How Your Need For Attention Can Make You Invisible
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- Опубликовано: 13 июн 2020
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Me: oh boy, what funny stuff am I gonna watch today
RUclips: your need for attention makes you invisible
Me:
This video kinda hit hard, I've never really wanted attention, that being said I've never gotten it either I would always stay in the background in community's just watching as things go by, I wouldn't blame it on being introverted either, I guess it comes down to feeling that I have nothing to offer, no money, no talent, and no presence, I'm not worth anything so why bother right? But I guess this video helped me realize that I don't need to be anything or have anything, to give, and I've always loved the community's I'd watch but I'd always feel left out, perhaps all I need is to be there, to give my passion and my love to the community and those in it.
And yes I know, what a bombshell of a comment, but the ending of the video inspired me to write this and there might be others that need to hear this as well, I know I did.
Thanks Adam.
Man my experiences have been almost exactly the same as yours, every social gathering i go to its like I'm in the background, even when I get invited its like I'm there but no one sees me, so I leave to go draw and people see and are like that looks cool and I start feeling bad, because it feels like I'm attention seeking,even though it wasn't my intention and I'm in like the most average dude surrounded by some of the most skilled/talented people i know, I think it's the reason I peruse art so much because it's the only thing that anybody i know doesn't do so it gives me something special, makes me (even though a littel) special sorry for the ramble but I hope everyone has a great day.
And I'm sorry if it's hard to read my paragraph, I'm not good at writing/grama
Oh, I know that feeling too well. Being an observer, I always feel like I don't belong here, and asking myself what am I doing here. I see them talking with each other, giving each other hope, but it feels like it never reaches me. I can't understand them. They are people like me, so why can't I feel the same they are feeling?
Looking at people like me who are already making something out of their passion hit me even harder. I wan'ted to give up because it felt like I chose the wrong path, or I was not good enough.
The thing that helped me to keep going, is to "let go" of my logical side. The side that worries about getting a job, making something out of myself... Just let go and draw. Don't think too much, and just allow your emotions to guide you to the point you feel calm. After that allow logic to do its thing.
is your profile pic a portrait of jerma? :D looks great, you should submit it for the next community night!
I know this feeling. Most of the time I feel like im not the main character of my own life. Anywhere i go its like im just a background character and the story revolves around other people. I feel i have nothing to offer and the things i know and like aren't the same as people around me. I say no its how i wanna live its fine i chose to live like this myself......
who am i joking? I know its not like that
I cant say im happy to see other people like me here because it's bothersome enough to make us comment here about it. But it makes me feel more secure and kinda not alone anymore. I hope things go well for everyone.
I feel like I can't live up to my first comment, that being said it warms my heart to read these comments, I can't seem to put it into words, but to hear all of your honesty makes me feel just that much less alone.
After my first comment I've been trying to be more active socially, in discord simply by talking in places like general for an hour or two, I've even helped someone struggling with art, even though I didn't believe in myself, I did it.
Thanks, thanks to those who commented, and to those who liked my comment to. I don't think you could quite understand just how much you helped.
Ps. Also yes it is jerma, I probably should submit it.
I wrote a "letter" for my lower-classmates to give them tips for their _the_ high school project.
In it, I mentioned how social media could ruin their results and health, but I couldn't put everything to words as I wanted, so I just said "take a break from Instagram, and please watch this video" and linked to one of your videos about social media.
I really hope your words could improve my school's reputation in the long run!
Thats so kind of you, not gonna lie I'm proud of you little haha!
"Let's feel awesome together" is a great creed for a community. Thanks again, Adam.
Noooo. This channel is going to own both of my ears before the week is up, lmao. I was listening to the 5th video in a row from like 2018 when this brand new one popped up. Tremendous stuff.
Sensory overload! enjoy Pepper :)
Someday, I'm gonna travel half across the globe just so I can hug you in person.
Rock on Adam.
Most of my life I never wanted any attention, in fact, I actively hid from people and still do in many ways. But over the past few years I started having a strong need to be seen, to be acknowledged, to feel like what I am and do matters.
And I don't believe it's a coincidence that you posted this video exactly when I realized I have to learn to do that for myself instead.
I always noticed people, praised them and helped them and yeah, it was because I cared, but also because no one would do that for me and I didn't want anyone to feel like I did.
But the not so easy truth is, I have to be that person.
I have to take care of me first and foremost and only then can I share that with others and take care of them.
So if anyone in the comments is struggling with something similar, I know this sounds so very cliche, but I highly encourage you to try and explore some self-love teachings and techniques.
And then we can all genuinely appreciate and uplift each other without feeling like we're behind everyone else.
Thank you for your gentleness, your wisdom and your love, Adam, from the bottom of my heart.
Thanks. As someone who worries too much about how many people sees my art, this is the kind of message I needed.
this video made me cry... not in a bad way, but in an emotional level. keep making these talks, Mr. Duff!
Hey, this reminds me of what Katie Carson from Royalty Soaps said - that the soapmaking community when she entered it was very closed, protective of their secrets and generally unwelcoming to the newcomers. So much so that sharing the recipes that worked for you was heavily frowned upon. Yet she took her recipe that she worked on for years and blasted it in every single one of her video descriptions, shared product reviews, shared tips, allowed others to learn from her mistakes etc. She could've protected her secrets so that people were forced to buy from her, yet she did the opposite and it's what built a huge audience around her in the end, and allowed every single soap release to sell out immediately. One might argue that sharing all of the trade secrets might oversaturate and ruin the market, but I think the opposite happened - Katie, the kind soul she is, in fact advertised handmade soaps to thousands of potential customers who might have had no idea something like this existed. In the end it benefited her, her customers and other soapmakers as well.
Ive often had the feeling that the more I want something the less likely i am to achieve it. I think that sums up my artistic struggles for the last 10 years tbh.
Adam, 13 minutes into this and I closed it. Went for a walk in my house just to think more on what you said, how you changed your focus and the values attached to it. I realized I had my values and focus all on "I want to get max likes on this next post, why isnt my pretty portraits getting likes and followers?? what is my art lacking, why cant I find inspiration to draw anymore, why am I lacking so much to build a good fan commuinity, why does no one even comment on my posts." I was so stuck thinking about myself all the time, I didn't care about others at all. What makes me happy is to see others improving and them being happyyy too. I have no authencity in my art right now and I will work on that from now on.
Thank you so much, watched the whole video and reflected back on many things again.
Listening to you talk help me pick up my pen and paper again. I spent the last few years in the military and only recently discharged during this madness and listening to your videos helped me find my way back to my pen and paper.
Hi Adam! I don't know who you are, your video just popped out in my recommendation. I wasn't an artist, at most only a hobbyist, so I can't relates to a lot of things you said in this video.
But something really genuine come through, something that is for me, for everyone that watched this video, for everyone that haven't watched this video. It wasn't just for artist. Artist and non-artist alike can felt it.
I was depressed and really lost, but now, I feel empowered.
Everything was a lot brighter now! Thank you!
Well that means the world to me - because to me, art is a reflection of life in general
I apply my art philosophy to life and everything it contains
So you’ve truly offered me a compliment that hits home :)
Can I just say, whenever I see one of your videos it brightens up my day! It's almost like meditation, time for introspection and thought that we have so few chances to obtain in daily life. Thank you for the great work!
For the past few months I've been stuck in my home cause of quarantine, I felt like absolute shit. I couldn't help but think that I'm not cut out to be an artist and that no matter how much effort I put to my art, nobody would bat an eye. This kinda hit harder when I realised that I didn't get a lot of the motivational and emotional support that I see others get directly from their peers. I kind of thought I was the background character that no one bats an eye to.
Thank you Adam, for sharing a fresher perspective into it all. I'm not the only one who goes through this and I realize there are many people who think they're just as worthless as I am, and maybe was. This isn't a message to say that I'm gonna be better and I'm changed man now but just a thank you. Thank you for being the support I need and to give me a broader and better viewpoint of things
you're right. this is so beautiful. honestly art is so easy. it's literally just measuring and filling in between those measurements. thanks this is the best art advice on youtube
okay honestly, why has this channel never popped up to me? This is really what I needed to hear, it is not only great advice and tips on how to improve, it is also so so encouraging. Thank you!
These art talks have helped me so much when I feel like I should just give up on art as a whole. Thank you for sharing these stories Adam. I think I speak for a lot of people when I say they make this art journey feel a lot less lonesome.
I can’t thank you enough for taking the time for making these art talks. I desperately needed to hear them. Your thoughts and words are helping me move forward out of a decade long creative psychological paralysis. Thank you.
I found your videos just after going on medical leave (basically for extreme depression/stress related to my non-art day job.) As I struggle with my direction, trying to reconnect with what once made art a joy, your insights have been invaluable. Also, I really like watching you work. Even though I don't work digitally, there have been quite a few, "Ah-HA!" moments that translate over to traditional painting. Thank you.
Lovely. I used to feel very bad about my art due to my IG like count, and I saw other artists who I knew I was at least on a technical level better than, have 200x the following. I worked my ass off trying to make each post best the last one, and saw absolutely no fluctuations in my numbers. Eventually I decided to approach it from another angle. I realized that although I would like other artists work, I never really engaged with them in a meaningful and genuine way. It actually makes me feel a bit ashamed of myself now, but I realized that through taking the time to write thoughtful comments and offer constructive criticism when needed, I began to find a gradual rise in the number of likes my stuff would get, and the amount of people that followed me. I think that social media can be very unhealthy for artists if it’s used in the wrong way, and I also agree with the sentiment that there should be an emphasis on the SOCIAL part, as many of the connections I’ve made have been through people I’ve met in real life, or associates of people I’ve met. Going out with a sketchbook is always a great idea, there’s nothing to loose. You tighten up on your artistic skills and you usually end up meeting people as well. I’ll end with a complaint though, I’ve finally caught up with all your video’s man! Now I have to wait a week like everyone else lol-it’s like game of thrones for me all over again!
i gave up on social media altogether. the pressure from these platforms is just too much that it takes away all the fun i have doing concept arts. i love conceptualizing more than illustrating, and i feel like concept arts do not really get that much attention unless it's from a big artist. now, i'm only focusing on strengthening my portfolio so that creative companies may hire me someday. but yeah, aside from Artstation(which i use as a free portfolio), i'm totally inactive in social media because i can't handle the stress these algorithms give me.
You have no idea how much your videos have helped me recently!
With everything going on outside and some other personal stuff almost ruined my motivation to even live...
I don't exactly know why or how but whenever I watch your videos and listen to your voice, not only I calm down but also find the adequate motivation to what I have to do that day.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you! My only wish is to be able to return the favor and support your and your daughters amazing work...
Ngl I almost cried. Whenever I feel like giving up on art I almost always turn to his videos. You're such an amazing person for doing what you do Adam, Keep it up my man 💙
I know I say the same things over and over but listening to your videos is so calming, meditative and uplifting. You manage to touch a lt of tough subjects I think about on a daily basis but also thoughts that I didn't recognize prior to your videos which makes me go "huh, I guess that's a thing". Thank you for what you do! You inspire me to try to reach out to others as well. Being able to authentically touch people with my work has always been the best thing about posting art online. It makes my day if at least one person loves what I do.
I don’t usually share my own experiences, but your talk Adam made me wake up and open my eyes. I’ve been taught since I was a kid that I have to use others as a tool to make success in life, I grabbed a lot of attention from a lot of people in my country, and I became popular among the artists in my country as the youngest pro artist,but because of that , I was just like a robot without feelings , because I never knew how to appreciate people compliments , because when they do , I always reply with a cold heart “ oh thank you “ but I wasn’t really mean it , I was just saying what I taught . I didn’t even was able to remember their names or faces because of that , because I didn’t care , and I didn’t had any friends because of that . But because of You Adam, after watching this video , I’m free from the box that I’ve been living in for the last 17 years. Thank you so much ❤️ (and this time for the first time I really mean it)
Aw Man, I never comment in ANY VIDEO I WATCH, but since I had to stop drawing in my sketchbook because my eyes were full with tears i felt like I had to do this
Thanks Adam! I listen to your vídeos make a really long time, and make me so... Comfortable. Even when the video it's about a "sad" topic, I feel I can truly listen and understand what you're telling, it's not just a motivational video, it's like talking with a friend
You inspire me so much, greetings from Brazil
I love having your videos in the background while painting and I just wanna say, Thank you very much for all the effort and energy you put into all those amazing art talks and it really bring value to everyone. This specific talk made me wanting to help others as much as I can, and I will. Thank you
listening to your videos is so lovely. I specially adore the even longer ones, which is amazing because I usually have a hard time focusing on any other youtuber's voice for that much time... but you just make it so easy with your sweet tone of voice and slow pace. Sometimes I feel like crying because you sound like a sweet, gentle father simply trying to teach his children to be kind... You really do have the soul of a teacher. Of a GOOD teacher, the kind I only ever saw once or twice while in school. Thank you for this channel, it your videos help me focus when I'm drawing, help me relax and feel safe, and I always feel like Im just a tiny bit wiser by the end. Love you!
This Video was probably the most life changing ive ever seen, i literally needed to stop at the middle, and wrote down a script about fear and motivation, its not long, but I feel like, thats the best ive ever done. I dont know why, but the video made me wanna create. And for real i have to say, that i never felt so blessed to watch one specific video!
Thank you, from all my heart
Thank you!
I've been coming across more and more of your videos lately and finding them to be the kind of gentle encouragement that I need in my life right now. I didn't know what to expect when I read your title but I feel like this one nailed the head on my current anxieties. It kind of covers my feelings on why I slowly stopped posting my artwork on social media and why I seem to approach it with paranoia and dread despite telling myself that nothing horrendous or wonderful will happen to me. Because I do want to connect, I do want to be appreciated (that it's human nature to want to be seen and acknowledged) but connection is a two way street. So I think that your answer of nurturing connections makes total sense because in my private discord server with friends the pressure to draw or share does not impede my creativity because I give as much as I take art and appreciation. I know that in this internet age in order to make a career I need to have a bit of a social media presence; but after this video I think I may have a new frame of mind when approaching things. if that makes sense. Anyway thank you for making this video.
Thank you for helping me when things look so blurry and dark, your videos remind me that I can still keep going. Things are going to be okay 💕
Thank you. Your videos, and this one in particular, really helped sink in that our need of human connection is at the root of any kind of ambition; it's really obvious when you think about it, and yet, so easy to overlook. And then get lost in your own ambitions, searching for what was outside all along.
Fuck me, dude. You almost made me cry, good thing I work from home now.
The ideas spoken of in the video are similar to things I've been slowly figuring out, but you just have a way with words. Also, maybe watching this with headphones (usually I'm on speakers) made it this much more impactful.
Now, writing a comment, which I rarely do, does feel like I may be cheaply trying to get attention or doing what I've been told to do in the video. But I can't not comment. Your videos have been so genuine and helpful as I'm trying to move away from tech and more into art. So, thank you Adam.
Well I’m honoured that you feel that way. I’m also touched that you felt compelled to comment when that kind of goes against your usual tendencies. Rest assured it was well received :)
I'm usually not one to comment, but I want to thank you, Adam. You inspired me to pick up art again a while back and whenever I listen to you or watch your videos, I'm touched and comforted on a very personal and emotional level. I'm tremendously grateful for the community that you have build and all that you have to say. I wish you the best!
These videos genuinely uplift my spirit when it comes to my art . Within the past year I’ve realized that I want to branch out from cartooning/animation and into fashion, photography and poetry . Being an artist just works as a way to pass my creativity to these and hearing your words remind me why I want to do this ! Thank you
Hey Adam! Wanted to share my appreciation of you making these videos addressing the emotional struggles that can occur as an artist, though I think they can be applied to many other careers as well. Its always nice listening to you narrate about various topics while venturing outside of my comfort zone (this being colors). Hearing about the challenges you face and how they can affect you mentally and your motivation has more often than not hit home with me and helped me soldier on, despite having my expectation weighing me down through the learning process. It provides wonderful food for thought and makes me see things from a different angle. That my "futile" attempts may actually not be as dreadful as I imagine them to be, and if so it's okay things will improve in time as long as you don't give up. Colors still make me uneasy but I now have a better handle on how to deal with it when it gets to me during my work process.
So many thanks for this video series, looking forward to see more and best of wishes to you!
I have no words to describe what I found in this channel. It's so meaningful to me. I came here because of my interest in technical stuff about the art industry, but I found a deeper topic, that points inwards. Maybe it's a thing we all have been feeling dealing with our struggles and expectations. It's nice to have this more personal perspective. Thanks to everyone involved in this channel becoming a reality.
Watching a video of Adam really be like sitting down having an honest talk with an art dad tho😭 I think the topic of this video was especially interesting, since I believe we all are guilty of that „crave for attention“ in some way or another. I think it jot only becomes an issue of whether you put your need of attention over other, but also how you consume. Like we all scroll through hundreds of art posts per day and there is no need to even like a single one of them. We aren’t obliged to do it at all. Thats why I feel like we should be more mindful of how we consume, giving back to creators (in any way) and not just sitting there, waiting to be satisfied.
Another day, and more tears of joy here at Lucidpixul. I promise to pass this gift to another. You bring out the best in me and I feel obligated to share that with the ones I love and hopefully to a few I've never met.
I remember another artist (Mark Campbell I think) talking about the importance of reaching out; I now try to put more effort into that and my brain really isn't wired for communication of any kind but it's worth it in the end. Kudos for your takes on Slavic mythology btw, some of the most unique stuff I've seen
I found your channel some days ago and the timing couldn't have been better - Your videos are helping me through a hard time and to self-reflect even more lately. There is something you express that will never fail to spark a tiny bit of hope so thank you for your words and your wonderful art!
Not a person of many words, and I tend to stick to the sidelines a lot, but you're videos always help me. And I'm not gonna lie, I needed to hear this today, LOL I am in tears. Thank you
This video resonated with me a lot. Feeling discouraged because of recognition is a very real thing. Artists are all unique and we are often very hard on ourselves because of comparison to others. Changing a mindset to appreciate the work of others and have a healthy relationship with one's own art is a struggle sometimes. Thank you so much for spreading the love in this awesome community.
Well rest assured that you aren’t alone with your feelings Eleni, were emotional creatures us artists - just don’t let it consume you
Use it as a tool to drive your creativity
As always, words that speak directly to the heart. Thanks for this sincere, humble, inclusive and wise element you bring to RUclips, and to my life. You inspire and give courage, and most importantly, you make one feel less alone.
Talking about the topic you discussed here: Actually, I had a similar realization just yesterday. I was so blinded by my own pain of unrequited love that I did not see how I stopped paying attention, begging for attention myself instead, bringing down the dynamic of a formerly balanced and happy close friendship. A black hole was created inside of me, and it sucked up my own happiness and sense of self worth, and it sucked up the connection I had to the person. I hope we can build it back up again.
This is such a universal and important realization.
You always talk nice and smart things. But this is real relevant. One of the best.
Hi Adam,
I don't comment often but i wanted to thank you for making these videos. I'm going through rough times and your positivity helps me a lot
you have no idea how glad i am that i found your channel and can listen to you. You're so sweet. What you said is really important. I'll keep it in mind :) You've taught us so much. Your love and sincerity reaches us with each video. I hope our love and support continues to reach you everyday.
As does your sincerity Sky, thank you :)
I've never heard "Takes one to know one" used in a positive light like this. That is really profound. You always make me think. I produced something very nice that I am proud of while listening to this. Thanks for that!
FloraSora me either! That’s really encouraging.
Oh, Wow. I could't imagine that you may be interested in Slavic mythology.
But I am join it with you! The Koschey is amazing but underestimated in my country (((
been uninspired to paint lately. Just watching your videos made me realize a lot of things and reasons to start painting again.
I just found you recently and I already like listening to you while I'm doing comic work. It's a very uplifting experience!
I really wish this channel had it's own discord . Would be amazing to talk to some of the others in the community. Unfortunately I have nobody to talk art with in my friend network irl.
Things been rough for quite some while. Thank you. I didn't know I needed this. I truly appreciate this video. I hope you have a great day.
Because there's only one spot light there has to be _a_ looser and _a_ winner. Therefore: in wanting to stand in the spotlight, one at the same time wants the other to stand outside of it, which isolates one from the other by making each other enemies or rivals instead of friends. Adam, thank you for letting me realize what huge mistake I've been repeating in the entirity of my life!
Now, instead of isolating myself as soon as I dont get attention (usually to try to become top dog and win the fight over the spotlight[never worked yet]) I'll give attention, let the other stand in the spotlight first, so as to let them recognize that I'm not their enemy, but a potential friend.
Thank you, Adam ✌💙
Thank you for sharing your flame with us Adam and I pray that we may share it onward in our own circles. Spread the love!
Thanks for introducing me to “Dam Keeper” , that was real touching and beautiful. And I really trust you when you say “go and pay attention to others”.
Thank you, Adam. Your videos mean a lot to me. I think that the positivity in your comments clearly reflects yours.
Thank you very much for this video. I had a little crappy week, because my art was not going in the direction I wanted it to be. I have to paint nontheless, because it is for a job, that might last the next ten years, if I perform well enough. The last two days I prepaired everything for moving from my home to berlin, because my apprenticeship is starting in september and I have to paint the walls and all this stuff, before I can move and than I got the message that my grandpa died and everything reminds me of the loss of my father almost two years ago. Well, I'm having a hard time right now, but atleast I do not have to deal with work (besides the projekt) anymore, because of the virus.
Your Videos inspire me so much and calm me down, that I am able to paint today, even if I'm not feeling to well. I'm glad, that I am a part of this comunity, even if I'm not commenting much. I'm from germany by the way, so if the grammar is a little odd, this is the reason why :)
I just wanted to thank you and well... happy painting :) My mood is a lot better now.
Sometime back I was getting really depressed because I wasn't getting a lot of recognition on social media. But then I stopped thought, what for do I even want that recognition? And answer was - I want to draw things I like, I want to share then with people who like those things too and I want to build that community around me of people, who share same love and passion. And it kinda appears, you don't need that much of popularity to have that nice things. I've managed to create my circle of fellow artists and it's so much fun and support! People should do more thinking about why do they want some thing, and maybe it'll appear, they wanted something entirely different.
thanks for caring dude , i needed this .
you've always made me aware of the insecurities I tucked deep inside. how many times had you made me cry as I was listening to you? I don't know, and I can't thank you enough for it. you're like a stranger, but then you're also like a friend that knows deep inside what's been bothering me. I just, I'm so deeply grateful that I found your channel. thank you very much.
I've been digging through your videos as I severely needed your guiding voice. I'm currently saving up for a private mentorship online too! But mainly, I was concerned as the livestream kind of cut off abruptly and was just hoping you're alright!! SO GLAD to see you are. Now going to listen to this soul soup. 🥂 Stay safe Adam!
I'll never be able to explain how your thoughts match with the feelings I experience. Thank you for being who you are and sharing it with us Adam.
You always seem to time your videos perfectly. Recently I've been feeling a bit shit about my work and personal self, I've been feeling like I'm too selfish in my work and reject others too much because I'm working too hard and being harsh on myself. Maybe now I should take the time each day to feed into someone else's life and uplift them in some way. I'll make that my aim from now on. Thanks again Adam for holding up a mirror to my own life and helping me improve!
The pleasure was all mine Adam :)
thank you Adam for speaking out like that, this video (listening to it the 3rd time now while painting) empowered me with my own path. it was only this morning that I spoke to another person about why I want to make art and share what I know with others - so they won't be as discouraged and up in the air as I was back when I started painting (Jan 2017 btw)
thank you, very very much for kindly sharing your passion, which drives me (and maybe others as well)
Wow...I needed this for far more than regarding my art and book writing. Thank you for sharing your heart and wisdom with me personally, Adam
And any tips on how to try to reconnect again with people when you've been hurt?
I have always been an introvert lonely and timid person which never cared to be in groups, after finally reaching my 18s when I started to notice that something missed in my life. It might sound like a bit of rant this paragraph, but after watching the animation mentioned by Adam, I remembered when I used to have a similar relationship with a person which finally I could call "My first best friend" in the life, and stayed with him in that relationship around 4 years even if we were in separate countries. While at the beginning I mostly just listened and cared to help him in most of his problems and emotional needs, during the last year and last moments I noticed that the relationship was one-sided, I didn't noticed that I got turned into his "personal crying shoulder" more than a friend, and when I needed a bit of help from him, almost never happened or turned into a rant and discussions from both, telling me that my problems were nothing compared to him. Finally when I tried to negate most of our things in common I noticed that we were actually friends just because I allowed to be overwhelmed by ALL his needs, and not because he had a little of care in me. Both of us fighted (verbally), broke up and dissapeared from media and life.
A year has passed since then, but during that time I rediscovered my lost passion for art, which I liked since kid, and I have been studying since then, helping me to deal with negative feelings inside me and try to improve as a person bit by bit, but, most of time, and it might sound dumb or stupid for the people reading this but, that fear of me; fear of repeating the same situation of betrayal by that "4 year-long best friend", fear of being hurt, isn't allowing me to even reach small communities of things that I enjoy, or be an active member and just stay lurking in the comments. Since I just work remotely due to COVID, I barely remember the time when I spoke with a person for more than 10 minutes.
Taking into account Adam's video that socialization and helping genuinely people is what makes you grow as both artist and as a person... What is wrong with me? I want to be a future artist like most of people around here, but in my current state....
While I can't say I've been in a similar situation relationship-wise, I do know that things get easier when you begin by being true to yourself. I'm an introvert too, and all of my friends can be counted on one hand and most of the time I'm too scared to ask for help at work, there's nothing wrong with you. I realised that when I made things I like, or express things that are important to me, people find something to connect to anyway. Maybe, if you're worried about making connections, just start by reconnecting with what makes you, YOU. If anything, I'm sure that any one of us here (at the very least, me) will be here to support you. Hope that made sense or helped, even a little. Take care and happy painting.
Adam, you are the most genuine person I discovered on this platform, you are my main core of inspiration and literally woke me up from this weird haze of feeling meaningless. I am a university student going into a program I’m not sure I want to pursue as a career. But you literally made me realize that I am an artist, I had no frickin clue. I sketched on my note pads instead of listening to lectures, bought art equipment and supplies because it filled a void deep inside me. Without you, I would not have taken my art seriously, this thing that makes me happy to be alive. You made me realize I’m not alone which I have felt of two decades of my life. From the bottom of my heart, Thank you :)
thank you for this video, I really needed this. Lately I haven't been feeling the motivation I once had for making art and I think the part where I want to be seen has a huge role in this. I am going to take a break from social media, to see what I like actually and why I like it. then maybe after this I can find a way to connect with other people. I graduated from art school last year and this year really has been hard on me and my art. I think this is allso because I miss all the connection I used to have with my classmates and my teachers. My skill level went up but I feel like the contents of what I make is very empty. Time to find myself and others again! Thank you for your take on this subject.
Ah, Adam
That really left me speechless ... Thnx for these kind words sir ... All humanity need to hear that ... you just earned my like and subscription! 👏❤❤
THAT'S IT. I knew that I was on the right rack, but didn't knew it for certain, until now! Thank you.
I do a lot of various creative things. Digital art being my main thing. But over time I've realized that making tutorials, helping others and supporting them makes me much more happy than anything else 😁✨
I hope that I can start making my own tutorial series on my youtube channel asap and if I ever get attention, I already decided this years ago, that I'd use it to recommend other artist 👌🔥
Oh god, that video hitted me hard, I cried.
I'm at a place where I'm lost, I almost lost energy to do anything and when I draw It's shit because I don't have any mental energy. I don't believe in myself, nobody is watching what I'm doing. Nobody is following me or commenting.
And then I saw your video. At first I was scared to draw it because the title was litteraly for me. But I took what was left of my energy and watched it.
Like I said, you hitted me hard.
Thanks, just thank you for sharing those art tips on an emotionnal level, a lot of artist are trying to give those advices but no one made me understand that the mistakes I was making is only paying attention to myself, if everybody is like me, nobody is growings. And also that I need to offer interesting things to help people or things that they relate to, if not It's normal that they won't look, or like.
Thank you so much.
I always had difficulties to socialize with people, I'm 27 old and I'm realizing that I can't go far alone, I need to learn how to socialize and talk to people, they to them that they are great and amasing.
This is great. Inspirational. I don't have anything else to say.
Your videos always resonate, can't thank you enough for sharing your thoughts.
As I'm sure many people have experienced, I'm struggling to take the first step and face the fear that maybe I'll never be as good as I hope.
Not taking that step won't change anything, and the only way to get to where I want is practicing to getting better.
And still, I don't know why I just wait.
I'll start sooner than later, but what I know for a fact, is that I can always find strength from your videos.
Can't wait for the day I make myself happy, thanks to you
Gosh this one made me cry 😭, I guess it hit close to home of how I was feeling. Thanks for making your content and putting things into perspective.
Thank you very much for making these videos you have no idea how much they help me to stay positive and become a better person artistically and even in my personal life. You are one of a few artists that i can connect to them this much. I really really wish you to stay safe and happy and keep improving.
Hi! I wanted to tell you something for a long time, now after watching the video I decided I should do it now.
I just wanted to tell you, that I'm looking up to you not only as an artist, but also, as a person. I genuinely think your work is healing and it's very much needed in today's art world, where lots of people yell at you for being not good enough and just tell you to grind.
You're really influencing me, every time I'm insecure and unsure about my art I go to your channel and I always feel better.
In the future I'd like to be someone similar to you. I'm gonna work on that for sure.
Thank you so much for everything and greetings from Poland!
I've always been the type that shys away from being the center of attention, regardless of what it's about. I just don't like it, and I think it might be connected to the fear of looking stupid or failing in front of others. This really made me think, as with my art it's quite the opposite. In fact, a big contributing factor to even starting doing art in the first place might be a subconscious effort to seek attention and recognition in some way. With my art I'm able to control what parts other people see, and the fear of failing goes away. It feels good to get some positive reinforcement telling me I'm doing something right, but I've also felt the unhealthy part of it yearning for more and more. I'm not sure wether to interpret this as a strictly good or bad thing, or something in between. This is not necessarily relevant to what you're talking about in this video, but I've never thought about this before watching the video, and it's actually very interesting. Thanks for making these videos, they really are something special!
Hey, You just transformed my Wednesday and I am thankful and ever so grateful.
I love your videos man, all of the ones that I've watched so far are filled with so much positivity. It really helps to push me on with my work.
It’s insane how your videos seem to come at just the right time. I’ve been trying for years to get my artwork noticed and it just isn’t happening. Your words breath motivation into my soul. Thank you Adam I probably would have given up already if it wasn’t for your wisdom. -Renso
I really love your mindset and how you see things around you and how you analyse them ....
You're a super good dude. Very kind and authentic.
I'm gonna try to take this one to heart, as much as I can. I love experiencing other people's work, but I have a bad habit of shelling up and being a hermit about this sorta stuff.
We all do, artists need their private time - just remember to get a little sunlight from time to time - vitamin D is important :)
Always excited to hear more from you! Whenever I feel down or am struggling artistically, I come here to encourage myself. Thank you for always being an encouragement to young artists like myself!
Thank you so much. Your videos always cheer me up and make me think not only about art but how to be a kinder person, both to others and to myself. I'm pretty self-critical, which impedes my creativity, but your words have helped me focus on improving my flaws rather than berating myself for having them. And yeah, let's all be awesome together!! And have a lovely day :)
This really struck me, especially since I've only just started posting my art online seriously. I've also just joined a discord chat for artists and it's really helped me see the impact that that chat can have and does have in my life and the lives of others. You've helped me appreciate it more, thank you!
Adam, your videos always seen like you are reading my mind. They really speak to me. Thank you for your videos. Thank you for this.
I love your speeches and the way you present them: through the art and gentle music. Thank you, truly.
This video is so on time.
Wow, this was a beautiful video. I am new to this channel but this was a strong first impression, a truly inspiring and great outlook on helping others and not getting caught up in trying to make yourself known. I know just as I'm sure everyone else knows too how much pressure your follower count or your likes on social media can have on your psyche, but hearing this really alleviates that burden, expressing how much impact diverting your focus onto others can have on your own happiness and growth. I am glad that you can find refuge in the positivity of these comments. I wish you the best in the future, and I am excited to see what else you create as a new subscriber of this fantastic channel!
Thank you for sending this message. It's funny how the world is more connected than it's ever been with channels of communication and yet sometimes you can feel so utterly alone at times when you get caught up in the comparison game. It doesn't matter how good you are. Everyone remembers the hand that reached out to help.
your videos make my life so much better, thank you for everything
It is an awesome video and a very great approach! I really love the 'what it actually means to be an artist' videos since I've don't seen them on other places. Drawing tutorials, yes but not what the actual mindset of an artist could be! Your channel is a treasure :D -- I just stick at basic drawing stuff ... yet :D
Thank you for this video, Adam!
Discover you was the best thing that has happened to me this year. Thank you for sharing with us your experiences and thoughts and art. I truly thank you.
Dude this channel is so excellent. Real advice. Real Insight. It’s just so REAL. Luv it!
This is so wholesome and informative and just-
You're always so inspiring and uplifting, I'm forever grateful for this channel 💖
Thank you for this. I miss having an art community, and contributing to it in very serious way.
That is something I want to figure out again.