When a Man Does Not Feel Appreciated...
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- Опубликовано: 20 окт 2024
- Keion Henderson on what it's like when a man does not feel appreciated in his presence.
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Crazy accurate. What’s crazy is when you tell women they’re the cause of your stress, they gaslight you and call you sensitive and tell you go to therapy. No accountability. So that’s why we keep our feelings to ourselves.
Yeap i wzs just told that yesterday that i needed theraphy 😔
Same
True
You should still go to therapy. Just because she said it because she lacks emotional articulance doesnt mean you should skip out on therapy. If you rule that out, then you just create another viscious cycle.
@@HeathGleason Therapy will not cure the problem that is not within him.
So many men here in the comments that are in this situation. Sorry that you’re feelin this way. I pray for your healing brother. Thank you for not running away from your responsibilities and facing it head on like a man. Just keep your head high. The best is yet to come my friend. Pray and let God do his miracles. Better days ahead bro. Better days ahead
Thank you
Yeah... i dont really see it any more. Reallty is what it is.
Thank you so much blessings
Thank you
I was told I don’t know what you want me to say
Guys, i was through that. Don't try to survive in shitty relationships. Get away, work on yourself and BE PROUD of yourself. You're THE KING of your life. If you respect yourself, if you're a hardworker, special people will appear in your life and you'll be happy. Stay strong brothers.
Amen my man. I did the first part. Got rid of a 12 year relationship with a narasist who twisted everything about me. It's been 2 yeats now and I'm still struggling. I feel weak. 😢
Im there and tired.
Yo coal stand stronge
Me too bro. Me too...
Same bro !
Me too, bro. But I'm 26 and never had a GF. Wish I knew what it was like. All the times I tried and succeeded or the girl took initiative, it all went south. They were not worthy. They did things that went completely against my moral code.
My problem is with my dad. I had to become a version of that is exactly as he said, I version of me that can survive. Yesterday, April 22th, 2024, my dad humiliated and belittled me in a passive-aggressive way. I'm going through therapy and psychiatric help, and I'm even taking Ketamine injections twice a week to help with my depression, anxiety, and OCD, but he keeps hitting me where I'm weak. I never forgot any of the times he did it.
I became cold, bitter, sharp with my words, non communicative, distant, and emotionally unavailable. I have to survive somehow, but I hate what I had to become.
Right there with you. It's exhausting having to fight everyone inside and outside of a place that is supposed to be a place of peace.
This hits on so many levels
Guys... we are all in this...
Amen.. ❤😂🎉
Realist statement ever! Been there for four years now!
Me too
8 years man and they still don’t get it we would rather be single and alone to have to put up with not being ourselves
This hits on so many levels,,,
God bless all the hard working men out there, hope you're appreciated 🙏🏿.
When a wife shows little appreciation, the husband will only do enough for that measure.
When a wife shows more interest in everything else than her husband, he will go subtly silent.
And when you begin to turn him down more when he initiates intimacy (outside of certain times), he will slowly stop seeking that from you.
Do those things and you have effectively turned away the man you say you will love til death do you part.
Facts
Facts and hits hard
Man! You just described my parents' relationship flawlessly.
Dad doesn't invite mom out anymore. He became tired of always hearing no.
Dad doesn't kiss mom anymore. He got tired of being turned down.
Dad suffers in silence. Mom only cares about her brothers, sisters, and our pet. She treats them far better than she treats me or Dad.
Dad puts everything on his business. It's what keeps him going.
He is silent, frustrated, sharp with his words, non-communicative. He's tired of trying.
@@Black-Cipher-6
Christmas time, she spends the extra money on her side of the family. Nothing for me or the kids.
Last Christmas, I gave what I could to the in-laws, busted my ass helping my daughter with cooking dinner, even did the dishes.
Not even a pat on the ass.
Soon I will get time with my side of the family. Nothing fancy, just eat and reminisce, and my mother will be enjoying her grandkids.
No impressing the other.
At least my mother appreciates the effort I put in to make things work.
@n9wff We are fucked, brother. I always ask myself, "Am I going insane, or is it the world that's going insane?"
If this shit is already happening to my parents, what the fuck is going to happen to me?
I used to believe in marriage, but now I'm starting to lose faith. We're all fucked.
One of the best comments I've ever read. 100% spot on. How do women NOT understand this? I listened to this ten times and wrote down every word.
Yes sir that’s how been living for a long while now, I see others on here too, I feel your pain and frustration, you just can’t walk away either, it’s not that easy!
Right there
We, as men, don't walk away because we were taught that, if you give up on something, it shows weakness. We're not taught how to exercise our worth in a relationship! We're taught to suck it up, press on, and fix it (when it can't be fixed)! My now ex lived by my God graces and generosity for 7 years... she finally left me last fall because i became exactly who the reverend is talking about in this speech. I became bitter, cynical, withdrawn, checked out, and angry as hell. I didn't like that version of me either but I preserved through it for more than 2 years because I loved her (still do honestly) and wanted to fix it but I couldn't.
Tell me about it! I’m there.
@@green917sometimes the only cure is to walk away from it all
So true he is in survive mode he is silence is words is cold as ice,he will provide an protect he will no longer communicate with u
I witnessed this with my dad, I always wondered why he was quiet and non communicative and i could tell he was always angry inside, this video explains everything, it also explains why i don't have a good and healthy relationship with my dad but i do appreciate and love him
Keep on telling him till his subconscious believes it. Without being an egoistic id. Io. T
Thank you, Kieon ! I love your teaching skills. You are a gift from God🙏❤️💪
I’m there indeed and I’m tired!!
Currently going through this, one of the hardest times of my life and my wife is currently pregnant with our first born. We got married less than a year ago.. pray for us 🙏🏼
Prayers
This is so true. I was stuck in a toxic relationship for a year. She disrespected, demasculated, underappreciated, and made a fool out of me. I slowly saw myself turn turn from a thick skinned and well tempered man into a short tempered, angry, and depressed man. Most of the time I was living just to get to the next day. It wasn't until I realized the only person that was keeping me in my situation. Was me and only me. That I made my escape from her. Don't ever let anyone get you to be someone who is not you. Anyone who does doesn’t deserve your time or money.
Thanks for giving words to feelings.
I’m there now and each day it builds up
🙏
im no1 to tell u what to do ..but (😂) u need to break it up b4 it will blow up...its not gonna b good for anybody..Just take a deep breath,imagine how it could b dif and with a calm face explain the situation ONCE and go...but if it hurts u just thinkin abt maybe its worth to work on it...but it need to b both of u workin...anyway...ALL THE BEST 🤗✌️🙋♀️
I'm 69 years old--married for almost 50 years now. This video explains about the last 10 years of my life situation. I cope and survive. Neither is what I like-but that is life now.
I'm in that situation at the moment but 6 years in... Given the choice, would you have walked away?
You going to make me cry bro. Please tell me this ain't what I got to look forward to.
@@twhi92
I will give you one clue for the modern relationship and women.
How much time does she spend on her phone and social media? If she enjoys company and life, her phone won't take her time. If she's more into influencing or being influenced, it will fizzle.
My wife has her phone, iPod, and Roku. She wonders why I'm not interested.
Her attention is elsewhere.
But you were raised differently back then brother
Oh my, these comments break my ❤. I pray you men find your happiness again.
this is accurate af 💯
Feel like I wanna punch a wall, bleed and yet still feel nothing... these words cuts so deep...
Damm this hits home so hard. Couldnt avoid to have tears in my eyes
💯
Stay strong there is light at the end of the tunnel!
@@GUNSXGAMING 🙏
Accurate ! Hope I can overcome this situation.
I'm there. It's hard to live with the person you love and want to hug and kiss but can't. It's like seeing a loved one through prison glass. You want so much to be across it embracing and loving them.
But we get pushed away... I always reach out, but it's always rejected. I keep holding on though because I do love her...
@@alexandermendibles2338
My wife acts like I don't want to be around her but when I try, she puts up boundaries.
The complications of wives is strife with illogical behavior.
So true... hard as it is... but situations change your...adapt and survive...😢😢😢
I’m feeling like this currently
Amen the struggle is real and I have no idea how to ever move on
When he mentioned the characteristics of that version I realized I became that way long time ago (not sharp mouth) people often say to me why I suddenly became so silent nowadays more lonely(I didn't like it but now I am use to it) tbh I stopped caring anymore✌️✌️
This so frkn accurate!!
I recognize this to be so true. Genuinely attempting to be a good man, and people continue on with their own narrative and there is no true compromise. My goal is to never be the man I use to be, I must learn to survive in this new season, even if it’s with dysfunction.
I’m a younger lad I’m 21 and every single relationship I’ve had has been this. It’s got to the point I don’t even care anymore everytime a girl starts talking to me or matches me on tinder I just can’t even be bothered anymore I’ve already lost hope. I don’t need a soulmate I find my own happiness inside myself
Same 21
Now I'm that version...what u told everything is matched
Yes sir yes sir. Living like that right now, so sad.
I feel you on that.. I got divorce earlier this year cuz I no longer wanted to be that guy. The change did not come, so I had to go
Leave brother. If you're not appreciated, you must find someone who will appreciate you
@@lexlugar5628 bro saame, cant leave bcuz of my children, if i am at home i spend most of my time in my room.
@@toguNYC what have women become brother. The satanic system is at full affect
@@lexlugar5628 yep very narcissistic, blames everything on me slightest things. Cant imagine living under the same roof for long. :(
I am using it to become better. Gone is the energy into the useless. Putting twice that into the goal which is self happiness. Anyone that wants to come along for the ride better be giving back. Be strong my brothers, you have my full support. You ain't heavy.✊️
I'm right here. Right now.
1000% accurate!
This has been my survival mode for 25 years
This video hits home
This is 100% correct...I've gotten to where I finally admit to myself that I'm there.....I gotta figure out how to get out of survival mode
Wow this speaks about me
feels so true.
Same thing for a woman... 💯
nail on the head..
That's powerful and accurate. Wow
Yep. Spot on.
Fax, I’m tired rn
Facts real talk
ALL OF THIS ❤️👍
Spot on
Snaps Snaps x infinite speak your truth sir
Man i felt this shit
no literally it’s crazy how we can’t even come to women abt the way we’re feeling because of something they did, it always turns to arguing or we’re the toxic ones, they turn into the victims when they fuck up and never wanna take accountability for there actions and we’re just left there turning into something we can survive in and still give.
Painfully true
Word.
I still feel lonely no matter what version I am, I have prayed it does not work, I only want to die or leave and be lonely on my own not be around people and be lonely, I'm 19 so please protect yourself
I feel you bro. I became my own best ftiend and now im almost 35. There are more people struggling with this. Take good care of your true self and then you will feel it.
Well said
Thats where im at right now.
I’m more stern with my words now. I don’t fluff conversations. I say things in an efficient manner.
i been there,and i just choose not to hurt anyone so i rather be silent and trying my best not losing my temper and doing some mistakes,i just need to walk away,i dont give a damn about it anymore
Facts 🙏🏿
True. That's why I never leave room for him to guess. I let you know. That's where the lack of appreciation comes because of guessing.
I'm exactly dealing the same situation for so long I have just lost the hope of any feeling/emotion from others
Not even care any others anymore
Feel you bro
I need the full video
i need it too, im looking for it
Ever find it?
“Shut The Door | Pastor Keion Herderson” he starts talking at minute 45.
1:49:44 “When a Man Does not feel appreciated” on same video
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@Taz Kuro Thanks for pointing out this is Pastor Keion. Such a true statement...sucks...
Im alright
Yup I'm there 100% and it's getting a lot worse.
Me too my brother…
Truth
So true
I’m there right now. Especially the silence part. I’m pulling away from date nights because it’s always drama, me being disrespected ,and rather spending my nights alone than with the person I’m dating.
I’d rather stay extra hours at work then come home. Shut my phone off and rest than call up my significant other who is only a part time lover …
This breaks my heart. How do we,as women, help the men we love out of that condition?
If you have to ask…you’re the problem
Respect and care
@@mikecee7848F A C T S
Sad I found this and listened to it. This is my situation and I just realized how much I hate my life with this person I love life just not this parasite that’s sucking the life from me. Everything I do to try to make her happy is a complaint. Nothing is ever good enough. I want to leave but for my kids I stay mostly cause I don’t want to lose them.
True.
100%True
This feels true
Yes Sir 💯
damn right.
That's my life.
👁 being me can totally understand this and now I've totally isolated myself! And I'll stay this way!
I‘m so drained
I'm one of those men.... I'd die for my wife. If only she realised it.... 😢
Seek more comfort in a team.. a team environment.. 💯 ❤✝️🥭✅️
Well Said
I always feel like there is always that one female we all know who always thinks that men are being over dramatic when this happens in a scenario, even if you were to show this video and give a good explanation and good evidence to that female she still tries to defend herself and pretend she is not the bad guy.
Exactly! Always gotta make it about themselves. Then have the audacity to ask why we don't "open up more"
Fuck. That. Shit.
I am that way
I PROMISE YOU!!!!!
Yes me too not in a mood of talking
Best motivational video ❤❤❤
u r awesome 👌 ❤
Facts
Yes sir🥹🥹🥹
This is me at work
Just don’t ever expect anything out of a woman and life becomes a lot simpler.
Not many people talk about man and their emotions. It's always about woman nowadays
Anyone has a full version of his talk?
44 years old and got there already
I am a survivor 😑
44 and got here already? Mate I'm 22 and I've been here for the passed 5 years, your lucky it took 44 years my man, ever since I got a job when I was 17 I was dead inside, I'm just a slave to my managers they don't appreciate me at all
truth
Facts ✔️
Women need to hear this.
They all did, after that they forgot what they heard
🎯💯