Yeah plus it wasn’t a true pick me girl situation. Pick me girls will side with misogyny or the patriarchy to make men like them. Meredith never did that, she was just asking Derek to give their relationship a real shot. It may have been cringey but it was honest.
TOTALLY!! It makes me really sad that people who never watched/understood grey's anatomy do not get the true object behind this lines and this scene: Meredith allowing herself to be vulnerable and admitting her feeling for derek in order to allow herself to be happy (she was a person who always acted cold or like she didn't care). Expressing and embracing your feeling is also an act of courage.
She was also an actual "pick me" girl, while Meredith wasn't. Julia Roberts' character was actively sabotaging another woman and her relationship while trying to be the fun, hot girl that steals her man.
a pick me is when you bash other woman so men think youre cool and will "pick you" its when youre not being yourself and just trying to seem like a guys girl
Ironically accusing someone of being a “pick me” is now the go-to slur used by women to bully and gaslight someone they’ve decided to ostracise from the group.
1 thing I appreciated about that scene was that she didn’t put down Derek’s wife Addison. She just asked to be picked. I’ve always interpreted “pick-me girl”-behaviour as more about “being better than other women” rather than just wanting to be picked by someone you are attracted to, regardless of what gender.
Yeah I liked it better when they were referred to as NLOGs (not like other girls) because it’s not about a girl being vulnerable about wanting to be accepted, it has more negative implications that the girl is actively putting down other women (consciously or not) to try to fit in with the guys out of a need for validation
So true. I never felt comfortable with the current “pick me girl” meaning. Why is there no reference like this for a man if that’s the case? Valid point about the NLOG phrase being the original and better meaning.
That’s not what a “pick me girl” is though. Just literally saying “pick me” doesn’t make you one. It’s a pattern of internalized misogyny and bashing other women to make yourself look better to men. So no….. Meredith was never a “pick me.”
That scene was beautifully played and really is necessary to show Meredith's emotional state at that age. It's something that she'd never say or do later on as she grows into a mature and confident woman
She also was never vulnerable like that b4 and this was her opening up to Derrick to pick her. To give her the chance to be loved by him because for once she doesn't care how stupid it sounds she needs to show that she truly cared for him which shes never shown anyone that kind of openness before. It was a really powerful scene and yea as her character grew she probably wouldn't let her feelings have that much control over her again but it was a huge growth for her character to be able to show her love like that. Even tho people think ita cring i always saw it as so brave.
Even if you do become a mature and confident woman, I think having a moment of vulnerability like this is fine, so long as you recognize your own self-worth and are able to accept if the other person does not reciprocate your feelings back. It takes a lot of courage to be open, knowing that ultimately, what you say may not change anything. That to me is maturity.
"I'm not like the other girls" internalized misogyny pickme is VERY DIFF from assertively admitting YOU desire a man and ask him to pick you. Two diff things
Nah. Pick me is to women what simp is to men. There is the actually definition of what they’re supposed to be and then there are morons who throw the word around callously at girls who are tomboys and boys who are sensitive or treat women with respect
@@MrEvldreamr it’s a mix of both, a pick me girl is a girl who wants to be picked so badly that she puts down other girls to look better. A girl who simps is just a simp
@udontevenwannaknowbruv which is WHY everyone is differentiating the modern Pick-Me from what the scene was in that show. They are entirely different--which is the point of my above comment you seem to have missed
That's actually really beautiful. I can totally understand why she was hesitant to do that speech reading it on paper. But I have to say, I still remember that speech and being so moved by it because she fought for what she wanted she let the person she loved know that she wanted them in her life. I think so many women get used to trying to figure out how to play the game and not seem desperate or too needy or clingy that some of us forgot how to fight for what we want in a passionate, genuine and humble way. She played that speech beautifully and who would have thought
As I guy, I'd be pretty touched if a girl gave me that speech, although I may be biased because I have a thing for Ellen Pompeo. But more girls should express their feelings to guys that way I think, they'ed probably be surprised by the results
I agree! We expect men to be vulnerable with women, but when men expect US to be vulnerable, we interpret it as desperate or cringy. I think being a “pick-me-girl” is someone who just says thing to get on a guys good side and appear more likeable, it’s something that teen girls will do. This scene isn’t the same thing, IMO.
I get why Ellen Pompeo didn’t like the idea of that scene because she didn’t want to add to the idea of the “desperate woman” but that’s so not how that scene came across in the end. *It’s so vulnerable & real.* Because no matter your station in life, how much money you have, whether your male or female, gay or straight, at the end of the day we’re all just people who desperately want to love & be loved in return. I think that’s what comes across so well in Meredith’s classic “Pick me” scene. 😮
i was crying so hard when derek said "well she's my wife", which is near this episode if i remember correctly, like i was sobbing my face off when he said that. LIKE DEREK WHYYYYYY
I spent too many years as a "pick me" girl, regrettably. I wished so hard for them to see i had value, that I was worthy. Pathetic really. I cant force anyone to feel something they never will.
I’m sorry you went through that, but just to clarify, they’re using the term wrong lol A “pick-me” girl refers to the type of girl/woman who tears down other girls/women to try to make themselves look better to men. It’s not a kind natured or giving woman/girl who simply wants her love reciprocated :)
They usually do come back around anyway. It’s always after you moved tf on and they know that shite. That’s why they swing back around to try their luck. Assholes 🙃
I wouldn’t say Meredith was “begging” in that scene. I’d say she was always a tough woman with walls up, and she finally let her guard down and showed vulnerability to the RIGHT person. Not just any person. It’s important to be vulnerable sometimes, but only with someone who can be trusted with that vulnerability. Not just anyone.
I think a pick me girl is the type of woman who pretends to absolutely adore everything a guy suggests, even going as far as to change who she really is and even METAPHORICALLY throws other women under the bus to avoid the attention being diverted from her.
@0802alexander no it's not. I've desperately confessed my desire for a man to stay and it turned him off. It is degrading when you choose to love someone before you choose to love yourself.
@Givebackthescarf oh please. Most people don't even know what true love is. If you truly love someone, you let them go. The woman in the video clearly has an attachment. That's not love. Attachment is why people find it hard to let go when someone chooses to leave them. The video is about "pick me" women. My personal issue is very relevant because society teaches us to love selflessly while we lose ourselves in the process. So many women fall into this trap. It is not love. It is unhealthy codependent attachment.
Merideth wasn't begging. She was being vulnerable for the first time in her life. And it helps cement the line when she says "You chose Addison. I'm all glued back together now. I make no apologies for how I chose to repair what you broke. You don't get to call me a whore"
I rebuke this narrative. If she’s being labelled as a pick me, fine but she’s a pick me for herself. That monologue is just as much for Derek to know that she’s all in and it’s for herself too. Meredith has low self esteem due to her mother but in that moment she rises above it and is saying that she’s good enough to love and that her love is good enough to give to him. She was in love. If anyone is the pick me it might be Addie. Her intro scene is iconic but she looks down at Meredith and is like oh you’re the floozy screwing my husband when her husband is in Seattle after she’d been screwing his best friend. Anyways, I will always love that scene cuz it’s not about Derek, it’s Meredith realizing 1) she’s worthy of love and 2) she is ready to love.
Who's going to tell them that the term "pick me" has been around for over 50 years (possibly 100) and originally had nothing to do with "girls" but rather a -certain- racial minority's disdain for other members of said racial minority who believed in doing whatever it took to become the racial majority's pet and be considered "one of the good ones"? Now, we refer to this behavior as "respectability politics" but back in the day, in talking to one another we referred to people who dumbed themselves down and did their best to turn people who didn't believe and behave in the same way for the comfort and appreciation of the racial majority into villains, "pick-me's." About 10 years ago I started to hear, same minority group, talk about the women who behave in a way that degrades or stereotypes other women of their minority group for the attentions of males of their minority group as "pick-me's". Of course, less than 5 years ago the zeitgeist of mainstream pop culture decided that it was time to subvert the meaning and purpose of the term and apply it to something completely different. Funny, words have a history before you even say them. Crazy, I know!
So the concept of a pickme originates - as so many colloquialisms and slang do - from AAVE (African American Vernacular English). From Jay Queen for _Medium:_ "The term “pick me“ was coined by Black women. It is an AAVE term that we direct at women who exhibit misogynistic behavior with the intention of getting the attention of men (at the expense of other women)." Important to understand the phrases and terms we use, to use them correctly, and to understand their cultural significance 😺
Perhaps because no other group is as influential and as imitated when it comes to pop culture and yet so discredited, disrespected, and dismissed. Chew on that.@@yusefnegao
I can’t even tell ya how much I love grey’s! I have watched the series dozenS of times start to finish. I think the cast and Shonda Rhimes is boss AF. The real world issues being on the correct side of history and get tackled no matter what is what makes this series such an iconic gem! I’m in the middle of season 19 until I restart it again. ♥️♥️♥️
I loved the scene, there scenes in Grey’s Anatomy. that to this day still get me so emotional. Such good writers, creators, producers, directors, and especially the actors on the show the original cast will never be forgotten in my memory.
I understand actors expressing conflicting motivations for their character but the character was young of course she’d beg to be loved it have the character a starting point and a place to grow to: to her own detriment really.
@@chickennoodlesoup3301 I said not a pick me hun. More like when pick me’a try to upgrade to home wrecker- defend your person from them. When I was young I hated competition in love & would walk n let them have them. Then I realized ppl are vile and will take everything from you if you let them. Fk that- fight for what’s yours. 🔥🖤
I thought a pick me was someone desperate for male validation, but the comment section is adding someone who degrades women which is confusing. I have definitely seen pick me girls who don't degrade other women, but will go above and beyond for male validation.
@@rimun5235i think its a combo referring to people who degrade other women or make fun of "girly things" for male validation. the ppl who seek male validation without doing this arent technically pick me girls theyre just a little desperate lol
@@rimun5235so desperate for male attention and validation they will do anything, including degrading other women... kinda ties it together maybe 🤔🤷♀️
From what I can gather it's to try to get an unobtainable guy to pick them. Or use it to put down another woman who seems better than them. Example: any annoying side character in a romance show/novel/movie that tries to throw a monkey wrench into the two leads relationship.
I feel like there’s two different meanings to being a pick me according to y’all online.. there’s the one that’s like “I’m not like other girls “ then there’s the ones who kiss up to ppl like a teachers pet almost. The first one kinda makes no sense to me tho
It's an extension of "I'm not like other girls" - like, instead of being like "I'm better than most girls cause I have more masculine traits/interests" just to feel better about yourself, it's "I like more masculine interests and am better than other girls *so* guys like me and don't think I'm lame like other girls". It's similar, but this time the motivation is purely for the attention of guys/a guy. At least, that's how I understand it.
@@gigiluv5527 yeah but then i hear some ppl say it for other examples and it really confuses me. cuz theres the "subtle" statements that make girls a pick me but then theres the straight up statements"i would do anything for u" that ppl still call girls a pick me so it confused me.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be picked. Everyone wants to be picked by someone they love. the problem is is when you want to put other women down to make yourself look better.
That is NOT the definition of a "pick me" - a pick me girl is a girl who makes fun of the "other" girls because she is "SOOOOOOOOO NOT LIKE THEM" - she's the "cool girl, who loves hanging out with guys because she relates to them so much more than those annoying girls" thus making the guys thing she's the girl they want to be with.
except the difference is nowdays being a “pick me girl” usually means you are putting others down, exaggerating, or trying to make yourself seem a certain way for others to appeal to you. merediths scene was so vulnerable and beautiful
The Pick Me scene here wasn’t done in a demeaning way, so I think it’s an elevation of how most people see it. Maybe to some it could be a form of desperation, but in this context, it’s bravery. Then Mer wasn’t picked, and that’s more courageous because it was a sign that she fought at least. Pain is always an evidence of having loved something or someone.
That’s not a pick me . A pick me is a yes girl . So someone who wears makeup till she hears her crush say they like natural girls . All of a sudden they bash girls for wearing make up . And are natural in his company .
The thing is it changes the texture of intentions with how it's delivered like Ellen did and Julia did in Notting hill. This isn't a woman being desperate for a man but this is a woman asking the man she loves in front of her to chose her for all the right reasons because she is choosing to fight for both of them in that moment, not asking a man to just chose her out of choices but listen to his inner voice and choose their love because she knows from every fibre of her being they are meant to be together.
Ellen is 53 with and her oldest is 14. Katherine is 44 and her oldest is 13. I'm 41 and my daughter is 23. Loads of girls I knew were parents at my age or earlier. I'm most definitely not saying go be teen parents but it's slowed down a lot. Which is a good thing.
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The pick me scene was necessary because it was the first time Meredith really admitted that she wanted to be with Derek.
Yeah plus it wasn’t a true pick me girl situation. Pick me girls will side with misogyny or the patriarchy to make men like them. Meredith never did that, she was just asking Derek to give their relationship a real shot. It may have been cringey but it was honest.
Yet stupid Derek picked his cheating wife over the girl she loved. Stupid.
TOTALLY!! It makes me really sad that people who never watched/understood grey's anatomy do not get the true object behind this lines and this scene: Meredith allowing herself to be vulnerable and admitting her feeling for derek in order to allow herself to be happy (she was a person who always acted cold or like she didn't care). Expressing and embracing your feeling is also an act of courage.
i feel like the whole of social media is just taking things out of context and reframing them into something else 🤷♀️
It was EVERYTHING!!! ❤
Julia roberts in my best friend’s wedding is THE original “pick me” line.
Haaa!!!! Yeah
She was also an actual "pick me" girl, while Meredith wasn't. Julia Roberts' character was actively sabotaging another woman and her relationship while trying to be the fun, hot girl that steals her man.
@@lexi219while looking down on the other girl for being too girly and not liking karaoke and such
She said choose me not pick
@@aliastar5616same thing. It’s not worth nitpicking.
a pick me is when you bash other woman so men think youre cool and will "pick you" its when youre not being yourself and just trying to seem like a guys girl
Oldish millennial here! lol thank you for clarifying!!!
Perfectly said
Absolutely! It's a girl that says, "I'm not like other girls, I can't hang out with girls I get along best with guys. I have all guy friends."
Ironically accusing someone of being a “pick me” is now the go-to slur used by women to bully and gaslight someone they’ve decided to ostracise from the group.
Yeah like coming straight out and saying “pick me” actually isn’t very “pick me girl”. They try to hide that they want attention
1 thing I appreciated about that scene was that she didn’t put down Derek’s wife Addison. She just asked to be picked. I’ve always interpreted “pick-me girl”-behaviour as more about “being better than other women” rather than just wanting to be picked by someone you are attracted to, regardless of what gender.
Yeah I liked it better when they were referred to as NLOGs (not like other girls) because it’s not about a girl being vulnerable about wanting to be accepted, it has more negative implications that the girl is actively putting down other women (consciously or not) to try to fit in with the guys out of a need for validation
Yep. You got it. That’s what a pick me girl is.
nail on the head
So true. I never felt comfortable with the current “pick me girl” meaning. Why is there no reference like this for a man if that’s the case? Valid point about the NLOG phrase being the original and better meaning.
He had a wife and she's asking him to pick her??
The scene involved so much vulnerability and emotion for the character. It was great
It was embarrassing
@@Urcinamongurl That's the poiint, being vulnerable is embarrassing but you gotta
One time someone said “Izzie is such a pick me girl!” And I was like “Meredith literally said ‘pick me, choose me, love me.’ Lol”
not "literally"
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701well yes literally
That’s not what a “pick me girl” is though. Just literally saying “pick me” doesn’t make you one. It’s a pattern of internalized misogyny and bashing other women to make yourself look better to men. So no….. Meredith was never a “pick me.”
@@maddieb.4282 never?? Girl rewatch some episodes because yeah she grew but oh yes she was
Izzie was a pick me. Especially with Callie and George.
That scene was beautifully played and really is necessary to show Meredith's emotional state at that age. It's something that she'd never say or do later on as she grows into a mature and confident woman
She also was never vulnerable like that b4 and this was her opening up to Derrick to pick her. To give her the chance to be loved by him because for once she doesn't care how stupid it sounds she needs to show that she truly cared for him which shes never shown anyone that kind of openness before. It was a really powerful scene and yea as her character grew she probably wouldn't let her feelings have that much control over her again but it was a huge growth for her character to be able to show her love like that. Even tho people think ita cring i always saw it as so brave.
Even if you do become a mature and confident woman, I think having a moment of vulnerability like this is fine, so long as you recognize your own self-worth and are able to accept if the other person does not reciprocate your feelings back. It takes a lot of courage to be open, knowing that ultimately, what you say may not change anything. That to me is maturity.
"I'm not like the other girls" internalized misogyny pickme is VERY DIFF from assertively admitting YOU desire a man and ask him to pick you. Two diff things
Nah. Pick me is to women what simp is to men. There is the actually definition of what they’re supposed to be and then there are morons who throw the word around callously at girls who are tomboys and boys who are sensitive or treat women with respect
yeah i thought pick me was analogous to an nlog lol i feel like neither ofthem really knows the usage
@@MrEvldreamr it’s a mix of both, a pick me girl is a girl who wants to be picked so badly that she puts down other girls to look better. A girl who simps is just a simp
Pick me is also the girl who’s desperate for male attention though
@udontevenwannaknowbruv which is WHY everyone is differentiating the modern Pick-Me from what the scene was in that show. They are entirely different--which is the point of my above comment you seem to have missed
That's actually really beautiful. I can totally understand why she was hesitant to do that speech reading it on paper. But I have to say, I still remember that speech and being so moved by it because she fought for what she wanted she let the person she loved know that she wanted them in her life. I think so many women get used to trying to figure out how to play the game and not seem desperate or too needy or clingy that some of us forgot how to fight for what we want in a passionate, genuine and humble way. She played that speech beautifully and who would have thought
As I guy, I'd be pretty touched if a girl gave me that speech, although I may be biased because I have a thing for Ellen Pompeo. But more girls should express their feelings to guys that way I think, they'ed probably be surprised by the results
I agree! We expect men to be vulnerable with women, but when men expect US to be vulnerable, we interpret it as desperate or cringy. I think being a “pick-me-girl” is someone who just says thing to get on a guys good side and appear more likeable, it’s something that teen girls will do. This scene isn’t the same thing, IMO.
They look even better now and it’s so good to see them together again!
Fr queens!
@@misosoupbowlyes it is, I was shocked to see them doing this interview.
I get why Ellen Pompeo didn’t like the idea of that scene because she didn’t want to add to the idea of the “desperate woman” but that’s so not how that scene came across in the end.
*It’s so vulnerable & real.*
Because no matter your station in life, how much money you have, whether your male or female, gay or straight, at the end of the day we’re all just people who desperately want to love & be loved in return. I think that’s what comes across so well in Meredith’s classic “Pick me” scene. 😮
They do that hypocrisy 😂😂😂😂
I loved that scene. It showed Meredith’s true feelings for Derek and vulnerability.❤
And then Derek chose Addison, never quite understood that choice. But must be a plot line.
@@arcadion448 I think he did it out of duty and guilt. He wanted to stay committed to the marriage, but he fell in love with Meredith.
I’ll never forget this scene. I think I went through a whole box of tissues
i was crying so hard when derek said "well she's my wife", which is near this episode if i remember correctly, like i was sobbing my face off when he said that. LIKE DEREK WHYYYYYY
Seeing it all click on Katherine's face 😂
I love Katherine's honest reaction!
I didn't think Katherine was still close to any of the cast of GA. It's nice to see😊
Every time I watch that scene I cry like a baby, so many emotions well up.
I spent too many years as a "pick me" girl, regrettably. I wished so hard for them to see i had value, that I was worthy. Pathetic really. I cant force anyone to feel something they never will.
There is nothing pathetic about wanting to be picked.
I’m sorry you went through that, but just to clarify, they’re using the term wrong lol
A “pick-me” girl refers to the type of girl/woman who tears down other girls/women to try to make themselves look better to men. It’s not a kind natured or giving woman/girl who simply wants her love reciprocated :)
They usually do come back around anyway. It’s always after you moved tf on and they know that shite. That’s why they swing back around to try their luck. Assholes 🙃
It was so sweet and vulnerable the way she said it
I wouldn’t say Meredith was “begging” in that scene. I’d say she was always a tough woman with walls up, and she finally let her guard down and showed vulnerability to the RIGHT person. Not just any person. It’s important to be vulnerable sometimes, but only with someone who can be trusted with that vulnerability. Not just anyone.
Amen!
I start watching Greys and I stop living in my real world, that’s how I am attached to the show.
This scene was Hugely pivotal for the show. love it! Best show ever!!
Katherine when it hits her what it means cracked me up!
haha fr
That wasn’t embarrassing it was courageous!
Lmfaoooo " I didn't know what that had meant because my daughter had said it to me"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I miss them on Grey's!
Honestly that scene didn’t feel like “pick me girl” energy. She was just being vulnerable and honest about her feelings towards Derek
Oh she was down bad in that scene 😭😂
God they're beautiful!
I think a pick me girl is the type of woman who pretends to absolutely adore everything a guy suggests, even going as far as to change who she really is and even METAPHORICALLY throws other women under the bus to avoid the attention being diverted from her.
Two beautiful women they've become and have always been ❤
Confesing love is never degrading or makes you less than.
It depends on how you do it.
@91toinfinity it's sad that you think that
@0802alexander no it's not. I've desperately confessed my desire for a man to stay and it turned him off. It is degrading when you choose to love someone before you choose to love yourself.
@Givebackthescarf oh please. Most people don't even know what true love is. If you truly love someone, you let them go. The woman in the video clearly has an attachment. That's not love. Attachment is why people find it hard to let go when someone chooses to leave them.
The video is about "pick me" women. My personal issue is very relevant because society teaches us to love selflessly while we lose ourselves in the process. So many women fall into this trap. It is not love. It is unhealthy codependent attachment.
@@91toinfinity about to delete my initial comment
Imagine having Meredith grey as your mom. What a legend to have Ellen as your mother. She seems like such a wonderful person on and off the show.
The scene was brilliant. She is a woman on the cusp of a brilliant career and still what she wants more than anything is to be loved. It’s real…
Merideth wasn't begging. She was being vulnerable for the first time in her life. And it helps cement the line when she says "You chose Addison. I'm all glued back together now. I make no apologies for how I chose to repair what you broke. You don't get to call me a whore"
I rebuke this narrative. If she’s being labelled as a pick me, fine but she’s a pick me for herself. That monologue is just as much for Derek to know that she’s all in and it’s for herself too. Meredith has low self esteem due to her mother but in that moment she rises above it and is saying that she’s good enough to love and that her love is good enough to give to him. She was in love. If anyone is the pick me it might be Addie. Her intro scene is iconic but she looks down at Meredith and is like oh you’re the floozy screwing my husband when her husband is in Seattle after she’d been screwing his best friend. Anyways, I will always love that scene cuz it’s not about Derek, it’s Meredith realizing 1) she’s worthy of love and 2) she is ready to love.
I love knowing she fought the monologue lmao I feel you girl
Miss Ellen just because your character literally said "pick me" it doesn't mean mean it was "pick me" girl behavior oh noo💀
it was a trend on TikTok of that sound and now ppl think of that sound when referring to a pick me girl so yeah her character started the trend
They didn’t even have to show the scene. I remember it as if I was there. 😂
I need to know their entire skin care routines, and make up ASAP!!! Holy crap, they both look amazing. Bravo to their teams.
That's not what a pick-me girl is tho. That's just someone being vulnerable and genuine about what they want and hope for.
It's evolved
Who's going to tell them that the term "pick me" has been around for over 50 years (possibly 100) and originally had nothing to do with "girls" but rather a -certain- racial minority's disdain for other members of said racial minority who believed in doing whatever it took to become the racial majority's pet and be considered "one of the good ones"? Now, we refer to this behavior as "respectability politics" but back in the day, in talking to one another we referred to people who dumbed themselves down and did their best to turn people who didn't believe and behave in the same way for the comfort and appreciation of the racial majority into villains, "pick-me's." About 10 years ago I started to hear, same minority group, talk about the women who behave in a way that degrades or stereotypes other women of their minority group for the attentions of males of their minority group as "pick-me's". Of course, less than 5 years ago the zeitgeist of mainstream pop culture decided that it was time to subvert the meaning and purpose of the term and apply it to something completely different. Funny, words have a history before you even say them. Crazy, I know!
So great to see them together.
A pick me girl would never say 'pick me'. That scene showed that she was straightforward with her romantic feelings whereas pick me girls are not.
My favorite part of this is when you can see the gears turning in Katherine’s head and then she says “OH MY GOD IS THAT WHAT THAT MEANS?!” I cackled
the way she said at the end „cause my daughter has said that to me“😂
So the concept of a pickme originates - as so many colloquialisms and slang do - from AAVE (African American Vernacular English). From Jay Queen for _Medium:_
"The term “pick me“ was coined by Black women. It is an AAVE term that we direct at women who exhibit misogynistic behavior with the intention of getting the attention of men (at the expense of other women)."
Important to understand the phrases and terms we use, to use them correctly, and to understand their cultural significance 😺
You seem insecure when you have to state every term or slang you have created in the English language that comes from England no other group does that
Perhaps because no other group is as influential and as imitated when it comes to pop culture and yet so discredited, disrespected, and dismissed. Chew on that.@@yusefnegao
Oh yeah. Gotta use them correctly. God forbid we use slang in the wrong context. God might smite us all.
Yall just invented everything now, huh?
That scene resonated with me so hard that I literally brought a video of it to a therapy session
I miss these two amazing ladies on tv ❤❤
Sooo iconic
I can’t even tell ya how much I love grey’s! I have watched the series dozenS of times start to finish. I think the cast and Shonda Rhimes is boss AF. The real world issues being on the correct side of history and get tackled no matter what is what makes this series such an iconic gem! I’m in the middle of season 19 until I restart it again. ♥️♥️♥️
It was done so well. The vulnerability. It's just a beautiful scene.
The scene still gives me chills, so I stand by it. It's definitely embarrassing but in that situation it was beautiful and vulnerable
Pick me choose me love me…I cried during this scene😢
I don't consider that line as begging but rather bold to say it and not regret it.
I loved the scene, there scenes in Grey’s Anatomy. that to this day still get me so emotional. Such good writers, creators, producers, directors, and especially the actors on the show the original cast will never be forgotten in my memory.
Every time I see this video I cannot help but think that's not what the pick me girl concept involves
Chandler Bing says the "pick me" line to Janice in season 3 of Friends!!! That was in 1996!!!
Ellen’s voice sound so different from the first couple of seasons
I understand actors expressing conflicting motivations for their character but the character was young of course she’d beg to be loved it have the character a starting point and a place to grow to: to her own detriment really.
Awesome scene....shouldn't be embarrassing coz your were fighting for your love...❤ i was very emotional watching this scene
They look so amazing. Older in a way that adds to their beauty
The fact that her daughter is calling her a pick me is funny af
I like that they were paired together. Don’t feel like they’d talk if they weren’t
suddenly got flashbacks to the "pick me, chose me, love me." 😭😭
That scene was so romantic to me. Love doesn’t have any pride, it just is what it is.
I don’t like pick me’s, but sometimes you gotta fight for what you want. ❤
then it's not a pick me girl
There should be no but. What is to like about a girl who craves MALE validation of all things.
@@chickennoodlesoup3301 I said not a pick me hun. More like when pick me’a try to upgrade to home wrecker- defend your person from them. When I was young I hated competition in love & would walk n let them have them. Then I realized ppl are vile and will take everything from you if you let them. Fk that- fight for what’s yours. 🔥🖤
There's desperate (unhealthy), then there's healthy energy you put into smth you want.
“My daughter has told me” 😂😂
they both look so beautiful here!!
I still don’t know what a pick me girl is. All these people keep changing the definitions. I don’t think they even know at this point.
your comment and your username go together so perfectly
I thought a pick me was someone desperate for male validation, but the comment section is adding someone who degrades women which is confusing. I have definitely seen pick me girls who don't degrade other women, but will go above and beyond for male validation.
@@rimun5235i think its a combo referring to people who degrade other women or make fun of "girly things" for male validation. the ppl who seek male validation without doing this arent technically pick me girls theyre just a little desperate lol
@@rimun5235so desperate for male attention and validation they will do anything, including degrading other women... kinda ties it together maybe 🤔🤷♀️
From what I can gather it's to try to get an unobtainable guy to pick them. Or use it to put down another woman who seems better than them. Example: any annoying side character in a romance show/novel/movie that tries to throw a monkey wrench into the two leads relationship.
That part of greys is my alarm sound
Yep… love that scene!
Pick me girls are the "I'm not like other girls" of the naughties
It hurts me that her daughter called her that and the moment she realized what it meant, Katherine Heigl couldn't help but cry.
I feel like there’s two different meanings to being a pick me according to y’all online.. there’s the one that’s like “I’m not like other girls “ then there’s the ones who kiss up to ppl like a teachers pet almost. The first one kinda makes no sense to me tho
It's an extension of "I'm not like other girls" - like, instead of being like "I'm better than most girls cause I have more masculine traits/interests" just to feel better about yourself, it's "I like more masculine interests and am better than other girls *so* guys like me and don't think I'm lame like other girls". It's similar, but this time the motivation is purely for the attention of guys/a guy. At least, that's how I understand it.
@@gigiluv5527 yeah but then i hear some ppl say it for other examples and it really confuses me. cuz theres the "subtle" statements that make girls a pick me but then theres the straight up statements"i would do anything for u" that ppl still call girls a pick me so it confused me.
the first one means that the people they want to pick them are guys, be that in a romantic or friendly capacity
@@xia1494 the second one is wrong.
@@Slappys idk i feel like i see ppl saying stop acting like a pick me when someone tries kissing ppls asses
It's nice to see these two ladies speaking so candidly and respectfully after everything that went down with Katherine.
Memorable
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be picked. Everyone wants to be picked by someone they love. the problem is is when you want to put other women down to make yourself look better.
That scene is SO relatable. Everyone just wants to be “picked”
Miss them together ❤️
Someone please tell them that the term "pick me girl" isn't a positive one
Ellen seems like a good person!
That is NOT the definition of a "pick me" - a pick me girl is a girl who makes fun of the "other" girls because she is "SOOOOOOOOO NOT LIKE THEM" - she's the "cool girl, who loves hanging out with guys because she relates to them so much more than those annoying girls" thus making the guys thing she's the girl they want to be with.
except the difference is nowdays being a “pick me girl” usually means you are putting others down, exaggerating, or trying to make yourself seem a certain way for others to appeal to you.
merediths scene was so vulnerable and beautiful
A pick me girl is someone who puts down other women to try and get men. Not someone with a crush. Just putting her feelings out there.
The Pick Me scene here wasn’t done in a demeaning way, so I think it’s an elevation of how most people see it. Maybe to some it could be a form of desperation, but in this context, it’s bravery.
Then Mer wasn’t picked, and that’s more courageous because it was a sign that she fought at least. Pain is always an evidence of having loved something or someone.
Agree
Omg that was you😂😂❤❤❤
Both awesome actresses ❤❤❤❤❤❤
"Why would I beg a man in TV" jfc even the actress knows the humiliation I felt watching that scene 😬
you can't beg or shame someone into loving you.
This scene will always make me cry
That’s not a pick me . A pick me is a yes girl . So someone who wears makeup till she hears her crush say they like natural girls . All of a sudden they bash girls for wearing make up . And are natural in his company .
Katherine looks lovely
The thing is it changes the texture of intentions with how it's delivered like Ellen did and Julia did in Notting hill.
This isn't a woman being desperate for a man but this is a woman asking the man she loves in front of her to chose her for all the right reasons because she is choosing to fight for both of them in that moment, not asking a man to just chose her out of choices but listen to his inner voice and choose their love because she knows from every fibre of her being they are meant to be together.
Ellen pompeo started a whole trend 😂😂
I dont think that's the actual reason for it but I like it
I’m obsessed with that scene.
This was an amazing reading. Thank you ✨
Katherine, your earrings are so amazing!
This scene is everything 🖤🫶🏻🥺
Ellen is 53 with and her oldest is 14. Katherine is 44 and her oldest is 13. I'm 41 and my daughter is 23. Loads of girls I knew were parents at my age or earlier. I'm most definitely not saying go be teen parents but it's slowed down a lot. Which is a good thing.
Wait, you had your kid at 18?