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I don't know anything about lighting so I have no suggestions for fixing, but in this video you looked really washed out, to the point that it looked like your nose was missing! Just wanted to let you know in case it was unintentional🤷♀️
Let me get this straight…she was a 17 year old teenager when this 24 year old grown man went after her. Then she was the breadwinner, while he lived off of her, and he got her pregnant by the age of 18. She had three kids still supporting this groomer before she was 25. He was living off of a teenager. How have more people not called him out???
100%!! I do not support her actions or all of the absolutely horrible things she’s done, but to this day she has nothing bad to say about jauris. I know it’s hard bc they have kids together and she maybe wants to preserve the image of him, but I wonder if deep down, she knows how she was groomed. It’s so sad
Right?? he's a sicko always going after young women and mooching off them. And once Acacia's money dried up, he left. He's also just as responsible for the neglect of his children.
Yeah I’m guessing that issue pales in comparison to all the others but what the fuck? Pedo. And I find it odd that he’s always the one explaining why the pets had to go..
In most states you can be tried as an adult at 13... you can change your gender and get ur sex organs removed but you cant use your sex organs?! My husband of 20 yrs and i started dating when i was 16 and he was 20 and i was more mature and responsible than he was lol not every relationship is equal. Just because one 20 yr old took advantage of a 17 yr old doesnt mean every 20 yr old will... its a case by case basis.
I honestly believe shielding her daughter’s medical conditions from her social media is one of the best parenting decisions Acacia has made. I think it’s super creepy people feel entitled to know all the details of someone else’s child’s medical history regardless of how much information that person has shared previously with the world
Unrelated but quick suggestion: at times the brightness/light on this video felt a bit too strong for my eyes. I think because of the combination of the lights on you plus the very stark background. Not sure if you’re just playing around with lighting but thought i’d mention it! Great video as always.
Call me crazy but there are also more psychological reasons a newly single mom or dad may remove their children's presence from the internet. I still think it is overall best for her children though so small wins I suppose.
The amount of hate people had and still have for little girls is insane. If they can’t be sexualized, they have no value, and if they can be, they’re shamed for it. Acacia has done some horrible things, but the amount of hate she got as a child for existing as a hurt child on the internet is crazy
Forgive me for the comparison. Hitler must have been an obedient child smiling for mommy. Ignore his actions as an adult? Monsters yes are made but we all have bad days, why give in to evil or bad acts?
@@charlenembarga3239 They didn't say that she should be excused for what she did or that it "explains" why she's controversial, but that people were also hating on her to an extreme and toxic degree before she was even confirmed to have ever done anything abusive or racist. This commenter is just trying to bring attention to the fact that the people on tumblr/other social medias weren't squeaky clean either, and they did some awful shit to a literal child who was being groomed by adult men.
I kept thinking through out this video, "where are her parents and other adults in her life?" It doesn't matter if your child is famous, you are responsible for your child.
If I remember correctly, her dad is a photographer. He took pictures of her in a bikini when she was underage, crawling on the sand and stuff. They were posted and shared online. He also took pictures of girls I knew in high school, while they were underage. I don’t know anything about her mom but her dad seems a little off.
@@AyshaLovesYou I makes me sad, the way parents are can really influence how someone is. When they are an adult, though, they are responsible for overcoming that. This story seems to show the difficulties a child can have with parents who make bad decisions and/or are horrible and then grow up and don't overcome that. She could have true happiness without all the social media and the decisions she made. I hope she can find happiness.
I don't know if people realize how horrific it is to leave pets without food for four days. The Art of Racing in the Rain shows how horrific it is when pets are neglected without their most basic needs of food and water. Acacia and Jairus could afford all kinds of expensive clothing and trip to Manhattan. They could afford a pet sitter or boarding.
so so true!!! It is difficult to comprehend how they could even think that was ok, and that they obviously, undeniably, do not care about these (innocent) animals. The fact that they actually POSTED PUBLICLY ONLINE about their blatant animal abuse and neglect makes my brain go 🤯💣💥
Hell, most hotels are pet friendly these days! I worked for one where we even had special beds for dogs we would put in your room before check in. The bed went by the window, so poochie could sit and look at everything, with a little bag with treats and stuff. Just to help get everyone settled. When I had a dog I just didn't travel. Period. Shortly after he died my neighbor's cat decided she wanted to live with me (long story), so now that I have another pet I still don't travel. Being disabled at this point I can't even if I wanted to, so it works well now.
People are understandably quick to call out the conditions of shelters and feel bad for animals in there but at least their basic needs (food, water) are being met. I cannot imagine not feeding my cat, honestly the amount of times I haven’t eaten until late at night because the only money I have goes on cat food, milk and litter. My pet will always come first 🥺
That hurt my heart. Shit, I feel guilty when my cat tells me it's 15 minutes past dinnertime. But FOUR DAYS?? Just ask a neighbor to pop by, they'd probably do it for free.
Let's not mince words about it. This girl was a confirmed victim of one child predator (her ex-husband) and possibly another (her father), and it's hard to overstate the type of impact that such trauma can have on a developing mind. I'm not saying that this excuses any of her wrongdoing, but I think it's important context to be aware of in this discussion
Is her husband a confirmed child predator? I thought she was 17 when he was her bf & is this predatory? & what charges has he faced? My 2nd serious bf in Brisbane was 26 & I was 19, never had an issue: great relationship etc. he was not “the one” but still. 🧐
Yeah, it's interesting that her neglect of animals- which is terrible, and a crime, don't get me wrong- is what is mostly talked about when it comes to Acacia, when this is a disturbing case of an adult man preying on a minor teen girl when he is 24 and living off her income, who she she escaped to live with in order to get away from her father- a worse creep. I understand things like this were ignored at the time, but... it still is a bit upsetting that people seem to bring up everything else while brushing by with only the lightest mention (if anything) about the child molesters in this woman's life. Is she kind of a terrible person? Sure. It's a lot more understandable though, with the knowledge of the creeps who manipulated her in mind.
When she was young it was forgivable but up to a certain point when she becomes an adult and when the abused becomes the abuser, it's too late to find her excuses! Some people don't abuse other because of their trauma
@@mildredvadernikov8727 i think the OP said that her trauma is an explanation to the things / crimes that she did. Not an excuse but holy guacamole of a reason.
I had to mature a lot to reach the same opinion. I used to not be able to see the nurture vs nature side of how you evolve into an adult until I became an actual almost 30 year old adult. I think this type of viewpoint is important to see things through instead of the usual “good or bad” only. This situation was more nuanced than I thought as a teen-YA when I would just troll Acacia online. A lot of people struggling to open their paths of thinking this way
Acacia is one of those influencers where you just HAD to be there during the tumblr days if you ever want to understand why she is the way she is. It just explains so much
Looking back it feels like SUCH a different era. I can’t believe how much the internet has changed lmao. My old ass was on Tumblr pre-yahoo buy. The Wild West.
@@charlirose7233 me too! And I didn't even realize what I was reading was pro-ana or what ana was. It was also scarily easy to see ana posts just by looking for fitness inspo or "fitspo". The line between fitspo and pro-ana was so thin. Also I just looked at my Google Photos and I saved an image in 2014 that said "1 heart = 1 day without sweets" which ig is sorta okay but letting online hearts determine your eating habits isn't good
Somehow I didn't have her in my feed, but I was there for all the Felice Fawn scandals, so I understand. It's a similar thing. She got criticized for glamorizing her ED and exploiting her animals for her modeling. Also part of the "club" of Tumblr Vegans, but idk if she is still vegan. She also kind of reminds me of the proto-Belle Delphine but had a goth/witchy aesthetic instead of a cutesy anime/fairy/gamer girl aesthetic.
If no adult ever stepped in to tell a 17 year old the issues with a 24 year old boyfriend.......no adult was definitely going to step in on the pet issue.
It depends where you stand in the Culture Wars. Anybody of the opinion that a six year old child can make decisions about gender re-assignment surgery for theirself is in no position to judge and tell a 17-year-old who they can and can’t sleep with. That’s life in the 21st century. My body, my choice, is what progressives insist. Telling a child they can’t sexualize their bodies is now phobic and hateful, so please wear the ribbon and tread carefully lest a rainbow alphabet lynch mob run wild over you!
Let alone her dating adult men when she was younger apparently. The adults in her life are all enablers, whether they are enabling her bad behavior or enabling the grown men dating their teenage daughter.
@@liziuhh i mean... one of her parents WAS a grown man desperate to date girls his teen daughter's age... so I think hes more than an enabler honestly, I think that word is too light for her having such a sick sick man as a father.
I'm also getting the inkling with her father's behavior (ew)she and her family weren't able to see how actually gross the situation was, and had unfortunately been somewhat normalized in her brain? Idk just my thoughts
Okay after you mentioned her father being a predator. Her behaviour is starting to make sense. Not to say or accuse her dad of harming her but he definitely didn't do right by his kids.
From individuals I have been acquainted with who were children who had a (pr3d)father but they themselves *were not* the target of any of “that”- they are nearly always dealing with neglect, emotional, psych, and mainly maladaptive in how and where they seek approval or connection or valued. When there’s a *lack* of contact with the pr3dator and the other parent is unfit/unable to course correct development then often there’s a deep betrayal that the f’ed up pr3dator parent spent so much time and energy “””loving””” others and not the biological child- and these individuals *understand* the logical fallacy of their maladaptive undertones (they have always been therapized by the time I discuss with them).
Just trying to provide a different perspective of how it negatively affects a child when there’s a parent like that and that doesn’t always mean the child in question was receiving that horrid act unto them. Because it’s very very important to *never* assume anyone is any victim of anyone unless they explicitly say they were / it’s your job. I know you said as much but I can’t stress for future comments to hopefully see and take a moment before posting.
@@BimmieJames yes. I’m sure it’s not for all predatory parents but I also had friends in high school who wished they at least got a fraction of the attention the abuse parent was giving to other kids and/or they felt bad for their friends that got hurt because essentially the parent used their child as bait to get other kids in the home. You can’t and don’t want friends when you have a parent like that.
@@BimmieJames this was me, I never got the help I needed and now have c-ptsd after 26 years of continuous trauma... thank you for phrasing it the way you did, it really helped me to put it into a perspective that's more factual and less... painful. Thank you!
Disclaimer: This video features clips of Acacia Kersey as a child on Tumblr to highlight the dangers of being a social media star at a young age, and how it can effect your psyche and childhood. Please be respectful.
Honestly, I think Acacia’s problem is that she tries to short cut her way through everything she does, which probably leads to immense imposter syndrome creating a feedback loop of trying to be something fictitious via the short cuts
Regarding faking self harm: It doesn't matter if you bleed or if your skin is just a little irritated, if you cut, scratch, whatever. The severity of the self harm doesn't determine your worth or how much you deserve help, nor does it make the fact someone self harmed any less true. It's not a competition for the deepest cut. It's about being unable to cope with your emotions towards yourself, and it can come in many forms. No one gets to invalidate your pain, even if you don't have stereotypical cuts. A little TW for.. self harm, obviously, but this is a personal story: I vividly remember scratching my arms and rubbing over the skin with a washcloth that had very scratchy fabric, back in middle school. I told my friends this and they made fun of me for it, because a washcloth? That's not self harm! And guess what. It was. Because the intention was to harm myself, to irritate the skin and hurt it. If the intention is to harm yourself, it is self harm. Period.
this is very on point. when i started getting tattooed, i kind of enjoyed the pain, and kept going back for more. but, i had someone i knew in a similar situation that got tattooed for similar reasons, and i realised that what i was doing was harming myself. since my last tattoo i’ve been trying to practice a more healthy mindset when going to get more ink. it’s honestly hard to do, i won’t lie. i have to remember i’m there for pretty tattoos that me and my artist have drawn up, not pain.
Exactly this! I think a lot of people also don’t realise/understand that self harm also doesn’t have to be physical. But of course, if they can’t see it or it isn’t what they consider « bad enough » it’s not real and doesn’t matter and doesn’t deserve to be treated or take seriously. If you’re doing anything with the intention of causing yourself some kind of harm, it’s a problem!
this healed my inner child a bit. when i was in middle school i also struggled with self harm and ideations, and my friends would show picture of their self harm scars to each other and basically compare how deep the cuts were and if they didn't bleed profusely, its not self harm. now that ive grown a bit, ive come to realize that self harm come in many forms, banging your head, self isolation, EDs, and etc. and i mention these specifically because these are the forms self harm has taken in my life. i brushed them off in the past but have come to realize how severe they really are, and that they *are* a form of self harm. anyways i hope youre doing much better and healing as i am trying to
I definitely feel this, I didn't really cut. I did however smash objects against my head, scratch parts of my body till it bled, burned myself, etc. There are lots of ways people self harm, and all of them are horrible and deserve to be validated.
It is so scary that a couple who couldn't care for pets and rehomed all of them after only a month went on to have three children in rapid succession. You can't give away your children, guys! At least not easily!
i personally think it's a mix... people have very valid reasons to not like her and call her out on her behaviour, but there are also some things that I found that she gets hate for, for no reason. I think misogyny comes into play when we see how she is treated compared to other people, she's held to a higher standard while her male counterparts don't face the same repercussions. So it's sometimes it's justified, sometimes its not.
Girls/women that get hated on in real life but especially online, are hated by mostly other women. Females can be extremely cruel to each other, I've seen the most disgusting comments from other women, to another women. It's really sad.
There will always be a mixture of people who will constantly be misogynistic, so i think its appropriate to take into account that its almost impossible to avoid
@@elyly I never said or implied it shouldnt be, i'm saying that its an unfortunate automatic thing that exists in every single facet of anything women do
I have a Siamese that we rescued from a hoarding situation a few years ago. When we got her we thought she just had a broken part of her jaw from eating birds and having to survive. We Had 6 teeth removed initially but eventually had to see a dental specialist to get all of her teeth extracted because of stomatitis. This is not a condition that cats can easily hide. It’s extremely painful and honestly broke my heart having to watch my poor cat scream and throw up food because she was trying to shove it all in and avoid her teeth that were so inflamed. We thankfully had the means to get her mouth taken care of all within 6 months of having her. To ignore this condition is cruel and unforgivable.
i just replied to another comment about my cat, but he recently passed from multiple heart problems. once i found out about his condition, i did absolutely everything in my power to keep him healthy and happy. i mean it when i say i would’ve given him my own heart if i could’ve… the thought of rehoming a pet when they need you the most just makes me sick and if i were acacia, i would not be sleeping well at night 💔
It isn't uncommon for the disabled child to be the scapegoat of the family. I'm disabled and it was my experience. Nothing justifies treating your disabled child like that.
I saw a disability activist say the first people a child will experience ableism is from their parents and i think about that all of the time and think it applies here. i am so sorry for what you've gone through.
Not disabled but I became the scapegoat of my family by being a drug addict. Continued being the scapegoat long after getting sober. So I know how it feels and I’m so sorry you went through that through no fault of you own whatsoever. I was a dumb ass so I kind of brought it on myself but I can’t imagine how much worse it feels to be blamed for all the problems in your family when all you did was be disabled. That’s terrible, no one should have to go through something like that I’m so sorry to hear that. Really. I hope you’re doing better now
Honestly, I feel bad for her. Does that mean I'm justifying her wrong actions? Absolutely not. You can still have empathy for people who have done wrong. She has been through so much and I can't imagine all her trauma. Imagine your life at 15 years old being broadcast to the entire world…YIKES.
I didn't realize she JUST turned her mid-20s. I forget how young she was when she was going through everything. She's definitely a blueprint of how your digital footprint can always follow you. What happened to her sounds like a nightmare. I cringed at all her mistakes and actions. Can't imagine being pushed into the spotlight and no one really helping her. I'm genuinely looking for her redemption arc as I was a tumblr girly when she was popular there. Hoping she heals.
I’ll say this about the Rosemary disability situation, Acacia was really in a damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don’t situation. If she decides to keep Rosemary’s medical situation private because it’s a legitimately private thing, even for a family blogger, people will act like they suddenly have a right to know what’s going on, because “hey, you posted everything else”. And if Acacia DID decide to document every intimate medical detail of Rosemary’s condition, those same people would be roasting her for posting private medical information online and violating their baby’s privacy. Acacia consensually filming a lot of her life does not imply consent for EVERY DETAIL of their lives to be public record. No means no, even if there were a thousand yes’s prior.
this is the comment I was looking for. As I was watching that part I kinda got annoyed because nobody has to right to demand that a mother publically share her daughter's very serious health issues to an audience that already has a history of hating her. I honestly think that was a good parenting move.
Her little moments like this make me feel like she really is trying to not be entirely awful. Or was it entirely selfish, so people wouldn't pick apart her parenting? Humans are so complicated.
This. I was so bothered by everyone trying to justify prying into her daughters health, even Madison kinda was. Like just because Acacia tends to post almost everything about her life doesn’t mean she can’t choose to keep some things offline? People are acting like she owes them this information because she’s so chronically online, but that’s not how things work, she doesn’t owe anyone that info other than doctors assisting her family
Yeah its only when you get to the older age that you realise how crazy it is! 18 year olds just look like children to me at 27. How does your mind even go there 🤢
I never realized her age difference from her ex husband when they met. I had heard of her after he broke off his previous engagement to pursue her - the age difference makes it worse. He clearly took advantage of her.
ANND he got her pregnant at 18 and she became a mom at such a young age. not that that's a bad thing for some people but omg she's so young!! I was 18 when she had her baby and I can't even imagine.
Ik it was so clearly grooming. And her coming from the father she did makes sense because she’s probably used to that treatment from men. Predators can spot a potential victim from a mile away. Shes definitely done some horrible things but i feel so bad for her. She literally had her childhood stolen from her by vile men.
When I was 12, I ran an acacia hate Instagram account with my friend & we were in a pretty decent sized niche community. She interacted with my account when I posted “”””proof””” that she faked self harm. She seemed really hurt. I deleted my account shortly after & now that I’m turning 21 this year I think about it occasionally & i feel awful. Nobody deserves to go thru the amount of bullying she got & she didn’t even rly do anything except exist as a young dumb person like we all were at one point.
Honestly really cool that you can own up to that and also see that it was something bad, so well done for that - you're doing better than most youtubers lmao :))
Good for you, knowledge is growth, im much older than that and sometimes I delete a comment right after I make it because I said to myself " why did I even say that? This person doesn't deserve that." Usually a decent rule of thumb is if you don't have something nice to say, dont say much at all. People Mature and reflect and good of you to do that
she sucks tbh just an unbelievably shitty person however i agree when it comes to sh and mental health it’s super shitty to fake claim. even if it’s true (which i have my own thoughts on that i won’t share here because it doesn’t matter at all what i think or anyone else about her potential struggles)it’s a slippery slope and it effects OTHERS struggling too. i am proud of you for owning up to shitty behavior - but you were 12. you couldn’t have known how bad that was to publicly post/claim.
I think of this every time I see some clearly young person online just saying the most horrid stuff about some small time creator they hate (sometimes about people with like 1000 followers but that makes them "influential" in their small sphere so that makes it ok to send nightmarish comments/content) I often wonder if they'll feel bad in a week or a month or 5 years, and at what point they'll simply forget and rewrite the memory of their behavior in their own mind so they aren't the "bad guy". I'm glad to see one person that recognized they were putting out nothing good, changed/stopped, and still remembers. Dumb kids in a mob of hundreds+ can do quite a lot of damage
I also hated on her terribly in my teen years for nudes and faking self harm. When I grew up and realized how stupid that was it also made me think most the claims that came after that were a reach/not irredeemable
Likewise, I'm not familiar with probably 90% of the people covered, but the presentation and delivery are so good, I've binge watched everyone of her videos.
My mom used to get pets a lot and give them away a year or two later. Now that I’m older I have no idea how she even did that!! My dogs are everything to me! The small time they have on this planet isn’t enough.
Now that you mention that I had an upbringing till about 5 or 6 where my mom would constantly get pets and get rid of them regularly and the rest of my childhood with lifetimes with pets. I couldn't imagine just giving them away either or mistreating or neglecting them. They are so good to me and are always there for me
Right? My cousin is staying with us temporarily and I am crying thinking about her leaving and taking her sweet little dog away. 😂 because after a month I am attached. And i have two dogs of my own who I would do anything to make happy. I don’t get it.
And people will just drop them off at any shelter even if it's a high kill one. It takes maybe 5 minutes to find a no-kill shelter near you so I that if people have to surrender their pet that they take the time to do it right.
My mom did this too but she was so mean to our dogs and constantly annoyed by them. As an adult now I will only get a pet if I’m fully prepared for all that comes with it.
I can never get over that they really thought leaving a cat alone for 4 DAYS is a good idea?? ESPECIALLY when they definitely can afford a flipping pet sitter
stories like this always reinforce my belief that minors just straight up shouldn't be on the internet, or at least social media... that sounds harsh, but it's gotten to a point where we're seeing the repercussions of young social media stars turning into dysfunctional adults and therefore possibly negatively influencing their own children's lives, which is unacceptable imo
Totally agree with you. I won't tell you how old i am (😂) but I grew up without the Internet and the change in society I've witnessed over the past 30 years with it has been bone-chilling. It was sold as this amazing thing that would open up worldy knowledge and improve everyone's life. All it did was create predators, narcissists, social anxiety, isolation, online trends that lead to death, and generations of kids unable to face real-world reality. I've a 9 year old, and I'm constantly encouraging him to get out on his bike and play with his friends so he doesn't disappear down the rancid, black hole of the Internet
It's not harsh at all. I was a kid on the Internet before social media (yes I'm very old) and the change in the vibe of the net after social media shocked me. Suddenly people went from being kinda cool to angry, depressed, and lashing out at everyone and everything. I was in my mid 20s when Facebook went public and very quickly mainstream, so I was able to disengage a little easier and much earlier than the kids who came up with it in their lives. I think 13 is way too young to allow kids to have their own profile. Listen, they'll lie about their age, I know I did when I wanted to go into spaces I shouldn't have been in. But we have to at least try to keep kids off these platforms until they're 18 and slightly more mature. Middle school kids should be living in the real world, they should have their drama contained to school where, once they leave, it'll be quickly forgotten. Having all that preserved and blasted out to anyone who wants to find it is hurting them. Badly.
i don't think that they shouldn't be allowed on the internet at all but we definitely should be more serious about the stuff that they're able to access
@@jasperjazzie kids shouldn't be allowed to access the Internet at all unless under extreme surveillance, be allowed on social media until 16, and only allowed to message family and friends up until 18. Minors have destroyed themselves with the Internet. Everyone Is so self obsessed with numbers, clout and attention that they'll throw morals out the window for dopamine
I'm surprised that so many people focus and what SHE has done wrong yet no one calls out her dad's which is obsessed with taking photos of teens in sexual ways, and his ex boyfriend, who encourage her to live with him as soon as she turned 18, maker HER support him and herself economically even tho he was a grown ass man of 24 and she was barely 18. The soon after they have children and marry, all while she was barely 19-20. Like, I'm 19 and I cannot fantom marring and having 3 kids while also been economically independent. He's just such a groomer and it seems like yet again, women problems are put under the rug because everything else is more important than women......
Okay but that and neglecting kids and animals are 2 different things. Yes, you can try to explain her behaviour with her past relationships and childhood but her behaviour towards Rosemary and the dogs is still unacceptable
@@ddppo8065 yes, I'm not trying to excuse her behavior, but I find it unfair that she's the only getting a lot of shit while his husband was doing something borderline illegal and also being aware of her behavior and doing nothing about it (since the animals thing and rosemary happened while they where a couple and he was the adult in the relationship)
people hated him not just her. He's just not on social media as much to receive the hate but just read the comments of his few releases He's not the only one who got hate either. Ben Suedes career (rightfully) tanked after they broke up he was friends with post malone who dropped him not so long after too
I feel like this was very well put. Did she eventually do some stuff that was inexcusable? Sure, but that doesn’t excuse what adults did to her as a teenager, and how she was manipulated and groomed. Even though she’s done some awful things, I can’t help it. I actually feel really bad for her, and genuinely wonder how much of this stuff could’ve been avoided if she had supportive attentive adults in her childhood.
This poor girl.. where were the adults? She is 17 and he was 24? What??? Her entire life has been crazy and heartbreaking from the beginning. She never learned or had a role model, in my opinion, hopefully she will finally get her act together.
I love how respectful you are. You're not here to be a judgmental, you're here to tell a story. I don't want to feel by watching a video about someone I'm adding to the hate they get. We are all humans after all.
But there is one part where she is judging Acacia for not publicly sharing medical information of her child... Just because she posts everything else doesn't mean she has to post about her childs disabilities. I have ADHD, depression and BPD, I once had a mental breakdown at mass, full on crying and hyperventilating because of the sensory overstimulation and my mom just outright told everyone that I was just mentally ill, like she's not wrong but the random old church lady doesn't need to know that??? If later on Rosie finds that she does want to be public about her medical history, that is her choice, but Madison judging Acacia for not posting about her disabled baby as a NEW MOTHER is pretty worrying...
Thanks for keeping it compassionate, I have a 13 year old daughter who's watching and absorbing all of this. I can't imagine of all my dumb mistakes and personas from my teens were out there to be criticized. People do grow up and change. This is a really good cautionary tale for the generation just now coming into their teens and thinking about their social presence or what kind of influencer they admire. (I'm 45, soooo glad I didn't have to worry about any of that! Sure I'm old but I'm appreciating my 90s teen years now LoL!) PS - I LOVE these longer deep dive videos makes my workday go a lot faster❤
Agreed. As someone even older than you, I am also very grateful that I didn't have this added pressure that could exponentially complicate the most confusing time of anyone's life. I can't help but notice how much worse behaviour from "influencers" is practically ignored today while even a hint of the kind of ridicule and hyper-criticism she was subjected to as a child is completely intolerable today, even against adults.
Nude kitties require A LOT of specialized care. They have to be bathed and have their teeth brushed regularly because they don’t have fur like regular cats. I have done tons of research into them because I want one myself and they require a lot of care. They definitely aren’t “low maintenance” like most people think of cats. I had no idea who she was before this video, and I could honestly careless about her, but it’s shitty what she did to her animals.
The pet stuff winds me up so much. I adopted a siamese cat when I was 18 and despite being poor, I always put him first! He died at age 15.5 a couple of years ago. I made a commitment at a very young age and respected it. She’s just awful for buying animals for aesthetic purposes.
I have 3 cats. 2 from a previous relationship and one rescue. I work my ass off and the first thing when I get my paycheck is cat food, litter and put away money for the vet if I need to. First thing. I always get extra so at the end of the month they still have what they need. When my cat, Hades, got sick, I was lucky to have a bonus from work that I spent on his medical bill. It was very expensive, extremely stressfull, and demanding. I can't imagine getting a pet and not taking responsability and rehousing them left and right (repeatedly, as she did with multiple of them because she didn't take in account their needs). It hurt me so much when he was sick thinking that If I didn't have the money, he would have to suffer because of my lack of prioritising and responsibility. Totally unacceptable from her side. No excuse.
I've also never heard of her but I got a cat at 17 when I left home. I had nothing but I never, ever skimped when it came to my cat. She had more stuff than I did, definitely ate better - she was my no 1 all her life. Youth is no excuse nor is fame. I knew an actress called Mischa Barton. Famous young, was her familys breadwinner- all that but she loved her dogs with all her heart. I understand why people are angry about this. Pets give us their best they deserve no less!
While I agree, I would imagine her parents did a poor job of teaching her abt responsibilities and she lacked the understanding of what it takes to be a pet parent. From her list of pets it sounds like her family doesn't see pets as family 😢
The recent event where she left her kids alone in a park to go take photos of herself playing her switch in the woods really ads new light to her supposed motivation of keeping her kids safe and prioritized.
She treats her kids the was she treated her pets. I think she has arrested development from being famous as a teenager. That or she just has narcissism and thinks that nothing matters more than her in her life.
That “unnatural” dachshund is actually considered a double dapple. They are unethical to breed as both parents must carry the Merle gene. The Merle gene is associated with defects to a dog’s auditory and visual systems. So, a double dapple is highly likely to suffer from some issue with its eyes, ears, or both. The issue may be mild but it can also be so severe that it shortens the animal’s life and destroys the quality of it. :(
I was the only caretaker of my late cat, Willie, starting at the age of 14 from when I got her as a kitten until she died at 17 (and I was 31). I would have done everything for that cat and I took my care for her very seriously. As much as I wanted more animals, Willie was meant to be an only cat so she was my own animal for many years. If someone actually values and loves animals, they wouldn't be constantly adopting and rehoming them, regardless of their age. Now at the age of 36, I have 5 animals who are all very loved and I often prioritize their well being over anything else, because animals are not disposable.
I totally feel you, Ive had my 20 year old cat since I was a child. she moved out with me when i got my first place, shes been with me through college, every adventure and heart break, and now that I her health is detoriating its one of the hardest things ive gone through except for losing my mom.
If she can still be racist while having a black sister, that’s some deep rooted racism. I don’t think she can rectify it and don’t believe she thinks racism is wrong. I’m terrified for what her sister went thru in that house especially with that man.
@@jaydeh7675 Her sister identifying as Brown is not a sign that the parents were racist. My biracial sister grew up in an anti-racist household and the reason she chooses to call herself Brown is because she has lighter skin. I know this is the reason why she calls herself Brown because she told me. To clarify, she's experienced racism away from home, including in college where Black women with darker skin teased her for "acting white."
It's not that simple. A person who was raised anti-racist may do something racist later on even if they knew better. We are all capable of doing things we regret. I'm ashamed to say that there were 3 times in college where I sang with the N word even though I knew better. I acknowledged it and decided to never do it again. Like Acacia, I also have a multiracial sister and I would step in front of a train for her.
Dude, all that before 18 and two kids when you're like 20??? I honestly feel really bad for her. I am not saying that she is blameless in all her actions but holy hell. My mom had me when she was 19 and it wasn't the best so for either of us but I am glad she didn't have social media.
something just occurred to me- i wonder if acacia asked “which 6 presets?” because she stole the rest of the presets from other ppl and genuinely didn’t know which presets were hers. i would not put it past her. also i love how acacia made the ig story and made it seem like she came forward out of the goodness of her heart to make it right. instead of ashley having to basically make her come clean- which she didn’t even really do. she still won’t admit that she actually stole the presets. the manipulation and excuses were gross.
Based on the fact it ended up being 13 that were stolen, it seems more like she asked "which 6" so she could determine which ones she could sneakily keep as she hadn't been caught out for all of them yet.
I’ve followed Ash Levi for years. She’s a talented artist whose worked her ass off. Compared to acacia who another commenter brought up likes to take shortcuts. I’ve only ever heard of Acacia through her controversies. There are many things I can say about the case of Acacia. She was very young when she first introduced herself online to the world. She was very young when she became a mother and entered marriage. Her upbringing with a predatory parent. But she’s an adult now. She needs to be responsible for her actions. Past and present. What she needs is therapy and maturity not an online presence
This girl honestly had an immeasurable effect on the internet when it came to her influence on selfie culture and thinking about it from that kind of art history/anthropology perspective gave me a whole new appreciation for her and other similar creators. This was more than just my childhood, this was enculturation in real time...
Okay on the topic of disability, as a disabled person myself I cannot express how much I would have hated it if my parents posted about my medical issues on the internet. I can't believe it even has to be said? I'm already very against family channels, but family channels exploiting disability as drama...please don't.
Funny to see how stealing photo presets was what ended up making her leave social media; not her abuse of animals, not her alleged abuse of her children.... presets...
the only way i see this making sense, is that maybe it was due to the comparison of the reactions to the more severe "scandals" (I hate using that word in this context tbh, feels diminishing.) when people are losing their shit because of child or animal abuse, that's understandable. i think she found it easy to handle the large scale reaction, bc it fit the severity of the topic, and it's easier to detach from it in a way. "people are just upset bc they think a kid is in danger, lots of parents go through criticism! its fine!" But when people lose it over PRESETS, and are JUST as hateful over something that is still bad but comparatively less serious, that would be harder to accept/digest. at that point you think, "people must just hate ME, because this isnt that serious!!" (it IS, but her mind is contextualizing it against the other allegations). I think the presets were the moment she realized she's never escaping that digital footprint, no matter how she rebrands, and she's essentially on an Internet Good Behavior Bond at best, if not totally cancelled.
2 months after I adopted my cat his back legs went totally lame. I spent so much money and got no answers and no real solutions. I devoted myself to my cat and did whatever I could to keep him happy. He's 3yrs old now and gets around on his own. He is the happiest most loving cat I've ever had. When I adopted him I made an agreement to take care of him for life not just when it's convenient for me. Makes me question how she treats her children when they're inconvenient for her lifestyle.
Completely off topic, but Madison is so autumnal purdy in this video, and has put a lot of thought into her hair, make-up and outfit and making the colours complementary; and for some reason it's making the artsy part of my brain go 🥰
i’ve watched acacia since the tumblr days. i’ve always thought it was so sad what she was so publicly going through. i also thought it was so so strange she dated a 25 year old at 17.
It annoys me when people say that these types of influencers ADOPT their pets. I can tell you with certainty that these pets were bought, not adopted. It’s not easy to adopt an animal, there are all sorts of checks you have to go through, and these serial pet owners are not those kind of of people who would go through the lengthy process of adoption. I also doubt any decent rescue would let them adopt. EDIT: you literally said she got a dog from a puppy mill, that’s NOT adopting, that’s shopping and buying 😭
as someone with a few disabilities it breaks my heart to know that that little girl is gonna watch these videos one day and feel bad about who she is bc of her mother’s behaviors
I'm only 20 minutes in and I have to say it's wild and horrible to look back at people tearing apart a child for her nudes being leaked and for adult men taking advantage of her. Like I am pretty sure that would be considered CP and getting involved with a minor which are crimes. The fact that her inappropriate photos of her as a kid blew up tells you all you need to know about a big part of her audience. Grossssss.
The Black kids who experienced racism at the hands of those kids suffering wasn’t less severe because they were children. Even though they were a child, she hurt other children.
@tokyoyoongi Why would you even click on an article about an under-age kids nudes? Like I'm not sure why you think that is a defense or somehow not the same thing.
I’m a huge dog nerd. There are basically three sectors to breeding. Puppy mills, backyard breeders, and ethical breeders. Puppy mills will pump out countless dogs without the care of the dogs in mind typically only producing for looks and money. Backyard breeders a step above puppy mills but often aren’t much better. Backyard breeders typically breed for only money as well but not as such a large scale. Ethical breeders are breeders who breed well bred dogs who have long lineage, health testing, are proven (either by working or going to dog shows and being deemed to fit the standard of the breed). Ethical breeders typically don’t make profit off their dogs and the small amount of profit they get goes right back into their dogs. They breed dogs as a hobby the biggest red flag to a breeder is if their full time job is breeding dogs. Ethical breeders breed to preserve dog breeds to aim to make a new one that fills a purpose! 9/10 any sort of mix breed is not ethically bred! If u have any questions pls ask!
didnt expect to see an acacia video from you! very excited to see your take. i mostly just wish acacia never heavily involved her children with her presence online and i hope the kids, especially rosie, grow up well adjusted and healthy :(
i totally agree! she could’ve continued being a successful influencer whether she posted her children or not, and clearly she shouldn’t have. i genuinely hope she’s grown and learned from everything so that she can “mom up” for her little ones
This video upset me deeply. A former colleague of my roommate bought a purebreed Pomeranian from a puppy mill. The dog ended up getting much bigger than she expected and had severe behavioral issues due to her being abandoned for days on end. They also never potty trained her properly as a puppy. When my roommate and I ended up taking the dog in, we weren't prepared for the amount of issues and concerning behavior the dog would have. Thankfully, she has now settled in wonderfully with us, and I firmly believe she was meant for us. What was very upsetting, though, is that only a month after giving the dog to us, they bought another white Pomeranian from the same puppy mill. They even gave the dog the exact same name given to the dog they gave away. It's so heartbreaking to watch someone view these living and breathing creatures as a 'trend', but if they don't behave attractively, they are just discarded and replaced.
I had a roommate in college who got a little 8 week old puppy. She didn't take care of it, would leave it without food for 2-3 days, didn't train or walk her. I would come home between classes to walk her. I bought her food and started training her. She and I were best buddies. One day, the puppy got out...."got out...ran away." Long story short, my boyfriend and I raised the most amazing, loving, and well-behaved dog. We could walk her off-leash and she loved everyone ❤
As a pom mom this makes me so sad. I got my pom from a puppy mill which I thought was a reputable breeder (don’t worry, I learned that I should always adopt and never buy animals, I feel horrible about it..) and he had so many issues. I had to bring him back to full health since he had worms, ear mites, fleas, and was abused. I called and texted the people I bought him from and let them have it. I reported them as well, and they blocked my number. Of course. I’m glad I have him with me now and he’s my absolute best friend. I just can’t fathom abandoning your pet because they have issues or aren’t “what you thought they would be”. My Pomeranians are my family. 🙁
I have a throwback pom who I adopted from a situation like this! She is my other half, my best friend, my familiar! I had “friends” who had dogs they neglected before I adopted my girl and I cannot fathom a dog getting mistreated. They depend on you and love you no matter what, you should love taking care of them!
I'm grateful I grew up just before social media became so ubiquitous. It must feel terrible to come of age in an era of permanent performance. I wouldn't wish that on any kid
Oof, yeah. I feel this. All the cringy bullshit from when I was a kid is in printed photos shoved in the back of a closet somewhere in my house. Gotta love the 80's and 90's and having to do extra steps to get photos, which gave you time to think if you wanted anyone to see them or not. I think we need to have conversations with our kids about taking a beat before hitting "Post". I know social media is specifically designed to stop that part of your brain from functioning, but we need to help kids build up a resistance to the manipulation. It sucks they have to live in a world where capitalism has commodified literally every single aspect of human life. These kids are being strip mined to basically get money out of them, and it's all so obfuscated that you don't see the machinery behind the veil. Their childhood is being extracted, calculated, and added to a huge pile of data points on them...just to then weaponize that data to see them shit they don't need. Something's going to break soon, and it's not going to be pretty. Green Z in particular seems especially pissed over all this.
As someone who has spent more times in the hospital than out, I can confirm that hospital do not release kids or adults weeks and weeks after they're perfectly healed. It would be amazing if health care worked that way here, but it doesn't. They will keep you at the hospital until you're stable and then send you home to care for yourself or by a parent or guardian with follow up out patient care. They absolutely do not keep you there to heal until you're safely able to do back flips and cart wheels.
She appears to have spent her childhood getting groomed by adult men. It looks like she didn't have anyone to protect her. Of course she's going to end up a hot mess. The posts speculating she hates her child are fucking gross and people should be ashamed of themselves. Those snark subreddits, especially about a single target, turn into really dark places and an absolute circlejerk.
I feel pretty bad for her. She sounded like she never had the opportunity to learn who she is since she was too busy trying to be what the world wanted her to be. The same people who demand accountability tend to be the same people who evade their own demons.
theres tons of people with trauma and even worse childhoods that don’t neglect their children and their animals. she’s bought animals and gave them away multiple times. having trauma doesn’t excuse being a horrible person as a adult.
@meowmeow-p6n so you're going to use other people trauma to minimalize hers? That's a weird stance to have. Of course, i feel bad for the animals. I also feel bad for her. She probably would have been a completely different person if she was protected
Sooooo ready to get into this deep dive! Acacia is such an interesting case and to see how her life and "internet career" persay has developed is one hell of a rollercoaster.
In regards to being young and adopting pets; I've known some people like this and I just don't understand it, age doesn't really matter because I've seen it when they were young and again in their late 20's early 30's. I was 18 when I did some volunteering at a vet clinic and ended up adopting an older kitten, he will be 14 at the end of this year. At 19 I ended up with an abandoned kitten and then a few months later I bought a husky puppy who lived until he tragically passed when he was 5. The kitten will be 13 this year and I've since gotten another dog that will turn 5 or 6 (what even is time?). I love my babies and while I don't brush them all individually every single day of their life; I do absolutely love them and lavish on them every single day. Getting pets to fit an "aesthetic" is disgusting, they are precious lives that only know to love.
I found Acacia right after Brinley was born (despite having been on tumblr since 2012 I had no idea who she was) and it's been really interesting to watch a lot of this stuff happen in real time. I remember being really confused about the accusations of abuse towards Rosemary, it only ever seemed to me like Acacia was doing the best she could while maybe not being the most prepared to have a disabled child, and it definitely seemed like she didn't know how to talk about Rosie's medical issues or how much information she wanted to share online. I wouldn't be surprised if Rosie's birth was the start of Acacia really realizing how awful it can be to document every moment of your life online. Learning more about her life and the lack of guidance from adults plus the abuse she's endured (both documented and speculated) is really heartbreaking, I didn't know about most of that when I was actively engaging in her content. It's SHOCKING to me that Jairus was that much older than her and nobody fucking batted an eye. I don't know. I think she's done some terrible things, and I think she's far from perfect. I just hope as she comes back to socials she really treads carefully and maybe thinks things through a little more than she used to. I am glad to see that she isn't posting about her kids at all. I think that alone is a huge step forward.
I’m halfway through this video and I nearly started crying when they said at first Rosie had TOF. I was born with TOF (in the late 80s so medicine was not nearly as advanced as it is now). And thank God my parents never treated me like a sick kid. They gave me a non-sensationalist understanding of my condition, made going to the cardiologist a daddy daughter date day (we’d go somewhere for a treat afterwards), and never told me I couldn’t do anything because of my heart condition. So I did dance, theater, and gymnastics with gusto. I’ve had two open heart surgeries and will most likely need to have another eventually but because of such a matter-of-fact way of approaching the diagnosis, I’m not super scared about it. Although Rosie didn’t end up having TOF, it breaks my heart (no pun intended) that parents could alienate a child for (really anything) but especially something they can’t control!! But I speculate, because Acacia has been such a public figure for so long, anything that doesn’t meet the standards that garnered her success, must be hidden. It’s a shame. It’s a crying shame.
I agree with you, I didn’t have TOF. But I was born with a heart defect, two holes in my heart and have been lucky that I only needed one open heart surgery (born in ‘93 myself). The way parents approach birth defects have a massive impact. I had several other birth defects as well which probably should have killed me, but my parents were through with getting me taken care of to the point I despise being called ‘the miracle baby’
I always appreciate how balanced and fair you are to your subjects. Usually when you grow up with pets, you learn how to look after them. The repeated adoptions are really troubling Why was a minor able to adopt animals? Her age is no excuse for obviously giving pets physical and mental health issues. They can get PTSD from abandonment
I am not in any way defending or justifying her behavior and I completely agree with everything you said. I do remember her saying once that her parents were the same way and constantly re-homed and adopted animals throughout her childhood so it’s possible she didn’t understand at that age how bad what she was doing is. However, it is insane to me regardless. I could never imagine rehoming my dog or either of my cats, they’re apart of me. I genuinely can’t grasp it.
I'm by no means a dog breeder, however I am a licensed veterinarian so can hopefully shed a bit of light on the "unnatural" dog colouring situation. Merle colouring is naturally occurring in specific dog breeds (or mixes of these breeds), and is considered an incomplete-dominant gene. The genetics are a bit more complicated but I'll summarise for clarity. A typical Merle coloured dog will have the genotype (Mm), whereby 'M' is a copy of the Merle gene from a Merle parent, and 'm' is a copy of the non-merle gene from a non-merle parent. This in itself doesn't cause any particualr issues, however if a dog inherits two copies of the Merle gene (MM)- they are extremely likely to have hearing and vision defects (potentially both deaf and blind). There are other health defects involving the heart and skeleton that are potentially linked to (MM) dogs, however the research is not yet certain. This means that breeders must be careful that a Merle dog (Mm) is ONLY bred to non-merle partners (mm) to prevent (MM) puppies from being born. If two Merle (Mm) dogs are bred, statistically 25% of their puppies will be double Merle (MM) with the associated health issues. This sounds reasonably simple to avoid, however the Merle pattern is highly varied and it's appearance is altered by other genes, so some (Mm) dogs may not distinctly appear Merle in colour (sometimes known as being a phantom or cryptic Merle). Backyard breeders may either not know the risks of breeding two Merle dogs together, or may not have performed the correct genetic testing to know whether their dogs are potentially phantom Merles, resulting in problematic (MM) puppies. As a side note: The dog breeds carrying the Merle gene are very specific (for example Aussie Shepherds, border collies and Beucerons among others). Dogs that are NOT one of these breeds that are Merle coloured are NOT purebred- there has been a mix somewhere in their lineage that has added the Merle gene. This is happening in many, many breeds lately (French bulldogs and pugs are some of the most common I see), and is not a practice that is supported by responsible, ethical breeders. Registration papers and pedigrees can be fraudulent, if your dog is not a naturally Merle breed, it is genetically impossible that they are 100% purebred (this doesn't mean they are not 100% good Bois or girls). Sorry for the essay, hope this clears it up a bit for anyone who was curious ❤️🐶
Fantastic video! Only significant issue i had is that the image is so blown out and bright that i had to turn down the brightness in my monitor to avoid triggering a headache lol
So excited to hear your take on this. I used to keep up with acacia when I was younger, so it will be super interesting to hear you compile her history and your analysis of it!
Aw thank you! Hope you enjoy the video 💜 I found this as strangely the most difficult video I’ve done, because there’s such a huge history and so many ups and downs. At times I empathized with acacia, other times not. I just really hope I accurately captured what I wanted to in this video
Thank you so much for the trigger warning about the animal abuse. I realized that it does majorly trigger me, and it’s always upsetting when we don’t get that warning.
I always appreciate how much empathy you approach these stories with. I feel like a lot of people hold those with fame to a higher standard, but their still just people and their lives are complicated and messy and full of nuance. I think a lot of people forget that you can try to really understand where someone was coming from without necessarily excusing any of their bad choices.
For me personally, I trust my animals more than anything. I seriously question someone's character when my animals don't like them because that usually means something is off. I'm really upset that this girl treated her pets this way, regardless of whether she was young or not. By the time I was 13 I was taking care of my cat (minus vet bills) and she is 17 now and a healthy happy girl.
i know exactly what you mean! my cat recently passed away at almost 3 years old because of multiple heart problems, and i would’ve done ANYTHING for him (i would’ve given him my own heart if i could’ve…) i can’t even imagine a world where i’d treat my pets how she’s treated hers
I used to think that until I accumulated my four cats and see all their different personalities. One of them is a b*tch and doesn't like anybody, human or animal. 😅 And my mom has three dogs and we mess with her about one of them, this dog will literally go buddy up with a damn serial un-aliver. When mom goes on her walks we make sure to tell her, "Don't take Cookie!"
I remember looking up to her on Tumblr. She was my inspiration for what I wanted to look like. I never knew it was this bad. This is very sad. Thank you for covering this. Keep up the amazing work.
Never strive to look like anyone .. you are you and finding your own sense of style is amazing .. never be a follower .. do what makes YOU feel good about yourself .. comparing to others will always have you feeling less than
I'm going to say the opposite. Taking inspiration for style is rarely a problem, despite who you it is you may be looking to. I think to some extent we gotta be ourselves but I just think people are impressionable for a reason. I guess so long as you aren't trying to look like mass-murdering tyrants, I just don't see the problem. Acacia may be a flawed person, but she does have cute style.
A young girl out of control with possible trauma in her childhood making poor decisions in her adult life as well? I'm not gasping in shock. But I wouldn't be surprised if those people who would've wanted her gone from the internet were the ones digging information about her when she decided to step away from it. That to me is truly wild.
she’s bought multiple animals and gave them away repeatedly and neglects her kids. she didn’t just make a few quirky poor decisions. she’s a shitty person to her core. trauma doesn’t excuse her shitty personality and choices as an adult.
When I was like 15 (born a month before Acacia) in 2013/14, I was going to a church youth group night in LA area and someone brought acacia… it was so weird to me bc I knew who she was from the nude pics scandal but I was also too afraid to even approach her and tell her I knew of her. Turns out during this time she was on her “church phase” lol so random of an experience
You’re my favourite RUclipsr. Your voice is so calming. You’re logical about situations. I also admire you for not putting your child all over the internet. I see my grandkids on Facebook & have mentioned it to my son that they should wait till both my granddaughter & grandson say they don’t mind. My husband scrolls Facebook before bed. My sister is so famous for broadcasting her entire life. I get updates from my husband on what’s being posted. He’s always loved the fact I don’t advertise our lives all over social media. I said I don’t need validation for the meal I ordered or pictures of passed relatives like my brother did for the father he disliked to get sympathy from people on the internet. Don’t get me wrong I have posted vacations that my husband & I have taken. Nothing that shows bragging. Just some us time. The most I may post is my eyelash business. Even then I don’t go over the top with it. Not laziness just don’t want to post my customers that may be older & don’t want their faces on my Instagram.
wow I can't even imagine being bullied a school, discovering the online world at 13 getting famous and being a teenager infront of millions of eyes - I doubt there ever really was space to deal with the trauma of being bullied and hated and whatever else. I feel like she grew up without really having a chance of growing up and discovering herself 😔 that doesn't excuse her actions and behavior of course but it does put it into context - am not done watching yet 😆 so my opinion might change but I just felt so sorry for the little girl
The court of public opinion can be so unforgiving and expects lifelong consequences, which like you pointed out could be our own trauma responses. Love how you laid out this video ❤️
For me this is the first video of you that I've ever watched, and I want to tell you that nobody covered the topic surrounding Acacia this well nuanced, detailed and objective as you just did. I really adore how you spoke of her story respectfully, not supporting but neither judging her in the way many others do. My highest respect fo you, thank you for this. Her background story, the psychological aspect of her age and the effect of the early fame have never been mentioned sufficiently before. She has to be held accountable for the things she did wrong, but shouldn't be hated for the things she did or said when she wasn't capable to comprehend when she was still a minor. Very well made :)
i feel like a video like this on taylor nicole dean would be amazing. she has a rollercoaster of a experience and seeing it start from today would be a very cool video!
I actually adopted a headgehog (I did tons of research) at 14 (I’m 23 now) and it was barely a few months that I had to rehome it because it just was something I couldn’t handle. I still feel guilty about it today. Idk how did acacia manage to keep adopting and rehoming her pets 😞
If I had adopted a black child an my other white child posted the n word online, I would have explained to her why it was wrong and made her post a public apology then and there. The parents really failed their children imo
I watched this entire vid not knowing who Acacia Kersey is. The irony!- literally thousands making money judgjng her every move. She could certainly write a memoir that would be a very interesting chronical of these crazy and, frankly, terrifying, times. These internet judge-bullies are scary. I felt bad for her. Your details are incredible- good work!
As someone who pet sits for a living she could of EASILY found an affordable pet sitter for four nights of boarding. Hearing she left her pets alone for that time period completely baffled me. She’s lucky it was JUST ants. They could of overate, starved to death, got trapped somewhere, etc.
In high school.. my best friend was her best friend. She was as a little c*nt in HS not going to lie.. but then again she was young and didn’t deserve to be bullied.
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Weird that your video was uploaded an hour ago but this comment is from three days ago...
May I say that you look like elf in this video ❤
@@talb.1805 You can post a video unlisted and comment on it.
I don't know anything about lighting so I have no suggestions for fixing, but in this video you looked really washed out, to the point that it looked like your nose was missing! Just wanted to let you know in case it was unintentional🤷♀️
@@talb.1805 she probably had this video uploaded as unlisted before she made it public
It says a lot about our society that people were more angry at the 15 year old girl then they were at the grown adult men she was dating
a whole ass predator involved in this story and still people are mad a 15 yr old saying some dumb shit on the internet welcome to 2023
Seriously.
Yeah...it's disgusting. Blaming the woman is always easier for the society for some reason...
well said Britni.
As usual
Let me get this straight…she was a 17 year old teenager when this 24 year old grown man went after her. Then she was the breadwinner, while he lived off of her, and he got her pregnant by the age of 18. She had three kids still supporting this groomer before she was 25. He was living off of a teenager. How have more people not called him out???
It's so sick
100%!! I do not support her actions or all of the absolutely horrible things she’s done, but to this day she has nothing bad to say about jauris. I know it’s hard bc they have kids together and she maybe wants to preserve the image of him, but I wonder if deep down, she knows how she was groomed. It’s so sad
Tbh in the 90s this age gap was normalized but its disgusting knowing that a 18 year old mindsets is different than a 24/25 year old mindset.
Do you know who her dad is? She's probably seen her father grooming her whole life and this is just the norm.
Right?? he's a sicko always going after young women and mooching off them. And once Acacia's money dried up, he left. He's also just as responsible for the neglect of his children.
Her ex husband deserves WAAAYYYYY more scrutiny for that relationship. How does a 24 year old move in with a 17 year old??
Yeah I’m guessing that issue pales in comparison to all the others but what the fuck? Pedo. And I find it odd that he’s always the one explaining why the pets had to go..
My thoughts exactly!
You can tell this happened a while ago because of that exact reason.
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In most states you can be tried as an adult at 13... you can change your gender and get ur sex organs removed but you cant use your sex organs?! My husband of 20 yrs and i started dating when i was 16 and he was 20 and i was more mature and responsible than he was lol not every relationship is equal. Just because one 20 yr old took advantage of a 17 yr old doesnt mean every 20 yr old will... its a case by case basis.
I honestly believe shielding her daughter’s medical conditions from her social media is one of the best parenting decisions Acacia has made. I think it’s super creepy people feel entitled to know all the details of someone else’s child’s medical history regardless of how much information that person has shared previously with the world
Unrelated but quick suggestion: at times the brightness/light on this video felt a bit too strong for my eyes. I think because of the combination of the lights on you plus the very stark background. Not sure if you’re just playing around with lighting but thought i’d mention it!
Great video as always.
Bare minimum
You are an idiot if you think her not posting pics means something she is a terrible mom she neglects her disabled child
Call me crazy but there are also more psychological reasons a newly single mom or dad may remove their children's presence from the internet. I still think it is overall best for her children though so small wins I suppose.
@@zulyc8641maybe you could lower the brightness on your phone? Hopefully that could help
It helps me
The amount of hate people had and still have for little girls is insane. If they can’t be sexualized, they have no value, and if they can be, they’re shamed for it. Acacia has done some horrible things, but the amount of hate she got as a child for existing as a hurt child on the internet is crazy
Horrible things^^
definitely a lose/ lose. and its not like it stops once you're a woman
She’s done a lot of horrible things as an adult and we hate her for that :) js
Forgive me for the comparison. Hitler must have been an obedient child smiling for mommy. Ignore his actions as an adult? Monsters yes are made but we all have bad days, why give in to evil or bad acts?
@@charlenembarga3239 They didn't say that she should be excused for what she did or that it "explains" why she's controversial, but that people were also hating on her to an extreme and toxic degree before she was even confirmed to have ever done anything abusive or racist. This commenter is just trying to bring attention to the fact that the people on tumblr/other social medias weren't squeaky clean either, and they did some awful shit to a literal child who was being groomed by adult men.
I kept thinking through out this video, "where are her parents and other adults in her life?" It doesn't matter if your child is famous, you are responsible for your child.
Same! She was a whole child. Seems like every adult in her life failed and/or used her. 😢
If I remember correctly, her dad is a photographer. He took pictures of her in a bikini when she was underage, crawling on the sand and stuff. They were posted and shared online.
He also took pictures of girls I knew in high school, while they were underage. I don’t know anything about her mom but her dad seems a little off.
@@AyshaLovesYou I makes me sad, the way parents are can really influence how someone is. When they are an adult, though, they are responsible for overcoming that. This story seems to show the difficulties a child can have with parents who make bad decisions and/or are horrible and then grow up and don't overcome that. She could have true happiness without all the social media and the decisions she made. I hope she can find happiness.
Then you keep watching and become even more concerned because of who her father is
@@bushdenae Yes!! So horrible!
I don't know if people realize how horrific it is to leave pets without food for four days. The Art of Racing in the Rain shows how horrific it is when pets are neglected without their most basic needs of food and water. Acacia and Jairus could afford all kinds of expensive clothing and trip to Manhattan. They could afford a pet sitter or boarding.
so so true!!! It is difficult to comprehend how they could even think that was ok, and that they obviously, undeniably, do not care about these (innocent) animals. The fact that they actually POSTED PUBLICLY ONLINE about their blatant animal abuse and neglect makes my brain go 🤯💣💥
Hell, most hotels are pet friendly these days! I worked for one where we even had special beds for dogs we would put in your room before check in. The bed went by the window, so poochie could sit and look at everything, with a little bag with treats and stuff. Just to help get everyone settled.
When I had a dog I just didn't travel. Period. Shortly after he died my neighbor's cat decided she wanted to live with me (long story), so now that I have another pet I still don't travel. Being disabled at this point I can't even if I wanted to, so it works well now.
People are understandably quick to call out the conditions of shelters and feel bad for animals in there but at least their basic needs (food, water) are being met. I cannot imagine not feeding my cat, honestly the amount of times I haven’t eaten until late at night because the only money I have goes on cat food, milk and litter. My pet will always come first 🥺
That hurt my heart. Shit, I feel guilty when my cat tells me it's 15 minutes past dinnertime. But FOUR DAYS?? Just ask a neighbor to pop by, they'd probably do it for free.
Regardless, leaving cats without socialisation for DAYS is awful. Cats are incredibly social animals, they can’t just be left on their own.
Let's not mince words about it. This girl was a confirmed victim of one child predator (her ex-husband) and possibly another (her father), and it's hard to overstate the type of impact that such trauma can have on a developing mind. I'm not saying that this excuses any of her wrongdoing, but I think it's important context to be aware of in this discussion
Is her husband a confirmed child predator? I thought she was 17 when he was her bf & is this predatory? & what charges has he faced? My 2nd serious bf in Brisbane was 26 & I was 19, never had an issue: great relationship etc. he was not “the one” but still. 🧐
Yeah, it's interesting that her neglect of animals- which is terrible, and a crime, don't get me wrong- is what is mostly talked about when it comes to Acacia, when this is a disturbing case of an adult man preying on a minor teen girl when he is 24 and living off her income, who she she escaped to live with in order to get away from her father- a worse creep.
I understand things like this were ignored at the time, but... it still is a bit upsetting that people seem to bring up everything else while brushing by with only the lightest mention (if anything) about the child molesters in this woman's life. Is she kind of a terrible person? Sure. It's a lot more understandable though, with the knowledge of the creeps who manipulated her in mind.
When she was young it was forgivable but up to a certain point when she becomes an adult and when the abused becomes the abuser, it's too late to find her excuses! Some people don't abuse other because of their trauma
@@mildredvadernikov8727 i think the OP said that her trauma is an explanation to the things / crimes that she did. Not an excuse but holy guacamole of a reason.
I had to mature a lot to reach the same opinion. I used to not be able to see the nurture vs nature side of how you evolve into an adult until I became an actual almost 30 year old adult. I think this type of viewpoint is important to see things through instead of the usual “good or bad” only. This situation was more nuanced than I thought as a teen-YA when I would just troll Acacia online. A lot of people struggling to open their paths of thinking this way
Acacia is one of those influencers where you just HAD to be there during the tumblr days if you ever want to understand why she is the way she is. It just explains so much
Looking back it feels like SUCH a different era. I can’t believe how much the internet has changed lmao. My old ass was on Tumblr pre-yahoo buy. The Wild West.
I remember scrolling through tumblr at age 12 and finding pro-ana blogs, SO MUCH p*rn and a lot of sm*t. It really was a black hole haha.
@@charlirose7233 me too! And I didn't even realize what I was reading was pro-ana or what ana was. It was also scarily easy to see ana posts just by looking for fitness inspo or "fitspo". The line between fitspo and pro-ana was so thin.
Also I just looked at my Google Photos and I saved an image in 2014 that said "1 heart = 1 day without sweets" which ig is sorta okay but letting online hearts determine your eating habits isn't good
Somehow I didn't have her in my feed, but I was there for all the Felice Fawn scandals, so I understand. It's a similar thing. She got criticized for glamorizing her ED and exploiting her animals for her modeling. Also part of the "club" of Tumblr Vegans, but idk if she is still vegan. She also kind of reminds me of the proto-Belle Delphine but had a goth/witchy aesthetic instead of a cutesy anime/fairy/gamer girl aesthetic.
What years were these? I was on there 2010 to early 2013.
If no adult ever stepped in to tell a 17 year old the issues with a 24 year old boyfriend.......no adult was definitely going to step in on the pet issue.
It depends where you stand in the Culture Wars. Anybody of the opinion that a six year old child can make decisions about gender re-assignment surgery for theirself is in no position to judge and tell a 17-year-old who they can and can’t sleep with. That’s life in the 21st century. My body, my choice, is what progressives insist. Telling a child they can’t sexualize their bodies is now phobic and hateful, so please wear the ribbon and tread carefully lest a rainbow alphabet lynch mob run wild over you!
Let alone her dating adult men when she was younger apparently. The adults in her life are all enablers, whether they are enabling her bad behavior or enabling the grown men dating their teenage daughter.
@@liziuhh i mean... one of her parents WAS a grown man desperate to date girls his teen daughter's age... so I think hes more than an enabler honestly, I think that word is too light for her having such a sick sick man as a father.
@@brigade7678 you are absolutely right
I'm also getting the inkling with her father's behavior (ew)she and her family weren't able to see how actually gross the situation was, and had unfortunately been somewhat normalized in her brain? Idk just my thoughts
Okay after you mentioned her father being a predator. Her behaviour is starting to make sense. Not to say or accuse her dad of harming her but he definitely didn't do right by his kids.
At least he was balding young
From individuals I have been acquainted with who were children who had a (pr3d)father but they themselves *were not* the target of any of “that”- they are nearly always dealing with neglect, emotional, psych, and mainly maladaptive in how and where they seek approval or connection or valued.
When there’s a *lack* of contact with the pr3dator and the other parent is unfit/unable to course correct development then often there’s a deep betrayal that the f’ed up pr3dator parent spent so much time and energy “””loving””” others and not the biological child- and these individuals *understand* the logical fallacy of their maladaptive undertones (they have always been therapized by the time I discuss with them).
Just trying to provide a different perspective of how it negatively affects a child when there’s a parent like that and that doesn’t always mean the child in question was receiving that horrid act unto them. Because it’s very very important to *never* assume anyone is any victim of anyone unless they explicitly say they were / it’s your job.
I know you said as much but I can’t stress for future comments to hopefully see and take a moment before posting.
@@BimmieJames yes. I’m sure it’s not for all predatory parents but I also had friends in high school who wished they at least got a fraction of the attention the abuse parent was giving to other kids and/or they felt bad for their friends that got hurt because essentially the parent used their child as bait to get other kids in the home. You can’t and don’t want friends when you have a parent like that.
@@BimmieJames this was me, I never got the help I needed and now have c-ptsd after 26 years of continuous trauma... thank you for phrasing it the way you did, it really helped me to put it into a perspective that's more factual and less... painful. Thank you!
Disclaimer: This video features clips of Acacia Kersey as a child on Tumblr to highlight the dangers of being a social media star at a young age, and how it can effect your psyche and childhood. Please be respectful.
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There is too much glare in this video, check out your lighting next time! Too bright
It's truly tragic that they become stars at a young age and they are thrown into a fast paced life without growing up.
This should be the pinned comment...
@@bravingthehallways8169i like it it’s pretty
Honestly, I think Acacia’s problem is that she tries to short cut her way through everything she does, which probably leads to immense imposter syndrome creating a feedback loop of trying to be something fictitious via the short cuts
That’s a really good insight!! I could definitely see that
this was perfectly good final analysis..
This!
totally :)
absolutely think this could be the case, also you're so pretty
Regarding faking self harm:
It doesn't matter if you bleed or if your skin is just a little irritated, if you cut, scratch, whatever. The severity of the self harm doesn't determine your worth or how much you deserve help, nor does it make the fact someone self harmed any less true. It's not a competition for the deepest cut. It's about being unable to cope with your emotions towards yourself, and it can come in many forms. No one gets to invalidate your pain, even if you don't have stereotypical cuts.
A little TW for.. self harm, obviously, but this is a personal story:
I vividly remember scratching my arms and rubbing over the skin with a washcloth that had very scratchy fabric, back in middle school. I told my friends this and they made fun of me for it, because a washcloth? That's not self harm! And guess what. It was. Because the intention was to harm myself, to irritate the skin and hurt it. If the intention is to harm yourself, it is self harm. Period.
this is very on point. when i started getting tattooed, i kind of enjoyed the pain, and kept going back for more. but, i had someone i knew in a similar situation that got tattooed for similar reasons, and i realised that what i was doing was harming myself. since my last tattoo i’ve been trying to practice a more healthy mindset when going to get more ink. it’s honestly hard to do, i won’t lie. i have to remember i’m there for pretty tattoos that me and my artist have drawn up, not pain.
This just made so much click in my head about myself, thank you
Exactly this! I think a lot of people also don’t realise/understand that self harm also doesn’t have to be physical. But of course, if they can’t see it or it isn’t what they consider « bad enough » it’s not real and doesn’t matter and doesn’t deserve to be treated or take seriously. If you’re doing anything with the intention of causing yourself some kind of harm, it’s a problem!
this healed my inner child a bit. when i was in middle school i also struggled with self harm and ideations, and my friends would show picture of their self harm scars to each other and basically compare how deep the cuts were and if they didn't bleed profusely, its not self harm. now that ive grown a bit, ive come to realize that self harm come in many forms, banging your head, self isolation, EDs, and etc. and i mention these specifically because these are the forms self harm has taken in my life. i brushed them off in the past but have come to realize how severe they really are, and that they *are* a form of self harm. anyways i hope youre doing much better and healing as i am trying to
I definitely feel this, I didn't really cut. I did however smash objects against my head, scratch parts of my body till it bled, burned myself, etc. There are lots of ways people self harm, and all of them are horrible and deserve to be validated.
It is so scary that a couple who couldn't care for pets and rehomed all of them after only a month went on to have three children in rapid succession. You can't give away your children, guys! At least not easily!
i personally think it's a mix... people have very valid reasons to not like her and call her out on her behaviour, but there are also some things that I found that she gets hate for, for no reason. I think misogyny comes into play when we see how she is treated compared to other people, she's held to a higher standard while her male counterparts don't face the same repercussions. So it's sometimes it's justified, sometimes its not.
Girls/women that get hated on in real life but especially online, are hated by mostly other women. Females can be extremely cruel to each other, I've seen the most disgusting comments from other women, to another women. It's really sad.
I agree
There will always be a mixture of people who will constantly be misogynistic, so i think its appropriate to take into account that its almost impossible to avoid
@@mariya_tortilla i think it should still be acknowledged
@@elyly I never said or implied it shouldnt be, i'm saying that its an unfortunate automatic thing that exists in every single facet of anything women do
I have a Siamese that we rescued from a hoarding situation a few years ago. When we got her we thought she just had a broken part of her jaw from eating birds and having to survive. We Had 6 teeth removed initially but eventually had to see a dental specialist to get all of her teeth extracted because of stomatitis. This is not a condition that cats can easily hide. It’s extremely painful and honestly broke my heart having to watch my poor cat scream and throw up food because she was trying to shove it all in and avoid her teeth that were so inflamed. We thankfully had the means to get her mouth taken care of all within 6 months of having her. To ignore this condition is cruel and unforgivable.
i just replied to another comment about my cat, but he recently passed from multiple heart problems. once i found out about his condition, i did absolutely everything in my power to keep him healthy and happy. i mean it when i say i would’ve given him my own heart if i could’ve… the thought of rehoming a pet when they need you the most just makes me sick and if i were acacia, i would not be sleeping well at night 💔
It isn't uncommon for the disabled child to be the scapegoat of the family. I'm disabled and it was my experience. Nothing justifies treating your disabled child like that.
I am sorry you went through that.
I saw a disability activist say the first people a child will experience ableism is from their parents and i think about that all of the time and think it applies here. i am so sorry for what you've gone through.
Not disabled but I became the scapegoat of my family by being a drug addict. Continued being the scapegoat long after getting sober. So I know how it feels and I’m so sorry you went through that through no fault of you own whatsoever. I was a dumb ass so I kind of brought it on myself but I can’t imagine how much worse it feels to be blamed for all the problems in your family when all you did was be disabled. That’s terrible, no one should have to go through something like that I’m so sorry to hear that. Really. I hope you’re doing better now
@@cady4917 Goodness you are so very right.
me too. I was treated like a houseplant.
Honestly, I feel bad for her. Does that mean I'm justifying her wrong actions? Absolutely not. You can still have empathy for people who have done wrong. She has been through so much and I can't imagine all her trauma. Imagine your life at 15 years old being broadcast to the entire world…YIKES.
I didn't realize she JUST turned her mid-20s. I forget how young she was when she was going through everything. She's definitely a blueprint of how your digital footprint can always follow you. What happened to her sounds like a nightmare. I cringed at all her mistakes and actions. Can't imagine being pushed into the spotlight and no one really helping her.
I'm genuinely looking for her redemption arc as I was a tumblr girly when she was popular there. Hoping she heals.
I’ll say this about the Rosemary disability situation, Acacia was really in a damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don’t situation. If she decides to keep Rosemary’s medical situation private because it’s a legitimately private thing, even for a family blogger, people will act like they suddenly have a right to know what’s going on, because “hey, you posted everything else”. And if Acacia DID decide to document every intimate medical detail of Rosemary’s condition, those same people would be roasting her for posting private medical information online and violating their baby’s privacy.
Acacia consensually filming a lot of her life does not imply consent for EVERY DETAIL of their lives to be public record.
No means no, even if there were a thousand yes’s prior.
this is the comment I was looking for. As I was watching that part I kinda got annoyed because nobody has to right to demand that a mother publically share her daughter's very serious health issues to an audience that already has a history of hating her. I honestly think that was a good parenting move.
I agree with you 100%
Her little moments like this make me feel like she really is trying to not be entirely awful. Or was it entirely selfish, so people wouldn't pick apart her parenting? Humans are so complicated.
This. I was so bothered by everyone trying to justify prying into her daughters health, even Madison kinda was. Like just because Acacia tends to post almost everything about her life doesn’t mean she can’t choose to keep some things offline? People are acting like she owes them this information because she’s so chronically online, but that’s not how things work, she doesn’t owe anyone that info other than doctors assisting her family
YES. We aren't entitled to somebody's child's medical information. Period.
I’m 25, dating an 18 year old would never cross my mind I’m sorry.
Yeah its only when you get to the older age that you realise how crazy it is!
18 year olds just look like children to me at 27. How does your mind even go there 🤢
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I never realized her age difference from her ex husband when they met. I had heard of her after he broke off his previous engagement to pursue her - the age difference makes it worse. He clearly took advantage of her.
And moving in together before 18 with 25(?) Y.o man is just soo wrong. 100% grooming
Plus she was the ‘breadwinner’ so he financially benefitted as well 🙄
ANND he got her pregnant at 18 and she became a mom at such a young age. not that that's a bad thing for some people but omg she's so young!! I was 18 when she had her baby and I can't even imagine.
Ik it was so clearly grooming. And her coming from the father she did makes sense because she’s probably used to that treatment from men. Predators can spot a potential victim from a mile away. Shes definitely done some horrible things but i feel so bad for her. She literally had her childhood stolen from her by vile men.
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When I was 12, I ran an acacia hate Instagram account with my friend & we were in a pretty decent sized niche community. She interacted with my account when I posted “”””proof””” that she faked self harm. She seemed really hurt. I deleted my account shortly after & now that I’m turning 21 this year I think about it occasionally & i feel awful. Nobody deserves to go thru the amount of bullying she got & she didn’t even rly do anything except exist as a young dumb person like we all were at one point.
Honestly really cool that you can own up to that and also see that it was something bad, so well done for that - you're doing better than most youtubers lmao :))
Good for you, knowledge is growth, im much older than that and sometimes I delete a comment right after I make it because I said to myself " why did I even say that? This person doesn't deserve that."
Usually a decent rule of thumb is if you don't have something nice to say, dont say much at all. People Mature and reflect and good of you to do that
she sucks tbh just an unbelievably shitty person however i agree when it comes to sh and mental health it’s super shitty to fake claim. even if it’s true (which i have my own thoughts on that i won’t share here because it doesn’t matter at all what i think or anyone else about her potential struggles)it’s a slippery slope and it effects OTHERS struggling too. i am proud of you for owning up to shitty behavior - but you were 12. you couldn’t have known how bad that was to publicly post/claim.
I think of this every time I see some clearly young person online just saying the most horrid stuff about some small time creator they hate (sometimes about people with like 1000 followers but that makes them "influential" in their small sphere so that makes it ok to send nightmarish comments/content) I often wonder if they'll feel bad in a week or a month or 5 years, and at what point they'll simply forget and rewrite the memory of their behavior in their own mind so they aren't the "bad guy". I'm glad to see one person that recognized they were putting out nothing good, changed/stopped, and still remembers.
Dumb kids in a mob of hundreds+ can do quite a lot of damage
I also hated on her terribly in my teen years for nudes and faking self harm. When I grew up and realized how stupid that was it also made me think most the claims that came after that were a reach/not irredeemable
"Do you, Jarius, promise to stay RAD, to stay WEIRD, to stay BEAUTIFUL--"
I momentarily had to stop the video as I felt an aneurysm coming on.
if those are your vows you know you're not ready to get married 😅
This shit is a joke right?
@@melissamoonchild9216 My thoughts exactly
I've never heard of most of the people you cover on this channel (particularly influencers and the like) but my god are they fascinating
Thank you, I try to cover topics that are socially relevant and as fascinating as possible! Hope you enjoy the video 💜
I agree. I'm older so many of her subjects I'm not familiar with but she presents them in a really interesting and well thought out way. Beautiful.😊
Same! But it's done so well and it's fascinating !!
Likewise, I'm not familiar with probably 90% of the people covered, but the presentation and delivery are so good, I've binge watched everyone of her videos.
Same!!
Have I ever heard of this girl?
No, no I have not.
Will I still watch a 2 hour video about her?
Yes, yes I will 🤣
I love your content!!! ❤
Lmao same. I guess I was on different side of tumblr back then
Same 🙈
Right? 3:45 am can't get back to sleep. Thought this would bore me back to sleep but no. I can't fall asleep while watching a trainwreck.
Same here lmao. Never heard of this girl before but I am curious now
Same! Lol I learn so much from these videos and I feel more in the loop on things 😂
I have literally never heard of this person before but if Madison is posting, I am watching lol.
Aw yay! hope you enjoy this video!! 🥰💜💜
Same!
Same here! I love how Ms. Madison is really respectful of whomever she is speaking.
I'm also wondering who she is but I'm here for it.
Never heard of her before but am I gonna watch a 2hr video on her ? YES
My mom used to get pets a lot and give them away a year or two later. Now that I’m older I have no idea how she even did that!! My dogs are everything to me! The small time they have on this planet isn’t enough.
Now that you mention that I had an upbringing till about 5 or 6 where my mom would constantly get pets and get rid of them regularly and the rest of my childhood with lifetimes with pets. I couldn't imagine just giving them away either or mistreating or neglecting them. They are so good to me and are always there for me
Right? My cousin is staying with us temporarily and I am crying thinking about her leaving and taking her sweet little dog away. 😂 because after a month I am attached. And i have two dogs of my own who I would do anything to make happy. I don’t get it.
And people will just drop them off at any shelter even if it's a high kill one. It takes maybe 5 minutes to find a no-kill shelter near you so I that if people have to surrender their pet that they take the time to do it right.
My mom did this too but she was so mean to our dogs and constantly annoyed by them. As an adult now I will only get a pet if I’m fully prepared for all that comes with it.
Their small time on this planet really isn't enough 😢
My pets are and always have been my best friends ❤❤❤
I can never get over that they really thought leaving a cat alone for 4 DAYS is a good idea?? ESPECIALLY when they definitely can afford a flipping pet sitter
stories like this always reinforce my belief that minors just straight up shouldn't be on the internet, or at least social media... that sounds harsh, but it's gotten to a point where we're seeing the repercussions of young social media stars turning into dysfunctional adults and therefore possibly negatively influencing their own children's lives, which is unacceptable imo
I agree with you wholeheartedly!!!
Totally agree with you. I won't tell you how old i am (😂) but I grew up without the Internet and the change in society I've witnessed over the past 30 years with it has been bone-chilling.
It was sold as this amazing thing that would open up worldy knowledge and improve everyone's life.
All it did was create predators, narcissists, social anxiety, isolation, online trends that lead to death, and generations of kids unable to face real-world reality.
I've a 9 year old, and I'm constantly encouraging him to get out on his bike and play with his friends so he doesn't disappear down the rancid, black hole of the Internet
It's not harsh at all. I was a kid on the Internet before social media (yes I'm very old) and the change in the vibe of the net after social media shocked me. Suddenly people went from being kinda cool to angry, depressed, and lashing out at everyone and everything. I was in my mid 20s when Facebook went public and very quickly mainstream, so I was able to disengage a little easier and much earlier than the kids who came up with it in their lives. I think 13 is way too young to allow kids to have their own profile. Listen, they'll lie about their age, I know I did when I wanted to go into spaces I shouldn't have been in. But we have to at least try to keep kids off these platforms until they're 18 and slightly more mature. Middle school kids should be living in the real world, they should have their drama contained to school where, once they leave, it'll be quickly forgotten. Having all that preserved and blasted out to anyone who wants to find it is hurting them. Badly.
i don't think that they shouldn't be allowed on the internet at all but we definitely should be more serious about the stuff that they're able to access
@@jasperjazzie kids shouldn't be allowed to access the Internet at all unless under extreme surveillance, be allowed on social media until 16, and only allowed to message family and friends up until 18. Minors have destroyed themselves with the Internet. Everyone Is so self obsessed with numbers, clout and attention that they'll throw morals out the window for dopamine
I'm surprised that so many people focus and what SHE has done wrong yet no one calls out her dad's which is obsessed with taking photos of teens in sexual ways, and his ex boyfriend, who encourage her to live with him as soon as she turned 18, maker HER support him and herself economically even tho he was a grown ass man of 24 and she was barely 18. The soon after they have children and marry, all while she was barely 19-20. Like, I'm 19 and I cannot fantom marring and having 3 kids while also been economically independent. He's just such a groomer and it seems like yet again, women problems are put under the rug because everything else is more important than women......
it's wild, this girl was dating people so much older than her and yet everyone blamed her and got angry at her for it lmao, where's the logic
Okay but that and neglecting kids and animals are 2 different things. Yes, you can try to explain her behaviour with her past relationships and childhood but her behaviour towards Rosemary and the dogs is still unacceptable
@@ddppo8065 yes, I'm not trying to excuse her behavior, but I find it unfair that she's the only getting a lot of shit while his husband was doing something borderline illegal and also being aware of her behavior and doing nothing about it (since the animals thing and rosemary happened while they where a couple and he was the adult in the relationship)
people hated him not just her. He's just not on social media as much to receive the hate but just read the comments of his few releases
He's not the only one who got hate either. Ben Suedes career (rightfully) tanked after they broke up
he was friends with post malone who dropped him not so long after too
I feel like this was very well put. Did she eventually do some stuff that was inexcusable? Sure, but that doesn’t excuse what adults did to her as a teenager, and how she was manipulated and groomed. Even though she’s done some awful things, I can’t help it. I actually feel really bad for her, and genuinely wonder how much of this stuff could’ve been avoided if she had supportive attentive adults in her childhood.
She had to grow up so quickly and it clearly affected her so negatively. I hope she can find some place of happiness that isn’t online.
At this point, she might feel like she can’t make money not online.
This poor girl.. where were the adults? She is 17 and he was 24? What???
Her entire life has been crazy and heartbreaking from the beginning. She never learned or had a role model, in my opinion, hopefully she will finally get her act together.
The adults, unfortunately, were the ones using her the most
I love how respectful you are. You're not here to be a judgmental, you're here to tell a story. I don't want to feel by watching a video about someone I'm adding to the hate they get. We are all humans after all.
and she puts in SO much work for every video!
But there is one part where she is judging Acacia for not publicly sharing medical information of her child... Just because she posts everything else doesn't mean she has to post about her childs disabilities. I have ADHD, depression and BPD, I once had a mental breakdown at mass, full on crying and hyperventilating because of the sensory overstimulation and my mom just outright told everyone that I was just mentally ill, like she's not wrong but the random old church lady doesn't need to know that??? If later on Rosie finds that she does want to be public about her medical history, that is her choice, but Madison judging Acacia for not posting about her disabled baby as a NEW MOTHER is pretty worrying...
Thanks for keeping it compassionate, I have a 13 year old daughter who's watching and absorbing all of this. I can't imagine of all my dumb mistakes and personas from my teens were out there to be criticized. People do grow up and change. This is a really good cautionary tale for the generation just now coming into their teens and thinking about their social presence or what kind of influencer they admire. (I'm 45, soooo glad I didn't have to worry about any of that! Sure I'm old but I'm appreciating my 90s teen years now LoL!)
PS - I LOVE these longer deep dive videos makes my workday go a lot faster❤
Agreed. As someone even older than you, I am also very grateful that I didn't have this added pressure that could exponentially complicate the most confusing time of anyone's life. I can't help but notice how much worse behaviour from "influencers" is practically ignored today while even a hint of the kind of ridicule and hyper-criticism she was subjected to as a child is completely intolerable today, even against adults.
Nude kitties require A LOT of specialized care. They have to be bathed and have their teeth brushed regularly because they don’t have fur like regular cats. I have done tons of research into them because I want one myself and they require a lot of care. They definitely aren’t “low maintenance” like most people think of cats. I had no idea who she was before this video, and I could honestly careless about her, but it’s shitty what she did to her animals.
The pet stuff winds me up so much. I adopted a siamese cat when I was 18 and despite being poor, I always put him first! He died at age 15.5 a couple of years ago. I made a commitment at a very young age and respected it. She’s just awful for buying animals for aesthetic purposes.
Right??? I couldn’t imagine getting a pet and not giving them the best life possible
I have 3 cats. 2 from a previous relationship and one rescue. I work my ass off and the first thing when I get my paycheck is cat food, litter and put away money for the vet if I need to. First thing. I always get extra so at the end of the month they still have what they need. When my cat, Hades, got sick, I was lucky to have a bonus from work that I spent on his medical bill. It was very expensive, extremely stressfull, and demanding. I can't imagine getting a pet and not taking responsability and rehousing them left and right (repeatedly, as she did with multiple of them because she didn't take in account their needs). It hurt me so much when he was sick thinking that If I didn't have the money, he would have to suffer because of my lack of prioritising and responsibility. Totally unacceptable from her side. No excuse.
I've also never heard of her but I got a cat at 17 when I left home. I had nothing but I never, ever skimped when it came to my cat. She had more stuff than I did, definitely ate better - she was my no 1 all her life. Youth is no excuse nor is fame. I knew an actress called Mischa Barton. Famous young, was her familys breadwinner- all that but she loved her dogs with all her heart. I understand why people are angry about this. Pets give us their best they deserve no less!
She could totally just foster when she had enough time. It doesn't make sense
While I agree, I would imagine her parents did a poor job of teaching her abt responsibilities and she lacked the understanding of what it takes to be a pet parent. From her list of pets it sounds like her family doesn't see pets as family 😢
The recent event where she left her kids alone in a park to go take photos of herself playing her switch in the woods really ads new light to her supposed motivation of keeping her kids safe and prioritized.
She treats her kids the was she treated her pets. I think she has arrested development from being famous as a teenager. That or she just has narcissism and thinks that nothing matters more than her in her life.
That “unnatural” dachshund is actually considered a double dapple. They are unethical to breed as both parents must carry the Merle gene. The Merle gene is associated with defects to a dog’s auditory and visual systems. So, a double dapple is highly likely to suffer from some issue with its eyes, ears, or both. The issue may be mild but it can also be so severe that it shortens the animal’s life and destroys the quality of it. :(
was just about to comment this
Thanks, I was looking for the explanation on this.
I was the only caretaker of my late cat, Willie, starting at the age of 14 from when I got her as a kitten until she died at 17 (and I was 31). I would have done everything for that cat and I took my care for her very seriously. As much as I wanted more animals, Willie was meant to be an only cat so she was my own animal for many years. If someone actually values and loves animals, they wouldn't be constantly adopting and rehoming them, regardless of their age. Now at the age of 36, I have 5 animals who are all very loved and I often prioritize their well being over anything else, because animals are not disposable.
I totally feel you, Ive had my 20 year old cat since I was a child. she moved out with me when i got my first place, shes been with me through college, every adventure and heart break, and now that I her health is detoriating its one of the hardest things ive gone through except for losing my mom.
@@melissamoonchild9216If your furry baby is still alive, please give her a pet for this random stranger, would ya?
If she can still be racist while having a black sister, that’s some deep rooted racism. I don’t think she can rectify it and don’t believe she thinks racism is wrong. I’m terrified for what her sister went thru in that house especially with that man.
Did you notice when she asked her sister what color she was she said “I’m brown don’t call me black”. It was definitely taught.
@@jaydeh7675 Her sister identifying as Brown is not a sign that the parents were racist. My biracial sister grew up in an anti-racist household and the reason she chooses to call herself Brown is because she has lighter skin. I know this is the reason why she calls herself Brown because she told me. To clarify, she's experienced racism away from home, including in college where Black women with darker skin teased her for "acting white."
It's not that simple. A person who was raised anti-racist may do something racist later on even if they knew better. We are all capable of doing things we regret. I'm ashamed to say that there were 3 times in college where I sang with the N word even though I knew better. I acknowledged it and decided to never do it again. Like Acacia, I also have a multiracial sister and I would step in front of a train for her.
Y’all are entitled to your opinions lol just answering the question the video asked. Stay well.
So glad to see this comment has traction. I agree. She is horrible and racist and there’s no excuse for that, or child abuse.
Dude, all that before 18 and two kids when you're like 20??? I honestly feel really bad for her. I am not saying that she is blameless in all her actions but holy hell. My mom had me when she was 19 and it wasn't the best so for either of us but I am glad she didn't have social media.
Then she Acacia should’ve used protection. Actions have consequences. It takes 2 to tango
@@britneybritney I can both empathies with a person and hold them responsible for their actions.
Even if she wasn't abused by her father just being around him was probably enough to do her serious damage.
agreed
something just occurred to me- i wonder if acacia asked “which 6 presets?” because she stole the rest of the presets from other ppl and genuinely didn’t know which presets were hers. i would not put it past her.
also i love how acacia made the ig story and made it seem like she came forward out of the goodness of her heart to make it right. instead of ashley having to basically make her come clean- which she didn’t even really do. she still won’t admit that she actually stole the presets. the manipulation and excuses were gross.
Based on the fact it ended up being 13 that were stolen, it seems more like she asked "which 6" so she could determine which ones she could sneakily keep as she hadn't been caught out for all of them yet.
WOW I never realized how young Acacia was when they got married and started a family 😐😐 really hoping she’s got a solid support system behind her now
I’ve followed Ash Levi for years. She’s a talented artist whose worked her ass off. Compared to acacia who another commenter brought up likes to take shortcuts. I’ve only ever heard of Acacia through her controversies. There are many things I can say about the case of Acacia. She was very young when she first introduced herself online to the world. She was very young when she became a mother and entered marriage. Her upbringing with a predatory parent. But she’s an adult now. She needs to be responsible for her actions. Past and present. What she needs is therapy and maturity not an online presence
This girl honestly had an immeasurable effect on the internet when it came to her influence on selfie culture and thinking about it from that kind of art history/anthropology perspective gave me a whole new appreciation for her and other similar creators. This was more than just my childhood, this was enculturation in real time...
I definitely do not appreciate this naive influencer, but I could see that for other creators who treat animals right
Watch the video before rushing to comment about your appreciation and parasocial connection.
@@struck.kobe1999 what exactly does that have to do with the comment? Like, acacia had an actual societal influence whether you want it or not.
@KSS wait until you learn about the founding fathers
i didnt realize shes only 25 that girl has lived 100,000 lives
Okay on the topic of disability, as a disabled person myself I cannot express how much I would have hated it if my parents posted about my medical issues on the internet. I can't believe it even has to be said? I'm already very against family channels, but family channels exploiting disability as drama...please don't.
Funny to see how stealing photo presets was what ended up making her leave social media; not her abuse of animals, not her alleged abuse of her children.... presets...
the only way i see this making sense, is that maybe it was due to the comparison of the reactions to the more severe "scandals" (I hate using that word in this context tbh, feels diminishing.)
when people are losing their shit because of child or animal abuse, that's understandable. i think she found it easy to handle the large scale reaction, bc it fit the severity of the topic, and it's easier to detach from it in a way. "people are just upset bc they think a kid is in danger, lots of parents go through criticism! its fine!"
But when people lose it over PRESETS, and are JUST as hateful over something that is still bad but comparatively less serious, that would be harder to accept/digest. at that point you think, "people must just hate ME, because this isnt that serious!!" (it IS, but her mind is contextualizing it against the other allegations).
I think the presets were the moment she realized she's never escaping that digital footprint, no matter how she rebrands, and she's essentially on an Internet Good Behavior Bond at best, if not totally cancelled.
Because most of those claims have no basis
2 months after I adopted my cat his back legs went totally lame. I spent so much money and got no answers and no real solutions. I devoted myself to my cat and did whatever I could to keep him happy. He's 3yrs old now and gets around on his own. He is the happiest most loving cat I've ever had. When I adopted him I made an agreement to take care of him for life not just when it's convenient for me. Makes me question how she treats her children when they're inconvenient for her lifestyle.
Completely off topic, but Madison is so autumnal purdy in this video, and has put a lot of thought into her hair, make-up and outfit and making the colours complementary; and for some reason it's making the artsy part of my brain go 🥰
Awe ✨ that’s sweet
@@maepicnic2460 🤗🖤
im getting peach blossom more than autumn
@@melissamoonchild9216 I like that's how you see it, and I adore your profile pic too 😍
i’ve watched acacia since the tumblr days. i’ve always thought it was so sad what she was so publicly going through. i also thought it was so so strange she dated a 25 year old at 17.
It annoys me when people say that these types of influencers ADOPT their pets. I can tell you with certainty that these pets were bought, not adopted.
It’s not easy to adopt an animal, there are all sorts of checks you have to go through, and these serial pet owners are not those kind of of people who would go through the lengthy process of adoption. I also doubt any decent rescue would let them adopt.
EDIT: you literally said she got a dog from a puppy mill, that’s NOT adopting, that’s shopping and buying 😭
as someone with a few disabilities it breaks my heart to know that that little girl is gonna watch these videos one day and feel bad about who she is bc of her mother’s behaviors
I'm only 20 minutes in and I have to say it's wild and horrible to look back at people tearing apart a child for her nudes being leaked and for adult men taking advantage of her. Like I am pretty sure that would be considered CP and getting involved with a minor which are crimes. The fact that her inappropriate photos of her as a kid blew up tells you all you need to know about a big part of her audience. Grossssss.
The Black kids who experienced racism at the hands of those kids suffering wasn’t less severe because they were children. Even though they were a child, she hurt other children.
The look on my face when Shane brings up her nudes and basically said he looked them up...I cannot.
He didn't say he looked them up. He said he looked HER up and found the photos (probably through articles talking about the situation).
@tokyoyoongi Why would you even click on an article about an under-age kids nudes? Like I'm not sure why you think that is a defense or somehow not the same thing.
@@tokyoyoongi5538 you don't know Shane do you? 😅
I’m a huge dog nerd. There are basically three sectors to breeding. Puppy mills, backyard breeders, and ethical breeders. Puppy mills will pump out countless dogs without the care of the dogs in mind typically only producing for looks and money. Backyard breeders a step above puppy mills but often aren’t much better. Backyard breeders typically breed for only money as well but not as such a large scale. Ethical breeders are breeders who breed well bred dogs who have long lineage, health testing, are proven (either by working or going to dog shows and being deemed to fit the standard of the breed). Ethical breeders typically don’t make profit off their dogs and the small amount of profit they get goes right back into their dogs. They breed dogs as a hobby the biggest red flag to a breeder is if their full time job is breeding dogs. Ethical breeders breed to preserve dog breeds to aim to make a new one that fills a purpose! 9/10 any sort of mix breed is not ethically bred! If u have any questions pls ask!
didnt expect to see an acacia video from you! very excited to see your take. i mostly just wish acacia never heavily involved her children with her presence online and i hope the kids, especially rosie, grow up well adjusted and healthy :(
i totally agree! she could’ve continued being a successful influencer whether she posted her children or not, and clearly she shouldn’t have. i genuinely hope she’s grown and learned from everything so that she can “mom up” for her little ones
This video upset me deeply.
A former colleague of my roommate bought a purebreed Pomeranian from a puppy mill. The dog ended up getting much bigger than she expected and had severe behavioral issues due to her being abandoned for days on end. They also never potty trained her properly as a puppy.
When my roommate and I ended up taking the dog in, we weren't prepared for the amount of issues and concerning behavior the dog would have. Thankfully, she has now settled in wonderfully with us, and I firmly believe she was meant for us.
What was very upsetting, though, is that only a month after giving the dog to us, they bought another white Pomeranian from the same puppy mill. They even gave the dog the exact same name given to the dog they gave away.
It's so heartbreaking to watch someone view these living and breathing creatures as a 'trend', but if they don't behave attractively, they are just discarded and replaced.
This is so sad. I’m glad you were able to take in the first dog and make things work. Poor thing.
I had a roommate in college who got a little 8 week old puppy. She didn't take care of it, would leave it without food for 2-3 days, didn't train or walk her. I would come home between classes to walk her. I bought her food and started training her. She and I were best buddies. One day, the puppy got out...."got out...ran away." Long story short, my boyfriend and I raised the most amazing, loving, and well-behaved dog. We could walk her off-leash and she loved everyone ❤
As a pom mom this makes me so sad. I got my pom from a puppy mill which I thought was a reputable breeder (don’t worry, I learned that I should always adopt and never buy animals, I feel horrible about it..) and he had so many issues. I had to bring him back to full health since he had worms, ear mites, fleas, and was abused. I called and texted the people I bought him from and let them have it. I reported them as well, and they blocked my number. Of course.
I’m glad I have him with me now and he’s my absolute best friend. I just can’t fathom abandoning your pet because they have issues or aren’t “what you thought they would be”. My Pomeranians are my family. 🙁
I have a throwback pom who I adopted from a situation like this! She is my other half, my best friend, my familiar!
I had “friends” who had dogs they neglected before I adopted my girl and I cannot fathom a dog getting mistreated. They depend on you and love you no matter what, you should love taking care of them!
I'm grateful I grew up just before social media became so ubiquitous. It must feel terrible to come of age in an era of permanent performance. I wouldn't wish that on any kid
Oof, yeah. I feel this. All the cringy bullshit from when I was a kid is in printed photos shoved in the back of a closet somewhere in my house. Gotta love the 80's and 90's and having to do extra steps to get photos, which gave you time to think if you wanted anyone to see them or not. I think we need to have conversations with our kids about taking a beat before hitting "Post". I know social media is specifically designed to stop that part of your brain from functioning, but we need to help kids build up a resistance to the manipulation. It sucks they have to live in a world where capitalism has commodified literally every single aspect of human life. These kids are being strip mined to basically get money out of them, and it's all so obfuscated that you don't see the machinery behind the veil. Their childhood is being extracted, calculated, and added to a huge pile of data points on them...just to then weaponize that data to see them shit they don't need. Something's going to break soon, and it's not going to be pretty. Green Z in particular seems especially pissed over all this.
As someone who has spent more times in the hospital than out, I can confirm that hospital do not release kids or adults weeks and weeks after they're perfectly healed. It would be amazing if health care worked that way here, but it doesn't. They will keep you at the hospital until you're stable and then send you home to care for yourself or by a parent or guardian with follow up out patient care. They absolutely do not keep you there to heal until you're safely able to do back flips and cart wheels.
She appears to have spent her childhood getting groomed by adult men. It looks like she didn't have anyone to protect her. Of course she's going to end up a hot mess.
The posts speculating she hates her child are fucking gross and people should be ashamed of themselves. Those snark subreddits, especially about a single target, turn into really dark places and an absolute circlejerk.
I feel pretty bad for her. She sounded like she never had the opportunity to learn who she is since she was too busy trying to be what the world wanted her to be.
The same people who demand accountability tend to be the same people who evade their own demons.
Well I feel bad for those poor animals she neglected. Shes got to pay for her actions, they have consequences.
@britney britney you can feel bad for all involved
literally.
theres tons of people with trauma and even worse childhoods that don’t neglect their children and their animals. she’s bought animals and gave them away multiple times. having trauma doesn’t excuse being a horrible person as a adult.
@meowmeow-p6n so you're going to use other people trauma to minimalize hers? That's a weird stance to have.
Of course, i feel bad for the animals. I also feel bad for her. She probably would have been a completely different person if she was protected
Sooooo ready to get into this deep dive! Acacia is such an interesting case and to see how her life and "internet career" persay has developed is one hell of a rollercoaster.
RIGHT?? So many ups and downs. So much time as an influencer, growing up in the public eye. It’s fascinating.
I've been tumblr for 13 years and never heard of her 😅 Can't wait to watch as always... 💓
No way!! That’s fascinating!! Well, hope you enjoy this video love! Curious to know your thoughts
Same!! I've been a Tumblr user since 2011 and so far she's not ringing any bells. I'm so excited for the deep dive.
she wasnt famous in like fandom spaces, it was only like aesthetic tumblr she popped off on
I’ve had a tumble since 2009 and I’ve seen her pictures but never actually heard of her 😂
@@Anxioustornado same, i think it might have to be due to age difference. We wouldnt be as influenced by a much younger girl if we were older
In regards to being young and adopting pets; I've known some people like this and I just don't understand it, age doesn't really matter because I've seen it when they were young and again in their late 20's early 30's. I was 18 when I did some volunteering at a vet clinic and ended up adopting an older kitten, he will be 14 at the end of this year. At 19 I ended up with an abandoned kitten and then a few months later I bought a husky puppy who lived until he tragically passed when he was 5. The kitten will be 13 this year and I've since gotten another dog that will turn 5 or 6 (what even is time?). I love my babies and while I don't brush them all individually every single day of their life; I do absolutely love them and lavish on them every single day. Getting pets to fit an "aesthetic" is disgusting, they are precious lives that only know to love.
I found Acacia right after Brinley was born (despite having been on tumblr since 2012 I had no idea who she was) and it's been really interesting to watch a lot of this stuff happen in real time. I remember being really confused about the accusations of abuse towards Rosemary, it only ever seemed to me like Acacia was doing the best she could while maybe not being the most prepared to have a disabled child, and it definitely seemed like she didn't know how to talk about Rosie's medical issues or how much information she wanted to share online. I wouldn't be surprised if Rosie's birth was the start of Acacia really realizing how awful it can be to document every moment of your life online. Learning more about her life and the lack of guidance from adults plus the abuse she's endured (both documented and speculated) is really heartbreaking, I didn't know about most of that when I was actively engaging in her content. It's SHOCKING to me that Jairus was that much older than her and nobody fucking batted an eye. I don't know. I think she's done some terrible things, and I think she's far from perfect. I just hope as she comes back to socials she really treads carefully and maybe thinks things through a little more than she used to. I am glad to see that she isn't posting about her kids at all. I think that alone is a huge step forward.
My plans for the night have been made. Thank you for another wonderfully long video.
Aw yay I’m so glad you enjoy the long videos!! Hope you enjoy this one thank you so much for watching 🥰💜
I’m halfway through this video and I nearly started crying when they said at first Rosie had TOF. I was born
with TOF (in the late 80s so medicine was not nearly as advanced as it is now). And thank God my parents never treated me like a sick kid. They gave me a non-sensationalist understanding of my condition, made going to the cardiologist a daddy daughter date day (we’d go somewhere for a treat afterwards), and never told me I couldn’t do anything because of my heart condition. So I did dance, theater, and gymnastics with gusto. I’ve had two open heart surgeries and will most likely need to have another eventually but because of such a matter-of-fact way of approaching the diagnosis, I’m not super scared about it.
Although Rosie didn’t end up having TOF, it breaks my heart (no pun intended) that parents could alienate a child for (really anything) but especially something they can’t control!! But I speculate, because Acacia has been such a public figure for so long, anything that doesn’t meet the standards that garnered her success, must be hidden. It’s a shame. It’s a crying shame.
I agree with you, I didn’t have TOF. But I was born with a heart defect, two holes in my heart and have been lucky that I only needed one open heart surgery (born in ‘93 myself). The way parents approach birth defects have a massive impact. I had several other birth defects as well which probably should have killed me, but my parents were through with getting me taken care of to the point I despise being called ‘the miracle baby’
Thank you for sharing your story, that's very powerful. I send you my best regards and big hugs! 🫂 Keep being so awesome! ❤
sounds like you have great parents and a great handle on your condition
I always appreciate how balanced and fair you are to your subjects. Usually when you grow up with pets, you learn how to look after them. The repeated adoptions are really troubling
Why was a minor able to adopt animals? Her age is no excuse for obviously giving pets physical and mental health issues. They can get PTSD from abandonment
I am not in any way defending or justifying her behavior and I completely agree with everything you said. I do remember her saying once that her parents were the same way and constantly re-homed and adopted animals throughout her childhood so it’s possible she didn’t understand at that age how bad what she was doing is. However, it is insane to me regardless. I could never imagine rehoming my dog or either of my cats, they’re apart of me. I genuinely can’t grasp it.
I'm by no means a dog breeder, however I am a licensed veterinarian so can hopefully shed a bit of light on the "unnatural" dog colouring situation. Merle colouring is naturally occurring in specific dog breeds (or mixes of these breeds), and is considered an incomplete-dominant gene. The genetics are a bit more complicated but I'll summarise for clarity.
A typical Merle coloured dog will have the genotype (Mm), whereby 'M' is a copy of the Merle gene from a Merle parent, and 'm' is a copy of the non-merle gene from a non-merle parent. This in itself doesn't cause any particualr issues, however if a dog inherits two copies of the Merle gene (MM)- they are extremely likely to have hearing and vision defects (potentially both deaf and blind). There are other health defects involving the heart and skeleton that are potentially linked to (MM) dogs, however the research is not yet certain.
This means that breeders must be careful that a Merle dog (Mm) is ONLY bred to non-merle partners (mm) to prevent (MM) puppies from being born. If two Merle (Mm) dogs are bred, statistically 25% of their puppies will be double Merle (MM) with the associated health issues. This sounds reasonably simple to avoid, however the Merle pattern is highly varied and it's appearance is altered by other genes, so some (Mm) dogs may not distinctly appear Merle in colour (sometimes known as being a phantom or cryptic Merle). Backyard breeders may either not know the risks of breeding two Merle dogs together, or may not have performed the correct genetic testing to know whether their dogs are potentially phantom Merles, resulting in problematic (MM) puppies.
As a side note: The dog breeds carrying the Merle gene are very specific (for example Aussie Shepherds, border collies and Beucerons among others). Dogs that are NOT one of these breeds that are Merle coloured are NOT purebred- there has been a mix somewhere in their lineage that has added the Merle gene. This is happening in many, many breeds lately (French bulldogs and pugs are some of the most common I see), and is not a practice that is supported by responsible, ethical breeders. Registration papers and pedigrees can be fraudulent, if your dog is not a naturally Merle breed, it is genetically impossible that they are 100% purebred (this doesn't mean they are not 100% good Bois or girls).
Sorry for the essay, hope this clears it up a bit for anyone who was curious ❤️🐶
Definitely does, so thank you for the clear explanation. I was curious to learn more
Fantastic video! Only significant issue i had is that the image is so blown out and bright that i had to turn down the brightness in my monitor to avoid triggering a headache lol
So excited to hear your take on this. I used to keep up with acacia when I was younger, so it will be super interesting to hear you compile her history and your analysis of it!
Aw thank you! Hope you enjoy the video 💜 I found this as strangely the most difficult video I’ve done, because there’s such a huge history and so many ups and downs. At times I empathized with acacia, other times not. I just really hope I accurately captured what I wanted to in this video
Thank you so much for the trigger warning about the animal abuse. I realized that it does majorly trigger me, and it’s always upsetting when we don’t get that warning.
i can handle almost anything but that
I love the way you put these together and that you acknowledge nuance without ignoring accountability.
I always appreciate how much empathy you approach these stories with. I feel like a lot of people hold those with fame to a higher standard, but their still just people and their lives are complicated and messy and full of nuance. I think a lot of people forget that you can try to really understand where someone was coming from without necessarily excusing any of their bad choices.
For me personally, I trust my animals more than anything. I seriously question someone's character when my animals don't like them because that usually means something is off. I'm really upset that this girl treated her pets this way, regardless of whether she was young or not. By the time I was 13 I was taking care of my cat (minus vet bills) and she is 17 now and a healthy happy girl.
i know exactly what you mean! my cat recently passed away at almost 3 years old because of multiple heart problems, and i would’ve done ANYTHING for him (i would’ve given him my own heart if i could’ve…) i can’t even imagine a world where i’d treat my pets how she’s treated hers
I used to think that until I accumulated my four cats and see all their different personalities. One of them is a b*tch and doesn't like anybody, human or animal. 😅
And my mom has three dogs and we mess with her about one of them, this dog will literally go buddy up with a damn serial un-aliver. When mom goes on her walks we make sure to tell her, "Don't take Cookie!"
I remember looking up to her on Tumblr. She was my inspiration for what I wanted to look like.
I never knew it was this bad. This is very sad.
Thank you for covering this.
Keep up the amazing work.
Never strive to look like anyone .. you are you and finding your own sense of style is amazing .. never be a follower .. do what makes YOU feel good about yourself .. comparing to others will always have you feeling less than
I'm going to say the opposite. Taking inspiration for style is rarely a problem, despite who you it is you may be looking to. I think to some extent we gotta be ourselves but I just think people are impressionable for a reason. I guess so long as you aren't trying to look like mass-murdering tyrants, I just don't see the problem. Acacia may be a flawed person, but she does have cute style.
20:37 “i don’t wanna say this cuz you’re very young and i don’t wanna get arrested” foreshadowing 💀
A young girl out of control with possible trauma in her childhood making poor decisions in her adult life as well? I'm not gasping in shock. But I wouldn't be surprised if those people who would've wanted her gone from the internet were the ones digging information about her when she decided to step away from it. That to me is truly wild.
She’s still on insta. She just doesn’t post anything but herself and decor
she’s bought multiple animals and gave them away repeatedly and neglects her kids. she didn’t just make a few quirky poor decisions. she’s a shitty person to her core. trauma doesn’t excuse her shitty personality and choices as an adult.
When I was like 15 (born a month before Acacia) in 2013/14, I was going to a church youth group night in LA area and someone brought acacia… it was so weird to me bc I knew who she was from the nude pics scandal but I was also too afraid to even approach her and tell her I knew of her. Turns out during this time she was on her “church phase” lol so random of an experience
GAh the fact that the girl gets hated for taking the photos but not the guy etc that breaks the trust and shares them. times def has changed
You’re my favourite RUclipsr. Your voice is so calming. You’re logical about situations.
I also admire you for not putting your child all over the internet.
I see my grandkids on Facebook & have mentioned it to my son that they should wait till both my granddaughter & grandson say they don’t mind. My husband scrolls Facebook before bed. My sister is so famous for broadcasting her entire life. I get updates from my husband on what’s being posted. He’s always loved the fact I don’t advertise our lives all over social media. I said I don’t need validation for the meal I ordered or pictures of passed relatives like my brother did for the father he disliked to get sympathy from people on the internet.
Don’t get me wrong I have posted vacations that my husband & I have taken. Nothing that shows bragging. Just some us time. The most I may post is my eyelash business. Even then I don’t go over the top with it. Not laziness just don’t want to post my customers that may be older & don’t want their faces on my Instagram.
wow I can't even imagine being bullied a school, discovering the online world at 13 getting famous and being a teenager infront of millions of eyes - I doubt there ever really was space to deal with the trauma of being bullied and hated and whatever else. I feel like she grew up without really having a chance of growing up and discovering herself 😔 that doesn't excuse her actions and behavior of course but it does put it into context - am not done watching yet 😆 so my opinion might change but I just felt so sorry for the little girl
The court of public opinion can be so unforgiving and expects lifelong consequences, which like you pointed out could be our own trauma responses. Love how you laid out this video ❤️
For me this is the first video of you that I've ever watched, and I want to tell you that nobody covered the topic surrounding Acacia this well nuanced, detailed and objective as you just did. I really adore how you spoke of her story respectfully, not supporting but neither judging her in the way many others do.
My highest respect fo you, thank you for this. Her background story, the psychological aspect of her age and the effect of the early fame have never been mentioned sufficiently before. She has to be held accountable for the things she did wrong, but shouldn't be hated for the things she did or said when she wasn't capable to comprehend when she was still a minor. Very well made :)
Pets are family! You don't just get one and return it like a toy!
i feel like a video like this on taylor nicole dean would be amazing. she has a rollercoaster of a experience and seeing it start from today would be a very cool video!
I’ve been watching you from the MLM analysis days and it’s so exciting to see how much you’ve been growing. So proud of you, keep it up Maddie 🫶
How you treat animals is a huge give away of you as a person ❤
I’ve always believed this
I actually adopted a headgehog (I did tons of research) at 14 (I’m 23 now) and it was barely a few months that I had to rehome it because it just was something I couldn’t handle. I still feel guilty about it today. Idk how did acacia manage to keep adopting and rehoming her pets 😞
I don’t think she has the mental capacity to be attached to anything. That could stem from narcissism bipolar disorder she doesn’t believe she has
I can’t help but wonder where her parents were during all of this. And wow she was so young when she became a mom!!!!! 😮
If I had adopted a black child an my other white child posted the n word online, I would have explained to her why it was wrong and made her post a public apology then and there. The parents really failed their children imo
I watched this entire vid not knowing who Acacia Kersey is. The irony!- literally thousands making money judgjng her every move. She could certainly write a memoir that would be a very interesting chronical of these crazy and, frankly, terrifying, times. These internet judge-bullies are scary. I felt bad for her. Your details are incredible- good work!
As someone who pet sits for a living she could of EASILY found an affordable pet sitter for four nights of boarding. Hearing she left her pets alone for that time period completely baffled me. She’s lucky it was JUST ants. They could of overate, starved to death, got trapped somewhere, etc.
In high school.. my best friend was her best friend. She was as a little c*nt in HS not going to lie.. but then again she was young and didn’t deserve to be bullied.
I also used to hang out with her brother in junior high. He was super awesome and the complete opposite of acacia