Just bc a man is genuinely interested doesn’t mean he is a good fit for you. Know yourself, what you want and need from a relationship, and develop a keen sense of ✨discernment✨
Yes!! I learned this- do not have a lot of sex with these guys! Us women get bonded with sex & lose all insight, we get emotional & lose ourselves- it’s a no no- you have to ration the sex, if you do it at all- because men do not BOND sexually- that’s just the way we are designed! Also, if he does not offer commitment within the first 2-3 months- it’s a rap- all bets are off, stop any sex & Walk Away! It’s NOT going to happen/ that’s the cutoff- ask the questions, do your homework within this time frame & hold out on sex & start looking for his 🚩 red flags!! Us women have to be strategic & have our own rules across the board that we follow & apply to each man we date- no exceptions - great advice & you didn’t drag it out! Subscribed!!❤
Wisdom! If fathers on larger scales were able to articulate this to their daughters, we would not have had a mass epidemic of baby mamas among black women. Wow. This is gold. Thanks for sharing.
This is spot on! I practised this when going on dates with a man recently. Turned out he had bad intentions and was so surprised when I walked away. He seemed to think I was so in to him when I was still evaluating his character and intentions.
@@blesseddeshawna89 yes and I'm so grateful for it. I'm going to continue practicing patience and stand firm. Users are not patient and they will reveal themselves when they're not getting what they want when they want it!
Good video, but I truly wish that dating was not so difficult. I wish that people would just act like grown ups and treat people like they want to be treated. Tired of juvenile games. Lately, it feels like you have to take a college course to date. 🤦🏾♀️ Ridiculous
I enjoy your platform because it appears you have females in your family you care about to share hope for us ladies who are serious about dating for a purpose
@@30uprelationshipcoach lolol mannn it be tough out there my ex want me back after the hell he put me through…nobody loyal…you have to play detective to see what people motives are…I’m good coach lolol🤣awesome video though
I haven't been around a guy in ANY way since 2017 (I'm 54), so a guy trying to sniff around me, will have to get his "nose 🍬🍭 candy" somewhere else! I want the right one and will wait if and when that time comes, as I've relegated myself to being single for the rest of my life, if so be it.
actions and words MUST BE ALIGNED -- DTR OF 3-4 MONTHS OF BEING WITH SOMEONE : VERBALLY AND MUTUALLY AGREED UPON DATING TERMS AND ROLES; EXCLUSIVE OR DATING
I never said YOU are playing the game. I'm helping women identify the men that are playing games so that you don't waste any time with them on your way to finding a real man that serious about true love and commitment. There are two side to dating and meeting your person. You're gonna run into players and those that are serious. You said kids play games. A lot of Men and women that are still playing are very child like. That is true. Good luck to you.
This guy goes out of his way to come to my nurses station to flirt with me and compliment me, even saying I smell good. But when I ask him out or even try to go to lunch together at the cafeteria, he claims "semen retention" , no women right now, he needs to stay on his purpose 🙄 . How do I get him to see that that's just a fad and he needs to drop that SR nonsense before he misses a good thing? (He's a really great guy, very smart, gonna be a doctor some day). Please note, I'm not trying to sleep with him, just wanna start dating him.
Girl Thank You, its been so long since i left this comment that i completely forgot about it. And clearly Coach Paul had better things to do then help little ol' me 😉. Thanks again Lisha, I appreciate it!! 😊@@LishaArlene
@@Stryv4Prfctn What he is telling you is that he is a "Red Pill" follower with all that rhetoric. When a man is interested in you, HE will ask you out, pursue & chase you. NEVER ask a man out. Ignore this man. He is playing a game, that will leave you hurt and confused in the end. His intentions do not appear to be good concerning you.
it's almost like you're saying play dumb AND OUTSMART MEN WITH THEIR GAME in order to know their true intentions without being emotionally lead to prevent manipulation and getting played with? I don't like all these mind games and inclusivity in being pursued with body language, certain word usage, being only emotional available "enough" for their needs to be met
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Just bc a man is genuinely interested doesn’t mean he is a good fit for you. Know yourself, what you want and need from a relationship, and develop a keen sense of ✨discernment✨
Yes!! I learned this- do not have a lot of sex with these guys! Us women get bonded with sex & lose all insight, we get emotional & lose ourselves- it’s a no no- you have to ration the sex, if you do it at all- because men do not BOND sexually- that’s just the way we are designed! Also, if he does not offer commitment within the first 2-3 months- it’s a rap- all bets are off, stop any sex & Walk Away! It’s NOT going to happen/ that’s the cutoff- ask the questions, do your homework within this time frame & hold out on sex & start looking for his 🚩 red flags!! Us women have to be strategic & have our own rules across the board that we follow & apply to each man we date- no exceptions - great advice & you didn’t drag it out! Subscribed!!❤
@@user-iu6bv8vu8o Thank you sis. I appreciate your comment.
Don’t have it at all until married
Wisdom!
If fathers on larger scales were able to articulate this to their daughters, we would not have had a mass epidemic of baby mamas among black women. Wow.
This is gold.
Thanks for sharing.
@@amore6206 💯
They are only emotional available enough to get their needs met, and not yours.
Where was this information 20 years ago 😭😮
@@graceElizabeth555 💯. Glad I can help sis.
This is spot on! I practised this when going on dates with a man recently. Turned out he had bad intentions and was so surprised when I walked away. He seemed to think I was so in to him when I was still evaluating his character and intentions.
@@Annie-nt7xb At least you made it out without getting got!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@blesseddeshawna89 yes and I'm so grateful for it. I'm going to continue practicing patience and stand firm. Users are not patient and they will reveal themselves when they're not getting what they want when they want it!
So basically men play chess and women are out here playing checkers. Men always think ahead. I agree 💯 with Coach Paul.
@beautyforashes5257 Dudes definitely are playing chess when they are playing games. Women can't just move with your heart but also with your head.
This is how fathers should be teaching their daughters early. Ladies, heal first before you date to be more wiser.
Good video, but I truly wish that dating was not so difficult. I wish that people would just act like grown ups and treat people like they want to be treated. Tired of juvenile games. Lately, it feels like you have to take a college course to date. 🤦🏾♀️ Ridiculous
Exactly!
I enjoy your platform because it appears you have females in your family you care about to share hope for us ladies who are serious about dating for a purpose
All women need to hear this from their fathers. So few do. Thank you Coach Paul.
Every woman should hear this 🙌🏾 👏 👌🏽
@@Karyn.ntiamoaa 💙💙Send it to every woman you know. Lol
Always go in goal oriented always. Keep the feeling out of the way, I can fall in love later.
DAMN....He GOT me😔
🙌🏽 He is speaking nothing but the truth here… Thank you, Paul.
@@scherrieCarter 🧡🧡🧡
Sooooo true. Great advice. Save a woman a world of pain for sure.
Just stay alone…Got it🤪👌🏽🙏🏽
@@Necole-x2d 😂
@@30uprelationshipcoach lolol mannn it be tough out there my ex want me back after the hell he put me through…nobody loyal…you have to play detective to see what people motives are…I’m good coach lolol🤣awesome video though
@@Necole-x2d 🤣🤣🤣
Definitely had to learn this hardaway
Thanks for the video, Coach Paul! It would have greater impact if you look into the camera lens - as awkward as that can feel. It makes a difference.
Spoke no lies all facts
Dang…. This is really good advice! Thank you 🙏
@@autotelicstate33 Definitely. I'm here to help
I haven't been around a guy in ANY way since 2017 (I'm 54), so a guy trying to sniff around me, will have to get his "nose 🍬🍭 candy" somewhere else!
I want the right one and will wait if and when that time comes, as I've relegated myself to being single for the rest of my life, if so be it.
@marciawade9101 Wow. Hopefully, you won't be single for the rest of your life.
@@30uprelationshipcoach Again, that's ok if it's in the cards.
Thank you for this! Pls keep it coming 😊
DEFINITELY
Yup yup this is 💯 true
actions and words MUST BE ALIGNED -- DTR OF 3-4 MONTHS OF BEING WITH SOMEONE : VERBALLY AND MUTUALLY AGREED UPON DATING TERMS AND ROLES; EXCLUSIVE OR DATING
Love this! New subscriber!
@@stacygreen9861 💯
Thank you 🎉
Got it😊
Great information Coach!!
Spot on!
💯
very well explained
Ur sooo right
Said we were together exclusively but basically still future faked.
@@motionmuse5684 Wow.
Real Talk good info❤❤❤
💯💙
😭truth
@@cecilang9721 💯
But...speak about ladies who don't have relations waiting for marriage and want to date
Impossible 😢😅
What are yall trying accomplish. I don’t give up sex or money .
Amen, Sister. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
You keep saying "Playing the Game." 😢I DON'T PLAY GAMES. KIDS play games. A real man will be honest and truthful. No damn games.
I never said YOU are playing the game. I'm helping women identify the men that are playing games so that you don't waste any time with them on your way to finding a real man that serious about true love and commitment. There are two side to dating and meeting your person. You're gonna run into players and those that are serious. You said kids play games. A lot of Men and women that are still playing are very child like. That is true. Good luck to you.
@@30uprelationshipcoachlife is a game. You either play or lose by default. Women need to hear what you’re saying.
This guy goes out of his way to come to my nurses station to flirt with me and compliment me, even saying I smell good. But when I ask him out or even try to go to lunch together at the cafeteria, he claims "semen retention" , no women right now, he needs to stay on his purpose 🙄 . How do I get him to see that that's just a fad and he needs to drop that SR nonsense before he misses a good thing? (He's a really great guy, very smart, gonna be a doctor some day). Please note, I'm not trying to sleep with him, just wanna start dating him.
Maybe don’t ask him out, let him ask you and if he doesn’t, oh well - respectfully
Girl Thank You, its been so long since i left this comment that i completely forgot about it. And clearly Coach Paul had better things to do then help little ol' me 😉. Thanks again Lisha, I appreciate it!! 😊@@LishaArlene
@@Stryv4Prfctn 🥰
@@Stryv4Prfctn What he is telling you is that he is a "Red Pill" follower with all that rhetoric. When a man is interested in you, HE will ask you out, pursue & chase you. NEVER ask a man out. Ignore this man. He is playing a game, that will leave you hurt and confused in the end. His intentions do not appear to be good concerning you.
Thank you Roses. I appreciate it! 😊🩷@@roses4me451
I don’t understand…. 😢
@@sheenajackson2813 ??
❤️❤️❤️
it's almost like you're saying play dumb AND OUTSMART MEN WITH THEIR GAME in order to know their true intentions without being emotionally lead to prevent manipulation and getting played with? I don't like all these mind games and inclusivity in being pursued with body language, certain word usage, being only emotional available "enough" for their needs to be met
@LifeWithMonicaB. Thanks for the comment. Nope, what I'm saying to women is date with your Head and Heart. Not just with your heart.
@@30uprelationshipcoachgot it, thanks for the clarification