Loving Me When I Can't Love Myself
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- Опубликовано: 13 авг 2021
- The video is kinda pink indeed. The filmmaking was conducted during the months of July and August of 2021 and they depict various places in Greece. The storytelling of the video, as well as the poem, is a bit abstract because I feel the concept of love and mental health can be accurately depicted the less accurate you try to be. These are my thoughts and some glimpses of my summer, I hope you like it and maybe connect with it.
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-The narrator is Iness J.
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Midtro - Homeland
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🔰Loving Me When I Can't Love Myself by illneas
At first
it was the sound of your voice
and the way it seemed you were hiding something
While you were sleeping I noticed your anxious breathing
but I didn't say anything
The hardest part of loving them
when they can't love themselves
Is accepting your inability to always make them happy
I know that something is bothering you
but I chose to ignore it
The hardest part of loving them
when they can't love themselves
Is letting them find happiness
in the absence of you
I noticed that each smile seems
more forced than the last
The hardest part of loving you
when you can't love yourself
Is convincing you
that this is not affecting me
You asked me to let you deal with it yourself
The hardest part of loving you
when you can't love me
Is hiding from you
that something is bothering me
While I was sleeping you noticed my anxious breathing
but you didn't say anything
You know that something is wrong
but you chose to ignore it
Each of my smiles seems more forced than the last one
The hardest part of loving me
when I can't love myself
Is knowing that
I would do the same for you
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“The hardest part of loving them, when they can’t love themselves, is letting them find happiness, in the absence of you.” 😭 That hit close to home. ❤️
*Feels*
I’m going through that rn, and Jesus Christ. I can’t stop crying man
just realised a lot, thanks to your comment
This hit
Honored to have my music a part of this! Thank you illneas! ❤️
My honor as well, thank you for the opportunity
It was so beautiful!! One of my favourites
It was peaceful, you have composed a fine music! 👏
Such lovely music.
It's beautiful music that kept me coming back for more
The darkness becomes a little brighter, with the love, that others show you. But there will never be light ,unless we love ourselves. Sounds easy, but I find it so difficult.
Πάλι ευχαριστώ για τα video. Εμένα με βοηθάνε.
Yes without love what a dull place the world would be.
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I was reading Wordsworth, Rumi and Gibran this morning when your video popped in my notification. Usually I slide all RUclips notifications but, I taped on it since I knew It'd be worth my time. You have a great sense of storytelling through poetry, visuals and sounds. Every second of this video engages me, all my senses are at work, my eye's are pleased with visuals, my ears are pleased with the sounds and my mind is making sense of what the words mean. It's just beautiful in every sense. Thank you.
Yes I found it very engaging also. Great video.
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I think that when you truly love someone, you won't throw him away just because he doesn't love himself... You should be with him in his happy and painful times... You should show him love, support and help him to star loving himself again through hard times.
I really liked the concept here. Loving someone when they're battling their own inner war. I felt each and every verse. And as a reader/viewer feeling the emotions which her writer want to express is a big achievement to her as much as to the writer.
Plus when the pov comes of "me", it was a completing part of the whole piece ! 🌸
Loved it 🖤 ✨
So true
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Hi can you explain the last part of the poem
So true 👍
I fear that my boyfriend is going to get tired of my complex feelings. I'm grateful to admit that the love we share for one another is limitless. But, knowing how hard it is at times for me to cope even with the most simple things, due to my insecurities, I sometimes feel like a weight in my loved ones' lives.
Your art makes me cry, beacuse it somehow gives me that good old feeling of comfort I usually felt as a child. I can't explain.
Maybe it's the visuals that travel me to Greek nature which is linked to my childhood.
Maybe it's your words that radiate something so true in me.
I think I can communicate well with you through your videos and I'm surprised of how good a stranger can express me.
Keep your lovely work going. There are many people who appreciate it.
I loved this purple theme, I loved the music and I loved how realistic your detections are about the silent complexity of a relationship 💜
Brilliant
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It's super beautiful stuff
The silent complexity of a relationship. This si the core of the poem. Beautiful!
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OMG, this is so beautiful. Loving someone truly means giving him more love than you can give yourself.
That's true love wow.
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This is so beautiful. I hope one day my partner would be still loving me during the bad days; when my mind is in the dark place.
Dear a kid with a camera,
This is beautiful. It’s sadly true that many people do not love themselves. Self love is one of the hardest things. Anyways amazing video. I loved the music and the voice and of course the images.
Keep creating,
An internet friend
Someone was being loved by a person when that someone didn't love him/herself. And now even the other person doesn't love him/herself anymore.
One of the most honest and touching poems I've ever read
This hit too close to home. I feel like in a way this is where me and my boyfriend stand right now. We both love each other, but we both hate ourselves. We love each other, but everyday is a constant battle that sometimes it's really hard.
Thank you for writing this beautiful piece. I love the editing of the video. I feel like the shots match the poem well. ❤️
Love is always depicted in light, but never in darkness. And you, and the people that help you, always find a way to truthfully, honestly, and humanly explain feelings in such a kind way. One where you feel understood, and cradled, honestly accepted.
If there was more than one like button, I'd hit it everytime time I watch this. It just speaks to you, what a beautiful perspective!
It's absolutely beautiful, i love the theme, the poem, the narrator and the song that goes with it ! Thank you for your stunning work ♥
I agree
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It's a truly beautiful amalgam ..
this video gave me goosebumps and tears in the eyes cause I can't love myself and I'm making the one who loves me suffer exactly like that
This is painfully true..me and my best friend have been struggling with this.. the fact that most of our arguments stems from our inability to love ourselves and yet we loves each others too much.. that kinda makes it complicated.. but we've been together for over 10years and still going strong despite these complex argument.. we're both like,"you saved me but i couldn't do the same"..
so i told her it's okay, if we couldn't love ourselves, then let me love you and you can love me.. now everything we do is for each other.. and sometimes it becomes a competition to makes one another happy.. it's kinda bittersweet, but i feel like there's more sweetness than bitter , because we've somewhat found a way to 'love' ourselves..
Wow, this words are as good as the poem itself. Brilliant!!!
That could be another form of loving yourself
Breaks my heart each time I watch this, months gap in between.
Of course it's one of the best of course
I love it thank u man
I can not express my love for this poem more than just a like I wish I could say more about this lovely poem than just a like
i adore your words and videography-you’re worth loving yourself and you’ll recognize it soon if you haven’t already 💜
Aww
I love this!! The imagery of a chess game compared to fighting with loving themselves was spot on! I want to start incorporating video to my poems on my channel, as well, so thank you for the inspiration!! Love this!
Why ??!!!
Killing me softly with your words .. telling my whole life...
You know how to enter the innards and twist them ever so softly.
We all are humans we all have some kind of problems,some have big some have small some have long some have short.
We fear we cry but fearing or crying are not the answers for our problems we have to fight with our fear to be free one day struggle is hard but the sweet future is waiting for you...
Don't quit do your best...
In this process of hard work you will ultimately start loving your self🙏
I just finished a novel the theme of this poem is genuinely intertwining with it... this made me smile while listening .....it surprise me how the human feelings can be so similar even if you're from another country, another culture and speaking another language but still we can express the same thing.
What’s the name of the novel?
I like universal ideas, it seems literal borders or cultural ones can't limit them.
@@shahdsahi2986 it's an Arabic novel ...it's name would be with the English translation " And she passed through here" unfortunately you will not find it with English translation.
@@illneas very true 💛🌸
@@fatmaelzhraashaaban6581Well then, what is the name in Arabic? I‘m half Arab so no issues with not having English translation
It is a reverse experience for me. I was diagnosed with a chronic condition and was hospitalized a long time and everyone around me, family and friends, have been worried about me. And i always tell them i am fine. But all they can read from my poetry is sadness and reflections of how i struggle. Maybe i am in a position of being not able to love myself. I dont know. Thank you for this video and poem!
❤️👏❤️👏❤️👏 Briefly, so glad to hear Iness again. Always great to experiment but if it ain't broke, don’t fix it! No-one else has come close, imho. The music is particularly outstanding. The poetry is deeply insightful. As an old guy, I feel that the emotional complexities of a relationship never change that much, I’m afraid. There is plasticity in the causal factors but self-love/self-loathing always hangs above us, making a nuisance of itself. You have outlined that complexity quite beautifully, illneas. Bravo!
This really hits home. I've tried and tried so hard to love myself but it just seems impossible so I'm really sorry to anyone who ever chooses to love me because I know, I'll make it hard for them but deep down, I know I can love someone much more than I could ever love myself so I'll always be trying and I hope they see that.
My brother is suffering through major depressive disorder . He just shut down himself and stop doing anything . crying and feeling suicidal every now and then. I have no idea how to cheer him up .i am trying everything i can . Taking him to psychiatrist , talking to him . But it does not seem to working . I am not a good sister i suppose . And when i listen this .i feel like thses are the words i want to tell him . But words are not coming from my mouth . I have literally no one except him . I don't want to loose him . I am really woried . All the time he is thinking of dying . I can't live alone . 😭 Don't mind me i just wanted to say my frustrations out , i have no one with whom i can talk about thses except my brother . I love him . Thank you soo much to remind that . And giving me hope to save him and myself too . ❤️
Hey .I am from the future and guess what your brother fought with depression and he won his life back .he is at really good position and he is doing what he always wanted to do , he is loving his .and you sweetheart , you playing a best friend ,a mother and a sister's role in his life really well . So everything is okay now .I am so proud of you that u never gave up on your brother 😊
Thats life, thats exactly the way how love feels, when you are broken, when you are searching for yourselves..
Is that a personal attack or smth? :") Loved it
Hahaha
There's something comforting about the videos that you post. Thank you.
Even from the very first moment I knew it was going to be excellent. You never disappoint; every time you outdo yourself ❤️
I'll seriously become your patreon as soon as I get my stable income in November. You make my life better. Love from Croatia 💜
This was so beautiful 🥺💜
Your poetry is getting better every video. Also liked your choice of the background music...matched real well with the content of the poem.
Your videos always fit in some phases of my live... Always makes me think, a fell every word of the poem as been my own. Thanks for it man! Keep doing it!
Every single video of your its so close to my heart ❤
Feels like 3 different perspective on the same thing but with clarity. I loved it ❤❤❤
A good poem makes a good day. It was so calming to watch the whole thing and to listen and be lost in the sound.
i need to play THIS on the sky, out loud , fully😣🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
Wow!! Loved this💛
Wow take it from one with an aspiring spoken word channel.. This is greatttttttttttt
love the theme, the music, the narration, every bit of it ♡
These things make me feel. They make me feel sad, but I enjoy it so much. I think that that might be the whole point of life, not to understand it, but to feel.
Everyone told me the ways to love others
But nobody ever told me how to love myself
It's okk I'll find a way maybe tomorrow or after a month or a year
I'll not force myself to love me
All I do is smile whenever I see myself in that broken mirror 🙃
Everyone told me the ways to love others
But nobody ever learned to love me
My eternal fight is that I have endless amounts of love for others but not myself. Yet how can I completely give myself, my love, my soul to someone else without first being able to be emotionally present for myself.
Beautiful as always
An absolute masterpiece!
Your videos are so aesthetic and stylish. Love it ❤️
This re-energized me❤️
What you see in you is what you view in this world. When you hate yourself, you'll see only hate and let other give up on you. And then you lost everything then finally realise that you lost yourself...
That was wonderful!.. ...
Thank you so much... ...💙
this was beautiful
Ur poetry always inspires me 💚
This is so pure ❤️❤️❤️
Just loved every bits of it♥️🔥
Why does it remind me of my favorite person? My RUclips recommendations are so good these days. 🎈
You always touch my heart and clearly so very many more so deeply friend. Much love. 🙏
Speechless ❤️
Beatiful! Thank You!
And now -at night, it seems more like a letter from that deep inner voice to me.
Oh wow! I found this on Spotify last week. I didn't realize you did this until I saw your latest video.
How much I wish I could show this video to my ex, after a while, I think I am finally understanding all that I have put her through...
“The hardest part of loving them, when they can’t love themselves, is letting them find happiness, in the absence of you“ it hit hard =/
That's pure beauty. ❤️
Beautiful 😌❤️
Amazing poem.
Wow, everything affects others as a vicious circle... Damn. Your videos are superb.
Aaah, the feelings.
This is so so real.
The relationship mirror.
A cool idea (I'm not telling you what to do I promise, this is just what popped into my brain) would be if you made a mirror to this - by swapping the you's and the i's, and playing the visual and the music in reverse.
there is something in poetic phrases with soft music
Great poem! We need more, mature relationship poems. Bravo!
♥️ Thank You ♥️
How lovely is that...ThanX.
Love the colour grading φιλε
Εγώ ευχαριστώ ^^
Crazy good poem, it goes deep into my soul..
you put me to tears
This is one of my favorite
Your content is more precious than GOLD.... Thanks for sharing your gift with us🙌🏼
I love this
That's beautiful
If I may, this to me like a love letter of Jude and Willem from "A Little Life", and of many other people, told and untold. It is haunting, thank you for both the poem and the adopted music!!!!
love it
Amazing
Beautiful
If you give someone that can't love themselves "space" and "a chance to find happiness on their own" you're just making sure they will never be happy
Speaking from experience
Untrue
Brilliant💜🖤💜🖤💜
A MASTERPIECE..😌🕉❤
I know where my heart belongs. It is far away out of reach. I know it will always be there. Still. Wondering if I will ever get there.
Fantastic (:
This is…… lovely….
Powerful stuff
thank you for watching
Wow this is totally Perfection and the emotions are barely there...
A really thought provoking piece, very well composed❤ I'm going to be thinking about this all day🙂
Purple is my Aesthetic💜
❤
And he has done it again 🏋️
Ένα δάκρυ κύλησε ❤️
This is why I always hold on to this quote, "How could you love someone else when you can't even love yourself?" Only if you love yourself, should you know your own worth. But if someone could help you learn how to, then that's good too.
Hmm...Btw, where ru from miss? 👀
@@ExtremeRidersJodhpur South East Asia
@@sbdreamey Hmm...Can we be friends? :)