How We Survived The Holidays 2 Months After Our Son Passed Away

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  • Опубликовано: 5 окт 2024

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  • @mackenziekanis3096
    @mackenziekanis3096 4 года назад +47

    My husband and I lost our firstborn, a baby boy named Maverick John Kanis. He was born October 5, 2019 at 39+ weeks. I found your channel when we were expecting and I was looking at the statistical chance of stillbirth. I couldn't imagine facing this type of loss. Here we are in your shoes. Your channel inspires me. Thank you for sharing and I so agree with your advice it's spot on. Blessings and Merry Christmas!

    • @jazzy679
      @jazzy679 4 года назад +3

      I am so so sorry for your loss😔 no one knows or understands the mental, physical, and emotional pain a momma of loss goes through until they go through it themselves. I lost my first baby at 6 weeks November 2010. I lost my 2nd baby November 2016 at 20 weeks stillborn. We had just found out we were having a girl and then a week later days before thanksgiving we lost her. We had another stillborn April 2017 we lost our son at 16 weeks. When I say I understand what youre going through, trust me I KNOW EXACTLY what you guys are going through. Losing a baby is so so hard. Being pregnant after those losses is even tougher. We got pregnant in June of 2017, found out later we were having a girl, and she was born February 2018. My rainbow baby girl has been the best gift God has given me🙏 I know youre still in grieving time but once you guys are ready to try again, pray nd have Faith that your baby will be soon in your arms.

    • @mackenziekanis3096
      @mackenziekanis3096 4 года назад +3

      @@jazzy679 I am so sorry, I can only imagine how scary pregnancy is after loss. My husband and I want to try again soon, but I am am nervous. We lost Mav at 39 weeks 2 days and I just am so terrified it will happen again.

    • @princejohnatonawesomebaksh53
      @princejohnatonawesomebaksh53 4 года назад +1

      Thank u for sharing. Sorry for ur lost. I lost my 1stbron son Johnaton on 10/19 after waiting 24yrs to get pregnant I'm so lost. And I'm not allowed to grieve his lost. Husband n some family members want me to just get over it. So I always have to keep a smile on my face while I'm crying on the inside 😭💔😭. Hope u have the support u need.

    • @plushbatfan
      @plushbatfan 4 года назад

      @Mackenzie Kanis
      Sorry for your loss. My granny passed away seven years ago. I still missed her so much. She has lived to the age of ninety-four.

    • @angelicalister1627
      @angelicalister1627 4 года назад +1

      @@princejohnatonawesomebaksh53 I'm so sorry for your loss and that ur husband and family members think you can just get over, something so tragic and devastating as, losing your baby so easily is not fair to you at all!!! You take all the time you need to grieve in the way you need to!!! Sending mass love and much needed support to you!!!

  • @Iris-bz8jh
    @Iris-bz8jh 4 года назад +22

    You are both so well spoken, it's so important that people like you share your experiences to educate or support others. Lots of love to your beautiful family of 4

  • @deshawndalivingston6482
    @deshawndalivingston6482 4 года назад +2

    I really admire your guys strength telling your families you didn’t want to celebrate in the traditional way. I had my first miscarriage in July 2016 and Thanksgiving that same year my husband’s sister did her gender reveal. I dreaded that day so much and when it came I isolated myself upstairs because it was just too hard. I wish I felt strong enough to tell my husband and our families that I didn’t want to celebrate the same way we always did. P.S. your journey is very inspiring. I had two miscarriages before I had my now 14 month old baby girl. I can’t even imagine carrying a child full term and losing them. You two are probably one of the strongest couples I know of. Keep being amazing and enjoy every little moment with Briza. She’s absolutely beautiful. ❤️

  • @mummyp2609
    @mummyp2609 4 года назад +9

    My mum died when I was 9. And I found that people never spoke about her. I needed people to talk about her. I needed to say things like ‘ my mum would have liked that’. I held all my grief in and it didn’t end well. So people should
    Try and mention the person who has passed away like you say.

  • @elainecobb6583
    @elainecobb6583 4 года назад +10

    I've said it several times before , and I'll say it again Felly, I am so very proud of you. I don't think you realize how many people admire you both for speaking about all you went thru last year. I'm sure you have helped so many people with this video. Hope your holidays are wonderful. Hugs and kisses to Brazton, Briza, Jonathan and of course to you Felly . Love, Grandma Elaine XO XO ❤ ❤

  • @rachiirose9566
    @rachiirose9566 4 года назад +9

    I appreciate you both taking the time to do this so much. So helpful to people like me right now, and will be so helpful to women or couples who come across this video in the future who are grieving at difficult times of the year. Or really any day of the year. ❤️

  • @mariasaavedra1187
    @mariasaavedra1187 4 года назад +15

    I lost my babygirl at 33weeks this year June 16th, 2019 🥺 this year was supposed to be her first to celebrate the holidays with us & it’s been so hard !

  • @angiec9087
    @angiec9087 4 года назад +23

    Can you talk about the moment you found out when you were pregnant with Briza?

  • @stef1860
    @stef1860 4 года назад +17

    Second comment. It’s very amazing that you have this channel for people who are going through this difficult journey. Big hugs Mama

  • @dkpoohbear78
    @dkpoohbear78 4 года назад +11

    I totally understand the not wanting to celebrate the coming holidays my son D’Andre was born sleeping in March 2018 and then in May was both my daughters birthday and mine and then Mother’s Day I was in no shape or form in the mood to celebrate my birthday or Mother’s Day I just didn’t see the point if I didn’t have my son with me. My family was very supportive and respected the fact I didn’t want to celebrate. We did do a small dinner for my daughter since it was gonna be her first birthday. Last year was hard in Christmas and until this year it’s hard or as I feel even harder because he would already be one year old and be walking and babbling 😭👼🐘 I miss my son so so much. Hugs and prayers to your family. Love Braxton and Briza

  • @pinklife-kristina3066
    @pinklife-kristina3066 4 года назад +3

    You 2 are the most brave, honest, and respected people I am lucky to be apart of! Thank you for this emotional and REAL video. Although I haven’t commented from day 1 of your videos.... I have walked this real walk with you both from day 1. I remember the video where Jonathan said..... “ I wish people would ask about Braxton instead of distancing themselves”. (Something like that quote anyway) . And that people didn’t know what to say. Loosing my baby almost 30 years ago (December 13th) I remember thinking that people were staring at me. At least that’s how I felt. Talk about my baby I would say. So I can relate to Jonathan’s thoughts. What a year 2018 was! Look how different this year is for y’all. It’s nice to see you smile again. It’s nice to see Briza in your arms. It seems like Jonathan is feeling more comfortable around cameras and enjoy seeing him in more videos. Briza is a beautiful little girl! And merry Christmas to you Jonathan, Felly, Braxton and Briza.
    One last question.....
    Have you ever thought about a meet & greet? After loosing a baby and having a baby that was born so early after a loss at 23.5 weeks weighing 1 lb 1 oz and spending 6 plus months in the NICU which allowed me to bring our baby girl home..... I thought for years ( my daughter was born in 2009) how I could give back to other micro preemie moms and nurses. I decided I would try and visit as many level 4 NICU’S as I possibly can around the world. Just hold and rock babies that the parents can’t spend more time with. Talk to other moms that are scared. Donate clothes that might fit smallest of babies. And just spend time listening and caring about other loss and NICU parents. Although I could never repay these amazing nurses and doctors, I hope it’s a start. I am headed to California next month for my 3rd NICU visit and I would love to buy you a coffee and just talk about our kids. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
    Again, thank you for this video
    Kristina from Seattle

  • @ummmusa6078
    @ummmusa6078 4 года назад +6

    Having a faith gets you through such difficulty. It's what kept me going. Xx

  • @loveyou0729
    @loveyou0729 4 года назад +4

    I live for your videos. My baby was also born sleeping July of This year and I completely understand not wanting to do anything for the holidays. Everything I do makes me think of him and watching your videos makes me feel like there Is someone out there who understands this pain and that’s comforting. Blessings to your family

  • @romibo6252
    @romibo6252 4 года назад +2

    I've never experienced a loss like yours... I'm 67, and this is a wonderful help at my age! Things I've never thought of. You both are amazing!

  • @klarissasolis6665
    @klarissasolis6665 4 года назад +1

    WOW.. I appreciate this video. I lost my son at 36 weeks on Dec 11th of this year and Christmas was heart wrenching... I didn't know I put myself out there and still went and spent time with family and I wish I didn't. I'm sorry this happened to you both as well.

  • @ashleyclutinger4295
    @ashleyclutinger4295 4 года назад +6

    Awww Briza is growing up so fast 😭. You are truly amazing couple! I can't wait to see what the future holds for you.

  • @captainofmysoul6525
    @captainofmysoul6525 4 года назад +6

    Merry Christmas, Feli , Jonathan, Braxton and Briza. I think you have given great ideas for the couples that have endured child loss. I admire how open Jonathan is about his pain and/or what helped him or both of you as a couple. Many men don't express their feelings. By doing so, he may reach one dad (or dads) who is currently dealing with the same experience the courage to speak up You two have come along way. I'm certain the pain never leaves but rather you learn to adapt to it. I love how much thought and effort you guys have put to always remember Braxton not just as your baby but a little human being 💖. I can see you guys doing much more to honor your son, Braxton. Maybe you can consider writing a blog or book to help like families. God bless you all. Braxton will never be forgotten. Take. Care❤

  • @epezzy3775
    @epezzy3775 3 года назад

    Im so grateful for your videos. I wanna say how strong you are is so inspiring and it’s so hard to find people to relate to when losing your baby at birth. I lost my daughter September 26,2020 and the thought of the holidays makes me so sad. Your daughter is so beautiful and your baby boy will ALWAYS ALWAYS be in your life where ever you go. I know it. You are amazing 🤍 From one mom to another. 🐘

  • @erinzazueta204
    @erinzazueta204 4 года назад +4

    Merry Christmas ✨🎄❄️ love the growth & the happiness you have gained. I know that the pain & sadness will never go away but how you choose to live day by day shows your strength. You will always keep braxtons name alive & include him in every experience. God bless ❤️✨

  • @TheMissymoo100
    @TheMissymoo100 4 года назад +2

    it's not even just when losng a baby that festivities feel alien...I lost my partner in 2009 when I was 29 and I simply couldn't face Christmas at ALL..my whole world had changed and been ripped apart.....but tried to go along with it...which didn't work at all. Deffo good advice to be open with family and friends about what you need or your intentions for the holidays.
    You two are brilliant and the fact you take your appalling grief and channel it to help others speaks volumes about you.

  • @alondramartinez2722
    @alondramartinez2722 4 года назад +10

    Merry Christmas Rios fam bam👨‍👩‍👧‍👦❤️

  • @latinamarie80
    @latinamarie80 4 года назад +1

    Don't know if anyone has told you both- I'm very proud of you, for getting help when you need/needed it, keeping this channel to help ur self's get through, as other's in the same situation! I'm also proud of how u both got through being pregnant right after and how u both cherish life now, and still always remembering Braxton ALWAYS& with everything you both do.. You both are awesome people and VERY caring people and parents as well... Keep on doing what you both do for ur self's, ur family and others you may be helping along the way.. Going in to 2020 just know that at least I appreciate u, for ur channel, for insight on ur life and watching u as a family grow! 💜🐘(Braxton 🌳tree),👶👣💗

  • @Keiry-dew-night
    @Keiry-dew-night Год назад

    Braxton bear makes me see that Braxton’s here and I’m so sorry all of you who lost your babies

  • @triciadesjardins2743
    @triciadesjardins2743 4 года назад +1

    I am so sorry for your family’s loss. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @EwciaMa
    @EwciaMa 4 года назад +3

    Briza is sooo cute...the way she looks at you..pure love...💗

  • @cathieh.7225
    @cathieh.7225 4 года назад

    I can't imagine how you are/were feeling, but you are so right the trauma would be monumental. You did was right for you, and it's so good that you pulled together on this.

  • @roselainefouron1552
    @roselainefouron1552 4 года назад +1

    I am sorry for ur loss I been through it I lost my first baby son a month ago I am still thinking about him sometimes I feld he is still. In my stomach thx for sharing the same thing you do every Months I went to check what size he will I have he picture Ultrasound on my purse and next to my picture I am very happy for ur beautiful bb girl I am still.waiting for God to give me my rainbow bb

    • @princejohnatonawesomebaksh53
      @princejohnatonawesomebaksh53 4 года назад

      My heart breaks for u. I lost my 1stbron son Johnaton 10/19. I dont know which side is up many days. I hope u have the support u need. I'm so sorry for ur lost.

  • @plushbatfan
    @plushbatfan 4 года назад

    This scene reminds me of my granny passed away seven years ago. That was one of my most tragic situations I ever had in my life. She has lived to age ninety-four. I missed her very much. So sad & so true.

  • @louisecasey550
    @louisecasey550 4 года назад +2

    Merry Christmas ~ You guys are always in my thoughts and I think about Braxton all the time. ♥️

  • @mwiggs19
    @mwiggs19 4 года назад +1

    These holidays would've been my daughter's first. She was born sleeping January 2019. My husband and I try to do little things to include her in the holidays. Something that helps me is decorating her garden for each holiday/season. Thank you guys for your advice.

  • @claub5438
    @claub5438 4 года назад +4

    Merry Christmas Braxton, Brisa, mom and dad 🎄🎁🎊🎉🎉🌷💜

  • @michellesimonton2764
    @michellesimonton2764 4 года назад +2

    Briza wants the Braxton bear🐻! Felly Jonathan you two are so amazing, the love you have for each other and your family is out of this world. Braxton is such a blessed little angel who is with all of you, and all of us your subscribers. Merry Christmas 🎄🎁 Riaz family.

  • @tonisangel5024
    @tonisangel5024 4 года назад +5

    Merry Christmas Braxton dance with the Angel's today I love you beautiful boy...And Merry Christmas to Mommy and Daddy and baby sister..❤❤❤🎅🤶🙏

  • @Themomcornerwithdani
    @Themomcornerwithdani 4 года назад +3

    I think everyone deals with loss differently some shut others off and some welcome others.

  • @princejohnatonawesomebaksh53
    @princejohnatonawesomebaksh53 4 года назад

    I'm so happy to see ur hubby there with u. To your hubby I would say thank for supporting your wife then n now. Everything ur saying I can relate to when it comes to the pain. I just lost my 1st baby boy 10/19 after waiting 24yrs to get pregnant. His name was Johnaton. But I was n am being forced to get over it by almost everyone even my husband. I'm sad n so broken inside but I have to put a smile on so they don't get upset at me. I wish if I could just grieve the lost of my 1st born son but I cant 😭💔😭. I'm so happy to see u have a beautiful little girl. I pray u guys live a happy healthy life of love. Hopefully I'll be as happy as u are right now one day.

  • @wintercombs6123
    @wintercombs6123 4 года назад +6

    Y'all are so strong ❤❤

  • @angelanowakowski8473
    @angelanowakowski8473 4 года назад +5

    I can't thank you enough for this!!😢😭

  • @paola-fo9lr
    @paola-fo9lr 4 года назад +3

    Happy Holidays to your beautiful family❤️🎄

  • @eeriikkaaa_9583
    @eeriikkaaa_9583 4 года назад +4

    Love you guys! Merry Christmas 🎄

  • @mbrdj4900
    @mbrdj4900 4 года назад +5

    Merry Christmas love your baby she's so cute

  • @captainofmysoul6525
    @captainofmysoul6525 4 года назад +3

    Feli i want to know if maybe in a future video you can address how it affected you both as a couple losing Braxton. Or if you prefer to answer me here. I've heard stories of couples breaking up but you two seem to have bonded more. I seem to think that Jonathan seems to express his feelings and maybe that's what helped? That may be a good topic for parents in your situation. Have a wonderful day.
    P.S. i think Briza looks sooo much like her big brother Braxton. Especially when she was born. 💖💖

    • @amaradryden720
      @amaradryden720 4 года назад

      They addressed some of these questions in the "Boyfriend paints my belly Q and A". Merry Christmas! ❤️

    • @captainofmysoul6525
      @captainofmysoul6525 4 года назад

      @@amaradryden720 ah thank you. I must of missed it.

  • @feliciatrujillo8819
    @feliciatrujillo8819 4 года назад +2

    Merry Christmas and God Bless You and Your Beautiful Family!!!
    🎅⛄❄😊❤

  • @JSBecc
    @JSBecc 4 года назад

    I have never been through what you two have. But I have been through a difficult childbirth. I had a healthy daughter as a result though. I can’t imagine the trauma of a birth with a stillborn baby, physical recovery, hormonal swings and body changes as well as a funeral to plan and empty arms. I never thought about those things till now. I’m so very sorry you lost your little boy Braxton. That will never go away.
    I want to thank you for being brave enough to help others in your situation and to help those who aren’t to understand. Your daughter Briza is a beautiful little girl and I’m so happy you have her and she is healthy.

  • @alysia505
    @alysia505 4 года назад +2

    Merry Christmas from Albuquerque, NM 🥂💙💜🥰🙏👼😘💜💙🥂

  • @mary_sd_922_5
    @mary_sd_922_5 4 года назад +2

    Merry Christmas to everyone-🎄

  • @michellestrickland3611
    @michellestrickland3611 4 года назад +2

    I totally understand

  • @joycehebda5274
    @joycehebda5274 4 года назад +1

    Merry Christmas to you your husband and your baby and of course to Braxton

  • @dalilahernandez4553
    @dalilahernandez4553 4 года назад

    Happy Holidays Feli, Jonathan, Braxton, Briza 🎄🎁✨🐘

  • @pandoravictoria7821
    @pandoravictoria7821 4 года назад +3

    Love your hair you look amazing.

  • @carol-annemartinalolafrase8473
    @carol-annemartinalolafrase8473 4 года назад

    I'm so sorry about your son I had a brother born sleeping and for me Christmas 2019 sucked my mom died Christmas Eve Dec 24 2019 at the age of 49 due to rare uncurble tumor cancer

  • @XpinklilyX
    @XpinklilyX 4 года назад +1

    Merry Christmas to you & yours❤

  • @darleneermis4903
    @darleneermis4903 4 года назад

    Beautiful baby girl...adorable 💕

  • @darleneermis4903
    @darleneermis4903 4 года назад

    Honey you need to learn to tell people what you want and what you need! Also if you get overwhelmed with your new ma ma role ask for help💕

  • @julese3881
    @julese3881 4 года назад +1

    I'm sure this video will help a lot of people ❤

  • @JennyLouRN
    @JennyLouRN 4 года назад

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @kawaii89123
    @kawaii89123 4 года назад +3

    Are you going to post a video of you guys opening Brizas gifts?

  • @Veronica-bc6pp
    @Veronica-bc6pp 4 года назад +4

    Felly did you graduate college?

  • @claudiapards8327
    @claudiapards8327 4 года назад

    Buone feste ♥️♥️♥️

  • @keepingupwiththishotmess7304
    @keepingupwiththishotmess7304 4 года назад +2

    You two are very strong.