership. ❤ Absolutely loved that!
Great tips on good communication. Loving yourself and loving your partner need to come within a framework of commitment. We are not always going get things our way, and the relationship becomes the priority.
Love your videos, such great information as the dating scene is very difficult to navigate now, have been single for 2 years. Spent almost my whole life married.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Such great advice!! 👐🏽 As I practice loving myself more I get more comfortable settling boundaries asking my date what his intention is and being ok with them potentially saying the opposite of what I’m hoping for and letting them go if our intentions don’t match.❤
Matthew Hussey thank you for your transparency and openness. Regarding the tinnitus - look into the links between it and non Hodgkins Lymphoma - it could be an immune issue. There is a lot of research linking these. Also turn off your wifi at night. a great book OVER POWERED by a Colombia University professor who spent forty years and world specialist linking chronic illness and exposure to non iodizing radiation. The W.H.O has also done decades of study on cell phone and wifi exposure and has listed them as probable carcinogens.
So sorry that you have to go through this chronic pain phase. Do you know "the way out" from alan gordon? somatic tracking helps to come out of chronic pain and dizzines. And nervous system regulation also helps with being so sensitive to noise. There is also a study in the book that shows how effective it is.
I wonder from where you get your inspirations for your books ? Personally I base my thoughts on different kind of subjects on my own life experiences .
Please never use scripted texts!!!!!!!! If you want a real relationship you have to be real! Recently I was talking to two guys via text, they used the exact same scripted text that said, "yeah, let's try to cook a meal together and after we burn through a couple pans we can just scrap it and go out to eat." There were several others. Instant turn off! If you are not intelligent enough to write your own texts, you shouldn't be dating.
Decided to look up Hussey's age after he mentioned it in this video. He's all of 36. I just don't get how someone that young, even if he is an "expert", is given such credibility on such an immense and complex topic. Only 36? Really?
WOW‼️ WOW ‼️ WOW ‼️ I so needed to hear this today and I found it purely by accident.. I was looking for yet another video on Fibromyalgia, something I've delt with for 40 odd years and Tinnitus for about 10 years. Nothing in the title let me know there was anything to do with either of these things yet I felt I had to watch it...... thank You
We're so honored you watched and so honored you shared this with us (and even more proud you listened to your gut and heart.) Grateful to have you here, Lynne! ❤❤
@@TeamForleo I've also shared it with my friends..... at 68 it would have been nice to have this information back when I was in my late teens earlier twenties...
What is your advice for someone who communicated standards and needs in a healthy way, didn’t feel like they were being met, then communicated in an unhealthy way from a dysregulated nervous system and now I feel like the crazy one. 😅
I personally feel like I did this in my last relationship. You *might* have to be honest with yourself about the other individuals’ willingness to understand and work with you. I asked my ex for couples counseling 3x in our relationship. First he told me basically he thinks it’s just me. After some self progress and events in my relationship, I asked again and he said sure-you find the counselor, set the appointment and I’ll show up. Truthfully, that didn’t encourage me it would be a fruitful endeavor. Last time, he suggested it-after I sat down with him and told him I believe I wanted to end the relationship. Now I had a bad rebound situationship (one that taught me a TON so I don’t regret it and am actually super grateful for it), but still I don’t regret it. Not saying that’s your journey-now though, I just asked someone I’ve been seeing for 2.5 months if he’d be up theoretically for that if I feel (or he) ever feels the need. And he said absolutely. Just my experience, again, you may be different. Someone committed to misunderstanding you, never will understand no matter how painstakingly you choose your words or attempt to regulate yourself. While with someone who is committed to understanding you and your internal context, you can use the “wrong” or “not the best” words and they still are there, for it all-“right” words or wrong.
My ex partner just did that, I think, looking back, he did express his needs in a healthy way and I did not notice. And then he expressed them in a big meltdown way that I sure noticed this time ;) but it triggered me which triggered him again then bang he broke up and ran. Just like that
Im sorry. That makes me sad. And I know im learning how to be a better person from it all. I listen to Heidi Prieb and she had a great episode on self containment that helped me. Thank you for sharing. I don’t know what the outcome of my meltdown is quite yet. I love how Matthew says it’s about who can handle you the best.
@@jasblossoms I'm sorry also. I understand now how he got frustrated at me and felt ignored and abandoned. And from my perspective I felt super hurt to suddenly go from love of his life to enemy number 1. What a mess relationship can be even tho there is so much love ;) I also watched her videos. It sure brings tons of understanding.
I don't find a man's unavailability attractive, it doesn't make me want him even more if he gives me signs that he's not really interested, I don't think a man is valuable because he's hard to "get". However, for me chemistry, that physical, sexual attraction is very important in a couple. I can't be a couple with someone I don't have chemistry with, no matter how great he is as a person!
First dates hold no excitement for me. They're just depressing because past experience tells me it's just more of the same crap and > 99.99% certainly a waste of time. The
Great conversation. But still this version of Self love has flaws. My brain knows that if I have 'to love' myself' as a job, that means I don't. Though, it might be that after 50 years of actively doing the job, it would stop to be needed anymore, like the psychological bucket of self love would be full, and unlike physical cells that need food everyday, perhaps love being Psychological, doesn't. But then, this kind of self love is a process of conscious thinking, which is based on memory (as in, brain cells say- dressing nice is self love and brain cells being physical need Self love till the end.)
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Matthew's advice helped me navigate a tricky time in my relationship back when my now-husband and I were dating. My man and I have now been married for 12 years! His advice is gold, sisters. I also want to say how much I appreciate him for squeezing into that short little chair across from Marie in a place set up for petites. It looks a bit too small for him but he made the sacrifice for us.
We're so happy to have you here, Genevieve. Sending you and your man so much love! ❤
Matthew is amazing
“…. Squeezing into that…..”. 😂😅Hahahhahaha
what was his advice to you?
@@selfloveroadmapThey always do that don't they? They say I was cured of this and that but refuse to share the details. They love to tease.
I resonated so much with "how do I kill my desire to want someone" made me cry as it is where I am at 😢 I know my value and have so much to offer but struggle to find my person.
me too and I'm really struggling with it. life has become horrible because of this one desire
Same. I have also been to naive & gullible with selfish, deceitful men. Wasted years.
Afraid to hope. Tired of trying.
Interesting turn of perspective Mathew has had lately. Years ago I called his organization and questioned why he only talks to women and has no male audience.
At the time his sales team dismissed my question. All I could think was why pay thousands of dollars to go to a lecture with 1000's of women educating themselves far beyond the emotional, spiritual capacity of 90% of the world's men.
I wonder if him finding his true love has made him realize how insanely difficult it is for an educated, consciously aware, solvent woman to find an emotionally stable, safe and secure partner that wants to go All IN.
The more that woman do the work the smaller the pool of eligible bachelors become. Society, apps, porn, plastic surgery, the paradox of choice have given men a complete out on developing emotional intelligence.
The sad part we are simply wired differently, In opposite ways mentally and biologically -
I had a 70 year old woman tell me once to love my best life at all times as finding the right person is either destiny or luck.
@@grateful7420 Same. This brings tears to my eyes.
Can u give me the time stamp
I'm absolutely in love with the fact that you used the reference of joy and sadness from the movie inside out. I have long felt that that movie is so incredibly deep… I think true joy needs some sadness and grief...
Isn't that the best analogy? We love that you caught that, too. ❤
What he did at the end there - acknowledging the real struggle and shit some people go through, and the fact that even his advice might not work for people in very difficult circumstances - I found this extremely graceful!
He's grown so much wiser than before! I can't wait to see what he will have to say about maintaining a marriage, now that his is in one, in 10 years time.
We're so honored to have you here. Thank you for watching with us and sharing your thoughts ❤
He's always been wise beyond he's age
I am so grateful for someone to acknowledge people with physical illness or limitations, or in a state of terrible pain. A lot of people really need to hear this.
You're absolutely right, Becca. Thank you for sharing this important perspective. So happy to have you here. ❤
Michelle Elman does he same and her dating g books includes how to date despite being chronically ill etc.
I also can say I’ve liked how Matthew has evolved - I didn’t always agree with his messages in his younger years - so much wiser. Love it.
Thank you Marie and Matthew! I love both of your work. As I’m listening to the health struggle it made me wonder. Do you know about oxalates in food. It’s a new topic I’m learning from my kidney issue. And as I read more on it it talks a lot about how it can potentially give aches in pains and no doc can figure out why. It’s hard because oxalates are found in extremely healthy foods.
Same! His message IS so much better
Real!
Did you ever read “Viktor Frankl”? How to find meaning and purpose in life. Is not always about finding happiness but understanding that we all find purpose in relationships, in love and in suffering as well. Amazing approaches from this amazing psychiatrist that created the Logotherapy. And in relationships we need to know better who we are, the personalities that influenced our behaviour and how to fit or adapt to someone else. I really like Matthew’s humbleness and smart attitude towards relationships! Thank you Marie for this episode! You Rock.
Thank YOU so much for sharing your thoughts with us, Eugenia. We're honored by the comparison to Viktor Frankl's work, too! Sending you tons of love ❤
I think this is one of Matthew’s best interviews I’ve seen!! She is such a fantastic host. Thank you both!!! ❤
The number one reason I don't have the hard conversations is precisely because I'm not sure of how to deliver the information in a way that will be well received. It's one thing to understand the concept of what to do and not do in dating but another completely when given an example of HOW and WHAT this looks like in real life in the form of having an exact script to emulate. So thank you for that!!
01:27:01 - 01:40:47 The part about self-love was wonederful!
Finally someone explained that concept in a way that's much more easy to understand and implement. I appreciate that perspective so much.
This was incredible. So healing.
Loved this conversation! ❤
So honored to have you on the show, Matthew. We adore you 💖
Love yourself as a verb, as an approach. That does change everything. I'm responsible for this human, the only person responsible for this human having this human experience. It's simply my purpose to love her.
You've got it, Tammy. You've absolutely got it. ❤
Wow! I've never thought of it like this. I always tell myself to look after everyone else to make sure they're ok, but I'm trying to get my head around looking after myself and caring about myself... Thank you Tammy 😌
Love yourself to not let anyone take advantage of yourself anymore when you will be played again by wrong person
These closing statements were stunning and moved to tears. I am really impressed with how he grown over time. He now seems to be channelling the very real experience of many women today and speaking beautifully to it: the possibility of finding love is narrowing, and many of us must now grapple with this long-term. I really appreciated this and found it extremely healing. Very grateful.
We're so grateful for YOU and your beautiful share. Thank you for being here and taking the time to watch with us - sending so much love your way. 💖
Omg this was one of the best podcasts i ever hear!!! I love this guy. His book is so good
I think what we have to ask ourselves, is. I know what I have to offer....And do you match it? If not, then we can never be.
I think it goes beyond what we can offer one another. I have recently ended a relationship where we both were up there in what we could offer one another in every sense of the word but our relationship failed because he wasn't as wedded to the truth as I was.
My heart is so touched with Matthew's sincerity and honesty and vulnerability on this video. The extent to which he acknowledges the human condition and how difficult it is for some to find the right one. I found Matthew's work about 10 years ago. I bought his program, and even went to his live event in LA. I still haven't found the right guy, and it has felt like how he says "is something wrong with me", but it was so refreshing to hear about his own personal story and to hear how those that are on the mountain top can also feel the struggles. I love the part about loving oneself, and the question answer at the end. Thank you Marie, for facilitating this interview and giving the people a voice.
Thank you so much for sharing so openly with us. And don't worry - we're here to reassure you there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, and we're so proud of how far you've come. Sending you tons of love and support. We're so glad you're here ❤❤
So many illusional questions in this video on "the one". Matthew himself have addressed it on several occasions - there's no such thing.
If you came here from Instagram and looking for a clip where girl ask that how to kill the desire to want someone it start 15:50
Wow thanks bro
To me the key here is that Matthew is - overall - coaching us to come from a sincere and vulnerable place, rather than a strategic, manipulative "make him obsessed with you!" place. That part about tactics - it's really, really true. People are constantly screening themselves out of eligibility as your person to be in a happy relationship with, and your choice is whether you join them, or focus on that relationship with yourself and your life, and practice self compassion and tender loving care. There's a woman named Sarah Peyton who teaches this in depth, she has videos on here, and I am sure she's not the only one. I am learning this and am happier - and still alone - than I've been. I have hope now, but also I don't feel so alone/lonely.
Well that was fabulous. I don't think I have ever sat through more than 15 mins of anything on youtube yet I was completely hooked on every word for 2 hours. Thank you
Great job, both of you! Matt seems to have gone through enough life lessons to summarize beautiful strategies, with great understanding. Thank you Matt
Thank YOU for being here and for your kind words, Rosemary! Sending buckets of love your way. ❤
Why this podcast is so underrated?
I have learned so many things related to relationships from mathew. He is an indeed a perfect coach for people who feel too much, who love too much.
Maybe because it’s so long?
I've seen a lot of interviews with Matthew, but i feel that this one is the best
🥰 *blushes* 🥰
I've just recently found Matthew's work and have been binging on several interviews which is this double WIN as I've now found several others whom I will follow. Thank you Marie..you have a new subscriber 💚🙏
Oh, Grace! You've absolutely made our day. WELCOME. We're so happy you're here. 💖
Honestly did not expect the guy to give such great advice but the Matthew has a wonderful voice and tone and advice so interesting and useful
We're so happy to hear that! Thank you for watching and for being here. 💖
Matt is talking about woman acting 'crazy' and how would that evaporate if they are dating someone who is making them feel safe. It reminds me of Oh Wonder song 'Drive', it goes: 'I remember all the times you made me covered in crazy. Can't forget it, all the ways you played me...' This is so true. I was acting totally different in different relationships. It's very important to realize what is our responsibility and what is not. So we can stop blaming ourselves.
Our behaviours are not as justifiable as our emotions though. Our emotions are valid. Always. Doesn't mean because of that that a wild "crazy" reaction/behaviour is justified. We should aim for control of our responses to certain situations, while it's okay to try to understand the emotions behind it and how it caused it. And to be able to look inward and be able to end something that we can finally realise isn't giving us that needed sense of emotional "safety".
Hallmark of depression is resigning yourself from happiness, but you can be happy for others or help others be happy
Love how real and honest Matthew Hussey is here!
So glad you enjoyed it, Sophie! We loved having him on the show (:
1:35:53 this is the best ever contemplation on self love
Matthew’s podcast with the fertility specialists actually helped me decide to freeze embryos with my partner as we were (still are) both undecided and weren’t at the right place to have children. Thanks Matt!
IVF kills 5 children for every one successful implantation.
‘How do I kill my desire to want someone?’ Literally, brought big tears to my eyes…
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I wish there was an answer
@@drnessimakaabeche7189I came here after watching in a shorts just to find the answer 😐
@@drnessimakaabeche7189I was so strongly waiting for the answer...😢
@@drnessimakaabeche7189 i was hoping for an answer too 🥺
such a great interview
Thanks, Emily! Grateful you're here. 💖
WOW Matthew Hussey has grown up on so many levels...... Love it!
This was by far the most interesting tete-a-tete with Hussey! Marie you sure know how to handle his idiosyncracies, and let him come out in an unfamiliar yet safe environment! Loved every bit of this insightful banter! Hussey has sure grown with his age - a trait getting rare among most men, worldwide.
Matthew has truly helped me through my depression, pain, and anxiety from past breakups. Thanks to him, I am now stronger than ever before.
15:51 Even though I'm a guy, I relate to her question so much! 😭😭😭
I am a fan of both of you for over a decade. This collabo is a dream. How this interview went so deep and touching so fast? Thank you Marie for bringing Matt in. You are both amazing human.
We're so honored to have you here! Thank you so much for your dedication and your love. And truly - it's YOU who's amazing! 💖
I loved this interview! Thank you, thank you! He’s so funny and so right! The “one job” explanation is gold, I’ll buy this book now.
Also, I love how Marie always talks about Kuma! While doing Time Genius, I saw him in one of the videos, Marie was talking about her morning routine, and there he was. Being a dog mom too, I can understand with wanting to start your day with a dog’s unconditional love! I liked her a bit more when I saw that!
We're thrilled to hear it and we're even more happy you're one of our beloved Alum. And from one dog owner to another, starting your day with a dog is the best way to do it. Sending you and yours tons of love. 🐕
Yes Marie! Thanks for doing this!!!!!!❤
You're so sweet! Thank you for being here and for watching with us. ❤
I loved this episode, it is incredibly grounded, human, honest and vulnerable. Thank you!
Thank you both
I enjoy listening thank's for inviting Sir Matthew here.
Marie has such a beautiful laugh. This is my new favorite podcast and it's only the first video I've seen
So good! I love his take on life and love. The self love portion was mind blowing !
So glad you're here, Michelle. 😁
Such an incredible and powerful episode, filled with deep compassion and heartfelt advice. Thank you both!
You're so sweet! Thank YOU for being here and watching with us. Sending you tons of love. 💖
This went much deeper than expected! Thank you so much! Amazing framing that initiating hard conversations is taking leadership. ❤ Absolutely loved that!
We love when we can surprise you, Kine. Sending you tons of love 💖
mathew is awesome! thanks for inviting him, now I know to follow you too :) .
Great tips on good communication.
Loving yourself and loving your partner need to come within a framework of commitment. We are not always going get things our way, and the relationship becomes the priority.
Love your videos, such great information as the dating scene is very difficult to navigate now, have been single for 2 years. Spent almost my whole life married.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much, Janet - we sure appreciate you being here and watching. Sending you so much love. xoxo
Good communication helps understand each other better.
You've got that right. 👏
amazing! simply amazing
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Such great advice!! 👐🏽
As I practice loving myself more I get more comfortable settling boundaries asking my date what his intention is and being ok with them potentially saying the opposite of what I’m hoping for and letting them go if our intentions don’t match.❤
Oh Matthew - that tinnitus journey is my journey. Massive relating.
Sending you so much love, Erin. ❤
@@TeamForleothank you … I liked hearing Matthews real-ness.
Thank you both for this conversation. I learned so much. And feel excited to apply what I learned to my life. Very rich and timely.
We're so honored to have you here and watching with us. Keep us posted. Sending you all the love. ❤
tak end with ghosting was briliant 👍👍👍
Matthew Hussey thank you for your transparency and openness. Regarding the tinnitus - look into the links between it and non Hodgkins Lymphoma - it could be an immune issue. There is a lot of research linking these. Also turn off your wifi at night. a great book OVER POWERED by a Colombia University professor who spent forty years and world specialist linking chronic illness and exposure to non iodizing radiation. The W.H.O has also done decades of study on cell phone and wifi exposure and has listed them as probable carcinogens.
Mathew, I loved this . I can def relate to this so much ❤ thankyou ❤️
What is that video they talk about on 3:44 ?
Your tips sharpen the skills.
Yes true facts easy to sell. Thanks
thank you so much for this interview! It's amazing!
So sorry that you have to go through this chronic pain phase. Do you know "the way out" from alan gordon? somatic tracking helps to come out of chronic pain and dizzines. And nervous system regulation also helps with being so sensitive to noise. There is also a study in the book that shows how effective it is.
Thank you so much Mathew love you ❤❤
You're so welcome! Thank YOU for being here! xoxo
Thank you Matthew, magic it’s my way of living I’m so excited waiting for the book blessings to you and Audrey
We can't wait for you to read Matthew's book, Christina! Let us know what you think - we're so honored you watched with us ❤
I receive all the abundance blessings in this reading❤❤❤Thank you!!!
I wonder from where you get your inspirations for your books ?
Personally I base my thoughts on different kind of subjects on my own life experiences .
Marie ages like fine wine. 😂❤
This stuff is GOLD!!
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Love this convo ❤
Hey guys spot on with the self love thing!💕
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This video is pure gold
Thank you!
Amazing and really funny becasue it's so relatable
Loved this ❤ mattew hussey
That episode is something special
1:12:29 To ask the other person where your relationship with him is headed, aka the 'hard' conversation, is irrelevant after a certain time!
Love the analogy re take care of this human to give it the best life you can versus self love.
Please never use scripted texts!!!!!!!! If you want a real relationship you have to be real! Recently I was talking to two guys via text, they used the exact same scripted text that said, "yeah, let's try to cook a meal together and after we burn through a couple pans we can just scrap it and go out to eat." There were several others. Instant turn off! If you are not intelligent enough to write your own texts, you shouldn't be dating.
I agree. Most of those people are scammers. They use the same similar texts.
@Joy-mm3cz I wouldn't say that all are scammers but more like they don't have gift of the gab.
Matthew is amazing!
16:20 I also teared up
You're not alone. Big hugs. ❤
💔💔so relatable
Funny i am suscribed to both and i rarely open RUclips and see this 😮
Meant to be ✨
Decided to look up Hussey's age after he mentioned it in this video. He's all of 36. I just don't get how someone that young, even if he is an "expert", is given such credibility on such an immense and complex topic. Only 36? Really?
I’m inclined to agree. Life experience counts for an awful lot. I like Esther Perel for this topic. Relating essentially.
I agree.
Age doesn't mean wisdom. Matthew is amazing. 😊
His perspective on impermanence and clinging is very Buddhist in many ways.
Yeah, I also saw the influence. I'm not familiar with Matthew enough to know if it was a direct or indirect influence, though.
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I so needed to hear this today and I found it purely by accident..
I was looking for yet another video on Fibromyalgia, something I've delt with for 40 odd years and Tinnitus for about 10 years.
Nothing in the title let me know there was anything to do with either of these things yet I felt I had to watch it...... thank You
We're so honored you watched and so honored you shared this with us (and even more proud you listened to your gut and heart.) Grateful to have you here, Lynne! ❤❤
@@TeamForleo I've also shared it with my friends..... at 68 it would have been nice to have this information back when I was in my late teens earlier twenties...
Difficult to explain love themes. Creating a well organized plot, very difficult. Hope your tips will make it easy. Thanks.
What is your advice for someone who communicated standards and needs in a healthy way, didn’t feel like they were being met, then communicated in an unhealthy way from a dysregulated nervous system and now I feel like the crazy one. 😅
I personally feel like I did this in my last relationship. You *might* have to be honest with yourself about the other individuals’ willingness to understand and work with you. I asked my ex for couples counseling 3x in our relationship. First he told me basically he thinks it’s just me. After some self progress and events in my relationship, I asked again and he said sure-you find the counselor, set the appointment and I’ll show up. Truthfully, that didn’t encourage me it would be a fruitful endeavor. Last time, he suggested it-after I sat down with him and told him I believe I wanted to end the relationship. Now I had a bad rebound situationship (one that taught me a TON so I don’t regret it and am actually super grateful for it), but still I don’t regret it.
Not saying that’s your journey-now though, I just asked someone I’ve been seeing for 2.5 months if he’d be up theoretically for that if I feel (or he) ever feels the need. And he said absolutely.
Just my experience, again, you may be different.
Someone committed to misunderstanding you, never will understand no matter how painstakingly you choose your words or attempt to regulate yourself. While with someone who is committed to understanding you and your internal context, you can use the “wrong” or “not the best” words and they still are there, for it all-“right” words or wrong.
My ex partner just did that, I think, looking back, he did express his needs in a healthy way and I did not notice. And then he expressed them in a big meltdown way that I sure noticed this time ;) but it triggered me which triggered him again then bang he broke up and ran. Just like that
Im sorry. That makes me sad. And I know im learning how to be a better person from it all. I listen to Heidi Prieb and she had a great episode on self containment that helped me. Thank you for sharing. I don’t know what the outcome of my meltdown is quite yet. I love how Matthew says it’s about who can handle you the best.
@@jasblossoms I'm sorry also. I understand now how he got frustrated at me and felt ignored and abandoned. And from my perspective I felt super hurt to suddenly go from love of his life to enemy number 1. What a mess relationship can be even tho there is so much love ;)
I also watched her videos. It sure brings tons of understanding.
@@jasblossoms Heidi is the best !
I love Marie's Italian size...now it all makes sense.
Please explain differences between story and plot.
I don't find a man's unavailability attractive, it doesn't make me want him even more if he gives me signs that he's not really interested, I don't think a man is valuable because he's hard to "get". However, for me chemistry, that physical, sexual attraction is very important in a couple. I can't be a couple with someone I don't have chemistry with, no matter how great he is as a person!
First dates hold no excitement for me. They're just depressing because past experience tells me it's just more of the same crap and > 99.99% certainly a waste of time. The
I think it's better to meet people in real life situations as that's when u feel if there's a spark or not.
@@marissakeynes2532 and it's 99.9% of the time 'not', so a lot of time wasted on something I find a real chore.
Self respect should be the self love rebrand.
My boyfriend of two years was on a dating app, as “single!” He had multiple women going believing he was single.
I'm sorry u went thru that. He wasn't worthy of u.
For those who came for “how do i kill my desire to want someone” is in the minute 15:46
Great conversation.
But still this version of Self love has flaws. My brain knows that if I have 'to love' myself' as a job, that means I don't. Though, it might be that after 50 years of actively doing the job, it would stop to be needed anymore, like the psychological bucket of self love would be full, and unlike physical cells that need food everyday, perhaps love being Psychological, doesn't. But then, this kind of self love is a process of conscious thinking, which is based on memory (as in, brain cells say- dressing nice is self love and brain cells being physical need Self love till the end.)
Thank you youtube algorithm!!!!❤ !
all the things, all the things, all the things
Plan B are always the cats. Or dogs. Or rabbits.
Nailed it. 🙌
"Two people building together that plot of land"
I just wanna know why more women are bisexual and dating other women instead of men and more men are single, do you have any solution for this
I think u know the answer already. 😅
@@marissakeynes2532 I literally have no idea, pls tell me me if you know
"Happy enough"
Great content. Unfortunately, the constant stream of commercials destroys all sense of continuity.
That's how they get rich. 😅